Your message is so powerful! Keep going!! I was abused by my step dad for years and I’m now in my 40s and I never told and that was a huge mistake because now I suffer with anxiety and the secret just ate me up alive. I did tell my aunt when I was a teen and she never told my mom so after that I realized adults don’t want to deal with it. Now I would like to tell my mother but she has cancer and I know it would destroy her. To any children or teens reading this and watching this video follow her advise and speak up now don’t hold it in. You don’t deserve this and it isn’t your fault. God bless you
Wow, I was molested by my mothers step dad when I was around 8. I knew it was wrong so I had the courage to go straight to my mother. That's when I learned that I wasn't the first of his victims, yet she told me not to speak about it. She begged me not to tell my father because he was just being released from prison & she never went to the police because she worried about keeping the family together. I kept quiet, but it was always awkward because I felt on the outside looking in on all of the “make believe” interactions. Keeping quiet also led him to continue to come after me & when I became a teenager he started trying to bribe me into letting him do things. I promised myself for years that I’d speak about it, but I learned that timing was everything. I knew for a fact that confronting him as well as the steps I decided to take towards healing would endure more negative than positive. I knew I’d lose some phony family & I had to grow to become completely fine with it, knowing I’d make room for healthier relationships. My family has enabled & protected this monster for far too long & many still don’t want the truth exposed in effort to protect the “perfect family” image. This secret is too dark & has affected too many young lives. I don’t care how anybody feels about the hidden truth or if they choose not to speak to me because of it. But for my family to HATE me, SLANDER my name, MISTREAT my mother & take It on my children is dead wrong. So for anyone that comes across my story, I want them to know that it’s not about being accepted by those who care nothing about your best interest. I now understand the strength it takes to break the cycle of generational curses & secrecy, so I will do my part by bringing awareness to child molestation. #HAVETHECOURAGETOTELL facebook.com/HAVETHECOURAGETOTELL
you are braver then you will ever know!!! You're right in warning your daughter, I hope ypu keep on continuing to educate your child,as knowledge is power and youre now forming a bond with her that no person can break....trust!!! much love and well wishes, keep up the good work with battling on and overcoming. sometimes the hardest thing about being strong is no one ever asks u if ur ok xxxx
I love what you are doing to them a negative situation into a positive powerful movement that talky needs to be addressed. People need to be held accountable for their actions. These types of events can have a lifetime of bad effects on a persons life if not resolved. You are a Queen and a warrior. Don't ever stop fighting back.
You are brave and you are helping other children and teenagers. For them to delete you and not support you it’s very sad but hopefully they’ll will get educated and see what hurt and damage this does to a child and follows them to adulthood. Shame on them..really shame on them. They violated you too and continue to do it by not supporting you. Continue to do what you are doing. And God knows your heart.
I'm sorry this happen to you.I don't think I'd ever speak to my mom or aunts again.All those that failed you once you told didn't have your best interest in mind.God bless you.
Thank you because I'm going through it and homeless, counseling is 100% important. Seeing you say I'm trying to run a foundation but therapy comes first.
So hard. I got molested when I was 26 by my grandfather and felt so embarrassed. I have only told one person. I thought I was only with it being my grandfather. Thanks for this video it makes me feel less alone and empowered
This is one of the best videos I've seen and it's really inspiring me! You have me feel stronger! I also have a dream of creating a safe place for survivors! Your story, of how your mom and her sisters treated you remind me of my family. I love what your dad told you! I wish I had a dad like that! I'm glad your dad helped inspire you to speak up!
You did the right thing... I'm sorry you had to go thru that sorry old pedifier put his hands on you . And your Mom and your Aunts and grandmother never helped you. You were so brave most lil girls don't khow to tell someone or too afraid to tell. But however, you did the right thing... If you can't get help from family tell a teacher, or a friends mom...
YOU KNOW WHY BABY GIRL THEY TOLD YOU NOT TO TELL BECAUSE IT HAPPENED TO THEM BY THE SAME GUY AND THEY DIDN'T TELL. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT BABY GIRL WHAT DON'T KILL MAKES YOU STRONGER AND YOU KEEP A CLOSE WATCH ON YOUR OWN DAUGHTER KEEP HER SAFE.
First off, you are one brave, intelligent and beautiful young lady. I am so sorry you had to go through this. And to make matters worse, the people that should have had your back left you hanging. This is so similar to my wife's story. Her uncle messed with her when she was 4 or 5 but she didn't tell her mother until she was 12. Her mother asked her brother, he denied it and that was the end of the story. Years later her mother calls her asking why she never calls or visits and why they aren't close. So my wife tells her when I needed you, you weren't there. And that psycho has the nerve to say she don't remember. And immediately tries to put the spot light back on herself talking about she was under stress back then as a single parent. I don't care how much stress I was under I'd remember my child telling me they were molested. It's just easier to lie and hide that guilt. I've watched a few of these stories here on YT and it seems sweeping it under the rug is a pretty common thing for some reason. So sad.
I have been trying to get someone to listen to me and my kids about one of their father and no one is listening.people whos job it is to listen are not listening. And now he is trying to get my son alone in his house with no supervision, and no one is listening. And now im the "crazy scorned lying bitch" in everyone's eyes trying to keep a "father" from his son. Because no one is listening.And the court systems is going to serve my child to a fucking monster on a golden platter. As hard as i fight to protect him im alone with them in a corner.
Lala m you still have to tell. That's why my movement is called "Tell Somebody!" And you have to keep telling until something is done. Abuse is wrong. Check out my Facebook www.Facebook.com/ItsTimeToTellSomebody
I just did to my daughter 6 months ago I'm hispanic male 63 years old I got rape by my grandpa,dad that is not my dad,his mom my grandma that is not my grandma,n a neighbor from the age of 6 thru 12 years old. Now I cry cause some how my brain took me back to where it all happen to me n told my aunt n uncle n now they stop talking to me n don't want nothing to do with long long story but now I cry daily. I feel your pain n feel for u cause it will never go away @sometimes I want to kill myself just to show people that it really happen to me love u n keep u in my heart
Joe Nino that’s horrible. They stopped speaking to you because of their guilt. I’m sure they already knew what was going on cause grandpa most likely molested them too. Im so sorry
Thanks for sharing ur story Alessha..Sorry you had to go through that alone..that's sad when a parent or any adult .tell a kid not to tell nobody..that person is no better than the molester..man can you Amagin what message you SEND a kid that has been through something like that and you say don't tell no one that's just like molesting that kid all over again...to Any kid the that had been touched tell somebody and if that person don't believe you.keep telling somebody until someone do something about it..the HELL with aN adult that tell you to keep quite don't tell.. and remember IT'S NEVER UR FAULT THAT YOU WERE MOLESTED NEVER.. YOU ARE JUST A CHILD .A PRECIOUS GIFT FROM GOD..GOD LOVES YOU AND I DO 2
I believe you're so brave! I hope you can reach many who may be going through or have gone through what you've had to endure. No disrespect but I believe your mom and aunts may have been molested as well which is the ONLY reason they would tell you to keep that horrible, damaging secret. And if I'm right, they were told not to tell and they didn't. I just pray that God guides you rightly and grants you success in spreading awareness.
I do not think they was surprise when she told her female family members. I think he was molesting them too because they reaction wasn't like wtf!! She is all alone she is so strong to sit and tell her story yah bless you.
I was told that when we get molested we become molesters no they wrong because when I see kids I hurt in would never never do that to a child I cry. I told my doctor never in my life time i would do something like that children r so perish to me. How can I fix this there isn't we going to suffer till we die 8 cry now n in 63 years old n n n I'm going to transition to transgender am I punishing myself dont know n this is not about sex I dont know nobody for real I just go the v.a. get treatment medicine n body changing n I dont want to see my old me in the mirrors what I see in mirror I dont like it I'm crying now n I hate myself I want to be different CRYING. My half brothers dont want to talk to me dont know why it's me that went thru this not them they just dont understand this
Hi aleesha, very good video,I am a grandfather and have to grand daughters 6-7 they like to play rough their all over me they like wen I eat their ribs and blow farts on their belly's sometimes on the legs sometimes I feel Unconfertable but they like it, sorry I'm very confused about what's good and what's bad and knowing my limits I don't want to make them think some day that something wasn't right, please explain to me thanks,
Hello young lady I want to let you know that I too was molested when I was about between the age of five or six to the age of 12 both by stepfather brother and maybe an uncle I'm not sure about that but when I was smaller I used to cringe and be so afraid to be in his present so that may be put back in the back of my mind somewhere but I also witness this Uncle doing I'm doing a sexual act with a aunt of mine which she is passed away God bless her soul but I still haven't came out and told my story I am 51 years of age my name is Bernadette you can follow me either on Facebook Instagram but and I also have a skin condition that keep me tucked away Within Myself I push people away from me because of my skin disorder you know but I'm trying to let myself be free within to me so I can see what God sees when I look in the mirror but I get strange looks I get things with people don't want to touch me or they don't want to interact with me because of my skin but I just praise God I thank God for you you are beautiful young lady and I'm trying to get to the point where still I want to be able to tell my story may God keep watch over you and your children may he keep you blessed and I have not seen your story on molestation can you tell me where I can find it at and once again may God bless you and may he keep you encouraged and once again Play Jesus loves you and I do too
Write your story. I've also had a hard time talking about it, and had bad skin conditions. Water kefir has helped alot, but also writing out what happened and the feelings helps alot
I'm sorry pretty girl but you still can make money off if his whole kids and mostly they knew everything their father didn't. You can file a lawsuit against them and they are the people that told you to keep it secret. Go for it baby girl.
Your message is so powerful! Keep going!! I was abused by my step dad for years and I’m now in my 40s and I never told and that was a huge mistake because now I suffer with anxiety and the secret just ate me up alive. I did tell my aunt when I was a teen and she never told my mom so after that I realized adults don’t want to deal with it. Now I would like to tell my mother but she has cancer and I know it would destroy her. To any children or teens reading this and watching this video follow her advise and speak up now don’t hold it in. You don’t deserve this and it isn’t your fault. God bless you
I salute you. Most powerful message posted on TH-cam
I love you! God bless your strength. A lot of woman dont understand that if youre a weak woman, you also make your man weak. Bless up. 👌
Speak your truth baby! Heal now. Stay away from those monsters
They manipulated you, for the safety of their father. I'm sorry you went through this! Bless you!
They’re mad at you because they can’t handle their guilt. Let that guilt eat them alive. Keep on striving and doing your Good work
Good job on telling!
Thank u i'm proud of you.Speak up Speak out.Stop being Silent.People need to see this and Share your Story.
Wow, I was molested by my mothers step dad when I was around 8. I knew it was wrong so I had the courage to go straight to my mother. That's when I learned that I wasn't the first of his victims, yet she told me not to speak about it. She begged me not to tell my father because he was just being released from prison & she never went to the police because she worried about keeping the family together.
I kept quiet, but it was always awkward because I felt on the outside looking in on all of the “make believe” interactions. Keeping quiet also led him to continue to come after me & when I became a teenager he started trying to bribe me into letting him do things.
I promised myself for years that I’d speak about it, but I learned that timing was everything. I knew for a fact that confronting him as well as the steps I decided to take towards healing would endure more negative than positive. I knew I’d lose some phony family & I had to grow to become completely fine with it, knowing I’d make room for healthier relationships. My family has enabled & protected this monster for far too long & many still don’t want the truth exposed in effort to protect the “perfect family” image. This secret is too dark & has affected too many young lives. I don’t care how anybody feels about the hidden truth or if they choose not to speak to me because of it. But for my family to HATE me, SLANDER my name, MISTREAT my mother & take It on my children is dead wrong.
So for anyone that comes across my story, I want them to know that it’s not about being accepted by those who care nothing about your best interest. I now understand the strength it takes to break the cycle of generational curses & secrecy, so I will do my part by bringing awareness to child molestation.
#HAVETHECOURAGETOTELL
facebook.com/HAVETHECOURAGETOTELL
God Bless You Sweetie
Power to you. God bless you. We need more to come forward and put the demons behind bar.
you are braver then you will ever know!!! You're right in warning your daughter, I hope ypu keep on continuing to educate your child,as knowledge is power and youre now forming a bond with her that no person can break....trust!!! much love and well wishes, keep up the good work with battling on and overcoming. sometimes the hardest thing about being strong is no one ever asks u if ur ok xxxx
I love what you are doing to them a negative situation into a positive powerful movement that talky needs to be addressed. People need to be held accountable for their actions. These types of events can have a lifetime of bad effects on a persons life if not resolved. You are a Queen and a warrior. Don't ever stop fighting back.
I can't believe you would tell a child to keep it a secret and then allow it to continue. Touch mine you're done!
Very Brave of you! I too am a survivor....keep moving strong with this movement it is so necessary!
You are brave and you are helping other children and teenagers. For them to delete you and not support you it’s very sad but hopefully they’ll will get educated and see what hurt and damage this does to a child and follows them to adulthood. Shame on them..really shame on them. They violated you too and continue to do it by not supporting you. Continue to do what you are doing. And God knows your heart.
I'm sorry this happen to you.I don't think I'd ever speak to my mom or aunts again.All those that failed you once you told didn't have your best interest in mind.God bless you.
God bless you for speaking your truth! My baby momma was molested by her grandpa too, she refuses to talk about it as well
Thank you because I'm going through it and homeless, counseling is 100% important. Seeing you say I'm trying to run a foundation but therapy comes first.
That's right open your heart and mouth,don't be Scare,too tell the World,thanks for sharing.
Your a beautiful young lady! No child should go thru what you went thru!
So proud of you, doll! Cannot wait to meet you at SheRose Awards this year!
Bless you for speaking up you are my hero!! coming from a fellow victim I hope one day I will be brave like you & be able to tell my story💜
Thank You, Jesus Tell Somebody
So hard. I got molested when I was 26 by my grandfather and felt so embarrassed. I have only told one person. I thought I was only with it being my grandfather. Thanks for this video it makes me feel less alone and empowered
Glad u speak up an tell others to tell.
…This is one of the best well spoken videos on sexual abuse I have ever heard. Thank You. You told me
This is one of the best videos I've seen and it's really inspiring me! You have me feel stronger! I also have a dream of creating a safe place for survivors! Your story, of how your mom and her sisters treated you remind me of my family. I love what your dad told you! I wish I had a dad like that! I'm glad your dad helped inspire you to speak up!
You are amazing! Thank you so much for this video!!
You are STRONG! I'm praying...too sad
Great movement !!! i was not molested but i do have a small daughter. i shared your link to help spread awareness and help the movement !!!!!
I was molested by my grandfather too. And you’re right; we should absolutely be proud of ourselves for being survivors!
Thank you for sharing your story. I shared your last other video.
You did the right thing... I'm sorry you had to go thru that sorry old pedifier put his hands on you . And your Mom and your Aunts and grandmother never helped you. You were so brave most lil girls don't khow to tell someone or too afraid to tell. But however, you did the right thing... If you can't get help from family tell a teacher, or a friends mom...
You’re gorgeous. You’re bravery is very inspiring.
Your strong and beautiful .. I support TELL SOMEBODY MOVEMENT!! Revengeance is mine said the Lord
God Bless you a true victim SMh
Very brave of you keep sharing. It happens to me too. I join you in your movement.
So sorry this happened to you .....and you are correct they were complicit
Rare lung disease. God don’t like Ugly. God bless you and your father.
Tell somebody but tell the right people ...the authorities or someone who cares or someone who is gonna take action
I wouldn't put up with anybody who sexually abused kids & still affiliate with them as if I never heard. Once I find out it's over.
YOU KNOW WHY BABY GIRL THEY TOLD YOU NOT TO TELL BECAUSE IT HAPPENED TO THEM BY THE SAME GUY AND THEY DIDN'T TELL. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT BABY GIRL WHAT DON'T KILL MAKES YOU STRONGER AND YOU KEEP A CLOSE WATCH ON YOUR OWN DAUGHTER KEEP HER SAFE.
Trust no one,it's bad when you can't trust your own MoMA,she sho telling the truth.
They were also molested by their father
I really think so
AMEN!!!
Family will do u b4 anyone.thats messed up.
First off, you are one brave, intelligent and beautiful young lady. I am so sorry you had to go through this. And to make matters worse, the people that should have had your back left you hanging.
This is so similar to my wife's story. Her uncle messed with her when she was 4 or 5 but she didn't tell her mother until she was 12. Her mother asked her brother, he denied it and that was the end of the story. Years later her mother calls her asking why she never calls or visits and why they aren't close. So my wife tells her when I needed you, you weren't there. And that psycho has the nerve to say she don't remember. And immediately tries to put the spot light back on herself talking about she was under stress back then as a single parent. I don't care how much stress I was under I'd remember my child telling me they were molested. It's just easier to lie and hide that guilt. I've watched a few of these stories here on YT and it seems sweeping it under the rug is a pretty common thing for some reason. So sad.
I have been trying to get someone to listen to me and my kids about one of their father and no one is listening.people whos job it is to listen are not listening. And now he is trying to get my son alone in his house with no supervision, and no one is listening. And now im the "crazy scorned lying bitch" in everyone's eyes trying to keep a "father" from his son. Because no one is listening.And the court systems is going to serve my child to a fucking monster on a golden platter. As hard as i fight to protect him im alone with them in a corner.
Thank you for sharing!! I finally started talking. I have uploaded a video about what we can do about it
My grandpa just molested me today 😭😭😭💔 I'm so lost don't know what to do telling someone sounds easier then the reality
Lala m you have to tell so it can stop!
Aleesha Barlow I'm scared to tell though I don't know what my mom will do and what if no one believes me 😢
Lala m you still have to tell. That's why my movement is called "Tell Somebody!" And you have to keep telling until something is done. Abuse is wrong. Check out my Facebook www.Facebook.com/ItsTimeToTellSomebody
Lala m 11 months later, did you tell anyone???? I hope he’s not still molesting you
@@AleeshaBarlow Why don't you tell her who to tell, suppose you don't have anyone to tell
They need to go prison.
Sending you all my love
I just did to my daughter 6 months ago I'm hispanic male 63 years old I got rape by my grandpa,dad that is not my dad,his mom my grandma that is not my grandma,n a neighbor from the age of 6 thru 12 years old. Now I cry cause some how my brain took me back to where it all happen to me n told my aunt n uncle n now they stop talking to me n don't want nothing to do with long long story but now I cry daily. I feel your pain n feel for u cause it will never go away @sometimes I want to kill myself just to show people that it really happen to me love u n keep u in my heart
Joe Nino that’s horrible. They stopped speaking to you because of their guilt. I’m sure they already knew what was going on cause grandpa most likely molested them too. Im so sorry
Thanks for sharing ur story Alessha..Sorry you had to go through that alone..that's sad when a parent or any adult .tell a kid not to tell nobody..that person is no better than the molester..man can you Amagin what message you SEND a kid that has been through something like that and you say don't tell no one that's just like molesting that kid all over again...to Any kid the that had been touched tell somebody and if that person don't believe you.keep telling somebody until someone do something about it..the HELL with aN adult that tell you to keep quite don't tell.. and remember IT'S NEVER UR FAULT THAT YOU WERE MOLESTED NEVER.. YOU ARE JUST A CHILD .A PRECIOUS GIFT FROM GOD..GOD LOVES YOU AND I DO 2
He should have been arrested.
Sound like they all need to find God! 😤💔 but have the nerve to tell you that! 😤😤😤
I wish I saw this years ago bless you
You go gurl! You need to speak at schools!
I believe you're so brave! I hope you can reach many who may be going through or have gone through what you've had to endure.
No disrespect but I believe your mom and aunts may have been molested as well which is the ONLY reason they would tell you to keep that horrible, damaging secret. And if I'm right, they were told not to tell and they didn't.
I just pray that God guides you rightly and grants you success in spreading awareness.
Some family are your worse eniemity when this happens your family that turn their back their soul 🙏 may burn in hell
I do not think they was surprise when she told her female family members. I think he was molesting them too because they reaction wasn't like wtf!! She is all alone she is so strong to sit and tell her story yah bless you.
I was told that when we get molested we become molesters no they wrong because when I see kids I hurt in would never never do that to a child I cry. I told my doctor never in my life time i would do something like that children r so perish to me. How can I fix this there isn't we going to suffer till we die 8 cry now n in 63 years old n n n I'm going to transition to transgender am I punishing myself dont know n this is not about sex I dont know nobody for real I just go the v.a. get treatment medicine n body changing n I dont want to see my old me in the mirrors what I see in mirror I dont like it I'm crying now n I hate myself I want to be different CRYING. My half brothers dont want to talk to me dont know why it's me that went thru this not them they just dont understand this
Im wonderin if he did it to them. Its crazy.
Have a half sister n half brother different fathers crossing finger hope I talk to them today thank u for texting me
Hi aleesha, very good video,I am a grandfather and have to grand daughters 6-7 they like to play rough their all over me they like wen I eat their ribs and blow farts on their belly's sometimes on the legs sometimes I feel Unconfertable but they like it, sorry I'm very confused about what's good and what's bad and knowing my limits I don't want to make them think some day that something wasn't right, please explain to me thanks,
If it feels uncomfortable just don't do it .
I got molested by my grandfather also,when I was 8....
Vanessa Nosek
I'm sorry, I hope you told someone.
Hello young lady I want to let you know that I too was molested when I was about between the age of five or six to the age of 12 both by stepfather brother and maybe an uncle I'm not sure about that but when I was smaller I used to cringe and be so afraid to be in his present so that may be put back in the back of my mind somewhere but I also witness this Uncle doing I'm doing a sexual act with a aunt of mine which she is passed away God bless her soul but I still haven't came out and told my story I am 51 years of age my name is Bernadette you can follow me either on Facebook Instagram but and I also have a skin condition that keep me tucked away Within Myself I push people away from me because of my skin disorder you know but I'm trying to let myself be free within to me so I can see what God sees when I look in the mirror but I get strange looks I get things with people don't want to touch me or they don't want to interact with me because of my skin but I just praise God I thank God for you you are beautiful young lady and I'm trying to get to the point where still I want to be able to tell my story may God keep watch over you and your children may he keep you blessed and I have not seen your story on molestation can you tell me where I can find it at and once again may God bless you and may he keep you encouraged and once again Play Jesus loves you and I do too
Start a TH-cam channel and spread awareness on your life and condition I'm sure more people relate than you think
Write your story. I've also had a hard time talking about it, and had bad skin conditions. Water kefir has helped alot, but also writing out what happened and the feelings helps alot
I'm sorry pretty girl but you still can make money off if his whole kids and mostly they knew everything their father didn't. You can file a lawsuit against them and they are the people that told you to keep it secret. Go for it baby girl.
T Is and then it still went on. Shame In Them
#tellsomebody
Going to Hell smh
You guys now days you are many bring fake stories full of lies just to attract attention of simple people that we are.