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Very valuable content! People don't realise how little they know until they travel and meet a different culture. I hope people planning to adopt take something from this.
I pause this 5 seconds in to say boldly that I am adopting out of my race. I'm African American I am willing to adopt an Asian toddler. Hands down been something I've wanted to do since I found out that I probably won't be able to have kids of my own in the future.
Thanks for this information. My husband and I want to adopt from waiting child foster care but we are reluctant to adopt outside our race because of the issues that you’re discussing. Our neighbor is not multicultural. We have some multicultural friends/family but they are not close/local. Our families have relatives from Kenya, Mexico, & Guatemala, so familial acceptance is not a big concern. Locally, it’s very very white though. Having distant connections doesn’t really help build culture or identity though. I don’t want to do a child a disservice bringing them into a community where they’ll feel uncomfortable :(
Fine with it as long as the adoptive parents put efforts into connecting their kid(s) to their culture. I don't agree with bringing the child to rural environments where the child is the only person of color. Seems selfish to do that to a child imo.
I live in rural area and looking to adapt. I think child of color would be much better off with me in spite of not many people of color around then growing up in foster care. I also want to adapt an older child. If they like me and want to be part of my family, race should not matter. Just a thought
Thank you so much for these questions. My husband and I are in an interracial relationship and we definitely want to consider adoption. I want to be a responsible parent and definitely make sure any child that becomes a part of my family has the best chance to become a wonderful, well rounded adult.
I loved this video, my husband and I have been talking about adoption for awhile and we’ve been trying to figure out what should be our boundaries on what race our child is. We both don’t care at all, I’m Asian and white, he’s white but our community is suburb of Dallas so it is mostly white. So this was a good thought about checking out the school systems around me to see what the diversity is. I grew up in Los Angeles so I never even thought about a school being all one race
Hey, I’m 19 and have wanted to foster children since I was very young. What are some steps teenagers and young adults can take to prepare for a fostering lifestyle, or future adoption?
Get an education for a well paying career. Children cost a lot of time and money. You have to feed and clothe them and keep them safe from the get go. You have to invest your time with them for their wellbeing.
Thanks for this video! My husband and I are dual military and have traveled and lived around the world. We are looking forward to international adoption ❤️🙏
@@Lucrecebundy Hello! Yes, we put an application in to Holt international and were told that we were approved but that we would be better off waiting until after we moved this upcoming summer. We are sad to wait but will do whatever we need to.
I really enjoyed this video and it covers very important topics about transracial adoption. We did a fantastic job explaining what needs to be done for successful transracial adoption. Thank you.
Do you have any suggestions for those of us who don’t know the race or ethnicity of the child in our care? We know she isn’t white but beyond that, we don’t know much. She is very ambiguous looking. We are hoping to adopt her (she’s been with us in foster care for more than a year). Thanks!
I would love to adopt one day out of my race ❤️I have Ben to Ireland, France, Scotland, Texas, Mexico, Florida, Kentucky, Pennsylvania, long Island, Philadelphia, Washington DC, New York and others
I wanna adopt a girl, but I really think about my family when It comes to adopting a black kid. They will have the frustration that I didn't give them a biological grandaughter/niece/cousin. I think they would struggle first accepting I decided not to give birth and bring to the family a girl totally different from us. I'm not concerned about only their feelings, but how they would treat my baby and wether my kid would feel rejected , unwanted ir incomplete for the lack of the support from my family. It's so delicate subject. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
My wife and I are white, but love the idea of a multi-cultural family. Is that just selfish of us? Would we be doing our potential adopted children a disservice?
@@mercygraceful4924 the answer seems self evident. But assume you ask in good faith, I would say there are two answers. First, I would say that things are more interesting when there is variety. Homogenous overcast skies are boring and depressing, but a blue sky, punctuated with clouds that move and change are inspired. The second answer is that with diversity comes strength. The key to evolution is a series of changes. If you don’t tweak the formula then you will die out. So multi culture societies are the most creative and adaptable. They are both the most interesting and the most practical.
I'm single and I love different cultures. Born in England. Lived in the. Caribbean for a few years. Travelled to the USA, France, Germany, Slovenia, Spain, Italy, Andorra, Turkey, Cyprus Singapore, Philipines, Tunisia. Attend a multicultural church with Africans, Caribbean, Mauritians, Eastern European ( Latvia, Romania, Serbia, Moldova) So fostering a child of another race.....yes I'd be comfortable. ....I appreciate all cultures
I’ve been to tanzania . I’m thinking about adopting a kid from here . I’ve already assimilated the the culture here . I think it would be really great to completely raise the child bicultural.
I disagree. Okay I wasn't adopted as a baby and I knew my mother and I was living with her until I was 5. I am Congolese but grew up in Switzerland. I was the only black girl in my whole city. From kindergarten to high school I never met or saw a black person. And that never was an issue. I actually get along better with white people than I do with black. I never felt the need to learn more about my 'culture'. I am Swiss. PERIOD. Stop generalizing or speak up for all adoptees, about this kind of issues. Especially if you are not adopted. Each individual has a different story and experience.
Thanks for sharing your story. You are free to disagree. And I also understand that not all adoptees feel the same way. What I stated in the video is based on my conversations with adoptees in my life and from stories of other adoptees that I have listened to.
"From kindergarten to high school I never met or saw a black person. And that never was an issue." "I actually get along better with white people than I do with black." You typed these sentences back to back. The fact that you don't see how the first sentence might be the REASON for the second sentence is....shocking. Signed, black adoptive parent of a non-black child
If you parents had allowed you to keep your Congolese heritage, you could be both Congolese and Swiss. But one was stripped from you. I'm sorry you don't feel comfortable around black people. That is probably a product of you never knowing any. It's nice that you are Swiss but it's sad that you are no longer Congolese. I'm sorry you were not taught to be multicultural.
Agreed. People don't have to travel to the Congo or to Asia to be "culturally intelligent". My goodness, all the cultures that I was immersed in while living in NYC, and other areas in the USA. . .. One issue that I have noticed with AA parent(s) adopting white children (which is a newer but increasingly common phenomenon) is that if the child is on a track to pursue a professional career, a white child should be made to speak Standard English. . The best AA professionals can speak non-Standard English w/o penalty, but a white young person would be quite handicapped in the professional world if speaking non-Standard AA English and will not be given a pass on this. . People won't know the race of his/her parents and people will not just understand. (Plus, parents will have to learn to make potato salad with only salt, no other spices, and maybe some raisins! - Just kiddiing!).
Thanks for watching! What are your thoughts about transracial adoption?
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This was a wonderful conversation. Very insightful!
Very valuable content! People don't realise how little they know until they travel and meet a different culture. I hope people planning to adopt take something from this.
I pause this 5 seconds in to say boldly that I am adopting out of my race. I'm African American I am willing to adopt an Asian toddler. Hands down been something I've wanted to do since I found out that I probably won't be able to have kids of my own in the future.
Thanks for this information. My husband and I want to adopt from waiting child foster care but we are reluctant to adopt outside our race because of the issues that you’re discussing.
Our neighbor is not multicultural.
We have some multicultural friends/family but they are not close/local. Our families have relatives from Kenya, Mexico, & Guatemala, so familial acceptance is not a big concern.
Locally, it’s very very white though. Having distant connections doesn’t really help build culture or identity though.
I don’t want to do a child a disservice bringing them into a community where they’ll feel uncomfortable :(
You deserve more subscribers!
Important topic that needs to be discussed! Thank you for share you thoughts!
Thanks for tackling the tough topics with honesty and frankness!
Thanks! yes we must talk about these issues!
Fine with it as long as the adoptive parents put efforts into connecting their kid(s) to their culture. I don't agree with bringing the child to rural environments where the child is the only person of color. Seems selfish to do that to a child imo.
I live in rural area and looking to adapt. I think child of color would be much better off with me in spite of not many people of color around then growing up in foster care. I also want to adapt an older child. If they like me and want to be part of my family, race should not matter. Just a thought
Thank you so much for these questions. My husband and I are in an interracial relationship and we definitely want to consider adoption. I want to be a responsible parent and definitely make sure any child that becomes a part of my family has the best chance to become a wonderful, well rounded adult.
What do I do if I have a learning disability and I can’t remember how to speak a different language?
I am saving this video to share with people when having this conversation!! I've never heard these things explained so clearly. Thank you!!
Thanks for sharing!!
I loved this video, my husband and I have been talking about adoption for awhile and we’ve been trying to figure out what should be our boundaries on what race our child is. We both don’t care at all, I’m Asian and white, he’s white but our community is suburb of Dallas so it is mostly white. So this was a good thought about checking out the school systems around me to see what the diversity is. I grew up in Los Angeles so I never even thought about a school being all one race
Hey, I’m 19 and have wanted to foster children since I was very young. What are some steps teenagers and young adults can take to prepare for a fostering lifestyle, or future adoption?
Get an education for a well paying career. Children cost a lot of time and money. You have to feed and clothe them and keep them safe from the get go. You have to invest your time with them for their wellbeing.
Thanks for this video! My husband and I are dual military and have traveled and lived around the world. We are looking forward to international adoption ❤️🙏
@Karlamurphy that's wonderful! Have you started the adoption process yet?
@@Lucrecebundy Hello! Yes, we put an application in to Holt international and were told that we were approved but that we would be better off waiting until after we moved this upcoming summer. We are sad to wait but will do whatever we need to.
Thank you for treating this subject in the sensitive manner that you have.
I really enjoyed this video and it covers very important topics about transracial adoption. We did a fantastic job explaining what needs to be done for successful transracial adoption. Thank you.
Love your videos Lucrece! Here is greetings from an Armenian woman. 💕🌸🌻
Wow! This video is incredibly helpful - some great info here.
Went to school with at least 50 cultures means 50 countries. 😂
Thank you! This was very helpful information.
Glad it was helpful!
Do you have any suggestions for those of us who don’t know the race or ethnicity of the child in our care? We know she isn’t white but beyond that, we don’t know much. She is very ambiguous looking. We are hoping to adopt her (she’s been with us in foster care for more than a year). Thanks!
DNA tests? Take a couple to cross reference
I would love to adopt one day out of my race ❤️I have Ben to Ireland, France, Scotland, Texas, Mexico, Florida, Kentucky, Pennsylvania, long Island, Philadelphia, Washington DC, New York and others
I wanna adopt a girl, but I really think about my family when It comes to adopting a black kid. They will have the frustration that I didn't give them a biological grandaughter/niece/cousin. I think they would struggle first accepting I decided not to give birth and bring to the family a girl totally different from us. I'm not concerned about only their feelings, but how they would treat my baby and wether my kid would feel rejected , unwanted ir incomplete for the lack of the support from my family. It's so delicate subject. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
If you family is racist, please don't
My wife and I are white, but love the idea of a multi-cultural family. Is that just selfish of us? Would we be doing our potential adopted children a disservice?
Why do you want a multicultural society.
@@mercygraceful4924 the answer seems self evident. But assume you ask in good faith, I would say there are two answers. First, I would say that things are more interesting when there is variety. Homogenous overcast skies are boring and depressing, but a blue sky, punctuated with clouds that move and change are inspired.
The second answer is that with diversity comes strength. The key to evolution is a series of changes. If you don’t tweak the formula then you will die out.
So multi culture societies are the most creative and adaptable. They are both the most interesting and the most practical.
I'm single and I love different cultures. Born in England. Lived in the. Caribbean for a few years. Travelled to the USA, France, Germany, Slovenia, Spain, Italy, Andorra, Turkey, Cyprus Singapore, Philipines, Tunisia. Attend a multicultural church with Africans, Caribbean, Mauritians, Eastern European ( Latvia, Romania, Serbia, Moldova) So fostering a child of another race.....yes I'd be comfortable. ....I appreciate all cultures
Thank you! Very helpful and helped me to understand more about this topic!
I’ve been to tanzania . I’m thinking about adopting a kid from here . I’ve already assimilated the the culture here . I think it would be really great to completely raise the child bicultural.
I am so excited to watch 💖💖🤩🤩😊😊😆😆❤️❤️
Growing up, my neighborhood was not multicultural. It was a lily white as you can get.
I don't know what happened to my live stream My phone just disappeared but yeah I'll do that what you said
Its too about age issues... Specified ages only,,, specified genders too
Ecuador and Mexico
So race is not a factor for being chosen as a family, I thought that my family being mixed may have been a problem. Glad to hear that is not the case.
I disagree. Okay I wasn't adopted as a baby and I knew my mother and I was living with her until I was 5. I am Congolese but grew up in Switzerland. I was the only black girl in my whole city. From kindergarten to high school I never met or saw a black person. And that never was an issue. I actually get along better with white people than I do with black. I never felt the need to learn more about my 'culture'. I am Swiss. PERIOD. Stop generalizing or speak up for all adoptees, about this kind of issues. Especially if you are not adopted. Each individual has a different story and experience.
Thanks for sharing your story. You are free to disagree. And I also understand that not all adoptees feel the same way. What I stated in the video is based on my conversations with adoptees in my life and from stories of other adoptees that I have listened to.
That's so interesting. Thanks for sharing this.
"From kindergarten to high school I never met or saw a black person. And that never was an issue."
"I actually get along better with white people than I do with black."
You typed these sentences back to back. The fact that you don't see how the first sentence might be the REASON for the second sentence is....shocking.
Signed, black adoptive parent of a non-black child
If you parents had allowed you to keep your Congolese heritage, you could be both Congolese and Swiss. But one was stripped from you. I'm sorry you don't feel comfortable around black people. That is probably a product of you never knowing any. It's nice that you are Swiss but it's sad that you are no longer Congolese. I'm sorry you were not taught to be multicultural.
What is best for the child? Getting adopted is best for the child.
As long as we make race a big issue, race will be a issue.
THANK you
Agreed. People don't have to travel to the Congo or to Asia to be "culturally intelligent". My goodness, all the cultures that I was immersed in while living in NYC, and other areas in the USA. . .. One issue that I have noticed with AA parent(s) adopting white children (which is a newer but increasingly common phenomenon) is that if the child is on a track to pursue a professional career, a white child should be made to speak Standard English. . The best AA professionals can speak non-Standard English w/o penalty, but a white young person would be quite handicapped in the professional world if speaking non-Standard AA English and will not be given a pass on this. . People won't know the race of his/her parents and people will not just understand. (Plus, parents will have to learn to make potato salad with only salt, no other spices, and maybe some raisins! - Just kiddiing!).