Should You Cut Off Family From An Old Relationship Once You Begin A New One?
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The caller calling out Envy and Charlemagnes infidelity was hilarious 😂
Right😂😂😂😂
I gasped 😂
She from my city...soon as she said Macon I knew some shit was finna happen lol
I know, and totally unrelated lol
@@ProlyphicThePro I think she brought it up to say that they can't relate because their wives stayed after the cheating or through the cheating, as in CTG's case, so they never had to deal with having to date while having kids with someone else. Had their wives left, they would be in the same boat and wouldn't be judging as hard.
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Every situation is different but, I agree with DJ Envy. Leave the past in the past.
The more Jess is on the show the more I see and appreciate the chemistry between them three She might be the one
I look forward to her being there.. it just fits so well.
I dated someone for a few years and he introduced me to his daughter about 6 months into it - we grew very close and when that relationship ended, I stayed in her life. I actually helped her with her college essay and went to her HS graduation last week. Since she's a teen, I felt comfortable keeping in contact. If she were much younger, like in elementary school, I probably would have had a clean break so it wasn't traumatizing for her.
I’m wondering if your situation is different than it being a dude (w/ a girl). You sound like, you were a necessity, as if the mother wasn’t available to provide her with the guidance, a girl at that age desperately needs.
Like Jess said there’s no need to be collecting fathers (& mothers). The new girlfriend maybe wasn’t what the child needed, because she established something more meaningful with you.
See this is where factors come into play, where the girls age mattered and if aNything you became a mentor to that girl, and sometimes (as long as you clear it with the father) it’s good to have someone like that in her corner and helps wonders.
Not the same situation but my brother dated a woman for years, but she worked at the same job as him at the time and eventually I worked there as well, prior to that when I had to learn to drive, she was the one who would pick me up and take me and teach me how to drive and let me drive and I am forever grateful to her 14 years later, so much so that every year on Mother’s Day I give her a gift, so factors come into play but again as long as you have a mutual understanding with the parent, positive not blood related role models are a dime
A dozen
@@Everyoneisanartist776 ❗️if a dude did there same they would assume he’s grooming the girl 😭 that’s just how society works atp
@@Everyoneisanartist776 i dated a woman with a 5 y/o for over a year. She was very affectionate which i did not like. Like trying to kiss me and wanted me to return the favor. Wanting me to hold her in my lap. All kinds of stuff. I even had a talk with my ex about teaching her daughter some boundaries not only with men but with people in general and my ex acted like i was insulting her and her daughter so she allowed her daughter to be as affectionate as she wanted towards me. I never liked it or wanted it. So i was forced to create my boundary out of not trying to be rude to the kid by stiff arming her away like i wanted to lol Like i said I had only been dating her mom a little over a year. Imo that level of comfortability is supposed to come with time and that was waaaaaay too soon for me. After we broke up I ran into my ex a year or two later and she told me her daughter still asked about me and if I'll be around. I felt bad we never had a bond but how could we if it didn't happen under appropriate conditions I'm comfortable with?
On another note, it was some other things that made me question her motherhood and the environment my own child would be subject to if we had a kid and we didn't stay together. That played a major role in us splitting up among numerous other things things.
Hope that gives you some insight on a man's perspective
Well put.
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We need Jess to stay as a permanent 4th member on screen. She's perfect
Who is gonna be the 3rd?
@@matttheking1655 the Holy Spirit apparently
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@@matttheking1655 I believe she's referring to Tez ....at least I hope 😂😂
@J Boogie I am referring to Tez as the 3rd member lol. At least you have the brain to know what I'm talking about
sadly the truth is when you date someone they come as a package. Just as you should jump in and respect all family members when you're getting into it, when it ends you also lose the "package" you were a part of. Relationships come and go just as people do. It can be difficult but you have to move on.
Amen, cut all ties off and move on.
I don’t think that’s necessarily true
Your future that God has in front of you is well worth letting go of the past. 😇
Jess is the best!! 😂😂 I never was a fan until she been guesting hosting on this show!! She brings the comedy, has a great voice and balances the vibe.
Jess is a great addition to the show! I lover her!💞😊
I think they're underestimating what can happen in a year
Facts
“Look your mom collected me” I was done 😂☠️
I've dated single mothers and I've been attached to the child, but once I broke up with her.......I couldn't be around the child anymore. It doesn't feel right
My ex husband was foul and so was his family so when I divorced him, I divorced them. But, when I dated a guy after him I loved his children and after we broke up, I still communicate and have love for them. So it depends on the situation
@getreadynow647 I’ve been divorced from my ex since 97. His mom passed away in February and I was included in the service. His family was great , he was the problem.
And also minding ya business Jess coateddd Wayne and he had multiple baby momas❤.....😢 I can date someone 4 months and if I accept which I always do the child children then if I wanna stay connected to the child (children) or and family that's what imma do salute misinformation @Mississippi ...hospitality, and it takes a village again you doing good breakfast club mind ya business respect....to the woman on the line.....when you grown you do away with childish thangzzzz a virtuous man🎉😊😊😊
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Once the relationship is over, you must cut off all ties! It’s not fair to the one you are currently with. You need to focus and bring your attention and energy to your own relationship or potential family. A past relationship needs to be cut off period. Don’t matter if it is the child, mother, father, grandparents, siblings, you must cut all ties with that entire family and move on.
So if you been with someone 5+ years and you've basically raised their kids, you just cut the kids off?lol
Mr Kevin Brown, I actually was in a relationship with a single mother that had a boy. I was in his life from his age of 3 to 10 years of age. His mother would try to use him to gain or keep a relationship after we broken up. The family kept approaching mine. God brought me a wife, and this ex shows up at my parents home while I’m deployed to drop off gifts that I given her son years ago. Was weird and disrespectful. My wife didn’t appreciate that and I understand why. You can’t just bring your child around to my family anymore. It is over. You must cut them all off and move forward. Focus on what God has infront of you. Even if you are single, do not allow past relationships or children distract you. You have to protect yourself at the end of the day.
@@geraldmorgan5359 So if the child(not the mother) wanted to continue to have a relationship, you wouldn't? 3 to 10 that's a long time. But to each their own
Mr Kevin Brown, although it may be hard, but you must cut off contact for yourself. That child is a child and will be in a child’s place. That child is not your responsibility anymore. What if the mother is dating a guy who is dangerous and is not happy with your relationship with that child. Something to think about. What about your girlfriend, fiancé, or wife in the future? How would they feel? It’s disrespectful to her and you are holding on to a past that you do not need to be a part of. Break the relationship and pray that the child will have peace in life. The mother is responsible for that child’s well-being not you. If you care about that child, you will let him or her go. It’s unhealthy for both of you. It’s like holding on to a pet or something that doesn’t belong to you, and you can’t give that something the 100% care that something needs. But in order to do so, you just let it go so that something or someone can have that chance. Now wether he or she or whatever is ok, is not your concern.
@@geraldmorgan5359 Sounds like some insecure significant others 🤣😂. But ok 👍🏼
Not “The Dad-Collector”?😂❤
#TBCJessIsTheBest🎙️
Jess is hilarious! 🤣
I have no kids, so I'm not even dating someone with kids. So to have a mf keep a bond with kids that aint even there's is crazy. Just shows people lack boundaries.
Jess Literally Hilarious 🤣💯
The caller came with the FINISH EM when she brought up that they stepped out on they wives🤣🤣🤣
That’s why you all hire Jess. She has the insight of a grown woman. Salute#Jess👑❤️🥰#
Envy has a new voice and I like it!!!
Ew lmfaooo
Listen, this show is so much fun to watch now 😂, I hope they keep Jess!
You don’t need to wing off any child. Just cut that child off. That child in the past is not worth what God will bring to your future. With your future wife or husband and together be blessed with your own children. Cut it off and do not look back. Family included🤙🏿
It’s not healthy. You need to communicate people don’t stay in your life forever speech and move on. The longer you hold on the painful it gets when you grow apart or start your new family. End on a happy note with the kids and MOVE ON!
Jess is the perfect addition, fits in so well.
I love Jess she’s real and she keeps me laughing ❤😂
I would to
Of course. I’m breaking up with the family too
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Keeping Jess is a MUST. What is IHeart waiting for?!
I was with a women off and on for 2 years. I did good with her son ( 4 year old), we did Dave and busters, air shows, and car shows, movies, etc. Whenever me and his mom would take breaks or whatever she said he used to asked about me, mind you he has an active father also. His mother is the godmother of my little cousin( my cousin wife’s best friend) and I’m the godfather, so this past birthday I showed up with my new girl and saw my ex and her son, her son ran up calling my name and gave me a hug, my new girl asked who is he, and it was very awkward trying to explain the situation.
I believe this is one of the rare times, keeping a decent relationship with someone after a breakup is cool, being that we will continue to bump into each other for years to come.
@ 8:40... how Jess said UH-UH😂🤣🤣
That last caller is stillllll smashing her baby daddy she capping
These 3 have really dope chemistry!😂😂👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
We need more topics like this
Every situation is different. If you have to cut the kids off, just have the decency to talk with them about it. Help them understand and move on.
Jess is improving & growing on me 😊
Jess Def needs to be every day
Whoaaaa Whoa Whoa You Bringing Up Old Stuff 😂😂😂🤣🤣
Jess Hilarious is truly hilarious, bro.
The look on Envy face when Char said that at 8:36
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Dad Collector is crazy 😂
Lmaooo Jess got his ahh with that marriage convo. SHOOKETH ONE
When are y'all going to make Jess an official co-host. I love her😅❤
Keep jess on the show please
Hahaha i truly believe from today Jess is the best host. I was on my bike ride and laughing like crazy. When she got sassy back at Charlemagne 😅😅😅😅. He needs that, someone to humble him
One year is nothing, but when you've been in a relationship with someone and it lasted many years you develop all kinds of bonds with others that don't even have anything to do with your significant other.
Lol! That caller HAD 2 make sure she set Envy & Charla were all the way clear🙌🏾👏🏾...WHOA WHOA WHOA😧😂🤣
Keep Jess On this SHOW!!
Not pitting black women against each other, but I think Jess matches Charlamange & Envy's energy better than Yee did. I hope they keep her & she's interested in a permanent spot at the Breakfast Club
Definitely better than Angela Yee
This is exactly how they where in the beginning of BC..I guess with time and growth they began to fall apart..
Yes, this shouldn't even be a question lol
“Your mom collected me” … I wasn’t ready 😂🤦🏽♂️
Are we too dumb to just say it depends on the situation?
If you can't cut off all ties, you're not truly over the previous person. There is still love there, otherwise u wouldn't have an issue to cut all ties.
There were a lot of calls today from my neck of the woods!! Represent Wartown and Macon, GA!! Lol
Yes
I ❤ Jess, keep her on the show please
Jess is freakin hilarious!!!! I CAN NOT!!
Batch called in to get mad at Envy. Lol
"I know that's right yall better stop with this" 😂😂😂😂
I love that last lady for calling them out. These guys are pretty emotionally immature and unevolved. How many of particularly black men say that they never had a positive role model in their lives or no one that believed in them?! One encounter is significant enough to make a difference, so how are you denigrating the potential impact of one year of positivity in a child's life?! I think it's perfectly fine to be a "positive role models" collector, and to stay in the child's life. It's up to the kids to ensure that boundaries are maintained and no lines crossed
Yesssss!!!
When I met my ex she had a 4 month. I didn’t want to meet her until I know we was gone be together. We split when she was 2 and I had to leave it alone when I didn’t want to. I had to realize that it was nothing I could do about it. And no her real father was not in her life.
How the hell can Envy give advice he’s been with one woman his entire life Wtf 😂😂😂
That's not true! IYKYK
That's not true. LOL. A caller even called him and CTG out at 10:42 for stepping out on their wives and neither could really say anything back.
He cheated on his wife with erica mena , idk about charla tho
@@Dymsx86 They cheated on their spouses... but they have been "Married" for over 20 years a piece. They do not have experience with this subject.
@@sirrmanning2769 I wasn't saying they had experience with this subject. I agree they can't give advice. Just wanted to let the other person know that Envy hasn't only been with one woman since they thought otherwise.
I’m glad my ex and I didn’t have these types of issues. We were toxic but learned to coexist
Absolutely
I have cut off plenty of women and their children when I was single. At the end of the day they were not my children and I never got close enough to the children in the 1st place.
I love that Jess added a comedic spin at the end of the baby daddy ex being cool for a new man.
I'm still in contact at times with my exes kids. They're still my daughters and they know that. You can't help who you like as a friend, S/O, bro, sis, homie, etc. I was still cool with my first bm bro until our friendship ended over $200 he owed me.
Im with Charlemagne if we’ve only been dating a year my child not going to be around you anyway
Children create attachment very quickly and if its not the right person the child will also be hurt.
Am I missing something. A year is a long time.
Jess definitely should be here! 😂
Give Jess the job 😂
Envy got SO funny😂
Co-parenting is not the goal Black People
Dayuum, Jay came with her feet on both of their necks😂.
Fire🔥.
Yo what’s that beat at the beginning??
That's beautiful that he made a bond with the kid. I don't believe if it is a real bond, that it could be broken. So as long as the child wants to contact the ex and its a healthy one, then allow that child to continue the relationship. Absolutely set boundaries, but it takes a village to raise a child. Being a child of a single parent home, it's not fair that just because you broke up, I have to not be cool with a Father figure. My son was heart broken when I stopped dating an ex, but I realized he wasn't going to be a good influence on him in the future. So I don't allow him to still have a relationship with him, but if he was, I would. The child's mental health and development is the only concern.
BOUNDARIES people.
Let's face it DJ Envy's insecurities are showing a lot lately. 😂
End it. Cuz its awkard for us Kids. After 3 months and them talks you gotta move on. We'll remember yall step dads fondly. 😂
Phew! She read them for FILTH!! 👀👀😂😂 Great points 👍🏾
YES! Kids are VERY resilient! Hell get'em a playstation or something and keep it pushing
Macon gone step EVERY TIME!
Facts i love this conversation but there is situations when a child who is adult is causing problems ! Cuz they dont like the wife/girlfriend i think setting boundaries is really a great thing to do.
What’s the instrumental in the beginning
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You shouldn’t bring everyone around your child. But if you’ve been dating for a year you should definitely have a relationship with the child.
Why I hear what sounds like Lalah Hathaway's polyphonic notes in the background of the beginning?
Whoa 10:49 seconds shorty sounded mad it’s ok sis it’s ok lol
I need to write a book.
The awkward silence at 2:14 😅
Yooooo... what in da kiss my converse is going on with that hair???
11:58 Just because that works for you doesn't mean it's the same for someone else.
People with no kids dont need to be dating people with kids
I can understand the bond a person can have with a kid i definitely think it changes if you not with their mom/dad anymore but I don’t think it would bother me as much as it would if he still has a bond w/ the actual ex
My uncle is the king of this 🤦🏽♀️ We call him uncle petty 😂😫
I love Jess she’s so silly lol ❤
What respectful man having holiday dinners with baby daddy SUPER SIMP