Ameen, thank you so much for this. I was so afraid that I couldn't go to the gym, it was the only place that granted me mental peace, because I work from home I'm always here and the gym was a place of peace and happiness for me, so many people were telling me I can't go. Thank you
Ya allah pls give my beloved husband highest place in jannathul firdhous. Pls forgive all of his sins. He passed away 10 days before.only 1 year nd 6 month we got married. But fortune of allah was another. I miss him terribly. I can't without him. Ya allah pls give me peace. now Iam going through iddah period.may Allah swt assemble or re united in jannah with oir beloved ones. Ameen
Assalamualaikum warhmatullah wabarakatuh...we need more teachings about iddah i hav experience in this...some people look widows like sinners...we need to get more education about this
Assalamu Alaikum... I need some clarification can you please clarify me. I lastly met my husband before 3 years.. now we got seperated through Fasah procedure. Now my doubt is what is the iktha period in this case. Please Clarify
I wish others could understand,I am too in period of iddat but very unfortunate due to lack of knowledge people disturb me alot,I don't understand what is the fun of male folk to visit and see female in iddat period ,may almighty fguide us all in such tough period of time and may almighty grant my beloved husband jannatul firdous ameen
If the husband gives divorce to wife then she has to wait for 3 months. But, during these 3 months if husband died then whether wife has to wait for only 3 months or four months 10 days ?
Im not Indian and living here in Hyderabad, Just 4 days back my husband died, i wanted to go back home immediately as I'm not comfortable living here without my husband and Im scared of my in laws as what they could possibly do to me basing on my past experience. I don't want to stay that long with them
Please help me out..... i am in this period...but our nikah waz secret.....he was in army he got shot while his duty nd got embarace shabdat....but nw its very difficult fr me to stay in...cz our marriage was a secret.....nd my czns mrg ceremony wil b nxt mnth....i dont knw how to avoid dat....if i did nt joined them they wil strt dirty talks about me wat to do plz helo me
This is not something to stress over. You are not a hindu, you can go out in your iddat for necessity, try not to over dress or to much makeup. This is not a necessity but in your case you could suffer from badnami, to avoid this badnami go to the function, and you can pretend you are unwell and come back home after two hours.
The marriage without the involvement of WALI is invalid. So, what's the need of drama about Iddah and Zawj? Your marriage is invalid so is your Iddah. Simple
@@razamughal4582 What on Earth is wrong with Hanafi Fiqh and you?? If Allah prohibited or allowed something and the prophet Muhammad SAW directed it so who is Imam Hanifa or You or anybody to state what's contrary to it?? Nikah is invalid without a Wali!! Prophet Muhammad SAW said: “There is no marriage without a guardian.” (Narrated by Abu Dawud (2085), classed as sahih by al-Albani) Is this Hadith not enough for the followers of Hanafi Fiqh and you or whomsoever??
Thats the problem with todays people. Thats why everyone is in a state of depression. You have three days, then you have to get on with you life for the greater good.
With due respect, sheikh misunderstood the reason for iddah. It is meant to make sure that there is no pregnancy. And thats why quran says if a widow or divorcee delivers a baby next day, her iddah is finished. That shows its not about grieving.
@@EscapesToEnjoy what rubbish, iddah is NOT connected with pregnancy. Thats why a ninety year old observes iddah. When a baby arrives, that joy is too great to be sad at the same time. The joy has to be given priority over being widowed or divorced. Otherwise, if a woman has to act sad and raise a baby at the same time, ignorant people would start viewing the baby as a bad omen. Not to mention, that a relationship with a husband is disposable, whereas being a mother is permanent. This proves just how much value islam gives to a child. So, even if a baby does not arrive but the pregnancy ends, the iddah is still over. That keeps the ruling and its consequences simple.
@@razamughal4582ok.. about pregnancy iddah is acceptable..but whats that? Dont go outside.. grievance for husband.. don't put make up . don't wear colour ful clothes..... husband isn't supposed to grieve for wife for more than 3 days..that is also acceptable..but he can marry after 3 days... wife is not important for a husband? Is it that easy for a husband to forget her over 3 days? And no rules for him ? Like don't wear good clothes, don't marry..why?
@@RaisaPlaban because he is a man born to work. Whether he feels sad or not, he will not be locked in a house for four months. He needs to go out of the house so he needs to look presentable. Men do not have a desire to look attractive, women DO. It is totally illogical for a woman who should be grieving to be wearing perfume and makeup. And she SHOULD be grieving for a dead husband. Women SHOULD be grateful to their husbands. They can only have one at one time. So by remaining in a state where a woman ACTUALLY looks like she is grieving, Allah is showing people that a husband was a blessing. Whereas a man who might be mourning for a wife WOULD and SHOULD have three other wives for comfort. If a woman had three other husbands she would be a prostitute, fact. The fact that todays man is not man enough to have four wives, has lead to womankind becoming worthless. Todays widow will NOT be able to find another husband, so she will be grieving for the rest of her life with perfume and makeup.
@@razamughal4582you are wrong. Talking about 4 wives. U have to treat them equally. And marry 4 wives is an option not a necessity. I agree it should be more easy but the harsh words u are using wont make female understand it rather they will go far away. As a woman this is a very sensitive topic for us. So consider it.
@@AmatullahFatema-ui8yi no. You are wrong. Surah Nisah STARTS with TWO. Allahs COMMAND is to marry a MINIMUM of two. It is FARZ to marry a minimum of TWO for men who are able to marry one.
Husband doesn't need to mourn for 4 months ..only wife needs.. and about grieving? It's only for the women? Men doesn't need to grieve for their wife? Or men is not supposed to love their wife as much as a wife does?
@@farhanarahaman5588 of course he does not need to mourn. He will end up like the white man who doesnt marry for years. Women NEED men to marry four women so that every woman gets a husband. A woman has to observe her iddah whether she loved her husband or NOT.
A always islam creates CONFUSION Here proohet says that its nit recommended to mourn for more than 3 days. So 3 days is iddah. On the other hand you have changed rhe definition of iddat to 3 months 10 days and added the emotional factor in it.. So dear islamic scholor what is it: Iddah is 3 days OR IddaH is 4 months 10 days
Hun it’s for a wife to mourns for 3 months after her husband died but not for anyone else if you lose your brother or sister may god forbid you are only allowed to mourn for 3 days after that no
How can a women continue iddah when she experiences 1 or 2 mensturations after her husband death? Why 4 months wait if its clear ahe is not pregnent. Plus we have tests these days.. What logic would prove this "wrong calculation" by god right.. Comeon man..have some senses
I understand your point. Maybe a waiting period is needed before she moves on with her life. I am in Iddah, breadwinner like my husband, home worker like him, dealing with all problems and finances ( more than him), but his waiting period would have been 3 days, and mine is longer. My husband was the best person, but Allah's has taken him, and I am finding it hard to be without him.
@@AK-eu8lj you people really need to learn. Iddah is not about pregnancy alone. That element only covers the rights of the unborn baby. Whilst a woman is in iddah she is still within a nikah in the sense that she is not free to marry another man. If a man gave her three talaqs in one go that will be three talaqs, despite the fact that she is forbidden from reconciling with him she STILL is not free to marry another man. Why? Because she is required to avail the benefits that iddah gives to HER. Namely, she is not made homeless on the spot. Iddah has to be observed in her ex husband’s home even after the third talaq. And she has no financial burden upon her during her iddah. If women had not made womankind worthless by preventing four marriages, then as soon as her iddah was over there would be a queue of married men waiting to marry her and relieve her of financial worries. Since iddah means she still in a nikah then the baby will always be born within a nikah. Thats because the iddah is extended until the pregnancy is over, whether that is the next day or nine months later. The talaq during pregnancy IS valid. So this way the baby will not be called illegitimate and will be given his identity. Finally the benefit of iddah to the man is that it is a reconciliation period. He was supposed to break the nikah with ONE talaq. In islam the loss in a divorce is TO THE MAN. so to save himself from a loss, the reconciliation period is three menstrual cycles and he has the right to reconcile, provided he did not issue three talaq. For women who do not menstruate, its three calender months plus ten days on top. The talaq system is FLAWLESS. Men do NOT have a waiting period. End of. Talaq is never a loss to the children because their independent relationship with each and every relative in their life is NOT dependent upon their parents staying married.
@@AmatullahFatema-ui8yiok women are more emotional that's why we have iddah ok thanks for it but why she can't bride herself or if she want to find some happiness with bride herself or if she want to wear colourful dress, then what's the problem? Why shecan't all this things in even a locked up situation🤔❓
Ya Allah! Grant my lovely husband's soul Jannatul Firdous! Ameen Ya Rabb! He passed away 1 month and 5 days ago.
Ameen, thank you so much for this. I was so afraid that I couldn't go to the gym, it was the only place that granted me mental peace, because I work from home I'm always here and the gym was a place of peace and happiness for me, so many people were telling me I can't go. Thank you
Ya allah pls give my beloved husband highest place in jannathul firdhous. Pls forgive all of his sins. He passed away 10 days before.only 1 year nd 6 month we got married. But fortune of allah was another. I miss him terribly. I can't without him. Ya allah pls give me peace. now Iam going through iddah period.may Allah swt assemble or re united in jannah with oir beloved ones. Ameen
Me too! Married only 3 years with a 1 year old baby.
Allah knows when it's best ❤
We will find strength to stay strong ❤❤❤
May Allah give us Sabar Jameel and grant us with our loved ones and husband's Jannah tul Firdaus. Amen
Thank you for the clear message in this crazy society and this crazy people
Zajakallah khairan
Because i am going through the iddah period most painful days without my husband😭
I am sorry to hear that. My husband died late September 2023, and I know how difficult it is. It's tough.
@@AK-eu8lj Stay strong and face this society Allah is with us don't trust anyone Be strong May Allah reunite with our husband in Jannah 😢😢😢
May Allah bless him Jannah. Stay strong sister, Allah is with you❤
I pray that Christ will help you through this . He will get you through it❤🥹❤️
Thank you for this information. I have learned something from the muslim culture
MashaAllah very nicely covert information 👌
Zajakallah khairan
Assalamualaikum warhmatullah wabarakatuh...we need more teachings about iddah i hav experience in this...some people look widows like sinners...we need to get more education about this
Nothing like losing parents
No comparison at all
Souses can be replaced but not parents!
Ya allah grant my husband jantaul firdous ameen
Thank you for this clear specific message…my husband passed Oct 8, 2022
May Almighty ease your feelings and bless you with joy
😢💔 i don't want to lose my husband
Can someone advise me that during Al iddah accidently face to face happened with delivery man while deliver.
I m in this period.....Allah rehem...
Sorry for your lose ❤
May Allah make it easy for you 🫶🏾
Me to my husband passed away my Allah make us easy for us we will get through this difficult time inshallah.
Assalamu Alaikum... I need some clarification can you please clarify me. I lastly met my husband before 3 years.. now we got seperated through Fasah procedure. Now my doubt is what is the iktha period in this case. Please Clarify
I wish others could understand,I am too in period of iddat but very unfortunate due to lack of knowledge people disturb me alot,I don't understand what is the fun of male folk to visit and see female in iddat period ,may almighty fguide us all in such tough period of time and may almighty grant my beloved husband jannatul firdous ameen
I want to know exactly how many days I always thot it is 130 days
If the husband gives divorce to wife then she has to wait for 3 months. But, during these 3 months if husband died then whether wife has to wait for only 3 months or four months 10 days ?
Im not Indian and living here in Hyderabad, Just 4 days back my husband died, i wanted to go back home immediately as I'm not comfortable living here without my husband and Im scared of my in laws as what they could possibly do to me basing on my past experience. I don't want to stay that long with them
Husbands don't need mourning and any waiting period?? Why not for males??
Because men are the providers and breadwinners so if they have multiple wives and they cant go out all of them will suffer
Where is all that written in Quran Hadid?
Please help me out..... i am in this period...but our nikah waz secret.....he was in army he got shot while his duty nd got embarace shabdat....but nw its very difficult fr me to stay in...cz our marriage was a secret.....nd my czns mrg ceremony wil b nxt mnth....i dont knw how to avoid dat....if i did nt joined them they wil strt dirty talks about me wat to do plz helo me
This is not something to stress over. You are not a hindu, you can go out in your iddat for necessity, try not to over dress or to much makeup. This is not a necessity but in your case you could suffer from badnami, to avoid this badnami go to the function, and you can pretend you are unwell and come back home after two hours.
I think u shd tell ur parents u shdnt b going they this alone. May ALLAHG ease ur pain and may ur heavy burden be lifted.🥺🤲🏽🤲🏽
The marriage without the involvement of WALI is invalid.
So, what's the need of drama about Iddah and Zawj?
Your marriage is invalid so is your Iddah.
Simple
@@k54rabie3 no its NOT, in the hanafi fiqh a nikah is valid without a wali
@@razamughal4582 What on Earth is wrong with Hanafi Fiqh and you??
If Allah prohibited or allowed something and the prophet Muhammad SAW directed it so who is Imam Hanifa or You or anybody to state what's contrary to it??
Nikah is invalid without a Wali!!
Prophet Muhammad SAW said: “There is no marriage without a guardian.” (Narrated by Abu Dawud (2085), classed as sahih by al-Albani)
Is this Hadith not enough for the followers of Hanafi Fiqh and you or whomsoever??
What about losing a mother a father a sister a brother are they not important? I’d never get over that!
Thats the problem with todays people. Thats why everyone is in a state of depression. You have three days, then you have to get on with you life for the greater good.
With due respect, sheikh misunderstood the reason for iddah. It is meant to make sure that there is no pregnancy. And thats why quran says if a widow or divorcee delivers a baby next day, her iddah is finished. That shows its not about grieving.
(And for those who are pregnant, their `Iddah is until they lay down their burden.) (65:4)
@@EscapesToEnjoy what rubbish, iddah is NOT connected with pregnancy. Thats why a ninety year old observes iddah. When a baby arrives, that joy is too great to be sad at the same time. The joy has to be given priority over being widowed or divorced. Otherwise, if a woman has to act sad and raise a baby at the same time, ignorant people would start viewing the baby as a bad omen. Not to mention, that a relationship with a husband is disposable, whereas being a mother is permanent. This proves just how much value islam gives to a child. So, even if a baby does not arrive but the pregnancy ends, the iddah is still over. That keeps the ruling and its consequences simple.
How many days we sit iddah ( fasakh)?!?
Assalamu alaikum hujur husband can take back his wife if wife get pragnat during iddah.
Why doesn’t the husband heal and mourn have iddah?
Because iddah is also about discovering pregnancy, use common sense
@@razamughal4582ok.. about pregnancy iddah is acceptable..but whats that? Dont go outside.. grievance for husband.. don't put make up . don't wear colour ful clothes..... husband isn't supposed to grieve for wife for more than 3 days..that is also acceptable..but he can marry after 3 days... wife is not important for a husband? Is it that easy for a husband to forget her over 3 days? And no rules for him ? Like don't wear good clothes, don't marry..why?
@@RaisaPlaban because he is a man born to work. Whether he feels sad or not, he will not be locked in a house for four months. He needs to go out of the house so he needs to look presentable. Men do not have a desire to look attractive, women DO. It is totally illogical for a woman who should be grieving to be wearing perfume and makeup. And she SHOULD be grieving for a dead husband. Women SHOULD be grateful to their husbands. They can only have one at one time. So by remaining in a state where a woman ACTUALLY looks like she is grieving, Allah is showing people that a husband was a blessing. Whereas a man who might be mourning for a wife WOULD and SHOULD have three other wives for comfort. If a woman had three other husbands she would be a prostitute, fact. The fact that todays man is not man enough to have four wives, has lead to womankind becoming worthless. Todays widow will NOT be able to find another husband, so she will be grieving for the rest of her life with perfume and makeup.
@@razamughal4582you are wrong. Talking about 4 wives. U have to treat them equally. And marry 4 wives is an option not a necessity. I agree it should be more easy but the harsh words u are using wont make female understand it rather they will go far away.
As a woman this is a very sensitive topic for us. So consider it.
@@AmatullahFatema-ui8yi no. You are wrong. Surah Nisah STARTS with TWO. Allahs COMMAND is to marry a MINIMUM of two. It is FARZ to marry a minimum of TWO for men who are able to marry one.
Where should women spend her iddat for widows?
In her husbands home
Husband doesn't need to mourn for 4 months ..only wife needs.. and about grieving? It's only for the women? Men doesn't need to grieve for their wife? Or men is not supposed to love their wife as much as a wife does?
Same same question
@@farhanarahaman5588 of course he does not need to mourn. He will end up like the white man who doesnt marry for years. Women NEED men to marry four women so that every woman gets a husband. A woman has to observe her iddah whether she loved her husband or NOT.
Can a wife put her husband in idda
Of course not. What a stupid question
Allah say women menstruate because of Eve. Why he not know other female mammals like menstruate too. 😕
that's not Islam's teaching, perhaps you might find that theory in Christianity
@@amiratazkia I read female monkeys and apes menstruate too. They also go through the menopause like female humans.
@@lahleholivia7398 and there's still no relation to Eve, we don't have original sin concept here
@@amiratazkia ok, do you know why female Apes and monkeys menstruate like us?
@@lahleholivia7398 so?whats ur point?
A always islam creates CONFUSION
Here proohet says that its nit recommended to mourn for more than 3 days. So 3 days is iddah.
On the other hand you have changed rhe definition of iddat to 3 months 10 days and added the emotional factor in it..
So dear islamic scholor what is it:
Iddah is 3 days
OR
IddaH is 4 months 10 days
Hun it’s for a wife to mourns for 3 months after her husband died but not for anyone else if you lose your brother or sister may god forbid you are only allowed to mourn for 3 days after that no
How can a women continue iddah when she experiences 1 or 2 mensturations after her husband death?
Why 4 months wait if its clear ahe is not pregnent.
Plus we have tests these days..
What logic would prove this "wrong calculation" by god right..
Comeon man..have some senses
You are really thick.
I understand your point. Maybe a waiting period is needed before she moves on with her life. I am in Iddah, breadwinner like my husband, home worker like him, dealing with all problems and finances ( more than him), but his waiting period would have been 3 days, and mine is longer. My husband was the best person, but Allah's has taken him, and I am finding it hard to be without him.
@@AK-eu8lj you people really need to learn. Iddah is not about pregnancy alone. That element only covers the rights of the unborn baby. Whilst a woman is in iddah she is still within a nikah in the sense that she is not free to marry another man. If a man gave her three talaqs in one go that will be three talaqs, despite the fact that she is forbidden from reconciling with him she STILL is not free to marry another man. Why? Because she is required to avail the benefits that iddah gives to HER. Namely, she is not made homeless on the spot. Iddah has to be observed in her ex husband’s home even after the third talaq. And she has no financial burden upon her during her iddah. If women had not made womankind worthless by preventing four marriages, then as soon as her iddah was over there would be a queue of married men waiting to marry her and relieve her of financial worries. Since iddah means she still in a nikah then the baby will always be born within a nikah. Thats because the iddah is extended until the pregnancy is over, whether that is the next day or nine months later. The talaq during pregnancy IS valid. So this way the baby will not be called illegitimate and will be given his identity. Finally the benefit of iddah to the man is that it is a reconciliation period. He was supposed to break the nikah with ONE talaq. In islam the loss in a divorce is TO THE MAN. so to save himself from a loss, the reconciliation period is three menstrual cycles and he has the right to reconcile, provided he did not issue three talaq. For women who do not menstruate, its three calender months plus ten days on top. The talaq system is FLAWLESS. Men do NOT have a waiting period. End of. Talaq is never a loss to the children because their independent relationship with each and every relative in their life is NOT dependent upon their parents staying married.
He said that already. Women are naturally more emotional. So it helps her to gain her composure back.
And the most imp logic is Allah has said so.
@@AmatullahFatema-ui8yiok women are more emotional that's why we have iddah ok thanks for it but why she can't bride herself or if she want to find some happiness with bride herself or if she want to wear colourful dress, then what's the problem? Why shecan't all this things in even a locked up situation🤔❓