'Dating Up': Sugar Daddies, Hypergamy & Financial Compatibility
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ส.ค. 2024
- The sister’s continue down the controversial takes with an episode on sugar babies, transactional relationships and ‘dating up’. Should a sister seriously consider having a ‘Sucralose papi’ and is it okay for women to use money as a means to judge suitability for a partner? Find out more in today’s episode!
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Literally clicked on this video because of Renee’s hair ahh😻
@@michellepeach7680 honestly she looks amazing,
Thank you
I tell my daughter to make sure she marries a man who has not only a good job but good money management. I was able to make enough where her mom, my wife, never had to work if she did not want to. I think most women should go this route.
I saw my wife go through post partum issues, and all the stuff that happens when women have a baby...the very least a man can bring to the table is to make sure he can provide for your kid and the wife. I get now days 2 incomes are often needed...but dont marry a bum. As a man I dont see a problem with marrying a man with finances in mind..jusy make sure he will stick by you.
Mistake number 1: Telling mum.Sharrup about your things sometimes-it is the beginning of all wisdom
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Yes PLEASE do an episode of money !! Budgeting, resources for learning more, credit, all of that please please please !! You guys are so knowledgeable you’re really helping women all over the world
A problem that occured for me specifically was having a partner who asked me to quit my job, but wasn't transparent about how our household finances would work. I just had to "let him worry about that"... And all my spidey senses said "Noooope! I would like to be your partner, not your dependent." That is NOT the level of vulnerability that I've been called to. I would rather pay all these bills alone than have thaaaaat type of anxiety.
I just want to say thank you for discussing this topic. I was called gold digger for years because I don’t want to marry or date a man that has nothing for himself or nothing going on for himself. I think young ladies need to know that struggle don’t mean love.
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Its often black women who are taught the “ride or die” narrative, often black women who are shamed when they want a financially stable and literate man. It’s great that you’ve spoken about this, hopefully it can reach many more black women. I think the higher, women as a collective, set their standards, it will cause a trickle down effect that would force men to “level up/do better”. However that in itself is a conversation to be had. Many men have resorted to gaslighting and projecting instead of just doing better which is sad. Ridiculing women who want better for themselves, and it’s always when it comes to a black woman. Often poking at their self worth, their physical appearance etc, and that’s why I find most black women who seek hypergamy/marrying up tend to marry white men.
A whole lot of crap…is that what your fathers are saying?!? Funny thing is most of you went to school with the men you claim who are not financially stable and literate 😂😂 m. You want to get all the benefit of these things yet yourself can’t do it for yourself. So you think white is right? I always question women like you. You love to play this race element but refuse to acknowledge most people in relationships contribute no matter what race.
“The idea of finding the finished product of your ideal men” wow this is a whole topic on its own ! 👏🏽
on the subject of financially educating your relatives, i recently found out that my favorite cousin at a small age of 21 had nearly 6k £ in debt, this is not school loans or business, just partying and shopping and the way she gets loans is by googling for random lenders and taking the loan, i nearly cried when i saw those interest rates. some of the loans she had been paying for months but all the payments were going towards interest. helped her come up with a solid plan and explained just how detrimental her credit score was in the long run but ultimately, she's the only one that can pull herself out of that hole.
Wow! I’m glad I don’t overspend, the most I buy is manga, clothes and food. It’s really important to live by moderation but not everyone does. I hope she can get out of the debt, 6k is worse than 10k or 100k. It’s something that can be paid over a few years and isn’t too detrimental.
I think a point I had conflict with is that we should be okay with someone that has the average salary for the country they are living in. I think that statement should be adjusted because a majority of peoples average/mean salary is closer to the poverty line than the line of safety/security. I think what we should strive for as people that have a salary that is satisfactory for living within a city or particular town. A salary that meets the means of the environment that they’re living in.
Just a thought I think it was a slight miscommunication.
Good character is way more important than any money.
I'm not trying to marry a rich guy who is obnoxious, controlling with money, arrogant or abusive. I am not impressed if a guy brags too much about his money/drags others that don't make as much as him. I can't stand arrogance in a man. I'm of the opinion women should not be men's dependents as most men are not trustworthy enough for the provider role and even if they were, life can happen and your man may not always be around/may not always be healthy enough to work.
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Yes please ! I’d love to hear more Financial literacy and growth podcasts ❤❤
I hate when parents press you to be financially reposnibile for them. like who birthed whom
Ya know!! Who would even put their child through this?!! My parents were far from perfect but dayum!
RENE'S HAIR IS SOOO CUUTTEE! First thing I noticed and it is thriving. Puurr miss ma'am.
To my sisters, thank you. Thank you simply, for conveying your words articulately with such passion, clarity, love and depth. This is so rare to find these days. And I wished all women could listen to this. I have an entire note on everything discussed on this podcast. Healthy and functional seems to be unheard of these days because even from a personal point of view I feel we all have unhealed wounds we are all trying to work on. But like mentioned; it is possible feels like a far reach but healthy and functional is possible. Thank you so much for being a light source and an amazing source of inspiration. To glowing and growing ❤. To the sisterhood ❤.
53:04 - 56:00 🙌🏽. It was giving Auntie Iyanla Vanzant caliber wisdom.Thank you for the reminder. It’s been ROUGH out here, and the girlies needed this.
Yes PLEASE do episode about money I'm a recently moved out teen and I barely even know what I'm doing 😭😂
Love this episode ☺️☺️ would love another financial literacy episode. Lord knows I need the help
Love you ladies! I would love more videos on money management and learning to have the mindset on being selfish before you can be selfless 💖
Character > somebody’s pay check👏🏽😭
You had me in the first 10 seconds cause I’m definitely at my second job rn SUGAR BABY ME PLEASE !!!
Amazing answer for question number one. Enabling vs supportive. 🙌🏽
Love y'all!
Hope all the sisters are having a great day❤❤
as always you my beautiful sisters handled this topic so eloquently will simultaneously cracking me up 🤣🤣🤣 both of you are so wise, witty and hilarious! i truly wish you were my sisters in real life, but sisters in spirit is also powerful ✨💖💕 please do a talk on financial literacy!!! thanks for being so transparent, authentic and REAL!!! also, to the dilemma sister please don’t do it!!!! i speak from experience! you’ve worked so hard to build your credit, don’t allow ANYONE to jeopardize that! i feel like often we ask for advice because intuitively we know the answer is NO and we are afraid of the consequences of saying NO but more times than not, the consequences for saying yes is way more detrimental. sending you love, hugs, support and encouragement! you got this! 🥰♥️💛🤗🧡
An episode on money would be great! I would definitely be looking forward to that one
We are TIRED 😂😂
Awesome ep! Enjoyed hearing the balanced perspectives of risks/benefits of having a sugar daddy. 😂
I would love to hear you ladies take on the stay at home girlfriend conversation:
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Aspirational & realistic 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 spitting bars ouf!
I've got to say, I've been meaning to listen to a full episode for months and I'm annoyed with myself for waiting so long! Great conversation ladies.
The only two people on YT that I will listen to about this topic. Yes, yes and yes!
Y'all are my sisters for real
Please
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YES AND YES PLEASE! Have a topic especially about Loans and it's disadvantages. How it can affect planning for the future, the assets and liabilities that are most important and Money; Liberty, Repayment plans and financial stability.
This episode resonated soooo much with me. Thank you ladies!❤
first of all , yall as in you two just decided this episode you will be flexing your hair on us !!! okayyyyyyyy
Such a smart and necessary conversation!! I love this!! 💕
very interesting episode! thanks sisters for the continued shared wisdom!
Hey Sisters. You mentioned that there is a need to determine whether you are willing to stick with a person knowing that who they are will evolve over time. Well, how do you determine whether you should leave because something is part of their character and won't change or if you should stick around because it's something that could evolve?
If they are willing to evolve, you could give it a little longer but if they aren't then that's your answer
Loved this podcast ❤ A close friend became a sugar baby, and essentially exchanges her time and provides sex with these men for money/gifts. She did this because she is struggling financially. Her version of sugaring sounds like prostitution to me 😢. It rocked me to my core that she is choosing to do this, but of course she says she is having fun and she feels empowered. I am just disgusted at the whole thing. We are more than just objects for men’s pleasure that can be bought.
You can choose what ever you want to do but be prepared for the consequences of the choices that you make.
Ok hair!!! Hey Renee 🔥
yes pleasee, money talks, credit talks allaatttt. Thanks girlssss
You better speak about financial exploitation on women
Renee you look so darling 😍 just tew cute!
Sugar father 😂😂
The reality of a "six figure" guy who is in his twenties, physically and emotionally available is a bit far fetched. I would rather be with someone who's financially average but has time for me than someone who makes six figures but is hardly around. It's okay to prefer the latter as long as you are okay with that reality
Have you ever considered that a woman can be a financial liabilities? No really please let’s have this conversation 😂. Men are getting wise to the game.
I love seeing your beautiful faces😍
I'm 20 I'm seeing a 25 year old guy his sweet and caring and satisfies me but he's broke, smokes too weed and gambles, also unhygienic, but I love him because he loves me too.. We've been talking for 1 monthand now he wants us to be official 😭what do I?
Don't do it🙅♀️🙅♀️🙅♀️🙅♀️
@@rachaelo5410 😭Crying as I move
You sound like a troll.
Red flags
Sister !? I think you know what to do. His lifestyle doesn't suits you, so once the "honeymoon" stage of the relationship will pass you'll resent him for not being how you want him to be. Let him go Sis, unless he is ready to work on himself. What are his ambition ? Cause smoking weed all day everyday Ain't it 🫠
Hi girls,
I am selling a ticket to the show next week Saturday. I can’t make it due to unforeseen circumstances
Is anyone interested!