Val, you are a great example of grace with your audience! We are the fortunate ones that your family chooses to share their life with us and we love it!
Val, it breaks my heart that you have to deal with these types of questions but I’m in complete AWE of your composure as you responded to them. I’m a long time viewer of your channel and it’s amazing to see the progress Jessica has made from your early videos to recent ones. It’s SO obvious that she is thriving in her environment surrounded by those who love and support her the most!!! Keep doing what you’re doing Brooks family… you got this!!!!! Much love, DeeAnn in frigid CT (a transplant from springlike GA) lol
How generous of you to share and educate we who watch / follow your adult child ( and yours) daily life … it’s important to learn there are different paths for every individual and you explained it so well ! Thank you
What's wrong with people?? I have heard all about the 'group home' option ever since my son was a child. I used to get angry with people but now I respond with, "That might be a good option for him.....when I'm dead!!!!." Formal education and therapy is important and valuable, and are available to special needs kids till age 21. Love is a great catalyst for teaching and learning in a home setting. So many consider special needs children a burden, and there are difficult days. Many parents, such as myself, feel honored and privileged to share our lives with them.
I'm sorry you have to even address comments like this. She is a beautiful person and you're a beautiful family. I see a family full of love, that's thriving. God bless you all. 💐
I hear this too, I have raised my 24 yr old grandaughter who has MR and autism, since she was a baby. People who do not live in our shoes have NO idea about our lives! Not every disability is the same! I am going on 70 and we have no one else to take care of her. Just my husband and I. I fear group homes because of the horror stories I have heard! I love her so much and I am worried about when I die where she will end up! I do most everything for her and will continue as long as I can, she is my heart and a joy in my life!
I love your videos, and I think your family is wonderful. I've skipped over this video many times because I knew it would make me cringe. I have a beautiful daughter who has just happens to have different needs. She was in public school and seemed to love it, until she didn't. She is verbal, but her expressive language just isn't there to tell me why. I think these teachers didn't understand her, and made it a stressful environment for her. I pulled her out, and we homeschool. I know her better than anyone, and I push her to her potential. She is not grade level, but she is learning continually. I love her, and do my very best. My family is amazing, and they often tell me how far she has come with me teaching her. It's hard because I have lots of things to do, and little time. It's stressful bc some days i feel like im failing. Its also rewarding. The time I spend with her is precious to me. I know, and more importantly, she knows that she is safe and loved. There are also people who think she needs to be in school. These are ppl who are relatives who never see my kids, acquaintances, and educators who have no idea what is best for my family. I get Momma bear rage, and I will dwell on these comments for....well, I'm still dwelling, so I can't tell you just how long, lol. Just know that so many people think you are doing the best job with Jess. She is kind, loving, funny, and smart. You are so lucky to have her, and I know you all agree. I myself suffer from anxiety, so I fully understand the value that comes from living in a low stress environment. I hope one day ppl will understand the power behind their hurtful words. I hope ya'll have the best day. Can't wait to see your next video!
My heart goes out to you. I see the sadness on your face. People can be so cruel and insensitive. You're a terrific mom and your family shows so much love to Jess. My prayers are with you all.
Oh my goodness! People are so rude. 🙄. You do an amazing job. It’s obvious how much you have worked with and love Jessica. You have a kind spirit because I would come back in not such a gracious way toward those people. Your patience with these ignorant, ill-informed people impresses me. They haven’t watched all your videos which have so much information and explanation of Jessica’s past and education. You have done an awesome job working with your precious daughter. She’s so much fun to watch. I know we only have a glimpse into her and your lives. God bless you. I understand when you put your life out there some people feel it is their “right” to say whatever they want and judge a situation they have very little understanding of about what you do on a regular basis. Hang in there. I look forward to watching and getting a laugh and having a little entertainment on her good days. Love y’all. ‘
Hello. I just wanted to say that what your family and yourself are doing for Jess is absolutely the correct care,help and support that Jess needs. From watching your videos on your channel,I see that Jess is in a loving,caring and very supportive family and that is where she needs to be and where she should belong. Jess is learning what she is comfortable with and people's saying that she needs to be in a Group Home is totally incorrect and their thoughts and comments are truly very negative and hurtful. Keep doing the good work that you are giving to Jess and please try and ignore those nasty comments from people. I love your videos and your content is enjoyable and lovely to see. ❤.
This question shouldn’t even be a question at all, I have a special needs brother and we have never ever second guessed why we won’t put him in a group home, and as his sister I will never do that either, he’s a package deal for me. And my parents don’t even need to ask. Just like your family with Jess. You do a fabulous job with Jess, the entire family. I’m bothered by people even questioning this. Tears flowing, so proud of Jess. Your right there is a huge gap as far as the spectrum goes. Lots of different spectrums. You don’t need to explain a thing. Love this family.
O M G. I can’t believe how cruel these questions sound. These people are obviously not paying attention to your channel. You do a beautiful job with your sweet Jessica. She’s living her best life with you!
Each person is different in every way. Disabilities or not. Val your inspiration to so many. Jessica is her own person, and you are doing the right thing for yourself and Jessica. I believe that you are an angel and a mother to Jessica, and she is exactly where she needs to be. The spectrum is so large that it is hard to define. I praise you for all you do, and I absolutely love and appreciate the way you and your family work and have faith in Jessica. Keep doing what you do and never let anyone get you down. Jessica is an amazing lady and learns daily from you and the family that loves her, and her anxiety has to be better being around and with her family. Much love to you all ❤️.
I can’t believe how rude people are! Do they not watch the videos?! I feel like these people watch 1 video and make assumptions! You guys are great, all of you do a wonderful job with Jessica! Please try to ignore the rude comments!
I’ve always thought since I’ve been watching your videos that I’ve learned some of Jessica’s disabilities by just watching her react to different situations I feel that like anything relationships are taking time to understand the person and get to know them ! You’ve done wonderful with her as well as the rest of the family very loving and caring ! I enjoy learning from you and find Comfort that everyone is different and we shouldn’t expect anything from folks except what they have to offer ! Thank you ❤️
I’m sorry for the insensitive comments about your child. This is your child you know her better than anyone and what’s best. You have been through trial and errors and know what works and doesn’t. What a blessing to have her home and be able to teach Jessica and she her flourishing in spirit her joy doing videos learning to cook her food she has learned so much in the few years I have been watching you and how blessed Jessica is to have such a loving patient caring family to support try to reach goals she would not learn away from family she loves her safe place gives her confidence to reach for all she can learn with her many disabilities. Bravo 👏 to you all keep up the marvelous job well done all. Blessings to you and God bless Jessica ❤❤❤❤❤ 🙏🙏🙏
Hi Val, I've followed your channel for a while now and have even commented a couple times. This video just came up in my feed today and I really appreciate your honesty and sincerity when addressing peoples' comments. I totally agree with answering genuine questions and ignoring/deleting nasty ones. My son has Tourettes/adhd/ocd/spd and I absolutely love when people ask me questions about his condition. As long as the comments are out of curiosity and are kind, I'm more than happy to answer and educate! I even get questions by some of the medical personnel in his various physicians offices (we live in the Chattanooga area, too). I always enjoy your videos!
Thank you for sharing you are so blessed to have Jessica and she to have you and her family. You explained it so well, I have special needs grandchildren and people can be really cruel with their comments!
I admire your ability to answer cruel comments with such grace. I find it hard to believe that people feel they have the right to question you about such things. It's obvious to those of us that watch you and your family with Jess that you are always guiding and teaching her with loving support and acceptance. Being in her own home, surrounded by people who love and understand her is exactly where she needs to be. She has come such a long way because of the way she is nurtured. Your family is exactly what Jess needs.
I think the nail on the head is people asking stuff because they don't fully understand and can't relate on any level. It is nice of you to address that for the sake of educating and also explaining your feelings a bit. I thought you might mention that you're not interested in a group home because she's your daughter/family member, you have the means and time, and it's what you prefer, too. There's nothing wrong with saying that's what fits for her and your family. Unfortunately in life there's always going to be negativity, but hopefully the positivity far outweighs that! I hope the word patience is less grating for you. It's really an admirable quality and often times I think meant to be compliments. Not everyone has good temperaments either. And you all really do! It's been fun to see Js growth and happiness. She seems much less anxious in general. Thanks for sharing and God bless!
If people would just STOP and watch your videos, they would see just how many teachers Jess has in her life. Every single person that Jess is in contact with is a teacher for her. There is not one single group home that has that many teachers. She is learning so many different things from so many different people. Mom teaches her things that Dad doesn't teach, Dad teaches things that sister doesn't teach, sister teaches things that Marlow doesn't teach, etc. etc. etc. AND the things that are being taught is different. Mom may teach how to hold a bowl one way and Dad may teach her how to hold it another way. She is in the perfect place for her. You guys are awesome and it shows. Is it easy? I'm certain that it is not easy but I am also certain that you guys wouldhave it no other way. #FamilyFirst #LovingCaringHappiness #YouveGotThis
I am shocked that some people feel the need to ask you such questions and imply not so nice things regarding what you do and dont do for Jessica ! You have such class and dignity to handle the " crap " they dish out they way you do, I would be slinging swear words at them lol !! I for one am impressed at how your whole family comes together in such a loving way to help Jess every day,bless all of you
You are the epitome of God’s grace. Your kindness is immeasurable. In whatever reason or attitude these types of questions are asked your response is on point and educational. Thank you for not being like the rest of the world and attacking when hard questions are asked. You are amazing!
Oh gosh, seriously. You are so gracious in addressing these types of questions and so patient. The tone of these questions, the familiarity as if they know anything. How hurtful some of these comments and questions. I'm sorry, just rude, intrusive, insensitive. Because you love Jessica, period. Being a caregiver is a labor of love, and it can be emotionally, mentally, and physically exhausting, but we keep going.❤❤❤❤❤
Well said, Val. I commend you for your demeanor. I would have been a bit more mamma-bear. Jess (and the rest of you) is wonderful to watch and it’s clear she is valued, loved and a contributor to your family and the community. The work you (and team) do is so important to educate. Everyone has value. Don’t for one second let uneducated comments get to you!!
The audacity that people have makes me sick. Val you have so much grace. Thank you so much for sharing Jess's story as well as your family's. I love watching Jess become more and more independent and cooking, all the things! Bless you and thank you for sharing. ❤
Sending lots of love to you, Val, as well as the rest of your family. What a shame that anyone would see Jess and all that makes her the lovely happy spirit that she is, and would see how much joy she brings you all and everyone who loves her and all they see is a person that is in the way. It really annoys me so much I about jumped out of my skin. The fact that you kept your cool enough to explain this calmly to educate others PROVES that being with YOU in YOUR HOME, is definitely the very best place for her to be living.
Your kindness, your intelligence and your patience, along with your graciousness shine through . Most people couldnt address these questions. If only they would watch the videos. Then they would see the deep love you all have for Jessica and how hard you have worked to get her to this point.
It is mind boggling to me that anyone in this day and age would be so cruel, ignorant, arrogant, uncaring… pick one… to even think of asking these hurtful rude questions. I think I’ll go with ignorant!!!
Thank you for being so candid. Beautifully and simply stated. I was a speech therapist in the NYC public school system for 33 years. I worked predominantly with children who had multiple disabilities. No two children were alike. Each student had his/her specific issues and presented accordingly. People tend to make assumptions without realizing the complexities and interactions of those complexities specific for each individual. You explained this so well. And, as you said, learning is ongoing. Thank you for educating in such a straightforward, clear way. And, I particularly loved your explanation of self directed plan with such love and that allows her to learn at her own pace in a comfortable, low stress environment. She is a joy. As are you, your family, Marlow and the puppies.
I can’t believe people say the things they do. I am new to this channel and I watch at least 1 video a day. I already love Jessica. She makes my day when she talks about her “dirty garbage mess”. From what I’ve seen so far she does wonderfully trying new things and wanting to be more independent. Good job Jess! And good job to her family for pushing her to get better with her skills everyday. She’s as lucky to have you guys as you guys are lucky to have her! ❤
I don’t understand people who think they know everything or have the “answers” for you. She’s an amazing person! And functional. To place her in a group home would be devastating to y’all and to her. I’m not going to compare my husband’s disability to Jess’s. But, it’s hard to care for him everyday, but he is of sound mind and therefore I can’t even imagine putting him in a home because of that reason. It’s just cruel otherwise. You keep doing what you do and keep loving her the way you do!!
My heart breaks listening to you read the comments from those people who thought they had the right to judge Jess, and your family without really knowing about you guys! Jess is doing great! And if they had been watching your videos they would see she is making such great progress! And that is because of her loving and very understanding family. And it's very obvious she loves you all her ( family) to. Why would anyone even consider putting someone in a group home when they have a much much better support system at home!
I know you get a lot of people saying “you are so patient with Jessica.” But, I have to say, how are you so patient with these ugly comments?” Thank you, Val for explaining so much to all of us, and for sharing your joyful life with Jessica and the whole family. I don’t know any of you personally, but as a long time viewer it’s plainly clear how Jessica thrives in your home. ♥️♥️
You are kind for addressing these questions graciously. When I see your videos I think about how atrociously people w multiple disabilities were treated in the past. Your family is one of many that are caring for Jessica and folks like her w love, empathy, and knowledge. Y'all are a modern reflection of how much humanity has advanced in understanding the variety of the human experience. Thank God/s we no longer consider everything to be demon possession or curses and shut people away. Jessica is such a blessing and she is teaching the world thanks to a loving family.
I am so sorry that you have to even address such ignorance. People who make such comments are so self-centered. I can't imagine them, if put into a similar situation, how would they process it. A loved one who suddenly became disabled through an accident or illness. Someone they love having a stroke and having to teach them how to function again. An aging parent or spouse who no longer could function as before. Would their first reaction be to send them off somewhere for someone else to care for them? Your family shows unconditional love, not only for Jess, but each other. That's what it is all about. You know what is best for each other and you handle it with the utmost of care. It is truly a blessing to watch Jess grow and thrive because her family knows best.
I have Septo Optic Dysplasia. Which caused me to be born totally blind, and because of SOD, I have autism, I have no sense of smell, I have trouble regulating my body temperature, and I have complex PTSD. People have given me the whole, “you don’t look blind. So therefore, you must not really be blind.” SOD has nothing to do with the physical eyes, it has to do with the brain. My husband also has SOD, and we live with my mom. But we are working on being independent. I used to think I was crazy and that I was alone.
You do such a great job and Jessica is much better with you surrounded with love and the attention she deserves. Im a caregiver to my Mom with Dementia... which is quite a bit different of course but people always ask me why don't you put her in a nursing home? People just don't understand until there faced with the choice of caring someone they love no matter what the disability or illness may be.
The people making those rude comments need to watch all y’all’s videos and then maybe they might see why Jessica lives with her family!!….. You are a great mother & family!!
So sorry that you have so many rude unthoutfull ignorant comments! Jess is thriving right where she's is. She's grown so much and absolutely beautiful in every way! It's a joy to watch Jess and how she processes things! She has so much love and shows it openly. Jess is a blessing not just her family but for those who follow your videos. Thanks for sharing her!🙂💜🤟🏻
I think most of your viewers love your family and especially Jess she makes me happy l love any thing that brings her joy your family is talented just look what you accomplished during this move thanks for all the information ❤
We as humans are all on a spectrum, with all the teaching of skill and schooling I could never become an aerospace engineer, it’s beyond my comprehension and ability. But by no means does this make me less of a person. Keep spreading awareness and understanding💗💗
Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share your family’s life with all of us. You each have inspired me in different ways. I hate that there has to be such negativity from strangers. Anyway you always handle it with such grace. Again Thank you so much for sharing your lives with us and turning negative into education.
Val your family is amazing. Your love for your children shines through in everything you do. Keep doing life the way that fits you guys best. You are doing a wonderful job.
Keep on doing what you are. I look forward to seeing your videos. May God bless you and your family. Thank you for inviting me to see your wonderful family.
This video Val, was awesome. I dont know how you got thru it without crying. I just don’t understand how people can be so mean and inconsiderate. I think y’all are doing an awesome job with Jess. I’m so glad I came upon your channel. Love you all and Jess is so comical sometimes. Love watching happy videos as yours and what y’all do. 💚😄much love from Michigan.
Val I'm so sorry you have to deal with these comments. I appreciate that you take time to answer. Jess is a life long learner and that's absolutely amazing. Thank you for answering
Val, you are a class act! If I had to address these comments; I would blow a gasket. I know some are genuinely trying to understand Jessica, and others- just ignorant. Yet, you handle it like a champ. To some people- if you have a disability; “let’s lock you up in a institution: you are broken, and cannot be fixed.” They have that stigma, and it’s very sad. Various people with differing disabilities are beautiful, and should be embraced; not discriminated and dismissed as if they are not people. I really hope those who state such things will notice that Jess has great value in this world. She isn’t broken or defected. Jess is perfect. #EducatePeopleEducate
I've worked in group homes. While I busted my butt, I had fellow staff members who did not have the same goals in mind that I had, to say it lightly. Most group homes have hidden horror stories. Physical abuse (I've heard the stories, luckily I never witnessed that) neglect, I witnessed plenty of that. Sexual abuse BY STAFF MEMBERS. Don't get me wrong, the large majority of dsp's have their clients well being first and foremost in mind. I've worked with some amazing staff over the years. But! Because of the low pay scale this position offers, there's a huge staff turnover. A lot of people get in to that line of work thinking it will be easy money. Those people don't make it a week. I've seen that more times than I can count. I've also worked in family homes. If at all possible, she needs to be home with you guys. The success these guys reach is so much easier for them to obtain than if in a group home and or even an independent living situation. (I've worked independent living as well) You guys are mind blowing amazing!!!
This is so SAD !!! Val you and ALL of your family are doing a GREAT JOB !!! They aren’t living in your shoes and I can’t believe PEOPLE could be so hateful !!! People that are watching your videos should see how much Jess is LOVED by EVERYBODY that’s in her life !!! Your doing a awesome JOB, please don’t let those hateful comments ever get you DOWN !!! So sorry that you have to deal with that kind of CRAP !!! Love your family and your wonderful videos, that help other people to understand Jessica’s illness !!! Keep up the great job !!!
God bless you and your family, for your patience, knowledge and love in advocating for Jessica. My heart pains when I see the ignorance, even rudeness, of individuals. You showed yourself on this video to be composed, even ‘respectful’, to the questions and statements you shared, while discussing Jessica. You have every right to be disheartened at the ‘insinuations’ and ‘abrasiveness’ of those who message you. You are a beautiful woman and mother and it’s a privilege to follow and learn from you all.❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
Thank you Val for posting this video. I feel bad that some people will question you about Jess and family things. It is good that you can explain things but wish people would think before they speak. Val, you are the best! Hannah is such a caring and loving sister to Jess and a great daughter for you. Val, bless you and your family. 💝
Something else that really strikes me from listening to you speak about this is the (wrong) idea that disabled people or anyone needing support from a caregiver are just taking. Taking time, taking energy, taking effort. A comment like the one you address completely misses what Jessica adds to her family and community. She is not just a receiver of caregiving, she’s a loved and valued member of her family. Of course she is.
I’ve never met Jess, just learned from videos, but I feel like a group home would be her downfall, one where she would not ever thrive or live life. I think you’re all doing a great job, Jess included!
Jessica is very blessed to have her family all of who love and understand her. She is also a very loving person who I can tell is easy to love. Isn’t it sad that some do not have the ability to see past her disabilities to who she is as a human. I think y’all have probably learned as much from her as she has from you. I have honestly learned a lot from Jess and the rest of you and I am 71 never too old to learn thank you.
I’ve been watching y’all for a short time but I will tell u y’all are a loving caring family . Jess is right where she should be with her family. The care y’all all give her is more than she’d get any where else . From the little time I’ve been watching Jess seems to be very happy and she does do things that y’all are showing and teaching her things to help her be more independent . Who ever is asking all these negative questions much not have any thing better to do and a heartless person . It breaks my heart for someone to ask the things they are asking . I just want to say Jess is a beautiful woman and I think she does well and u and the rest of the family should be proud of what y’all teach her snd there for her . Jess knows she’s loved and taken good care of . I think y’all are a amazing family !!❤
I Love love love your explanation of the disability spectrum. It is how I always explain my syndrome because though rare, none of us is exactly the same.
Val,you absolutely do not Owe anyone any explanations…. The best way anyone can learn is from People who truly love them and have their best interests at heart… I think your family is awesome as most people who suggest a group home are people Who would not have the selfless , loving patience that you have.. they wouldn’t have the ability to lovingly teach and deal with frustrations every day!! You are awesome and you owe NO explanation for your loving choices ! Jess is a lucky girl to have a family that cares enough to help Her thrive in this life we live!!❤❤❤
I had a great uncle…my uncle June. He was born in 1928. He never had an official diagnosis but his parents were told he would add no value to the world, be dead by 17 and he should just be in a group home. Being a medical provider myself now I would probably say he had cerebral palsy and learning disabilities. He never went to school so I can only assume had he been born later I don’t think he’d have the degree of learning disability that he did. I remember when I was little….I was say about 5+ I’d sit at the table while he ate. He used a spoon because his hands shook so bad. By the time he got the spoon to his mouth there’d be no food on his spoon. Finally I just started taking it from him and fed him myself😂. Until I was about 10-11 I ate ALL my meals with a spoon. Why? Because I thought my uncle June was the bees knees and wanted to be just like him. He used to walk me and my sister to the gas station for Candy even though my parents said no. When he was about 45-50 he discovered golfing and when I say “golfing” I mean golf balls. He loved them. So he’d walk a mile to the golf course and walk around trying to find lost balls. He pick them up, wash them and would sell them back to the little store that was at the golf course. Everyone is different and just because they are different doesn’t mean something is wrong with them. He taught me to look outside the norm and that everyone deserved to be loved and treated with respect. He passed away at the age of 78 even he was told he wouldn’t make it past 17. To this day when I see a spoon I think of him❤❤❤
You are her mama. And you are the best mama for Jess. Some people are just rude and ignorant. Jesus is happy with you and Jess. No need to explain yourself. Love you guys
You handled this beautifully. People are horrible on social media. Everyone’s family is made up of unique individuals and most people do the best they can for their own family situation. Thank you for sharing your family with us❤
Awesome answers to these questions/comments. I have watched only a short time and can see that Jessica is learning a ton, but most importantly is that she is loved! No other explanation is needed. LOVED...
Val, you are an amazing woman, an amazing mother. Don’t ever listen to the negative or ignorance that comes your way. Jess is thriving because of you! ❤️
I can’t live on my own either because I have not only blindness and autism. I also have epilepsy and I’ve had seizures and when I do, I hit my head sometimes so my mom takes care of me all the time and she doesn’t have any helpers that can help except for my stepdad my adopted father, which does everything he can to help me. He has done more for me in the last six years of my biological dad ever did my biological dad never wanted me. So I know how that feels to have to do a people saying stuff like well why can’t she do this or why can’t she do that I can’t cut food and people laugh at me all the time about that I was in a special education class because I have slight in intellectual disabilities learning problems, and also CP. And people used to laugh at me all the time about stuff like that, they would call me the R word they would call me stupid all kind of stuff, I mean this brings back a lot of stuff that I went through so I know what this is like and it’s not fun believe me I know it’s not I live with it too. I didn’t think there was anyone like me out there either because everybody kept saying well, we don’t know what your level is. They diagnosed me as severely mentally challenged, but I was seven years old by 811 they said I had the mind of a six-year-old by age 14. They said I had the mind of an eight-year-old but it would never get any better. Their advice was guess what, put me in a group home in a workshop with other people that were supposed to be like me. As Beth Simon said in the book riding the bus with my sister I’m not like them I’m different. That’s us.
So good of you to address these things...you have much more patience than I ever would with these types of people...they really obviously have not been following you and your wonderful family and incorporation of Jess in all things.❤️❤️ works for her for sure. Look at all of the progress she has made!!! Wonderful!!!
Omg! Val I’m not sure how you are so calm and patient when filming this video . These comments make me very mad! Any decent parent would not put their child in a group home unless it was a last resort and necessary! Jessica is her on person and does things her own way. These are some very ignorant people making these comments. I love your family and think you all are angels ❤ I have a lot of respect for the WHOLE family.
Beautifully explained, Val. I have seen Jess make huge gains in the past year I've been following. She is working with the best team - her family, Marlo, and the pups.
hi val all i can say is wow , i cant believe some of those questions or comments , you and your family have raised jessica into such an outstanding human , she is very intelligent and jessica wouldnt ever get such a better life being away from all of you , thats outrageous , you should be so very proud of the support youve given jessica , jessica is such a bright light in my day shed be a joy to watch her grow with all her skills x
I loved when you said “some things that Jess can’t do that”. I love that it was subtle and easy to miss. That’s exactly the point. It so perfectly captures your spirit: quiet and unrelenting.
As mentioned about an two hours ago now, I am very new to your channel. But, sadly, I’m not new to people’s absolute stupidity, extreme rudeness and total disregard for all that you are dealing with. Please just consider the source. These callous, ignorant nasty idiots could not walk 10 feet in your shoes. Carry on Val you are an absolute inspiration to ALL families dealing with these types of challenges. 👍🏻🙏🏻
Why must people compare, this is something that really works my last nerve. We are all unique in our own way. You are Jessica's family and you all know what is best for her. A person on the outside looking in should never question yours or Jessica's abilities. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Bless you Val because I don't think I could Q & A so nicely when it comes to the judgemental questions.
Wow, you’re doing a wonderful job trying to keep the mean people at bay and not letting it affect you. I know sometimes they prob do, but I’m so glad you have such a large heart and Jess is with you. Maybe in the future things will change but she seems to be happy and thriving with you.
Graceful, you are always so graceful. Individualized Service Plan (ISP) or Individualized Education Plan (IEP). Individualized plans for whatever, are at the core of all programming. Each person has different set of diagnoses, with different trajectories, with different needs, with different abilities, with different ways they each excel. I am always baffled at people who think YOU should be doing something different that will make Jessica better. And in a hateful and spiteful way. Why?!?! Seriously, just go back to some of the earlier videos and compare those to the videos she has now. The gains and independence is mind blowing!!! For example, look at all the different foods that she has been touching- a very sensory aversion she has had all her life- overcome because the reward at the end is WORTH a couple of minutes of something unfavorable (dirty hands). And she is on video, showing people. The ability to show people how brave she can be to earn independence is HUGE for her. How about using a hot oven or the mini oven thingy. HUGE accomplishment. She is deathly afraid, in her bones afraid of getting burnt (and also very afraid for other people getting burnt), but she has overcome this with Shrek sized oven mitts and being very careful. She verbalizes her own fear and her fear for others, BUT she still does the task. HUGE accomplishment. I could go on and on about the difference I see from 4 or 5 years ago to now. It is mind blowing.
EVERYONE has different abilities. Me included. I was born with spina bifida. I may not do things the so called (normal) way. But I do it. So does Jess. So do all of us. We are NOT all the same. Be kind ❤️
Jessica Brooks is a TRUE BLESSING not only to her family but also all of us #GOODONES Xoxoxoxo I’m so glad I found your page, been following you guys for about three years. Sending so many blessings your way♥️
Hi you guys I’ve had this stuff sent to me and said to my mom over and over again when I saw this video, my heart broke for you because I know that’s gotta be hard for you. Mom has to do a lot for me and people say all the time well, I’ve got a friend who can do this well, your friend is not autistic. Your friend is not got all the problems I have, and therefore doesn’t understand what I go through every day. So I know what you’re feeling my friend I do when I saw this video made me cry because I know what this feels like and I am so sorry this was ever said to you my biological father tried to tell my mom that when I turned 18 he was going to get guardianship over me and put me in a group home. I turned 18 and I was tested to see if I could have guardianship of myself, and I could, he challenged it. We went to court over it and I told that judge I said if you allow him to put me in a group home I said you’re dumber than I am that’s exactly what I told him. He knew that I was smarter than they ever gave me credit for my friend. I’ve been where you are and it sucks. It’s horrible. jess is super smart. I watch her and she’s very smart and she also knows what she likes which is a lot like me. She likes Krispy crowns like I do and she also likes shells and cheese like me and biscuits and gravy like me that makes me think a lot of happy thought thinking about what she likes. don’t ever give up. You’re a good mommy. OK you’re a good mama you’re a good person and don’t you ever give up sweetheart you got this my friend you got this and just, just know you’re stronger than any of those things people ever said sweetheart. You’re a good person you’re smart and you know a lot don’t ever let people tell you you can’t do something because you do everything you can do and I’m proud of you for what you can do my friend. I know how this is too. I’m going through it myself, but just know my friend you’ve got a friend and me.
@@Shaping_Serenity hi Val, oh yes, we’ve been through voc rehab day programs all those things as well. My mom was wondering how I could get respite care because she needs to go do stuff with Daddy sometimes and we’ve never found anyone who could take care of me when she does that and I can’t be alone so we were wondering how I could apply for that for me. Also, my biological father always tells my mom why don’t you put that child in a group home she’s a child. She is only eight years old and her mind and that’s all she’s ever gonna be. She don’t understand the concept you’re giving Her she doesn’t understand anything you say she just flaps her hands makes noises and rocks in her chair. How is she ever gonna live in normal life? Mom says her daddy and I have her best interest at heart we know what she likes it doesn’t like like when she smiles when Daddy brings her iced coffee when she said Or has a bad day. Or when he takes her on an Alpine ride and she’s grinning from ear to ear because he knows what she likes. Or when he gets her ice cream in the summertime or takes her to her drive-in and even though she can’t see the movie, he tells her what happens anyway. Although those things she gets an understand. He says no she know you just think she does cause she smiles and laughs and giggles and flaps her hands. Mom says no, she always thinks it gives him a bear hug and smiles at him. I know she does. he goes you’re in denial. Mom says no I’m not. I know what my daughter can do. What she can’t do. Five years no I’m sorry six years ago. My mom got married to a wonderful man. He is the one I called Daddy he has never been around an autistic person in his life but gets me well. It makes me happy. He’s also never been around a blind person but again he gets it. He takes it in and soaks it in like a sponge and he figures things out, he gets my routine too which makes me even happier
You do you! Y'all are doing a great job! 🥰 We adopted our grandson..he's special needs due to drugs in utero! He has ADD ADHD and OCD...I home school for the simple fact, can't sit still in a traditional classroom... I refuse to put him through the stress! I try to watch all you videos.. I don't know why you're back at bad daddies but, i do feel it's a great family environment..
People can be so cruel. I have muscular dystrophy and use a rolling Walker and can barely walk. Sometimes I stay inside my house because I can’t deal with the stares and questions and Rude remarks.
Val, you are a great example of grace with your audience! We are the fortunate ones that your family chooses to share their life with us and we love it!
Val, it breaks my heart that you have to deal with these types of questions but I’m in complete AWE of your composure as you responded to them. I’m a long time viewer of your channel and it’s amazing to see the progress Jessica has made from your early videos to recent ones. It’s SO obvious that she is thriving in her environment surrounded by those who love and support her the most!!! Keep doing what you’re doing Brooks family… you got this!!!!! Much love, DeeAnn in frigid CT (a transplant from springlike GA) lol
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How generous of you to share and educate we who watch / follow your adult child ( and yours) daily life … it’s important to learn there are different paths for every individual and you explained it so well ! Thank you
What's wrong with people?? I have heard all about the 'group home' option ever since my son was a child. I used to get angry with people but now I respond with, "That might be a good option for him.....when I'm dead!!!!." Formal education and therapy is important and valuable, and are available to special needs kids till age 21. Love is a great catalyst for teaching and learning in a home setting. So many consider special needs children a burden, and there are difficult days. Many parents, such as myself, feel honored and privileged to share our lives with them.
I'm sorry you have to even address comments like this. She is a beautiful person and you're a beautiful family. I see a family full of love, that's thriving. God bless you all. 💐
Totally agree!
ABSOLUTELY 💯
Absolutely agree!!❤
I hear this too, I have raised my 24 yr old grandaughter who has MR and autism, since she was a baby. People who do not live in our shoes have NO idea about our lives! Not every disability is the same! I am going on 70 and we have no one else to take care of her. Just my husband and I. I fear group homes because of the horror stories I have heard! I love her so much and I am worried about when I die where she will end up! I do most everything for her and will continue as long as I can, she is my heart and a joy in my life!
I love your videos, and I think your family is wonderful. I've skipped over this video many times because I knew it would make me cringe. I have a beautiful daughter who has just happens to have different needs. She was in public school and seemed to love it, until she didn't. She is verbal, but her expressive language just isn't there to tell me why. I think these teachers didn't understand her, and made it a stressful environment for her. I pulled her out, and we homeschool. I know her better than anyone, and I push her to her potential. She is not grade level, but she is learning continually. I love her, and do my very best. My family is amazing, and they often tell me how far she has come with me teaching her. It's hard because I have lots of things to do, and little time. It's stressful bc some days i feel like im failing. Its also rewarding. The time I spend with her is precious to me. I know, and more importantly, she knows that she is safe and loved. There are also people who think she needs to be in school. These are ppl who are relatives who never see my kids, acquaintances, and educators who have no idea what is best for my family. I get Momma bear rage, and I will dwell on these comments for....well, I'm still dwelling, so I can't tell you just how long, lol. Just know that so many people think you are doing the best job with Jess. She is kind, loving, funny, and smart. You are so lucky to have her, and I know you all agree. I myself suffer from anxiety, so I fully understand the value that comes from living in a low stress environment. I hope one day ppl will understand the power behind their hurtful words. I hope ya'll have the best day. Can't wait to see your next video!
Thank you for sharing ❤️
The rest of us see how much progress Jessica has made and just how happy she is as well as everyone else in her life.
My heart goes out to you. I see the sadness on your face. People can be so cruel and insensitive. You're a terrific mom and your family shows so much love to Jess. My prayers are with you all.
Amen to that!❤
Oh my goodness! People are so rude. 🙄. You do an amazing job. It’s obvious how much you have worked with and love Jessica. You have a kind spirit because I would come back in not such a gracious way toward those people. Your patience with these ignorant, ill-informed people impresses me. They haven’t watched all your videos which have so much information and explanation of Jessica’s past and education. You have done an awesome job working with your precious daughter. She’s so much fun to watch. I know we only have a glimpse into her and your lives. God bless you. I understand when you put your life out there some people feel it is their “right” to say whatever they want and judge a situation they have very little understanding of about what you do on a regular basis. Hang in there. I look forward to watching and getting a laugh and having a little entertainment on her good days. Love y’all.
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Hello. I just wanted to say that what your family and yourself are doing for Jess is absolutely the correct care,help and support that Jess needs. From watching your videos on your channel,I see that Jess is in a loving,caring and very supportive family and that is where she needs to be and where she should belong. Jess is learning what she is comfortable with and people's saying that she needs to be in a Group Home is totally incorrect and their thoughts and comments are truly very negative and hurtful. Keep doing the good work that you are giving to Jess and please try and ignore those nasty comments from people. I love your videos and your content is enjoyable and lovely to see. ❤.
This question shouldn’t even be a question at all, I have a special needs brother and we have never ever second guessed why we won’t put him in a group home, and as his sister I will never do that either, he’s a package deal for me. And my parents don’t even need to ask. Just like your family with Jess. You do a fabulous job with Jess, the entire family. I’m bothered by people even questioning this. Tears flowing, so proud of Jess. Your right there is a huge gap as far as the spectrum goes. Lots of different spectrums. You don’t need to explain a thing. Love this family.
You always respond to these less than kind comments with such grace ❤️
Your family is heartwarming. The great majority find such joy with your videos. I guarantee people who write such things live sad sad lives.
I am so sickened by these questions and desperately fighting back tears. How could people be so cruel?
My thoughts exactly.
These questions are just mean!!! Im appalled at the ignorance of these people and judging 😢
I agree
O M G. I can’t believe how cruel these questions sound. These people are obviously not paying attention to your channel. You do a beautiful job with your sweet Jessica. She’s living her best life with you!
Peggie Schneider I agree with you 💯 percent !🤔
You are amazing mom, Jessica is thriving because of you and your family.... God bless you and your family...
Each person is different in every way. Disabilities or not. Val your inspiration to so many. Jessica is her own person, and you are doing the right thing for yourself and Jessica. I believe that you are an angel and a mother to Jessica, and she is exactly where she needs to be. The spectrum is so large that it is hard to define. I praise you for all you do, and I absolutely love and appreciate the way you and your family work and have faith in Jessica. Keep doing what you do and never let anyone get you down. Jessica is an amazing lady and learns daily from you and the family that loves her, and her anxiety has to be better being around and with her family.
Much love to you all ❤️.
I can’t believe how rude people are! Do they not watch the videos?! I feel like these people watch 1 video and make assumptions! You guys are great, all of you do a wonderful job with Jessica! Please try to ignore the rude comments!
I’ve always thought since I’ve been watching your videos that I’ve learned some of Jessica’s disabilities by just watching her react to different situations I feel that like anything relationships are taking time to understand the person and get to know them ! You’ve done wonderful with her as well as the rest of the family very loving and caring ! I enjoy learning from you and find Comfort that everyone is different and we shouldn’t expect anything from folks except what they have to offer ! Thank you ❤️
Who in their right mind would even ask such questions? Not their child, not their business! Keep doing what your doing! You all are amazing!!❤
I’m sorry for the insensitive comments about your child. This is your child you know her better than anyone and what’s best. You have been through trial and errors and know what works and doesn’t. What a blessing to have her home and be able to teach Jessica and she her flourishing in spirit her joy doing videos learning to cook her food she has learned so much in the few years I have been watching you and how blessed Jessica is to have such a loving patient caring family to support try to reach goals she would not learn away from family she loves her safe place gives her confidence to reach for all she can learn with her many disabilities. Bravo 👏 to you all keep up the marvelous job well done all. Blessings to you and God bless Jessica ❤❤❤❤❤ 🙏🙏🙏
You and your family have done a wonderful job caring for Jess. You guys not only take care of her but you love her and that matters.
Hi Val, I've followed your channel for a while now and have even commented a couple times. This video just came up in my feed today and I really appreciate your honesty and sincerity when addressing peoples' comments. I totally agree with answering genuine questions and ignoring/deleting nasty ones. My son has Tourettes/adhd/ocd/spd and I absolutely love when people ask me questions about his condition. As long as the comments are out of curiosity and are kind, I'm more than happy to answer and educate! I even get questions by some of the medical personnel in his various physicians offices (we live in the Chattanooga area, too). I always enjoy your videos!
You guys are all 100% amazing! I believe God has a very special place in heaven for folks like you. Keep living the dream. ❤️🙏🏼🤗
Thank you for sharing you are so blessed to have Jessica and she to have you and her family. You explained it so well, I have special needs grandchildren and people can be really cruel with their comments!
I admire your ability to answer cruel comments with such grace. I find it hard to believe that people feel they have the right to question you about such things. It's obvious to those of us that watch you and your family with Jess that you are always guiding and teaching her with loving support and acceptance. Being in her own home, surrounded by people who love and understand her is exactly where she needs to be. She has come such a long way because of the way she is nurtured. Your family is exactly what Jess needs.
I think the nail on the head is people asking stuff because they don't fully understand and can't relate on any level. It is nice of you to address that for the sake of educating and also explaining your feelings a bit. I thought you might mention that you're not interested in a group home because she's your daughter/family member, you have the means and time, and it's what you prefer, too. There's nothing wrong with saying that's what fits for her and your family. Unfortunately in life there's always going to be negativity, but hopefully the positivity far outweighs that! I hope the word patience is less grating for you. It's really an admirable quality and often times I think meant to be compliments. Not everyone has good temperaments either. And you all really do! It's been fun to see Js growth and happiness. She seems much less anxious in general. Thanks for sharing and God bless!
If people would just STOP and watch your videos, they would see just how many teachers Jess has in her life. Every single person that Jess is in contact with is a teacher for her. There is not one single group home that has that many teachers. She is learning so many different things from so many different people. Mom teaches her things that Dad doesn't teach, Dad teaches things that sister doesn't teach, sister teaches things that Marlow doesn't teach, etc. etc. etc. AND the things that are being taught is different. Mom may teach how to hold a bowl one way and Dad may teach her how to hold it another way. She is in the perfect place for her. You guys are awesome and it shows. Is it easy? I'm certain that it is not easy but I am also certain that you guys wouldhave it no other way. #FamilyFirst #LovingCaringHappiness #YouveGotThis
I am shocked that some people feel the need to ask you such questions and imply not so nice things regarding what you do and dont do for Jessica ! You have such class and dignity to handle the " crap " they dish out they way you do, I would be slinging swear words at them lol !! I for one am impressed at how your whole family comes together in such a loving way to help Jess every day,bless all of you
You are the epitome of God’s grace. Your kindness is immeasurable. In whatever reason or attitude these types of questions are asked your response is on point and educational. Thank you for not being like the rest of the world and attacking when hard questions are asked. You are amazing!
we love you Jess. Jess your amazing. we enjoy your daily Progress. keep up on your good work. Jess has an amazing family.
Oh gosh, seriously. You are so gracious in addressing these types of questions and so patient. The tone of these questions, the familiarity as if they know anything. How hurtful some of these comments and questions. I'm sorry, just rude, intrusive, insensitive. Because you love Jessica, period. Being a caregiver is a labor of love, and it can be emotionally, mentally, and physically exhausting, but we keep going.❤❤❤❤❤
Well said, Val. I commend you for your demeanor. I would have been a bit more mamma-bear. Jess (and the rest of you) is wonderful to watch and it’s clear she is valued, loved and a contributor to your family and the community. The work you (and team) do is so important to educate. Everyone has value. Don’t for one second let uneducated comments get to you!!
The audacity that people have makes me sick. Val you have so much grace. Thank you so much for sharing Jess's story as well as your family's. I love watching Jess become more and more independent and cooking, all the things! Bless you and thank you for sharing. ❤
Sending lots of love to you, Val, as well as the rest of your family. What a shame that anyone would see Jess and all that makes her the lovely happy spirit that she is, and would see how much joy she brings you all and everyone who loves her and all they see is a person that is in the way. It really annoys me so much I about jumped out of my skin. The fact that you kept your cool enough to explain this calmly to educate others PROVES that being with YOU in YOUR HOME, is definitely the very best place for her to be living.
I love how you advocate for Jess and educate your viewers as well. I think she is very fortunate to have you for her mom.
Thank you
Your kindness, your intelligence and your patience, along with your graciousness shine through . Most people couldnt address these questions. If only they would watch the videos. Then they would see the deep love you all have for Jessica and how hard you have worked to get her to this point.
Thank you
It is mind boggling to me that anyone in this day and age would be so cruel, ignorant, arrogant, uncaring… pick one… to even think of asking these hurtful rude questions. I think I’ll go with ignorant!!!
Thank you for being so candid. Beautifully and simply stated. I was a speech therapist in the NYC public school system for 33 years. I worked predominantly with children who had multiple disabilities. No two children were alike. Each student had his/her specific issues and presented accordingly. People tend to make assumptions without realizing the complexities and interactions of those complexities specific for each individual. You explained this so well. And, as you said, learning is ongoing. Thank you for educating in such a straightforward, clear way. And, I particularly loved your explanation of self directed plan with such love and that allows her to learn at her own pace in a comfortable, low stress environment. She is a joy. As are you, your family, Marlow and the puppies.
I can’t believe people say the things they do. I am new to this channel and I watch at least 1 video a day. I already love Jessica. She makes my day when she talks about her “dirty garbage mess”. From what I’ve seen so far she does wonderfully trying new things and wanting to be more independent. Good job Jess! And good job to her family for pushing her to get better with her skills everyday. She’s as lucky to have you guys as you guys are lucky to have her! ❤
Thank you so much!! Welcome!
I don’t understand people who think they know everything or have the “answers” for you. She’s an amazing person! And functional. To place her in a group home would be devastating to y’all and to her. I’m not going to compare my husband’s disability to Jess’s. But, it’s hard to care for him everyday, but he is of sound mind and therefore I can’t even imagine putting him in a home because of that reason. It’s just cruel otherwise. You keep doing what you do and keep loving her the way you do!!
My heart breaks listening to you read the comments from those people who thought they had the right to judge Jess, and your family without really knowing about you guys! Jess is doing great! And if they had been watching your videos they would see she is making such great progress! And that is because of her loving and very understanding family. And it's very obvious she loves you all her ( family) to. Why would anyone even consider putting someone in a group home when they have a much much better support system at home!
Some people need to "learn stuff" themselves! Thanks, Val, for handling this with education and class!
Her family and living day to day life is her "group home"experience!❤️❤️
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I know you get a lot of people saying “you are so patient with Jessica.” But, I have to say, how are you so patient with these ugly comments?” Thank you, Val for explaining so much to all of us, and for sharing your joyful life with Jessica and the whole family. I don’t know any of you personally, but as a long time viewer it’s plainly clear how Jessica thrives in your home. ♥️♥️
You are kind for addressing these questions graciously. When I see your videos I think about how atrociously people w multiple disabilities were treated in the past. Your family is one of many that are caring for Jessica and folks like her w love, empathy, and knowledge. Y'all are a modern reflection of how much humanity has advanced in understanding the variety of the human experience. Thank God/s we no longer consider everything to be demon possession or curses and shut people away. Jessica is such a blessing and she is teaching the world thanks to a loving family.
Thank you ❤️
I am so sorry that you have to even address such ignorance. People who make such comments are so self-centered. I can't imagine them, if put into a similar situation, how would they process it. A loved one who suddenly became disabled through an accident or illness. Someone they love having a stroke and having to teach them how to function again. An aging parent or spouse who no longer could function as before. Would their first reaction be to send them off somewhere for someone else to care for them? Your family shows unconditional love, not only for Jess, but each other. That's what it is all about. You know what is best for each other and you handle it with the utmost of care. It is truly a blessing to watch Jess grow and thrive because her family knows best.
I have Septo Optic Dysplasia. Which caused me to be born totally blind, and because of SOD, I have autism, I have no sense of smell, I have trouble regulating my body temperature, and I have complex PTSD. People have given me the whole, “you don’t look blind. So therefore, you must not really be blind.” SOD has nothing to do with the physical eyes, it has to do with the brain. My husband also has SOD, and we live with my mom. But we are working on being independent. I used to think I was crazy and that I was alone.
Thank you for sharing ❤️
You do such a great job and Jessica is much better with you surrounded with love and the attention she deserves.
Im a caregiver to my Mom with Dementia... which is quite a bit different of course but people always ask me why don't you put her in a nursing home? People just don't understand until there faced with the choice of caring someone they love no matter what the disability or illness may be.
You're right ❤️
The people making those rude comments need to watch all y’all’s videos and then maybe they might see why Jessica lives with her family!!…..
You are a great mother & family!!
So sorry that you have so many rude unthoutfull ignorant comments! Jess is thriving right where she's is. She's grown so much and absolutely beautiful in every way! It's a joy to watch Jess and how she processes things! She has so much love and shows it openly. Jess is a blessing not just her family but for those who follow your videos. Thanks for sharing her!🙂💜🤟🏻
Thank you for watching ❤️
I think most of your viewers love your family and especially Jess she makes me happy l love any thing that brings her joy your family is talented just look what you accomplished during this move thanks for all the information ❤
We as humans are all on a spectrum, with all the teaching of skill and schooling I could never become an aerospace engineer, it’s beyond my comprehension and ability. But by no means does this make me less of a person.
Keep spreading awareness and understanding💗💗
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Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share your family’s life with all of us. You each have inspired me in different ways. I hate that there has to be such negativity from strangers. Anyway you always handle it with such grace. Again Thank you so much for sharing your lives with us and turning negative into education.
Thank you ❤️
Val your family is amazing. Your love for your children shines through in everything you do. Keep doing life the way that fits you guys best. You are doing a wonderful job.
Keep on doing what you are. I look forward to seeing your videos. May God bless you and your family. Thank you for inviting me to see your wonderful family.
This video Val, was awesome. I dont know how you got thru it without crying. I just don’t understand how people can be so mean and inconsiderate. I think y’all are doing an awesome job with Jess. I’m so glad I came upon your channel. Love you all and Jess is so comical sometimes. Love watching happy videos as yours and what y’all do. 💚😄much love from Michigan.
Val I'm so sorry you have to deal with these comments. I appreciate that you take time to answer. Jess is a life long learner and that's absolutely amazing. Thank you for answering
God bless you and your family. I so love watching your videos ❤
Val, you are a class act! If I had to address these comments; I would blow a gasket. I know some are genuinely trying to understand Jessica, and others- just ignorant. Yet, you handle it like a champ. To some people- if you have a disability; “let’s lock you up in a institution: you are broken, and cannot be fixed.” They have that stigma, and it’s very sad. Various people with differing disabilities are beautiful, and should be embraced; not discriminated and dismissed as if they are not people. I really hope those who state such things will notice that Jess has great value in this world. She isn’t broken or defected. Jess is perfect. #EducatePeopleEducate
I've worked in group homes. While I busted my butt, I had fellow staff members who did not have the same goals in mind that I had, to say it lightly. Most group homes have hidden horror stories. Physical abuse (I've heard the stories, luckily I never witnessed that) neglect, I witnessed plenty of that. Sexual abuse BY STAFF MEMBERS. Don't get me wrong, the large majority of dsp's have their clients well being first and foremost in mind. I've worked with some amazing staff over the years. But! Because of the low pay scale this position offers, there's a huge staff turnover. A lot of people get in to that line of work thinking it will be easy money. Those people don't make it a week. I've seen that more times than I can count.
I've also worked in family homes. If at all possible, she needs to be home with you guys. The success these guys reach is so much easier for them to obtain than if in a group home and or even an independent living situation. (I've worked independent living as well)
You guys are mind blowing amazing!!!
Thank you for sharing ❤️
This is your child they are not in your shoes people are so unbelievable I would do the exact same thing your doing amazing!!God Bless!❤
God Bless all of you 🥰💕❤️👍. Your love and patience are magnificent ❤️❤️👍🥰💕💕
Thank you for not throwing Jess away. She’s amazing and fun. We all have off days and she will too. Y’all are doing an awesome job.
This is so SAD !!! Val you and ALL of your family are doing a GREAT JOB !!! They aren’t living in your shoes and I can’t believe PEOPLE could be so hateful !!! People that are watching your videos should see how much Jess is LOVED by EVERYBODY that’s in her life !!! Your doing a awesome JOB, please don’t let those hateful comments ever get you DOWN !!!
So sorry that you have to deal with that kind of CRAP !!! Love your family and your wonderful videos, that help other people to understand Jessica’s illness !!! Keep up the great job !!!
God bless you and your family, for your patience, knowledge and love in advocating for Jessica. My heart pains when I see the ignorance, even rudeness, of individuals. You showed yourself on this video to be composed, even ‘respectful’, to the questions and statements you shared, while discussing Jessica. You have every right to be disheartened at the ‘insinuations’ and ‘abrasiveness’ of those who message you. You are a beautiful woman and mother and it’s a privilege to follow and learn from you all.❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
Thank you Val for posting this video. I feel bad that some people will question you about Jess and family things. It is good that you can explain things but wish people would think before they speak. Val, you are the best! Hannah is such a caring and loving sister to Jess and a great daughter for you. Val, bless you and your family. 💝
Something else that really strikes me from listening to you speak about this is the (wrong) idea that disabled people or anyone needing support from a caregiver are just taking. Taking time, taking energy, taking effort. A comment like the one you address completely misses what Jessica adds to her family and community. She is not just a receiver of caregiving, she’s a loved and valued member of her family. Of course she is.
Very well said!
I’ve never met Jess, just learned from videos, but I feel like a group home would be her downfall, one where she would not ever thrive or live life. I think you’re all doing a great job, Jess included!
Jessica is very blessed to have her family all of who love and understand her. She is also a very loving person who I can tell is easy to love. Isn’t it sad that some do not have the ability to see past her disabilities to who she is as a human. I think y’all have probably learned as much from her as she has from you. I have honestly learned a lot from Jess and the rest of you and I am 71 never too old to learn thank you.
I’ve been watching y’all for a short time but I will tell u y’all are a loving caring family . Jess is right where she should be with her family. The care y’all all give her is more than she’d get any where else . From the little time I’ve been watching Jess seems to be very happy and she does do things that y’all are showing and teaching her things to help
her be more independent . Who ever is asking all these negative questions much not have any thing better to do and a heartless person . It breaks my heart for someone to ask the things they are asking . I just want to say Jess is a beautiful woman and I think she does well and u and the rest of the family should be proud of what y’all teach her snd there for her . Jess knows she’s loved and taken good care of . I think y’all are a amazing family !!❤
Thank you!
I Love love love your explanation of the disability spectrum. It is how I always explain my syndrome because though rare, none of us is exactly the same.
Thanks for explaining! I was curious about her blindness. Keep doing what you are doing. You are doing great!
Val,you absolutely do not
Owe anyone any explanations…. The best way anyone can learn is from
People who truly love them and have their best interests at heart… I think your family is awesome as most people who suggest a group home are people
Who would not have the selfless , loving patience that you have.. they wouldn’t have the ability to lovingly teach and deal with frustrations every day!! You are awesome and you owe NO explanation for your loving choices ! Jess is a lucky girl to have a family that cares enough to help
Her thrive in this life we live!!❤❤❤
I had a great uncle…my uncle June. He was born in 1928. He never had an official diagnosis but his parents were told he would add no value to the world, be dead by 17 and he should just be in a group home. Being a medical provider myself now I would probably say he had cerebral palsy and learning disabilities. He never went to school so I can only assume had he been born later I don’t think he’d have the degree of learning disability that he did. I remember when I was little….I was say about 5+ I’d sit at the table while he ate. He used a spoon because his hands shook so bad. By the time he got the spoon to his mouth there’d be no food on his spoon. Finally I just started taking it from him and fed him myself😂. Until I was about 10-11 I ate ALL my meals with a spoon. Why? Because I thought my uncle June was the bees knees and wanted to be just like him. He used to walk me and my sister to the gas station for Candy even though my parents said no. When he was about 45-50 he discovered golfing and when I say “golfing” I mean golf balls. He loved them. So he’d walk a mile to the golf course and walk around trying to find lost balls. He pick them up, wash them and would sell them back to the little store that was at the golf course. Everyone is different and just because they are different doesn’t mean something is wrong with them. He taught me to look outside the norm and that everyone deserved to be loved and treated with respect. He passed away at the age of 78 even he was told he wouldn’t make it past 17. To this day when I see a spoon I think of him❤❤❤
You are her mama. And you are the best mama for Jess. Some people are just rude and ignorant. Jesus is happy with you and Jess. No need to explain yourself. Love you guys
You handled this beautifully. People are horrible on social media. Everyone’s family is made up of unique individuals and most people do the best they can for their own family situation. Thank you for sharing your family with us❤
Awesome answers to these questions/comments. I have watched only a short time and can see that Jessica is learning a ton, but most importantly is that she is loved! No other explanation is needed. LOVED...
Val, you are an amazing woman, an amazing mother. Don’t ever listen to the negative or ignorance that comes your way. Jess is thriving because of you! ❤️
I can’t live on my own either because I have not only blindness and autism. I also have epilepsy and I’ve had seizures and when I do, I hit my head sometimes so my mom takes care of me all the time and she doesn’t have any helpers that can help except for my stepdad my adopted father, which does everything he can to help me. He has done more for me in the last six years of my biological dad ever did my biological dad never wanted me. So I know how that feels to have to do a people saying stuff like well why can’t she do this or why can’t she do that I can’t cut food and people laugh at me all the time about that I was in a special education class because I have slight in intellectual disabilities learning problems, and also CP. And people used to laugh at me all the time about stuff like that, they would call me the R word they would call me stupid all kind of stuff, I mean this brings back a lot of stuff that I went through so I know what this is like and it’s not fun believe me I know it’s not I live with it too. I didn’t think there was anyone like me out there either because everybody kept saying well, we don’t know what your level is. They diagnosed me as severely mentally challenged, but I was seven years old by 811 they said I had the mind of a six-year-old by age 14. They said I had the mind of an eight-year-old but it would never get any better. Their advice was guess what, put me in a group home in a workshop with other people that were supposed to be like me. As Beth Simon said in the book riding the bus with my sister I’m not like them I’m different. That’s us.
I think that people think 🤔 she is more able because of her verbal skills! And it’s a credit to your family that she is the way she is! And her !
So good of you to address these things...you have much more patience than I ever would with these types of people...they really obviously have not been following you and your wonderful family and incorporation of Jess in all things.❤️❤️ works for her for sure. Look at all of the progress she has made!!! Wonderful!!!
Omg! Val I’m not sure how you are so calm and patient when filming this video . These comments make me very mad! Any decent parent would not put their child in a group home unless it was a last resort and necessary! Jessica is her on person and does things her own way. These are some very ignorant people making these comments. I love your family and think you all are angels ❤ I have a lot of respect for the WHOLE family.
I admire your calmness in your reactions. 👍
I would go mad and block them all.
Those questions make my heart hurt for you. You are giving her such an amazing life!
Beautifully explained, Val. I have seen Jess make huge gains in the past year I've been following. She is working with the best team - her family, Marlo, and the pups.
hi val all i can say is wow , i cant believe some of those questions or comments , you and your family have raised jessica into such an outstanding human , she is very intelligent and jessica wouldnt ever get such a better life being away from all of you , thats outrageous , you should be so very proud of the support youve given jessica , jessica is such a bright light in my day shed be a joy to watch her grow with all her skills x
I loved when you said “some things that Jess can’t do that”. I love that it was subtle and easy to miss. That’s exactly the point. It so perfectly captures your spirit: quiet and unrelenting.
As mentioned about an two hours ago now, I am very new to your channel. But, sadly, I’m not new to people’s absolute stupidity, extreme rudeness and total disregard for all that you are dealing with. Please just consider the source. These callous, ignorant nasty idiots could not walk 10 feet in your shoes. Carry on Val you are an absolute inspiration to ALL families dealing with these types of challenges. 👍🏻🙏🏻
Why must people compare, this is something that really works my last nerve. We are all unique in our own way. You are Jessica's family and you all know what is best for her. A person on the outside looking in should never question yours or Jessica's abilities. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Bless you Val because I don't think I could Q & A so nicely when it comes to the judgemental questions.
How bout it's none of there dang business I'm so happy that jess has such a loving supportive family. 💗
Your living your best life and that's ALL that matters. Keep it up 👍
Thank you 💕
Wow, you’re doing a wonderful job trying to keep the mean people at bay and not letting it affect you. I know sometimes they prob do, but I’m so glad you have such a large heart and Jess is with you. Maybe in the future things will change but she seems to be happy and thriving with you.
Graceful, you are always so graceful.
Individualized Service Plan (ISP) or Individualized Education Plan (IEP). Individualized plans for whatever, are at the core of all programming. Each person has different set of diagnoses, with different trajectories, with different needs, with different abilities, with different ways they each excel.
I am always baffled at people who think YOU should be doing something different that will make Jessica better. And in a hateful and spiteful way. Why?!?! Seriously, just go back to some of the earlier videos and compare those to the videos she has now. The gains and independence is mind blowing!!! For example, look at all the different foods that she has been touching- a very sensory aversion she has had all her life- overcome because the reward at the end is WORTH a couple of minutes of something unfavorable (dirty hands). And she is on video, showing people. The ability to show people how brave she can be to earn independence is HUGE for her.
How about using a hot oven or the mini oven thingy. HUGE accomplishment. She is deathly afraid, in her bones afraid of getting burnt (and also very afraid for other people getting burnt), but she has overcome this with Shrek sized oven mitts and being very careful. She verbalizes her own fear and her fear for others, BUT she still does the task. HUGE accomplishment.
I could go on and on about the difference I see from 4 or 5 years ago to now. It is mind blowing.
EVERYONE has different abilities. Me included. I was born with spina bifida. I may not do things the so called (normal) way. But I do it. So does Jess. So do all of us. We are NOT all the same. Be kind ❤️
Jessica Brooks is a TRUE BLESSING not only to her family but also all of us #GOODONES Xoxoxoxo I’m so glad I found your page, been following you guys for about three years. Sending so many blessings your way♥️
I love Jess and her personality.. Those mean people needs to kick rocks..and fall on them.. ❤❤
Hi you guys I’ve had this stuff sent to me and said to my mom over and over again when I saw this video, my heart broke for you because I know that’s gotta be hard for you. Mom has to do a lot for me and people say all the time well, I’ve got a friend who can do this well, your friend is not autistic. Your friend is not got all the problems I have, and therefore doesn’t understand what I go through every day. So I know what you’re feeling my friend I do when I saw this video made me cry because I know what this feels like and I am so sorry this was ever said to you my biological father tried to tell my mom that when I turned 18 he was going to get guardianship over me and put me in a group home. I turned 18 and I was tested to see if I could have guardianship of myself, and I could, he challenged it. We went to court over it and I told that judge I said if you allow him to put me in a group home I said you’re dumber than I am that’s exactly what I told him. He knew that I was smarter than they ever gave me credit for my friend. I’ve been where you are and it sucks. It’s horrible. jess is super smart. I watch her and she’s very smart and she also knows what she likes which is a lot like me. She likes Krispy crowns like I do and she also likes shells and cheese like me and biscuits and gravy like me that makes me think a lot of happy thought thinking about what she likes. don’t ever give up. You’re a good mommy. OK you’re a good mama you’re a good person and don’t you ever give up sweetheart you got this my friend you got this and just, just know you’re stronger than any of those things people ever said sweetheart. You’re a good person you’re smart and you know a lot don’t ever let people tell you you can’t do something because you do everything you can do and I’m proud of you for what you can do my friend. I know how this is too. I’m going through it myself, but just know my friend you’ve got a friend and me.
Thank you so much for the understanding and encouragement!
@@Shaping_Serenity hi Val, oh yes, we’ve been through voc rehab day programs all those things as well. My mom was wondering how I could get respite care because she needs to go do stuff with Daddy sometimes and we’ve never found anyone who could take care of me when she does that and I can’t be alone so we were wondering how I could apply for that for me. Also, my biological father always tells my mom why don’t you put that child in a group home she’s a child. She is only eight years old and her mind and that’s all she’s ever gonna be. She don’t understand the concept you’re giving Her she doesn’t understand anything you say she just flaps her hands makes noises and rocks in her chair. How is she ever gonna live in normal life? Mom says her daddy and I have her best interest at heart we know what she likes it doesn’t like like when she smiles when Daddy brings her iced coffee when she said Or has a bad day. Or when he takes her on an Alpine ride and she’s grinning from ear to ear because he knows what she likes. Or when he gets her ice cream in the summertime or takes her to her drive-in and even though she can’t see the movie, he tells her what happens anyway. Although those things she gets an understand. He says no she know you just think she does cause she smiles and laughs and giggles and flaps her hands. Mom says no, she always thinks it gives him a bear hug and smiles at him. I know she does. he goes you’re in denial. Mom says no I’m not. I know what my daughter can do. What she can’t do. Five years no I’m sorry six years ago. My mom got married to a wonderful man. He is the one I called Daddy he has never been around an autistic person in his life but gets me well. It makes me happy. He’s also never been around a blind person but again he gets it. He takes it in and soaks it in like a sponge and he figures things out, he gets my routine too which makes me even happier
You do you! Y'all are doing a great job! 🥰 We adopted our grandson..he's special needs due to drugs in utero! He has ADD ADHD and OCD...I home school for the simple fact, can't sit still in a traditional classroom... I refuse to put him through the stress!
I try to watch all you videos..
I don't know why you're back at bad daddies but, i do feel it's a great family environment..
People can be so cruel. I have muscular dystrophy and use a rolling Walker and can barely walk. Sometimes I stay inside my house because I can’t deal with the stares and questions and Rude remarks.
I’m sorry 😢
Hello. I'm sorry you have to deal with that from people when you go out.