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You need some very serious therapy. If you’re choosing to hang on on with a narcissist it means there’s something about you that needs some serious attention
so sorry haki. May God locate you to a lovely man. There was a time I met a narcissist in Minnesota too but lasted for 50 days but I read the mood and left. I had this mindset that I had to get married to a Kalenjin, mtu wetu weeeh, kiliniramba. Guess what, a few weeks later I met my hubby at the University corridors, also American but with a South Sudan background. God restored what I almost lost. My advice is, sometimes tukiwa majuu let us also give a chance to people beyond our country or tribe. I dated with hubby for a month, he proposed and married me 4 months later and God has been great. Akaninunulia SUV and added my name to his house so that I feel a part of him and be ready to carry his kid. God directs people with honest intentions to destiny connectors. Sis, nothing is lost, you will meet your hubby soon. A man who does not want to date but to marry and settle and knows that it is the responsibility of a man to provide. Women we just help where we can.
I relate to her story. It took me 9yrs to realize i was with a narcissist. The only solution to overcome the abuse is NO CONTACT & work on urself to excel in all facets of life
I'm so sorry to hear what you went through. Although I witnessed some of the abuse, I didn't know it was that bad. You are so strong and vital for you and your daughter. So glad you can talk about it and on your way to healing ❤❤❤
This young lady is a super star. Its easy to judge a person until you face a similar situation. I've learned to be kind and patient with folk. Please dont go back to that guy, whoever he is.
I don't know if am the only one who got pissed off listening to this😮 coz i thought as the red flags continue nitaskia kitu ingine😮 wueeeeh hii ni witchcraft
In my 26 years in a narcissistic relationship, my brother in law always said that i seemed to enjoy pain. That comment used to hurt so bad...i left 3 years ago and i often wonder what that sham of a marriage really was. I remember listening to Benjamin Zulu who advises that it is always best for victims to move very far away from these perpetrators. God made a way for me to move to Europe and i can finally exhale. My adult children are still in 254 but dad has discarded them and wants nothing to do with them. This is their nature and they never see their wrong. If you are in a toxic relationship, please study these personalities and dont expect them to ever change. They leave a trail of destruction and trauma to their families
I went through this too three times in relationships since 2003! I thank God for my life today! My Children My Life. Don't ever wanna have anything to do with men. Not that i am gay or anything! But just embraced Self-love 🥰
Lack of wisdom.....She was dealing with grown up kenyan kid not kenyan man.... Ladies....if you are not legally married before God's eyes...both of you are fornicating! Lqdies and gentlemen,when you guys are patying,clubing,drinking....both of u r not ready to have kids or even family. God is organize and we don't drag His name when we can't go His ways...
Unfortunately this is very common. I've seen this happen, even in my own family. My sister was the soul provider for the 1st 23 years of marriage, her husband was healthy and had credentials but refused to work. He also used to abuse her and cheat on her. When they moved to America, he got a job but only pays a fraction of the bills. This happens to very intelligent women, women who are beautiful and perfectly capable of getting into another relationship, but they get stuck with narcissists.
They have gas lighting tongue and some use love bombing to keep the victims to themselves!Imagine being abused in USA where it doesn't take 10minutes before the police come to your rescue!
Once ushaonesha mwanaume you can provide for him in the name of love you'll suffer from my experience 😢wacha tu nkae as long as love is not a ticket to heaven...God's love is enough..fear men walai
Renting an apartment for a man , buying his groceries, paying for his friends enjoyment is madness. What did he do to her? I really enjoyed the interview. She was better off never reconnecting with him but she’s accomplished a lot in spite of everything.
Yeah,wow this is extreme,,,,its informative alafu realizing that some families lack accountability among themselves is toxic,,,its giving stay vigilant while choosing a partner🏌♀🤭
Hawa narcs are just the worst... Sasa huyu mrembo, amesoma, is organised then one person derailed human akuje akuhangaishe... 🎉🎉🎉🎉 Full custody rights given
Marsha is such a beautiful person in and out I’ve met her and her baby and they are soo nice . I hope she gets all the love and support she always gives people .
She was trauma bonded hence the back-and-forth drama with baby daddy, he got a submissive provider and exploited her. Ladies do not allow a man to tell you NO twice, if his actions don't match his words, leave. Men 'talk' thorough actions. Not everybody is for you ladies!! Love yourself, put yourself first in everything you do, be your own advocate and act in your best interests Always. In the meantime, she should elevate her boundaries, standards, values and respect herself more
The hardest thing to digest is that if the guy didn't leave her they would still be together in that toxic relationship. I hope she manages to process everything in therapy.
Hizo nazo ni story za jaba am here and I have never felt lonely, it all starts with your self esteem if hujipendi even in kenya utakipata. Mimi uzuri napenda pesa,I go work n come so tired,drop and sleep, repeat the routine n fly back n build my apartments and life goes on.
@bellaolum9768 she was already having esteem issues,that's what made her take so much shit,I understand her,I have been there,but my point is the loneliness people keep on referring to in America, canada or abroad,cz am there and I have never felt lonely, unless you are a person who needs other people's energy supply,hence why the vulnerability n ending up getting hurt n taken advantage of by such abusive men or women.
Go mama! I remember what that man did to you in front of hundreds of women! My goodness I remember feeling so bad for you. I'm glad you are now happy and on your healing❤❤
No man will ever convince me to keep him in any way, not even in my apartment. I will never buy a man anything, leave alone paying his bills. Girls need to know the fundamentals of love
Your Posture is also flawed....there is nothing Wrong with buying for a guy the difficulty is establishing his or her Motives....it's a Fundermental human issue... looking at her and hearing her out talking about Celeb I can tell She wanted the relationship more than Him.
Oh GOD the story is very similar to mine. Im six months pregnant, he has blocked me everywhere plus his family has blocked me too. After mothering the man and taking care of him for four years, now he claims the child is not his. Been financially exploited and used all my cash and even went ahead and blackmailed me into getting a loan which he spent on himself. Now was physically abused thouroughly beaten at 5 months and told that he'll kill me and go to jail, thats when i decided to leave everything behind with my pregnancy. This is a man ive trusted with my life and supported for the four years. My life is dark and dont even know how ill manage to put everything in place before baby comes. I need prayers and alot of phsychological help right now. Sorry to use a man's email to text this, its my proxy. Guys i need prayers. Toxic narcists exists. I felt like lily is sharing my story
This is your new beginning.The old is past,the new has come. You are stronger than you know. God is creating something something new in your life. Read isaiah 43:19. This too will pass
Leaving has been your first best decision and you will make it. Starting off will be hard but one day at a time. If you have family, start from there and God will do it for you
So proud of you for speaking up. I am sure you will save lots of girls. You are so beautiful, young glad you got out of that horrible relationship. I hope you continue to heal. You look so fierce in your Pagent pics, it's hard to detect past pain in pics. Glad you are out of it. 💞💞
I went through such an experience. Luckily we didn't get a kid together. People never understand it, but they can see how you've changed from yourelf. They kinda blame it on you. So you avoid reality check. And the abuser shames and uses your feeling 'embarassed' card to guilt trip you. Una experience brain fog, hadi hujali vile una ji neglect. It takes a long time to relearn yourself or trust genuinely. Thanks for advocacy. Keep reaching out to many. Men go through this abuse too!
@Lily, this girl is such a vibe😊. And she has a big heart I don't blame her for what she went through. Am proud of her for being strong. Your such an amazing person. Keep going 💪
If the guy apologized after this show, and promised that he’d change…I bet you she’d take him back, then blame all men for the results. I beg, please, you don’t have to be 54 years old to be aware that an abusive relationship is not a place to be in. It seems both of these people seriously avoid accountability and they’ve paid for it dearly.
Nyinyi ni wale watu you intentionally cause emotional damage and set backs to people. When someone is hurting you tell them to move on when you know it's not the right thing to do , now you're here telling someone who has decided to move on that she will go back. You're an abuser, a narcissist for sure. Sadist .
I’m not victim blaming, as I too have suffered narcissistic abuse. However, this young lady tolerated too much in the very beginning. There were so many obvious signs this guy was no good. Maybe it was low self esteem and insecurities at play on her side. I’m glad she’s out of the situation and learnt valuable lessons going forward. Good luck to her❤ she deserves a decent man when she’s ready
You've taken me on an emotional rollercoaster of my past. These are 3 of my ex boyfriends. Narcissistic,abusive. Basically women that are kept by women and love to tear women down. In competition with women. Your baby daddy is gay my friend. That's a trait all these guys have, they are in competition with us because they can't BE US.
Ladies , for how long will ww shout "love yourself" and don't be an enabler of any type of abuse.Stand firm.What I learn from Lily is that she had inner fear to stand for herself.All the time she was saying, " I don't want to ....."What about the one abusing and using you?Lily you are soooo beautiful and a conquerer.You will go higher.❤❤❤❤❤❤
Why are so many kenya women so desparate of marriage please being single is not a sin,for the bible says better be single and serve the LORD your God alone
@@mutuasteve2179 1 Corinthians 7;32_35 or you may read the whole chapter 7 of 1Corinthians to know more about marriage.Dont be ignorant of the word of God which will judge all man🙏🙏
@@johnkinuthia498 In 1Corinthians 7: 32-35 or read the whole chapter 7 of 1Corinthians to understand the marriage plan of God for every person living in this earth will be judged by the Bible,because it is the judgment book🙏🙏🙏🙏
This anger issue with Narcissists is a mechanism of controlling the victim. Then they trap your mind in a way you are not able to leave him. Woe unto you if you have self esteem issues atakutumia kama kifagio.
Love is something we can't describe..we stay longer in a relationship we don't deserve tukipima weather when we should have seen the red flags and ran to the hills. Even when someone is offering you mothing you continue giving your best and hoping they will change. Narcissists never change..they can manipulate and take away yourself esteem and make you question your sanity because you are their target. They are the angels and you are the devil and you will not win an urguement with them. Gal, you deserve better. Move on and forget the past. God will give you someone you deserve and who deserves you too. Narcissists do not deserve a second chance..carry on girl. Mungu mbele
Thank you baby girl for sharing your experience, this must’ve taken a lot of courage, and in your courage other women will gain the strength to walk away from situations that don’t serve them. Shame lives in the dark ❤️
If hes a celebrity like she said why is she responsible for his upkeep . That is not only red flag i see red curtains i think she love his " title " celebrity
Thank you! That’s how serious this was! That guy and family are about themselves and their image! Even with this interview, they will be so angry she exposed them! I pray for her for her peace and safety.
Those speculating, its not Nonini. Nonini lost his dad kitambo sana. If you read the article by Mwakilishi 2020 about Nyashinski, you will connect the dots.
Kumbe uchawi is real,mnatoanga wapi nguvu ya kulisha wanaume, mm kitu kubwa nichawai nunulia mwanaume ni chewing gum nani vile tu nlikuwa na mbili kwa bag nikampa moja😂🚺
God has a purpose for you. You are a therapist to so many young girls. I know your feelings and you will heal if you surround yourself with positive people and giving back to the community.
Listen women, Rule number one of a r/p you don’t pay rent for a man, never pick up his tabs/bills. Stay single and enjoy your Money if they can’t afford their keep.
Eeesh there is that and then some. Hii story hapana, I am literally listening from under the table juu this is embarrassing even to a bystander. Girl! You got scammed and then robbed and then…….
so sorry haki. May God locate you to a lovely man. There was a time I met a narcissist in Minnesota too but lasted for 50 days but I read the mood and left. I had this mindset that I had to get married to a Kalenjin, mtu wetu weeeh, kiliniramba. Guess what, a few weeks later I met my hubby at the University corridors, also American but with a South Sudan background. God restored what I almost lost. My advice is, sometimes tukiwa majuu let us also give a chance to people beyond our country or tribe. I dated with hubby for a month, he proposed and married me 4 months later and God has been great. Akaninunulia SUV and added my name to his house so that I feel a part of him and be ready to carry his kid. God directs people with honest intentions to destiny connectors. Sis, nothing is lost, you will meet your hubby soon. A man who does not want to date but to marry and settle and knows that it is the responsibility of a man to provide. Women we just help where we can.
Something was wrong into her head, ladies let me tell you a secret “ if you don’t give a man your money that man will love you so much and value you”. Hope you will never do the same. Thanks for coming
Stop victim blaming, it’s her story not ours. Some people love hard and when you are in a toxic relationship it’s hard to take the first step to leave na Ndio unaona watu wakiuliwa in those relationships. Just learn from it. If it was easy hatungekuwa tunasikia this kind of stories.
You neèd to start healing yourself dear.When we keep allowing abuse, it's because we have a vacuum that reflects the abuser.Sometimes we accuse the abuser, but we have control over choices, so if we keep choosing the abuser, then we are the ones to blame.
narcissism - i have never understood this word - some times i think it's an abused word; i think sometimes we blame narcissism for our mistakes - we choose the wrong person, choose to remain in those bad relationships and then blame it on everyone else
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You should show his picture so he cant do that too some one elseand his name
Her insta isn't accessible
You need some very serious therapy. If you’re choosing to hang on on with a narcissist it means there’s something about you that needs some serious attention
so sorry haki. May God locate you to a lovely man. There was a time I met a narcissist in Minnesota too but lasted for 50 days but I read the mood and left. I had this mindset that I had to get married to a Kalenjin, mtu wetu weeeh, kiliniramba. Guess what, a few weeks later I met my hubby at the University corridors, also American but with a South Sudan background. God restored what I almost lost. My advice is, sometimes tukiwa majuu let us also give a chance to people beyond our country or tribe. I dated with hubby for a month, he proposed and married me 4 months later and God has been great. Akaninunulia SUV and added my name to his house so that I feel a part of him and be ready to carry his kid. God directs people with honest intentions to destiny connectors. Sis, nothing is lost, you will meet your hubby soon. A man who does not want to date but to marry and settle and knows that it is the responsibility of a man to provide. Women we just help where we can.
Nnnñ
We can never control how people treat us but we can decide for how long we will allow them to treat us😢😢😢
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Please love yourself before you get into a relationship. That way, nobody will ever step on your toes
True abusive men pry on your insecurities of thinking you have no option or you are not enough
America can be lonely but self love is a priority ❤️
True
Love yourself first.
This is why you need to know who you are and your boundaries early in life.The initial red flags were enough to not start the relationships.
Hundred percent 💯
This exactly! Women should know their worth!
Exactly! Like why are you paying bills for a guy you just met and who’s not your husband? Desperation is bad gals😭😭😭
Even for the husband why do you have to pay his bills ?kulea a grown up man na sio ugonjwa nop, aende kalelewa na mamake. @catherinemuriuki1471
I relate to her story. It took me 9yrs to realize i was with a narcissist.
The only solution to overcome the abuse is NO CONTACT & work on urself to excel in all facets of life
It's unfortunate what happened to this lovely lady. People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. It's better to live safe than sorry.
I'm so sorry to hear what you went through. Although I witnessed some of the abuse, I didn't know it was that bad. You are so strong and vital for you and your daughter. So glad you can talk about it and on your way to healing ❤❤❤
This young lady is a super star. Its easy to judge a person until you face a similar situation. I've learned to be kind and patient with folk. Please dont go back to that guy, whoever he is.
She seems like a great person, so beautiful and humble. Things will get better eventually
True
I agree ❤
Selflove and self-care above all ladies
I don't know if am the only one who got pissed off listening to this😮 coz i thought as the red flags continue nitaskia kitu ingine😮 wueeeeh hii ni witchcraft
This comment should be pinned. Hii story imenichokesha roho sana.
Wallai ni uchawi
😂😂😂😂😂 you said it as it should be said
Mimi ata nimeskia kupiga kofi apa kwa simu😂😂😂
@@silaton305my dear if I was to share my story it’s worse than this but am out am healing through professional help .
Big question who is this celebrity?? The fact that she went through all this stuff for the first 3 years n stayed in its mind blowing
In my 26 years in a narcissistic relationship, my brother in law always said that i seemed to enjoy pain. That comment used to hurt so bad...i left 3 years ago and i often wonder what that sham of a marriage really was. I remember listening to Benjamin Zulu who advises that it is always best for victims to move very far away from these perpetrators. God made a way for me to move to Europe and i can finally exhale. My adult children are still in 254 but dad has discarded them and wants nothing to do with them. This is their nature and they never see their wrong. If you are in a toxic relationship, please study these personalities and dont expect them to ever change. They leave a trail of destruction and trauma to their families
Trail of destruction and trauma, say that again. But God.
They're not even red flags but red sheets, red blankets
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I can only identify red panties and red skirts😊😊😊
😂😂spare my ribs 😅
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Staying with a narcissistic person can b traumatic, but the way u stayed thru out this bad experience 😢
I went through this too three times in relationships since 2003! I thank God for my life today! My Children My Life. Don't ever wanna have anything to do with men. Not that i am gay or anything! But just embraced Self-love 🥰
The devil fought Your marriage...the problem is not the man but the spirit that fought Your marriage.
@@goodlife2945
And the person that allowed him to penetrate into their being.
@@goodlife2945 Indeed! Also, immaturity I guess! We were young and foolish 🥰
@@VeronicaDunbar The 3rd time, I defo opened the window to the 😈 I thank God that He never leave my side 🙏🏾
How did you do this? Am stuck
Oh my gosh! I will never understand this kind of kujituma. The guy didnt even pretend to care or acknowledge her. This is beyond red flags. Pole sana
When you're obsessed with love,you can do anything.
Obsessed is the right word
@@nzyukostella7298😂
Or fail to do anything.....
@@nzyukostella7298 yes I thought I had written obsessed 😂
Lack of wisdom.....She was dealing with grown up kenyan kid not kenyan man....
Ladies....if you are not legally married before God's eyes...both of you are fornicating!
Lqdies and gentlemen,when you guys are patying,clubing,drinking....both of u r not ready to have kids or even family.
God is organize and we don't drag His name when we can't go His ways...
Unfortunately this is very common.
I've seen this happen, even in my own family. My sister was the soul provider for the 1st 23 years of marriage, her husband was healthy and had credentials but refused to work. He also used to abuse her and cheat on her.
When they moved to America, he got a job but only pays a fraction of the bills. This happens to very intelligent women, women who are beautiful and perfectly capable of getting into another relationship, but they get stuck with narcissists.
Bewitched.
@@silaton305no, she's just madly in love 😅
😮😮wooi
Yeah common phenomenon
@@mercyk2672or maybe she's getting strong strokes 😅
Detaching from a narcissist can be very difficult. Sometimes you may even require a professional counsellor to walk away from him.
True but our God is faithful.
Correct
They have gas lighting tongue and some use love bombing to keep the victims to themselves!Imagine being abused in USA where it doesn't take 10minutes before the police come to your rescue!
This gal is so beautiful, she looks like sinach the Nigerian gospel artist
Once ushaonesha mwanaume you can provide for him in the name of love you'll suffer from my experience 😢wacha tu nkae as long as love is not a ticket to heaven...God's love is enough..fear men walai
Have you tried Nigerian black american or white
Renting an apartment for a man , buying his groceries, paying for his friends enjoyment is madness. What did he do to her? I really enjoyed the interview. She was better off never reconnecting with him but she’s accomplished a lot in spite of everything.
Dickmentation
We have all been there work on your self esteem and love God the most ❤️
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Amen 🙏 ❤
We have been there dear. Never be afraid to be alone.
Is worse if you encounter a NIGERIAN 😢😢😢
@@maggierattz8552 so sorry no human being should be that valuable to make you loose your mind. We are human but learn to regulate your emotions
I feel pain listening to her story.Yaani she was working for a man who was using her.
Alikuwa anafukuzwa anarudi tena.
Unafukuzwa kwa nyumba unalipa rent imagine
Wah! 😩
Imagine that!
I wish all young girls, women dating could listen to this kind of stories and be able to see the red flags before getting into this kind relationships
Yeah sure
Yeah,wow this is extreme,,,,its informative alafu realizing that some families lack accountability among themselves is toxic,,,its giving stay vigilant while choosing a partner🏌♀🤭
Guys go through this too
@@rmboch True
It's still hard for her to accept it😢i hope she gets better and get it out of her.She is lovely and hardworking she doesn't need a loser next to her.
They should tell us who this guy is
Wueeeeh!! Pole mama!! Single parenting works, cut off all the toxicity ...
Hawa narcs are just the worst... Sasa huyu mrembo, amesoma, is organised then one person derailed human akuje akuhangaishe... 🎉🎉🎉🎉 Full custody rights given
They pretend a lot but here in USA God knows what men go thru this are devils! Using narcissism is ridiculous!!
This is the highest level of abuse! I can't tell you how sorry I am, that you went through it. But God will heal you and restore you in Jesus name.
Marsha is such a beautiful person in and out I’ve met her and her baby and they are soo nice . I hope she gets all the love and support she always gives people .
She is absolutely from the way she talks you can tell she has a good heart
@@alicetindilee1327 i agree though i have not met her.
Who knows the celeb boyfriend?
@@Sunshine._23😂let us know
She was trauma bonded hence the back-and-forth drama with baby daddy, he got a submissive provider and exploited her. Ladies do not allow a man to tell you NO twice, if his actions don't match his words, leave. Men 'talk' thorough actions. Not everybody is for you ladies!! Love yourself, put yourself first in everything you do, be your own advocate and act in your best interests Always. In the meantime, she should elevate her boundaries, standards, values and respect herself more
Correct, narscissists dont change ,the change the victim
The hardest thing to digest is that if the guy didn't leave her they would still be together in that toxic relationship. I hope she manages to process everything in therapy.
When you're in a bad relationship in America, it feels like your drowning. The feeling of being totally alone is the worst.
Hizo nazo ni story za jaba am here and I have never felt lonely, it all starts with your self esteem if hujipendi even in kenya utakipata. Mimi uzuri napenda pesa,I go work n come so tired,drop and sleep, repeat the routine n fly back n build my apartments and life goes on.
Woow @@carolmburu1064
@@carolmburu1064 anmesema when you're in a bad relationship
@bellaolum9768 she was already having esteem issues,that's what made her take so much shit,I understand her,I have been there,but my point is the loneliness people keep on referring to in America, canada or abroad,cz am there and I have never felt lonely, unless you are a person who needs other people's energy supply,hence why the vulnerability n ending up getting hurt n taken advantage of by such abusive men or women.
Go mama! I remember what that man did to you in front of hundreds of women! My goodness I remember feeling so bad for you. I'm glad you are now happy and on your healing❤❤
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No man will ever convince me to keep him in any way, not even in my apartment. I will never buy a man anything, leave alone paying his bills. Girls need to know the fundamentals of love
WORD!!!
Your Posture is also flawed....there is nothing Wrong with buying for a guy the difficulty is establishing his or her Motives....it's a Fundermental human issue... looking at her and hearing her out talking about Celeb I can tell She wanted the relationship more than Him.
Oh GOD the story is very similar to mine. Im six months pregnant, he has blocked me everywhere plus his family has blocked me too. After mothering the man and taking care of him for four years, now he claims the child is not his. Been financially exploited and used all my cash and even went ahead and blackmailed me into getting a loan which he spent on himself. Now was physically abused thouroughly beaten at 5 months and told that he'll kill me and go to jail, thats when i decided to leave everything behind with my pregnancy. This is a man ive trusted with my life and supported for the four years. My life is dark and dont even know how ill manage to put everything in place before baby comes. I need prayers and alot of phsychological help right now. Sorry to use a man's email to text this, its my proxy. Guys i need prayers. Toxic narcists exists. I felt like lily is sharing my story
This is your new beginning.The old is past,the new has come. You are stronger than you know. God is creating something something new in your life. Read isaiah 43:19. This too will pass
Leaving has been your first best decision and you will make it. Starting off will be hard but one day at a time. If you have family, start from there and God will do it for you
This story hit differently, alot of lessons to draw
YVONNE YOU LOOK SO PRETTY WITH YOUR HAIR❤❤❤...I LOVE THE WAY YOU LOOK TODQY..PLUS YOUR DRESSING IS ON POINT AS WELL...KEEP AT IT GIRL 🌹
It's only God who can heal a broken heart. May the Lord heal this gal.
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Similar to my story... 21 years without the narcissist and growing stronger
So proud of you for speaking up. I am sure you will save lots of girls. You are so beautiful, young glad you got out of that horrible relationship. I hope you continue to heal. You look so fierce in your Pagent pics, it's hard to detect past pain in pics. Glad you are out of it. 💞💞
A narcissist has no capacity to love ,thats the hard truth ......one day at a time girl learn to love youself
Proud of you
Same thing happened to me...thanks for sharing your story...gave us hope
This is true theri is nothing a woman can do to keep a man who don't want to be kept.
True, mbona umeongea ukweli 😢
So sorry gal for whatever you went through...you are beautiful,you don't deserve such a man.
Was in such a relationship a year ago and didn’t know what was keeping me there, but I thank God I finally left and feeli completely nothing for him
This is not red flag 🚩 but red sea 🌊
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Ma Lord 😂😂😂
With Rey whales 😅
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I went through such an experience. Luckily we didn't get a kid together. People never understand it, but they can see how you've changed from yourelf. They kinda blame it on you. So you avoid reality check. And the abuser shames and uses your feeling 'embarassed' card to guilt trip you. Una experience brain fog, hadi hujali vile una ji neglect. It takes a long time to relearn yourself or trust genuinely. Thanks for advocacy. Keep reaching out to many.
Men go through this abuse too!
And most of us want this marriages so bad....
these are priviledges handsome famous guys enjoya, sisi na akina Stivo Simple Boy acha tuhangaike duniani hadi siku ya kaburi
@Lily, this girl is such a vibe😊. And she has a big heart I don't blame her for what she went through. Am proud of her for being strong. Your such an amazing person. Keep going 💪
If the guy apologized after this show, and promised that he’d change…I bet you she’d take him back, then blame all men for the results. I beg, please, you don’t have to be 54 years old to be aware that an abusive relationship is not a place to be in. It seems both of these people seriously avoid accountability and they’ve paid for it dearly.
Nyinyi ni wale watu you intentionally cause emotional damage and set backs to people. When someone is hurting you tell them to move on when you know it's not the right thing to do , now you're here telling someone who has decided to move on that she will go back. You're an abuser, a narcissist for sure. Sadist .
True, hii hata hatufai kumhurumia, the friends adviced her to leave the guy akakataa na kuwacut off. This is not love as she puts it, she's crazy.
I believe she went through all that. A narcissist is a piece of work indeed. Pole sana mrembo….glad you had an awakening moment! You are beautiful 🎉
The story started from the end. How did she move to America?
I’m not victim blaming, as I too have suffered narcissistic abuse. However, this young lady tolerated too much in the very beginning. There were so many obvious signs this guy was no good. Maybe it was low self esteem and insecurities at play on her side. I’m glad she’s out of the situation and learnt valuable lessons going forward. Good luck to her❤ she deserves a decent man when she’s ready
You've taken me on an emotional rollercoaster of my past. These are 3 of my ex boyfriends. Narcissistic,abusive. Basically women that are kept by women and love to tear women down. In competition with women. Your baby daddy is gay my friend. That's a trait all these guys have, they are in competition with us because they can't BE US.
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Ladies , for how long will ww shout "love yourself" and don't be an enabler of any type of abuse.Stand firm.What I learn from Lily is that she had inner fear to stand for herself.All the time she was saying, " I don't want to ....."What about the one abusing and using you?Lily you are soooo beautiful and a conquerer.You will go higher.❤❤❤❤❤❤
Why are so many kenya women so desparate of marriage please being single is not a sin,for the bible says better be single and serve the LORD your God alone
Where says that
@@mutuasteve2179 1 Corinthians 7;32_35 or you may read the whole chapter 7 of 1Corinthians to know more about marriage.Dont be ignorant of the word of God which will judge all man🙏🙏
Which verse? 😬🤣🤣🤣🤣
Where???
@@johnkinuthia498 In 1Corinthians 7: 32-35 or read the whole chapter 7 of 1Corinthians to understand the marriage plan of God for every person living in this earth will be judged by the Bible,because it is the judgment book🙏🙏🙏🙏
Me watching this and thinking was this really love or witchcraft 😮??…All this time how could she not exit?…
How do people love this much…
Jeeeez!!!!
Who else will bet that this woman will get back to him?
Once bitten twice shy
This lady let I find myself in such situation.@@user-wr9fn4ny4i
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This is is it, because mara jamaa hakunywangi then all over sudden anakinywa,@@user-wr9fn4ny4i
😂me too
This anger issue with Narcissists is a mechanism of controlling the victim. Then they trap your mind in a way you are not able to leave him. Woe unto you if you have self esteem issues atakutumia kama kifagio.
Marsha is such an amazing person with a great heart and I guess that’s why that guy took so much advantage of her.
Love is something we can't describe..we stay longer in a relationship we don't deserve tukipima weather when we should have seen the red flags and ran to the hills. Even when someone is offering you mothing you continue giving your best and hoping they will change. Narcissists never change..they can manipulate and take away yourself esteem and make you question your sanity because you are their target. They are the angels and you are the devil and you will not win an urguement with them.
Gal, you deserve better. Move on and forget the past. God will give you someone you deserve and who deserves you too. Narcissists do not deserve a second chance..carry on girl. Mungu mbele
Thank you baby girl for sharing your experience, this must’ve taken a lot of courage, and in your courage other women will gain the strength to walk away from situations that don’t serve them. Shame lives in the dark ❤️
such an amazing and warm comment
I love how she has a slight american accent but can still easily switch back to swahili
Yeah
If hes a celebrity like she said why is she responsible for his upkeep . That is not only red flag i see red curtains i think she love his " title " celebrity
She said he used to be a celebrity in Kenya. Not in the US
Any man borrowing me my own money issaa nooooo😂😂😂😂😂😂
Is not a no, Issa big NOOOOOOOO😂😂😂😂
@@Musso124 😂😂😂😂a fat noo
This was a death trap only the prayers of your grandmother rescued you
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Thank you! That’s how serious this was! That guy and family are about themselves and their image! Even with this interview, they will be so angry she exposed them! I pray for her for her peace and safety.
Thank you for sharing your story. You are a strong woman. ❤
How on earth do you pay house rent for a grown-up man in the USA?
I too wonder...😂
You are strong! He didn’t deserve you. Your future is bright now that you are healing and you are aware of such toxic relationships.
Those speculating, its not Nonini. Nonini lost his dad kitambo sana. If you read the article by Mwakilishi 2020 about Nyashinski, you will connect the dots.
Would love to read the article
Woiii, usiniambie ni Nyash? The way I like and respect that guy!
@@Justbarbara.B would also like to read it
@@bellaolum9768sounds like him
@@bellaolum9768Hata mtoi kafanana na huyo artist,go check her profile.
Waah,am speechless,I can't blame you gal.
Kumbe uchawi is real,mnatoanga wapi nguvu ya kulisha wanaume, mm kitu kubwa nichawai nunulia mwanaume ni chewing gum nani vile tu nlikuwa na mbili kwa bag nikampa moja😂🚺
Sio uchawi hii story ni ya uwongo
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Weueh
@@fredTek 🤣🤣🤣
Are you theex@@fredTek
God has a purpose for you. You are a therapist to so many young girls. I know your feelings and you will heal if you surround yourself with positive people and giving back to the community.
I have to delete my original message, I will not judge but really it is important to love thyself, otherwise people will walk all over you.
May God save us and our daughters from this kind of witchcraft.
Listen women, Rule number one of a r/p you don’t pay rent for a man, never pick up his tabs/bills. Stay single and enjoy your Money if they can’t afford their keep.
same for men not only women unless there's a kid involved period
Pewa a tub of icecream on me...true
You teach people how to treat you ❤. May God heal you.
Eeesh there is that and then some. Hii story hapana, I am literally listening from under the table juu this is embarrassing even to a bystander. Girl! You got scammed and then robbed and then…….
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It's gonna happen again in tha name of the child haki😢
@@trizermakumicanada1986That's what I was thinking...."the baby needs to see her daddy"
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Weh! I hope she got some serious therapy to heal from the trauma because kuachwa na kuachana is not enough. Deep work is needed.
Ngai 😑😐🤨🤐🤔🤢where did she get the strength to raise a man child??? Jeso😮
Kurogwa
I did it for one year!!! Never again. It's so draining. Never again. I learned my lesson.
Wa lady your patience is of higher level may you find pure caring kind giving love❤❤❤
This young lady needs to see a psychiatrist asap .
She needs to work on her self esteem ..that is the problem
You can’t make a man to be with you
Nice to see Marsha!! A very warm bubbly lady🎉
I think this girl was not normal.. maybe the guy was using something on her...that man was an animal 😢na he was raised badly..
If a man comes to you with a celebrity title, ruuuuuuuuuuuun fleeeeeeeeee for the hills
Mtu ana programiwa kuwa submissive under matesa.
I am so sorry girl ,you are beautiful and you are speaking for many many girls ,I wish you true happiness and. Joy .love your baby and love yourself.
so sorry haki. May God locate you to a lovely man. There was a time I met a narcissist in Minnesota too but lasted for 50 days but I read the mood and left. I had this mindset that I had to get married to a Kalenjin, mtu wetu weeeh, kiliniramba. Guess what, a few weeks later I met my hubby at the University corridors, also American but with a South Sudan background. God restored what I almost lost. My advice is, sometimes tukiwa majuu let us also give a chance to people beyond our country or tribe. I dated with hubby for a month, he proposed and married me 4 months later and God has been great. Akaninunulia SUV and added my name to his house so that I feel a part of him and be ready to carry his kid. God directs people with honest intentions to destiny connectors. Sis, nothing is lost, you will meet your hubby soon. A man who does not want to date but to marry and settle and knows that it is the responsibility of a man to provide. Women we just help where we can.
Am happy for you dear
My 20s was a mess thank God I discovered my self before it got too late
Mine too. But thank God that He is good
Something was wrong into her head, ladies let me tell you a secret “ if you don’t give a man your money that man will love you so much and value you”. Hope you will never do the same. Thanks for coming
Really ati usipo mupea pesa he will love you?
Sis those flags were bloody red. So sorry you missed all the obvious sign. A lesson for all women to love ourselves enough. X
I don’t think that guy was a narcissist, this girl allowed the guy to disrespect her… when you love yourself, you can’t tolerate all this nonsense
You don’t know what you’re talking about. Narcissistic relationship are no joke.
My thoughts too.She allowed all this to happen as if she was so desparate to be loved by this guy.
@@STEPHENJOHNRABUOGIOWINY imagine, as much as I have I have loved a guy too much in the past, sikufikia hapa jamani 😅😅, I had to let go 🤭🤭
Stop victim blaming, it’s her story not ours.
Some people love hard and when you are in a toxic relationship it’s hard to take the first step to leave na Ndio unaona watu wakiuliwa in those relationships.
Just learn from it. If it was easy hatungekuwa tunasikia this kind of stories.
@@Inhomenursingserviceseven some things that require common sense can make you stay?
You neèd to start healing yourself dear.When we keep allowing abuse, it's because we have a vacuum that reflects the abuser.Sometimes we accuse the abuser, but we have control over choices, so if we keep choosing the abuser, then we are the ones to blame.
I would like to share my story also
I really wanted to watch this,,language is a barrier 😢
I'm eager to hear the story of a narcissist who changed completely.
They snap right back after stm
Narcissists can never change
Narcissism is life long..you die with it they can only change the patterns
True @@theresaelizabethelijah117
🖐️I too.
narcissism - i have never understood this word - some times i think it's an abused word; i think sometimes we blame narcissism for our mistakes - we choose the wrong person, choose to remain in those bad relationships and then blame it on everyone else
Niache Wakenya Kenya nikang'ang'ane nao majuu?Ka ndina ngoma mutwe?
Hahahaa
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😂😂😂😂😅😅😅 my question too
Bana 😅😅