As a woman who was diagnosed at a really young age. The amount of judgement and bullying i received when I was "attention seeking" mostly came from my teachers. The other students in my class would see how they treated me and would do the same. I made my first real friend in middle school. She also has ADHD and we have just hit our ten year anniversary of friendship! I have since moved away and started a new life and have made plenty of friends and held on to the people who were willing to get to know me and look past all the labels people would use. Terms like "attention seeking" cause a lot of damage. I was never looking for attention i was looking for dopamine and dispite never finding the right medication as a kid Ihave found one that works well for me now.
Please be understanding if you see someone behaving in an strange way. My medication would have a lot of side effects as a kid including mood swings, hallucinations, weight gain, and lethargy. This made me look lazy and unpredictable to my teachers and classmates but it was never my fault. When you're a kid you never know how a medication may react in you. Now that I'm an adult the same medication that gave me those symptoms work fine now.
@salemshannon5417 This is why I don't want to take medications like these, I don't like being out of control plus most medication ( at least In my country ) thay give u something that makes u stupid and things like brainwash u then thay label u as crazy, lock up in a room and thay spend rest of thayre life's there ik a few ppl that happened it to them and thay had depression or some just had a problem that thay didn't know what it is. When it's too hard to diagnose that's what thay do to u here. Trough I am not saying all medication is like that I'm sure there are some side effects but nothing so satire and some might just work quite fine later on just like the person above me said. Stay safe folks.❤ plese no hate
I hope you and your friend are still in contact with each other, me and my bff just had our 2nd anniversary, I can't imagine how painful it would be if you and your friend had to go your separate ways.
@@salemshannon5417can I ask for some advice? If you don't mind. It's for my friend. She has ADHD and sometimes I worry alot. Is there any way I can help her?
I always hated myself for being so lazy and disorganized but never had the motivation to fix it. Having been diagnosed since I was young, I’m just happy I’m not alone in the world and videos like this exist to help me now understand myself a little better.
I remember getting yelled at in middle school all the time for having a messy locker. It wasn't messy to me though, everything had it's place and making me clean it while the teachers watched didn't make it more organized. In 5th grade we had a kid say that someone stole his drumsticks and that it must have been me because I was a percussionist and "jealous that he brought his from home and I used ones from the school" the teachers made everyone in my class clean out our lockers and lay everything out so he could look through our stuff for them. The teachers hounded me for how disorganized I was even though everything had a place. The kid's mom ended up calling and asking if he wanted her to bring his drumsticks to school because he forgot them in the car. I got no apology and a teacher would occasionally check my locker to make sure it was clean and organized to their standards.
@@Musical_Pigeonnaww.. My locker would of looked liked yours or worse if it makes you feel any better 😊 And I can't believe the teachers went on the hunt like that, locker privacy isn't a thing with them obviously.. And there should of been an apology, at the least.
I know the feeling but opposite. I would do too much and if I ever stopped, I would hear the judgements in my own head. Malicious compliance became my weapon against myself. It only hurt me but that was the only way I could get people to stop taking advantage of me in the moment by doing something so drastic that they HAVE to acknowledge that what they are doing is wrong. But their brain is protecting them and it just made them judge me more. I could never win so I would keep doing extra. And no one will help me. even now. no one will help me that can.
ADHD is diagnosed in such a weird way. I have met some girls who had school difficulties in elementary (which makes sense because at the school I went to the teacher would barely ever get to teach because of how chaotic and crazy the climate was). These girls also barely slept because of parents breaking up and other familial difficulties. But since their grades went down, some were diagnosed with adhd and later on realized they had been wrongfully diagnosed. Meanwhile, I never had any school difficulties in elementary because I had a lot of advance. I didn’t really need to teacher to teach me what I already knew, so obviously my grades were great. But as I grew up and started losing the advance I had, I realized how incapable I am in listening and organizing and not losing my stuff all the time. I can’t motivate myself to do anything and feel overwhelmed all the time. So many girls from elementary school have told me my symptoms of ADHD are worse than theirs yet I have never been or seemed a diagnosis. They really need to stop using grades as the indicator.
I agree. I had problems with grades occasionally, but I normally excelled. I think doctors are under the impression that ADHD is a learning disorder or a behavior disorder. They truly do not get it.
But this is the difference between a good professional and a bad. A good professional will look the 3 areas of your life, home, school and there’s a 3 but I forgot 😅 I think is work. At least 2 or more need to be affected by adhd symptoms. I was kinda like you in school up until I was 7/8, when history and all that started was when it started to go to shit because even if I was interested I felt overwhelmed and couldn’t remember a thing. I couldn’t read books too because it was like a computer and me reading was on the background so I couldn’t really process what I just read so I would give up. Tried many times and failed all of them until I started meditating at 32 (when I was finally diagnosed). I failed at university, all the times I tried. But there’s people with adhd that have masters… it doesn’t mean it was easier for them. But still, they can’t just look at a macro part of the persons life.
Same. For me the downturn started in 8th grade but it was subtle. I never took on anything challenging just doing what I knew would het me a good grade. I was a fraid of being the "bad kid" so going to school wasn't that hard though I did call in sick sometimes when I really wasn't unless you count sick of school. Then I went to college and it was such a struggle.
Crap! It's the same for me, but my decline was more visible in university. Not only grades but I felt like constantly going through the fog, plus I started feeling like a failure...
@@edithflores2015 same for me in uni.. I did well in highschool, but as soon as uni hit, I just simply cannot get myself to do the work i am supposed to do well and my grades really took a hit. Now Im in second year but I feel like a failure sometimes too
@@miyuhikari Because I got referred to an actual psychiatrist and took several cognitive and screening tests that concluded that I had it, that I had since childhood. I guess I got lucky and had a progressive doctor, I have been on the proper meds ever since!
@@hanza69 Somewhat. I am on a pretty low dose of Focalin, which is a stimulant medication, and for me it is the only thing that works. I have tried antidepressant alternatives but they just don't work for me. However, you have to have cognitive therapy as well. I cannot live without lists, and even an old school calendar to keep track of important dates, events and appointments. Plus, you have to remember that stimulant meds have very short half live's (mine wear off in about 4-6 hrs), so for me, I take them later in the morning so they can last most of the day. Also, when you take those kinds of meds, your sleep is going to be disrupted for a couple of weeks until your body adjusts. They have made a great difference in my concentration levels and attention span, so if you go that route I hope they work for you!
My sweetheart's diagnosed with ADHD, and ever since we started dating, I've come to realize how much I relate and empathize with her struggles! I've never got a professional diagnosis on the matter and it made me curious to learn more and seek out proper help, for both of us. And while living with an ADHD person can be a bit challenging, I wouldn't have it with anybody else. She's the most caring and passionate pumpkin ever, and I'm committed to making living a little easier for her. C: Thank you for this video!
I love how dedicated you are to your spouse, and are understanding of her difficulties! I often hear about people who are disrespected or treated with a lack of understanding by the people in their life because of their disorders, and it warms my heart to hear how you’re accepting and understanding of your spouse!
Bless you. Shes incredibly lucky to have you. Im adhd and my husband is inattentive adhd (which he insists on calling ADD. Which is fine). We do our best but we love each other regardless
My mother refuses to believe that I have ADHD. So I haven’t gotten a proper diagnosis, my father has it, and I show all symptoms. It is extremely difficult for me to socialize because people find me odd or weird, and it’s generally heartbreaking. At least I am aware of the symptoms, most women who struggle with it don’t even know, and it’s terrible to not know.
It helps if you think of socializing as a skill that is developed. Which it is. People think it is innate, but it's learned as a baby/child, so that's why it's viewed that way. I find this approach works well for things like this. Self examination/awareness is key for everyone, but those with ADHD have to work harder at it. The flip side of the coin, is that after working harder at it, you'll understand it better than most.
@@abipoole2859 I started seeing a psychologist for my anxiety. As things progressed she suggested it and referred me to a psych NP who specializes in ADHD. I started meds that day.
Happy for you that you finally have your answers, I can imagine the relief must have been immense. I’m 41 and struggling to understand if I have ADHD or not. I wouldn’t be surprised as I relate to every ‘symptom’ mentioned in the video and a lot of the ones mentioned elsewhere but I have no idea how to even broach the subject with my doctor to start the journey to diagnosis. Every time I see a doctor I’m told there’s nothing wrong with me (even the time I had a prolapsed disc in my lower back that was pressing on the nerve, yowza. They said I ‘didn’t look like I was walking in pain’ 😩) so I’m scared to bring it up in case I get looked down on or dismissed… hello rejection sensitivity lol 😅 Any hints welcomed!
I´ve been diagnosed with ADHD and a high IQ since I was 5 years old. Most people think that is awesome to have a genetic advantage, but that combination was brutal because only by having ADHD I struggled to pay attention to simple things and with a high IQ I get bored so easily, so it was quite a challenge for my family in order that I could finish school in a proper way. Honestly speaking, I´ve always felt that having ADHD has been such an advantage and interesting perspective because due to my natural curiosity, I get obsessed by any random topics and I am able to connect different fields in order to have a wider view. One of my biggest strength has been having ADHD because I can create and organize information in a way that most people can´t do it. So for girls that are just like me, believe me there´s nothing wrong with you and it´s amazing how your brain works and evolves in a creative rich enviroment, I know it can be tough but you got this, there´s so much beauty within you.
Thanks for the words of encouragement I was also diagnosed (in my opinion most likely misdiagnosed or wrongly diagnosed) in kindergarten and the most trouble I had is my parents thinking I’m different/not normal/slow and stupid and act inappropriately for my age but truly I think I have a high in but no subject that is mandatory to take in school interested my enough to keep my attention and then in school when I was able to pick the classes that interested me they told me no that class will be to hard for you and wouldn’t let me take it like a foreign language or psychology so my main struggle is getting my parents to let me enjoy life the way I want to and do the things I want because I’m already 25 and still not dating and doing things people my age do
The thing I hate about this society is that neurodivergent people are so good at many things but the average iq neurotypicals took over and added all the useless stuff like school money etc and then they make fun of us because we can’t deal with dumb people stuff
I struggled with my “gifted kid” status too. I wanted to do everything at 110% but if I struggled (math being my SOLE weakness in high school) it devastated me and I couldn’t be fucked and got bored bc I was discouraged.
@@mimibelta259 25 and not have a lover ? Who cares , don't let people tell you what you should do just cause your "in the age for it " be you and find your path your way ❤
This is so relatable and I'm so glad to see the comments are supportive ("gifted" ADHD can bother those who don't identify with that). You're in a great place - keep sharing your unique skills and perspective!!!
When I was diagnosed in high school, they said it was "mild," because I wasn't hyperactive and was really good at looking like I was paying attention while being miles away. It still deeply affects me and my relationships in adulthood. I'm so used to smiling, while inside I'm a mess.
I can force myself to pay attention to boring lessons and conversations but it feels painful. I think a lot of women with ADHD just have a super high “pain tolerance” and are good at pretending to be fine, when we suffer a lot inside.
As a recently diagnosed ADHDer (I'm a man) it wasn't recognised as ADHD because my symptoms were inside in my head, not the typical busy boy. Because there is more studies about ADHD in women it helps men too who share those same symptoms that are typically common in women. This is why inclusion of all sexes is important and strengthes us all
I'm glad us being included can also help men who have been studied this whole time. Thank you for once again bringing the focus back to men when we finally have video focused on women 🙄
"Do you find yourself easily emotional?" Me already having a breakdown just by watching this video especially after knowing that menopause can decrease dopamine and serotonin levels and realizing that it's only gonna get sadder and harder than this in the future.
@amyharr2447 early 40rs. But like most diagnosis pertaining to female biology. No one knows or explains anything to you. especially Drs. Had to deduct it on my own.
My parents both agree i probably have ADHD( and/or autism) but dont want a diagnosis because they dont see any reasons a diagnosis would help. To anyone struggling: you are loved very much, dont give up hope❤
Well, a diagnosis helps you to understand yourself better and helps you to know how to reduce your symptoms. Sometimes medication also helps and therefore a diagnosis can actually be really good for you, in my opinion.
Start playing Games and watching Anime, keep yourself busy 24/7 and start to love yourself...your world will change. Yes it's as easy as it sounds. I've been through hell. Prayed, hoped and wished to die every night for 3 years, still waiting to see the End of this life's story. ..I hope everything ends, Death is truly a divine mercy, it frees a soul from everything....Death has became your friend the moment your tiny heart started beating. Appreciate the painful Truth Death, Life is a Beautiful Lie.
ADHD is not an illness, My theory proved that all these (Bipolar, ADHD, PTSD, Dissociative identity disorder, Schizophrenia, Psychosis etc) so called mental illnesses are actually the next evolutionary step of mankind. Yes, your brain is creating chaotic solution to Adapt in this messed up Generation... "Do not fret my kind, You're not alone"
I was finally diagnosed last year at age 41 after spending 2 years struggling to get myself the help I knew I needed with no external support or help finding resources, making calls, and doing the work. That's why it took so long. My ADHD (and discovered I have autism, too) was the roadblock I was fighting to get help to fight the roadblock. My life began to make so much more sense after I started getting treatment. I still feel like an outsider, and still struggle with all 7 of the questions at the end of this video. Learning to unmask is an almost impossible challenge. There are times when I slide back into rage about how I was treated throughout my life up to now.
same, my family talks about my diagnosis with shame and encourage me to just get ower it (my literal autistic symptoms), as if its an illness and I need to be ”cured”. Mean time they do not help me at all. I get angry thinking of how my childself was treated by the adults around me and Also how I an treated now by my own family.
I think the «hyper active» part often manifests as physical tension, fidgeting and racing thoughts. Often due to societal expectations to how girls and women is «supposed to behave». I’ve been chronicly ill and fatigued half my life due to undiagnosed ADHD.
the fatigue part hitsmy pretty hard. even as i child i couldn't keep up with other children, i would get tired after 5 minutes of play. today i'm struggling BAD with fatigue, depression, lack of motivation and chronic burnout. it feels like an invisible handicap/illness that makes people think i'm just lazy.
The exact cause of adhd is still unknown and needs more research Yet this badly qualified fake professionals has the audacity to say that Grades aren't the only thing about adhd I have bad grades but thats not only thing about me! I have time blindness, organizing issues, audiotory processing issues, daydreaming all day long, forgetfulness and so on! You at least need 8 to 10 symptom to finally make a decision Like the true professionals check on 3 sectors academy, work and life Not just grades!
So did I have good grades ... But did my subsequent work history match my grades ... No 😔 ... I didn't even know I had ADHD was I diagnosed 4 years ago ....I thought it was just ASD ... I'm a sloth so did not present with hyperactivity.... How could I be adhd? My whole life makes more sense now. And the pills work magic
Hi there! As a female diagnosed with ADD as a kid, which is now another form of ADHD. These are all so very true. I will admit I've gotten more emotional as I've gotten older. And it's really hard to "manage" the negative emotions as life just seems to get harder. Guys do seem to get more spotlight (?) on the whole thing. That's because us girls are taught early on how to mask our ADHD. And when you bottle up those negative emotions it takes a toll on you. So to all of those ladies out there struggling, just know that we are there with you! Please stay strong. Now if you will excuse me, I should be asleep. Stay safe!
I just want to say this to all the women in their 20s and 30s who have just received their diagnosis… some healthcare professionals won’t understand our struggle. Don’t let those people stop you from finding the providers who care and want to help. Don’t give up on yourself. Find support in friends and family. You deserve to be happy ❤
Just got diagnosed last year age 27. So much of my life makes sense now. I didn’t recognize my symptoms until I spent time alone. I always spent time with other people before this which was a way to hyper focus 😥 and soothe my discomfort from my symptoms
I was extremely fortunate to be diagnosed at a young age. My teacher brought up to my mom that i could possibly have ADHD, without her i would most likely still be undiagnosed and unmedicated almost 10 years later. Thank you Mrs S!
I'm so grateful to my son's grade 1/2 teacher. She hesitantly suggested that we should look into ADHD for him, and after a struggle from me because "he's perfectly normal, his spirit isn't broken, that's all" I decided to try him on meds. And WOW his life improved. And it was also the 💡 moment for me to get diagnosed and treated for ADHD myself. I saw her years later and thanked her. She changed our lives. 🥰
My mom always thought I had either autism or adhd and I never knew this until I found adhd content online and mentioned it to her. Ive never been tested but I’m almost 100% sure I have it. I’m positive my dad is adhd but is too stubborn to ever get tested for it and my sister and her kids also have it. My sister also said she has thought I’m adhd since I was small. Whenever parent teacher conferences rolled around I was always reprimanded for not getting my work done because I was chatting with others, I’m constantly zoning out during conversations because of distractions, cleaning my room is a constant struggle between lack of motivation and finding distractions in my room as I clean, my self esteem has always been a dumpster fire, hyper fixations on art projects or tasks constantly keep me from doing what I need to do and so many more instances. I seriously need a diagnosis but I don’t make enough to afford that. It seriously sucks.
Thank you for touching this subject. I was diagnosed at 30 year old in France. After seeing doctors who told me impossible because I'm a girl, I went through uni (with litters of coffee) and one who told me he didn't believe in ADHD.
OMG I HAVE ALL off the struggles mentioned in the video from beginning till the end I’m dreaming I’m hyper sensitive I have a lack off concentration I’m suicidal and I have a VERY low self esteem because I felt and was treated differently in school since 1st grade 😭❤️ thanks for the support tho
I'm right there with you. Reading your comment makes me feel less alone, and I hope I can do the same for you. Lets keep going and meet back here in a year. I love you, buddy.
I also could say yes to all, except maybe the last one. I can be a good active listener, but after a while my brain can't process the information anymore and it gets all jumbled up in my head. I literally forget what people have told me when it is too much information at once. Does that constitute a symptom of adhd or add?
@@missXsammi not only "new" mothers.. you must understand that "old" moms were not in your scope of observation, due to your age bias. "old" moms are just as day dreamy as "new" moms, in this regard (of course, absolutes are not absolutely true); a mom being busy all day taking a space out break to contemplate / plan / worry etc was and is still a thing.
The part of this video which says, “our heart goes out to all of them and to the people who are trying their best to extend help”…. this just made me cry. I hope I can stop struggling one day. 💔
Timestamps 1). The numbers 0:54 2). Misdiagnosis and undertreatment 1:46 3). The impact 2:38 4). Social effects 3:21 5). Metal health impacts (trigger warning) 4:09 6). An ADHD symptom checklist 6:06 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I was diagnosed when I was like 13, I'm one of the lucky ones. I still got bullied and I have severe social anxiety because of the bullying. I see myself as a burden, completely useless because that's what everyone called me when I was just a kid with A.D.D. It's no joke lemme tell you.
I brought up my concern of having ADHD to my school and they basically said "You can manage class work just fine so you can't have ADHD" I can manage but I can't thrive. Also a lot of the symptoms affect me in my daily life, not just school. I feel like I have to wait until I'm an adult to go to a doctor and figure this out.
Fam. Kick and scream till they listen. I was in the same boat, and I wish that I had a diagnosis while I was in school. School is so structured that it's much easier to learn and apply tools and strategies to manage ADHD in a way that will not only improve your current situation, but also make it much easier to continue to do it moving forward in life. I passed on going to post secondary school because I knew I would never finish any of the assignments. I don't regret the decision, I know that I was correct about myself, but I deeply wish that it was something that I was equipped to have accomplished. I managed to get a job that I'm satisfied with being in, but I only ended up there because my boyfriend and I went to a job fair and I applied at a couple of the same places as him. I worked several soul destroying minimum wage jobs before this one, and that easily could have been my whole life. I failed upwards, and certainly didn't end up in a field that I'm passionate about. If you can make better decisions than me, I'd really advise it.
I know this by myself..... =_= 'you have good grades, you can't have adhd....' and ignoring all that rest of my struggles. Im sad yoi struggle the same but it feels good to read I am nit the only one. - where in ths together : )
I’m afab and I got diagnosed recently at the ripe age of 20. I had suspected for a couple years and getting the diagnosis was one of the best things that ever happened to me
For me, realizing I have adhd helped with my depression and anxiety, and they haven't come back since. I think I stopped blaming myself for everything. Instead I understand that I have a disability, which needs to be accommodated. Watching How to ADHD -videos helped a lot, especially at the beginning.
as a man who hates himself, struggled badly in school and felt like i was just a really dumb kid for years people pleasing everyone and faking a smile... i feel this.
I was diagnosed attention deficit disorder from a very young age. I was lucky to have been able to get help from my parents at a young age. Unfortunately I qualify under all those symptoms at the end. Every single one of those is sometimes and often very intense and horrible to go through, especially being at college for the first time in my life and not having any friends or any backbone to gain some even ground in a social aspect. I’m mostly by myself and in my room, and I hate being so alone. Never have I thought about the idea of dying or hurting myself, but I have thought a few times about just being replaced or disappearing. I think too much that it would be better that I hadn’t existed. Everyone around the entire campus kind of ghosts me. It’s actually been like that since I was four and moved. Not many souls gave a single glance or thought or even consideration to me. If I had to give a number for teachers that saw and liked me, I could probably count that number on my own right hand. That, after being in school for 12 years of my life, and everyone else in my classes ghosting me and treating me like I didn’t exist: it felt like a curse. It’s kinda sad how people like I are completely unnoticed until we finally speak out and break our social chains. And sometimes when we do, we’re given a negative feedback. I surely got it a lot. College so far isn’t very similar, but there are times that I just wish I was just seen by some for once. I plan to be an author so that maybe I could make any kind of moving change on this, but whether that goes good or not is a good question. I always feel so alone. Let me hope the person who reads this starts to think more heavily on the people in their lives and around them more. For a good majority of my life, I’ve been ignored. The one fate I would never wish on my worst enemy is loneliness or being ignored like I am or like anyone like me is experiencing. Let me keep breathing on a shallow hope that someday I’ll be seen, while I give all my heart to those who need to be seen. Thanks for reading if you made it this far, and start looking forward.
It really frustrates me to hear how even today in several medical trials women are excluded for several reasons. I'll finally get myself tested for ADS this autumn and I'm really hoping that those neurological tests will finally give me some answers
Internalized all my life, but I'm a man who always checked every "women" boxes. At 36 I'm finally officially diagnosed, and we also suspect hormones issues... Might explain things.
Hi! Recently diagnosed AFAB person here! I love this video SO MUCH. Almost all of these rang true to what my situation was like before I was diagnosed. And I was pretty sure I had ADHD for months before I was brave enough to ask for help and eventually get diagnosed. We definitely need more videos like these. Your channel has been so amazing to me and so many others, keep up the good work :)
This is the best video for women with adhd i have seen. It's frustrating, since most studies are made with hyperactive people, when you have a distracted, inner type of adhd. Not even doctors know how to treat you. I take meds, thankfully they work for me, but I lost my hope to find a therapst that knows how to treat my distracted adhd type.
Thank you so much for this, I think it is ridiculous that so many men are so easily diagnosed but when it comes to women (at least in my experience) they say it’s just your hormones or something. I went the longest time without being diagnosed with ADHD and growing up I always hated myself for being “different” from everyone else, but now I am able to embrace who I am and I sincerely hope that other women don’t go through some of the things I did before being able to embrace themselves for who they are ❤
I was diagnosed with adhd at 28 y.o in the second year of graduate school. Was kinda disappointed cause I thought if I keeping working harder, I could fix me. I'm also relieved because I now know I'm not broken, I just have to set up my world ( to the best of my ability)to work for the way my brain thinks.❤
I am in my 20s, and adhd without treatment....it drives me crazy! My grades were great, everything was great. After becoming an adult EVERYTHING started to fall apart... I am messy, impulsive so I do not so smart things, my everyday life is chaos....I constantly feel like I am not enough. I forget to eat, I don't remember to check my bank account... And I get stuck reading Wikipedia for hours. I forget to answer messages so I lose friends and opportunities... My mind is like a beehive... I can't study at school, I can't motivate myself to go there, even though I KNOW I really really would need to!....huge anxiety to appear somewhat adult, because I feel like a big child that everyone needs to just help all the time... I KNOW what to do, but I... it just...not happening! Anxiety makes it worse, I am so afraid doing things wrong that I don't do anything... My ability to regulate my emotions is terrible, my thoughts jump from idea to idea...so I just hide everything inside. I seem like robot to people who don't know me. Those who do, know that my emotions are all over the place... I am talented in multiple ways, I learn SUPER FAST and I am at least somewhat good in every job. I know that. But it is hard to remember, the chaos follows... After a great start all is suddenly mess again. So how do I control it...I don't start. Even the small tasks seem overwhelming, I can't break them into smaller parts... So basically, I stay at home... Trying to remember to eat, to sleep and move... But I can't do it... I don't go anywhere, because everywhere I go, the chaos goes.
I was lucky to be diagnosed as a girl with adhd with 8 years. Thanks to an amazing teacher who suspected it. It helped me a lot as i got the right treatment.
I been diagnosed in the late 90s as a child with ADD but all I got was a pill. Honestly it was better not to share that I have it. It didn't matter if they believed ADHD was a thing or not, it was more you got treated negatively after saying it. I am still very cautious and I still deal with it on your own because I have to say the world is still unfriendly to my way of doing things and how I think. At least there is more published content out there to help adults with ADHD now. I just wish it felt less lonely in the hardships I deal with.
honestly... people who have ad(h)d need to socialize and how can one socialize, if not talking about things? Second; even if its still treated as a deficid: the more people hear about it, the more known iit gets, whats known caises fewer fear. As a job I worked in care for people with special needs, mental and physical disabilities. Im also inclisive assistent and feel like hiding may prevent YOU from a bit of harm, yes, but also lets you hide and live in the shadows. But it defiinately wont shape the world youd like to live in: an inclusive, sensitive world, filled with love. we all can help to shape this - its a hard fight - but worth iit in the end. An other plus is: you have the 'kind heart filter' alsways on: if people treat you like junk you know it right from the start and this also can be helpful. Avoid that persons for they are dopaminekillers : )
@@Laghagua I'm waiting until the generation that thinks that beating children with ADHD will cure them dies before I ever consider disclosing my ADD again.
My brother and I have similar diagnosis in mental disorders. My brother was diagnosed much younger though. I remember very clearly when I finally got diagnosed having a breakdown with my psychologist screaming about how I matter too and how much I was hurting. I took four more years to get diagnosed with depression and even today I still deal with "Help your brother. He's special. You don't need help like he does"
I have all these symptoms can totally relate I've been diagnosed already but I know how heart-breaking it truly is that ADHD in women is so underdiagnosed
I was diagnosed with ADHD this year (I'm 24 now) and am currently on medication. I have to say that the diagnosis has completed change my life and even have helped me healing some misunderstoods about my self and my capacities along my life, and even more in my childhood. It was pretty discouraging been told by my parents and teachers "I know that you have so much potential, but you're so lazy". Of course that cracked my self-esteem and other parts of my life but mostly my self-awareness. I'm so grateful with my psychiatrist for listen and empathy, my life have changed for good and I'm even experiencing my career with so much joy, because I had the passion for it, but it was so difficult for me to pay attention in class or even read things that I was truly interested. If you're or you've been experiencing something of this I recommend you to find some medical attention 🙏🏻
My 20y.o. brother hears this phrase like every day. I know, he's not a girl and it's kinda off topic, but he has same struggles as our country isn't supportive to such people .He was diagnosed with ADHD as a child but nobody cared about that, so he was bullied ENTIRE school years and had bad marks, although he was brilliant in other things like writing, researching some extra info, remembering. My family didn't support him either. Now he wants so much to became 'normal', to study in uni 'normally', and I know, he puts 200% of his effort in this and still get not so good results. I do want help him so much😔Also, I'm myself kinda have symptoms of adhd, idk if I have it
I was diagnosed at 49 after pushing to be assessed. I struggled with mental health and what I now know is burnout, but I kept being told I had Borderline personality Disorder. I was angry that no one listened to me or cared! Then I hit menopause and finally they paid attention
I don’t want you to feel pressured- but would you and your team be able to cover ASHD/Autism in students? Usually teachers and classmates who have nit been taught, or have either of these don’t understand our struggles. I love you videos and you have helped me through my mental health journey- (including giving my courage to reach out to my partners) we love you
6:42 hope that "lack of motivation" is dishes as synonymous to "overwhelmed and dont know where to start" and the general prioritosong problem.because everything is a task..while teying not to be visibly hyperactive too much...
As a child I struggled a lot with such, but was never treated properly for it, only by being scolded A LOT and years of being abused. It wasn’t until I was an adult that I was finally diagnosed with adhd nonattentive type, basically without the hyperactivity, it was my brain that would never stop racing. I have other mental health disorders and was treated with those with medication, but I told my psych dr that though I wasn’t as depressed I still felt like I was losing my mind and always on the verge of losing control of my mind and body. I wished people were aware that add and adhd also affects females just as much as guys. I am doing much better now. Better late than never I suppose. 🙂 🤷♀️
That's why I always found these statistics strange. Studying this topic in college, they wanted to make it absolutely certain that boys had more ADHD than girls, while I was constantly finding reports of late diagnoses in women... And I also always thought I had something like that or high abilities, even my childhood teachers thought the same but they never found anything fixed, so I was never diagnosed. Bullying, the feeling of being different and depressive thougths has always been present and continues to this day and I don't know what to do... Well, thank you for the awesome video 💙
A friend once suggested I had ADHD becuz of my writing hobby. I write what I know, which means my characters most often have dealt with some type of struggle that I myself have faced as well. As I was going through the checklist, I was unconsciously saying yes to a lot of them, but I dunno if I want to get diagnosed. Visits to any type of doctor scare me, and I don't see the point in knowing, so Imma just continue as I am. If it actually starts impacting my life to the point others notice, then sure, I'll do something about it. But it's not my highest priority right now, and I wish the best of luck to those who are brave enough to do something I could never do: get professional help
I really hope you can overcome your anxiety of going to a doctor. Getting a diagnosis is pretty important, since it can help you be more aware of yourself and also to reduce any negative symptoms that you may not even realize you were showing. But, it is your choice, so you don't have to if you don't want to. However, I do recommend that if it's possible, you might wanna get a diagnosis.
If you feel like you might need medication to help you function somewhere down the line, then you should seek a diagnosis. Until then, you don't need one.
This sounds like how I started to see how I was different from others (not diagnosed but have started speculating that I have combined or inattentive ADHD). My adhd friends (hyperactive) started to notice things about me that reminded me about themselves, and pointed it out. And after a lot of research after wanting to learn about the topic, and I show a lot of signs, along with my dad having it. I just don’t wanna tell my parents just in case I’m just being dumb. I’d like to think I don’t have it. Just to be sure.
I second what @@quaerite. said! Definitely your choice, but not a bad idea. I do want to add though that if you decide not to get a diagnosis, you could still try researching about it and learning about it to see if you can find some dots to connect to it from your life! You could try incorporating some new habits people with ADHD usually add to help themselves and see if they work for you too. Even without an official diagnosis, being aware you might have it can help a ton when it comes to learning about yourself :)
I just got diagnosed last year in my early 30s. It's amazing how much this explains and how much these experiences shared in the comments are so familiar. I was even evaluated by a psychiatrist when I was ten, while in counseling for depression and suicidal thoughts, just to ensure I didn't have any bigger issues. I think he missed something pretty big. Then again, knowing the treatment plans in the early 2000s, it may have been for the best. I wish it wasn't this messy.
Similar to others’s, my diagnosis came in my mid-30s. It was slightly Complicated because I also have general anxiety disorder, which has a lot of overlap in how it manifest. My husband -who also has adhd and was diagnosed as a kid- was actually the one to identify it and encouraged me to talk to my doctor. It has been night and day being able to actually treat both of these conditions and as I learn more, sooo much of my behavior and struggles with school and works makes sense. Really appreciate Psych2go’s efforts to increase knowledge on this!
i mean yeah, bipolar disorder and bpd were brought up wayyyyy before adhd, in my case. i spent years mentioning it and it took countless failed treatments for them to listen and consider it.
i was already diagnosed last year (i'm 23 now) but the fact that i ticked ALL of the boxes in the checklist has me giggling and then nearly crying. thank you so much for this video.
I've doubted it for awhile, now this makes it more clear because I trust this channel. It's really hard and ADHD or mental health is not really open to share in the society where I live.
My dad doesn't believe in these kind of things and refuses to listen to me.. i relate with all the symptoms and its a big struggle daily and in university. It's very difficult to speak about it with my own people and sometimes it feels like nobody really understands, you know? Some people think im dumb or stupid and others dont really believe the struggles we go through, its very difficult to do your best with this situation happening. You are not alone, fighting!
I recognise all of these sings in me. It's been a year since I've started to look for a professional to help me diagnose adhd but in my country it is really hard to find one as an adult.
I'm 32, and both my partner and mum think I have ADHD but the GP refuses to give me a review and because of that all I get is "oh you'll be ok" and sweep it under the rug
I basically meet all the criteria and lately I've been thinking if I might have some form of ADHD, because exactly as you say, I'm often distracted and confused, I loose my thinks all the time and can't pay attention during subjects that don't interest me (sometimes even the ones that do.) I'm not hyperactive though, more like the opposite, and I daydream all the time. It's interesting that the more I learn about this condition the more I think this might be the case with me, though of course I can't know for sure, I guess the "symptoms" I have are much more common than that.
I was the typical good student, not hyperactive, but I would daydreaming all the time, and still understood things. Now as a young adult, I dont act my age most of the times, and I struggle with social anxiety, self doubt and I tend to get depressed some times. A diagnosis wont change a thing for me, and who I am but I would like to know. Might be autistic too, but I can function well, most of the times. Luckily I get help and support, but its a big world, its overwhelming at times. But I know, I am not alone in this.
Anyone can have ADHD, regardless of their sex. Whether it’s a woman or a man, support those around you when they seek it. The best person is a person who cares. Everyone has their differences, but the only way to bring awareness to everyone’s problems is to bring awareness to everyone.
@@MiriadCalibrumAstar this channel has brought conflict to sexes before, this is not new. several years back they released a video talking about how all gay men are racist, and all lesbian women are open, accepting, loving, etc. dunno if its still up or not.
Oh brother. Why does talking about the intricacies of the way women struggle with a particular thing always make insecure men feel the need to include themselves in the conversation. Let me guess, you’ve recently commented “not all men” under a video of a girl talking about getting harassed on the street 😂
Thankfully, because of social media is one of the reasons I got myself diagnosed after recognizing all of the symptoms described in these kinds of videos. I was 15 turning 16 a month later when I got the final results. Even getting the diagnosis explained so much. I always felt so different, but just blamed it on different personalities. It’s kind of a relief, and it’s nice getting help from other who go through the same and knowing who I can talk to about this.
I was misdiagnosed as ADHD since childhood. I believed it for years, well into my 30s. Turns out ADHD was wrong and I actually had Dissociative Identity Disorder and autism.
At certain points in my life, I have had physisians say to me, "Well, what difference is a diagnosis going to make?" about various concerns I have had. At 56, I was diagnosed with ADD, by my female GP, who is a wonderful and caring physician. At 50, I was diagnosed with AS and hEDS, and my doctor at the time just brushed it off and called me a hypochondriac. These are both serious conditions, dramatically affecting the quality of one's life. Women have, historically, been treated horribly in the medical system. Thank God there are more female doctors now, and we are encouraging more girls into STEM. Thank you for the highly informative content that you put out on this channel. Making the world a better place is everyone's responsibility. Thank you for helping others to achieve that goal with knowledge, understanding, and hopefully empathy. 🙏 ❤
I keep seeing people say " don't self-diagnose" gimme the money for a diagnosis then , I am broke ,I can not afford to go to a doctor let alone a psychologist …If all the men in my family are diagnosed and NONE of the women are then clearly we are missing something ? I'd rather assume that all the symptoms matching means that I have it rather than waste my food money on a diagnosis that will tell me what I already know.
That’s why you should vote with your wallet. Stop giving money to people who hate you and start giving it to doctors who actually give a shit about your health.
This Video made me cry. I've been masking so many feeling in my childhood and when I grew up. I got my diagnosis a few months ago, having to convince my father, that I've been hinding all my struggles. I am also working on unmasking as much as I can, trying to understand that my intense emotional reaction is actually valid. It's still a work in progress but thanks to education videos like this one I am working my way up slowly.
When I was 20, a close family friend pointed out that I could have ADHD since I presented with symptoms of it which could contribute to my depression. I had a breakdown after that but I don’t know why. My mom just got mad thinking I was looking for attention or a reason to be mentally damaged. Three years later, I’m trying to get a diagnosis but my psychiatrist tells me I can’t receive a conclusive diagnosis until my depression is managed.
People with ADHD are estimated to be 2.7 times more likely to experience depression than the general population. It's estimated 1/5 to 1/3 people with ADHD also have depression. When comorbidity is that high, imo if a patient comes in seeking treatment for one the doctor should be also checking for the other. From my own experiences with both, I don't believe you can form an effective treatment plan without addressing them at the same time. The way I see it, it's kind of like drawers. If your drawer has ONE handle, you can open and close it with one hand. But if you try to open a drawer with TWO handles with one hand, chances are it's going to jam and you won't be able to open it. The two are built differently, and while they are both drawers, the way you interact with them to have effective results is different.
I was one of the few actually diagnosed in childhood. I firmly believe that adding the H to the default prevents many people, especially women, from getting diagnosed.
Well yeah I have all these symptoms ig my parents found out and said that adhd is fake and it didn't exist. Allt of people have told me to go to a psychologist because they can see that I may have it but when I asked my parents they said that I'm not sick and blamed it on the phone
I FINALLY got diagnosed and got started with help. The first few days were the clearest I've ever felt. I realized then that my mind felt fractured normally and medication was the first time my mind felt like it was working as one piece instead of in twenty different directions.
The timing of this video is couldn't be better. I, female 34, have my DIVA Test next Thursday. I'm concerned whether it will be a blessing or a curse. EDIT: I checked almost the complete checklist. This is becoming more and more real.
To any men who may watch this and relate to it: I'm a male (from birth) with ADHD, but I don't have the "typical" male presentation. Every symptom listed at the end of the video is an exact match to my experience, which explains why I didn't get diagnosed until later in adulthood, and only when I researched and sought diagnosis for myself. Don't give up or feel embarrassed my dudes! Evaluation criteria and procedures are slowly improving, but if you still have to push to get diagnosis and care, it's worth it.
I've been told I may have ADHD by a nurse acquaintance of mine who recognised some of the things I struggle with, I've looked up some of the usual symptoms and recognised them and I also recognise all the symptoms mentioned at the end as things I struggle with. I also have a lot of coping mechanisms and ways to help myself concentrate in situations like lectures where I struggle to keep my mind on what my professor is saying rather than the way their shoes squeak or their voice echoes or that one stain on the back of the wall or the pattern of the tiles where it was messed up in construction or how the person sitting two rows down is slowly sweating through their shirt and stinks of deo. (Actually, I just looked up ADHD effects on people in uni and apparently, my doodling and phone puzzle games count as stimming? Huh.) But my mom won't let me get a diagnosis because she thinks that because I have good-ish grades already it's fine and there's "no need to slap a label on myself" for something "as small as that" so.... yeah.
You definitely should seek out a diagnosis and resources. ADHD has an incredibly high comorbidity with psychological disorders. Getting therapy can help with learning useful and healthy strategies to thrive with a neurodivergent brain. Having a diagnosis does afford you very quantifiable benefits. In many countries it is considered a disability that employers cannot discriminate against you for, and many educational institutions provide additional support for people with ADHD. Knowledge is power. There is no drawback to having a better understanding of how your brain works and how to best meet your needs. Being aware and educated about your disorder enables you to make informed decisions. Those are the best kind of decisions!
@@Victoria-dh9vb Thanks! It was kind of wild after I wrote that comment? I accidentally ended up diving headfirst into researching what the heck even are adhd symptoms and stuff people do to deal with em and finding out in real time that actually it wasn’t that everyone had the same problems as me and just dealt with them better
Could you maybe make a video on the similarities and differences for people with ADHD and for those with Autism? I have been diagnosed with ADHD but sometimes have symptoms that could be ADHD but also could be more related to Autism. Love you guys ❤ Keep up the good work
Start playing Games and watching Anime, keep yourself busy 24/7 and start to love yourself...your world will change. Yes it's as easy as it sounds. I've been through hell. Prayed, hoped and wished to die every night for 3 years, still waiting to see the End of this life's story.
...I hope everything ends, Death is truly a divine mercy, it frees a soul from everything....Death has became your friend the moment your tiny heart started beating. Appreciate the painful Truth Death, Life is a Beautiful Lie.
I was diagnosed ADHD as a child but my mom was in denial, and convinced me I wasn't and I was never treated. Fast forward to now, at 33, I was re-diagnosed. It's been eye opening and freeing. I'm still working on understanding myself more.
Self-Diagnosed ADHD is still worse. And apparently, I started a war or something. But I'm not reading all of those replies. Thank you for bringing my comment at the top though, lol.
@@yougotsnipedbro6060He’s referring to people who convince themselves they have ADHD when they actually don’t. It happens very often and it’s offensive to people who actually have it when they complain and paint themselves as victims for a condition that they possibly don’t have.
This is the time to conclude that I might have an ADHD too or maybe PTSD. I have all of these symptoms that made me scared more. I can'tconsult to doctors because we're poor, and my family will not listen to me. I'm scared to tell them about this.
As a woman who was diagnosed at a really young age. The amount of judgement and bullying i received when I was "attention seeking" mostly came from my teachers. The other students in my class would see how they treated me and would do the same. I made my first real friend in middle school. She also has ADHD and we have just hit our ten year anniversary of friendship! I have since moved away and started a new life and have made plenty of friends and held on to the people who were willing to get to know me and look past all the labels people would use. Terms like "attention seeking" cause a lot of damage. I was never looking for attention i was looking for dopamine and dispite never finding the right medication as a kid Ihave found one that works well for me now.
Please be understanding if you see someone behaving in an strange way. My medication would have a lot of side effects as a kid including mood swings, hallucinations, weight gain, and lethargy. This made me look lazy and unpredictable to my teachers and classmates but it was never my fault. When you're a kid you never know how a medication may react in you. Now that I'm an adult the same medication that gave me those symptoms work fine now.
@salemshannon5417 This is why I don't want to take medications like these, I don't like being out of control plus most medication ( at least In my country ) thay give u something that makes u stupid and things like brainwash u then thay label u as crazy, lock up in a room and thay spend rest of thayre life's there ik a few ppl that happened it to them and thay had depression or some just had a problem that thay didn't know what it is. When it's too hard to diagnose that's what thay do to u here. Trough I am not saying all medication is like that I'm sure there are some side effects but nothing so satire and some might just work quite fine later on just like the person above me said. Stay safe folks.❤ plese no hate
I hope you and your friend are still in contact with each other, me and my bff just had our 2nd anniversary, I can't imagine how painful it would be if you and your friend had to go your separate ways.
@@salemshannon5417can I ask for some advice? If you don't mind. It's for my friend. She has ADHD and sometimes I worry alot.
Is there any way I can help her?
I think I might have ADHD, too. Would it be inappropriate for me to ask which medication works for you?
I always hated myself for being so lazy and disorganized but never had the motivation to fix it. Having been diagnosed since I was young, I’m just happy I’m not alone in the world and videos like this exist to help me now understand myself a little better.
I remember getting yelled at in middle school all the time for having a messy locker. It wasn't messy to me though, everything had it's place and making me clean it while the teachers watched didn't make it more organized.
In 5th grade we had a kid say that someone stole his drumsticks and that it must have been me because I was a percussionist and "jealous that he brought his from home and I used ones from the school" the teachers made everyone in my class clean out our lockers and lay everything out so he could look through our stuff for them.
The teachers hounded me for how disorganized I was even though everything had a place. The kid's mom ended up calling and asking if he wanted her to bring his drumsticks to school because he forgot them in the car. I got no apology and a teacher would occasionally check my locker to make sure it was clean and organized to their standards.
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@@Musical_Pigeonnaww.. My locker would of looked liked yours or worse if it makes you feel any better 😊 And I can't believe the teachers went on the hunt like that, locker privacy isn't a thing with them obviously.. And there should of been an apology, at the least.
I know the feeling but opposite. I would do too much and if I ever stopped, I would hear the judgements in my own head. Malicious compliance became my weapon against myself. It only hurt me but that was the only way I could get people to stop taking advantage of me in the moment by doing something so drastic that they HAVE to acknowledge that what they are doing is wrong. But their brain is protecting them and it just made them judge me more. I could never win so I would keep doing extra. And no one will help me. even now. no one will help me that can.
ADHD is diagnosed in such a weird way.
I have met some girls who had school difficulties in elementary (which makes sense because at the school I went to the teacher would barely ever get to teach because of how chaotic and crazy the climate was). These girls also barely slept because of parents breaking up and other familial difficulties. But since their grades went down, some were diagnosed with adhd and later on realized they had been wrongfully diagnosed.
Meanwhile, I never had any school difficulties in elementary because I had a lot of advance. I didn’t really need to teacher to teach me what I already knew, so obviously my grades were great. But as I grew up and started losing the advance I had, I realized how incapable I am in listening and organizing and not losing my stuff all the time. I can’t motivate myself to do anything and feel overwhelmed all the time.
So many girls from elementary school have told me my symptoms of ADHD are worse than theirs yet I have never been or seemed a diagnosis.
They really need to stop using grades as the indicator.
I agree. I had problems with grades occasionally, but I normally excelled. I think doctors are under the impression that ADHD is a learning disorder or a behavior disorder. They truly do not get it.
But this is the difference between a good professional and a bad. A good professional will look the 3 areas of your life, home, school and there’s a 3 but I forgot 😅 I think is work. At least 2 or more need to be affected by adhd symptoms. I was kinda like you in school up until I was 7/8, when history and all that started was when it started to go to shit because even if I was interested I felt overwhelmed and couldn’t remember a thing. I couldn’t read books too because it was like a computer and me reading was on the background so I couldn’t really process what I just read so I would give up. Tried many times and failed all of them until I started meditating at 32 (when I was finally diagnosed). I failed at university, all the times I tried. But there’s people with adhd that have masters… it doesn’t mean it was easier for them. But still, they can’t just look at a macro part of the persons life.
Same. For me the downturn started in 8th grade but it was subtle. I never took on anything challenging just doing what I knew would het me a good grade. I was a fraid of being the "bad kid" so going to school wasn't that hard though I did call in sick sometimes when I really wasn't unless you count sick of school. Then I went to college and it was such a struggle.
Crap! It's the same for me, but my decline was more visible in university. Not only grades but I felt like constantly going through the fog, plus I started feeling like a failure...
@@edithflores2015 same for me in uni.. I did well in highschool, but as soon as uni hit, I just simply cannot get myself to do the work i am supposed to do well and my grades really took a hit. Now Im in second year but I feel like a failure sometimes too
As a female who was diagnosed with ADHD in my 20's, I know how hard this is to get through.
Hi may i ask, how do you get it diagnosed at the age of 20's? I tried to talk about this to my doctor several times but I was dismissed everytime
@@miyuhikari Because I got referred to an actual psychiatrist and took several cognitive and screening tests that concluded that I had it, that I had since childhood. I guess I got lucky and had a progressive doctor, I have been on the proper meds ever since!
@@heatherwright3981 Thanks for your thoughtful sharing! Hope everything goes well for you 💕
@@heatherwright3981does it get any easier after the meds?
@@hanza69 Somewhat. I am on a pretty low dose of Focalin, which is a stimulant medication, and for me it is the only thing that works. I have tried antidepressant alternatives but they just don't work for me. However, you have to have cognitive therapy as well. I cannot live without lists, and even an old school calendar to keep track of important dates, events and appointments. Plus, you have to remember that stimulant meds have very short half live's (mine wear off in about 4-6 hrs), so for me, I take them later in the morning so they can last most of the day. Also, when you take those kinds of meds, your sleep is going to be disrupted for a couple of weeks until your body adjusts. They have made a great difference in my concentration levels and attention span, so if you go that route I hope they work for you!
My sweetheart's diagnosed with ADHD, and ever since we started dating, I've come to realize how much I relate and empathize with her struggles! I've never got a professional diagnosis on the matter and it made me curious to learn more and seek out proper help, for both of us.
And while living with an ADHD person can be a bit challenging, I wouldn't have it with anybody else. She's the most caring and passionate pumpkin ever, and I'm committed to making living a little easier for her. C:
Thank you for this video!
I love how dedicated you are to your spouse, and are understanding of her difficulties! I often hear about people who are disrespected or treated with a lack of understanding by the people in their life because of their disorders, and it warms my heart to hear how you’re accepting and understanding of your spouse!
Adorable couple goals! You are an amazing partner!
dude thats so cool! I hope y’all will a full and happy life together
Bless you. Shes incredibly lucky to have you. Im adhd and my husband is inattentive adhd (which he insists on calling ADD. Which is fine). We do our best but we love each other regardless
I CRIED THATS SO SWEET :(
My mother refuses to believe that I have ADHD. So I haven’t gotten a proper diagnosis, my father has it, and I show all symptoms.
It is extremely difficult for me to socialize because people find me odd or weird, and it’s generally heartbreaking.
At least I am aware of the symptoms, most women who struggle with it don’t even know, and it’s terrible to not know.
Same i can't really socialize with people
Same my parents don't want to believe I may have it as well they think it doesn't exist and that it's not a real thing.
Same...
Idk if I have ADHD but I do see symptoms in me, including a bunch of tests online saying there is a high probability I have it.... It's hard, innit?
It helps if you think of socializing as a skill that is developed. Which it is. People think it is innate, but it's learned as a baby/child, so that's why it's viewed that way. I find this approach works well for things like this. Self examination/awareness is key for everyone, but those with ADHD have to work harder at it. The flip side of the coin, is that after working harder at it, you'll understand it better than most.
I appreciate the calm voice-over. It’s not loud and bombastic which helps people who are easily overwhelmed by loudness.
I totally agree
I wasn't diagnosed until the age of 47. I can attest it has been brutal. The diagnosis was such a relief.
41, but same, ik what you mean.
Poor you. I was 8 and i dont think i would be where iam now in live if i hadnt
How did you go about getting diagnosed? I just turned 40 and have seriously been considering pursuing a diagnosis.
@@abipoole2859 I started seeing a psychologist for my anxiety. As things progressed she suggested it and referred me to a psych NP who specializes in ADHD. I started meds that day.
Happy for you that you finally have your answers, I can imagine the relief must have been immense.
I’m 41 and struggling to understand if I have ADHD or not. I wouldn’t be surprised as I relate to every ‘symptom’ mentioned in the video and a lot of the ones mentioned elsewhere but I have no idea how to even broach the subject with my doctor to start the journey to diagnosis. Every time I see a doctor I’m told there’s nothing wrong with me (even the time I had a prolapsed disc in my lower back that was pressing on the nerve, yowza. They said I ‘didn’t look like I was walking in pain’ 😩) so I’m scared to bring it up in case I get looked down on or dismissed… hello rejection sensitivity lol 😅
Any hints welcomed!
I´ve been diagnosed with ADHD and a high IQ since I was 5 years old. Most people think that is awesome to have a genetic advantage, but that combination was brutal because only by having ADHD I struggled to pay attention to simple things and with a high IQ I get bored so easily, so it was quite a challenge for my family in order that I could finish school in a proper way. Honestly speaking, I´ve always felt that having ADHD has been such an advantage and interesting perspective because due to my natural curiosity, I get obsessed by any random topics and I am able to connect different fields in order to have a wider view. One of my biggest strength has been having ADHD because I can create and organize information in a way that most people can´t do it. So for girls that are just like me, believe me there´s nothing wrong with you and it´s amazing how your brain works and evolves in a creative rich enviroment, I know it can be tough but you got this, there´s so much beauty within you.
Thanks for the words of encouragement I was also diagnosed (in my opinion most likely misdiagnosed or wrongly diagnosed) in kindergarten and the most trouble I had is my parents thinking I’m different/not normal/slow and stupid and act inappropriately for my age but truly I think I have a high in but no subject that is mandatory to take in school interested my enough to keep my attention and then in school when I was able to pick the classes that interested me they told me no that class will be to hard for you and wouldn’t let me take it like a foreign language or psychology so my main struggle is getting my parents to let me enjoy life the way I want to and do the things I want because I’m already 25 and still not dating and doing things people my age do
The thing I hate about this society is that neurodivergent people are so good at many things but the average iq neurotypicals took over and added all the useless stuff like school money etc and then they make fun of us because we can’t deal with dumb people stuff
I struggled with my “gifted kid” status too. I wanted to do everything at 110% but if I struggled (math being my SOLE weakness in high school) it devastated me and I couldn’t be fucked and got bored bc I was discouraged.
@@mimibelta259 25 and not have a lover ? Who cares , don't let people tell you what you should do just cause your "in the age for it " be you and find your path your way ❤
This is so relatable and I'm so glad to see the comments are supportive ("gifted" ADHD can bother those who don't identify with that). You're in a great place - keep sharing your unique skills and perspective!!!
When I was diagnosed in high school, they said it was "mild," because I wasn't hyperactive and was really good at looking like I was paying attention while being miles away. It still deeply affects me and my relationships in adulthood. I'm so used to smiling, while inside I'm a mess.
Same
Me too they only diagnosed the super disruptive hyper kids when i was young.
I noticed that in psychiatry diagnoses and their severity is based on how much it affects OTHERS rather than the sufferer. This is an absolute shame.
@@alegria1813 true
I can force myself to pay attention to boring lessons and conversations but it feels painful. I think a lot of women with ADHD just have a super high “pain tolerance” and are good at pretending to be fine, when we suffer a lot inside.
As a recently diagnosed ADHDer (I'm a man) it wasn't recognised as ADHD because my symptoms were inside in my head, not the typical busy boy. Because there is more studies about ADHD in women it helps men too who share those same symptoms that are typically common in women. This is why inclusion of all sexes is important and strengthes us all
100% true.🙏❤️
So true! ❤
Great point. Thank you for sharing 🙏✨
It's actually the other way round. You can say it hasn't properly been studied on males though.
I'm glad us being included can also help men who have been studied this whole time. Thank you for once again bringing the focus back to men when we finally have video focused on women 🙄
"Do you find yourself easily emotional?"
Me already having a breakdown just by watching this video especially after knowing that menopause can decrease dopamine and serotonin levels and realizing that it's only gonna get sadder and harder than this in the future.
Wait till perimenause hits and adds an extrs layer of wtf is happening
@@digitalcassette5what age did you start peri menopause..? 😕
@amyharr2447 early 40rs. But like most diagnosis pertaining to female biology. No one knows or explains anything to you. especially Drs. Had to deduct it on my own.
It doesn’t have to be worse. I’m 69 and just diagnosed. On medication now and it has changed my life!❤❤❤
My parents both agree i probably have ADHD( and/or autism) but dont want a diagnosis because they dont see any reasons a diagnosis would help. To anyone struggling: you are loved very much, dont give up hope❤
Diagnosis does not help, these so called Human doctors can't fix anything, the only one who can fix yourself is you.
Well, a diagnosis helps you to understand yourself better and helps you to know how to reduce your symptoms. Sometimes medication also helps and therefore a diagnosis can actually be really good for you, in my opinion.
Start playing Games and watching Anime, keep yourself busy 24/7 and start to love yourself...your world will change.
Yes it's as easy as it sounds. I've been through hell. Prayed, hoped and wished to die every night for 3 years, still waiting to see the End of this life's story.
..I hope everything ends, Death is truly a divine mercy, it frees a soul from everything....Death has became your friend the moment your tiny heart started beating. Appreciate the painful Truth Death, Life is a Beautiful Lie.
@@severelyenchantingtrashwell said human.
ADHD is not an illness, My theory proved that all these (Bipolar, ADHD, PTSD, Dissociative identity disorder, Schizophrenia, Psychosis etc) so called mental illnesses are actually the next evolutionary step of mankind. Yes, your brain is creating chaotic solution to Adapt in this messed up Generation...
"Do not fret my kind, You're not alone"
I was finally diagnosed last year at age 41 after spending 2 years struggling to get myself the help I knew I needed with no external support or help finding resources, making calls, and doing the work. That's why it took so long. My ADHD (and discovered I have autism, too) was the roadblock I was fighting to get help to fight the roadblock.
My life began to make so much more sense after I started getting treatment.
I still feel like an outsider, and still struggle with all 7 of the questions at the end of this video. Learning to unmask is an almost impossible challenge.
There are times when I slide back into rage about how I was treated throughout my life up to now.
Same here. I struggle with the same disorders and it is hard to move past the pain others have caused me.
same, my family talks about my diagnosis with shame and encourage me to just get ower it (my literal autistic symptoms), as if its an illness and I need to be ”cured”. Mean time they do not help me at all. I get angry thinking of how my childself was treated by the adults around me and Also how I an treated now by my own family.
I think the «hyper active» part often manifests as physical tension, fidgeting and racing thoughts. Often due to societal expectations to how girls and women is «supposed to behave».
I’ve been chronicly ill and fatigued half my life due to undiagnosed ADHD.
the fatigue part hitsmy pretty hard. even as i child i couldn't keep up with other children, i would get tired after 5 minutes of play. today i'm struggling BAD with fatigue, depression, lack of motivation and chronic burnout. it feels like an invisible handicap/illness that makes people think i'm just lazy.
@@thecozyconstellation I feel you🥺 is hard
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When?
You too!
Thank you 😊
"You got good grades (40 years ago) therefore you don't have ADHD" 😢
"you know every word to every song by your favorite band, so obviously you just aren't trying hard enough."
"you make it at the medical school" therefore you dont have ADHD
The exact cause of adhd is still unknown and needs more research
Yet this badly qualified fake professionals has the audacity to say that
Grades aren't the only thing about adhd
I have bad grades but thats not only thing about me!
I have time blindness, organizing issues, audiotory processing issues, daydreaming all day long, forgetfulness and so on!
You at least need 8 to 10 symptom to finally make a decision
Like the true professionals check on 3 sectors academy, work and life
Not just grades!
Exactly the same
So did I have good grades ... But did my subsequent work history match my grades ... No 😔 ...
I didn't even know I had ADHD was I diagnosed 4 years ago ....I thought it was just ASD ... I'm a sloth so did not present with hyperactivity.... How could I be adhd?
My whole life makes more sense now. And the pills work magic
I was diagnosed in my 50s. It’s been a relief to give a name to what I’ve struggled with my entire life.
This brought tears to my eyes. I feel so seen. I’m in the process of being evaluated for ADHD, autism, and possibly PTSD.
Hi there! As a female diagnosed with ADD as a kid, which is now another form of ADHD. These are all so very true. I will admit I've gotten more emotional as I've gotten older. And it's really hard to "manage" the negative emotions as life just seems to get harder. Guys do seem to get more spotlight (?) on the whole thing. That's because us girls are taught early on how to mask our ADHD. And when you bottle up those negative emotions it takes a toll on you. So to all of those ladies out there struggling, just know that we are there with you! Please stay strong. Now if you will excuse me, I should be asleep. Stay safe!
You too🤗
I just want to say this to all the women in their 20s and 30s who have just received their diagnosis… some healthcare professionals won’t understand our struggle. Don’t let those people stop you from finding the providers who care and want to help. Don’t give up on yourself. Find support in friends and family. You deserve to be happy ❤
Just got diagnosed last year age 27. So much of my life makes sense now. I didn’t recognize my symptoms until I spent time alone. I always spent time with other people before this which was a way to hyper focus 😥 and soothe my discomfort from my symptoms
I was extremely fortunate to be diagnosed at a young age. My teacher brought up to my mom that i could possibly have ADHD, without her i would most likely still be undiagnosed and unmedicated almost 10 years later. Thank you Mrs S!
I'm so grateful to my son's grade 1/2 teacher. She hesitantly suggested that we should look into ADHD for him, and after a struggle from me because "he's perfectly normal, his spirit isn't broken, that's all" I decided to try him on meds. And WOW his life improved. And it was also the 💡 moment for me to get diagnosed and treated for ADHD myself. I saw her years later and thanked her. She changed our lives. 🥰
My mom always thought I had either autism or adhd and I never knew this until I found adhd content online and mentioned it to her. Ive never been tested but I’m almost 100% sure I have it. I’m positive my dad is adhd but is too stubborn to ever get tested for it and my sister and her kids also have it. My sister also said she has thought I’m adhd since I was small.
Whenever parent teacher conferences rolled around I was always reprimanded for not getting my work done because I was chatting with others, I’m constantly zoning out during conversations because of distractions, cleaning my room is a constant struggle between lack of motivation and finding distractions in my room as I clean, my self esteem has always been a dumpster fire, hyper fixations on art projects or tasks constantly keep me from doing what I need to do and so many more instances.
I seriously need a diagnosis but I don’t make enough to afford that. It seriously sucks.
I also have the same symptoms
Thank you for touching this subject. I was diagnosed at 30 year old in France. After seeing doctors who told me impossible because I'm a girl, I went through uni (with litters of coffee) and one who told me he didn't believe in ADHD.
OMG I HAVE ALL off the struggles mentioned in the video from beginning till the end I’m dreaming I’m hyper sensitive I have a lack off concentration I’m suicidal and I have a VERY low self esteem because I felt and was treated differently in school since 1st grade 😭❤️ thanks for the support tho
I hope you'll get through this ❤ We all love and support you ❤️
I'm right there with you. Reading your comment makes me feel less alone, and I hope I can do the same for you. Lets keep going and meet back here in a year. I love you, buddy.
We'll get through this 💗
I also could say yes to all, except maybe the last one. I can be a good active listener, but after a while my brain can't process the information anymore and it gets all jumbled up in my head. I literally forget what people have told me when it is too much information at once. Does that constitute a symptom of adhd or add?
0:54 numbers
1:47 misdiagnosis and undertreatment
2:39 the impact
3:21 social effects
4:21 mental health impacts (triggerwarning)
6:07 ADHD symptom checklist
-- 6:30 Hypersensitivity to sounds or smells
-- 6:35 Day dreaming (mom brain)
-- 6:39 Lacking motivation
-- 6:46 Tendency for insecurity
-- 6:50 Low self esteem struggles
-- 6:54 Easily emotional
-- 6:58 Having trouble listening
Thanks a lot 💖
I don’t understand how day dreaming is “mom brain”?
Is it like how new mothers are spacey??
@@missXsammi not only "new" mothers.. you must understand that "old" moms were not in your scope of observation, due to your age bias. "old" moms are just as day dreamy as "new" moms, in this regard (of course, absolutes are not absolutely true); a mom being busy all day taking a space out break to contemplate / plan / worry etc was and is still a thing.
The part of this video which says, “our heart goes out to all of them and to the people who are trying their best to extend help”…. this just made me cry. I hope I can stop struggling one day. 💔
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1). The numbers 0:54
2). Misdiagnosis and undertreatment 1:46
3). The impact 2:38
4). Social effects 3:21
5). Metal health impacts (trigger warning) 4:09
6). An ADHD symptom checklist 6:06
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
"Are you easily emotional?" me crying at this video
I was diagnosed when I was like 13, I'm one of the lucky ones. I still got bullied and I have severe social anxiety because of the bullying. I see myself as a burden, completely useless because that's what everyone called me when I was just a kid with A.D.D. It's no joke lemme tell you.
I was diagnosed with 8. 13 is still late. Half of your school time is over. Undiagnised ADHD makes it very difficult to get good education.
I brought up my concern of having ADHD to my school and they basically said "You can manage class work just fine so you can't have ADHD" I can manage but I can't thrive. Also a lot of the symptoms affect me in my daily life, not just school. I feel like I have to wait until I'm an adult to go to a doctor and figure this out.
Fam. Kick and scream till they listen. I was in the same boat, and I wish that I had a diagnosis while I was in school.
School is so structured that it's much easier to learn and apply tools and strategies to manage ADHD in a way that will not only improve your current situation, but also make it much easier to continue to do it moving forward in life.
I passed on going to post secondary school because I knew I would never finish any of the assignments. I don't regret the decision, I know that I was correct about myself, but I deeply wish that it was something that I was equipped to have accomplished.
I managed to get a job that I'm satisfied with being in, but I only ended up there because my boyfriend and I went to a job fair and I applied at a couple of the same places as him. I worked several soul destroying minimum wage jobs before this one, and that easily could have been my whole life.
I failed upwards, and certainly didn't end up in a field that I'm passionate about.
If you can make better decisions than me, I'd really advise it.
I know this by myself..... =_= 'you have good grades, you can't have adhd....' and ignoring all that rest of my struggles. Im sad yoi struggle the same but it feels good to read I am nit the only one. - where in ths together : )
exactly. we can manage and just barely get by.... but we can't thrive.
talk to your doctor about getting tested
I’m afab and I got diagnosed recently at the ripe age of 20. I had suspected for a couple years and getting the diagnosis was one of the best things that ever happened to me
I just got diagnosed with ADHD. I understand my childhood into adulthood why I struggled so much. It doesn't help my chronic depression and anxiety.
For me, realizing I have adhd helped with my depression and anxiety, and they haven't come back since. I think I stopped blaming myself for everything. Instead I understand that I have a disability, which needs to be accommodated. Watching How to ADHD -videos helped a lot, especially at the beginning.
as a man who hates himself, struggled badly in school and felt like i was just a really dumb kid for years people pleasing everyone and faking a smile... i feel this.
I was diagnosed attention deficit disorder from a very young age. I was lucky to have been able to get help from my parents at a young age. Unfortunately I qualify under all those symptoms at the end. Every single one of those is sometimes and often very intense and horrible to go through, especially being at college for the first time in my life and not having any friends or any backbone to gain some even ground in a social aspect. I’m mostly by myself and in my room, and I hate being so alone. Never have I thought about the idea of dying or hurting myself, but I have thought a few times about just being replaced or disappearing. I think too much that it would be better that I hadn’t existed. Everyone around the entire campus kind of ghosts me. It’s actually been like that since I was four and moved. Not many souls gave a single glance or thought or even consideration to me. If I had to give a number for teachers that saw and liked me, I could probably count that number on my own right hand. That, after being in school for 12 years of my life, and everyone else in my classes ghosting me and treating me like I didn’t exist: it felt like a curse. It’s kinda sad how people like I are completely unnoticed until we finally speak out and break our social chains. And sometimes when we do, we’re given a negative feedback. I surely got it a lot.
College so far isn’t very similar, but there are times that I just wish I was just seen by some for once. I plan to be an author so that maybe I could make any kind of moving change on this, but whether that goes good or not is a good question. I always feel so alone.
Let me hope the person who reads this starts to think more heavily on the people in their lives and around them more. For a good majority of my life, I’ve been ignored. The one fate I would never wish on my worst enemy is loneliness or being ignored like I am or like anyone like me is experiencing. Let me keep breathing on a shallow hope that someday I’ll be seen, while I give all my heart to those who need to be seen. Thanks for reading if you made it this far, and start looking forward.
It really frustrates me to hear how even today in several medical trials women are excluded for several reasons. I'll finally get myself tested for ADS this autumn and I'm really hoping that those neurological tests will finally give me some answers
Internalized all my life, but I'm a man who always checked every "women" boxes.
At 36 I'm finally officially diagnosed, and we also suspect hormones issues... Might explain things.
that's just what i was about to say after the first line, better check the hormone levels.
"fun" fact : i started looking into my issues at 36 too :)
Hi! Recently diagnosed AFAB person here! I love this video SO MUCH. Almost all of these rang true to what my situation was like before I was diagnosed. And I was pretty sure I had ADHD for months before I was brave enough to ask for help and eventually get diagnosed. We definitely need more videos like these. Your channel has been so amazing to me and so many others, keep up the good work :)
This is the best video for women with adhd i have seen. It's frustrating, since most studies are made with hyperactive people, when you have a distracted, inner type of adhd. Not even doctors know how to treat you. I take meds, thankfully they work for me, but I lost my hope to find a therapst that knows how to treat my distracted adhd type.
This video describes me completely! I had undiagnosed ADHD for so many years and just found out less than a year ago
Thank you so much for this, I think it is ridiculous that so many men are so easily diagnosed but when it comes to women (at least in my experience) they say it’s just your hormones or something. I went the longest time without being diagnosed with ADHD and growing up I always hated myself for being “different” from everyone else, but now I am able to embrace who I am and I sincerely hope that other women don’t go through some of the things I did before being able to embrace themselves for who they are ❤
I was diagnosed with adhd at 28 y.o in the second year of graduate school. Was kinda disappointed cause I thought if I keeping working harder, I could fix me. I'm also relieved because I now know I'm not broken, I just have to set up my world ( to the best of my ability)to work for the way my brain thinks.❤
I am in my 20s, and adhd without treatment....it drives me crazy! My grades were great, everything was great. After becoming an adult EVERYTHING started to fall apart... I am messy, impulsive so I do not so smart things, my everyday life is chaos....I constantly feel like I am not enough. I forget to eat, I don't remember to check my bank account... And I get stuck reading Wikipedia for hours. I forget to answer messages so I lose friends and opportunities...
My mind is like a beehive... I can't study at school, I can't motivate myself to go there, even though I KNOW I really really would need to!....huge anxiety to appear somewhat adult, because I feel like a big child that everyone needs to just help all the time... I KNOW what to do, but I... it just...not happening! Anxiety makes it worse, I am so afraid doing things wrong that I don't do anything...
My ability to regulate my emotions is terrible, my thoughts jump from idea to idea...so I just hide everything inside. I seem like robot to people who don't know me. Those who do, know that my emotions are all over the place...
I am talented in multiple ways, I learn SUPER FAST and I am at least somewhat good in every job. I know that. But it is hard to remember, the chaos follows... After a great start all is suddenly mess again.
So how do I control it...I don't start. Even the small tasks seem overwhelming, I can't break them into smaller parts...
So basically, I stay at home... Trying to remember to eat, to sleep and move... But I can't do it...
I don't go anywhere, because everywhere I go, the chaos goes.
I was lucky to be diagnosed as a girl with adhd with 8 years. Thanks to an amazing teacher who suspected it. It helped me a lot as i got the right treatment.
I been diagnosed in the late 90s as a child with ADD but all I got was a pill. Honestly it was better not to share that I have it. It didn't matter if they believed ADHD was a thing or not, it was more you got treated negatively after saying it. I am still very cautious and I still deal with it on your own because I have to say the world is still unfriendly to my way of doing things and how I think. At least there is more published content out there to help adults with ADHD now. I just wish it felt less lonely in the hardships I deal with.
Same. As a woman with ADD, I learned quickly that nothing good comes from my workplace knowing about my diagnosis.
honestly... people who have ad(h)d need to socialize and how can one socialize, if not talking about things? Second; even if its still treated as a deficid: the more people hear about it, the more known iit gets, whats known caises fewer fear.
As a job I worked in care for people with special needs, mental and physical disabilities. Im also inclisive assistent and feel like hiding may prevent YOU from a bit of harm, yes, but also lets you hide and live in the shadows. But it defiinately wont shape the world youd like to live in: an inclusive, sensitive world, filled with love.
we all can help to shape this - its a hard fight - but worth iit in the end.
An other plus is: you have the 'kind heart filter' alsways on: if people treat you like junk you know it right from the start and this also can be helpful. Avoid that persons for they are dopaminekillers : )
@@Laghagua I'm waiting until the generation that thinks that beating children with ADHD will cure them dies before I ever consider disclosing my ADD again.
My brother and I have similar diagnosis in mental disorders. My brother was diagnosed much younger though. I remember very clearly when I finally got diagnosed having a breakdown with my psychologist screaming about how I matter too and how much I was hurting. I took four more years to get diagnosed with depression and even today I still deal with "Help your brother. He's special. You don't need help like he does"
I like this animator's style! Especially with the beautiful leaves and shading!!
I have all these symptoms can totally relate
I've been diagnosed already but I know how heart-breaking it truly is that ADHD in women is so underdiagnosed
I was diagnosed with ADHD this year (I'm 24 now) and am currently on medication. I have to say that the diagnosis has completed change my life and even have helped me healing some misunderstoods about my self and my capacities along my life, and even more in my childhood. It was pretty discouraging been told by my parents and teachers "I know that you have so much potential, but you're so lazy". Of course that cracked my self-esteem and other parts of my life but mostly my self-awareness. I'm so grateful with my psychiatrist for listen and empathy, my life have changed for good and I'm even experiencing my career with so much joy, because I had the passion for it, but it was so difficult for me to pay attention in class or even read things that I was truly interested.
If you're or you've been experiencing something of this I recommend you to find some medical attention 🙏🏻
My 20y.o. brother hears this phrase like every day. I know, he's not a girl and it's kinda off topic, but he has same struggles as our country isn't supportive to such people .He was diagnosed with ADHD as a child but nobody cared about that, so he was bullied ENTIRE school years and had bad marks, although he was brilliant in other things like writing, researching some extra info, remembering. My family didn't support him either. Now he wants so much to became 'normal', to study in uni 'normally', and I know, he puts 200% of his effort in this and still get not so good results. I do want help him so much😔Also, I'm myself kinda have symptoms of adhd, idk if I have it
I was diagnosed at 49 after pushing to be assessed. I struggled with mental health and what I now know is burnout, but I kept being told I had Borderline personality Disorder. I was angry that no one listened to me or cared! Then I hit menopause and finally they paid attention
I don’t want you to feel pressured- but would you and your team be able to cover ASHD/Autism in students? Usually teachers and classmates who have nit been taught, or have either of these don’t understand our struggles. I love you videos and you have helped me through my mental health journey- (including giving my courage to reach out to my partners) we love you
6:42 hope that "lack of motivation" is dishes as synonymous to "overwhelmed and dont know where to start" and the general prioritosong problem.because everything is a task..while teying not to be visibly hyperactive too much...
As a child I struggled a lot with such, but was never treated properly for it, only by being scolded A LOT and years of being abused. It wasn’t until I was an adult that I was finally diagnosed with adhd nonattentive type, basically without the hyperactivity, it was my brain that would never stop racing. I have other mental health disorders and was treated with those with medication, but I told my psych dr that though I wasn’t as depressed I still felt like I was losing my mind and always on the verge of losing control of my mind and body. I wished people were aware that add and adhd also affects females just as much as guys. I am doing much better now. Better late than never I suppose. 🙂 🤷♀️
That's why I always found these statistics strange. Studying this topic in college, they wanted to make it absolutely certain that boys had more ADHD than girls, while I was constantly finding reports of late diagnoses in women... And I also always thought I had something like that or high abilities, even my childhood teachers thought the same but they never found anything fixed, so I was never diagnosed. Bullying, the feeling of being different and depressive thougths has always been present and continues to this day and I don't know what to do... Well, thank you for the awesome video 💙
A friend once suggested I had ADHD becuz of my writing hobby. I write what I know, which means my characters most often have dealt with some type of struggle that I myself have faced as well. As I was going through the checklist, I was unconsciously saying yes to a lot of them, but I dunno if I want to get diagnosed. Visits to any type of doctor scare me, and I don't see the point in knowing, so Imma just continue as I am. If it actually starts impacting my life to the point others notice, then sure, I'll do something about it. But it's not my highest priority right now, and I wish the best of luck to those who are brave enough to do something I could never do: get professional help
I really hope you can overcome your anxiety of going to a doctor. Getting a diagnosis is pretty important, since it can help you be more aware of yourself and also to reduce any negative symptoms that you may not even realize you were showing. But, it is your choice, so you don't have to if you don't want to. However, I do recommend that if it's possible, you might wanna get a diagnosis.
If you feel like you might need medication to help you function somewhere down the line, then you should seek a diagnosis. Until then, you don't need one.
This sounds like how I started to see how I was different from others (not diagnosed but have started speculating that I have combined or inattentive ADHD). My adhd friends (hyperactive) started to notice things about me that reminded me about themselves, and pointed it out. And after a lot of research after wanting to learn about the topic, and I show a lot of signs, along with my dad having it. I just don’t wanna tell my parents just in case I’m just being dumb.
I’d like to think I don’t have it. Just to be sure.
I second what @@quaerite. said! Definitely your choice, but not a bad idea. I do want to add though that if you decide not to get a diagnosis, you could still try researching about it and learning about it to see if you can find some dots to connect to it from your life! You could try incorporating some new habits people with ADHD usually add to help themselves and see if they work for you too. Even without an official diagnosis, being aware you might have it can help a ton when it comes to learning about yourself :)
I just got diagnosed last year in my early 30s. It's amazing how much this explains and how much these experiences shared in the comments are so familiar. I was even evaluated by a psychiatrist when I was ten, while in counseling for depression and suicidal thoughts, just to ensure I didn't have any bigger issues. I think he missed something pretty big. Then again, knowing the treatment plans in the early 2000s, it may have been for the best. I wish it wasn't this messy.
Similar to others’s, my diagnosis came in my mid-30s. It was slightly
Complicated because I also have general anxiety disorder, which has a lot of overlap in how it manifest. My husband -who also has adhd and was diagnosed as a kid- was actually the one to identify it and encouraged me to talk to my doctor. It has been night and day being able to actually treat both of these conditions and as I learn more, sooo much of my behavior and struggles with school and works makes sense. Really appreciate Psych2go’s efforts to increase knowledge on this!
Love this video! I'm noticing you guys haven't done an Autism in Women episode, this is a good start.
i mean yeah, bipolar disorder and bpd were brought up wayyyyy before adhd, in my case. i spent years mentioning it and it took countless failed treatments for them to listen and consider it.
i was already diagnosed last year (i'm 23 now) but the fact that i ticked ALL of the boxes in the checklist has me giggling and then nearly crying. thank you so much for this video.
This has helped a lot, I don't really know if I do have ADHD but this made me think about it a lot more, Thank you Psych2Go
This video made me cry. Thank you for answering an issue I've been struggling for years to come to terms with. ❤
Thank you for sharing! I am 47 and the struggle is real. 😢
I've doubted it for awhile, now this makes it more clear because I trust this channel. It's really hard and ADHD or mental health is not really open to share in the society where I live.
My dad doesn't believe in these kind of things and refuses to listen to me.. i relate with all the symptoms and its a big struggle daily and in university. It's very difficult to speak about it with my own people and sometimes it feels like nobody really understands, you know? Some people think im dumb or stupid and others dont really believe the struggles we go through, its very difficult to do your best with this situation happening. You are not alone, fighting!
This was the only video I could finish. Thank you to your calm voice.
I recognise all of these sings in me. It's been a year since I've started to look for a professional to help me diagnose adhd but in my country it is really hard to find one as an adult.
I'm 32, and both my partner and mum think I have ADHD but the GP refuses to give me a review and because of that all I get is "oh you'll be ok" and sweep it under the rug
I basically meet all the criteria and lately I've been thinking if I might have some form of ADHD, because exactly as you say, I'm often distracted and confused, I loose my thinks all the time and can't pay attention during subjects that don't interest me (sometimes even the ones that do.) I'm not hyperactive though, more like the opposite, and I daydream all the time. It's interesting that the more I learn about this condition the more I think this might be the case with me, though of course I can't know for sure, I guess the "symptoms" I have are much more common than that.
I was the typical good student, not hyperactive, but I would daydreaming all the time, and still understood things. Now as a young adult, I dont act my age most of the times, and I struggle with social anxiety, self doubt and I tend to get depressed some times. A diagnosis wont change a thing for me, and who I am but I would like to know. Might be autistic too, but I can function well, most of the times. Luckily I get help and support, but its a big world, its overwhelming at times. But I know, I am not alone in this.
Anyone can have ADHD, regardless of their sex. Whether it’s a woman or a man, support those around you when they seek it. The best person is a person who cares.
Everyone has their differences, but the only way to bring awareness to everyone’s problems is to bring awareness to everyone.
it is laughable if someone tries to bring a war about sex and more so if these things are need to be said(what charles said)
thats right
@@MiriadCalibrumAstar this channel has brought conflict to sexes before, this is not new.
several years back they released a video talking about how all gay men are racist, and all lesbian women are open, accepting, loving, etc. dunno if its still up or not.
All lives matter 🤡
Oh brother. Why does talking about the intricacies of the way women struggle with a particular thing always make insecure men feel the need to include themselves in the conversation. Let me guess, you’ve recently commented “not all men” under a video of a girl talking about getting harassed on the street 😂
Thankfully, because of social media is one of the reasons I got myself diagnosed after recognizing all of the symptoms described in these kinds of videos.
I was 15 turning 16 a month later when I got the final results.
Even getting the diagnosis explained so much. I always felt so different, but just blamed it on different personalities. It’s kind of a relief, and it’s nice getting help from other who go through the same and knowing who I can talk to about this.
I got my diagnosis thanks to Jessica McCabe and her How to ADHD channel
I was misdiagnosed as ADHD since childhood. I believed it for years, well into my 30s. Turns out ADHD was wrong and I actually had Dissociative Identity Disorder and autism.
That makes sense, I’ve heard adhd and autism have a lot of similar symptoms
At certain points in my life, I have had physisians say to me, "Well, what difference is a diagnosis going to make?" about various concerns I have had. At 56, I was diagnosed with ADD, by my female GP, who is a wonderful and caring physician. At 50, I was diagnosed with AS and hEDS, and my doctor at the time just brushed it off and called me a hypochondriac. These are both serious conditions, dramatically affecting the quality of one's life. Women have, historically, been treated horribly in the medical system. Thank God there are more female doctors now, and we are encouraging more girls into STEM.
Thank you for the highly informative content that you put out on this channel. Making the world a better place is everyone's responsibility. Thank you for helping others to achieve that goal with knowledge, understanding, and hopefully empathy. 🙏 ❤
I love all of your videos !!
Dude, that checklist was wild. I keep on saying yes after yes 😱
I love your vids they have helped me alot
I keep seeing people say " don't self-diagnose" gimme the money for a diagnosis then , I am broke ,I can not afford to go to a doctor let alone a psychologist …If all the men in my family are diagnosed and NONE of the women are then clearly we are missing something ? I'd rather assume that all the symptoms matching means that I have it rather than waste my food money on a diagnosis that will tell me what I already know.
There’s alternatives that are cheaper, especially if you live in America
once again, women being excluded from medical research and not getting the help they need. just infuriating honestly
Absolutely.
That’s why you should vote with your wallet. Stop giving money to people who hate you and start giving it to doctors who actually give a shit about your health.
This Video made me cry.
I've been masking so many feeling in my childhood and when I grew up. I got my diagnosis a few months ago, having to convince my father, that I've been hinding all my struggles.
I am also working on unmasking as much as I can, trying to understand that my intense emotional reaction is actually valid. It's still a work in progress but thanks to education videos like this one I am working my way up slowly.
When I was 20, a close family friend pointed out that I could have ADHD since I presented with symptoms of it which could contribute to my depression. I had a breakdown after that but I don’t know why. My mom just got mad thinking I was looking for attention or a reason to be mentally damaged. Three years later, I’m trying to get a diagnosis but my psychiatrist tells me I can’t receive a conclusive diagnosis until my depression is managed.
People with ADHD are estimated to be 2.7 times more likely to experience depression than the general population. It's estimated 1/5 to 1/3 people with ADHD also have depression.
When comorbidity is that high, imo if a patient comes in seeking treatment for one the doctor should be also checking for the other.
From my own experiences with both, I don't believe you can form an effective treatment plan without addressing them at the same time.
The way I see it, it's kind of like drawers. If your drawer has ONE handle, you can open and close it with one hand. But if you try to open a drawer with TWO handles with one hand, chances are it's going to jam and you won't be able to open it.
The two are built differently, and while they are both drawers, the way you interact with them to have effective results is different.
If your psychiatrist isn't providing support for both, they are doing you a disservice
I was one of the few actually diagnosed in childhood. I firmly believe that adding the H to the default prevents many people, especially women, from getting diagnosed.
Well yeah I have all these symptoms ig my parents found out and said that adhd is fake and it didn't exist. Allt of people have told me to go to a psychologist because they can see that I may have it but when I asked my parents they said that I'm not sick and blamed it on the phone
I FINALLY got diagnosed and got started with help. The first few days were the clearest I've ever felt. I realized then that my mind felt fractured normally and medication was the first time my mind felt like it was working as one piece instead of in twenty different directions.
The timing of this video is couldn't be better. I, female 34, have my DIVA Test next Thursday. I'm concerned whether it will be a blessing or a curse.
EDIT: I checked almost the complete checklist. This is becoming more and more real.
Try unmasking the best you can, it'll be alright 😊
@@Trucidekthank you, I'm doing my best. After all, I also do this to become my best self, after I returned my to my true personality.
Try to make it a point to think about each question : "am I masking rn?"
It took me a full year off to do it properly 😅
To any men who may watch this and relate to it: I'm a male (from birth) with ADHD, but I don't have the "typical" male presentation. Every symptom listed at the end of the video is an exact match to my experience, which explains why I didn't get diagnosed until later in adulthood, and only when I researched and sought diagnosis for myself.
Don't give up or feel embarrassed my dudes! Evaluation criteria and procedures are slowly improving, but if you still have to push to get diagnosis and care, it's worth it.
finally i am at time for those videos😅
This message is so important to spread, also regarding undiagnosed ASD (especially woman)
I've been told I may have ADHD by a nurse acquaintance of mine who recognised some of the things I struggle with, I've looked up some of the usual symptoms and recognised them and I also recognise all the symptoms mentioned at the end as things I struggle with.
I also have a lot of coping mechanisms and ways to help myself concentrate in situations like lectures where I struggle to keep my mind on what my professor is saying rather than the way their shoes squeak or their voice echoes or that one stain on the back of the wall or the pattern of the tiles where it was messed up in construction or how the person sitting two rows down is slowly sweating through their shirt and stinks of deo. (Actually, I just looked up ADHD effects on people in uni and apparently, my doodling and phone puzzle games count as stimming? Huh.)
But my mom won't let me get a diagnosis because she thinks that because I have good-ish grades already it's fine and there's "no need to slap a label on myself" for something "as small as that" so.... yeah.
You definitely should seek out a diagnosis and resources. ADHD has an incredibly high comorbidity with psychological disorders. Getting therapy can help with learning useful and healthy strategies to thrive with a neurodivergent brain.
Having a diagnosis does afford you very quantifiable benefits. In many countries it is considered a disability that employers cannot discriminate against you for, and many educational institutions provide additional support for people with ADHD.
Knowledge is power. There is no drawback to having a better understanding of how your brain works and how to best meet your needs. Being aware and educated about your disorder enables you to make informed decisions. Those are the best kind of decisions!
@@Victoria-dh9vb Thanks! It was kind of wild after I wrote that comment? I accidentally ended up diving headfirst into researching what the heck even are adhd symptoms and stuff people do to deal with em and finding out in real time that actually it wasn’t that everyone had the same problems as me and just dealt with them better
This couldn't have come at a better time! ❤❤❤
Could you maybe make a video on the similarities and differences for people with ADHD and for those with Autism? I have been diagnosed with ADHD but sometimes have symptoms that could be ADHD but also could be more related to Autism. Love you guys ❤ Keep up the good work
The leaves look sooo pretty in this art style I love it good job!!
Self-diagnosing me
Start playing Games and watching Anime, keep yourself busy 24/7 and start to love yourself...your world will change.
Yes it's as easy as it sounds. I've been through hell. Prayed, hoped and wished to die every night for 3 years, still waiting to see the End of this life's story.
...I hope everything ends, Death is truly a divine mercy, it frees a soul from everything....Death has became your friend the moment your tiny heart started beating. Appreciate the painful Truth Death, Life is a Beautiful Lie.
I was diagnosed ADHD as a child but my mom was in denial, and convinced me I wasn't and I was never treated. Fast forward to now, at 33, I was re-diagnosed. It's been eye opening and freeing. I'm still working on understanding myself more.
Self-Diagnosed ADHD is still worse.
And apparently, I started a war or something. But I'm not reading all of those replies. Thank you for bringing my comment at the top though, lol.
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Uh what's that vs normal adhd
@@yougotsnipedbro6060He’s referring to people who convince themselves they have ADHD when they actually don’t. It happens very often and it’s offensive to people who actually have it when they complain and paint themselves as victims for a condition that they possibly don’t have.
@@WhatACleanWindow assuming now the intentions? Ask for clarification first.
@@MiriadCalibrumAstar I don’t understand what you mean. I am not trying to be rude, I am simply stating what I see in my own personal life.
This is the time to conclude that I might have an ADHD too or maybe PTSD. I have all of these symptoms that made me scared more. I can'tconsult to doctors because we're poor, and my family will not listen to me. I'm scared to tell them about this.
GIRL SAME
The video is very truthful. I was considered lazy and too inattentive. I got diagnosed very recently with adhd, I'm 16(turning 17 in December).
How does this compare to ADHD in men?