You are not alone girl! I've been crying my eyes out for a month now because of the unknown. I'm also a planner in life and for the first time God is reminding me who is in charge. I find the alone time to be a way of finding yourself again with the time apart. Stay strong and in the moment of weakness may God be with you. In times where you are apart, "May the Lord watch you and me when we are absent from one another. Genesis 31:49. And the verse I've been clinging on to "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matthew 6:34"❤️
I cannot tell you how many times I have cried my eyes out as well (Army Wife) while my husband is gone to training or whatever the case may be! We have to stick together!
Your husband is a very lucky guy😊, many military guys would love to have someone like you that fights till the very end for the person that loves, God bless you girl 😃 stay strong 💪 and always remember FEAR NOT FOR I AM WITH YOU🙏
My husband is deployed for 12 months (sounds better than a year), he's been gone for almost 3 months now. I'm moving to our next base and will be alone. However, there's a difference between being alone and being lonely. I'm living with family right now but I am choosing to move to our next base by myself. I realized I need to continue my life and better myself. Living with family is great and all being surrounded by people but you can't put your whole life on hold during deployment. I totally understand the fear and anxiety you're going through more than you know. I am a Christian and I have found so many ways to manage all of this as best as I can. I'm praying for you! 💕
This video is so relatable, Brit!! I go through all of these fears as well because my boyfriend is in the Air Force and is stationed in Japan while I'm here in Minnesota finishing school. He's going to be there until 2018, so the loneliness and the fear of the unknown often set in. But, I am a Christian as well, so I know that God always has a plan and I just need to trust that everything will be okay. Love love love all of your videos, thank you for posting!
Thanks for your comment Annie! That is so tough and I will be praying for you guys! Thank you for your support and again reminding me of just how Great God is!
Something that really helps me in moments that I'm super anxious looking into the future & not knowing what's gonna happen, is when I think about those moments in the future i say "God will be with me then & there, with His help I can get through that. He has a plan for good!" it really helps me in the moment to calm down & focus on God & trust Him. I usually have to say it to myself a million times a day haha but I think everyone does. I'm totally praying for you Brittani & for your husband! you are so strong & God is going to do amazing things in this tough & scary time. Don't stop clinging to Him! :)
Love that! Thanks so much Maegan! I always have to say things to myself a million times too so I am glad I am not alone in that. Grateful for your support and prayers❤️
My boyfriend just left for basic training this last Monday and I've really been a wreck. Its so hard going from always being with someone and always talking to them to absolutely no contact at all. I'm in college and it has been so hard to function. I found your videos/channel and I am sooo thankful I did they are helping so much. I can't stop watching them. Thank you so much for making them!
Basic Training/AIT was very hard for me! I actually have a video posted on my channel talking about a little of my experience when my husband was away. I hope it may help you in some way!
Not a Christian, don't believe in the Christian god. However, I do believe there is a purpose for all that we experience, a lesson in every hardship, a reward/fulfillment for those who persevere. What keeps me grounded is a sense of connection to the world around me, my intention to make a positive impact in any way I can. You don't have to be of a particular faith to have this.
We aren't in the exact same situation but I'm currently, in California, while my fiancé is in boot camp and it has been a whirlwind of emotions since he left. I'm now getting a taste of what military spouse life is going to feel like once we get married and it does scare me. However, I always try to be as positive as I can be and think about how proud I am of him for going after his dreams/trying to give us a better future. Even though, I have my family, it is still difficult. I can only distract myself and lean on them so much before I have a break down and start crying because of how much I miss him. My true and only consolation has been God. I'm constantly praying for him and looking forward to when I am able to see him again. I will say that being at work helps out a lot! Lastly, I can see how you would be scared of living on your own... I , too, watch a lot of CSI and Law & Order ... Therefore, I see where your anxiety and fear would stem from, but I say that you go for it and make friends with the girl who is living next door. My plans are to live on base with my fiancé once we are married and get stationed because it will help me to form relationships with others who are experiencing the same feelings I will be going through.
Thanks Dee! I am usually extremely positive but this situation has made me crazy. Thank you for all your encouragement! Keep that positive attitude because it will be so helpful to you and the spouses around you. (: P.S. Thanks for the advice on the girl next door will have to continue building confidence haha 💕
goodness girl you had me crying towards the end! haha I'm a christian too and my husband is about to leave for an overseas PCS that I won't be able to go with him for 12 to 14 months. Needless to say my heart is shattered. God's blessed us with NO deployments/PCSing in his first 3 years in, but now this will be our first encounter. I'm reading my bible more, I'm singing worship songs of peace all day, and still... I fear. I'm afraid of being alone, I'm afraid of what "could" happen and I'm letting my thoughts go crazy over something that has yet to happen. But I know, my God will be with me. I will never truly be alone... but it'll feel like it.
I know this is two years old lol buuuut this video has helped me so much! I struggled with everything you do and my husband is leaving in a month for 10 months and I hate being alone!! (Even though I have two kids lol) but this has helped me be closer to God. A bible verse has helped me a lot: “ be joyful in hope, patient on affliction, faithful in prayer”
Praying for you girl! I'm a Christian Army wife with depression & anxiety, so I relate on all levels! But God is so faithful & He will bring you through this difficult time!!
Brit+Con thanks girl!!! Hopefully I muster up enough courage to record a little of my story & share it on my channel. I think it's so important to have a support system of some sort, even if it is internet friends haha!
My husband joined the air force back in march. We're getting stationed in New Mexico & we're from Cali. Ever since he joined I started having panic attacks. Now that the time is getting closer for the big move I've just been stressing and just crying, being away from home is something very new for me. I am very family oriented, and not a day goes by that I am alone. So moving and knowing half the time I will be alone scares the crap out of me. I will know absolutely no one, as you know. Lucky for my husband a few friends in tech school are also getting stationed where we are. I am a person that tries to ignore how I really feel. I just cannot deal with being nervous, scared and unsure about what will happen. I grew up as a seventh day adventist and for a long time I've stopped going to church and haven't studied the word of God or praised him. But these past few weeks he definately has been on my mind and I'm not sure how to get back to my roots. It's hard not knowing whats coming next. I started watching your videos and to be honest you're the only person I'm subscribed to. You've really helped me get through some things. You've also made me think about starting my own channel, we'll see. I'm glad to know I'm not alone in this. Thank you, stay strong! (:
I can tell you I have felt exactly like that. I didn't and sometimes still don't like to address my emotions. Which usually ends up with my emotion blowing up and getting out of control. Something that I encourage you to do is just sit in peace and talk to God. Not even pray just talk. I think oftentimes we think we need to go to church, read the bible, etc... and we forget to have a relationship with Him. Spend time with him like he is your friend. He is ready to listen and already knows everything that is going on in your heart. Ask him to transform your worried heart into a calm and peace-filled one. The more you talk to him the more peace you will begin to have I promise! Praying for your heart and good luck if you start a channel! 💕
You are totally not alone. Now my situation is different because I am not married, but I do have a crush on one of my best guy friends who’s at Boot Camp for the Marines right now. And it kind of sucks because I don’t get to see him, but I am excited and happy for him. I hate being alone and especially not seeing the guy that I really really care about. And I am asking the Lord if this is the one guy that I will date or even marry, and if not that’s okay...but I just have to trust the Lord because he has a plan for me. But yeah I have stress and anxiety. I overthink things too much and it gets in the way of making relationships with people. And what you said about when you think about a week ago of why did I say that or I could’ve done this, I do the same exact thing!! You are so amazing and you have been helping me to grow and you give such great advice! I am also in college and I have been working to distract me or keep me busy! ❤️❤️
My boyfriend is in the Navy as well and I have no idea what our future will be. Its so nice to hear about someone's experiences and that i'm not the only one feeling these things. Although you are in a different situation because you are married and beginning deployments. My sailor is in South Carolina and I am in Ohio, so it is hard being away and without him now, I have no idea what I will do when he goes on deployments when we are married. I am grateful for your videos because I have a huge fear of the unknown and you are a few steps ahead of me so its really nice to see someone going through what I am preparing myself for. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
Oh, girl! Will be praying for you. I'm so nervous for what's next. I know God is sovereign and in complete control but.. I want to be with my husband! Not sure where we will be stationed or what will happen once he finishes AIT. I totally understand your feelings! For loneliness-- I'm a social butterfly so I try to stay busy and spend time with friends! I'm a believer as well so definitely try to stay focused on him and plugged into my church family.
Girl, I am so thankful for your videos. Thank you for setting my mind at ease and reminding me that God's got me. I struggle with anxiety and fear, and I often feel so lost with all the unanswered questions and before I know it I am a hot mess. I have just stumbled across this video and my hubby is deploying in about a month, so I was going back and forth between going home or staying here. I am just starting to feel established here, I joined a womens volleyball league, made a couple great friends and am getting to know the area. I am also from Texas and I also live in Washington, this is our first deployment and it has been stressful going through the motions. I decided to go home and spend time with family. We can save money, I wont have to spend the winter here haha, and I just get to spend time family. Just want to say thanks again for being so open and relatable for not only the military wives, but for the woman out there that just don't really know what the heck to do. You are awesome!
Glad I could help you! It is always such a hard decision whether to stay or leave, but ultimately it is where we feel God is calling us to. Glad you are able to spend time with your family while your husband is gone. They will be great support! Leading up to the day he leaves will be tough but you can do it! Blessings to you both💕
Aww, I remember feeling every single one of these feelings when my husband deployed for the first time 21 years ago! Let me know if you need anything! Fear of rejection is tough but it can be managed! I have met so many amazing people and worked with so many amazing people that have become great friends! You can reach out to me on FB! I have perspective on both staying and going home on deployments since I've done both...
I cry my eyes out most nights because I don't have contact with him but I remberer that I am loved and supported by everyone I go for long walks and write in my journal
Being a spouse to someone in the military can be so hard. I know first hand that there are so many challenges. I'm glad that you're hitting your fears head on instead on pushing them away❤️
I have watched like 5 of your videos tonight and I cannot tell you how much you have saved my heart lol I struggle with anxiety and I absolutely love and trust the Lord AND I am in a dating relationship with an Army Lieutenant who is getting ready for deployment. I have struggled with so many of the things you have posted about already and I haven't had anyone to turn to that "gets it" and I hate putting it all on my boyfriend because I only desire to encourage him and make him feel less stressed. He has been so patient with me and so loving. SO SERIOUSLY thank you for your vulnerability! I no longer feel crazy haha and have some great advice on how to deal with military life!
Very much in love with your channel and videos. Your positivity gets me through so much. Each time he's on underway, I make sure to especially watch these videos because it just helps. It's nice knowing someone else just gets it. I would love to connect with you and not only talk about the navy and our commonalities, but also about God and our stress and anxiety tendencies. Thank you, Brit!
This video helped me so much! Thank you, I am a christian as well and I can 100% relate to how you are feeling. "You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden." Matthew 5:14 We can remember this verse in those fearful times. I can see your light girl, thanks for shining
I really love all of your videos and your honesty and openness. I hope you know that your vulnerability in all of this is truly being used for God's glory to encourage women who are going through similar things. Just watching your video made me cry. Being apart is so difficult. Thank you for doing something so beautiful with something so difficult. Please keep making your videos and thank you for always offering a Christian perspective!!!
Hey girl! I just wanted to reach out to you to first of all say thank you! When my bf left for deployment I remember the advice you gave me and it helped me so so much. Secondly I wanted to say that you are very brave for putting your fears out there. What I've learned through my time away from him is that sometimes we have no choice but to be uncomfortable. I've grown a lot through his deployment. I've become stronger and more resilient. You are an incredible person and if people don't like you or appreciate you then it's their loss. Not everyone will like us or want to be our friend but remember all the people who do love you! No matter if you go home or stay, take this as an opportunity for yourself while he's gone! If you want to talk I can give you my contact info.
Lale Mamigonian thank you for that encouragement! I forget my own advice sometimes, but you gave me that reminder! Thank you for your support💕 would also love your contact info! You Can send it through email or TH-cam message if you want!
i am such a criminal minds junkie. i watch those shows all the time but i did it while i was pregnant and got the worst nightmares. so i had to stop for a little bit. do you guys watch the office? its old but so funny! I am so glad you opened up about the loneliness struggle. It is a real thing. FOR me it's having my kids but they are more as a distraction and it makes it hard sometimes because i want to share some of those moments with him. and thank you for mentioning about God. I just emailed you. but I am new to this all so still trying to find out tips. netflix helps with going to sleep. Gosh you hit such great points in this video.
this video its so relatable.. I'm currently going threw my third deployment with my husband and we have been married for 4 years! being a military wife and struggling with anxiety its no fun.. just know your not alone. for all three deployments what has helped me deal with fear loneliness and the unknown was being close to family. stay strong girl time will fly by!
I really relate to your video coz my boyfriend went on a six months deployment and we dont have a good communication, tho we have communication but not a good one coz of the poor signal at their area. But he really managed to call me text me and sometimes we do video call just to fill up the loneliness i feel in the inside. He knows what i feel and that is why he keeps on reminding me that he is okay and he loves me. Honestly it's really hard, like i cried at night thinking am i going to make it? So i just pray to God and ask for strength everyday to handle this kind of relationship. Luckily God is giving me the strength to face the day. Thank you for inspiring me :)
hi my name is roxanne and I'm a military wife and just want to say I like u video I'm new to the military also and I only been in the military 4 months I understand what is like been scaer but don't feel scaer because the Lord is with no matter what I well never live ur side he's is with u God bless u both ☺
I understand all these fears. Thanks for reminding me of that bible verse. "What can mortal man do?". I'll be saying this to myself every time I'm anxious about something with someone. It's so true when thinking of eternity. When I'm upset/fearful in any way shape or form I play guitar and write a song or listen to VerseByVerse. An app with really good teachings from the bible.
Hi Brit! I am a new military wife and share some of the same fears you do. My advice to you : 1. Don't beat yourself up because you are fearful/anxious. Like you said, you are human! 2. Re-watch some of your older videos. You are such a strong/ smart/genuine person and you really gave us (new military wives) great advice! Revisit how excited you were to get a job and re-visit the tips you gave new wives on finding a support system in a new town. 3. Look at his deployment as a time to build yourself up into an even better version of yourself. I didn't see boyfriend for 10 months when he was in basic training and AIT! Knowing that he was doing something so great for himself and our country gave me motivation to do my best at work and in college. Sorry for the long comment! I just love your videos and think you are such a genuine person. I know you are a strong woman and that you can do anything through Christ. -God Bless
WOW! This was an amazing comment! Thank you so much for your kind words and allowing me to remember the things I have said and the person I am. This was great thank you 💕
brit I think you should stay, you have to face these challenges this time won't be the only time. u won't be able to move all the time be strong hun. Our lives changes once we are a military wife. God will help us we have to support our husband and be strong for them. We have to face loneliness, rejection and the unknown that is the military but in god I trust he will never leave us
this was such a great video, I could relate a lot. thank you for it! you should do "bible study classes" on your chanel. I really enjoy when you mention items from scripture. I wish you the best xoxo
Hi. My name is Olivia and I'm using my husbands you tube page. He's currently in tech school for the U.S Air Force and I just want to say thank you for this video because even though I haven't even gotten to our first duty station all of these things run though my head like how am I gonna be able to do these things especially on my own at times And it's nice to know I'm not the only one who thinks this way. Thank you for this and all your other videos they are so appreciated and helpful !
No problem! Glad my videos are helping you! It can be tough at times, but we are strong (: Just remember to not let your thoughts control you. Take each day one step at a time!
omg you are so adorable~~ I havent dealt with my husband being deployed yet but I'm sure it will come sooner or later... I will be asking myself the same questions you are asking!
I get lonely whenever I realizes Im alone mean whenever I will see a friends post travelling with der bf, or watches love story movie and I will be reminded dat my bf is not with me.. things like dat.. but Ive realized to make myself busy with other stuff bcs in free time mind thinks and over thinks. So Ive decided to do some yoga, watch movie theme about friends rather haha and do devotional more to strengthen my faith and foundation to God and gather wisdom that will teach me about the now of where I am and the future. I better myself for the better us of my bf, bcs if I continue to plant fear and worry it will come thru me and to the people and relationship I have and I dont want that
Hey Brit, my girlfriend has been in the Navy for 7 months.. maybe 8. I’m not Christian but how I cope with loneliness is I stay busy with work, plus I live with 3 roommates. There’s always video games and television 👍🏻 I don’t really have friends besides my best friend (one of my roommates) who I’ve known for 12 years. But he works nights I work days so we barely hang out.
Can you do a video on how you handle arguments? My boyfriend is in the Air Force, and just got deployed after he was supposed to come home. There has been stress and tension that leads to fights. I'm struggling on how to handle the arguments since it's poor communication over texts. Your videos really help me!
Make the Chief's wife your mentor...ask her questions on how she handled the separations. Have your husband tell the chief that you are wondering if his wife wouldn't mind meeting with you and answering some questions. If she doesn't want to meet you, then move on. I can't help but think that she'd be flattered to help a young wife through her first separation. One way to deal with your loneliness is to fill your spare time volunteering to help others (elders, children, homeless, animal shelters)..that way you get the spotlight off you and on others.
Yes! Her husband actually told her about me before we met and now we have recently.. finally haha. I also do currently work and volunteer so that helps a lot, you are right. Thanks so much for your advice(:
You are not alone girl! I've been crying my eyes out for a month now because of the unknown. I'm also a planner in life and for the first time God is reminding me who is in charge. I find the alone time to be a way of finding yourself again with the time apart. Stay strong and in the moment of weakness may God be with you. In times where you are apart, "May the Lord watch you and me when we are absent from one another. Genesis 31:49. And the verse I've been clinging on to "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matthew 6:34"❤️
Matthew 6:34 is my favorite! I have let that one go recently to the back of my mind, but God used you to remind me. Thanks for the encouragement 💕
I cannot tell you how many times I have cried my eyes out as well (Army Wife) while my husband is gone to training or whatever the case may be! We have to stick together!
Your husband is a very lucky guy😊, many military guys would love to have someone like you that fights till the very end for the person that loves, God bless you girl 😃 stay strong 💪 and always remember FEAR NOT FOR I AM WITH YOU🙏
My husband is deployed for 12 months (sounds better than a year), he's been gone for almost 3 months now. I'm moving to our next base and will be alone. However, there's a difference between being alone and being lonely. I'm living with family right now but I am choosing to move to our next base by myself. I realized I need to continue my life and better myself. Living with family is great and all being surrounded by people but you can't put your whole life on hold during deployment. I totally understand the fear and anxiety you're going through more than you know. I am a Christian and I have found so many ways to manage all of this as best as I can. I'm praying for you! 💕
This video is so relatable, Brit!! I go through all of these fears as well because my boyfriend is in the Air Force and is stationed in Japan while I'm here in Minnesota finishing school. He's going to be there until 2018, so the loneliness and the fear of the unknown often set in. But, I am a Christian as well, so I know that God always has a plan and I just need to trust that everything will be okay. Love love love all of your videos, thank you for posting!
Thanks for your comment Annie! That is so tough and I will be praying for you guys! Thank you for your support and again reminding me of just how Great God is!
How I deal with loneliness: distract myself by going to the gym, planning, making lists, etc.
Something that really helps me in moments that I'm super anxious looking into the future & not knowing what's gonna happen, is when I think about those moments in the future i say "God will be with me then & there, with His help I can get through that. He has a plan for good!" it really helps me in the moment to calm down & focus on God & trust Him. I usually have to say it to myself a million times a day haha but I think everyone does. I'm totally praying for you Brittani & for your husband! you are so strong & God is going to do amazing things in this tough & scary time. Don't stop clinging to Him! :)
Love that! Thanks so much Maegan! I always have to say things to myself a million times too so I am glad I am not alone in that. Grateful for your support and prayers❤️
My boyfriend just left for basic training this last Monday and I've really been a wreck. Its so hard going from always being with someone and always talking to them to absolutely no contact at all. I'm in college and it has been so hard to function. I found your videos/channel and I am sooo thankful I did they are helping so much. I can't stop watching them. Thank you so much for making them!
Basic Training/AIT was very hard for me! I actually have a video posted on my channel talking about a little of my experience when my husband was away. I hope it may help you in some way!
Not a Christian, don't believe in the Christian god. However, I do believe there is a purpose for all that we experience, a lesson in every hardship, a reward/fulfillment for those who persevere. What keeps me grounded is a sense of connection to the world around me, my intention to make a positive impact in any way I can. You don't have to be of a particular faith to have this.
We aren't in the exact same situation but I'm currently, in California, while my fiancé is in boot camp and it has been a whirlwind of emotions since he left. I'm now getting a taste of what military spouse life is going to feel like once we get married and it does scare me. However, I always try to be as positive as I can be and think about how proud I am of him for going after his dreams/trying to give us a better future. Even though, I have my family, it is still difficult. I can only distract myself and lean on them so much before I have a break down and start crying because of how much I miss him. My true and only consolation has been God. I'm constantly praying for him and looking forward to when I am able to see him again. I will say that being at work helps out a lot!
Lastly, I can see how you would be scared of living on your own... I , too, watch a lot of CSI and Law & Order ... Therefore, I see where your anxiety and fear would stem from, but I say that you go for it and make friends with the girl who is living next door. My plans are to live on base with my fiancé once we are married and get stationed because it will help me to form relationships with others who are experiencing the same feelings I will be going through.
Thanks Dee! I am usually extremely positive but this situation has made me crazy. Thank you for all your encouragement! Keep that positive attitude because it will be so helpful to you and the spouses around you. (: P.S. Thanks for the advice on the girl next door will have to continue building confidence haha 💕
goodness girl you had me crying towards the end! haha I'm a christian too and my husband is about to leave for an overseas PCS that I won't be able to go with him for 12 to 14 months. Needless to say my heart is shattered. God's blessed us with NO deployments/PCSing in his first 3 years in, but now this will be our first encounter. I'm reading my bible more, I'm singing worship songs of peace all day, and still... I fear. I'm afraid of being alone, I'm afraid of what "could" happen and I'm letting my thoughts go crazy over something that has yet to happen. But I know, my God will be with me. I will never truly be alone... but it'll feel like it.
Watching this video made me feel like I’m watching myself in a mirror. I feel you !
I know this is two years old lol buuuut this video has helped me so much! I struggled with everything you do and my husband is leaving in a month for 10 months and I hate being alone!! (Even though I have two kids lol) but this has helped me be closer to God. A bible verse has helped me a lot: “ be joyful in hope, patient on affliction, faithful in prayer”
Praying for you girl! I'm a Christian Army wife with depression & anxiety, so I relate on all levels! But God is so faithful & He will bring you through this difficult time!!
YES! God is so faithful. Love this. Thank you for your prayers and will be praying for you as well!
Brit+Con thanks girl!!! Hopefully I muster up enough courage to record a little of my story & share it on my channel. I think it's so important to have a support system of some sort, even if it is internet friends haha!
My husband joined the air force back in march. We're getting stationed in New Mexico & we're from Cali. Ever since he joined I started having panic attacks. Now that the time is getting closer for the big move I've just been stressing and just crying, being away from home is something very new for me. I am very family oriented, and not a day goes by that I am alone. So moving and knowing half the time I will be alone scares the crap out of me. I will know absolutely no one, as you know. Lucky for my husband a few friends in tech school are also getting stationed where we are. I am a person that tries to ignore how I really feel. I just cannot deal with being nervous, scared and unsure about what will happen. I grew up as a seventh day adventist and for a long time I've stopped going to church and haven't studied the word of God or praised him. But these past few weeks he definately has been on my mind and I'm not sure how to get back to my roots. It's hard not knowing whats coming next. I started watching your videos and to be honest you're the only person I'm subscribed to. You've really helped me get through some things. You've also made me think about starting my own channel, we'll see. I'm glad to know I'm not alone in this. Thank you, stay strong! (:
I can tell you I have felt exactly like that. I didn't and sometimes still don't like to address my emotions. Which usually ends up with my emotion blowing up and getting out of control. Something that I encourage you to do is just sit in peace and talk to God. Not even pray just talk. I think oftentimes we think we need to go to church, read the bible, etc... and we forget to have a relationship with Him. Spend time with him like he is your friend. He is ready to listen and already knows everything that is going on in your heart. Ask him to transform your worried heart into a calm and peace-filled one. The more you talk to him the more peace you will begin to have I promise! Praying for your heart and good luck if you start a channel! 💕
You are totally not alone. Now my situation is different because I am not married, but I do have a crush on one of my best guy friends who’s at Boot Camp for the Marines right now. And it kind of sucks because I don’t get to see him, but I am excited and happy for him. I hate being alone and especially not seeing the guy that I really really care about. And I am asking the Lord if this is the one guy that I will date or even marry, and if not that’s okay...but I just have to trust the Lord because he has a plan for me. But yeah I have stress and anxiety. I overthink things too much and it gets in the way of making relationships with people. And what you said about when you think about a week ago of why did I say that or I could’ve done this, I do the same exact thing!! You are so amazing and you have been helping me to grow and you give such great advice! I am also in college and I have been working to distract me or keep me busy! ❤️❤️
My boyfriend is in the Navy as well and I have no idea what our future will be. Its so nice to hear about someone's experiences and that i'm not the only one feeling these things. Although you are in a different situation because you are married and beginning deployments. My sailor is in South Carolina and I am in Ohio, so it is hard being away and without him now, I have no idea what I will do when he goes on deployments when we are married. I am grateful for your videos because I have a huge fear of the unknown and you are a few steps ahead of me so its really nice to see someone going through what I am preparing myself for. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
Oh, girl! Will be praying for you. I'm so nervous for what's next. I know God is sovereign and in complete control but.. I want to be with my husband! Not sure where we will be stationed or what will happen once he finishes AIT. I totally understand your feelings!
For loneliness-- I'm a social butterfly so I try to stay busy and spend time with friends! I'm a believer as well so definitely try to stay focused on him and plugged into my church family.
Girl, I am so thankful for your videos. Thank you for setting my mind at ease and reminding me that God's got me. I struggle with anxiety and fear, and I often feel so lost with all the unanswered questions and before I know it I am a hot mess. I have just stumbled across this video and my hubby is deploying in about a month, so I was going back and forth between going home or staying here. I am just starting to feel established here, I joined a womens volleyball league, made a couple great friends and am getting to know the area. I am also from Texas and I also live in Washington, this is our first deployment and it has been stressful going through the motions. I decided to go home and spend time with family. We can save money, I wont have to spend the winter here haha, and I just get to spend time family.
Just want to say thanks again for being so open and relatable for not only the military wives, but for the woman out there that just don't really know what the heck to do. You are awesome!
Glad I could help you! It is always such a hard decision whether to stay or leave, but ultimately it is where we feel God is calling us to. Glad you are able to spend time with your family while your husband is gone. They will be great support! Leading up to the day he leaves will be tough but you can do it! Blessings to you both💕
Aww, I remember feeling every single one of these feelings when my husband deployed for the first time 21 years ago! Let me know if you need anything! Fear of rejection is tough but it can be managed! I have met so many amazing people and worked with so many amazing people that have become great friends! You can reach out to me on FB! I have perspective on both staying and going home on deployments since I've done both...
I cry my eyes out most nights because I don't have contact with him but I remberer that I am loved and supported by everyone I go for long walks and write in my journal
Being a spouse to someone in the military can be so hard. I know first hand that there are so many challenges. I'm glad that you're hitting your fears head on instead on pushing them away❤️
I have watched like 5 of your videos tonight and I cannot tell you how much you have saved my heart lol I struggle with anxiety and I absolutely love and trust the Lord AND I am in a dating relationship with an Army Lieutenant who is getting ready for deployment. I have struggled with so many of the things you have posted about already and I haven't had anyone to turn to that "gets it" and I hate putting it all on my boyfriend because I only desire to encourage him and make him feel less stressed. He has been so patient with me and so loving. SO SERIOUSLY thank you for your vulnerability! I no longer feel crazy haha and have some great advice on how to deal with military life!
Very much in love with your channel and videos. Your positivity gets me through so much. Each time he's on underway, I make sure to especially watch these videos because it just helps. It's nice knowing someone else just gets it. I would love to connect with you and not only talk about the navy and our commonalities, but also about God and our stress and anxiety tendencies. Thank you, Brit!
This video helped me so much! Thank you, I am a christian as well and I can 100% relate to how you are feeling. "You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden." Matthew 5:14 We can remember this verse in those fearful times. I can see your light girl, thanks for shining
This is so perfect and beautiful! Thank you
I really love all of your videos and your honesty and openness. I hope you know that your vulnerability in all of this is truly being used for God's glory to encourage women who are going through similar things. Just watching your video made me cry. Being apart is so difficult. Thank you for doing something so beautiful with something so difficult. Please keep making your videos and thank you for always offering a Christian perspective!!!
Hey girl! I just wanted to reach out to you to first of all say thank you! When my bf left for deployment I remember the advice you gave me and it helped me so so much. Secondly I wanted to say that you are very brave for putting your fears out there. What I've learned through my time away from him is that sometimes we have no choice but to be uncomfortable. I've grown a lot through his deployment. I've become stronger and more resilient. You are an incredible person and if people don't like you or appreciate you then it's their loss. Not everyone will like us or want to be our friend but remember all the people who do love you! No matter if you go home or stay, take this as an opportunity for yourself while he's gone! If you want to talk I can give you my contact info.
Lale Mamigonian thank you for that encouragement! I forget my own advice sometimes, but you gave me that reminder! Thank you for your support💕 would also love your contact info! You Can send it through email or TH-cam message if you want!
Brit+Con sent you an email!
i am such a criminal minds junkie. i watch those shows all the time but i did it while i was pregnant and got the worst nightmares. so i had to stop for a little bit. do you guys watch the office? its old but so funny! I am so glad you opened up about the loneliness struggle. It is a real thing. FOR me it's having my kids but they are more as a distraction and it makes it hard sometimes because i want to share some of those moments with him. and thank you for mentioning about God. I just emailed you. but I am new to this all so still trying to find out tips. netflix helps with going to sleep. Gosh you hit such great points in this video.
this video its so relatable.. I'm currently going threw my third deployment with my husband and we have been married for 4 years! being a military wife and struggling with anxiety its no fun.. just know your not alone. for all three deployments what has helped me deal with fear loneliness and the unknown was being close to family. stay strong girl time will fly by!
Wow! 3 in 4 years...You are now a super hero in my book. Thanks for reminding me I am not alone 💕
I really relate to your video coz my boyfriend went on a six months deployment and we dont have a good communication, tho we have communication but not a good one coz of the poor signal at their area. But he really managed to call me text me and sometimes we do video call just to fill up the loneliness i feel in the inside. He knows what i feel and that is why he keeps on reminding me that he is okay and he loves me. Honestly it's really hard, like i cried at night thinking am i going to make it? So i just pray to God and ask for strength everyday to handle this kind of relationship. Luckily God is giving me the strength to face the day. Thank you for inspiring me :)
I'll definitely be praying for you love ❤❤
hi my name is roxanne and I'm a military wife and just want to say I like u video I'm new to the military also and I only been in the military 4 months I understand what is like been scaer but don't feel scaer because the Lord is with no matter what I well never live ur side he's is with u God bless u both ☺
I understand all these fears. Thanks for reminding me of that bible verse. "What can mortal man do?". I'll be saying this to myself every time I'm anxious about something with someone. It's so true when thinking of eternity. When I'm upset/fearful in any way shape or form I play guitar and write a song or listen to VerseByVerse. An app with really good teachings from the bible.
Hi Brit! I am a new military wife and share some of the same fears you do. My advice to you : 1. Don't beat yourself up because you are fearful/anxious. Like you said, you are human! 2. Re-watch some of your older videos. You are such a strong/ smart/genuine person and you really gave us (new military wives) great advice! Revisit how excited you were to get a job and re-visit the tips you gave new wives on finding a support system in a new town. 3. Look at his deployment as a time to build yourself up into an even better version of yourself. I didn't see boyfriend for 10 months when he was in basic training and AIT! Knowing that he was doing something so great for himself and our country gave me motivation to do my best at work and in college.
Sorry for the long comment! I just love your videos and think you are such a genuine person. I know you are a strong woman and that you can do anything through Christ. -God Bless
WOW! This was an amazing comment! Thank you so much for your kind words and allowing me to remember the things I have said and the person I am. This was great thank you 💕
brit I think you should stay, you have to face these challenges this time won't be the only time. u won't be able to move all the time be strong hun. Our lives changes once we are a military wife. God will help us we have to support our husband and be strong for them. We have to face loneliness, rejection and the unknown that is the military but in god I trust he will never leave us
Thanks for the reminder Julia! This helps a lot. 💕
this was such a great video, I could relate a lot. thank you for it! you should do "bible study classes" on your chanel. I really enjoy when you mention items from scripture. I wish you the best xoxo
That is such a great idea. I will have to try that! Thanks Lynette(:
Hi. My name is Olivia and I'm using my husbands you tube page. He's currently in tech school for the U.S Air Force and I just want to say thank you for this video because even though I haven't even gotten to our first duty station all of these things run though my head like how am I gonna be able to do these things especially on my own at times And it's nice to know I'm not the only one who thinks this way. Thank you for this and all your other videos they are so appreciated and helpful !
No problem! Glad my videos are helping you! It can be tough at times, but we are strong (: Just remember to not let your thoughts control you. Take each day one step at a time!
My boyfriend is getting stationed across the country and your videos are so helpful! ❤️
You are strong ❤️❤️❤️I struggle with anxiety to
omg you are so adorable~~ I havent dealt with my husband being deployed yet but I'm sure it will come sooner or later... I will be asking myself the same questions you are asking!
Love your videos! So glad I found you!
Marisafashionista101 yay! Glad you did too 😊
I can relate with you a lot! My fiancée is out to sea right now & he’ll be back for a month or so then will be leaving for deployment.
I get lonely whenever I realizes Im alone mean whenever I will see a friends post travelling with der bf, or watches love story movie and I will be reminded dat my bf is not with me.. things like dat.. but Ive realized to make myself busy with other stuff bcs in free time mind thinks and over thinks. So Ive decided to do some yoga, watch movie theme about friends rather haha and do devotional more to strengthen my faith and foundation to God and gather wisdom that will teach me about the now of where I am and the future. I better myself for the better us of my bf, bcs if I continue to plant fear and worry it will come thru me and to the people and relationship I have and I dont want that
Hey Brit, my girlfriend has been in the Navy for 7 months.. maybe 8. I’m not Christian but how I cope with loneliness is I stay busy with work, plus I live with 3 roommates. There’s always video games and television 👍🏻
I don’t really have friends besides my best friend (one of my roommates) who I’ve known for 12 years. But he works nights I work days so we barely hang out.
Glad you are able to find something that helps you cope! Roommates are always nice too haha
My boyfriend just left for basic and we’re getting in December so I’ve been super stressed! Your videos help so much!
(They inspired me to make my own military videos) ❤️
Can you do a video on how you handle arguments? My boyfriend is in the Air Force, and just got deployed after he was supposed to come home. There has been stress and tension that leads to fights. I'm struggling on how to handle the arguments since it's poor communication over texts. Your videos really help me!
Yes! That is something that happens to us also so will definitely do a video on how we handle that!
Your incredible amazing beautiful brave and strong
I fear rejection becuse me and my dad talk to a marine recruiter to see if i coud join wen im 17 the marine recruiter said no becuse of aspha
Make the Chief's wife your mentor...ask her questions on how she handled the separations. Have your husband tell the chief that you are wondering if his wife wouldn't mind meeting with you and answering some questions. If she doesn't want to meet you, then move on. I can't help but think that she'd be flattered to help a young wife through her first separation. One way to deal with your loneliness is to fill your spare time volunteering to help others (elders, children, homeless, animal shelters)..that way you get the spotlight off you and on others.
Yes! Her husband actually told her about me before we met and now we have recently.. finally haha. I also do currently work and volunteer so that helps a lot, you are right. Thanks so much for your advice(:
by the way 1st John 4:18 is perfect for your current situation ❤
Thanks so much Ruby! I love that verse. Will write it down to remember!
Brit+Con anytime beautiful! I'm here for you❤
stay! I want to meet you 😢
How come ur not wearing a wedding band? Sorry I know it's kinda off topic but couldn't help but notice and wanna know
haha wasn't sure anyone would notice. Had just taken a shower (I don't shower with it) and forgot to put it back on before I did the video.
asma ? dont know how to spell sorry i spec more Espaniol
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