I wish i had a mother like you. Mine is an extreme narcisisst and i never got any guidance from her. Im 28 years old now and mentally still behave like a 12 year old. I was praying God to send a role model so i can learn how to be a proper lady and I found you. Thank you so much. Your work is so much meaningful probably more than you think. Please keep up the good work.
I wish the same thing as you. I had a mother that was a narcissist and a sociopath. Mentally and physically abusive. She taught me nothing. Got other family members to think bad of me by lying about me. I know your pain. I'm 52 years old and over the years simple things I should have learned, I would be embarrassed when I didn't know what to do. God answered both of our prayers. He is such a good God! 💖 Hugs~
@@President47394 - Wow, it's like you are writing my life story! So much of our upbringing is the same. It's humiliating, but I did not even have a checking account until I was 21 - let alone know how to write a check or budget! I've been embarrassed many times because i didn't have a mom who cared to teach me anything.
@@tracym1564 Please, don't worry you are still very young. I'm glad you did get a checking account. Just keep on trying, and let it be known, people seem so busy, they don't even notice if you make a mistake or can't do something. Be calm, ask a question if somebody is near by. Do NOT put yourself down. You really do not know how to do something because you have not tried it yet. Also, help others if they struggle, the Universe/God will send someone to help you. Everyday, try to learn a new thing....before you know it, you'll have a huge confidence in yourself. Blessings.
TRACY ... I'M 30 YEARS OLDER THAN YOU AND I STILL LEARN FROM YOUR VIDEOS. I THINK YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION FOR SO MANY OF US. YOU HAVE SUCH A CALM, UPLIFTING, POSITIVE ATTITUDE. THANK YOU FOR SHARING! PS ... I'M IN SAGINAW!
Oh, this is so nice Judi! Thank you! Everything that you said, warmed my heart! Saginaw .. Back in High School, I used to work at Fashion Square Mall. I grew up in Millington, so we spent a lot of time in Saginaw. Both Saginaw and Flint were about he same distance.
I feel the parent portion is essential. People are generally born with confidence. Its their environment that tends to destroy them for decades/years at the start of their lives.
It takes confidence to Not air out all of your past with everyone who has ears. Classy ladies are in the moment and are talking about their future goals 👏!!!
I don't just listen to you, I watch the way u talk, dress, speak and carry urslf. Excellent u are a real lady, apart from listening to u am also leaning ur classiness💖thanks.
This video is very helpful. I've always been confident but that changed when I married an older man and being an alien from a third world country I am always judged and that continues. Honestly, I was crying while watching this. As you've mentioned LET IT GO and I decided to let go of every negative things/comment I've heard because the more I cling to it the more it hurts. Being classy goes a long a way. Keep making videos and keep inspiring! Thank you.
Your video popped up in my recommendations after I had an interview. I always overthink and have many self doubts. Your video really gave me confidence and courage that I'm doing alright. My mom has been a strong woman by providing for me but we lack communication due to our language barriers and cultural upbringings. It's hard but I love her and appreciate everything she's done for me. However, I wish I had someone to teach me these things and I'm so glad your video was recommended to me to use as a guide!
I used to be one of those people who felt down after seeing so many happy people on social media. I removed myself from social media and I feel happier. So many people share way too much with social media and they don’t live in the moment.
It’s like having a friend who talks to you about this stuff. Or like being royal and having your own personal adviser. Your videos are a God-send. Thank you so much!
I really appreciate this. There is a saying in a recovery program-"What others think about you is none if your business". It took me a long time to believe and understand that. My most difficult relationship was my mother-in-law. She was just plain mean to me. I came to understand, it was never about me personally. It was her problem. When it's family and when it's your husband's mom(who he loves) makes it very difficult. At the end of her life, I was sitting on the floor next to her chair and she began to cry. I asked her what was wrong and what could I do to help. She told me she just felt so bad for me that my own mom had died too soon and it made her sad. That was the first time I felt loved by her and that she really did care. I am glad that happened before she died. Hurting people hurt people,
I subbed so fast I almost fell. I love my parents and they did the best they could with what they had and knew. I feel like you fill in so many of the gaps in my upbringing and deeply appreciate what your knowledge and experience is contributing. Thank you so much! I especially enjoy your videos relating to confidence, and how to be a responsible, classy adult. xo
I am so thankful you are posting videos like this. My daughter turned 5 a few days ago and she constantly brings up me being "heavy, not being able to keep up with her during play". She means the world to me but it does pain me. I try to be confident in my current body but wearing a swimsuit in the pool or on vacation. I wear shorts even though I have varicose veins that show. I try to show confidence everyday so she has confidence.
Hi Margaret! I am glad! I think you are doing all necessary steps in showing your daughter how to be confident in her own skin .. just as she is. I especially think it is important to raise our girls to love their bodies. To recognize that they may not be perfect in all areas. But to be accepting of them. And to also recognize they have other areas that they will be pleased with. That comparing ourselves is counterproductive and a waste of time and LIFE!!! Bless you for working hard at this while your daughter is so young!!
This is great message Tracy. I am listening to your messages one after the other. You have such motherly spirit many of us women need in order for us to straighten ourselves up and also to teach our daughters. I have a 23yr old daughter I am passing on your messages to. Thank you and keep them rolling....
Hello Tracy Hensel, good afternoon! This video of yours, I found it on my computer about 5 hours, but until now I post it only on my cell phone. You have a good diction and neutral speed to speak, I can understand you well. Many of your videos have great quality in audio like this one. I only watch and listen to videos with this technical feature. I'm learning your native language, English, on my own. Have happy start of month, February, which is of the Love and Friendship 💕🌹. Greetings from Sonora, México 🇲🇽
I feel so blessed to have found you on TH-cam. As a woman in my early 40’s who did not have a strong role model in my life growing up, I feel you are a God-send to me and so many others. I have learned so much in the last couple of months and you are the one I look to find first. I love the honesty and challenges you lay out for me on so many important life topics. Thank you for all the content you put out!
Totally agree about Instagram and younger generation! I delete the app from my phone since more than a year now and can definitely tell a difference in my confidence!
“What do I say when someone is being negative, being cruel? Haha what do I say? I say “Who are ‘they’? Who are ‘they’ anyways? Do they matter in your life or are they just an acquaintance?” A mom of five daughters... I can picture you giving this speech so many times. I love your delivery when discussing your topics.
Thank you Kristina! I have many more recent video that would compliment this on on negative people. I hope you get the chance to watch them. Have a GREAT day!
Keyboard courage...ain’t it the truth! I love your channel, Tracy. All of the videos I’ve watched so far have been just awesome. I extend a big, hearty thank you. Keep up the good work ♥️
I, for one, would greatly appreciate videos for my sons. I have two teenagers and they have been taught by us (me and my husband), but it is wonderful to have them hear another adult with the same instructions. Plus you mention things I may have never thought about specifically teaching them. I had them listen to your video for being a classy lady. There is so much there that is relevant for both genders! I've now seen two of your videos. Looking forward to more :)
Thank you Catherine! I appreciate you sharing and all the support. All my videos are relevant for both genders. I encourage you to take a look around through the library and see what other videos you could resource for your sons.
I'm so impressed with your videos. I have 3 children that are happy outgoing and very successful but I just can't seem to like myself no matter what I do. I think watching your videos will help thank you 😊
Thank you Bonnie!! I pray that you learn to see your beautiful qualities and love yourself. having three children I am sure that you put everything into them. Sometimes we lose ourself along the way. I hope you can find and reinvent yourself!! You are worth it!!! Bless you!! xx
Helpful video as usual! Speaking about parenting, I sure would love for you to kindly make a video on it as I myself am a new parent at the ripe old age of 42 and I struggle to not feel overwhelmed with it all. I know that having your first child at my age isn't the same as in your 20's however I would love to have some tips from you since you are such an admiral woman having raised 5 daughters so successfully. I'm sure you had and you still have your difficult moments but you surely are organized and know how to manage your time. You seem to take time to have a loving relationship with your spouse your children while looking always amazing! I would love to have some of your wonderful tips! Thank you , Giada.
I have two daughters, my oldest is 23 my youngest is 4 years old. I am 46 so from my experience I can assure you is actually easier now than first time around . I feel so much more mature and able to handle things with care and patience compared to when I was younger. So hang in there, one step at the time, don't try to be the perfect mom and cherish your blessings. Your little one will bring you so much joy . The best thing you can do is to follow your instincts and as Tracy said don't let anyone that don't matter to get to your mind - bad mouthed and such.
Thank you, Giada! I really believe you would benefit from the blog posts on my website. I have a lot of content out there on those topics. Please resource them. Appreciate you sending such a nice and supportive message!!
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my TH-cam channel 6 months ago about self development. Now I have 441 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
@@TracyHensel Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say based on your posts and profile that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my TH-cam channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a TH-camr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this TH-cam thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)
I just started watching your videos yesterday night and you are already one of my favorite youtubers. You make me excited to be 40 years old! I hope I look as good as you when I'm 40, I'm only 17. Thanks for your videos Tracy!
Thank you Anika! I very much appreciate that! I love the fact that you are excited to get older. It can really be your best years. Blessings to you!! xx
I see classy, but too much botox. Her forehead doesn't move. Love her information, but doesn't confidence include be accepting self as we are? Botox makes women look robotic.
She does have confidence, but she is an entrepreneur who works with clients, most of them from the high society and she needs the specific skills in order to earn her money. A very good appearence, refined manners and professional skills are some of them.
This is an excellent video with a very solid, well reasoned approach to self-confidence. I have a suggestion for a video: "How to Deal with Various Types of People". Rude people who cut you off in mid-sentence, negative people who always bring you down, needy people who drain the life out of you, etc. I'd love to hear your opinions on this.
Thank you! Great suggestion! Be sure to watch the content that I already have out there on that. Also the content on my website. Also, a lot of what you are requesting is right here in this video and in the links provided.
Oh how I wish my mother would of had your knowledge to teach me..I am having my two daughters watch and learn from you since they didn't learn enough from me,I am so thankful for such a wonderful true lady like yourself to learn from..What lucky daughters you have..❤
Tracy, I watch and rewatch your videos all the time. I pick up lots of pearls of wisdom all the time. This video has made a lot of sense to me. Lately, I have seen in myself that my priorities are all over the place and boundaries are a little tough for me. Saying no to work is very hard. Recently, I was scheduled off for a day at work. Less than one hour into my scheduled time off, I received notification that there was a serious issue going on at work. I went in to investigate to find it wasn't as serious as I thought it was. This is one of many times I have sacrificed what was important to me to put someone else needs first. I do it all. the. time. I always have. I agree it's an opportunity for coaching. But, I would venture a guess that I am not the only person who struggles with this. Could you do some more boundary setting videos? I know I would appreciate it and given this is a typically female issue, I am sure other viewers would also appreciate it. Many thanks for all you do!
So thankful to have come across your videos. What a blessing! Thank you for investing in us and addressing the whole person. All of the topics you talk about are so lacking in our "too casual" culture. Hollywood has not helped. Parents have neglected the "art of classy", unfortunately. Keep up the good work . We're listening and implementing!
You always convey the most positive and life enhancing messages. No matter what the subject of the video is, they always uplift me and give me such inspiration to be my best self. Thank you and bless you for these wonderful videos.
Tracy, you are such an inspiration to me. I am a 14 year old student and have watched your etiquette and lifestyle videos. You bring a positive energy and wise perspective in every video. Bless you and your loved ones! ❤️❤️❤️
am I the only one that finds your sense of humour soooooo hilarious. I just discovered you but I really like what youre saying and Im 22. I wish my mom told me this
ABSOLUTELY FABULOUS!! LOVE THIS VIDEO!! I'm new to TH and THIS is just one small reason why I'm HOOKED! Sending it to my daughter who just started college--because what young woman doesn't need a boost of confidence from time to time??!! THANK YOU TRACY!!😍😘😘
Hi Stephanie!! Thank you!! I am so happy that you are hooked!!! Love that!! Yes, you are so right ...especially at your daughter's age! Bless you!!! xx
I’m so excited I stumbled across your channel. I love videos about elegance and class. You are a very lovely lady and your words are wise. I’m going to keep listening for sure 😉
I am a new subscriber. I just happened on your video! You are so unique and helpful! You are one classy lady with a lot of confidence. You are a real asset to the work you are doing to help people. This is the second video of you I watched. You remind me of an aunt who I always admired.
Hi Tracy, I am a fellow Flushing resident and have been following you for quite some time. As always, you did not disappoint. Love, love all of your videos.
Revisiting this video. The "life coach" videos you do are my favs. There are lots of beauty over 40 videos out there but so few relatable life coaching videos. I don't have a sister and, while my Mom is a super sweet lady, when trying to strive for the best me, I don't feel like I have a great deal of coaching resources. TY for being one!
Good morning! Thank you for bringing to light such an important topic. We live in a very different time with social media, however, this is an age old topic that never seems to change.....inferior feelings of self worth....the fine line of confidence vs. haughty behavior. Ugh. You have wise words for all ages! Thanks for posting. Just love all of your videos. Happy weekend! Enjoy life and those in your life. ;)
I honestly appreciate how you take out your time to share all you know! Many people won’t do that. Your videos are inspirational. In one of your videos, you mention how research is important if you want to succeed in a field. I know you are the best in your field. But may i suggest you some video series on life style coaching that you can watch as a part of your research. I am not anyway related to this lady but her videos have changed my life. If you may, please search ‘happiness unlimited by bk shivani’ english version. There are many more video series by her like ‘being bliss’, ‘healer within’, ‘being divine’, etc.. They have english subtitles. You have helped so many people. This is a small gift from one of those people to you.
Awesome video!! :) Thank you for your tips! Video ideas: 1. How to date (for those of us who like to keep it classy and be able to find the correct partner.) 2. Best neutral outfits/ dress for success. 3. Holiday gift sets ideas (Sephora, JC Penney, Nordstrom etc ) 4. Thank you notes etiquette 5. How to be a gracious hostess 6. Classic perfumes for ladies :) God bless you and your family :) xo Love to watch your videos when I'm feeling down or getting ready in the morning. Keep up the great content!
Thank you! I appreciate all of your wonderful suggestions. I do several Christmas Gift Guides. Stay tuned for those. Dating ... I have had many requests. I look forward to getting that one out. Have a beautiful and blessed day!! xx
I’m back! I was very busy with life but I just included your videos in my new morning routine and it feels good. You’re really making a difference in my life. Love you Tracy
I have let others take my confidence and your words brought tears to my eyes. I wish I had heard this, many years ago but I choose to believe it isnt too late. I'm starting from here! Thank you! You've tapped into a cultural need, a call, back to femininity and poise. God bless!
You are wonderful, Tracy! I am backing up my thoughts with your videos when talking to my daughter, it's so nice to find a person who has similar ideas and lessons! Thanks again!
Wow Tracy, another great advice video! How to cope with such issues is very much needed, especially for younger women. Can't wait for your next one on dining etiquette!
I'm so thankful for you I came from a very toxic family now I'm 25 and self confidence is still struggle they way my mother and my narscict siblings were shredding my self esteem to pieces but I'm lucky to join your comunity I'm so thank for your vedios I'm so happy to say look up for you I we'll became a great woman like you Tracey 🌸 I'm very thankful 🙏🌸
I subscribed a while ago and I feel like your channel has just gotten better and better! I love the range of lifestyle topics and I love how open and honest you are! Your positivity is contagious, and I think this is an especially important message - to have self-confidence. Thank you for these!
I am SO thankful for these videos, more than I can say. This was my morning focus time video and it absolutely set the tone for the week. Thank you SO SO much for taking the time to share and post. It is helping women like me, who didn’t have a mother figure to look up to to learn these things!
Tracy, I like your strength and positivity. And I find it inspiring and “catching”! I hope and pray that you will continue to derive strength from this channel, as we do from you.
I agree with you Tracy, I do understand the points you are making. However, I DID air dirty laundry on social media , in a closed group with friends, and they were so incredibly helpful. They were my rock during a time a family member was exploiting my mother - orchestrated by my jealous sister. A sister who was jealous my mother made me, the younger sister, her POA and MPOA. (it is a lot of work, nothing really to be jealous about!) Anyway, it was a nightmare and my mother died from the stress and I was assaulted by the person when I was trying to protect my mother. I think social media (you have to know your tribe) can be an amazing support system. But yes, just trash talking someone on social media is definitely an un-classy and, quite frankly, immature thing to do. But sometimes reaching out, not caring what people think and being transparent is a very good thing! Like you once said, people like relatable! I even had a friend say to me "this may sound strange, but it is good in a way to see this side of you..it makes you more relatable!" Hence, proving your point! :) People were a bit jealous and a bit suspicious because my life seemed "perfect" to them.. which was really just a lot of hard work and discipline to achieve a certain life and lifestyle. But once they saw me going through a real nightmare they were right there supporting me. That is all I wanted to say as I think it is important to be authentic... to show the good and the bad. It is important to not show only the good things in ones life and hide the rest. Friendships can't be built on sharing only the fabulous stuff. :)
I recently found your channel. I'm beyond impressed with your kind spirit and the classiness you carry yourself. I look forward to each of your videos with great tips of empowerment. Oh how i wish i was one of your daughters. 😒
Meanies are usually jealous of you, do take rudeness as a compliment....I’ve learned to look at it this way n it actually builds my confidence so their scheme actually helps me!😁💯👏🏻😊
Best piece of advice I've heard this year. Tracy, you're a role model, and wish I had listen to this back in my teenage years. Thank you so much for sharing all this, such valuable opinions.
Tracy! Hello from Perth Australia! I love your videos...I must say though... this video and the video on how to be more classy is really where your strengths lay... you are an excellent self help speaker... please do more videos like this... you really do thrive in these kind of topics.
what about family? what if you work on this type of relationships and they just won't budge. I think this is also a situation when you should have the confidence and the strength to let go and move on. Not all family are created equal. I love them but I don't have to accept their destructive behaviors. If i'am changing and their not and they can't see that , then they will be left in the dust. Because life is about evolving as a human being. If your family holds you back in becoming your best version and perhaps by you doing this you break the toxic cycle and improve the next generation of the blood line. That is something worth sacrificing for. And to do that you need confidence! Thanks for your advice Tracy!
Love you Tracy! The work you put out there is highly valuable! Thank you for being passionate about sharing your life with us. You’re an inspiration and a mentor 🥰🥰🥰
OMG I randomly stumbled upon you and I’m so glad I did! You are GORGEOUS & so inspiring!!! I can’t believe you have 5 daughters, you look amazing!!! I’m looking forward to watching more of you!!
This was great!!! And I have 5 kids too! I always tell them, what bothers them now won't matter when they get older. And it's so true! But at 12 and 13 they don't see it that way. But thanks for this video!
OMG! I needed to see this! Thank you so much! BTW, are you a motivational speaker by chance? Could you do a video on how to get through difficult times & coming out better than you were before? Thanks!!
Glad this video came at the right time!! Yes, I do indeed do some motivational speaking. Not as much as I used to when I was out there working with clients. I do have a couple coming up, however. I am really looking forward to them. Hoping to do more. Your suggestion for a future video is an excellent one and one I believe so many people need. We all have difficult times throughout our life and need some encouraging words from a friend! I would love to be that friend! thank you for the suggestion! Bless you!! xx
Thank you for being such a "mom" to us. I'm older than you are, but my mom never gave this sort of advice and I soak it in. Thank you! Hopefully I can pass your advice along to my family as you have.
I wish i had a mother like you. Mine is an extreme narcisisst and i never got any guidance from her. Im 28 years old now and mentally still behave like a 12 year old. I was praying God to send a role model so i can learn how to be a proper lady and I found you. Thank you so much. Your work is so much meaningful probably more than you think. Please keep up the good work.
Thank you!
QuynhLe I can relate to this
I wish the same thing as you. I had a mother that was a narcissist and a sociopath. Mentally and physically abusive. She taught me nothing. Got other family members to think bad of me by lying about me. I know your pain. I'm 52 years old and over the years simple things I should have learned, I would be embarrassed when I didn't know what to do. God answered both of our prayers. He is such a good God! 💖 Hugs~
@@President47394 - Wow, it's like you are writing my life story! So much of our upbringing is the same. It's humiliating, but I did not even have a checking account until I was 21 - let alone know how to write a check or budget! I've been embarrassed many times because i didn't have a mom who cared to teach me anything.
@@tracym1564 Please, don't worry you are still very young. I'm glad you did get a checking account. Just keep on trying, and let it be known, people seem
so busy, they don't even notice if you make a mistake or can't do something. Be calm, ask a question if somebody is near by. Do NOT put yourself down.
You really do not know how to do something because you have not tried it yet. Also, help others if they struggle, the Universe/God will send someone
to help you. Everyday, try to learn a new thing....before you know it, you'll have a huge confidence in yourself. Blessings.
Your daughters are so lucky to have a mom like you. Wow, you're phenomenal!👏
Thank you and Bless you!!
"If they don't matter, it don't matter"! Love it!
This will be my life motto💪🏼
TRACY ... I'M 30 YEARS OLDER THAN YOU AND I STILL LEARN FROM YOUR VIDEOS. I THINK YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION FOR SO MANY OF US. YOU HAVE SUCH A CALM, UPLIFTING, POSITIVE ATTITUDE. THANK YOU FOR SHARING! PS ... I'M IN SAGINAW!
Oh, this is so nice Judi! Thank you! Everything that you said, warmed my heart! Saginaw .. Back in High School, I used to work at Fashion Square Mall. I grew up in Millington, so we spent a lot of time in Saginaw. Both Saginaw and Flint were about he same distance.
I'M 30 years older also and learning from her. Excellent advice.
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I wish my daughter heard your message, because she loves to compare herself to others. great message, Tracy. I love this video. ❤
I feel the parent portion is essential. People are generally born with confidence. Its their environment that tends to destroy them for decades/years at the start of their lives.
It takes confidence to Not air out all of your past with everyone who has ears. Classy ladies are in the moment and are talking about their future goals 👏!!!
I don't just listen to you, I watch the way u talk, dress, speak and carry urslf. Excellent u are a real lady, apart from listening to u am also leaning ur classiness💖thanks.
i love all about her too. just born to be a lady
I feel like your the mother I never had! Thank you for this
This really helped me get through getting bullied by some girls
I feel the same! X x
I love my mom so much but can Tracy be my fabulous aunt? I love her so much!
I know!! I am the same age as Tracy but I feel like she has so much advice that I need!
she is our dear friend now👌🏽👌🏽
Well said if a relationship doesn't serve you, it is better to just move on.
I'm so happy that I discovered your channel, Tracy! You bring something unique and essential to this space. Have a blessed weekend!
I am so happy that you did too!! What a beautiful message you left! Thank you!!
Who else thinks Tracy is absolutely beautiful and gracious? Thank you, Stacy.😊❤❤❤
"Nobody defines you!, you define you!" 💖. I love your confidence and positivity!
Confidence matters! Don’t listen to anyone who tells you differently
I needed someone like you when I was young. But here I am, many moons later. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 🌸💖
This video is very helpful. I've always been confident but that changed when I married an older man and being an alien from a third world country I am always judged and that continues. Honestly, I was crying while watching this. As you've mentioned LET IT GO and I decided to let go of every negative things/comment I've heard because the more I cling to it the more it hurts. Being classy goes a long a way. Keep making videos and keep inspiring! Thank you.
Your video popped up in my recommendations after I had an interview. I always overthink and have many self doubts. Your video really gave me confidence and courage that I'm doing alright. My mom has been a strong woman by providing for me but we lack communication due to our language barriers and cultural upbringings. It's hard but I love her and appreciate everything she's done for me. However, I wish I had someone to teach me these things and I'm so glad your video was recommended to me to use as a guide!
I used to be one of those people who felt down after seeing so many happy people on social media. I removed myself from social media and I feel happier. So many people share way too much with social media and they don’t live in the moment.
Good for you!
You are an amazing woman. I'm 32 years old, but watch your videos religiously, a true inspiration to me. Thank you!
i'm taking handwritten notes from your videos, there are too many valuable things to get from these
Thank you!
It’s like having a friend who talks to you about this stuff. Or like being royal and having your own personal adviser. Your videos are a God-send. Thank you so much!
I really appreciate this. There is a saying in a recovery program-"What others think about you is none if your business". It took me a long time to believe and understand that. My most difficult relationship was my mother-in-law. She was just plain mean to me. I came to understand, it was never about me personally. It was her problem. When it's family and when it's your husband's mom(who he loves) makes it very difficult. At the end of her life, I was sitting on the floor next to her chair and she began to cry. I asked her what was wrong and what could I do to help. She told me she just felt so bad for me that my own mom had died too soon and it made her sad. That was the first time I felt loved by her and that she really did care. I am glad that happened before she died. Hurting people hurt people,
You did it again !!!, Excellent presentation about this topic!!! Well Done thumb up👍🏼
Thank you!!!
I subbed so fast I almost fell. I love my parents and they did the best they could with what they had and knew. I feel like you fill in so many of the gaps in my upbringing and deeply appreciate what your knowledge and experience is contributing. Thank you so much! I especially enjoy your videos relating to confidence, and how to be a responsible, classy adult. xo
I love it!! Welcome! Happy to have you! Thank you for sharing how much you are enjoying and benefiting from my videos!! Blessings!!
I am so thankful you are posting videos like this. My daughter turned 5 a few days ago and she constantly brings up me being "heavy, not being able to keep up with her during play". She means the world to me but it does pain me. I try to be confident in my current body but wearing a swimsuit in the pool or on vacation. I wear shorts even though I have varicose veins that show. I try to show confidence everyday so she has confidence.
Hi Margaret! I am glad! I think you are doing all necessary steps in showing your daughter how to be confident in her own skin .. just as she is. I especially think it is important to raise our girls to love their bodies. To recognize that they may not be perfect in all areas. But to be accepting of them. And to also recognize they have other areas that they will be pleased with. That comparing ourselves is counterproductive and a waste of time and LIFE!!! Bless you for working hard at this while your daughter is so young!!
Who on earth would unlike this! I love this woman!!
Thank you and Bless You!!
This is great message Tracy. I am listening to your messages one after the other. You have such motherly spirit many of us women need in order for us to straighten ourselves up and also to teach our daughters. I have a 23yr old daughter I am passing on your messages to. Thank you and keep them rolling....
15:40 - 16:05 I hope my mom talked to me and treated me like this.
You are very genuine, thank you.
Hello Tracy Hensel, good afternoon! This video of yours, I found it on my computer about 5 hours, but until now I post it only on my cell phone. You have a good diction and neutral speed to speak, I can understand you well. Many of your videos have great quality in audio like this one. I only watch and listen to videos with this technical feature. I'm learning your native language, English, on my own. Have happy start of month, February, which is of the Love and Friendship 💕🌹. Greetings from Sonora, México 🇲🇽
I feel so blessed to have found you on TH-cam. As a woman in my early 40’s who did not have a strong role model in my life growing up, I feel you are a God-send to me and so many others. I have learned so much in the last couple of months and you are the one I look to find first. I love the honesty and challenges you lay out for me on so many important life topics. Thank you for all the content you put out!
Thank you! God Bless!
3 videos later and I am already obsessed with you! you are SO inspirational and such a role model! I love you! Thank you for all ❤️
Totally agree about Instagram and younger generation! I delete the app from my phone since more than a year now and can definitely tell a difference in my confidence!
Thank you Tracy watching from Botswana. Learning to be a working mum with toddlers
“What do I say when someone is being negative, being cruel? Haha what do I say? I say “Who are ‘they’? Who are ‘they’ anyways? Do they matter in your life or are they just an acquaintance?” A mom of five daughters... I can picture you giving this speech so many times. I love your delivery when discussing your topics.
Thank you Kristina! I have many more recent video that would compliment this on on negative people. I hope you get the chance to watch them. Have a GREAT day!
Keyboard courage...ain’t it the truth!
I love your channel, Tracy. All of the videos I’ve watched so far have been just awesome. I extend a big, hearty thank you.
Keep up the good work ♥️
I lost my mom a few months ago. Somehow... I feel really comforted by your videos... Thank you.
Cara, I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I am happy that I can provide some comfort to you during this difficult time. Blessings!
Tracey. Wish I'd heard this when I was younger. Finally I'm accepting myself in my old age....perhaps wisdom.
I, for one, would greatly appreciate videos for my sons. I have two teenagers and they have been taught by us (me and my husband), but it is wonderful to have them hear another adult with the same instructions. Plus you mention things I may have never thought about specifically teaching them. I had them listen to your video for being a classy lady. There is so much there that is relevant for both genders!
I've now seen two of your videos. Looking forward to more :)
Thank you Catherine! I appreciate you sharing and all the support. All my videos are relevant for both genders. I encourage you to take a look around through the library and see what other videos you could resource for your sons.
I'm so impressed with your videos. I have 3 children that are happy outgoing and very successful but I just can't seem to like myself no matter what I do. I think watching your videos will help thank you 😊
Thank you Bonnie!! I pray that you learn to see your beautiful qualities and love yourself. having three children I am sure that you put everything into them. Sometimes we lose ourself along the way. I hope you can find and reinvent yourself!! You are worth it!!! Bless you!! xx
I'm thirty years older,also just found this channel and learning so much!!
Just so pretty! prettier in each video! Love ur accent and ur laugh
I needed this and my 15 year old daughter needed this. Thanks so much!
You're welcome, Cindy! Glad you both enjoyed!
Helpful video as usual! Speaking about parenting, I sure would love for you to kindly make a video on it as I myself am a new parent at the ripe old age of 42 and I struggle to not feel overwhelmed with it all. I know that having your first child at my age isn't the same as in your 20's however I would love to have some tips from you since you are such an admiral woman having raised 5 daughters so successfully. I'm sure you had and you still have your difficult moments but you surely are organized and know how to manage your time. You seem to take time to have a loving relationship with your spouse your children while looking always amazing! I would love to have some of your wonderful tips! Thank you , Giada.
I have two daughters, my oldest is 23 my youngest is 4 years old. I am 46 so from my experience I can assure you is actually easier now than first time around . I feel so much more mature and able to handle things with care and patience compared to when I was younger. So hang in there, one step at the time, don't try to be the perfect mom and cherish your blessings. Your little one will bring you so much joy . The best thing you can do is to follow your instincts and as Tracy said don't let anyone that don't matter to get to your mind - bad mouthed and such.
Simmy Bucur Thank you 😉
Hi, congratulations! I remember your wedding video! Miss your videos but understand how busy you are now x
Thank you, Giada! I really believe you would benefit from the blog posts on my website. I have a lot of content out there on those topics. Please resource them. Appreciate you sending such a nice and supportive message!!
Great advice!! Bless you for gleaming your wisdom on others!!
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my TH-cam channel 6 months ago about self development. Now I have 441 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Congratulations! It takes courage to start and discipline and perseverance to keep going. Great work pushing through the lessons.
@@TracyHensel Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say based on your posts and profile that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my TH-cam channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a TH-camr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this TH-cam thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)
I just started watching your videos yesterday night and you are already one of my favorite youtubers. You make me excited to be 40 years old! I hope I look as good as you when I'm 40, I'm only 17. Thanks for your videos Tracy!
Thank you Anika! I very much appreciate that! I love the fact that you are excited to get older. It can really be your best years. Blessings to you!! xx
I see classy, but too much botox. Her forehead doesn't move. Love her information, but doesn't confidence include be accepting self as we are? Botox makes women look robotic.
She does have confidence, but she is an entrepreneur who works with clients, most of them from the high society and she needs the specific skills in order to earn her money. A very good appearence, refined manners and professional skills are some of them.
Wow! You hit the nail on the head with “hurt people; hurt people” what an excellent way to put it... Thank you for your videos ❤️
Thank you!
This is an excellent video with a very solid, well reasoned approach to self-confidence. I have a suggestion for a video: "How to Deal with Various Types of People". Rude people who cut you off in mid-sentence, negative people who always bring you down, needy people who drain the life out of you, etc. I'd love to hear your opinions on this.
Thank you! Great suggestion! Be sure to watch the content that I already have out there on that. Also the content on my website. Also, a lot of what you are requesting is right here in this video and in the links provided.
Oh how I wish my mother would of had your knowledge to teach me..I am having my two daughters watch and learn from you since they didn't learn enough from me,I am so thankful for such a wonderful true lady like yourself to learn from..What lucky daughters you have..❤
Thank you Shelly!
Tracy, I watch and rewatch your videos all the time. I pick up lots of pearls of wisdom all the time. This video has made a lot of sense to me. Lately, I have seen in myself that my priorities are all over the place and boundaries are a little tough for me. Saying no to work is very hard. Recently, I was scheduled off for a day at work. Less than one hour into my scheduled time off, I received notification that there was a serious issue going on at work. I went in to investigate to find it wasn't as serious as I thought it was. This is one of many times I have sacrificed what was important to me to put someone else needs first. I do it all. the. time. I always have. I agree it's an opportunity for coaching. But, I would venture a guess that I am not the only person who struggles with this. Could you do some more boundary setting videos? I know I would appreciate it and given this is a typically female issue, I am sure other viewers would also appreciate it. Many thanks for all you do!
God bless you Tracey, what a blessing to have found you!
Thank you!
These are things my mother taught me and I passed this on to my son. So many people need this type of advice! Thank you and enjoy your videos!
Thank you! God Bless you for passing this onto your son!
So thankful to have come across your videos. What a blessing! Thank you for investing in us and addressing the whole person. All of the topics you talk about are so lacking in our "too casual" culture. Hollywood has not helped. Parents have neglected the "art of classy", unfortunately. Keep up the good work . We're listening and implementing!
Thank you Teresa! I appreciate all the kindness and support. God Bless!
You always convey the most positive and life enhancing messages. No matter what the subject of the video is, they always uplift me and give me such inspiration to be my best self. Thank you and bless you for these wonderful videos.
Thank you Susan!
Tracy, you are such an inspiration to me. I am a 14 year old student and have watched your etiquette and lifestyle videos. You bring a positive energy and wise perspective in every video. Bless you and your loved ones! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Julia! God Bless!
am I the only one that finds your sense of humour soooooo hilarious. I just discovered you but I really like what youre saying and Im 22. I wish my mom told me this
If there’s one video you watch from her channel ( there’s so many to choose from!!) it’s this one 😇😇
ABSOLUTELY FABULOUS!! LOVE THIS VIDEO!! I'm new to TH and THIS is just one small reason why I'm HOOKED! Sending it to my daughter who just started college--because what young woman doesn't need a boost of confidence from time to time??!! THANK YOU TRACY!!😍😘😘
Hi Stephanie!! Thank you!! I am so happy that you are hooked!!! Love that!! Yes, you are so right ...especially at your daughter's age! Bless you!!! xx
I’m so excited I stumbled across your channel. I love videos about elegance and class. You are a very lovely lady and your words are wise. I’m going to keep listening for sure 😉
Woo girl look at that sub count! Congratulations! I knew your channel would blow up❤️ keep the great content coming ❤️
Thank you!! Much love and Blessings!!
I am a new subscriber. I just happened on your video! You are so unique and helpful! You are one classy lady with a lot of confidence. You are a real asset to the work you are doing to help people. This is the second video of you I watched. You remind me of an aunt who I always admired.
Why have I found you, just now? I have been needing these pieces of advice for so so long, thank you for sharing these pearls of wisdom!
Glad to have you! God Bless!
Being on time when hosting an event! I've been to so many parties where they tell you a time and you get there and nothing is near beginning.
Hi Erika! Pet Peeve of mine. But, I have my own parties to worry about!! Everyone does things differently!!
Hi Tracy,
I am a fellow Flushing resident and have been following you for quite some time. As always, you did not disappoint. Love, love all of your videos.
Hi Janet! I LOVE this! thank you for sharing that information with me. Glad you enjoyed the video! Hopefully we cross paths someday!
Revisiting this video. The "life coach" videos you do are my favs. There are lots of beauty over 40 videos out there but so few relatable life coaching videos. I don't have a sister and, while my Mom is a super sweet lady, when trying to strive for the best me, I don't feel like I have a great deal of coaching resources. TY for being one!
Good morning! Thank you for bringing to light such an important topic. We live in a very different time with social media, however, this is an age old topic that never seems to change.....inferior feelings of self worth....the fine line of confidence vs. haughty behavior. Ugh. You have wise words for all ages! Thanks for posting. Just love all of your videos. Happy weekend! Enjoy life and those in your life. ;)
Hi Courtney! Thank you for sending such a wonderful message! I appreciate it so much!! I love everything that you said!! Bless you!!
I honestly appreciate how you take out your time to share all you know! Many people won’t do that. Your videos are inspirational.
In one of your videos, you mention how research is important if you want to succeed in a field. I know you are the best in your field. But may i suggest you some video series on life style coaching that you can watch as a part of your research. I am not anyway related to this lady but her videos have changed my life. If you may, please search ‘happiness unlimited by bk shivani’ english version. There are many more video series by her like ‘being bliss’, ‘healer within’, ‘being divine’, etc.. They have english subtitles.
You have helped so many people. This is a small gift from one of those people to you.
Awesome video!! :)
Thank you for your tips!
Video ideas:
1. How to date (for those of us who like to keep it classy and be able to find the correct partner.)
2. Best neutral outfits/ dress for success.
3. Holiday gift sets ideas (Sephora, JC Penney, Nordstrom etc )
4. Thank you notes etiquette
5. How to be a gracious hostess
6. Classic perfumes for ladies :)
God bless you and your family :) xo
Love to watch your videos when I'm feeling down or getting ready in the morning. Keep up the great content!
Thank you! I appreciate all of your wonderful suggestions. I do several Christmas Gift Guides. Stay tuned for those. Dating ... I have had many requests. I look forward to getting that one out. Have a beautiful and blessed day!! xx
I’m back! I was very busy with life but I just included your videos in my new morning routine and it feels good. You’re really making a difference in my life. Love you Tracy
Thank you Laura! Keep up the great work!
You are so encouraging, I’m almost 60 and learning from your videos !
I’m so happy we have you!!!! ❤
Thank you, and bless you, Lola!
I have let others take my confidence and your words brought tears to my eyes. I wish I had heard this, many years ago but I choose to believe it isnt too late. I'm starting from here! Thank you! You've tapped into a cultural need, a call, back to femininity and poise.
God bless!
It's never too late!!!
Great pleasure to see you and learn from you. So attractive and thoughtful. I look forward to more videos. All the best.
Im so happy i found your channel! Just what i need as im emerging into womanhood!
You are wonderful, Tracy! I am backing up my thoughts with your videos when talking to my daughter, it's so nice to find a person who has similar ideas and lessons! Thanks again!
Mrs. Tracy I love you! Thank you so much! You are a God sent and elegant blessing💖 It's so refreshing and truly inspirational.
Wow Tracy, another great advice video! How to cope with such issues is very much needed, especially for younger women. Can't wait for your next one on dining etiquette!
Tracy, are you thrive at the videos on this topic! Please keep them coming!
Hi Shannon! Thank you! I certainly will!
I'm so thankful for you
I came from a very toxic family now I'm 25 and self confidence is still struggle they way my mother and my narscict siblings were shredding my self esteem to pieces but I'm lucky to join your comunity
I'm so thank for your vedios I'm so happy to say look up for you I we'll became a great woman like you Tracey 🌸
I'm very thankful 🙏🌸
Happy to have you here where you can surround yourself around positive women.
@@TracyHensel 💜💜💜💜
I subscribed a while ago and I feel like your channel has just gotten better and better! I love the range of lifestyle topics and I love how open and honest you are! Your positivity is contagious, and I think this is an especially important message - to have self-confidence. Thank you for these!
Thank you so much for sharing that! What a beautiful and supportive message! Bless you!!
I love how direct you are,so intelligent. Blessings from Vienna Austria 🥰
Wow, You just booted my confidence. Thanks beautiful lady! God bless you and your family!🙏💕👨👧👧🙏
I used to compare myself to others. Now I have confidence in myself because of my boyfriend's encouragement and advice.
Shawn Lang good man you have.
Sounds like you got yourself a real keeper, Shawn!! Bless him and you!!! xx
I am SO thankful for these videos, more than I can say. This was my morning focus time video and it absolutely set the tone for the week. Thank you SO SO much for taking the time to share and post. It is helping women like me, who didn’t have a mother figure to look up to to learn these things!
Thank you Hailey! God Bless!
You are so confident. I wish I can meet you one day. Every advice makes me feel confident by you. Love you dear from India.
Tracy, I like your strength and positivity. And I find it inspiring and “catching”! I hope and pray that you will continue to derive strength from this channel, as we do from you.
Thank you, Lisa! God Bless!
I agree with you Tracy, I do understand the points you are making. However, I DID air dirty laundry on social media , in a closed group with friends, and they were so incredibly helpful. They were my rock during a time a family member was exploiting my mother - orchestrated by my jealous sister. A sister who was jealous my mother made me, the younger sister, her POA and MPOA. (it is a lot of work, nothing really to be jealous about!) Anyway, it was a nightmare and my mother died from the stress and I was assaulted by the person when I was trying to protect my mother. I think social media (you have to know your tribe) can be an amazing support system. But yes, just trash talking someone on social media is definitely an un-classy and, quite frankly, immature thing to do. But sometimes reaching out, not caring what people think and being transparent is a very good thing! Like you once said, people like relatable! I even had a friend say to me "this may sound strange, but it is good in a way to see this side of you..it makes you more relatable!" Hence, proving your point! :) People were a bit jealous and a bit suspicious because my life seemed "perfect" to them.. which was really just a lot of hard work and discipline to achieve a certain life and lifestyle. But once they saw me going through a real nightmare they were right there supporting me. That is all I wanted to say as I think it is important to be authentic... to show the good and the bad. It is important to not show only the good things in ones life and hide the rest. Friendships can't be built on sharing only the fabulous stuff. :)
I recently found your channel. I'm beyond impressed with your kind spirit and the classiness you carry yourself. I look forward to each of your videos with great tips of empowerment. Oh how i wish i was one of your daughters. 😒
Thank you Melisa!!
Meanies are usually jealous of you, do take rudeness as a compliment....I’ve learned to look at it this way n it actually builds my confidence so their scheme actually helps me!😁💯👏🏻😊
Best piece of advice I've heard this year. Tracy, you're a role model, and wish I had listen to this back in my teenage years. Thank you so much for sharing all this, such valuable opinions.
Thank you!
Tracy! Hello from Perth Australia! I love your videos...I must say though... this video and the video on how to be more classy is really where your strengths lay... you are an excellent self help speaker... please do more videos like this... you really do thrive in these kind of topics.
Hi! Thank you! I appreciate you support in my content!!
what about family? what if you work on this type of relationships and they just won't budge. I think this is also a situation when you should have the confidence and the strength to let go and move on. Not all family are created equal. I love them but I don't have to accept their destructive behaviors. If i'am changing and their not and they can't see that , then they will be left in the dust. Because life is about evolving as a human being. If your family holds you back in becoming your best version and perhaps by you doing this you break the toxic cycle and improve the next generation of the blood line. That is something worth sacrificing for. And to do that you need confidence! Thanks for your advice Tracy!
You will love my videos. I cover this in several. Time for a binge watch. Good Luck!
I am so happy that I found your page. This one really helped me. Thank you!
Tracy, the world needs you now more than ever! Obsessed with your channel - happy I found you. I would love love more feminine dating videos. ❤
Love you Tracy! The work you put out there is highly valuable! Thank you for being passionate about sharing your life with us. You’re an inspiration and a mentor 🥰🥰🥰
Tracy you are awsome!! Love your videos. So relevant and useful.
I wish I had a mentor like you when I was younger, great message for everyone, especially girls.
OMG I randomly stumbled upon you and I’m so glad I did! You are GORGEOUS & so inspiring!!! I can’t believe you have 5 daughters, you look amazing!!! I’m looking forward to watching more of you!!
Hi Wendy! Welcome and thank you! Have a beautiful and Blessed Thanksgiving! xx
This was great!!! And I have 5 kids too! I always tell them, what bothers them now won't matter when they get older. And it's so true! But at 12 and 13 they don't see it that way. But thanks for this video!
OMG! I needed to see this! Thank you so much! BTW, are you a motivational speaker by chance? Could you do a video on how to get through difficult times & coming out better than you were before? Thanks!!
Glad this video came at the right time!! Yes, I do indeed do some motivational speaking. Not as much as I used to when I was out there working with clients. I do have a couple coming up, however. I am really looking forward to them. Hoping to do more. Your suggestion for a future video is an excellent one and one I believe so many people need. We all have difficult times throughout our life and need some encouraging words from a friend! I would love to be that friend! thank you for the suggestion! Bless you!! xx
Thank you for being such a "mom" to us. I'm older than you are, but my mom never gave this sort of advice and I soak it in. Thank you! Hopefully I can pass your advice along to my family as you have.
That is so super sweet! I appreciate the nice comment! Blessings!!
I've been watching your channel for 2 weeks now and I've learned so much! Can't wait to watch more. Your videos and topics are so helpful! Thank you
Thank you Shelby!