@@reneemarquardt8941 Totally agree with you, Renee! Brendon does put in a lot of work to really understand what struggles are showing up for people and how he can best help us!
"So many people have incredibly unhealthy habits today because they never realized that they developed short-term valuation strategies to protect themselves from judgment that hit them in their youth. So, today, they keep making short-term decisions for themselves and they don’t know why.” “So often, our old judgments slow down our speed today.” "If we don’t learn to let go or forgive - ourselves or other people from past circumstances - then we’re not free today. And if we don’t feel free today […] we don’t make long-term decisions.” “If you haven’t ever done the work to forgive the people in your life that need to be forgiven - not because they need to be forgiven, but because you deserve freedom - do the work." ___ Thank you for these huge AHA-moments, Brendon! They really hit home!
Best way to stop being judgemental is to go through your own SHIZ. After going through 2 divorces, the death of a child, bankruptcy, being raped and healing from codependency I received a huge amount of judgement. Had to get to a point where I have to be my own judge and disconnect from the judgement of others. When I focus on loving others and loving myself, judgement disappears. Judgement is toxic, on both sides. Thanks Brendon.
Michelle, I applaud your strength to go through all this adversity and emerge stronger on the other side! Your story really is an example of the powers we can summon as human beings! Cheers!
The type of self-care, mentor-ship, self-reflection and healing that most people need, is not something that comes overnight. With so many distractions and habits (blinders) that people have...man, I don’t think most people realize that this work takes time, coaches, therapists etc. When I think of the attention and support team it takes to affect real change, it makes me feel a deep compassion for all those people in our society that won’t have the kind of dedicated time or attention to their self-development necessary for a self-actualized life. I think this should be part of our education and health system but with qualified teachers, coaches and mental health providers that are radically accessible to all regardless of socioeconomic identity. We all deserve it. But yes, I love the episode and you’re right. Its also necessary to clear the past in order for there to be space for clarity to unfold.
So right on this. It all varies. Sometimes change happens in a moment. Sometimes a series of moments. People like ourselves need to just be part of the solution for those closest to us and that will help make a difference.
OMG, things would have been SO different if personal development were actually a part of the education system - even just a small one. But I believe, in order to really start this process of change, we need to begin by being better friends, partners, co-workers, parents, leaders, to the people closest to us. We need to inspire a new sense of responsibility and agency!
Such an important message, especially at this moment in time. This current culture of judgement and contempt is so negative and destructive. Being judged early in life totally shut me down for years. More Love Now! 💖✨🦋
Thank you for sharing that, you're absolutely right, Farzana! I can totally relate to you, I also allowed judgment to throw me off for years but I'm glad that people like Brendon appeared in my life to help turn things around! Love your motto, by the way!
@@lukaskkramer Glad to meet you. Yes, Brendon is Awesome! So glad he helped turn your life around. I hope you'll take a peak at my More Love Now Channel. I'm a life coach, just starting out on TH-cam. 💖✨
That was the best way I’ve ever understand had Forgivenesses explained & how its connected to us on this plain. I definitely needed to hear this man. Thank you for sharing what you’ve learned with us! So grateful.
🙋This is good!! Brendon , I really appreciate how you deliver what you say in such a relaxed tone. It helps me to relax and absorb what you are saying. ☺
You are the person who gave me a lot of confidence & wisdom in my life. Watching your videos since they used to be black and white. I used to love those black & white videos. I hope you read this Lots of love from Pakistan. ♥️
Love the message as I share this with my corporate clients all the time. Being new to TH-cam I am also learning to deal with putting myself out there and to keep pushing forward.
Thank you so much. Yes Forgiving somebody, Its the toughest thing to do. I did, started forgiving person atleast, and now her thoughts are not bothering me and I have room for another positive thought.
This JUST popped up on my txt msg thread as I was “thinking” of where I am and why I’m not further along. O.M.G....perfect timing and apropos teaching is an understatement. Thank you!!! Never thought of over-value and stability because of the judgement in my youth and the cause of my short term decisions. Short term protection and short term thinker 👈🏼 Wow!! Will absolutely dig deeper here and explore this more. Incredible.
Greetings from Chicago, youre right about this!!! Ty!!!😍❤🥳🥳 I AM GUILTY!!! OUUUUUCH AND AAAAAMEN!!! I really needed to hear this and i need to release correctly and healthy!! God bless you 🙏 ❤. Its just that judgement on facts that these were real life situations happening in real time,that its hard not to call it what it was or is,and when the offender doesn't correctly acknowledge offensiveness it makes it harder to forgive and forget. Im learning though,because its true that it is all about being free indeed!!
Thank you for sharing your journey while bringing such a humorous note to it! :D You're exactly on the right track - as Brendon shared in the end: It's not about whether or not they deserve forgiveness but about giving yourself that gift of freedom!
An almost-free state is probably the sneakiest one of all. You're doing well enough to see the horizon with the blinders off, but there's no ground beneath your feet.
Hi Bustomi! Thank you for sharing what's showing up for you! Here are a few of Brendon's previous videos that will hopefully be of help for what you've described: "Designing Your Life: Discipline vs Distraction" - th-cam.com/video/uj7nihat-48/w-d-xo.html "How to Manage Projects with Excellence" - th-cam.com/video/BfDuyC39h9c/w-d-xo.html Brendon's chapter on productivity in 'High Performance Habits' is also superbly useful in this regard! Hope this helps!
Trump 2020!! Thanks Brendan , so many people are judging our potus now because media is painting a false narrative about him. This was great, thank you 🙏
Brandon thank you for your video's... only discovered you yesterday. My question is; How do you truly forgive? Or how do you know that you have truly forgiven? Lots of times I think I have forgiven and then realize that I still think about, tell about, complain about, feel hurt about what I thought I'd forgiven; so I guess I haven't actually done it yet.
Rational judgement is different from irrational judgement. In flying poor judgement can crash you in mili seconds...when in love, poor judgement of personality can take you to slow death over a period of time...its not about forgiving...its about healing..how fast,how much and how many times you can heal yourself and get up.High performers heal themselves fast.There are irrational thumb warriors but also there are also rational thumb warriors,they have reasons and evidences for getting angry, else there would not have been a court and a judge sitting on human planet.If in a flight a pilot has to put the landing gear down at a specific approach path...there is no question of not lowering it down at that point...it is life of many people depending on that lever...similarly if a webpage has to work at a particular time,it has to work ...there is no question of a technical surprise...it may be someone's life's biggest decision connected to that webpage or video content on that day. Unfortunate is not a word from professionals..there is a system,standing operating procedures and implementation instructions and methodologies,the checklists,the emergency procedures in the hands of the pilot...still if things crash because of human error and unprofessional approach...it is criminal and forgiveness is not the answer...because he failed in a rational judgement. Irrational judgements can be forgiven...the way I keep forgiving the cat down the road...regards.
Some possible ways to let go of judgments are listed below. Mindfulness. Mindfulness of your thoughts is a first step. ... Restate the Judgment in Terms of Consequences. ... Restate the Judgment in Terms of Goals or Appreciation of Others. ... Look for What is Being Left Out. ... Use Validation. ... photo credit: penelopejonze.
How can you let go of something that keeps happening every year for 10 years it’s like it doesn’t stop do you have any advice on that? That makes sense to me to forgive some thing that happened 3 to 10 years ago ,but not if it’s reoccurring with the same person
Hi Kashish, thank you for opening up about the challenges you're currently facing. Here are a couple of other videos from Brendon that will hopefully be of help to you right now: "Dealing with Difficult Times in Life" - th-cam.com/video/N81zTEp3aEs/w-d-xo.html "When You Feel Horrible" - th-cam.com/video/nHwRwsw-bE8/w-d-xo.html "How to Deal with Frustrating People" - th-cam.com/video/47vTUMkzOck/w-d-xo.html "How to Have Difficult Conversations" - th-cam.com/video/9-xmbBSeu-s/w-d-xo.html Hope this helps - you've got this!
Hi Aniket, here are a couple of Brendon's previous videos that will hopefully help: Letting Go. (How to Let Go of Bad Baggage and Good Things Whose Time Has Come): th-cam.com/video/cVinN7XVlA0/w-d-xo.html How to Deal with Disappointment: th-cam.com/video/6ygbEd-7GFg/w-d-xo.html (This is one of my all-time favorites!) The Courage to Let Go: th-cam.com/video/OJbL3ZtxtQQ/w-d-xo.html You've got this!
Just love it when the right content finds you at the right time.
I find this to be true of Brendon every time 🎁
Much Love And God Bless You
Great for you, Rishi! You've got this!
I know the feeling, it's awesome!
@@reneemarquardt8941 Totally agree with you, Renee! Brendon does put in a lot of work to really understand what struggles are showing up for people and how he can best help us!
"So many people have incredibly unhealthy habits today because they never realized that they developed short-term valuation strategies to protect themselves from judgment that hit them in their youth. So, today, they keep making short-term decisions for themselves and they don’t know why.”
“So often, our old judgments slow down our speed today.”
"If we don’t learn to let go or forgive - ourselves or other people from past circumstances - then we’re not free today. And if we don’t feel free today […] we don’t make long-term decisions.”
“If you haven’t ever done the work to forgive the people in your life that need to be forgiven - not because they need to be forgiven, but because you deserve freedom - do the work."
___
Thank you for these huge AHA-moments, Brendon! They really hit home!
Best way to stop being judgemental is to go through your own SHIZ. After going through 2 divorces, the death of a child, bankruptcy, being raped and healing from codependency I received a huge amount of judgement. Had to get to a point where I have to be my own judge and disconnect from the judgement of others. When I focus on loving others and loving myself, judgement disappears. Judgement is toxic, on both sides. Thanks Brendon.
Michelle, I applaud your strength to go through all this adversity and emerge stronger on the other side! Your story really is an example of the powers we can summon as human beings! Cheers!
How did you do that???
The type of self-care, mentor-ship, self-reflection and healing that most people need, is not something that comes overnight. With so many distractions and habits (blinders) that people have...man, I don’t think most people realize that this work takes time, coaches, therapists etc. When I think of the attention and support team it takes to affect real change, it makes me feel a deep compassion for all those people in our society that won’t have the kind of dedicated time or attention to their self-development necessary for a self-actualized life. I think this should be part of our education and health system but with qualified teachers, coaches and mental health providers that are radically accessible to all regardless of socioeconomic identity. We all deserve it. But yes, I love the episode and you’re right. Its also necessary to clear the past in order for there to be space for clarity to unfold.
So right on this. It all varies. Sometimes change happens in a moment. Sometimes a series of moments. People like ourselves need to just be part of the solution for those closest to us and that will help make a difference.
@@automationmasteryforcoache6368 You're right, we all can be role models for the people closest to us to create ripple effects outward!
OMG, things would have been SO different if personal development were actually a part of the education system - even just a small one. But I believe, in order to really start this process of change, we need to begin by being better friends, partners, co-workers, parents, leaders, to the people closest to us. We need to inspire a new sense of responsibility and agency!
Such an important message, especially at this moment in time. This current culture of judgement and contempt is so negative and destructive. Being judged early in life totally shut me down for years. More Love Now! 💖✨🦋
Thank you for sharing that, you're absolutely right, Farzana! I can totally relate to you, I also allowed judgment to throw me off for years but I'm glad that people like Brendon appeared in my life to help turn things around! Love your motto, by the way!
@@lukaskkramer Glad to meet you. Yes, Brendon is Awesome! So glad he helped turn your life around. I hope you'll take a peak at my More Love Now Channel. I'm a life coach, just starting out on TH-cam. 💖✨
Remove those short term blinders that we put on because of a past experience. #BelieveInYOURSELF
I loved that metaphor in the video, thank you for capturing it!
That was the best way I’ve ever understand had Forgivenesses explained & how its connected to us on this plain. I definitely needed to hear this man. Thank you for sharing what you’ve learned with us! So grateful.
I hope this video gets to someone that needs it
We all kinda of do
You're absolutely right, Bod! This is such an important issue that can determine the fate of a person for decades to come!
🙋This is good!!
Brendon , I really appreciate how you deliver what you say in such a relaxed tone. It helps me to relax and absorb what you are saying. ☺
I feel the same way, Brendon is such a relatable person!
You are the person who gave me a lot of confidence & wisdom in my life.
Watching your videos since they used to be black and white. I used to love those black & white videos.
I hope you read this
Lots of love from Pakistan. ♥️
Love the message as I share this with my corporate clients all the time. Being new to TH-cam I am also learning to deal with putting myself out there and to keep pushing forward.
Keep it up. People will need your content!
One of the most important videos for everyone to learn from. Thank you. I know that was a judgment.
I needed to hear this this morning, after two judgment-filled days that have left me feeling broken and helpless. Thank you very much, Brendon.
ps. You’re fat Brendon. 😉
I could listen to you all day BB.
Keep pushing through even on the bad days
Know that you've got a community of people here who will always be there to share positivity with you when these feelings come up! You've got this!
Lukas Kramer You rock. ❤️
Thank you. Time to put past behind. So many things happened that kept me feeling low. But now and a future looks bright and promising.
Thank you so much.
Yes Forgiving somebody, Its the toughest thing to do. I did, started forgiving person atleast, and now her thoughts are not bothering me and I have room for another positive thought.
WOW, congratulations on taking on the challenge and being better off for it!
Makes sense. I am not sure about forgiveness for 1 person. Rest I get.
When you’re freedom, you’re brain connect to the future.
What an AHA-moment!! Thank you for capturing it, Phan!
I am always inspired by the incredible energy you bring in my life. Thank you for these awesome episodes. I am so grateful.
wow! Very great point in that self protection leads to short term thinking! Thank you!
Thank you ❤️😊 this gives me so much clarity. I'm grateful to have found this.
so relatabale.. thank you so much Brendon
*By breaking down to the ROOTS of it, aka, contemplation work* 🙏
Wow, I definitely needed to hear this message this morning. Thank you!
This JUST popped up on my txt msg thread as I was “thinking” of where I am and why I’m not further along. O.M.G....perfect timing and apropos teaching is an understatement.
Thank you!!! Never thought of over-value and stability because of the judgement in my youth and the cause of my short term decisions.
Short term protection and short term thinker 👈🏼 Wow!! Will absolutely dig deeper here and explore this more.
Incredible.
WHOO HOO, thank you for sharing your insights and AHAs, Ivy! Seems like there are a lot of breakthroughs lined up for you!
Brendon you make my days and enrich my mind... thank you
But it also takes your commitment to show up again and again, Lorraine! AwEsOmE!
Brendon, you're reading my mind's problems through your video contents💖
Haha, I agree! That seems to be one of Brendon's superpowers!
I am the first to comment, 5th to like. A dream come true!
You nailed it, Ali - Congrats! :D
Greetings from Chicago, youre right about this!!! Ty!!!😍❤🥳🥳 I AM GUILTY!!! OUUUUUCH AND AAAAAMEN!!! I really needed to hear this and i need to release correctly and healthy!! God bless you 🙏 ❤. Its just that judgement on facts that these were real life situations happening in real time,that its hard not to call it what it was or is,and when the offender doesn't correctly acknowledge offensiveness it makes it harder to forgive and forget. Im learning though,because its true that it is all about being free indeed!!
Thank you for sharing your journey while bringing such a humorous note to it! :D
You're exactly on the right track - as Brendon shared in the end: It's not about whether or not they deserve forgiveness but about giving yourself that gift of freedom!
Thank you, I like the way you break it down. Looking forward to learning more!
wow this is so good! Thank you for sharing this!
So true! Thanks Brendon.
So needed. Absolutely amazing
I’m going to watch a video of yours a day as my long term goal.
That's a wonderful commitment, Janet! You're going to CRUSH it with so much knowledge and positivity accompanying you!
What a lesson! Thx Brendon.
Such a good video. Watched it twice
Recommendation on removing judgement and forgiveness
An almost-free state is probably the sneakiest one of all. You're doing well enough to see the horizon with the blinders off, but there's no ground beneath your feet.
really good coaching. It made me think
Now I need coaching on how to find forgiveness! And what is under the other post-its?
Working on project, I wonder how people can be consistent and overcome every challenges coming? because I tend to easily feel desperate
What kind of project are you trying to finish? And its different for everyone. Created a weekly scorecard for myself to keep myself accountable.
Hi Bustomi! Thank you for sharing what's showing up for you! Here are a few of Brendon's previous videos that will hopefully be of help for what you've described:
"Designing Your Life: Discipline vs Distraction" - th-cam.com/video/uj7nihat-48/w-d-xo.html
"How to Manage Projects with Excellence" - th-cam.com/video/BfDuyC39h9c/w-d-xo.html
Brendon's chapter on productivity in 'High Performance Habits' is also superbly useful in this regard!
Hope this helps!
Trump 2020!! Thanks Brendan , so many people are judging our potus now because media is painting a false narrative about him. This was great, thank you 🙏
Love your work
Love the term thumb warriors 😂🤣
I’ll definitely be using this, because it describes those folks beautifully
Loved this!
Brandon thank you for your video's... only discovered you yesterday. My question is; How do you truly forgive? Or how do you know that you have truly forgiven? Lots of times I think I have forgiven and then realize that I still think about, tell about, complain about, feel hurt about what I thought I'd forgiven; so I guess I haven't actually done it yet.
So good
Love this 👍🏻
Rational judgement is different from irrational judgement. In flying poor judgement can crash you in mili seconds...when in love, poor judgement of personality can take you to slow death over a period of time...its not about forgiving...its about healing..how fast,how much and how many times you can heal yourself and get up.High performers heal themselves fast.There are irrational thumb warriors but also there are also rational thumb warriors,they have reasons and evidences for getting angry, else there would not have been a court and a judge sitting on human planet.If in a flight a pilot has to put the landing gear down at a specific approach path...there is no question of not lowering it down at that point...it is life of many people depending on that lever...similarly if a webpage has to work at a particular time,it has to work ...there is no question of a technical surprise...it may be someone's life's biggest decision connected to that webpage or video content on that day. Unfortunate is not a word from professionals..there is a system,standing operating procedures and implementation instructions and methodologies,the checklists,the emergency procedures in the hands of the pilot...still if things crash because of human error and unprofessional approach...it is criminal and forgiveness is not the answer...because he failed in a rational judgement. Irrational judgements can be forgiven...the way I keep forgiving the cat down the road...regards.
Trust... people are sharks. Out for themselves
This was great
Thanks so much
Love ya vids just subscribe
Some possible ways to let go of judgments are listed below.
Mindfulness. Mindfulness of your thoughts is a first step. ...
Restate the Judgment in Terms of Consequences. ...
Restate the Judgment in Terms of Goals or Appreciation of Others. ...
Look for What is Being Left Out. ...
Use Validation. ...
photo credit: penelopejonze.
Amazing Man
Is judgement an opinion we are not supposed to voice?
How do you forgive yourself? I hear that all the time, but how?
Thank youm
How can you let go of something that keeps happening every year for 10 years
it’s like it doesn’t stop do you have any advice on that?
That makes sense to me to forgive some thing that happened 3 to 10 years ago ,but not if it’s reoccurring with the same person
🦋I’m spent, what do you do to recharge
First let me comment. Then I will watch
Could you put your merchandise on Amazon, this is Darshan from India, I just wanted to know is there a way to put them on Amazon
Brendon I feel I'm depressed.i feel I have a toxic sister how to deal with it.pleavse help
Hi Kashish, thank you for opening up about the challenges you're currently facing. Here are a couple of other videos from Brendon that will hopefully be of help to you right now:
"Dealing with Difficult Times in Life" - th-cam.com/video/N81zTEp3aEs/w-d-xo.html
"When You Feel Horrible" - th-cam.com/video/nHwRwsw-bE8/w-d-xo.html
"How to Deal with Frustrating People" - th-cam.com/video/47vTUMkzOck/w-d-xo.html
"How to Have Difficult Conversations" - th-cam.com/video/9-xmbBSeu-s/w-d-xo.html
Hope this helps - you've got this!
Brendon, how to forgive yourself?
Hi Aniket, here are a couple of Brendon's previous videos that will hopefully help:
Letting Go. (How to Let Go of Bad Baggage and Good Things Whose Time Has Come): th-cam.com/video/cVinN7XVlA0/w-d-xo.html
How to Deal with Disappointment: th-cam.com/video/6ygbEd-7GFg/w-d-xo.html (This is one of my all-time favorites!)
The Courage to Let Go: th-cam.com/video/OJbL3ZtxtQQ/w-d-xo.html
You've got this!
Only God can judge me. Standard.
Why do you always have 800000 subscribers?