I do actually feel bad for the 12 year old girl, since it's not _her_ fault that the father and the new wife had a trash affair. Honestly, the entire situation is really sad.
Given that the step mom is being investigated by cps in the update, I have a guess as to why the 12 year old was trying to "spend time" with OP. As in, she was hiding with OP.
@@squeaktheswan2007 Yeah, at first I though maybe she had a little crush on him or something but with the added info about her lying cheating mother it feels more like she saw how OP could avoid her mother the entire time he was there and sought shelter with him...
'Become an unskippable cutscene' is probably one of the greatest threats I've ever heard. Anyway, there was actually another update from OP of the first story and she's confirmed that yes, her mom now has full custody of her and dropped details as to what happened. Mainly, Adulteress got *violent* and attacked OP after what happened who managed to record it and sent it and a picture of the damage to her mom. It's why the police got involved. The Adulteress is to be kept away while OP can meet with her dad by her choice but made it clear it won't be happening. Lastly, it looks like the Adulteress is going to be in trouble anyway and they're going to be looking into the other kids.
Man, I love when cheaters got what they deserve. Too bad it took OP getting hurt, and I hope those kids are safe. Nobody deserves to be raise in such hell hole passing as a 'family'
I hate tht she was attacked but i use to wishhhh i got physical evidence of my parents horrible abuse if at least to show its real and show people im not fucking lying. Just cuz i didnt have injuries meant i was a crazy kid :/ So i hate they were attacked but im glad it got them the fuck away from tht psychopath. I wish them a nice recovery physically and mentally
@@aidenflame1576 I know exactly what you mean. Every time I tell my experience with child labor because I got forced into it people won't believe me or say that it's not that big of a deal. So I often stopped before the part where I got kicked out at 16 for wanting a weekend visit at my dad's rather than scrubbing public toilets. Eventually, I stopped talking about it in the first place Yes, nobody cared that a 9 yo worked as a cleaning lady
Actually they don't really remove the tubes out (unless is for other reasons besides becoming infertile), they just clip them and cut in the middle. It can be reversed, but it does not work everytime
@@unvoicedapollo3318 exactly. He could not comprehend the fact that she CAN'T get pregnant. Maybe he thought himself as strong as the holy spirit that impregnated virgin mary. or some shit.
Story 1 had an update and its massive So after the last post, the adultress went nuclear and attacked op, pushing her against the wall and slapping her hard, leaving a cut on her face due to her nails. Op had recorded the incident when she heard fighting downstairs and came to see what happened (the phone was in her sports bra recording). The recording and picture was sent to her mother who called the cops and she showed up. Op had to go to the ER for stitches and questioned. Mom was chilled but extremely pissed off. Mom pressed charges on the adultress and has full custody of op now so she doesnt have to return to see her father or the adultress. Lawyers and CPS got involved so now adultress is being investigated about her own kids now.
**STORY 1 UPDATE** Adultress went off the rails and pushed me against the wall and slapped me really hard. She has nails so it ended up cutting my face kinda deep and the cuts bled like crazy and I hit my head on the wall. I had put my phone on record and stuffed it in my sports bra band when I heard them start yelling for me to come downstairs so I got the audio for the whole thing. Cheater realized they screwed up I guess so while he was pulling her off me I ran and locked myself in the bathroom and sent the recording and a picture of my face to my mom. Mom was the one that called the cops and she showed up right after they did. They let me go with her and one escorted us to the ER and I had to get a a few stitches and answer a bunch of questions. My mom is super chill but she was the maddest I have ever seen her. I had a little bit of a concussion so I wasn’t supposed to read or be on my phone a lot. I know my mom told the cops she wanted to press charges on Adultress, but I don’t know what’s happening with that now. My mom says the custody situation is fixed for now, I’m with her full time. Cheater can ask to visit me but I don’t have to and Adultress isn’t allowed to have any contact with me at all. To which cheater said that was fine because she didn’t want me at the house anymore anyway. I had to talk to some social workers and a lawyer and I think Adultress may be in trouble about her own kids too but I don’t know. So that’s what happened. Had to start school with a cut up face, but my mom’s a NP and she said they’ll heal up without a scar if we take care of them. And I don’t have to see Cheater anymore. Since the kid’s dad teaches at my school and I have to take a class he teaches before I graduate, my mom met with him and the principle and I gave her the game 9M liked and a bracelet 12F liked with a note to give to him so he could pass them on if he wanted. Probably won’t see them again. I’m feeling a lot better now that I can stay home. Now I can get on with life. From: Status_Negotiation35 Title: “I’m free!” _I am not the OP_
Story 2: He knew. He just wanted to embarrass her. He didn’t succeed, all he did was show his, his sister’s and his mom’s true colors. Very much abusive behavior.
He probably thinks he's punching down so she'll be easier to control once the ring is on her finger. Then he can get her pregnant to really lock her in. The abusers plan of manipulation didn't work is what I think happened and the OP dodge a nuke
I almost feel like he was slowly manipulated over time by his family? To me this would explain why he said in the beginning that it was her decision and how weirdly he was acting when he came back. What he said there didnt make any sense. So while it doesnt change who is how much of an A-hole, if this is actually the case i actually feel bad for him
Maybe he believes in magical things, like if they pray hard enough, she can be "healed". Or maybe he thinks he can talk her into IVF. Or maybe his memory is not all that good. People are so quick to jump to malice as the motive for everything.
@@MyFiddlePlayer Indeed. There's even a well known saying about how one should never assume malice as a motive, when ordinary, everyday incompetence explains everything just as well.
@@Sordorack I definitly think whatever root caused this behavior started with his family, Though he should have been better enough to resist them to begin with
Story 2 “it states ‘child free and infertile’ verbatim” Sadly doesn’t surprise me that he completely ignored that information OP, he believed he could pressure you into having children and when he couldn’t get his own way? Oh, just run to mommy and get her to harass you? Gaslight you, scream at you, bully you and threaten you? Yeah, you deserve so much better OP, he doesn’t respect your choice to not have children here at all.
Wouldn't be surprised if the dude didn't care originally but then his mum got in his ear and persuaded him that he needed to give her grandchildren and OP must be lying so she just needed to stop taking her evil anti-baby pills.
Exactly! And even trying to use the Bible to manipulate her into having kids with him? The Bible says that kids are a great blessing, but they're not required. I agree with Rslash, he's just stuffed his pride into his ears and can't hear anything for his idiocy.
@@dianaquill9969If your new partner has a super religious family, then that's a red flag. It basically guarantees two things: 1. Any drama in your relationship WILL get back to them. And 2. If you aren't also super religious, they will secretly despise you behind your back. It's not worth the risk.
@@guywholikesgoodmusic I'm part of a religious family, I myself am religious, and my entire family can keep their mouths shut because they know what boundaries are, and how to respect them, they also don't gossip and all of us can carry a secret to the grave, even the one I have no contact with. For example: I have never heard my mother, father, nor any of my siblings complain about their spouse. They do not say a Single Negative Word about them unless it's in an honest question of 'am I making the right decision doing X, Y, or Z?' You're equating clique/pride and trashy drama with religion. There's a reason the God warns us not to gossip, because it's common and easy to fall for temptation that a lot of people fall for, in and out of religion. For reference, anyone who dares try to gossip to you, all you have to do is to offer to go to the person who is being gossiped about right then and there. They'll either get scared of the consequences and say no, or they could even do it out of genuine concern. My pastor has done that to dozens of people, and he's never gotten a yes to going to the person being gossiped about. I tend to type out a lot, so thank you for reading, and I hope you have a good day!
@@dianaquill9969 I don't like to generalize people of an entire group. However, if you listen to this channel for any length of time, you start to notice a trend in many of the stories regarding the exact scenario I provided. I'm referring to hyper-fundamentalist religious types, not the average Christian. As a Christian, I'm positive you know the people I'm referring to. The bible-clutching, god-fearing 'holier-than-thou' types. I wouldn't continue a relationship with someone who has close ties to their fanatical family. Because you also know that, if push comes to shove, they will choose their family and religion over you every single time. In a heartbeat.
BF: Well, she’s obviously lying about being infertile. She’s using that as an excuse to not have kids! I bet I can change her mind! Alternately, BF doesn’t know what “infertile” means because he got an abstinence-only education from his family.
BF: ALL Women can get pregnant at ANY time. Those who don't are just being difficult. I'll make sure this infertile woman gets pregnant by the power of my Super Sperm!
Alternatively: When a man and a woman who really love each other and want children, they come together, hug, and make a wish with all their hearts and the woman will get pregnant. JUST LIKE THAT! The just have to hug and wish hard enough.
Story 3: It's APPALLING how this man didn't even try to stand up for his daughter. This woman manipulated him into playing her sick game of hating OP's mom and taking it out on OP. It'll only be a matter of time before she gets him to cover or remove the tattoo of his daughter. What a disgusting woman.
Maybe (and this is largely me guessing here) he had some hidden hatred for his ex and OP and the more he lived with his new wife the more and more it came out
What a disgusting man, he chose a woman over his daughter. A real father would have told the new wife to go kick rocks the moment she started her shit.
Honestly, reminds me of my dad, he felt like we were too much like my mom and started being abusive. Told me he was sorry, it's only because I reminded him of her. Dad's are trash
She maybe disgusting but he is the bigger disgusting here. He is the father not her. He is the one that lie and broke the promise, not her. Overall its his decision to do the AH. Not her. She is the influencer but he let to be influenced
Last Story: Ahh yes, another classic tale of a spineless parent who someday, years from now, will wonder why his daughter doesn’t speak to him, after all “he tried his best to make everyone happy”. Man…poor Op, maybe she can keep in contact with step brother, he at least seems cool.
OP even said to her dad that she feels like he's pushing her out, and he tells her he's not, and that stepsister doesn't like her, so he favoured her by literally pushing OP out. It's a miracle that he still has the ability to walk with the amount of spine he lacks. What a loser.
Story 2: Geez, it feels like accepting a reality is just an impossible task for some people. OP is infertile, and she can't be fertile again. Rather than accept that OP is infertile and never bother her about it, the whole family harasses her, calls her a defect, and throws Bible verses at her.
I tried to go to a religious help group because my husband is trying to intimidate me into having a baby (I've miscarried 13 times) and I had Bible verses used to tell me to try even though I don't want to and most likely cannot carry to term. It was disheartening.
For people like that, it's either accept reality, or fall apart as a person. Why, is likely because they genuinely _can't_ accept that some things aren't in their control and/or work the way that they believe they do. For them, if they can't be right about certain important things, then they lose all ability to trust anything to be true or meaningful.
It was hilarious when ex’s sister told OP what she did should be illegal. It’s her body! OP isn’t Wolverine! She can’t grow these parts back even if she’s wants them!
Right?! These people are the WORST kind of Christian’s they are not even Christian’s, like what if OP had cancer or a tumor and she had to get the procedure done? And the audacity of that man for lying to her face and gaslighting her, I’m so glad her dad came in to verify. Always screenshot important conversations you have with people because you never know. Gaslighting is so common and it’s a sign of abuse to come geez this family is so messed up! Idk what kind of evil is inside of them but they better soak in some holy water.
Last story: spineless parents who let their new evil partners cut their children from the previous relationships from their lives are the worst. I'm not even as angry at the evil stepmother as I am at the spineless father.
Last story: Dude literally just threw away an 18 year old relationship with his own daughter because he’s a lying, cheating, spineless coward. Some tattoos can be covered up beautifully, but some may end up pretty blobby. I hope OP consulted a good tattoo artist. Personally, I’d slap a censor bar over the father’s eyes, or have his face altered to resemble a clowns. Might as well get creative with it, but that’s just my bitter, petty brain talking.
what really stuck out to me is the sister in the second story saying that it should be ILLEGAL for her to get her tubes removed. like... why? why do you care so much? i don't get it it's genuinely insane how is op the monster for choosing to do something for her own body when she's trying to control her body like that
The sad part is that I've read horror stories of women that want to get them tied, but doctors not doing it because of hypothetical future partners or kids. Also, Catholic hospitals won't tie tubes, full stop.
OP in story 1 is making it extremely clear that she’s unhappy being around her father. Her father destroyed her family, cheated on her mother, immediately moved on and married his affair partner, what did he honestly expect? And describing her speaking at therapy as an “unskippable cutscene” is just absolutely GLORIOUS along with rewriting an entire song! It’s amazing that OPs dad was huge mad in therapy because he didn’t appreciate the ugly truths, and the affair partner is huge mad that OP was honest with the 12 y/o who’d obviously been lied to and the mistress expected OP to just be silent? Yeah, she sucks big time, imagine sleeping with a married man, marrying him almost immediately and then getting upset that OP was honest about her actions. Well played OP, a classic case of FAFO, I hope the courts don’t force you to go to your cheater dads house any more. Edit: it actually gets worse, OP was assaulted by the mistress, so I have posted this most current update underneath. **STORY 1 UPDATE** Adultress went off the rails and pushed me against the wall and slapped me really hard. She has nails so it ended up cutting my face kinda deep and the cuts bled like crazy and I hit my head on the wall. I had put my phone on record and stuffed it in my sports bra band when I heard them start yelling for me to come downstairs so I got the audio for the whole thing. Cheater realized they screwed up I guess so while he was pulling her off me I ran and locked myself in the bathroom and sent the recording and a picture of my face to my mom. Mom was the one that called the cops and she showed up right after they did. They let me go with her and one escorted us to the ER and I had to get a a few stitches and answer a bunch of questions. My mom is super chill but she was the maddest I have ever seen her. I had a little bit of a concussion so I wasn’t supposed to read or be on my phone a lot. I know my mom told the cops she wanted to press charges on Adultress, but I don’t know what’s happening with that now. My mom says the custody situation is fixed for now, I’m with her full time. Cheater can ask to visit me but I don’t have to and Adultress isn’t allowed to have any contact with me at all. To which cheater said that was fine because she didn’t want me at the house anymore anyway. I had to talk to some social workers and a lawyer and I think Adultress may be in trouble about her own kids too but I don’t know. So that’s what happened. Had to start school with a cut up face, but my mom’s a NP and she said they’ll heal up without a scar if we take care of them. And I don’t have to see Cheater anymore. Since the kid’s dad teaches at my school and I have to take a class he teaches before I graduate, my mom met with him and the principle and I gave her the game 9M liked and a bracelet 12F liked with a note to give to him so he could pass them on if he wanted. Probably won’t see them again. I’m feeling a lot better now that I can stay home. Now I can get on with life. From: Status_Negotiation35 Title: “I’m free!” _I am not the OP_
And it gets worse! Thank god OP finally got out of that mess, even with that assault. Their hindsight to record before the assault really helped sink in the reality that OP does not want to be with their dad's family. And this psychopath just proves that it was never going to work out.
That is a doozy. At least it explains why the cops were called, and I hope that abusive stepmother gets locked up for a while. The only ones I feel bad for on that side of the family are the two kids.
Story 3: Wife is exhibiting classic abusive behavior, trying to the father off from everything. I’m calling it now: a week after moving, the mask is going to come completely off, and the wife is going to escalate from emotional abuse to verbal and even physical abuse
Normally I would think claiming abuse would be extreme . However the sons willingness to tell OP the truth leads me to believe that there’s a reason she’s divorced
@@HyperShadow991exactly what i was thinking! Parents always want to rekindle their relationship, when they gets old and lonely, with children they abandoned when they were younger and healthier 🙄
Story two: it’s not OP’s fault that her fiancé can’t. FUCKING. READ. And understand what “infertile” means. She never lied, she was up front and honest on her damn profile.
He probably thinks it can be reversed, because vasectomies can be reversed. Another classic example of a man having _no fucking clue_ how a woman's body works.
@@arianebolt1575 I meeean to be able to even give birth to a child oneself using one’s own body, one would require a uterus, so by technicality not having a uterus would make someone infertile, no?
Story 1: I would say it's more like dad wanted to play Chaz, and the daughter tried to play the quiet game until she had enough and decided to go battleships. OP's dad should have left her alone until she was ready to talk if ever, meanwhile what the point of therapy if OP isn't allowed to say what she truly feels, homewrecker and Dad don't get to just force her into getting over it and having a happy family. As for the twelve-year-old girl I can't help but feel bad for her, she should not been so pushy but I think Mom was dead-on about her trying to build some sort of connection with the only person she thinks she can talk to, only for her world to get more broken apart finding out the truth. She deserve to know but still.
Story 3: I don't know why the step-mom is acting like that. She never even MET OP's Mom. If it is because she's jealous that she wasn't the dad's first pick, it would make the most sense, because any other reason I could think of would need some interaction between the two moms. Really though, the fact that a jealous step-mom is wrecking everything is just awful
As a child of a parent who remarried several times, you don't have to do anything except exist. It's hypocritical, but most times, the new parent wants just their kids around for the family vibe. And dealing with another child reminds them that their family is not a whole one. I've been shipped away and forgotten about my entire life.
@@doodlethealien8889I think you're confusing the first and third stories. There was no mention of cheating in the third story, just that the parents got divorced and dad remarried.
It's a classic case of the jealous stepmother that wants her husband to forget about his old life and his old family and focus solely on hers, and her kids. She suggested the tattoo, knowing how special it was between OP and her father, and wanting to use that to try and get him to feel the same special connection with her daughter. She doesn't like the mom, because it's her husband's ex and she wants them as far apart as possible, because she's jealous and insecure that she's still in the picture, afraid he might go back to his ex. And she doesn't like OP because OP isn't her daughter. I wouldn't even be surprised if she purposefully got the job in another state to force him away from them.
Second story, dude was trying to gaslight her. There were some specific tatctics there. Like I can't talk to you when you are like that, trying to convince op that something didn't happen etc. The fact her dad talked about that with her is something that makes me sure it was galighting attempt.
But what is he gaslighting her for? Does he really think he can trick her eggs into noclipping into her uterus? Assuming they didn't take her ovaries too.
@@Wendy_O._KoopaOP mentioned that IVF is still an option but she doesn't want to do that to her body. Maybe he thought he could bully her into sugesting it to make him happy
@@debymello4756 Except she did mention that, and he didn't say "Oh good, let's do IVF!" he just said "Are you stupid?" or something. Like he just couldn't understand the concept, but also couldn't admit he didn't know what those letters stood for. No, wait... he's _actually_ doing the Dumb and Dumber meme: "So you're telling me there's a chance?" IRL
S2: I think that the boyfriend was hoping that op’s self esteem would be fragile enough for him to convince her into allowing him to impregnate another woman in order to give him what he wants. Op gave us examples as to why his family dislikes her. She’s overweight but she also makes way more money than he does. So she doesn’t need him but he definitely needs her.
For story 2: I knew someone who thought like op fiance, I told him how I didn’t want kids , he kept saying well fine but what if the guy your with and in love decided he wanted kids, you would have them right? I answered “no if the person I am with decided he wanted kids then we would have to break up, we wouldn’t belong together “ he couldn’t get it, he kept saying “but if you love him then you have to.” It was beyond his ability to understand that no means no, and that this is a deal breakers.
Me too. The guy 'friend' of mine kept saying 'but what if your husband wants them?'. Me: I don't really want a husband either, but let's pretend it got that far with someone; it wouldn't be with a guy that adamantly wants kids TG'F': but if you love him... Me: but if he loves me... Me: also, we'd have that conversation pretty early on so would break up before then TG'F': but what if he changes his mind? Me: I'm very clear from the start I don't want kids. If changes his mind then he has robbed me of time not the other way around TG'F': but if you love him... Me: OK, I'm done now Me: [walked away] Me: [cut off contact with TG'F''] Granted, I have much better boundaries now so probably would just skip to the 'I'm not a brood mare, after that it's his problem' then end the discussion and walk away.
Toxic selfish people tend to use love as the ultimatum to get their way. If you'd love me you do this, and that and give up this and that for our love. Bs excuse, love is mutual respect, understanding, saafety and support, not a leash.
This is my mother's and my grandmother's stance on a wedding in a church. I live in one of the most Christian countries that technically don't have an official religion (Poland) and to get married in a church you have to be baptized. I stopped believing in god when I was 10. They kept pushing me to get baptized. Luckily my mom stopped being so pushy a few years ago, so I was never baptized. You know what their only argument was? "But what if you meet a man who desperately wants to be married in a church?" When I answered that this would be the reason I broke up with that man, they got angry. Also I'm gay (but not fully out yet so I never used it as an argument) and the church doesn't grant gay marriages so idk what would even be the point lmaoo
S3: I feel so bad for op because after being daddy’s little girl for 18 years, she’s just been replaced by her stepmom and her kids. It sounds like the stepbrother is her only ally from her dad’s new family. I hope that she sees a therapist because she needs to know that she’s not to blame. Sometimes parents are needy and selfish aholes. Her dad sacrificed his relationship with op to satisfy the evil stepmom.
I remember the beginning of the Tattoos story. That dad is either spineless, or blind when it comes to favoritism. It's sad OP's stepbro had to be the one to tell OP the whole truth. And the dad will not understand why they cut contact and blame OP
Story #2: Never underestimate a man's (not all) ability to not want to understand a woman's reproductive system. My ex-husband once accused me of deliberately having a period so I wouldn't have sex with him 5 days out of the month. When I asked, "do you really think that?" he said, "well, it feels that way." Then there was the time when I was 8 months pregnant and said I was tired. He said, "so, you're having a baby, what's that got to do with you?" Did I mention he's my EX?
Some men are selfish and ignorant, not stupid, ignorant. I feel so sorry you lost time with such a piece of shit, luckily you are out of the relationship. Who knows, maybe the ex fience thought himself to be like the holy spirit who impregnated the virgin mary. I mean, his family knows by heart bible verses, so that explains his ignorance, lack of understanding female anatomy, toxic behavior.
Rslash, the last story happened to me too. My dad back then had no back bone to step up and protect me. His secret jealous wife attacked me, my sister, and my mom. False police reports, verbal harassment, fraud, you name it. I have a real dad now who cares about me and a brother and a best life. I found out my former POS no longer dad is in trouble with the law and is being sought. I have no problem in helping the cops find his ass.
Story 1: the kids definitely didn't deserve the snapping. But the sperm donor 100% did. I'm glad op got revenge on him and I'm glad that they apologized to the kid. The kid is an innocent victim in all this. Story 2: further proof that some men really just don't understand women lmao... And trying to gaslight her into agreeing with him. How pathetic. Story 3: I honestly feel bad for op here. Her dad was really handling things the wrong way.
That's awful the dad was only trying to spend time with op his marriage isn't her business, he was even going to therapy with her. I know he's so bad for wanting qt with his kid so many children grow up without Father's and the ones that try to spend time with they're kids get shit on. No wonder the world is going to hell
@@dfate88cheating is a betrayal to the mother. A child will see that portrayal and see it as a personal one because it betrays the family. It means family isn't worth anything to the cheater
@dfate88 forcing someone to go to therapy is also the worst thing one can do. Especially one as a group. The father wasn't ready to hear Op's emotions. What did he expect? Those were her emotions and he got angry over it. Really, there is nothing to feel bad for
I've gotten so much hate for getting my tubes removed and yet I also see so many people claiming "nobody cares that you don't want kids". Story 2 shows that some people do care, far more than they should.
It's one thing if you do it while in a relationship when the other person is not on board, but why should anyone hate you for any other reason? If a guy knows up front he can choose not to develop a relationship. Anyone else it shouldn't affect them at all.
@@mariposa9506 I'm not even talking about people I'm in a relationship with. I mean people who are in no way involved in my life have told me I'm a sociopath for getting sterilized/not wanting kids.
The worst part is, no one says this shit to men who get vasectomies. Some people just think all women should be baby incubators, and it's gross. Unfortunately, a lot of people who feel that way are lawmakers...
I was able to go a step further and get surgery for yeeting my entire uterus (and the tubes too since they were just pointless cancer risks at that point). I'm so much happier with my body now and not having constant anxiety anymore is such a relief!!!! The best part is that it's impossible for me to become pregnant now. The second best part is I never have to worry ever again about if my next period will be two weeks or two months from the last. (This was how I was eligible for the hysterectomy in the first place.) I very firmly don't want to be a parent. I don't have the physical capacity for it or the desire. But by not following the path I was brainwashed from a young age to take, I now am able to have enough capacity to be a fiercely passionate advocate for children and help more people than I could have otherwise. None of us need to justify our decisions or "make up" for not having kids though. The worst parents kids can have are ones who don't actually want them or who resent them, and people who pressure childfree folks to have kids don't ACTUALLY care about the wellbeing of children like they pretend to. And humans don't owe anyone reproduction either. We only owe each other decency and a basic level of respect as part of being a communal species living in communities. We aren't hurting anyone by not having bio kids or not fostering or adopting... we're just living our lives like anyone else. And there's nothing wrong with that! ♥️
Story 2:) Even if she didn't have her tubes removed, the way he and the family are acting would be an immediate deal-breaker for me; especially when they started hurling Bible verses, claiming that she's a defective/disgrace of a woman. It's clear that they only see her as a walking, talking womb at this point. They are not worth Op's time. She needs to get out of there fast or her life is most likely going to become a living hell. Edit:) Good job, Op.
@@shannonp1656 Yeah like wtf, how the fuck women can say that to other women? It's beyond me. They are either brainwashed into being incubators or just extremaly stupid and jelous. Disgusting. That we have to fight for our bodily autonomy with control hungry men AND dumb ignorant women it's tragic.
I would have thrown back that if we're gonna start quoting the bible then maybe they should remember "Judge not lest ye be judged" and that since they're judging me for not wanting kids then by their own religious beliefs, they're going to hell for judging. I would also have added that it's NOT my fault that their son can't read past 2nd grade level.
The last story broke my heart. I love my children. I can’t imagine leaving one behind for anything. It’s the bond I love most in my life and I can’t imagine just choosing a different family or a different kid over another one. It broke my heart for the daughter honestly. What a betrayal that must feel like.
Story 2: it's the second sentence in her dating profile, her dad explained it when ex told him about proposing, this is not about being clear he knew from the get-go. He's one of those people that believe even when someone says one thing they can force them to do something, then get butt hurt when it doesn't work. Doesn't help that he's clearly an idiot who doesn't know really know how to manipulate, every other sentence is a lie, and that's not an exaggeration every other sentence was a lie when he talk to you. I would recommend are police at score when you get your stuff, this dude is unpredictably stupid.
that guy honestly sounds like one of those men who don't think of women as actual people. i'm glad OP dumped him, but i am worried for her. his last text sounds very threatening and i hope he doesn't do something stupid and violent.
The last story really bothers me. My dad divorced my mum when I was 5, and it was a long process. About 20 years later, he met his new wife. We lived in California and she was in Canada. They married and a couple years later, he moved to her home. She has a daughter with her ex, and it seems to me like he preferred spending g time with them over me and my brother (even before the marriage and move). There were special trips for them, and we stayed home. Their relationships grew and ours began to crack. It was like we didn't matter as much anymore. He treated us almost like roommates until we all moved. He ignored our problems and worked on his own selfish goals. Yes, my brother I are in our 20s, but we couldn't support ourselves due to multiple reasons for each of us. It felt to us like we had been cast aside so he could go off and have a new life. There was an offer for us to move with him, but we have no relationship with anyone but him. It's always been weird to me when he says "our family", because it's his family. The only person I have any bad feelings about is him. Everyone else is an acquaintance.
Story 2: I think the guy doesn't even understand what "Tubes removed" actually mean, he must somehow correlate it to "tied" so in his mind that can be reversed.
Hey, rslash, that story about the woman with removed fallopian tubes and the guy, he’s not an idiot, he’s an abuser. We need to stop giving abusers the benefit of the doubt by calling them stupid because they know what they’re doing and they know that they’re being abusive. He’s just a manipulator.
I actually think hes an idiot because like rshlash and the poster said, even if hes able to make her feel bad it is literally not possible to get pregnant . So what could a manipulation achieve :D
Yeah, it’s clear he saw what she wrote on her profile and apparently thought she was just lying to ‘get out of having children’ or something. Thank goodness he showed his true colors before the wedding planning.
The irony of the 15 year old thinking they're dropping something big as opposed to _finally_ starting on the path to better mental health shouldn't be overlooked but however op looks at it, good on her for finally opening up to a therapist and not bottling all of it up. Therapy isn't about whether or not you forgive your abusers, it's about learning how to deal with your _own_ emotions so my hats off to her, seriously, I hope the best for her AND her siblings.
Story 2: Glad this came up before the wedding. I think this guy might have a worse grasp on anatomy than the guys who think women should just hold in their periods. At leaat they don't expect body parts to regenerate.
His family thinks his chances of being a father are damaged...men can produce children their entire lives once they go through puberty! I see where he gets his anatomy ignorance from, smdh...🙄
Actually they don't really remove the tubes out (unless is for other reasons besides becoming infertile), they just clip them and cut in the middle. It can be reversed, but it does not work everytime
@@miguelsardinha8818 What you described is a tubal ligation, which as you said, can sometimes be reversed.Tubal removal, however, is a different surgery that literally is a complete removal of the fallopian tubes and sometimes also the ovaries. It is not reversible.
The last story is so similar to my relationship with my dad. 2 months ago he moved away with only a couple days notice. The notice came with an essay from his wife about how selfish I am and probably glad they're leaving. This was after not talking to me for months because I sent a letter to him explaining how badly it hurt me that he didn't talk to me on my birthday because I didn't thank him for a Christmas gift. Which I did. Ugh... I hope all the best for OP. Step moms can be stressful for no reason.
It is similar to mine as well. But I still have a good relationship with my father. My stepmother tried to do that, whoever it always backfired, my father make my move with him two times, I'm have a bad health situation, and is quickly to stay at his place if I need attention. Helped raise my new stepbrother (he is 16 years younger than me) and have a wonderful relationship. After a couple of freakouts of the new wife, I don't speak to her, she tries to talk to me although. She lost the battle with me, and every time I go to my father's place, she stays in her room, rarely dinners with everyone because of me. Now the only big problem is that he lives one and a half hours outside rush hours, and to go there is always rush hours, she doesn't let me have a key. And my dad works almost 24/7, principal in a state school (Brazil), and has a lot of bureaucracy to deal with, even during vacations.
Story 2: I think part of the problem is that this guy probably doesn’t even know there’s 3 holes down there, forget about knowing what fallopian tubes are
Coming from a religious family like he did, it shouldn't be surprising that he doesn't know anything about sex ed and the female anatomy. Religion is full of stupid people who REFUSE to learn cause God says not to learn about anything only about him and following his dictatorial orders. If you learn, you'll be punished by going to hell.
Story#2: OP needs to ghost all these people. The man is an absolutely horrible person. There were red flags she ignored. Which is easy to do. Story #1: Wow OP was not playing. Story#3: Poor OP, the dad will come crawling back when he gets divorced again. And as a step parent I would never attempt to take over the role of the actual bio parent. That dad is using a child as an excuse for the wife . He knows OP would accept the dad trying to make the girl happy but not be ok with the wife purposely getting rid of OP.
I literally hate guys like the one in story 2. The absolute entitlement and manipulation. He know and strung OP along for years assuming he could bully and manipulate her into being his incubator... Disgusting and horrific behavior.
Story 2: This is the most unrelatable and unreasonable behavior ive ever heard out of a group of people (fiance and family). You can't even call this stupid and delusional because this is far beyond both of those things. I wholeheartedly disagree that the fiance has an 80 iq because a person with an 80 iq could still be reasoned with. The only scenario that makes sense to me is that fiance wanted to break up and is gaslighting the whole thing even the stupidest person on the planet couldn't align with his position genuinely
Story 2: 😒 He knows she doesn’t want kids, he also knows she can be control through financial means, he essential was gonna try to gaslit her and break her down for not being able to have kids, but OPs confidence in the situation threw it off before the manipulation could sink in. She’s a perfect example of why women need to leave as soon as they see the red flags, I don’t care how invested you are LEAVE, get the ring back, cancel the wedding day of, annul the marriage within a year, get a divorce. LEAVE.
On the no tubes story I’m wondering if OP’s partner was secretly trying to get her pregnant this whole time, and when that didn’t work he asked her upright to get off birth control. It just puzzles me that assuming he didn’t know she had her tubes tied that the conversation regarding/revolving around birth control didn’t happen until that very moment
Think he assumed she was lying and taking birth control secretly, like he was lying about not wanting kids. It makes me worried about what meds he was trying to sabotage if the found any.
Tattoo story. The tattoo is only the beginning. There will always be something dad needs to do to “prove” he loves his second family as much as his first. Sounds like stepmom is pushing all of the buttons behind the scenes.
Story 2: based on how he talked, I think he just doesn’t understand anatomy. Like, legit doesn’t know what fallopian tubes are and that she *physically* can’t have kids.
In the second story, I think the guy is stupid enough to think that infertile means you just need help from doctors, not that you can't ever have kids.
The idea that it should be illegal (word from the story) for a woman to choose to be sterilized is infuriating. She needs her theoretical potential future husband's permission. Even some physicians give that argument.
Last story is my dad 100% He just wants to please his girlfriend and she doesn't seem a bad person, but he just does everything to please her even if she's not asking for it. Like spending the evening with her and skipping my birthday and such... then he wonders why I'm grumpy
That boyfriend who wants to have kids. He never believed for a minute that OP was serious. He thought that OP was just immature and that once she "grew up" she would give up on her "stupid" no kids attitude. Because we all know that the only thing that can make women happy is being married, chained to a stove, with a bunch of kids under foot. /s He is the one who waited OP's time, not the other way around.
Story 2: OP said in a comment that her fiance "has always been really squeamish talking about periods (and needles) so he usually changes the subject fast when anything about it is brought up." So yeah, he's that kind of guy.
The last story: I've lived it. My dad remarried when I was 15. His wife has a daughter who was 5 at the time. She was a spoiled kid whose father was a real POS. My dad spent so much time being a good father figure to her that my sister and I fell by the wayside. It's been almost 20 years and I still have trouble being in their home without feeling like an outsider. His wife is a whole other can of worms.
Story 2: Wow, this one is crazy. OP is being gaslit like crazy here. It's very clear from the way the fiance speaks that he sees women more like objects for birthing children then actual human beings. No, men DON'T get a say in if a woman gives birth. It's a two-yesses one-no situation. Also the way he seems clueless about the whole tubes tying situation is an even bigger red flag. Turns out he's just a misogynistic ahole. I really wish OP a speedy mental recovery.
The first story I'm glad reddit told her to maliciously comply basically. Teenagers need to be their own advocates when no one else will stand up for them. Also happy she told the stepsister, who deserved to know what was going on even if it hurt her now. The second story only happened because he thinks women don't have any right to have their own mind or interests. She never lied to him. He's just as bad as all those doctors that make women with endometriosis suffer without needed hysterectomies because "What if your future husband wants kids!?!" and they're not even dating someone. "What if you change your mind and want kids..?" UTERINE LINING GROWING WHERE IT SHOULDN'T causing immense pain. And they persist. They're the same as that ex-fiancee. She didn't string him along, he strung her along. He lied. He gaslit her. You're right he didn't bring this up. He didn't because he figured she'd just cave and feel obligated because he doesn't respect her autonomy. It's disgusting and I'm glad she got away before wasting money on this waste of oxygen. He should go take a trip in the woods and apologize to the trees for being a waste of oxygen. He is by far the worst of the 3 offenders in this video though as he planned for years to undermine her will. That last story... he's going to realize what he lost years later and there will be nothing left to get back, as he burned those bridges to cater to the new wife's whims. Hope it was worth it.
1:40 - 1:50 I respect the 9 year old for being polite and keeping distance with OP, the 12 year old though ... I HATE kids like that, because I went through a version of that during school. Some girls who wanted to "be friends" would NOT leave me alone no matter what I did or said, or what the teachers said either. This is way worse for the OP of course, since the affair and family drama was piled on top, but I at least know a little of how fizzing infuriating it can be when people don't respect your boundaries and try to insert themselves into your life at a young age. EDIT: Glad that things worked out with the 12 year old, and I'm sad that she was kept in the dark about this. As annoying as she might've been to OP, no one should be kept ignorant of the truth like that.
Story one: ops cheating dad basically wanted to stick it to the mom and tried and failed to get Op to open up by having the hags kids over thinking this will get her to open up , and thanks to Reddit users it backfired gloriously
And now her cheating dad’s life is turned upside down. OP hates him, step kids hate him, and relationship with affair wife is on thin ice. Was the nookie really worth all this? I’ve read the update others have posted and if cheater and adulteress are still together then they are truly the epitome of trash.
Yo who is in charge of the father of the year nominations? I would like to nominate the father from the tattoo story. You know the one that took his SIXTEEN year old daughter to get matching tattoos! Oh, and the Op's mother as well (mother of the year for her) for giving her consent.
That last story is a rollercoaster. I originally thought that the dad's new tattoo might have simply been a sign to both sides of the family that he can love multiple people at the same time and that doesn't mean there's less for anyone. But, the following revelations kind of make that seem less likely in this case... or at least executed horribly if not completely intended at worst. Divorces are messy even after the dust settles... especially when jealousy is involved from anyone.
I think the fiancé in that second story simply does not know the difference between tied tubes and removed tubes and really thinks he can bully her into getting some kind of reverse surgery
Last story, I'd bet somewhere in the future OP will post a new story, that when she marry someone, the dad will pissed that OP won't inform him, or let him come, and also the dad will harass OP and her mom about this. Also the dad will bring flying monkeys to harass them, citing "we're faaaamily", "as a father he has a right to walk you down the aisle", and other BS like that.
Story 1: R/slash has got it part right. The father was playing checkers. OP was playing Thermonuclear War. (Edit). Story 2: "I don't have the energy to be petty." Wow! I know she says it from a place of feeling worn down, but that is actually the best burn she could have texted back at them before blocking them. I'm putting that one in my "rolodex."
Story 2: if the guy couldn’t read the lines of “I’m infertile” before dating someone, that’s on him not on the infertile person “stringing him along”, he’s just a Kevin through and through
Story 1: honestly I feel bad for the kids, they're the real victims in the affair. I WOULD give op a small bhs for snapping at step sister, but she apologized,
The number of times i had to initial and sign off on hospital paperwork acknowledging that i would not be able to have kids after a total hysterectomy, was unreal. It was not a single digit number.
I guarantee the reason for that is so the hospital can't get sued by a dumb broad who doesn't understand you need a uterus to get pregnant. It most likely wasn't you they were worried about...just an insurance for themselves
Second story sounds like a case of r/Nothowwomenwork, where the guy doesn't understand how a woman's body actually functions to produce eggs, especially when he told her she doesn't know what she's talking about, about her own infertility.
There have been some rare cases of fallopian tubes reconnecting when the woman is young and the tubes are just severed or "tied". Obviously that can't happen if they've been removed all together, but maybe her fiance heard one of those stories and thinks they grow back?
OP in the first story had BALLS! She had to visit her trash father and his sl-t wife, but she continued to fight her way through. I wouldn’t want anything to do with my parent who happily cheated behind everyone’s back. I wish I was a fly on the wall listening in on the session. 😂
There was an update. After OP dropped the bomb on the step sister, the step mom pushed OP against the wall and slapped her repeatedly (OP had a recorder in her sports bra). She needed stitches because of the step mom's nails. OP's mom was chilled but pissed when she heared from the police about it. Now OP's mom has full custody of her now. After attacking a child (OP), CPS is investigating the step mom.
13:33 so OP's Dad wants to be a father figure in his stepdaughter's life... and he's achieving that by not being a father figure to his own daughter? riiiiight
Words of wisdom for OP's father and his new wife: * Be careful what you wish for. * Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. * Honesty is the best policy. * You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink. * Actions have consequences. * Don't play with matches if you don't want to get burned. * Kids have feelings, too. I love how OP got a teenage version of Nuclear Revenge on her dad and the adultress.
Story 2: The thing that really gets to me about religious people (btw I’m saying this as a religious person myself) is that they get into relationships with people that are 10,000% against the religious partner’s core beliefs and then they get infuriated when the anti-religious person they willingly CHOSE to be in a relationship with doesn’t believe in their core values. It always bewilders the fuck out of me to hear or read stories like this. “I’m a Devout Catholic and I got married to a Devout(?) Atheist and now me and my spouse are fighting over going to church every Sunday. wHaT dO i dO?!” “I’m a MASSIVE Evangelist and I had 17 children with a MASSIVE Satanist and now I’m FURIOUS because my partner doesn’t want me to teach my religion to our kids because they believe that’s cult-like indoctrination. wHaT dO i dO?!” “I’m an bible-thumping Anglican and I married an Anti-religious Pro-abortion Child-free trans man and now I’m RESENTFUL of the fact that my spouse doesn’t want to detransition and have kids with me. wHaT dO i dO?!” Do these people seriously not see past their own foreheads? Do they seriously not have the sufficient foresight to realize that maybe JUST MAYBE the person that literally embodies the antithesis of their entire belief system is probably not the person to settle down with in the long term? Every single time a story starts with “I’m a massive religious person with a massive anti-religious spouse” I immediately don’t need to read anything more. I know there will be non-religious people who will probably say “What’s the issue? The religious person can always just let go of their beliefs or compromise” but that literally makes no sense. Why does the religious person always have to compromise? I never read any stories where the non-religious person lets go and gives in. Maybe because the religious person feels this is important in the exact same way the non-religious person feels it isn’t. And what it really boils down to is there’s no reason why one partner has to be a perpetual pushover to their spouse. Not the religious person, not the non-religious person (especially if they’re not open to becoming religious). As much as people like to believe in this magical fantasy land where a Jesus-loving bible-thumping devout Anglican marries a Jesus-despising bible-burning devout Satanist and they live happily ever after with their trans child and their other dog/cat children, that’s simply not real life. Sometimes some groups can completely avoid each other and that’s ok. I have never in my entire life understood this rampant social obsession to interlink two groups that absolutely despise each other. It’s like trying to arrange a marriage between a Grand Wizard and an Afrocentrist. It’s so moronic.
Story 2. Ok so wtf did I listen to? She can't have kids. Got it. Totally cool. But he got his family to try and guilt her and convince her otherwise...then when she brought up his family, he said they weren't involved in this? Sir, you brought them into this, you don't get to gaslight her like that nono chief. So many red flags in that story. Omg
Damn, 15 year old OP in the first story went scorched earth. I'm not sure if I'm impressed or scared, lol. The only thing I didn't like is her taking it out on the stepsiblings. They are innocents in this too. Edit: read the update someone posted where Adultress got violent with the OP. I was fully expecting to next read "and then my mom kicked Adultress's ass" because that's what I would have done if that was my child. I was happy to read that OP gave her stepsiblings some gifts and a note via their dad who is one of OP's teachers. Sucks all around that the all the kids in this situation are taking the brunt of what's going on, but I'm glad that OP now has the choice to not be around her Cheater dad if she doesn't want to.
Hi rSlash, theres a story that honestly seems so good its called "I didn't expect my husband to get over me so quickly" and theres both the husband and wifes side of the story.
Story 3: is he trying to build a relationship? Because he just tried to force all the blame for his neglect on his stepdaughter when he's really just the p**** for his new wife. If there was really a relationship there would he have blame the step daughter like that? His wife didn't even meet his axe and she already hates her and his daughter, needs done nothing but lie to her and then indirectly shamed her for not wanting that tattoo because he hasn't lived up to it. The Stepmom maybe instigating it but at the end of the day dad went along with it of his own free will, so he doesn't get brownie points.
A lot of young women who want to be sterilized have to search long and hard for a gyno willing to take the request seriously. My advice? Planned Parenthood. They are great for giving out resources for that kind of thing, and taking you seriously.
He's alienating his bio daughter while trying to be a good father figure to his stepdaughter. He then diminished the value of one personalized tattoo by getting an exact duplicate but of the new family
Story 1: I feel like this deserves a crosspost with r/MaliciousCompliance. In all seriousness, trying to force two people to interact never ends well, it just breeds resentment. Also what's the minimum age to have the final say in who you live with in a divorce? I could have sworn it was younger than 15. Story 2: NTA; I agree that this is a conversation that should have happened long before this point. Maybe I've been watching this channel too long, but it sounds like he was banking on OP falling victim to the Sunk Cost Fallacy. Also OP should probably say "Sterile" and not "Infertile" in her profile; the latter means you can still get pregnant, it's just less likely, so maybe saying the former would filter out future buttholes like this by making it clear that babies physically cannot happen. Story 3: This was heartbreaking to read. You and your father should be a package deal when the latter enters a new relationship, and that applies to any divorced/single parent entering a new relationship. How parents can act otherwise is beyond me.
For story 2, it feels to me like he wanted out of the relationship but made up the bs story about wanting kids to make is her fault so he wouldn’t look bad.
Story 1: cheating parents are the worst, they destroyed 3 kids lives and then want forgiveness. Kids love is hard to lose so if u do smth so terrible that u lose your kids love you dont deserve to get it back
Husband is like, very gaslight-y and it’s weird that he tried to use his family into shaming her into making a big decision like that?? Also, the family?? OP dodged a bullet with that misogynistic, sexist family. Also, in this climate the sister saying it should be illegal for a woman to make a reproductive-health medical decision is…insanely icky. And weird.
Ayooooo just in time!! 😍 Edit: last story it had the stench of controlling wife. Nice to know my intuition wasn't wrong and sad to know that a father just threw out a relationship with his daughter for the sake of his wife
Op is SO petty in the first story and i LIVE for it. I feel sorry for the 12 year old, but the cheater and adulterer deserve all the shit OP is gonna threw at them.
Story #2 reminds me of a stupid Facebook quiz, "What would you do if you found out you were pregnant tomorrow?" I would be having a very interesting conversation with a certain doctor. 😂
I do actually feel bad for the 12 year old girl, since it's not _her_ fault that the father and the new wife had a trash affair. Honestly, the entire situation is really sad.
at least op apologised to12f and told her that the kid isn't at fault
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Given that the step mom is being investigated by cps in the update, I have a guess as to why the 12 year old was trying to "spend time" with OP. As in, she was hiding with OP.
@@squeaktheswan2007 Yeah, at first I though maybe she had a little crush on him or something but with the added info about her lying cheating mother it feels more like she saw how OP could avoid her mother the entire time he was there and sought shelter with him...
Yeah, sounds like the 12 yo just wants a new big sister. She's innocent here
'Become an unskippable cutscene' is probably one of the greatest threats I've ever heard. Anyway, there was actually another update from OP of the first story and she's confirmed that yes, her mom now has full custody of her and dropped details as to what happened. Mainly, Adulteress got *violent* and attacked OP after what happened who managed to record it and sent it and a picture of the damage to her mom. It's why the police got involved. The Adulteress is to be kept away while OP can meet with her dad by her choice but made it clear it won't be happening. Lastly, it looks like the Adulteress is going to be in trouble anyway and they're going to be looking into the other kids.
Attacking OP is probably the best present she's given her ex husband in a long time.
It's the little things in life you treasure 😏
Man, I love when cheaters got what they deserve. Too bad it took OP getting hurt, and I hope those kids are safe.
Nobody deserves to be raise in such hell hole passing as a 'family'
I hate tht she was attacked but i use to wishhhh i got physical evidence of my parents horrible abuse if at least to show its real and show people im not fucking lying. Just cuz i didnt have injuries meant i was a crazy kid :/
So i hate they were attacked but im glad it got them the fuck away from tht psychopath. I wish them a nice recovery physically and mentally
@@aidenflame1576 I know exactly what you mean. Every time I tell my experience with child labor because I got forced into it people won't believe me or say that it's not that big of a deal. So I often stopped before the part where I got kicked out at 16 for wanting a weekend visit at my dad's rather than scrubbing public toilets.
Eventually, I stopped talking about it in the first place
Yes, nobody cared that a 9 yo worked as a cleaning lady
Story 2: dude literally doesn't understand female anatomy and thinks P + V = Baby and that's all there is to it. OP did the right thing leaving.
Well, his family is Christian. He probably only ever got abstinence-only education, if any at all.
Actually they don't really remove the tubes out (unless is for other reasons besides becoming infertile), they just clip them and cut in the middle. It can be reversed, but it does not work everytime
Considering the family was throwing Bible verses at OP....what do you think the over under is for that this guy being homeschooled by his family?
@@miguelsardinha8818 No you're thinking of a tubal ligation. In a salpingectomy, which is what I had, they literally remove them entirely.
@@unvoicedapollo3318 exactly. He could not comprehend the fact that she CAN'T get pregnant. Maybe he thought himself as strong as the holy spirit that impregnated virgin mary. or some shit.
Story 1 had an update and its massive
So after the last post, the adultress went nuclear and attacked op, pushing her against the wall and slapping her hard, leaving a cut on her face due to her nails. Op had recorded the incident when she heard fighting downstairs and came to see what happened (the phone was in her sports bra recording). The recording and picture was sent to her mother who called the cops and she showed up. Op had to go to the ER for stitches and questioned. Mom was chilled but extremely pissed off. Mom pressed charges on the adultress and has full custody of op now so she doesnt have to return to see her father or the adultress. Lawyers and CPS got involved so now adultress is being investigated about her own kids now.
Jhc, the adultress needs to go to jail! Those poor kids and OP. I'm glad the mom has full custody, though.
Oh my GOD, Jesus Christ she’s so out of control!
**STORY 1 UPDATE**
Adultress went off the rails and pushed me against the wall and slapped me really hard. She has nails so it ended up cutting my face kinda deep and the cuts bled like crazy and I hit my head on the wall. I had put my phone on record and stuffed it in my sports bra band when I heard them start yelling for me to come downstairs so I got the audio for the whole thing. Cheater realized they screwed up I guess so while he was pulling her off me I ran and locked myself in the bathroom and sent the recording and a picture of my face to my mom.
Mom was the one that called the cops and she showed up right after they did. They let me go with her and one escorted us to the ER and I had to get a a few stitches and answer a bunch of questions. My mom is super chill but she was the maddest I have ever seen her. I had a little bit of a concussion so I wasn’t supposed to read or be on my phone a lot.
I know my mom told the cops she wanted to press charges on Adultress, but I don’t know what’s happening with that now. My mom says the custody situation is fixed for now, I’m with her full time. Cheater can ask to visit me but I don’t have to and Adultress isn’t allowed to have any contact with me at all. To which cheater said that was fine because she didn’t want me at the house anymore anyway. I had to talk to some social workers and a lawyer and I think Adultress may be in trouble about her own kids too but I don’t know.
So that’s what happened. Had to start school with a cut up face, but my mom’s a NP and she said they’ll heal up without a scar if we take care of them. And I don’t have to see Cheater anymore. Since the kid’s dad teaches at my school and I have to take a class he teaches before I graduate, my mom met with him and the principle and I gave her the game 9M liked and a bracelet 12F liked with a note to give to him so he could pass them on if he wanted. Probably won’t see them again.
I’m feeling a lot better now that I can stay home. Now I can get on with life.
From: Status_Negotiation35
Title: “I’m free!”
_I am not the OP_
@@ZombieSazza doubt she cares though
@@dovahkiin6488hope stepkids dad has full custody now.
Story 2: He knew. He just wanted to embarrass her. He didn’t succeed, all he did was show his, his sister’s and his mom’s true colors. Very much abusive behavior.
He probably thinks he's punching down so she'll be easier to control once the ring is on her finger. Then he can get her pregnant to really lock her in.
The abusers plan of manipulation didn't work is what I think happened and the OP dodge a nuke
I almost feel like he was slowly manipulated over time by his family?
To me this would explain why he said in the beginning that it was her decision and how weirdly he was acting when he came back. What he said there didnt make any sense.
So while it doesnt change who is how much of an A-hole, if this is actually the case i actually feel bad for him
Maybe he believes in magical things, like if they pray hard enough, she can be "healed". Or maybe he thinks he can talk her into IVF. Or maybe his memory is not all that good. People are so quick to jump to malice as the motive for everything.
@@MyFiddlePlayer
Indeed. There's even a well known saying about how one should never assume malice as a motive, when ordinary, everyday incompetence explains everything just as well.
@@Sordorack I definitly think whatever root caused this behavior started with his family, Though he should have been better enough to resist them to begin with
Story 2 “it states ‘child free and infertile’ verbatim”
Sadly doesn’t surprise me that he completely ignored that information OP, he believed he could pressure you into having children and when he couldn’t get his own way? Oh, just run to mommy and get her to harass you? Gaslight you, scream at you, bully you and threaten you? Yeah, you deserve so much better OP, he doesn’t respect your choice to not have children here at all.
Wouldn't be surprised if the dude didn't care originally but then his mum got in his ear and persuaded him that he needed to give her grandchildren and OP must be lying so she just needed to stop taking her evil anti-baby pills.
Exactly! And even trying to use the Bible to manipulate her into having kids with him? The Bible says that kids are a great blessing, but they're not required. I agree with Rslash, he's just stuffed his pride into his ears and can't hear anything for his idiocy.
@@dianaquill9969If your new partner has a super religious family, then that's a red flag.
It basically guarantees two things: 1. Any drama in your relationship WILL get back to them. And 2. If you aren't also super religious, they will secretly despise you behind your back.
It's not worth the risk.
@@guywholikesgoodmusic I'm part of a religious family, I myself am religious, and my entire family can keep their mouths shut because they know what boundaries are, and how to respect them, they also don't gossip and all of us can carry a secret to the grave, even the one I have no contact with. For example: I have never heard my mother, father, nor any of my siblings complain about their spouse. They do not say a Single Negative Word about them unless it's in an honest question of 'am I making the right decision doing X, Y, or Z?'
You're equating clique/pride and trashy drama with religion. There's a reason the God warns us not to gossip, because it's common and easy to fall for temptation that a lot of people fall for, in and out of religion.
For reference, anyone who dares try to gossip to you, all you have to do is to offer to go to the person who is being gossiped about right then and there. They'll either get scared of the consequences and say no, or they could even do it out of genuine concern. My pastor has done that to dozens of people, and he's never gotten a yes to going to the person being gossiped about.
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@@dianaquill9969 I don't like to generalize people of an entire group. However, if you listen to this channel for any length of time, you start to notice a trend in many of the stories regarding the exact scenario I provided.
I'm referring to hyper-fundamentalist religious types, not the average Christian. As a Christian, I'm positive you know the people I'm referring to. The bible-clutching, god-fearing 'holier-than-thou' types.
I wouldn't continue a relationship with someone who has close ties to their fanatical family. Because you also know that, if push comes to shove, they will choose their family and religion over you every single time. In a heartbeat.
OP: I'm infertile
BF: You're infertile!? You stole three years of my life for lying to me!
Also BF: I know that she's infertile, but it's her choice if she wants kids or not.
God damn, the hypocrisy is strong with this one.
BF: Well, she’s obviously lying about being infertile. She’s using that as an excuse to not have kids! I bet I can change her mind!
Alternately, BF doesn’t know what “infertile” means because he got an abstinence-only education from his family.
BF: ALL Women can get pregnant at ANY time. Those who don't are just being difficult. I'll make sure this infertile woman gets pregnant by the power of my Super Sperm!
Alternatively:
When a man and a woman who really love each other and want children, they come together, hug, and make a wish with all their hearts and the woman will get pregnant. JUST LIKE THAT! The just have to hug and wish hard enough.
She literaly stated that on her profile but like, i guess he thought he could change her mind somehow??
Story 3: It's APPALLING how this man didn't even try to stand up for his daughter. This woman manipulated him into playing her sick game of hating OP's mom and taking it out on OP. It'll only be a matter of time before she gets him to cover or remove the tattoo of his daughter. What a disgusting woman.
Maybe (and this is largely me guessing here) he had some hidden hatred for his ex and OP and the more he lived with his new wife the more and more it came out
What a disgusting man, he chose a woman over his daughter. A real father would have told the new wife to go kick rocks the moment she started her shit.
Honestly, reminds me of my dad, he felt like we were too much like my mom and started being abusive. Told me he was sorry, it's only because I reminded him of her. Dad's are trash
And he's an abject failure as both a man and a father.
She maybe disgusting but he is the bigger disgusting here. He is the father not her. He is the one that lie and broke the promise, not her.
Overall its his decision to do the AH. Not her. She is the influencer but he let to be influenced
Last Story: Ahh yes, another classic tale of a spineless parent who someday, years from now, will wonder why his daughter doesn’t speak to him, after all “he tried his best to make everyone happy”.
Man…poor Op, maybe she can keep in contact with step brother, he at least seems cool.
OP even said to her dad that she feels like he's pushing her out, and he tells her he's not, and that stepsister doesn't like her, so he favoured her by literally pushing OP out.
It's a miracle that he still has the ability to walk with the amount of spine he lacks. What a loser.
Story 2: Geez, it feels like accepting a reality is just an impossible task for some people. OP is infertile, and she can't be fertile again. Rather than accept that OP is infertile and never bother her about it, the whole family harasses her, calls her a defect, and throws Bible verses at her.
I tried to go to a religious help group because my husband is trying to intimidate me into having a baby (I've miscarried 13 times) and I had Bible verses used to tell me to try even though I don't want to and most likely cannot carry to term.
It was disheartening.
For people like that, it's either accept reality, or fall apart as a person. Why, is likely because they genuinely _can't_ accept that some things aren't in their control and/or work the way that they believe they do. For them, if they can't be right about certain important things, then they lose all ability to trust anything to be true or meaningful.
It was hilarious when ex’s sister told OP what she did should be illegal. It’s her body! OP isn’t Wolverine! She can’t grow these parts back even if she’s wants them!
A lot of religious people can’t accept actual reality.
They also don’t like women actually being independent and having bodily autonomy.
Right?! These people are the WORST kind of Christian’s they are not even Christian’s, like what if OP had cancer or a tumor and she had to get the procedure done? And the audacity of that man for lying to her face and gaslighting her, I’m so glad her dad came in to verify.
Always screenshot important conversations you have with people because you never know. Gaslighting is so common and it’s a sign of abuse to come geez this family is so messed up! Idk what kind of evil is inside of them but they better soak in some holy water.
Last story: spineless parents who let their new evil partners cut their children from the previous relationships from their lives are the worst. I'm not even as angry at the evil stepmother as I am at the spineless father.
At least she's getting that tattoo covered
If you date a parent, their child is part of the deal. If you can't handle it, you can kick rocks.
Last story: Dude literally just threw away an 18 year old relationship with his own daughter because he’s a lying, cheating, spineless coward. Some tattoos can be covered up beautifully, but some may end up pretty blobby. I hope OP consulted a good tattoo artist.
Personally, I’d slap a censor bar over the father’s eyes, or have his face altered to resemble a clowns. Might as well get creative with it, but that’s just my bitter, petty brain talking.
Agreed, plus I suspect he was planning to cut contact himself, evidenced by the lie he told about when him and his new family were moving
what really stuck out to me is the sister in the second story saying that it should be ILLEGAL for her to get her tubes removed. like... why? why do you care so much? i don't get it it's genuinely insane how is op the monster for choosing to do something for her own body when she's trying to control her body like that
Luckily it is illegal to exert that much control over another person. Breeders are crazy af. We already have too many people.
Religious zealots in a nutshell. There's a reason earth was an even bigger shitshow when those type of people had power.
Religious zealots and pro-birth asshats in a nutshell.
The sad part is that I've read horror stories of women that want to get them tied, but doctors not doing it because of hypothetical future partners or kids. Also, Catholic hospitals won't tie tubes, full stop.
Story 1 I heard this one before. This is what happens when you try to force a relationship.
He told it before
@@SassythedragonI don't think so. I've listened to all of his videos and I don't remember this one
@@Sassythedragonhe hasn't covered it. Someone else has.
No that's just how white people raise their kids
@@Sassythedragonif he did it was probably before the updates
OP in story 1 is making it extremely clear that she’s unhappy being around her father. Her father destroyed her family, cheated on her mother, immediately moved on and married his affair partner, what did he honestly expect?
And describing her speaking at therapy as an “unskippable cutscene” is just absolutely GLORIOUS along with rewriting an entire song! It’s amazing that OPs dad was huge mad in therapy because he didn’t appreciate the ugly truths, and the affair partner is huge mad that OP was honest with the 12 y/o who’d obviously been lied to and the mistress expected OP to just be silent?
Yeah, she sucks big time, imagine sleeping with a married man, marrying him almost immediately and then getting upset that OP was honest about her actions.
Well played OP, a classic case of FAFO, I hope the courts don’t force you to go to your cheater dads house any more.
Edit: it actually gets worse, OP was assaulted by the mistress, so I have posted this most current update underneath.
**STORY 1 UPDATE**
Adultress went off the rails and pushed me against the wall and slapped me really hard. She has nails so it ended up cutting my face kinda deep and the cuts bled like crazy and I hit my head on the wall. I had put my phone on record and stuffed it in my sports bra band when I heard them start yelling for me to come downstairs so I got the audio for the whole thing. Cheater realized they screwed up I guess so while he was pulling her off me I ran and locked myself in the bathroom and sent the recording and a picture of my face to my mom.
Mom was the one that called the cops and she showed up right after they did. They let me go with her and one escorted us to the ER and I had to get a a few stitches and answer a bunch of questions. My mom is super chill but she was the maddest I have ever seen her. I had a little bit of a concussion so I wasn’t supposed to read or be on my phone a lot.
I know my mom told the cops she wanted to press charges on Adultress, but I don’t know what’s happening with that now. My mom says the custody situation is fixed for now, I’m with her full time. Cheater can ask to visit me but I don’t have to and Adultress isn’t allowed to have any contact with me at all. To which cheater said that was fine because she didn’t want me at the house anymore anyway. I had to talk to some social workers and a lawyer and I think Adultress may be in trouble about her own kids too but I don’t know.
So that’s what happened. Had to start school with a cut up face, but my mom’s a NP and she said they’ll heal up without a scar if we take care of them. And I don’t have to see Cheater anymore. Since the kid’s dad teaches at my school and I have to take a class he teaches before I graduate, my mom met with him and the principle and I gave her the game 9M liked and a bracelet 12F liked with a note to give to him so he could pass them on if he wanted. Probably won’t see them again.
I’m feeling a lot better now that I can stay home. Now I can get on with life.
From: Status_Negotiation35
Title: “I’m free!”
_I am not the OP_
I have a feeling that the affairtriss wanted OP to magically forget the affair and accept her as the loving and caring stepmother
Wow that update is insane, that mistress is a psychopath and she should be charged for what she did, that is disgusting behaviour.
And it gets worse! Thank god OP finally got out of that mess, even with that assault. Their hindsight to record before the assault really helped sink in the reality that OP does not want to be with their dad's family. And this psychopath just proves that it was never going to work out.
Thanks for the update!
That is a doozy. At least it explains why the cops were called, and I hope that abusive stepmother gets locked up for a while. The only ones I feel bad for on that side of the family are the two kids.
Story 3:
Wife is exhibiting classic abusive behavior, trying to the father off from everything.
I’m calling it now: a week after moving, the mask is going to come completely off, and the wife is going to escalate from emotional abuse to verbal and even physical abuse
I'm pretty sure she even purposefully got the job that would force them to move to another state to separate him from her.
Normally I would think claiming abuse would be extreme . However the sons willingness to tell OP the truth leads me to believe that there’s a reason she’s divorced
then maybe years later watch the father try to rekindle with op but she says "tough shit you blew it you PoS"
@@HyperShadow991exactly what i was thinking! Parents always want to rekindle their relationship, when they gets old and lonely, with children they abandoned when they were younger and healthier 🙄
I totally agree
Story two: it’s not OP’s fault that her fiancé can’t. FUCKING. READ. And understand what “infertile” means. She never lied, she was up front and honest on her damn profile.
I’ve always wondered if he is just dumb and didn’t know what that meant, or just didn’t read it and assumed. Either way fuck that guy.
He probably thinks it can be reversed, because vasectomies can be reversed. Another classic example of a man having _no fucking clue_ how a woman's body works.
Yeah, the fiancé is, as was stated, a moron and all the other things. I would add Karen-levels of illiterate.
Infertile means having trouble with pregnancy/live birth. That's different from not having a uterus at all.
@@arianebolt1575 I meeean to be able to even give birth to a child oneself using one’s own body, one would require a uterus, so by technicality not having a uterus would make someone infertile, no?
Story 2: girl they're gaslighting you, run not walk away from this relationship
And I don’t think she should take his last message lightly. Seeing how he and his family are reacting, he seems crazy enough to try something.
Don't run, fly a super sonic jet out of there.
Story 1: I would say it's more like dad wanted to play Chaz, and the daughter tried to play the quiet game until she had enough and decided to go battleships. OP's dad should have left her alone until she was ready to talk if ever, meanwhile what the point of therapy if OP isn't allowed to say what she truly feels, homewrecker and Dad don't get to just force her into getting over it and having a happy family. As for the twelve-year-old girl I can't help but feel bad for her, she should not been so pushy but I think Mom was dead-on about her trying to build some sort of connection with the only person she thinks she can talk to, only for her world to get more broken apart finding out the truth. She deserve to know but still.
Story 3: I don't know why the step-mom is acting like that. She never even MET OP's Mom. If it is because she's jealous that she wasn't the dad's first pick, it would make the most sense, because any other reason I could think of would need some interaction between the two moms.
Really though, the fact that a jealous step-mom is wrecking everything is just awful
It sounds like she wants to erase her spouse’s past. Hence why she wants to move him away from OP, any family, his friends, job, etc.
As a child of a parent who remarried several times, you don't have to do anything except exist. It's hypocritical, but most times, the new parent wants just their kids around for the family vibe. And dealing with another child reminds them that their family is not a whole one. I've been shipped away and forgotten about my entire life.
@@doodlethealien8889I think you're confusing the first and third stories. There was no mention of cheating in the third story, just that the parents got divorced and dad remarried.
It's a classic case of the jealous stepmother that wants her husband to forget about his old life and his old family and focus solely on hers, and her kids. She suggested the tattoo, knowing how special it was between OP and her father, and wanting to use that to try and get him to feel the same special connection with her daughter. She doesn't like the mom, because it's her husband's ex and she wants them as far apart as possible, because she's jealous and insecure that she's still in the picture, afraid he might go back to his ex. And she doesn't like OP because OP isn't her daughter. I wouldn't even be surprised if she purposefully got the job in another state to force him away from them.
Second story, dude was trying to gaslight her. There were some specific tatctics there. Like I can't talk to you when you are like that, trying to convince op that something didn't happen etc. The fact her dad talked about that with her is something that makes me sure it was galighting attempt.
But what is he gaslighting her for? Does he really think he can trick her eggs into noclipping into her uterus? Assuming they didn't take her ovaries too.
@@Wendy_O._KoopaOP mentioned that IVF is still an option but she doesn't want to do that to her body. Maybe he thought he could bully her into sugesting it to make him happy
@@debymello4756 Except she did mention that, and he didn't say "Oh good, let's do IVF!" he just said "Are you stupid?" or something. Like he just couldn't understand the concept, but also couldn't admit he didn't know what those letters stood for. No, wait... he's _actually_ doing the Dumb and Dumber meme: "So you're telling me there's a chance?" IRL
S2: I think that the boyfriend was hoping that op’s self esteem would be fragile enough for him to convince her into allowing him to impregnate another woman in order to give him what he wants.
Op gave us examples as to why his family dislikes her. She’s overweight but she also makes way more money than he does. So she doesn’t need him but he definitely needs her.
For story 2: I knew someone who thought like op fiance, I told him how I didn’t want kids , he kept saying well fine but what if the guy your with and in love decided he wanted kids, you would have them right? I answered “no if the person I am with decided he wanted kids then we would have to break up, we wouldn’t belong together “ he couldn’t get it, he kept saying “but if you love him then you have to.” It was beyond his ability to understand that no means no, and that this is a deal breakers.
Me too. The guy 'friend' of mine kept saying 'but what if your husband wants them?'.
Me: I don't really want a husband either, but let's pretend it got that far with someone; it wouldn't be with a guy that adamantly wants kids
TG'F': but if you love him...
Me: but if he loves me...
Me: also, we'd have that conversation pretty early on so would break up before then
TG'F': but what if he changes his mind?
Me: I'm very clear from the start I don't want kids. If changes his mind then he has robbed me of time not the other way around
TG'F': but if you love him...
Me: OK, I'm done now
Me: [walked away]
Me: [cut off contact with TG'F'']
Granted, I have much better boundaries now so probably would just skip to the 'I'm not a brood mare, after that it's his problem' then end the discussion and walk away.
Toxic selfish people tend to use love as the ultimatum to get their way.
If you'd love me you do this, and that and give up this and that for our love.
Bs excuse, love is mutual respect, understanding, saafety and support, not a leash.
It’s crazy this guy and his family are yelling at op for “wasting his time” when in reality he’s the pos who wasted op’s time
This is my mother's and my grandmother's stance on a wedding in a church. I live in one of the most Christian countries that technically don't have an official religion (Poland) and to get married in a church you have to be baptized. I stopped believing in god when I was 10. They kept pushing me to get baptized. Luckily my mom stopped being so pushy a few years ago, so I was never baptized.
You know what their only argument was? "But what if you meet a man who desperately wants to be married in a church?"
When I answered that this would be the reason I broke up with that man, they got angry.
Also I'm gay (but not fully out yet so I never used it as an argument) and the church doesn't grant gay marriages so idk what would even be the point lmaoo
S3: I feel so bad for op because after being daddy’s little girl for 18 years, she’s just been replaced by her stepmom and her kids.
It sounds like the stepbrother is her only ally from her dad’s new family.
I hope that she sees a therapist because she needs to know that she’s not to blame.
Sometimes parents are needy and selfish aholes.
Her dad sacrificed his relationship with op to satisfy the evil stepmom.
I remember the beginning of the Tattoos story. That dad is either spineless, or blind when it comes to favoritism. It's sad OP's stepbro had to be the one to tell OP the whole truth. And the dad will not understand why they cut contact and blame OP
Story 2: Clearly the guy thought she kept her fallopian tubes after the surgery just in case she wanted to pop those suckers back in.
😂😂😂 i almost lost my coffee ☕️ from this comment 😂😂😂
Maybe OP is made of Lego’s?
Story #2: Never underestimate a man's (not all) ability to not want to understand a woman's reproductive system. My ex-husband once accused me of deliberately having a period so I wouldn't have sex with him 5 days out of the month. When I asked, "do you really think that?" he said, "well, it feels that way." Then there was the time when I was 8 months pregnant and said I was tired. He said, "so, you're having a baby, what's that got to do with you?" Did I mention he's my EX?
Some men are selfish and ignorant, not stupid, ignorant. I feel so sorry you lost time with such a piece of shit, luckily you are out of the relationship.
Who knows, maybe the ex fience thought himself to be like the holy spirit who impregnated the virgin mary. I mean, his family knows by heart bible verses, so that explains his ignorance, lack of understanding female anatomy, toxic behavior.
Rslash, the last story happened to me too. My dad back then had no back bone to step up and protect me. His secret jealous wife attacked me, my sister, and my mom. False police reports, verbal harassment, fraud, you name it. I have a real dad now who cares about me and a brother and a best life. I found out my former POS no longer dad is in trouble with the law and is being sought. I have no problem in helping the cops find his ass.
Story 1: the kids definitely didn't deserve the snapping. But the sperm donor 100% did. I'm glad op got revenge on him and I'm glad that they apologized to the kid. The kid is an innocent victim in all this.
Story 2: further proof that some men really just don't understand women lmao... And trying to gaslight her into agreeing with him. How pathetic.
Story 3: I honestly feel bad for op here. Her dad was really handling things the wrong way.
That's awful the dad was only trying to spend time with op his marriage isn't her business, he was even going to therapy with her. I know he's so bad for wanting qt with his kid so many children grow up without Father's and the ones that try to spend time with they're kids get shit on. No wonder the world is going to hell
@@dfate88then maybe DON'T be a cheating douche with your kid's parent??? Yeah, ofc they're gonna resent you.
She's better off either her dad, honestly. He's weak and has nothing to offer her.
@@dfate88cheating is a betrayal to the mother. A child will see that portrayal and see it as a personal one because it betrays the family. It means family isn't worth anything to the cheater
@dfate88 forcing someone to go to therapy is also the worst thing one can do. Especially one as a group. The father wasn't ready to hear Op's emotions. What did he expect? Those were her emotions and he got angry over it. Really, there is nothing to feel bad for
I've gotten so much hate for getting my tubes removed and yet I also see so many people claiming "nobody cares that you don't want kids". Story 2 shows that some people do care, far more than they should.
It's one thing if you do it while in a relationship when the other person is not on board, but why should anyone hate you for any other reason? If a guy knows up front he can choose not to develop a relationship. Anyone else it shouldn't affect them at all.
@@mariposa9506 I'm not even talking about people I'm in a relationship with. I mean people who are in no way involved in my life have told me I'm a sociopath for getting sterilized/not wanting kids.
@@nicorizzo5402its crazy how strangers think theyre so entitled to judge other people. its your choice, not theirs
The worst part is, no one says this shit to men who get vasectomies. Some people just think all women should be baby incubators, and it's gross. Unfortunately, a lot of people who feel that way are lawmakers...
I was able to go a step further and get surgery for yeeting my entire uterus (and the tubes too since they were just pointless cancer risks at that point). I'm so much happier with my body now and not having constant anxiety anymore is such a relief!!!!
The best part is that it's impossible for me to become pregnant now. The second best part is I never have to worry ever again about if my next period will be two weeks or two months from the last. (This was how I was eligible for the hysterectomy in the first place.)
I very firmly don't want to be a parent. I don't have the physical capacity for it or the desire. But by not following the path I was brainwashed from a young age to take, I now am able to have enough capacity to be a fiercely passionate advocate for children and help more people than I could have otherwise.
None of us need to justify our decisions or "make up" for not having kids though. The worst parents kids can have are ones who don't actually want them or who resent them, and people who pressure childfree folks to have kids don't ACTUALLY care about the wellbeing of children like they pretend to. And humans don't owe anyone reproduction either. We only owe each other decency and a basic level of respect as part of being a communal species living in communities. We aren't hurting anyone by not having bio kids or not fostering or adopting... we're just living our lives like anyone else. And there's nothing wrong with that! ♥️
Story 2:) Even if she didn't have her tubes removed, the way he and the family are acting would be an immediate deal-breaker for me; especially when they started hurling Bible verses, claiming that she's a defective/disgrace of a woman.
It's clear that they only see her as a walking, talking womb at this point. They are not worth Op's time. She needs to get out of there fast or her life is most likely going to become a living hell.
Edit:) Good job, Op.
And telling her what she did should be illegal!
@@shannonp1656 Yeah like wtf, how the fuck women can say that to other women? It's beyond me. They are either brainwashed into being incubators or just extremaly stupid and jelous. Disgusting. That we have to fight for our bodily autonomy with control hungry men AND dumb ignorant women it's tragic.
Religion basically says women are nothing but sex slaves/incubators for their husbands so I'm not surprised his family is like that.
I would have thrown back that if we're gonna start quoting the bible then maybe they should remember "Judge not lest ye be judged" and that since they're judging me for not wanting kids then by their own religious beliefs, they're going to hell for judging. I would also have added that it's NOT my fault that their son can't read past 2nd grade level.
@@yukikitsune7366 Amen
The last story broke my heart. I love my children. I can’t imagine leaving one behind for anything. It’s the bond I love most in my life and I can’t imagine just choosing a different family or a different kid over another one. It broke my heart for the daughter honestly. What a betrayal that must feel like.
Story 2: it's the second sentence in her dating profile, her dad explained it when ex told him about proposing, this is not about being clear he knew from the get-go. He's one of those people that believe even when someone says one thing they can force them to do something, then get butt hurt when it doesn't work. Doesn't help that he's clearly an idiot who doesn't know really know how to manipulate, every other sentence is a lie, and that's not an exaggeration every other sentence was a lie when he talk to you. I would recommend are police at score when you get your stuff, this dude is unpredictably stupid.
that guy honestly sounds like one of those men who don't think of women as actual people. i'm glad OP dumped him, but i am worried for her. his last text sounds very threatening and i hope he doesn't do something stupid and violent.
The last story really bothers me. My dad divorced my mum when I was 5, and it was a long process. About 20 years later, he met his new wife. We lived in California and she was in Canada. They married and a couple years later, he moved to her home. She has a daughter with her ex, and it seems to me like he preferred spending g time with them over me and my brother (even before the marriage and move). There were special trips for them, and we stayed home. Their relationships grew and ours began to crack.
It was like we didn't matter as much anymore. He treated us almost like roommates until we all moved. He ignored our problems and worked on his own selfish goals. Yes, my brother I are in our 20s, but we couldn't support ourselves due to multiple reasons for each of us. It felt to us like we had been cast aside so he could go off and have a new life.
There was an offer for us to move with him, but we have no relationship with anyone but him. It's always been weird to me when he says "our family", because it's his family. The only person I have any bad feelings about is him. Everyone else is an acquaintance.
Story 2: I think the guy doesn't even understand what "Tubes removed" actually mean, he must somehow correlate it to "tied" so in his mind that can be reversed.
Hey, rslash, that story about the woman with removed fallopian tubes and the guy, he’s not an idiot, he’s an abuser. We need to stop giving abusers the benefit of the doubt by calling them stupid because they know what they’re doing and they know that they’re being abusive. He’s just a manipulator.
THIS
Absolutely!
I actually think hes an idiot because like rshlash and the poster said, even if hes able to make her feel bad it is literally not possible to get pregnant . So what could a manipulation achieve :D
This! Thank you for this!
Yeah, it’s clear he saw what she wrote on her profile and apparently thought she was just lying to ‘get out of having children’ or something. Thank goodness he showed his true colors before the wedding planning.
The irony of the 15 year old thinking they're dropping something big as opposed to _finally_ starting on the path to better mental health shouldn't be overlooked but however op looks at it, good on her for finally opening up to a therapist and not bottling all of it up. Therapy isn't about whether or not you forgive your abusers, it's about learning how to deal with your _own_ emotions so my hats off to her, seriously, I hope the best for her AND her siblings.
Story 2: Glad this came up before the wedding.
I think this guy might have a worse grasp on anatomy than the guys who think women should just hold in their periods. At leaat they don't expect body parts to regenerate.
His family thinks his chances of being a father are damaged...men can produce children their entire lives once they go through puberty! I see where he gets his anatomy ignorance from, smdh...🙄
Actually they don't really remove the tubes out (unless is for other reasons besides becoming infertile), they just clip them and cut in the middle. It can be reversed, but it does not work everytime
@@miguelsardinha8818 What you described is a tubal ligation, which as you said, can sometimes be reversed.Tubal removal, however, is a different surgery that literally is a complete removal of the fallopian tubes and sometimes also the ovaries. It is not reversible.
The last story is so similar to my relationship with my dad. 2 months ago he moved away with only a couple days notice. The notice came with an essay from his wife about how selfish I am and probably glad they're leaving. This was after not talking to me for months because I sent a letter to him explaining how badly it hurt me that he didn't talk to me on my birthday because I didn't thank him for a Christmas gift. Which I did. Ugh... I hope all the best for OP. Step moms can be stressful for no reason.
It is similar to mine as well. But I still have a good relationship with my father. My stepmother tried to do that, whoever it always backfired, my father make my move with him two times, I'm have a bad health situation, and is quickly to stay at his place if I need attention. Helped raise my new stepbrother (he is 16 years younger than me) and have a wonderful relationship.
After a couple of freakouts of the new wife, I don't speak to her, she tries to talk to me although. She lost the battle with me, and every time I go to my father's place, she stays in her room, rarely dinners with everyone because of me.
Now the only big problem is that he lives one and a half hours outside rush hours, and to go there is always rush hours, she doesn't let me have a key. And my dad works almost 24/7, principal in a state school (Brazil), and has a lot of bureaucracy to deal with, even during vacations.
Story 2: it’s weird how the mom said that Op “ruined his life” when all Op did was say their infertile.
Story 2:
I think part of the problem is that this guy probably doesn’t even know there’s 3 holes down there, forget about knowing what fallopian tubes are
Coming from a religious family like he did, it shouldn't be surprising that he doesn't know anything about sex ed and the female anatomy. Religion is full of stupid people who REFUSE to learn cause God says not to learn about anything only about him and following his dictatorial orders. If you learn, you'll be punished by going to hell.
Story 2 is why sex ed is a good thing. I doubt the fiance knows what tubes have to do with getting pregnant.
Story#2: OP needs to ghost all these people. The man is an absolutely horrible person. There were red flags she ignored. Which is easy to do.
Story #1: Wow OP was not playing.
Story#3: Poor OP, the dad will come crawling back when he gets divorced again. And as a step parent I would never attempt to take over the role of the actual bio parent. That dad is using a child as an excuse for the wife . He knows OP would accept the dad trying to make the girl happy but not be ok with the wife purposely getting rid of OP.
I literally hate guys like the one in story 2. The absolute entitlement and manipulation. He know and strung OP along for years assuming he could bully and manipulate her into being his incubator... Disgusting and horrific behavior.
Story 2: This is the most unrelatable and unreasonable behavior ive ever heard out of a group of people (fiance and family). You can't even call this stupid and delusional because this is far beyond both of those things.
I wholeheartedly disagree that the fiance has an 80 iq because a person with an 80 iq could still be reasoned with.
The only scenario that makes sense to me is that fiance wanted to break up and is gaslighting the whole thing even the stupidest person on the planet couldn't align with his position genuinely
Story 2: 😒 He knows she doesn’t want kids, he also knows she can be control through financial means, he essential was gonna try to gaslit her and break her down for not being able to have kids, but OPs confidence in the situation threw it off before the manipulation could sink in. She’s a perfect example of why women need to leave as soon as they see the red flags, I don’t care how invested you are LEAVE, get the ring back, cancel the wedding day of, annul the marriage within a year, get a divorce. LEAVE.
Man, the husband is crazy in story 2. Like did he just expect her to magically be able to have kids???
If I said Yes would you believe me?
* ex fiancée.
I wouldn't be surprised if he believed that after hearing the story
On the no tubes story I’m wondering if OP’s partner was secretly trying to get her pregnant this whole time, and when that didn’t work he asked her upright to get off birth control. It just puzzles me that assuming he didn’t know she had her tubes tied that the conversation regarding/revolving around birth control didn’t happen until that very moment
Her tubes weren't even tied - she had them removed.
Think he assumed she was lying and taking birth control secretly, like he was lying about not wanting kids.
It makes me worried about what meds he was trying to sabotage if the found any.
Tattoo story. The tattoo is only the beginning. There will always be something dad needs to do to “prove” he loves his second family as much as his first. Sounds like stepmom is pushing all of the buttons behind the scenes.
Story 2: based on how he talked, I think he just doesn’t understand anatomy. Like, legit doesn’t know what fallopian tubes are and that she *physically* can’t have kids.
In the second story, I think the guy is stupid enough to think that infertile means you just need help from doctors, not that you can't ever have kids.
The idea that it should be illegal (word from the story) for a woman to choose to be sterilized is infuriating. She needs her theoretical potential future husband's permission. Even some physicians give that argument.
Last story is my dad 100% He just wants to please his girlfriend and she doesn't seem a bad person, but he just does everything to please her even if she's not asking for it. Like spending the evening with her and skipping my birthday and such... then he wonders why I'm grumpy
"I'm going to become an unskippable cutscene" is becoming part of my vocabulary now
4:04 gives me a "If you're homeless, just buy a house" vibe.
That boyfriend who wants to have kids. He never believed for a minute that OP was serious. He thought that OP was just immature and that once she "grew up" she would give up on her "stupid" no kids attitude. Because we all know that the only thing that can make women happy is being married, chained to a stove, with a bunch of kids under foot. /s He is the one who waited OP's time, not the other way around.
Story 2: OP said in a comment that her fiance "has always been really squeamish talking about periods (and needles) so he usually changes the subject fast when anything about it is brought up." So yeah, he's that kind of guy.
Man, that kid is a straight-up savage. She’s going to go far. 😂
The last story: I've lived it. My dad remarried when I was 15. His wife has a daughter who was 5 at the time. She was a spoiled kid whose father was a real POS. My dad spent so much time being a good father figure to her that my sister and I fell by the wayside. It's been almost 20 years and I still have trouble being in their home without feeling like an outsider. His wife is a whole other can of worms.
Story 2: Wow, this one is crazy. OP is being gaslit like crazy here. It's very clear from the way the fiance speaks that he sees women more like objects for birthing children then actual human beings. No, men DON'T get a say in if a woman gives birth. It's a two-yesses one-no situation. Also the way he seems clueless about the whole tubes tying situation is an even bigger red flag.
Turns out he's just a misogynistic ahole. I really wish OP a speedy mental recovery.
The first story I'm glad reddit told her to maliciously comply basically. Teenagers need to be their own advocates when no one else will stand up for them. Also happy she told the stepsister, who deserved to know what was going on even if it hurt her now.
The second story only happened because he thinks women don't have any right to have their own mind or interests. She never lied to him. He's just as bad as all those doctors that make women with endometriosis suffer without needed hysterectomies because "What if your future husband wants kids!?!" and they're not even dating someone. "What if you change your mind and want kids..?" UTERINE LINING GROWING WHERE IT SHOULDN'T causing immense pain. And they persist. They're the same as that ex-fiancee. She didn't string him along, he strung her along. He lied. He gaslit her. You're right he didn't bring this up. He didn't because he figured she'd just cave and feel obligated because he doesn't respect her autonomy. It's disgusting and I'm glad she got away before wasting money on this waste of oxygen. He should go take a trip in the woods and apologize to the trees for being a waste of oxygen. He is by far the worst of the 3 offenders in this video though as he planned for years to undermine her will.
That last story... he's going to realize what he lost years later and there will be nothing left to get back, as he burned those bridges to cater to the new wife's whims. Hope it was worth it.
1:40 - 1:50 I respect the 9 year old for being polite and keeping distance with OP, the 12 year old though ... I HATE kids like that, because I went through a version of that during school. Some girls who wanted to "be friends" would NOT leave me alone no matter what I did or said, or what the teachers said either.
This is way worse for the OP of course, since the affair and family drama was piled on top, but I at least know a little of how fizzing infuriating it can be when people don't respect your boundaries and try to insert themselves into your life at a young age.
EDIT: Glad that things worked out with the 12 year old, and I'm sad that she was kept in the dark about this. As annoying as she might've been to OP, no one should be kept ignorant of the truth like that.
Story one: ops cheating dad basically wanted to stick it to the mom and tried and failed to get Op to open up by having the hags kids over thinking this will get her to open up , and thanks to Reddit users it backfired gloriously
It's really dumb, too. The hag's kids didn't know what happened, and OP was obviously gonna blab either by accident or out of spite.
And now her cheating dad’s life is turned upside down. OP hates him, step kids hate him, and relationship with affair wife is on thin ice. Was the nookie really worth all this?
I’ve read the update others have posted and if cheater and adulteress are still together then they are truly the epitome of trash.
Yo who is in charge of the father of the year nominations? I would like to nominate the father from the tattoo story. You know the one that took his SIXTEEN year old daughter to get matching tattoos! Oh, and the Op's mother as well (mother of the year for her) for giving her consent.
First OP went straight up NUCLEAR on top of NUCLEAR and I'm here for it!! 😂Should have done what OP asked, stay with mom!
That last story is a rollercoaster. I originally thought that the dad's new tattoo might have simply been a sign to both sides of the family that he can love multiple people at the same time and that doesn't mean there's less for anyone. But, the following revelations kind of make that seem less likely in this case... or at least executed horribly if not completely intended at worst. Divorces are messy even after the dust settles... especially when jealousy is involved from anyone.
"He knew I would get all weird about it" translation.... he knew about all this already and knew bringing it up would burst his delusional bubble
I think the fiancé in that second story simply does not know the difference between tied tubes and removed tubes and really thinks he can bully her into getting some kind of reverse surgery
Last story, I'd bet somewhere in the future OP will post a new story, that when she marry someone, the dad will pissed that OP won't inform him, or let him come, and also the dad will harass OP and her mom about this. Also the dad will bring flying monkeys to harass them, citing "we're faaaamily", "as a father he has a right to walk you down the aisle", and other BS like that.
Story 1: R/slash has got it part right. The father was playing checkers. OP was playing Thermonuclear War. (Edit). Story 2: "I don't have the energy to be petty." Wow! I know she says it from a place of feeling worn down, but that is actually the best burn she could have texted back at them before blocking them. I'm putting that one in my "rolodex."
Story 2: if the guy couldn’t read the lines of “I’m infertile” before dating someone, that’s on him not on the infertile person “stringing him along”, he’s just a Kevin through and through
Story 1: honestly I feel bad for the kids, they're the real victims in the affair. I WOULD give op a small bhs for snapping at step sister, but she apologized,
Story 2: I feel the fiance wanted to leave and used this as an excuse.
The number of times i had to initial and sign off on hospital paperwork acknowledging that i would not be able to have kids after a total hysterectomy, was unreal. It was not a single digit number.
double or triple
@@copiusgrimus6671 the hospital paperwork alone was at least a dozen.
I guarantee the reason for that is so the hospital can't get sued by a dumb broad who doesn't understand you need a uterus to get pregnant. It most likely wasn't you they were worried about...just an insurance for themselves
Second story sounds like a case of r/Nothowwomenwork, where the guy doesn't understand how a woman's body actually functions to produce eggs, especially when he told her she doesn't know what she's talking about, about her own infertility.
There have been some rare cases of fallopian tubes reconnecting when the woman is young and the tubes are just severed or "tied". Obviously that can't happen if they've been removed all together, but maybe her fiance heard one of those stories and thinks they grow back?
Story #2: Not every woman wants to be married and turned herself into a baby factory!!
OP in the first story had BALLS! She had to visit her trash father and his sl-t wife, but she continued to fight her way through. I wouldn’t want anything to do with my parent who happily cheated behind everyone’s back. I wish I was a fly on the wall listening in on the session. 😂
There was an update. After OP dropped the bomb on the step sister, the step mom pushed OP against the wall and slapped her repeatedly (OP had a recorder in her sports bra). She needed stitches because of the step mom's nails. OP's mom was chilled but pissed when she heared from the police about it. Now OP's mom has full custody of her now. After attacking a child (OP), CPS is investigating the step mom.
13:33 so OP's Dad wants to be a father figure in his stepdaughter's life... and he's achieving that by not being a father figure to his own daughter? riiiiight
Words of wisdom for OP's father and his new wife:
* Be careful what you wish for.
* Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
* Honesty is the best policy.
* You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink.
* Actions have consequences.
* Don't play with matches if you don't want to get burned.
* Kids have feelings, too.
I love how OP got a teenage version of Nuclear Revenge on her dad and the adultress.
Story 1: No Rslash, the dad was playing checkers, then OP was like “shall we play a game of Global Thermonuclear War?”
Story 2: The thing that really gets to me about religious people (btw I’m saying this as a religious person myself) is that they get into relationships with people that are 10,000% against the religious partner’s core beliefs and then they get infuriated when the anti-religious person they willingly CHOSE to be in a relationship with doesn’t believe in their core values. It always bewilders the fuck out of me to hear or read stories like this.
“I’m a Devout Catholic and I got married to a Devout(?) Atheist and now me and my spouse are fighting over going to church every Sunday. wHaT dO i dO?!”
“I’m a MASSIVE Evangelist and I had 17 children with a MASSIVE Satanist and now I’m FURIOUS because my partner doesn’t want me to teach my religion to our kids because they believe that’s cult-like indoctrination. wHaT dO i dO?!”
“I’m an bible-thumping Anglican and I married an Anti-religious Pro-abortion Child-free trans man and now I’m RESENTFUL of the fact that my spouse doesn’t want to detransition and have kids with me. wHaT dO i dO?!”
Do these people seriously not see past their own foreheads? Do they seriously not have the sufficient foresight to realize that maybe JUST MAYBE the person that literally embodies the antithesis of their entire belief system is probably not the person to settle down with in the long term? Every single time a story starts with “I’m a massive religious person with a massive anti-religious spouse” I immediately don’t need to read anything more.
I know there will be non-religious people who will probably say “What’s the issue? The religious person can always just let go of their beliefs or compromise” but that literally makes no sense. Why does the religious person always have to compromise? I never read any stories where the non-religious person lets go and gives in. Maybe because the religious person feels this is important in the exact same way the non-religious person feels it isn’t. And what it really boils down to is there’s no reason why one partner has to be a perpetual pushover to their spouse. Not the religious person, not the non-religious person (especially if they’re not open to becoming religious).
As much as people like to believe in this magical fantasy land where a Jesus-loving bible-thumping devout Anglican marries a Jesus-despising bible-burning devout Satanist and they live happily ever after with their trans child and their other dog/cat children, that’s simply not real life. Sometimes some groups can completely avoid each other and that’s ok. I have never in my entire life understood this rampant social obsession to interlink two groups that absolutely despise each other. It’s like trying to arrange a marriage between a Grand Wizard and an Afrocentrist. It’s so moronic.
Story 2. Ok so wtf did I listen to? She can't have kids. Got it. Totally cool. But he got his family to try and guilt her and convince her otherwise...then when she brought up his family, he said they weren't involved in this? Sir, you brought them into this, you don't get to gaslight her like that nono chief. So many red flags in that story. Omg
Story 1:
Cheater: C'mon son! Let's play catch.
Son pulling pin from grenade: Have it your way "dad."
Damn, 15 year old OP in the first story went scorched earth. I'm not sure if I'm impressed or scared, lol. The only thing I didn't like is her taking it out on the stepsiblings. They are innocents in this too.
Edit: read the update someone posted where Adultress got violent with the OP. I was fully expecting to next read "and then my mom kicked Adultress's ass" because that's what I would have done if that was my child. I was happy to read that OP gave her stepsiblings some gifts and a note via their dad who is one of OP's teachers. Sucks all around that the all the kids in this situation are taking the brunt of what's going on, but I'm glad that OP now has the choice to not be around her Cheater dad if she doesn't want to.
Hi rSlash, theres a story that honestly seems so good its called "I didn't expect my husband to get over me so quickly" and theres both the husband and wifes side of the story.
Story 3: is he trying to build a relationship? Because he just tried to force all the blame for his neglect on his stepdaughter when he's really just the p**** for his new wife. If there was really a relationship there would he have blame the step daughter like that? His wife didn't even meet his axe and she already hates her and his daughter, needs done nothing but lie to her and then indirectly shamed her for not wanting that tattoo because he hasn't lived up to it. The Stepmom maybe instigating it but at the end of the day dad went along with it of his own free will, so he doesn't get brownie points.
Story 2, I wonder where OP found a doctor willing to do that. Most would just move the goalposts regardless of age or decision.
A lot of young women who want to be sterilized have to search long and hard for a gyno willing to take the request seriously. My advice? Planned Parenthood. They are great for giving out resources for that kind of thing, and taking you seriously.
He's alienating his bio daughter while trying to be a good father figure to his stepdaughter.
He then diminished the value of one personalized tattoo by getting an exact duplicate but of the new family
Story 1: I feel like this deserves a crosspost with r/MaliciousCompliance. In all seriousness, trying to force two people to interact never ends well, it just breeds resentment. Also what's the minimum age to have the final say in who you live with in a divorce? I could have sworn it was younger than 15.
Story 2: NTA; I agree that this is a conversation that should have happened long before this point. Maybe I've been watching this channel too long, but it sounds like he was banking on OP falling victim to the Sunk Cost Fallacy. Also OP should probably say "Sterile" and not "Infertile" in her profile; the latter means you can still get pregnant, it's just less likely, so maybe saying the former would filter out future buttholes like this by making it clear that babies physically cannot happen.
Story 3: This was heartbreaking to read. You and your father should be a package deal when the latter enters a new relationship, and that applies to any divorced/single parent entering a new relationship. How parents can act otherwise is beyond me.
For story 2, it feels to me like he wanted out of the relationship but made up the bs story about wanting kids to make is her fault so he wouldn’t look bad.
I've been childfree since childhood. I don't have the patience for babies. I am thankful that my family was accepting of that fact.
Story 1: cheating parents are the worst, they destroyed 3 kids lives and then want forgiveness. Kids love is hard to lose so if u do smth so terrible that u lose your kids love you dont deserve to get it back
Husband is like, very gaslight-y and it’s weird that he tried to use his family into shaming her into making a big decision like that?? Also, the family?? OP dodged a bullet with that misogynistic, sexist family.
Also, in this climate the sister saying it should be illegal for a woman to make a reproductive-health medical decision is…insanely icky. And weird.
At 1:40 anyone here Yugo barking in the background?
Yep there's barking alright
I HEARD HIM!! Lol
I miss Puppy Bloopers. 😂
Yugo 😂
Yugo still a puppy at heart with the barks
Ayooooo just in time!! 😍
Edit: last story it had the stench of controlling wife. Nice to know my intuition wasn't wrong and sad to know that a father just threw out a relationship with his daughter for the sake of his wife
Who bets the next thing his wife will do is push him to cover up his tattoo of him and OP?
Op is SO petty in the first story and i LIVE for it. I feel sorry for the 12 year old, but the cheater and adulterer deserve all the shit OP is gonna threw at them.
In regards to the uterus - Not all women want to be mommy's and not all men want to be daddy's.
Story #2 reminds me of a stupid Facebook quiz, "What would you do if you found out you were pregnant tomorrow?"
I would be having a very interesting conversation with a certain doctor. 😂
Court mandated or not, you can’t just have plans with your child and then cancel last minute to hang out with your new family.