Uff, i am so overwhelmed and unhappy. I feel like I dont want to actually be a mom. Its such a shitty state of mind i am in right now, i absolutely want it to pass. I am even asking it to leave, which worries me because if it does decide to stay, i hope it doesnt take any negative effects from my harsh thoughts. And it is so unfair to my so over the moon boyfriend, who really wants this. Thank you for telling "us" that its kinda normal. I hope so
@@debbystellavision3291 sorry I missed this comment. These feelings can be so confusing, but just know that you don't have to be over the moon. The connection and excitement can come later, that's totally okay! I hope you're well. xo
Even when pregnancy is planned... it’s hard to be happy and connected when u feel sick and tiered and honestly just miserable when the world expects u to be at ur happiest. Pregnancy hormones are no joke
oh absolutely! It's often jus this thought like "Oh, I am pregnant" but all you feel is unwell and uncomfortable. So it totally makes sense to not be that excited or connected.
I’m 11 weeks. The nausea has been 24/7. Slight cramps and boobs were killing me up until 9.5 weeks. Still sucky and little cramps here and there with gas up to my neck!! Week 10 was horrendous!!!!!! It was like extreme crying and horrible thoughts! No connection and connection he thought of my body and life changing just runs into my brain! I wanted a baby, what happened? I was crying more and more each day for about 3 days. 8am-4 type of crying. I called my doc and they said this is normal and I have the higher end of symptoms … as long as I have breaks or I’m have days that I’m good, this is ok. As long as it’s not consistent every single day and I can’t seem to get out of bed. That would not be normal (that’s what I was told) I’ve tried to give myself love and grace throughout this time. Knowing that these thoughts are not my thoughts and I am just loaded with hormones. I am capable and able. And I can do all things through Christ to strengthen me. He is the one who blessed me with this baby and the body to be able to grow it. He has a dream from my future that I just can’t see yet! YOU ARE NOT ALONE IF U FEEL HORRIBLE OR UNSURE ABOHT TOUR FEELINGS! Xoxoxo❤
After watching the video and reading the comments, I am comforted knowing I’m not alone. Thank you all for sharing. It gives me hope that maybe one day, I will get the excitement of becoming a mommy.
I have a planned pregnancy. Struggled to get pregnant for nearly 8 years and now at 12 weeks just feeling really disconnected. I've got less symptoms don't really feel pregnant and of those who know around me they are just concerned about the baby and not really me and just keep advising me on things I should and shouldn't do. It's getting annoying and I just want to do things my way, which I have been but still feel I should be more connected to the baby and not sure why I've been feeling this way. I'm sure it will pass but do feel grateful listening to this video and reading other women's similar feelings. 💞💞🙏🏼
This is my 4th child...i have a 20,18&9yr.old i don't have a connection with this baby like I did with my other babies. I remembered crying the 1st time I heard their heart beats for the 1st time,not with this 1. I'm seriously considering adoption!
Thank you so much. I have been feeling like a “bad mother” because I don’t feel this connection my other friends talk about. And worried there was something wrong with me. This really helped me. Thank you
This was the best video I’ve seen. It is so frustrating seeing majority of video with all these moms to be that are loving the whole pregnancy time and they are overly excited to meet their baby and whatnot and my experience was not like that at all and it feels like you there is just smth broken inside. Thank you for the video! I needed to hear that!
My husband is so excited about this baby and I’m kinda like eh 😐 I don’t really know how to feel I’ve been sick and how I have to take suppositories to not vomit because nothing was working idk this pregnancy just feels so hard and i don’t feel so happy about it I’m glad to know I’m not the only one feeling this way. Thank you
@@shashamarie4760 Yes I’m glad to say with help from a therapist I do feel better. I suggest speaking to someone who doesn’t have a biased opinion. I genuinely think if I wouldn’t have taken the steps to get assistance with mental help through my pregnancy I don’t think I would have continued my pregnancy.
@melilopez4586 thank you so much. I'm going to try and call my insurance today. Not sure if they have therapy for specific needs. Praying so. 🙏 I really appreciate it. So all is good for you now?
Last night I experienced a panic attack, I had an awful mind that my body didn't want to be pregnant, it's not right thing for me. I started to search for kinda issues on the internet and found you. I'm so relieved right now. Thank you ❤
I just saw my baby on an ultrasound last friday, and I felt like it was someone elses. It totally freaked me out! I feel sick all the time, and I just look a bit fat lol. I know Im pregnant, its so hard to process, and it so scary. First pregnancy. Im hoping I will finally connect with the pregnancy once I get a bump going. Thank you for this video this was very helpful. I feel like the people who know I'm pregnant are more excited than me! I was thining that I was so wrong, Im so glad this is normal. Subscribing ❤
You are so so so not alone with these feelings! It can take quite a while to feel excited and connected, that's just real life! Please just allow yourself to feel exactly how you feel, it's all okay! So glad you've joined this community!
I’m seeing a therapist to help me with this and other pregnancy related fears tomorrow. Thank you for this video and all the people commenting- I am not alone ❤
@@shashamarie4760how’re u feeling? I had an extremely hard week this week. I cried 8am-4 with short 20 min breaks here and there. The thoughts were horrible toooo! It’s so weird. I’m good today but man three days got worse each day! I called my doc they sent me to a therapist/psychologist who said it was normal but I got the he higher end of the bad symptoms and it’s just hormones. As long as it’s not consistent every day. And that not feeling for the baby is normal. Hormones are running out brains and bodies…
@dontmineme Hi. I'm sorry you're going through this too. I had a terrible time. I ended up miscarrying at 9 weeks. Carried my baby for almost another month. Didn't want to leave my body. Had to have surgery. I'm still sad but healing. The hormones and everything your body goes through are real. Some people don't understand. Trust yourself. You will be ok. It's scary. I pray for you. Hold on to the good moments. It will all be worth it. 💜🙏
Been feeling those disconnected feelings even late in pregnancy. I think it has to do with a fear that my second will have the same or worse special needs as my first child.
I was crying the entire video cuz she pointed all the things that i was feeling i hate when people remind u to be happy and all positive and everybody is over the moon but i cant im scared as i know motherhood is hard and not prepared for that and havving issues at the start of the pregnancy making me feeling anxious
Kate - Thank you for your videos, they help me process my feelings about pregnancy in a more accepting way. I wanted to ask if you could talk about feeling overwhelmed when having to choose where to give birth. I want to give birth naturally, away from a hospital setting that can mean a lot of unnecessary interventions and pressure of having a more "speedy" delivery. I've been reading about home birth and hospital birth, and feel that I prefer to have the home experience. HOWEVER, (and this is the overwhelming anxiety part) I'm worried about worst possible scenarios. My husband is adamant about me and the baby being in the safest hands, and I'm not a high-risk pregnancy, I'm very healthy, I exercise daily, baby is good, all good, BUT I feel soooo "special" that I imagine myself being that 1 - 2% case that SHOULD have chosen the hospital because there may be some unforeseen complication that will end in tragedy. I really don't know what to do and want to make the best decision.
Hey! Thanks so much for this reply, I can really appreciate how challenging the decision is for you, I've been there too. I can likely talk about this over on Instagram sometime soon, and I will certainly add this topic on my video list for TH-cam! Make sure to subscribe so you see that notification when I post. Take good care!
I feel like I didn't spend much time with my baby 🥺 we had some hard times with my husband and when I hear people saying they read or play songs for their babies I kinda feel guilty 😔 I am having him next Monday and still I feel guilty and not excited 🥺
Are you talking about during pregnancy? I think there is so much pressure to be so so engaged, but sometimes thats unrealistic. Hope you are doing well now.
I fear when I learn about my 2nd babies' gender, that the disappointment might lead to disconnection. Actually I am in the process to understand, both genders are fine, but I wish for a boy AND a girl, and the girl is still missing in the family. Two boys are great, but then I know that this is final forever, never knowing how it would be with a girl. So yeah, all the signs are for the girl, everybody in the family says "it will be a girl", but truth is, nobody knows and expectation might lead to disappointment :/
@@KateBorsato thanks! I learned indeed that it is a boy not a girl, and after I saw the peepee myself on the Ultrasound and realized myself, I was honestly not that disappointed as I thought 🤗. And now we are really onto a "boys family" and I am so excited to finally meet my 2nd son 😍 My older son also is asking every day now. 8 weeks left 😉
Do you feel disconnected from your baby and wonder what's going on? Let me know how this has been for you!
Uff, i am so overwhelmed and unhappy. I feel like I dont want to actually be a mom. Its such a shitty state of mind i am in right now, i absolutely want it to pass. I am even asking it to leave, which worries me because if it does decide to stay, i hope it doesnt take any negative effects from my harsh thoughts. And it is so unfair to my so over the moon boyfriend, who really wants this. Thank you for telling "us" that its kinda normal. I hope so
@@debbystellavision3291 sorry I missed this comment. These feelings can be so confusing, but just know that you don't have to be over the moon. The connection and excitement can come later, that's totally okay! I hope you're well. xo
Even when pregnancy is planned... it’s hard to be happy and connected when u feel sick and tiered and honestly just miserable when the world expects u to be at ur happiest. Pregnancy hormones are no joke
oh absolutely! It's often jus this thought like "Oh, I am pregnant" but all you feel is unwell and uncomfortable. So it totally makes sense to not be that excited or connected.
Like thank you !! People are honestly cruel for you to feel like this. Honestly the shame does NOT help in the healing and towards feeling better
I’m 11 weeks. The nausea has been 24/7. Slight cramps and boobs were killing me up until 9.5 weeks. Still sucky and little cramps here and there with gas up to my neck!! Week 10 was horrendous!!!!!! It was like extreme crying and horrible thoughts! No connection and connection he thought of my body and life changing just runs into my brain! I wanted a baby, what happened? I was crying more and more each day for about 3 days. 8am-4 type of crying. I called my doc and they said this is normal and I have the higher end of symptoms … as long as I have breaks or I’m have days that I’m good, this is ok. As long as it’s not consistent every single day and I can’t seem to get out of bed. That would not be normal (that’s what I was told) I’ve tried to give myself love and grace throughout this time. Knowing that these thoughts are not my thoughts and I am just loaded with hormones. I am capable and able. And I can do all things through Christ to strengthen me. He is the one who blessed me with this baby and the body to be able to grow it. He has a dream from my future that I just can’t see yet!
YOU ARE NOT ALONE IF U FEEL HORRIBLE OR UNSURE ABOHT TOUR FEELINGS! Xoxoxo❤
After watching the video and reading the comments, I am comforted knowing I’m not alone. Thank you all for sharing. It gives me hope that maybe one day, I will get the excitement of becoming a mommy.
I have a planned pregnancy. Struggled to get pregnant for nearly 8 years and now at 12 weeks just feeling really disconnected. I've got less symptoms don't really feel pregnant and of those who know around me they are just concerned about the baby and not really me and just keep advising me on things I should and shouldn't do. It's getting annoying and I just want to do things my way, which I have been but still feel I should be more connected to the baby and not sure why I've been feeling this way. I'm sure it will pass but do feel grateful listening to this video and reading other women's similar feelings. 💞💞🙏🏼
This is my 4th child...i have a 20,18&9yr.old i don't have a connection with this baby like I did with my other babies. I remembered crying the 1st time I heard their heart beats for the 1st time,not with this 1. I'm seriously considering adoption!
Thank you so much. I have been feeling like a “bad mother” because I don’t feel this connection my other friends talk about. And worried there was something wrong with me. This really helped me. Thank you
Why don’t you have more views??? And Subs? Your amazing !
Awww thank you!! I appreciate you saying that, and glad this resonates!
This was the best video I’ve seen. It is so frustrating seeing majority of video with all these moms to be that are loving the whole pregnancy time and they are overly excited to meet their baby and whatnot and my experience was not like that at all and it feels like you there is just smth broken inside. Thank you for the video! I needed to hear that!
My husband is so excited about this baby and I’m kinda like eh 😐 I don’t really know how to feel I’ve been sick and how I have to take suppositories to not vomit because nothing was working idk this pregnancy just feels so hard and i don’t feel so happy about it I’m glad to know I’m not the only one feeling this way. Thank you
Me too! I’m 5 weeks
I'm 4 weeks. Feel like I can't take it. Did you get better?
@@shashamarie4760 Yes I’m glad to say with help from a therapist I do feel better. I suggest speaking to someone who doesn’t have a biased opinion. I genuinely think if I wouldn’t have taken the steps to get assistance with mental help through my pregnancy I don’t think I would have continued my pregnancy.
@melilopez4586 thank you so much. I'm going to try and call my insurance today. Not sure if they have therapy for specific needs. Praying so. 🙏 I really appreciate it. So all is good for you now?
Last night I experienced a panic attack, I had an awful mind that my body didn't want to be pregnant, it's not right thing for me. I started to search for kinda issues on the internet and found you. I'm so relieved right now. Thank you ❤
I just saw my baby on an ultrasound last friday, and I felt like it was someone elses. It totally freaked me out! I feel sick all the time, and I just look a bit fat lol. I know Im pregnant, its so hard to process, and it so scary. First pregnancy. Im hoping I will finally connect with the pregnancy once I get a bump going. Thank you for this video this was very helpful. I feel like the people who know I'm pregnant are more excited than me! I was thining that I was so wrong, Im so glad this is normal. Subscribing ❤
You are so so so not alone with these feelings! It can take quite a while to feel excited and connected, that's just real life! Please just allow yourself to feel exactly how you feel, it's all okay! So glad you've joined this community!
Pretty much everything you said, speaks about my pregnancy and life. Thanks for sharing
I’m seeing a therapist to help me with this and other pregnancy related fears tomorrow. Thank you for this video and all the people commenting- I am not alone ❤
Did it help????? Please respond. I'm gonna try and call someone today.
@@shashamarie4760how’re u feeling? I had an extremely hard week this week. I cried 8am-4 with short 20 min breaks here and there. The thoughts were horrible toooo! It’s so weird. I’m good today but man three days got worse each day! I called my doc they sent me to a therapist/psychologist who said it was normal but I got the he higher end of the bad symptoms and it’s just hormones. As long as it’s not consistent every day. And that not feeling for the baby is normal. Hormones are running out brains and bodies…
@dontmineme Hi. I'm sorry you're going through this too. I had a terrible time. I ended up miscarrying at 9 weeks. Carried my baby for almost another month. Didn't want to leave my body. Had to have surgery. I'm still sad but healing. The hormones and everything your body goes through are real. Some people don't understand. Trust yourself. You will be ok. It's scary. I pray for you. Hold on to the good moments. It will all be worth it. 💜🙏
I feel like this type of video was exactly what I needed. I feel so grateful for finding your channel! You now have a new subscriber 😊
This was soooo comforting. Really, thank you! It felt super validating. Need that❤️
Been feeling those disconnected feelings even late in pregnancy. I think it has to do with a fear that my second will have the same or worse special needs as my first child.
Did things get better for you?
Thank you so much. It feels so much better after watching this video😊
Thank you so much for this 💗
THANK YOU, I'm crying
I was crying the entire video cuz she pointed all the things that i was feeling i hate when people remind u to be happy and all positive and everybody is over the moon but i cant im scared as i know motherhood is hard and not prepared for that and havving issues at the start of the pregnancy making me feeling anxious
Kate - Thank you for your videos, they help me process my feelings about pregnancy in a more accepting way. I wanted to ask if you could talk about feeling overwhelmed when having to choose where to give birth. I want to give birth naturally, away from a hospital setting that can mean a lot of unnecessary interventions and pressure of having a more "speedy" delivery. I've been reading about home birth and hospital birth, and feel that I prefer to have the home experience. HOWEVER, (and this is the overwhelming anxiety part) I'm worried about worst possible scenarios. My husband is adamant about me and the baby being in the safest hands, and I'm not a high-risk pregnancy, I'm very healthy, I exercise daily, baby is good, all good, BUT I feel soooo "special" that I imagine myself being that 1 - 2% case that SHOULD have chosen the hospital because there may be some unforeseen complication that will end in tragedy. I really don't know what to do and want to make the best decision.
Hey! Thanks so much for this reply, I can really appreciate how challenging the decision is for you, I've been there too. I can likely talk about this over on Instagram sometime soon, and I will certainly add this topic on my video list for TH-cam! Make sure to subscribe so you see that notification when I post. Take good care!
I feel like I didn't spend much time with my baby 🥺 we had some hard times with my husband and when I hear people saying they read or play songs for their babies I kinda feel guilty 😔 I am having him next Monday and still I feel guilty and not excited 🥺
Are you talking about during pregnancy? I think there is so much pressure to be so so engaged, but sometimes thats unrealistic. Hope you are doing well now.
I fear when I learn about my 2nd babies' gender, that the disappointment might lead to disconnection.
Actually I am in the process to understand, both genders are fine, but I wish for a boy AND a girl, and the girl is still missing in the family.
Two boys are great, but then I know that this is final forever, never knowing how it would be with a girl. So yeah, all the signs are for the girl, everybody in the family says "it will be a girl", but truth is, nobody knows and expectation might lead to disappointment :/
gender disappointment is a real thing, so many feel this way at times. It's okay. Hope you are doing better now.
@@KateBorsato thanks!
I learned indeed that it is a boy not a girl, and after I saw the peepee myself on the Ultrasound and realized myself, I was honestly not that disappointed as I thought 🤗. And now we are really onto a "boys family" and I am so excited to finally meet my 2nd son 😍
My older son also is asking every day now. 8 weeks left 😉