Spoken from a guy who’s planning on spending my money? Dude make sure your viewpoints match in the argument otherwise you come off as a dumbass and a AH
Which you say as you plan in spending MY inheritance? Dude make sure when making a point, the bullet points follow the same path. Otherwise you come off as a dumbass and a AH
Another reason I absolutely would not tutor that sister is that you would immediately become the scapegoat for her grades alongside everything else. The sister could just refuse to learn and blame her failing on OP. In situations like these you really just have to hold on until you can escape and never look back. Work hard on getting scholarships so, in the case what the sister said was true, you can still go away to uni regardless of the abusive family. Maybe when you're out of their lives they'll realise the truth or maybe they wont, but you can still set yourself up for success even though it's really fucking hard to have to totally rely on yourself as a 16 year old.
I do hope OP gets out of that place as soon as possible. You're definitely right about OP becoming the scapegoat for the sister. Hell, the sister would probably INTENTIONALLY fail JUST to get their mother to fly off the handle and punish OP somehow. OP should 100% leave them behind and never look back. Also the dad would be rolling in his grave if he saw this happening.
@@Gabriel-lh7gy The scapegoating had LOOOOOOONG been happening before this. It just would have been another avenue of torture for the sister to use on OP.
The Op's mom in the last story is vile for sleeping with her daughters boyfriend that they have both known since he was 13!! I would also say the mom is a groomer, who knows how long she had her eye on that teenager, absolutely disgusting!!
The mom is absolutely a groomer & sexual predator and I think r/slash should have given her a 5/5 butthole score because what the mom did is absolutely atrocious
I think when she was in PPD she did this cuz she hated the kid, probably. That's messed up as well. Also saying that OP should've "gone" instead of the dad is also super messed up
How does RSLASH get off on JUST a 3/5 for these two evil, twisted, horrible people? The man has given 4 and 4.5 for LESS, these twisted psychos deserve nothing short of hate and scorn for their twisted behavior.
@@lorilancaster5917Its only been two weeks and OP has no other posts at the time. It seems like a very recent event, not an old one that was dug up, so we'll have to wait.
Story 2: OMG! Are you kidding me?! ABSOLUTELY NTA! OP, once you turn 18, run. Get away from your toxic " mother " and your entitled brat of a " sister ", and NEVER look back! I really hope for the best for you, OP. You DO NOT deserve this! Let " mommy dearest " cater to her " precious baby " however she desires, but don't drag OP down with you! Plus, ouch, when the sister told OP, " Mommy wishes you were dead! ", and showing no remorse, yeah... NO! That is just disgusting. OP, find other family members, or friends, to help you get out of there. Definitely go NO CONTACT with both that monster of a mother and that spoiled, entitled sister!
To be fair, we don't know if the sister is telling the truth about that part or not. It could be that the sister is just saying the most hurtful things she can to OP because she gets some sick pleasure out of torturing her sister. Unless the mom actually comes out and says it herself, I'm taking what the sister says with a grain of salt. Do I think the mother resents OP for some crazy reason, yes definitely. Do I think she wants OP dead, highly doubtful, otherwise things would be much worse for OP. Do I think she wishes that OP was dead instead of her husband, possibly, we also don't know what kind of relationship the two parents had outside of the dad calling the mom out on her blatant favoritism.
@@asdfdsf-s4u No they don't, they literally say at the beginning of the story 'My parents had me (16f) and my sister (14f). We lost our dad a few years ago.'
I was thinking the exact same thing! It is so obvious, especially when you look at the details. The mom pounced as soon as she could, without it being illegal.
It is gross, and the fact that I don't see a lot of people talking about this is troubling. Imagine if it was some creepy man that pushed his son to date a girl he's known since he was 13. 🤢🤢🤢
Yeah, their seems to be a lot of female teachers sleeping with students so I'm not surprised, the only difference is that she waited for the kid to grow up.
@exiledpain6 Maybe but I've heard of parents doing it all the time. Though ots usually step kids or half siblings. So I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if it were true
No one is ignoring anything. It’s all we’ve discussed. Unless there’s proof that she did the deed with him before the age of consent, nothing can be done.
@@lorilancaster5917 Even if there is proof, the mom would get a light sentence at the most and not receive any punishment at the least, since there a disgusting double standard about underaged boys being assaulted by adult women. For example, a 13 year old girl being groomed by a older man would get people to comfort her and actually acknowledge what happened was grooming. Meanwhile a 13 year old boy would have a bunch of dudes, including there male relatives asking them how great it was to do the deed with the abuser, and people saying it was not grooming or assault since he “liked it”.
Story 1: don’t you just love it when a potential spouse shows off the red flags before the relationship becomes serious? NTA Story 2: Wow! Just… WOW! I know I’ve said it a million times before but it cannot be stated enough. There has to be a specific layer of Hell for parents who not only shows blatant favoritism, but also to enable abuse and wish for a certain child’s death! Also judging from the sister, I can only imagine her future being in jail or in a body bag! NTA A-F!
@@JamesDavy2009 I've heard that sometimes judges ignore prenups. She's better off dumping him and finding someone else. He would find a way to get that money if he had to steal the account details. He wants that money to badly to not try to get his hands on it. Plus if she ever gets like a bonus at work and her plans were to save it for a rainy day or future kids. He'll already have plans on how to spend it. Plus after she blew up on him he stayed playing games for hours before confronting her. She's better off without him.
Story 3 : This is why you don't tell people about windfalls like this. Literally no one. It's not even selfish here because OP doesnt have a parent. They likely wont get anything from their fathers wife or the wifes grandparents. OP is having their windfall collectivised but any losses will be solely on them.
🤔 he doesn't need to split the money three ways or with anyone but not wanting to help your own dad after coming into such an inheritance is a little selfish
@@isaiahtorrezao7461not to be rude but you miss the part after OP spilled the beans, the dad blabbed to his wife, who then blabbed to her daughter, and then the dad and stepmom cornered OP into splitting his inheritance? That’s not the kind of dad that gets financial assistance
@@isaiahtorrezao7461 There's a reason the mother had stipulations about the father remarrying and having more kids. She knew something like this would happen, and the father revealed his true colors. This is OP's money and he can do whatever he wants with it, including not giving any to his greedy father, step mother, and step siblings. Is it selfish, yes, but as Rslash said, it's good to be selfish once in a while, especially if the money is meant solely for you, and nobody else. It's so OP can take care of themselves and insure they they live a comfortable life. If OP did give any of the money away, that's less of a comfortable life for OP. The family's struggles are not OP's struggles, and he should not be expected to pay for the family's bad choices and burdens.
Story 1: NTA, at first the fiancee wants to marry OP for her, but now, it feels like he is making it look like he is marrying her for the money, which is a massive red flag. And he has the gall to say that the money is his as well, like what? You aren't in the will, son. The money isn't for you! Call off the wedding OP, this guy is a greedy, entitled AH.
OP's lucky the fiance showed his true colours early before the vows and any potential children (though OP stated she didn't want any). It would have been different if he had ASKED but he didn't and assumed. In some places I don't think he'd even have ACCESS to it if they had gotten married as it's a premarital asset that was stated in another comment somewhere here.
Problem with that is, let's say theoretically, that he runs into 2 million dollars and they were in a financial struggle. What if he doesn't spend a dime on her only stuff they share. Is it fair then? I think he overreacted, but it's right for him to think that if they are sharing money they make from their job, then they should share money from an inheritance.
I am thinking he knew OPS grandparents had money and thought to himself "Jackpot, I will have my own personal ATM machine" and will live like a king, off of OPS money sounds like a gold digger to me
Tipycal case of "your money is our money, my money is my money" most women feel that way and behave that way, most men are the opposite, I dont blame OP for being angry since her fiancee was a douche on how he responded, however she is also the AH because she shows that she is selfish and definetely not ready for marriage
Story 1: ‘my bf scolded me’ scolded? Op, you are not a child! I’m noticing a pattern, more often on the relationship sub, women say ‘scold’ or chided’ when they fight with their husbands like they’re a child and not a partner.
Most women behave like one, also most women have never received criticism from a man just pure flattery whether it be true or just to get into their pants so their first thought is feeling like a child as it would be the first time since their parents that someone told them off.
For Story 2: OP, move out ASAP, and when you do, tell your "mom", that from that moment on, she only has one daughter. She made sure of that. Tell her, that from that moment on, to them, you don't exist and to you, they don't exist. Naming your child after a relative you hated. Saying you wish your own child died, instead of their father (although, this might easily be just the sister being cruel and lying), clearly favoring one child, even going so far as to take the full college fund from your other child and giving it to the baby... That sad excuse of a mother earned the 5/5 in my book. And rSlash is right. For the sister, the issues are rooted deeper than her grades...but they stem from mommy dearest...
"even going so far as to take the full college fund from your other child and giving it to the baby..." This also has potential to be a cruel lie from the sister. Unfortunately, anything the sister 'claimed' has to be taken with caution. The sad thing though, is that it's all believable based on the mother's past actions. Best option is still to leave the moment she can, and cut all ties.
And what did OP do to receive the name of a relative her mother hated? She was a baby! So the mother decided she was going to hate on OP for no reason despite her being a baby and then act like her next child is the perfect one. What a monster.
OK Dana. In Canada only (that's the stats I have access to), about 240 people die of cancer EACH DAY. Please let's not make this about you getting triggered by a biopsy scar. It's sad your mom is ill, but it does not make you the center of the universe. Let other people live.
someone pointed out that China doesn’t do daylights savings. No big deals but it’s always fun to sleuth the reasons for schedule changes to my Morning Rslash Video
Doing the legal requirements to take care of a minor child in your custody doesn’t give you the okay to sleep with their partner. No need for the pedestal since she’s wallowing in the gutter
@@lorilancaster5917 To use a Judge Judy-ism, are the grandparents really trying to justify the fact that their daughter (in law) is a cradle robber/child groomer?
16 year old OP. I get what she's going through. Damn. I think she should get her own account (does she have a family member that can take her to open it?) get a job, and leave at 18.
Last story: did your grandma do that to your mom? Like they are so against you cutting off your mom that makes me wonder if Grandma or grandpa has something they're not telling you. Because I can't imagine being okay with a mom sleeping with her daughter's boyfriend, she kept the roof over your head and fed you because she had to that is not an excuse for her to betray you like that.
Omg the poor girl in the second story, she’s got no family to help and her mom even sabotages her trying to get a job, literally calling over and over demanding she get fired until she did. I hope that poor girl gets away 😢 seems like she made the post to reach out for support
Story 4; So because mom did the bare minimum - provide OP with a roof over her head, food and water and clothes - somehow that makes it okay to sleep with her daughter's boyfriend? What?! No, doing the bare minimum of what is legally required does not give you a free pass to be a 💩 person.
Yeah, I'd say that her transgression completely negates whatever support she gave her daughter over the years. It's like if a friend got you a game console, but then stole your car, but other friends tell you to just let it go since he bought you that game console.
No.. a person in their 30s is just as much an adult as someone in their 50s. Unless that men was mentally underdeveloped there was no grooming here! Just cheaters!
@@Robin93k uhh the guy in question is 18, NOT in his 30s, and OP's mom knew him since he was 13 or possibly even younger (that's just how long he and OP had been "best friends"). Maybe you had ages mixed up with the first story in the video? Anyway, I'd say it's a bit of both, cheating and grooming, because 18 is old enough to know you shouldn't mess around with other people when you have a partner, but the likelihood that there wasn't also grooming involved is basically zero, given the context and how the "stuff" happened RIGHT as soon as he became "legal" :/
Anything inherited before marriage is not considered maritial assets. He's legit not entitled to any of it, even if they marry and divorce; he's only entitled to what they build together, not what she inherited or owned before.
Story 4: How is having a scar which by the way isn't exactly something that can be helped insensitive? If anything that other girl was being overly sensitive and expecting way too much out of everyone else. Yes, dealing with a relative having cancer and knowing that they might not survive is a pretty arduous ordeal but you don't get to just start making unrealistic demands of everyone else.
My guess, and I’m not saying that there is logic or reasoning behind it, the friend feels like she has no control in her life and is projecting on to OP. Get some therapy and don’t police peoples clothes
For the last story, I just love how people or parents point out that they put a roof over someone's head or put food on the table and expect to be rewarded in return. People can choose to have babies and be responsible for said baby, not vice versa.
Story 4: Yeah I'm pretty sure you can't guilt trip a cancer survivor because her mom (not her) are going through cancer. I understand this is a difficult time for your friend but not to the point she can demand you cover up your scar because she doesn't want to see it, you two were going to swim what did she think you were going nowhere?
as someone with a lot of scars, it's so depressing when this happens. people expect you to stop living your life freely for their comfort and it's so entitled. you're not responsible for someone's triggers if you're just existing in their near vicinity
2nd story: I CANNOT STAND PARENTS THAT FAVORITE KIDS! I hate to say it but op sister is PROBABLY right about the mom tolerating her, wishing she died, and only loving her younger sister.
Parents playing favorites with their children are THE WORST!!! Clearly, this mother doesn’t watch Bluey. In one episode, they say/show why you NEVER PLAY FAVORITES! But clearly OP’s “ mother “ doesn’t care in the slightest. And her “ sister “ is just the WORST!
We don't but it's definitely possible, my guess is that it didn't start that way and genuinely encouraged her at first, then in the later years wanted him and that's where it started
Story 1:OP just spoke facts,why fiance mad? OP,Get an ironclad prenup made should you still want to marry that gold digger,you know to dump him if he refuses,know what,just dump him NTA
Story 2: Hey, hey, y'know what? My mom also had postpartum depression after having me, quite badly in fact because this was just around the time of the SSRI revolution in mental health treatment. You know what she didn't do? Abandon me and shun me for the rest of my life. She took me to stay with her mom (my grandma) while she worked through it and had her and me as emotional support. So any woman trying to use postpartum depression as an excuse for being a neglectful piece of shit of a mother can get bent.
*First OP:* At the risk of sounding like a Reddit cliché, OP should take this as a red flag and end the relationship. OP is NTA. This is why you should never assume. *Second OP:* I'm hoping this is rage bait. If not, I hope OP has friends or extended family she could stay at because I feel that her mom and sister will make her home life even worse than it already is. OP is NTA, and if what her sister told OP about their mom was true, I hope there's a special place in hell for her. *Third OP:* OP's only mistake was telling his dad the amount of money in his account. While I can understand OP's dad's and stepmother's frustrations, OP is NTA. I wonder if OP's dad was cheating on OP's mom and she knew about it, hence the account. *Fourth OP:* I feel for Dana, but it's OP's body and if she wants to wear a bikini to get a tan, that's her choice. OP is NTA, and Dana should've removed herself from the situation. *Fifth OP:* Did OP's mom encourage OP to ask out her then 16-year-old ex to live vicariously through OP? _shudder_ OP is NTA, and she should cut contact with her grandparents too.
For story 3, yeah the mother definitely didn't think the father could be trustworthy considering she went to such lengths. Good on her honestly. Story 5, oh she did NOT need OP to live vicariously through. She got the bf after all. But agreed, the grandparents are terrible for siding with the mother. I HOPE they only got one side of the situation because they're just as bad. What OP's mom did destroyed OP's trust, love and relationship. I hope OP never talks to that trash again, as she deserves. Like some comments said though, it's... unsettling that the mother knew him since he was 13... Raising the potential flag that they were groomed. Though still, the bf does shoulder some of the blame in that instance. Some if groomed, equally as guilty if not.
Imagine telling a cancer survivor they're insensitive for having a scar and not hiding themselves away from others. It's not your job to manage other people's triggers.
Story 2, OP needs to start building up some connections and planning her exit strategy and no contact with family ASAP. Don't tell anyone about it unless necessary, and figure out what you want to take with you, figure out college from that and make sure to have a backup in case the first plan fails. That type of lifestyle can be fatal, and it is only going to get worse.
My family dynamic was EXTREMELY similar to the second story, except my dad wasnt dead, he divorced my mother. She hated me because I loved him and because I did things similar to his mother, whom she hated. She taught my younger sister to bully me just like OP's mother. My sister hasn't spoken to me since we were 16 and 17 and I stopped talking to my biological incubator three years ago when I was 20.
My dad had liver cancer and had a giant scar from the base of his sternum straight down his abdomen. (It looked like he had been gutted like a fish). We also live in a hot climate, so he went shirtless all the time if he was gardening or running or something. Never once did anyone ask him to "cover up" and if they had, that would have raised more than a few eyebrows. If you're triggered by someone else's scars/appearance, it's on you to deal with it by (politely) removing yourself from the situation. You/your family are not the only ones on the planet who have gone through a cancer treatment, and expecting everyone else to modify themselves to you is beyond ridiculous.
My whole body's thrown off with the DST Spring Forward. I'm in PA, and my friend in AZ doesn't have to deal with this because AZ doesn't do Daylight Savings Time. 😂😂😂
Last story: The mom knew the bf since he was 13. Maybe she groomed him - she waited until he was legal, but still. That's just sick. And it's just as sick that the grandparents are sticking up for her.
@arithefierysecretary6411 i mean, I hope so, too. I really do. But even if she did, it doesn't change the fact that, like you initially pointed out, she slept with a kid her daughter's age, whom she knew since the age of 13. That's an ick that can't be explained away.
My money story. It's true that OP doesn't have to share the money with anyone. But it's also true that the parents could've saved money on OP to save for the siblings if they had known. But I guess OP doesn't want a family in the future.
Story 1: I was willing to give OP's bf the benefit of the doubt, even with the Boy's Trip comment, thinking maybe he was of the mindset "we can use that money to pay off things we're already paying, so we can save the money we would be spending otherwise, and spend it on things like Boy's Trips and other luxuries." But when he came out and beratedOP, I was like "Oh, no. Dude is just an entitled peckerwood." Dump him and run like Hell, chica. Dude has all those red flags, and doesn't own a rollercoaster? Save yourself, sis.😂
A child does *NOT* owe a parent for doing the bare minimum of what is both legally and morally *required* of them. Children do *not* ask to be born, they do *not* choose to be born. It is *100%* on the parent to house *and* feed them. This is a given, it is *not* a favor.
My guess is RSlash is still out witch is fine but the schedule is set to 8 o’clock like normal but it didn’t take into account of daylight savings so that’s why it’s coming out at 9. Which is fine. Hope RSlash is having a wonderful time with his family. He deserves it
Story 3: even if you wanted to split the money I doubt your grandparents are going to agree to it, that money was specifically for you and you alone your mommy declared she didn't want it to go to anyone else. And your father should be splitting it with you and dividing it equally because he's your dad and should want to contribute to his child's future. But it's okay because now he can take the money he was saving for you to his other kids because you clearly don't need it. Your grandparents did what anyone would do helped secure their grandchild future, you didn't expect that much money to be in there but it is and maybe you'll help in the future but for now that is your money.
Expecting and pressuring one child to give up an inheritance from a deceased parent to assist half siblings or step siblings absolutely confirms you have failed as parents
The entitlement to someone else's money is baffling. Someone you know and claim to care about getting an inheritance doesn't mean you get a portion of their money just because you know them and claim to care.
However, there's nothing wrong about asking to be shared on that inheritance. On that 1st story, OP should heavily rethink her plans and never marry thay douche. On the 3rd story, the parents tried to ask, and OP never mentioned any flaws or maltreatment, so it'll be really up to him if he wants to help his siblings...
The mom in the last story is really bad because not only did she cheat with her daughter's boyfriend, but she knew the guy since he was a child. That's gross. I don't know how you could look at someone you saw grow up and think of them sexually. Poor girl, 2 of the closest people in her life betrayed her.
Selfishness is a scale. Theres a wild difference between "I had another bite of my chocolate because I did good on that test!" And "You should give me your money because it's UnFaIR!!1!!!"
Video title does that count as a sweet home Alabama? Scar story Reminds me of a time the whole family/extended family went on a beach trip. I had the nail permanently removed from my left big toe (it never quite healed right and is a bit ugly) a entitled mom at the beach with her two kids demanded I put shoes on my toe was upsetting her kids
Story 2: For the name, it's definitely so she has a reason to take her anger out on who she really resents. I mean, she chose the name. The mom needs all the therapy to get rid of the resentment issues, and the daughter needs therapy before she becomes and adult and continues her behavior to the point that it ruins her image (and probably blame OP for it even though it's the mom's fault), and OP should go full NC
Pretty sure the mother is just an abusive narcissist. She just needed something to blame her being abusive on, because narcissists can never think of themselves as being wrong. Literally "I can't do anything wrong, so everything I do is right. And if it is wrong, it's someone else's fault."
Story 2: a few years later ops mother will be regretting her blatant favouritism she’ll be saying things like “I never did anything wrong” they always do
Omg that scar story made me laugh. My family and I have been through a LOT and have way too many scars from those moments. We're all insecure about them but the only ones I find triggering are the ones on my own body and I have had to accept that these scars are now a part of my loved ones bodies and I can love and accept them even if they're really not pleasant to look at or be reminded of why theyre there. It's hard enough to accept yourself enough to show scarred parts of you in the privacy of your home but it's even worse to be judged by everyone else. My dad also had cancer which was a really difficult thing to go through but I couldn't allow myself to get triggered by everyone else who has any form of cancer and are just trying to live their lives. The concept of psychological boundaries have been kind of warped from "this is something I can't tolerate so I'll remove myself from the equation" to "this is something I dont like so you must change yourself to appease me" and it seems like this is a classic case of that. It's not fun to be reminded of the shit you're experiencing but you can only change your own behaviour and thought process.
"My money" story.... Yep, exactly. It is OP's money, period. If he chooses to give some to others, it is HIS choice, not a requirement. Scar story.... So, a little three inch scar. OP is NTA. Her choice.
She knew her daughters BF since he was 13, sounds as if she was grooming him so she could sleep with him when he turned 18 and telling her daughter OP to date him sounds to me that the mom just wanted to get even closer to him to dig her nails into him so she could eventually get him into bed eventually. Just sickening to me and what is up with OPS grandparents? I wonder if the mom has issues with this in the past and they're just covering up for their daughter?
Story 3:People,rule #1 for having lots of money:"never tell anyone you have lots of money,just get the absolute necessities for basic life,then dependong on the behaviour of those around you,get other things,but akways make sure you save most of it" OP's money,OP's decision,NTA
According to the story as well, it seems the parents aren't the AH, too. It's just a case of no1 is the AH. OP has all the rights to hold on to his inheritance and not share. The parents isn't wrong on trying to ask and convince OP to share. The parents might had called OP selfish, but that's because he is being selfish. OP didn't mention anything about the parents doing any retribution on OP's selfishness. It's actually gonna be nice if OP could help his siblings, he doesn't need to give the parents any money, just help out his siblings when they are on college, no matter how he could. If OP choses to still not really want to help and just be very selfish, he's got all the right to be. So, no1 is the AH on that story for me...
I don’t know if you’re still in China, DadSlash, but the clocks got set back yesterday in the states. I think it might be tinkering with your upload time.
I have a similar tramatic experience with cancer amoungst my close friends. And yes, there are people in public with cancer scars. But I've always thought it was nice that they had the courage to show that, and it brought me a sense of solidarity and confort. An "oh, you get it" response basically. I understand people process trauma in different ways, but that still doesn't give you the right to police other people's bodies.
Everyone talking about the time change for Rslash new video Meanwhile in New Zealand it’s still uploaded at the same time (3:01am) until our daylight savings time in April (so it’ll be 2:01am)
"You'll become my financial burden."
I'm sorry whut.
Spoken from a guy who’s planning on spending my money? Dude make sure your viewpoints match in the argument otherwise you come off as a dumbass and a AH
This the charm and wit she’s marrying him for 😂
Which you say as you plan in spending MY inheritance? Dude make sure when making a point, the bullet points follow the same path. Otherwise you come off as a dumbass and a AH
Sounds like an eastern religious culture, one of those "the woman is the man's property" types.
He thinks her inheritance is his dowry.
Inheritance is already a premarital asset. He’s not entitled to any of that.
Especially now since he’s shown his true colors. I hope the wedding is off.
still not a good idea to marry such a person, because they might be able to finesse their way into getting at it due to legal rights as a husband
It's still off limits even after marriage
@@Nerobyrne I'm pretty sure inheritances are protected assets
@@Masenkendepends on where they are from. In Germany for example that has just been the case for 15 yeara
Another reason I absolutely would not tutor that sister is that you would immediately become the scapegoat for her grades alongside everything else. The sister could just refuse to learn and blame her failing on OP. In situations like these you really just have to hold on until you can escape and never look back. Work hard on getting scholarships so, in the case what the sister said was true, you can still go away to uni regardless of the abusive family. Maybe when you're out of their lives they'll realise the truth or maybe they wont, but you can still set yourself up for success even though it's really fucking hard to have to totally rely on yourself as a 16 year old.
I do hope OP gets out of that place as soon as possible. You're definitely right about OP becoming the scapegoat for the sister. Hell, the sister would probably INTENTIONALLY fail JUST to get their mother to fly off the handle and punish OP somehow. OP should 100% leave them behind and never look back. Also the dad would be rolling in his grave if he saw this happening.
Agreed, that was my thought as well. The sister would use it to get OP in trouble, once again.
but now the sister can just no do shit in school and blame OP, its a lose lose situation the moment the mother asked OP the scapegoating started
@@Gabriel-lh7gy The scapegoating had LOOOOOOONG been happening before this. It just would have been another avenue of torture for the sister to use on OP.
That 'mother' is a truly horrible person.
The Op's mom in the last story is vile for sleeping with her daughters boyfriend that they have both known since he was 13!! I would also say the mom is a groomer, who knows how long she had her eye on that teenager, absolutely disgusting!!
My thoughts exactly
I was looking to see if anyone else noticed that!
I came looking for this opinion, bc the only goomers have supporters like the grandparents.
@@taylorrhoades6660oh it was noticeable! Curious to know how soon after he turned 18 did she make her move?
The mom is absolutely a groomer & sexual predator and I think r/slash should have given her a 5/5 butthole score because what the mom did is absolutely atrocious
She’s not allowed to have resentment towards you just cause you share a name with the grandmother she hated
I really hope someone has updates to this story. There has to be someone OP can talk to.
I think when she was in PPD she did this cuz she hated the kid, probably.
That's messed up as well.
Also saying that OP should've "gone" instead of the dad is also super messed up
How does RSLASH get off on JUST a 3/5 for these two evil, twisted, horrible people? The man has given 4 and 4.5 for LESS, these twisted psychos deserve nothing short of hate and scorn for their twisted behavior.
@@lorilancaster5917Its only been two weeks and OP has no other posts at the time. It seems like a very recent event, not an old one that was dug up, so we'll have to wait.
That’s why tradition names/names that are a tribute to people need to not exist anymore. Let your child be their own person.
Story 2: OMG! Are you kidding me?! ABSOLUTELY NTA! OP, once you turn 18, run. Get away from your toxic " mother " and your entitled brat of a " sister ", and NEVER look back! I really hope for the best for you, OP. You DO NOT deserve this! Let " mommy dearest " cater to her " precious baby " however she desires, but don't drag OP down with you! Plus, ouch, when the sister told OP, " Mommy wishes you were dead! ", and showing no remorse, yeah... NO! That is just disgusting.
OP, find other family members, or friends, to help you get out of there. Definitely go NO CONTACT with both that monster of a mother and that spoiled, entitled sister!
To be fair, we don't know if the sister is telling the truth about that part or not. It could be that the sister is just saying the most hurtful things she can to OP because she gets some sick pleasure out of torturing her sister. Unless the mom actually comes out and says it herself, I'm taking what the sister says with a grain of salt. Do I think the mother resents OP for some crazy reason, yes definitely. Do I think she wants OP dead, highly doubtful, otherwise things would be much worse for OP. Do I think she wishes that OP was dead instead of her husband, possibly, we also don't know what kind of relationship the two parents had outside of the dad calling the mom out on her blatant favoritism.
just so you know - op and her sister have 2 different fathers
@@asdfdsf-s4u No they don't, they literally say at the beginning of the story 'My parents had me (16f) and my sister (14f). We lost our dad a few years ago.'
@@AzureKyle oh you poor naive little baby~ xD
So, the mom has known the exBF since he was a kid and went and tapped it as soon as he was legal?
OK, Groomer
Yeah that's a 5/5 butthole score imo
FR!! SHE A PREDATOR. Someone put the groomer naenae song on, that finna be her theme song.
I was thinking the exact same thing! It is so obvious, especially when you look at the details. The mom pounced as soon as she could, without it being illegal.
It is gross, and the fact that I don't see a lot of people talking about this is troubling. Imagine if it was some creepy man that pushed his son to date a girl he's known since he was 13. 🤢🤢🤢
Yeah, their seems to be a lot of female teachers sleeping with students so I'm not surprised, the only difference is that she waited for the kid to grow up.
No one going to mention the mother stealing the college fund and giving it to the sister who is also having failing grades?
Sister might be lying about that tbf
@@exiledpain6 that seem dubious at best
@@SMDoktorPepper that sister seems dubious, at best.
@exiledpain6 Maybe but I've heard of parents doing it all the time. Though ots usually step kids or half siblings. So I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if it were true
The Mom with the daughters boyfriend... We gonna ignore how if the daughter knew him since he was 13 then the mom also knew him since he was 13...
That's called grooming.
No one is ignoring anything. It’s all we’ve discussed. Unless there’s proof that she did the deed with him before the age of consent, nothing can be done.
Right??
@@lorilancaster5917 Even if there is proof,
the mom would get a light sentence at the most and not receive any punishment at the least,
since there a disgusting double standard about underaged boys being assaulted by adult women.
For example,
a 13 year old girl being groomed by a older man would get people to comfort her and actually acknowledge what happened was grooming.
Meanwhile a 13 year old boy would have a bunch of dudes, including there male relatives asking them how great it was to do the deed with the abuser,
and people saying it was not grooming or assault since he “liked it”.
Rslash doesn't recognize grooming behaviors unless it involves girls. The rest of us do though, so don't worry.
Story 1: don’t you just love it when a potential spouse shows off the red flags before the relationship becomes serious? NTA
Story 2: Wow! Just… WOW! I know I’ve said it a million times before but it cannot be stated enough. There has to be a specific layer of Hell for parents who not only shows blatant favoritism, but also to enable abuse and wish for a certain child’s death! Also judging from the sister, I can only imagine her future being in jail or in a body bag! NTA A-F!
I agree with you on story 2
Story 1: they were already serious about being engaged but agreed that she can still dump him and get any deposits back.
@@tawnyacosta9091...but not the first?
Re: Story 1: That's why pre-nuptial agreements exist.
Re: Story 2: It's the Ring of Pride for that witch!
@@JamesDavy2009 I've heard that sometimes judges ignore prenups. She's better off dumping him and finding someone else. He would find a way to get that money if he had to steal the account details. He wants that money to badly to not try to get his hands on it.
Plus if she ever gets like a bonus at work and her plans were to save it for a rainy day or future kids. He'll already have plans on how to spend it.
Plus after she blew up on him he stayed playing games for hours before confronting her. She's better off without him.
Story 3 :
This is why you don't tell people about windfalls like this. Literally no one.
It's not even selfish here because OP doesnt have a parent. They likely wont get anything from their fathers wife or the wifes grandparents.
OP is having their windfall collectivised but any losses will be solely on them.
I’m guessing OP thought he could trust his dad but learned the hard truth
He is still a complete turd. There are ways to help without sharing all of it or any of it.
He is a cvnt.
🤔 he doesn't need to split the money three ways or with anyone but not wanting to help your own dad after coming into such an inheritance is a little selfish
@@isaiahtorrezao7461not to be rude but you miss the part after OP spilled the beans, the dad blabbed to his wife, who then blabbed to her daughter, and then the dad and stepmom cornered OP into splitting his inheritance? That’s not the kind of dad that gets financial assistance
@@isaiahtorrezao7461 There's a reason the mother had stipulations about the father remarrying and having more kids. She knew something like this would happen, and the father revealed his true colors. This is OP's money and he can do whatever he wants with it, including not giving any to his greedy father, step mother, and step siblings. Is it selfish, yes, but as Rslash said, it's good to be selfish once in a while, especially if the money is meant solely for you, and nobody else. It's so OP can take care of themselves and insure they they live a comfortable life. If OP did give any of the money away, that's less of a comfortable life for OP. The family's struggles are not OP's struggles, and he should not be expected to pay for the family's bad choices and burdens.
Story 1: NTA, at first the fiancee wants to marry OP for her, but now, it feels like he is making it look like he is marrying her for the money, which is a massive red flag. And he has the gall to say that the money is his as well, like what? You aren't in the will, son. The money isn't for you! Call off the wedding OP, this guy is a greedy, entitled AH.
OP's lucky the fiance showed his true colours early before the vows and any potential children (though OP stated she didn't want any). It would have been different if he had ASKED but he didn't and assumed. In some places I don't think he'd even have ACCESS to it if they had gotten married as it's a premarital asset that was stated in another comment somewhere here.
Typical women do that.
Problem with that is, let's say theoretically, that he runs into 2 million dollars and they were in a financial struggle. What if he doesn't spend a dime on her only stuff they share. Is it fair then? I think he overreacted, but it's right for him to think that if they are sharing money they make from their job, then they should share money from an inheritance.
I am thinking he knew OPS grandparents had money and thought to himself "Jackpot, I will have my own personal ATM machine" and will live like a king, off of OPS money sounds like a gold digger to me
Tipycal case of "your money is our money, my money is my money" most women feel that way and behave that way, most men are the opposite, I dont blame OP for being angry since her fiancee was a douche on how he responded, however she is also the AH because she shows that she is selfish and definetely not ready for marriage
Story 1: ‘my bf scolded me’ scolded? Op, you are not a child!
I’m noticing a pattern, more often on the relationship sub, women say ‘scold’ or chided’ when they fight with their husbands like they’re a child and not a partner.
Most women behave like one, also most women have never received criticism from a man just pure flattery whether it be true or just to get into their pants so their first thought is feeling like a child as it would be the first time since their parents that someone told them off.
Story 1: Time to hit the eject button.
For Story 2: OP, move out ASAP, and when you do, tell your "mom", that from that moment on, she only has one daughter. She made sure of that. Tell her, that from that moment on, to them, you don't exist and to you, they don't exist.
Naming your child after a relative you hated. Saying you wish your own child died, instead of their father (although, this might easily be just the sister being cruel and lying), clearly favoring one child, even going so far as to take the full college fund from your other child and giving it to the baby...
That sad excuse of a mother earned the 5/5 in my book. And rSlash is right. For the sister, the issues are rooted deeper than her grades...but they stem from mommy dearest...
"even going so far as to take the full college fund from your other child and giving it to the baby..." This also has potential to be a cruel lie from the sister. Unfortunately, anything the sister 'claimed' has to be taken with caution. The sad thing though, is that it's all believable based on the mother's past actions. Best option is still to leave the moment she can, and cut all ties.
And what did OP do to receive the name of a relative her mother hated? She was a baby! So the mother decided she was going to hate on OP for no reason despite her being a baby and then act like her next child is the perfect one. What a monster.
A CANCER OF SURVIVOR 💀💀💀💀
Was looking for this.
🤣
OK Dana. In Canada only (that's the stats I have access to), about 240 people die of cancer EACH DAY. Please let's not make this about you getting triggered by a biopsy scar. It's sad your mom is ill, but it does not make you the center of the universe. Let other people live.
@@christinacartter9784same 😭
@@sandrablouin2542 I agree with you but did you mean to reply to me lol?
someone pointed out that China doesn’t do daylights savings. No big deals but it’s always fun to sleuth the reasons for schedule changes to my Morning Rslash Video
Most other countries don’t. The USA is just dumb
I misread rslash as relish and idk why
OMG I’m so dumb and forgot it was daylight savings and was wondering why I couldn’t find his video right at 6:00 am (PST).
At least China does one thing right. DST is so dumb and pointless. Oh, and the thing about it "being for farmers" is a myth.
@@alexandriav3956for me, it's 10:00 AM when he posts
I love your mother for that she insured her child future and it seems like she anticipated her husband would remarry and have more kids
And the grandparents as well
Fifth story: NTA. It seems the mom isn't the only thing she must cut from her life. Include the grandparents for their toxic favoritism.
Doing the legal requirements to take care of a minor child in your custody doesn’t give you the okay to sleep with their partner. No need for the pedestal since she’s wallowing in the gutter
@@lorilancaster5917 To use a Judge Judy-ism, are the grandparents really trying to justify the fact that their daughter (in law) is a cradle robber/child groomer?
16 year old OP. I get what she's going through. Damn.
I think she should get her own account (does she have a family member that can take her to open it?) get a job, and leave at 18.
Depends on the state I think
Speaking from experience parents & siblings like this won’t change. Best thing to do is make boundaries and leave as soon as you can
@@Vixa_Jaz unless her mom grants Emancipation, she won't be legally allowed to leave until 18
Last story: did your grandma do that to your mom? Like they are so against you cutting off your mom that makes me wonder if Grandma or grandpa has something they're not telling you. Because I can't imagine being okay with a mom sleeping with her daughter's boyfriend, she kept the roof over your head and fed you because she had to that is not an excuse for her to betray you like that.
Last story: there's a reason OP's mom pushed her to pursue the guy, and it wasn't OP's happiness.
Omg the poor girl in the second story, she’s got no family to help and her mom even sabotages her trying to get a job, literally calling over and over demanding she get fired until she did. I hope that poor girl gets away 😢 seems like she made the post to reach out for support
Story 1: Run OP. RUN!
Story 4;
So because mom did the bare minimum - provide OP with a roof over her head, food and water and clothes - somehow that makes it okay to sleep with her daughter's boyfriend?
What?! No, doing the bare minimum of what is legally required does not give you a free pass to be a 💩 person.
Yeah, I'd say that her transgression completely negates whatever support she gave her daughter over the years. It's like if a friend got you a game console, but then stole your car, but other friends tell you to just let it go since he bought you that game console.
The last one: Honestly, this is a grooming story, not a cheating story.
No.. a person in their 30s is just as much an adult as someone in their 50s.
Unless that men was mentally underdeveloped there was no grooming here! Just cheaters!
@@Robin93k uhh the guy in question is 18, NOT in his 30s, and OP's mom knew him since he was 13 or possibly even younger (that's just how long he and OP had been "best friends"). Maybe you had ages mixed up with the first story in the video?
Anyway, I'd say it's a bit of both, cheating and grooming, because 18 is old enough to know you shouldn't mess around with other people when you have a partner, but the likelihood that there wasn't also grooming involved is basically zero, given the context and how the "stuff" happened RIGHT as soon as he became "legal" :/
Anything inherited before marriage is not considered maritial assets.
He's legit not entitled to any of it, even if they marry and divorce; he's only entitled to what they build together, not what she inherited or owned before.
Story 4: How is having a scar which by the way isn't exactly something that can be helped insensitive? If anything that other girl was being overly sensitive and expecting way too much out of everyone else. Yes, dealing with a relative having cancer and knowing that they might not survive is a pretty arduous ordeal but you don't get to just start making unrealistic demands of everyone else.
My guess, and I’m not saying that there is logic or reasoning behind it, the friend feels like she has no control in her life and is projecting on to OP. Get some therapy and don’t police peoples clothes
For the last story, I just love how people or parents point out that they put a roof over someone's head or put food on the table and expect to be rewarded in return.
People can choose to have babies and be responsible for said baby, not vice versa.
Story 4: Yeah I'm pretty sure you can't guilt trip a cancer survivor because her mom (not her) are going through cancer. I understand this is a difficult time for your friend but not to the point she can demand you cover up your scar because she doesn't want to see it, you two were going to swim what did she think you were going nowhere?
All she has to do is look elsewhere. Pretty sad if they’re at the beach and the only “fun” thing to do is look at a small scar
as someone with a lot of scars, it's so depressing when this happens. people expect you to stop living your life freely for their comfort and it's so entitled. you're not responsible for someone's triggers if you're just existing in their near vicinity
2nd story: I CANNOT STAND PARENTS THAT FAVORITE KIDS! I hate to say it but op sister is PROBABLY right about the mom tolerating her, wishing she died, and only loving her younger sister.
Parents playing favorites with their children are THE WORST!!! Clearly, this mother doesn’t watch Bluey. In one episode, they say/show why you NEVER PLAY FAVORITES! But clearly OP’s “ mother “ doesn’t care in the slightest. And her “ sister “ is just the WORST!
13:53 "as a cancer of survivor" lol
How do we know the mom didn’t secretly groom op’s BF?
We don't but it's definitely possible, my guess is that it didn't start that way and genuinely encouraged her at first, then in the later years wanted him and that's where it started
@@tyrellwharfewharfe4387 I think the mom groomed the boyfriend personally.
Story 1:OP just spoke facts,why fiance mad?
OP,Get an ironclad prenup made should you still want to marry that gold digger,you know to dump him if he refuses,know what,just dump him
NTA
Story 2: Hey, hey, y'know what? My mom also had postpartum depression after having me, quite badly in fact because this was just around the time of the SSRI revolution in mental health treatment. You know what she didn't do? Abandon me and shun me for the rest of my life. She took me to stay with her mom (my grandma) while she worked through it and had her and me as emotional support. So any woman trying to use postpartum depression as an excuse for being a neglectful piece of shit of a mother can get bent.
Amen to that
first story: That's weird as hell. Who first thought when somebody gets inheritance is "I get to take your cash AND spend it on my friends, not you!"
And blab about it to my friends first without considering whether or not this was news for me to share. Screw him
They want OP to tutor her sister so that when her sister continues to fail they can blame OP for that too lol.
And take up time she could be using to study and improve her own grades. They want OP to fail along with the sister
Final story: What the fuck did I read? LOL! What are those grandparents on? NTA
Story 1:
I’m betting a dollar that, there’s no wedding for them 😂😂😂
*First OP:* At the risk of sounding like a Reddit cliché, OP should take this as a red flag and end the relationship. OP is NTA. This is why you should never assume.
*Second OP:* I'm hoping this is rage bait. If not, I hope OP has friends or extended family she could stay at because I feel that her mom and sister will make her home life even worse than it already is. OP is NTA, and if what her sister told OP about their mom was true, I hope there's a special place in hell for her.
*Third OP:* OP's only mistake was telling his dad the amount of money in his account. While I can understand OP's dad's and stepmother's frustrations, OP is NTA. I wonder if OP's dad was cheating on OP's mom and she knew about it, hence the account.
*Fourth OP:* I feel for Dana, but it's OP's body and if she wants to wear a bikini to get a tan, that's her choice. OP is NTA, and Dana should've removed herself from the situation.
*Fifth OP:* Did OP's mom encourage OP to ask out her then 16-year-old ex to live vicariously through OP? _shudder_ OP is NTA, and she should cut contact with her grandparents too.
For story 3, yeah the mother definitely didn't think the father could be trustworthy considering she went to such lengths. Good on her honestly.
Story 5, oh she did NOT need OP to live vicariously through. She got the bf after all. But agreed, the grandparents are terrible for siding with the mother. I HOPE they only got one side of the situation because they're just as bad. What OP's mom did destroyed OP's trust, love and relationship. I hope OP never talks to that trash again, as she deserves. Like some comments said though, it's... unsettling that the mother knew him since he was 13... Raising the potential flag that they were groomed. Though still, the bf does shoulder some of the blame in that instance. Some if groomed, equally as guilty if not.
I feel really bad, but 'cancer of survivor' made me laugh more than it should have. 😅
That last story was so short. Are we just gonna gloss over the fact that she, and probably the mom, knew her ex when they were 13
Imagine telling a cancer survivor they're insensitive for having a scar and not hiding themselves away from others. It's not your job to manage other people's triggers.
Ask the siblings if they'd rather have a dead mom. They'll back off.
Not likely. They might say, “you have a mom, our mom” or “share your money and we’ll share our mom”. And likely say other delusional 💩
Looks like we’ll have to patently wait for rslash to return for it to go back to 9:00 am
It’s 6am for me, wake up every morning and instantly put this on, threw me off a bit today😂
@@Lucyfurrrr
Yeah, they normally release at 6 am for me as well- and I put it while getting ready for school
@@Lucyfurrrr 6 am for me too!
It’s 10am for me lol
It's 3 1/2 days in the future for me
Time change panic
Glad I wasn’t the only one 😂😂😂
@@lollipoplani1same
Ikr?! I've got a migraine from this messed-up weather (near Philly in PA ), , I don't need this on top of it.
Dude same, come 9am I’m like “WHERE IS IT?!”
still 3pm for me ^^
Story 2, OP needs to start building up some connections and planning her exit strategy and no contact with family ASAP. Don't tell anyone about it unless necessary, and figure out what you want to take with you, figure out college from that and make sure to have a backup in case the first plan fails. That type of lifestyle can be fatal, and it is only going to get worse.
My family dynamic was EXTREMELY similar to the second story, except my dad wasnt dead, he divorced my mother. She hated me because I loved him and because I did things similar to his mother, whom she hated. She taught my younger sister to bully me just like OP's mother. My sister hasn't spoken to me since we were 16 and 17 and I stopped talking to my biological incubator three years ago when I was 20.
You’re not allowed to feel young again at my expense
If you want to feel young again, build a time machine. Otherwise embrace the moments you have now and work on enriching yourself.
My dad had liver cancer and had a giant scar from the base of his sternum straight down his abdomen. (It looked like he had been gutted like a fish). We also live in a hot climate, so he went shirtless all the time if he was gardening or running or something. Never once did anyone ask him to "cover up" and if they had, that would have raised more than a few eyebrows.
If you're triggered by someone else's scars/appearance, it's on you to deal with it by (politely) removing yourself from the situation. You/your family are not the only ones on the planet who have gone through a cancer treatment, and expecting everyone else to modify themselves to you is beyond ridiculous.
Exactly your trauma is your trauma it's on you to deal with it not on others to deal with it
My whole body's thrown off with the DST Spring Forward.
I'm in PA, and my friend in AZ doesn't have to deal with this because AZ doesn't do Daylight Savings Time. 😂😂😂
I also have a friend who lives in Arizona. She's also on TH-cam.
@@your_local_questerian does she have Great Danes and look after the sweetest old man in the world?
AZ is smart. There's no point to DST other than getting an extra hour of sunlight in the evenings. I think we should stop the time change.
1st story: Ditch the fiance OP. I would have left the house hearing his plans for your money and planned my escape before he could react.
I love it when you use the word boinking to describe boinking, it's a fun way to get around TH-cam's restrictive language restrictions.
Last story: The mom knew the bf since he was 13. Maybe she groomed him - she waited until he was legal, but still. That's just sick. And it's just as sick that the grandparents are sticking up for her.
We don't know that - we only know that OP _caught_ them after he was legal. For all we know, this might not be the first time they've slept together.
@@TheKillerqueen40 I was HOPING she waited until he was legal. Because that would be even worse.
@arithefierysecretary6411 i mean, I hope so, too. I really do. But even if she did, it doesn't change the fact that, like you initially pointed out, she slept with a kid her daughter's age, whom she knew since the age of 13. That's an ick that can't be explained away.
@@TheKillerqueen40 absolutely!!!!!!
My money story. It's true that OP doesn't have to share the money with anyone. But it's also true that the parents could've saved money on OP to save for the siblings if they had known. But I guess OP doesn't want a family in the future.
Story 1: I was willing to give OP's bf the benefit of the doubt, even with the Boy's Trip comment, thinking maybe he was of the mindset "we can use that money to pay off things we're already paying, so we can save the money we would be spending otherwise, and spend it on things like Boy's Trips and other luxuries." But when he came out and beratedOP, I was like "Oh, no. Dude is just an entitled peckerwood."
Dump him and run like Hell, chica. Dude has all those red flags, and doesn't own a rollercoaster? Save yourself, sis.😂
A child does *NOT* owe a parent for doing the bare minimum of what is both legally and morally *required* of them.
Children do *not* ask to be born, they do *not* choose to be born. It is *100%* on the parent to house *and* feed them. This is a given, it is *not* a favor.
My guess is RSlash is still out witch is fine but the schedule is set to 8 o’clock like normal but it didn’t take into account of daylight savings so that’s why it’s coming out at 9. Which is fine. Hope RSlash is having a wonderful time with his family. He deserves it
Last story, you brought a child into the world without their consent, YOU OWE THEM everything until adulthood, and they owe nothing.
Story 3: even if you wanted to split the money I doubt your grandparents are going to agree to it, that money was specifically for you and you alone your mommy declared she didn't want it to go to anyone else. And your father should be splitting it with you and dividing it equally because he's your dad and should want to contribute to his child's future. But it's okay because now he can take the money he was saving for you to his other kids because you clearly don't need it. Your grandparents did what anyone would do helped secure their grandchild future, you didn't expect that much money to be in there but it is and maybe you'll help in the future but for now that is your money.
Expecting and pressuring one child to give up an inheritance from a deceased parent to assist half siblings or step siblings absolutely confirms you have failed as parents
Last story: Considering they knew each other since he was 13 im more than a little concerned about how long this “affair” has been going on
Even if it just started, that's some creepy shit
On the last story, she also knew this boy since he was 13. Sounds like OP’s mom was also grooming him
The entitlement to someone else's money is baffling. Someone you know and claim to care about getting an inheritance doesn't mean you get a portion of their money just because you know them and claim to care.
However, there's nothing wrong about asking to be shared on that inheritance. On that 1st story, OP should heavily rethink her plans and never marry thay douche. On the 3rd story, the parents tried to ask, and OP never mentioned any flaws or maltreatment, so it'll be really up to him if he wants to help his siblings...
The mom in the last story is really bad because not only did she cheat with her daughter's boyfriend, but she knew the guy since he was a child. That's gross. I don't know how you could look at someone you saw grow up and think of them sexually. Poor girl, 2 of the closest people in her life betrayed her.
Story 3: Man, can't even start small and ask him to maybe pay for his stepsiblings' text books or something. Gotta go straight for the greediest ask.
OPs a guy. I guess they figure it would be easier for them to ask for a bulk amount.
@@lorilancaster5917 Oop, you're right.
Story 5: Waiting for somebody to be an adult so you can sleep with them is a kind of grooming called hovering
I wouldn't be giving anyone any of my money 😂😂😂
Nah who does he think he is 😂😂😂😂
Should have left him while he was online to his friends 😂😂😂😂😂
Pack his bags while he games and if still playing, unplug his system and give him back the ring
Being selfish is not something to be ashamed of. Don't share your money if you don't want to.
Selfishness is a scale. Theres a wild difference between "I had another bite of my chocolate because I did good on that test!" And "You should give me your money because it's UnFaIR!!1!!!"
Story 1: NTA, but NEVER tell anyone when you come into money next time.
Ambiguity is your new best friend when it comes to money
@@lorilancaster5917 exactly. Hell look at how many murders happen because of life insurance.
Her granny died, they aren't married & he is thinking to pay off HIS loans. Sure buddy. Burden?! DO NOT MARRY HIM
2:15
Goku: Is that a red flag?
Piccolo: Crimson!
...yeah uh i dont like where this is going
Video title does that count as a sweet home Alabama?
Scar story
Reminds me of a time the whole family/extended family went on a beach trip. I had the nail permanently removed from my left big toe (it never quite healed right and is a bit ugly) a entitled mom at the beach with her two kids demanded I put shoes on my toe was upsetting her kids
I mean they could’ve just not looked at it? It’s not like the toe was being shoved in their face. I hope that Karen left you alone afterwards
@@lorilancaster5917 Lol ya I just rolled my eyes and walked away and she walked off in a huff
Plus, that Karen could've taught her kids that some people get surgery on their toe and not to look, but nope. She had to blame OP for it.
Story 2: For the name, it's definitely so she has a reason to take her anger out on who she really resents. I mean, she chose the name.
The mom needs all the therapy to get rid of the resentment issues, and the daughter needs therapy before she becomes and adult and continues her behavior to the point that it ruins her image (and probably blame OP for it even though it's the mom's fault), and OP should go full NC
Pretty sure the mother is just an abusive narcissist. She just needed something to blame her being abusive on, because narcissists can never think of themselves as being wrong. Literally "I can't do anything wrong, so everything I do is right. And if it is wrong, it's someone else's fault."
I think the cover up story was maybe her wanting a day away from thinking about it and seeing ops scars were enough to kinda put her in a bad mood.
*Inheritance is already a premarital asset. He’s not entitled to any of that!*
Story 2: a few years later ops mother will be regretting her blatant favouritism she’ll be saying things like “I never did anything wrong” they always do
1st story:
I’m betting a dollar that they don’t have a wedding in the future 😂😂😂
Story 1: Op is ta. Marriage means money is shared. The op should want to help her partner
current score!
daylight savings: 2
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Are we not gonna talk about how the mom has known the ex boyfriend since he was 13?!?!
Omg that scar story made me laugh. My family and I have been through a LOT and have way too many scars from those moments. We're all insecure about them but the only ones I find triggering are the ones on my own body and I have had to accept that these scars are now a part of my loved ones bodies and I can love and accept them even if they're really not pleasant to look at or be reminded of why theyre there. It's hard enough to accept yourself enough to show scarred parts of you in the privacy of your home but it's even worse to be judged by everyone else. My dad also had cancer which was a really difficult thing to go through but I couldn't allow myself to get triggered by everyone else who has any form of cancer and are just trying to live their lives. The concept of psychological boundaries have been kind of warped from "this is something I can't tolerate so I'll remove myself from the equation" to "this is something I dont like so you must change yourself to appease me" and it seems like this is a classic case of that. It's not fun to be reminded of the shit you're experiencing but you can only change your own behaviour and thought process.
"My money" story.... Yep, exactly. It is OP's money, period. If he chooses to give some to others, it is HIS choice, not a requirement.
Scar story.... So, a little three inch scar. OP is NTA. Her choice.
I hate daylight savings
"Cancer of survivor" Should be an official second term for karen lol....
Anyone else hop on TH-cam at his normal time again? LOL
1 million is not a lot of money for someone to live off of for their entire life from 18 years until death. I hope that money is invested at least.
Was a lil scared when the one hour off lol but glad to be here
She knew her daughters BF since he was 13, sounds as if she was grooming him so she could sleep with him when he turned 18 and telling her daughter OP to date him sounds to me that the mom just wanted to get even closer to him to dig her nails into him so she could eventually get him into bed eventually. Just sickening to me and what is up with OPS grandparents? I wonder if the mom has issues with this in the past and they're just covering up for their daughter?
Now I'm singing Mrs. Robinson 😂
😂😂😂
Mrs. Robinson, are you trying to seduce me? If so, go away.
The first story just proves the old adage "What's yours is ours, and what's mine is mine."
Story 3:People,rule #1 for having lots of money:"never tell anyone you have lots of money,just get the absolute necessities for basic life,then dependong on the behaviour of those around you,get other things,but akways make sure you save most of it"
OP's money,OP's decision,NTA
OPs dad and stepmom can just pay college out of the funds they set aside for him. I’m betting they’re aren’t any.
According to the story as well, it seems the parents aren't the AH, too. It's just a case of no1 is the AH. OP has all the rights to hold on to his inheritance and not share. The parents isn't wrong on trying to ask and convince OP to share. The parents might had called OP selfish, but that's because he is being selfish. OP didn't mention anything about the parents doing any retribution on OP's selfishness. It's actually gonna be nice if OP could help his siblings, he doesn't need to give the parents any money, just help out his siblings when they are on college, no matter how he could. If OP choses to still not really want to help and just be very selfish, he's got all the right to be. So, no1 is the AH on that story for me...
I have a routine I usually listen to you every morning at 8 while getting ready for work. Since it changed I can listen to you during my lunch.
I don’t know if you’re still in China, DadSlash, but the clocks got set back yesterday in the states. I think it might be tinkering with your upload time.
Forward. The clocks went forward.
Oh jeez the "A cancer of survivor" made me laugh way more than it should've
It’s a great day now. 👍🏼😁
Cmon I get off work at 7, I normally wait the hour to hear your beautiful voice…. But 2 hours??????? You’re killing me.
Good morning .
I guess China doesn't do daylight savings.. . Smart
I have a similar tramatic experience with cancer amoungst my close friends. And yes, there are people in public with cancer scars. But I've always thought it was nice that they had the courage to show that, and it brought me a sense of solidarity and confort. An "oh, you get it" response basically. I understand people process trauma in different ways, but that still doesn't give you the right to police other people's bodies.
dam ppl were quick
We love our R/Slash.
Everyone talking about the time change for Rslash new video
Meanwhile in New Zealand it’s still uploaded at the same time (3:01am) until our daylight savings time in April (so it’ll be 2:01am)