The Man Panel: Can you really be a born again virgin? || STEVE HARVEY

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  • @MissBlueBeauty
    @MissBlueBeauty 6 ปีที่แล้ว +387

    Steve spoke with so much empathy toward people turning their lives around. Best response by far!

    • @Jafar.Jamal-175
      @Jafar.Jamal-175 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@SANDOSMT Why? are you trying to be a born again virgin 2? 😂

    • @factswise-psychologicalfac84
      @factswise-psychologicalfac84 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You still not a born again virgin 😂😂 good luck with your used up twat.

    • @shay1999
      @shay1999 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bedal2002 probably the women you've dated and gone back to. Humans can embrace change

    • @shay1999
      @shay1999 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bedal2002 you are not determined by the past but who you are now. Remember there's other women who's virginity was taken by gang rapists

  • @JuanitaMichelle
    @JuanitaMichelle 8 ปีที่แล้ว +496

    "Born again Virgin" isn't meant to be taken literally. Once your virginity is gone it's gone. Being born again is more of a spiritual experience. It doesn't erase the past.

    • @ddh19454
      @ddh19454 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      I was waiting for someone yo bring that up
      Not like girls expect their hymen gon grow back
      It's more of a decision u make for yourself

    • @stektirade
      @stektirade 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Yeah but they are trying to erase their slutiness by saying that

    • @estheransereafriyie1187
      @estheransereafriyie1187 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I understand you cannot become a virgin again,that part is there. But you said it does not erase your past and I think you are wrong. Yeah, you can't go and undo things from the past but 2 Corinthians 5:17 says Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.

    • @mariamalfa7026
      @mariamalfa7026 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Old things are passed away and you are a new creation. You can be a born again virgin. God has erased your past and you're a virgin to him

    • @jesustryingheh6864
      @jesustryingheh6864 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Of you tell people you are a virgin after having sex your lying and that's sinful.

  • @melliemel32
    @melliemel32 9 ปีที่แล้ว +675

    No you can't be a "virgin" again, BUT you can decide you don't want to sleep with someone again until marriage. I think that you can make changes for the better...PLUS, if you're doing it according to the Word of God, the Lord can FORGIVE anything. Just stick to it!

    • @eugeniyah8078
      @eugeniyah8078 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      YASSSSSSSS 👍

    • @britneybaby636
      @britneybaby636 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      good, I like how you speak positive stuff..

    • @glo1005
      @glo1005 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mel L Amen!!

    • @saleh6272
      @saleh6272 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Still not virgin

    • @kellyempress6943
      @kellyempress6943 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Virginity is a myth that words is how u define celibacy is the same thing as virginity. So you can always be a virgin again

  • @midnight_yota
    @midnight_yota 4 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    I think Steve said it best . You can change and evolve but you can’t claim to never do what you already did.

    • @billh.1940
      @billh.1940 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You can claim it, but WE know! Just remember I didn't have sex with that woman, and the choir said oh! Yes you did!!

  • @jainae1
    @jainae1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +412

    I AM NOT A BORN AGAIN VIRGIN. BUT I HAVE BEEN CELIBATE FOR 3 YEARS ON NOV 25TH....AND I AM OK WITH THAT

    • @cuervothorn3947
      @cuervothorn3947 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      XD, Lol, are you still celibate?

    • @kevinarias1862
      @kevinarias1862 6 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      No one cares

    • @jaylynemikeyandmommy4541
      @jaylynemikeyandmommy4541 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      THATGIRLSANI congrats!!!

    • @HD-Australia
      @HD-Australia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Congratulations

    • @tinahuttner7280
      @tinahuttner7280 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You can be emotionally but physically hell no,I agree once you've past that line,no going back.

  • @misssugacoco
    @misssugacoco 7 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Only non virgins would call themselves a born again virgin, an actually virgin wouldn't go round saying they are a virgin.

    • @romariosmith422
      @romariosmith422 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Big facts.

    • @billh.1940
      @billh.1940 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      They can say virgin, you have know need to say born again!

    • @phoebe109.
      @phoebe109. 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly I wouldn’t randomly tell ppl

  • @ShukitaShipper05
    @ShukitaShipper05 5 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    27 years old and I'm STILL a virgin!!! WOO!!! Loving it!!!!

    • @heathfitzgerald363
      @heathfitzgerald363 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      You will be for another 27 years if you don't grow out of the cartoon phase

    • @TYINTOSPACE
      @TYINTOSPACE 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      That's awesome! I am not 27 but I am 23 and still a virgin. I don't intend to loose my virginity until marriage.

    • @jzero671
      @jzero671 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@TYINTOSPACE It's crazy reading people being so old and still holding true. I'm happy that you'll avoid so many problems these women develop from having sex at young ages and with just about anyone.

    • @mikeoxlong
      @mikeoxlong 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You lucky

    • @roseenanga1353
      @roseenanga1353 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      That is amazing it is a great decision. I'm with you

  • @sunniallwein86
    @sunniallwein86 7 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    everyone has the right to reinvent themselves. however you cannot market an open package as new.

  • @justinpenn1081
    @justinpenn1081 6 ปีที่แล้ว +216

    Being celibate and being a virgin are 2 very different things. Just say you are now celibate.

    • @jesterarts734
      @jesterarts734 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      It doesn't sound as good or make them "feel" validated. lol

    • @323azteca
      @323azteca 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Underated comment. 👍

    • @blackwealthmotivation1799
      @blackwealthmotivation1799 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Facts 💯

    • @beverlyrhame3692
      @beverlyrhame3692 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Exactly so.

    • @billh.1940
      @billh.1940 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Or just say...mind your own business! Or let him without sin...!
      Btw even some virgins aren't so celibate! Does anyone remember the anything but girls!

  • @esmeraldavaldez9853
    @esmeraldavaldez9853 5 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    After I got back into church and finally got baptized I promised myself to wait till marriage because I now know the importance of waiting for the right one... my past has nothing to do with what I’m doing for myself for the future...

    • @Rose-zh5xg
      @Rose-zh5xg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's great man, I hope you stay strong

    • @dutchesscarniegegordon56
      @dutchesscarniegegordon56 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Congratulations

    • @ravenzyblack
      @ravenzyblack 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Are you going to be honest about your body count? Your past informs your future whether you want it to or not. It actually matters to a true Christian. To lie about that would be a greater sin.

  • @vanaphill2454
    @vanaphill2454 8 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Born again virgin is a mental thing not a physical one.

  • @iamcharlie4588
    @iamcharlie4588 6 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    People are never going to be “ready” to have a kid.

    • @Samsam-vq4se
      @Samsam-vq4se 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Iam Charlie I think they mean more about being financial ready and mentally ready and there, when you’re in school, working overtime to meet ends for rent and your child and day care, you’re just exhausted and you won’t be there for your kids as much as you’d like. But as you get older, if you make the right moves you will be more stable to raise kids ina better environment. It all matters on circumstances and willingness. Everyone’s different

  • @cguilla49
    @cguilla49 9 ปีที่แล้ว +284

    I love Todd!!! He is hilarious 😂😂😂😂

  • @nygreggs7730
    @nygreggs7730 9 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Why is there a need to rewrite your past decisions? It is ridiculous! You can't change the past - You can only change the future!

    • @jaejae5782
      @jaejae5782 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ny Greggs obviously it’s not a literal term. . BORN AGAIN VIRGIN is normally just a woman who just decided to take a break from sex until it’s actually worth. For most women it’s not just a physical act-it means a lot more than that.
      It’s normally fir several years not months.
      (It’s long term celibacy/abstinence & I hope no woman honestly believes otherwise.)
      A lot of Guys can just become whatever u want them to be like, until they get it, then change or leave/cheat on you after the fact. Yes we can be naive but because we learned our lesson, we then just decide to STOP that pattern of behaviour to merely weed out the ones who are just here for the short term or for those who are not really serious.
      If u don’t like it then keep it moving because u r obviously the type we are trying to avoid. (No shade)

  • @1st_b
    @1st_b 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    There are religious women who’ve practiced the self restraint and discipline to wait until marriage.
    If you haven’t done that why should you get to make the same claim without having made the sacrifices they did or without having had the same discipline they had?

  • @freakyeah95
    @freakyeah95 7 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    If you take care of yourself, it doesn't matter what age you have kids (physically speaking). My dad was 50 when I was born, he was in great shape then and now. 71 years old now, works out every other day and keeps up with my 7 year old niece better than my sister or I can.

    • @scottwall3095
      @scottwall3095 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I think physical accumen is less of a concern as mental health. If you aren't able to mentally handle it because you're still growing as a person then the potential stress can affect your health, add the stress that not being mentally settled into a marriage relationship adds from having a child early into that relationship adds and you end up with to much for a young man to handle.

  • @underwaterseas
    @underwaterseas 8 ปีที่แล้ว +574

    I just don't understand why women are held to a standard of such purity while men barely get a slap on the wrist for being sexually active with several partners.

    • @aznpanda510x
      @aznpanda510x 8 ปีที่แล้ว +100

      +underwaterseas because we men don't claim to be born again virgin because we know it bs. Men are called perverted, nasty and dogs but we don't let that effect us.

    • @somedude5553
      @somedude5553 8 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      +underwaterseas Because more men care about a womens chastity but women could care less about men they just care about how we make them feel.

    • @msozzlover
      @msozzlover 8 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      +underwaterseas SLAP ON THE WRIST??? More like a standing ovation :D

    • @tamiekaaugusta4058
      @tamiekaaugusta4058 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @yitzchakepstein2142
      @yitzchakepstein2142 8 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      Because women can get it whenever and however they want. The only thing a man is thinking about, is doing it, and all she has to do is ask.

  • @purplelonghorn07
    @purplelonghorn07 9 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    you're a virgin once. There is no born again virgin. Now you can abstain from sex but your virginity is something you cant get back. As to the kid thing, I think it depends on the person. Some people can have kids and be ready at 20 and some people should wait until later in life. I was 19 when I got married and 20 when I had my first child. I was ready for kids but should have waited anyway.

  • @natashascott5148
    @natashascott5148 8 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    He said "first one at 21. First one at 22"

    • @mandisashabalala6466
      @mandisashabalala6466 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I picked that up too, so funny.😂

    • @TangledLover13
      @TangledLover13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He meant he had his first boy at 21 and his first girl at 22. Those are his eldest kids

  • @LittleRockElevators
    @LittleRockElevators 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I had my first child at 28. Tomorrow I will be 34 and I have 3 children. It's the mindset you got to have when it comes to raising a family. At 21, I was in college, in the band, want to hang out and stuff like that. I knew I wasn't ready then. I'm blessed that I'm a father and husband for the past 6 years.

  • @AlainaCain
    @AlainaCain 9 ปีที่แล้ว +105

    I don't use the term born again virgin. I tell guys that I have taken a "VOW OF PURITY". It means the same thing.......no sex BUT at least men (the smart ones anyway), have enough sense to respect my decision. Plus the fact that it has made more men shamelessly throw themselves at me purely coincidental!

    • @Walking-MY-Path
      @Walking-MY-Path 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      You mean you're celibate.

    • @jesterarts734
      @jesterarts734 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@Walking-MY-Path lol...it sounds better to use more colorful words for the same things.
      I told a chick I was an underwater ceramic cleaning specialist-technician. I could have just told her I'm a dishwasher but it don't make me "feel" as good. lol

    • @Walking-MY-Path
      @Walking-MY-Path 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@jesterarts734 Lmao yo females be doing the most when it comes to deflecting and running away from accountability/responsibility.

    • @ivanfunctionx8431
      @ivanfunctionx8431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@jesterarts734 lol

  • @pepsico6734
    @pepsico6734 8 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    My father was 20 when he had me. And I'm glad that he was young because I have a very hip father who understands todays youth. Sure my father was struggling in the beginning but it turned out great. I'm 18 now and I feel like my father isn't as old fashioned as most of my friends fathers

    • @bayank6366
      @bayank6366 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      How old was your mother when she had you?!
      Sorry for my English I'm still learning

    • @pepsico6734
      @pepsico6734 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      bayan K My mother was 22 , your english is okay by the way. I'm still learning as well

    • @MrTufanOzdal
      @MrTufanOzdal 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      its not about wether u are glad about it or not but how he felt and what he has to go through at the time

    • @MrTufanOzdal
      @MrTufanOzdal 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      had

    • @Walking-MY-Path
      @Walking-MY-Path 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's a cool-ass Dad!!

  • @shawntalwilliams8271
    @shawntalwilliams8271 8 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    i know everyone is not a Christian but if you commit to not having sex before you get married that is honorable, and for Christians the bible said if any man begin Christ he is a new creature old this have passed away and all things become new but the key word is commitment.

    • @Ssookawai
      @Ssookawai 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Shawntal Williams I'm muslim and it's the same thing... virginity isn't "THE THING" to be, it's about chastity/celibacy.
      If you're a believer (christian, muslim,etc), you know it's forbidden yet you do it then you decide to become celibate, it's okay and no one should judge you.

    • @mimilove7284
      @mimilove7284 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      No one is saying it's wrong you dope head! They talking about the term not the commitment!!! There is no such thing as born again virgin!! You're just celibate and abstaining from sex!! You are no longer nor will you ever be a virgin once you've given up your virginity!! Stop lying to yourself and deluding people!! You can live a pure and holy life post loosing your virginity if you chose to stop being sexually active and wait till marriage but that does NOT make you a virgin again! Just celibate and abstinent

    • @shawntalwilliams8271
      @shawntalwilliams8271 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +mimi love I not sure of the name calling but I stand by what I said, I know what being celibate is and I believe those who have made that choice being a Christian or not have claimed back there Innocence of spirit soul and body is all I am saying,virginity is purity and when you cleanse your self of all the partners you been with what are you gaining purity a state of the heart that has had healing and is made whole so when you give it away to the one you love it is fresh and new (matters of the heart not the body) . I know you can't turn back the hands of time physically but your heart can be brought back to a pure state like you've never made that decision to give your chastity away. #bornagainvirgins a condition of the heart not the body.

    • @shawntalwilliams8271
      @shawntalwilliams8271 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Maska Jinzo Honey ignorance is never bliss you know nothing about my life or where I've been nor do I know where you've been so you can keep all of that to yourself. God bless you my friend

    • @shawntalwilliams8271
      @shawntalwilliams8271 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Maska Jinzo Prayed for you today hopefully your having a good day. Much love...

  • @lobecosc
    @lobecosc 9 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Adulthood and Manhood are two things. Believe that.

  • @DaLane4real
    @DaLane4real 8 ปีที่แล้ว +119

    The mind isn't fully developed until 25 years.

    • @MrRasmus500
      @MrRasmus500 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      DaLane J my mom got my sister when she was 18, (she got pregnant at 17) she then went on to get 4 more kids with the space of 3 years 1.sister 2.me 3. Brother 4.sister 5.brother. Yes my parents were broke for a good part of their lives, but now my sister 22 and me 19 helping them financially really shows that having alot of kids to start of with, really pays of at the end of the day.

    • @anyo_mations
      @anyo_mations 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yeah, but I think it was more common to have kids at a younger age back in the day because less people went to college and more started working right after high school. Today, it takes so much longer for people to become independent. For me, having kids seems so far down the road because I still have to finish up high school and I'm planning on going to college. It'll be ten years before I can even support myself, so there's no way I could take care of a child now. I still feel like a kid to be honest

    • @scottwall3095
      @scottwall3095 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think the idea of having kids young not so much the issue as it is where is your marriage or relationship at that point? People are still growing to know themselves post high school, maturing and figuring out the intracacies of marriage, the stress comes from taking one thing(marriage) you have a hard time with and are learning to balance and throwing a child into the mix. That was my conclusion from having a child young. Not to mention the implications on the marriage and the possible long term effects of not settling into the long term relationship before taking on a 18 year project as complicated as rearing a child.

  • @stiggywiggy3868
    @stiggywiggy3868 7 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    once u lose ur virginity it's gone, I had my first two kids in my early 20s but I wrk hard everyday to make sure they get what I never had

  • @1SweetQ
    @1SweetQ 7 ปีที่แล้ว +106

    It is possible. I was Celibate, by choice, for 8 years. For me it was about a spiritual transformation that I was undergoing.

    • @AmishMicrowave
      @AmishMicrowave 7 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Still doesn't make you a virgin, once it's given away it's gone for good. No redo, no refund, no take backs, done and done.

    • @kylesavage4525
      @kylesavage4525 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      And u can stay celibate for another 150 years but still u will not be a virgin ever again no matter what transformationu go through. Accept it and stop living in denial/dellusions.

  • @RH_2012
    @RH_2012 7 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Todd is hilarious!! I love it when he gives his opinion. I want to sit down with him and ask him some ridiculous questions just to hear his response.

    • @ladymay7789
      @ladymay7789 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You and me both...I would LOVE to hear some of his southern gems of wisdom.

  • @princessmanga2
    @princessmanga2 7 ปีที่แล้ว +198

    None of those guys were virgins when they got married I can assure you. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

    • @MuseTheSoloist
      @MuseTheSoloist 6 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      LeyLey That may be true but none of them are claiming to be virgins

    • @Pomme843
      @Pomme843 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      For a lot of women, virginity in men is a turn-off. It reeks off immaturity and unattractiveness.

    • @The_Maori_Taro_Planter
      @The_Maori_Taro_Planter 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I'd prefer not to stone people for their sexual activities...

    • @Kingaoiun57831
      @Kingaoiun57831 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      LeyLey they aren't saying that they can be born again virgin either. You can decide to stop sleeping around but you can only be a virgin once.

    • @sonnetmorrison1469
      @sonnetmorrison1469 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      amen

  • @brittbrat567889
    @brittbrat567889 8 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Bill rancic 😍😍😍

  • @user-xs5fj3ms2l
    @user-xs5fj3ms2l 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your past should never be used to define you. We all make mistakes and the beauty of humanity is that we can learn from our mistakes. You can be the person today you want to be.

  • @timtommy278
    @timtommy278 8 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    I came here only for Todd Lmmfao!!!!

    • @289dancer
      @289dancer 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Facts.....no printer.

  • @MinkyKhuzwayo
    @MinkyKhuzwayo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Problem with the question "can a WOMAN be a born again virgin?" 00:48

    • @victorreid4106
      @victorreid4106 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Minky Khuzwayo That’s because y’all are the ones that say it, you don’t hear no man saying that

  • @Seadansr1
    @Seadansr1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I had my first kid at 25. the best thing from it was I finally realized I needed to grow up, stop acting like a juvenile and I had responsibilities.

  • @deborahg3093
    @deborahg3093 9 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I do believe that a woman regardless of the number of sex partners can tell a man name. NO, the word "virgin" is not a legitimate term to describe this.

    • @scottwall3095
      @scottwall3095 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think born again virgin, at least as I was listening to it in Sunday sermons, was more about your attitude toward sex, how we use it these days as a coping mechanism for areas lacking in intimacy and trying to understand under what circumstances it is ideal to be intorduced to a relationship. Yes it can be "recreational" but if you take the same attitude there and apply it to a relationship it can cause problems that wouldn't show up if you waited and learned how to address intimacy in a relationship without the sex bandaid or enticement. I'm not decrying sex in a relationship but I think there is an issue with it being substituted in to many situations for closeness that men and women both see in thier heads and grew up idealizing....it's called friendship. Not preaching but I would have liked to see the panel expound upon how important sex is and there are wrong ways and times to use it. Male perspective should have been stronger and more well defined in this area.

  • @acacius9903
    @acacius9903 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Oke not true. I personally know guys who married around 21. They have children and live a happy and successful lives. I feel that I am not ready to get married though eventhough I am more then 25 but there are many people who where ready around 21. Just saying.

  • @jesterarts734
    @jesterarts734 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    “Born again virgin?” Just say you’re celibate.
    I told a chick I was an underwater ceramic cleaning specialist-technician. I could have just told her I'm a dishwasher but it didn’t make me "feel" as good. lol

  • @veronicagoss7225
    @veronicagoss7225 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Once you have sex you cannot become a virgin again everyone knows that. But there is nothing wrong with being celibate and realizing that you want to wait for that someone special.

  • @iSpunkrandom
    @iSpunkrandom 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    If you get sexually assaulted your first time having sex I think it's okay to be a born again virgin. Also I don't see the issue in sleeping with a bunch of people voluntarily and then deciding to be a born again virgin. You're saying born again. This implies that you're acknowledging that you've had sexual intercourse in the past. It's not a lie so I'm not sure what's wrong with saying it.

  • @leslieferguson9562
    @leslieferguson9562 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    "Born again virgin" is just a funny lighthearted way of saying/dealing with the fact that--after wrongfully fornicating, or being married then divorced--you're choosing ABSTINENCE and a long time under your belt practicing it! Everybody DOES have a right to do a 180, and live in a way that's far more healthy for mind/body/Spirit. I became divorced, went down that bad forked road for a bit, and now have been abstinent for 2 yrs. IT IS POSSIBLE!

  • @johnjunior2079
    @johnjunior2079 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I don't think you can reinvent yourself, I think everyone should be held accountable for their own mistakes (even myself)
    I think the only thing we can do is try do right.

  • @Kaganath
    @Kaganath 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My parents were 19 and 18 year olds when they had my older sister. They had a very stable job at my family's company and at the time they were better off than most people in their 30's so I don't blame them for thinking that they can raise a baby at such a young age, and they did. They're both amazing people and I highly respect them. Of course there's a lot of hardships that came their way(based on their stories) but I think it made them smarter and more responsible than those older than them.
    My family's company went bankrupt 7 years ago. Everyone in my family lost their jobs, my relatives literally became poor but me and my parents bounced back almost immediately. I had to change schools, my Mom needed to work oversees and we needed to learn how to make the best of what we have but now, we're back on track and I think one of the reasons my parents were able to remain calm and make good decisions is because they forced themselves to learn things at such a young age.
    I'm not planning on having kids till I'm at least over 25 and don't think that having kids at a young age would truly benefit you but whenever there are negatives, there's always positives.
    I don't even know why I'm writing this, I just think my parents are awesome... Yeah das bout it.

  • @oderaijere8780
    @oderaijere8780 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Steve is funny but he is diplomatic and understanding. Gives very reasonable thought out answers

  • @eleanorturner4651
    @eleanorturner4651 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am so glad that my Father had us young because He had good patience with us then and it seems like his patients grew even greater when his grandchildren came along oh and he was 23 when he got married

  • @HercTheJerk
    @HercTheJerk 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    being a virgin and being celibate are completely different. You can't be a born again virgin however you can be celibate should you choose to be so

  • @hotfish13
    @hotfish13 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m 26. Got married two years ago. My husband is 5 years older than me. We just bought a house and I am going to school full time and will have my bachelor’s degree next year and then plan on getting my masters. We don’t have kids and are waiting another year before we start a family. We are both grateful that we’ve waited to start a family and still don’t feel fully ready yet. The biggest goal is for me to be done/almost done with my bachelor’s by the time we start a family.

  • @litheran69
    @litheran69 ปีที่แล้ว

    “I waited for you, why couldn’t you wait for me?” Only thing that needs to be said.

  • @Nae9211
    @Nae9211 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Todd is MY ABSOLUTE FAVORITE!!!! I just love that man. He should do stand up comedy😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @justsimplegamer
    @justsimplegamer 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    3:25 That guy us is so rich, his watch became next sun.

  • @salvationfaith2964
    @salvationfaith2964 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really do appreciate your comments steve Harvey am 27 and am verly finding my self at 21 i was a baby my actions were imature and as we get older we get to develop self-awareness and able to look at the world with responsibility and kindness! @steve Harvey

  • @daseanclark5462
    @daseanclark5462 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    agreed I try to encourage my friends to wait as long as they can to have kids. like we've literally been in school for almost 2decades.. can we be out of school for another decade before having children

  • @veronicamphela771
    @veronicamphela771 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Steve is very funny, how can you dive off a door knob? LOL

  • @phyllisbrockington5275
    @phyllisbrockington5275 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    There is no such thing as a "Born again Virgin"
    Unless you are a virgin and get born again.......

  • @WhitnyeK86
    @WhitnyeK86 9 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    As far as the child thing goes I think it all depends on the individual and where they think they are in life. Some people can be great parents at 21 and some should wait. People experience personal and financial growth at different rates.

    • @purplelonghorn07
      @purplelonghorn07 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +WhitnyeK86 agree.

    • @BS2all
      @BS2all 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That is certainly possible. But only about 2% of people can pull it off at 21 IMHO. Because financially, it is very rare to find a 21 yr old who can fully support themselves, let alone pay bills, rent, groceries without the aid of parents or loans. So you are bringing your child into a rough environment. I had a tough childhood at times, my parents didn't because financially stable until their mid 40s. I'm 19 now and I am just beginning to realize that the world is labelling me as an adult and having this much responsibility is already enough stress. Being a parents is out of the question for the next 5 years for me. Let alone marriage.

    • @anyo_mations
      @anyo_mations 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel the same way. "Everyone develops at their own pace". I always try to keep that in mind. Hey, I'm in no rush to grow up. Being 17 is awesome.

  • @KweKanata
    @KweKanata 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Physically ...no. Choosing a different life for yourself, respecting yourself, not wanting to deal with males lying and using you , absolutely yes.

  • @paulabarrows7023
    @paulabarrows7023 9 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I love Todd! He's hilarious

  • @mitzi769
    @mitzi769 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Funniest panel ever. It's good to hear from them.

  • @gabbymccallister9820
    @gabbymccallister9820 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Talking about 21 being way too young for marriage and kids. Meanwhile I’m 23, been married since 18. 2 kids and one on the way currently. Had my first child at 20 (pregnant at 19). Been married for almost 5 years. 😂 Welp. 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @Rose-zh5xg
      @Rose-zh5xg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's adorable, I'm glad to hear it turned put well for you ❤

  • @glorymosbyfloyd3878
    @glorymosbyfloyd3878 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love Steve & this all male panel! ! Telling the truth! !

  • @cprado225
    @cprado225 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It should be called a vow of celibacy not born again virgin.

  • @Sam11747
    @Sam11747 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    At 19, I had my first child, and I'm glad I did cause I had a lot more energy back then. I knew myself, knew what I wanted out of life, and had my life together. At 19, I had two paid houses, two paid cars, making a decent paycheck from my businesses, and a decent amount in investments. Financially speaking, because I had my children so young, it actually allowed me to save more money on my taxes.

  • @Miladyluvs
    @Miladyluvs 8 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    born again virgin. is like a metaphor.. obviously not physically possible.. but as we process and cleanse our spirit through a life without sex.. theres a transformation.
    within the person. me.. ive been born again in christ.. ive been cleansed by the blood of Jesus christ. going on 3 yrs of celibacy.. by choice.. ..

    • @wcthesecret
      @wcthesecret 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      then your celibate, dont insult virgins by calling yourself one when you lost that long ago.

    • @Miladyluvs
      @Miladyluvs 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      wcthesecret when did i claim im a virgin!! re read my comment..

    • @WildBison74
      @WildBison74 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lily congratulations on finding christ and becoming celibate. I think it's ok for you to call yourself a born again virgin. I think it's exactly what you said: a metaphor. Woman are not claiming that they are literally a virgin, but are starting new and fresh. I hope you are doing ok with your choice of celibacy and just wanted to wish you blessings and encourage you. You've made an honorable choice in a world that seems to revolve around sex.

    • @JustinRWhite
      @JustinRWhite 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Congratulations on your three years my friend! You have been born again. Non-christians would never be able to wrap their heads around this idea until they come to know Jesus themselves

    • @guzlemuzle
      @guzlemuzle 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      how are you doing?

  • @hannahjames6
    @hannahjames6 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    it s good to have your kids young you have more energy

  • @jjmnz956
    @jjmnz956 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think people should wait and have there children when there older cause being a young father does cause overwhelming stress. I became a father at 16 and living on my own with my wife and child and going to school. I don't even know how I managed to get this far.

  • @kaddatbrands7732
    @kaddatbrands7732 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I got you brothers I am 23 and still I like dating, but marriage nooo,!.Them girls want to but I can't,I got a lot to go for, a lot to learn until I marry someone.Thanks for the enlightenment.

  • @chrisylove1659
    @chrisylove1659 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    2019 and I'm still watching this

  • @Iluv2bblk
    @Iluv2bblk 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Everyone has the right to change

  • @dusica1904
    @dusica1904 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Me as a woman agree that especially man shound not be married or have kids before 30.My dad got me and my sister at 34 and 35. He lived his bachelor life until he met my mom. He became a family man, dedicated to his family and kids...And he gave me an example that you should wait until you are matture for that.

  • @cc2016
    @cc2016 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I only have one man in my life and that's my husband and I don't think after you lost your v card you can be a virgin again

  • @omanemorgan805
    @omanemorgan805 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    I became a man at 17 with 2 kids im Jamaican we do stuffs like that make mistakes but we step up our game to ensure we there for our kids and im 23 now my kids are doing great in school and i work and go to school and the fun part about it is we get to grow with our kids understand them more

  • @coolhead8686
    @coolhead8686 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Everyone make mistakes. It is Okay to correct yourself and change. However, you cannot erase it.

  • @rainealogan6068
    @rainealogan6068 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    "Yes individuals can't hold people to their past" A person it self have to make that change. And surround themselves with positive people, and have a positive mind set.
    And I agree stability, and knowing who you are very important.🙆👍

  • @willydb11184
    @willydb11184 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Damn Im glad they said 21 cause my daughter was born on my 22nd birthday and she's the best present I ever received!!! She's 16 now and we drag race together so each to their own!!!

  • @mystuff8570
    @mystuff8570 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I think age of having a kid depends on the person. Me and my husband had our first baby right before our 21st birthday. We’ve never had a problem with financials or how’re we’re going to raise/feed our kids. We’re not wealthy by any stretch of the imagination but we live within our means and do just fine. Me and my husband also have a wonderful relationship, totally depends on the couple and how much you got your crap together. But that’s just my little two cents/experience.

  • @marieowens4943
    @marieowens4943 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bill and David said it best, "Once you take a bite of that apple, you're done". No such thing as being a born-again virgin...dry spell yes, but a re-virgin...no.
    My dad was 26 when I was born (he just celebrated his 80th in July), and I honestly don't know if he was really prepared to be a dad at that time, or understood the responsibility that it would entail. When I think back, I remember he did his best to provide for as my siblings and I. We always had clothes on our backs, a roof over our heads and we never went hungry.

  • @leonhouston4604
    @leonhouston4604 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    well i was taking care of other people kids an i didn't have my first child untill i turn 29 yrs old... an married at the age of 38

  • @MsDivinelight
    @MsDivinelight 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Celibacy and virginity is two totally different things.. Just because someone decides to abstain from sex does not mean they are a virgin again.

  • @suburbanmama0062
    @suburbanmama0062 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Readiness to marry and/or have children is not as much about age as maturity and the strength of the couple's relationship, imo.

  • @Nae9211
    @Nae9211 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was a really good segment!!! Steve you should truly do this again!!

  • @FirstLast-gk6lg
    @FirstLast-gk6lg 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Resetting the odometer on a car to 0 miles, doesn't remove the ware and tear from the engine, wheels and all other parts.

  • @JoyFoolActs2035
    @JoyFoolActs2035 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    There is pros and cons to having kids at a young age and there's pros and cons to having them when you are older.
    I had my first child at 19. My second at almost 22. And my third at 24. It has not been easy. When you are that young and you have kids it's a struggle, financially and mentally. Sometimes I wish I would have waited and got a good job. Went to collage. Saved up. Took care of my health better. Had good mentors. Chose better men and made better decisions. But the upside is that I'm 39 and my kids are basically grown. My daughter is 20 now, my son is about to be 18 at the end of this month. And my youngest is 15. So I'm still young enough that I can enjoy life and go for my dreams.
    As much as I wish I would have waited, I'm glad I'm not almost 60 watching my kids graduate. God willing, I'm glad I'll have the energy and be alive to see my kids become successful and get married. It is what it is.

  • @4daluvofnikki
    @4daluvofnikki 9 ปีที่แล้ว +212

    I disliked this segment so much. Not one intelligent response from this panel of men regarding the topic of Born Again Virgins. The only thing I agree with is what Steve said about the terminology. Some people will get caught up in the verbiage of Born Again Virgin. But all it means is that a Woman or Man has decided to take a vow of celibacy. They have chosen to wait till marriage to have sex again. Doing things the "RIGHT WAY". I know some will disagree with that term but so be it that is the way I see it. I just hated how these men made leaping assessments that a woman who calls her self a Born Again Virgin must have been very promiscuous. That is not necessarily the case. She may have made that decision after having just one sexual partner or after having many. Each woman is different.

    • @AkonFenty1992
      @AkonFenty1992 9 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      +4daluvofnikki It should be called celibacy cus that's what it is not born again virgins cus once you lose your virginity you're no longer a virgin, but when you stop having sex then you're celibate not a born again virgin, that term doesn't logically make sense.

    • @Karamelkissiz23
      @Karamelkissiz23 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +4daluvofnikki Well said!

    • @therock809
      @therock809 9 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Girl everyone there made sense is that Steve was the only one to say it nicer than the other guys.

    • @BS2all
      @BS2all 9 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Just call it abstinence then?

    • @akumaisreal2090
      @akumaisreal2090 9 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      +4daluvofnikki the question is can you REALLY be a "born again" virgin. Yeah the guys may have made fun, but the fact of the matter is you can't. Once you've crossed that line, that's it, you're not a virgin anymore.
      Deciding to become celibate until marriage is not the same as being a virgin, and being a virgin doesn't even mean you're waiting to get married before having sex, so you can easily see why this is laughable.
      Like steve says, they need to change the terminology. because as it stands it makes no real sense and won't be taken seriously.
      Also, there is nothing factually wrong about having sex before getting married.

  • @kayla5160
    @kayla5160 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A man being 21 is so much different then a women being 21 though. I think a woman can do it. I'm 24 and I'm ready. My husband is almost 35. It seems like the perfect time for us. It really depends on your situation and where you are in life. Some may be ready sooner than others.

  • @Mxxjzz
    @Mxxjzz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Todd has such beautiful smile 😍😍😍😍

  • @_ash_doll
    @_ash_doll 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love Steve Harvey and Todd Chrisley, great show

  • @jacquelineduran8213
    @jacquelineduran8213 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I beg to differ. My husband and I were 21 and 23 when we got married and have our children. Not everyone is the same. We were ready to settle down, and we've been married for 29 years.

  • @jeniferschultz9756
    @jeniferschultz9756 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes you can,I've been celibate for 7 years after my split with my husband

  • @SlideRulePirate
    @SlideRulePirate 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    My parents had me late. I had my Son early. The age gap is largely what governs how much in common a parent and child have. The relationship I have with my Son is one of far more common interests and activities than I had with my Father.

  • @Sisterlisk
    @Sisterlisk 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You can't undo something. You can, however, abstain going forward.

  • @penelopejulien1909
    @penelopejulien1909 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great panel discussion

  • @bryanpenaloza5697
    @bryanpenaloza5697 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    1:43 not the voice i was expecting but i love it

  • @yendang5403
    @yendang5403 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    It doesn't matter what age you have children. The bottom line is are you there for your children when they need you? Being present for your children during their childhood is the most important things. How many people out there who parents were not around while they were growing up???

  • @saveyourproperty
    @saveyourproperty 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I had my first child at 23 and second child at 40. I am too dam old for a child......I love my son but I wish I would have had him at 30.

  • @911martinam
    @911martinam 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    It depends how you are raised and your cultures. My husband and I got married at 21 years old we have 2 wonderful toddler. 3 and 2 year in January. My husband know what he wants to do in his life so do I.

  • @shornetbascoe6543
    @shornetbascoe6543 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why why did i subscribe i am not able to do any work , Steve you are killing me😂😂😂😂😂💖💖💖💖💖

  • @sloan58
    @sloan58 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Everyone has the right to reinvent themselves and everyone has the right not to accept it.

  • @unpopulardollsdontreadrepl8453
    @unpopulardollsdontreadrepl8453 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    If someone tries to manipulate you with words and doesn't take accountability , just run. It is a just a way to increase their SMV.

  • @PrettyBlk318
    @PrettyBlk318 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love Todd lol that man sarcasam is so expectly unexpected

  • @princessmanga2
    @princessmanga2 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I donno why y'all feel the need to comment. A WOMANS PURITY IS NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS UNKESS SHES YOUR DAUGHTER.

  • @melindac.flores3991
    @melindac.flores3991 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The term "born again virgin" is ridiculous. Once you lose your virginty its gone. Like Steve said, you can reinvent yourself, change yourself.