100 MEN - Does Body Count Matter?
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- Does body count matter? Let me know which points resonated the most with you personally, as well as any thoughts you think i might've missed.
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Men already know the answer.
Women refuse to believe it.
Yes,this is the real problem
Because they grow up with feminism trying to tell them that men are trying to control them, so the instinctive response from the women is to do the opposite just to be rebellious.
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Yeah, and the penalty is never locking down the man you want. BRUTAL.
High body count Women brainwash all the others so there are very nearly no good women anymore.
Every woman who sees this video: “I’m different.”
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Actually, I agree with this video.
Please 😒
yes and by their immense vanity they each think their pu33y is the best evaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa lol they all believe the same stupid lies satan spoon feeds them 'they are different" "the grass is greener" etc.
The more she's had, the less she can be trusted.
But a guy can go smash everything??
Can't*
@ Beef?
That doesn't mean just because she's had fewer, she can be trusted. She may decide she wants to have a hoe phase.
True
It's almost like waiting for marriage was a good thing
It still is, even though it's uncommon and shunned by many.
Who would of thought
Nobody seems to take into consideration that this worked for hundreds of years quite well. The thing we have now is here few decades only and we're in deep s* already.
It is
@@Luke_wait_for_it_marengo most humans over the course of the past 10,000 years minus the last 100 yrs.
90% of women lied on that survey button
Correct, take the body count number, and times 3. Age old cliche` that tend to hold up pretty well.
@@cnihtthat’s old school outdate 90s talk it’s probably more like x6. They make excuses these days on certain acts not counting.
@@Dionysus_AthenaBingo.
Their mental gymnastics are wild.
@@Dionysus_Athenait doesn’t count with a condom xD
@ hahaha exactly. The excuses out there the irrational excuses. Or the it was only an emotional affair (which included sex). Definitely need to bring back publicshaming.
Even as a man, I detest hookups. Sure, it can be fun, but I have never felt more empty than after a one night stand. Never doing that again.
"Fun" is a strange word. I would say "pleasurable", or filling some need.
@@stanislavkimov2779 Like masturbation. And then regret that comes after.
Having sex before marriage but when commited - it's pretty good. Doing one nighters will depress you unless you really dont care at all
I've never even done it once, and I've been pressured by vvomen many times.
I'm a woman and I've never understood why people enjoy it. It sounds so...boring and awkward
A woman wants a man with a future.
A man wants a woman with no past.
Or
A man should not pay full price for a used car.
Women only want things and a certain lifestyle for free at your expense. I say the juice is not worth the squeeze.
Never pay for what other dudes got for free
Women with a high BC will never be completely satisfied because they will compare you to each man they've been with and want you to have ALL the best qualities of all those men, but because no one is perfect - you will never check ALL of her boxes
Also she will always be looking for options. Another issue is when he options dry up some women are broken because sexual control is who they are.
And because every relationship before us will have been a failure they have lost all faith in men. They compare us in everyway possible and hold us all to the same metric, men = bad. No sh8t you didn't vet the guy using you for sex, of course he was just having fun and as soon as you "weren't fun anymore" he left and ran game on the next woman who fell for his predatory charm and now there's no trust that she can pick the right man, that all men are predators and more over she doesn't have a clue on how to build a healthy committed relationship. It was fun while it lasted.
But the brutal truth is: women with few partners are very boring in bed. They just have no skills and knowledge about that. They can be good wives elseway, loyal, good in kinchen etc but as the sex partners they are just soooo tiresome. It is my experience.
@@marguskiis7711 You sound like many modern woman. “I ended my stable and healthy relationship for excitement.”
@@marguskiis7711wrong. If you love her you and her grow in that way together. If she’s boring to you then you have too many bodies..
High body count can show a lack of interest in emotional intimacy, a history of low value relationships and possibly a lack of interest in that person from other people.
very well put
If that's the case what about all of our ancestors that participated in raping and pillaging colonialism or the fact that In the west due to women barely having rights they weren't promiscuous as men were and men have slept with more women then women have with men and men are better at doing It because the man provides everything so the moment a women sleeps with 100-1,000 men where is the same energy for men with multiple women?
Don't forget it shows low impulse control, lack of ability to defer gratification, and a lack of risk avoidant behaviours.
Ability to defer gratification is one of the big ones most people just overlook. The two single biggest factors in predicting long-term success on both an individual and societal level are consciousness and deferral of gratification.
For me its way more simple. I just think it's disgusting nothing more. I think this is the case whit a lot of man. You can make it as complicated as you want but it's almost instinctively disgusting
@@spnked9516low impulse control is HUGE!
Body count is all that matters. She could be a 10 out of 10 but too many men - deal is off.
This is BS! A relationship is an equation with multiple variables . . . do you really think only this one matters?
a woman with too many men is never a 10 out of 10.
@@64ND41-F Of course not but it's an immediate deal breaker.
@@panwu6602 Why?
@ High body count makes women unable to pair bond and I want to have a happy family, children, get married.
If you're looking for casual kind of relationship or friends with benefits then sure, high body count doesn't matter or it might even be preferable.
This and many other things have been known for thousands of years but far too many people believe they're smarter and wiser in the last 60 years than those who have gone before us.
Our ancestors were smarter than we thought.😒
Body count absolutely matters. It ruins things from the woman's perspective too.
Females are generally actually attracted to experienced males. It's an evolutionary mechanism called pre selection bias. This is why it's so difficult for women to understand (empathize)why men care about her past so much.
Not true. If you ask a women if she’d prefer to date a 40 year old lawyer making six-figures with a 100 body count, or a 20 year old broke virgin. She would choose the lawyer every time.
If you reverse it and ask a man the same question, he would chose the 20 year old virgin every time.
@ moody spitting facts 😎
@@justicemoody Speak for yourself, as a woman that waited for marriage. I would chose the the 20 year old virgin in an instant. The lawyer would have a wandering eye and cheat first chance he got. I can make my own money thank you very much and don't need to invite that king of chaos into my life!
@justicemoody not really a fair comparison when women shouldn't really be having kids past 40 and a lot of men might be interested in that. Make the comparison 30 and 18 and I think it rapidly reverses.
"Does body count matter?"
Yes. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.
Yes it matters.
I am a woman who grew up ugly and became a mid adult. In short this meant zero sexual partners or experience until I met the one man who liked me for me. I always thought it sort of made me a loser, but at the same time, I like not having to deal with all the heartbreak that comes with having multiple partners. Most importantly, my husband loves me for me and I take pride in having only one partner.
How did you guys meet?
Maybe more important: How to find someone like you?
I love this for you. Trauma in childhood has a lot to do with those of us who can't make this same kind of statement. Add on top of that undiagnosed neurodivergence with unsupportive immediate family, and you have a story like mine. Blessings in your life, sister.
Women: "My body, my fun." Men: "My money my choice."
I say: "Her body, my property."
An adult man that has little to no money/financial security and is always pretty much BROKE who still lives in his parents basement, has poor hygiene and works a part-time minimum wage job is not attractive to adult women. It will destroy his chances of a long term relationship.
An adult woman who has a very high body count
(10+, 20 to 100+ etc) , dresses like she is a hooker an presents herself in public, social media, online/OF with hooker culture sxxual behaviour/activities will likewise destroy her chances of long term commitment with adult Men . It may attract fboys and short term hookups but it is not attractive for Men seeking a long term commitment and actually REPEL’s them.
This is a better cross comparison than body count just for BOTH partners regarding pair bonding in general.
Both men and women are different and VALUE different things that actually compliment each other and their relationship when given the chance.
You monster. How could you 😂
Any financial provisioning needed is now performed by an institution I like to refer to as "Hubby Government". This dynamic will continue until voting rights are adjusted.
For all the women out there who think that it doesn't matter
Then how come you think that height matters
You can't really do much about your height
of course it matters
Exactly, height is a values judgement.
Women only care about discrimination, when it's used against them.
body count is far more important a man can be manly at many heights mike tyson is 5'10 lol a women cant be decent with a hundred bodies in her past and ppl should be weary of the "born against' as too often women use the fact jesus freed the adulteress to live a life of sin knowing the betas in the church will take them these women by doing this are mocking men and God and flaunting against the sanctity of marriage
@@RealChuckNorris Chuck you need to bring back Walker Texas Ranger!
To all the men out there who do not want a woman with a high body count - don't try to explain your thinking on this matter; there's no need to go into any science. Simply say "A low body count is just my preference - surely you have preferences too, right?". The response will either be acceptance, or an opportunity to open a conversation on double standards ("how come you're allowed to have preferences, but I'm not?").
Or just follow path of least resistance until escape conditions present themselves. Erase, block all contact. Some times you can see the mine field, and you just can't be bothered any more. After a point there's just no point. Too many that aren't trying to understand anything any way, in a row. Might just push you there.
Yes! Body count matters.
Of course body count matters, no self respect shows how much respect is given to others.
I married a virgin, and it's been a hot ride it's been almost 40 years, and our love is just one, thank God for answering my prayers
That's why 50% of the population is single & men are wising up. Marriage is more of a hindrance & a huge headache & overall con for men!
Body count matters it tells people you make poor decisions and lack morals.
Simple
After purposely serving themselves up on a sample platter, they'll cry about "being used for their body."
@@Cyber-Rain As humans were all prone to being morally bankrupt, but sometimes women make me wanna vomit when they try to disguise their biggest flaws as something desirable or good. They really don’t care, this behavior generally makes me sick. Am I the only one?
Does bodycount matter? "YES" Greeting from ALL men around the world, no matter which culture. This is common sense by nature. It's called biology.
Higher chances of divorce and infidelity and in both cases men loses the most, kids, money and paternity fraud.
Men telling women it matters, but Women will find a way to Lie to themselves it doesn't.
It matters for men too, any self respecting woman will run for the hills if she knows a man has a high body count because he will cheat if she gets with him. You lose them the way you get them.
I was born in the early 70's and made the choice to forego marriage well into adulthood. As such, I've had front-row seat to a lot of the more recent evolution in male/female dynamics.
Things were very different when I was in my teens, and arguably better. There was genuine equality and true respect between men and women. Sure, there were promiscuous women then, as well as there are today, though much fewer, and certainly not hitting the numbers that modern tech like Tinder allows. However, there was a large segment of girls that seemed to understand the truths discussed in this video. It was not uncommon in high school or university to begin dating someone in an exclusive fashion and wait months for the big event. If I said that about relationships today, more than a few guys would assume that I was the one being made to wait, while the same girl was giving it up a few hours after meeting "Chad". Possibly true today, but not so in the era I describe. I'm 6'4" and spent 2 hours a day in the gym. I can assure you if anyone was being offered "the prize" it was me. These girls were genuine about waiting. While those relationships often ran their course, I can imagine that the fact that it was a genuine relationship plays differently on the psyche than being some guy's one-night pump and dump.
While I do give weight to the notion that one should not ascribe to malice something that can be explained by incompetence, it is hard not to imagine that much of this social engineering has been deliberate, and not at all for the benefit of the majority. Topic for another day though.
of course it matters
thank you kait, for the well researched videos you put out there. I really hope your channel grows and reaches a mixed audience! i agree with most things in your videos and you are one of the few that repeatedely shines light on the unflattering aspects of human nature and their consequences. You are one of the few, that succeeds in this, in a calm, graceful and professional manner.
keep it up! top notch
Thank you so much!
This is beyond a real concern when I contemplate dating in my late 40's after a difficult divorce following on from my Ex's cheating. The women in the 30-48 age bracket are likely to have 10+ past sexual partners these days and the big thing holding me back is that this makes divorce again so much more likely. I am less and less convinced now that there's any woman out there that want to build something based on lasting mutual respect for 3+ decades. Not because they don't say they want to, but because, regardless of what they think, in the modern world, they're not capable.
Is there any reason at all to marry again? What is wrong with cohabitation? Most states have done away with common law marriages now, so you can protect your money and property.
@TheMMSpirit I would actually take it a step further and argue that cohabitation is a bad idea for men in general. I mean, what's the point in engaging in something that is very likely going to greatly inhibit and restrict your personal freedom??
Because it's worth the good clunge thats constantly available always good for a while@@pe2point0
Find happiness without a relationship. Form strong friendships, keep yourself busy with hobbies, excersize, travel, saving money and enjoying life.
Adapt, improvise, overcome. Plenty of fish in the sea
Lead by example. If you are someone who have slept with only a handful of people, but had lots of amazing experiences, be smarter with your choices regarding the ones you let into your life. Also, if you are someone who have slept with many people, you have no right to demand someone who's selective.
Generally, if you're a man and cannot put yourself in the position of having multiple partners of your choice you won't even bother getting a semi-reliable one. It's called selection bias, and it's a real evolutionary thing.
Imagine a fresh piece of new, beautiful, pure tape, pristine and adhesive. When you press it onto a surface for the first time, it clings tightly, almost with a will of its own, forming a strong, practically inseparable bond. The tape’s stickiness is at its peak, making the connection secure and difficult to undo. However, if you peel it off and stick it to another surface, some of its adhesive is lost, leaving traces behind and picking up debris. It can still bond, but not as strongly as before. Each time the tape is removed and reused, its ability to stick diminishes. The adhesive weakens, and its capacity to form a lasting connection fades with each new surface. Eventually, the tape becomes so worn and covered with residue that it struggles to bond with anything. What once was an act of seamless unity is now unreliable, hollow, and fragile.
Great analogy!
😂 we did this exact exercise in middle school sex ed, thank you for the memory/laugh.
How does tape get hollow? You veered from the metaphor.
Probably the most comprehensive video on this topic. That I've seen to date.
If a womans body count is higher than mine, it causes red flags instantly, especially if she is younger than me. Iv never cheated and never would yet an ex cheated because I was on duty in the military and she was lonely and I hadn't replied to her texts, I was inside a metal ship
Heh. Whose woman didn't cheat on them while we were in the military? I got the dear john letter in boot. Seen others' wives/girlfriends dump them all the time, seen lots of married woman flocking to the clubs when their husbands deployed.
I haven't ever had it. I am grossed out at the idea of myself having more than one woman in my entire life, and also putting myself in a place where other guys have been so to speak.
Losing virtue means inability to pair bond; also, saving yourself for the person you love is respect for yourself, and your partner, the proof of love.
dude the editing on these videos are top notch! the sheer references of data is impeccable as well
"I inscribe the oaths of a woman in water." - Some ancient guy
This should be mandatory knowledge to teach our young before entering their adult life. Imagine how many broken homes could be saved! For me - I learn and understand new things in psychology every day - appreciated a lot - coming from a BPD relationship. Thanks Kait!
😂 wouldn’t matter women would still die what they want. Biology won’t allow them to not want and yearn for Chad 😊
I am virgin and I feel it does matter to a degree. I don't judge a woman for sleeping around a lot-but she has to accept that the plethora of sexual partners might be perceived as a red flag for the man she might want to commit to down the road. For me personally, it just reeks of a lack of self-respect and an inability to commit to someone long-term.
So in other words you do judge. But you also conform to the (deranged) societal norms which pressure you to say otherwise.
@@BarryAllen-no9nj
Right on the mark
I don’t understand this phobia of judging? Do you think you’re being a “good person” for not judging? Since when is it good not to condemn bad behavior ?
I'm so glad I subbed to this channel. I really loved the entire process of how you made the video (including us in polls and asking questions) - this might be one of the most important videos you've made. I literally had no idea about Vasopressin and it's function in males, it makes so much sense!
I wanted to add a couple of opinions on double standards:
1. It's WAY WAY more difficult for even attractive men to get sex than it is for women (even average women)
2. I have a theory that the reason why men are able to "spread the seed" is not because we're evolutionarily predisposed for non-monogamy, but rather men were more to die or get injured while hunting or in wars (historically) - which, if you look at the data is still very much present (workplace fatalities, injuries, war fatalities, victims of violent crimes etc.). So it was evolutionarily beneficial for our species that as long as there's one man left our species can still survive.
THANK YOU for making this, and please keep making them!
Edit: I'm sure women who engage in casual encounters regret SOME of them but not all of them, which is a mathematical certainty when you have many partners. Besides, if they felt such an intense sting of regret, they wouldn't keep doing them would they?
The more sexual partners someone has, the more likely they are to feel unsatisfied in a monogamous relationship and the more likely they are to cheat and/or leave/divorce. Anyone with half a brain understands it. A person who has been with tons of people won't wake up one day and be like "yeah now I am going to have sex with just one person for 5 decades". The chances are that they'll stray or bail when things get tough. Anything else is just wishful thinking.
I don't need any explanation. Just the fact that they are willing to do this, tells me everything I need to know.
Any woman that has had more than 5 partners is already on the slippery slope, due to their ability to pair bond, the impact of comparing current partner with previous partners and the impact on longevity of their current relationship. Once they exceed 10 partners, then they have in principle destroyed their ability to pair bond and form long term relationships, unless the lady takes proactive remedial action. Unfortunately as ladies never take responsibility for their actions, they don’t won’t to accept that they need to take remedial and proactive action.
Some studies say they start losing their ability to pair bond with just more than 2 sexual partners.
Body count does matters for both men and women, obviously with some differences as men are different from women, but have similar effects on their psyche.
How exactly does body count matter for men? If anything, I would argue that women find sexually-experienced men much more attractive and desirable than nonsexually-experienced men. That's because women typically rely on other women to "endorse" the men they are contemplating dating. This is what is known as "social proof". Whenever a woman sees a man who is desired by other women, she is much more likely to find that man more attractive than, say, a man who always seems to be perpetually single and unattached. It is a fact that women would much rather share a "high-value" man with other women than have an "average" man all to herself. This is all based on the concept of social proof.
Men are not penalized for experience, quite the contrary.
The difference is mainly that the same detrimental effects happen to men more slowly (it takes more partners to reach the same level of damage).
Que bunch of man304s coping that it is okay when they do it and ignoring that they are justifying creating the very problem they are complaining about.
@@NevisYsbryd It is hard to compare that based on the average body count as women are more easy to rack a high body count than men do. But sure it affects them differently.
It leads to divorce for both the higher it is👍
It’s not just women. It damages men as well. It’s just not as pronounced.
Age matters. Number of partners matters. Beauty matters. You tell by what they try to hide. It’s not rocket science
Is this even a question?
RIGHTTTT COMRADES WE MUST KNOW THIS ALREADY BY NOW
Body count does matter for most men if they are intending to have a long term relationship with that woman. It’s a question of how faithful they are likely to be in a monogamous relationship.
In today’s society I see women challenging men in an aggressive way in the workplace, on the roads, in public. Many seem to have an anger towards men and an entitlement over them. That’s just my view looking back on 30 years of adulthood
Preach sister ❤❤❤
Perfect video.
Will share it broadly
Whilst you highlight important, and valid, biological and psychological points, I believe another is rarely, if ever, offered as a potential issue; at least not directly. If a person has, say, three previous partners (no matter how brief) it's very possible they may find a future long term partner who exceeds the best qualities of those three. Surpassing the best aspects of fifty other people is somewhat trickier. As such, finding faults or shortcomings, in future partners, is a certainty. Combined with a weaker pair bond, particularly in promiscuous women, the outcome is almost inevitable.
She did address that, but yes.
@@vegbeg9170- Well, she sort of addressed it, by talking of women making comparisons with past partners. However, I'm more specifically saying that they compare individual traits of those partners ... "Your not as tall as b... You're penis is smaller than c... You're less wealthy than d... You're less generous than e... You're less tidy than f..." etc, etc. Perhaps that's what she meant - I'm certainly not criticising - but I just wanted to highlight that specific nuance. Therefore, they're effectively creating a unicorn, in their imagination, which, even if it exists, she's not going to attract...almost by definition, given her past exploits.
If the reason for why they left previous 3 is because they did not have enough of traits that they wanted, its likely to occur even at the 4th person. And when people say you need to find out what you like. Thats such a crap. If you have your values defined and you are disciplined enough not to engage in anything sexual prematurely, I assure you can get to know any person for what they are roughly speaking without ever having sex with them. You dont need to get to know them through sex. If values allign, 90% of problems are solved
@JP_KriptoSlo Yes, of course. I'm simply pointing out relative probability, not an ideal scenario.
It depends on how those three came about
If it was three long sexual relationship then she is more likely to find a future partner and also reason why that relationships ended also matters
My biggest pet peeve from promiscuous women is using “insecurities” as an invalidating buzzword towards men who have an issue with their past. Call it what you want, but a common gut feeling across the large majority of men isn’t something you should be so dismissive of. Perhaps you’re just projecting your own insecurity because you’re worried your actions prevent you from finding a good man who isn’t just after your body. Wonder if women would call themselves insecure for not wanting a previous drug addict?
It matters to men. AS much as women hate this, it matters.
And if you, as a woman, don't think it matters, then you aren't going to value a man's role or opinion in a relationship regardless. All the more reason to pursue avoidance.
Your articles are always good. Thank you.
Important topics.
This was simply excellent. Insightful. Succint. Well done.
Nice to see you Kait, it has been a minute.
Good job on this one, very comprehensive.
It is almost like men and women are different.
What you do matters and more young people need to hear your message.
I wish you well and much success.
thank you so much
Body count = Roster. Does body count matter? Absolutely. I'm still living life drama and disease free. And I'm not part of a roster either. 😊
Thank you so much for making this video we need this to be a main topic in social media
just saying an old saying:
a key that can open any lock is priceless
a lock that can be opened by any key is worthless.
it is not sexist if its true.
100%
That only says how much u value women and that they all should run as far away as possible from you
Well, I see your point but the comparison is not the best, a key that can open any lock is rather dangerous...
@@il9001 That is ... Master Skeleton Key!
That’s about perspective.
A pencil sharpener is a good sharpener if it can sharpen every pencil.
A pencil gets shorter everytime it gets sharpened. Eventually, the pencil becomes unusable and vanished if it gets sharpened too much.
Very thorough, thoughtful, and well written.
Very well said. I once knew a very promiscuous women and she was plagued by chronic depression and alcoholism. (No, I never had sex with her. I'm much older than her.)
Excellent video 💯 thanks
it absolutely matters but very few woman would acknowledge it.
They know it matters. They just use society norms to prevent shame
Insightful and informative. Excellent job Kait
Just be honest with your partner. If you're the part of the large majority that will regret casual sex, sorry for what happened. If you don't regret it, then good for you, be honest with your partner so that he can be informed that you aren't the type to easily form attachments and you probably have prior trauma.
I hear ya. There will always be exceptions & forgiveness to those deserving of it.
Sometimes it matters, sometimes I know when not to let it matter. It’s easier to overlook youthful naïveté’s vs the one seeking attention through their own spiteful corruption.
It’s all about the heart sometimes.
I'm turning 67 soon, and a young friend (27) reached out in real time on Christmas Eve. He went with his sister to her evangelical megachurch.
This place meets in an old warehouse complete with a rock band, jumbo boards, strobe lights, and smog machines. The absent pastor popped up on the jumbo boards to deliver what my young friend thought would be a nativity sermon. But instead the pastor preached on "why we can't hold women accountable for having high body counts.
Evangelicals have told me this is not an evangelical church, this is an "emergent church" (progressive church?). That I don't know, but it's disconcerting from clergy who shouldn't be enabling this.
The worldwide numbers of another religion are projected to reach parity with the number of Christians by 2050, and a clear majority of this other religion is expected by 2070. Like many other parts of western culture\society, Christianity is slowly collapsing and will eventually be replaced. While this is preventable in theory, in practice very few seem to have the stomach for what will be required. Either way, it won't be pretty...
@@Doberman_6773 I won't miss Christianity as a majority religion at all. The sooner that happens the better.
This has always been the Christian message. John 8:10-11 with the famous saying "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone" is Jesus saving a 304 from being stoned for her actions. What's missing in the church today is the part where they say what Jesus also said in that passage "sin no more."
The explanation for this is easy. That mega church relies on mega donations. Lots of 304s in the crowd that will continue to pay large donations to hear what they want to hear.
Sounds familiar, is it in inner city L.A?
Excellent video. So informative I recommended it to others already.
Thanks for sharing!
It's about ruining the ability to pair bond.
Kait, you are a blessing to women who need to hear the truth and keep their sanity.
High body counts, its result of deeper serious problems that make part of the person, its not a superficial one time mistake.
Ah veey nice. It is very accurate to how i feel. The more i love someone, the more I feel an urgence to protect and even nurse.
I am a man. My experience is that men’s body count impact relationship success as well.
If you study evolutionary biology or watch a National Geographic on male bonobos mating habits you will know why it does not.
Thank you for seeing it as a two-sided story and stating that. 💖💖💖💖
Thank you for helping put the truth out there. Even though the opinions may not be popular, they are factual
It matters to self respecting men, if you are willing to go for such a huge compromise just because she may be pretty, then maybe you need to question your life choices a bit as well
I think the way women are taught about sex greatly affects their feelings about casual sex. Women are shamed by society for acting on lustful feelings. Men are championed by friends on their sexual conquests. I hate this hypocrisy, and I hate slut-shamming. I do not shame women for having many partners, because it can be a day-to-day struggle to keep turning down attention. Having many partners might mean a phase they went through in college, but have matured beyond that. If you're judging a women like this its salt on the wound for shame she already feels. I understand connection is more fulfiling, but it can take a while to find someone you want to connect with.
What i find very interesting is how many times i've heard that monogamy is supposed to be something relatively new and that the typical Husband & Wife dynamic became popular in the last century, especially the last half. The interesting part comes with the fact that not long after monogamy supposedly became "trending", the sexual revolution happened. The result of which is executed polygamous behaviour. Casual things have been always a thing, but we all know it's unfulfilling.
Those who sleep around will sleep around, just gotta make sure you don't get romantically involved with that person. With a person infront of you nowdays, the hard part is: how do you know?
Dudes who say monogamy is new thing have only read/learnt of history through the lens of aristocrats. The average population, the 90%, I'd argue 95% have always been monogamous. And promiscuous women AND men have been looked down and frowned upon.
Great video - I subbed. God bless you & your mission. It’s great to see morality & decency being encouraged. I come across “Do the work podcast” last year & she defends high body counts (cos she has a sky high BC) - she seems the exact opposite of your approach & understanding & im glad I stumbled across your video. Thanks for preparing & sharing.
My AI robot waifu won't have had that high of a bodycount when they create her
Outstanding video. It helps my world model understanding of women, relationships and sexual market value.
I am a 19 year old guy who is a virgin and i have never had a relationship but my uncle told me that if i go on a date and i want to know a girl body count without asking directly
I should ask how many sexual relationship she had in the past and also ask how many of them were long term or how many were over six months or the amount of months i believe you should be in a relationship before you starting having sex
And this my uncle is the reason i am still a virgin today and i thank him every day for the knowledge he instilled in me cause he told if a relationship is not over six months i shouldn't have sex
You can heal from the effects of past sexual encounters, through mindfulness, meditation, therapy, Journaling, prayer, changed behaviour, affirmations, etc
The only way you will get women to understand this is if you put this in their horoscope. My lady frends that are single are all into astrology. manifesting and criminal minds profiling their dates as Emotional avoidment, Narcissists, or Mommy issues.
I completely agree. You have to absolutely feminize everything (if you will) to get them to understand anything like this.
There’s zero chance they will understand straightforward logic
They only thing how women will understand this is that incels like you didn't exists.
I can tell you why those double standards exist. A key that opens any lock is considered a master key, whereas a lock that can be opened by any key is just considered a shit lock. Ty
I think like all complicated things, it depends. I think people self sort by body count *and* by libido. I waited for marriage and chose a husband who did not sleep around. I think body count matters for both sexes and if a woman sees a man with a high body count and she wants a marriage in the future, she should run just as fast as a man looking for the same thing because that man will have a wandering eye and likely cheat in the future. Still libido matters too, it is very easy to wait for marriage if you have a low libido naturally. Some people have very high libidos and if they wait for marriage they will likely rush things and miss red flags to get a ring on it quick so they can scratch that itch or marry someone with a mismatch in that aspect of life so their marriage will be doomed to fail from the start. I think that is where "starter marriages" often come from. Both people in the marriage need the same attitude toward body count *and* have matching libidos.
"A humble woman is the only kind worth marrying." -- Me
Yes I agree
Nobody took the time to ask at what cost? You mean no women took the time. Men been wondering it for a while now
Well researched and presented.
Thousands of years of research
Nice analysis.
Truth. Thank you so very much for this incredibly important video
Im kinda curious Kait. After doing a number of videos like this that bring up mens feelings and our side of things. How this has impacted your life and thoughts with the men in your life?(Partner, Father, brothers, etc...) Could be an interesting video in itself.
If people are interested I will definitely make a video on this...I wasn't always this way that's for sure. I suffered DV, SA, and was poorly treated by men the majority of my life. But I have good men in my life and they changed a lot of the ways I saw the world and the beliefs I carried around needing to be independent, never trusting men, or that they were all self seeking, egocentric, hedonistic jerks. but as you said, all a story in itself.
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im sorry you went through such an awful experience but im so glad you've found some degree of healing. I'm also grateful for what seems like genuine interest, empathy and the hard work that you put into these videos. You are appreciated. @@Kaitdoespsych
Excellent. Very good video.
This video should be screened in schools.
Does body count matter? After 1 or 2, NO. Her pair bonding ability is gone after that.
The main issue here is that it depends on who’s answering this question. Lets say hypothetically speaking that there is absolutely no physical side effects to having a high body count, if the men you want decide they don’t like it then body count matters. The person who is selling something doesn’t decide how valuable it is, the buyer does.
Fair enough. Some of us actually prefer high count women.
Men, if you're not first you'll lose.
So having only one sex partner (i.e. your husband) sets you up for a better marriage that requires you to only have your husband as your sex partner for as long as you both shall live?
In other news, students who study for their tests are more likely to get higher grades on their tests.
And yet, so many are still failing tests inside and outside the classroom. Learning is hard.
They all know it, they just don’t like it.
Hedonism above all is this culture.
@ That’s not always the result of bad study material, but bad studying methods. Schools ensure that their students have the necessary study material to pass their tests. The rest is up to them.
But aside from that minor point, it is only logical that for a contract requiring both individuals to make each other exclusive sex partners and not to have other sex partners, that works best when both parties aren’t conditioned beforehand to having a slew of numerous sex partners.
@The4Tifier no they don't. Schools are a disaster for learning. This is coming from a guy with a teaching degree. After seeing how education follows none of the research it teaches.
I will never send my kids to schools. I cab teach them way more in less time
@@The4Tifieri like the original comment😂, life to me is the ultimate test
What a show, thanks for this amazing and very informativ video. 👍
If you can't respect yourself, you can't respect other people. Don't date such low people.
This was all true thank you.
Some of my favorite women I know.. stay FRIENDS... caus I know what a relationship with them would be like.. they are simply too brokken.
especially now these girls are now in 30s-50s... far too much damage for anyone to "fix"
no... some openly tell me they've cheated on every man theyve had, even though some of these men were good men..
correct, they are often VERY "open" and can chat easily with men because men like DIRECT.. often will tell people they barely know a lot of these things..
For any woman watching this, ask yourself would you climb into a pair of dirty underwear that’s been worn by 100 different people or would you rather a new pair only worn by yourself ?
That’s an analogy I kinda like for how myself as a guy see it when woman have too many partners.
Me too, I do the same thing for men. Period.
That was the perfect analogy.
I love it !!
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