I need help finding my babies were taken away because we had no electricity and protesting they were both adopted they said. Alexander is 20 now and Abbygail is 12.. What can I do as a mom to know if there safe and alive. Rotbake TH-cam channel we don't lie please help
It is completely unacceptable that some adoptive parents return their child like a defective toy when it does not work out how they planned. Once you adopt, that decision is absolutely final. That is now YOUR child!
I understand this but also disagree to a certain extent. Trauma can come out years later, and depending on the situation I believe it’s subject to change. For example: If there’s danger involved to other children in the home. If the child isn’t thriving and would do better somewhere else.
Or when the child grows up as an adult. And the parents just don’t want anything else to do with their adult child after 18. Not like even want to continue any type of adult relationship. Has a phone, has a car. But can’t text or call. You have to be the only one who initiates any contact. Like it really hurts.
Excellent content. I was adopted at the age of 3.5. I had A LOT of issues but even children thar are adopted at birth means trauma for the child. The child has heard a different voice in the womb. Studies show that even infants can be psychologically scarred. They will also grow up, in a closed adoption, with wondering why they were given up. Not enough of this content is out there.
I appreciate how you touched on second hand adoption. There is a page I follow that does just that. It's always tugged on my heart strings to hear their stories and most of them wind up saying either the kids didn't attach or haven't settled in with their other kids in the home. I can understand slightly that with international adoptions and language barriers, you may not get a good understanding of what would be best suited for a child (especially from an orphanage) but I would expect American social workers and agencies to know their kids well enough to know how the kids in care would be best suited and in what environment. These parents giving up their adopted kids vary from situation to situation but there is a slight pattern that I'm seeing. It's sad across the board. What do you think about the adopting in age order? Apparently that's a huge thing
Hi!! I think that if it's on your heart to be a safe family for kids in foster are, you should definitely go for it. There are plenty of kids waiting for forever families.
I wish you represented me. The AP mom got upset because I had second choices and showed her true colors. I will still consider her but I want to consider another person
I agree that adoption should have some openess if it's safe to do so. I feel that a child deserves to know their story. Where they came from. I also believe that we should take the child's lead. Don't push, don't rush and don't overwhelm. I also 100% agree that adoption comes from a loss. I'm currently as they call it "paper pregnant". My son has been with us since birth. The closer we get I think about how it's sad that his birth parents couldn't parent him. I know they love him but their drug abuse and mental health issues were too big to overcome. Our love for him is never ending and he will know that his birth parents love is also never ending.
My phone works again I don't know what happened to the live my phone said I cannot receive no more live stream or something but I think I can because but I don't know what happened last time
This may be a weird question but the part about rehoming kids made me think of it, do the parents get to live with the kid(s) before finalizing the adoption or if you call and say you're interested, that immediately starts the process of adopting? I just couldn't imagine going through the entire process, knowing the kid's problems and seeing how they work in your family ... and then giving up on them. Either way I think rehoming flat out wrong. But I was just cruious if only the foster to adopt parents get to live with the kids and see how they fit in with their family before a possible adoption?
Thanks for watching! What was your biggest takeaway from the video?
I need help finding my babies were taken away because we had no electricity and protesting they were both adopted they said. Alexander is 20 now and Abbygail is 12.. What can I do as a mom to know if there safe and alive. Rotbake TH-cam channel we don't lie please help
It is completely unacceptable that some adoptive parents return their child like a defective toy when it does not work out how they planned. Once you adopt, that decision is absolutely final. That is now YOUR child!
I understand this but also disagree to a certain extent. Trauma can come out years later, and depending on the situation I believe it’s subject to change. For example: If there’s danger involved to other children in the home. If the child isn’t thriving and would do better somewhere else.
Or when the child grows up as an adult. And the parents just don’t want anything else to do with their adult child after 18. Not like even want to continue any type of adult relationship. Has a phone, has a car. But can’t text or call. You have to be the only one who initiates any contact. Like it really hurts.
You really hit on all the important points especially the point that adoptive children come with their own history which needs to be respected.
I’m thankful you touched on the fact that adoption isn’t natural. It’s doing the best we can with a bad and very sad situation.
Excellent content. I was adopted at the age of 3.5. I had A LOT of issues but even children thar are adopted at birth means trauma for the child. The child has heard a different voice in the womb. Studies show that even infants can be psychologically scarred. They will also grow up, in a closed adoption, with wondering why they were given up. Not enough of this content is out there.
Thank you so much for this video and this channel as a whole! So informative and clearly from a credible source on this topic.
I appreciate how you touched on second hand adoption. There is a page I follow that does just that. It's always tugged on my heart strings to hear their stories and most of them wind up saying either the kids didn't attach or haven't settled in with their other kids in the home. I can understand slightly that with international adoptions and language barriers, you may not get a good understanding of what would be best suited for a child (especially from an orphanage) but I would expect American social workers and agencies to know their kids well enough to know how the kids in care would be best suited and in what environment. These parents giving up their adopted kids vary from situation to situation but there is a slight pattern that I'm seeing. It's sad across the board. What do you think about the adopting in age order? Apparently that's a huge thing
Great thoughts! I think adopting in age order is a personal choice.
Thanks for the info! What are your thoughts on adopting from foster care?
Hi!! I think that if it's on your heart to be a safe family for kids in foster are, you should definitely go for it. There are plenty of kids waiting for forever families.
I wish you represented me. The AP mom got upset because I had second choices and showed her true colors. I will still consider her but I want to consider another person
I agree that adoption should have some openess if it's safe to do so. I feel that a child deserves to know their story. Where they came from. I also believe that we should take the child's lead. Don't push, don't rush and don't overwhelm. I also 100% agree that adoption comes from a loss. I'm currently as they call it "paper pregnant". My son has been with us since birth. The closer we get I think about how it's sad that his birth parents couldn't parent him. I know they love him but their drug abuse and mental health issues were too big to overcome. Our love for him is never ending and he will know that his birth parents love is also never ending.
My phone works again I don't know what happened to the live my phone said I cannot receive no more live stream or something but I think I can because but I don't know what happened last time
I believe that they had the child for 3 years and then rehomed him! Adopted at 2 and he left the house at 5. So sad 😭
so so sad
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This may be a weird question but the part about rehoming kids made me think of it, do the parents get to live with the kid(s) before finalizing the adoption or if you call and say you're interested, that immediately starts the process of adopting? I just couldn't imagine going through the entire process, knowing the kid's problems and seeing how they work in your family ... and then giving up on them. Either way I think rehoming flat out wrong. But I was just cruious if only the foster to adopt parents get to live with the kids and see how they fit in with their family before a possible adoption?
Do you have videos on an older single woman fostering and or adopting?
Hello! you can check out my other videos about foster care :)