I was glued to the screen trying to get all the word out. I can’t find a compelling destination. Pain drove me to find a career and a spouse, and when I had no game devices, boredom drove me to make games. But once I got some video games I liked, my desire to build characters or adventures died off. These three videos have me feeling like I need to become more diligent in my life, but not sure where. Last month I felt inspired to make a list of daily quests to spend five minutes a day in different things like cleaning, reading, praying, working on health. A man’s gifts make room for him so I guess that’s what I should develop, but I never thought of it this way before. Thanks for these videos.
Damn, man, you and I think so much alike... and thanks for having the courage to speak these truths because you make it easier for me, and others, I'm sure, to do the same. My channel launches soon and I am coming out swinging... and I was concerned that this might be met with anger... and resistance... but you speaking the truth fearlessly shows that this is a noble endeavour. Thank you!! Excellent!
Asking the question "How can I?" reminds me a lot of what Chris Voss who was an FBI negotiator says he always asked in his negotiations which is "How am I supposed to do that?" I think this is an important question because we're always negotiating against our sin nature wanting us to be stagnant. I oftentimes have to treat myself as if I'm in a hostile negotiation trying to get myself to do the right thing and that "how" question is so important to ask yourself whenever you get to a roadblock of any type.
Thanks for the vid SoS. You're giving excellent life advice. QotV: I struggle with discipline the most, followed by destination and, least of the three, determination. It's all relative within my own experience of course, as someone else will have completely differing issues with the 3 D's. The everyday tasks which require discipline are most difficult for me--getting up on time, meal prep, etc. I'll still manage to do everything I need, but it'll often be a later than I should start & finish, slightly lesser quality than I know I can muster, etc. I've developed a lot more of each through two tours of duty in the military, so I'm 10x better off than I was, but I'm always my worst critic. From the outside looking in, I'm doing pretty well in life. Solid career path, making decent money (enough to support my wife & kids if she should lose her income entirely), three awesome kids, friends who I can trust explicitly, two great RPG groups, I get to read a lot, and, perhaps most importantly, I have a wonderful relationship with my wife--which we're always seeking to improve even further. None of this would have been possible to attain and maintain without the 3 D's.
09:00 You're not wrong, but a lot of people sitting on top of those obstacles-- usually _born_ there-- like to mistake winners who aren't willing to settle for climbing those obstacles _alone_ for losers who aren't strong enough to climb them at all. And it's hard to tell the difference, from the outside, between people who want to remove those obstacles for others and people who just want others to remove those obstacles for them.
I've been struggling all of my life... and if I'm being honest, I've been much more of a quitter than a winner in my years. But one thing I've gotten better at is telling the difference between people trying to push others down from the top, people trying to pull others down from the bottom, and people who want to lift others up regardless of where they're standing.
In the triptych of destination/discipline/determination, I had to do this to overcome my own chronic illness. Not "make it go away" as much as prevent it from making me go away. I had to discipline my mind to isolate and confront the part of my thoughts that were dangerous to me. I had to have the determination to keep on going for the decades it took to get that discipline in place and fully working for me. If anything, it is destination that is my trouble - mostly as I got there and now have to pick something new to aim for. Choosing a new destination when simply remaining at this plateau is enough- that is my issue. I was worried you'd go almost into "the weak are meat and the strong do eat" but you narrowly avoided it. Or I just chose to overlook just how close you truly got. Lastly, I do not think we'd ever be compatible at a gaming table. I just think you might be too intense for any of my groups.
My weakest is probably discipline, in all honesty. Destination is the one I've almost never struggled with, and setbacks don't shake me up too badly so I'll claim a solid in determination, but getting the right behaviors forged into habits? Maaaaaaaaaaaaan, I am weaksauce there. Once I have a good head of steam though? I'm all momentum.
Keep up the great work, SoS!
I was glued to the screen trying to get all the word out. I can’t find a compelling destination. Pain drove me to find a career and a spouse, and when I had no game devices, boredom drove me to make games. But once I got some video games I liked, my desire to build characters or adventures died off. These three videos have me feeling like I need to become more diligent in my life, but not sure where. Last month I felt inspired to make a list of daily quests to spend five minutes a day in different things like cleaning, reading, praying, working on health. A man’s gifts make room for him so I guess that’s what I should develop, but I never thought of it this way before. Thanks for these videos.
Damn, man, you and I think so much alike... and thanks for having the courage to speak these truths because you make it easier for me, and others, I'm sure, to do the same.
My channel launches soon and I am coming out swinging... and I was concerned that this might be met with anger... and resistance... but you speaking the truth fearlessly shows that this is a noble endeavour. Thank you!! Excellent!
Asking the question "How can I?" reminds me a lot of what Chris Voss who was an FBI negotiator says he always asked in his negotiations which is "How am I supposed to do that?"
I think this is an important question because we're always negotiating against our sin nature wanting us to be stagnant. I oftentimes have to treat myself as if I'm in a hostile negotiation trying to get myself to do the right thing and that "how" question is so important to ask yourself whenever you get to a roadblock of any type.
Thanks for the vid SoS. You're giving excellent life advice.
QotV: I struggle with discipline the most, followed by destination and, least of the three, determination. It's all relative within my own experience of course, as someone else will have completely differing issues with the 3 D's. The everyday tasks which require discipline are most difficult for me--getting up on time, meal prep, etc. I'll still manage to do everything I need, but it'll often be a later than I should start & finish, slightly lesser quality than I know I can muster, etc. I've developed a lot more of each through two tours of duty in the military, so I'm 10x better off than I was, but I'm always my worst critic.
From the outside looking in, I'm doing pretty well in life. Solid career path, making decent money (enough to support my wife & kids if she should lose her income entirely), three awesome kids, friends who I can trust explicitly, two great RPG groups, I get to read a lot, and, perhaps most importantly, I have a wonderful relationship with my wife--which we're always seeking to improve even further. None of this would have been possible to attain and maintain without the 3 D's.
09:00 You're not wrong, but a lot of people sitting on top of those obstacles-- usually _born_ there-- like to mistake winners who aren't willing to settle for climbing those obstacles _alone_ for losers who aren't strong enough to climb them at all. And it's hard to tell the difference, from the outside, between people who want to remove those obstacles for others and people who just want others to remove those obstacles for them.
I've been struggling all of my life... and if I'm being honest, I've been much more of a quitter than a winner in my years. But one thing I've gotten better at is telling the difference between people trying to push others down from the top, people trying to pull others down from the bottom, and people who want to lift others up regardless of where they're standing.
In the triptych of destination/discipline/determination, I had to do this to overcome my own chronic illness.
Not "make it go away" as much as prevent it from making me go away.
I had to discipline my mind to isolate and confront the part of my thoughts that were dangerous to me.
I had to have the determination to keep on going for the decades it took to get that discipline in place and fully working for me.
If anything, it is destination that is my trouble - mostly as I got there and now have to pick something new to aim for.
Choosing a new destination when simply remaining at this plateau is enough- that is my issue.
I was worried you'd go almost into "the weak are meat and the strong do eat" but you narrowly avoided it.
Or I just chose to overlook just how close you truly got.
Lastly, I do not think we'd ever be compatible at a gaming table.
I just think you might be too intense for any of my groups.
Blame it on the boogie 😎
But seriously, excellent vid.
Second comment on the video:
I would really appreciate a Bible study video or something to that nature if you ever have the time
My weakest is probably discipline, in all honesty. Destination is the one I've almost never struggled with, and setbacks don't shake me up too badly so I'll claim a solid in determination, but getting the right behaviors forged into habits? Maaaaaaaaaaaaan, I am weaksauce there. Once I have a good head of steam though? I'm all momentum.