I'm Fed Up With My Husband's Money Issues!
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Makes $8,000 a month, two repossessed cars and $10,000 in back rent? Does this guy have a gambling problem or something? Good lord!
Terry Foster something tells me he’s gotta buy her love....
He probably doesn't make that kind of money. Sounds like a Showboat to me. And that's about all
I doubt he makes 8 a month. I bet you it's 4 a month and he gets paid every 2 weeks.
For all we really know, she could be a good digger who spends all of his money on bs. We never hear BOTH sides of the stories on here.
@@johnnymichael1804
She said he brings home $4000 every two weeks. If he "brings it home" I'm assuming that is after taxes. I'm trying to wrap my head around having an $8000 a month income with nothing to show for it, renting and two repossessed cars. If your this dumb how do you make that kind of money?
Stay at home moms if you don't know anything else you have to know the numbers at all times trust me.
Chris DEE So true! Being a SAHM brings serious risks, so be smart and stay on top of things.
I'm not one, but I live next door to them, and hear the bs. He doesn't even let her leave the house for long, so I know she does not know the numbers
Good. If she is not contributing financially then she needs to stay in the kitchen
My wife is a SAHM and I wish she would take more interest in our budget....sheesh
@@beatdown3361 raising children, the next generation of people, is and extremely important vocation Contributing financially? Children are not just an afterthought and should not be raised by strangers
He brings home 8K a month, that is definitely too much to be evicted or have cars repossessed. Most couples together don't bring home 8K a month.
wrong 4k biweekly is 8700 a month. 104k net.
@@user-by2tb2hb3y Was that necessary to bring her down for something that petty?
When you make a lot of money, you usually sacrifice time. So odds are, he’s working and she’s spending faster than he can make it.
@@retiredmanager510 wrong. He's the problem not HER
Curly Qfro
Pretty soon daddy is going to be asking mommy for their son’s Social Security number so they can rent the next Apartment on his number.
Don’t give it to him, he might open credit cards under it too.
Picking husbands/wives can be very detrimental to your livelihood! Choose wisely!
Good advice
This is why most HR departments are primarily staffed by women. The innate ability to pick a life partner with little or no information probably is passed on mitochondrial DNA as every woman alive today is alive because all her female ancestors picked right enough to survive and reproduce.
My husband has driven us to homelessness after 25 years. Sadly our marriage is over due to consistent financial infidelity.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. 😔
How do you stay with him for so long and let you drive you to homelessness?
When Dave gives couples FPU for free, he should require them to call back in a year later and say how things went.
That’s an awesome idea
She doesn’t have access to their bank account? I’d be looking at what’s coming in and what’s going out.
I been through this in my marriage. Gave him time to sort out his issues with money, didn't work. I got a second job, saved what I could and filed for divorce. My husband wasn't a bad guy but he was completely selfish and didn't care if we lost our home or the security for our children. I later found out he had a gambling habit. A marriage should have trust and the desire to contribute to the happiness and security of the family unit. When one is selfish and doen't care about the other and makes their life worse with reckless acts...that is not a good marriage and if they dont change after some time, you need to quit.
$8,000/Month and bills aren’t being paid? He’s spending that money in some form of addiction(s) or other women.
8,000 a month with unpaid bills would give me terrible anxiety. If he really makes that much, he is either an impulse buyer or a liar. Or both
Or he is lying about his income.
Does she know exactly how much he makes? Why doesn’t she pay the bills?
She sounds so nice I hope this works out for her.
Single and blessed... these podcasts reminds me of that.
Single life is GREAT!
It is! But so is marriage when you’re married to the right person
This is cope lol.
My wife and I have been married for almost 42 years, and married life is GREAT!! The key is to be together on things before you get married. Then there are no surprises.
No it’s not.
Wow Dave didn’t say ”Better than I deserve”😱😂
I noticed that as well!
These clips are taken from 1-2 and a half hour podcasts...he never says that every call live lol
Slim567 I thought the same thing. First video I have seen that he didn’t say it
Lol
I always like to hear when he says ‘ Better than deserve’ what happen this time!!🤔
Dave doesn’t ask enough questions.
1. What does he do for a living?
2. Do you actually SEE the money that you say he’s bringing in every month?
3. Do you check the balances of the bills each month and how much is being paid?
4. Does he have an addiction or multiple children and girlfriends?
I think he didn't want to go that route.....
Dave just knows how to ask enough questions to know the issue, just enough to put them on a path to fix the issue.
She does NOT do the budget with him and has her eyes shut! Stay hone or not I need to see all the income, accounts and bills payments!!
@@NaturallyKristen86 exactly 💯 she needs to stop blaming him, and some take responsibility & accountability. WF does she do at home besides looking after the baby.
I don’t see how the answer of any of those questions is going to change anything….dude had 2 cars repossessed and they are getting evicted. He’s a mess no matter what the answer is
I love how she said she was in a good church, like she really loved it
Dave, are you really that naive, he has some sort of problem, it’s either drugs, gambling, girls or some sort of other issue.
If he knew how to handle money, he could pay his bills and still have those problems lol
That's a really naive comment. How did you assume that out of this video that have absolutely no information about drugs, gambling or girls . 😂
AcesWILD93 - I think you are the naive person. He’s making $96K, had 2 cars repossessed and 10K behind in his rent. What do you really think he’s doing with his money, it’s obviously not paying the rent or auto loans.
@@guyshipman6646 cool.
Why assume the worst, what if he is addicted to donating?
When my kids were young, my wife stayed home and I logged tons of hours to support our fam. Budgeting was critical and we clipped coupons and cut expenses regularly whenever possible. Daycare is expensive and not the way we wanted to raise our kids. Plus it's expensive, if I didn't get that point across
Exactly !
Sean Butler currently my wife is about to stop teaching and stay home with our two baby girls, Caylee 21 months old and Emma coming March 17th 2020. I make $65,000 per year and have the bonus potential of $10,000 to $20,000 per year, but it’s sporadic and can’t really be quantified in the monthly budget. Running numbers it’s pretty tight and there really isn’t a lot of money left over. Are there a couple of tangible things you can share that would be helpful for the sole income producer to know or think about? Honestly, it’s a bit frightening to go to one income and as a man, rightfully so, I feel a lot of responsibility to produce.
Jack Of All Trades good luck to you. Your wife is lucky to have such a husband 😊
@@notclaire612 thank you for the kind words.
My husband makes 48k a year and I stay home. It can be done if you live below your means!! Takes discipline that's for sure. We love this set up though. Wouldn't have it any other way
This sounds like a control issue not a financial issue 🤔
who knows maybe she's f*cking unbearable & he's using his money to fund his side chick b/c well...b/c she's such a troll
@@mosesyang4222 That's not an excuse to not pay the bills..
This is simply one of those all too common calls where they really need a marriage counselor vs Dave.
@@thewifelife007 not the bills with the troll maybe he's stacking it with the side chick getting ready to bounce
@@Ryan_DeWitt according to dave they just need Jesus
My husband cannot handle money at all. After 34 years we separated for 13 years because of the problems, including gambling and bankruptcy. We now live together again but it was on condition that I handle all the money. He had to agree to this to come back home and I enforce it. It is the only way I could live with him. We are both retired now but needed to combine our money in order to have enough. I implemented Dave Ramsey's baby steps, now on step 3, and things are much better. He has not been very on-board with me, but it has been a year, and he is appreciating what I am doing. This lady's story reminded me of my own. He maybe should not ever have a say about handling the money.
Full financial disclosure and agreement on how money will be handled should occur PRIOR to marriage. No couple should move forward without this step.
True. I made this exact mistake, though. Twenty three years later....any questions I ask regarding finances, we end up in a knock down drag-out argument. 😢
@@christiebell1029 leave him.
I was talking to a lady the other day, she was going to marry a man with no self-accountability and terrible money habits, because she "loves" him... I said she shouldn't, she kind of agreed but will likely do it any way
love is blind.
@@richard3921 yes it is
That's stupid. You're not supposed to get married for love, you can talk about things before you go into a marriage and be detailed If you choose. True love comes from being open and honest about serious topics and when you agree the love comes from the product of being on the same page. People need to get a grip. Those who are full of being in love are the same people who get divorced because they aren't in love anymore
No woman ever married a man because of love.
@@jaimerios3185 of course they have and still do 🤣 it's dumb both ways 🤣
Whatever that dude does with the money is a problem but his lack of respect in not even telling her about pending eviction speaks to a whole other issue.
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Exactly. He needs to swallow his ego and learn how to communicate.
I think he lied about his income to get her. He makes 3K and spends like he makes 8k
How would he have got the approval for the rental making only 3k especially if he is 10k behind??
People forge checks to get into housing all the time.
Which person is worse in that scenario? I think that says more about her than him. That he has to lie to her about money to “get” her. Makes them both idiots in my book.
You're probably right, to where she doesn't actually see the checking account deposit of his check.
I feel like there is a huge piece missing in this story.
Yeah, Dave forgot to say "im better than i deserve" when she asked him how he was doing. looooooooooooooooooooooool
3:47 Thank you. This made me tear up! I wish her (and their family) the best! EXCELLENT ADVICE!!!! THANK YOU DAVE!
They never had to stable base to begin with. He may have addictions.
NeoAndersonReloaded jeez. Some of these calls are just hard to hear.
They are married but she has no money they are not roommates she should have full Access to it
Too many horror stories where the angry wife takes all of the money and runs........50% of marriages end in divorce.......don't do it
He’s got another life. Even if she leaves, where is she going? It’s not that simple
I always watch the titles that have nothing to do me personally. But Dave still finds a way to make it relatable in his teachings.
Dave is such a kind person
I become very uneasy when men hold all of the keys to the finances in the marriage. Especially when they start hiding things like how the money is spent. It screamed abuse and I became concerned about her safety. 😟
I mean I think it does depend if one person is more responsible with money and is earning more than the other that’s kinda the point. of course I understand if people are living together you have to share bills or at least agree on things.
I honestly think nothing wrong with having separate bank accounts.
Don't make empty threats. If you're really going to leave if nothing changes, then leave and NEVER go back.
Dave is a good hearted man, I hope this couple finds there way to financial stability.
Dave, you’re giving this cat too much benefit of the doubt.
You can tell Dave is a good person with good friends around, he believes that people are good.
Thats the price you pay when you allow yourself to be a housewife. You have no skills no money and now no freedom as you cant even afford to leave him....
Being a housewife leads women to be financially abused.
J T absolutely. My father made over 100k in the early 80’s and he got paid in the first of the month. He was broke by the second day of the month. He would give my mother about $300 a month and then end up taking all of the money back from her. I think that’s why I never got married and if I did , I would never want to be a stay at home mom.
If you marry the wrong Man
Growing up in a tough situations and seeing my parents divorce after money . I taught myself at the age 23yrs going into collage that I wouldnt want my spouce to be responsible for my debt. So I made sure it was taken care of for the respect of myself and my husband .
If you love each other enough you would understand and listen to help eachother get out of a tough situation . it is not a one way street its a two ,to make a one way road.
Same here...I wish I could talk to you about it! Don't know what to do.
Great video! I found it hilarious when I thought of an 11-year-old Dave driving a car!
Am I hearing this right ? 8000.00 a month income and they having money problems. Are these phone calls for real?
I heard a caller a while back whose household income was over $200k and they were living paycheck to paycheck
Thats' a lot of money to throw away. I feel sick.
Ed McMahon was on tv for 40yrs and still claimed bankrupt
I wonder too.
Caller: my husband a liar he’s bad with money he selfish and self-centered.
Dave: are you in a good church?
Me: I guess Dave is a little naïve when it comes to churches. I have been in church all my life since I was 13 I am now 36. Churches Don’t teach on finances, family, Health. Or mental health. Sometimes churches are actually the problem because their asking Broke people to give money. And often times pastors cannot speak on these subjects Because their family life is trash they are bad with the churches money and suffering from mental health issues themselves. Often times you receive better counseling outside of the church.
He asks if they're in a "good" church because a good church is nothing like you described and does provide help for families. They're out there, there just aren't very many of them. A lot of churches are struggling financially and get caught up in that aspect of it.
Daniel Johnson 😂😂😂😂😂😉 right
Natalie Linden I agree a lot of churches just use people for finances. I don’t really care about their every day life or struggles,
Actually the best thing is read in a long time. Very well said!
Tonya Mayo a lot of churches provide classes to their members and visitors that have to do with finances, marriage, parenting etc.
All the power to her. I hope it works.
He brings home $8k/mth and they're $10k behind in rent? Plus repos? What does he have to show for the money? If nothing, then there's more to this story. Maybe he's gambling? Maybe he has another relationship? Maybe she's not being truthful? There's definitely more to this.
Dave saving marriages out here👏🏾👏🏾
8k a month and behind on payments? Gotta be drugs or gambling.
Or another woman is getting all his money...
For talks like this I’m such a fan of Mr. Ramsey’s program and lessons! May God continue to bless you and your family abundantly in all you do!!!
Ok. How does someone make 8k a month and have 2 cars repossessed and 10k in unpaid rent. Where is that money going? There’s something being hidden here.
Run!!! He won’t change. Run.
Ashamed or hurt pride or not, he’s putting his own ego ahead of his wife’s emotional health and the safety and stability of his family.
wow, he either 1. hides it 2. has a side chick or two with kids 3. gambles 4. has an addiction to something 5. has a secret crib. They should be able to save at least $1000 with that much a month.
I had a friends husband do the same thing. It’s crazy
I think it’s number #2. Believe me, my father thought everything he earned was for him and if he earned 5k a month , he spent 6k
He isn’t inept at money. He’s 31 and getting evicted while bringing home four grand in one paycheck? He’s emotionally abandoned her and their baby.
He probably have another family then or the two of are blowing money
DMN DMN Exactly, he’s got a side chick
YEP
I feel this so hard.
Dave may just have saved a hime and family...Gid bless him!
First step to financial freedom: depend upon no person but yourself. Your maternity leave is up, mommy. Find good daycare and get yourself back to work. Church doesn't pay your bills, you do.
I’m a woman and I am confused as to why Dave went so soft on this caller. Had this been a man, Dave would have blamed him for leaving it up to his wife to handle all the finances. It should work both ways. Just as men shouldn’t leave it up to their wives to handle the finances, neither should women leave it up to their husbands. It needs to be a joint effort. I think Dave suggesting that this woman is in a “financial abuse” situation is way over the line.
This caller has put herself in a vulnerable situation by staying at home, allowing her husband to be the only breadwinner, and on top of it, allowing him full control over their finances. All this, even though he has historically been very irresponsible. There is no justification for him doing what he has done with money, but she is partially to blame as well for stuffing her head in the sand until now.
I am not trying to judge either of them, as I am sure there are other factors involved that were not mentioned during the call. I hope they can both work together and fix this situation.
blueowl89 Dave always takes the womens side, every time.
Say if he go harsh on her, will the caller like it & dave viewer like it?
Gynocentrism, google it
Dave is a beta male simp
I think you missed the part in which she says she has a 3 months old baby
why was this so relatable for me... youtube knows too much and knew to recommend this to me
Omg I know this video is old but I am so glad I found this. My boyfriend and I are having financial issues. Since I could remember he has always had issues managing his money and I’ve had to help support him. I’m not perfect either, he’s help support me when didn’t have the money but I’ve grown and learned how to manage and organize bills and found a job that would help me get to this point. But all this to say is he still is in the same place he’s been in with not being able to manage his money and he doesn’t fully tell me the whole story when it comes to him being short with the rent and bills. I don’t want to be homeless or behind on bills so I help when I can to cover him or make other arrangements to get extensions but I’m tired of it. He makes these promises that next year he’s gonna be better and pay off this and that and I want to believe him but it’s hard when I’ve seen him create the same patterns. I’m struggling with wanting him to be better at managing his money and me not cover his part of the expenses but I also feel like I have no right to feel that way because he would do it for me if I was short on something.
Believe me. Run! I felt sorry for my
Partner, always saved his butt from financial ruin. Regret it years later. Always broke. If your young get out and never look back. They never change. Your not his mum. Your his partner.
you need to have a honest discussion with him. This lip service about next week, next month, next year is not doing both of you any favors. Its all bs and his actions are damaging and negatively impacting you.
Also realize that he needs to be responsible with his share of the bills. You are partners which means to do things together like a team. Think of this discussion like you would explain to a colleague that doesn't pull their weight. Makes it less emotional and keeps you from accepting his bs. Harsh but he needs a reality check not the sweet supportive understanding gf. Trust me, you’ll resent that role a few years time if you dont speak now.
$96,000 a year and is owning $10,000 in rent payments? As Dave Ramsey would say...
“What a MESS!”
Run!
Good job Dave, spot on.
They need to go through FPU...
Very tough situation. You have to get him on board 🔥💵
🤣🤣
On board the Titanic! That’s Hilarious 😂
Dave’s dad let him drive at 11 years old! 😂💥🚗
My Mother drove at 8. That is a kidon a farm.
My husband started our relationship just like this, but I picked up on his financial irresponsibility very early on, and asked him to step out the drivers seat and took the wheels, and we been ok ever since...Sometimes you got to get in the drivers seat to avoid the ship from sinking...ijs.🙄🙄🙄🙄
4K every two weeks is good money. He is smart but how can he not know what to do with money?
How in the world did you deduce he was smart?
Arie Fraiser he makes $96,000 he's smart enough to make nearly six figures
@@edgarlopez8986 Oh wow! You really think the amount of money a person makes correlates to how smart a person is? You're serious?
Working at a bank, its very easy to see how they dont know how to manage it
Please leave dont stay it will not get better dont waste your years. Dont look up at 50 and wish you had of ran. It dont take common sense to know to pay rent. Dont waste your breath get legal advice and emotional help also. Dont give the rest of your life. You will hear sorry over and over and then the same thing but in a different form. If you were my daughter I would pack up your stuff and move you. This is not a money problem. You have a narcissist.
Thank you for not saying "better than I deserve"
That nAme up there helped me.
Omg Dave didn't say "BETTER THAN I DESERVE" are we getting a new Dave in 2020?!?!
Boy been hitting up that casino
Dave didnt ask what does he do to make $8K a month. The caller is leaving out details and/or Dave isnt asking for them.
Sounds like military. Just a guess
He's got a sugar baby on the side.
I think it's quite possible that they could get in this mess without drugs or unemployment or whatever. A lot of Virginia is suburban DC, where pay is good but rents are high and a lot of jobs require multiple degrees. If he's got a ton of student loan debt and keeps buying cars they can't afford by taking out terrible loans, I could see them being in a very deep hole. Not sure that Dave nailed it, but it's certainly possible.
My VERY situation I’m dealing with. But my husband told me to go get a real job. So I work part time and now I resent him for not wanting to learn financial literacy
Would like an update on this one
Caller: "Dave, my husband somehow wasted at least $10000, and we're getting evicted"
Dave: "Do you have a good church you go to?"
LOL.
Hope she has some family that can help with the baby, if so, she can go get herself a job and part ways. Then she can eventually work on getting a career at some point, once the baby isn't a baby anymore.
Dave is so beautiful! He just gave this family hope! I wish I would have called him...
No.. he gave the WIFE hope.
Are you really this stupid?
This is one side of the story. The caller is saying, "I do not earn any money, but I spend money, and we have money problems."
I do not trust that we are getting the full story. If she divorces him while she isn't working, she can yank about $75k per year out of his income in maintenance and support, and leave him with a pittance. If they are in a spending war - she empties the checking account into purses and shoes before the rent is paid - then she can easily cause this kind of situation.
SOUNDS LIKE HER HUSBAND HAS ANOTHER WIFE AND KIDS ACROSS TOWN😁😁😂
My husband was just like that. No discussions helped and talks. He told me ‘my way or a Highway’. Made very good money. But was always broke. I told him, cheaper to be single’ . Now happy and in another city. This guy spending money like there is no tomorrow
I would not recommend her leaving her husband either.....but I will not give him an ultimatum. Guys with a bit of pride tend to ignore ultimatums. Because he is the one making the money. She needs to direct to him that she knows what he's going through is tough and side that she is willing to help him as long as he is willing to accept her help. She needs to emphasize that shes does not want the family broken over money and that she wants to help him succeed. She needs to give reasonable solutions of examples he has with problems with money rather than "I'm leaving if". He'll be more receptive to let's talk than an ultimatum.
Stop using wisdom because you might help somebody do something right!!!
why did she just find out that rent wasn't being paid. . . it doesn't matter if you're a stay at home mom. if you're a grown adult, you should have some education on what is going on in the household. Ridiculous. IDC if it's not her role, she is only hurting her children by her lack of education and financial literacy. What a shame.
we've done too much, my husband sneaks money, says he's going to get stuff for me for my birthday, and instead bought himself action figures. meanwhile we have 3 kids, including a 7 yr old battling cancer and a 2 mnth old. I nearly bleed out from doing too much without him. i feel like i have no choice but divorce its been years of him promising to work on it and still he has caused us to lose our bank account and lose our apartment. i have been keeping us a float ever since. and him sneaking money at this point,, it makes me feel like hes stealing from me and my kids ... i wanna be on my own now because i feel like i already am, except i would actually be able to save money
There is nothing wrong or crazy about being a stay at home mom! What is crazy is not knowing your financial situation regardless if you work or stay home. I'm 33 and have been home with our 4 kids for 10 years! I went to college, worked and got married before having kids. I'm no ones beoutch and I'm not a victim. I am all in on the budget and know what's coming and going. If my husband does want to leave, then bye. I worked before he came into the picture making decent money, I could do it again.
You Ladies need to make smart choices before having kids. Being a stay at home mom can either be the biggest blessing for your family or be the biggest regret if you don't plan for your futures.
I love love being home and have no regrets. I truly have found my passion and calling and thankful to have an amazing husband who supports me on this journey.
Don't shade people who make it theirs life work being with their kids.. somewhere out there is people working as childcare givers, nannies and teachers helping educate, mold and keep your kids safe. They just get paid for it.
It’s not easy if you’re husband is super mean when bringing up his finances. It’s hard to make someone do something they don’t want to do, like share their finances. So you let them show you. Or you leave.
He has money but completely fail to manage it.This is the root of the problem.
"Just great " mixing it up a little eh?
OMG! 100K a year and broke? He's got a big problem.
Why isnt it her fault for not being involved in the finances? If this was the husband dave would have ripped him a new one for letting the wife handle it by herself
wayne kerr this is kinda what I’m thinking. I’m very confused as to why the eviction was a surprise to her. Was she entirely trusting him to pay their rent and handle their bills even though he’s historically been irresponsible? Either way, the caller sounds like a nice lady and I hope they can fix this situation.
Maybe her husband doesn't let her get involved with the finances... I thought that was made clear..
Could be financial abuse, but like Dave said he makes the bacon for them to go broke.
The Wife The caller never said that, nor did she allude to that. Those were Dave’s words, and he only said it hypothetically: that if the husband refuses to allow his wife to start being involved in the finances now, then she will have reason to be done. But, notice he also did say that she needs to stop being ignorant and be involved in fixing the mess.
I think Dave is being sympathetic to the dude because from Dave's references to his mid to late 20s his wife was in the same boat
Im going through it 10 times worst
Better than I deserve?
Sounds weird not hearing him say it!🤔
My husband makes $60k a year and i make $25k a year. We dont have an acct together i think it’s basically because his acct is shared with his mom. So now he complains about how he always dont have money but he just bought a motorcycle and about to buy a car and help supporting his preggy niece. And telling me i dont help him paying off the house which i have $7k worth of cc debt because he had to take his sports car to get an overall repair. My car is paid off and i have been paying the cc that we owed for his car and i pay for groceries and i have other expenses like internet, car insurance, gas food etc. he is always mad saying i dont provide. What should i do???
Anyone who has actually listened to this show should know that there are many people who do not know how to budget. Offer the carrot and the stick. Good approach.
The money has to be going somewhere, and $8k a month is a lot of money to be disappearing. So either he's blowing through money really fast on something (not sure what if she's not seeing any of his purchases, maybe drugs or other women) or she's the one spending the money and is just lying to Dave.
Couples need to both work and achieve high incomes first. Before having a child. If possible. My opinion
Its possible he has another family.
It’s always easier when you have financial support.
good luck
He didn’t say Better than I deserve!!!!!!
A budget would show where this money is really going. No budget, money disappears
I'm kind of curious to know where the money was going, $8k a month is a lot to just disappear and I'd bet there's a story behind it.
Why are you having kids if you don’t have an emergency fund!? Even before listening to DR I knew that! People wake up!!!! Kids are EXPENSIVE
Poor girl, I sure hope Dave is right, and hubby is just financially clueless. At 30yo seems like it could be something else he's hiding. Either way, if she does as Dave suggests, she'll find out the truth.