LIKE & SUBSCRIBE for new videos everyday 👉th-cam.com/channels/WkLJgGBIqY9wsuEayeCkZw.htmljoin Chris Distefano’s Dad GREAT PARENTAL ADVISE | The Joe Rogan Experience #1947 Chris Distefano is a stand-up comedian, on-air personality, host of the #Chrissy Chaos” podcast, and co-host of “Hey Babe!” podcast with Sal Vulcano. His new comedy album, “Chrissy New York Comedy Club” is available now. www.chriscomedy.com Source: The Joe Rogan Experience @ www.spotify.com Host: Joe Rogan @joerogan Guest: Chris Distefano Producer: Jamie Vernon @jamievernon #jre #joerogan #thejoeroganexperience
Good dad advice I got was, “pick the three things you hate about me as a father and change those. Trying to be a completely different person is too hard, and I’m not that bad. Pick three specific things you just won’t ever do like me and improve those.”
"Life's barely long enough to get good at one thing. So, be careful what you get good at." A quote from the first season of True Detective that always seems to come up in my mind with life advice... among many other quotes and experiences. And just because you're good at something doesn't mean it's something good.
“You’re going to love life when you, finally, understand that life isn’t fair.” I needed that. My life isn’t really going how I imagined it should. I’m constantly fighting feeling of shame that I’m not where I think I should be. I am making a conscious decision to try and pursue happiness now instead of waiting for it to happen anymore. It might not happen but I’d rather try than look back at missed opportunities. I take responsibility for my actions. No more blaming others. No more excuses. His dad made some heartbreaking decisions, suffered the consequences and instead of indulging in self pity and bottling it all up; he decided to pass down what he had learned about life to his child. Your past mistakes might make you feel you have nothing to offer. Not true. You have more influence than you think.
Hey, I felt that...and lived it. I believe that self improvement is a lifetime goal. I also was stuck in a place I didn't want to be for long while...I never started to change anything because not that I was afraid of failure, but I had convinced my self that I could not afford to fail so I never started. I have pride in myself but I think I had a hard time loving myself as well... My father was also a gambling addict that ruined our family's finances and he used to abuse me and my mother...and he even tried to take my life by shoving pills doen my throat when I was eleven. It's hard listening to the victim mentality of this world today... because I am fundamentally against it and swore I would not become a victim again. I am now actively undoing my self programming by making preparations instead of waiting for opportunities. Also, I try to celebrate my wins more instead of downplaying them(imposter syndrome). They say comparison is the thief of joy... And I have seen this to be true. I realize you don't gain anything by comparing yourself to others... I hope things are going well for you now. Just took a moment to comment because your post kinda stopped me in my tracks.
@@roylee8114 , even after all the terrible things you went through and seen throughout your childhood, you decided that’s not your identity, that’s not your path. You are choosing who you want to be not what others and circumstances tried to make you! You’re an inspiring person! Glad you’re still here to share your experiences and outlook on life with others. “I celebrate my wins instead of downplaying them.” Thanks for sharing, I hope others will see this and realize they’ve had the key to leave their cage of the past all along.
@@KwstasMakariou , I gather that you have seen much injustice. I hope and pray you become a champion of justice for others and yourself even in the smallest ways. Your life has a domino effect that reaches farther than you can imagine. What you’ve seen and been through doesn’t have to be your life. Keep fighting for truth and justice! You can make a change for a better future!
@@jeakin8892 what you said sounds nice but its like we just forgot that we defocate daily......what i mean is that motivational selfdevelopementy stuff are cool but life is the same every tme you open your house door.....same stuff will happen more or less....people who say otherwise have simly succeeded to delude themselves...
The man’s father is a real man and I took that advice 4 years ago and life comes together and god is good and make the right decisions and correct your wrongs.. it’s real. ❤ good shit
I wish my father ever talked to me, i only loved him after he died even if he was terrible to me. Its hard growing up fatherless, but you only actually notice how hard it is when reality hits and you have responsibilities, people to take care of, you have no clue wtf is going tbh, basically hitting life blind with only 1 perspective on things and situations, sometimes even I'm 28 i feel myself seeing fatherly figures online and actually connect to them. Ennh I guess life ain't fair is it
Same thing for me. All these advices a father could have given me at the right age it would have made a huge difference in life. That's why I tell myself I will chose wisely who I have kids with and I'll be there for them.
God has a plan for everyone I had a great dad growing up and when he would give me advice 9 times out of 10 I would ignore or do the opposite, the simple fact is that as we get older we mature once we get mature we can get some insight and wisdom and realize there is advice everywhere from amazing people that want to help others we just need to always stay open minded and willing to improve and learn . I guess I’m saying try not to look at it as a disadvantage but change your perspective and think of it as god had a different plan for you because your 28 and seem like you have a good head on your shoulder where me at 28 with awesome parents was getting high and being a loser I’m 35 now and I’m light years ahead of where I was then and some of the men who helped me the most aren’t my dad
I remember telling myself I wouldn't become like my dad when I was younger. 40yrs and 2 kids. I see the lessons he tried to impart. He did the best he could. We built a bridge when my son was born. I teach the same lessons in my way now. Be interesting in another 10-15yrs to know how my kids really see me through young eyes.
Why only 3? I get the sentiment, and it's better than teaching your son (one way or another) that their father is perfect/above criticism of any kind. I guess in keeping with the theme, you could pass on the gist to your kids, without a # limit. (It's what I'm trying to teach my boys on a daily basis. And I damn sure wish my husband's father had done in SOME way.)
when my son was disappointed in me for something, i said, Here's the thing: Sometimes i'm awesome, sometimes i suck, and generally i'm average. - he laughed and said that was a good one. i think it made him feel better
My dad died about 6 months ago & I didn't feel a thing. He wasn't around so I had moved on. He died years ago (in my mind). I am sad I haven't felt anything, but not sad he's dead. I never got a piece of advice from him. He sent me a bday card once...2 months late AND he misspelled my name. I only wish I could have thanked him for making me a good father bc I wanted to be nothing like him. And I am proud of the relationship I have with my children. I would have killed to at least have a father like Chris's who obviously loved him dearly & wanted so much more for his son. Kudos to him
I'm very sorry you went though that. I hope you come to know the love of the Heavenly Father, so much that He gave u Jesus to die for you and loves you deeply.
“Life isnt fair” is the best advice every kid needs to know. There will always be people that get a head for less, and do more for less. You have to find your medium and happiness will follow.
Kudos to his dad. How wonderful it is that the young man gets all that wisdom from him, after all the hell he must have been through (due to his choices).
Fathers are valuable. It’s one of the most reckless things in the world that people downplay it these days. There’s literally stats on the positivity of good fathers in making good humans, yet a lot of bitter women, the government, and the law system throw all that away for different reasons smdh
That’s what a father’s love looks like.. preparing your sons for the real world by sharing your life experiences and failures. A fathers failures are a sons lessons
my wife and I split up and we had a 3 year old...My son and I were inseparable, then we were ripped from each other. I tried dating and almost drank myself to death because I couldn't live without my boy. Luckily it worked out, my wife and I really worked on ourselves and with each other...ended up back together.
I just had a son four months ago and I see it as a duty, honor and privilege to guide him right in life. Set examples, be a rock for him and give him the best advice to avoid the bullshit life will throw at him.
The dad saying: here’s what I know…. Framing it like that, not trying to act like done fake ass parental guru…. Respect-here’s what I know… Powerful. You have no idea the deep blessing to have a parent who wants more for you . Awesome.
Seems like your dad is one of the few that learned from his mistakes and tried to teach you the right way to live in life. My dad was the complete opposite. Never learned and taught me how to gamble, drink etc. God bless your family
People are so confused. Something isn’t considered an addiction unless it’s destructive to your life. It causes you to do things you don’t want to do but still do. It causes you to lose things and suffer. You can overdo hobby’s sure but that isn’t the same. Just be aware
I think that‘s kind of general medium quality advice. I think do not be the opposite of your parents, that‘s how you end up a new kind of problematic. Conciously decide what attributes you want to take from your parents and observe yourself, notice when you do something your parents would do, is this what I want or am I just repeating a pattern? You are not your parents, but you are your parents‘ child. Being too afraid of being like your parents can also sabotage you. For instance, if you can make more money in a show and it‘s not too much pressure, then it‘s ok to do so. If it makes sense, it makes sense.
When you look back on your parents and of you have animosity toward how they raised you, be HONEST with yourself. Your parents job is not to make you happy, it's to ensure you are doing what's right for you and how to take care of yourself and make good decisions. I see many young people that are so entitled and think they had a bad childhood because they didn't get the latest Xbox or whatever. Grow up first and if your parents were good people, follow their lead and improve upon it. That's what I always told my daughter, if you think there is something wrong with how I raised you, then be better than me for your child. It's a parents job to improve upon their upbringing and change the cycle of it's bad. Now if you had abusive parents, wake up and don't take up for them. Stop the insanity.
I wonder if the reason that his last piece of advice was so helpful - that you will enjoy life when you realize it's not fair - is helpful because we ourselves are not fair, so we need to not break down at our mistakes. It's still best not to be an a******, but don't lose your mind when you are. The way to take it might also depend on what personality type you are, or your strengths and weaknesses.
63 year old Marine veteran, who was absent for 39 years of my life (I turn 40 this March) in his sagely wisdom told me via text recently to "fuck off and die without a sister and father." This is like the glorified parable of two brothers who have a drunk dad and one brother asked the other brother why he became a drunk. The brother replied because dad was a drunk. Then that brother asked in return why the other brother DIDN'T become a drunk. The reply? Because dad was a drunk. You know an example of what NOT to be. This includes my undiagnosed but has it running in his family, schizophrenic "dad".
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Good dad advice I got was, “pick the three things you hate about me as a father and change those. Trying to be a completely different person is too hard, and I’m not that bad. Pick three specific things you just won’t ever do like me and improve those.”
That’s good stuff right there
Solid.
very nice
Powerful and thought provoking xx
Sadly , thats good advise
"Life's barely long enough to get good at one thing. So, be careful what you get good at." A quote from the first season of True Detective that always seems to come up in my mind with life advice... among many other quotes and experiences. And just because you're good at something doesn't mean it's something good.
Wow! Love this.
Live your life off of TV, there you go you have it figured out. BIGDUMMY😂
It is truly beautiful how much Chris's dad loves Him. That man is constantly giving His son advice that people could only dream to pay for.
Every story I hear about this mans father makes me want to meet him, dude sounds awesome.
Put some respect on his name: Tampa Tony. Fuck around and find out. You’ll end up buried under yankee stadium’s auxiliary parking lot.
@@RG-tm7uq haha! Tampa Tony is a legendary dude.
Would make a great JRE guest I'm sure.
@@VoidNapster the man could start his own podcast talking about his life and it would be just as popular.
Seriously. Openly flawed but wise as hell
This just shows how important it is to have a good father in your life. Great advice.
Chris' dad is like a boxing trainer. Amazing that he's so involved in his life.
He needs to set up a hotline where people call his dad and get advice
“You’re going to love life when you, finally, understand that life isn’t fair.” I needed that.
My life isn’t really going how I imagined it should. I’m constantly fighting feeling of shame that I’m not where I think I should be. I am making a conscious decision to try and pursue happiness now instead of waiting for it to happen anymore. It might not happen but I’d rather try than look back at missed opportunities. I take responsibility for my actions. No more blaming others. No more excuses.
His dad made some heartbreaking decisions, suffered the consequences and instead of indulging in self pity and bottling it all up; he decided to pass down what he had learned about life to his child.
Your past mistakes might make you feel you have nothing to offer. Not true. You have more influence than you think.
Hey, I felt that...and lived it. I believe that self improvement is a lifetime goal. I also was stuck in a place I didn't want to be for long while...I never started to change anything because not that I was afraid of failure, but I had convinced my self that I could not afford to fail so I never started. I have pride in myself but I think I had a hard time loving myself as well... My father was also a gambling addict that ruined our family's finances and he used to abuse me and my mother...and he even tried to take my life by shoving pills doen my throat when I was eleven. It's hard listening to the victim mentality of this world today... because I am fundamentally against it and swore I would not become a victim again. I am now actively undoing my self programming by making preparations instead of waiting for opportunities. Also, I try to celebrate my wins more instead of downplaying them(imposter syndrome). They say comparison is the thief of joy... And I have seen this to be true. I realize you don't gain anything by comparing yourself to others... I hope things are going well for you now. Just took a moment to comment because your post kinda stopped me in my tracks.
That is exactly when I lost interest in life......life without justice or at least katharsis is like empty bottle in the dessert
@@roylee8114 , even after all the terrible things you went through and seen throughout your childhood, you decided that’s not your identity, that’s not your path. You are choosing who you want to be not what others and circumstances tried to make you! You’re an inspiring person! Glad you’re still here to share your experiences and outlook on life with others. “I celebrate my wins instead of downplaying them.”
Thanks for sharing, I hope others will see this and realize they’ve had the key to leave their cage of the past all along.
@@KwstasMakariou , I gather that you have seen much injustice. I hope and pray you become a champion of justice for others and yourself even in the smallest ways. Your life has a domino effect that reaches farther than you can imagine. What you’ve seen and been through doesn’t have to be your life. Keep fighting for truth and justice! You can make a change for a better future!
@@jeakin8892 what you said sounds nice but its like we just forgot that we defocate daily......what i mean is that motivational selfdevelopementy stuff are cool but life is the same every tme you open your house door.....same stuff will happen more or less....people who say otherwise have simly succeeded to delude themselves...
Damn, that’s emotional. That man is really looking out for his son
This is one of the best clips I've ever seen on TH-cam. Great content, thanks.
The man’s father is a real man and I took that advice 4 years ago and life comes together and god is good and make the right decisions and correct your wrongs.. it’s real. ❤ good shit
This episode with Chris was honestly really great, a lot of great topics on this episode
I wish my father ever talked to me, i only loved him after he died even if he was terrible to me. Its hard growing up fatherless, but you only actually notice how hard it is when reality hits and you have responsibilities, people to take care of, you have no clue wtf is going tbh, basically hitting life blind with only 1 perspective on things and situations, sometimes even I'm 28 i feel myself seeing fatherly figures online and actually connect to them. Ennh I guess life ain't fair is it
Same thing for me. All these advices a father could have given me at the right age it would have made a huge difference in life. That's why I tell myself I will chose wisely who I have kids with and I'll be there for them.
God has a plan for everyone I had a great dad growing up and when he would give me advice 9 times out of 10 I would ignore or do the opposite, the simple fact is that as we get older we mature once we get mature we can get some insight and wisdom and realize there is advice everywhere from amazing people that want to help others we just need to always stay open minded and willing to improve and learn . I guess I’m saying try not to look at it as a disadvantage but change your perspective and think of it as god had a different plan for you because your 28 and seem like you have a good head on your shoulder where me at 28 with awesome parents was getting high and being a loser I’m 35 now and I’m light years ahead of where I was then and some of the men who helped me the most aren’t my dad
Sorry.
I remember telling myself I wouldn't become like my dad when I was younger. 40yrs and 2 kids. I see the lessons he tried to impart. He did the best he could. We built a bridge when my son was born. I teach the same lessons in my way now. Be interesting in another 10-15yrs to know how my kids really see me through young eyes.
Why only 3? I get the sentiment, and it's better than teaching your son (one way or another) that their father is perfect/above criticism of any kind. I guess in keeping with the theme, you could pass on the gist to your kids, without a # limit. (It's what I'm trying to teach my boys on a daily basis. And I damn sure wish my husband's father had done in SOME way.)
when my son was disappointed in me for something, i said, Here's the thing:
Sometimes i'm awesome, sometimes i suck, and generally i'm average.
- he laughed and said that was a good one.
i think it made him feel better
I think the greatest gift you gave your son is letting him realise you are just human... that goes a long way.
i recommend watching the entire episode #1947, funny and profound moments shared 👍🏼 top shelf production
My dad died about 6 months ago & I didn't feel a thing. He wasn't around so I had moved on. He died years ago (in my mind). I am sad I haven't felt anything, but not sad he's dead. I never got a piece of advice from him. He sent me a bday card once...2 months late AND he misspelled my name. I only wish I could have thanked him for making me a good father bc I wanted to be nothing like him. And I am proud of the relationship I have with my children.
I would have killed to at least have a father like Chris's who obviously loved him dearly & wanted so much more for his son. Kudos to him
I'm very sorry you went though that. I hope you come to know the love of the Heavenly Father, so much that He gave u Jesus to die for you and loves you deeply.
Had the exact same experience, and approached fatherhood with the same zeal. Congrats on breaking the cycle friend
TH-cam literally throws it right to a draft kings ad as the video ends😂😂
“Life isnt fair” is the best advice every kid needs to know. There will always be people that get a head for less, and do more for less. You have to find your medium and happiness will follow.
Yeah, me and my sons mom were broken up for 2 years, started seeing each other again slowly, and boom. Never been better or happier
I can only wish that happens to me but Im glad you two found each other again
You love live when you understand it isn’t fair! Best advice I have heard today
His dads interactions sound like an amazing TV show...
Kudos to his dad. How wonderful it is that the young man gets all that wisdom from him, after all the hell he must have been through (due to his choices).
I always see his dad as Al Pacino’s Lefty from Donnie Brasco
Many people want more more more. It won’t bring happiness without family. Period. Family is number one
Wisdom priceless right on pops!
“If you’re gonna be an addict, be addicted to something positive” is so powerful wtf
A hard man, lived fast, knows the streets. Thank God he gave Sage advice to his Son.
His grandchildren have Mum and Dad together because of it.
I needed to hear this
Fathers are valuable. It’s one of the most reckless things in the world that people downplay it these days. There’s literally stats on the positivity of good fathers in making good humans, yet a lot of bitter women, the government, and the law system throw all that away for different reasons smdh
Bingo, also other shitty men in our respective societies included. Like actual deabeat abusive manipulative fukwits and male feminists
The wisest men are those that have made mistakes and learned from them.
Sooo right.. I teach my 2 kids about reality. No fairytales around here.
You should let your kids have a childhood dude
@@jaygin6518 And you know that his kids don't have a childhood, how exactly?
Damn this is AMAZING advice.
I relate to Chris every time he speaks
That’s what a father’s love looks like.. preparing your sons for the real world by sharing your life experiences and failures. A fathers failures are a sons lessons
Great advice Chrissy. Man's man. ❤
Sir, you have an amazing father!
Awesome. Thanks
Great Fatherly advice!
The dad had good advice. People are always striving for "more success, more success, more success", and they just end up being empty inside.
Damn Chrissy your Pops is just dropping bombs of wisdom.
my wife and I split up and we had a 3 year old...My son and I were inseparable, then we were ripped from each other. I tried dating and almost drank myself to death because I couldn't live without my boy. Luckily it worked out, my wife and I really worked on ourselves and with each other...ended up back together.
Great dad advice 👍 hell yeah
Great advice from his dad.
I just had a son four months ago and I see it as a duty, honor and privilege to guide him right in life. Set examples, be a rock for him and give him the best advice to avoid the bullshit life will throw at him.
His Dad learned the hard way. Smart people listen to smart people and parents.
Can joe bring on Chrissy' dad I wanna hear his stories
A book needs to come from all of this!
I want to watch this full podcast!???
Happy u got a good dad bro
The dad saying: here’s what I know…. Framing it like that, not trying to act like done fake ass parental guru…. Respect-here’s what I know…
Powerful.
You have no idea the deep blessing to have a parent who wants more for you . Awesome.
Best. Advice. Ever.
I’m going to be so happy when Chris can finally get MSG
Great advise❤
Someone please make a montage of all the times he said he’s gay on this podcast episode lmao
I will never forget the time he told rogan his 911 story and Rogan sat there like a child listening to him not a hint of a laugh from him.
This guy, Chris looks and sounds like that guy in Burn Notice. Good on the dad for looking out for his kid.
Every man has been thru this, Chris
I'd love to have a kid to teach it everything I should have learned at some point but ended up learning them VERY, very late.
Great advice wish I heard that 5 months ago 🤷🏽
Damn betting on how many rain drops fall down the window seems pretty crazy 😂
Wow. That’s great. I’m in my late 30s with a lot of fuck ups behind me and I wish someone had told me that when I was late 20s. Good father 👍🏻
Great advice ❤
4:45 shit I’ve literally been saying this to my kids for 18 years
Seems like your dad is one of the few that learned from his mistakes and tried to teach you the right way to live in life. My dad was the complete opposite. Never learned and taught me how to gamble, drink etc. God bless your family
People are so confused. Something isn’t considered an addiction unless it’s destructive to your life. It causes you to do things you don’t want to do but still do. It causes you to lose things and suffer. You can overdo hobby’s sure but that isn’t the same. Just be aware
What an exceptional father
Great advice
I'm mad proud of Chrissy D
bless his dad
I'm a woman and I agree 100% with this.
Im jealous. He got a rare dad.
I think that‘s kind of general medium quality advice. I think do not be the opposite of your parents, that‘s how you end up a new kind of problematic. Conciously decide what attributes you want to take from your parents and observe yourself, notice when you do something your parents would do, is this what I want or am I just repeating a pattern? You are not your parents, but you are your parents‘ child. Being too afraid of being like your parents can also sabotage you. For instance, if you can make more money in a show and it‘s not too much pressure, then it‘s ok to do so. If it makes sense, it makes sense.
When you look back on your parents and of you have animosity toward how they raised you, be HONEST with yourself. Your parents job is not to make you happy, it's to ensure you are doing what's right for you and how to take care of yourself and make good decisions.
I see many young people that are so entitled and think they had a bad childhood because they didn't get the latest Xbox or whatever. Grow up first and if your parents were good people, follow their lead and improve upon it. That's what I always told my daughter, if you think there is something wrong with how I raised you, then be better than me for your child.
It's a parents job to improve upon their upbringing and change the cycle of it's bad. Now if you had abusive parents, wake up and don't take up for them. Stop the insanity.
Good advice to stop all the child support lawsuits
Damm his dad wasn’t wrong. That one got me .
My Dads advice, “Aim to kill, someone will pull you off of them before you do it.”
I wonder if the reason that his last piece of advice was so helpful - that you will enjoy life when you realize it's not fair - is helpful because we ourselves are not fair, so we need to not break down at our mistakes. It's still best not to be an a******, but don't lose your mind when you are. The way to take it might also depend on what personality type you are, or your strengths and weaknesses.
Damn that sounds like my story. I got divorced and remarried the same woman. Still together. This go around is way better than the first.
63 year old Marine veteran, who was absent for 39 years of my life (I turn 40 this March) in his sagely wisdom told me via text recently to "fuck off and die without a sister and father."
This is like the glorified parable of two brothers who have a drunk dad and one brother asked the other brother why he became a drunk.
The brother replied because dad was a drunk.
Then that brother asked in return why the other brother DIDN'T become a drunk.
The reply?
Because dad was a drunk.
You know an example of what NOT to be.
This includes my undiagnosed but has it running in his family, schizophrenic "dad".
Tampa Tony is truly brilliant
Wow!
His father is a good man despite his faults.
3:40
“No gambo no fewchuh!”
-every Asian ever.
But it’s not “gambling” when you know you’re gonna win 🤷
So…did he add the second night?
Facts
Chris was trying to tell Joe that his 1 out of 99 was Schaub.
Shout out too Tampa Tony
Gotta stop at 99 chicks. 😂
That is the story of Sampson
Sampson was a simp for a particular woman.
Advise: Verb Advice: Noun
They act like a good father doesn't matter but it worked on him
Thats a great Great Dad!
Imagine Joey Diaz meeting chris‘ father haha
" So we were dumpin' this body in The Hole, right... "
Omg if every boy had a father like his there would be more real men around today
My dad was heavy gambler and now ima heavy gambler. Burning cheques. Went past 100k in my early 20s. I dont know the number anymore.
Chris’s dad needs to go on tour for young people, he probably would sell out Madison Square Gardens.
Funnily enough, addiction and gambling tendencies are comorbid to ADHD, which Chris has said he has in the past. So it really is something genetic!