+Wayne Goss It's ok for one's hair to turn grey, as long as it doesn't turn loose!!.........I loved having a walk with you. And don't worry about the silver in your hair, you'll always be beautiful.....xoxo Lisa
Totes agree with what you say. One thing I'd never do again is chase after friendship. If you're constantly being the one to try and arrange a meet up, or always there for them but it's never returned, move on and find a friend that does want to make the effort.
+Jean Marie shame we had to learn the hard way, huh! I remember my mum saying to me when I was growing up 'when you get older, you'll be lucky if you can count good friends on one hand'. how right she was! I feel all depressed now....lol xx
never again in friendship...1. be the full time listener. 2. be guilt tripped into doing something I don't want to.. 3. having kindness taken advantage of..
i really can understand every single point you mentioned! my top 3 1) never ever lend money again 2) don't invest time in a friend ship when your "friend" is not willing to make time for you 3) if your "friend" makes constantly excuses why you can't meet each other ( 5 min notice) dump them just like that!! that list could go on XD
Everything you said I totally agree!! Another thing I had to learn the hard way so many times as a teen is: -Don't glue or fix your friendships by yourself!! Forgiving is OK but I had always thought I have given so much it's a shame to throw it away and it has always been a circle and in the end I had to break these relationships anyway and felt more hurt and stupid as I could be more smarter and did it long time ago!! Was always trying to have friends for life but from 20 friends (ex) now I have 2 true friends and feeling very happy and blessed!! Friendships are a true treasure with real friends..not the fake ones!!! Wayne you are a great person!! Sending much love and hugs to you
Dont assume someone is nice because everyone sais he is so nice,lovely,known him years etc etc. I ended up being mildly assaulted because i believed other people rather than my own gut feeling. Your instincts are there to protect you.
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." - Maya Angelou. I also firmly believe in always listening and trusting your gut instinct. You brought up very good points in your vlog.
One thing I will never do in friendship again, is continue to speak to someone who is so rude and judgmental towards strangers. If you're hanging around someone who constantly focuses on a girl who's wearing an outfit that doesn't flatter her, or makeup that doesn't look right, it's only a matter of time before that stuff comes back to you.
oh i totally agree with everything here. I have lent money to friends before in good faith and never got any back even in small instalments but they still went on holidays or showed me new clothes or told me about their nights out. If I owed somebody money I would make it a priority to pay it back asap and not spend any money on luxuries etc until repaid. And I have had friends who dropped me when a guy came along only to crawl back when it ended. I always make time for all my friends and family and my partner is very supportive about this. I value my friends so much.
Loved #3 can relate with that My top three would be: 1) Be smart pick friends who are a mirror of you and your values. Don't go chasing after an ideal friend. A friend should help you build your character not turn you into how they want you to be. 2) don't be used and abused. If u see in a friendship u r always giving make sure u run from that relationship. 3) when it comes to money I don't borrow money to anyone. Have been burnt in the past I learnt my lesson.
Great points! It seems the rude people always know the good hearted people will give them a chance. We shall pray for them but just stay away from them.
You're so right about first impressions Wayne, I learned that the hard way , a few times!!! Lol because I'm a psychiatric nurse, I often feel I'm overanalysing people, so I tend to give them the benefit of the doubt ( friends and men! Lol ) , but now I always go with my gut instinct. My 3 things are 1. Go with your first instinct 2. Treat people the way you want treated 3. Practise gratitude. Nowadays people have so much ( materialistic things) and it's like a competition to have the newest whatever, handbag, shoes, phone, car etc. I'm a single parent , and Iv gone without, but I think it's taught me to be grateful , for healthy kids, good friends, a roof over my head and a warm bed at night. So many people don't have what we take for granted, so it's about appreciating the important stuff xxx
1. Do everything they ask. 2. Continue to be their friend even when they are rude to you in front of other people, or alone. 3. Let them walk all over you.
Love this video! You should do more of those vlog type videos :) 1) Always think about if someone is worth your time and effort. If you have the feeling that you suffer more from a person than you have fun with them, dump them.I have that right now with my best friend. Most of the time I feel like she makes me miserable, but other times I love her to bits and we have the time of our lives. At least that's how it was a year ago, since she got her boyfriend... Now it's just the making-me-miserable-fact. Which brings me to: 2) When you get a boyfriend/girlfriend, get your sh*t together, and stop ignoring your friends. As you said chances are you will loose your relationship and then you stand there alone. Happened to 2 of my former best friends.
Wise words from "Guru Goss".... I actually mean that very sincerely. I think you are a very balanced and enlightened young man. I enjoy what you say as much as watching your artistry. All good things to you xx
I know what you mean about never loaning money. I did it with a boyfriend (long ago, married now) he 'borrowed' in excess of 30k from me for his biz and lifestyle in the U.S. Never saw that money again and this guy flaunts his Hamptons pad, NYC apartment, etc. I finally let it go because it made me feel physically ill. Sorry to hear about the drink spiking. That is seriously crazy behavior and I would stay as far away from him/her as possible. Some people are insane! TFS ~Erin xo
Great video and good points. I totally agree. 1. I would never give love advice. 2. Lend anyone money 3. Go out of my way for someone who would NOT do the same for me.
As my father always said 1. Never lend a friend money that you expect to get back. 2. Don't talk about politics and religion and you"ll get along with anyone (that's why I love talking about politics and religion) 3. A true friend is someone who knows you and still likes you. 4. If you put someone up on a pedestal you set 'em up for failure. 5. If you're not asked for advice don't give any. 6. Always be nice to rude people. It drives 'em crazy..
1) never lend money.. I'm too kind (when I don't have alot as it is) and you never get it back- PLUS never pay a deposit for a holiday for you and friends when the friend is flakey. . learnt that one too. 2)always listen to both sides- I had a friend who didn't treat me very nicely because they didn't listen to both sides of a story.. I always do this but they didn't. . and it broke my heart as I was actually in the right. 3) get out before it gets toxic. Some friendships can become toxic. and I've learnt that leaving them be can be better for your mental health. as much as you love someone sometimes your not meant to be friends anymore and holding on can cause even more drama I like your vlogs gossy xxx
My grandmother once told me that "Finding a true friend is like finding a four-leaf clover. When you are lucky enough to find one among the thousands of clover, you are blessed." I really understand that old advice that she gave me 30 years ago.
Love your honesty. 3 things... 1. Try to trust it when gut feeling tells you that you are being lied to. 2...you are taking for granted. 3...yes the money issue.
4. Never give love advice/ disclose negative information about my friend's loved one to them (e.g the fact they cheat). Chances are the partner washes themselves clean of guilt and you'll be the bad guy for saying anything. 3. Never bring a friend to live/ work with me. Like with money, there's potential to loose either friendship or a job this way (or both). 2. Do every favour they ask. Before you know it, they don't treat you as a friend anymore but like a charity institution. I'd like smeone to enjoy spending time with me and like me for who I am and not for my potential to do things for them. 1. 'Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option'. Some smart man's words. Pretty much self explanatory. + agree on everything you said yourself.
Your personal vlogs and stories are sooooo good. In this Kardashian bullshit world you always remind me how refreshing it is to listen to a REAL person like YOU.
I love these videos! I've watched you for 6 years now and I am enjoying these more personal videos, they're very inspirational. What you said is so true, preach! Anyways, love your vids and like many others, I hope you do more of these casual, sincere videos, they're nice 💙
Thanks for your vlogs very insightful . I hope if you don't read this other's will see this . 1. Rely emotionally on friends for hardships in your life . They aren't going through what you are and haven't walked in your shoes! 2. Expect them to treat you with the same kindness you have because they have their own stuff going on and aren't you respond differently . 3. Lean on friends too much be your own independent person! I know it sounds bitter but I like to be a realist. When my dad passed I hoped maybe expected I would have floods of support and kindness from friends but in actual fact received nothing in terms of support . I was upset but I realised they can't relate to me and it's not their loss it's mine. Hardships are testing on friendships.
My first hubby had an affair with my best friend and we almost looked like twins - could not believe this because I lost two of them at once - be wary if someone tells you a secretl chances are they have told others the same thing and when it gets out, you will be or could be blamed - great vlog Wayne and I totally agree about lending money or moving in temporarily with a friend - best way to ruin a friendship xxxxxx Suzy
WOW....the QUALITY of this video is AMAZING!!!! Btw, I feel like you are walking on your way to a "just for men" touch of gray commercial for facial hair!! hahaha
+EverydayBeautiful L.A. hahaha i love that! i really am LOVING the grey in my beard. Its coming in the moustache area now as well. I'm waiting for the hair. I'm gonna embrace it and i'm really excited for it :) xx
1. Start saying no to things I don't really want to do or like 2. Stick up for myself instead of just taking it 3. Stop being available if I'm only good enough when they ask to hang out or when they need something.
Great post, Wayne. You are as interesting and engaging away from the make up mirror as you are when you are in front of it. My three are: 1. Never a borrower or a lender be. 2. There are givers and takers in this world. I am a giver. I've got to be careful that I keep a balance with a taker. If the friendship stars becoming lopsided, either set a boundary or bail. 3. If a friend doesn't keep your confidences and tells your business to other people, they aren't a true friend. And finally I will add one thing - know the difference between a friend and an acquaintance. Acquaintances can masquerade as friends. Love you dear - you are such a sweet man (and very easy on the eyes). keep up the great work. XOXOXO.
Wayne, seeing you out of your comfort zone,(your studio), makes me want to hug you even more!!! You're such a lovely person and surrounded with all that natural beauty ahhh, it was a treat! really enjoyed this video!
Very relevant subject and a great video, Wayne! I'd personally refrain from saying never, cause you know how the saying goes, but I would definitely strongly refrain from: 1. Allowing a friend tell me what I deserve and I what I don't; 2. Lending money; 3. Be mindful in what I confide in this friend. These are just 3 key points. Thanks for raising this issue in your video ))).
I rarely find videos on Friendships, just Dating and the like. Your videos are very to the point. What I'd never do again: 1. Be the only one that always makes the effort to make the friendship work (e.g. call, text, visit). If the person never really returned the attention, it's probably because s/he really doesn't value you as a friend. 2. Talk to a friend when friendship is fading in the hopes of reverting the situation. Chances are that it will speed up the process of it ending for good. 3. Never lend anything! They will act forgetful or pretend they already returned things. True story.
You are right, don't lend money. You have been a really good friend to lend it to him in the first place. If he had been a true friend he would have strived to pay it back. He has just used you. You are a kind and caring person and deserve so much better. I remember when I was 18yrs, I am 56yrs now, my friend Angela whom was my best pal since shooldays dropped me as soon as she got a boyfriend. They married and divorced 10 years later. But it is a horrible feeling when cast aside by friends, especially having been there for them through thick and thin. Stumbled on your make-up channel by accident, absolutely love it and all the tips. Keep up the good work. :)
yes you nailed it. There is a quote from Maya Angelou - 'When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.' ... I have learned that the hard way. Second chances rarely work.
I really enjoy your walking vlogs. Your sarcasm and wit are offset perfectly by the scenery. It's art lmao. Can we look forward to more walking rants during the upcoming warmer season??? Thank you for everything you do, Wayne.
I love your openess ...you have learned a lot of life lessons...the hard way...but because of that you have gained wisdom. I can see in your eyes and your expressions how difficult some of this has been. You are a good person!!
AMEN Wayne! Awesome advice. Hopefully people take it =) I'll add: 1. Don't go into business with a friend (similar to the lending money situation) 2. Don't keep trying with people who don't put in any effort with you 3. Evaluate your "friendships" and what they bring to your life. As I've gotten older I've realised that some of my oldest "friends" are really quite toxic for my life and instead I have newer friends that are much more aligned with the person I am now. Great video and good luck with the greys! I just married a silver fox and I love it! Ash x
Great advice. One important one I learned very recently is don't tell them too much about your relationship with your significant other ... if you are having problems with a spouse or lover, handle them privately. Learned this firsthand. Some people get WAY too involved when you confide in them and it can cause enormous problems.
I agree and this also applies to family sometimes. It not only causes them to interfere but sometimes gives them fuel to gossip which can cause even more problems between you and your significant other. My husband and I have learned that the hard way in the begging of our relationship.
I like that you distinguished not lending but still giving... Giving releases that burden we feel when they owe us. I was just talking about this the other day! Thanks for sharing your experience!
Wayne I just love this vlog! Gorgeous scenery! Made me feel like we were friends taking a stroll!I would love to see more of the world around you! I live in the states and would love to travel but just don't have the means to at this point in my life! Thanks for the friends advice, although it makes me sad that you've obviously been burned. You just seem like the nicest sweetest man, someone who I think would make a great friend!
I think we all want the same things: to be accepted, be able to trust others, respect, loyalty, love, compassion, enjoy time together. all this makes life so more richer.
Loved this Wayne. Three things I would never deal with in a friendship again: 1) ignoring me until you need something out of me 2) having a friend where all they ever want to do is party nonstop 3) COMPETITION. I feel like girls always compete with each other and it drives me crazy!!!
Spot on Wayne! I completely agree on all points. Especially the not lending money one. I have unfortunately learned this the hard way. I hate seeing friendships end that way but some people just need to be cut out of your life.
I'm HUGE on 1st impressions. If I get a "gut" feeling about ANYTHING (person, place, situation), I've learned over time (& after many mistakes of not listening) to NEVER EVER EVER dismiss that feeling. We are given instincts for a reason, we have them for a reason. If you don't train yourself to LISTEN TO YOUR BODY, you're only allowing undesirable things to happen.
I love the last one ! The difference between a soulmate and a friend is that you don't need to give something to friend in the beginning. it's a natural connection. There is no expectation or demands.
Love it Wayne...keep the vloggs coming. Longer. Take us around with you more often. I just love looking at you and watching you videos. You're such a great person and we could all use more of people like you!
O really enjoyed your walking vlog Wayne ♡ and I agree with you, specially the last point. VERY important to keep your friends close and never stop caring and making time for them.
My husband of 30 years died last March. I don't have a lot of friends but the ones that I have have been my lifeline. The one thing I would add is that I have a fantastic relationship with my 2 sons. I don't know how I would survive without them. I have read a lot about relationships and I have learned that to find one you let it come to u. Do not chase after it. You want someone to want you. That is why I had a 30 year marriage.
Your impression is your intuition and it's very good.........trust that. The times in my life that have ended horrendously, are the times I have ignored my intuition. Listen to that still, small voice. It will rarely, if ever, steer you wrong. I love your VLOGS!!! I love your tutorials! Blessings to you.
This was a lovely vlog Wayne, I really enjoyed it. Really sound advice. My advice is to not ignore the red flags no matter how much you want to be friends with that person and that includes making changes to yourself just to more likeable to that individual. Friends/partners should accept you for who you are. Thanks for sharing Wayne, would love to see more of these :) hope your IPL area is better!
Loved this vlog/random chat! Totally agree with ur points. One thing that I would never do again is helping someone to the extent that I host them for three months without asking them ANYTHING in return, only to find out they would stab me in the back at the earliest opportunity. I'm not saying we shouldn't help people, but they need to earn to be called "friends" before we do that. Please do more vlogs!
Wayne.. Thank you so much. I really needed this after a very long harsh day at work. You are so right Dear. You helped me a lot and please do these kinds of videos more often because you + the view is just FABULOUS I feel like I am next to you walking 😍❤️ love.
I loved seeing you outside of your studio! Great video. I've learned to stop judging my friends, although it's a daily battle. Once I accepted people for who they really are I was much more at peace.
Great video! One thing I can say is NEVER let go of someone who is a genuine friend. Hold on to those precious few. Also.. just because you hang out with a group of "friends" does not mean they are true friends. Sometimes you tell them personal things, and they go and talk about you behind your back. SO.. have fun with people, but be careful of you confide in.
So true... especially the importance of listening to your intuition upon first impression. I made that mistake too, but never again. I learned from my own experience, that the most accurate measure, at least in most cases, is the first intuitive impression about someone or something, before it is blended with logic, fears, conventions etc.
I love the little stroll along Wayne! I am a humble 45yro lady and married 27 years, w/ a 16yro daughter and Autistic sons 8 & 11 yr old. 3 things I'd never do again in friendship: 1. Never even MENTION one's "housecleaning" skills 2. Never help yourself to a "stash" without checking first and 3. Never accidentally send a letter meant for one friend to a different friend! LOL Shine-On! :-P and LOL (LOGIC Over LIMBIC!) :0-
+Angel Ollerdisse I completely agree with the housecleaning! People have different definitions of "clean". Expecting people to have the same idea of clean is completely unreasonable. I had (she has passed away) an aunt who had six children yet every morning she would wake early and hand-scrub all the hard floors and bathrooms. Also vacuum the entire house. Every morning! Do I keep a house a clean as her?- no way. Do I think my house is dirty? No. So if my cleaning is far less rigorous than her standards, why should I feel superior to others that keep a house less neat as I do? It is crazy! Just another way we judge and compare instead of being truly loving.
Gorgeous background, loving the place you were walking through. I agree with you so much, follow your instincts with people, we often know to stay away since the first moment.
I continue to enjoy your videos and vlogs Wayne. You are a wonderful person who I have the good fortune of knowing from across the pond. Thank you for how openly you share yourself with all of us. I'm 100% in agreement with your 3 opinions, having learned the hard way myself.
"The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them"~Maya Angelou. It took me a very long time to understand this about people... I want to see the best in people, but the truth is some people are just a-holes!
I feel you !! I went truth the same thing as you for your first point, it is so rude that you are willing to help your close friend, and end up they take it for granted and hoping that you would forget or they could get away or take a longer time to repay you but no..... on the other end you see them splurging on other things and show it off to the world which is unnecessarily!
Love the vlog style! 1. Lend money 2. Waste time with people who aren't willing to get deeper than superficial conversations 3. Worry about quantity of the friends I have and instead choose quality people who I can count on.
I totally agree with you! The thing I'm trying to do right now is to keep away from the friends who are negative. We have been friends with one girl for a long time, but it's so annoying that someone is always saying things in a sarcastic and negative way. And also the friends that make me feel bad and jelous after I've seen them, they are just showing off.
I agree about the first impressions..if it isn't good, run for your life! Trust that instinct! Met someone like this and knew immediately that they were toxic but no one wanted to listen. Turned out real bad for everyone involved. Also, don't be afraid to cut out toxic people from your life, even if they are family.
I absolutely love this topic and I could write a book on it...lol. I'll just give my number rule that I stick to and that I tell younger people in an effort to safe them time and heartache. It's very similar to the second one you mentioned. Always listen to your intuition and pay attention to people. It doesn't take months or years to realize if you're compatible with someone.
I love how you have separated your makeup vlogs from your venting vlogs hahaaaa! I also love watching you in both! That beautiful spirit always shines through ;;) Thanks Wayne for your willingness to help us in any way you can! Just love you, hugs from Toronto Canada
I really appreciate your honesty!! Not everyone is gonna share their personal expereince with friendship and relationship in public social media even if they had the similar experience like you did! Money issues test the quality and personality of a friend. Decent PPL don't borrow money and then never pay back. I may lend money to friends but only those I know who are trustworthy and are quite close. First impression plays an important role yes, better be cautious than later get pissed off by someone u didn't really like at first. This works for most cases perhaps, although I'm not quite sure if there's exception. With relationship and friendship, hmm I have to admit, I tend to be too stuck in relationship when I have bf and forget friendship. But slowly like u said, I realize that friendship brings you more fresh air, it colors up ur life when its boring. But such only is for real and quite good friends, with whom u could share almost everything and who could understand u well and support u. Good friends are different from contacts.
I loved this vlog. It was so unlike other videos of yours and it was just sort of nice to see you in a new element. It's also oddly calming to watch for some reason.
Great Video! 1. To never be the scapegoat in the deception or cheating on a friends spouse/partner. 2. To loan money. 3. Listen to my gut when they're toxic and I feel drained being around them, let them go--and don't chase the friendship hoping it will get better. It won't.
There are two things I can't deal with at all, people who lie, and people who are disloyal...So when it comes to friendships I am loyal and I don't lie, if I am put in a position where I feel like lying is what I have to do I usually just walk away and disengage but this is rare. I love these little chats your sharing, your cool!
Thank you for your candid remarks. It is unfortunate that there are individuals out there with this extreme level of utter disregard for others. I'm saddened that this has happened to you.
I'm sorry, Wayne. It's apparent you've been taken advantage of and it shows. My heart hurts for you. I know you probably gave both people loads of optimism, sometimes people just cannot behave like a proper adult. Hugs to you. Keep your heart open as there are people in your life who truly want to be in it.
So wise which is why I adore you so! Amazing advice, things Ive thought about yet its very confirming to hear it from someone you respect. Not only in terms of beauty but as a person. Beautiful!
Really enjoyed this video. We really need leaders like you on Internet platforms like this. Positive but yet critically honest people who can inspire younger generations and older that watch your videos. Life is completely different when you see behind the camera of a TH-camr it isn't all Rosie and perfect to what you see on screens. You tubers work unbelievably hard to show that perfect side but it is amazing to see that all people struggle with friendships and real life issues. Great positive advice Wayne I would really appreciate and enjoy seeing more of these videos I really Took something from these videos . X
wayne I agree with everything you said, besides with the things you said the 3 other things I never do again is to get out of my way for friends that wouldn't do that for me, , being truthful to myself ! like I won't pretend to like something I don't like just to please the friend, and being able to say no to a friend , from now on I will put my family first , if they are good friends they will understand ! friends should be able to compromise , thanks for this vlog you are amazing!!!
1. Never again will I give a third, fourth, fifth chance to someone who has wasted every chance before in order to manipulate and abuse our relationship in every shady way possible. From now on, you get one chance. No matter how sincere their apology may seem, no matter how passionately they claim to have changed, I can't afford to keep opening myself up just to be torn down. People rarely change, and even if they do, there may be damage done that can't be undone, and they'll just have to do better with future relationships. 2. Never again will I invest my time, energy, and emotions into someone who takes and never gives back, or is never there when you need them. It's just not worth it to keep extending yourself 80-100% of the way for someone who won't even go that extra 20%. 3. Never again will I EVER pay into and attend a "destination wedding." If that's your thing, great- go for it. I will congratulate you and put my money toward a decent gift instead. Great video, Wayne. Friendships are so important, and it's crucial to keep around the people who "get" you and are good for you, and to stay away from the people who put you down.
OMG OMG OMG!!!!! Notice on the side of my face where my earring is - i have a little bit of grey hair coming! YEAAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!
something only you would notice ;-)
wayne the silver fox lol
oh bummer, you get to be even hotter. a little salt in the pepper just kills me.love it!
+Wayne Goss it's hot tho
+Wayne Goss It's ok for one's hair to turn grey, as long as it doesn't turn loose!!.........I loved having a walk with you. And don't worry about the silver in your hair, you'll always be beautiful.....xoxo Lisa
Totes agree with what you say. One thing I'd never do again is chase after friendship. If you're constantly being the one to try and arrange a meet up, or always there for them but it's never returned, move on and find a friend that does want to make the effort.
Yes!
+Danibaby M I agree!! I am telling my kids that some thing right now. Don't chase after a one sided friendship. Let them come to you as well!
+Jean Marie shame we had to learn the hard way, huh! I remember my mum saying to me when I was growing up 'when you get older, you'll be lucky if you can count good friends on one hand'. how right she was! I feel all depressed now....lol xx
Wish I didn't learn this the hard way, but it was a good lesson to learn.
+Angela M definitely! xx
never again in friendship...1. be the full time listener. 2. be guilt tripped into doing something I don't want to.. 3. having kindness taken advantage of..
I think you are such a sensitive and gentle soul and you deserve everything beautiful. Thank you for sharing your good advice.
i really can understand every single point you mentioned!
my top 3
1) never ever lend money again
2) don't invest time in a friend ship when your "friend" is not willing to make time for you
3) if your "friend" makes constantly excuses why you can't meet each other ( 5 min notice) dump them just like that!!
that list could go on XD
Everything you said I totally agree!!
Another thing I had to learn the hard way so many times as a teen is:
-Don't glue or fix your friendships by yourself!! Forgiving is OK but I had always thought I have given so much it's a shame to throw it away and it has always been a circle and in the end I had to break these relationships anyway and felt more hurt and stupid as I could be more smarter and did it long time ago!!
Was always trying to have friends for life but from 20 friends (ex) now I have 2 true friends and feeling very happy and blessed!! Friendships are a true treasure with real friends..not the fake ones!!!
Wayne you are a great person!! Sending much love and hugs to you
You should do more walking Vlogs Wayne!! Where you live is so pretty.
Agree!
Agree! Just lovely!
agree!! Love the "Walks with Wayne" title idea.
I agree also!!!
I agree! That was a beautiful walk.
Dont assume someone is nice because everyone sais he is so nice,lovely,known him years etc etc. I ended up being mildly assaulted because i believed other people rather than my own gut feeling. Your instincts are there to protect you.
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." - Maya Angelou. I also firmly believe in always listening and trusting your gut instinct. You brought up very good points in your vlog.
+Laurie Nash 100% xx
+Wayne Goss I feel like this should be called "life lessons with Wayne vol. 1" so, we need more of these!
don't divulge every secret to a new friend until you know in your heart they will be loyal and caring.
+Elizarge Totally agree...many people are way to quick to spill
Agree..Even the most seemily loyal and well doing friends can betray you, even in small ways.
To really protect oneself from potential future abuse, one should not divulge ANY secret until it can be determined that the person can be trusted.
One thing I will never do in friendship again, is continue to speak to someone who is so rude and judgmental towards strangers. If you're hanging around someone who constantly focuses on a girl who's wearing an outfit that doesn't flatter her, or makeup that doesn't look right, it's only a matter of time before that stuff comes back to you.
oh i totally agree with everything here. I have lent money to friends before in good faith and never got any back even in small instalments but they still went on holidays or showed me new clothes or told me about their nights out. If I owed somebody money I would make it a priority to pay it back asap and not spend any money on luxuries etc until repaid. And I have had friends who dropped me when a guy came along only to crawl back when it ended. I always make time for all my friends and family and my partner is very supportive about this. I value my friends so much.
Loved #3 can relate with that
My top three would be:
1) Be smart pick friends who are a mirror of you and your values. Don't go chasing after an ideal friend. A friend should help you build your character not turn you into how they want you to be.
2) don't be used and abused. If u see in a friendship u r always giving make sure u run from that relationship.
3) when it comes to money I don't borrow money to anyone. Have been burnt in the past I learnt my lesson.
Great points! It seems the rude people always know the good hearted people will give them a chance. We shall pray for them but just stay away from them.
You're so right about first impressions Wayne, I learned that the hard way , a few times!!! Lol because I'm a psychiatric nurse, I often feel I'm overanalysing people, so I tend to give them the benefit of the doubt ( friends and men! Lol ) , but now I always go with my gut instinct. My 3 things are 1. Go with your first instinct 2. Treat people the way you want treated 3. Practise gratitude. Nowadays people have so much ( materialistic things) and it's like a competition to have the newest whatever, handbag, shoes, phone, car etc. I'm a single parent , and Iv gone without, but I think it's taught me to be grateful , for healthy kids, good friends, a roof over my head and a warm bed at night. So many people don't have what we take for granted, so it's about appreciating the important stuff xxx
1. Do everything they ask.
2. Continue to be their friend even when they are rude to you in front of other people, or alone.
3. Let them walk all over you.
YES
WAT?
+Matthew L. Did you not get it? lol This is supposed to be what you'll never do in a friendship anymore
Oh... right. I'm slow hahaha
+Malini Why?????
I hope you continue to vlog! I would love to see a day in the life of Wayne! Love ya!
Love this video! You should do more of those vlog type videos :)
1) Always think about if someone is worth your time and effort. If you have the feeling that you suffer more from a person than you have fun with them, dump them.I have that right now with my best friend. Most of the time I feel like she makes me miserable, but other times I love her to bits and we have the time of our lives. At least that's how it was a year ago, since she got her boyfriend... Now it's just the making-me-miserable-fact. Which brings me to:
2) When you get a boyfriend/girlfriend, get your sh*t together, and stop ignoring your friends. As you said chances are you will loose your relationship and then you stand there alone. Happened to 2 of my former best friends.
Always remember...When they show you who they are, believe 'em.
The first time.
Wise words from "Guru Goss".... I actually mean that very sincerely. I think you are a very balanced and enlightened young man. I enjoy what you say as much as watching your artistry. All good things to you xx
I know what you mean about never loaning money. I did it with a boyfriend (long ago, married now) he 'borrowed' in excess of 30k from me for his biz and lifestyle in the U.S. Never saw that money again and this guy flaunts his Hamptons pad, NYC apartment, etc. I finally let it go because it made me feel physically ill. Sorry to hear about the drink spiking. That is seriously crazy behavior and I would stay as far away from him/her as possible. Some people are insane! TFS ~Erin xo
words of wisdom from the most kind and gorgeous man on youtube x
Great video and good points. I totally agree. 1. I would never give love advice.
2. Lend anyone money
3. Go out of my way for someone who would NOT do the same for me.
+Alicia Huidor OMG totally - NEVER give love advice lol
agree
+Wayne Goss Never again. I ended up being the "Villan" eventually 2 mos. Later they broke up. ((Horribly)) thanks for your great video.
Amen on number three.
I totally agree with #3
PLEASE VLOG MORE!!!! I enjoy seeing your beautiful smiling face so much. :D
As my father always said
1. Never lend a friend money that you expect to get back.
2. Don't talk about politics and religion and you"ll get along with anyone (that's why I love talking about politics and religion)
3. A true friend is someone who knows you and still likes you.
4. If you put someone up on a pedestal you set 'em up for failure.
5. If you're not asked for advice don't give any.
6. Always be nice to rude people. It drives 'em crazy..
I don't understand 4. I put my role up on a pedestal - so how am I setting them up for failure? /:
+Laila Ray Because they think they can do no wrong and are above you, and also, when something does go wrong for them, they have further to fall!!!
Laila Ray because humans fuck up that's our nature.
+Diane Naylor - sorry that was meant to say 'role model'** - so my Mum, Dad, mentor etc.
1) never lend money.. I'm too kind (when I don't have alot as it is) and you never get it back- PLUS never pay a deposit for a holiday for you and friends when the friend is flakey. . learnt that one too.
2)always listen to both sides- I had a friend who didn't treat me very nicely because they didn't listen to both sides of a story.. I always do this but they didn't. . and it broke my heart as I was actually in the right.
3) get out before it gets toxic. Some friendships can become toxic. and I've learnt that leaving them be can be better for your mental health. as much as you love someone sometimes your not meant to be friends anymore and holding on can cause even more drama
I like your vlogs gossy xxx
My grandmother once told me that "Finding a true friend is like finding a four-leaf clover. When you are lucky enough to find one among the thousands of clover, you are blessed." I really understand that old advice that she gave me 30 years ago.
I saw a quote somewhere that said when a person showers you their true colors never try to repaint them. I totally believe in that statement!
WAYNE YOU ARE AMAZEBALLS. PLEASE KEEP VLOGGING! HUGS FROM POLAND
Love your honesty. 3 things... 1. Try to trust it when gut feeling tells you that you are being lied to. 2...you are taking for granted. 3...yes the money issue.
4. Never give love advice/ disclose negative information about my friend's loved one to them (e.g the fact they cheat). Chances are the partner washes themselves clean of guilt and you'll be the bad guy for saying anything.
3. Never bring a friend to live/ work with me. Like with money, there's potential to loose either friendship or a job this way (or both).
2. Do every favour they ask. Before you know it, they don't treat you as a friend anymore but like a charity institution. I'd like smeone to enjoy spending time with me and like me for who I am and not for my potential to do things for them.
1. 'Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option'. Some smart man's words. Pretty much self explanatory.
+ agree on everything you said yourself.
The 3rd point is something I've had to learn the hard way. Excellent video.
Your personal vlogs and stories are sooooo good. In this Kardashian bullshit world you always remind me how refreshing it is to listen to a REAL person like YOU.
I love these videos! I've watched you for 6 years now and I am enjoying these more personal videos, they're very inspirational. What you said is so true, preach! Anyways, love your vids and like many others, I hope you do more of these casual, sincere videos, they're nice 💙
Thanks for your vlogs very insightful . I hope if you don't read this other's will see this . 1. Rely emotionally on friends for hardships in your life . They aren't going through what you are and haven't walked in your shoes! 2. Expect them to treat you with the same kindness you have because they have their own stuff going on and aren't you respond differently . 3. Lean on friends too much be your own independent person! I know it sounds bitter but I like to be a realist. When my dad passed I hoped maybe expected I would have floods of support and kindness from friends but in actual fact received nothing in terms of support . I was upset but I realised they can't relate to me and it's not their loss it's mine. Hardships are testing on friendships.
My first hubby had an affair with my best friend and we almost looked like twins - could not believe this because I lost two of them at once - be wary if someone tells you a secretl chances are they have told others the same thing and when it gets out, you will be or could be blamed - great vlog Wayne and I totally agree about lending money or moving in temporarily with a friend - best way to ruin a friendship xxxxxx Suzy
WOW....the QUALITY of this video is AMAZING!!!! Btw, I feel like you are walking on your way to a "just for men" touch of gray commercial for facial hair!! hahaha
+EverydayBeautiful L.A. hahaha i love that! i really am LOVING the grey in my beard. Its coming in the moustache area now as well. I'm waiting for the hair. I'm gonna embrace it and i'm really excited for it :) xx
***** Yea! It gives you a certain je ne sais quoi that I just LOVE on you. Ya handsome devil you ;)
1. Start saying no to things I don't really want to do or like
2. Stick up for myself instead of just taking it
3. Stop being available if I'm only good enough when they ask to hang out or when they need something.
Yes!!! I totally agree with number 3!
Great post, Wayne. You are as interesting and engaging away from the make up mirror as you are when you are in front of it. My three are:
1. Never a borrower or a lender be.
2. There are givers and takers in this world. I am a giver. I've got to be careful that I keep a balance with a taker. If the friendship stars becoming lopsided, either set a boundary or bail.
3. If a friend doesn't keep your confidences and tells your business to other people, they aren't a true friend.
And finally I will add one thing - know the difference between a friend and an acquaintance. Acquaintances can masquerade as friends.
Love you dear - you are such a sweet man (and very easy on the eyes). keep up the great work. XOXOXO.
I could watch you for hours and hours. I truly get lost in your eyes, the sound of your voice, the fire behind whatever you are speaking about.
Wayne, seeing you out of your comfort zone,(your studio), makes me want to hug you even more!!! You're such a lovely person and surrounded with all that natural beauty ahhh, it was a treat! really enjoyed this video!
Very relevant subject and a great video, Wayne! I'd personally refrain from saying never, cause you know how the saying goes, but I would definitely strongly refrain from: 1. Allowing a friend tell me what I deserve and I what I don't; 2. Lending money; 3. Be mindful in what I confide in this friend. These are just 3 key points. Thanks for raising this issue in your video ))).
I rarely find videos on Friendships, just Dating and the like. Your videos are very to the point.
What I'd never do again:
1. Be the only one that always makes the effort to make the friendship work (e.g. call, text, visit). If the person never really returned the attention, it's probably because s/he really doesn't value you as a friend.
2. Talk to a friend when friendship is fading in the hopes of reverting the situation. Chances are that it will speed up the process of it ending for good.
3. Never lend anything! They will act forgetful or pretend they already returned things. True story.
You are right, don't lend money. You have been a really good friend to lend it to him in the first place. If he had been a true friend he would have strived to pay it back. He has just used you. You are a kind and caring person and deserve so much better. I remember when I was 18yrs, I am 56yrs now, my friend Angela whom was my best pal since shooldays dropped me as soon as she got a boyfriend. They married and divorced 10 years later. But it is a horrible feeling when cast aside by friends, especially having been there for them through thick and thin. Stumbled on your make-up channel by accident, absolutely love it and all the tips. Keep up the good work. :)
yes you nailed it. There is a quote from Maya Angelou - 'When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.' ... I have learned that the hard way. Second chances rarely work.
I really enjoy your walking vlogs. Your sarcasm and wit are offset perfectly by the scenery. It's art lmao. Can we look forward to more walking rants during the upcoming warmer season??? Thank you for everything you do, Wayne.
Sound advice, Wayne!!
It's great to see you looking so well and comfy in your own skin. Please do more outdoors videos!
Hugs from Down Under xo
I love your openess ...you have learned a lot of life lessons...the hard way...but because of that you have gained wisdom. I can see in your eyes and your expressions how difficult some of this has been. You are a good person!!
AMEN Wayne! Awesome advice. Hopefully people take it =)
I'll add:
1. Don't go into business with a friend (similar to the lending money situation)
2. Don't keep trying with people who don't put in any effort with you
3. Evaluate your "friendships" and what they bring to your life. As I've gotten older I've realised that some of my oldest "friends" are really quite toxic for my life and instead I have newer friends that are much more aligned with the person I am now.
Great video and good luck with the greys! I just married a silver fox and I love it!
Ash x
I ❤ it when you vlog. I hope you do more in the future. I think of them as Wisdom from Wayne 😊 💖
Great advice. One important one I learned very recently is don't tell them too much about your relationship with your significant other ... if you are having problems with a spouse or lover, handle them privately. Learned this firsthand. Some people get WAY too involved when you confide in them and it can cause enormous problems.
I agree and this also applies to family sometimes. It not only causes them to interfere but sometimes gives them fuel to gossip which can cause even more problems between you and your significant other. My husband and I have learned that the hard way in the begging of our relationship.
I like that you distinguished not lending but still giving... Giving releases that burden we feel when they owe us. I was just talking about this the other day! Thanks for sharing your experience!
Wayne I just love this vlog! Gorgeous scenery! Made me feel like we were friends taking a stroll!I would love to see more of the world around you! I live in the states and would love to travel but just don't have the means to at this point in my life! Thanks for the friends advice, although it makes me sad that you've obviously been burned. You just seem like the nicest sweetest man, someone who I think would make a great friend!
I think we all want the same things: to be accepted, be able to trust others, respect, loyalty, love, compassion, enjoy time together. all this makes life so more richer.
Loved this Wayne. Three things I would never deal with in a friendship again:
1) ignoring me until you need something out of me
2) having a friend where all they ever want to do is party nonstop
3) COMPETITION. I feel like girls always compete with each other and it drives me crazy!!!
Spot on Wayne! I completely agree on all points. Especially the not lending money one. I have unfortunately learned this the hard way. I hate seeing friendships end that way but some people just need to be cut out of your life.
I'm HUGE on 1st impressions. If I get a "gut" feeling about ANYTHING (person, place, situation), I've learned over time (& after many mistakes of not listening) to NEVER EVER EVER dismiss that feeling. We are given instincts for a reason, we have them for a reason. If you don't train yourself to LISTEN TO YOUR BODY, you're only allowing undesirable things to happen.
I love the last one ! The difference between a soulmate and a friend is that you don't need to give something to friend in the beginning. it's a natural connection. There is no expectation or demands.
Love it Wayne...keep the vloggs coming. Longer. Take us around with you more often. I just love looking at you and watching you videos. You're such a great person and we could all use more of people like you!
O really enjoyed your walking vlog Wayne ♡ and I agree with you, specially the last point. VERY important to keep your friends close and never stop caring and making time for them.
My husband of 30 years died last March. I don't have a lot of friends but the ones that I have have been my lifeline. The one thing I would add is that I have a fantastic relationship with my 2 sons. I don't know how I would survive without them. I have read a lot about relationships and I have learned that to find one you let it come to u. Do not chase after it. You want someone to want you. That is why I had a 30 year marriage.
I am so sorry for your loss Lori.
Your impression is your intuition and it's very good.........trust that. The times in my life that have ended horrendously, are the times I have ignored my intuition. Listen to that still, small voice. It will rarely, if ever, steer you wrong. I love your VLOGS!!! I love your tutorials! Blessings to you.
Wayne i could be your friend for life , i can feel what a warm person you are , just adorable !
This was a lovely vlog Wayne, I really enjoyed it. Really sound advice. My advice is to not ignore the red flags no matter how much you want to be friends with that person and that includes making changes to yourself just to more likeable to that individual. Friends/partners should accept you for who you are. Thanks for sharing Wayne, would love to see more of these :) hope your IPL area is better!
I love the videos where you are walking outside. I have never been to the UK. I always wonder what it looks like there.
Loved this vlog/random chat! Totally agree with ur points. One thing that I would never do again is helping someone to the extent that I host them for three months without asking them ANYTHING in return, only to find out they would stab me in the back at the earliest opportunity. I'm not saying we shouldn't help people, but they need to earn to be called "friends" before we do that. Please do more vlogs!
Wayne.. Thank you so much. I really needed this after a very long harsh day at work. You are so right Dear. You helped me a lot and please do these kinds of videos more often because you + the view is just FABULOUS I feel like I am next to you walking 😍❤️ love.
I loved seeing you outside of your studio! Great video. I've learned to stop judging my friends, although it's a daily battle. Once I accepted people for who they really are I was much more at peace.
I really enjoyed this video of you because it shows your fans that you are a regular person and stuff like these also affect you, Wayne!
Great video! One thing I can say is NEVER let go of someone who is a genuine friend. Hold on to those precious few. Also.. just because you hang out with a group of "friends" does not mean they are true friends. Sometimes you tell them personal things, and they go and talk about you behind your back. SO.. have fun with people, but be careful of you confide in.
So true... especially the importance of listening to your intuition upon first impression. I made that mistake too, but never again. I learned from my own experience, that the most accurate measure, at least in most cases, is the first intuitive impression about someone or something, before it is blended with logic, fears, conventions etc.
I love the little stroll along Wayne! I am a humble 45yro lady and married 27 years, w/ a 16yro daughter and Autistic sons 8 & 11 yr old. 3 things I'd never do again in friendship: 1. Never even MENTION one's "housecleaning" skills 2. Never help yourself to a "stash" without checking first and 3. Never accidentally send a letter meant for one friend to a different friend! LOL Shine-On! :-P and LOL (LOGIC Over LIMBIC!) :0-
+Angel Ollerdisse I completely agree with the housecleaning! People have different definitions of "clean". Expecting people to have the same idea of clean is completely unreasonable.
I had (she has passed away) an aunt who had six children yet every morning she would wake early and hand-scrub all the hard floors and bathrooms. Also vacuum the entire house. Every morning!
Do I keep a house a clean as her?- no way. Do I think my house is dirty? No. So if my cleaning is far less rigorous than her standards, why should I feel superior to others that keep a house less neat as I do? It is crazy! Just another way we judge and compare instead of being truly loving.
Gorgeous background, loving the place you were walking through. I agree with you so much, follow your instincts with people, we often know to stay away since the first moment.
I continue to enjoy your videos and vlogs Wayne. You are a wonderful person who I have the good fortune of knowing from across the pond. Thank you for how openly you share yourself with all of us. I'm 100% in agreement with your 3 opinions, having learned the hard way myself.
"The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them"~Maya Angelou. It took me a very long time to understand this about people... I want to see the best in people, but the truth is some people are just a-holes!
I feel you !! I went truth the same thing as you for your first point, it is so rude that you are willing to help your close friend, and end up they take it for granted and hoping that you would forget or they could get away or take a longer time to repay you but no..... on the other end you see them splurging on other things and show it off to the world which is unnecessarily!
Love the vlog style! 1. Lend money 2. Waste time with people who aren't willing to get deeper than superficial conversations 3. Worry about quantity of the friends I have and instead choose quality people who I can count on.
I totally agree with you! The thing I'm trying to do right now is to keep away from the friends who are negative. We have been friends with one girl for a long time, but it's so annoying that someone is always saying things in a sarcastic and negative way. And also the friends that make me feel bad and jelous after I've seen them, they are just showing off.
I agree about the first impressions..if it isn't good, run for your life! Trust that instinct! Met someone like this and knew immediately that they were toxic but no one wanted to listen. Turned out real bad for everyone involved. Also, don't be afraid to cut out toxic people from your life, even if they are family.
More vlogs please Wayne, I could watch and listen to you all day....x
So glad you posted this video. I thought you were sick but you look so happy and healthy walking along that path. Thanks loads:-)
I absolutely love this topic and I could write a book on it...lol. I'll just give my number rule that I stick to and that I tell younger people in an effort to safe them time and heartache. It's very similar to the second one you mentioned. Always listen to your intuition and pay attention to people. It doesn't take months or years to realize if you're compatible with someone.
Wonderful advice Mr, Goss! And it's so true...don't dump your friends for somebody new...learned that one the hard way...
I love how you have separated your makeup vlogs from your venting vlogs hahaaaa! I also love watching you in both! That beautiful spirit always shines through ;;) Thanks Wayne for your willingness to help us in any way you can! Just love you, hugs from Toronto Canada
I really appreciate your honesty!! Not everyone is gonna share their personal expereince with friendship and relationship in public social media even if they had the similar experience like you did! Money issues test the quality and personality of a friend. Decent PPL don't borrow money and then never pay back. I may lend money to friends but only those I know who are trustworthy and are quite close. First impression plays an important role yes, better be cautious than later get pissed off by someone u didn't really like at first. This works for most cases perhaps, although I'm not quite sure if there's exception. With relationship and friendship, hmm I have to admit, I tend to be too stuck in relationship when I have bf and forget friendship. But slowly like u said, I realize that friendship brings you more fresh air, it colors up ur life when its boring. But such only is for real and quite good friends, with whom u could share almost everything and who could understand u well and support u. Good friends are different from contacts.
I loved this vlog. It was so unlike other videos of yours and it was just sort of nice to see you in a new element. It's also oddly calming to watch for some reason.
Great Video! 1. To never be the scapegoat in the deception or cheating on a friends spouse/partner. 2. To loan money. 3. Listen to my gut when they're toxic and I feel drained being around them, let them go--and don't chase the friendship hoping it will get better. It won't.
You're such a good guy Wayne. You should do vlogs more often! I love them :)
There are two things I can't deal with at all, people who lie, and people who are disloyal...So when it comes to friendships I am loyal and I don't lie, if I am put in a position where I feel like lying is what I have to do I usually just walk away and disengage but this is rare. I love these little chats your sharing, your cool!
Thank you for your candid remarks. It is unfortunate that there are individuals out there with this extreme level of utter disregard for others. I'm saddened that this has happened to you.
I'm sorry, Wayne. It's apparent you've been taken advantage of and it shows. My heart hurts for you. I know you probably gave both people loads of optimism, sometimes people just cannot behave like a proper adult. Hugs to you. Keep your heart open as there are people in your life who truly want to be in it.
Wayne.... You are so wise!!! I didn't think it was possible for me to love you more!!! God bless you and thanks for this video!!! 🤗
So wise which is why I adore you so! Amazing advice, things Ive thought about yet its very confirming to hear it from someone you respect. Not only in terms of beauty but as a person. Beautiful!
Wherever you are walking looks so peaceful and serene.
Really enjoyed this video. We really need leaders like you on Internet platforms like this. Positive but yet critically honest people who can inspire younger generations and older that watch your videos. Life is completely different when you see behind the camera of a TH-camr it isn't all Rosie and perfect to what you see on screens. You tubers work unbelievably hard to show that perfect side but it is amazing to see that all people struggle with friendships and real life issues. Great positive advice Wayne I would really appreciate and enjoy seeing more of these videos I really Took something from these videos . X
wayne I agree with everything you said, besides with the things you said the 3 other things I never do again is to get out of my way for friends that wouldn't do that for me, , being truthful to myself ! like I won't pretend to like something I don't like just to please the friend, and being able to say no to a friend , from now on I will put my family first , if they are good friends they will understand ! friends should be able to compromise , thanks for this vlog you are amazing!!!
love this Blog Wayne! I experienced friends not being real.I have learned over the years just trust your family
One of my favorite quotes is from Maya Angelou..."When someone shows you who they are, believe them!" I also learned this the hard way!
Wayne + nature + birds singing + vlogging = ideal!!! more of these vlogs please you lovely fellow
1. Never again will I give a third, fourth, fifth chance to someone who has wasted every chance before in order to manipulate and abuse our relationship in every shady way possible. From now on, you get one chance. No matter how sincere their apology may seem, no matter how passionately they claim to have changed, I can't afford to keep opening myself up just to be torn down. People rarely change, and even if they do, there may be damage done that can't be undone, and they'll just have to do better with future relationships.
2. Never again will I invest my time, energy, and emotions into someone who takes and never gives back, or is never there when you need them. It's just not worth it to keep extending yourself 80-100% of the way for someone who won't even go that extra 20%.
3. Never again will I EVER pay into and attend a "destination wedding." If that's your thing, great- go for it. I will congratulate you and put my money toward a decent gift instead.
Great video, Wayne. Friendships are so important, and it's crucial to keep around the people who "get" you and are good for you, and to stay away from the people who put you down.