Would you say that about her if she told him what color suit he would wear? Oops! Lots of brides do that. Almost all, in fact. Why can't he be interested in what she wears? Feminism is equality. It is both of their weddings. She gets the major say about what she wears. And he followed through with that. I see. You don't like that he had an opinion that differed from hers. And voiced it. Oh, the horror!!! Got it.
@@catladyfromky4142I agree and I wonder how people would react if the genders were switched and she told him what to wear? I bet many would be praising him for trying to please his woman. The double standards.
"I'm not a hundred percent sure we are perfect for each other." Seriously, she say they make each other laugh and have a lot in common, but never said she loves him, that he makes her feel beautiful or loved. That marriage is doomed if that's all they got.
I can tell you that my friend said that she was getting older and her husband is a good man before they married. She never once said she loved him too. She is now happily married to him for 16 years now. You don’t need to say you love someone but just show it.
Well not necessarily.If there is genuine liking between them,commitment to each other and to the marriage, and if they have no deep flaws in either one’s character there is on reason things can’t be faced and resolved.Every marriage needs some level of adjustment and will encounter problems requiring resolution.
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj that's called settling & you acknowledged that in the first sentence... people who feel like their time is running out, will settle for less ie the first guy that comes along & is a "good man". Reminds me of "Little House on the Prairie" days... "you gonna marry him Laura? He's a good man & you won't do better!"... She likely isn't happily married, she's complacent. BIG difference, but it can look better than tolerable, because the person has their securities in place thinking it's what's expected. People stay with people, even marry people, they don't actually LOVE. They just love what that person does FOR them, & even if they're not truly fulfilled, they won't say anything... I can speak from a very clear place, considering my parents did this...
Sonya: “if it were up to me…” Girl, it SHOULD BE up to you. If this man can’t even let you pick out your own wedding dress, there’s nothing he won’t control or take away from you. RUN.
He's what? Are you a psychiatrist? If not, you are diagnosing someone from an EDITED video from 2 hours in their lives. Would you like us to watch a part of your life and label you something? No. He didn't say that she couldn't wear her pick. What is wrong with that? If a bride is picking out what the grooms wear in their wedding day and blows down the groom's opinion, do you also call her a narcissist and tell him to run? I don't think so. So it is not a crime for him to be extremely interssted in what she is wearing. He still "lets" her make her own decision, which is a lot more than lots of brides do for their grooms on their wedding days. So you and all these other people stop throwing out these words when you are not capable of properly diagnosing these people. You wouldn't want people to label you with personality disorders via your comments, yes?
Aw the term of the day people just love to use. NARCISSIST! Do people realise it's only diagnosable by a qualified Doctor after multiple sessions? A little clip in a video is hardly sufficient especially for a non professional. Can people please stop using this word for EVERYONE they dislike. Its getting annoying AF
@catladyfromky4142 so basically you just told me you are in the same type of abusive relationship the bride is in based on your comment. Go see a shrink.
...And he is letting her decide what she wants to wear. Are you going to say the same thing if the bride decides on the colors of the groom's suit? Isn't he old enough to decide for himself too? Yet lots of brides make those decisions instead of the grooms. It is not a crime for the groom to be interested in what HIS and her wedding will look like. Especially since, after he made his own opinion about her dress, she decided on her own which dress she would wear. And he didn't complain. I don't understand why women today can't let men be themselves. We want our opinions heard, but we can't take it when með do the same. There is a disconnect here.
@@catladyfromky4142 Hi, controlling husband from the video! I'm sure you are divorced now, my condolences to you, but not to her, obviously. (Nice username "cover"..it almost worked 😜😂)
@@catladyfromky4142 How about neither of them tells the other what to wear? The couple should be agreeing on some colours and maybe general style together to make sure the wedding party looks good as a whole (if that's something they care about). And each party individually should be able to pick what they wear as long as it's fitting in the vision they have together. Giving opinions to each other is obviously fine, I sure would want my partner's opinion for instance, but being so pushy and controlling isn't cool from either side.
It goes both ways, sometimes women control what their men wear. I had a guy I was seeing talking about if we got married he wanted to wear the toxic green color tuxedo and I was like nope.
I never tell my husband what to wear and he doesn’t tell me. 38 years and couldn’t be happier. We are each our own person and we want each to be happy.
Yep, the scene where they're shopping the rack and she's constantly looking back at him for approval "What do you think?"... been there, done that. She's already losing herself. This guy is a CLASSIC narcissist.
He’s a controlling nightmare. Will he be attending the bridal shower and bachelorette celebration as well? What about when they get their nails done? Hair in the morning? Makeup? 🤦🏻♀️ He’s a Richard.
What the heck does she even see in him? If hundreds of TH-cam viewers can see all the red flags from a 10 minute video…I’m only halfway through but I really hope this wedding did/will not happen!!!
That he likes to joke? Because, if you didn't notice, they had different opinions about what dress she should get. She decided for herself. And he didn't complain. So. Again, his joke about having an interest in the bride's dress was the "red flag" for you. His acknowledgment that men don't usually do this (per his joke) is so terrible that you want her to ditch him. Even though you still don't know him better than she does.
@@catladyfromky4142Hi, Jonathan (the groom to be) it is your controlling behavior that is the "red flag" that people in the comment section are referring to.
When people apply to get on the show, the show chooses them for a certain storyline. They probably prompt him to say certain things, because the storyline is the opinionated groom. It's usually fake drama.@@cupcake1406
He's a jerk for being interested in what she wears? Or is it because his opinion is different than hers? Would you call her a jerk if she picked out the suit color of the groom, AND the colors of THEIR wedding? By herself? No. We all know that. So why is it so bad when he voices his opinion? Point to where he told hwr she couldn't get the one she wanted. If you can't, then you are not allowing HIM to be a full person who cares about THEIR wedding.
@@catladyfromky4142the problem wasnt that, it was that he was ignoring her opinion and just wanted to pick himself, you forget that some people Only get married once so ofcourse its the brides thought that matters!! Not the groom, he can go pick his own suit. Theres a difference between a gown and a suit.
Did not understand the signs. Lived it for 11 years before I had the courage to run. Run, girl, run …… for your mental health, self respect, confidence and self-love. Or it will take years to take it back.🥰
As soon as she said "And it's not pouffy!" His smile went away! This A.I. has ONE thing in mind! Competitive Control! Run Girl! Glad she stood up to him!😉✌️❤️🦋🙏
He ruined it by insisting on being there and having his way, now he didn't get that moment in the church to see his bride in all her radiance because she feels so beautiful and special.
If I get married someday, I would like to have the groom with me to chose the dress. Not because I don't trust my own opinion, but because it's a moment I would like to share. Plus, if he's trying to control, I could still dodge the bullet. x)
“I’m not 100% sure we’re perfect for each other.” 👀 🚩👀🚩👀🚩👀🚩👀🚩👀 If these two made it to the alter, that marriage didn’t last. Plus, I’ve found the older the bride is, the more simple she wants in a wedding gown. When my great-grandfather remarried after my great-grandmother passed away, his new wife (90yo) wore a simple ivory dress suit. No fancy fabric or beadwork, and she wore a simple pearl necklace. She did have her hair done, and she had a bouquet of flowers. It was a sweet ceremony.
@@mariesmith1616 I was just saying that the older a woman gets, the less embellishment she wants in a gown. A lot of girls want huge ballgowns when they’re young. As they get into their early 20s, it changes to an A-line, then a decade after that they want a more form-fitting or simple gown without any underskirts. I’ve noticed this pattern on all of the American versions of SYTTD. I haven’t watched enough of the international versions to say it’s universal. My point is that a 37yo woman is not likely to want a puffy ballgown. Also, my great-grandfather’s second wife passed away at 97. I’d too be impressed if she could change her PJs at 99.
Why? She picked her own dress. So what is the problem? He had his opinion that was different than hers. Oh no! The other women told her which dress they liked. That was why they came. They didn't come to help the bride, because she's a big girl and can make her own decision. I see. You're upset that he cared about what she wore. And it was different than hers. Ok. But is it the end of the world? No. She got what she wanted. The end.
Bride says she is not sure they are 100% right for each other. That means she sees red flags. He's a controlling selfish jerk, from what I see. One of those a wife is his property kind of guys. Why would she get married? Maybe her age plays a role that she'll move forward. She's walking into a nightmare. I so hope they don't have children. It won't last.
Did he control what dress she picked? Nope. Would you say the bride was a selfish jerk if she picked out the groom's suits? I bet not. He has an opinion. That must be a red flag to you for some reason. He really likes the other dress. Oh no!!!!! ...And she still got the dress she wanted. Ok. So where's the problem again?
I shopped for my wedding dress with my husband but he wouldn’t dream of telling me what to wear. He can be frank if he doesn’t like something but he has never tried to control me. We have happily been together more than 40 years. Run! The fist fiancé is not good news.
He doesn't come across as the sharpest pencil in the box, but he does come across a control freak. Been there, done that. Run for your life, honey...trust me!
Why bring so many people to a dress fitting? Just her mom and dad would have been enough. I believe in a little mystery and a little surprise element on the wedding day. As for bringing the groom......will he be bringing half the world for picking out his suit or tux?
I can see bringing one or two people to a fitting and at the last fitting you need to bring whoever may be responsible for bustling the dress after the wedding ceremony so they'll know how to do it but there is no reason to bring your entire family and your friends. I'm pretty sure a large entourage for a fitting appointment would be discouraged by the salon. This woman probably brought everyone who wanted to be on TV even for a second.
I love the father at the end. "It's just as perfect as she is!" OTOH, I think the first couple's marriage isn't going to work well. It feels like they're getting married because "it's what you do."
The first woman seems like a SAD case of an older person giving up everything to keep a younger partner. No one is ever "perfect" for each other. It's a fantasy phrase many mistakenly take as law. That part was the only honest thing she acknowledged. But the vibes between those two...It just gives me "I've invested so much time with this person and I don't want to start over AGAIN." I hate when people seem to prefer to stay with misery JUST to say they have someone (even when they don't like that person) than to have peace in solitude because they hate being alone.
I feel like we've seen this one before. I don't mean just a groom with 'opinions', I mean this couple. Give him the poofy dress of his dreams for him to wear, because honestly he is one fatiguing Princess.
I thought the second bride was going to include the neighbor from down the street! She had 2 ROWS of people….AT A FITTING!!! A LOT of people must have wanted to be on TV!!!
1st bride actually looks afraid of him. Girl, you do not want to walk on eggshells with this man for the rest of your life. Have some pride and confidence in yourself. Someone like your fiance will knock you down every chance they get.
That husband to be is a huge red flag. As someone who was in a controlling relationship, I am advising her to say no to the groom. He looks like a player who thinks he is a stud, when really he is a dud. Run girl! Run!
The hard part is most wedding dresses must be worn in order to see their true beauty. You cannot get a good idea of what a dress looks like on the rack. This guy is giving advice on something he knows absolutely nothing about.
Kaitlyn and her daddy made me smile When he said "the dress is as perfect as she is" my heart melted I had the same relationship with my dad and i miss him every single day
LOL. Would you say that if the bride picked out his suit for the wedding? Lots of brides do that. She got the dress she wanted. So what is the problem? I don't see it. I saw a man who weirdly cared about the dress as much as she did. But it isn't a crime.
“If it were up to me” GIRL IT IS UP TO YOU!!! YOU THE ONE WEARING IT!!! I worked at a bridal shop and I dealt with people like him all the time and it’s annoying
The fact that the bride admitted that she's not sure about her fiance... THEN the fiance tried calling all the shots on the dress & she completely lost track of finding what felt good for HER, not just HIM... that is NOT a good start to a marriage! They have a very unstable relationship built on one person having a power trip & the other person being too insecure to not leave a man who clearly doesn't let her make her own decisions. This man wants way too much control over the outcome.
Just remember ladies: ANY man’s opinion on your outfit, in every context imaginable, is always irrelevant. 💅🏻 Also if they refer to themselves as “Prince Charming” run in the opposite direction as fast as humanly possible.
Would you say the same thing if the bride picked out the groom's suit? Lots of brides do that. It is both of their wedding. They both have to see the photos. He had his opinion, and he gave it. And then she picked it out with no fuss from him. Isn't that the way it SHOULD be? In the equal world we all want?
Soooo many red flags with the first fiancé. My ex fiancé was very particular about what my wedding dress would look like also. I’m convinced it’s a sign of a controlling man. Thank god he’s my ex
attitude for him....i was dressing MYSELF looooong before you came along and i'll be dressing myself loooong AFTER you're gone!!! end of conversation but that's jus' me.
My x hated my dress. Eons ago. Twenty somethings we were. All lace Victorian ballgown. Garden wedding. I should have gotten an annulment. This gal is headed for a lifetime of misery if she marries someone for " we both enjoy the night life, he makes me laugh." ( GF just about anyone innebriated can make us laugh.) 🤪🍻
He's trouble because he cares about what she wears? Is she trouble if she not only cares about what the groom wears but singlehandedly picks it out? I bet you would have a different conclusion. It is both of their wedding. Most men don't care about what the bride wears. This one does. Oh, the horror! I can bet you that she cares about what he will wear and will, at least, get to voice her opinion about it. Feminism equals equality. It shouldn't remove the ability of the man in the couple to have an opinion.
Good for her for sticking to what she wants! If he likes the poofy dress so much, he can buy his own. He doesn't need to manipulate his fiance into getting it so he can wear it later.
He's not manipulating her. He cares about the dress because it is also his wedding and he will also see the photos. Would you say that, if a bride picked out the groom's groomsmen suits that he needed to run and that she just wanted to wear it later? Lots of brides do that. Should you call them all closet lesbians? I don't know if you meant to denigrate him for being interesties in fashion, but you did. I wasn't aware that the groom didn't get to participate in his own wedding plans. Yes, he has a strong opinion about the silhouette. But she got the dress she wanted. Where is the problem? That they disagreed on something? Oh no! That should never happen in a MARRIAGE!
@@catladyfromky4142 The sheer amount of comments I've seen you leave on people calling this guy out is concerning. Unless you are/know this guy you are way too invested in how people view him. You keep saying "what if the bride picked the grooms suit" as if her not valuing his opinion on his attire isn't viewed as equally shitty. The reason a lot of brides pick the suit is because a lot of men don't care and would rather leave the work to her, not because his opinion doesn't matter. If the groom truly does care what he wears and the bride came in being like "I'm princess charming. We're not here to pick out a suit for him, we're here to pick out a suit for me. I understand he wants that style but I want this style." then yes it would be a problem...just like it is that this groom did exactly that. Yes she got the dress she wanted but not without him trying to make it all about him first. The problem isn't the result it's his attitude right up until the very last second which, let's be honest, probably only changed because this is a TV show. There is a difference between having an opinion and pushing your opinion on someone. "I liked the other one but does this one makes you happy?" VS "I liked the other one, are you sure you don't wanna put the other one on again?" One is supporting her opinion while voicing his, the other is pushing his while undermining hers. Which one is closer to what he said? Also why the hell are you bringing sexuality into this? Nothing in the original comment called him gay, unless you think a man buying a poofy dress makes him gay in which case your outraged respons is very hypocritical.
i don’t think i could take any family members wedding dress shopping - my brother would be “idk cool” about every one, my mum and sister would comment on how it makes me look too thin or shows off some other flaw, and my dad would just make me feel bad about spending money on the dress😂 taking your family with you is dangerous territory😂
@@annewagner196even my own dad said, "There is nothing wrong with wearing a dress now and then." He was considered manly, well dressed and a pillar of the community.
This Guy is one Giant RED Flag 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩!!! Run honey run!!
Would you say that about her if she told him what color suit he would wear? Oops! Lots of brides do that. Almost all, in fact.
Why can't he be interested in what she wears?
Feminism is equality. It is both of their weddings. She gets the major say about what she wears. And he followed through with that.
I see. You don't like that he had an opinion that differed from hers. And voiced it. Oh, the horror!!! Got it.
@catladyfromky4142
Here we go again.... responding to every comment that exposes you?? hahaha
@catladyfromkunderstand your point, but he's a bit too controlling for me!!! Too much "my way or the highway".
@@catladyfromky4142I agree and I wonder how people would react if the genders were switched and she told him what to wear? I bet many would be praising him for trying to please his woman. The double standards.
@@MsWarriordiva, but it wasn’t his way or the highway. Even though it isn’t what he would have picked he didn’t throw a fit.
Yes to the dress, No to the fiancé
Spot on!
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He is disgusting. How old is he? 17?
She should seriously reconsider this guy.
I would never bring my fiance to the bridal salon! And it would weird me out if he wanted to be there.
"I'm not a hundred percent sure we are perfect for each other." Seriously, she say they make each other laugh and have a lot in common, but never said she loves him, that he makes her feel beautiful or loved. That marriage is doomed if that's all they got.
I can tell you that my friend said that she was getting older and her husband is a good man before they married. She never once said she loved him too. She is now happily married to him for 16 years now. You don’t need to say you love someone but just show it.
Well not necessarily.If there is genuine liking between them,commitment to each other and to the marriage, and if they have no deep flaws in either one’s character there is on reason things can’t be faced and resolved.Every marriage needs some level of adjustment and will encounter problems requiring resolution.
@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj it's good to hear from the person you're going to marry that they love you not just show you.
Huh? Lost coherence in the middle.
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj that's called settling & you acknowledged that in the first sentence... people who feel like their time is running out, will settle for less ie the first guy that comes along & is a "good man". Reminds me of "Little House on the Prairie" days... "you gonna marry him Laura? He's a good man & you won't do better!"... She likely isn't happily married, she's complacent. BIG difference, but it can look better than tolerable, because the person has their securities in place thinking it's what's expected. People stay with people, even marry people, they don't actually LOVE. They just love what that person does FOR them, & even if they're not truly fulfilled, they won't say anything... I can speak from a very clear place, considering my parents did this...
Sonya: “if it were up to me…” Girl, it SHOULD BE up to you. If this man can’t even let you pick out your own wedding dress, there’s nothing he won’t control or take away from you. RUN.
That’s what got me the most too!!! How could those words come out of her mouth?
I was gonna say the same, it's literally your dress, it's entirely up to you! Blows my mind that she really said that with no awareness.
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The groom is a narcissist. He believes he's prince charming. Girl run far, run fast. You deserve so much better.
I think he's in the closet personally
He's what? Are you a psychiatrist? If not, you are diagnosing someone from an EDITED video from 2 hours in their lives. Would you like us to watch a part of your life and label you something?
No.
He didn't say that she couldn't wear her pick. What is wrong with that?
If a bride is picking out what the grooms wear in their wedding day and blows down the groom's opinion, do you also call her a narcissist and tell him to run?
I don't think so.
So it is not a crime for him to be extremely interssted in what she is wearing. He still "lets" her make her own decision, which is a lot more than lots of brides do for their grooms on their wedding days.
So you and all these other people stop throwing out these words when you are not capable of properly diagnosing these people. You wouldn't want people to label you with personality disorders via your comments, yes?
Aw the term of the day people just love to use. NARCISSIST! Do people realise it's only diagnosable by a qualified Doctor after multiple sessions? A little clip in a video is hardly sufficient especially for a non professional. Can people please stop using this word for EVERYONE they dislike. Its getting annoying AF
@@catladyfromky4142Exactly and the double standards really kill it.
@catladyfromky4142 so basically you just told me you are in the same type of abusive relationship the bride is in based on your comment. Go see a shrink.
The first bride is 37 years old - I think she's old enough to decide what dress she wants to wear.
...And he is letting her decide what she wants to wear.
Are you going to say the same thing if the bride decides on the colors of the groom's suit? Isn't he old enough to decide for himself too?
Yet lots of brides make those decisions instead of the grooms. It is not a crime for the groom to be interested in what HIS and her wedding will look like. Especially since, after he made his own opinion about her dress, she decided on her own which dress she would wear. And he didn't complain.
I don't understand why women today can't let men be themselves. We want our opinions heard, but we can't take it when með do the same. There is a disconnect here.
@@catladyfromky4142
Hi, controlling husband from the video! I'm sure you are divorced now, my condolences to you, but not to her, obviously. (Nice username "cover"..it almost worked 😜😂)
@@cc-sb1is I don't think the guy from the video could have written such a coherent statement. 😂
@@catladyfromky4142 How about neither of them tells the other what to wear? The couple should be agreeing on some colours and maybe general style together to make sure the wedding party looks good as a whole (if that's something they care about). And each party individually should be able to pick what they wear as long as it's fitting in the vision they have together. Giving opinions to each other is obviously fine, I sure would want my partner's opinion for instance, but being so pushy and controlling isn't cool from either side.
She is settling.
Run as fast as you can!! This is just the beginning of his control.
Exactly!!!!
I already see major problems ahead for couple. 😢
If he’s telling you what to get, you’re in trouble with your entire marriage.
It goes both ways, sometimes women control what their men wear. I had a guy I was seeing talking about if we got married he wanted to wear the toxic green color tuxedo and I was like nope.
I never tell my husband what to wear and he doesn’t tell me. 38 years and couldn’t be happier. We are each our own person and we want each to be happy.
Girl, run as fast as you can!!!!! You can definitely do better than this a-hole
@@DulcessExactly!
@@pamm3776Exactly!
She is an example of someone settling for a guy just because he asked and she doesn’t want to be alone. She has years of misery ahead of her with him.
This groom is a HUGE red flag🚩
This is why you dont bring your groom..
Poor girl she looks like she's already weary of always trying to please him, the way she looks at him
So glad she decided for herself 💪🏼
Yep, the scene where they're shopping the rack and she's constantly looking back at him for approval "What do you think?"... been there, done that. She's already losing herself. This guy is a CLASSIC narcissist.
He’s a controlling nightmare. Will he be attending the bridal shower and bachelorette celebration as well? What about when they get their nails done? Hair in the morning? Makeup? 🤦🏻♀️ He’s a Richard.
Older bride with a child at a southern wedding. I think he's a bit uneasy that it's a non traditional wedding for that part of the world
@@longarmoftheOOHLALA Think of a short name for Richard and it’s not Rick.
A Richard 😂 Good one
You mean Richard Cranium
@@9094nancyj Either or works. 🤦🏻♀️🤣
She needs to dump Jonathan . . . he definitely isn't marriage material.
This is from 12yrs ago and looking Sonya up it seems they're still married and live in South Carolina.
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She must have the patience of a saint
@@Cozycountry1really? I’m so sorry for her.
What the heck does she even see in him? If hundreds of TH-cam viewers can see all the red flags from a 10 minute video…I’m only halfway through but I really hope this wedding did/will not happen!!!
@@christinaneeparker Thank you for your reply.
SOOOO many red flags...Run Sonya Run!! This marriage is doomed....and if that weren't enough the guy has frosted tips, enough said.
I wonder if they are still married?
YES!!!!!!!!!
You say above they've been married for 16 years, did you look them up?@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj
If they are I wonder why!
That whole entourage seemed uncomfortable with that situation.
When he said " We are coming here to pick her out a dress but I think it is more to pick me out of dress." That is all I needed to know about him.
That he likes to joke?
Because, if you didn't notice, they had different opinions about what dress she should get. She decided for herself. And he didn't complain.
So. Again, his joke about having an interest in the bride's dress was the "red flag" for you. His acknowledgment that men don't usually do this (per his joke) is so terrible that you want her to ditch him. Even though you still don't know him better than she does.
@@catladyfromky4142I agree and he had his opinions but he still let her pick what she wanted. I wonder why everyone is looking at it so negatively?
@@catladyfromky4142Hi, Jonathan (the groom to be) it is your controlling behavior that is the "red flag" that people in the comment section are referring to.
@@catladyfromky4142The comment means he's a closet gay.
When people apply to get on the show, the show chooses them for a certain storyline. They probably prompt him to say certain things, because the storyline is the opinionated groom. It's usually fake drama.@@cupcake1406
Run baby run! What a jerk.
He's a jerk for being interested in what she wears?
Or is it because his opinion is different than hers?
Would you call her a jerk if she picked out the suit color of the groom, AND the colors of THEIR wedding? By herself?
No. We all know that. So why is it so bad when he voices his opinion? Point to where he told hwr she couldn't get the one she wanted. If you can't, then you are not allowing HIM to be a full person who cares about THEIR wedding.
@@catladyfromky4142the problem wasnt that, it was that he was ignoring her opinion and just wanted to pick himself, you forget that some people Only get married once so ofcourse its the brides thought that matters!! Not the groom, he can go pick his own suit. Theres a difference between a gown and a suit.
Maybe he secretly wants to wear the dress 🤣
Did not understand the signs. Lived it for 11 years before I had the courage to run. Run, girl, run …… for your mental health, self respect, confidence and self-love. Or it will take years to take it back.🥰
20 yrs for me. And once I did see the red flags I stayed so as not to break up my family.
Did she get to attend his tux appointment? My guess I no. I'd love a follow up on this. She's either miserably married or divorced.
@@cindylouwho6762No, they are still married.
She has a young daughter. That is not the example of a husband I would want my daughter to grow up seeing.
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj Poor girl.
It's as perfect as she is, the Dad says. What a wonderful, supportive thing to say to his daughter.
The Dad was a breath of fresh air after that previous fiancé.
He’s a minor celeb in Atlanta with billboards and commercials. “One call, that’s all!”
Lori said sometimes you have to figure out who the bride is hahahahaha
As soon as she said "And it's not pouffy!" His smile went away! This A.I. has ONE thing in mind! Competitive Control! Run Girl! Glad she stood up to him!😉✌️❤️🦋🙏
He ruined it by insisting on being there and having his way, now he didn't get that moment in the church to see his bride in all her radiance because she feels so beautiful and special.
If I get married someday, I would like to have the groom with me to chose the dress. Not because I don't trust my own opinion, but because it's a moment I would like to share. Plus, if he's trying to control, I could still dodge the bullet. x)
“I’m not 100% sure we’re perfect for each other.”
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If these two made it to the alter, that marriage didn’t last. Plus, I’ve found the older the bride is, the more simple she wants in a wedding gown. When my great-grandfather remarried after my great-grandmother passed away, his new wife (90yo) wore a simple ivory dress suit. No fancy fabric or beadwork, and she wore a simple pearl necklace. She did have her hair done, and she had a bouquet of flowers. It was a sweet ceremony.
Good grief she was lucky enough to be able to change her pjs at 99 yo. How is it to be compared with a 37 years old woman.
@@mariesmith1616 I was just saying that the older a woman gets, the less embellishment she wants in a gown. A lot of girls want huge ballgowns when they’re young. As they get into their early 20s, it changes to an A-line, then a decade after that they want a more form-fitting or simple gown without any underskirts. I’ve noticed this pattern on all of the American versions of SYTTD. I haven’t watched enough of the international versions to say it’s universal.
My point is that a 37yo woman is not likely to want a puffy ballgown.
Also, my great-grandfather’s second wife passed away at 97. I’d too be impressed if she could change her PJs at 99.
The only person the groom should be marrying is himself. Nobody should have to put up with him. I hope the lovely lady didn't marry him.
He loves a poofy dress, then he must wear one.
This is a bugs bunny narcissist, she's too good for him, she better run,
If groom wants pooch he should wear pooch himself!
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Exactly. If he wants poofy, then by all means, he should wear poofy.
Poof, not pooch! No woman wants a pooch! 😂
Poof as in poofy, not pooch.
He is NOT husband material!!! He'll control EVERY aspect of her life. Run the other direction!!!!! Open your eyes and see the whole truth!!!
Ladies, you don``t have to bring everyone on your guest list to pick the dress or get it fitted.
They all want to be on TV
Monty makes me laugh out loud... "Never get between a man and his... poof." 😊
It made me laugh too
I wish I heard those women speaking up in defense of the bride.
Why? She picked her own dress. So what is the problem?
He had his opinion that was different than hers. Oh no!
The other women told her which dress they liked. That was why they came. They didn't come to help the bride, because she's a big girl and can make her own decision.
I see. You're upset that he cared about what she wore. And it was different than hers. Ok. But is it the end of the world? No. She got what she wanted. The end.
right???
Ma’am run as fast as you can the red flags are already flying and I’m barely 2 minutes into the video
Bride says she is not sure they are 100% right for each other. That means she sees red flags. He's a controlling selfish jerk, from what I see. One of those a wife is his property kind of guys. Why would she get married? Maybe her age plays a role that she'll move forward. She's walking into a nightmare. I so hope they don't have children. It won't last.
Did he control what dress she picked? Nope.
Would you say the bride was a selfish jerk if she picked out the groom's suits? I bet not.
He has an opinion. That must be a red flag to you for some reason.
He really likes the other dress. Oh no!!!!!
...And she still got the dress she wanted. Ok. So where's the problem again?
30 seconds in, do not like that fiancé. The embroidery on the back pockets of his jeans told me everything I need to know about him.
😂😂😂True
The way I'd be leaving that appointment without a fiance and without a dress...catch my smoke on the way out.
Maybe I would buy the dress for the next fellow, but the guy is a goner.
I shopped for my wedding dress with my husband but he wouldn’t dream of telling me what to wear. He can be frank if he doesn’t like something but he has never tried to control me. We have happily been together more than 40 years. Run! The fist fiancé is not good news.
Prince Charming looks like a waiter she picked up on a vacation with her friends. I wonder if the relationship lasted until the wedding?
You think he had a job? I’m not so sure
He doesn't come across as the sharpest pencil in the box, but he does come across a control freak.
Been there, done that. Run for your life, honey...trust me!
I totally agree!!!!
Uh oh. He gives me the creeps
Why bring so many people to a dress fitting? Just her mom and dad would have been enough. I believe in a little mystery and a little surprise element on the wedding day.
As for bringing the groom......will he be bringing half the world for picking out his
suit or tux?
I can see bringing one or two people to a fitting and at the last fitting you need to bring whoever may be responsible for bustling the dress after the wedding ceremony so they'll know how to do it but there is no reason to bring your entire family and your friends. I'm pretty sure a large entourage for a fitting appointment would be discouraged by the salon. This woman probably brought everyone who wanted to be on TV even for a second.
I love the father at the end. "It's just as perfect as she is!"
OTOH, I think the first couple's marriage isn't going to work well. It feels like they're getting married because "it's what you do."
That marriage won't last!
Run girl, run. Don't look back. He will try to control everything you do.
Anyone know if this couple is still together?
Exactly what I came to the comments trying to find out
I hope not!
No, they are still married.
She got the dress right but I have serious reservations about her self proclaimed Prince Charming p. He’s a bit “poofy” about himself.
Keep your wedding gown a surprise for everyone. It should be just you and your mum choosing your gown. ❤️
'we got a lot of in common!'
Then be friends its ok to be friends lmao
The first woman seems like a SAD case of an older person giving up everything to keep a younger partner. No one is ever "perfect" for each other. It's a fantasy phrase many mistakenly take as law. That part was the only honest thing she acknowledged. But the vibes between those two...It just gives me "I've invested so much time with this person and I don't want to start over AGAIN." I hate when people seem to prefer to stay with misery JUST to say they have someone (even when they don't like that person) than to have peace in solitude because they hate being alone.
I think the groom might want to feel like a little princess 👀
The wink from him right at the start was enough of a signal for me
She's not a child bride! Glad she stood up before saying "I do"!
The first bride. Did she said I am not sure if we perfect for each???? 😅😢😂 she is kidding me???
That dress the girl came in for a fitting is stunning!!
Groom wants a dress fr #CLOSETED 😂
If the first bride was my sister, friend, etc, I’d be telling her to RUN for the hills!
I feel like we've seen this one before. I don't mean just a groom with 'opinions', I mean this couple. Give him the poofy dress of his dreams for him to wear, because honestly he is one fatiguing Princess.
It's that smarmy wink for me... 🤮 #NOPE
Warning, warning, warning. If its like this before wedding, what the hell will he be like after!
For the first bride:
"If he's funny, laugh!" - Joey of Friends
I thought the second bride was going to include the neighbor from down the street! She had 2 ROWS of people….AT A FITTING!!! A LOT of people must have wanted to be on TV!!!
Why don't her friends speak up, too? Support her!!!
1st bride actually looks afraid of him. Girl, you do not want to walk on eggshells with this man for the rest of your life. Have some pride and confidence in yourself. Someone like your fiance will knock you down every chance they get.
That husband to be is a huge red flag. As someone who was in a controlling relationship, I am advising her to say no to the groom. He looks like a player who thinks he is a stud, when really he is a dud. Run girl! Run!
Omg so many red flags - so controlling - get the heck out of there!
Love the dress she chose. Poof is good for young girls but her dress is very elegant and suits her.
The hard part is most wedding dresses must be worn in order to see their true beauty. You cannot get a good idea of what a dress looks like on the rack. This guy is giving advice on something he knows absolutely nothing about.
Kaitlyn and her daddy made me smile
When he said "the dress is as perfect as she is" my heart melted
I had the same relationship with my dad and i miss him every single day
Sorry for your loss
”If it were up to me. . . “ Girl, it IS up to you. Take your daughter and run!
LOL. Would you say that if the bride picked out his suit for the wedding? Lots of brides do that.
She got the dress she wanted. So what is the problem? I don't see it. I saw a man who weirdly cared about the dress as much as she did. But it isn't a crime.
@@catladyfromky4142 Yes, my husband picked out his own suit and his grooms men’s suit.
“If it were up to me” GIRL IT IS UP TO YOU!!! YOU THE ONE WEARING IT!!! I worked at a bridal shop and I dealt with people like him all the time and it’s annoying
The fact that the bride admitted that she's not sure about her fiance... THEN the fiance tried calling all the shots on the dress & she completely lost track of finding what felt good for HER, not just HIM... that is NOT a good start to a marriage! They have a very unstable relationship built on one person having a power trip & the other person being too insecure to not leave a man who clearly doesn't let her make her own decisions. This man wants way too much control over the outcome.
Did he just WINK at the consultant?? Run, honey!!!
Spot the narcissist ... "I'm the most important person here"
Monty killed me with a comment 😂 I died laughing
she should say no to the fiance he's a walking red flag
Sorry but whenever i hear "he makes me laugh" I remember what Joey said in FRIENDS😅
The second bride dress is gorgeous! The way the dad smiled and said nice things about it. Oh so sweet. Wish I had like she does. She’s one lucky lady!
Just remember ladies: ANY man’s opinion on your outfit, in every context imaginable, is always irrelevant. 💅🏻
Also if they refer to themselves as “Prince Charming” run in the opposite direction as fast as humanly possible.
Would you say the same thing if the bride picked out the groom's suit? Lots of brides do that.
It is both of their wedding. They both have to see the photos. He had his opinion, and he gave it. And then she picked it out with no fuss from him.
Isn't that the way it SHOULD be? In the equal world we all want?
That’s TOO many people in for a fitting!!! 😬
Ch'ui d'accord !!! C'est pénible tous ces gens qui donnent leur avis et qui ne payent rien...
Soooo many red flags with the first fiancé. My ex fiancé was very particular about what my wedding dress would look like also. I’m convinced it’s a sign of a controlling man. Thank god he’s my ex
"If it were up to me..." It IS up to you!! It's YOUR wedding dress. Buy him one too if he's that insistent.
Dad is such a sweetheart ❤
Any controlling guy is a red flag.
Interesting, I've never met a heterosexual man who had such strong feelings about women's clothing!
I know, right?
I wonder if he is, wink wink 😉😉. She may be settling because of her age. Never know.
THAT'S what you took from this??
Leave the fiance at home ffs.😅
With the 2nd bride, is dad a dentist??!! They all have perfect teeth!!!! Yea, I'm jealous! 😂😂
He seems like a dream come true! 😢
Hopefully they are still together and happy as ever
attitude for him....i was dressing MYSELF looooong before you came along and i'll be dressing myself loooong AFTER you're gone!!! end of conversation but that's jus' me.
Any guy that believes he should pick out your wedding dress is a huge red flag. You need to run!
dump him now
My x hated my dress. Eons ago. Twenty somethings we were. All lace Victorian ballgown. Garden wedding. I should have gotten an annulment. This gal is headed for a lifetime of misery if she marries someone for " we both enjoy the night life, he makes me laugh." ( GF just about anyone innebriated can make us laugh.) 🤪🍻
I truly thought she was going to cancel the engagement right then and there!!!! Why didn’t she!?!? A definite divorce!!!!!
The wink from Jonathon when he was introduced was the first red flag. WHY is she marrying him?!?
There is absolutely no love for her in that groom's eyes. What is she thinking?
This fella is trouble........not a good sign!
He's trouble because he cares about what she wears?
Is she trouble if she not only cares about what the groom wears but singlehandedly picks it out? I bet you would have a different conclusion.
It is both of their wedding. Most men don't care about what the bride wears. This one does. Oh, the horror! I can bet you that she cares about what he will wear and will, at least, get to voice her opinion about it.
Feminism equals equality. It shouldn't remove the ability of the man in the couple to have an opinion.
She should dump the guy, get the 1st dress and have a party to celebrate her escape!
Good for her for sticking to what she wants! If he likes the poofy dress so much, he can buy his own. He doesn't need to manipulate his fiance into getting it so he can wear it later.
He's not manipulating her. He cares about the dress because it is also his wedding and he will also see the photos.
Would you say that, if a bride picked out the groom's groomsmen suits that he needed to run and that she just wanted to wear it later?
Lots of brides do that. Should you call them all closet lesbians?
I don't know if you meant to denigrate him for being interesties in fashion, but you did. I wasn't aware that the groom didn't get to participate in his own wedding plans.
Yes, he has a strong opinion about the silhouette. But she got the dress she wanted. Where is the problem? That they disagreed on something? Oh no! That should never happen in a MARRIAGE!
@@catladyfromky4142 The sheer amount of comments I've seen you leave on people calling this guy out is concerning. Unless you are/know this guy you are way too invested in how people view him.
You keep saying "what if the bride picked the grooms suit" as if her not valuing his opinion on his attire isn't viewed as equally shitty. The reason a lot of brides pick the suit is because a lot of men don't care and would rather leave the work to her, not because his opinion doesn't matter. If the groom truly does care what he wears and the bride came in being like "I'm princess charming. We're not here to pick out a suit for him, we're here to pick out a suit for me. I understand he wants that style but I want this style." then yes it would be a problem...just like it is that this groom did exactly that.
Yes she got the dress she wanted but not without him trying to make it all about him first. The problem isn't the result it's his attitude right up until the very last second which, let's be honest, probably only changed because this is a TV show.
There is a difference between having an opinion and pushing your opinion on someone. "I liked the other one but does this one makes you happy?" VS "I liked the other one, are you sure you don't wanna put the other one on again?" One is supporting her opinion while voicing his, the other is pushing his while undermining hers. Which one is closer to what he said?
Also why the hell are you bringing sexuality into this? Nothing in the original comment called him gay, unless you think a man buying a poofy dress makes him gay in which case your outraged respons is very hypocritical.
"If it were up to me" It's your wedding dress it is up to you
He wouldn't be husband material for me, I'm sad for her, if he is like this on deciding on a dress, the rest of her life maybe a total nightmare.
i don’t think i could take any family members wedding dress shopping - my brother would be “idk cool” about every one, my mum and sister would comment on how it makes me look too thin or shows off some other flaw, and my dad would just make me feel bad about spending money on the dress😂 taking your family with you is dangerous territory😂
This fiancé looks like a player to me! She better protect her daughter!
Fine, let's see him in it.
He might want to try it on later. I hope I'm wrong for her sake.
With a tiara too? And sparkly high heels
Not that there's anything wrong with that... Just let the fiancé know.
Right @@annewagner196
@@annewagner196even my own dad said, "There is nothing wrong with wearing a dress now and then." He was considered manly, well dressed and a pillar of the community.
There's nothing wrong with bringing the groom along to the appointment. There's a lot wrong with bringing _this_ groom along to the appointment.