People in pain are easy prey to all kinds of feel good distractions. Twin Flames and Soul Mates and Past Life Partners are like rides at an amusement park that eventually fall apart. I’ve fallen for charmers, handing out promises and breadcrumbs, hoping to be chased, leading me on and into these emotional frenzies you warn about. Thank you!
Thanks again Fenna. I myself used to believe my LO was my twinflame, my soulmate, I now believe that is just new age myths being shoved at us. I do believe that we have compatible partners in the world, but twinflames and soulmates for us limerants are the result of past trauma. It's a harsh truth, but the truth hurts, thank you for telling this truth.
Personally detaching for me in twin flame connection is liberation. I have never thought of soul mates and twin flames, it just happened to me and I came across the label later. I consider myself very level headed, but have experienced the feeling of " knowing" and have been spot on as time passed by on all accounts in the most synchronistic manner that left my jaw drop. Plus I was always open to other relations when I met my twin, but for some weird reason, I got blocked on all 3 dating apps out of the blue, which got me mad. But this journey is more about your internal state and facing yourself . I can clearly distinguish between limerence and twin flame connection as I have experienced both. Limerence didn't make me to see myself deeply. I just moved on...but with the twin connection, it made me face myself on a very deep level. So I say, people who don't believe in this connection have actually never experienced this kind of connection. Most who actively look for the Soul mate /twin flame connection before they have such experience are more prone to limerence and fantasy.
Thank you for bringing this up, I feel the same way and having finally experiencing a healthy relationship for the first time and soon realizing this person was my twin, I see the difference between that and MANY limerent episodes I have had. And trust me I have had ALOT of limerent episodes in regards to relationships to recognize when it feels different. And in willing to bet if someone did a survey on people who are well educated in both they will find a correlation of twinflames having had ALOT of limerent episodes prior to this.. Often what people don't understand is how much more painful the separation stage is and why, and that there is an explanation as to why this healthier connection hurts WORSE than regular limerent episodes.
You are absolutely right!!!! Exactly!!!!! Tf journey happens to us without even wanting or seeking on our part!!! And it happens to make us face the deepest shadows!!! I can’t even imagine how much I had to still purge after meeting him… it as all about your inner healing process and transformation ❤
A very important message that I would have been very happy about ten years ago. Back then I also believed in Twinflames and Soulmates... Today I can confirm your words 100%. Personally, I'm not quite done with Limerence yet (I don't trust myself), but I'm definitely on the right track. And the new freedom feels great! I look forward to more videos from you. Thank you!
Yes 👏🏻 please keep cold hard reality check videos coming I need to hear this! I know a lot of people are into Tarot cards, twin flame etc but as a Christian it’s thinking I’m seeing God’s hand in things etc I find it interesting that we try to over spiritualise things whatever the faith or beliefs 😄x
The concept of twin Flames is not to come together once the counterpart figures it out. The concept is all about facing your own fears and childhood. traumas. The episode of obsessive attachement ist supposed to make you grow emotionally and realise, that without the runner you might have never faced those fears and would not be able to work on them in order to be happy, create a healthy relationship. Twin flames are all about letting go and personal growth, and Not obsessing and hoping Firma reunion with your twin flame. Its all about you.
I have gone through that, Attachment, detachement, my twin is the runner facing his own fears and avoidance. I do hope for both of us, that we will carry on with our work and find our Peace one day. And it does not matter for me anymore that I do not have him around. Because its all about me right now, figuring my attachment issues and working on them.
@@followingfenna exactly, however we name it, i think its Important to discover the purpose and reason of your limerence or obsession. And it is not the obession object but only you yourself. I would dare to call it a gift, for which i am so grateful. Although the pain is unbearable.
I studied spiritual science for over 13 years. I know how higher worlds and our different envelopes work. There are no Twinflames nor Soulmates it's simply CPTSD.
A twin injured soul able to trigger deep deep wounds and heal but when I found the tf channels I was sooooo hooked like all day every day even in the middle of the night. Cruel false hope for sure and a deepening of the limerence especially the unbelievable resonance and accuracy. Oh well i only wasted 6 years. The deeper you go the deeper the pain you need to heal.
In my experience, the anguish that the concepts “twin flame” and “soul mate” has brought to people is incalculable. In my life I have met only one or two persons who have used the concept, “twin flame” or “soul mate” in a way that has contributed to their growth and emotional safety. In both cases, after this person married, they decided that their spouse was their “soul mate” and treated them with all the love, enthusiasm, loyalty, and fidelity that one reserves for that special person. I think that the concept, “soul mate” is rarely used constructively before marriage (or lifelong commitment) and can be used very constructively after marriage.
You are the best, absolutely amazing woman. Make it all so clear and so get it. Luck forward to your videos and you truly make me think and sort my head out ❤
and could you please talk more about "opening up the grief", I feel like im completely stuck like you said in your other video and its making me anxious depressed etc. I know I need to grief and tears are falling at random times for random things but I know that actually deep down im fucking sad even tho I don't want her. how can I prove my mind its safe now to be crushed and sad and actually move on.
I do wonder if it is possible there is a Twin Flame situation - but then it is ALSO a trauma bond and limerence, but this is still not an ideal match...and TF's are just simply NOT what anyone thinks they are.
I really thought my feelings could only mean this was THE one for me, you nailed it Fenna, it was / is not a healthy situation at all. Im done suffering, I want out.
Exactly .. feelings and connection are real. you feel it in your bones and soul .. but we must question the definition of twin flame.. Feeling you can heal someone by healing yourself, and is the other half of your soul is often the wounded inner child in us. Great video!
Hi Fenna! Could you make a video how its like to come out of limerence or signs that you are coming out? for me I think im over her but when im drunk for example I still call her and long for her. its such a rollercoaster. but still much much better than before. how do you know if you are ACTUALLY over them? and another question, you are talking about the nervous system and limerence. I don't actually LIKE my lo, like logically every 2nd woman I know is nicer, prettier.., so does grieving actually help? or is the answer the nervous system? Im just confused, will I wake up and my nervous system is back to before? before I had actually NO anxiety at all. how do you feel when you're over her, do you 100% know that your over her or better said your nervous system? Or the main question how do you know when you're truly truly over them? This process and all is soo confusing, would love to hear your take and knowledge on that. do you get your old confidence back and are suddenly not dependent on the validation from her? does the anxiety end suddenly? do you wake up one day and everything is normal? thank you so much!!!! you're awesome
That’s true but how do You explain certain things, The synchronicity‘s, The numbers popping up never ever hearing about twinflames in your whole life you meet a person and all of the sudden it’s everywhere, for the first time. The birthdays being similar family members having the same or similar birthdays, the angel numbers just popping up out of nowhere 111,1212,1010.or the timelines both married right out of high school, children were born in the same years, both had a sibling six years younger and so on it just goes on how do you explain all that stuff?
On my list: further in, keep on looking at LO and thinking I know what he’s thinking and feeling. Out: focusing on what is going on in my life and how can I practice making real life connections with people around me.
Why does it hurt so much and much more difficult to get out of limerence than when breaking it off with someone with whom you had a normal relationship? Not that it’s not difficult when you were in a normal relationship but seems to hurt way more in limerence
Because of the obstacles and limited acces we got more addicted to them than someone we had acces to. So we feel withdrawal a d grief at the same time . Good luck!
At the end of the day, it's just You and Your Mind. If something feels good, then it is Good, and if something makes you feel bad, then it's not good. It doesn't matter what we call it, what it's name is, which ideas we place behind it, nor any definitions we give it, not even what it looks like...we become aware of things, we have first-hand and personal experiences, and we carefuly choose what we want to believe, how we think about things...so we can determine rightly, and only for ourselves, how anything makes us FEEL, so in the end, we simply act accordingly to our own happiness. This is the way to empower ourselves for Love.❤
Hi Fenna! I did it, I „opened up“ the grief 😎 i fell frickin awful, worse than in months, i just hope so much that i am going through hell now one last time and then im finally free, i hope it so so much! Is this normal that it gets worse before it gets better, or does the cycle just repeat itself ? 😬 And another question, my biggest problem is that my le is with my best friend. And this might sound dumb, but she is actually into me, the problem is, like you said, the uncertainty. She is sadly unbelievably insecure and not really trustworthy in that sense, the opposite of healthy. It would be so much easier if she doesn’t want it. Part of this extreme pain was exactly this uncertainty, untrustworthiness etc. my main question would be if its possible in this order -> -1. extreme infatuation 2. extreme grieving, extreme sadness/anger/being cracked open 3. being much better but still far from my normal self and much more anxiety „out of nowhere“ 3. grief, but not as intense again? Does it get worse before it gets better. I miss my life so much. I couldn’t enjoy one second of my summer. I want me back. I hope this is now truly the last stage. I hope so much. And thank you so much for what you do, you have a talent with being so compassionate, but explain things in a intelligent yet simple way, fascinating. 🫶🏻
People,i get it..this person helped you wake up. However whatever will be will be, tarot general readings will put you in a loop. Whatever will be will be,let it go..whenever you obcess, think it's their energy,not yours..
Yes! Thank you I will Normally its not a good idea because its not really fair to the dating partner and we start to compare but I will write a post about it :)
Actually I dont think it is possible to help people who relate to twin flame nonsense.If you carefully read comments you will notice even those who appear like they understood their mistake, they claim they were victims and the other person who never wanted them was actually a narc...what they need is to be ignored rather than giving them compassion..
Lol, I fully believe in the Twin Flame union and I have never - not one time - thought of the person as a narc. Nor have I ever blamed them or been upset at them for disappearing in the manner they did. Because I know it was for both of our own good and safety - whether intentional/conscious or not. I knew this person was meant to be in my life - because I would have visions of this person, often, years prior to ever even meeting them. It was very confusing, in fact, when I would date other men. Because my TF’s face/presence would ALWAYS come up, when I questioned if I should attempt to continue spending time with those men, long-term. Which, was not long before I prayed to become a better woman, for all I am in relationship with and those who I will be in relationship with, further on in my life - which, lead me to a near decade of absolute purgatory, being bedridden/housebound, in order to achieve that goal. That’s how I knew this was something significant, once we met - because I had always had an intuitive knowing this person existed, long before it was cognitively confirmed. Regardless if they come back in my life, or not - I am a better person and woman, because of what I was able to process and heal from, as result of what their presence triggered. I am exactly who I prayed to become. Never - not once - have I felt “victimized.” By anyone, really (childhood frontal lobe brain damage has done wonders, in that regard. I don’t have much emotion, in such a regard. I don’t really get offended, nor see the world in an emotional regard. I am, also, autistic. And hell, I survived a near decade tenure of Munchuasen’s by Proxy, at the hands of my “caretaker” mother. I will never not believe she didn’t want my life to end [allegedly]. What she did and the way she treated me only made me better, stronger, smarter, more capable. Narcistic people only exist to make those whom interact with ‘em better people. Don’t even get me started in how I believe such behaviors were purposefully bred into society, post WWII. To which, I have diagnosed narcissism in my immediate family, that was so bad - it qualified that person for disability). I still see his name everywhere, the crazy symbolisms, numbers - all of it. And I am not in a limerence phase. I use to be. I don’t even remember much about him, now. Sure, I’ll think about things out of boredom and curiosity as to what still may play out - because I do believe there will be a resolution as to why things played out the way they did. Though, there certainly is a difference between limerence and intuitive knowing. To which, they can coincide, also - as they did, in my past. This entire process has taught me to trust my heart and my own intuition, more than anything else. Regardless of what even professionals say. And after being bedridden/housebound for the near decade - and me being the one to figure out the majority of the reasons why I was so sick, yet, doctor’s didn’t have a clue; even over four different hospitals.. I have come to realize my internal voice is much more reliable and powerful than ANY external voice I come across. And that’s the entire point of a “Twin Flame connection.” It has nothing to do with the other person. Their involvement was to, simply, be part of the circumstances that made me my own ideal woman. And that’s exactly what has taken place. I couldn’t imagine myself being a better woman - or potential wife and mother. Not to imply I believe I am perfect, though, I am exactly who I always envisioned myself growing into. It’s a shame so many fail to see this as such a wonderful opportunity, within all of this, to become their ideal self. HOWEVER. I do agree, to an extent, with the original comment. I use to see all those types of comments, also. And it made me laugh. Because people weren’t grasping that their Twin Flame is an EXACT mirror, of their own behavior. If their TF was acting like a narc - they were playing just as big of a roll, in some regard or another.
Sad & creepy: While in the haze of postpartum depression my wife had a limerent affair with a coworker who was also limerent with her. Now that I know what was going on I feel bad for the other guy, he sometimes parked outside our home watching us, I assume dreaming that soon he would be the man of the house with a family of his own. My wife being a Borderline nutjob, I can only imagine the BS she fed this man, making him feel like a white knight saving her from her madman husband.
Part of the issue with a lot of these videos, is that they disregard LOs completely, and assign the attachment entirely to trauma. Now that I'm finally out of limerence, I can see that the relationship was actually very good for the most part. Fun, passionate, novel, reciprocal, affectionate, considerate, regardful, communicative, etc. Things I would like to see in my next relationship. The ending was bad, and the shut-down/pull-away/rebound hurt the most. I struggled to let go for a long time, but I know there was something real there. I haven't had limerence for years, but it has never been this hard to let go of. I think it's because I didn't grieve the positive parts, and accept the limerence; instead flip-flopping between complete denial of the relationship as just trauma, or complete idealising as a "Twin-Flame Journey". I can say that I miss her and what we had, without feeling anxious or sick. I still wish things had worked, but I can't force her. I feel like I can finally grieve.
Good point! Its too easy to say thats its all an illusion, sometimes we have a really good ( yet not safe enough) connection to LO. and we genuinely love them. So indeed we also grief the love and connection that was there. I know I did.
Not to be rude but if you neither understand or believe in twinflames then you are not qualified to make a comparison. I understand what limerence, as its described many experiences in my life. And I understand that int everyone has a twinflame. But I don't think you should be making a comparison with both if you don't believe in or understand both. It really doesn't help anyone no matter which of the two they fall into because you are 1) invalidating those in REAL twinflame connections and 2) gatekeeping an explanation from someone who may already be conscious of their mental health and try to legit better themselves and they might not even know about twinflames. Same goes for those who reject the idea of limerence altogether and tell everyone "it's your twinflame" they would only be furthering the delusion on someone in a true limerent episode. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, as you know your audience best, I'm just saying, you are bound to piss some people off.
Just because the term twin flame exists, does that mean there is a twin flame for every soul? Or to go further, is there an eternal soul? A term conceived by mortal beings, who are afraid of the end of their existence. I ponder...
@@followingfenna- In all fairness, a Twin Flame connection does not imply those two people are meant to be together - or are “right” for each other. It’s more nuanced, than that.
People in pain are easy prey to all kinds of feel good distractions.
Twin Flames and Soul Mates and Past Life Partners are like rides at an amusement park that eventually fall apart.
I’ve fallen for charmers, handing out promises and breadcrumbs, hoping to be chased, leading me on and into these emotional frenzies you warn about.
Thank you!
Thanks again Fenna. I myself used to believe my LO was my twinflame, my soulmate, I now believe that is just new age myths being shoved at us. I do believe that we have compatible partners in the world, but twinflames and soulmates for us limerants are the result of past trauma. It's a harsh truth, but the truth hurts, thank you for telling this truth.
Personally detaching for me in twin flame connection is liberation. I have never thought of soul mates and twin flames, it just happened to me and I came across the label later. I consider myself very level headed, but have experienced the feeling of " knowing" and have been spot on as time passed by on all accounts in the most synchronistic manner that left my jaw drop. Plus I was always open to other relations when I met my twin, but for some weird reason, I got blocked on all 3 dating apps out of the blue, which got me mad. But this journey is more about your internal state and facing yourself .
I can clearly distinguish between limerence and twin flame connection as I have experienced both. Limerence didn't make me to see myself deeply. I just moved on...but with the twin connection, it made me face myself on a very deep level. So I say, people who don't believe in this connection have actually never experienced this kind of connection. Most who actively look for the Soul mate /twin flame connection before they have such experience are more prone to limerence and fantasy.
Thank you for bringing this up, I feel the same way and having finally experiencing a healthy relationship for the first time and soon realizing this person was my twin, I see the difference between that and MANY limerent episodes I have had. And trust me I have had ALOT of limerent episodes in regards to relationships to recognize when it feels different. And in willing to bet if someone did a survey on people who are well educated in both they will find a correlation of twinflames having had ALOT of limerent episodes prior to this.. Often what people don't understand is how much more painful the separation stage is and why, and that there is an explanation as to why this healthier connection hurts WORSE than regular limerent episodes.
You are absolutely right!!!! Exactly!!!!! Tf journey happens to us without even wanting or seeking on our part!!! And it happens to make us face the deepest shadows!!! I can’t even imagine how much I had to still purge after meeting him… it as all about your inner healing process and transformation ❤
A very important message that I would have been very happy about ten years ago. Back then I also believed in Twinflames and Soulmates... Today I can confirm your words 100%.
Personally, I'm not quite done with Limerence yet (I don't trust myself), but I'm definitely on the right track. And the new freedom feels great! I look forward to more videos from you. Thank you!
Yes 👏🏻 please keep cold hard reality check videos coming I need to hear this! I know a lot of people are into Tarot cards, twin flame etc but as a Christian it’s thinking I’m seeing God’s hand in things etc I find it interesting that we try to over spiritualise things whatever the faith or beliefs 😄x
🥺🥺🥺i am suffering! they wont leave my head...im in deep
The concept of twin Flames is not to come together once the counterpart figures it out. The concept is all about facing your own fears and childhood. traumas. The episode of obsessive attachement ist supposed to make you grow emotionally and realise, that without the runner you might have never faced those fears and would not be able to work on them in order to be happy, create a healthy relationship. Twin flames are all about letting go and personal growth, and Not obsessing and hoping Firma reunion with your twin flame. Its all about you.
I have gone through that, Attachment, detachement, my twin is the runner facing his own fears and avoidance.
I do hope for both of us, that we will carry on with our work and find our Peace one day. And it does not matter for me anymore that I do not have him around. Because its all about me right now, figuring my attachment issues and working on them.
@@followingfenna exactly, however we name it, i think its Important to discover the purpose and reason of your limerence or obsession. And it is not the obession object but only you yourself. I would dare to call it a gift, for which i am so grateful. Although the pain is unbearable.
I studied spiritual science for over 13 years. I know how higher worlds and our different envelopes work. There are no Twinflames nor Soulmates it's simply CPTSD.
@@karobar5416 well said Karo! It's about heal within and not use this TF term as batch of honor!
A twin injured soul able to trigger deep deep wounds and heal but when I found the tf channels I was sooooo hooked like all day every day even in the middle of the night. Cruel false hope for sure and a deepening of the limerence especially the unbelievable resonance and accuracy. Oh well i only wasted 6 years. The deeper you go the deeper the pain you need to heal.
In my experience, the anguish that the concepts “twin flame” and “soul mate” has brought to people is incalculable.
In my life I have met only one or two persons who have used the concept, “twin flame” or “soul mate” in a way that has contributed to their growth and emotional safety.
In both cases, after this person married, they decided that their spouse was their “soul mate” and treated them with all the love, enthusiasm, loyalty, and fidelity that one reserves for that special person.
I think that the concept, “soul mate” is rarely used constructively before marriage (or lifelong commitment) and can be used very constructively after marriage.
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You are always popular with me Fenna! Real-talk is what I need! Bless you! ❤️
@@followingfenna Bring it on! We can take it because we’re getting stronger! 😘💪🏻
You are the best, absolutely amazing woman. Make it all so clear and so get it.
Luck forward to your videos and you truly make me think and sort my head out ❤
Very happy about that, thank you for commenting
and could you please talk more about "opening up the grief", I feel like im completely stuck like you said in your other video and its making me anxious depressed etc. I know I need to grief and tears are falling at random times for random things but I know that actually deep down im fucking sad even tho I don't want her. how can I prove my mind its safe now to be crushed and sad and actually move on.
OMG yes, the twin and the flame together....such magic lol! You're the absolute best Fenna.
I do wonder if it is possible there is a Twin Flame situation - but then it is ALSO a trauma bond and limerence, but this is still not an ideal match...and TF's are just simply NOT what anyone thinks they are.
Someone can be a big influence in your life, for sure, or spiral you in a different direction, does not mean you will be happy with them.
I really thought my feelings could only mean this was THE one for me, you nailed it Fenna, it was / is not a healthy situation at all. Im done suffering, I want out.
Exactly .. feelings and connection are real. you feel it in your bones and soul .. but we must question the definition of twin flame.. Feeling you can heal someone by healing yourself, and is the other half of your soul is often the wounded inner child in us. Great video!
THANK YOU SO MUCH. I AGREE WITH YOU 100%.
Well thank you Sir :)
Hi Fenna! Could you make a video how its like to come out of limerence or signs that you are coming out? for me I think im over her but when im drunk for example I still call her and long for her. its such a rollercoaster. but still much much better than before. how do you know if you are ACTUALLY over them? and another question, you are talking about the nervous system and limerence. I don't actually LIKE my lo, like logically every 2nd woman I know is nicer, prettier.., so does grieving actually help? or is the answer the nervous system?
Im just confused, will I wake up and my nervous system is back to before? before I had actually NO anxiety at all. how do you feel when you're over her, do you 100% know that your over her or better said your nervous system? Or the main question how do you know when you're truly truly over them? This process and all is soo confusing, would love to hear your take and knowledge on that. do you get your old confidence back and are suddenly not dependent on the validation from her? does the anxiety end suddenly? do you wake up one day and everything is normal? thank you so much!!!! you're awesome
Thank you
That’s true but how do You explain certain things, The synchronicity‘s, The numbers popping up never ever hearing about twinflames in your whole life you meet a person and all of the sudden it’s everywhere, for the first time. The birthdays being similar family members having the same or similar birthdays, the angel numbers just popping up out of nowhere 111,1212,1010.or the timelines both married right out of high school, children were born in the same years, both had a sibling six years younger and so on it just goes on how do you explain all that stuff?
I'm curious too
So glad I found you !!!...Thank you 🌻
Her face os designed to disappoint everyone who is in love😅🤣
On my list: further in, keep on looking at LO and thinking I know what he’s thinking and feeling.
Out: focusing on what is going on in my life and how can I practice making real life connections with people around me.
Why does it hurt so much and much more difficult to get out of limerence than when breaking it off with someone with whom you had a normal relationship? Not that it’s not difficult when you were in a normal relationship but seems to hurt way more in limerence
Because of the obstacles and limited acces we got more addicted to them than someone we had acces to.
So we feel withdrawal a d grief at the same time . Good luck!
I cant help but still feel like this sometimes even though I now it not my soulmate at all
At the end of the day, it's just You and Your Mind. If something feels good, then it is Good, and if something makes you feel bad, then it's not good. It doesn't matter what we call it, what it's name is, which ideas we place behind it, nor any definitions we give it, not even what it looks like...we become aware of things, we have first-hand and personal experiences, and we carefuly choose what we want to believe, how we think about things...so we can determine rightly, and only for ourselves, how anything makes us FEEL, so in the end, we simply act accordingly to our own happiness. This is the way to empower ourselves for Love.❤
So true
Hi Fenna! I did it, I „opened up“ the grief 😎 i fell frickin awful, worse than in months, i just hope so much that i am going through hell now one last time and then im finally free, i hope it so so much!
Is this normal that it gets worse before it gets better, or does the cycle just repeat itself ? 😬
And another question, my biggest problem is that my le is with my best friend. And this might sound dumb, but she is actually into me, the problem is, like you said, the uncertainty. She is sadly unbelievably insecure and not really trustworthy in that sense, the opposite of healthy. It would be so much easier if she doesn’t want it. Part of this extreme pain was exactly this uncertainty, untrustworthiness etc.
my main question would be if its possible in this order -> -1. extreme infatuation 2. extreme grieving, extreme sadness/anger/being cracked open 3. being much better but still far from my normal self and much more anxiety „out of nowhere“ 3. grief, but not as intense again? Does it get worse before it gets better. I miss my life so much. I couldn’t enjoy one second of my summer. I want me back. I hope this is now truly the last stage. I hope so much.
And thank you so much for what you do, you have a talent with being so compassionate, but explain things in a intelligent yet simple way, fascinating.
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omg confronting
Indeed!
People,i get it..this person helped you wake up. However whatever will be will be, tarot general readings will put you in a loop. Whatever will be will be,let it go..whenever you obcess, think it's their energy,not yours..
Can you discuss trying to date while in limerence?
Yes! Thank you I will
Normally its not a good idea because its not really fair to the dating partner and we start to compare but I will write a post about it :)
My wife is in a limerence with a rich man. She is NOT on Facebook, or internet, everything very secretly!
When you BOTH already have someone else at home and THEY already told you to leave them alone, this is ALL irrelevant....
Actually I dont think it is possible to help people who relate to twin flame nonsense.If you carefully read comments you will notice even those who appear like they understood their mistake, they claim they were victims and the other person who never wanted them was actually a narc...what they need is to be ignored rather than giving them compassion..
Lol, I fully believe in the Twin Flame union and I have never - not one time - thought of the person as a narc.
Nor have I ever blamed them or been upset at them for disappearing in the manner they did.
Because I know it was for both of our own good and safety - whether intentional/conscious or not.
I knew this person was meant to be in my life - because I would have visions of this person, often, years prior to ever even meeting them.
It was very confusing, in fact, when I would date other men. Because my TF’s face/presence would ALWAYS come up, when I questioned if I should attempt to continue spending time with those men, long-term.
Which, was not long before I prayed to become a better woman, for all I am in relationship with and those who I will be in relationship with, further on in my life - which, lead me to a near decade of absolute purgatory, being bedridden/housebound, in order to achieve that goal.
That’s how I knew this was something significant, once we met - because I had always had an intuitive knowing this person existed, long before it was cognitively confirmed.
Regardless if they come back in my life, or not - I am a better person and woman, because of what I was able to process and heal from, as result of what their presence triggered.
I am exactly who I prayed to become.
Never - not once - have I felt “victimized.”
By anyone, really (childhood frontal lobe brain damage has done wonders, in that regard. I don’t have much emotion, in such a regard. I don’t really get offended, nor see the world in an emotional regard. I am, also, autistic.
And hell, I survived a near decade tenure of Munchuasen’s by Proxy, at the hands of my “caretaker” mother. I will never not believe she didn’t want my life to end [allegedly]. What she did and the way she treated me only made me better, stronger, smarter, more capable. Narcistic people only exist to make those whom interact with ‘em better people. Don’t even get me started in how I believe such behaviors were purposefully bred into society, post WWII. To which, I have diagnosed narcissism in my immediate family, that was so bad - it qualified that person for disability).
I still see his name everywhere, the crazy symbolisms, numbers - all of it.
And I am not in a limerence phase.
I use to be.
I don’t even remember much about him, now.
Sure, I’ll think about things out of boredom and curiosity as to what still may play out - because I do believe there will be a resolution as to why things played out the way they did.
Though, there certainly is a difference between limerence and intuitive knowing.
To which, they can coincide, also - as they did, in my past.
This entire process has taught me to trust my heart and my own intuition, more than anything else.
Regardless of what even professionals say.
And after being bedridden/housebound for the near decade - and me being the one to figure out the majority of the reasons why I was so sick, yet, doctor’s didn’t have a clue; even over four different hospitals..
I have come to realize my internal voice is much more reliable and powerful than ANY external voice I come across.
And that’s the entire point of a “Twin Flame connection.”
It has nothing to do with the other person.
Their involvement was to, simply, be part of the circumstances that made me my own ideal woman.
And that’s exactly what has taken place.
I couldn’t imagine myself being a better woman - or potential wife and mother.
Not to imply I believe I am perfect, though, I am exactly who I always envisioned myself growing into.
It’s a shame so many fail to see this as such a wonderful opportunity, within all of this, to become their ideal self.
HOWEVER.
I do agree, to an extent, with the original comment.
I use to see all those types of comments, also.
And it made me laugh.
Because people weren’t grasping that their Twin Flame is an EXACT mirror, of their own behavior.
If their TF was acting like a narc - they were playing just as big of a roll, in some regard or another.
Sad & creepy: While in the haze of postpartum depression my wife had a limerent affair with a coworker who was also limerent with her. Now that I know what was going on I feel bad for the other guy, he sometimes parked outside our home watching us, I assume dreaming that soon he would be the man of the house with a family of his own. My wife being a Borderline nutjob, I can only imagine the BS she fed this man, making him feel like a white knight saving her from her madman husband.
Part of the issue with a lot of these videos, is that they disregard LOs completely, and assign the attachment entirely to trauma.
Now that I'm finally out of limerence, I can see that the relationship was actually very good for the most part.
Fun, passionate, novel, reciprocal, affectionate, considerate, regardful, communicative, etc.
Things I would like to see in my next relationship.
The ending was bad, and the shut-down/pull-away/rebound hurt the most.
I struggled to let go for a long time, but I know there was something real there.
I haven't had limerence for years, but it has never been this hard to let go of.
I think it's because I didn't grieve the positive parts, and accept the limerence; instead flip-flopping between complete denial of the relationship as just trauma, or complete idealising as a "Twin-Flame Journey".
I can say that I miss her and what we had, without feeling anxious or sick.
I still wish things had worked, but I can't force her.
I feel like I can finally grieve.
Good point!
Its too easy to say thats its all an illusion, sometimes we have a really good ( yet not safe enough) connection to LO. and we genuinely love them. So indeed we also grief the love and connection that was there. I know I did.
Not to be rude but if you neither understand or believe in twinflames then you are not qualified to make a comparison. I understand what limerence, as its described many experiences in my life. And I understand that int everyone has a twinflame. But I don't think you should be making a comparison with both if you don't believe in or understand both. It really doesn't help anyone no matter which of the two they fall into because you are 1) invalidating those in REAL twinflame connections and 2) gatekeeping an explanation from someone who may already be conscious of their mental health and try to legit better themselves and they might not even know about twinflames. Same goes for those who reject the idea of limerence altogether and tell everyone "it's your twinflame" they would only be furthering the delusion on someone in a true limerent episode. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, as you know your audience best, I'm just saying, you are bound to piss some people off.
Just because the term twin flame exists, does that mean there is a twin flame for every soul? Or to go further, is there an eternal soul? A term conceived by mortal beings, who are afraid of the end of their existence.
I ponder...
@@followingfenna- In all fairness, a Twin Flame connection does not imply those two people are meant to be together - or are “right” for each other.
It’s more nuanced, than that.
Well stated.
@@XOChristianaNicole I would even say that my comment was more nuanced and goes much deeper/farther.
❤
Thank you