There's really a line between flattery and true compliments, but most of us are not always able to detect it, because we tend to see the best in everyone else.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror for me it doesn’t feel nice to be flattered. Flattery has hidden agendas attached to it so it just gives off a cringy vibe. I like genuine compliments because their is no hidden agenda involved. Narcissists are disgusting!!!
Mine told me on our first date, “You’re not the kind of guy to date. You’re the kind to marry.” I told that story like it was a magical love story for decades. Only after the discard and my education did I learn it was a textbook red flag in so many ways!
I think you’re right about both. They think everything they say is more important and, after observing this, I think it’s part of their ploy to wear you down mentally so as to have that power and control over you. The interrupting conversations that are already being had, the short breaths between one story to the next to keep going on and on, changing of subject back to something they want to talk about (themselves and stories you’ve heard a million times), ignoring and if they see you’re about to speak they’ll amp up so you can’t. When you do speak, they make everything you say a joke, an insult or give unsolicited advice on and on before you even say what you are saying. Exhausting.
I’m busily ignoring a narcissist right now lol while they are ignoring me. What they don’t realise is that I’m not taking their phone calls or answering the door to them any more either. They might get the odd text 😂😂
There's really a line between flattery and true compliments, but most of us are not always able to detect it, because we tend to see the best in everyone else.
Yes! And also, sometimes we just fall for how nice it can feel to be flattered.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror for me it doesn’t feel nice to be flattered. Flattery has hidden agendas attached to it so it just gives off a cringy vibe. I like genuine compliments because their is no hidden agenda involved. Narcissists are disgusting!!!
Mine told me on our first date, “You’re not the kind of guy to date. You’re the kind to marry.”
I told that story like it was a magical love story for decades. Only after the discard and my education did I learn it was a textbook red flag in so many ways!
Should have ran in the other direction. Mine said I was a genius, soon he started calling me “idiot female.”
This is profound… do we “understand” that they are entitled to do whatever they want… so we will let them walk all over us.
I think you’re right about both. They think everything they say is more important and, after observing this, I think it’s part of their ploy to wear you down mentally so as to have that power and control over you. The interrupting conversations that are already being had, the short breaths between one story to the next to keep going on and on, changing of subject back to something they want to talk about (themselves and stories you’ve heard a million times), ignoring and if they see you’re about to speak they’ll amp up so you can’t. When you do speak, they make everything you say a joke, an insult or give unsolicited advice on and on before you even say what you are saying. Exhausting.
Ugh ... I wish I had known about this 30 years ago. Well I'm wise to it now.
Thank you 👍
I need to watch and rewatch this every week. ♥️👍
I’m busily ignoring a narcissist right now lol while they are ignoring me. What they don’t realise is that I’m not taking their phone calls or answering the door to them any more either. They might get the odd text 😂😂
Thank you❤for helping to break the code and helping to validate the uncomfortable felling I’m feeling are true
Dont let them talk
Word vomit, is what I call the talk talk talk. A whole lotta talking, with nothing being said.
"WORD VOMIT"? 🤭😂😂😂😂 I have never heard anyone say that! I like it! 👍👏👏👏😂😂😂❤️
You're really cute.but accurate.although I find it hard to concentrate bcz ur so pretty.
Well, thank you. That’s nice of you.
The constant interruptions are awful!!