NERDS ROCK!!! The most attractive thing on a man is a brain that works, a heart that shows compassion and a life dedicated to adventure and learning....
Billie Edwards Nerds do rock! I fly my nerd flag, and my intellect is my FAVORITE part of me! Start with a brain, and happy and sexy can be thought through and figured out! Case in point: my entire family is overweight, and I'd never change them EVER! But I like to feel healthy and look good (besides manage stress well!) But my intellect understands physics well, and understands and listens to my body. So my workouts are efficient, effective, HIIT cardio is excellent for me and my life balance (vs. marathon training). When weight lifting an understanding of great form and understanding of anatomy (and force/resistance) yields great/efficient results. Physics of health, stress management, and sexy! 😉 And yet, gym rat guy can't keep up with black hole theory, Chomsky's economic theories, or the REAL logistics of political process ..so....nah...he's not my type, like ever. Brains first! Always!
"What's the most important minute of your life? The next one. Can't do anything about the past. A few minutes into the future we lose a lot of influence. What will we do with the good that's authentically available to us in the next minute?". This resonated with me. Maybe this is a technique for being present - only think about the next minute.
it would be great if the education system put the neural pathways training, meditation, positive-thinking,... in schools. Who knows, the world can change instantly into a happier/better place.
This urgently needs to happen. My 6th grader went from excited and important feeling from elementary school, to bogged down and just a number in middle school. After his 40hrs in class he still comes home with an extra hour if HW daily. And he's 11! None of the teachers have time to invest emotionally in the kids because of the packed schedule and the packed classroom. Gotta get those test scores high for reporting! 😩 Breaks my heart 💔
3:07 - Neurons that fire together, Passing mental states become lasting neural traits. 5:10 - To feel more confident: have more experiences of accomplishment or coping. 5:17 - If you wanna have a more loving heart: practice moments of compassion or kindness for others. 5:25 - To get more positive experiences, we have to overcome the brains hardwired Negativity Bias. 6:03 - Negativity bias was evolutionarily advantageous to avoid danger. Once burned, twice shy. 6:27 - Good relationships need a ratio of 5 : 1 (positive to negative) interactions 6:35 - Re-listen to the rest
make someone else happy by doing little things, smile at them, praise them, include them, make them feel wanted These small memories help them to feel good.
This is my problem, I am so good at Making others happy that they seem to like me for this. When I express any if my needs they ignore this or then reject me for speaking up about me. ??!?!
An inspirational talk. Overcoming our hardwired negativity bias through rewiring the brain to happiness. By capturing , savouring , and staying with otherwise fleeting positive moments a little longer. Turning them into lasting neural circuits, which in turn re-emit positive energy. Neurons that fire together wire together Inspired by this talk, I set on rewiring my brain to what I view as the four pillars of happiness and contentment: Acceptance, Gratitude, Forgiveness and Mitfreude ( The opposite of Schadenfreude) I like Rick Hanson's metaphorical pictures: “Weaving these resources into the fabric of my brain” A valuable insight: Practising compassion cultivates us a good heart Virtuous circus: Inner strengths are born from and reinforced by positive moments and actions. The other way round as well. This Tibetan Saying resonates with me “If you take care of the minutes, the years will take care of themselves.” Drop by drop the water pot is filled” . Maybe an overused saying, but it remains a fundamental truth.
Dr. Rick Hanson explains with wonderful clarity the missing piece of the puzzle of changing the mind to change the brain to change the mind. Fantastic graphics that allow for an easy understanding of complex psychoneurological concepts.
This is a scientific explanation of 17 second magic. I'm going to encorporate this into my work as a registered dietitian/nutritionist with clients. Thanks!
Fabulous! So simply and elegantly explained how to change your brain. I can do this! This practice (and problem) is the most important thing to overcome negativity and reactionary behavior.
Excellent speech to help us rewire our brain. Probably we all know that reliving or recalling good past moments does make us feel better but what he has added is that you can actually erase negative memories and experiences by bring in and holding on to positive feelings continuously. Hats off to you!
So grateful for your work Dr. Hanson. Every one of your presentations so far has been part of the "drop by drop" of good helping to rewire my neural pathways to more of a green setting. Thank you so much for your groundbreaking work.
Hi Jennifer: I'm working professionally and also with my own brain on 'rewiring.' I make meditation videos that are authentic (based on my experience) and hopefully useful. Check out my TH-cam video at blacksheepyoga.
also, the negative side of me just said that this is a nice way of saying "Self deluded bliss" but I know it's just an observation, the same as the positive side recognising that I do feel good after recalling the good.
Very well said Dr. Hanson, the way he explained this topic , to me made me the realize the key to happness is to meditate and imagine yourself being loved and appreciated by others , taking positive past experiences and feeling it,like its actually happening in the present moment.
Loved this! I am a third grade teacher taking an online math class. It has explained mindsets which led me to seeking info to create a mindset intro for my students. Found this link on a website and listened to your talk on happiness. I have written down how to help myself become less stressed and more happy. Thank you!
Not just metta but other kinds of meditation the buddha taught, like Vipassana bringing an equanimous mind to unpleasant sensations. You literally see it transforming you mind over the course of a ten day retreat.
I understand that all meditation methods share a lot of similarities, but Dr Hanson's talk is very interesting that what he suggests is pretty much that of the compassion meditation taught in the Buddhist tradition.
This seems to provide the neurological/physiological explanation of why certain psychotherapeutic approaches work extremely well and quickly while others are largely a waste of time.
Small PSA: John Gottman's research found that 5:1 is NOT (as stated here) the ratio of positive to negative in healthy relationships--it is the ratio of positive to negative when a healthy relationship is in conflict. Outside of conflict, healthy relationships sustain a ratio of 20:1, positive to negative.
I like this concept, my question is what if you can’t find or connect to that “ good feeling” of being cared for? I never felt safe as a child at home. I was taught not to trust anyone-so when grandparents tried to “ care” for me i was afraid my parents would get mad at me. The trauma in my brain started very young. I want to change. I can’t connect to that feeling because I don’t know what if feels like. What can I do to make the neuro shift ? Thank you
I'd like to suggest to imagine a positive experience where you are imagining trusting yourself... imagine yourself feeling safe ... we can create an experience by using our imagination.... we create experiences when watching a movie and we have a physiological reaction to a scene even though it's not actually happening to us... but brain doesn't distinguish between what's real and what isn't which is why you can imagine yourself feeling how you want to feel, being who you want to be and doing what you want to be doing and as you stay in this imaginary experience it becomes an experience in your body and your brain believes you and you then can absorb it and enhance it and link it back to a negative moment to dilute it with the positive experience as in Dr. Hansen's protocol. This is incredible and effective work that I do with my clients and use myself on the daily!
@@RadeGregov I think what you're asking is very nuanced and to answer this in a way that's truly in service to you, I'd want to ask you more questions because your experience is unique to you. I will say this is a common human experience to have mixed emotions about something or someone that it can feel so automatic like it's out of your control. This is because they're all part of the same neural network that lights up/ gets activated all together. These too can be changed and untangled.
Suggest focusing more on other "good" things (like feeling safe enough, or feeling satisfied enough...just in the course of everyday life). As for feeling connected and cared for, Dr. Hanson also stresses that if you cant find it then one can IMAGINE it and what it feels like. And/or to IMAGINE a safe place, and let that sink in. Suggest checking out his book Hardwiring Happiness if you can.
I find that feelings are situation/context specific. So, enriching one feeling that originates from a particular situation does not globally affect other different situations I encounter. Also, I find the more I enrich a feeling (excessively cling to it), subsequently losing that particular event from my life makes it that much more painful to bear. I prefer to use ancient well-tested techniques of meditation, mindfulness and especially vipassana techniques to manage my daily stress.
"subsequently losing that particular event from my life"--------it's a sign that you still have a traumatic feeling about losing it. Dr.Hanson suggests linking positive to negative experience and let the positive sooth and heal the negative one. I'm a Buddhist, Buddha said "losing your loved one or parting from your beloved is a normal phase of life". So if you have been practicing Buddhism, this teaching can set you free from suffering. It did that to me since i changed my suicidal attempt from a heartbreak and managed to "let go" because of this sentence. Good luck.
the subtitles are filled with mistakes - I wish I knew how to edit it cause it can confuse (more than help) people interested in that powerful content!
You could contact the video owner, only the video owner can redo the subtitles, they're probably auto-generated ones. You can download, edit the file and upload the edits, but you'd need to own the video. To get the download you could shark the video and download the auto-gem subtitles.
I think it is religion/spirituality that goes beyond science. Science deals with gathering more and more facts (information). Spirituality relates to our overall human experience in terms of our consciousness/mind.
Diane I meant he didn't say Namasté because he "would be taking part" for one religion in particular. His message goes beyond the futile division of religions, his message is towards wellbeing, that's why he didn't say Namaste or Amen. You can apply this knowledge regardless your beliefs.
Then you could also think of a fantasy creature. Just imagine how it would feel to have someone or something care about you. And - even if you feel like that- there is for sure someone who loves you and wants all the best for you.
I love you Darius. I see you as a good hearted person. You are struggling like so many of us are. If you are still looking for someone who loves you remember I am here. Across the miles there is someone out there thinking of you and wishing you the best.
I dont think theres a negativity bias. We just have negative minds because we live in modern society and are around modern people. Thats why monks and yogis go off into nature away from people to find their natural inner happiness.
There are probably many people praying for you. Thank you for reaching out! May Jesus bring you purpose, hope, happiness, anticipation, joy, and eternal life!
No matter how much people have failed you, there is a God that never fails. He is always faithful and he loves you so deeply Jodi. We don’t even need to wait for him to do something that proves it, because he already did. He died on the cross so that you can be in right relationship with God. That is how much he loves you. Believe in him and truly live. If you have any questions about the gospel, please please contact me and I would be so happy to share with you. I care for you.
NERDS ROCK!!! The most attractive thing on a man is a brain that works, a heart that shows compassion and a life dedicated to adventure and learning....
Billie Edwards Nerds do rock! I fly my nerd flag, and my intellect is my FAVORITE part of me! Start with a brain, and happy and sexy can be thought through and figured out! Case in point: my entire family is overweight, and I'd never change them EVER! But I like to feel healthy and look good (besides manage stress well!) But my intellect understands physics well, and understands and listens to my body. So my workouts are efficient, effective, HIIT cardio is excellent for me and my life balance (vs. marathon training). When weight lifting an understanding of great form and understanding of anatomy (and force/resistance) yields great/efficient results. Physics of health, stress management, and sexy! 😉 And yet, gym rat guy can't keep up with black hole theory, Chomsky's economic theories, or the REAL logistics of political process ..so....nah...he's not my type, like ever. Brains first! Always!
Yes!
On a man or on men & women?
LOL! Nerds really do rock!
I also find practical skills attractive like being able to fix things around the house.
His book, Buddha’s Brain, helped me tremendously. Read it.
Must check that out, thanks.
Thanks. I'll order it
"What's the most important minute of your life? The next one. Can't do anything about the past. A few minutes into the future we lose a lot of influence. What will we do with the good that's authentically available to us in the next minute?". This resonated with me. Maybe this is a technique for being present - only think about the next minute.
"Little by little fill yourself with the good" What an amazing talk!
My therapists and I have been trying fit a few decades to do exactly that. We just can’t get “filling” to happen - not even a little!
it would be great if the education system put the neural pathways training, meditation, positive-thinking,... in schools. Who knows, the world can change instantly into a happier/better place.
Too true Blue
This urgently needs to happen. My 6th grader went from excited and important feeling from elementary school, to bogged down and just a number in middle school. After his 40hrs in class he still comes home with an extra hour if HW daily. And he's 11! None of the teachers have time to invest emotionally in the kids because of the packed schedule and the packed classroom. Gotta get those test scores high for reporting! 😩
Breaks my heart 💔
3:07 - Neurons that fire together, Passing mental states become lasting neural traits.
5:10 - To feel more confident: have more experiences of accomplishment or coping.
5:17 - If you wanna have a more loving heart: practice moments of compassion or kindness for others.
5:25 - To get more positive experiences, we have to overcome the brains hardwired Negativity Bias.
6:03 - Negativity bias was evolutionarily advantageous to avoid danger. Once burned, twice shy.
6:27 - Good relationships need a ratio of 5 : 1 (positive to negative) interactions
6:35 - Re-listen to the rest
Thank you!
Awsome.
Thank you! I was hoping someone would have done this!!
Thank you for the summary. I wanted to capture exactly those key points.
Cool & thanx
In one word he's talking about having GRATITUDE
I really enjoyed how simple and useful this talk is. Rick Hanson has a really soothing voice, too. I'll be practicing these lessons.
Excellent and I appreciate hearing this talk
"change the mind to change the brain to change the mind"... MIC DROP
make someone else happy by doing little things, smile at them, praise them, include them, make them feel wanted
These small memories help them to feel good.
People don't realize how much their actions can impact another person's life. Even if it's just a coworker you hardly speak to.
This is my problem, I am so good at
Making others happy that they seem to like me for this. When I express any if my needs they ignore this or then reject me for speaking up about me. ??!?!
Been listening to this video since 2020.
🙏Thank you so much!!!!🙏
An inspirational talk.
Overcoming our hardwired negativity bias through rewiring the brain to happiness. By capturing , savouring , and staying with otherwise fleeting positive moments a little longer. Turning them into lasting neural circuits, which in turn re-emit positive energy.
Neurons that fire together wire together
Inspired by this talk, I set on rewiring my brain to what I view as the four pillars of happiness and contentment: Acceptance, Gratitude, Forgiveness and Mitfreude ( The opposite of Schadenfreude)
I like Rick Hanson's metaphorical pictures: “Weaving these resources into the fabric of my brain”
A valuable insight: Practising compassion cultivates us a good heart
Virtuous circus: Inner strengths are born from and reinforced by positive moments and actions. The other way round as well.
This Tibetan Saying resonates with me “If you take care of the minutes, the years will take care of themselves.”
Drop by drop the water pot is filled” . Maybe an overused saying, but it remains a fundamental truth.
Dr. Rick Hanson explains with wonderful clarity the missing piece of the puzzle of changing the mind to change the brain to change the mind. Fantastic graphics that allow for an easy understanding of complex psychoneurological concepts.
Everything you do -
Everything you encounter -
Everything you experience -
------- is changing your brain --------
This is a scientific explanation of 17 second magic. I'm going to encorporate this into my work as a registered dietitian/nutritionist with clients. Thanks!
This talk is simply BRILLIANT!
"if you take care of the minutes the years will take care of themselves" Tibetan Saying. Thank you, Dr. Hanson!
Loved the talk. Very good points.. Finally someone emphasising upon Creating Happiness rather than just Not Being Unhappy.
That was an amazing speech! My understanding of meditation has been ENHANCED!!!!
This is absolutely correct: Every educator must know these basics …
Fabulous! So simply and elegantly explained how to change your brain. I can do this! This practice (and problem) is the most important thing to overcome negativity and reactionary behavior.
Excellent speech to help us rewire our brain. Probably we all know that reliving or recalling good past moments does make us feel better but what he has added is that you can actually erase negative memories and experiences by bring in and holding on to positive feelings continuously. Hats off to you!
So grateful for your work Dr. Hanson. Every one of your presentations so far has been part of the "drop by drop" of good helping to rewire my neural pathways to more of a green setting. Thank you so much for your groundbreaking work.
Hi Jennifer: I'm working professionally and also with my own brain on 'rewiring.' I make meditation videos that are authentic (based on my experience) and hopefully useful. Check out my TH-cam video at blacksheepyoga.
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amazing... I have listening to this several times and it still makes me wanna say - wow! thank you Dr Hanson...and the organizers...
I literally just have this on a loop in the background, it's so good.
also, the negative side of me just said that this is a nice way of saying "Self deluded bliss" but I know it's just an observation, the same as the positive side recognising that I do feel good after recalling the good.
Rick has his own podcast as well as a podcast with his son that is also very good.
I find this talk so helpful and actionable and world changing
Very well said Dr. Hanson, the way he explained this topic , to me made me the realize the key to happness is to meditate and imagine yourself being loved and appreciated by others , taking positive past experiences and feeling it,like its actually happening in the present moment.
Thank you Dr. Hanson for this truly helpful teaching.
Game changer. Thank you for your work Rick.
man rick hanson is the funking man! gotta respect him .
such a blessing! we are so far behind in germany in this matter.
Loved this! I am a third grade teacher taking an online math class. It has explained mindsets which led me to seeking info to create a mindset intro for my students. Found this link on a website and listened to your talk on happiness. I have written down how to help myself become less stressed and more happy. Thank you!
God bless you and the work you do!
Love this. So simple and so effective!
Thank you
This man is a genius!
Wonderful! i really feel what you are teaching. Namaste💜
Now I know why loving-kindness (metta) mediation is important!
Not just metta but other kinds of meditation the buddha taught, like Vipassana bringing an equanimous mind to unpleasant sensations. You literally see it transforming you mind over the course of a ten day retreat.
I understand that all meditation methods share a lot of similarities, but Dr Hanson's talk is very interesting that what he suggests is pretty much that of the compassion meditation taught in the Buddhist tradition.
Such a smoothing voice and such a clever man🌞
Thank you🌷
Saved
Excellent presentation! And this is why we can change adverse childhood memories! :)
Thank for sharing this with us
Very powerful message. I am a fan of his books
This seems to provide the neurological/physiological explanation of why certain psychotherapeutic approaches work extremely well and quickly while others are largely a waste of time.
.........and some can be just plainly dangerous!!!
sooooo amazingggg.. BEAUTIFUL insights.. just so thankful to you
This guy is awesome
This is life changing.
Thank you!
Enjoy and celebrate your positive/significative experience.
Have a good experience
Enrich it
Adsorb it
Link the positive with negative(extra step)
Biscottone 33 thank you
Amen
Worldly pleasures are always changing and fulfill only temporarily. True happiness is based on wisdom, contentment and peace.
Love him, love what he said!
💖Thank you so much🙏🏻
Brilliant. Thank you!
Outstanding talk. Thank you.
This was GOOD!
Thank you 🎉👏👏👏
Yes, I enjoyed my minutes listening!
thank you! that was awesome and easy ... beautiful
Its has to be he's heart that make hem a Genius. He has the gift to easily convey the massage. Amazing ; - )>
Words of wisdom stand the test of time...the biggest test of time is right now...
That was brilliant.
sow, thank you
Small PSA: John Gottman's research found that 5:1 is NOT (as stated here) the ratio of positive to negative in healthy relationships--it is the ratio of positive to negative when a healthy relationship is in conflict. Outside of conflict, healthy relationships sustain a ratio of 20:1, positive to negative.
Great one. Thanks
Thanks Dr Hanson - great informative talk
Love him!
Annie Spiegelman you have a reason why
He has a great soul (
NEVER GONNA GIVE ME UP
Awesome video!
Thank you 🙏🏻
WOW Thank you :)
What a great video
HEAL Practice: 7.40 mins 💖🌹🙏
Thats just GREAT thank you
Brilliant.
lovely.thank-you.
quality talk
Thanks
I like this concept, my question is what if you can’t find or connect to that “ good feeling” of being cared for? I never felt safe as a child at home. I was taught not to trust anyone-so when grandparents tried to “ care” for me i was afraid my parents would get mad at me. The trauma in my brain started very young. I want to change. I can’t connect to that feeling because I don’t know what if feels like. What can I do to make the neuro shift ? Thank you
Try some other relationship in your life. Do you have children that love you or someone else that at some time in your life, you know loved you?
I'd like to suggest to imagine a positive experience where you are imagining trusting yourself... imagine yourself feeling safe ... we can create an experience by using our imagination.... we create experiences when watching a movie and we have a physiological reaction to a scene even though it's not actually happening to us... but brain doesn't distinguish between what's real and what isn't which is why you can imagine yourself feeling how you want to feel, being who you want to be and doing what you want to be doing and as you stay in this imaginary experience it becomes an experience in your body and your brain believes you and you then can absorb it and enhance it and link it back to a negative moment to dilute it with the positive experience as in Dr. Hansen's protocol.
This is incredible and effective work that I do with my clients and use myself on the daily!
@@RadeGregov I think what you're asking is very nuanced and to answer this in a way that's truly in service to you, I'd want to ask you more questions because your experience is unique to you.
I will say this is a common human experience to have mixed emotions about something or someone that it can feel so automatic like it's out of your control. This is because they're all part of the same neural network that lights up/ gets activated all together. These too can be changed and untangled.
Suggest focusing more on other "good" things (like feeling safe enough, or feeling satisfied enough...just in the course of everyday life). As for feeling connected and cared for, Dr. Hanson also stresses that if you cant find it then one can IMAGINE it and what it feels like. And/or to IMAGINE a safe place, and let that sink in. Suggest checking out his book Hardwiring Happiness if you can.
Thankyou
I find that feelings are situation/context specific. So, enriching one feeling that originates from a particular situation does not globally affect other different situations I encounter. Also, I find the more I enrich a feeling (excessively cling to it), subsequently losing that particular event from my life makes it that much more painful to bear. I prefer to use ancient well-tested techniques of meditation, mindfulness and especially vipassana techniques to manage my daily stress.
"subsequently losing that particular event from my life"--------it's a sign that you still have a traumatic feeling about losing it. Dr.Hanson suggests linking positive to negative experience and let the positive sooth and heal the negative one.
I'm a Buddhist, Buddha said "losing your loved one or parting from your beloved is a normal phase of life". So if you have been practicing Buddhism, this teaching can set you free from suffering. It did that to me since i changed my suicidal attempt from a heartbreak and managed to "let go" because of this sentence. Good luck.
the subtitles are filled with mistakes - I wish I knew how to edit it cause it can confuse (more than help) people interested in that powerful content!
I read it combined with listening to him without watching visual. So it helps.
You could contact the video owner, only the video owner can redo the subtitles, they're probably auto-generated ones. You can download, edit the file and upload the edits, but you'd need to own the video. To get the download you could shark the video and download the auto-gem subtitles.
Does anyone understand what we're supposed to do in the chapter around 7:03?
Good stuff. I expected him to say "Namaste" at the end.
LOL!! HE didn't say it because his message goes beyond religion. BUt for sure he meant it when he thanked the audience, I felt it at least! ;)
I think it is religion/spirituality that goes beyond science. Science deals with gathering more and more facts (information). Spirituality relates to our overall human experience in terms of our consciousness/mind.
Diane I meant he didn't say Namasté because he "would be taking part" for one religion in particular. His message goes beyond the futile division of religions, his message is towards wellbeing, that's why he didn't say Namaste or Amen. You can apply this knowledge regardless your beliefs.
At 7:40 you're asked to think of someone who cares about you! Anyone! Anything!
What if you can't answer for sure? That hurts...
It hurts. Love you bud
Then you could also think of a fantasy creature. Just imagine how it would feel to have someone or something care about you. And - even if you feel like that- there is for sure someone who loves you and wants all the best for you.
I love you Darius. I see you as a good hearted person. You are struggling like so many of us are. If you are still looking for someone who loves you remember I am here. Across the miles there is someone out there thinking of you and wishing you the best.
thanks good speach. so ...........
Underated
Very nice
great
Very interesting....
Maravilhoso
I dont think theres a negativity bias. We just have negative minds because we live in modern society and are around modern people. Thats why monks and yogis go off into nature away from people to find their natural inner happiness.
Why i think i know that secret ? Really i know the secret of being happy for ever
By the way, it works!
NOW DID YOU SEE HOW THEY USE THE TACTICAL CAMO ON THE NEXT ONE?
I just saw this video as this DR is talking in the movie MINIMALIST..
I tried this great experience but it wasn't great for me because I can't think of anybody who cares about me so what do you do then
There are probably many people praying for you. Thank you for reaching out! May Jesus bring you purpose, hope, happiness, anticipation, joy, and eternal life!
No matter how much people have failed you, there is a God that never fails. He is always faithful and he loves you so deeply Jodi. We don’t even need to wait for him to do something that proves it, because he already did. He died on the cross so that you can be in right relationship with God. That is how much he loves you. Believe in him and truly live. If you have any questions about the gospel, please please contact me and I would be so happy to share with you. I care for you.
What, of course we all care about you
Have a nice day 😵
WOW!
Hardwiring right, good, wisdom and happiness
Nice
I don't know what he means by the step of absorbing the good.