01-Carl Rogers on Empathy

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  • @phantomstrider
    @phantomstrider 7 ปีที่แล้ว +334

    This is why Rogers' teachings remains the foundation of much of our advanced counselling. Just listening to the guy for 14 minutes can give you more understanding of being a good therapist than an entire week's worth of university lectures.

    • @tanesha1597
      @tanesha1597 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Totally agree!!

    • @colinyoung9903
      @colinyoung9903 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      absolutely...it's like listening to your grandad lol

    • @jamesvassay7216
      @jamesvassay7216 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Absolutely! I've never heard anyone talk so much sense before. Brilliant.

    • @evl457
      @evl457 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      yaaaass!!!

    • @kristalreddick8589
      @kristalreddick8589 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      So true!

  • @uneedtherapy42
    @uneedtherapy42 10 ปีที่แล้ว +254

    I am a psychotherapist.... I imagine many on here are too.... this thought is STILL so relevant today.... Rogers and Yalom are my 'dudes'

    • @keishafromscratch
      @keishafromscratch 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Carl Rogers is swell... Yalom's books drive me crazy lol

    • @mhbackman
      @mhbackman 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Agree! Existential Psychotherapy by Irv' is one of the best!

    • @olliepop4567
      @olliepop4567 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I love Yalom!!

    • @rosemarynagtegaal3423
      @rosemarynagtegaal3423 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Who is yalom?

    • @PeteTash32
      @PeteTash32 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@rosemarynagtegaal3423 Yalom wrote a book about group therapy that was unbelievably useful to me when I was training. He talks about group dynamics and how people within groups take on different roles.
      Here is a link to the book www.google.co.uk/books/edition/The_Theory_and_Practice_of_Group_Psychot/PolVDgAAQBAJ?hl=en&gbpv=0

  • @harbhub
    @harbhub 6 ปีที่แล้ว +166

    "Many years ago, I realized how powerful it was to listen to a person." - Carl Rogers

    • @BushyHairedStranger
      @BushyHairedStranger 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Carl Rodgers work was HEAVILY used by Central Intelligence agency from the 1950’s on into today….so yeah, listening to what the words are that people use expresses huge indexes to what they’ve experienced & how easy it is to manipulate them by simple empathetic means.

  • @DELIVERANCE-TODAY
    @DELIVERANCE-TODAY 4 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    "Locate power in the person, not in the therapist." Love Carl Rogers!

    • @charubala6307
      @charubala6307 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      agreed:)

    • @krisscanlon4051
      @krisscanlon4051 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes! I must listen to their experience. I am trying.

  • @emuna1985
    @emuna1985 11 ปีที่แล้ว +268

    I transcribed the end for everyone. .. I loved it that much lol
    Carl Rogers definition of empathy.
    he no longer refers to it as a state of empathy as he did in his earlier definition because he believes it to be a process rather than a state.
    the way of being with another person which is termed empathic has several facets
    it means entering the private perceptual world of the other and becoming thoroughly at home with it
    it involves being sensitive moment to moment to the changing felt meanings which flow in the other person
    To the fear or rage or tenderness or confusion or whatever that he or she is experiencing
    it means temporarily living in his life moving about in it delicately without making judgments, sensing meanings of what he is scarcely aware, but not trying to uncover feelings that he is totally unaware, since this would be too threatening.
    it includes communicating you're sensing of his world as you look with fresh and unfrightened eyes at elements which he is fearful
    it means frequently checking with him as to the accuracy of your sensings and being guided by his responses
    you are a confident companion to him in his world by pointing to the possible meanings in the flow in his or her experiencings
    you help him focus on his useful kind of reference to experience his meanings more fully and to move forward in his or her experiencing

    • @constancewalsh3646
      @constancewalsh3646 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you for transcribing this precious way of being with an Other.

    • @scottgreen132
      @scottgreen132 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      This is beautiful. Thank you for taking the time to write it out

    • @Portubed
      @Portubed 6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      A good number of incorrections in that version as well as no punctuation at all, some lines are even joining separate phrases, so here's a more accurate one (some other transcripts also have "confident" but I believe it's "confidant", given the context: confident means the trust you have in the person due to his own confidence in himself; confidant means the trust you place in him listening and understanding you, becoming part of your life as keeper of what you gave and shared of yourself with him):
      [...] I'd like to attempt a description of empathy which would seem satisfactory to me today [1974].
      I would no longer be terming it a "state" of empathy, which is in my earlier definition, because I believe it to be a process rather than a state, and perhaps I can capture that quality.
      The way of being with another person which is termed empathic has several facets:
      It means entering the private perceptual world of the other and becoming thoroughly at home in it;
      It involves being sensitive moment-to-moment to the changing felt meanings which flow in this other person - to the fear or rage or tenderness or confusion or whatever that he or she is experiencing;
      It means temporarily living in *his* life, moving about in it delicately, without making judgments, sensing meanings of which he is scarcely aware, but not trying to uncover feelings of which he is totally unaware, since this would be too threatening;
      It includes communicating your sensings of his world, as you look with fresh and unfrightened eyes at elements of which he is fearful;
      It means frequently checking with him as to the accuracy of your sensings and being guided by his responses.
      You're a confidant companion to him in his world: by pointing to the possible meanings in the flow of his or her experiencing, you help him to focus on this useful type of referent, to experience his meanings more fully and to move forward in his or her experiencing.

    • @lukewalton2034
      @lukewalton2034 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for doing this :)

    • @alcovefib
      @alcovefib 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Portubed Hi, thank you for your input! The Rogers' text published in The Counselling Psychologist 1975 / 06 Vol. 5; Iss. 2 actually reads "confident companion". I've just checked it.

  • @janamynarova6862
    @janamynarova6862 10 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I am so glad that I can watch videos with Carl Rogers here! He is an icon to me!

  • @themindofchrist
    @themindofchrist ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Little did these peeps probably know that nearly 50 years later counseling students would be learning from what they experienced in person. Just incredible. Go Carl!!!

  • @marekkocourek951
    @marekkocourek951 9 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm so happy I can listen to Carl Rogers 42 years later, yet so much to learn for his non-directive approach.

  • @thankyouinadvance.yourfutu5219
    @thankyouinadvance.yourfutu5219 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Before even listening from the start, I am saying; Carl Rogers, is alot of who I am today. 💗🙏 my icon. Listen, word by word its unbelievable.

  • @omarthearab81
    @omarthearab81 9 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I always would watch this video when I worked with individuals who experienced mental distress, a great example of how empathy can help others in need.

  • @davidwhite2949
    @davidwhite2949 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wonderful man. I’ve always been so drawn to his personality and theory.

  • @benjamindegroot2166
    @benjamindegroot2166 5 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    That last summary description on empathy blows my mind. Carl seemed to be really artistically-minded in the way he produced content.

    • @RobbieRob-yw6fm
      @RobbieRob-yw6fm 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Very much so. I agree.

  • @psyaii6394
    @psyaii6394 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    He was spot on with the prediction of the future prominence of behavior therapy

  • @emmethayes5071
    @emmethayes5071 10 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    An absolute legend

  • @temesgenadam5571
    @temesgenadam5571 10 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Carl rogers is a real psychologist.

    • @wildflower2793
      @wildflower2793 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      A rarity where I am O_o

    • @shkdgg
      @shkdgg 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They should be friends of humanity.

  • @3Ghouls1Yorick
    @3Ghouls1Yorick 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Too often we get caught up with defining or slicing every motive or action into something specific and direct we can understand, I think the answer tends to be simpler than we'd like to believe. Empathy is the umbrella that covers and harbors all the good and connection between us.

  • @Chris71607
    @Chris71607 10 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    What a fantastic human being. He shows excellent communication skills by putting the clients thoughts and feelings at the forefront, rather than being the expert. My favourite of the great psychologists.

  • @funkyboodah
    @funkyboodah 7 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    definition of empathy [12:28]

  • @gianlucaraffaable
    @gianlucaraffaable 11 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    It's so amazing and useful to lissen at his words....Thank you so much Carl Rogers, your ideas are still alive and very helpful.

  • @martinbrousseau2560
    @martinbrousseau2560 ปีที่แล้ว

    My point exactly. Majority heal from venting.
    Leaves the few of us much in need without future solutions.

  • @RJ-cs9gz
    @RJ-cs9gz 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Awesome Rogers, awesome collar

  • @ShannonKauffman-g8h
    @ShannonKauffman-g8h 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video is fantastic but also summarizes what the 1960s was all about. You can feel it especially when you see how attentively the students listened.

  • @rossbeighed
    @rossbeighed 11 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    carl rogers is so amazing.

  • @rievaswyers1388
    @rievaswyers1388 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Watching from my motivational interviewing course in SMI advisor it’s very eloquent very spot on communication

  • @mikemosscounsellingsupervi2349
    @mikemosscounsellingsupervi2349 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wonderful to see this intimate sharing of his work.

  • @kathyjenkins4125
    @kathyjenkins4125 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I adore him!!! The students looked so bored! I would love to have been there sitting on the floor!

    • @dee...
      @dee... 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It looks pretty hot in there. Perhaps they're tired... Or maybe stoned, lol.

    • @tamzvegan9997
      @tamzvegan9997 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I guess they didn’t know his true worth back then or how far his techniques have come.

    • @maxwellcooper2
      @maxwellcooper2 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I thought it looked like they were listening carefully actually... lol different perspectives.

    • @serenesongs
      @serenesongs 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I noticed that they gathered around him leaving the chairs that are behind them and far away from him, I think that speaks about their interest in listening to him.

    • @BraniG-psyc03
      @BraniG-psyc03 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤❤❤

  • @PsychRad
    @PsychRad ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for sharing this. It was very useful in the making of my own video about Rogers and his approach to psychotherapy.

  • @jim-se5xc
    @jim-se5xc 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The greatest gift you can give anyone is silence. Robert A. Johnson.

  • @JelleSchot
    @JelleSchot 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you! Still valuable today.

  • @giangvt128
    @giangvt128 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great mind and heart!

  • @norasadeki4195
    @norasadeki4195 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Merci beaucoup pour ce partage, c'est vraiment fabuleux !

  • @TheMjaner
    @TheMjaner 11 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you so much for uploading this video...It helps me a lot with my assignment in Counselling.....

  • @meetalkenasser359
    @meetalkenasser359 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    this is an owesome thrapetic process...

  • @tzofnatpeleg-baker1036
    @tzofnatpeleg-baker1036 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I wonder if the woman social worker Roger hired, who so powerfully influenced his approach, had a name...and I wish he had recognized it in his presentation.

  • @Hotpocketmountiandew
    @Hotpocketmountiandew 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So based on the end definition. Some people could potentially base this style of listening off telegraphing behaviours. And if they trust the "listener". Then the listener could mislead them down a path of seeing their weaknesses as opposed to full on open dialog leading them to see their power and strengths. Which is why you should be cautious on who you allow into such a verbal or nonverbal conversation with you.

    • @artivism4068
      @artivism4068 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      thats true. on a side note, you should also be cautious of ingesting a hotpocket with a mountaindew.

    • @dbsabo2
      @dbsabo2 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@artivism4068 true. And any therapist should also be wary of using techniques on clients and third parties that are not evidence based and not backed up by randomized controlled clinical trials on adults which also show percentages of negative outcomes, of which Humanistic Counseling has none - as is the situation of most psychotherapy techniques.

  • @brians1902
    @brians1902 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I learnt the application of emphatic listening from Chris Voss and his book. And learning as techniques. Rogers might not like that but I am a better healthcare worker because of it. I noticed it have to be learnt as a tool.

    • @shkdgg
      @shkdgg 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Paying attention to what you are doing usually helps. When dealing with people recognizing they are human certainly helps.

    • @RunningCrow265
      @RunningCrow265 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The reason he says it isn't a technique is because empathy has to come from a place of congruence, from a place that is honest and true to who you are. If empathy is fake, or simply used as a technique, clients will sniff it out.

  • @BobanOrlovic
    @BobanOrlovic 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow listening to people is good this man is a genius psychological science is really progressing

    • @dbsabo2
      @dbsabo2 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      In what way?

  • @meigsglidewell5314
    @meigsglidewell5314 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hugely interesting for me to hear Rogers talk about empathy and listening, and illuminating to hear Rogers recount the bastardization of reflective listening. (Same type of bastardization has occurred with the correlation of the "10,000 hours and world class expertise. Such bastardization shows why it is wise to consult the primary source.) I'm delighted to hear Rogers, I'm still recovering from the depressing flute music that could make Donald Duck or Road Runner suicidal. Meigs

  • @Doniedaff
    @Doniedaff 11 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    What a legend!

  • @christianlabrador5264
    @christianlabrador5264 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow 2020 and it is still relevant

    • @dbsabo2
      @dbsabo2 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      How can any psychotherapy technique be relevant today if not evidencve based? Is Humanistic counseling evidence based?

  • @peterryan7123
    @peterryan7123 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Powerful.

  • @aob6033
    @aob6033 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    It's unfortunate that the female social worker who taught him the concept of empathetic listening doesn't get named, or any recognition at all.

    • @JelleSchot
      @JelleSchot 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      No recognition? Lots!

    • @zakatista5246
      @zakatista5246 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Grow up.

  • @checkmatetrav
    @checkmatetrav 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sometimes all you have to do is listen and your clients tell you how to figure out their problems. Sometimes even they listen to themselves.

  • @krassfass1393
    @krassfass1393 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    WHO WAS THE WOMAN WHO WAS A SOCIAL WORKER WHO INVENTED THE TECHNIC THAT HE USED IN HIS WORK? UNNAMED AND UNPAYED FOR THAT

    • @uoaeioeuiau
      @uoaeioeuiau 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes that is my question, too!
      Admire Carl for his work and at the same time I think is part of a machist pattern.. much to learn humanity

    • @sw2264
      @sw2264 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Jessie Taft

  • @pascalemayercreartivecommu9656
    @pascalemayercreartivecommu9656 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wonderful! Does anyone know where Carl Rogers gave this lecture? Was it at UC San Diego? I would love to find out and I'm grateful for helpful feedback - thank you! ☺🙏

  • @itsjkforreal
    @itsjkforreal ปีที่แล้ว

    Around 1:50 rankyam? - what kind of training is that? i want to look it up.

    • @tinabaguley9137
      @tinabaguley9137 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Rankian - Otto Rank

  • @naftalibendavid
    @naftalibendavid 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Simply listening…

  • @yichispiritual
    @yichispiritual ปีที่แล้ว

    To suggest the emotions and ask visitors to validate them are much better than showing them the emotional wheel and demand them to express themselves

  • @mememaster5560
    @mememaster5560 7 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Boi he can fly over trumps wall with that collar

    • @etbiii2814
      @etbiii2814 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yeah, but he could step over the sum total amount of empathy that Donald Trump possesses for others, and he would never need to raise his feet.

  • @BushyHairedStranger
    @BushyHairedStranger 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    2:00,…Rontgen or "Rontgenian” training he’s speaking about the Social worker Jesse Tafts…(?)

  • @Dr.Merouane
    @Dr.Merouane 11 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank You so much for this Videos .

  • @giaximoi
    @giaximoi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    would have been useful had he referenced the social worker by name. Its also curious about the culture where the attendees are sitting on the floor, like children, and I wonder whether that was thought about when they set the scene for the lecture.

    • @richardc861
      @richardc861 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah feels a tad cult like the way they are sitting or maybe just a chilled/hippie way of listening to a lecture.

  • @sethman7803
    @sethman7803 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This looks like UC Santa Cruz, Stevenson College

  • @corneliusakhonya5863
    @corneliusakhonya5863 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think this was the real psychologist who should be emulated.Person centered was really a powerful theory .

  • @veronicadavila9916
    @veronicadavila9916 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    deep and useful, Love Rogers

  • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152
    @quantumfineartsandfossils2152 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    2:00 "Reflect is a word that later made me cringe but.." lol 'cringe'

  • @tarekkhalil6350
    @tarekkhalil6350 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    LEGENDARY WORDS

  • @Raven.13
    @Raven.13 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for the upload!

  • @Anacatlan
    @Anacatlan 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Anyone know what became of patient? I really wish him well.

  • @davidcarter3049
    @davidcarter3049 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ve thought about going to therapy but I wouldn’t have a clue what to talk about..I’d rather listen

  • @MaritimeSunset
    @MaritimeSunset 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for posting this!

  • @MrNekket
    @MrNekket 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    What a gorgeous collar

  • @BurnBabylon_Selecta
    @BurnBabylon_Selecta 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mad collars they rocked back in the days!

  • @dbsabo2
    @dbsabo2 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can anyone cite ANY Randomized Controlled clinical trial that shows the efficacy of Humanistic Counseling on adults, and also INCLUDES the percentages of negative outcomes along with the efficacy of said therapy? If so, please cite the exact title of the study or studies, and the names of the researchers. I looked on PUBMED, and found NONE.

  • @edersondiow
    @edersondiow 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    muito bom! alguem poderia traduzi-lo para português

  • @da1fromdaheightz
    @da1fromdaheightz 11 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Legend

  • @WhatMakesUsThink
    @WhatMakesUsThink 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    More than never Roger is essential root in American and modern psychotherapy.

  • @coolasb9006
    @coolasb9006 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Anyone know what school he was at?

  • @goodenoughpsychiatrist
    @goodenoughpsychiatrist 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video!

  • @rosies3622
    @rosies3622 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wonderful. Tnank you for uploading to see this man who brought so much to therapy :)

  • @albertpaulrios4458
    @albertpaulrios4458 ปีที่แล้ว

    Podria poner otra música me da nostalgia, me deprimo 😂

  • @kristine6996
    @kristine6996 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    A man is explaining a man’s world.

  • @Canonlyberee
    @Canonlyberee 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    70s film always has that flute music lol

  • @carrow1057
    @carrow1057 ปีที่แล้ว

    Covering for counselling in 2023.

  • @Jason-sb2zh
    @Jason-sb2zh 11 ปีที่แล้ว

    video won't load for me chrome, windows 7 20mbs connection. would be nice to be able to see what he was gonna say about listening though

  • @equineassistedtherapy
    @equineassistedtherapy หลายเดือนก่อน

    RFT and Funktional Contextualism

  • @ayatheparentcoach
    @ayatheparentcoach 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "Interesting" audience.... Anyway I'm here as 2nd yr psychology student

  • @1230Therapy
    @1230Therapy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    2:42

  • @TheRocky64
    @TheRocky64 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    My Muster!!! ;-)

  • @TheRocky64
    @TheRocky64 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The heighst One!

  • @kristine6996
    @kristine6996 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    11 women are present.

  • @Bobsend
    @Bobsend 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Close your eyes and you would think you were listening to Carl Sagan lol.

  • @clarkwatson3217
    @clarkwatson3217 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Peter Jordanson brought me here

    • @claudiamanta1943
      @claudiamanta1943 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂 Nice try.
      Peterson is the wishful Hero who weasels his way into somebody’s psyche with religious lies (all lies are useful because only the naive believe in truth), stomping on people’s brains (because, hey, didn’t he say that adversity is good because it breaks the DNA or sumthin’), slashing left, right, and centre to make a mandala- labyrinth in which he casts the shadow of his own imaginary dragon that he finally kills whilst humming to himself ‘Forever Jung’ song. The collateral damage that the client is hands to him the last payment for therapy.
      The circus audience applauds.

  • @The482075
    @The482075 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    How do you go beyond just being a mirror for someone? If all you're doing is repeating back what a person is saying whilst copying their body language, are you truly listening?

  • @frederickanderson1860
    @frederickanderson1860 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Substituting the confessional with a holy father figure to phycoanalysis. Freud turned against his Jewish faith to another kind of religion to improve human condition.

  • @jonnorremix2923
    @jonnorremix2923 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    At first, I thought this was a late 70’s Sylvia Kristel movie.

  • @jspunky3
    @jspunky3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🙌🤍

  • @jasongearheart4462
    @jasongearheart4462 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nice tan.

  • @christopherchris8375
    @christopherchris8375 ปีที่แล้ว

    🎥⌚️⌚️

  • @robertrussell3264
    @robertrussell3264 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great man but he's rambling and a bit dramatic.

  • @nelsonferreira-aulasdearte
    @nelsonferreira-aulasdearte 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Although I think the Rogerian approach is not very useful and quite superficial (he wouldn't be able to prove many of his assumptions and his methods don't work for a series of issues) I did like this video and he's quite right on this topic. But it's probably no better to our mental health to have a person centred therapist than to have a friend we hire by the hour... Is it just me or his methods are just too subjective and a bit of a placebo?

    • @artivism4068
      @artivism4068 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I dont think so. Ive seen this work in people and Im not even a therapist. This is something that people are also born with. My personality type is INFJ and it is a wonderful example of this type of empathetic listening ability to heal people and help them self-reflect to explore their connection between the inner and outer life.

    • @Eyefartconfetti
      @Eyefartconfetti 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I see your point, but those kinds of friends are only found in Hallmark movies.

    • @dbsabo2
      @dbsabo2 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nelson Ferreira, you are spot on.

    • @JelleSchot
      @JelleSchot 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's just you.

    • @Listen2BAware
      @Listen2BAware 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      It takes a great deal of skill, courage, and strength to put aside one's own values, beliefs, and desire to guide others; instead choosing to see life from the others point of view, sense and share the emotions and underlying messages they convey, and create a safe environment that feels safe enough for them to go deep. It is easy to give advice and a bunch of exercises to see what sticks. There's an arrogance to assuming in one or a few sessions you can sum up who someone is and what's wrong when they've lived x amount of years before meeting us and had so many experiences in their conditioning that we know nothing about. Everything we need is within but most modalities, social norms, and others point us externally for healing, acceptance, validation, appreciation, and esteem; PCT points inside. PCT says I know you can do it, you are capable, able and I will come along with you as you figure it out. And Maslow's Hiearchy of Needs is also from the humanistic approach.

  • @Novapsihoanaliza
    @Novapsihoanaliza 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Go home and read Kohut

  • @claudiamanta1943
    @claudiamanta1943 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It’s the only form of therapy that can work. First and foremost it is non- judgemental and tries to understand the other in all the fullness of his/ her experience.

  • @SammyxSweetheart.02
    @SammyxSweetheart.02 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    8:09