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I'm 6 weeks pregnant, and i wish i could miscarry so that i can be free from this burden. 😢

New here and let me say I hate being pregnant. This pregnancy wasn’t planned and honestly I will never do this again . I have a 9 year old girl and I’m bless to have her but this second child wasn’t plan. This baby is taking everything out of me. I’m dehydrated n can’t eat. I’m so sick to the point I’m wondering how will I work to provide for this child if I can’t even eat food to give me energy throughout the day. I don’t want to be around ppl. Loud noise’s irritated me. My smell is so strong I can smell everything under the sun. I’m on IV fluid in and out the hospital. I loss 10 lbs not happy. I’m already petite but before this I believe I was 155 lb I’m a gym rat and I work so hard on my body and now it’s all gone. I think my biggest struggle is not being able to eat and scare to eat cause I vomit everything and can’t even keep fluid down. I had to quit my job due to my bad morning sickness . I vouch on everything I will not be having another kid or putting myself through this. After this I’ll stay clear of men n dating. I’m depress, my body aches , pelvic pain , bladder out of control and my god the puking n food aversion is sad . N oh I spit so much the excessive saliva is so disgusting. I feel so ugly and don’t even recognize myself . My skin is always dry , lips chapped so bad . Lord the only thing I want is for this baby to come out. I’m not even happy or feel connected to this child at all. I don’t even feel like I love this baby right now due to everything I’m going through physically. I worry so much about my life , my occupation trying to get better job , trying to be happy. Seeing will I even find joy in going to the gym again. Will I get back to myself n if so how long. Worse I have to get a C section . This will be my second C section and I’m just scare

Hey Kate, thank you so much for this video.. I loved what you said about looking at our body for it's functionality rather then just as an esthetic object. Thank you ❤❤

I am 7 weeks pregnant with a baby that we planned, and I am absolutely regretful and depressed. I found out at week 4 and ever since that moment I have been a wreck and full of fear and questioning whether this was even a good idea. Idk what to do 😢

❤this video is so precious! Worth a great lot! Thank you for making it ❤

Years later and I'm still not over it especially the grieving part 😢

Thank you for this video, this was so helpful, thanks!

I am 22 weeks pregnant with an unplanned pregnancy but have always wanted a baby and now i am feeling like i don’t want this or to be in a relationship and maybe it would be better if i was single. I hate being a burden and not doing much because i am fighting battles in my head. I am also feeling lazy and guilty about not even doing simple things. I don’t feel attached to the world but on the other hand i honestly can’t wait until he is here. I want to be alone a lot but also struggle to be alone (if that makes any sense)

I’m 11 weeks. The nausea has been 24/7. Slight cramps and boobs were killing me up until 9.5 weeks. Still sucky and little cramps here and there with gas up to my neck!! Week 10 was horrendous!!!!!! It was like extreme crying and horrible thoughts! No connection and connection he thought of my body and life changing just runs into my brain! I wanted a baby, what happened? I was crying more and more each day for about 3 days. 8am-4 type of crying. I called my doc and they said this is normal and I have the higher end of symptoms … as long as I have breaks or I’m have days that I’m good, this is ok. As long as it’s not consistent every single day and I can’t seem to get out of bed. That would not be normal (that’s what I was told) I’ve tried to give myself love and grace throughout this time. Knowing that these thoughts are not my thoughts and I am just loaded with hormones. I am capable and able. And I can do all things through Christ to strengthen me. He is the one who blessed me with this baby and the body to be able to grow it. He has a dream from my future that I just can’t see yet! YOU ARE NOT ALONE IF U FEEL HORRIBLE OR UNSURE ABOHT TOUR FEELINGS! Xoxoxo❤

I've been struggling with depression and gender disappointment for two years now. Despite loving my son dearly, I yearned for a daughter. At 44, with my husband not wanting more children, I'm finding it challenging to cope and move forward. My heart and mind are still adjusting to this unexpected path.Honestly, I'm struggling to accept our family dynamics. Two years ago, I welcomed another precious son, but my heart longed for a daughter. I had saved some of my barbies and dolls and princess books.Loving him unconditionally, yet grieving the loss of that daughter dream. Now, at 44, with my husband complete, I'm grappling to find closure.

How can pregnant women treat the physical symptoms of anxiety like anxiety stomach. It feels debilitating to feel "sick" constantly when being up and moving is best for baby

Is it normal to grieve like that? To go to the scan be told you are pregnant feel she's a girl you would call Elsie just for nurses to phone you to say you were bleesing and you lost her and I feel like she is with me in spirt. Like I'm always missing a child even know I have lots already

Gender disappointment....like "is it a boy or abortion?"

im 9 weeks into a planned pregnancy and not excited. In fact, i have considered abortion because of all the stress and anxiety. My doctor ordered an anti depressant but i dont want to risk hurting the baby with it. I wake up at night and cry because i have overwhelming fear and anxiety telling me i dont have it in me to be a mother. i feel alone and dont have much support. Thanks for your video

My Mom was caring and patient with my cousins but was a completely raging Mom at home. My cousins loved her and still do to this day. I wish the cool, caring aunt she was to my cousins would have been the cool, caring Mom to us. Instead, we got the raging adult child who put us on edge regularly. She would always say I will count to three...one, two. I was afraid of her, and as a young adult, she enmeshed me and made me want to get away from her even more. To this day, I can't stand anyone yelling in my own house.

I feel this way when my kid is constantly trying to lose fingers slamming doors ripping folded laundry out of cubbies putting her fingers in the middle of the bike tire and then trying to spin it screaming at me for everything because she's behind on her speech and then I'm losing my temper and then nothing gets better because I will be working on something and she's about to lose limbs

Im pregnt 6 month very disapooint and depressed not happy excited what should i do fear of child bith , ppd

But you’re so skinny….

I am 9 weeks pregnant, but not happy at all, because of my family problems, in laws not behaving properly.. I cry alot, feel a heavy heart. What to do

I would never hurt my kids but sometimes when there to after me I would feel like pushing them but I don't do it and I feel frustrated, sometimes I just want to be alone and not being bothered. I find myself with lots of situation of anger. I guess my dad had a situation with anger and fin myself stuck with this because he had this issue or whatever the reason. But I love y kids

12 weeks pregnant here. I feel exactly the way you described, knowing I am with child, a planned pregnancy and not beaming with excitement but more thinking about what else to plan. I feel a massive disconnection between the friends and family who are over the moon, sending gifts, message etc and my husband who’s so excited and has been waiting for this for a long time. No direct judgement from anyone but a huge guilt for not being like them and sticking to the facts about what’s to come, what changes it will bring, and the fears that come along. You don’t how how good it was to me to hear you say that ! I actually cried. Thank you for this video 🙏

Thank you for starting off so strong. 3 weeks and it was my first pregnancy... we were so excited for our blessing. We only knew for 24 hrs before miscarriage started. I only knew for 1 day and ive been grieving all week. Thank you for this video god bless you

It’s awful. It’s like signing up to be tortured daily. Then you get the painful guilt when they go to bed. 42 yo male. 3 kids under 5. I’m desperate. Wife is great but she already does a lot. I can hardly stand being alone with them. It’s overwhelming. I get rage when they don’t listen. I wish I was better equipped.

I know this was made a long time ago but I never planned on being a mom. I’m 25 and the thought of kids of my own genuinely made my skin crawl. Tested last night at home and today at the doctor and got a few confirmations. I am terrified. I have done nothing but cry. I never saw myself as a mom but said if it happens it will happen. But now I’m just upset I feel like I’m grieving a 25year plan that just caught on fire. My sister is so excited making lists etc it’s too much on my very first day. I’m seriously overwhelmed and upset. I haven’t told my mom yet and I just feel awful and horrible that I’m not happy or excited. I struggle with depression on top of it and I am just so broken right now

I need a break so bad that I actually feel sick but no one to help.

I needed to hear this

My husband is a dismissive avoidant. Enough said.

Hello mam it feels very different n difficult to deal with delayed babies n I really need help to control my anger n frustration it's b 10yrs n really Hard to manage

HI Kate. I really need some help. I'm 42, first time pregnant, staying up till 4 am obsessing. Have struggled with severe anxiety even before this. I'm only 4 weeks and just found out on Friday. I feel trapped and like my life is over. I can barely think straight to function. I'm terrified. Pleaae help.

Thank you so much! You helped me a lot ❤ great video

Thank you so much! You helped me

Thoughts can be so scary!

Im not happy cuz it was unplanned and im in no position to bringing a life into this world. Everything is happening too fast

Not picking no man in front my kids

I recently heard that 'anger is energy to solve a problem' and that really made sense.

I'm gunna buy new running shoes - mine are busted! And clean up my feet. And find a woman on this motherhood journey who is farther down the line - hoping to find a mentor.

Thanks I will understand my emotions make sense my baby has a place in mh heart

Thank you for this video. I did feel an instant bond with my baby when they placed her on my chest, but soon medical complications and severe colic erased that, and while I love her tremendously I just feel as though I don’t know my baby and she doesn’t know me. It makes me very sad.

I know this was made a long time ago! Hopefully you still see this- My husband had cancer while we were engaged and went through treatment.He was told he had 0% motility before his chemo even started so they thought this was a preexisting issue. Finding this out was hard but I really started to cope with the fact that we would not have kids and I was okay with that. Well I just found out that I am pregnant and we were not trying but not preventing due to the fact we were told this would not happen for us. I am completely unprepared emotionally. It’s been really hard to process this because I was happy and content. I feel guilty because I should feel blessed that we didn’t have fertility issues and so many people struggle with that. But my first reaction was I don’t want kids and I don’t want to be a mom. It’s been a week and I feel a little better but still not excited or happy.

I cannot figure out how to do any of this. I am lost. I feel I rely on others too much, but it’s not enough. It will never be enough. I don’t have enough to give. I don’t have this in me. No matter how much sleep I get I’m exhausted. No matter what I do for my body I’m constantly in pain. If it’s not one thing it’s another. I cannot do this anymore.

I have had my first miscarriage and felt so sad about it

I loved this thanks so much. I loved that you said your emotions are valid that really helped me with people in my life not thinking it’s a big deal. This made me emotional because I felt like you heard me and allowed me to feel what I’m feeling. Thanks again.

My wife is 7 weeks. We didn’t use protection but were both surprised at how quickly we conceived. I was ecstatic, still am. Today she told me she wouldn’t be too upset if she miscarried, which crushed me because it makes me feel like I’ll be mourning alone if it does happen. And it makes me feel a bit guilty for being so happy, the happiest I’ve ever been. And now I feel like I have to hide or tone down my joy. 😞 I know she’ll be happy with the baby once it’s born. I just hope she can begin to be happy about it sooner, while pregnant.

Loving this thank you!!

I have a daughter, and now I’m having a second daughter and I wanted a son to be proud

I feel like i could have done something different, i thought I was in a safe place cause I was taking care of me with the tools I have, i wish I could had have more tools, and be near my family, i want my baby back, i was dreaming my life with it, i always wanted a baby boy and and i know he was going to be a boy, i wasn’t even able to know the sex😢 i talk to him all the time, i ask him to forgive me, he was such a surprise for me and my partner, and i wish I could bring him back as soon as possible, we were waiting for him with too much love, hundreds of people were excited about him coming into our lives, but we aren’t in a position to bring another baby yet, i know I have to wait, and i was so prepared to have my baby by this summer, i want him back so bad,

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Thank you, but 3 years on I still have the same intensity of disappointment

Im scared. All the time. Im 24 weeks - I feel her kicking me, shes always with me. Im highly independant and I am so worried that having a child totally dependant on me is going to make me feel trapped

Thank you! It helped me!