I thought the same thing. She's a little girl in a woman's body. Even her hairstyle is that of a little girl. She stopped growing at 11. I pray it works out for all of them.
Parents need to stop having kids and making the oldest sibling feel like they have to take care of them. It’s NOT FAIR smh such a beautiful soul I’m sorry she had to endure that.
Life isn't fair and 99.9% of us have been raised in some sort of dysfunction because parents are people and people are not perfect. At a certain point, can't keep blaming parents.
@@gigilamoore2656 I strongly disagree! I was that older sibling who had to be responsible for my youngest siblings. My child hood was hell! I love my mother( may God rest her soul) but she should have made better choices, She and my father( who wasn't there). I am not judging her, but after the first child you should be able to know not to have more unless you are prepared! I will not have my oldest child be robbed of their childhood for my responsibilities!
I am the oldest child I was changing my sibling diapers at 10 and 16 years old. I didn't want any kids until I worked at a children's hospital and I seen the love in the parents eyes. I was around 33 years old then I am 38 now still desire kids.
Iyanla knows how to break it down!! She has shown me how many people walk around with so much hurt. I binge watched previous episodes during quarantine and found so many enlightenments about my own life. Love her!
I think she was sending her an indirect message. "That's how her mum and dad dropped her sis to her to take care of her without them caring how it will be like for her or how it will hurt"
@prophet Dr kofi oduro shut up!! You have come to TH-cam too? Fake prophet. Wolf in sheep clothing. Destroyer of families. Judgment awaits you. You lazy fool. Go and find a job for yourself and stop scamming people. Onye ori
she needs more than rehab. She needs life skills and continued counseling. Learning how to healthily cope with emotional issues will take way more than a 90 day program.
When children are robbed of their rightful place by adults who don't step into their rightful place as parents, it disturbs the entire order of a family. When she said "you're the only mother I've ever known"...that's too much for anyone 😔. My heart goes out to them.
The sad reality of it but unfortunately very little anyone can do to stop it (without violating human rights) particularly in the case of those who have addictions and mental health challenges for example
I’m an elementary teacher. And I have so many students who are the oldest or middle child and they are made to take care of their siblings. And will get punished by grounding, spanking, or worse if they don’t take care of their younger siblings, do the household chores, and do their school work. Some of these kids come to school so exhausted and my heartbreaks because they’re babies being robbed of their childhood and innocence.
Lol if you think it’s that easy, you missed the whole point of the episode. It’s mental health and survivors guilt. Google it. Stop gaslighting people with your words. Iyanla does it better.
This episode made me cry. You could feel the love the sisters had for each other, they are both beautiful. I hope they are flourishing and would love to hear how they are doing 5 years later.( filmed 2015, now 2020)
It's now April 2024💘I cried 😞 and experienced some memories I'd been carrying around🔥 I'm yet learning how to put down my Bag of Burdens 💓God bless them 👋💨
Whew it’s crazy to see how trauma can cause a person to literally stay stuck at whatever age or mindset it occurred. You can still see that scared 8year old in her sister. I pray she got herself together she’s beautiful. Wish them both the best
@Andrea and everyone else plzzzz Do not call the Bishop,all they know is spiritual attack.God is always revealing spiritual attacks to african pastors n Bishop's but never reveal the solution for lack of drinkingwater, electricity, hospital and etc smh.
Today, I've learned the term 'Survivor's guilt'; which is what I see in myself when it comes to my mentally ill and demonic possessed older brother who is so dependant on using his family. Now, I am finally releasing him out of my life and setting myself FREE in Jesus name!
When iyanla was hugging Andrea at the end, you could see the 9 year old girl in her. Afraid, unsure, lonely, and hurt all bottled up inside. I’m glad she made it through rehab. Bless all these beautiful women!
Iyanla is not a psychologist. Her approach is unorthodox. She rips the bandaid off. Shakes them awake…so they can acknowledge their problems and do the work. I like it.
@@mariskatjon9115 she believes in Source, The Creator... From which Jesus would hail from. & She mentions Source often! You are not observant and speak falsely amongst praise for this very enlightened woman. Be aware of your own actions before you seek to tear another down. Plz find true love & peace within you.
I have watched these videos lately and I see how parents can destroy children whether intentional or not and the children have to live with pain all their life. I pray to God everyday that he gives me strength and wisdom to raise my daughter into a wonderful and decent human being!!
Bro I felt trapped and burdened as the oldest sister has. Bc I too went through that with my siblings. Except for the fact that I ended up being an addict at one point. Only through God's mercy and grace I am clean, happy, and blessed. My mom is still alive and tries to make me responsible for her and my siblings still! And I am 32 yrs old now.
My heart kept breaking during this episode. Bless these women. Iyanla, tv or no tv, you’ve broken some yolks, opened some heavy hearts, and healed folks that weren’t even on your show.
"ALL big girls have a purse" When I look into Andrea's eyes I can still see the little girl in her I wish her nothing but the best that life has to offer her...the Father has a plan and purpose for both of these beautiful sisters. I loved her big sis also ...she has such a huge heart what a blessing to have had her as a covering all those years despite the damage it caused she was a HUGE blessing and covering
I love the visualization of carrying the bag of rocks around. That's what trauma feels like. It's time to identify what rocks we have in our bags and finally put em down.
@@stacieraexoxo4562 girl you could of proved your point without speaking down on race. We should be lifting each other up on a channel and sensitive topic like this. Just my opinion/observation.
@@fallyneprinciotta9058 ...oh really Karen? You can go right over to the Trump and White Nationalist channels or Tara Mongeau and the White Feminist vloggers and preach all you want about race sensitivity. The woman who posted the initial and exaggerated comment about the girl suffering from alcoholism, triggered by PTSD doesn't need anymore false accusations and character attacks by people commenting who obviously are experiencing comphrensive, literacy and audio-visual inadequacies.
When she got in the car to go to the meeting and was talking about "everyone just here to jump on poor Andrea. Take a vacation at my expense." Being a recovering addict myself, I knew she wasn't ready. For me personally, and for several others I've talked to and known, they had to hit their absolute rock bottom. Pretty much it's either prison(you can get drugs easier there than on the outside most times) or death. Everytime either I was court ordered or forced into some kind of "intervention", I would do it, BUT only because it BENEFITED me in ways not related to my sobriety at ALL. But, in March of this year, I nearly died on my dad's birthday. I, for the first time, was actually ready on my own, and was in rehab a few days later!!! Been clean, sober, and in my very own HOME (that just got decorated for Halloween mind you 😁) since March 2nd!!! So know, that when we the addicts are ready to get help, that we, us, the addict, the HUMAN.... WE DO RECOVER!!!! Relapse is part of recovery too, so don't give up, it's good she is addressing the reasons WHY she uses substances to self medicate. That was another biggie for me. Until I dealt with those, I was bound to continue to get high because those deep seeded issues were still there and still there enough for me to self medicate to cover or numb them. Love all these beautiful Queens!!! I'm so proud they asked for help, they have an amazing teacher! I'm so ready to see their glow up!!!! 🖤❤🖤❤🖤❤
Congratulations! I used the AA rules to begin my recovery from years of toxic abuse by my family. Some of our wounds come from drug abuse, and I’ve begun to see destructive behavior as addiction and obsession- Some choose drugs and alcohol, others choose unhealthy situations and toxic people (and believe we’re safer without a substance). Peace and love to you!
Im not sure... I think this is just lack of awareness for what to do.. Any and all addictions are an escape from self development.. So why cant she get addicted to being healthy..
@ChocolateMe91 ! I disagree when you are battle with issues and you really want them to be resolved nothing will trigger you to not make the best of the opportunity that is presented.
This was very emotional to watch.. I could literally feel Andrea's inner turmoil as she told the story of her mother being burned and thrown out the window (bless her sweet soul)!! I would really like to know how she's doing in 2020....
It’s called “arrested psychological development”. Being 'stuck' in an emotional level of development. Depending on the timing of trauma (childhood, adolescent or teen) determines the symptoms of Arrested Psychological Development. So you are absolutely accurate in your observation!
@@nadirahcroom1938 Someone in the comments (decided to be a Facebook detective) said Charese was accepted to Havard University! However, the other sister has since relapsed after her brother passed away.
I pray Sharese finds the strength she needs to move forward and release her sister... so many times people focus on the younger party or the party that acts out and the one that "appears" to hold it together is left out to dry. She needs love and prayer too. Her children dont deserve a "portion" or broken piece of her bc she is giving the best of her to her sister.
Having a loving mother and father in my life was a great blessing, but how do you get counciling for a love you never had and crave till the day you die. I cant imagine the pain these sisters have endured. I pray God finds a way to bring the love they so deserve and heal their broken hearts.
I do not know whether its correct but according to a person who is very very close to me told me, she could forget about her aboundenment through her children. May be it will work ..........
A counselor will help them learn to love themselves more profoundly then their parents failures. Self love is transformative and freeing from the mistakes that others have made
This is my girlfriend's life. She has this exact dynamic with her sister. It's heart-wrenching to see how sad Andrea is. You can tell she's really broken. I pray she heal and find wholeness. Parents must always remember their sins are visited upon their children.
This show has helped me heal and communicate with my family about the abuser in the family however they didn’t receive it well but it’s there and I’m free 🙌🏾🙌🏾
This one hits home , all the way thru my house....wish I had this support so I can get better.....damn near very same story....if ur reading this please pray for me 🙏🏾
The oldest sister has such a pure and beautiful spirit about her. You can tell that she is afraid yet she is truly ready to LIVE. Praying for her that Jesus gives her a peace about her baby sister and that she is able to move in the right direction.
Iyanla is AMAZING. I've been following her since the 1990s. In doing so my life has been so much better listening to her teaching & guidance. I trust her words and live everything about her. Iyanla you fixed my life and I have never met you. I saw you in person in Raleigh in 1996. That changed my life. I started living different acting different and caring about me more. Iyanla words helped me run my salon better. This Lady is a God sent. I thank you Iyanla for being the person that you are.❤❤❤😇❤❤😇❤❤❤😇
Iyanla by me watching these episodes you are fixing my life. My mum used to drink a lot,to forget her pain. She wasn't a bad mum. We ate,had a roof over our heads and were clean and went to school BUT, mum used to drink a lot.
I need a follow up episode. The end made me emotional she was terrified to go to LA. But her coming back to workin in her sisters salon again and probably still living with her makes me think not much has changed.
I had two siblings i had to be the mom my mom had a nervous breakdown and was beaten by a boyfriend. I never allowed it to bother me. Thus my faith in Christ help me. My sister's are deceased for other reason although my middle sister she never seemed to be bothered with our pain of life situations. Although she tried to commit suicide. I had thoughts of it when i went on the darkside of life. I'm grateful to say I've succeeded with Degrees and now taking care of my mom. My story!!!!!!!!
@Bishop Oyedepo Mmmm so in order for your prayer to be successful she has to donate to foundation lol , God is on her side , He will protect her, she doesn't need to donate for God to fight for her
What is discerning to me is when children have mothers and fathers that actually take care and ❤ them but they don't appreciate it. Then there is this story.. 🤷♀️Go figure.
Omg I cry when she said I'm afraid without her , how much she cry her. Sister I don't believe she would love her own kids this way wow what a good human heart she got, I just need sister like this
@Bishop Oyedepo im not even from Nigeria fam. Plus so you just can't pray for me without asking me to pay? Oh i see, Prayer isn't for free these days. Thanks tho will pray about the spiritual attack, i have access to God too and he listens to all not only bishops
I love Iyanla's wisdom and strength. She wasn't born with it. She's learned it from life! Now she works to help others learn. In my opinion, she's a living saint!!
33:57 the way all the sisters looked at each other so proudly and loving even though so many issues are being discussed you can tell they love each other passed the moon and back
Did you see the episode with the man with 32+ kids holding all those baby dolls?! 😆 Ms. Iyanla wasn’t playing that day. She kept piling up them baby dolls in that man’s lap and arms!
I am an ex addict an I'm praying for sis but unfortunately I don't quite think she's surrender yet! It's a process as long as she keeps coming back something will eventually click! Prayers for the still suffering addict and alcoholic 🙏🏽
I'm crying because she's like a little girl. Who didn't get a chance to be a little girl God bless her
It's never about not having the chance of being a child. It's the damaging things that happens while you are a child.
Me too🥺😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
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I thought the same thing. She's a little girl in a woman's body. Even her hairstyle is that of a little girl. She stopped growing at 11. I pray it works out for all of them.
@@stardust2172 Same difference. A child should be safe, innocent, carefree. She couldn't be a child.
Parents need to stop having kids and making the oldest sibling feel like they have to take care of them. It’s NOT FAIR smh such a beautiful soul I’m sorry she had to endure that.
Amen
Life isn't fair and 99.9% of us have been raised in some sort of dysfunction because parents are people and people are not perfect. At a certain point, can't keep blaming parents.
@@gigilamoore2656 very true
@@gigilamoore2656 I strongly disagree! I was that older sibling who had to be responsible for my youngest siblings. My child hood was hell! I love my mother( may God rest her soul) but she should have made better choices, She and my father( who wasn't there). I am not judging her, but after the first child you should be able to know not to have more unless you are prepared! I will not have my oldest child be robbed of their childhood for my responsibilities!
I am the oldest child I was changing my sibling diapers at 10 and 16 years old. I didn't want any kids until I worked at a children's hospital and I seen the love in the parents eyes. I was around 33 years old then I am 38 now still desire kids.
Iyanla knows how to break it down!! She has shown me how many people walk around with so much hurt. I binge watched previous episodes during quarantine and found so many enlightenments about my own life. Love her!
Pamela Curlee sane. I definitely gain insight from this show as well as her interviews. I can listen to her speak all day.
Well put !
She has such a soothing voice too...like the best bedtime story voice ever lol
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@@alicemiriah 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Iyanla literally threw the rock at her lap like it ain't made of stone lol.....
I thought that was so disrespectful. I think Iyanla is mean and uncaring the way she speaks to the ones she supposes to care about.
@@emm8348 is life sweet and soft to you ?? Do you always get things softly placed into your lap?’
I think she was sending her an indirect message. "That's how her mum and dad dropped her sis to her to take care of her without them caring how it will be like for her or how it will hurt"
@@emm8348 She been carrying heavier and more damaging issues that stone probably felt like a baloon.
@@PhleGmatic1 EXACTLY
I love it when Ms. Iyanla starts off with, "why am I here?"
The next meeting I go to, that's exactly what I'm going to say.
@@shanec9840 oooh, the visual i just had of the attendees faces😂😂😂.
@@shanec9840 🤣🤣🤣
Okoyé Forever period
@@shanec9840 😩😂 yooo
"You're allowing her to be the person you're trying to save her from"! Wow, mind blown, that is DEEP Ms.Iyanla!!!!
@prophet Dr kofi oduro shut up!! You have come to TH-cam too? Fake prophet. Wolf in sheep clothing. Destroyer of families. Judgment awaits you. You lazy fool. Go and find a job for yourself and stop scamming people. Onye ori
Deep stuff hey.
she needs more than rehab. She needs life skills and continued counseling. Learning how to healthily cope with emotional issues will take way more than a 90 day program.
Iyanla I thank you you have improved my counselling skill a whole lit after watchìng you in action.Thank you and may Good bless you and your work.
Of course. Getting sober is a good start 😊
One step at a time.
CoolKem C a great start
✅
When children are robbed of their rightful place by adults who don't step into their rightful place as parents, it disturbs the entire order of a family. When she said "you're the only mother I've ever known"...that's too much for anyone 😔. My heart goes out to them.
The sad reality of it but unfortunately very little anyone can do to stop it (without violating human rights) particularly in the case of those who have addictions and mental health challenges for example
I’m an elementary teacher. And I have so many students who are the oldest or middle child and they are made to take care of their siblings. And will get punished by grounding, spanking, or worse if they don’t take care of their younger siblings, do the household chores, and do their school work. Some of these kids come to school so exhausted and my heartbreaks because they’re babies being robbed of their childhood and innocence.
The thing is WHY didn't relatives take the both of them.
“Who you think gon carry it, me?” Lmao gotta love Iyanla 😭
It's just that simple. The symbolism she uses.
"You been carrying it all these years" Gotta love the realness 💖
Damn! She's amazing, the whole world needs lyanla's healing work.
@prophet Dr kofi odurop
If fixing another is breaking you, you need to do something different.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Not necessarily! Emotions Are Relatable!
Blessingz
Easier said than done my dear.
@@nolaclarke253 For sure, but people do it. Those who usually succeed don't start with a negative frame of mind.
Lol if you think it’s that easy, you missed the whole point of the episode. It’s mental health and survivors guilt. Google it. Stop gaslighting people with your words. Iyanla does it better.
This episode made me cry. You could feel the love the sisters had for each other, they are both beautiful. I hope they are flourishing and would love to hear how they are doing 5 years later.( filmed 2015, now 2020)
Oh didn't know this was filmed 5 years ago 🤔🤯
@@bsinita_wokeone Right when the episode starts, you can see a caption that tells you the original airdate. Pause at 0:04.
Someone above said they're both on Facebook but I haven't looked.
All the episodes make me cry. 😢 There sooo many dysfunctional families out here...including mine.
It's now April 2024💘I cried 😞 and experienced some memories I'd been carrying around🔥 I'm yet learning how to put down my Bag of Burdens 💓God bless them 👋💨
When she said i don't want to end up like my mama, 😭😭😭😭😭😭my heart just dropped.
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I always have the same THOUGHT!
😢 😢 😢 Heartbreaking
Same. Had to brace myself
Same😭😭😭My God🙏🏽❤️
When that first rock landed in her lap, she felt that. I did too!
“You need to go to the mirror and slap the first person that shows up”. I’m soooooo using that line! Lol
Lol 😂 that part
RIGHT 😂😂!
Whew it’s crazy to see how trauma can cause a person to literally stay stuck at whatever age or mindset it occurred. You can still see that scared 8year old in her sister. I pray she got herself together she’s beautiful. Wish them both the best
Today I learned the term "false responsibility" and how I have addressed certain relationships. I am free.
Andrea True omg I feel that way with a friend
@Andrea and everyone else plzzzz
Do not call the Bishop,all they know is spiritual attack.God is always revealing spiritual attacks
to african pastors n Bishop's but never reveal the solution for lack of drinkingwater, electricity, hospital and etc smh.
Today, I've learned the term 'Survivor's guilt'; which is what I see in myself when it comes to my mentally ill and demonic possessed older brother who is so dependant on using his family. Now, I am finally releasing him out of my life and setting myself FREE in Jesus name!
Same with me
Same. This was helpful
When iyanla was hugging Andrea at the end, you could see the 9 year old girl in her. Afraid, unsure, lonely, and hurt all bottled up inside. I’m glad she made it through rehab. Bless all these beautiful women!
This lady is talented with understand ing others and helping them solve their own problems.
This is sad
She's very blessed. It's definitely a God given gift
@Jenny Agrippa I guess we'll find out what's what some day... in the meantime, each to their own 😊❤️
Ammmmmmennn!!!!
Iyanla is not a psychologist. Her approach is unorthodox. She rips the bandaid off. Shakes them awake…so they can acknowledge their problems and do the work. I like it.
Andrea mad me cry. I can still see the little girl in her. My prayers are for her success and growth
Yeah!
U definitely r right!
I felt like hugging her SOMEHOW!
But am hopeful both sisters will be fine .......
We don't deserve this woman but I'm so happy we have her.
Tru
Same thing we should say about Jesus, seeing as He died for us.
We deserve Iyanla! She was gifted to serve us all! She’s heaven on earth. Literally learn so much from her. Such a gem she is.
She is not a BELIEVER of JESUS CHRIST haven't heard she mentioned JESUS name at all!!!
@@mariskatjon9115 she believes in Source, The Creator... From which Jesus would hail from.
& She mentions Source often! You are not observant and speak falsely amongst praise for this very enlightened woman.
Be aware of your own actions before you seek to tear another down. Plz find true love & peace within you.
My heart is breaking for Andrea. She is bound to feel her sister is abandoning her like her mother did (even though she's not). This is hard to watch.
@prophet Dr kofi oduro how you get all that from a letter B 😲
"Drunk in the backyard is 1 thing, dead in the casket is another" 😖😩
And that young woman is SO PRETTY. She doesn’t see it - she could be anything she wants to be & doesn’t see all that potential.💔
Lord. Help me be a better version of myself, to be an example.
Bless your heart ladies 🤗
✋ I receive this prayer in my soul.
@Bishop Oyedepo not interested
When Auntie said "holdon" and ran outside to tell the sister to put 2 more rocks in her bag, I apologize but I lost it 😂🤣😂🤦🏾♂️
I have watched these videos lately and I see how parents can destroy children whether intentional or not and the children have to live with pain all their life. I pray to God everyday that he gives me strength and wisdom to raise my daughter into a wonderful and decent human being!!
@Bishop Oyedepo There are no spiritual attacks on me as I am covered by the blood of Jesus.... Go spread your lies somewhere else.
“The adults in your life failed you” is such a powerful statement smh
The older sister is BEAUTIFUL
We need a Where are they now episode
Trueee
We really do
Seriously.
Yesss
@Marquisha Jerry oooor why won't you tell us
Bro I felt trapped and burdened as the oldest sister has. Bc I too went through that with my siblings. Except for the fact that I ended up being an addict at one point. Only through God's mercy and grace I am clean, happy, and blessed. My mom is still alive and tries to make me responsible for her and my siblings still! And I am 32 yrs old now.
Bless God and you 🙏❣️
Congratulations! I’m proud of you💜
Congrats on your sobriety. Sometimes we have to distance ourselves from family for our own sanity and mental health.
💕
I’m loving 🥰 the natural hairstyles
They are some of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen, I really hope Andrea gets some peace and healing
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I love Andrea's hair
Me too but girl they are suffering 😅😂
Yes. Little sister’s hair is so pretty!
I hope the older sister break free from the younger sister and lives her life.
My heart kept breaking during this episode. Bless these women. Iyanla, tv or no tv, you’ve broken some yolks, opened some heavy hearts, and healed folks that weren’t even on your show.
Thank you for posting a full episode!! I don’t have cable anymore and I’ve greatly missed my Mother Iyanla!
Girlll free movie sites you can watch full everything now a days
I haven’t had cable in a couple years now 😩 TH-cam is it lol
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@@ItsLotus89 me too I just watch TH-cam or Netflix 🤷🏾♀️😂
The younger sister was such a beautiful baby, still beautiful now and more beautiful when she gets healthy.
she brought that sack out and i was like, “baaaag laaadyyyy, you. gon. hurt. back.” lmao
“carrying all them bags like thaaaat” lol
I guess nobody ever told you, all you must hold on to, is youuu😭
Me too...in Ms. Badu's voice
"ALL big girls have a purse" When I look into Andrea's eyes I can still see the little girl in her I wish her nothing but the best that life has to offer her...the Father has a plan and purpose for both of these beautiful sisters. I loved her big sis also ...she has such a huge heart what a blessing to have had her as a covering all those years despite the damage it caused she was a HUGE blessing and covering
I love the visualization of carrying the bag of rocks around. That's what trauma feels like. It's time to identify what rocks we have in our bags and finally put em down.
Well let’s talk about what an amazing sister she is😭
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👌🏝️❤️💪🦷🪒👰👀🇵🇷🌹💋👅👃
mhm
Iyanla calls stuff out so beautifully!
These sister gave no attitude was ready to listen really good episode
Well said.
Iyanla has no problem laughing by herself!
🗣”Put one in there for ‘helplessness’, and put one in there for ‘hopelessness!’”
Lol, ☝🏼that right there!😂😂😂😁
I heard that
This
She’s such a beautiful woman. I’m hoping she’s received/receiving all of the healing she needs 💕💕💕
She is really pretty. She just needs to stop drinking. She has some real demons walking around with
She really is!
Did we all note that the elder sister did not want to share the burden ( bag)with her younger sister. But her sister threw it back.
She's used to it its sad
@@kgabomolele3346 Yes i picked up on it , so sad
Trueeeee - amazing observation plus she kept carrying it around, she could’ve let it on the table
@@stacieraexoxo4562 girl you could of proved your point without speaking down on race. We should be lifting each other up on a channel and sensitive topic like this. Just my opinion/observation.
@@fallyneprinciotta9058 ...oh really Karen? You can go right over to the Trump and White Nationalist channels or Tara Mongeau and the White Feminist vloggers and preach all you want about race sensitivity. The woman who posted the initial and exaggerated comment about the girl suffering from alcoholism, triggered by PTSD doesn't need anymore false accusations and character attacks by people commenting who obviously are experiencing comphrensive, literacy and audio-visual inadequacies.
When she got in the car to go to the meeting and was talking about "everyone just here to jump on poor Andrea. Take a vacation at my expense." Being a recovering addict myself, I knew she wasn't ready. For me personally, and for several others I've talked to and known, they had to hit their absolute rock bottom. Pretty much it's either prison(you can get drugs easier there than on the outside most times) or death. Everytime either I was court ordered or forced into some kind of "intervention", I would do it, BUT only because it BENEFITED me in ways not related to my sobriety at ALL. But, in March of this year, I nearly died on my dad's birthday. I, for the first time, was actually ready on my own, and was in rehab a few days later!!! Been clean, sober, and in my very own HOME (that just got decorated for Halloween mind you 😁) since March 2nd!!! So know, that when we the addicts are ready to get help, that we, us, the addict, the HUMAN.... WE DO RECOVER!!!! Relapse is part of recovery too, so don't give up, it's good she is addressing the reasons WHY she uses substances to self medicate. That was another biggie for me. Until I dealt with those, I was bound to continue to get high because those deep seeded issues were still there and still there enough for me to self medicate to cover or numb them. Love all these beautiful Queens!!! I'm so proud they asked for help, they have an amazing teacher! I'm so ready to see their glow up!!!! 🖤❤🖤❤🖤❤
Thats amazing! Wishing you and your future all the best.
Congratulations on your new life!
Congratulations!
I used the AA rules to begin my recovery from years of toxic abuse by my family. Some of our wounds come from drug abuse, and I’ve begun to see destructive behavior as addiction and obsession- Some choose drugs and alcohol, others choose unhealthy situations and toxic people (and believe we’re safer without a substance).
Peace and love to you!
Congrats on you choosing your life!!! You are worth all amazing things❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉.You are an inspiration showing us that the past doesn't determine our future 🤗
So if you took care of her,who took care of you?
Exactly.
God took care of her and held her up!😉
Except her father, truly it was no one. No one took take care of Sharise the way she needed.
Nobody. That's why she is stuck.
Charese is now at Harvard university ❤️
@Coily Cue Andrea’s brother passed away recently and she’s drinking again per the Facebook post I just saw. My heart hurts for her.
@@msblackberry09 oohh nooo
@@OrganicallyLuxeLife I know. I just pray that she gets clean once and for all. She's been through so much and I know she's broken.
Wowwww
Im not sure... I think this is just lack of awareness for what to do.. Any and all addictions are an escape from self development.. So why cant she get addicted to being healthy..
Leaving family to fend for themselves if you're a child is the best act of Self love
This is a perfect example of someone who wants to heal. Shay Johnson did not come with an open mind.
no fr shay was so prideful
Disrespectful as HELL and I really don't like her after that 💯 I see exactly what Scrap was talking about on the L&HH reunion.
She came for more TV time.
@ChocolateMe91 ! I disagree when you are battle with issues and you really want them to be resolved nothing will trigger you to not make the best of the opportunity that is presented.
Everyone is different shay has anger lots of anger
This was very emotional to watch.. I could literally feel Andrea's inner turmoil as she told the story of her mother being burned and thrown out the window (bless her sweet soul)!! I would really like to know how she's doing in 2020....
Me too. The system has failed us as children of abuse there has got to be a better way to help .
Little sister look young and her mannerism are very childlike
She hasn't grown up. I hope she's better now.
It’s called “arrested psychological development”.
Being 'stuck' in an emotional level of development. Depending on the timing of trauma (childhood, adolescent or teen) determines the symptoms of Arrested Psychological Development.
So you are absolutely accurate in your observation!
@@nadirahcroom1938 Someone in the comments (decided to be a Facebook detective) said Charese was accepted to Havard University! However, the other sister has since relapsed after her brother passed away.
I pray Sharese finds the strength she needs to move forward and release her sister... so many times people focus on the younger party or the party that acts out and the one that "appears" to hold it together is left out to dry. She needs love and prayer too. Her children dont deserve a "portion" or broken piece of her bc she is giving the best of her to her sister.
That lady was appalled when that rock hit her leg 🤣. Iyanla probably will say, you bruised yourself. *message*
I grew up with Chareese. My heart has always gone out for the family because they were always withdraw. She has always been a sweetheart.
Having a loving mother and father in my life was a great blessing, but how do you get counciling for a love you never had and crave till the day you die. I cant imagine the pain these sisters have endured. I pray God finds a way to bring the love they so deserve and heal their broken hearts.
I do not know whether its correct but according to a person who is very very close to me told me,
she could forget about her aboundenment through her children.
May be it will work ..........
Finally someone gets it. EXACTLY
You learn how to love and re-parent yourself 💖
A counselor will help them learn to love themselves more profoundly then their parents failures. Self love is transformative and freeing from the mistakes that others have made
This comment touched my very soul 🥺😢made me weep and call on the name of Jesus. 🙏🏾🙌🏾
This is my girlfriend's life. She has this exact dynamic with her sister.
It's heart-wrenching to see how sad Andrea is. You can tell she's really broken. I pray she heal and find wholeness. Parents must always remember their sins are visited upon their children.
OWN can we get some "where are they now" episodes please? Don't let Iyanla retire before you tape those please.
Pleaseeeee!
Those sisters love each other. I felt that 😭😭😭
You can see she is scared to be by herself. She also needs therapy. Which I'm sure she gonna get when she go
She was so scared. 💕... You can see that little girl inside of her.. I pray she found healing
I feel for Andrea. I understand why her sister wants to protect and keep her close for the rest of her life.
This show has helped me heal and communicate with my family about the abuser in the family however they didn’t receive it well but it’s there and I’m free 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Well done !!! This show has helped a lot of us
You are free, be at peace. Show is helping my do self therapy as well
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They are both beautiful sisters. I hope she gets well.
So sad to know that there are people walking around with this much pain. So heartbreaking. I hope & pray these ladies are doing well today.
Beautiful sisters. Both respectful no drama.
I can tell they love each other so much.
The older sister has a beautiful personality .
Why do some ppl have children? They just create a cycle of pain, hurt and heartache
This one hits home , all the way thru my house....wish I had this support so I can get better.....damn near very same story....if ur reading this please pray for me 🙏🏾
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Sending Love and hugs to you
You are the redeemed of the Lord, I plead the blood of Jesus over your life in Jesus name amen
Praying for you!🥰
I hope you are doing well❤
The oldest sister has such a pure and beautiful spirit about her. You can tell that she is afraid yet she is truly ready to LIVE. Praying for her that Jesus gives her a peace about her baby sister and that she is able to move in the right direction.
Iyanla is AMAZING. I've been following her since the 1990s. In doing so my life has been so much better listening to her teaching & guidance. I trust her words and live everything about her. Iyanla you fixed my life and I have never met you. I saw you in person in Raleigh in 1996. That changed my life. I started living different acting different and caring about me more. Iyanla words helped me run my salon better. This Lady is a God sent. I thank you Iyanla for being the person that you are.❤❤❤😇❤❤😇❤❤❤😇
@Bishop Oyedepo 🤣🤣🤣🤣 copy and paste huh,
This was a really powerful episode.
So powerful
Incredibly powerful.
Iyanla by me watching these episodes you are fixing my life. My mum used to drink a lot,to forget her pain. She wasn't a bad mum. We ate,had a roof over our heads and were clean and went to school BUT, mum used to drink a lot.
Who love an update, on these two beautiful ladies.
@Marquisha Jerry Aw no. 😩
My heart goes out to them, cause they really seem to be nice people. Hope they're safe, healthy and happy.
I need a follow up episode. The end made me emotional she was terrified to go to LA. But her coming back to workin in her sisters salon again and probably still living with her makes me think not much has changed.
Sara K. I definitely want to see a follow up of this episode, as well.
Did anyone catch their last names and/or the name of the salon❓❓ I'd really like an update too‼️
@@blessedmslady7341 Hey! Charese's last name is Howard. The salon is Amazing Kinkz Natural Hair Shop in Detroit, Michigan.
@@atiyaz Thank you 👍 I'd like to know if she MADE IT ❣️ So I'm gonna turn into B M L- Private Investigator.
Anybody got an update?
I think other therapists need to learnt from iyanla she’s the best
I had two siblings i had to be the mom my mom had a nervous breakdown and was beaten by a boyfriend. I never allowed it to bother me. Thus my faith in Christ help me. My sister's are deceased for other reason although my middle sister she never seemed to be bothered with our pain of life situations. Although she tried to commit suicide. I had thoughts of it when i went on the darkside of life. I'm grateful to say I've succeeded with Degrees and now taking care of my mom. My story!!!!!!!!
Let me say this with as much kindness as possible. It must have bothered you if you tried to commit suicide.
Keep Going👑
Kudos to you. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Wooowwwwww!!! This opens up my eyes to a lot and explains what codependency looks like!! Woowwww!! Can we get an update?
@Bishop Oyedepo Mmmm so in order for your prayer to be successful she has to donate to foundation lol , God is on her side , He will protect her, she doesn't need to donate for God to fight for her
@Bishop Oyedepo you are the devil
What is discerning to me is when children have mothers and fathers that actually take care and ❤ them but they don't appreciate it. Then there is this story.. 🤷♀️Go figure.
So very true
Yes preach
It’s always going to be a struggle as a child and as a parent. The children haven’t gone through anything
I try to explain this to my own children, some parents are selfish, torture their own even kill but exposure is real! God bless these ladies
Yep I got cousins like that. 3 kids 2 of them act like they was raised by wolves. Meanwhile my aunt and uncle was the most amazing arents.
Classic parentification right here. I went through it. 2020 has given me the gift of being freed from it.
When Ms. Iyanla says “hold on one second” lol u know she not taking a break hahaha.
Omg I cry when she said I'm afraid without her , how much she cry her. Sister I don't believe she would love her own kids this way wow what a good human heart she got, I just need sister like this
Iyanla makes me tear up every time
@Bishop Oyedepo im not even from Nigeria fam. Plus so you just can't pray for me without asking me to pay? Oh i see, Prayer isn't for free these days. Thanks tho will pray about the spiritual attack, i have access to God too and he listens to all not only bishops
I love your name Chimwemwe💜my sisters name
@@yourfavouritegirl90 awww thanks. It means joy
I love Iyanla's wisdom and strength. She wasn't born with it. She's learned it from life! Now she works to help others learn. In my opinion, she's a living saint!!
That's your get high right there!! I felt that. Been a caregiver since childhood... Dropped my bag of rocks recently...
And me you never picked them up
33:57 the way all the sisters looked at each other so proudly and loving even though so many issues are being discussed you can tell they love each other passed the moon and back
It made me cry when they both sat down on the couch and she said “I don’t know what I would do without you”. So sad.
So glad she accepted the help and is clean and sober.Time for them both to find their own happiness .
Man she ain't gotta throw that rock on her😭😭
It hurt seeing that
That symbolized the heavy loads she's been carrying,she needed to feel it to realize it however I get your point.
@Bishop Oyedepo shameless scammer
Did you see the episode with the man with 32+ kids holding all those baby dolls?!
😆 Ms. Iyanla wasn’t playing that day. She kept piling up them baby dolls in that man’s lap and arms!
This was so real to me because I saw myself in the sister that is taking care of the other
Praise the Lord there are still good people who wants to help these heart broken sisters.. God bless you ALL...
This poor child. I feel so bad my heart broke when she said she was scared. Like a child. It is scary but if is so worth it!!! Be strong be brave.
When that woman said, ‘I know you can do it.’ That was big! That is so important to tell an addict.
I’m in tears, some traumas are so deep... how do you overcome something that you’re afraid to confront? I pray they all found the much needed peace ☹️
“What are you addicted to?”... I felt that.
I am an ex addict an I'm praying for sis but unfortunately I don't quite think she's surrender yet! It's a process as long as she keeps coming back something will eventually click! Prayers for the still suffering addict and alcoholic 🙏🏽
"You don't know the YOU that you are becoming. You don't know her yet, but I think that she is going to be more than enough to hold you up" .. Wow
These sisters are lovely and caring for one another and they deserve all the hapiness in the world.
Throw helplessness in there! Lmao. I can honestly say. I LOVE Iyanla ❤️
"All big girls have purses" I felt that lol...until I had kids and the purse became the baby bag lol