A Message to Single Christians
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- In this video, Sadie and I give you a message that has been on our hearts about single Christians and Christian dating and relationships!
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Hi there! The message of this video is not at all to say that if you follow God better, you’ll find a spouse! We’re trying to encourage Christians to focus on seeking God and not just a relationship. There’s nothing wrong with desiring one obviously, but we’re encouraging those that maybe aren’t prioritizing their walks with The Lord that God won’t bless idolizing everything other than Him. This is not a call to, “seek God and then maybe He will give you a spouse” but instead, “ seek God because you love Him and so that you will be ready for Him to bless you!” We tried to make it clear that just because you’re pursuing Him that God won’t drop someone in your lap, but if we failed to convey that, we apologize! There are many lovely men and women of God that are single for no reason other than that it is not God’s timing! God bless you! 🙏🏻
That's not biblical.
So you’re saying single Christian’s don’t follow god enough, got it
@@lovehandles2464 Like most people but especially internet people they are more interested in showing off their own life and condescending to people than offering actual biblical advice. They have absolutely no discernment. Blind leading the blind lol Channels like this should be deleted
Then you need to improve your communication skills and your theology.
Do appreciate your transparency and your honesty. May want to add there may be some watching this who are currently single a lot longer then we had ever been and we not saying we know what it's like but this has been our experience. With all that said married or single anyone can be mad at God for life not turning out the way they hoped it was. we all have trials, roads that no one else will go through or at least we will come across in this life at the end of the day every believes Faith will be tried if not by being single for a long time it will come in the form of something else I have known just as many singles Christians who got God mad at God cause they were still single as Christians who were married and got mad at God cause child died or spouse died or got divorced when they were convinced they married the right one. As a former pastor never married I can not tell the percentage of my congregation that were not happy and how many women would have left the marriage if they felt they could keep the same quality of life but on Sunday looking at them you would be able to tell. Sometimes I do get mad at God cause I'm still single but we are all saved by grace and we all deserve hell. God owes nobody nothing. I have to remind myself of that regularly
God's timing is perfect.
You’re exactly right!! Amen! 🙏🏻🙏🏻
But how do we know God's timing without actually trying out?
@@fnny47 You will see signs.
@Nicholas TV hey 😊
I personally think it sucks
It's hard after you get older than 30 and you see all the young people getting married with kids and you don't belong to any group anymore
I can relate to this. I didn't mind before but now I can feel it.😢
@@christianriddler5063 You are still young, you will find someone, what really helped me a lot was to do a lot of volunteer work, look for something in your local church, help other people and you will feel better, God bless you
@@paulcastro7507 There are no local churches, this is a pagan land. Adultery, fornication and other such evils are the norm here.
@@christianriddler5063 Where do you live my friend?
@Twilight Coda I am pretty sure there are many churches there
It's always the married people who give relationship advice like "be patient in the Lord"
Right, like the have reached this enlightened phase
Its almost like theyve walked the path and are turning around to tell the people behind them not to stumble on the same trips they did
@@notrelatedtobacon1282 Like the made it to the finish line and won favour from God?
@@Shekupe_k you dont "win" anything, you either follow and trust God (which is the sum and total of our capacity as humans) or you doubt him and do things your own way
Trying to oversimplify their points just shows that you hold bitterness and resentment
Well of of course, it’s because they have gone through following the lord alone and then finally getting married, they have learned much more than any of us single people and have experienced what god did.
I’m 31 and still single. It’s so frustrating because I want to be a husband and dad. I still believe that God is still good.
@@LearningJesus Thank you for this!
Get rich and get ripped bro , your situation will change quickly. Don’t listen to any other advice
@@lovehandles2464 That's not love then buddy. You need to develop good social skills.
Love you bro. You got this I know u do
@@BesserGlaubenSocial skills are important, but your looks (height, figure and face) your social status and your money are what gets your foot in the door when it comes to success with women.
You can have the best personality, be the best Christian before god, but you’ll have near zero success if you’re very short, fat, ugly, and poor. I’m just being brutally realistic.
It's discouraging to hear fellow Christians---especially married ones---suggest that unwanted singleness is due to not focusing enough on God or because God knows that I'll stop following Him if I enter into a relationship with a Godly woman. I'm sure that's not what you were trying to suggest though, as you obviously did not stop looking for a godly partner while single. Thanks for the video.
Hi there, that’s definitely not what we were trying to suggest at all! We’re trying to encourage Christians to focus on seeking God and not just a relationship. There’s nothing wrong with desiring one obviously, but we’re encouraging those that maybe aren’t prioritizing their walks with The Lord that God won’t bless idolizing everything other than Him. This is not a call to, “seek God and then maybe He will give you a spouse” but instead, “ seek God because you love Him and so that you will be ready for Him to bless you! We tried to make it clear that just because you’re pursuing Him that God won’t drop someone in your lap, but if we failed to convey that, we apologize! God bless you! 🙏🏻
Thanks for leaving this comment, it's helpful to point that out.
I just wrote a similar comment. it is discouraging and it simply is just not true. There is nothing wrong with looking for a spouse, in any season of life that you are in. You don't need to wait to look for marriage. Marriage is also not a mercy that God gives you, as they mentioned in another comment. Marriage is a GIFT and gifts aren't given because they are "deserved" or "earned". It is important to let singles know that, So they don't believe the lie, that maybe they don't "deserve" marriage.
Someone finally said it.
Yeah exactly. Especially when I’ve seen people all around me -Christian or not- find their spouses. It’s like geez what’s wrong with me? 😮
It’s hard being a 38 year old single Christian. People at my church look at me weird and it puts pressure on me to do something about it when I have never been in a rush to get married. I don’t have to explain myself to anyone. Regardless, I trust in the Lord’s timing for the right spouse and still praying for my spouse. I’m not praying for perfection, I’m praying for compatibility.
God does not guarantee that anyone will find a spouse. Telling people that God won't send them a spouse if they're not ready for it just leaves them feeling like they're doing something wrong, *even if they're not*.
This is the type of typical garbage that keeps the church full of unhappy unfulfilled people rather than the real people that it needs. Especially if your a man don't be sitting around waiting for "God's timing" .... Work hard, work out be strong be a leader! God's timing is when you as a man get off your backside and start being a man that a beautiful female is gonna want to be with. Women stop sleeping around. Learn to be feminine learn to clean and cook and take care of a house and not be controlling. It's simple stuff kids. We were designed by the creator to be able to work together. All you have to do is start the work.
What if i'm born to be a biological failure?
@@xsanguine5085 What the hell do you mean?
@@e.p3509 Low IQ, poor self esteem because of ugly looks, poor social skills, low socio economic status.
Look at these two self righteous married people mocking and lying to single people. Other married people telling single people that they don't matter.
Some good points, thanks. It is important to note that married Christians also need to seek God - not just those of us still single... but where I disagree, is the notion that when you seek the Lord actively, you'll automatically meet your spouse. In this fallen world, with warped values it is a struggle - and I know many devoted godly people, who are rejected and overlooked, while people not so serious with their faith get several partners and spouses... I believe the Body of Christ really needs to pray for singles to find each other, instead of giving platitudes like 'just be content' etc..
Completely agree! If we don’t seek God through every season (singleness, marriage, etc.) we will find ourselves with an emptiness that only God can fill. We don’t believe that if you seek God then you will automatically find your spouse. That’s a prosperity gospel type of teaching that we don’t believe in at all. What we’re trying to communicate, is to pursue God out of humble obedience throughout every season of life. It is a mercy that any of us receive the gift of marriage- no Christian deserves it more than another! God bless you!
@@samandsadie I know you don't mean it that way, but that is what we singles often hear. Married folks need to be careful with their just be content - comments.. after all, they got married themselves .. ;)
If anything, a close walk w God fuels the dreams He has given is, not takes them away.
Love this! Thank you for the comment! We will be sure to implement this in our future videos regarding singleness :) I remember having those same thoughts about married people making these types of videos when I was single, so we will be sure to communicate these topics sensitively! We appreciate your kindness and comment ♥️
I literally just left a similar comment. I appreciate yours!
My parents told me the exact same thing a few days ago. Tbh, I was kinda annoyed with them, but I agreed that I have not been content being single, as I’m a 25 yr old woman and want to be a wife and mom so desperately. I’ve wanted to be a mom since I was 4 years old! But seeing this video pop up is confirmation for me. 1 Timothy 6:6: “for godliness with contentment is great gain”. If you feel that you are content and are still single, then 1) maybe your person is on their way soon 2) God is trying to teach you something else in this season or 3) God is wanting you to be focused on some other part of the plan. Sometimes I think I will never find a godly husband, but it’s also hard to believe that God would put this burning desire in me to be married and have kids (which is biblical) if He didn’t want me to do that!
We agree with everything you wrote in this comment! God has a purpose for it all!! We really respect your patience and trust in The Lord! 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I really relate with that. 24 year old guy, I struggle with the same thing.
@@TechCody113 yep I think that everyday and cry about it all the time. but we just gotta believe that we still have time and God will give us SOs!
@@c.m.8776 well where both seeking same thing and both have waited over 20 years, might as well meet in the middle🤣🤣🤷🏼♂️ you have instagram or something I could add you on?
Same 24, but that verse stuck out to me too. And enjoying God and being content with His plan even when we feel like it’s not ideal is the goal.
Sow Good seed and in due time you will reap
I have never been in a relationship and I struggle with this off and on quite a bit. Thank you for the reminder and I will pray for everyone he watches this too.
Pursuing God in your singleness and reaching the contentment". Thank you for this message 😊🤍
Exactly!! God bless you and you’re very welcome! 🙏🏻🙏🏻
if we must not want that thing to get it, then what kind of twisted plan is that ?
@@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier It doesn't mean you don't want it. It means you won't feel hopeless or become depressed just because you don't have it.
@laolualuko9417 exactly. Lots of people give the advice of “stop looking and you’ll find love” but that’s the exact opposite of what God tells us to do. “Seek and ye shall find”. You should want a romantic relationship, and you should pursue one. But in the meantime trust in God that He will put the right person in your life, and stay focused in faith to ease the loneliness.
Gods timing is perfect and everything they’re saying is spot on- BUT ALSO people in marriage cannot really feel how hard it is for some of these singles. Have compassion for yourself ! 💯❗️
Sending Love ❤️...Kimberly...Are you single? ❤️😊
thank you. this is such an encouragement for me. Ive been feeling lonely recently I just know I needed to hear this.
How powerfull message, i releaze now why God let me single because I believe He prepare me for everlasting relationship , i really believe its not only about love but there are so many blessing on the relationship then so i just waiting God time for me . I also believe God will give best partner . Just believe God for your right partner ❤️
ABSOLUTELY AGREE 💖💙💝💕
WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT
I THE LORD. WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN.
ISAIAH 60 : 22
Thanks so much for this video I really needed to hear all of this! This is all so wonderful, I’m currently single again and it’s been hard. Rejection is rough even though it’s God protection since he can see what I can’t see.
Thanks Sam and Sadie for this. This was so poignant and timely and also pretty much what God has been teaching me too about waiting on him, searching after him and HE will take care of the rest. He is our father and he knows best and will do it all in his timing. As long as we keep our eyes on him. Bless you two...
thank you for sharing your story and thoughts, I am a 67 yr old widower since Sept of 2019 when the Lord brought my dear sweet wife of almost 25 years home after a 34 month ordeal w lung cancer, and a devastating spinal cord injury. I know that whatever is before me single or otherwise, I will be fine as long as I trust, and rely on the Lord.
My condolences.
Thank you for the words of wisdom. Your right, all things are possible in Gods Plan for us. You guys give lots of hope for Christians. Thank you and Keep up the good work. 😀
This is so encouraging! Needed this today. ❤️
I'm so sad that the theological idea of "When you do X God will bless you with the guy or girl He has for you" Is still prevalent. It has ZERO scriptural basis and fuels a lot of false ideas about God as a cosmic matchmaker. There's a lot of people who follow the Lord as closely as they can and delight in Him all their lives and they desire to be married but God never sends them "The one He has for them."
It's time this unscriptural teaching gets retired permanently.
Hi there! That’s not at all what we were saying in this video. Please refer to the comment that we wrote and pinned and hopefully it will clear up any misunderstanding! We do not believe that God is a cosmic matchmaker at all. Rather, our message to everyone in every stage of life is to be content because of the character of Jesus Christ and who He is- not what our circumstances look like.
Wow, thank you thank you so much for sharing with us singles. I’ve been needing encouragement in this area and had been watching videos and this one has brought me the most peace 🦋💜 thank you for your obedience to the Lord & may he continue to bless y’all in your endeavors & marriage!
We’re so happy to hear that The Lord used this video to give you peace! God bless you and thank you so much for commenting Patricia! 😊
Sending Love ❤️...Patricia...Are you single? ❤️😊
Thank you for this! I’m single right now and have been trying to force my way into a marriage and prayed more and etc lol. But yes I believe you’re right Gods will be done, and to be content.
Godliness with contentment is great gain, in this season of my life I’ve noticed God has helped me seek him more and enjoy Him.
Even though I've been married a long time, I needed the reminder about God's desire for alone time with us. Thank you for the great content.
this was a great video and Praise God he blessed me to see it and That blessed you guys' hearts to make this , considering that there wasn't that many views on this vid at the time of this comment i feel God was intentional with putting this video on my feed Bless you guys and your relationship together and with God as well
I really needed this, perfect timing, was just feeling sad about being single. really gonna assure myself that God has a plan for me. It’s not because i have some fatal flaw, not necessarily because im not good enough.Single for 22 years but still keeping my faith🙏🏻
being sad about being single 🤔. ingesting thought to think about. I’m 25 and single and I never really thought about it until recently. I’ve been single since 2019 and found Jesus after a break up and never looked back and just perused Jesus after I found him. I honestly forgot women existed mentally until the past few weeks (ik sounds weird and idk how to explain it) I was just invested in Jesus, he literally saved my life.
@@lorraine5800 Sending Love ❤️...Are you single? ❤️😊
Thank you for bringing up this topic, It’s on point, i can’t find contentment even on stupid shopping… Often creeps in this deceitful thinking, if i only buy this i’ll be happy, but i’m not and same thing applies to everything- the neverending pursuit of sth unattainable and finally when i get it it looses its magic….
You’re very lovely and uplifting many blessings to you❤
Thank you both so much for this message. God bless you both
Thank you for sharing this message. May this content bless everyone who watches and listens. God bless you guys!
God bless you too Elle! Thank you so much for your encouragement! ♥️♥️
You both are a blessing sharing your videos! Thank you!
Thank you❤ So encouraging. He is our first love!
This is a lovely video. Keep moving and i hope you have a fruitful and God driven marriage.🙏❤️
Thank-you folks for your video .Praise God very encouraging in the Lord Amen.
This is insightful, yes. Very well stated. I am a single man, struggled through pain & tears. However, it pisses me off that you don't offer comfort to Gods broken-hearted warriors in faith.
I’m well past the age of having any expectations of marriage and family but I can say that if God really wanted me single a lifetime he hid the good it was supposed to be from me. It isn’t always true that singleness will free you to seek God more than if you’re married.
Me too - my entire adult lifetime lived alone - for what? This video's a bit too smug. They found marriage, well bully for them!
@@bilonggrisimmeri I just watched this video again to make sure smug is the right word to use and it is but it’s the same smugness I hear from most ministries on this topic. You can be sure when you’re old ,single and childless these kind of people will not be around to help you when you’re alone.
@@johnz4328 Absolutely. Actually, I'm already old and OK with dieing entirely alone.
@@bilonggrisimmeri At a certain age there’s not much of a choice.
Thanks for talking about these things. I agree 100% about the first bit on contentment. But as an older single woman, I disagree always when someone says, "Once you do this or that, then the Lord will bring your spouse". That is just not true. I am saying this more for the folks in the comments. Every story is unique and God is faithful and true. He is trustworthy and you can trust him. I have seen God bring spouses to folks who were not content or the person they needed to be. So to say that's why your single is just not true. Don't stress about your singleness. Be opened minded and prayerful. And please know that there is no magic bullet. And God is not punishing you in your singleness or in marriage. He wants what is best for us. God is not waiting to bless you. He is always seeking to bless you.
We love this comment! That is not what we were trying to communicate so we apologize that it has come across that way. We are making another video clarifying what we meant because we believe our message might not have come across in the way we intended. We know that singleness is not a punishment just like marriage is not a reward. No one deserves anything over another person based on their level of contentment. You are 100% correct! God bless you!
@@samandsadie Thank you I appreciate that. I just feel strongly that each person's life is unique . Marriage is a good thing and a great thing to pursue., and singleness (is better if you can accept that) paraphrasing Paul. I think it's great to share your experience and your story, but be careful as presenting it as a blueprint.
@@pparks8776 Thank you, sister, I totally relate - many 'not so content' people found their happiness, while many of us have tried to 'be content', and know it is not the magic bullet, as you put it...
In the Scriptures, people were encouraged to cry out to God and ask Him for good things. Hannah, Elizabeth, the blind Bartimeus etc... were all rewarded. God did not tell them 'just be content being barren / blind' ...
Sometimes I think the message of being content has discouraged Christians from following their God-given dreams, especially men - they have embraced that 'contentment' and have given up their healthy sexuality.. feeling guilty for desiring marriage. No wonder it is so hard to find a godly man..
@@NarnianLady
I think contentment, the same way as having peace, is more in the assurance that one day all things will be made right again. Or for the fiets time, rather. All tears gone 🙂.
This is so beautiful!!!! Thank you for sharing this!!! 💛💛💛
You’re so kind! Thank you so much! God bless you! 🙏🏻♥️
Thank you for sharing, wonderful and very timely message, may God bless your marriage❤
35 and still single… Would love to get married and start a family. Still, gotta trust God and wait for the right woman at His timing 😊
God's timing is always the best .
Thanks guys for this video. I hope your marriage prospers greatly. I pray for the both of you. I struggle with singleness and having mental issues because of it. You feel like giving up all the time. Your video is a gem to me though.
We’re so sorry to hear that you’re struggling Erick! God bless you and we pray that The Lord would give you peace and joy in this season ♥️
Wow just wow this video and message was so helpful and good for me to hear and I’m so glad and happy that I watched this.
32 years never been with a woman im trusting in god its hard and i feel lonely but that will make it all the sweeter when he sends me my one. I must care for my family and build me im not ready yet. He will let me know stay strong hes there and in his time he will add things to you.
I agree and when you learn to let go and stop trying to have things under control and let god have control of your life then he will bless you as long as you learn to trust him, find peace in him and be patient as you wait on him.
Thank you so much for this I'm divorced with one child an it's really hard sometimes being a single parent I was really encouraged by this ❤
Hi Sam and Sadie, I enjoyed your video so much! Wonderful advise to single Christians and I really think this video you made will make people stop and think about what is really importian in life. God bless you guys ❤
That’s certainly the goal! Thank you for commenting and for always encouraging us! 🙏🏻♥️♥️
Praise the Lord
Perfect timing! Thanks! 🙏✝️❤️
We’re so glad to hear that! God bless you! ♥️🙏🏻
Love this thank you!!
Thank you for this message,it is timely, thank you. Looking forward to more content like this
It’s our pleasure!! We can’t wait for you to see all the stuff we have planned! 😁
Thank you for your message/advice! I definitely need more growing up to do and having a stronger relationship with the LORD. I never had a girlfriend in my life, the desire is growing and catching up to me a bit as I just turned 24 but I’ll be patient and let GOD have his will. He has let me know that singleness and being lonely is for a season to get to know myself better and be content with my own company. GOD BLESS you two!
Same I’m 24 but I’ve learned to enjoy myself more in the last few weeks than ever before.
God showed me a verse in church about how young men should pursue disciplined lives. And it’s made living with myself much more enjoyable after implementing improvements that God suggests through basic wisdom. And eventually I believe God will be comfortable giving me someone I can lead down this disciplined life with me
that last genuine 11:24 :), anyways thank you guys! I was talking to God about my singleness and this helped a lot.
Pursing God in my singleness and I have grown closer to God and I'm truly happy and I have never been so much at peace! Praise the Lord for I am healed through Him alone! Your will be done in my life and I am excited to walk my calling and purpose God has prepared in my life 🙏🏽❤️🩹🥹
Great message - thank you both!
I dont know how yall popped up on my feed but i am single and feel like its a bit hopeless. But appreciate sharing and the encouragement to us single folk
Same here. Single and appreciate this.
You are both awesome! Thanks for the message
Thanks Mason!! You’re awesome too! God bless you! 🙏🏻
such a lovely video. i love the sharing. its truth. will be following for more
Welcome to the channel and the family!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻
SO GOOD!! Such a necessary reminder! ❤😊 Thank you!
We’re glad it encouraged you Jhenn! God bless you! 🙏🏻
hi
Gosh, this is so ON. Thank you! I have certainly idolized my partners in the past and allowed myself to get completely swallowed by my relationship. Though I know and perceive the Lord is raising to life my ability to healthily relate to others, especially as brothers and sisters in the Lord.
Same
I felt like this was a message from God today! Blessings to you🙏
Blessings to you too Gavin!!
Thank you for this. I've never thought about these things before. I'm just starting to prepare my mind and heart for marriage, so this is a great foundation going in.
Zambia?
@@pela907 🇿🇲 Can't hide it 😊
@@caseyzimba9935 I'm always excited to see my people on these kinda videos ...gives me hope 😂😅
Thank you both for this.
Great video you guys! I wonder if it could be useful to think of marriage as sprinkles on top of the cake? You don’t need the sprinkles but it’s an added bonus. A relationship with God is the cake (plus the icing) 😊
Very true, Emily. God bless you.
That’s very true!! We love the analogy! We just have to trust God with when the sprinkles get sprinkled on haha! God bless! 🙏🏻
@@samandsadie haha Amen to that!! God bless you as well!!
God's the ice cream
Love this episode. Thanks for this
Thank you... that was extremely helpful
Well since this video attracts similar-minded single Christians. Maybe we can use this opportunity to get to know each other 😂.
Thankyou so much for doing this🙏
Thank you for watching!!
Thank you for sharing
I am single all my life, and sometimes I find relief, sometimes nothing can take this anxiety. Sometimes I truly feel physical pain because of singleness. Is something wrong with , what God is trying to teach me, why my time is like it is, maybe I will not have that time at all, its hard to be content and live a joyful life, sometimes when you keep yourself busy you feel more or less ok, sometimes its unbearable.
Don't quite making videos
They are inspiring. Sooner or later the Lord will grow this channel
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Great video. I needed to hear this
We’re so glad to hear that Carson! That means more than you know to us! 🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing this advice, God always keep us in trials .
Yes! The Bible tells us that we will go through trials, but that they produce good attributes (James 1:2-8). God bless you Mirembe!
@@samandsadie🙏
I loved this video! More storytimes please! A question, did you hold hands, kiss, when you were dating, or engaged?
I'm being patient and won't let a woman change my faith as I cant ever go back I'm with God for life now.
I needed to hear this
I'm 53 and have always been single. I'm not greeved by that. I am a compleat person, not half a couple. I have joy and I have time. I am not lonely. I try to use my time to help those who have less. All I ask it that you don't forget or take for granted your single friends and family. We are a blessing to you, just as you are to us.
This is so good! You are a blessing Elwyn! I love what you said...I am 35 and single :)
@Danielle Stevens . Bless you 💙.
Sending Love 💕...Are you single? ❤️😊
Thank you for testimony sam dan sadie so fabulous the story Jesus belseesd you more
Yeah I’m at the point of “I’ll be single forever. It’s fine.” But it’s not fine and I won’t be single forever. It’s just what the human mind says when we surrender.
Thank you very much guys god bless
God bless you too!!
Thankkk youuu!!!!
It is hardly as formulaic as you make it sound. The common assertion, which is actually a subtle castigation, is that if a person is still single, then they must be spiritually immature. God must want them to "work on something" or "make Him first" in their lives before He blesses them with a spouse. The implication, therefore, is that those who are blessed with marriage must have demonstrated the spiritual maturity necessary to receive that blessing. This is nonsensical at best and disingenuous at worst. The truth is that no one at any time has ever done enough good to earn good from God. All we deserve is judgement for our sin. Everything beyond that is a gift of His unmerited grace. And that includes the blessing of marriage.
Why do I know this is the case? One needs only look around. Some of the most spiritually mature Christians I know who serve selflessly, who strive to grow in sanctification and faith, but who have also longed for and prayed for and waited for the blessing of marriage have nonetheless remained painfully single for decades. Yet in the same church, "born again virgins," far less spiritually mature Christians, men who brought porn addictions into their marriages, and people with horrendous sexual pasts and even domestic abusers have all have been blessed with marriage. Why is this so? Is it because the people who are blessed with marriage cracked the code and passed the test? They made God "first" in their lives and so God rewarded them? Not at all. It is purely by way of God's unmerited grace and sovereignty that any blessings come into our lives, including the blessing of marriage. While we must assuredly seek to grow in sanctification, conforming our wills to His will and our hearts to His heart, this is no guarantee that our path will suddenly lead to everything we desire. The reality is that the Lord, according to His sovereignty and purpose, decrees that some of His children walk paths of suffering and denial and lack, not because they are "not ready" for marriage or because they have not become "content" in their singleness, but rather simply because the Lord has chosen not to give that blessing for reasons that are His alone.
Embracing contentedness in singleness after a year ... or three years ... or any short amount of time, is a good thing. But I assure you that as the years truly begin to increase, the battle becomes one of an entirely different nature. Since we are fans of Elizabeth Elliot, I will quote her also. “Faith's most severe tests come not when we see nothing, but when we see a stunning array of evidence that seems to prove our faith vain.”
Hi there! You have a lot of great points here! Paul even tells us that it’s best to remain single: “I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1 Corinthians 7:6-9). If we insinuated that if one is single, they are inherently spiritually immature- we apologize. That was not our intention for this video. Everyone that receives the gift of marriage does so because of God’s grace. And there is not one person who deserves that gift more than another. All we are saying in this video, is that in the meantime, continue working on yourself and growing your relationship with God throughout your singleness. If a person gets to a place where they’re content in their singleness and God never calls them to marry, praise God that they’ve gotten to a place of contentment in their walk with God. At the end of the day, our message to other people is: Marriage will never complete you- only God can. No one deserves marriage over any other person based on their spiritual maturity- like you said! “While we must assuredly seek to grow in sanctification, confirming our will to His will and our hearts to His heart, this is no guarantee that our path will suddenly lead to everything we desire” Lots of great points in this message. God bless you!
Thank you, Arcanon, you put it well. I'm also tired of hearing these 'holier than thou' kind of messages from married folks, especially those who were blessed enough to marry when they're young.. While I am sure the creators of this channel did not mean it to come across that way, it still is what the majority of singles hear, almost every day... when we dare to ask for prayer regarding finding a spouse.
What most married people do not get is how singleness can severely cripple and limit the possibilities to serve and our fruitfulness in the Kingdom. (and yes OF COURSE God is above that all - He can work despite any limitation - that is obvious..) Those who are married happily, with a supportive and loving spouse, who they can share and pray with, may not even realise what a huge privilege that is. It is often those, who married later in life, who can testify of the difference it has made.
The whole 'just serve the Lord' is really a contradiction in itself, because we were never intended to serve just alone - we were created for connection, for sharing, for interdependence. The Body of Christ is all about sharing and growing together (Ephesians).. Too often, singles are excluded, and seen as less- than, so we are not only dealing with loneliness at one, but also discrimination at church...
Arcanon, you're also 100% spot on regarding 'born again virgins' and serial monogamists... I see it all the time. Women who have been divorced twice, can easily find a third spouse (at a dating site, or in a church).. whereas ladies who have been serving and seeking God for years, are looked down on and ignored by men. (this has to do a lot with porn, I believe.. guys are afraid that they won't get their fun with a woman, who has not slept around..)
So instead of telling singles to 'grow up' we need the married people to pray for us, and sharing our grief. Help us, instead of hindering us from finding the blessing that you have found..
@@NarnianLady Hey :)
I agree with you that the heart in which this video was made was not a malicious one. But yes, I think those who have faced truly prolonged singleness must guard against the temptation towards bitterness and anger that can, at its worst, seek out confrontation and argument with those who, whether innocently or even arrogantly, approach this issue with what feels like a lack of emotional wisdom. I know this is something I struggle with, as I am sure my initial post demonstrated.
Spurgeon wrote that "pain is disfiguring." Indeed it is. The pain of truly prolonged, unwanted singleness is so heart wrenching at times. And in that pain, we can lash out when we are called to be peaceable and humble and loving to all, especially the brethren. But yes, it is a struggle to be sure.
One of the most difficult things to hear, when a person is in pain, is that it is somehow their fault. The truth is that Christians who are facing the trial of truly prolonged singleness are often already in an advanced class when it comes to learning to trust in the Lord, to wait on Him, to serve others while they themselves are hurting, and to grow in faith and holiness ... all while struggling with loneliness, fear of the future, fear of being alone, and the truly unmet, aching desires for intimacy, blessed sexuality, affection, and companionship. They are already walking in dark valleys and, prayerfully, drawing closer to God as the anchor of their souls. And when such a person then hears that "perhaps they need to get closer to God" or "surrender it all to Him," from people who clearly are NOT suffering that affliction, it hurts. It is like knights with shiny armor telling knights whose armor is covered in blood and dents that how to win a battle.
But honestly, all that is a trap for our hearts. And in expressing our anger, it can even hurt people who are honestly and sincerely trying to say something good. I know it is a struggle, nonetheless. We must trust in God ... always trust. No matter how dark, how painful, how difficult, and how seemingly endless the affliction is. Expressing that frustration and pain is not a sign of spiritual immaturity, but rather of exhaustion, simply put. To quote someone I think you are well familiar with .... "'We are not necessarily doubting that God will do the best for us; we are wondering how painful the best will turn out to be.' - C.S. Lewis
@@Arcanon10 Trusting God, does not mean we need to accept or agree to ungodly patterns we see around us - or allow others dictate us how we should live our lives, with their well-meaning but often unwise advice.
The best thing often is, just to have compassion and to pray for those whose situation we don't understand... not to be like Job's friends, who had an explanation for everything :)
The reality we live in is a fallen one. Which means, the enemy is real, the battle is real, and God's will does not automatically happen. We are called to pray for it, and to strive for it by faith. Not just accept anything that is thrown our way as 'the best'.. As the Scripture says, 'Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but desire fulfilled is a tree of life'...
Wow what a powerful quote.
I love this! I hope you can make a podcast soon!!
That would be really cool to do!! Who knows, maybe someday soon! 🤷🏻♂️
Thank you for the wonderful reminder to get closer and closer to our #1 Best Friend Jesus! He Is our contentment
Ótimo vídeo! Seu testemunho foi uma benção!
If your not single still you have business doing this video in my opinion no disrespect intended with that. This should be done by a single individual.
Man, life is so tough and sucks so often. Whenever I pray for something, like, for example, a relationship or at least someone to be in my life who is kind, listens to me, loves me for who I am, I see others around me receive what I’ve asked for from God. Why does God do this to me all the time???
Thank you guys for sharing,,,
pursuit of the kingdom of God and his righteousness should be the most important thing....... I'm exactly at that point of letting Jesus be my only Passion, totally Loving Him wholeheartedly i do this while asking Him to lead me to that that prudent women who can only come from Him.............
I'm looking forward to what God as in store for me.
You two make a beautiful and wonderful couple ❤..... May God keep your marriage and be gracious to you.
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T.D JAKES made mention of this in one of his books "The Lady, Her Lover, and Her Lord."
Highly recommend for the unmarried.
Thank you both so much for this video❤❤
Hi Somie! Thank you for the compliment ♥️ we highly recommend listening to pastors like Paul Washer, Chip Ingram, and David Wilkerson rather than T.D Jakes; Jakes is prone to teaching more unbiblical, prosperity gospel types of theology. God bless!
@@samandsadie Well said. Paul Washer especially is truly a humble, yet gifted preacher.
Thank you for this! can you guys make a video talking about making friendships with people in our age group in church! I have always struggled to create friendships with people in my church who are in my age group. I get some that are nice, and others that are the type who will barely talk to you and don’t want you in their friend group.
I feel this on a deep level. It is a hard aspect of life to maneuver for sure.
Sav, I agree, seems like making godly friends in the church is harder than making friends with worldly people
@@vincentortega4284 it really is unfortunately! I crave Godly friendships more than anything but it’s difficult!
@@Savsav75 don’t give up my friend! Keep discover new churches and new young groups! You’ll find people who won’t talk to you, and people happy to have a friendship with you, just keep going!
@@robertochiesa5186 thank you! 😊
Thank you. I'll turn 42 in December. I have yet to be active (use your imagination), and have been single for over 20 years. But now I see why I'm likely still single. It hurts. It's also a bit challenging for me because I currently work on weeknights. And I have bipolar. I'm on meds and in therapy to treat the bipolar. But it is highly stigmatized. And having ADD along with it (actually the ADD was first) doesn't help.
I'll pray for you 🙏🏽
@@Dara_Reanne3080 Thanks ☺️. But why?
Thank you
Pretty good. "Seek first the kingdom of God and everything else shall be added on to you".. I would only add that "True love is to lay down your life for your friends"
I know I need to get closer to God and I lost the passion for it. But I keep working on it! I am not embarrassed I am single. In fact I feel so good hahaha 😊
Amen!
Thanks
woot another highly attractive couple telling single people what to feel. Lets not.
Yes is so annoying
agree
Thank you, sir
A relationship with God is the main goal in life! God is the price!
Absolutely adorable couple 🥰 ! Sadie, you are so pretty, humble and kind. I see why Sam chose you. I am a single divorced woman that got born again AFTER I got married even though we both called ourselves Christians BEFORE we got married. Even if you've been to church your entire life like I had been to all these denominational type churches, if you've never said a prayer to God to receive Jesus into your heart - You're not born again! And it is imperative to say a prayer subsequent to that to receive the Holy spirit as Luke 11:13 says.... You will become a new creation in Christ Jesus and your spiritual eyes will begin to open more and more as you read your Bible hearing and doing it. Needless to say, I am 48 years old now and raising our three boys homeschooling them. God is so awesome and amazing and has blessed me tremendously.
Please, please, please! Stop saying that to get a spouse from God, you need to grow spiritually! That's a lie - where is that in the Bible?! I am not saying that the lack of spiritual maturity is never the reason why God is not giving you a spouse (though most Christians get married while they are very immature, and that's perhaps the reason they get married - because they don't care about or don't recognize God’s will), but the goal of spiritual growth is not to get married!!! If it's not God’s will for you to get married because He has more important things to do for you, you can grow as you want, but God will not give you a spouse. Not because you are not mature and ready enough but because it's not His sovereign will...Also, most Christians were actively looking for a spouse while they “found” their spouse....The “You will get it when you least expect it, or God will give it to you, when you stop looking for it” is not a biblical principle! “Ask the Father in Jesus' name, and you will receive “ is a biblical principle...so please stop saying these misconceptions. This might be your story but don’t make general conclusions out of it.
Good points😊 Both Single and married people have earthly commitments, unless you pay a cleaner both homes need cleaning. Unless you pay someone to shop and cook both homes need someone to get food and cook it. And so on.
Your spiritual walk is an individual choice out of relationship with God, whatever you marital status we all need to pursue God and grow up spiritually develop maturity.
The point that can be made is that a single person may have allocated time to get into the things of God more, go off on missions, join a Christian organisation etc. That is reality, but it is not the same thing as the need to grow spiritually as we all need to do that.
100%. I always am astonished how quickly these Biblical principles go out of the window, when marriage is concerned. Our Father is GOOD - no need to trick Him with some mental gymnastics, trying to convince ourselves and Him that we don't realy want something, when we in fact long for it with all our heart... Just look at the various examples in the Scriptures.
@@NarnianLady Definitely. We are created for intimacy. Due to our fallen world it doesn't always happen or work for people.
I think for everyone to acknowledge that, is a good thing it is being real.
When a person is going through a time of feeling miserable being single, people can be helpful by not saying much. And just listen and eventually that person will work it out.
90% of Christian married people would not swap their marriage to be single.