Yes. This is great advice. Im dealing with a Narcissist ex wife after breaking away and it is the worst thing I have ever gone through. She is literally attempting to destroy my life and watch me suffer regardless of what our children think. I am so heartbroken that someone I trusted with MY LIFE would try to wound me and destroy MY LIFE so carelessly. I know and knew what a narcissist is but the complete understanding will only come to you after you fall in love with one of them and then they diminish you and dispose of you and then when they're done with that, they attempt to destroy your relationship with your kids because the narcissistic father that raised them is now "bonding" with them and getting supply from their supply coming from YOU. SICKNESS. I'm lucky my kids take after their father and see through most of the nonsense. But it's not easy watching them experience the truth and turn their head when they hear another lie from their PARENT. At first I fell for the "competition" part of it with her but now it's just heartache all around. She forces her will on all of us in order to ALWAYS get what she wants.
Yup I lost mine because of D.V. I was physically emotionally and sexually abused for years. He had family and friends in law enforcement so I was scared. I had no family living to help me. I was scared I'd lose my kids and I did.
yep, money money money, theres no neutral ground here, she WINS cases.. aka meaning sombody loses.. theres no neutral ground here, its all treated to get all the money
Well, you missed a few... 1. Bad Caseworkers 2. Evil Caseworkers 3. Caseworkers Not in every case, but I do see the problem sometimes begins with an overzealous worker. They want to make the decisions and be the one to decide. You know, have all the power. However, they do not possess this power, so they abuse the avenues they do have. There are cases of exaggeration, manipulation, intimidation, and straight out lies. You know what I think is scarier that a monster? A caseworker with a power complex. These parents are so scared and they can be easily intimidated. SO sad. Needs change!
The idea that parents have to “script a case” is actually a sign that Judges aren’t that good at or interested in hearing the facts. Good video, but I do think the takeaway is the shortcomings of the Court. Thanks for the content and advice.
I agree. They wanted me to do it. However I did the work and because I didn’t kiss their butts. They made me take all of the courses over. Saying they never saw someone take the courses that quickly. It is a wicked system and they don’t care about those children. They never mention the name of the child they call them the child. Sad.
They just busted down the door and took all 3 of Christine Wall's 3 kids, soon after their special needs child was sexually abused by someone at school...She never seen her kids again for 21 days.
It is extremely important that every word you state, every action you take, and every decision you make, should be centered around what is best for your child.... as opposed to what is best for the mother or the father. Also, many people complain that they lose because they don't have lawyers. But lawyers are not the solution to this. Many people spend $200K on a lawyer and still have a terrible outcome. You are the All Star MVP of your case. I encourage you to take on that role. Do not outsource that role to a lawyer.
This is absolutely some of the best advise I've seen yet on the internet. My ex is badly losing our case for all of the reasons she spoke about COMBINED !! As dad, ive always put my daughter FIRST in every decision i've ever made, while she sat back and did nothing. Now she trying to plan catch up trying to be a mom because she's about to lose full custody permanently. Moral of the story, do it for the child ALL the time, not just when the courts are watching !!!!
That’s exactly what I’m going through I did it all for my daughter and still do it all but now my ex wants to step in only because we’re going to court and we’re separated now she wants to play mom
With all due respect... losing custody should never be an issue... it should be 50/50 unless one parent is deemed dangerous or unable to properly care for the kid... and that should be fully investigated...
Good talk. After a 3+ year custody battle, where I was awarded primary custody, as a dad...I totally agree that, technically, the best strategy is that "the child is the center of the universe" and all of your parenting actions and court testimony revolves around that. But there's another piece to consider, depending on your judge. Our judge completely ignored my petitions for custody and my allegations on Day 1...and rubberstamped the mother for custody...based on 1 best interest factor instead of the totality of the circumstance. And the judge ignored me and my lawyer for 3 years...and kept rubberstamping whatever the mother wanted. So this 2nd piece is recognizing how to get around the court's bias...because it's definitely real. And I laid out direct testimony for 28 hours, detailing the mother's violence, anger management issues, suicidal threats (all of which the judge was actively ignoring until my testimony)...and undermining all of the standard gender-biased stereotypes the judge could have. I laid out undeniable testimony to prove I was the better parent across 12 best interest factors...not just 1-2 key points. And I blocked the judge from being able to just rubberstamping the mother in the Final Custody Order. So this 2nd piece is to quickly recognize if your judge is gender-biased against dads and/or incompetent...and then strategize to neutralize that, so you can have a decision in the best interests of the child....instead of a decision by a judge that just wants to get through their caseload by taking the "safe" way out and rubberstamping the mother.
@@GentiluomoStraniero I made more than her. So, you can also say the courts were hoping to just tag me as the non-custodial parent from the start - while ignoring the facts - so the courts could maximize child support. That's another bad incentive that results in bad behavior by courts.
@@FatherX2022 It's automatic, they push to find out who the "Primary Caregiver" of the children are. I told them its 50/50, they wouldn't accept that. They got their way and the money....I only have one more month of this shit show. Now I am just trying to help create awareness of the shit sandwich politicians are forcing down men's throats. Funny how you never hear of politicians talk about this during debates....They will never bring it up on their own. They are hoping that we don't ask questions about it. Don't let a lawyer tell you you have a fair chance. You don't unless mom really screws up and it is documented.
100% a game. State does not want 50/50 Parenting Time Legislation. Because they would have to support those that don’t want to work. Statistics show family courts throughout Canada are anything but equal and fair. Criminals get treated more equally than fathers in Canada. Sad part is this is destroying families and wrecking childrens lives.
Ive been in pretty constant custody litigation for nearly 14 years. My ex will NOT let it go. My advice: act in good faith, dont be baited into nonsense, focus on the best interest of your kid(s). Its not always easy, especially when dealing with an abusive ex - but if you do these three things, generally, youll do alright.
Damn... aren't they raised yet?? Litigation for 14 years is insane. If your kid was 3\4 when this started, it should be a done deal. What is left to bitch about?
I'm a family law in Florida and have been doing family law exclusively for last ten years. Parents, please listen to this video. I am going to start sending to my clients because this is an excellent summation and vital to understand. Listen to this video multiple times-- whenever you get frustrated. It will keep you focused.
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I think courts are really taking this "we don't want to take your kids away from you" policy a little too far. I'm sorry, but if you have a substance abuse problem and you are leaving your kids with sex offenders while you smoke meth and your kids have to watch their grandparents call an ambulance for you because you have stopped breathing, the court SHOULD want to take your kids away from you. She is doing a lot of wagging her finger at parents for just pointing out the shortcomings of the other parent and saying "you have to make your kiddo the center of the universe" but why isn't the COURT making the kid the most important thing? If you want to smoke meth and hang out with sex offenders, that's on you and the court should concern itself with protecting your child's right to not have to suffer the consequences of your bad decision making. I think the child's safety and right to not be raped by a child molester while dad is stoned is more important that "respecting his parental rights." I think he gives up those parental rights every time he picks up the pipe. Instead of making the child suffer through watching that parent go through rehab and continue to be left with who-knows-who, I say give the kid to the other parent and if and when the meth-head parent decides they want to be involved with the kid again then they can PROVE they are clean and sober and a responsible adult who will have a positive influence on the kids life FIRST. THEN they can petition to have time with their kid.
Great points all, and we agree with you, sharing some of the same frustrations. Perhaps you're looking too deep into some of the things mentioned here, we're just describing a pattern that we've seen with cases in the past. Attorneys should always advocate for what's best for the children in any case.
I love this advice. It's too easy to point the finger at the other person and their shortcomings without saying how you yourself are the better parent. I'm representing myself and I think this is invaluable to help me put together a case. Thank you so much
My wife left me and took our two children while I was at work four days ago. I received the divorce papers the following day. She is refusing to allow me to see them until a custody agreement is filed with the court. She is also refusing to allow me to talk with them aside from a couple random calls. I have been non stop talking with friends , lawyers and doing research since she left. The stress is now so bad it is painful. I've slept maybe 8 hours in the past four days and my appetite is inconsistent. I don't know what to do. I can't afford an attorney.
Listen to me carefully DO NOT WAIST TIME!!! get a lawyer immediately NOW! and act as quickly as possible. You have to get a lawyer immediately. you have no choice, figure it out, don't waist one day trust me.
Draft a custody agreement. Court forms are on-line. Maybe she just wants to know exactly what your timetable will be to plan around it. You have to stick to it or you’ll be disrupting so maybe your a bad planner. Why would writing a custody plan be so difficult. It’s probably about a six page form.
@nicholusbaker2830 Brother I went through something similar. Please go get a credit line, credit card or whatever you need but get a lawyer nowwww. Do not think it will get better for you. It doesn't unless you get a lawyer. I went from sleeping in my friends house to sleeping back in my house with my kids.
This is one of the better videos on child custody I've seen. Focus on the child. Focus on solutions and be clear to the court how your solutions will help the child. Pro Se litigants frequently lose child custody cases simply because they are ignorant, unprepared, and the opposition points out their entire argument is an ad hominem to prove the other parent is a liar. Know the law. Know the case law. Know court rules. And, most importantly, keep your child's needs paramount to EVERYTHING else. Don't blame the system when you go to court and expect the judge to read a few texts, become outraged at your ex's behavior, and award you custody by moral superiority. YOU failed to state a logical, coherent case. YOU failed to be the advocate your child needs. Flaws are ubiquitous in all systems including family court. Learn them. Overcome them. And be the adult your child needs. Thank you for posting the video. It's quite a contrasting source to all the other legal "advice" out there.
Its not up to parents to know all the laws of the court and some parents are excellent liars. This is part of the problem with the system....they fail to know the difference and simply dont care enough dig a bit deeper. Its a sham!
As a CASA, I understand this but this is why I am sick of attorneys as this is viewed as Property Rights rather than treating the child as a human being. Pretty much telling people how to play the system and continuing this revolving door.
When you write up paperwork as ‘In the interest of the child’, the child is considered to belong to the state. It’s in the state laws, also Uniform Rights of the Child (something like that/global). We grew up learning the ‘Public Side’ and the child is your offspring, child, seed (can’t use those words), but the word property in the law books meaning is chattel (people), and other meanings also. When the state owns your child, there is all kinds of money (bonds) running around behind the scene from lawyers, judges and others. They buy property, become beneficiaries of various companies, have their family members as beneficiaries and they somehow put hidden money there. They get rich. When you get away from all that, your child belongs to you. Then you are living on the ‘Private Side’, instead of the ‘public side’. You go by our Constitution, not every statute that can be taken and used in any way the courts choose to twist the legalese, in order to make the most money. I certainly don’t understand this whole process. There is so much we have been deceived about since our birth and when we were issued social security numbers. Thankfully, this is not my fight because I don’t know enough, only the tip of the iceberg. Hope that helps a tiny bit. It’s still mind boggling to me how greatly we have been deceived and used our whole life, from our labors…our time and energy, to make so few so extremely rich.
Also, People lose custody of their children when the court leave out evidence and distort information. Truth For Sanaya th-cam.com/video/EZgcHsk-QQc/w-d-xo.html
I have a question since you were/are a CASA worker. If a father has a child with two woman. The second child has an open CPS case (born addicted). Would you interview the first mother as a character witness for the father?
@@mymodernlaw "The Game" is about your control and your profit I was a legal secretary - I did your billing. I sat there and listened to you morons practice your lies in your opening and closing arguments for years Your liars and leeches
I’m so frustrated that my son is being used as a tool to hurt me because my wife and soon to be ex wife is mad at herself. Makes me angry and sad. So true though like mental health. I never imagined seeing my son so angry and confused, frustrated.
My sisters is going through the same thing. It all happened all at once when my ex brother-in-law’s decided to team up against my sisters, turning their daughters against them. I lost three nieces in this process.
20 year school teacher. Never charged with a crime. I am the epitome of the silver bullet scheme. Lost my 3 girls, 2 dogs, home, career, and possessions. Just a vessel now. Thrown away like garbage. Married my childhood sweetheart. 30 years later, treated like garbage. Just a vessel now. Life uses tragedy. The end can’t come soon enough for Silver Bullet Scheme recipients. Anybody can run to the court with a lie and destroy a man. The American Dream is dead to me.
@Sandy Cheeks I am alone. Sleeping couch to couch. My car. A motel. My matter… So very common. I am a typical throw away. Nothing I can do about my destiny other then cope. Your suggestions. Yes, meaningful and purposeful. However, 20 years as a public school teacher. Damn good one too. My cancer battle. Now coparent with the government or never see your children again? Sorry. I’d rather die in my sleep. And I hope I do. The system is so broken. After pouring my heart into my own destiny. Career. Hopes. Dreams. I never needed so much help to be a nobody. Once the government is invited into your affairs… doom is a guarantee. Men are expendable. Suicidal ideation. Common for men like me. Being a somebody for my children. That’s I knew. Having the state come in and rob me of my livelihood. What the hell do I have to live for now? The experiment is a failure. An American tragedy. My ex should be I charged with a crime. Setting me up and stringing me along. Lost my job. Had to sell the cars to pay for lawyers and doctors. My 3 girls… I miss them so very much. I married into wicked madness; watching family members being banished. Theocratic bullying. As if my cancer was an enhancement. There should be suicide clinics at Will County court for Silver Bullet Scheme recipients. The American Dream is Dead to me. Once terminal, I will qualify for assisted suicide. My ex wife threw me away. Used the system and accomplished a diabolical scheme. No longer a great catch. Cancer, an ugly business. I pinned my stars on the devil indeed. I’ve been a zombie since 9/13/19. Bogus unfounded DCFS and a bogus order of protection. So set up. All designed. I hope my story helps other people one day. I’ve done all I could. Please share my circumstance. ‘…here is what can happen to a man in America once the government infiltrates.’ The end can’t come soon enough for men like me. Cry myself to sleep and regret waking up. So very sabotaged. I fear my government and no longer care to be an American. Fraud, corruption, extortion. Hell of a way to capstone my life. I used to be a somebody. All it takes is a bitter woman and help from the government. Now I’m a nobody. Truly, it’s a wonder I made it this far. I wish I died on that operating table. Fighting for my life, 70 chemos, 30 radiations. Major surgeries. I used to be a fighter. Now penniless and hopeless. Parent alienation and the silver bill scheme sponsored by my ex and agents from the state. It’s an ugly ugly story. So undeserving of the outcome. I’m not going to survive my plight. Who in the hell would care to at this point?
@@AllDayKiller serious question but do you have any history of alcohol abuse or drugs? Not trying to sound judgemental but there has to be a reason why this happened... A lie isn't enough to take everything
@@happytrailsgaming I don’t drink, or smoke… I was diagnosed with cancer… lost a spoke so to speak. No longer a good catch. Sabotaged. Cancer is an ugly business. Rather of had taken a silver bullet to the head. For better or for her Daddy. The silver bullet scheme is real. The one with the most money wins the constitution. All it takes is a lie and your life is over. I can help make it possible for your target too. The system is broken. Having my deposition taken tomorrow. Being forced to remove my videos. The American Dream is Dead to me now. Share my story please. May help somebody one day. I have a cause and a testimony. My days are numbered indeed. The 9 most terrifying words in the English language have me. I can consult with you and make it so your spouse seeks assist suicide. Starts with a bogus order of protection… watch & read my descriptions in my videos.. I have a cause and a testimony. Plus coping. Most men would have taken their life. So easy to dispose of a man in this era. An injunction was had about my music… it tells the truth. Being forced to take down. Not going to. Rather die than capitulate at this point. My life is an American Tragedy. Yes, all it takes is a lie. 20 year public school teacher… treated like a career criminal. Go fill out a bogus order protection with a bogus claims… step one of the silver bullet scheme. Lost my 3 girls, 2 dogs, home, possessions, career, and hope. Most men would have taken their own life. I’m just a zombie in shock now. Pray I die in my sleep. The fraud, corruption, & extortion that has infiltrated my life. So easy to make possible. I pinned my stars on a nightmare come true. Nobody believes me till I share the footage of my Ex FILs daughter’s deposition. So easy to destroy a man. Will County Illinois made it possible. 20 year public school teacher… never needed so much help to a nobody till the government got involved. My death… a state mandate. Nothing clinical. Fraud won.
@...on the Fly I will pray for you my friend. God said "lean not on your own understanding... I know the plans I have for you. Plans for good and not for evil." Take care of yourself my friend. The Lord said "I will never leave you nor forsake you." Have hope and faith my friend. Take care.
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Oh it's truly a game where I had no idea what level of cruelty she would arrive at to win. I didn't lie in court, she did. I didn't lie to casa, she did. Her lawyer attacked me and so did the casa worker I had no chance to rebuttal at all while my lawyer was texting during court. I got vaporized and I was taking her to court for contempt cuz I hadn't been allowed a visit in 7 months. I've been speechless ever since. Judge is considering me paying for both sides of I take her to court a 3rd time for her contempt. Haven't had a visit in over a year. Did nothing wrong at all. She just thought I didn't deserve to see him. It's crazy.
I understand completely. I’m in the situation now with my wife. She has lied and coached my 2 oldest daughters. CPS and the sheriffs backed her with literally zero evidence. It backfired on her and our children with Alabama removing the children over the claims. She told me she would tell the truth about lying to get the kids back and we would move past it together. Instead one day before court she made the most outrageous claims ever and said I was going to take the children by force from their school, shoot the place up, blow up the social service office and it end my life with suicide by cop. Just unbelievable stuff. But the sheriffs and CPS ate it all up and even arrested me on a felony solely on her word. I was all over the news, FB, and front page of the paper. Got suspended from my job and was looking at 10 years. The judge was the only one with sense and threw it out at the first hearing. They just recently got out of foster care where they were split up for 6 months. We have 5 kids. My 4 year old is a daddy’s boy through and through. Even CPS has that for the record. The kids were sent to live near my wife with her father while we await the final civil court hearing involving the removal. After only one month their my daddy’s boy is telling me he doesn’t love me or like me and I hurt him. Obviously more coaching and emotional abuse. At the end of the visit when he had to go back with his grandfather he said he didn’t want to go. He wanted to go with daddy and that he loves me and I’m his best friend. He is so confused by what she and the system by proxy has done to him. It is so wrong. I pray to God the judge will see all this for what it is and send them home to me. Back to love, stability and normality.
@1zackdude this terrifies me. I have my first custody date today. We had both agreed to never do this and here I am. What scares me is my own situation could make this case bad. I have been jobless for a year with mental health issues. I already know she's a serpent,so I feel it's about to get brutal. My poor son is furious at her for this because he knows what I'm going through outside of this. I have nothing to offer anyone. I've been broken by the women in my life. Just plain beaten down for decades. It's too much.
I already do all of this! Especially over text message with Dad Bc it’s about my child’s needs!! I want my BD to win!! However he isn’t properly caring for our child and she shouldn’t have to suffer.
So my mother's actions towards me has caused me to have panic attacks, mental breakdowns, 30 mins of crying twice a week, anxiety, and has even even more psychical effects to happen to me like stomach aches. Would that be a good enough reason to get her custody taken away? Btw I want her custody to get taken away and have more reasons for her custody to get taken away. Also can kids go to court? I want my voice to be heard and for the judge to hear me say it so that they know it's me.
@@bashemadonI In my circumstances I wouldn't be going into foster care bc my parents are divorced so I'd be able to stay with my other parent. My other parent is an actually good parent unlike the one I was describing. edit: my parent (the bad one) has had incidents in the past that have shown that she doesn't learn her lesson and doesn't change unlike my other parent (the good one) has proved that they can change and be better.
@@coalesce3333 hey don't worry I wouldn't be placed in foster care bc my parents are divorced so they'd just take away her custody and give full custody to my other parent probably. Btw my other parent is very nice and a good person unlike the other one I was talking abt.
bs, all depends on the judge. If the judge is an ass.hole, it doesn't matter if you argue with the judge or not, no matter what you do and how nice you are through the process, The judges will decide how the hell they want to feel their power over you.
@@mvladalenav most county judges are subcontractor for title iv-D with attorney general child support meaning they are ignoring their oath/job as judge and only thing they care about is generating income for the county thru “services” either being domestic relations services, classes (bipp/parenting/job services/counseling/probation etc). Refuse to believe the judges follow their oath . We have to say we accept their oath and formally tell them we accept it and demand they honor it. Otherwise it’s a crap shoot
I have the same problem and I don't know what to do. My world is destroyed . I haven't had a regular visit for over a year. I did everything she ever wanted me to do to see my baby girl but it's never enough for her. I need Prayers please I have no money for a lawyer but her mom gives her all she needs for a lawyer and her ex husband who knows of the abuse I've gone though and helped the other one making the number of lawyers at 2 against me defending myself. Please prayers are needed for me and above all Raven, she is only 10 years old but I only had 1 year taking care of her and then court battle after court battle since. oct 30 marks 10 years. I feel so lost I don't know what to do or where to go for help since Fathers have no rights in the Liberal Family Court System.
There’s a huge challenge when the children are pre-verbal and when you’re coparenting with a stranger. You’re going to see a lot more of this as hookup culture proliferates. How do you suggest dealing with these issues in high conflict child custody?
If you have two newly single people with children in the mix, it's best that both sides have an understanding that top concern is the safety and happiness of the kids. No matter how volatile the divorce is between the adults, or who else comes into the picture as far as significant others, each parent should be able to trust that the children are in a loving, secure environment when they are with the other parent. A little transparency can go a long way.
Also, People lose custody of their children when the court leave out evidence and distort information. Truth For Sanaya th-cam.com/video/EZgcHsk-QQc/w-d-xo.html
My attorney is telling me that I cannot talk about anything you've saying about the negative actions the other parent has taken and how it negatively affects my children or how I affect my children's lives in a positive manner. He says it's only at trial where that can be presented. In Florida.
This is not the case here in Tulsa, my daughter, worked and my grandson in school, but the judge did not even consider her. She just gave sole custody to the father.
Just recently my ex served me with paperwork to modify our current child custody order. I did ask him to do that bc he tried to tell me that I have to go to the court with him to modify the order. I believe that he is manipulating our 10 almost 11 yo into living with him. I do my best to let him get more time out of our order and he’s a great dad. I just feel like he is always attacking me when he does not get his way. I have even gone as far as to get his $5000+ in child support wiped clean bc he couldn’t pay it. I can’t say I am a perfect mother but I do my best being a mom of 2, full time school and working 35 hours per week. As much as I love my daughter and do understand her wants of living with dad, I just feel that it is best that she lives with me. She has a learning disability and has a great relationship with her teachers and she needs the stability and routine. She is easily distracted. It just seems that whatever I put out on the table he is not willing to take. He wants her to live with him weekdays and she can live with me weekends. What can I do?
Hi there, have you tried a mediation? Perhaps you can sit down as a family and find out what your child really wants to do, and what is in her best interests. Hearing all of the sides of the story can be helpful to everyone involved.
Am grateful for your help I don't hav any of those things but I do need to talk to family lawyer I hav my kids almost 5 months and I would like to have full custody
The state can only gets involved when 1.) you let an agent the State of “?” Say, “I pronounce you Husband and Wife”. 2.) Get a Birth Certificate. 3.) Get a SSN. 4.) Be Naturalized as a U.S. CITIZEN. 5.) Forgot to ask for the Contact that you gave you child to the STATE. 6.) Forget to ask for the Judge’s Oath or Affirmation to support the Constitution. 7.) Hire a Lawyer; (Their first duty is to the Court, not the Client.) [Special Appearance vs. General Appearance.] 8. Do not have a National Identification Card! 9.) Public Law 856. 10.) The American Declaration on the Rights of Indigenous People. (Only for Americans of the Continental America) not to be used by U.S. citizens. Genesis Ch 10:6-20; Public law 97-280.
Also, People lose custody of their children when the court leave out evidence and distort information. Truth For Sanaya th-cam.com/video/EZgcHsk-QQc/w-d-xo.html
of course but the problem is there are correct people everywhere I just agreed with a wonderful casa worker in the casa worker that I had was paid off and had four children in a hurry and was trying to explain things to me when I had tested in my daughter never had a reason to lose her and let me tell you my son was illegally taking it I mean it was just disgusting and it is now come out that the woman I mean she's not working anymore it's awful and I can't get that time back and the lovely mediation crap oh the lady was paid off too I mean literally the therapist
I need to speak with a social worker by the way because the hacking when I'm about to do this channel it is actually come full circle and I would love to speak with us social worker that possibly would be willing to help me or just give me an advice or agree with me by the way I just want you an opinion, my case got hacked a long time ago and it well I might explain in an email not on here I would really appreciate it
You're a social worker? Then you're part of this messed up corrupt system... You're the one writing fake dossier's. I did that for a living also - how many intake sheets did you fill out accusing a mother of every horrendous crime so you could submit that to get the funding? How many raped beaten women did you take down by calling in their abusers and using their testimony against them? Did you learn misogyny in college or did your mommy teach you this? You're a social worker - you're the one taking down these children to begin with - getting your bonuses and kickbacks for placing kids in Job corps Writing false statements - screwing with parents who already have their backs against the wall to begin with You are abused growing up - we know who you are in college. We did not want you at our parties, our dining hall table... You're the one that we have to run to your Emotional rescue every time you got drunk. You're the problem
I have a questions please if i may. My wife coerced me by fear of divorce and tricked me into leaving the US part way through a visa application 1 week after my daughters birthday. I had signed my daughter as a US citizen born abroad 10 months prior and moved to the US as a family doing my visa from within the country. We lived in the UK for 2 years together. I'm a UK citizen, wife is US citizen. She was the only person who ever dealt with the immigration lawyer on my behalf. I never once spoke to them myself until a later date. I later found out she was supposedly cheating on me over there in PA, to note. To which I was catching onto and questioning it after seeing all the signs; but could not prove that there and I'm pretty sure now, that was the reason for my removal, before her exposure. Turned out it was her brothers best friend and or family friend. She had asked me for a divorce 2 weeks prior; and a week prior to me going. However, we talked, and both agreed...a plan to fix things. Aparently. She informed me that I was able to go and come back into the US and had contacted them to check, and was ok to do so. We both signed a contract or signed letter saying that if i left on sabatical, time apart for a break, when I came back, things would be ok as she had been terrible, distant and really abusive for months prior and I was willing to do that for a few months, to save our marraige and family. She broke it off 2 weeks into me being in the UK, 2 hours after putting me into a group chat with her x. Blamed it on my daughter. From the 2nd day I already started to panic as she wasn't really trying. After that, I contacted the lawyer to come back and was informed that she never even notified him or even asked any questions if did considering it's importantance. It was totally pre meditated. Lawyer is refusing to provide me with exact communications at this time, however i still have that email saying they wasn't informed. I thought by PA state law they must retain that all for 5 years. Wheh i contacted the lawyer to come back, instead of trying to resolve it, she stopped it dead by telling him we were separated. Visa route then cancelled, even petition route. I now have a 3 year ban from the US alienated from my child. She has now moved to florida with her older sister. I have evidence of messages prior to leaving showing our conversations, I have the so say contract, I have emails from the lawyer stating that she never notified him, that she killed off my visa route ,evidence of said group chat, and I have messages from that date to now; of her being absolutely inhumane thereafter. It has been horrendous all the while I have tried and done all the right things to sort things out and look after my daughter. My mental and physical health has been obliterated and so has my relationship with my daughter by this. I have been in hospital from heart issues from stress, also a mental health practitioner still ongoing. I have still despite this, made sure i have sent money over every month for my daughter. Much more than I can afford if I'm honest. However I have asked for documentation to prove her said expenses as I cannot trust her after that, but despite asking weekly for months, she thought it acceptable to provide me nothing but wallmart screenshots, a self made list on messenger and a screen shot of half a screen and has been trying to extort me for her exadurated and demanded amount of money totally disregarding anything she has done, my now finacial situations and ny health, or her behaviour in all this at all. She is now sending me divorce papers, custody papers and child support papers along with her audacity some time soon. I believe her to be mentally unstable to do such a thing. Who does that to the other parent after sacrafices i have made? I now at this time, believe her to be a malignant narcissist as she has been extremely violent and abusive to me in the past and she has done nothing but gaslight me, and has completely disenfranchised me of my child and visa and has shown absolutely no apathy whatsoever with anything. It's really sick and upsetting. She's done that to a baby not just me. I let the abuse go for years because i love her. Still do sadly but i'm now starting to break the trauma bond that was really pinning me down. It has been extremely confusing and heartbreaking that she's done this considering I was a model husband and father there. I honestly was. Everyone else is confused aswell but have done nothing. But recently, i was informed by several opinions; why she's done all this without remorse. Most likley the aforementioned condition, sadly of a very concerning NPD issue. This is not acceptable on my daughter, or myself. I can prove everything I've said with evidence of all but I'm not sure what to do. Im genuinely scared and I really need help with this please. Do you pr anyone have any advice please. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing. My ex-partner is on police bail for rape. Child was present during an incident. There was an ongoing emotional abuse and coercive control. The father has PR and my solicitor is advising to stop the contact altogether and to go to court. May I please ask for your opinion? I have audio evidence of everything
Is there anyway I can hire you or someone you recommend??!!! I don’t have much money but I really really really need help!! Even the judge cut me off and told me what I’m saying doesn’t matter.. I had to remind the court im the petitioner and they looked at me funny. Im in Nashville TN and I could REALLY use some help!!! My child’s mother continue to keep me away from my son when it’s convenient for her
This was very informative. Thank you so much. I would love to see a video regarding what the parent without money for a lawyer should do when a parent with money for a lawyer challenges them for full custody. Money isn't everything a child needs, but lack of money can't just be ignored, either. However, there are times when the parent with money can behave in an aggressive manner and try to scare the one without money into believing their case is doomed from the get-go. How should the parent that can't afford representation proceed?
Hey can anyone help me with this? So I just got my divorce papers and my soon-to-be ex-wife is trying to get full custody of my oldest child 15, I have two other ones that she is fine to do 50/50. I adopted her two years and now she is stating never wanted her. What is the best way to get 50/50 of her?
Hey I have a question my referee didn't allow me to speak. She let the respondent speak for 20 seconds then she appointed the mom and the dad and the kids a lawyer and I the person who raised them for 3 years she said you get your own lawyer...She said you are the just the cousin/petitioner...does she have that jurisdiction to appoint lawyers without hearing all the testimony
If I sent a text trying to negotiate with my sons dad to sign or agree for sole custody for no child support but didnt agree can he use this to sway the judge so that he wont pay child support
Another problem in the case of how you discipline is if you're not doing any of those things because they're not working then they use that against you to say that you are not trying to discipline or gain control of your child simply calling you lazy.
Hi I do have a question I have my first court day for Parenting time and access soon and the Mother decided that I can see my son 3 days before court day. Is this could be a trap from her or I will be violating the court for see my child before court day?
As a school teacher my contract is for 9 months but I get my pay stretched over a 12 month period of time, it is being argued that there is a potential of 3 months where I "could" be working so they are asking to have my salary broken down by monthly earnings to calculate what I "could" make over a full 12 month period. Is this a valid arguement?
Also, you will need a big raise, because right now you only get paid for 9 months, not 12. I worked at a school for a while. I could make more working extra days or I could take off the 3 months and get paid less. I believe that’s how it went. I had a choice. Sounds like you do too. Bus drivers do it all the time for special school trips, etc. that way they make more money.
Does having Food Stamps & Medicaid affect child custody for mom that has been the primary parent that the child lives with since birth? Child is 3 and was a stay at home and will soon get her financial life together as soon as child goes to Pre-K.
Yup. Men lose, in any dispute in family custody, especially where I live. My county still have a law that prevents any child custody case that goes to trial to end in 50/50 custody. World is full of selfish parents and lawyers that care nothing for the child. Family law judges and lawyers are the embodiment of corruption.
@Gemma Dann not the case. Can simply be an allegation. And it’s encouraged by the vultures/lawyers/other cretins as the more acrimony, the more billable hours.
@@danielstringhm3805 selecting a good reputable lawyers with decades of ligitation experience is crucial. We seen 6-7 and dumped 2 to get to my current one. More expensive but more transparent and don’t give you false information.
If your ex has had a drug problem in the past (used while in the relationship and during the first year of the child's life) but never sought treatment, but you were able to be clean during that time and relapsed but immediately agreed to testing, intensive outpatient treatment, 12 step meetings and step work, seeing a psychiatrist, etc. Then the ex decides to involve CPS and you fully cooperate with the investigations and they find no evidence of neglectful supervision.... and the ex is basing his wish to flip custody based on an arrest that was the catalyst to treatment and living a clean life... What's the best way to bring up that he had the same problem just never addressed his mental health and addiction professionally so could easily fall back into using or patterns of emotional instability?
I went to family court. Promises were made to me however they were never kept. If you are in or are going to family court never trust nobody. I can tell you from my own personal experience of not having seen my son for five years now that lies and more lies and more lies are always told just so you don’t get to see your children grow up.
You have to either have the right attorney or arm yourself with the proper knowledge. Yes it is an uphill battle for men but it is not impossible present your case carefully and dont make it about the mother. There are ways to fight corruption you just have to do it properly .
they will say you can't do this you can't do that don't worry about money you can represent yourself you just need to research and know every right to your child to your parent to what you're going up against do as much research as you can. and if I mean literally just know you're right and know your intuition don't take no for an answer and you know people say oh you need this you need that your child is priceless and you stand up you wouldn't believe what the hell I've been through
Can a lawguardian advise to take way joint custody into temp supervision based on listening to a 2 hour recording of the patents having an argument not around the child ? I did the mental health eval and she's saying she couldn't get my mental health evaluator to reevaluate?
When the requirements are so extreme it’s really hard to complete. Especially when money is all everyone wants. So I lose custody because I don’t have enough funds to pay for everything.
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What do I do when my ex is withholding??? 5050 custody and he’s been keeping her since she was 14 and it’s been goin log on for 2 years. I’ve spent 35k trying to enforce orders and be REFUSES. I am in Texas.
The biggest reason is not getting to the attorney first. I’ve know many parents who lost custody to because they didn’t get to the attorney first or can’t afford to pay for an attorney.
Hi! I’m going through a rough divorce process. My husband and me both agreed but he has now turned ugly and constantly harassing me with phone calls and texts. He blames me for everything and has threatened to take my daughter away from me. I live here in New York and I’m scared for her well being. He has a history of anxiety and drinks very often. He currently lives in New Jersey and when he been our child he barely pays attention to her. I’ve been her main caregiver I take her to school and her doctor appointments, I care for her when sick and play with her.
Regarding son being taken into state custody from solo parent in family law (when nothing to do with other parent) 1) false allegations 2) discrimination/hatecrime 3) conflict of interest
Explain the judge thing to me I can explain to you how to get it changed to a different location I also can tell actually what state are you and I might be actually really help you have a friend first whilevhe's a lawyer second but wants me now in his office for a pi and I'm getting my well something is amazing but now I'm going to be his paralegal but I don't want to miss the hard way that girl standing here and know the right for your child and yourself and the divorce halls in your state and stay in your ground. I mean CPS oh my God you you wouldn't believe it what was told on me and let the lies and once your light on so much you almost believe it but guess what now if you're talking intuition you know and it don't hesitate to go like a templates for a judge but I have the greatest one of all that I can give you that actually is more spiritual and is meaningful cuz I just feel like you have good intentions. And I know people be like I'm about you don't do that no do that. And don't always trust these guardian ad litems I've had three people discard actually it was my phone who's 12 and I'm only with that and my daughter is now 21 and have a beautiful granddaughter that's too and my my son is doing better than my daughter who they kept apart I never lost custody of my daughter but believe the stigma of being an addict how unbelievable when the only thing that happened was their father passed away and this idiot boyfriend lied and drug the mother and yes we're friends again and I saved her
How do I know for sure if I have a sole custody even though I divorced him in court after domestic voilence and I do see it says in the divorce paperwork that I have the custody but is that enough for me to prove or do I need to go to court and file another paperwork for that any one with any suggestions
My friend went through an insane battle in court in Florida won the case had a signed order for the sheriff to get his kid and his x ran to Pennsylvania. He tracked her down in pa and when he showed the court his rulings from Florida they told him he has to do it all over again in pa cause what happened in Florida was in Florida not pa. How is this possible? I thought a courts ruling in one state goes for all of America
It’s not like that you have to go in PA hire a attorney and submit that Florida judge order wait one week Pennsylvania court they going to check and decide if they want to be part of the order and then they going to make the Florida order to be a Pennsylvania order too. Sorry my first language I Spanish.😅 but I had a situation like this before it cost me a lot of money and stress but I bring my daughter back don’t worry they said the same thing to me but I fight.
I have 8 kids, the first set I did alone without his help, the second set still doing it alone, but he's trying to step up now that we're in divorce. I mean, we are 50 years old. I've been fighting alone basically for 31 years. Now he's making me the bad parent, In all reality, I'm about to walk away. All my children know who was there and has been there for them. Heck, I need a break anyway😅 it's just so hard to do. But he has my mental state of being a single parent in a marriage. Or past addiction to pain meds. I just took a drug test and passed it without a court order. So let the game begin, for months I've said what needed to be said. And I've accepted whatever is granted I'm fine with. 9 more years on the youngest one, she'll be back if I lose her. And she will give her dad he'll for making me lose her. She's just as feisty as I am.❤😂
Also, remember a police report isn't all that you'll need. Remember to save and include any messages, voicemails or video you have supporting the claims of abuse.
So I need advice my boyfriend has a daughter of previous relationship. She’s 10months lives with her mother in NY. My boyfriend and I are in California. He wants custody of his child. CPS was called by the mothers best friend because the mother is yelling at the child leaving the child unsupervised along with picking the child up from daycare without any foot wear one. The mother has a history of mental illness and has admitted she is aware of her actions but refuses help. She also has caused property damage to the best friends house which is in NY where she is renting a room from her. What can my boyfriend and I do In order to win custody of the child.
Keep record of these instances and have him contact an attorney to understand his options. We will try to create some more in depth content on this in the future!
We have multiple video evidence of this. My boyfriend resides in CA the child’s grandparents from my boyfriends side are in CA along with the Mothers side. He contacted an attorney. He is afraid the court will ask him to move to NY. How likely is that to happen since the child is only 10 months and hasn’t formed any friend connections nor teacher connections either. Plus my boyfriend is a teacher In Ca and rents his own house. While the mother of the child works at Walmart as just an employee and only rents a room from her best friend in NY. Other than that the child’s family is in CA
My ex is going back for 5050. He is engaged to someone that pled guilty to felony child abuse. He knew she had this felony and has been physical with our children since. Do you think that will count against him? I don't think they should be there with her more than necessary. He currently has weekends off work and sees them every fri-sunday.
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@@mymodernlaw family court the case has been going on since our son was 5. My mother started filing multiple restraining orders after any argument and we had with her and she has been granted every restraining order she has every asked for from multiple judges.
Good God this is giving me the willies. Maricopa County is still the Old West. This "system" is so stacked against the father. As a man, it's like going to the plate with two strikes against you before the first ball is pitched.
Good morning! If you are married and living in Pennsylvania , your husband is the bread winner can he force you to cut up joint credit cards , remove you from the health insurance and remove himself as co signer of your vehicle? Force you to pay more when you make THOUSANDS less ? Any thoughts?
Hi there, have you spoken with an attorney in PA yet? They'll be your best source of information, you'll need to let them know of your entire situation to see what options you have.
The only way he can remove himself as cosigner for the vehicle is if the loan is paid off. Keep a record of everything he's doing and keep all proof with that record.
I wish I could hire you I hire a lawyer but he has done nothing and been waiting 4 months and my baby’s mom move to AZ and I’m in C A so I had to go to court my self because this lawyer hasn’t done anything thank u for the info
My daughter's father is saying she can visit me at my house soon, to her. But he's taking me to court to remove the little visits (I go to her) and wants full legal custody, instead of joint. How can he lie to her? It breaks my heart 💜 And is this relevant to the case? I feel horrible that she's going to hate me now because she doesn't understand.
I'm under the impression that custody always comes down to what a court determines what's best for a child's welfare as oppose to what both parent want. I've seen some pretty nasty divorces and custody disputes (family and friends) and little do people realize that children are ones who gets the rough end of the stick because they must live the consequences. Its things like this which also why I also swear off dating,marriage and children...from what I've witnessed in these kinds of legal fights, I just don't have the emotional fortitude to go through things like this nor do I like to see children in broken relationships/family.
After a long, expensive custody battle, I won in December. My ex moved over 700 miles away. He has told my sons they are moving to be with him through the whole process and even after the verdict, he still tells them they are moving. He has filed a new motion but we have a mediation clause in place. Can I go alone to the hearing & say the filing on his part is improper because of the mediation clause and due process? Thank you.
Hi there, glad to hear that you won your custody battle. Do you have a mediator in place? They might have a better grasp on your entire situation and can probably give you a more concrete answer to that. Thank you for watching and sharing your story!
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@@see5597 I ended up retaining Leslie Armstrong from Charleston SC.my case was extremely complicated and messy and she was an absolute BEAST and worth every penny.I can't stress enough how amazing she was!
@susannemcdonnell3160 , my case is complicated as well, and I need a BEAST!!! Just had a bad day yesterday in court. Looking for a lawyer. A great one!!! What is her fee like if you don't mind me asking? You don't have to give the exact, but just a round about figure. I know every case is different, but I just need to see if she's in my ball park.😊
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I”m glad she admits its a game and the state is playing with parents. It’s disgusting and corrupt.
It can be, for sure. Thank you for watching!
Yes. This is great advice. Im dealing with a Narcissist ex wife after breaking away and it is the worst thing I have ever gone through. She is literally attempting to destroy my life and watch me suffer regardless of what our children think. I am so heartbroken that someone I trusted with MY LIFE would try to wound me and destroy MY LIFE so carelessly. I know and knew what a narcissist is but the complete understanding will only come to you after you fall in love with one of them and then they diminish you and dispose of you and then when they're done with that, they attempt to destroy your relationship with your kids because the narcissistic father that raised them is now "bonding" with them and getting supply from their supply coming from YOU. SICKNESS. I'm lucky my kids take after their father and see through most of the nonsense. But it's not easy watching them experience the truth and turn their head when they hear another lie from their PARENT. At first I fell for the "competition" part of it with her but now it's just heartache all around. She forces her will on all of us in order to ALWAYS get what she wants.
Yup I lost mine because of D.V. I was physically emotionally and sexually abused for years. He had family and friends in law enforcement so I was scared. I had no family living to help me. I was scared I'd lose my kids and I did.
Our country is so fuked
@@thomasfoley1699 Dealing with the same thing but mine is a psychopath! Tested 82!
Here are the reasons:
1. Bad attorneys
2. Evil attorneys
3. Attorneys
yep, money money money, theres no neutral ground here, she WINS cases.. aka meaning sombody loses.. theres no neutral ground here, its all treated to get all the money
100 💯
devil system demon lawyers
Well, you missed a few...
1. Bad Caseworkers
2. Evil Caseworkers
3. Caseworkers
Not in every case, but I do see the problem sometimes begins with an overzealous worker.
They want to make the decisions and be the one to decide. You know, have all the power.
However, they do not possess this power, so they abuse the avenues they do have.
There are cases of exaggeration, manipulation, intimidation, and straight out lies.
You know what I think is scarier that a monster? A caseworker with a power complex.
These parents are so scared and they can be easily intimidated. SO sad. Needs change!
The idea that parents have to “script a case” is actually a sign that Judges aren’t that good at or interested in hearing the facts. Good video, but I do think the takeaway is the shortcomings of the Court. Thanks for the content and advice.
Thanks for watching, Derek!
I agree. They wanted me to do it. However I did the work and because I didn’t kiss their butts. They made me take all of the courses over. Saying they never saw someone take the courses that quickly. It is a wicked system and they don’t care about those children. They never mention the name of the child they call them the child. Sad.
@@mymodernlaw hello can you please assist me... i messaged you in tiktok and would like to speak with you please i beg you
They just busted down the door and took all 3 of Christine Wall's 3 kids, soon after their special needs child was sexually abused by someone at school...She never seen her kids again for 21 days.
Country isn't going to last much longer anyways so doesn't really matter
It is extremely important that every word you state, every action you take, and every decision you make, should be centered around what is best for your child.... as opposed to what is best for the mother or the father.
Also, many people complain that they lose because they don't have lawyers. But lawyers are not the solution to this. Many people spend $200K on a lawyer and still have a terrible outcome. You are the All Star MVP of your case. I encourage you to take on that role. Do not outsource that role to a lawyer.
This is absolutely some of the best advise I've seen yet on the internet. My ex is badly losing our case for all of the reasons she spoke about COMBINED !! As dad, ive always put my daughter FIRST in every decision i've ever made, while she sat back and did nothing. Now she trying to plan catch up trying to be a mom because she's about to lose full custody permanently. Moral of the story, do it for the child ALL the time, not just when the courts are watching !!!!
Glad to hear it, Marcel!
I hope you got full custody and have a much more peaceful life with your kiddo now!
Yeah my ex is doing my all of these
That’s exactly what I’m going through I did it all for my daughter and still do it all but now my ex wants to step in only because we’re going to court and we’re separated now she wants to play mom
With all due respect... losing custody should never be an issue... it should be 50/50 unless one parent is deemed dangerous or unable to properly care for the kid... and that should be fully investigated...
Ooof with narcissistic people it's about fighting and winning
Yes, fully investigated , these days some parents use false accusations to win custody of their children to gain child support.
School age children can rarely have 50/50 custody.
50/50 isn’t better. Could you spread yourself across two homes?
Exactly... That'll either force the other parent into parenting or it'll expose them for bullshit
Good talk. After a 3+ year custody battle, where I was awarded primary custody, as a dad...I totally agree that, technically, the best strategy is that "the child is the center of the universe" and all of your parenting actions and court testimony revolves around that. But there's another piece to consider, depending on your judge. Our judge completely ignored my petitions for custody and my allegations on Day 1...and rubberstamped the mother for custody...based on 1 best interest factor instead of the totality of the circumstance. And the judge ignored me and my lawyer for 3 years...and kept rubberstamping whatever the mother wanted. So this 2nd piece is recognizing how to get around the court's bias...because it's definitely real. And I laid out direct testimony for 28 hours, detailing the mother's violence, anger management issues, suicidal threats (all of which the judge was actively ignoring until my testimony)...and undermining all of the standard gender-biased stereotypes the judge could have. I laid out undeniable testimony to prove I was the better parent across 12 best interest factors...not just 1-2 key points. And I blocked the judge from being able to just rubberstamping the mother in the Final Custody Order. So this 2nd piece is to quickly recognize if your judge is gender-biased against dads and/or incompetent...and then strategize to neutralize that, so you can have a decision in the best interests of the child....instead of a decision by a judge that just wants to get through their caseload by taking the "safe" way out and rubberstamping the mother.
Who made more income, you or the mom?
@@GentiluomoStraniero I made more than her. So, you can also say the courts were hoping to just tag me as the non-custodial parent from the start - while ignoring the facts - so the courts could maximize child support. That's another bad incentive that results in bad behavior by courts.
@@FatherX2022 It's automatic, they push to find out who the "Primary Caregiver" of the children are. I told them its 50/50, they wouldn't accept that. They got their way and the money....I only have one more month of this shit show. Now I am just trying to help create awareness of the shit sandwich politicians are forcing down men's throats. Funny how you never hear of politicians talk about this during debates....They will never bring it up on their own. They are hoping that we don't ask questions about it. Don't let a lawyer tell you you have a fair chance. You don't unless mom really screws up and it is documented.
100% a game. State does not want 50/50 Parenting Time Legislation. Because they would have to support those that don’t want to work. Statistics show family courts throughout Canada are anything but equal and fair. Criminals get treated more equally than fathers in Canada. Sad part is this is destroying families and wrecking childrens lives.
Sounds like Minnesota
Dad's reforming "Family" court....no one else is gonna do it.
You lose custody when you're up against a narcissist parent.
@@mariekiraly100 I'm going through it right now
@@jryanschulz I'm sorry.
Ive been in pretty constant custody litigation for nearly 14 years. My ex will NOT let it go.
My advice: act in good faith, dont be baited into nonsense, focus on the best interest of your kid(s). Its not always easy, especially when dealing with an abusive ex - but if you do these three things, generally, youll do alright.
Damn... aren't they raised yet??
Litigation for 14 years is insane.
If your kid was 3\4 when this started, it should be a done deal.
What is left to bitch about?
I'm a family law in Florida and have been doing family law exclusively for last ten years. Parents, please listen to this video. I am going to start sending to my clients because this is an excellent summation and vital to understand. Listen to this video multiple times-- whenever you get frustrated. It will keep you focused.
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I think courts are really taking this "we don't want to take your kids away from you" policy a little too far. I'm sorry, but if you have a substance abuse problem and you are leaving your kids with sex offenders while you smoke meth and your kids have to watch their grandparents call an ambulance for you because you have stopped breathing, the court SHOULD want to take your kids away from you. She is doing a lot of wagging her finger at parents for just pointing out the shortcomings of the other parent and saying "you have to make your kiddo the center of the universe" but why isn't the COURT making the kid the most important thing? If you want to smoke meth and hang out with sex offenders, that's on you and the court should concern itself with protecting your child's right to not have to suffer the consequences of your bad decision making. I think the child's safety and right to not be raped by a child molester while dad is stoned is more important that "respecting his parental rights." I think he gives up those parental rights every time he picks up the pipe. Instead of making the child suffer through watching that parent go through rehab and continue to be left with who-knows-who, I say give the kid to the other parent and if and when the meth-head parent decides they want to be involved with the kid again then they can PROVE they are clean and sober and a responsible adult who will have a positive influence on the kids life FIRST. THEN they can petition to have time with their kid.
Great points all, and we agree with you, sharing some of the same frustrations. Perhaps you're looking too deep into some of the things mentioned here, we're just describing a pattern that we've seen with cases in the past. Attorneys should always advocate for what's best for the children in any case.
I love this advice. It's too easy to point the finger at the other person and their shortcomings without saying how you yourself are the better parent. I'm representing myself and I think this is invaluable to help me put together a case. Thank you so much
Thats awesome! And check out winwithoutlawschool.com for more resources!
My wife left me and took our two children while I was at work four days ago. I received the divorce papers the following day. She is refusing to allow me to see them until a custody agreement is filed with the court. She is also refusing to allow me to talk with them aside from a couple random calls. I have been non stop talking with friends , lawyers and doing research since she left. The stress is now so bad it is painful. I've slept maybe 8 hours in the past four days and my appetite is inconsistent. I don't know what to do. I can't afford an attorney.
Listen to me carefully DO NOT WAIST TIME!!! get a lawyer immediately NOW! and act as quickly as possible. You have to get a lawyer immediately. you have no choice, figure it out, don't waist one day trust me.
Draft a custody agreement. Court forms are on-line. Maybe she just wants to know exactly what your timetable will be to plan around it. You have to stick to it or you’ll be disrupting so maybe your a bad planner. Why would writing a custody plan be so difficult. It’s probably about a six page form.
@nicholusbaker2830 Brother I went through something similar. Please go get a credit line, credit card or whatever you need but get a lawyer nowwww. Do not think it will get better for you. It doesn't unless you get a lawyer. I went from sleeping in my friends house to sleeping back in my house with my kids.
This is one of the better videos on child custody I've seen.
Focus on the child. Focus on solutions and be clear to the court how your solutions will help the child. Pro Se litigants frequently lose child custody cases simply because they are ignorant, unprepared, and the opposition points out their entire argument is an ad hominem to prove the other parent is a liar.
Know the law. Know the case law. Know court rules. And, most importantly, keep your child's needs paramount to EVERYTHING else.
Don't blame the system when you go to court and expect the judge to read a few texts, become outraged at your ex's behavior, and award you custody by moral superiority. YOU failed to state a logical, coherent case. YOU failed to be the advocate your child needs. Flaws are ubiquitous in all systems including family court. Learn them. Overcome them. And be the adult your child needs.
Thank you for posting the video. It's quite a contrasting source to all the other legal "advice" out there.
Thank you! I hope you subscribe!
Its not up to parents to know all the laws of the court and some parents are excellent liars. This is part of the problem with the system....they fail to know the difference and simply dont care enough dig a bit deeper. Its a sham!
As a CASA, I understand this but this is why I am sick of attorneys as this is viewed as Property Rights rather than treating the child as a human being. Pretty much telling people how to play the system and continuing this revolving door.
"The Game" is actually focusing on your child and not your pride.
When you write up paperwork as ‘In the interest of the child’, the child is considered to belong to the state. It’s in the state laws, also Uniform Rights of the Child (something like that/global). We grew up learning the ‘Public Side’ and the child is your offspring, child, seed (can’t use those words), but the word property in the law books meaning is chattel (people), and other meanings also. When the state owns your child, there is all kinds of money (bonds) running around behind the scene from lawyers, judges and others. They buy property, become beneficiaries of various companies, have their family members as beneficiaries and they somehow put hidden money there. They get rich.
When you get away from all that, your child belongs to you. Then you are living on the ‘Private Side’, instead of the ‘public side’. You go by our Constitution, not every statute that can be taken and used in any way the courts choose to twist the legalese, in order to make the most money. I certainly don’t understand this whole process. There is so much we have been deceived about since our birth and when we were issued social security numbers. Thankfully, this is not my fight because I don’t know enough, only the tip of the iceberg. Hope that helps a tiny bit. It’s still mind boggling to me how greatly we have been deceived and used our whole life, from our labors…our time and energy, to make so few so extremely rich.
Also, People lose custody of their children when the court leave out evidence and distort information.
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I have a question since you were/are a CASA worker.
If a father has a child with two woman. The second child has an open CPS case (born addicted).
Would you interview the first mother as a character witness for the father?
@@mymodernlaw "The Game" is about your control and your profit
I was a legal secretary - I did your billing. I sat there and listened to you morons practice your lies in your opening and closing arguments for years
Your liars and leeches
I’m so frustrated that my son is being used as a tool to hurt me because my wife and soon to be ex wife is mad at herself. Makes me angry and sad.
So true though like mental health. I never imagined seeing my son so angry and confused, frustrated.
Yep same happening to me
My sisters is going through the same thing. It all happened all at once when my ex brother-in-law’s decided to team up against my sisters, turning their daughters against them. I lost three nieces in this process.
20 year school teacher. Never charged with a crime. I am the epitome of the silver bullet scheme. Lost my 3 girls, 2 dogs, home, career, and possessions. Just a vessel now. Thrown away like garbage. Married my childhood sweetheart. 30 years later, treated like garbage. Just a vessel now. Life uses tragedy. The end can’t come soon enough for Silver Bullet Scheme recipients. Anybody can run to the court with a lie and destroy a man. The American Dream is dead to me.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss, hopefully things will start to go your way in 2022. Thanks for watching!
@Sandy Cheeks I am alone. Sleeping couch to couch. My car. A motel. My matter… So very common. I am a typical throw away. Nothing I can do about my destiny other then cope. Your suggestions. Yes, meaningful and purposeful. However, 20 years as a public school teacher. Damn good one too. My cancer battle. Now coparent with the government or never see your children again? Sorry. I’d rather die in my sleep. And I hope I do. The system is so broken. After pouring my heart into my own destiny. Career. Hopes. Dreams. I never needed so much help to be a nobody. Once the government is invited into your affairs… doom is a guarantee. Men are expendable. Suicidal ideation. Common for men like me. Being a somebody for my children. That’s I knew. Having the state come in and rob me of my livelihood. What the hell do I have to live for now? The experiment is a failure. An American tragedy. My ex should be I charged with a crime. Setting me up and stringing me along. Lost my job. Had to sell the cars to pay for lawyers and doctors. My 3 girls… I miss them so very much. I married into wicked madness; watching family members being banished. Theocratic bullying. As if my cancer was an enhancement. There should be suicide clinics at Will County court for Silver Bullet Scheme recipients. The American Dream is Dead to me. Once terminal, I will qualify for assisted suicide. My ex wife threw me away. Used the system and accomplished a diabolical scheme. No longer a great catch. Cancer, an ugly business. I pinned my stars on the devil indeed. I’ve been a zombie since 9/13/19. Bogus unfounded DCFS and a bogus order of protection. So set up. All designed. I hope my story helps other people one day. I’ve done all I could. Please share my circumstance. ‘…here is what can happen to a man in America once the government infiltrates.’ The end can’t come soon enough for men like me. Cry myself to sleep and regret waking up. So very sabotaged. I fear my government and no longer care to be an American. Fraud, corruption, extortion. Hell of a way to capstone my life. I used to be a somebody. All it takes is a bitter woman and help from the government. Now I’m a nobody. Truly, it’s a wonder I made it this far. I wish I died on that operating table. Fighting for my life, 70 chemos, 30 radiations. Major surgeries. I used to be a fighter. Now penniless and hopeless. Parent alienation and the silver bill scheme sponsored by my ex and agents from the state. It’s an ugly ugly story. So undeserving of the outcome. I’m not going to survive my plight. Who in the hell would care to at this point?
@@AllDayKiller serious question but do you have any history of alcohol abuse or drugs? Not trying to sound judgemental but there has to be a reason why this happened... A lie isn't enough to take everything
@@happytrailsgaming I don’t drink, or smoke… I was diagnosed with cancer… lost a spoke so to speak. No longer a good catch. Sabotaged. Cancer is an ugly business. Rather of had taken a silver bullet to the head. For better or for her Daddy. The silver bullet scheme is real. The one with the most money wins the constitution. All it takes is a lie and your life is over. I can help make it possible for your target too. The system is broken. Having my deposition taken tomorrow. Being forced to remove my videos. The American Dream is Dead to me now. Share my story please. May help somebody one day. I have a cause and a testimony. My days are numbered indeed. The 9 most terrifying words in the English language have me. I can consult with you and make it so your spouse seeks assist suicide. Starts with a bogus order of protection… watch & read my descriptions in my videos.. I have a cause and a testimony. Plus coping. Most men would have taken their life. So easy to dispose of a man in this era. An injunction was had about my music… it tells the truth. Being forced to take down. Not going to. Rather die than capitulate at this point. My life is an American Tragedy. Yes, all it takes is a lie. 20 year public school teacher… treated like a career criminal. Go fill out a bogus order protection with a bogus claims… step one of the silver bullet scheme. Lost my 3 girls, 2 dogs, home, possessions, career, and hope. Most men would have taken their own life. I’m just a zombie in shock now. Pray I die in my sleep. The fraud, corruption, & extortion that has infiltrated my life. So easy to make possible. I pinned my stars on a nightmare come true. Nobody believes me till I share the footage of my Ex FILs daughter’s deposition. So easy to destroy a man. Will County Illinois made it possible. 20 year public school teacher… never needed so much help to a nobody till the government got involved. My death… a state mandate. Nothing clinical. Fraud won.
@...on the Fly I will pray for you my friend. God said "lean not on your own understanding... I know the plans I have for you. Plans for good and not for evil." Take care of yourself my friend. The Lord said "I will never leave you nor forsake you." Have hope and faith my friend. Take care.
Hey *Digitsaltruthseekers,* just wanted to express my gratitude for your exceptional work. Your attention to detail and professionalism were instrumental in helping me win my divorce case. Your team truly sets the standard for excellence !!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh it's truly a game where I had no idea what level of cruelty she would arrive at to win. I didn't lie in court, she did. I didn't lie to casa, she did. Her lawyer attacked me and so did the casa worker I had no chance to rebuttal at all while my lawyer was texting during court. I got vaporized and I was taking her to court for contempt cuz I hadn't been allowed a visit in 7 months. I've been speechless ever since. Judge is considering me paying for both sides of I take her to court a 3rd time for her contempt. Haven't had a visit in over a year. Did nothing wrong at all. She just thought I didn't deserve to see him. It's crazy.
I understand completely. I’m in the situation now with my wife. She has lied and coached my 2 oldest daughters. CPS and the sheriffs backed her with literally zero evidence. It backfired on her and our children with Alabama removing the children over the claims. She told me she would tell the truth about lying to get the kids back and we would move past it together. Instead one day before court she made the most outrageous claims ever and said I was going to take the children by force from their school, shoot the place up, blow up the social service office and it end my life with suicide by cop. Just unbelievable stuff. But the sheriffs and CPS ate it all up and even arrested me on a felony solely on her word. I was all over the news, FB, and front page of the paper. Got suspended from my job and was looking at 10 years. The judge was the only one with sense and threw it out at the first hearing. They just recently got out of foster care where they were split up for 6 months. We have 5 kids. My 4 year old is a daddy’s boy through and through. Even CPS has that for the record. The kids were sent to live near my wife with her father while we await the final civil court hearing involving the removal. After only one month their my daddy’s boy is telling me he doesn’t love me or like me and I hurt him. Obviously more coaching and emotional abuse. At the end of the visit when he had to go back with his grandfather he said he didn’t want to go. He wanted to go with daddy and that he loves me and I’m his best friend. He is so confused by what she and the system by proxy has done to him. It is so wrong. I pray to God the judge will see all this for what it is and send them home to me. Back to love, stability and normality.
I know. It's like drowning but you just can't die.
@@1zackdudeit’s been a year since you commented. I hope and pray the judge saw the truth and you’re reunited with your kids now,
@1zackdude this terrifies me. I have my first custody date today. We had both agreed to never do this and here I am.
What scares me is my own situation could make this case bad. I have been jobless for a year with mental health issues. I already know she's a serpent,so I feel it's about to get brutal. My poor son is furious at her for this because he knows what I'm going through outside of this.
I have nothing to offer anyone. I've been broken by the women in my life.
Just plain beaten down for decades. It's too much.
I already do all of this! Especially over text message with Dad Bc it’s about my child’s needs!! I want my BD to win!! However he isn’t properly caring for our child and she shouldn’t have to suffer.
So my mother's actions towards me has caused me to have panic attacks, mental breakdowns, 30 mins of crying twice a week, anxiety, and has even even more psychical effects to happen to me like stomach aches. Would that be a good enough reason to get her custody taken away? Btw I want her custody to get taken away and have more reasons for her custody to get taken away.
Also can kids go to court? I want my voice to be heard and for the judge to hear me say it so that they know it's me.
You should reach out to DCS or your extended family. Good luck!
@Gemma Dann CPS isn't there to help. Theri job is to funnel vulnerable children into Foster Care to make money off of them.
Raven don’t tell anyone this foster care is worse. Abuser always win on custody court . Judges are psychotic
@@bashemadonI In my circumstances I wouldn't be going into foster care bc my parents are divorced so I'd be able to stay with my other parent. My other parent is an actually good parent unlike the one I was describing.
edit: my parent (the bad one) has had incidents in the past that have shown that she doesn't learn her lesson and doesn't change unlike my other parent (the good one) has proved that they can change and be better.
@@coalesce3333 hey don't worry I wouldn't be placed in foster care bc my parents are divorced so they'd just take away her custody and give full custody to my other parent probably. Btw my other parent is very nice and a good person unlike the other one I was talking abt.
Tip of the life time, don't argue with the judge.
They are not real judges they are contractors with title iv-D .
bs, all depends on the judge. If the judge is an ass.hole, it doesn't matter if you argue with the judge or not, no matter what you do and how nice you are through the process, The judges will decide how the hell they want to feel their power over you.
@@mvladalenav most county judges are subcontractor for title iv-D with attorney general child support meaning they are ignoring their oath/job as judge and only thing they care about is generating income for the county thru “services” either being domestic relations services, classes (bipp/parenting/job services/counseling/probation etc). Refuse to believe the judges follow their oath . We have to say we accept their oath and formally tell them we accept it and demand they honor it. Otherwise it’s a crap shoot
Of course. They’re all power hungry sociopaths. I’ll be damned if I ever agree with a judge when they’re wrong.
They are right EVERYTIME. Don’t question them and treat them like
Gods, ALWAYS
I have the same problem and I don't know what to do. My world is destroyed . I haven't had a regular visit for over a year. I did everything she ever wanted me to do to see my baby girl but it's never enough for her. I need Prayers please I have no money for a lawyer but her mom gives her all she needs for a lawyer and her ex husband who knows of the abuse I've gone though and helped the other one making the number of lawyers at 2 against me defending myself. Please prayers are needed for me and above all Raven, she is only 10 years old but I only had 1 year taking care of her and then court battle after court battle since. oct 30 marks 10 years. I feel so lost I don't know what to do or where to go for help since Fathers have no rights in the Liberal Family Court System.
There’s a huge challenge when the children are pre-verbal and when you’re coparenting with a stranger. You’re going to see a lot more of this as hookup culture proliferates. How do you suggest dealing with these issues in high conflict child custody?
If you have two newly single people with children in the mix, it's best that both sides have an understanding that top concern is the safety and happiness of the kids. No matter how volatile the divorce is between the adults, or who else comes into the picture as far as significant others, each parent should be able to trust that the children are in a loving, secure environment when they are with the other parent. A little transparency can go a long way.
Also, People lose custody of their children when the court leave out evidence and distort information.
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Scary.
My attorney is telling me that I cannot talk about anything you've saying about the negative actions the other parent has taken and how it negatively affects my children or how I affect my children's lives in a positive manner. He says it's only at trial where that can be presented. In Florida.
Fire your attorney and document anything you want. That’s what declarations do.
My attorney in Hawaii is saying the same thing Trial would be another $10k What did u do? Settle?
@@taramiller4989 I fired my attorney and learning and preparing my own papers, trial is in September
This is not the case here in Tulsa, my daughter, worked and my grandson in school, but the judge did not even consider her. She just gave sole custody to the father.
Well I feel better now. Thank you makes since and I have been fighting and doing everything for the children best intrest
Hi do you have a VERY aggressive and sharp lawyer to recommend in San Diego ?
Hello Shara! Feel free to contact us at (480)-571-0346 or info@mymodernlaw.com and we can help you with a referral!
Just recently my ex served me with paperwork to modify our current child custody order. I did ask him to do that bc he tried to tell me that I have to go to the court with him to modify the order. I believe that he is manipulating our 10 almost 11 yo into living with him. I do my best to let him get more time out of our order and he’s a great dad. I just feel like he is always attacking me when he does not get his way. I have even gone as far as to get his $5000+ in child support wiped clean bc he couldn’t pay it. I can’t say I am a perfect mother but I do my best being a mom of 2, full time school and working 35 hours per week. As much as I love my daughter and do understand her wants of living with dad, I just feel that it is best that she lives with me. She has a learning disability and has a great relationship with her teachers and she needs the stability and routine. She is easily distracted. It just seems that whatever I put out on the table he is not willing to take. He wants her to live with him weekdays and she can live with me weekends. What can I do?
Hi there, have you tried a mediation? Perhaps you can sit down as a family and find out what your child really wants to do, and what is in her best interests. Hearing all of the sides of the story can be helpful to everyone involved.
Great explanation and example of acting from the child's best interest perspective.
Glad you liked it!
Am grateful for your help I don't hav any of those things but I do need to talk to family lawyer I hav my kids almost 5 months and I would like to have full custody
You're welcome! Thanks for watching, Abruz.
The state can only gets involved when
1.) you let an agent the State of “?” Say, “I pronounce you Husband and Wife”.
2.) Get a Birth Certificate.
3.) Get a SSN.
4.) Be Naturalized as a U.S. CITIZEN.
5.) Forgot to ask for the Contact that you gave you child to the STATE.
6.) Forget to ask for the Judge’s Oath or Affirmation to support the Constitution.
7.) Hire a Lawyer; (Their first duty is to the Court, not the Client.) [Special Appearance vs. General Appearance.]
8. Do not have a National Identification Card!
9.) Public Law 856.
10.) The American Declaration on the Rights of Indigenous People. (Only for Americans of the Continental America) not to be used by U.S. citizens.
Genesis Ch 10:6-20; Public law 97-280.
No wonder nobody likes lawyers
As a social worker involved in these cases, this is the most accurate and perfect explanation. Dead on! The child ALWAYS comes first
Always! Thanks so much for watching!
Also, People lose custody of their children when the court leave out evidence and distort information.
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of course but the problem is there are correct people everywhere I just agreed with a wonderful casa worker in the casa worker that I had was paid off and had four children in a hurry and was trying to explain things to me when I had tested in my daughter never had a reason to lose her and let me tell you my son was illegally taking it I mean it was just disgusting and it is now come out that the woman I mean she's not working anymore it's awful and I can't get that time back and the lovely mediation crap oh the lady was paid off too I mean literally the therapist
I need to speak with a social worker by the way because the hacking when I'm about to do this channel it is actually come full circle and I would love to speak with us social worker that possibly would be willing to help me or just give me an advice or agree with me by the way I just want you an opinion, my case got hacked a long time ago and it well I might explain in an email not on here I would really appreciate it
You're a social worker? Then you're part of this messed up corrupt system... You're the one writing fake dossier's. I did that for a living also - how many intake sheets did you fill out accusing a mother of every horrendous crime so you could submit that to get the funding?
How many raped beaten women did you take down by calling in their abusers and using their testimony against them?
Did you learn misogyny in college or did your mommy teach you this?
You're a social worker - you're the one taking down these children to begin with - getting your bonuses and kickbacks for placing kids in Job corps
Writing false statements - screwing with parents who already have their backs against the wall to begin with
You are abused growing up - we know who you are in college. We did not want you at our parties, our dining hall table... You're the one that we have to run to your Emotional rescue every time you got drunk.
You're the problem
Woah. I was mesmerized. Great speaker … personable and knowledgeable
Thanks so much, David! Glad you're here!
Hello, can you recommend someone in the Northern California area? I'm in between Sacramento and San Francisco. I have a case that opened 2 weeks ago.
I have a questions please if i may.
My wife coerced me by fear of divorce and tricked me into leaving the US part way through a visa application 1 week after my daughters birthday. I had signed my daughter as a US citizen born abroad 10 months prior and moved to the US as a family doing my visa from within the country. We lived in the UK for 2 years together.
I'm a UK citizen, wife is US citizen.
She was the only person who ever dealt with the immigration lawyer on my behalf. I never once spoke to them myself until a later date.
I later found out she was supposedly cheating on me over there in PA, to note. To which I was catching onto and questioning it after seeing all the signs; but could not prove that there and I'm pretty sure now, that was the reason for my removal, before her exposure.
Turned out it was her brothers best friend and or family friend.
She had asked me for a divorce 2 weeks prior; and a week prior to me going. However, we talked, and both agreed...a plan to fix things. Aparently.
She informed me that I was able to go and come back into the US and had contacted them to check, and was ok to do so.
We both signed a contract or signed letter saying that if i left on sabatical, time apart for a break, when I came back, things would be ok as she had been terrible, distant and really abusive for months prior and I was willing to do that for a few months, to save our marraige and family.
She broke it off 2 weeks into me being in the UK, 2 hours after putting me into a group chat with her x. Blamed it on my daughter. From the 2nd day I already started to panic as she wasn't really trying.
After that, I contacted the lawyer to come back and was informed that she never even notified him or even asked any questions if did considering it's importantance. It was totally pre meditated.
Lawyer is refusing to provide me with exact communications at this time, however i still have that email saying they wasn't informed. I thought by PA state law they must retain that all for 5 years. Wheh i contacted the lawyer to come back, instead of trying to resolve it, she stopped it dead by telling him we were separated. Visa route then cancelled, even petition route.
I now have a 3 year ban from the US alienated from my child.
She has now moved to florida with her older sister.
I have evidence of messages prior to leaving showing our conversations, I have the so say contract, I have emails from the lawyer stating that she never notified him, that she killed off my visa route ,evidence of said group chat, and I have messages from that date to now; of her being absolutely inhumane thereafter. It has been horrendous all the while I have tried and done all the right things to sort things out and look after my daughter. My mental and physical health has been obliterated and so has my relationship with my daughter by this. I have been in hospital from heart issues from stress, also a mental health practitioner still ongoing.
I have still despite this, made sure i have sent money over every month for my daughter. Much more than I can afford if I'm honest. However I have asked for documentation to prove her said expenses as I cannot trust her after that, but despite asking weekly for months, she thought it acceptable to provide me nothing but wallmart screenshots, a self made list on messenger and a screen shot of half a screen and has been trying to extort me for her exadurated and demanded amount of money totally disregarding anything she has done, my now finacial situations and ny health, or her behaviour in all this at all. She is now sending me divorce papers, custody papers and child support papers along with her audacity some time soon.
I believe her to be mentally unstable to do such a thing. Who does that to the other parent after sacrafices i have made? I now at this time, believe her to be a malignant narcissist as she has been extremely violent and abusive to me in the past and she has done nothing but gaslight me, and has completely disenfranchised me of my child and visa and has shown absolutely no apathy whatsoever with anything. It's really sick and upsetting. She's done that to a baby not just me. I let the abuse go for years because i love her. Still do sadly but i'm now starting to break the trauma bond that was really pinning me down. It has been extremely confusing and heartbreaking that she's done this considering I was a model husband and father there. I honestly was. Everyone else is confused aswell but have done nothing. But recently, i was informed by several opinions; why she's done all this without remorse. Most likley the aforementioned condition, sadly of a very concerning NPD issue. This is not acceptable on my daughter, or myself. I can prove everything I've said with evidence of all but I'm not sure what to do. Im genuinely scared and I really need help with this please.
Do you pr anyone have any advice please. Thank you.
I am so blessed to have found this
Thank you!!!!!! This is what I’ve been searching for a video that explains how family court works!
Thank you for sharing. My ex-partner is on police bail for rape. Child was present during an incident. There was an ongoing emotional abuse and coercive control. The father has PR and my solicitor is advising to stop the contact altogether and to go to court. May I please ask for your opinion? I have audio evidence of everything
Listen to your solicitor.
Is there anyway I can hire you or someone you recommend??!!! I don’t have much money but I really really really need help!! Even the judge cut me off and told me what I’m saying doesn’t matter.. I had to remind the court im the petitioner and they looked at me funny. Im in Nashville TN and I could REALLY use some help!!! My child’s mother continue to keep me away from my son when it’s convenient for her
So sorry you are going though this.
I need help and advice but I live in Texas do you have any suggestions?
This was very informative. Thank you so much. I would love to see a video regarding what the parent without money for a lawyer should do when a parent with money for a lawyer challenges them for full custody. Money isn't everything a child needs, but lack of money can't just be ignored, either. However, there are times when the parent with money can behave in an aggressive manner and try to scare the one without money into believing their case is doomed from the get-go. How should the parent that can't afford representation proceed?
Hey can anyone help me with this? So I just got my divorce papers and my soon-to-be ex-wife is trying to get full custody of my oldest child 15, I have two other ones that she is fine to do 50/50. I adopted her two years and now she is stating never wanted her. What is the best way to get 50/50 of her?
Hey I have a question my referee didn't allow me to speak. She let the respondent speak for 20 seconds then she appointed the mom and the dad and the kids a lawyer and I the person who raised them for 3 years she said you get your own lawyer...She said you are the just the cousin/petitioner...does she have that jurisdiction to appoint lawyers without hearing all the testimony
If I sent a text trying to negotiate with my sons dad to sign or agree for sole custody for no child support but didnt agree can he use this to sway the judge so that he wont pay child support
Another problem in the case of how you discipline is if you're not doing any of those things because they're not working then they use that against you to say that you are not trying to discipline or gain control of your child simply calling you lazy.
Can ppl from PA reach out for guidance and a consult?
Unfortunately, I only have jurisdiction in Arizona.
Hi I do have a question I have my first court day for Parenting time and access soon and the Mother decided that I can see my son 3 days before court day. Is this could be a trap from her or I will be violating the court for see my child before court day?
I don't like how you automatically started to assume it was the "father" was the bad guy.
We have both male and female clients, this video shows no bias toward gender. Any reference is simply a "for instance", thanks for watching!
@@mymodernlaw detroit mi ?
As a school teacher my contract is for 9 months but I get my pay stretched over a 12 month period of time, it is being argued that there is a potential of 3 months where I "could" be working so they are asking to have my salary broken down by monthly earnings to calculate what I "could" make over a full 12 month period. Is this a valid arguement?
great question- you can absolutely ask to annualize your income
Also, you will need a big raise, because right now you only get paid for 9 months, not 12. I worked at a school for a while. I could make more working extra days or I could take off the 3 months and get paid less. I believe that’s how it went. I had a choice. Sounds like you do too. Bus drivers do it all the time for special school trips, etc. that way they make more money.
Does it apply to adoptive parents
Hey can you come to Tulsa.
The only tactical error made was I asked the judge if she was appointed or elected.
Does having Food Stamps & Medicaid affect child custody for mom that has been the primary parent that the child lives with since birth? Child is 3 and was a stay at home and will soon get her financial life together as soon as child goes to Pre-K.
Why do they lose custody:
The court: male
@Gemma Dann that's sad truth father almost never win custody over child
Yup. Men lose, in any dispute in family custody, especially where I live. My county still have a law that prevents any child custody case that goes to trial to end in 50/50 custody.
World is full of selfish parents and lawyers that care nothing for the child.
Family law judges and lawyers are the embodiment of corruption.
@Gemma Dann not the case. Can simply be an allegation. And it’s encouraged by the vultures/lawyers/other cretins as the more acrimony, the more billable hours.
@Gemma Dann I’ve seen it written to lawyers clients and heard it as advice! Absolutely disgusting industry when children are involved
@@danielstringhm3805 selecting a good reputable lawyers with decades of ligitation experience is crucial. We seen 6-7 and dumped 2 to get to my current one. More expensive but more transparent and don’t give you false information.
If your ex has had a drug problem in the past (used while in the relationship and during the first year of the child's life) but never sought treatment, but you were able to be clean during that time and relapsed but immediately agreed to testing, intensive outpatient treatment, 12 step meetings and step work, seeing a psychiatrist, etc. Then the ex decides to involve CPS and you fully cooperate with the investigations and they find no evidence of neglectful supervision.... and the ex is basing his wish to flip custody based on an arrest that was the catalyst to treatment and living a clean life... What's the best way to bring up that he had the same problem just never addressed his mental health and addiction professionally so could easily fall back into using or patterns of emotional instability?
These rules are dangerous to children. Every time the parent with addiction issues gets a pass, it's another opportunity for that child to be harmed.
Hello, I have a few questions? Before I ask, I must ask another how does one come into contact with the TH-camr?
It’s cold out here for dads
yup...freezing cold...
I went to family court. Promises were made to me however they were never kept. If you are in or are going to family court never trust nobody. I can tell you from my own personal experience of not having seen my son for five years now that lies and more lies and more lies are always told just so you don’t get to see your children grow up.
trust me its terrible how ppl will lie in the judge face after the sworn oath
You have to either have the right attorney or arm yourself with the proper knowledge. Yes it is an uphill battle for men but it is not impossible present your case carefully and dont make it about the mother. There are ways to fight corruption you just have to do it properly .
Not fair at all, hoping things work out for the best for you, Jeremy.
they will say you can't do this you can't do that don't worry about money you can represent yourself you just need to research and know every right to your child to your parent to what you're going up against do as much research as you can. and if I mean literally just know you're right and know your intuition don't take no for an answer and you know people say oh you need this you need that your child is priceless and you stand up you wouldn't believe what the hell I've been through
That’s exactly right, all lies and hearsay but no facts at all
Can a lawguardian advise to take way joint custody into temp supervision based on listening to a 2 hour recording of the patents having an argument not around the child ? I did the mental health eval and she's saying she couldn't get my mental health evaluator to reevaluate?
Hello. Which law allows you to audio record a courtroom ( during a virtual meeting ) to prove that a judge is totally breaking the law ?
4:44 - 4:52...yes, this is KEY 🎯
When the requirements are so extreme it’s really hard to complete. Especially when money is all everyone wants. So I lose custody because I don’t have enough funds to pay for everything.
That’s ALL this is a racket to use your kids to drag us males through the family court system. Get your wallet out.
How would it go, if the grandparents has guardianship.
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What do I do when my ex is withholding??? 5050 custody and he’s been keeping her since she was 14 and it’s been goin log on for 2 years. I’ve spent 35k trying to enforce orders and be REFUSES. I am in Texas.
My mom and step dad shouldn't have had custody of me to begin with, from what I've just heard. I was abused 50 times worse than what you've just said.
If there's anyway you we can help you find some help in your area, please let us know. Thank you for watching!
Look they only take children to abuse them. If your already actually abused they leave you.
Thank you for sharing this.
You have great information!
What about severe parental alienation?
What is that?
That is what my partners ex is claiming we are doing but she's been on drugs for so many years we have just been protecting them
These are some of the hardest cases. You definitely need an experienced attorney to help.
The biggest reason is not getting to the attorney first. I’ve know many parents who lost custody to because they didn’t get to the attorney first or can’t afford to pay for an attorney.
Hi! I’m going through a rough divorce process. My husband and me both agreed but he has now turned ugly and constantly harassing me with phone calls and texts. He blames me for everything and has threatened to take my daughter away from me. I live here in New York and I’m scared for her well being. He has a history of anxiety and drinks very often. He currently lives in New Jersey and when he been our child he barely pays attention to her. I’ve been her main caregiver I take her to school and her doctor appointments, I care for her when sick and play with her.
Thank you this great video help me rethink a lot of my tactics. Your right I can’t focus on the other only my children and myself.
Good luck! you got this.
@@mymodernlaw help more children see their fathers and STOP charging parents ffs. You can get another job if you want money
Regarding son being taken into state custody from solo parent in family law (when nothing to do with other parent)
1) false allegations
2) discrimination/hatecrime
3) conflict of interest
I mean, would a judge understand or care about any of that?
The judge should care about all of that!
What do you do if you know your intuition or whatever but the judge just might not understand or something?
Explain the judge thing to me I can explain to you how to get it changed to a different location I also can tell actually what state are you and I might be actually really help you have a friend first whilevhe's a lawyer second but wants me now in his office for a pi and I'm getting my well something is amazing but now I'm going to be his paralegal but I don't want to miss the hard way that girl standing here and know the right for your child and yourself and the divorce halls in your state and stay in your ground. I mean CPS oh my God you you wouldn't believe it what was told on me and let the lies and once your light on so much you almost believe it but guess what now if you're talking intuition you know and it don't hesitate to go like a templates for a judge but I have the greatest one of all that I can give you that actually is more spiritual and is meaningful cuz I just feel like you have good intentions. And I know people be like I'm about you don't do that no do that. And don't always trust these guardian ad litems I've had three people discard actually it was my phone who's 12 and I'm only with that and my daughter is now 21 and have a beautiful granddaughter that's too and my my son is doing better than my daughter who they kept apart I never lost custody of my daughter but believe the stigma of being an addict how unbelievable when the only thing that happened was their father passed away and this idiot boyfriend lied and drug the mother and yes we're friends again and I saved her
Could I lose custody if I live 60 miles from my child’s school and have a 50/50 schedule, one week with me and one week with the other parent?
How do I know for sure if I have a sole custody even though I divorced him in court after domestic voilence and I do see it says in the divorce paperwork that I have the custody but is that enough for me to prove or do I need to go to court and file another paperwork for that any one with any suggestions
You might want to contact your attorney if there is any confusion with your current arrangement or paperwork. Thanks for watching!
Thank you for this video.
Glad it was helpful
My friend went through an insane battle in court in Florida won the case had a signed order for the sheriff to get his kid and his x ran to Pennsylvania. He tracked her down in pa and when he showed the court his rulings from Florida they told him he has to do it all over again in pa cause what happened in Florida was in Florida not pa. How is this possible? I thought a courts ruling in one state goes for all of America
It’s not like that you have to go in PA hire a attorney and submit that Florida judge order wait one week Pennsylvania court they going to check and decide if they want to be part of the order and then they going to make the Florida order to be a Pennsylvania order too. Sorry my first language I Spanish.😅 but I had a situation like this before it cost me a lot of money and stress but I bring my daughter back don’t worry they said the same thing to me but I fight.
Get your kid and take them to Florida. Once your kid is in Florida your custody is nailed. Attorneys just want money for no reason.
I have 8 kids, the first set I did alone without his help, the second set still doing it alone, but he's trying to step up now that we're in divorce. I mean, we are 50 years old. I've been fighting alone basically for 31 years. Now he's making me the bad parent, In all reality, I'm about to walk away. All my children know who was there and has been there for them. Heck, I need a break anyway😅 it's just so hard to do. But he has my mental state of being a single parent in a marriage. Or past addiction to pain meds. I just took a drug test and passed it without a court order. So let the game begin, for months I've said what needed to be said. And I've accepted whatever is granted I'm fine with. 9 more years on the youngest one, she'll be back if I lose her. And she will give her dad he'll for making me lose her. She's just as feisty as I am.❤😂
So if any type of abuse is present between the father to the mother how does that work?
Also, remember a police report isn't all that you'll need. Remember to save and include any messages, voicemails or video you have supporting the claims of abuse.
@@mymodernlaw Thank you!
@Gemma Dann thank you!
Great information.
So I need advice my boyfriend has a daughter of previous relationship. She’s 10months lives with her mother in NY. My boyfriend and I are in California. He wants custody of his child. CPS was called by the mothers best friend because the mother is yelling at the child leaving the child unsupervised along with picking the child up from daycare without any foot wear one. The mother has a history of mental illness and has admitted she is aware of her actions but refuses help. She also has caused property damage to the best friends house which is in NY where she is renting a room from her. What can my boyfriend and I do In order to win custody of the child.
Keep record of these instances and have him contact an attorney to understand his options. We will try to create some more in depth content on this in the future!
We have multiple video evidence of this. My boyfriend resides in CA the child’s grandparents from my boyfriends side are in CA along with the Mothers side. He contacted an attorney. He is afraid the court will ask him to move to NY. How likely is that to happen since the child is only 10 months and hasn’t formed any friend connections nor teacher connections either. Plus my boyfriend is a teacher In Ca and rents his own house. While the mother of the child works at Walmart as just an employee and only rents a room from her best friend in NY. Other than that the child’s family is in CA
I wrote almost every word you said.
My ex is going back for 5050. He is engaged to someone that pled guilty to felony child abuse. He knew she had this felony and has been physical with our children since. Do you think that will count against him? I don't think they should be there with her more than necessary. He currently has weekends off work and sees them every fri-sunday.
If the safety of the children is being threatened, specifically by someone with a history of violence, there is something that can be done. If you need a referral outside of AZ, contact us at (480) 571-0346. Thank you!
Me and my husband are about to lose a 11 yr+ custody battle to my mother a year before his 18th birthday.
oh no. I am so sorry. This must be in juvenile court?
@@mymodernlaw family court the case has been going on since our son was 5. My mother started filing multiple restraining orders after any argument and we had with her and she has been granted every restraining order she has every asked for from multiple judges.
@@shecuteandall are you in arizona?
Yes, we are. You can contact us at 480-649-2905
Good God this is giving me the willies. Maricopa County is still the Old West. This "system" is so stacked against the father. As a man, it's like going to the plate with two strikes against you before the first ball is pitched.
Good morning! If you are married and living in Pennsylvania , your husband is the bread winner can he force you to cut up joint credit cards , remove you from the health insurance and remove himself as co signer of your vehicle? Force you to pay more when you make THOUSANDS less ? Any thoughts?
Hi there, have you spoken with an attorney in PA yet? They'll be your best source of information, you'll need to let them know of your entire situation to see what options you have.
The only way he can remove himself as cosigner for the vehicle is if the loan is paid off.
Keep a record of everything he's doing and keep all proof with that record.
I wish I could hire you I hire a lawyer but he has done nothing and been waiting 4 months and my baby’s mom move to AZ and I’m in C A so I had to go to court my self because this lawyer hasn’t done anything thank u for the info
You're welcome! Hoping for the best for you!
How about not letting the child see their father and grandmother?
My daughter's father is saying she can visit me at my house soon, to her. But he's taking me to court to remove the little visits (I go to her) and wants full legal custody, instead of joint. How can he lie to her? It breaks my heart 💜 And is this relevant to the case? I feel horrible that she's going to hate me now because she doesn't understand.
I'm under the impression that custody always comes down to what a court determines what's best for a child's welfare as oppose to what both parent want.
I've seen some pretty nasty divorces and custody disputes (family and friends) and little do people realize that children are ones who gets the rough end of the stick because they must live the consequences. Its things like this which also why I also swear off dating,marriage and children...from what I've witnessed in these kinds of legal fights, I just don't have the emotional fortitude to go through things like this nor do I like to see children in broken relationships/family.
After a long, expensive custody battle, I won in December. My ex moved over 700 miles away. He has told my sons they are moving to be with him through the whole process and even after the verdict, he still tells them they are moving. He has filed a new motion but we have a mediation clause in place. Can I go alone to the hearing & say the filing on his part is improper because of the mediation clause and due process? Thank you.
Hi there, glad to hear that you won your custody battle. Do you have a mediator in place? They might have a better grasp on your entire situation and can probably give you a more concrete answer to that. Thank you for watching and sharing your story!
My dad should've lost custody over me a long time ago then
So sorry to hear that! I hope your relationship has gotten better since, if at all possible.
Can you shorten and get to the points please.
Thank you for posting and being you
Thank you!
What was the name of the lawyer that was interviewed? Also, any recommendations on a lawyer in south Carolina (around Charleston preferably)
The lawyer in the video is Billie Tarascio but if you need help finding someone in Charleston, feel free to email us at info@mymodernlaw.com and we can steer you in the right direction. Thanks!
@@susannemcdonnell3160 , did you ever find that lawyer in Charleston? What was the outcome?
@@see5597 I ended up retaining Leslie Armstrong from Charleston SC.my case was extremely complicated and messy and she was an absolute BEAST and worth every penny.I can't stress enough how amazing she was!
@@see5597she is also highly knowledgeable what PA concerns.I ended up getting primary custody and my son lives with me now in Virginia.
@susannemcdonnell3160 , my case is complicated as well, and I need a BEAST!!! Just had a bad day yesterday in court. Looking for a lawyer. A great one!!! What is her fee like if you don't mind me asking? You don't have to give the exact, but just a round about figure. I know every case is different, but I just need to see if she's in my ball park.😊