Mine LOVES me! This episode has been eye opening. He gives me his last chapati, he runs a bath for me, he ensures I am sexually satisfied, he keeps vaginal infections away from me, I believe he’s loyal, he spreads the bed if he’s last to wake up, he encourages me to be fit, he pays me girlfriend allowance, he doesn’t like cooking but he cooks at least twice a week since I said I love his cooking, he calls me severally during the day, he takes me to the gynecologist, he pays for my health insurance p.a., he replenishes shopping every month, he affirms me all the time, he calls to say he loves me so much and we will fight the problems after an argument, he pays for my solo vacation when I need a break, he says thank you all the time even for petty things. HE TAUGHT ME A MONEY MAKING SKILL. He is not very good with getting me flowers since he didn’t grow knowing such things but he got a flowers company that delivers from time to time. I love him as well❤️
I truly believe if a man loves u he won’t spend a day without talking to u…bare minimum rubs me off the wrong way! Communication is like basic human decency!
One thing I've learnt over the years is that men are big on double standards. He can go MIA for a day, or two, not pick calls, just go silent but if you do that, you are subject to an investigation😂. He will make a big deal out of it forgetting he does that too. Ati they can cheat, but we can't, and so many more. If you don't talk to me in the morning, in between the day and at night before we sleep, I'm not your girl hunny. Thank you
Part of the reason women stay with men who hate them is because society has made us believe that it's our jobs to make the relationship, #nyumbanimwanamke.
I experienced one who would always tell me that I take too long to articulate myself and it annoys him. Like "you're taking too long to make your point, summarize!!"
What about just a man hating you, doesn't have to be your man. It happened that I am in a group where we act setbooks and during casting it depends on your body size. Apparently I am the 'big' in our group and am weighing 66kg to be precise. And as our producer was talking he made a comment saying....'Liz ndio atafanya hiyo role juu hatuna mumama mwingine..' Then the other male cast members laughed at that "joke" and this broke me. I felt really body shamed and even left the group. It hurts and I don't need justification on how I reacted because some may say that I just overreacted. That's how the acting industry is. They sometimes don't care about your emotions and it is so painful 💔💔. Am crying rn send love 🥺🥺🥺😭
After you two chachishad about us ghost viewers I'm definitely going to be commenting more..it's the least I can do(plus liking and subscribing lol) after everything you've taught me You two are truly a power to reckon with❤
Exactly because men tend to be fixers! They want to fix and solve things, it makes them feel good! To see your woman down should bother the man...if he's unbothered welp...😢
Today's episode speaks to me. I dated this guy who constantly cheated and he treated me so badly and I stayed because I simply loved him. Luckily I was able yo detach. Being with a man who isn't appreciating you is emotional wrecking. Constantly trying to go harder for them to notice it's too much work.
If this ain't the truth....men can actually mess you up mindwise....I applaud us for having the courage to decide that "this is not working for me anymore" and choosing to leave ❤❤....hey inbweetener 😊
I'll have to repeat this episode again..there's so much wisdom to internalize..I love when Lyd said when a man hates himself he'll be so triggered by how you love yourself and try to belittle you..paraphrasing..it may be because of their past traumatic experiences. Let us normalise therapy like a basic need coz wueeh
This episode has been so eye opening to me and I'm glad that with each episode I watch,I somehow become a better person. Last year I dated someone that really hated me, he'd criticize me in front of my friends and in private,was always envious and hated the fact that I didn't grow up in hardship like he did, would ALWAYS give me "the look" whenever I made suggestions and whenever I wanted to spend time with him, he'd leave me and go spend time with other people so I was always left there in so much self loathe. Eventually at the beginning of the year,I decided to leave him even with all the love I had for him. It was the best decision even. He's somehow trying to come back to my life but I swore that I will never again go back to a place where I leveled up from 😊
Heh! Mnashout! I dated a guy who HATED me for 3.5yrs 🤡. When it finally started clicking, I confronted him about literally every one of these signs mentioned and mans response was to ghost me 👻. I wish this episode was done while I was in my delulu era 🤣 anyhu, lessons learnt!
I think I hate my husband so much,but there are small things he does that keeps me going. He treats my parents well,go extra miles for them,treats my kids well,takes care of all the bills but he doesn't care to treat me nicely even when I give cue's. I have taken it easily all the years we've been together untill recently when I became an in betweener and discovered myself and started loving myself and realized that I hate him
If you want something from a man communicate-be direct & concise.Don't give a man a clue tell him what you want;that their language.if you don't tell a man what you want they assume your good..men are very simple if only you understand their psychology....
Great conversation kama kawaida ❤. I also loved the conversation you had before the actual today's topic - about single Parenting. I was raised by a single Mum and always felt a void in my childhood. My mum had a favourite( my sister) and my brother was a last born and only son. I was Parenting both my siblings from the day my parents separated ( 7yrs). I always felt like I was given/ forced responsibilities and took the "Mother " and caretaker role because my mum had to be the " man" of the house ( provider) I wished my dad could come back home and take over his Role and my mum can be our mum again and I can be a child again. Anyway- that never happened, my relationship with my mum was always complicated. I felt like she saw me as a friend and a big siter to her. I felt like I have raised two children on my own even though I am just 2 years older than my sister and 5 years older than my brother. I love my siblings and I know they love me too- but I miss my childhood very much 😢. While I was raising my siblings up - I forgot to raise myself up in the process. I have been an adult my whole life. I wish I can get that innocence back- I would buy it back if I could. Because I matured very fast - I worked hard, paid my own school fees and went abroad. I have a comfortable life and a good paying job- still it took me alot of therapy sessions to forgive my Parents. My sister is happy and have her own family here abroad. My brother and a great dad and a business man. We took care of my mum ( unfortunately died 2 yrs ago)but no matter how hard I try I cant help myself to be there for our Dad. He lives in total poverty and is an Alcoholic but I dont feel anything for him. I dont hate him but I don't love him either. I just respect what he chose and its clearly not us. PS: sorry for writing a long essay but I just wanted to show how single parenthood can make or ruin childhood's lives ✌️
Thanks ladies for putting this episode up, these are things women already know and go through but are never willing to admit. My ex of 7 years hated me! He treated me so poorly, talked down on me even went as far as physically abusing me while i was pregnant! I'm just glad i found the strength to walk away from him. I'm currently on a journey to rediscover myself, heal my mind,body and soul. I also have to raise my two daughters alone and it's still all good. I deserve better, they deserve better ❤
This is an eye opener for me and I feel like if I watched this last year I would have made better decisions interms of the man I was investing my time in.I was in a relationship that was the worst but I kept telling myself as long as I love this guy that is enough,he will change for me. I kept feeling like I will never find a guy who will be like him,I was so blind. I didn't even notice how toxic the relationship was until I found the courage to leave. This episode is beautiful and it's talking to many ladies out here❤️
🤗 im proud u left that was about to be routine as soon as u have disagreement/argument that was going to be his default plan! I have literally seen women put their hands on a man first and the man didn't try to do anything in retaliation (and those women were wrong for doing that period)...I just can't respect a man that puts his hands on a woman first because he wants to argue like a woman and get crazy!
Thank you for coming through. Come we stay is moving in together while unmarried. Even if you agree like Stedman and Oprah; you are unmarried and you are staying together, it is not marriage. It is come we stay perhaps forever. Children or no children as long as you are unmarried but living together is come we stay.😆 Personally, I can not understand ''I am not a communicator'' and they are in my life? Nope. I am a good communicator and require the same, it is a prerequisite for me in all relationships. Right now, kindness is paramount. I have no business with rude people or people who treat me poorly, it is hurtful and I do not want that feeling. Love is why I am on earth.😇 A man hates you if he is disrespectful; constant criticism that is not constructive at all. In hindsight, I see how an ex hated me. At first, I thought it was a phase, a small hiccup where you act up like how we get mood swings and get over it after. But it lasted long and it started slowly and became like a bushfire so wild. My standards were so low trying to accommodate that mood. Everything was annoying to him, he verbally told me he was tired and needed space. I do not understand why I even stayed more than a day in a relationship where I was so poorly treated.
Weuh,😢..This episode reminded me of an Ex from Hell....i was going through a bad day at work, in the evening i bursted into tears on his bed and the idiot had the audacity to tell me not to cry on his new pillows 😭😭😂...pillows 🤡.. Yeah,he definitely hated me 😢
Signs he hates you 1. He tells it to your face_ some men will tell you either with actions or words that they dont like, love or want you, but there you are mrs matyr, queen of forcing things, trying to change a frog into your prince 2. Doesnt spend time with you,because he is " too busy"_ He acts like he is doing something so important 24/7 and cannot do the bare minimum of calling or texting once a day. He sees you once a month despite barely calling or texting you that month, yet there you are calling him my man. People make time for what/who they value. 3. Clips your wings_ he finds you having certain goals and dreams, and makes you doubt yourself. He fuels your imposter syndrome. He talks down and downplays your dreams. It is all about him and what he wants. If he is comfortable with avarageness, dare you have dreams. 4.Doesnt care about your feelings_ He doesnt care about what you like or want. He hurts you, often deliberately and doesnt care. He treats you like trash, especially when he knows there is nothing you can do 5. He doesnt defend you from his family's abusive behaviour_ when his mother and sisters pick on you, bully you,e.t.c, he doesnt draw boundaries with them. Sometimes he even joins them in mistreating you 6.He treats you like a donkey_ he expects you to do everything and work from sunrise to sunset without help or rest, whether its a machine or extra help. He wont even lift a finger to help you even in the smallest way. He doesnt want to see you resting. 7. He wants to see you barefoot doing chores and pregnant 24/7_ so you will be too tied down to be financially independent and will struggle supporting the huge number of kids and will therefore most likely stay with him because you " need" him.
"Came we stay" "shaking up" "living together" WHATEVER YOU WANT TO CALL IT. As long as you are NOT MARRIED(culturally/legally i.e. there is no marriage certificate) you are in a came we stay. Poor or Rich it is a come we stay.
Cristiano V Georgiana is as come we stay as they go and yet kuna pesa kabisa. CR has alway referred to Gio as my girlfriend, for the avoidance of doubt😅.
I am Ugandan and i don't understand swahili but everytime Lydia drops a swahili word or phrase, am just so happy to hear it, am proud of Lyd's Swahili journey thus far.
When you’re with someone you don’t like, their existence is just annoying. I’m proud of myself for leaving a situation where I no longer felt any love for my partner despite not having any “legitimate” reasons to end it. Although all his red flags revealed themselves after we broke up, I’m still a firm believer that it’s okay to end a relationship when it you no longer want it. Sometimes our subconscious just knows before we do.
Great conversation and presentation, as usual. I think more people need to understand that someone can love you and not like you. People who dislike you don't know what extending kindness to you means and that's a different level of struggle.
I knew he hated me when we always had to take care of his feelings and mine didn't really matter, we met on his convenience and terms, he would manipulate me so wildly😂and talk about women in a way that triggered me. The weird thing is we weren't together 😂but that situation was comfortable for me till he started having relationship expectations from me and expressing dislike signs😮it was a confusing situation 😂
This episode triggered me guys😢I lived with a man who hated me for 4 years weeehh, actually all the red flags was there, the man told me before he left me that he knew he didn't want me from the 1st year we lived together and he proceeded to marry me that same year😂buut i thank God that I'm free now i was miserable those 4 years i just didn't have the courage to leave
Hey murugi,, About friends who comment on your mans" " He ain't good for you bla bla" I have a friend who hates my man as She always say that " He doesn't deserve me " because he ain't tall as they say " and he doesn't have beards and lastly its coz He doesn't spend money on her ..like hawezi mkopesha ovyo ovyo ..She calls him stingy ..But to me he isn't..he is just disciplined about money ,,😅 How do i handle the situation,,😢,,i also love my friend but i don't know how to approach it or whether she is right
Wow you ladies look stunning ,there is a certain glow about you ladies today, i can not explain it but i love it, you ladies looooook so goooooooooooooood omg😍😍😍
Your man hates you when he cheats openly( i dont justify cheating) but when he cant even hide his chats with side chics na wewe uko hapo ukipigana na wanawake wengine ati leave my man alone...he hates you😊
Great episode guys!!! I think it's high time we acknowledge that men and women are different and we cant expect men to think like we do. That in itself is a recipe for disappointment and disaster. It is therefore imperative that we communicate our needs and wants and not assume that they are somehow supposed to show up in a specific way. Remember ladies ... MEN ARE NOT FORTUNE TELLERS or FORESEERS (we leave such abilities to our Lord and Saviour😂), so communicate your expectations. CLOSED MOUTHS DON'T GET FED!!!
Your long epistle is unnecessary. There's always a bare minimum basic human decency that you even accord a stranger. Men who make excuses like this are the real disaster...we didn't say men should think like women...we are talking about treating a human being you're purpoting to love with decency. How convenient that you're bringing this up when it's the same men who have shown us how they can move mountains when they love you? What's so difficult in respecting a partner? Boy, please
hi guys great show.......two major points that hit home for me i dated someone for almost 4yrs and i never met his family and only one friend ,the second one is on our first date while crossing a very busy road and he went ahead of me and then waited for me on the other side!! I immediately knew that it wasn't going anywhere
Hey TMI, you girls are THE IT GIRLS I get impacted on every episode💯Somehow your episodes just match my seasons😂I knew he hated me, I've always known. I have just been seeking validataion from my friends about it until I was DONE! Now i'm single and feeling lonely but the RESPECT I have for myself won't allow me to hit him back but i can't help but feel alone and desperate.Can you guys do an episode on RESPECTFUL BREAKUPS. Like I get I broke it off for my respect but my heart😭
Gurllllll I feeeeeelllll you on the loneliness bit..I'm in the same pits where I choose myself but I miss him everyday ,,but I've made it intentional to start getting over everything...when a thought of him crosses my mind I remind myself of the bullshits he I endured to be with him and that's alone won't allow me to hit him up....the loneliness can take a toil on you but don't forget why you left
I was once with a man who never introduced me to his friends, i never knew where his house was, everytime he would either come to my house or take me out to those places where boring people go i mean really out of town , and the foods served there was only ugali and nyama choma, i mean mafichoni places. i felt there was so much of red flags, i left him after 2 months because he was so hiding me. 😅😅 Love you ladies ❤
He hated me and I left. A win issa win🥳🥳🥳 Almost lost myself but shows like this one helped me identify, I was just scared oof being alone. I faced my fears and I know better things are coming my way😍
That first sentence before the introduction. This was my friend yesterday “There's a guy I've given my all😁but communication is a big challenge.” I was reffering her to episode 106 but this what she deserves to listen. Thanks so much @Murugi and @Lydia
I love how on this channel we have never agreed on the 'giving and receiving head' subject, and that's just the way it is, and we all know that about this kacommunity, kesi baadaye. If anyone asks huko nje, hatujui.
Mine LOVES me! This episode has been eye opening. He gives me his last chapati, he runs a bath for me, he ensures I am sexually satisfied, he keeps vaginal infections away from me, I believe he’s loyal, he spreads the bed if he’s last to wake up, he encourages me to be fit, he pays me girlfriend allowance, he doesn’t like cooking but he cooks at least twice a week since I said I love his cooking, he calls me severally during the day, he takes me to the gynecologist, he pays for my health insurance p.a., he replenishes shopping every month, he affirms me all the time, he calls to say he loves me so much and we will fight the problems after an argument, he pays for my solo vacation when I need a break, he says thank you all the time even for petty things. HE TAUGHT ME A MONEY MAKING SKILL. He is not very good with getting me flowers since he didn’t grow knowing such things but he got a flowers company that delivers from time to time. I love him as well❤️
Eish, si mnisongee kwa hii relationship 😂😂. Lol.
@@dorahmulinge3800 Karibu please 🤣🤣🤣
Kuna space 😂😂
Wueeeeeh nisongewe😢😂😂😂eiii
Weeeuh, si mnapendwa huku nje!😂
I truly believe if a man loves u he won’t spend a day without talking to u…bare minimum rubs me off the wrong way!
Communication is like basic human decency!
I'm 100% in agreement bare minimum
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It's also the same if a man is using you too thought
Just because someone is with you, doesn't mean they like you. That's the whole word.
One thing I've learnt over the years is that men are big on double standards. He can go MIA for a day, or two, not pick calls, just go silent but if you do that, you are subject to an investigation😂. He will make a big deal out of it forgetting he does that too. Ati they can cheat, but we can't, and so many more. If you don't talk to me in the morning, in between the day and at night before we sleep, I'm not your girl hunny. Thank you
This is so TRUE!!!
"Men just don't have the courage to dump you" As a man I feel attacked coz that's facts 😭
Mostly it's not because you care, it's because you don't wanna lose conjugal benefits😂
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A man who has no money has no business to be in a relationship 😭😅 😂
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Sprinkle sprinkle 🥰😂
A come we stay is exactly as it means, an unmarried couple living together with or without money..
Lydia: What if he don't have money?
Murugi: why are you with him??? 🎤 drop😂😂
Murugi just made my day today😂😂😂"A man who does not have money should not be in a relationship at all 👏👏❤😂😂"
Murugi's point on being financially responsible for yourself ,I loved it ..facts ..
Part of the reason women stay with men who hate them is because society has made us believe that it's our jobs to make the relationship, #nyumbanimwanamke.
Mke nyumbani😢sad but actually this is true
This generation is about to shock men. Thats why they are already so mad at us
I agree with no communication throughout the day. That is my bare minimum non negotiable too
I experienced one who would always tell me that I take too long to articulate myself and it annoys him. Like "you're taking too long to make your point, summarize!!"
A man who has no money has no business being in a relationship 😅😅😅 I so looove this💯
My standards go up with every episode🤩
Hell yeah😅!
facts!!!!!!
Definitely 💯
🤣🤣 Of course
What about just a man hating you, doesn't have to be your man.
It happened that I am in a group where we act setbooks and during casting it depends on your body size. Apparently I am the 'big' in our group and am weighing 66kg to be precise. And as our producer was talking he made a comment saying....'Liz ndio atafanya hiyo role juu hatuna mumama mwingine..'
Then the other male cast members laughed at that "joke" and this broke me.
I felt really body shamed and even left the group. It hurts and I don't need justification on how I reacted because some may say that I just overreacted. That's how the acting industry is. They sometimes don't care about your emotions and it is so painful 💔💔.
Am crying rn send love 🥺🥺🥺😭
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After you two chachishad about us ghost viewers I'm definitely going to be commenting more..it's the least I can do(plus liking and subscribing lol) after everything you've taught me
You two are truly a power to reckon with❤
A man who fails to reassure you at your lowest highly hates you ... He tends yo act as the scapegoat in the situation 🙃
Exactly because men tend to be fixers! They want to fix and solve things, it makes them feel good! To see your woman down should bother the man...if he's unbothered welp...😢
Today's episode speaks to me. I dated this guy who constantly cheated and he treated me so badly and I stayed because I simply loved him. Luckily I was able yo detach. Being with a man who isn't appreciating you is emotional wrecking. Constantly trying to go harder for them to notice it's too much work.
If this ain't the truth....men can actually mess you up mindwise....I applaud us for having the courage to decide that "this is not working for me anymore" and choosing to leave ❤❤....hey inbweetener 😊
@@puritymumo3723 hey in-betweener♥️♥️! This is home where we have honest conversations.
Girl i can relate!
@@suehaggai224🎉🎉
Murugi that hair and makeup its giving everything its supposed to give😍😍😍😍
A man hates you if he lets his exes b/s spill on to your end.
This 💯
Agree!
Imagine telling your friend your man’s is not good enough for you … next minute they send you a wedding invitation 🤣🤣🤣 Weh
I'll have to repeat this episode again..there's so much wisdom to internalize..I love when Lyd said when a man hates himself he'll be so triggered by how you love yourself and try to belittle you..paraphrasing..it may be because of their past traumatic experiences. Let us normalise therapy like a basic need coz wueeh
This episode has been so eye opening to me and I'm glad that with each episode I watch,I somehow become a better person. Last year I dated someone that really hated me, he'd criticize me in front of my friends and in private,was always envious and hated the fact that I didn't grow up in hardship like he did, would ALWAYS give me "the look" whenever I made suggestions and whenever I wanted to spend time with him, he'd leave me and go spend time with other people so I was always left there in so much self loathe. Eventually at the beginning of the year,I decided to leave him even with all the love I had for him. It was the best decision even. He's somehow trying to come back to my life but I swore that I will never again go back to a place where I leveled up from 😊
Am happy for you because you chose you,,,
Leo kuna watu wanaachwa😂😂😂😂😂
Heh! Mnashout! I dated a guy who HATED me for 3.5yrs 🤡. When it finally started clicking, I confronted him about literally every one of these signs mentioned and mans response was to ghost me 👻. I wish this episode was done while I was in my delulu era 🤣 anyhu, lessons learnt!
Delulu era 😂😂😂😂😂😂
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I think I hate my husband so much,but there are small things he does that keeps me going.
He treats my parents well,go extra miles for them,treats my kids well,takes care of all the bills but he doesn't care to treat me nicely even when I give cue's.
I have taken it easily all the years we've been together untill recently when I became an in betweener and discovered myself and started loving myself and realized that I hate him
If you want something from a man communicate-be direct & concise.Don't give a man a clue tell him what you want;that their language.if you don't tell a man what you want they assume your good..men are very simple if only you understand their psychology....
Great conversation kama kawaida ❤. I also loved the conversation you had before the actual today's topic - about single Parenting.
I was raised by a single Mum and always felt a void in my childhood.
My mum had a favourite( my sister) and my brother was a last born and only son. I was Parenting both my siblings from the day my parents separated ( 7yrs).
I always felt like I was given/ forced responsibilities and took the "Mother " and caretaker role because my mum had to be the " man" of the house ( provider)
I wished my dad could come back home and take over his Role and my mum can be our mum again and I can be a child again.
Anyway- that never happened, my relationship with my mum was always complicated. I felt like she saw me as a friend and a big siter to her. I felt like I have raised two children on my own even though I am just 2 years older than my sister and 5 years older than my brother. I love my siblings and I know they love me too- but I miss my childhood very much 😢. While I was raising my siblings up - I forgot to raise myself up in the process. I have been an adult my whole life. I wish I can get that innocence back- I would buy it back if I could.
Because I matured very fast - I worked hard, paid my own school fees and went abroad. I have a comfortable life and a good paying job- still it took me alot of therapy sessions to forgive my Parents. My sister is happy and have her own family here abroad. My brother and a great dad and a business man. We took care of my mum ( unfortunately died 2 yrs ago)but no matter how hard I try I cant help myself to be there for our Dad. He lives in total poverty and is an Alcoholic but I dont feel anything for him. I dont hate him but I don't love him either. I just respect what he chose and its clearly not us.
PS: sorry for writing a long essay but I just wanted to show how single parenthood can make or ruin childhood's lives ✌️
Love and light hunny🤍😩
That's alot to handle as a child honestly...happy you came on the other side well and doing okay for yourself.
🫂such a relatable comment😮💨, glad you’re working through it..
Sending endless love babe ❤. On behalf of your parents and the society sorry for placing so much on you .
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Thanks for speaking up for so many people ❤
Thanks ladies for putting this episode up, these are things women already know and go through but are never willing to admit. My ex of 7 years hated me! He treated me so poorly, talked down on me even went as far as physically abusing me while i was pregnant! I'm just glad i found the strength to walk away from him. I'm currently on a journey to rediscover myself, heal my mind,body and soul. I also have to raise my two daughters alone and it's still all good. I deserve better, they deserve better ❤
This is an eye opener for me and I feel like if I watched this last year I would have made better decisions interms of the man I was investing my time in.I was in a relationship that was the worst but I kept telling myself as long as I love this guy that is enough,he will change for me. I kept feeling like I will never find a guy who will be like him,I was so blind. I didn't even notice how toxic the relationship was until I found the courage to leave. This episode is beautiful and it's talking to many ladies out here❤️
Murugi is stunning🤩🤩
I knew he hates me when he laid his hands on me. Stupid girl i still took him back another time and the second beating was the nail to the coffin.
🤗 im proud u left that was about to be routine as soon as u have disagreement/argument that was going to be his default plan! I have literally seen women put their hands on a man first and the man didn't try to do anything in retaliation (and those women were wrong for doing that period)...I just can't respect a man that puts his hands on a woman first because he wants to argue like a woman and get crazy!
Thank you for coming through. Come we stay is moving in together while unmarried. Even if you agree like Stedman and Oprah; you are unmarried and you are staying together, it is not marriage. It is come we stay perhaps forever. Children or no children as long as you are unmarried but living together is come we stay.😆
Personally, I can not understand ''I am not a communicator'' and they are in my life? Nope. I am a good communicator and require the same, it is a prerequisite for me in all relationships. Right now, kindness is paramount. I have no business with rude people or people who treat me poorly, it is hurtful and I do not want that feeling. Love is why I am on earth.😇
A man hates you if he is disrespectful; constant criticism that is not constructive at all.
In hindsight, I see how an ex hated me. At first, I thought it was a phase, a small hiccup where you act up like how we get mood swings and get over it after. But it lasted long and it started slowly and became like a bushfire so wild. My standards were so low trying to accommodate that mood. Everything was annoying to him, he verbally told me he was tired and needed space. I do not understand why I even stayed more than a day in a relationship where I was so poorly treated.
Weuh,😢..This episode reminded me of an Ex from Hell....i was going through a bad day at work, in the evening i bursted into tears on his bed and the idiot had the audacity to tell me not to cry on his new pillows 😭😭😂...pillows 🤡.. Yeah,he definitely hated me 😢
That's so sad..atleast he's an ex now
I love the chit chat before the actual topic of the day😂😂then how Murugi is usually like,''Oh,already an hour?''
Signs he hates you
1. He tells it to your face_ some men will tell you either with actions or words that they dont like, love or want you, but there you are mrs matyr, queen of forcing things, trying to change a frog into your prince
2. Doesnt spend time with you,because he is " too busy"_ He acts like he is doing something so important 24/7 and cannot do the bare minimum of calling or texting once a day. He sees you once a month despite barely calling or texting you that month, yet there you are calling him my man. People make time for what/who they value.
3. Clips your wings_ he finds you having certain goals and dreams, and makes you doubt yourself. He fuels your imposter syndrome. He talks down and downplays your dreams. It is all about him and what he wants. If he is comfortable with avarageness, dare you have dreams.
4.Doesnt care about your feelings_ He doesnt care about what you like or want. He hurts you, often deliberately and doesnt care. He treats you like trash, especially when he knows there is nothing you can do
5. He doesnt defend you from his family's abusive behaviour_ when his mother and sisters pick on you, bully you,e.t.c, he doesnt draw boundaries with them. Sometimes he even joins them in mistreating you
6.He treats you like a donkey_ he expects you to do everything and work from sunrise to sunset without help or rest, whether its a machine or extra help. He wont even lift a finger to help you even in the smallest way. He doesnt want to see you resting.
7. He wants to see you barefoot doing chores and pregnant 24/7_ so you will be too tied down to be financially independent and will struggle supporting the huge number of kids and will therefore most likely stay with him because you " need" him.
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Too loud ei!!!! 🥺😢
You are not lying sis
A man who doesn't go down on me is perfect...I hate it...I don't enjoy it at all.i actually tell them I don't want to
The point of being financially responsible for yourself in a relationship
Is it for me
I've literally watched three of your episodes continously and I really love your energy and how real you are.... And I'm subscribing ASAP....
"Came we stay" "shaking up" "living together" WHATEVER YOU WANT TO CALL IT. As long as you are NOT MARRIED(culturally/legally i.e. there is no marriage certificate) you are in a came we stay.
Poor or Rich it is a come we stay.
It's a 'Come We Risk!!' Risque bizness 😏
Your man hates you if he talks about you behind your back😂. Happened to me last month and that's how we broke up.
Cristiano V Georgiana is as come we stay as they go and yet kuna pesa kabisa. CR has alway referred to Gio as my girlfriend, for the avoidance of doubt😅.
I am Ugandan and i don't understand swahili but everytime Lydia drops a swahili word or phrase, am just so happy to hear it, am proud of Lyd's Swahili journey thus far.
26:02 😅paused to comment when Lyd talked about Shan. I’m such a big fan of lovers and friends. Definetely learnt a lot from this episode ❤
When you’re with someone you don’t like, their existence is just annoying. I’m proud of myself for leaving a situation where I no longer felt any love for my partner despite not having any “legitimate” reasons to end it. Although all his red flags revealed themselves after we broke up, I’m still a firm believer that it’s okay to end a relationship when it you no longer want it. Sometimes our subconscious just knows before we do.
Great conversation and presentation, as usual. I think more people need to understand that someone can love you and not like you. People who dislike you don't know what extending kindness to you means and that's a different level of struggle.
Listening yo Lydia yell about head and I don't enjoy it gives me so much pressure 😭.
Lyd some of us just don't like people's faces in our cooch 😅
I knew he hated me when we always had to take care of his feelings and mine didn't really matter, we met on his convenience and terms, he would manipulate me so wildly😂and talk about women in a way that triggered me. The weird thing is we weren't together 😂but that situation was comfortable for me till he started having relationship expectations from me and expressing dislike signs😮it was a confusing situation 😂
That can really be confusing for sure
This episode triggered me guys😢I lived with a man who hated me for 4 years weeehh, actually all the red flags was there, the man told me before he left me that he knew he didn't want me from the 1st year we lived together and he proceeded to marry me that same year😂buut i thank God that I'm free now i was miserable those 4 years i just didn't have the courage to leave
murugi preacher gal!!! independence is key
Damn this hit home...the mind f*ck is when the person you see clearly HATES you says that they love you...weuh!😢
These points are soooo true but we just decide to assume them. Anyway it ends in tears we need to love ourselves more
I can't stop staring at Lydia.God help me, I have to leave this here.
You gals are stunning 😍
Hey murugi,,
About friends who comment on your mans" " He ain't good for you bla bla"
I have a friend who hates my man as She always say that " He doesn't deserve me " because he ain't tall as they say " and he doesn't have beards and lastly its coz He doesn't spend money on her ..like hawezi mkopesha ovyo ovyo ..She calls him stingy ..But to me he isn't..he is just disciplined about money ,,😅
How do i handle the situation,,😢,,i also love my friend but i don't know how to approach it or whether she is right
For this episode you have to be delusional so you dont think your man hates you😅😂
Love the new branding plus outfits nowadays shout colourful especially lydia
Not me saying the whole intro with Murugi and Lyd😂❤happy happy face on me rn
I hold massive gratitude to the both of you,TMI has been an eye opener and i wish to meet you sooner or later in future.much ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I love this episode ❤❤the makeup my girls damn❤❤❤ also why did I know the look Murugi was referring to 😂😂😂
When Lyd said, 'Do you hate your man?' Plot twist😅
First i like and comment before watching the video because it is tmiiiiiii, will be back after watching full episode
Yes. Come to Rwanda! We love you guys, and we keep growing the inbetweener family on this land!!!
Or he keeps telling you, "Unanibore, unasinya!!" Gadamn!😢😂😂💔
Wow you ladies look stunning ,there is a certain glow about you ladies today, i can not explain it but i love it, you ladies looooook so goooooooooooooood omg😍😍😍
lyd you're shouting.. but we love it that way.. kudos gals❤
I just love this girls! This channel has help me realise so much😊
Your man hates you when he cheats openly( i dont justify cheating) but when he cant even hide his chats with side chics na wewe uko hapo ukipigana na wanawake wengine ati leave my man alone...he hates you😊
This is really an eye opener. Thank you ❤
TMI in Rwandaaaaaa..... please come soonnnnnn we can't waittttt🤯🤯🤯🤯💃💃💃💃
Great episode guys!!! I think it's high time we acknowledge that men and women are different and we cant expect men to think like we do. That in itself is a recipe for disappointment and disaster. It is therefore imperative that we communicate our needs and wants and not assume that they are somehow supposed to show up in a specific way. Remember ladies ... MEN ARE NOT FORTUNE TELLERS or FORESEERS (we leave such abilities to our Lord and Saviour😂), so communicate your expectations. CLOSED MOUTHS DON'T GET FED!!!
Your long epistle is unnecessary. There's always a bare minimum basic human decency that you even accord a stranger. Men who make excuses like this are the real disaster...we didn't say men should think like women...we are talking about treating a human being you're purpoting to love with decency.
How convenient that you're bringing this up when it's the same men who have shown us how they can move mountains when they love you? What's so difficult in respecting a partner? Boy, please
This is my first on you lady's channel and I love yall already.
hi guys great show.......two major points that hit home for me i dated someone for almost 4yrs and i never met his family and only one friend ,the second one is on our first date while crossing a very busy road and he went ahead of me and then waited for me on the other side!! I immediately knew that it wasn't going anywhere
😂😂😂 guys can be sthn else🙄
Hey TMI, you girls are THE IT GIRLS I get impacted on every episode💯Somehow your episodes just match my seasons😂I knew he hated me, I've always known. I have just been seeking validataion from my friends about it until I was DONE! Now i'm single and feeling lonely but the RESPECT I have for myself won't allow me to hit him back but i can't help but feel alone and desperate.Can you guys do an episode on RESPECTFUL BREAKUPS. Like I get I broke it off for my respect but my heart😭
Gurllllll I feeeeeelllll you on the loneliness bit..I'm in the same pits where I choose myself but I miss him everyday ,,but I've made it intentional to start getting over everything...when a thought of him crosses my mind I remind myself of the bullshits he I endured to be with him and that's alone won't allow me to hit him up....the loneliness can take a toil on you but don't forget why you left
Rwanda is WAITING FOR YOU TMI LADIES 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
It's definitely TMI.
Today's episode was on point.Keep it up🎉
Thank you 🙌
I was once with a man who never introduced me to his friends, i never knew where his house was, everytime he would either come to my house or take me out to those places where boring people go i mean really out of town , and the foods served there was only ugali and nyama choma, i mean mafichoni places. i felt there was so much of red flags, i left him after 2 months because he was so hiding me. 😅😅 Love you ladies ❤
He IS married!!
Yea he was, im glad u finally picked up on it...i think u did it quickly 2 months good job 👏🏽 live your best life!
Being financialy responsible for yourself ..facts mahn
Yaaaaaaaaay 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉it's definitely TMI. Wednesday has finally begun
Love the topic ladies. You look soooooo goood❤❤❤❤❤😊
loving this new intro still like whoooaaa.....Beautiful
Lydia is hilarious "he's not a writer of letters?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
He hated me and I left. A win issa win🥳🥳🥳 Almost lost myself but shows like this one helped me identify, I was just scared oof being alone. I faced my fears and I know better things are coming my way😍
You go girl!❤you are enough!
Proceeds to block him ...coz no 😢😢he talks once a week as if this is a inspekta mwala show 😅😅😅😅woooooooow
😂😂😂 whaaat? Ones a week is actually a red flag
😂😂once per week kama ibaada
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I love the hairs.... Is that a wig you have worn Murugi? looks dope
You guys look amazing n the topic today is relatable
😂😂😂😂😂😂 iam smelling trouble.... ebu lemme know if he hates me😂😂
I was feeling so low but i feel better aftet watching you guys ..i learnt alot . definitely my favorites🎉
I have been waiting to comment for awhile,I love y'all soo much and I have made a decision to be consistent,btw y'all look stuunnnning!
Definitely TMIIII🎶😅 keeping it real kama kawa💃🏿. Luku ni moto🔥🔥. Lyd's hair do😍. Shout outs to the King Betweener🇷🇼 naona tumevuka border. 😊 #WCW❤
Excited to hear that you want to come to Rwanda. You inspire me. Karibuni 🥰
That first sentence before the introduction. This was my friend yesterday “There's a guy I've given my all😁but communication is a big challenge.” I was reffering her to episode 106 but this what she deserves to listen. Thanks so much @Murugi and @Lydia
Not me downloading now❤always waiting for Wednesdays tmi is always🔥
Your make up top notch, and thank you for what you do. ❤
Loved this episode as all the others but this one. Facts 👌
Ati new York.....LA.....😂 I was waiting for Nakuru, Mombasa,Eld ....surely Lydia. Welcome to Nakuru
I am glad we are so empowered over here♥️
Lydia was so funny in this episode 😂😂😂@Murugi we definitely know the look you're talking about. 😅
Love this episode!
Y'all look Stunning!😍 💕
I love how on this channel we have never agreed on the 'giving and receiving head' subject, and that's just the way it is, and we all know that about this kacommunity, kesi baadaye. If anyone asks huko nje, hatujui.
Murugi on the dashboard.....puuh😅😅😅😅😅aki lyd
❤❤❤❤❤it's definitely TMI guys