We’ve seen so many of you asking about how to start your healing journey after listening to this podcast. To support you, we’ve included a link to a free sexual trauma healing masterclass here: bit.ly/3zqxFxy We hope this resource offers the support you need. 💛
Hi Ranvir bhaiya , I have tried approaching u , viraj bhai , I have good experience in marketing and Sales as well as social media management, I need a job immediately, My mother is diagnosed with her2 positive breast cancer , and I am jobless since my own company closed and i am in debt , somehow when i tried recovering my Mother got diagnosed please help me out
She is such a lovely therapist. From what all I am learning from my masters degree in Psychology, she is exactly displaying it there. We are taught how a therapist first actively listens to what the other person has to say and then paraphrases it and then summarises it to the client. I wish to be like her. A therapist as good as Neha is❤️ Manifesting 🧿
The intro. 💪. What a genuine guy, ranveer. Kudos to your mom for raising a gentleman. India would be such a better place to live in if there are more guys like you. Thankyou ❤
I am extremely in awe with this woman because nobody and I mean it nobody is able to connect all three 'law, spirituality and psychological' aspects of such issues and she did all of it perfectly.
Found myself taking breaks in between because it was getting really triggering, but it's so so important to have more conversations like this! Thank you for doing this podcast, loved it.
The most important thing I learned from this podcast is that Maybee in some situation we can't be present there but we all can do one thing that is to be empathetic and kind to people..... More power to her!!
@@beerbiceps can u look for the guy asking a job in comment section. he is in need ,please help him. its about his mother please look. His username "Uskeje-SarAayaan"
@@beerbiceps Hi Ranveer bhaiya I have tried approaching u and lakshay bhai, I have good experience in marketing and Sales as well as social media management, I need a job immediately, My mother is diagnosed with her2 positive breast cancer , and I am jobless since my own company closed and i am in debt , somehow when i tried recovering my Mother got diagnosed please help me out
@@beerbiceps Hi Ranvir bhaiya , I have tried approaching u , viraj bhai , I have good experience in marketing and Sales as well as social media management, I need a job immediately, My mother is diagnosed with her2 positive breast cancer , and I am jobless since my own company closed and i am in debt , somehow when i tried recovering my
During my college days , I remember, when I had the first encounter of someone touching my ass in an overcrowded bus, I was just 17 fresh out of school. I don't know, why but it felt so disgusting...later I had felt very demeaning about myself....it took me almost 5 to 8 years to come out of that rabbit hole...and regain my self esteem.... hardest part was ....I could not share it with anyone...not even my mum or sister.... I have tried and still continue trying my level best to give that space to my daughters where they can come home and unload their trauma....I regularly sit with them and discuss my own shortcomings, as a kid and teen and encourage them to share their own things also in the process tell them ...
Next time something like this happens you face the guy who is doing that on the spot. Does not matter if its you or someone else who is being humiliated. Either it's happening to you or anyone else stand up for it guys. And also someone touching you in public place is definitely wrong but it shouldn't take 5-8 years of trauma to deal with that according to me
Sexual trauma is not only for women, so many men has gone through this and they never open up. They should start talking about it and heal. It’s much need of the hour
Friends telling a traumatised person to beer chill and go for casual sex is exactly like old parents tell traumatised married couples to have children and it will all “go away”. It is not boredom, it’s long term chronic trauma. People are uneducated
Trauma informed homes are a gift...but people who grow up in a family taht isnt trauma informed go through a lot of abuse but then kya karein we move on with sacrs....some rimes the scars heal some times they dont and after a certain age you learn to live with it and make peace ...its the "in between period thats hellish" Take care every one Thank you for the episode RA Much light Much fun!
Ranveer is such a gentleman…he is manly and husky, but at the same time so soft and understanding…this is what true masculinity is …hats off to your parents for raising you so well…wish we had more men like you around❤️ Always a pleasure listening to your podcasts ❤️
A very deep one.... I am psychology Enthusiast and an empath so I could understand the concepts with ease but I guess it wasn't easy one to digest for all. I always wanted to be a part of such conversations that are put under a rug for generations just to get it going smoothly on the outside ,as they say. I never thought such a rare discussion will be avaialable on youtube for free. I am so grateful for both you for this ❤ This is insane. I know this podcast doesn't got much reviews because it is so ahead of time. 5 or 10 years down the line when people collectively will be ready to address it this episode is gonna be the treasure for them then. Again Thank you so much🙏🧿🌈✨️💐🙌. I was hesitant to start this episode because I am empath and it could trigger some wounds but thank God I did 😊🙌🙏🧿✨️🌈💐
Neha Bhat is very good in articulation and has deep understanding. Ranveer is a diamond and superb. He should do more of these interviews. Excellent interview and i would rate this as Ranveer's best and no. 1 in his entire timeline.
oh common the lady highlighting 2/3 case, practiced her studies in chicago, giving diplomatic answers and talking with most privileged guy who himself is learning about indian culture though the topic is very good and need tobe shared am not against it just a pov
The rarest podcast which is so deep and helpful for many people out there ❤ Love & healing to the ones who have been through any kind of abuse in their lives.
Congratulations beer biceps for making 139k viewers aware of the damage that rapes makes in the victims life and this is what needed to reduce rape cases, that's the awareness.
To Ranveer-considering follow up topics: 1. Hidden incest... 2. Marry with exclamation mark: your depression will go away ...("shaadhi karlo, sab depression mit jayenge") 3. "forced marriage" [!!] ... India is a huge country...and much diversity
An only child here, the domestic violence part was very relatable. Growing up, watching parents fighting over little things and as she said, raising voice, hands and throwing objects, making mom feel that she is worthless... Man, I've seen alot. As a child, i wasn't able to do anything. Wasn't even allowed to raise my voice ( yes, I'm a girl). And always been a victim of this abuse. Dad abusing mom, mom cursing dad, mom being angry, mom abusing me, whatnot.... And the fun fact is that, i used to thing that this is how family works. Neither mom nor dad was there for me, even in my childhood. When covid hit and dad and mom were "home" always, all i could see was just fights... Fights and being slapped and verbal abuse.. God I should say this, Verbal abuse is no different than physical abuse. No bruises, but still more pain and horror in it. And at covid time, when school reopened, i really needed to talk to someone about this. But i was also so sure that none of my friends could understand what I'm going through because all of them had great family, loving family. I'm never jealous of their family becase I don't think there is something to be jealous of. I mean, that's how life is... That's how you live happily, with your parents, there's nothing to be jealous of. I'm actually very happy for everyone, not just my friends, but evryone who have a nice family/parents. and I should say this, that I only get to know that, i was growing in a toxic household when my friends talk about there families. When i was very young, i had no idea about this toxicity. As i grew older, as i could understand more, i realised how horror my life actually is. And once things start to be more and more violent, i was literally afraid to step into my house. I used to hate Friday's because after friday, Saturday and Sunday i should be in my house, getting beaten up and hearing things that i could never forget. The way the verbal abusing impacted on me is unexplainable. I used to be a cool, chill, smart, always happy girl. But verbal abuse made my world upside down, everytime mom yells at me, it used to shook me to the core. School was my only happy place. And once i was done being a victim if this toxic household, i knew i should speak about this and that's when i talked to my class tr. The relief is... I don't know hiw to explain. It was like being in a quite place after being in a big, loud crowd for a long period of time. But at first, even my tr asked me if it was some sort of build up story because she could never believe that I'm going through this much, bearing this much pain both physically, mentally and emotionally. And i showed her the marks of beating and everything. I still remember the terror in her eyes, seeing those. I'm so happy that she gave me the love and everything i lacked in my entire childhood. The love of a mother, the care parents gave their child. She was nothing less than a mother for me. I really do believe that blood is not that makes family. I still remember crying inside hearing my friend's stories, the love thier parents have for them, the love they have for the parents. I was only afraid of my parents. But now it's changing. I'm setting my boundaries. I learnt to say NO. I raise voice when needed. I'm no longer their toy. And also I stop him now, when they starts a fight. I just don't let any fight go beyond some point. Corrects dad. But as she said, the person should be ready to understand or at least try to understand what the other is saying. But his ego is something i can do nothing about. But now i strictly warn both of them. Its not like everything has end. But it has reduced, I'll say. Now I'm 19, thanks to my tr. If i never had the feeling that she could understand me, i can't even imagine what would have happened. So grateful that i had someone like her in my life. Also i was very good at studying but these made me unable to even sleep good. But thank God, i somehow managed it and scored well for the boards. Anyways, maybe some bruises are gone, but even after these yrs, i could literally feel the physical pain. And also i don't think i would ever be able to forget what she said to me, what all she yelled at me. She always used to say that i was the problem. Like why did i born, like bro what? Did i did something to made be??? Excuse me? What am i missing here??? Whatever, this was exactly why i was suicidal. Because she constantly used to yell at me that i was her problem so i thought why not put an end for her "problem" ie, her child. Yeah i know it was very rubbish and childish of me to think that way. I mean of course i was "child" back then. So Yeah thats it. Just thought that i could share this here. Maybe alot of people are going through the same. So for them, pls talk to someone you trust, build the courage to talk back, to defend yourself and to stand for your loved ones. But first, pls love yourself. Pls be kind to yourself,❤
You are so strong and it's commendable how you made through this and became what you are now... I also relate with your story, tho those are some different issues... Anyway i wish every child/ person who is or had endured this, have the courage, strength and wisdom to moves on from it and make the best life for themselves and their loved ones. Wish you well in life. 🫂❤️
Sometimes (often, actually 🙃) I thank TH-cam and all associated stakeholders (the podcast/vlog creator first and foremost) for getting me pertinent, infotainment-rich material. This video clip tops the list. Each and every word in this was eye-opening, alarming and poignant.....but the Lady explains it all so well. Thank you Beer Biceps for asking all the right questions. The part about signs of se**al trauma not being that obvious in men (and the topic needing careful navigation to understand) hit home so hard. It makes me want to be that much more sensitive towards my loved ones.... There is a lot of educational material within this episode and not only from a clinical perspective. ONe great podcast! 👏👏👏👏👏 Many Thanks for this. On behalf of the audience, Thanks to Neha Bhat too for sharing such relevant and accurate information. More Power to You!
@BeerBiceps - Sometimes we don’t even know what abuse is . What qualifies as domestic abuse . What qualifies as financial abuse . How does one manage if its not society’s common definition ( which of course is relative) It will be good hear Neha’s understanding experience on it 2. A lot of people always ask me - Why therapy ., I don’t have a real issue like anxiety or panic attack . I loved her articulation of It’s growth mindset. Can we have hee talk more about how people who don’t have any surface symptom start with a therapist
You don't have to have multiple partners to know which partner suits you the best, relationship is not only about sex. btw amazing podcast, amazing guest..
I'm a somatic therapist in training, and I say this with the experience of being in therapy myself for three years that therapy is one of many ways of healing. It's not the be all, end all of healing. Different things work for different people at different points of their life. For me a mix of things has been helpful and sometimes being in therapy has even made things worse!
This podcast is just so amazing.. I was going through anxiety dipression and anger issues and was very confused as to why this was happening but after listening to this podcast I understood a lot...
2 hours podcast was like just 10 minutes. This is called as a perfect podcast when guest and host both are amazing humans, understanding each other while conversing and showing empathy to each other by body language and beautiful words. Thank you Ranveer bro for such an amazing podcast and whenever I watch your videos, it always doubles your respect in mind. You’re doing a fantastic job. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
Abuse starts from mother innocently thrusting food forcefully into the mouth of the baby who refuses to eat or not hungry. This looks so simple yet it leaves a scar in the child's psyche . And this is so normal so rampant it happens in almost every household. Wonderful conversation this is. Thank you
I feel that. Even if it's said that humans don't remember their babyhood, I have carried this feeling of helplessness and forced trauma on me since then. This has led to a lot of issues around my character, my sexuality, etc.
@@Shivani-kw9kx I feel this force feeding parents have no ill feeling. They just think babies will starve so do that. Here doctors advice comes in handy. They must instruct the parents about how to feed when to do so. How to encourage the baby to eat by itself.
Today's dirty time is making everything dirty and forcing people to look at things with victim mentality otherwise in the past people were not complaining about their parents feeding them food forcefully because overall that time was good and lust was not completely imposed on the mind of society through movies,drama or entertainment shows.
This podcast was absolutely amazing, especially as a trauma informed therapist, I got to learn so much. We need Neha ma'am again on the show!!! And Ranveer, every man should be like you❤
Thank you Ranveer! It was absolutely needed for the world! We would appreciate more of taboo toppics and also talking about how concretely processing these traumas and when do we know that it's done. This nonsense of a rape case being closed after 10 years like it never happened and being unpresentable to justice, for example, is a clear sign that people think time erases these things. Also talking more about hypersexuality as a contradictory response to fear of the partners. Also I would appreciate explanation about total lack of understanding of the dept of the trauma inflicted by the doer him/herself and is it because of them never being experiencing these type of violence themselves. Thank you so much! ❤
One of the most super super super super super super super super super super super super super super super amazing podcast I have seen and got the very of just being a mental health expert
Hi Ranveer. Please do an episode on Narcissism. A lot of them don’t know of they’re in a narcissistic relationship or parenting. Btw love this episode. Looking forward for more such psychology based. episodes
I’m afraid since his reach is so much, ppl will start labelling ppl left right and centre, which is already happening. it’s a complex topic and the content on this subject in India is not very nuanced and can be detrimental. Other than Dr.Ramani there’s only one guy in India on TH-cam whose doing an exemplary job but he’s not so popular so won’t be invited cause it’s a numbers game usually
We need to have more podcasts like this. Kudos to both of you. This is like making people aware of the definition of abuse. Indian society needs to talk about subjects like these more often. Awesome conversation .
Just listening to your intro literally brought tears to my eyes, my respect for Ranveer has grown immensely. You are a true man, i hope there are more guys and public influencers like you out there who can give out public statements to actually create an impact.
Solution according to me 1 Don't supress anything otherwise it will blast off 2 we need gender neutral laws because many loyal men get suffered and exploited because of it. 3 law should be made for letting sex hapens in a controlled way not to bully some one 4 taboo should be removed from sex 5 provisions should be made for couples legally and they should be given freedom 6 law should teach a lesson to people beyond gender 7 law should first understand that people have needs and look that how that needs could be met in an correct way instead of just making laws blindly or suppressing people
Another mysogynistic comment objectifying women. Sadly the commentor is also uneducated and uncultured. Birth is an accident. Hold on to these feelings when you're born as a woman in your subsequent births, Mr. Patil.
I wish we could had a place where we can share. What we are feeling, no one is there to judge us, no one is there to make fun of our emotions and understand what we are feeling.
Omg not touching your body parts is so real😢 and wow, just a single podcast has answered so many deep rooted questions. Its amazing when people actually know and understand your perspective
This is one of the best podcasts you could do, Ranveer. And Neha was so so brilliant. I am quite sure that many people who have been sitting on the fence about seeking help with feel confident and courage to go for it. Please have more of such content for everyone. Best
This is such a wholesome episode for all the aspects of mind. I do not think the thumbnail of the video does the content justice. The video has a lot more lovely topics, but we are prone to making snap judgements about it based only on its title and thumbnail.
I am a psychologist and I am really thankful to this guy and the therapist to highlight very important topic in india infact I can say in the world people really don't know what to do with their problem which is deeply rooted but they often ignore As a Psychologist i will say to people please don't hesitate going to therapist even a sex therapist or a psychologist Podcast cannot heal you, but it can give you needful Knowledge like this podcast Going to a therapeutic clinic doesn't make you poor or mental infact it teaches you how to live life to fullest and making you feel more confident and more known to yourself that you have never experienced yet
1:24:11 but I saw different scenario where North Indian girls are taking charge to initiate conversation but south indian girls are shy , or even not interested in taking charge . I felt north indian girls are more Masculine than south indian boys 😂
Well wish whole TRS tream"we love you guys "Try to bring madan guptha from Andhra Pradesh.He is extrem knowledged person we love he talks on Indian research on his way of view
Thank you Ranveer and Neha for this wonderful episode... I have got tremendous insights from this episode... I now, have got a much deeper knowledge of a major incident that happened in my life and it has already healed me somewhat... I really cannot thank you both enough!!!♥️
This was a relatively difficult podcast to sit through. But it was very interesting and thought provocative. This episode increased the respect I had for Ranveer. He is more intellectual person than he looks. I always admired him for a good entrepreneur and a smart individual that he is but I realise how sensible and mature he could be at times while dealing with sensitive and complex topics like sexual and domestic abuse.
Its an amazing podcast . Can you maybe do the similar podcast in Hindi so we can share with older generation who probably concieve media in HINDI . Nice work with this podcast ! 😄
much needed episode for this generation,and thankyou ranveer for not hesitating and asking basic questions which are generally not answered and which stay in people's mind.power to u my brother
There's no one thread that this episode follows. Too vague. You two are talking about a topic and not finishing it fulling. That feels very unsettling.
All he cares about is being relevant to the algorithm and current affairs. It's not about making people aware of topics, its about following trends and making business 🐒
He touched on various broad topics and I think this episode is an introduction to what many people go through that are "hidden" in the society. It is a great way to start a conversation about sexual trauma and trauma in general through his channel. May encourage some people to accept their past and seek help, you never know. She also recommended some books, you can read them if you want to go deep
@@avinash2150 Why shouldn't he care about his business? The episode was great about making people aware of these vulnerable topics in a broad spectrum, some of which we might not be aware as a society. Go read the books she recommended if you care about going deep into them. I don't think these conversations happen often and bringing a sex trauma therapist is an awesome job
I don't know if you're being sarcastic or not... If you have watched it and tried to understand then you are one step towards better at maturity level (don't think you aren't) it's not a switch it's a spectrum
Thank you for this episode. This has been so validating for what i had felt over the years and what i sometimes feel still.... It has been difficult to process if i was overthinking things or if these issues are worth asking for help or if i have really moved on as much i have believed i had....how much of it was my fault and what i could have done to avoid those mishaps entirely. The self blame and guilt and the triggers that affect me still... It has been eye opening and extremely helpful.
I never get attracted to Ranveer's podcasts but today I just opened to see as what have mentioned on the thumbnail is it really relatable with video or not, but after watching for few minutes I got deep into the video and it was really amazing how you both are talking about real things in such a way that normally we people suffer but we don't find out like this is something on which we can talk or we can talk in a positive way like we always have doubts for these topics.
I feel the background music in the intro is overly dramatic and distracting. If the goal is to help the audience understand the topic or issue being discussed, it would be better to use simpler, more neutral music, rather than something that feels like breaking news on TV. A more subtle approach would improve the overall experience.
Yes Ranveer pls change the background score in the beginning... Your podcasts are calming so we come with that mindset but the fast hard music is like a oxymoron ... I have to fast forward every time
You are the woman who explained this topic very well and you brought these type of things in front of us you are doing your duty but we can not refuse from it there are many people they can not understand these things and pain of victims😢
I got goosebumps after watching this podcast... You are dope ranveer.... Amazing work man... Waiting for this podcast for 3 years... And finally we are here 🔥 🔥 Ranveer Allahabadia🎉🎉 One correction- it's subjective but please don't promote multiple partners
Although laws exist to prevent rape and sanction offenders, the mechanisms designed to apprehend these criminals, substantiate their crimes, and bring them to justice remain notably inadequate. Those in positions of power often craft these laws, only to subsequently ensure that they are seldom enforced.
What a brilliant conversation. One of the most sophisticated things Neha ji said that really stands with me was the humongous diversity within India and the need to understand this in the Indian context. There are so many cultures here and so much nuance even in the simplest aspects of people's lives that we can't have a blanket statement. What an insightful person and what an amazing episode!
Hey Ranveer you are grt I being a female like to hit the gym/aerobics/yoga whenever I am in pain ,anger. I totally agree to neha on her concept of healing in india
We’ve seen so many of you asking about how to start your healing journey after listening to this podcast. To support you, we’ve included a link to a free sexual trauma healing masterclass here: bit.ly/3zqxFxy
We hope this resource offers the support you need. 💛
Hi Ranvir bhaiya , I have tried approaching u , viraj bhai , I have good experience in marketing and Sales as well as social media management, I need a job immediately, My mother is diagnosed with her2 positive breast cancer , and I am jobless since my own company closed and i am in debt , somehow when i tried recovering my
Mother got diagnosed please help me out
Want to listen capt. Praveen chaturvedi. A great guy having best ideas and working on that. Please call them
Please come back for Neha Bhat ma'am
Awesome.... Make a Hindi podcast with her.... Becoz many Hindi listener need her 😇
Avoid sweets, sugar, chocolate, fastfoods, watermelon to avoid lust feelings. 💪💪✌️
Eat ragi soup.
Brahmacharya since 1 year 😊
Her empathy is amazing. As a fellow healer, i think she is absolutely amazing. Thankyou for this episode ive learned a lot.
She is such a lovely therapist. From what all I am learning from my masters degree in Psychology, she is exactly displaying it there. We are taught how a therapist first actively listens to what the other person has to say and then paraphrases it and then summarises it to the client. I wish to be like her. A therapist as good as Neha is❤️ Manifesting 🧿
the fact that the video has almost no ads- SALUTE!!
The intro. 💪. What a genuine guy, ranveer. Kudos to your mom for raising a gentleman. India would be such a better place to live in if there are more guys like you.
Thankyou ❤
Kudos to the parents* ☺️
He is a joker
Totally Agree ❤😊
@@Aiartpoint that’s exactly what your Parents said when the Doctor Handed you to them 😂
@@sumirat6888 seems like it happened with you and still happening with you all people who see you may tell you a Joker
I am extremely in awe with this woman because nobody and I mean it nobody is able to connect all three 'law, spirituality and psychological' aspects of such issues and she did all of it perfectly.
Found myself taking breaks in between because it was getting really triggering, but it's so so important to have more conversations like this! Thank you for doing this podcast, loved it.
childhood trauma, toxic parenting . no one wants to talk about it because parents are meant to be gods in our society and not as normal humans
Same brother
As a cis-male survivor of rape, I feel so validated by this episode, especially since it comes from a desi standpoint. Thank you!!!
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Sending you lots of love dear ❤❤❤
The most important thing I learned from this podcast is that
Maybee in some situation we can't be present there but we all can do one thing that is to be empathetic and kind to people.....
More power to her!!
This is much needed for the Indian audience not just based in India but for the global Indian community. The intro is gripping!
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@@beerbiceps can u look for the guy asking a job in comment section. he is in need ,please help him. its about his mother please look. His username "Uskeje-SarAayaan"
@@beerbiceps Hi Ranveer bhaiya I have tried approaching u and lakshay bhai, I have good experience in marketing and Sales as well as social media management, I need a job immediately, My mother is diagnosed with her2 positive breast cancer , and I am jobless since my own company closed and i am in debt , somehow when i tried recovering my
Mother got diagnosed please help me out
@@beerbiceps Hi Ranvir bhaiya , I have tried approaching u , viraj bhai , I have good experience in marketing and Sales as well as social media management, I need a job immediately, My mother is diagnosed with her2 positive breast cancer , and I am jobless since my own company closed and i am in debt , somehow when i tried recovering my
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She’s a great conversationalist, love how she engages you in it
During my college days , I remember, when I had the first encounter of someone touching my ass in an overcrowded bus, I was just 17 fresh out of school. I don't know, why but it felt so disgusting...later I had felt very demeaning about myself....it took me almost 5 to 8 years to come out of that rabbit hole...and regain my self esteem.... hardest part was ....I could not share it with anyone...not even my mum or sister....
I have tried and still continue trying my level best to give that space to my daughters where they can come home and unload their trauma....I regularly sit with them and discuss my own shortcomings, as a kid and teen and encourage them to share their own things also in the process tell them ...
You handle challenges with such strength and grace.
But you casually commented this on the most used social application?
@@abhishekyadav3329 she just said she is now okay talking about it what do you mean?
Every womans' story and a few mens' too! You are setting a great benchmark here for sound parenting! Thanks for sharing this with us all.
Next time something like this happens you face the guy who is doing that on the spot. Does not matter if its you or someone else who is being humiliated. Either it's happening to you or anyone else stand up for it guys. And also someone touching you in public place is definitely wrong but it shouldn't take 5-8 years of trauma to deal with that according to me
Sexual trauma is not only for women, so many men has gone through this and they never open up. They should start talking about it and heal. It’s much need of the hour
But still they don,t understand the problem
Friends telling a traumatised person to beer chill and go for casual sex is exactly like old parents tell traumatised married couples to have children and it will all “go away”. It is not boredom, it’s long term chronic trauma. People are uneducated
Trauma informed homes are a gift...but people who grow up in a family taht isnt trauma informed go through a lot of abuse but then kya karein we move on with sacrs....some rimes the scars heal some times they dont and after a certain age you learn to live with it and make peace ...its the "in between period thats hellish"
Take care every one
Thank you for the episode RA
Much light
Much fun!
How the both situations are same? one is escaping the other is an extra burden
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Yes you said right he is bull bhit
@@Lamcuyp572L one is escaping?... that's NOT escape for someone whose been molested!
Ranveer is such a gentleman…he is manly and husky, but at the same time so soft and understanding…this is what true masculinity is …hats off to your parents for raising you so well…wish we had more men like you around❤️
Always a pleasure listening to your podcasts ❤️
A very deep one.... I am psychology Enthusiast and an empath so I could understand the concepts with ease but I guess it wasn't easy one to digest for all. I always wanted to be a part of such conversations that are put under a rug for generations just to get it going smoothly on the outside ,as they say. I never thought such a rare discussion will be avaialable on youtube for free. I am so grateful for both you for this ❤ This is insane. I know this podcast doesn't got much reviews because it is so ahead of time. 5 or 10 years down the line when people collectively will be ready to address it this episode is gonna be the treasure for them then. Again Thank you so much🙏🧿🌈✨️💐🙌. I was hesitant to start this episode because I am empath and it could trigger some wounds but thank God I did 😊🙌🙏🧿✨️🌈💐
Kudos to her for explaining such complex things on such a surface level!
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Neha Bhat is very good in articulation and has deep understanding. Ranveer is a diamond and superb. He should do more of these interviews. Excellent interview and i would rate this as Ranveer's best and no. 1 in his entire timeline.
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oh common the lady highlighting 2/3 case, practiced her studies in chicago, giving diplomatic answers and talking with most privileged guy who himself is learning about indian culture though the topic is very good and need tobe shared am not against it just a pov
Only if she decides to spend another 20L
The rarest podcast which is so deep and helpful for many people out there ❤ Love & healing to the ones who have been through any kind of abuse in their lives.
Congratulations beer biceps for making 139k viewers aware of the damage that rapes makes in the victims life and this is what needed to reduce rape cases, that's the awareness.
It was because of the lady who approached them and paid them for the podcast
Thank to the lady who paid him for that
46:13 so kind of her to give a trigger warning. Very empathetic!
To Ranveer-considering follow up topics:
1. Hidden incest...
2. Marry with exclamation mark: your depression will go away ...("shaadhi karlo, sab depression mit jayenge")
3. "forced marriage" [!!]
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India is a huge country...and much diversity
Agreed
Agree
Hidden incest is so so so so so much fucking important. I'm seeing it fucking everywhere and nobody is ready to even accept it.
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Oh...I am half way through and I am so much loving this conversation....it's really Time that we need more of such discussions
An only child here, the domestic violence part was very relatable. Growing up, watching parents fighting over little things and as she said, raising voice, hands and throwing objects, making mom feel that she is worthless... Man, I've seen alot. As a child, i wasn't able to do anything. Wasn't even allowed to raise my voice ( yes, I'm a girl). And always been a victim of this abuse. Dad abusing mom, mom cursing dad, mom being angry, mom abusing me, whatnot....
And the fun fact is that, i used to thing that this is how family works. Neither mom nor dad was there for me, even in my childhood.
When covid hit and dad and mom were "home" always, all i could see was just fights... Fights and being slapped and verbal abuse.. God I should say this, Verbal abuse is no different than physical abuse. No bruises, but still more pain and horror in it. And at covid time, when school reopened, i really needed to talk to someone about this. But i was also so sure that none of my friends could understand what I'm going through because all of them had great family, loving family. I'm never jealous of their family becase I don't think there is something to be jealous of. I mean, that's how life is... That's how you live happily, with your parents, there's nothing to be jealous of. I'm actually very happy for everyone, not just my friends, but evryone who have a nice family/parents. and I should say this, that I only get to know that, i was growing in a toxic household when my friends talk about there families. When i was very young, i had no idea about this toxicity. As i grew older, as i could understand more, i realised how horror my life actually is.
And once things start to be more and more violent, i was literally afraid to step into my house. I used to hate Friday's because after friday, Saturday and Sunday i should be in my house, getting beaten up and hearing things that i could never forget. The way the verbal abusing impacted on me is unexplainable. I used to be a cool, chill, smart, always happy girl. But verbal abuse made my world upside down, everytime mom yells at me, it used to shook me to the core. School was my only happy place. And once i was done being a victim if this toxic household, i knew i should speak about this and that's when i talked to my class tr. The relief is... I don't know hiw to explain. It was like being in a quite place after being in a big, loud crowd for a long period of time. But at first, even my tr asked me if it was some sort of build up story because she could never believe that I'm going through this much, bearing this much pain both physically, mentally and emotionally. And i showed her the marks of beating and everything. I still remember the terror in her eyes, seeing those. I'm so happy that she gave me the love and everything i lacked in my entire childhood. The love of a mother, the care parents gave their child. She was nothing less than a mother for me. I really do believe that blood is not that makes family. I still remember crying inside hearing my friend's stories, the love thier parents have for them, the love they have for the parents. I was only afraid of my parents.
But now it's changing. I'm setting my boundaries. I learnt to say NO. I raise voice when needed. I'm no longer their toy. And also I stop him now, when they starts a fight. I just don't let any fight go beyond some point. Corrects dad. But as she said, the person should be ready to understand or at least try to understand what the other is saying. But his ego is something i can do nothing about. But now i strictly warn both of them. Its not like everything has end. But it has reduced, I'll say. Now I'm 19, thanks to my tr. If i never had the feeling that she could understand me, i can't even imagine what would have happened. So grateful that i had someone like her in my life. Also i was very good at studying but these made me unable to even sleep good. But thank God, i somehow managed it and scored well for the boards.
Anyways, maybe some bruises are gone, but even after these yrs, i could literally feel the physical pain. And also i don't think i would ever be able to forget what she said to me, what all she yelled at me.
She always used to say that i was the problem. Like why did i born, like bro what? Did i did something to made be??? Excuse me? What am i missing here??? Whatever, this was exactly why i was suicidal. Because she constantly used to yell at me that i was her problem so i thought why not put an end for her "problem" ie, her child. Yeah i know it was very rubbish and childish of me to think that way. I mean of course i was "child" back then. So Yeah thats it. Just thought that i could share this here. Maybe alot of people are going through the same. So for them, pls talk to someone you trust, build the courage to talk back, to defend yourself and to stand for your loved ones. But first, pls love yourself. Pls be kind to yourself,❤
Sorry for what you have been through. Be Happy & Be Strong ❤
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You are so strong and it's commendable how you made through this and became what you are now... I also relate with your story, tho those are some different issues... Anyway i wish every child/ person who is or had endured this, have the courage, strength and wisdom to moves on from it and make the best life for themselves and their loved ones. Wish you well in life. 🫂❤️
Sometimes (often, actually 🙃) I thank TH-cam and all associated stakeholders (the podcast/vlog creator first and foremost) for getting me pertinent, infotainment-rich material. This video clip tops the list.
Each and every word in this was eye-opening, alarming and poignant.....but the Lady explains it all so well. Thank you Beer Biceps for asking all the right questions.
The part about signs of se**al trauma not being that obvious in men (and the topic needing careful navigation to understand) hit home so hard. It makes me want to be that much more sensitive towards my loved ones....
There is a lot of educational material within this episode and not only from a clinical perspective.
ONe great podcast! 👏👏👏👏👏 Many Thanks for this.
On behalf of the audience, Thanks to Neha Bhat too for sharing such relevant and accurate information. More Power to You!
I second you!!❤
@BeerBiceps - Sometimes we don’t even know what abuse is . What qualifies as domestic abuse . What qualifies as financial abuse . How does one manage if its not society’s common definition ( which of course is relative) It will be good hear Neha’s understanding experience on it
2. A lot of people always ask me - Why therapy ., I don’t have a real issue like anxiety or panic attack . I loved her articulation of It’s growth mindset. Can we have hee talk more about how people who don’t have any surface symptom start with a therapist
You don't have to have multiple partners to know which partner suits you the best, relationship is not only about sex. btw amazing podcast, amazing guest..
It's lust too much of lust these days.. everything is normal..
You always don't need to come to Canada and smell up the place.
I'm a somatic therapist in training, and I say this with the experience of being in therapy myself for three years that therapy is one of many ways of healing. It's not the be all, end all of healing. Different things work for different people at different points of their life. For me a mix of things has been helpful and sometimes being in therapy has even made things worse!
This podcast is just so amazing.. I was going through anxiety dipression and anger issues and was very confused as to why this was happening but after listening to this podcast I understood a lot...
Been waiting for this podcast for so long! Finally it's here. ❤️
She is my wife...I am So proud of you dear neha ❤
2 hours podcast was like just 10 minutes. This is called as a perfect podcast when guest and host both are amazing humans, understanding each other while conversing and showing empathy to each other by body language and beautiful words.
Thank you Ranveer bro for such an amazing podcast and whenever I watch your videos, it always doubles your respect in mind. You’re doing a fantastic job. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
I’m sorry for all the people (women and men)who went through such kind of traumatic experience.
Informative, enlightening, triggering and something which made me sigh and cry.
Abuse starts from mother innocently thrusting food forcefully into the mouth of the baby who refuses to eat or not hungry. This looks so simple yet it leaves a scar in the child's psyche . And this is so normal so rampant it happens in almost every household. Wonderful conversation this is. Thank you
I feel that. Even if it's said that humans don't remember their babyhood, I have carried this feeling of helplessness and forced trauma on me since then. This has led to a lot of issues around my character, my sexuality, etc.
Quite true, parents are abusive in many ways
@@Shivani-kw9kx I feel this force feeding parents have no ill feeling. They just think babies will starve so do that. Here doctors advice comes in handy. They must instruct the parents about how to feed when to do so. How to encourage the baby to eat by itself.
@@UM8831-u8m true
Today's dirty time is making everything dirty and forcing people to look at things with victim mentality otherwise in the past people were not complaining about their parents feeding them food forcefully because overall that time was good and lust was not completely imposed on the mind of society through movies,drama or entertainment shows.
Amazing Ranveer, thanks for bringing her she is really great with engaging the audience . Lot of love Ranveer for being this in open
This is your best podcast till date. Mark my words.❤
This was genuinely the best podcast. Please bring more of her podcasts
This podcast was absolutely amazing, especially as a trauma informed therapist, I got to learn so much. We need Neha ma'am again on the show!!! And Ranveer, every man should be like you❤
Wow can't believe i just finished a 2 hr long podcast. It was so interesting, so insightful. ❤
Thank you Ranveer! It was absolutely needed for the world!
We would appreciate more of taboo toppics and also talking about how concretely processing these traumas and when do we know that it's done.
This nonsense of a rape case being closed after 10 years like it never happened and being unpresentable to justice, for example, is a clear sign that people think time erases these things.
Also talking more about hypersexuality as a contradictory response to fear of the partners.
Also I would appreciate explanation about total lack of understanding of the dept of the trauma inflicted by the doer him/herself and is it because of them never being experiencing these type of violence themselves.
Thank you so much! ❤
One of the most super super super super super super super super super super super super super super super amazing podcast I have seen and got the very of just being a mental health expert
Hi Ranveer. Please do an episode on Narcissism. A lot of them don’t know of they’re in a narcissistic relationship or parenting. Btw love this episode. Looking forward for more such psychology based. episodes
I’m afraid since his reach is so much, ppl will start labelling ppl left right and centre, which is already happening. it’s a complex topic and the content on this subject in India is not very nuanced and can be detrimental. Other than Dr.Ramani there’s only one guy in India on TH-cam whose doing an exemplary job but he’s not so popular so won’t be invited cause it’s a numbers game usually
@@mitesine Danish is the guy I think . In Kerala there are many. Like Dr Susan korath NPD and BPD specially
I needed this badly, I can't thank enough this platform 🙏
25:58 time heals wounds? NO, time only teaches you how to live with that pain
What you’re saying is a mere philosophy mate. What she’s talking about is about practicality.
Oh wow so Sigma 🐺👿🐺🐺so cool bro 👿🐺🐺👿👿ahh wuuu ALPHA MALE let's goo 👿🐺🐺👿
happy to hear u r from Karnataka ☺️☺️🎉. ಕನ್ನಡ ... ಕರ್ನಾಟಕ ..
Yeh
We need to have more podcasts like this. Kudos to both of you. This is like making people aware of the definition of abuse. Indian society needs to talk about subjects like these more often. Awesome conversation .
Just listening to your intro literally brought tears to my eyes, my respect for Ranveer has grown immensely. You are a true man, i hope there are more guys and public influencers like you out there who can give out public statements to actually create an impact.
We need more episodes with her. This was such an eye opener. Do bring her back for more. 🥳🥳
Solution according to me
1 Don't supress anything otherwise it will blast off
2 we need gender neutral laws because many loyal men get suffered and exploited because of it.
3 law should be made for letting sex hapens in a controlled way not to bully some one
4 taboo should be removed from sex
5 provisions should be made for couples legally and they should be given freedom
6 law should teach a lesson to people beyond gender
7 law should first understand that people have needs and look that how that needs could be met in an correct way instead of just making laws blindly or suppressing people
Fully agree
Another mysogynistic comment objectifying women. Sadly the commentor is also uneducated and uncultured.
Birth is an accident. Hold on to these feelings when you're born as a woman in your subsequent births, Mr. Patil.
Liked for only last point.
Well said 🙏🙏
It should still be considered taboo for teenagers
I wish we could had a place where we can share. What we are feeling, no one is there to judge us, no one is there to make fun of our emotions and understand what we are feeling.
Omg not touching your body parts is so real😢 and wow, just a single podcast has answered so many deep rooted questions. Its amazing when people actually know and understand your perspective
This is one of the best podcasts you could do, Ranveer. And Neha was so so brilliant. I am quite sure that many people who have been sitting on the fence about seeking help with feel confident and courage to go for it. Please have more of such content for everyone. Best
This is such a wholesome episode for all the aspects of mind. I do not think the thumbnail of the video does the content justice. The video has a lot more lovely topics, but we are prone to making snap judgements about it based only on its title and thumbnail.
Omg I love your approach to human psyche, depth psychology..wanting to enjoy the deep dives.
I am a psychologist and I am really thankful to this guy and the therapist to highlight very important topic in india infact I can say in the world people really don't know what to do with their problem which is deeply rooted but they often ignore
As a Psychologist i will say to people please don't hesitate going to therapist even a sex therapist or a psychologist
Podcast cannot heal you, but it can give you needful Knowledge like this podcast
Going to a therapeutic clinic doesn't make you poor or mental infact it teaches you how to live life to fullest and making you feel more confident and more known to yourself that you have never experienced yet
Very powerful podcast...very powerful intro... Well done Ranveer... We should be taking accountability as a society...
1:24:11 but I saw different scenario where North Indian girls are taking charge to initiate conversation but south indian girls are shy , or even not interested in taking charge . I felt north indian girls are more Masculine than south indian boys 😂
Well wish whole TRS tream"we love you guys "Try to bring madan guptha from Andhra Pradesh.He is extrem knowledged person we love he talks on Indian research on his way of view
Thank you Ranveer and Neha for this wonderful episode... I have got tremendous insights from this episode... I now, have got a much deeper knowledge of a major incident that happened in my life and it has already healed me somewhat... I really cannot thank you both enough!!!♥️
Really?
Right 😊
Thank you Ranveer for this episode
You're so smart that the timing of the video is much needed and more perfect ....became a big fan of you bro ..kudos to your work ❤
Amazing podcast , you are doing well ,keep doing this.
Thank you for bringing this topic its very important right now for our indians but also globally
This was a relatively difficult podcast to sit through. But it was very interesting and thought provocative. This episode increased the respect I had for Ranveer. He is more intellectual person than he looks. I always admired him for a good entrepreneur and a smart individual that he is but I realise how sensible and mature he could be at times while dealing with sensitive and complex topics like sexual and domestic abuse.
This episode was so helpful. Thanks 🙏🏻
in the very first minutes of the video , i learned i too have Binging issue . thanks to this lady
You both nailed it verry deep and difficult things you could manage to explain....with so maturity and responsibility.
as a psychology student it was very very wonderful please bring in more content like this love u ranveer
I agree 💯 with your words
Its an amazing podcast . Can you maybe do the similar podcast in Hindi so we can share with older generation who probably concieve media in HINDI . Nice work with this podcast !
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Would welcome more podcasts about processing human emotions... Fantastic episode!! Thank you
This was such a beautiful podcast ❤
Very captivating podcast. Thank you Ranveer.
much needed episode for this generation,and thankyou ranveer for not hesitating and asking basic questions which are generally not answered and which stay in people's mind.power to u my brother
There's no one thread that this episode follows. Too vague. You two are talking about a topic and not finishing it fulling. That feels very unsettling.
All he cares about is being relevant to the algorithm and current affairs. It's not about making people aware of topics, its about following trends and making business 🐒
@@avinash2150capitalism with utter unsastifaction
He touched on various broad topics and I think this episode is an introduction to what many people go through that are "hidden" in the society. It is a great way to start a conversation about sexual trauma and trauma in general through his channel. May encourage some people to accept their past and seek help, you never know. She also recommended some books, you can read them if you want to go deep
@@avinash2150 Why shouldn't he care about his business? The episode was great about making people aware of these vulnerable topics in a broad spectrum, some of which we might not be aware as a society. Go read the books she recommended if you care about going deep into them. I don't think these conversations happen often and bringing a sex trauma therapist is an awesome job
we want more of this sir great knowledgable pod. loved it
Neha! You're so amazing. Thank you for this podcast Ranveer!
Heavenly info. Excellent podcast bro 💛
Not mature enough to understand this kind of podcast!
I don't know if you're being sarcastic or not... If you have watched it and tried to understand then you are one step towards better at maturity level (don't think you aren't) it's not a switch it's a spectrum
Same but i'm trying to understand and i understood little bit in my own way
Thank you for this episode. This has been so validating for what i had felt over the years and what i sometimes feel still.... It has been difficult to process if i was overthinking things or if these issues are worth asking for help or if i have really moved on as much i have believed i had....how much of it was my fault and what i could have done to avoid those mishaps entirely. The self blame and guilt and the triggers that affect me still... It has been eye opening and extremely helpful.
I never get attracted to Ranveer's podcasts but today I just opened to see as what have mentioned on the thumbnail is it really relatable with video or not, but after watching for few minutes I got deep into the video and it was really amazing how you both are talking about real things in such a way that normally we people suffer but we don't find out like this is something on which we can talk or we can talk in a positive way like we always have doubts for these topics.
I feel the background music in the intro is overly dramatic and distracting. If the goal is to help the audience understand the topic or issue being discussed, it would be better to use simpler, more neutral music, rather than something that feels like breaking news on TV. A more subtle approach would improve the overall experience.
your observation 🫡
Yes Ranveer pls change the background score in the beginning... Your podcasts are calming so we come with that mindset but the fast hard music is like a oxymoron ... I have to fast forward every time
This is a great interview. Thanks for doing this!!!
😮❤❤❤Hardest podcast to watch and I got scared at parts in other dark topics, but these one was deeply touching and impressively structural.
You are the woman who explained this topic very well and you brought these type of things in front of us you are doing your duty but we can not refuse from it there are many people they can not understand these things and pain of victims😢
Thank you for speaking up for medical professionals 🙏🏻
Wow she's so engaging so beautifully explained really appreciate it 🙏👏
I LOVE THIS SO MUCH!
Thanks for putting out such in depth conversations and making it available for everyone
Every man should listen to this!
Thank you for this podcast. Very much needed in today’s time.
Thank you so much for bringing such amazing and eye opening conversations.
I got goosebumps after watching this podcast... You are dope ranveer....
Amazing work man... Waiting for this podcast for 3 years... And finally we are here
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Ranveer Allahabadia🎉🎉
One correction- it's subjective but please don't promote multiple partners
Thank you, both, for this MASSIVE healing prayers and information 🌹🙏🏽🪷 BLESSINGS to all🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍 from Belgium, Europe 🦋
Here for Neha Bhatt❤. Just love for ya❤
Although laws exist to prevent rape and sanction offenders, the mechanisms designed to apprehend these criminals, substantiate their crimes, and bring them to justice remain notably inadequate. Those in positions of power often craft these laws, only to subsequently ensure that they are seldom enforced.
bro looking more dashing particularly in this podcast !!!
What a brilliant conversation. One of the most sophisticated things Neha ji said that really stands with me was the humongous diversity within India and the need to understand this in the Indian context. There are so many cultures here and so much nuance even in the simplest aspects of people's lives that we can't have a blanket statement. What an insightful person and what an amazing episode!
Hey Ranveer you are grt
I being a female like to hit the gym/aerobics/yoga whenever I am in pain ,anger. I totally agree to neha on her concept of healing in india
I never went to gym😢