The Truth Revealed! How Attorneys Actually Prove Narcissistic Abuse in Court
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The rest of my years will be the BEST of my years!
I did all the things you said in this video. Former judge Nancy Berger made our divorce last for 5 years in Tarrant County, Texas! I went through 3 attorneys and my ex went through 3 attorneys, too. I wrote a blog about that judge and many, many people trapped in her court were forced to remain sending the children to abusive parents, even when there was proven sexual assaults that never stopped. Our daughter is 21, now, but is not allowed to press charges against retired judge Nancy Berger in Tarrant County, Texas.
The system is BY narcissists FOR narcissists
This is why people don't leave narcissists.
They obviously have too much power.
Obscene
Laws need to be changed!!!!!
Great advice for people who have the wherewithal to keep "meticulous" documentation. Not so much when your mental health and sense of self has been shattered by the narcissists in your life. Exorbitant lawyers fees and retainers don't help much either. This world is broken.
It sure is!!!!!
@@frannybkranny8760 I am so exhausted.. I just found this channel.. as I repeatedly look up the stairs to make sure he isn’t coming while I say this. I am soo tired. Almost to the point that I am not sure anymore if it IS me… because that’s what he says.. or him. I tell him that it is us.. i don’t how many more ways that I can try to “change me” so that he at least kinda likes me again, if he doesn’t love me. Maybe I can make him like me a little bit, and we can just live in a fairly peaceful coexistence together. And I can keep this marriage together for another 4 years. If not for us, for our son. I am so sad and broken. But I am so worried about what this is going to turn my baby boy into as a man. I do not know what to do. I just want to want to live again… but most days I just wish I could die.
It is so terrible. 😕
Amen.
The key is to find a lawyer who cares more about their client than kowtowing to the judge's quota and time line (aka their career).
But a lottery ticket. Better odds.
Kowtowing. Not cow towing. No cows needed
Lawyers work for the court, not you.
@@recoveringsoul755 My point exactly.
@@recoveringsoul755 I saw a documentary that showed that the judges, the defense lawyers, and the prosecutors are all in a scam together. This undercover agent worked in all three capacities and he disclosed that bribery and corruption took place between all of them.
I dont want to die from my ex. Im shutting down. Protective orders and all and yet without an experienced attorney or the ability to speak up due to tortures, neglect and starvation, its useless. My life means something. My children and I have not survived for nothing. Prayers and Justice are needed. It's all dependent on me being able to not vomit or shut down.
My prayers are with you and your children. Been exactly where you are. My best advice is surround yourself with support, go to therapy, do everything the court instructs because they are looking for the most cooperative party so they can move along. The narcissist true colors are exposed because they can't follow rules. There is light on the other side. I promise. Hold on dear one. ❤
@@Vihabpointe praying for you! God can move the heart of a judge, comfort & strengthen the abused, & assure Ultimate Justice for all. Jesus won't leave or forsake you!
You CAN DO THIS!! I don't know what it's like to suffer this but think of what's at steak. If you're not around, you're kids are stuck with her.
I KNOW FOR A FACT we all have this strength inside us. Maybe some counseling would be a good start for you to claim your power back. Then start proceedings.
DOCUMENT everything you can remember now bc it counts. Even if you don't document on day it happened, if it's written down it becomes a LEGAL DOCUMENT!
Hire private security if you feel that threatened or keep others constantly around to protect
Oh wow, so sorry for that. May your hopes and strength come from the Lord Jesus! May freedoms for you and your children come swiftly and may nothing wicked weigh you down. Yes, all of your lives matter!
Yes. Dealing w malignant narc w kids involved. Divorced 9 yrs ago and still in court every other yr for custody battles.
@serapf.9768 same but I only have 1 child. We've been doing this for 11 years
I am so sorry. It shouldn’t be allowed for either partner to take the other back to court on a regular basis. I think there is a campaign to stop this as it is often just abuse. Also, there is a campaign to get rid of the Alienation accusation as it is impossible to prove and is the classic response from an abuser when their victim has had enough. Best wishes to you both. It must be exhausting.
@StStStS thank you ! Seriously so exhausting and stressful . And he wants to try to use that i have ptsd caused by him to try and say I shouldn't have custody. . They are so evil . He would break my child if he did that .
@@sommermilhous3594 ❤️ Everyone says the family court system is not fit for purpose. To stress a Mother and waste her resources IS abusing the children indirectly. They are not separate things. ❤️
Absolutely, it's been a joke they always start him off with a clean slate don't look at his record at all .
My son took his own life 5 weeks ago to get away from a toxic narcissist who threatened to kill herself and the kids if he didn’t toe the line or if he threatened to leave her … a heartbreaking and tragic outcome to a relentless sociopathic abuser .. who is still in my life due to my grandchildren … one single sign those kids are traumatised any further by her and she’s going to court! I will take those kids from her…. (Ex) friends of hers have plenty of evidence in messages to get me started…
I'm so sorry for your loss.
@@SueT-MC-DSI devastating tragedy beyond words - indescribable loss - you must win
@@loveleelionesstarotwatchth7261 So sorry for your loss 😪
I am so sorry for your loss, my heart goes to you
So sad, my condolences
Stumper..... My ex is a covert and the judge in our custody case is a malignant or psychopath.
I was abused for ten years, had all the evidence, but the judge ruled against me at every turn. The judge let my ex take our son to a different state and I have not had contact with him since February 2022.
I can't express the sorrow, rage and powerlessness I feel.
The world is unfathomably sick and cruel.
@@BradRaiche were approaching the end of the last days my bro this was all written, only prayer to the creator can help us
Pray for strength, comfort, healing, guidance, forgiveness for your wrongs and flto be reunited with your son. I wish you all the best bro
Pray to Maa Kali ❤
I’m so sorry you’re facing this. Hang on. The truth will out.
@@BradRaiche I faced much of that too. Judges and lawyers and law enforcement as well are biased as anyone else and don't want to admit it. In the end I felt anger toward the system that permitted and encouraged abuse to go on to children and spouses in a divorce case.
I'm so so so glad I documented EVERYTHING! I hope it's useful for my final hearing in Oct. I have pics, videos, audios, documents, witnesses, and I've provided the lot, snd it's all in order he's still got no "evidence" against me. I've waited over 2 years to have have my day, and getting to cross examine him is absolutely delicious.
Not to be rude, but you sound a tad narcissistic, or you are reacting and giving into one under terrible advice and have a really bad lawyer, good luck paying all those attorney fees. Sounds like you’re about to walk the plank. The judges goal will be to make sure there is no winner, so what may be delicious, will get sour real quick. Sorry you have been clearly misguided by your over zealous counsel. Such an injustice, wouldn’t be surprised both attorneys go share a drink together after the case. They are all friends you know? The legal world is a wild breed of people. So sorry, would be great if I’m wrong, but here in our town, if mediation is an impasse, it’s game over for both parties. A good lawyer is hard to find, because people think it’s a game of winning and loosing the minute a good lawyer gets honest they bolt to the next that will say “I’ll fight for you” … worst thing to come out of a family law attorneys mouth. There is no winner ever in family law.
Good for you! I've been telling my sister she needs to document everything. This is great reinforcement for that point. Thank you for sharing.
I filed a restraining order against my on/off ex gf of 4yrs. She claimed she was pregnant, so i called DCF since she said in text "Ima gonna make you pay, and youll never see it." 2 days before our hearing, she filed false allegations against me, then didn't show for court. This lady feels I owe her yet we haven't lived together since 2021 when she kicked me out the apartment that she lost 3 months later due to non-payment. She was homeless for 1.5yrs and finally got section 8. I in that same time, started a new career, gotten a new vehicle and started an LLC. She's determined to destroy me.
Exactly! My wife got caught stealing hence WHY I FILED! And she kidnapped my child and would not allow me any contact! I have said this 50000000 times, my lawyers will not say it!!!!!!
Get a new attorney to represent you… if you feel the one you have is truly representing you
Exactly The same
Lawyers allegiance is to the Court. Not you.
@@MrProfessional777Nope their client, who is PAYING THEM. So funny
@@markjayw666
Delusional.
Yes. I kept detailed journal for particularly for the last five of the marriage. I buried it behind stuff in a deep drawer. You tore the house apart while I was at work. He ripped all of them out and destroyed them so I have nothing and now he has left me with nothing. I’m 76. This has ruined my life.
He tore the house apart…. Not you!
God sees all and bring everything needed to your memory. Your life is NOT ruined. You will be victorious.
Amen, God first, we’re alive, keep going
I have been told by multiple attorneys that in Pennsylvania the law is totally different, all the abuse that I went through physically sexually emotionally does not stand up in court.
This is true. Pa laws don’t cover this type of abuse. It won’t be part of any legal process. Family court system doesn’t care. Everyone within the family law system is lining each other’s pockets.
@@AmyLynnValone-wz2tt wow that sucks. I live in Pennsylvania and I am trying to help a friend who suffered from narcissistic abuse. They were together for 5 years but weren't married. He loaned her $12,000 to open a business and he wants her to pay him back
Same in Tennessee. It’s such a good ole boy country club - and, the women in the club are as bad as the men.
That's very sad to hear. I just had a female attorney tell me in Virginia he has right to give him protection via a PPO so he can keep me silent after many years of silent treatment. I did not let that attorney affect me negatively I decided she was a b**** unconcerned about women's issues and I am continuing to look for another lawyer. I need to look into if it is the same in Ohio as it is in Pennsylvania
For those who need just learn that in the state of Ohio they do recognize and address emotional psychological and sexual abuse
I wish I found you sooner. My lawyers were horrible. They never did any discovery. I had to deploy with the Army and while I was gone she went to court and got devastating financial rulings. I recently learned about NPD and narcissistic abuse. When I watched a presentation that described the relationship with a narcissistic. My jaw dropped because it was my experience the presenter was describing.
Amazing share. Thank you. I did all this in my divorce and took a potentially $300k 3 year divorce into 30k and 9 months approx. We share a child and contract is in play but all the techniques learned from you and others keeps me so sane.
YES! But still next to impossible!
Agree.
Document everything.
The lawyers are the only ones that win when people fight 🙄
Thank you for your video and sharing your expertise. My ex husband is still taking me back forth to court. Recently im in court now bc he moved 1.5 hrs away n he wants me to pay toll feed n drive farther away to pick up drop off during parental time. He lied in court n said i withheld kids but i didn't. When i responded to this lie judge stopped me n said that I was fighting with him. I wasn't. Its beyond exhausting. He now lives in rural area n opened his door n told girls to get out his house. His fiance stopped him but he manipulated the investigator n case was unfounded which means in his sick mind kids lied
My X said he would Drag me through Court and Destroy me with Lies...his Sister was a Lawyer and his Dad a Politician! There was no Winning!
oh man - did you win
@@bonnieyuse5876 If you are free ( divorced ) , that is your win. 🙂
With this kind of thinking you already lost ...your confidence.
@@bonnieyuse5876 all u had to do is get a voice recorder and trigger the other person and record their threats. Never give up without trying. Ur situation is nothing compared to mine as my husband's sister is a sorceress who can control my attorney and judge too. Karma is way powerful and thats what I believe and follow
Karma is more powerful. My husband's sister is a sorceress who can control even the judge. I never gave up.
excellent. language of the court. where you build your connection between what you care about and what the judge will care about.
I could have used this 35 years ago. Your whole channel is helpful.
I’m so glad you have found it helpful! ❤
HEY THANKS FOR DIGGIN THRU THE FELONY EMOTIONAL ABUSE CRIME AND LAW GAP
My wife has turned my daughter against me and making it look like it’s me and no therapist can pin point it and they say your daughter has anxiety
That’s pretty easy. The therapist needs to ask 1: How do you feel about your Dad. 2: What makes you feel that way. 3: How do you know that Dad did/does/feels that?
And ask the child why they believe something. Is it something someone told them? Or something they actually remember happening with their own memory? Get them to question what is true, where did this idea come from.
Separate facts from opinions.
I had to do this myself because I had thoughts that were not my own rattling around in my head. Maybe from the ex, maybe an overly critical teacher, who knows. IS IT TRUE? It's a great question to ask yourself and have asked if your kids, even if they're adults now.
Kid probably does have anxiety. To not upset mom. Because afraid of mom.
Parental Alienation. That's what happened to me too.
I never thought to try to prove narcissistic abuse, in my probate case. But, other than that, it’s good that the only communication there’s been, between me and this sibling, is via email and in hearings and case management conferences, where just the court, itself, has records of how this person is a pathological liar.
Still, I am pro se and am trying to close this case. Unfortunately, a small issue has prevented closure.
One thing I did, which I’m unsure if it was impactful, was to threaten that I would file a number of individual motions against the defendant, in more than direct proportion, to the previous motion they filed and were denied. Obviously, I know that the judge wants to close the case so, they don’t want to hear that. But, again, I know they have to go by law and I don’t know how impactful that would be.
A very small thing has been a help and
That is that I keep all records related to this case, in zippered neoprene laptop cases. It’s just a good way to ensure I don’t lose the smallest receipt, even when I have to take paperwork to court, when it’s not a phone hearing.
Amazing how you explained the situation of the Judge in court ...
Thank you so much for your platform. I used to listen to all the time and I just popped on because of the title of your live. I’ve been living with an avoidant. We’ve been married for 12 years. It’s very difficult. He doesn’t open up about anything. He just is shut down. Person Likes to talk and get it all out the open resolve it and move on but if the other person isn’t willing to do that, it’s very one-sided relationship and I think for the person who wants to share it’s very lonely and you can get better, cheating cheating was involved cheating a year and a half after we got married so I can’t leave because financial reason just be careful out there with the signs of the narcissist
If you have no children, LEAVE. Even if it is with nothing. Clean houses if you have no skills. You are halfway through my hell of 25 years, which will finally start to end next week when I sign my separation agreement - and 30 years away from my neighbour's hell - she really is stuck with him as they are a 70's something Catholic couple, and she doesn't even have a bank account in her name. So find a way - but leave.
If all a narcissist in some capacity, judges plates are full .. make it easy … it’s all about the $$ … ugh - the root to Evil… in the interim being abused and striving worth each day😢 where’s the human kindness … we lost it! So sad and pathetic
Wow... this is my kids mom and her father to a T. They lie, they manipulate, they wind me up on purpose and then ridicule me as crazy WHILE THEY PLAY THE VICTIM
The two of them are beyond sick
I was told don’t even mention that he was a narcissist while going through court for domestic violence. The state’s attorneys office shut me down.
I find it pretty absurd when someone wants to sever their spousal responsibilities but maintain or impose spousal support. It's so corrupt.
What about if you don't have a lawyer
@@sommermilhous3594 nothing gets done
Like medical care, our Liberty depends on personally being rich enough.....
The one thing you have to your advantage is that behaviour that the person does to irritate you or inflame you does not necessarily equate well with the court but you have to point that out for example if they continually lie that that's fine but if they lie in the courtroom then they are mud to the judge so you've got to take advantage of their capacity to lie and catch them out
This is so good. My husband scared me so much. He would punch doors etc. I fled with our 1st child to my parents. I went back with him as he apologized for all the drama. We have a second child now and he owns a bar and we don't see much of him except on Sundays. It's ok because I am at peace being with the kids and taking care of the house.
You were crazy not to flee with the first child! Now he's going to make you pay for leaving! It will not get better because he knows YOU'RE SCARED! IT WILL GET WORSE! I had an abusive ex husband! Guess how many kids he got from me!!!!
@@user-jp1zs8wy5n That is a very unkind response. Stay in your own lane.
Everyone does the best with what they have and what they know. We are all here to learn and do not want to experience judgement for our choices while under duress.
That is so twisted. I find it illogical and absurd. No offense-Peace 💫
@@AlishaPurkis I understand because ta similar thing happened to me. I didn’t understand the abuse cycle and that the poor excuse for an apology didn’t hold. 20 years later an another child I saw there was no choice. Jekyll and Hyde came together. Safety was obviously a big problem and my children were in danger too. Fortunately with help from close relatives I was able to get away, and fortunately a shelter was available to me and my children. It took several weeks for me to get a hold on my thoughts which were clouded in fear. I kept a journal in the shelter to help me keep things straight. That involved writing all feelings and thoughts about current situation at the time. I felt very confused but knew I was much better off having left. Years later there are still issues as having some flashbacks that cause me to feel confused again, feeling abandoned by lawyers and courts who said I was doing well in the case though it didn't seem like it to me, the other side being more expensive, meaner, and dishonest to their advantage! In the end, I think it was and is my life and I value every minute of it hard as it was at times. As the saying goes, life isn't a bowl of cherries. It has its pits too.
@@rosieE121 so sorry that happened to you. It's hard to recognize the abuse for sure.
I love that you put thought into this for npd victims, unfortunately my smear started when I was 6 by my psychopath mother and father and spread to a much larger group of people, out of gang/group mentality and fear of certain reprocutions if they don't tow the line few express empathy in fear of retaliation. Thank you Again Rebecca
Yes . Ugh, how do they manipulate so many people
They have been practicing all their lives.
Well, one common thing they start doing is called love-bombing, where they make you think that you're the most perfect person they've ever met and they are utterly delighted to get to know you. If we had never heard that term or never heard of narcissism, we'd just think they were infatuated, enthralled, captivated, aka falling in love with us, and making us feel very special. A Covert narcissist can change their behavior at whatever point in time they choose. You can get totally blindsided One Day by something crazy that makes no sense. If you don't understand narcissism, it's super easy to make the situation worse by simply asking them a question. Now they give you the silent treatment. It's all very cold and calculated. Most likely, You're a kind, normal person who had no idea what was going on. I was a senior widow for 10 years, so I was apparently Ripe for the Pickins, as they say.
File a domestic violence report the second they smack something out of your hand grab your arm ect. It will not make it to getting arrested likely. But it was INVALUABLE in court to me!!!
I did this and had pictures of the bruises and yet it was deemed a divorce ploy and he got off scott free. I even endured the sheriff in the aisle next to me say this exact thing out loud trying to shame me. The devil indeed exists.
Where do I get a copy of it? Local police? I had it happen but didn’t keep a copy of it, I believe it was given to him, the person I’m trying to divorce.
Commenting at the yes part 6:38
I’ve been fighting my son’s father in court for the second time now. It took me this second time being in court to understand this. The first time we went to court I was alone, (he abandoned us, threatened us, you name it.) I was feeling low and when he served me papers for full custody I panicked. I tried to talk about the abuse, (no police reports) and the emotional distress and bullying does not matter to the courts. It’s infuriating that someone like this can just get away with being the worst with no consequences. He got half of my son’s time in court because they’re going to award a father with time. (Even tho I never took it from him he was always welcome to see his son but never showed up)
This time, I have learned that facts matter. I’ve been documenting and planning for him to file another case against me for full custody. I’m not even fighting him, I’m fighting the court. I’m answering the question they want to know, and he can say and do whatever he wants. He can throw all the fits he wants to his lawyers, his delusions of grandeur isn’t enough to take my baby away all because he wants to hurt me. I know his REAL motives, and I have to play the game he throws at me and prove it’s a waste of time. He does nothing that shows the court he should get more parental power than what he has now, he should be in his life and he’s been doing fine. He just needs to not use our son as a pawn to hurt me for whatever delusion reason he wants to hurt me for.
Thank you for giving me your perspective, and emphasizing what to do to make sure that the process is as effective as possible. I definitely like the idea of being in the driving seat as you described, and your advice reinforces my confidence that I can do it. I will achieve my objectives by taking your perspectives into account, so that the outcome is one that you would celebrate.
🙏🏼Thank you for being out there and standing up for/with us.!
My ex withheld spousal maintenance to pay for child support that I shouldn’t owe (screwed me in court; financial abuse) he makes six figures, I live in my car now.
One year left before the chance to vacate orders based on improper service disappears.
Amazing information, I am in the middle of this. Thanks for your advice
Just plan quietly and RUN!
OMG. The court thing is exactly what happened to me!
Perhaps applying for a JURY Trial could bring behaviors to the light of common sense.
- Dr. Cliff
@@drcliffbrickman6087 yes. This. Unfortunately, only a handful of states permit jury trials in custody/divorce cases. I am in such a state and realized this was the only way out of my hellhole but the narc has been able to get the jury trial reset 3x over past 2 years.
Can you tell me more? How is a jury trial diff. from Court ? I have a jury trial set for Oct. over divorce.
Love your posts. Just bought your book "Sly the Bully". How to deal with narcissistic and manipulative boss 😊?
The language of the court, got it.
I've been so blessed. I have a magnificent attorney, coparent counselor and the judges aren't having any of it.
Man, I wish, as a child from a narcissistic, emotional & psychological abusive family couple, it was possible to get redress for the s*** I have had to go through and the resources I have had to spend to get myself and my siblings out of that person's control and abuse.
Good points to make making the court care!
This video is really dope. I needed the tips and the encouragement at the end.
Thank you🙏🏿
Issue is paying for legal help
Can you get legal aid maybe? I could not get it but after a year of struggling to pay legal fees my solicitors have told me they will get an order for him to pay because he has more than enough to pay. Also he's dragging it out because he's lying about his assets. Been to court twice already, back in October, he's spending thousands on holidays with his tramp and I've had to sell my girls car and jewellery to survive. Worse than this he's cut our 4 kids off!
Hardest year of our lives.
@@hannahhughes4801 Its all Apsolutely digusting way to treat people.
All fantastic advice thank you!!! Unfortunately, I have a BIG problem with organisation, for so many reasons, ADHD, completely overwhelmed self employed single dad, depression etc etc!!!!! Excuses excuses I'm sorry!!!! One very unfortunate thing about my ex is that she takes everything out on our children, so not only do I have the problem of no one listening or acknowledging what's going on, but on the occasions I've moved to try & make things better for our kids & myself, she employs anything & everything to maintain total control, even if it has terrible consequences on our children!!!! Its 100% a catch 22 situation unfortunately, & I could write a mini series detailing all the unthinkable stuff she's done to date!!!!! I'm ashamed to say that, the thought of ever going back to court to face more of her accusations & lies, always leaves me feeling completely overwhelmed & afraid, knowing what a gifted performer she is, with seemingly NO limits to her insanity!!!! I have downloaded your book on Audible however!!!!!
Yes! Definitely makes sense!
Good video and I would like to add if you use recorded evidence check the recording consent laws - in my state making an audio recording of someone without their consent is punishable with 5 years on a felony charge unless you're a child 16 or under documenting abuse or LEO doing an official investigation.
So how does this work … the judge has to agree to your divorce??
Or is it just to divide asserts … as this is the judges job- right! It’s so easy to get married - but so hard and costly to get divorced… ugh
Yes. I filed 4 times. The judge didn’t want to see my evidence and denied it every time. To this day I still get triggered when I’m asked why I didn’t just file for divorce.
@@nopereradicator I don’t get it ?!? So it’s up to the judge to make the decision to divorce you not or not ? !?! Does it depend on factors and situation.
@@dianacardenas1518 Yeah. Judge asks if you’re cohabitating. You say yes. Judge says come back in 2 years when you aren’t.
On 4th try the judge set the hearing after last kids 18th birthday.
@@nopereradicator Wtf! I don’t understand
I liked, subscribed and shared. I have seen what these people are capable of. More people need to see videos like this.
Thanks! ❤
According to the one i used, Nothing matters
I was told by my Wittenberg do not talk to the police... my ex a police officer? Bias to state... hmmm.... lose. Lose.
If you look up to statistics. Most narcissists are in professions of law enforcement, judges, lawyers. Y'all know who y'all are. Y'all recognize each other from the moment y'all walk into a room. You feel each other because you're a highly sensitive people. Again, it is no accident. It's no overlook. It's no misunderstanding and how the things go in court against a narcissist. It's done precisely the way it's done to be hugged. Those that have the power know exactly what's going on. It's not just beating your opponent. It's beating lawyers in that courtroom it's beating them more than likely the judge as well at the narcissist play. It's not just beating your opponent. So let's get open and honest about what the hell really goes on in courtrooms
The only winners in family law are the lawyers. You just endorse them to play the game. No sane person would hire a court of law to babysit their family. It should be reserved only for critical life and death situations. Go to mediation and call it a day, cost pennies compared to lawyers dragging clients through the courts.
No fault means different things in US and UK especially when it comes to finances so worth considering if watching this video in the UK.
The reason for divorce doesn't usually affect financial outcomes in divorce in the UK
3:25 judges get a certain amount from each instrument that come across their desk.
Every "judge" who pushing statutes do so in their private corporate ministerial capacity has a clerks. Judges who push statutes do so in their ministerial capacity and not their Discretionary and it doesnt matter if their municipal, common please, district or criminal or civil.
There has to be strategy at something that you have to really think about and then twist it. That’s what they do.
I’m going through this.
Same! I rely on God but I realize now I also must be prepared! Keep your cool and be prepared!
Yes, first time hearing this - thank you!
Please help my son and I!
Excellent information, YES thank you!
Rebecca, I am still very much in-love with my covert wife. After giving every drop of effort I had for 15 years I am tapped out. I suffer now with PTSD. Because she enjoyed seeing shock & awe on my face, the drama, trauma, & chaos on my face she has served me 3 times. I signed all three but she won’t turn in the paperwork to the court. We agreed on everything but “custody of our black female, miniature schnauzer.” Having PTSD, after all of this, “Sassy” became my “emotional support dog.” Of course she wants every 1st, 3rd, & 5th and access to her on Wednesday’s & Thursdays. We all know it’s for show. We all know it’s her foot in my door whenever she gets ready to pretend she loves us to get her diamond supply. I’m on Social Security mental illness benefits only now. That’s how bad she has destroyed my life. Can she actually take my dog from me like this? Can you please recommend the right material you have produced to help me mentally and emotionally to recover?
Very practical and useful advices, thank you for sharing
Thank you. This was very clear and accurate to my position.. I am ready to face the court again., and I know that there is a BIG difference between to be right and to get it right in my favour. Anyway the work with and to get documentation are a must. On top of that my anger and proudness must be calmed down to correspond with my intellect and my wisdom. In my case it is all about M O n e y and legal right to it with , with no control from others. And it is a lot of money. And they do everything that I am not to win my legal right
To be birn as the one I am till that I am in control and fit to receive my money without a mandatory or to be forced to share before I get it. Control is the joker here. Because I am a woman alone with noone to stand beside me and without any chikdren. Gro Vera Neste Christiansen. I am a winner not a Winger..
I wish you were here 18 years ago. I had a GAL who understood but still wanted to be fair to my ex, and the children were still alienated from me, which has caused a huge rift with us now. They're ridiculous.
For the last year eight years, I’ve been through hell shit and back. I’ll be damned if I’m gonna go on a courtroom and put myself through that at my age. No way I have a good idea.
Yes, this makes sense.
Wish I could prove this in a worksite. This woman has been harassing me for the last 6 years. They got to the point where they had to transfer her to another work site But the damage was already done to my reputation, and the response from HR was oh don't put yourself in that situation, that's like telling a woman don't wear a dress if you don't want to get raped, that's what it felt like to me.
And as a man, it's extremely difficult, because where I work, it's mostly run by women. In the education system, and there's a large double standard And I struggle with the folks that say they want equality
But don't treat everyone equal. And when it comes to hr issues, they wanna cling to the Patriarchal society norms. I trusted this co-worker. I told her all my weaknesses. Everything I had gone through growing up, and she just threw it back in my face. Even brought students over to have me explain abortion policies of which are illegal to do in an education system. She literally would try to throw me under the bus everyday and set these kind of traps I was always walking on eggshells When I finally realized not to talk to her at any point, she would literally yell from the top of her lungs for attention, and when I would bring this up, everyone would say, oh, she just misses you and she just wants to talk to you, she needs attention. And I would say, no, that's toxic behavior that is an insecurity. That this person has and i've learned to overcome mine and not feed her emotional monster, And we're not even married, that's a freaking coworker
Yes, like @rebecca zung says,’learn to speak the language of the court’ ❤
I had to get an attorney because of my narcissistic boss. I told HR about the issue, they did nothing, I told my Operations Manager, he did nothing. So I started recording him, and they knew because I kept saying "I am writing it down and recording it". They called me a liar, full of **** and prove it while yelling at me and putting me down while at the same time HR was on the speaker phone. I was fired for recording them. It is truly hard.
Yeah... I've seen people walk in calmly with video evidence, logs, and police reports all validating their claims of abuse. They then walk out of the courts losing even more custody and getting accused of filing nuisance lawsuits. That's because a lot of times, guess what the judge is? Position of power. People have to respect them. It's the perfect position for a person with NPD.
Evidence CAN help. However, a lot of times, it doesn't.
Did anyone saw the Ashley Benwfield trial? Im still in shock how little people know about DV, malignabt narcicissm and gow they still feel entitled to judge, blame, shame and re-traumatise the victim
Good stuff! thank you for this!
This video is somewhat helpful clarifying what I am likely to run into and what type of lawyer to get if I decide I can no long continue to loving my wife as she is.
Alright " now" big facts ". Now we have spiritual people in court who can detect their undermine schemes that that the narcissist played on"
I let a narssacist move in with me and it turned into a horrible abuse situation and he shattered both bones in my wrist.I finally got a temporary restraining order on him and got him out of my house.He blatantly violated that RO 15x in the 30 days until the hearing date.So I brought proof of all of that to the hearing.Bit I didn't think I needed to bring proof that it was my house to begin with.Well he brought false documents that said it was his house and he also brought a friend to lie for him and to say he never broke my wrist and the judge believed all of it.I was ordered to get personal belongings only and to vacate the house within 24hrs and to never return.All protection orders were dismissed against him and the judge refused to listen to anything else I had to say.I had to walk away from everything I owned and let him take over my house.Then he kept calling the cops on me saying I was breaking into his house and stealing his stuff when I would be nowhere near the house.There was nothing I could do to get any of it reversed.I lost everything.
I love and deeply appreciate your education. All yiu work is on loint and helps me get ahead.❤❤❤❤
Is anyone here familiar with the ARD program in Pennsylvania? It’s when after a first time offense, the abuser can have their record expunged. I’m not dealing with a divorce, but being assaulted by a narcissist ex-fiancé. I want to do anything I can to prevent him from getting ARD. Any advice?
Oooh thank you Rebecca!!! FINALLY 😢😢😢
Rebecca, can a disabled adult child Sue their (narc) parents for denying them care in childhood, sabotaging their care in adulthood, which lead to adulthood disability? If you see this question, would you please address this? Thank you for all your advice
And the children suffer the most. I hate that having to fight for survival hurts my kids. Court and legal process has no business in family life in the way it has evolved over time. It’s all so traumatic and sad.
I have been documenting, but it STILL would be my word against his. He doesn’t use a cell phone so there is no text, voicemail or video. Nobody will believe me anyway. And by keeping track of how it treats me it only makes it look like I am the one with the problem. I can’t win.
Would love a take on this issue!
I hope it's not about the money.... I have no money! On that note I'm going in hot with documention!
Ugh, I filed for custody & supervised parenting for my gds parents - a diagnosed BPD & a sociopath.
I’ve been raising her 6/7 years and she was with me 50% of the time before that.
It’s been 14 months since I filed papers, with several adjournments and no end in sight for the trial.
The million lies each of them made up are literally insane.
I can’t be the supervisor anymore. They are actively destroying the rest of my family and I’m so worried that anything they say will be believed.
I have a lawyer, neither of them do. I have mountains of proof and they have none.
Seems like an easy thing, right?
Well, it’s not.
It’s a living hell and I fear for my granddaughters life if either of them get her back or I’m forced to deal with them for another 10 years. I won’t make it. 😭
documenting! Don't give up if you are the best for your granddaughter
Yes
Don't stop listing to Rebecca her knowledge will make you strong
Just this morning I noticed that my latest set of notes of the missing items and the dates and times… are (again) missing from my notebook! They enter my studio when I’m gone… that is the one thing that is constant… my notes disappear… now I see why 😡
Did you notice what your kid was wearing? Or if they had a smile on their face? Do you know what they are watching and into? Do your notes mention how proud you are of the kids? Wasted lots of years in bad notes, it blocks a spiritual path of living above the pain.
grateful for your content
Is it ok to tell a narcissist that he is a narcissist? Please because I so need to tell my son-in-law this when he blames my daughter for abandoning their marriage and ruining their children’s lives by leaving him finally. Will it take him meeting someone new to give my daughter some peace?
imspending money but studing the narc and the child custody laws and child support laws but im so heated im getting down to business and shineing the light on her and i need this video thanks ! help with my education process
I need help with my situation I've been targeted all my life especially the last 10 years, major narc.abuse thank you beautiful lady and God bless u and yours Valentino D
Yes…Yes…Yes
Yesy husband did most these things on the. In the end I looked bad. Yes he can be charming. This has become to the point of triggering my seizures. I don't make any sense when speak sometimes especially when I'm nervous. He had quite a few neighbors making me uncomfortable in my own house They were reporting everything I did or didn't do.
It's a great divide.Who knows what is on the other side ❤❤
Thanks I am dealing with an issue like this and appreciate the resources and will start watching more of your videos …
How does the law hold narcissist abusers accountable? Damages? Brain damage?