The thing that struck me is the purpose. It is a life mantra that is mandatory. The taste of malevolence is the same in all relationships. A history of conflict. Knowing you will introspect this debacle to question your qualities is the point. To draw you into their world. A cult of one. A malady of social ineptitude. When someone says, implies, boast that are never wrong is a sure sign of ignorance. Who in life knows everything. No one. We might think we've got something right, but when we don't, we acknowledge it and actually say thanks. Living in an alternative reality is not for those who know reality based knowledge is the only way. Why would we even ponder that ? Well it's for the same reason. But in these cases it is because we encountered psychological warfare. Yes, retreat. Their implosion or being collateral damage from a previous dust up is no place to be.
You can’t express any kind of emotion or bring anything up that bothers you. I had an emotional reaction to being once again dismissed and shown zero empathy.. the situation was switched and now I’m the bad guy for being hurt. They just need you need to be a surface level robot
The narc “adult “ daughter with 3 young children actually gets angry when her husband and children get sick!! She hates it!! And in fact, gets MEAN about them being sick. This is so antithetical to my caregiver nature, I get sick at my stomach seeing how she is cold to her own children!!
I got sick on the airplane once at 15 I was told I ruined her vacation all she did was run around screaming through the yard and on the porch if my father tried to talk to her
Yes, they turn on you for nothing. Also, they don't understand humour, and if you make a joke they don't understand and immediately think it's an insult and hate you forEVER. I'd appreciate it very much if you would speak about this in a video, if there's enough to it. Took me 7 years to work that much out, and then ANOTHER 7 years before TH-cam and the disorder being explained. Needless to say I'm still the enemy.
If I may...I never saw one time when we laughed at anything together. The only expression of subtle joy I saw was when narcissistic supply was acquired from a multitude of sources. Even while your sitting right next to them. It's so shocking you think your being suspicious over nothing. Then it turns out it was not. SMH but not too hard nowadays. It is what it was.
Allow me. I was parented by a covert narc mom and overt narc dad. Both are trash. I’m 4 of 5 kids. I was always the funny one. I have always loved humor, comedy, plays, movies, etc. And I can concur that my mom doesn’t actually know how to genuinely laugh! She only fake laughs at things that other ppl laugh at, or fake laughs when she thinks someone is supposed to laugh. One time she said something very insulting to someone at a get together. Nobody laughed. And she was like “what?! I’m just kidding. Nobody gets my sense o humor!” ……..ha….haha….hahuhahuha…. It was the fakest attempt at laughing I ever heard. Very creepy to witness.
My wife exhibits many of the traits and behaviours you mention. My wife will never admit she made a mistake or is wrong, and wont ever volunteer to say sorry when this happens, even over the smallest matter, even to our kids. My wife is abusive every day, to my face, and, also shouting expletives about me when she is smearing me to her siblings and parents on the phone, telling them lies or conflating unconnected facts about me. My wife is physically abusive (spitting in my face, punching me in my private parts, punching my head) at least once a week If the roles were reversed, she would call the police on me, every single day of the week. And yet, she is the victim and i am the abuser in the relationship. My 16 year old and 10 year old need me to be the balanced, well adjusted parent, because i know if i left them completely with her, she would fill their heads with lies and BS to get them to conform to what she wants them to do, and turn my kids into toxic, bitter individuals like her. It will be impossible as a UK man on the receiving end of a narc wifes abuse, to get her to seek clinical/mental health. My only real option has been to call the police when the physical abuse gets too much. Thanks for this vid
Wow. I have male version. Sorry for you & kids. The spitting is so degrading. I've had spit, water , water in a plastic cup (which broke on my head & down my back) and worse chewed food spit on my lap ( he later said he was choking !!! No if your choking in driver's seat you'd do it out the window not to your right on wife! ). I hope your free by now. If not yes call police for each assault
So sorry to learn about your situation. Hope, once your children are independent, you find ways to distance yourself and get daily calm and peace. For me, my Dad seems to be how you are, for the sake of your own kids, and my Mom is too scared to physically torture my Dad as she will be seen by Society. She needs lots of validation from society and created so much chaos that drove me and my siblings away. Now, though it's very tough on my Mom as her own son, my brother has become an even bigger narcissistic and has come to stay with my parents and is jobless...
@melissamiddleton3026 The spitting is degrading, but, I'm not surprised by it anymore. I've almost normalised and accepted the spitting from her. How messed up is that?! At this moment, I need to.endure and need to raise my kids as good people, and, not let her goad me into being physical back at her when she's physical with me, since that'll be her chance to force me out of the family home, and, she'll be able to mould our kids to her messed up principles and values.
This brings to mind, why it is, that many people are not comfortable with taking. The giver often seems to have some alternative motivation. I do realize that you are just using this scenario as an example. There is always a way to set a stage. I have also been demonized and I was not even on the stage. This video was well done.
They hate competition. And make everything a competition, because they must always get their way, regardless of damage done to people around them. Pathological jealousy. 🤮
What’s really crazy is that narcissists are doing so much damage across the country, as evidenced by the tons of videos, therapists and articles about the problem.
My older sister would do this. I had a college orientation that I had to attend and the school was hours away. I already had a plan of how I was getting there. She made me change my plans so she could take me. I thought we had a fun time. I found out years later after cutting contact that she told people I was begging for her to take me and she hated the trip, but she had to do it because I had no other ride.
I have this situation on a couple of jobs and luckily, I was there first and my boss is new me, and otherwise, I've been proud fired because I mean, I just thought, I could never just lie on. Somebody makes stuff up like that personally like to me. That's just so wrong and i'm not a perfect person
I’m not sure why this video reminded me but, I actually recommended you in a video a couple months back. Small… new channel and… I may just be a bit too unconventional for some but, ah: C’est la vie. Anyway, and what I’m getting at is, I really appreciate your work and insights. They’re invaluable with this sort of thing.
I wish my Mom was as loud and as obnoxious as Kim! Nah... my Mom has perfected the art of playing me and others with a smile and cunning! Oh, the years of mind games and they still continue. I am over 50, she is reaching her 80s...😅 And yes, there has been moments when my Mom has been the 'Kim' as i remember the childhood physical abuse I had to endure and no one showed up as no one wanted to go against her...
I call my husband Captain Chaos
It is so frustrating when adult behaviour is totally lost on the narcissist. I have been there too.
She went off like Mt Vesuvius at my offer of help, her rage was palpable;
I was nonplussed
I have been persona non grata
since 😕
The thing that struck me is the purpose. It is a life mantra that is mandatory. The taste of malevolence is the same in all relationships. A history of conflict. Knowing you will introspect this debacle to question your qualities is the point. To draw you into their world. A cult of one. A malady of social ineptitude. When someone says, implies, boast that are never wrong is a sure sign of ignorance. Who in life knows everything. No one. We might think we've got something right, but when we don't, we acknowledge it and actually say thanks. Living in an alternative reality is not for those who know reality based knowledge is the only way. Why would we even ponder that ? Well it's for the same reason. But in these cases it is because we encountered psychological warfare. Yes, retreat. Their implosion or being collateral damage from a previous dust up is no place to be.
“Wherever there are ignorance and confusion, there are always lies.”
They are NUTS ! 😜
You can’t express any kind of emotion or bring anything up that bothers you. I had an emotional reaction to being once again dismissed and shown zero empathy.. the situation was switched and now I’m the bad guy for being hurt. They just need you need to be a surface level robot
The narc “adult “ daughter with 3 young children actually gets angry when her husband and children get sick!! She hates it!!
And in fact, gets MEAN about them being sick. This is so antithetical to my caregiver nature, I get sick at my stomach seeing how she is cold to her own children!!
I got sick on the airplane once at 15 I was told I ruined her vacation all she did was run around screaming through the yard and on the porch if my father tried to talk to her
Yes, they turn on you for nothing. Also, they don't understand humour, and if you make a joke they don't understand and immediately think it's an insult and hate you forEVER.
I'd appreciate it very much if you would speak about this in a video, if there's enough to it. Took me 7 years to work that much out, and then ANOTHER 7 years before TH-cam and the disorder being explained. Needless to say I'm still the enemy.
I’ll give that some thought. I’m sure I could make a video based on the topic. Thanks for the suggestion!
If I may...I never saw one time when we laughed at anything together. The only expression of subtle joy I saw was when narcissistic supply was acquired from a multitude of sources. Even while your sitting right next to them. It's so shocking you think your being suspicious over nothing. Then it turns out it was not. SMH but not too hard nowadays. It is what it was.
Allow me. I was parented by a covert narc mom and overt narc dad. Both are trash. I’m 4 of 5 kids. I was always the funny one. I have always loved humor, comedy, plays, movies, etc.
And I can concur that my mom doesn’t actually know how to genuinely laugh! She only fake laughs at things that other ppl laugh at, or fake laughs when she thinks someone is supposed to laugh.
One time she said something very insulting to someone at a get together. Nobody laughed. And she was like “what?! I’m just kidding. Nobody gets my sense o humor!” ……..ha….haha….hahuhahuha….
It was the fakest attempt at laughing I ever heard. Very creepy to witness.
We overlook their flaws and transgressions as they search for ours and point them out😮
It's a black fog of chaos 😢
My wife exhibits many of the traits and behaviours you mention.
My wife will never admit she made a mistake or is wrong, and wont ever volunteer to say sorry when this happens, even over the smallest matter, even to our kids.
My wife is abusive every day, to my face, and, also shouting expletives about me when she is smearing me to her siblings and parents on the phone, telling them lies or conflating unconnected facts about me.
My wife is physically abusive (spitting in my face, punching me in my private parts, punching my head) at least once a week
If the roles were reversed, she would call the police on me, every single day of the week.
And yet, she is the victim and i am the abuser in the relationship.
My 16 year old and 10 year old need me to be the balanced, well adjusted parent, because i know if i left them completely with her, she would fill their heads with lies and BS to get them to conform to what she wants them to do, and turn my kids into toxic, bitter individuals like her.
It will be impossible as a UK man on the receiving end of a narc wifes abuse, to get her to seek clinical/mental health.
My only real option has been to call the police when the physical abuse gets too much.
Thanks for this vid
Wow. I have male version. Sorry for you & kids. The spitting is so degrading. I've had spit, water , water in a plastic cup (which broke on my head & down my back) and worse chewed food spit on my lap ( he later said he was choking !!! No if your choking in driver's seat you'd do it out the window not to your right on wife! ). I hope your free by now. If not yes call police for each assault
So sorry to learn about your situation. Hope, once your children are independent, you find ways to distance yourself and get daily calm and peace. For me, my Dad seems to be how you are, for the sake of your own kids, and my Mom is too scared to physically torture my Dad as she will be seen by Society. She needs lots of validation from society and created so much chaos that drove me and my siblings away. Now, though it's very tough on my Mom as her own son, my brother has become an even bigger narcissistic and has come to stay with my parents and is jobless...
@melissamiddleton3026 The spitting is degrading, but, I'm not surprised by it anymore. I've almost normalised and accepted the spitting from her. How messed up is that?!
At this moment, I need to.endure and need to raise my kids as good people, and, not let her goad me into being physical back at her when she's physical with me, since that'll be her chance to force me out of the family home, and, she'll be able to mould our kids to her messed up principles and values.
This brings to mind, why it is, that many people are not comfortable with taking. The giver often seems to have some alternative motivation. I do realize that you are just using this scenario as an example. There is always a way to set a stage. I have also been demonized and I was not even on the stage. This video was well done.
"...they want to destroy you" That's the bottom line for these pathetic creatures!!
They hate competition. And make everything a competition, because they must always get their way, regardless of damage done to people around them. Pathological jealousy. 🤮
What’s really crazy is that narcissists are doing so much damage across the country, as evidenced by the tons of videos, therapists and articles about the problem.
satan roams the earth seeking those he can devour. he’s the father of lies which destroy, steal, confuse and kill. TORNADOES OF CHAOS 😜🤪
Then when you're 18 or 20 you run towards everybody that is just like that first love because you're starved and then you get blamed for that
Another amazing video! You are so articulate, I love your ability to define their seemingly ‘random’ behavior!
The devil is a narcissist.
#1 trait: NO EMPATHY OR CONSCIENCE. ZERO. ZERO.
Everyone who gets around the “adult “ daughter narc gets a sick stomach 🤮
Maybe I'm off of a mine are still alive at 89% and that's way too long oh my God
My older sister would do this. I had a college orientation that I had to attend and the school was hours away. I already had a plan of how I was getting there. She made me change my plans so she could take me. I thought we had a fun time. I found out years later after cutting contact that she told people I was begging for her to take me and she hated the trip, but she had to do it because I had no other ride.
Thank you for another fantastic video 💖 youre awesome!!
I'm going to through this my whole life _ I can't stop laughing_ 😂
I have this situation on a couple of jobs and luckily, I was there first and my boss is new me, and otherwise, I've been proud fired because I mean, I just thought, I could never just lie on. Somebody makes stuff up like that personally like to me. That's just so wrong and i'm not a perfect person
Love your videos. Have gone through this....
I’m not sure why this video reminded me but, I actually recommended you in a video a couple months back.
Small… new channel
and… I may just be a bit too unconventional for some but, ah: C’est la vie.
Anyway, and what I’m getting at is, I really appreciate your work and insights.
They’re invaluable with this sort of thing.
But....she is the saviour of the world for buying lunch! What do you mean....?
😂
Hahahaha yes, give her that well deserved medal already!
@@WandaEnlightened 🎖🏅🥇🥈🥉
It's like u came into my head and picked out my experience and voiced it out. OH MY GOD I HV BEEN THROUGH THIS.
Yes he would emotionally abuse me about an colloquial phrase I would say - it was crazy making
I LOVE ALL OF YOUR VIDEOS ❤!
Clarifying information. Thanks
It s all entertainment 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I wish my Mom was as loud and as obnoxious as Kim! Nah... my Mom has perfected the art of playing me and others with a smile and cunning! Oh, the years of mind games and they still continue. I am over 50, she is reaching her 80s...😅
And yes, there has been moments when my Mom has been the 'Kim' as i remember the childhood physical abuse I had to endure and no one showed up as no one wanted to go against her...
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Please people don't raise daddy girls
Accountability 🥱