It's true, I know a couple that the marriage broke up because of husband sending money home and telling his wife he doesn't have money. He leaves his wife paying all the bills in the US by herself. The wife got tired and divorced him. Now he has to pay his bills by himself. Let me see how much will remain for him to send home after paying his bills.
Unfortunately, men fault more in this area. I'm not saying that men ain't financially wise or conscious. There is a saying which goes thus. Pay yourself first. As you're thinking about your immediate family... Wife & children, as a man working to sustain the home, you also need to look after your personal self which is yourself & wife for the future. I mean, be responsible towards your children or do your obligations as a father and husband. This same logic should be applied towards extending helping hands to family/ies or been responsible towards them. When the chips are down, very few or none will show up. Yoruba will say "ebi o see duro de beni won se sa fun" meaning you can't run away from or avoid your family neither can you depend on them" Just be sensible. After all, we are all human.
If you really appreciate this guy please gather here and be blessed 🙌.my dear the main thing people don't know you cannot solve every body problem .Thanks and remain blessed
@@peteradoga9096 The assumption is, people abroad never received any help? Truth is, some people in Nigeria make more genuine money than people abroad. The attitude that everybody back home is a beggar is wrong. Life must be managed and proper coordination is key
Why do people in Africa automatically think that we are rich just because we live in America. We have poor people here as well. It’s up to that individual to decide if he or she is going to do something to make their lives better and to be able to bless others. Some people try to take advantage of you and wait on you to provide for them instead of making their own money moves.
Everyone is selfish. Even those that give, do so for reasons of showing that they can---that feeling of importance. So, being selfish is not bad at all, in fact it is what it is, like the head on everyone's shoulder---cut off selfishness and die. So, be more selfish even in your giving, remembering that those whom you are giving are receiving selfishly. Don't be on the foolish side of the relationship.
*Brother PREACH!!!! Even when I was laid off years ago, all they cared about was how much I could send them. The words "I just lost my job" went in through one ear and came out through the other. Protect yourselves, Brothers and Sisters!*
I live in Ukraine and if I tell you how much I've sent to friends, you'll pity me. My wife(A white lady) told me "You can't be a sun for everyone" After that, I stopped! Few months later I got my first car ever!
I stop sending money to my sister when she told me “all your mate abroad has at least two houses” 6 months later she asked me for money I told her I’m building my first house. I learned how to say ‘I don’t have’ believe me they will survive. Only send money when you have money or only for emergencies.
Yes, or if they have real projects and you are sure of their honesty about it. I don't mind helping someone going to school or opening a business there if I can, I prefer this 100 times than paying for someone's life basic stuff like eating, paying the bills which we should all learn to do by ourselves! My god
@@muzikhumalo9886 that's nothing I was sending every 2weeks 250£ and pay for my brother he was in prison £3000 for solicitors, did he checked on me when I was in hospital for 8 months , nothing not even how are you doing. now what I can say to them fk to them.
That person is an in-great I sent $100 dollars and The thank you I received encouraged me a lot. It is good you stop sending money. They think people leaving in America are sweeping money on the streets. 100 dollars is #38,000 and that person did not thank you?? That person got what he or she deserved from you.
Preach it brother!!! I'm 🇯🇲, and I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. I'm estranged from majority of my relatives because of this situation. Take care of yourself first, because not even your own children that you sacrifice for will be there for you sometimes.
I have gone to Europe and back to Nija I can never ask for money from a relative abroad, because I know how difficult it is to get money there. I have always told people the truth, no money abroad.
Boss, I wish I could give you 1million likes. Before I moved to the uk in the 90s I never once asked my brother who already lived in the uk a dime. I just believed it was not his responsibility to take care of me. I decided to take up a labourers job just to get by.
I was making more money when I was in Nigeria than now in abroad. When I say it to people here, they doubt me, but only me know the truth. I left my well paying job in Nigeria for abroad out of ignorance.
I am watching this in September 2023 in Canada on the eve of my 60th birthday. This message is so true for me. I spent 6 years sending money home to family and friends and got nothing, NO THING, in return. Not even a handwritten letter. I've eventually stopped all that and focused on myself. If I can't do that then, I'd be a fool at sixty. God forbid. Thank brother for the message. God bless you and increase your wisdom.
Ifeyinwa Ruth Nnajiofor my sister that’s great truth even last week my best did it to me. I send him 200$ to him the could not even call me to say thank. The only thing I saw from him was this ‘’ thanks bro’’
U keep waiting and wondering if they receive the money yet. Then u get a message from Western Union that money been picked up, but you still waiting for a thank you that never came until next time again a message comes from WhatsApp again, More begging.😆
Most african diaspora in western countries can truly relate and nod to what you said bro. I am one of those who stress out to dead to support family back home. When I got seriously ill, I never got even a single encouraging words from my older brother to whom I was sending money every month for 4 years. Thank you for this video.
I'm African American living in the United States and you speaking real truth. I got tired of always being the giver to my friends so now I'm my own best friend. Seven months ago I broke my ankle and couldn't walk or cook for myself for four months and not one person came to help or inquire to see how I was doing, for a short moment I was sad but learned I am the only one who I can depend on and that's alright with me. When Love for others comes before Self Love your expections will always be shattered. Great video. 👏🏾✌🏾💙
He speaks the whole truth and nothing but the truth. The people you keep sending money to wouldn't bat an eye when you are in dire straits. The reality of their uncaring attitude can hit really hard.
🤣🤣Are you telling me? Ask me what happened when I got deported, thank God I had a small house. So I took all my problems in my house and shut the door and cry
@@hadidmusa2837 Lol, those are just assumptions made by people. Not everyone who goes abroad likes showing off. And also if they went abroad for studies, where would they get money for the expensive cars and homes? And if one did buy an expensive home, they'd have somewhere to land, they would not need to trouble people about accomodation. But your advice is sound; one needs to think of themselves 1st.
Very intelligently delivered. Message sent! I approve this message. You cannot give what you don’t have and you cannot take care of someone else when you are sick or dead!
I’m saving this video so I can replay it anytime my hubby wants to send money home to pay someone else’s kids’ school fees. Meanwhile, we are a single income family struggling with bills here and there. Mtchew
The sad thing is that you have to reach out to them to see if they received the money, so ungrateful don’t have the decency to call or text to say thank you. I like this is my job or hobby
I asked one if she got the #50,000 that I send to her, cos I sked her to give #30,000 to my mum and take #20,000 . Then I called her to kno if she gat it and she said to me , I have sent it as you said, meaning that I sopporse to give her 30,000 and give my mum 20,000
@@@ndidionwuzulu1197 you can imagine the level of ingratitude .The most painful part of it they feel you owe them ?The last time I checked no body owes any body anything on Earth .Even our parents what they owe you is the foundation after that they owe you nothing .your survival is between your hard work and God .may God see us tru .Amen
@ peter Adoga, it marvels me at times, I even sent a friend of mine #20,000 which she said she want to add to her business just 2months ago and now she is asking for another help to pay for her daughter 's school fees while she knew very well my mum was not fine as she broke her leg, we're a he do she want me to get it from, they think if you are in America that you plug money from the tree, am not listening to no body
Bro ,trying to help 10 poor,you become the 11th .You should help but do not stress yourself if you do not have the means.These people are crafty ,they will drain you then blame you for not achieving much .Very ungrateful lot
so true! someone reached out to me yesterday to ask for money and they hadn’t reached out to me in a while. Africans back home pls Africans here go through a lot. just don’t come out of the blues and ask them for money. Africans here pls stop giving people Money back home be wise! thanks for sharing this video ma’am.
Truth. I lived in diaspora for 18 years and made permanent enemies. One of them is my very son who will not talk to me or call me mother. I came back over a year ago and we live near each other but never spoken. Why? Because whenever he called out of the blue to ask for huge sums of money and I just did not have it, he got resentful and swore off me. I was so poor while abroad!!! I have forgiven him. But I a, just sharing that the relatives sometimes get really demonic. There are people in diaspora becoming mad to the point of getting into an institution because of relative-related stress from back home. It's so serious the degree of entitlement by relatives is so unreal that people in diaspora at some point go silent and are never heard from. Africans!!! Stop this madness!!!
Do u think they care , even when u send them money they misuse because they think more is coming , it's the same everywhere. Build a house for them ,when u get home there is no place for u to sleep .
Drazen Larry; took me forever to understand the “beep”; I used to think the lines just disconnected and would wait for them to call back. I could not stop laughing when my husband told me that meant I had to call them back😂😂😂how ridiculous
You said the truth bro .I remember when I was in Africa. though I usually say hi to my bro but when he usually send me money I took it like nothing till when he finally brought me here in to the usa .I now see his pain his suffering. I will for ever be grateful to him .I pray we make it together. Thanks bro for ur advice .
Wow!!!!! This holds so much weight coming from an African. I as an African-American married to a West-African man has said this for years to no avail. I watch how my husband and people from his community put so much pressure on themselves and they wonder why they are not progressing 🤦🏾♀️
👍100% they are still going to be the ones to laugh if you got no house but you practically sacrificed it all for them. I only send when is necessary to my mom ooh only. Others can kiss the sun.
My wife is upset over me doing this I don’t blame her I have spent Thousands of dollars over the years and yes not a single thank you in return The next time I hear back from them is when school starts So sad
1. Some of you come home to visit and give the guys at home the impression that abroad is heaven. 2. Even when you give them money, they still laugh at you and say your mates are sending more back home. 3. My advice, only your kids back home are worth the sending.
Edward Banjo; correct; I remember when I visited home when I was in college, a cousin of mine labeled me useless for wasting my time in Europe when there Gambians in Germany who are building mega mansions back home. Most of those were drug dealers and are now mostly in jails in Germany or deported back home. Those fools were doing that to impress other fools back home. Sad.
Even though I have not finished watching this video, I choose to type my message because I just finished scolding my elder brother for giving his phone to his under age son to send me a message asking for money. What a hell! How can he be encouraging the kids to become beggars at their age. When you call to check on them, you hear all kinds of money request, buy me this, send me that. Hmmmm. NO! It is wrong I said to him. Thanks bro for sharing your concern. Happy Sunday.
Justina Olaniyi I had to do the same to my older bro. Dude doesn’t have a job, I’m the one financing him and his only daughter, he even wants to have more kids. I told him that’ll be the end of my sending him money
Justina Olaniyi. Pls don't explode. I know it really hots especially when your sibling wants to turn you into a money making machine. Just take it easy and use your number 6 for them.
I just started my journey in the USA. Just few month's the whole Nigeria start requesting cash from me .. I felt annoyed cos it is like a spell . No one says hi except they need something
Only my mother was the one who use to say that I don't have money, and people should not ask me money, only my mother she never asked me anything. I just send money to her without asking me, and if I ask her if she has any problem she will always say no am fine darling.
The kind of life people back home are living ehnn, they wear nothing but designer, real gold, all expensive stuffs from head to toe. They are more comfortable than us and the major reality is that, they have peace of mind. Nobody is sending them back anywhere. Majority of people in diaspora are not even legal and have no peace of mind. Talk-less of thinking of wearing Prada. The way people work here and the kind of job we do, its crazy, beyond explanation. Who is even talking of savings. And talking about $100 as 5hours of someone’s life. That is if you are working a job of $20 per hour. Majority of people are earning $8, $7 per hour. And sometimes under the table jobs. Its really crazy here. May God bless you for saying this truth. Who sits at home here on public holiday? Work work work. Abeg this video is much needed.
Very true, @ Bookie, they woe an expensive clothes and shoes, one day I peep on Facebook and saw all that I have been sending money to, looking wonderfully nice and me here in my cna uniform day and nite can't even buy nice cloth to church talk more of outing, can't even save little in my account, mehn, we over here gat to think twice, some will even tell you is this little money that you are making noise about, some will say you dnt even call us no more, as if they call you and you did not pick up the call, I mean it is crazy. They want you to do every thing, call, send , care and even bath them, not me. Christmas is now approaching, I will block all even my uncle
This is why I have never fancied living abroad except you have a very good job or profession. If you earn $1k a month in Naija, you can be a big boy: save plenty, build your own house and not die from paying taxes or getting sued over trivial stuffs. In my family we're contented. We don't go begging for money because we all know how extremely difficult it is to live abroad.
They want the latest iPhone even when they don't have a job. Then, u will be sending money home to buy datas and airtime for the phone. That's madness.
Yes Brother, I really bless my family for this, my mom knows that I don't have so she will even advise me not to send them anything, they can handle themselves, LOVE YOU MUM ❤️
The most disgusting is that they eat that money like a dog . Your brother who was a calm man become alcoholic, your father left home is leaving with another woman your mother is seating in church everyday giving everything you send her to the pastor , finally the money you been sending home killed your family was peaceful . Finally you start to think that : they said it . This is blood money ,is evil money, confusion full inside your brain
They take it for granted, that is the problem. We should cut sending money BUT actually do things that can help them get their OWN money, and become independant on their own. I don't believe in sending cash (unless emergency)
it happened to me really bad Sister's brother's and my mother all of them they haven't give me any support after being disabled. this is very sad but God his watching down on me thanks lord Amen.
It’s exactly like continuing to supply money to a drug addict, you’re enabling bad behaviour that isn’t appreciated. Feel bad for these families on both ends :(
I wish my mom had the same mindset she kept sending money to Kenya while her sisters children were being well taken care of sent to the best schools etc while we were struggling in Europe they have even surpassed her in terms of accomplishment
Jessica, you are wise. Sending money home ruined my mum and dad. He is now in his 70s with nothing to show. I don't know why we black believe it is our responsibility to feed our village.
Thank you bro. I have been saddened by the treatment of the people I have supported financially back home. And they were the first to laugh that I have not even build a house at home. Those who asked and I said I did not have money, we have become enemies. Our relatives take us for granted. Ask yourself this, if you were the one in need after you return, would the relatives you supported help you? Likely they would laugh at you for having been abroad and came back with nothing. Took long, now I know.
Its more blessed to give than to receive..However give with wisdom..Giving to those who are helpless and are in need and are in no way your responsibility brings great blessings... However when giving to relatives and friends back home who feel entitled, remember that they see your giving almost like a right..Apply wisdom in doing so..
Chai! This guy just said it all. When on this earth will relatives back home send money to those in DIASPORA? I said to myself yesterday that am not their ATM.Habaaa !!!! Send money send money send money that's all they know. TUFIAKWA!
Blessed to have seen this vlog today. I used to send money to a family member. It’s been almost a year since I stopped. I stopped because when I visited my family this year that very same family didn’t even invite me for dinner despite me asking. I would have even brought the food and all she had to do is prepare and share. I wanted to taste home cooking. Not even a bean was shared. That family hasn’t contacted me since I returned to England. Abroad they are better off than me. Living their dream whilst I sacrifice, sending money aboard. Wow this vlog is an inspirational message to money senders like myself. Thank thank
@@chakubanga1 no i chanted for peace. If i can have a family that understand money don't grow on trees and the love for me is not conditional, I'll be very happy to have them in my life.
After I got the courage to say no, now they have stopped calling me or checking on me.... everyone thinks am stingy now but my mind is at peace and I can breathe now.
✋ too almost died of stress but now that I've learned to say no even to my own parents I am gaining sme weight, can you imagine dad called my husband to ask for money when I was just a week in hospital after csection to my son. Almost broke up with husband because of family begging yet we are a young couple very young children thank God they don't call to check on me again I can breath.
Well said Brother. I'm on this situation ; living in London ; only have box room to live in shared with three others in a small house. Work for 13 days out of every two weeks. Most of my income goes to rent & bills. Rest to send back home. I've nothing to show for all my work after 20 years of working. Just got fought up in that rat race to try to get somewhere in life. Like this video ; thank you for posting. Felt like you was telling my story and many people I know. Time to change!!! Now or never I guess!!! God Bless 🙏🏾
Ghana!!! . I studied in Ghana.. I got friends from other African countries, till today, I see +233, +225, +226, +234, +254 all saying send me money.. in life, we cant satisfy anybody. I do not care no more..
Diana care k.c. Are you really sure that you are living in USA. My reason for asking this question is becuse of your bad writing. Why must you be in the river bank and still suffocate out of thirsty. Can't you invest your leisure in a part time education.
This man is preaching the truth . It gets hard once you are old to work and if you have no savings you are in deep trouble for survival. I sent money to my friend in London like $70 . After receiving the money I was talking to him on phone . The next thing he is like let me break it down . You have to send me more money and this and that . The next thing he did not know what was happening I turned and switched off my phone number. He probably called and called no response I got a new number. I was just annoyed that he was expecting more money from me. No one is giving me any money. Here in the western no one gives money . Once you are broke you have to wait until you secure some money by working and waiting until you get paid. It is also scary.
So it seems like people would rather lie and say “I’m not working” then say “ I cannot give you money, I am supporting myself and my family here.” It’s like you feel that they can reach across the waters and curse your whole life. What is the fear? That you will return home and siblings will not great you or celebrate your return? That aunties, uncles, and cousins will treat your parents bad, not invite them to parties, weddings because of their “selfish” children in the abroad? There has to be some reason. Is community EVERYTHING! My American “ Western” mindset is to be like “ Ok, then I don’t know you!” As long as the people who gave me life are healthy, housed, clothed and fed. That does not mean living in a mansion, feasting with friends all the time, wearing Gucci and Prada either and expensive traditional clothes. Nope. If I’m not living grand and my kids aren’t why should anyone else with my money.
The mostly pain is when theirs received the money no call to say yes we received or saying thanks nothing 😭😭 they is no one day their call to check on you never just their call when want a help from you and if you refuse their talk bad on you😭
I love this brother and I’m an African American who just got out of a relationship with a Nigerian man who was stressing me out because his family was stressing him out
This is amazing, pure truth. Don't be fooled. 80% of those claiming coming close today would run away when you have nothing to offer again. Help, but don't be used by men. Invest to the future of your wife & children. Tomorrow when you are in need, they would be the only left for you. Same people you helped, instead of helping you would rather mock you when you are down..
The problem of needy relatives and friends affect even those holding jobs and living in Africa. You cannot solve everybody's problems. If you are abroad and can afford buy a rental property for your parents so that they can survive on the proceeds. Buy ready houses as opposed to building unless you are very sure of who will handle the project for you. Save something for your retirement, when you can no longer work the long hours. If you are planning to come back home ensure you have a constant source of income. Life is tough these sides and the people you used to assist will avoid you when you have nothing. To all those working hard in foreign countries to help at home we love and appreciate you but please take care of yourselves first. We need you back alive, not in a casket.
My brother you have said it all. One day we shall get old. So if we don't make plans for old age, we would have ourselves to blame. it's not too late to start putting something together no matter how small!!!! One love!! Thanks for sharing sis B😍
I am a mother myself, I left my kids when they were so young, I thought that the time they will reach their teens I will be done with working. But my dear the people I left my kids with used me like a moop because of my two kids. I use to send money to every kids so that my own kids get better life I couldn't save any money at all. Now my children are grown up, am starting a fresh to do something for myself. But my body is tired I can't work the way I use to work when I was still in UK. 😔😔
Sarah Ddembe very true and we are busy working our butts out and someone is busy enjoying our sweat we are not even enjoying our money ourselves this must ✋ stop
I just missed this piece after talking to someone who asked me to buy chicken for them, so I came back here to listen to this unlimited wisdom. Africa..... "Wake up motherland" (Bobi Wine)
1 1 Spot on bro. Do you know on my wedding day in Nigeria I still have to provide transportation for my friends to come to the wedding. These are people I have sent $200, $100, on a monthly bases in the past
My brother am in Jamaica and I am watching this and everything you said is so true , it’s not just Africa even the Caribbean too may be its black thing ,
A black " thing" but it's got to STOP! It's up to the givers to have courage and get rid of the shame or pressure to send money. As the proverb says, to help a fisherman to fish, u give him a net , not money, buy the net only once , no more, he must survive on that!
Nothing like naked truth,,, the beneficiaries should here this n sink it in their mind, people don't pluck money from trees like leaves... God bless you brodah
D wae me dae suffer for USA ehhh na only GOD dae help me all bc of my family back home so now I have changed my number so I have decided let them kill me thru there juju I look up to ALLAH
Preach it my brother! Too many ungrateful people among us,and most are blood relatives! This is also a problem in the Caribbean. No need to apologize for speaking the truth! Very profound message indeed! One love..
The advise I would like to contribute on this issue of sending money back home to families. Do not start such gesture with anybody back home be it family or friends, because many of them do not show appreciation. The day you stop sending your money to family back home, you will automatically become their enemy. So why don't you guys allow the enemity to start from onset, so in that way nobody back home can pressurised you for money. That is just the simple truth. As for those whose parents are still alive, you will make your point and situation known to them by telling them you can only send money to them once a month. Once you've done that, you're thru with them for that month. Any other additional story by them or from siblings. You must not listen or entertain them period. In this life, people must learn to have principles in them. Make your yes be yes and your no be no and stand by it. It is all well and good.
My family rejected me when I came back from qatar.for now I got a job in Iraq I have 8 months.so my family want me to be sending money to them back home what should I do coz they rejected me for 2 good years
@@jasronotindo2113 Let them reject you. They are not your creator. If your creator who is your God that you worship do not reject you, why bothered yourself over a mere human like you. Psalm 27: verse 10, ' When my mother and my father forsake me. Then the Lord will take care of me. ' So do not be dismay nor afraid, as the Lord is your strength.
@@sarcasmbanega5997 white folks don't give a sh*t about themselves. Their father might be suffering and they're millionaire, still they won't help. The don't make videos like this because they don't send any money to anyone.
I sent 110k to mine. She didn't even call to say she received it. And when I called to confirm she got it, it was like I was looking for trouble. Like she was expecting more than I sent. She started answering me with her nose. Na that day I call am reach. Recently, she called me after about 6 months that I sent her money o. I did not answer. Am sure she wants money again. God forbid. I don't pick it from the ground. So, I can't spare any to ingrates.
They wanted my only child to Die because they think I will stop sending money them😡😡😡 but they where able to destroy my Marriage because they know a white woman will never tolerate the Nonsense 😡😡😡😡
This is so true.The best one I have heard so far well put together, well spoken down to earth and easily understood.My dear brother it’s the same all over. I am from the Caribbean ,we suffer the same.They think money grows on trees or we pick it off the street when they receive they do not say THANK YOU.Congratulations thank you for opening the eyes of some of us.
When you send them money they will divide it immediately with the current rate. E.g when you send 35k naira, they will quickly divide it by 350 and say he sent me just $100.
I just reactivated my personal bank account back home in Africa and every week I make it a point of duty to send money a token into that account, a wise friend advice me, now am smiling each time I look at the balance, be wise people......
My 5yrs of hard labour was wasted n wen I was about to home they parted ways living my kids alone 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭the pain was unbearable but God will pay me I still believe
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My marriage broke cuz my husband wouldn’t stop sending money to Sierra Leone .
So so sad 😩😩
It's true, I know a couple that the marriage broke up because of husband sending money home and telling his wife he doesn't have money. He leaves his wife paying all the bills in the US by herself. The wife got tired and divorced him. Now he has to pay his bills by himself. Let me see how much will remain for him to send home after paying his bills.
Its well
Unfortunately, men fault more in this area. I'm not saying that men ain't financially wise or conscious.
There is a saying which goes thus. Pay yourself first. As you're thinking about your immediate family... Wife & children, as a man working to sustain the home, you also need to look after your personal self which is yourself & wife for the future. I mean, be responsible towards your children or do your obligations as a father and husband.
This same logic should be applied towards extending helping hands to family/ies or been responsible towards them.
When the chips are down, very few or none will show up.
Yoruba will say "ebi o see duro de beni won se sa fun" meaning you can't run away from or avoid your family neither can you depend on them" Just be sensible. After all, we are all human.
Could you imagine that
If you really appreciate this guy please gather here and be blessed 🙌.my dear the main thing people don't know you cannot solve every body problem .Thanks and remain blessed
Too much pressure.
Amen brother. You are right on the point. May God help us & our countries. 🇭🇹🇺🇸
@@peteradoga9096 The assumption is, people abroad never received any help? Truth is, some people in Nigeria make more genuine money than people abroad. The attitude that everybody back home is a beggar is wrong. Life must be managed and proper coordination is key
Why do people in Africa automatically think that we are rich just because we live in America. We have poor people here as well. It’s up to that individual to decide if he or she is going to do something to make their lives better and to be able to bless others. Some people try to take advantage of you and wait on you to provide for them instead of making their own money moves.
God bless you bro for this
This man isn’t telling us to become selfish but to have self-awareness.
Very true
Everyone is selfish. Even those that give, do so for reasons of showing that they can---that feeling of importance. So, being selfish is not bad at all, in fact it is what it is, like the head on everyone's shoulder---cut off selfishness and die.
So, be more selfish even in your giving, remembering that those whom you are giving are receiving selfishly. Don't be on the foolish side of the relationship.
Albert Mark I. I agree with you but everything have a limit.
True
tuforu4 😂 no they won’t take it because it’s not the ending product.
if your African, Caribbean, Black or any other nationality and you agree with this park here.
Oluwa Nelly Yep!!!!
Sooooo true what you're saying
*Brother PREACH!!!! Even when I was laid off years ago, all they cared about was how much I could send them. The words "I just lost my job" went in through one ear and came out through the other. Protect yourselves, Brothers and Sisters!*
You can tell them you only have your rent money they want you to send them that rent money.
Givers should have limits because takers don't...
PREACH!
Very true and powerful words.
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Amen
Love this saying! Thanks.
"Anytime there is no reciprocity the relationship will die"
Golden words.
Hassan Uber 😂😂😂😂😂
Hassan Uber 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
I live in Ukraine and if I tell you how much I've sent to friends, you'll pity me. My wife(A white lady) told me "You can't be a sun for everyone" After that, I stopped! Few months later I got my first car ever!
Well done professor 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Wow
Congratulation for your deliverance.
"You can't be a Sun for everyone" That is deep and genius. God bless your wife's intelligence...
God bless your wife
I stop sending money to my sister when she told me “all your mate abroad has at least two houses” 6 months later she asked me for money I told her I’m building my first house. I learned how to say ‘I don’t have’ believe me they will survive. Only send money when you have money or only for emergencies.
Emergency will show up!!!
Yes, or if they have real projects and you are sure of their honesty about it. I don't mind helping someone going to school or opening a business there if I can, I prefer this 100 times than paying for someone's life basic stuff like eating, paying the bills which we should all learn to do by ourselves! My god
yeah...it's always a emergency as soon they notice you only give in emergency
"All your mates..". Such impudence
@@soekieloekiekaassouffle5950
PREACH!
This video changed my life, I stopped pleasing people and I got my self a small piece of land when I watched it few months ago. Thankyou.
A lot of respect for this man! Doesn’t matter which parts of Africa, the mindset is still the same.
Dave Collins I just sent $230 home this morning
@@muzikhumalo9886 that's nothing I was sending every 2weeks 250£ and pay for my brother he was in prison £3000 for solicitors, did he checked on me when I was in hospital for 8 months , nothing not even how are you doing. now what I can say to them fk to them.
no he didn't care about me.
That's true
Nice talk brother
Ah my brother you have said it all!
Some will even ask you,why are you sending $100 instead of $500.
I’ve stopped! I don’t care who or what they say!
That person is an in-great I sent $100 dollars and The thank you I received encouraged me a lot. It is good you stop sending money. They think people leaving in America are sweeping money on the streets. 100 dollars is #38,000 and that person did not thank you?? That person got what he or she deserved from you.
That corroborate my earlier statement that you people send stipends home . Guys keep your money and stop complaining.
When you tell the truth to the African, he/she sees it as insult.
Very very correct
@@johnsonolajide962 Agree.
That seems like a "their" problem,
Preach it brother!!! I'm 🇯🇲, and I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. I'm estranged from majority of my relatives because of this situation. Take care of yourself first, because not even your own children that you sacrifice for will be there for you sometimes.
PREACH!
Amen, Amen and amen!!!!!
I have gone to Europe and back to Nija I can never ask for money from a relative abroad, because I know how difficult it is to get money there. I have always told people the truth, no money abroad.
Boss, I wish I could give you 1million likes. Before I moved to the uk in the 90s I never once asked my brother who already lived in the uk a dime. I just believed it was not his responsibility to take care of me. I decided to take up a labourers job just to get by.
No money abroad bro..
Yes no money abroad but bills
I was making more money when I was in Nigeria than now in abroad. When I say it to people here, they doubt me, but only me know the truth. I left my well paying job in Nigeria for abroad out of ignorance.
@ Walter Osadebe I can relate.
I am watching this in September 2023 in Canada on the eve of my 60th birthday.
This message is so true for me. I spent 6 years sending money home to family and friends and got nothing, NO THING, in return. Not even a handwritten letter.
I've eventually stopped all that and focused on myself. If I can't do that then, I'd be a fool at sixty. God forbid.
Thank brother for the message. God bless you and increase your wisdom.
The worst is that as soon as they receive it, they can’t call to say they have received it. They either text or not even notify you at all😡
Ifeyinwa Ruth Nnajiofor my sister that’s great truth even last week my best did it to me. I send him 200$ to him the could not even call me to say thank. The only thing I saw from him was this ‘’ thanks bro’’
For real sis
U keep waiting and wondering if they receive the money yet. Then u get a message from Western Union that money been picked up, but you still waiting for a thank you that never came until next time again a message comes from WhatsApp again, More begging.😆
@@anniereynolds6930 You get it
@@donzokamara3756 not cool of the recipient
.we learn everyday .
Most african diaspora in western countries can truly relate and nod to what you said bro. I am one of those who stress out to dead to support family back home. When I got seriously ill, I never got even a single encouraging words from my older brother to whom I was sending money every month for 4 years. Thank you for this video.
This happens for Latinos, it’s something the ones back home aren’t in our shoes. Real talk, respect ✊🏼
I'm African American living in the United States and you speaking real truth. I got tired of always being the giver to my friends so now I'm my own best friend. Seven months ago I broke my ankle and couldn't walk or cook for myself for four months and not one person came to help or inquire to see how I was doing, for a short moment I was sad but learned I am the only one who I can depend on and that's alright with me. When Love for others comes before Self Love your expections will always be shattered. Great video. 👏🏾✌🏾💙
He speaks the whole truth and nothing but the truth. The people you keep sending money to wouldn't bat an eye when you are in dire straits. The reality of their uncaring attitude can hit really hard.
You hit the nail on the head. They don't give a damn about those sending the money. All the care about are themselves.
Bonne Chance u said it all (uncaring atitude)
Hmmmmm. Real talk
Bonne Chance very true.
Their attitude changes immediately when they hear you're coming home for good. They will not have space in their homes, even for your bags!
V true
🤣🤣Are you telling me? Ask me what happened when I got deported, thank God I had a small house. So I took all my problems in my house and shut the door and cry
@@rosemutonyi4963 wow sorry to hear. Hope you are back on your feet now.
That's why you gotta build your own home first! Before buying expensive cars and expensive homes in hi-class areas. Etc..
@@hadidmusa2837 Lol, those are just assumptions made by people. Not everyone who goes abroad likes showing off. And also if they went abroad for studies, where would they get money for the expensive cars and homes? And if one did buy an expensive home, they'd have somewhere to land, they would not need to trouble people about accomodation. But your advice is sound; one needs to think of themselves 1st.
Very intelligently delivered. Message sent! I approve this message. You cannot give what you don’t have and you cannot take care of someone else when you are sick or dead!
Spot on, The First Angel. Intelligently delivered.
I’m saving this video so I can replay it anytime my hubby wants to send money home to pay someone else’s kids’ school fees. Meanwhile, we are a single income family struggling with bills here and there. Mtchew
This message is for me, I'm tired sending money back home. They don't appreciated!
Stop sending
Stop my dear i was a victim
The sad thing is that you have to reach out to them to see if they received the money, so ungrateful don’t have the decency to call or text to say thank you. I like this is my job or hobby
Exactly!!! They're sooooo ungrateful 😠
Very ungrateful, you make the money sending and you sto8make the call to kno if they get the money, very ungrateful people
I asked one if she got the #50,000 that I send to her, cos I sked her to give #30,000 to my mum and take #20,000 . Then I called her to kno if she gat it and she said to me , I have sent it as you said, meaning that I sopporse to give her 30,000 and give my mum 20,000
@@@ndidionwuzulu1197 you can imagine the level of ingratitude .The most painful part of it they feel you owe them ?The last time I checked no body owes any body anything on Earth .Even our parents what they owe you is the foundation after that they owe you nothing .your survival is between your hard work and God .may God see us tru .Amen
@ peter Adoga, it marvels me at times, I even sent a friend of mine #20,000 which she said she want to add to her business just 2months ago and now she is asking for another help to pay for her daughter 's school fees while she knew very well my mum was not fine as she broke her leg, we're a he do she want me to get it from, they think if you are in America that you plug money from the tree, am not listening to no body
I like this guy 😊 he said it all!
It's not only in Africa in the Caribbean too , whenever you can't send money to them they become your enemy.
Truth
That's black people for!
Say it again... They thought we pick them on street
True my dear Caribbean family I fell out with my mom oz she loved money more than me they are heartless bastards
Bro ,trying to help 10 poor,you become the 11th .You should help but do not stress yourself if you do not have the means.These people are crafty ,they will drain you then blame you for not achieving much .Very ungrateful lot
so true! someone reached out to me yesterday to ask for money and they hadn’t reached out to me in a while. Africans back home pls Africans here go through a lot. just don’t come out of the blues and ask them for money. Africans here pls stop giving people Money back home be wise! thanks for sharing this video ma’am.
Truth. I lived in diaspora for 18 years and made permanent enemies. One of them is my very son who will not talk to me or call me mother. I came back over a year ago and we live near each other but never spoken. Why? Because whenever he called out of the blue to ask for huge sums of money and I just did not have it, he got resentful and swore off me. I was so poor while abroad!!! I have forgiven him. But I a, just sharing that the relatives sometimes get really demonic. There are people in diaspora becoming mad to the point of getting into an institution because of relative-related stress from back home. It's so serious the degree of entitlement by relatives is so unreal that people in diaspora at some point go silent and are never heard from. Africans!!! Stop this madness!!!
This is reality.... only those who understand the message will understand him also.
And not take offence!!👀
Do u think they care , even when u send them money they misuse because they think more is coming , it's the same everywhere. Build a house for them ,when u get home there is no place for u to sleep .
Those who clicked “dislike “ are the ones who call their loved ones abroad only when they need money, and would not call to appreciate...
Kingsley, MD;😂😂😂😂true
So true. They even don't call when them need your help, they F**king beep u to call them back
Drazen Larry; took me forever to understand the “beep”; I used to think the lines just disconnected and would wait for them to call back. I could not stop laughing when my husband told me that meant I had to call them back😂😂😂how ridiculous
Yes o
You nailed it the way it is
You said the truth bro .I remember when I was in Africa. though I usually say hi to my bro but when he usually send me money I took it like nothing till when he finally brought me here in to the usa .I now see his pain his suffering. I will for ever be grateful to him .I pray we make it together. Thanks bro for ur advice .
Wow!!!!! This holds so much weight coming from an African. I as an African-American married to a West-African man has said this for years to no avail. I watch how my husband and people from his community put so much pressure on themselves and they wonder why they are not progressing 🤦🏾♀️
I'm struggling because of sending money. But I know how to solve this problem. No Facebook No WhatsApp
Boris Kokouvi 😂😂these comments
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Welcome to the community of thinkers!
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Jesus 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂
The 4 dislike are the people you are sending money 4🤣🤣🤣
😂🤣🤣🤣 they're haters
😂😂🤣🤣
You're right😀
Nikky One 😃😃
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This gentleman is really positive, I like his logic
Very true!
If this isn’t the truth. Then I don’t know what else is defined as truth
Osaro Osunde JESUS is the Truth naaa
👍100% they are still going to be the ones to laugh if you got no house but you practically sacrificed it all for them.
I only send when is necessary to my mom ooh only. Others can kiss the sun.
You are right.
Exactly! It's only my mum I send money to on monthly basis because no amount of money will be too much for the sacrifice she made for me!
Yes you are so right
Me too Bro. Only my mother I send money to. relatives who doesn't care about anything apart from money can go to hell
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My wife is upset over me doing this
I don’t blame her
I have spent Thousands of dollars over the years and yes not a single thank you in return
The next time I hear back from them is when school starts
So sad
1. Some of you come home to visit and give the guys at home the impression that
abroad is heaven.
2. Even when you give them money, they still laugh at you and say your mates are
sending more back home.
3. My advice, only your kids back home are worth the sending.
This is it!!!
Edward Banjo That’s exactly my mind👌👌👌
You are right.
Exactly
Edward Banjo; correct; I remember when I visited home when I was in college, a cousin of mine labeled me useless for wasting my time in Europe when there Gambians in Germany who are building mega mansions back home. Most of those were drug dealers and are now mostly in jails in Germany or deported back home. Those fools were doing that to impress other fools back home. Sad.
Even though I have not finished watching this video, I choose to type my message because I just finished scolding my elder brother for giving his phone to his under age son to send me a message asking for money. What a hell! How can he be encouraging the kids to become beggars at their age. When you call to check on them, you hear all kinds of money request, buy me this, send me that. Hmmmm. NO! It is wrong I said to him. Thanks bro for sharing your concern. Happy Sunday.
Aunty you stand strong. This is so SAD because people reduce family relationships to a bank transaction, like he said Banking Mindset smh...
Justina Olaniyi I had to do the same to my older bro. Dude doesn’t have a job, I’m the one financing him and his only daughter, he even wants to have more kids. I told him that’ll be the end of my sending him money
Block that dam number!
MyYTChannel I know dey waste time to block number
Justina Olaniyi. Pls don't explode. I know it really hots especially when your sibling wants to turn you into a money making machine. Just take it easy and use your number 6 for them.
I just started my journey in the USA. Just few month's the whole Nigeria start requesting cash from me .. I felt annoyed cos it is like a spell . No one says hi except they need something
They expect you to be sending money in times
Bcos they believe abroad is money not knowing you have to work harder.
Its bcuz they know u just got here.they need to get something from u b4 u changed
Anywhere in Africa believe me
It is actually a spell
Only my mother was the one who use to say that I don't have money, and people should not ask me money, only my mother she never asked me anything. I just send money to her without asking me, and if I ask her if she has any problem she will always say no am fine darling.
This is so true!! They do this in the Caribbean. When you go back home to see them the still expect you to pay also!
The kind of life people back home are living ehnn, they wear nothing but designer, real gold, all expensive stuffs from head to toe. They are more comfortable than us and the major reality is that, they have peace of mind. Nobody is sending them back anywhere. Majority of people in diaspora are not even legal and have no peace of mind. Talk-less of thinking of wearing Prada. The way people work here and the kind of job we do, its crazy, beyond explanation. Who is even talking of savings. And talking about $100 as 5hours of someone’s life. That is if you are working a job of $20 per hour. Majority of people are earning $8, $7 per hour. And sometimes under the table jobs. Its really crazy here. May God bless you for saying this truth. Who sits at home here on public holiday? Work work work. Abeg this video is much needed.
Well spoken! Thank you so much.
True you forgot iPhones haha
Very true, @ Bookie, they woe an expensive clothes and shoes, one day I peep on Facebook and saw all that I have been sending money to, looking wonderfully nice and me here in my cna uniform day and nite can't even buy nice cloth to church talk more of outing, can't even save little in my account, mehn, we over here gat to think twice, some will even tell you is this little money that you are making noise about, some will say you dnt even call us no more, as if they call you and you did not pick up the call, I mean it is crazy. They want you to do every thing, call, send , care and even bath them, not me. Christmas is now approaching, I will block all even my uncle
This is why I have never fancied living abroad except you have a very good job or profession. If you earn $1k a month in Naija, you can be a big boy: save plenty, build your own house and not die from paying taxes or getting sued over trivial stuffs. In my family we're contented. We don't go begging for money because we all know how extremely difficult it is to live abroad.
They want the latest iPhone even when they don't have a job. Then, u will be sending money home to buy datas and airtime for the phone. That's madness.
Yes Brother, I really bless my family for this, my mom knows that I don't have so she will even advise me not to send them anything, they can handle themselves, LOVE YOU MUM ❤️
I'm from Kenya working in Dubai. I can tell this is a naked truth. Be blessed brother and thank you for the message 🙏
The most disgusting of all is they don’t appreciate, all they do is complain.
The most disgusting is that they eat that money like a dog . Your brother who was a calm man become alcoholic, your father left home is leaving with another woman your mother is seating in church everyday giving everything you send her to the pastor , finally the money you been sending home killed your family was peaceful . Finally you start to think that : they said it . This is blood money ,is evil money, confusion full inside your brain
They take it for granted, that is the problem. We should cut sending money BUT actually do things that can help them get their OWN money, and become independant on their own. I don't believe in sending cash (unless emergency)
it happened to me really bad Sister's brother's and my mother all of them they haven't give me any support after being disabled. this is very sad but God his watching down on me thanks lord Amen.
very true
True am suffering from this they don't appreciate
It’s exactly like continuing to supply money to a drug addict, you’re enabling bad behaviour that isn’t appreciated. Feel bad for these families on both ends :(
You are very right,They only call when they are in need and know thank you reply.
Sending money to any black country!! They do it to us in the Caribbean!!! The SAME TING!!!!!
Very true!!!
I don’t send money or give anybody money. My money is for my kids! If anybody need money they can work for it
I wish my mom had the same mindset she kept sending money to Kenya while her sisters children were being well taken care of sent to the best schools etc while we were struggling in Europe they have even surpassed her in terms of accomplishment
My sista is me and you oooo
Chrissy ot we sometimes learn it the hard way reality on it's best am from Kenya too and my own case is no different.
Jessica, you are wise. Sending money home ruined my mum and dad. He is now in his 70s with nothing to show. I don't know why we black believe it is our responsibility to feed our village.
Chrissy ot please watch 8 videos of Jim Nduruchi
Thank you bro. I have been saddened by the treatment of the people I have supported financially back home. And they were the first to laugh that I have not even build a house at home. Those who asked and I said I did not have money, we have become enemies. Our relatives take us for granted. Ask yourself this, if you were the one in need after you return, would the relatives you supported help you? Likely they would laugh at you for having been abroad and came back with nothing. Took long, now I know.
Its more blessed to give than to receive..However give with wisdom..Giving to those who are helpless and are in need and are in no way your responsibility brings great blessings... However when giving to relatives and friends back home who feel entitled, remember that they see your giving almost like a right..Apply wisdom in doing so..
Chai! This guy just said it all. When on this earth will relatives back home send money to those in DIASPORA? I said to myself yesterday that am not their ATM.Habaaa !!!! Send money send money send money that's all they know. TUFIAKWA!
Yes o,People are so heartless back home,thinking we are plucking money on the tree abroad.Wicked people.
@@bimpemaryoladele7327 You look so beautiful
Not even money. They cannot buy food stuff and send to us.
@@nkimminkimmi794 Hahahaha If they can at least send us crayfish ,it will be ok.
Send you money? If you go home, will they even ask you to come and take garri when you are going back
Blessed to have seen this vlog today. I used to send money to a family member. It’s been almost a year since I stopped. I stopped because when I visited my family this year that very same family didn’t even invite me for dinner despite me asking. I would have even brought the food and all she had to do is prepare and share. I wanted to taste home cooking. Not even a bean was shared. That family hasn’t contacted me since I returned to England. Abroad they are better off than me. Living their dream whilst I sacrifice, sending money aboard. Wow this vlog is an inspirational message to money senders like myself. Thank thank
According to family, I'm the worst ever because i don't pick up the phone from Africa no more and I'm not stressed anymore.
You will also not be part of the family.. Its like you chanted for alienation of the family..
@@chakubanga1 no i chanted for peace. If i can have a family that understand money don't grow on trees and the love for me is not conditional, I'll be very happy to have them in my life.
@@optimisticsoul2338 I' understand u.
After I got the courage to say no, now they have stopped calling me or checking on me.... everyone thinks am stingy now but my mind is at peace and I can breathe now.
Good for you... the more you give.. the more they want
You did the right thing. They are back home living happier and more comfortable than us abroad. Stop sending them money.
ibeejane Learning to say no is life-changing. Now you can exhale
Me too my phone can go for days without a text and am glad
✋ too almost died of stress but now that I've learned to say no even to my own parents I am gaining sme weight, can you imagine dad called my husband to ask for money when I was just a week in hospital after csection to my son. Almost broke up with husband because of family begging yet we are a young couple very young children thank God they don't call to check on me again I can breath.
I only eat with those I struggled with; my mom and 2 brothers! Period!
I will say your mum, your brothers can sort themselves out.
@@kensanco I hear you... 😊
Help your mum don’t listen to all this
Parents can be horrible sometimes.
The same is true for people in the Caribbean. It is a very serious issue.
You are in America. ..take us there...we will not ask for your money☺
Just read your comment after i posted the same thing....So very true.....
@@sheminvestor8886
Hahahahahahaha. Take us there so we may observe those problems and support your misdion
Omg best message of the year. We are drained and nobody cares about us.
I agree with u ma dea, wen u return home n go broke no ones care they backbit u with bad words
So now, you have to do what is best for YOU.
This is very correct i remember i went back home with little money and people gossip that i was deported am not killing myself for nobody anymore
God cares, God loves you...you don't always receive from the one you help, God brings it to you in other different ways....Be Blessed sis❤
Agee 100% with you.
Well said Brother. I'm on this situation ; living in London ; only have box room to live in shared with three others in a small house. Work for 13 days out of every two weeks. Most of my income goes to rent & bills. Rest to send back home. I've nothing to show for all my work after 20 years of working. Just got fought up in that rat race to try to get somewhere in life. Like this video ; thank you for posting. Felt like you was telling my story and many people I know. Time to change!!! Now or never I guess!!! God Bless 🙏🏾
It's time to put yourself first
He spoke nothing but thruth!! 👏🏾 People need to hear this!🙌🏾
From today on I am not going to. Send on one money. When I went to GHANA I saw. Them they living better life then me here in U S A..
DIANA CARE kitchen Care exactly!!!!
Ghana!!! . I studied in Ghana.. I got friends from other African countries, till today, I see +233, +225, +226, +234, +254 all saying send me money.. in life, we cant satisfy anybody. I do not care no more..
Exactly
Diana care k.c. Are you really sure that you are living in USA. My reason for asking this question is becuse of your bad writing. Why must you be in the river bank and still suffocate out of thirsty. Can't you invest your leisure in a part time education.
Givers never lack
This man is preaching the truth . It gets hard once you are old to work and if you have no savings you are in deep trouble for survival.
I sent money to my friend in London like $70 . After receiving the money I was talking to him on phone . The next thing he is like let me break it down . You have to send me more money and this and that . The next thing he did not know what was happening I turned and switched off my phone number. He probably called and called no response I got a new number. I was just annoyed that he was expecting more money from me. No one is giving me any money. Here in the western no one gives money . Once you are broke you have to wait until you secure some money by working and waiting until you get paid. It is also scary.
He spoke the truth. Abroad life is not easy.
dem no dey no ooo
Abroad life is easy unless u don't have the right documents. U just need to wise up and not send all your money to Africa.
@@Glass_Nkoaa it's not easy no matter what
@@cloud_c5222 Then go back to Ghana
@@fanahadsh2473 It's ur own fault. It does not make sense to send all ur money to Ghana.
So it seems like people would rather lie and say “I’m not working” then say “ I cannot give you money, I am supporting myself and my family here.” It’s like you feel that they can reach across the waters and curse your whole life. What is the fear? That you will return home and siblings will not great you or celebrate your return? That aunties, uncles, and cousins will treat your parents bad, not invite them to parties, weddings because of their “selfish” children in the abroad? There has to be some reason. Is community EVERYTHING! My American “ Western” mindset is to be like “ Ok, then I don’t know you!” As long as the people who gave me life are healthy, housed, clothed and fed. That does not mean living in a mansion, feasting with friends all the time, wearing Gucci and Prada either and expensive traditional clothes. Nope. If I’m not living grand and my kids aren’t why should anyone else with my money.
"Play God for everybody" that's what my mom did. Today for 10 years she is paraplegic because she has a stroke. Thank you brother.
The mostly pain is when theirs received the money no call to say yes we received or saying thanks nothing 😭😭 they is no one day their call to check on you never just their call when want a help from you and if you refuse their talk bad on you😭
🤣🤣🤣🤣U remind me one dec l send money for 4 month's, they didn't send any message 2 inform me, when l call they said they dont hv money .
You have to send and call to follow up😭😭😭
Calo Wamaye My dear after sending the money you are the one to keep calling to know if they have received it or not they will never call you
My situations right now when you say you don't have you become enemies
Depends
This is nothing but the truth ..am a Kenyan and I support this man 100%
Thomas mutero,I like yo message but you just call me
@@crestinebirabwa2417 thankyou ..I called u???
I love this brother and I’m an African American who just got out of a relationship with a Nigerian man who was stressing me out because his family was stressing him out
I'm haitian and I know exactly what he's talking about. This is really a bad manners from 3rd world country
Negobrun52 M! Same here haiti 🇭🇹
Yep this is 100% true.
This is amazing, pure truth. Don't be fooled. 80% of those claiming coming close today would run away when you have nothing to offer again. Help, but don't be used by men. Invest to the future of your wife & children. Tomorrow when you are in need, they would be the only left for you. Same people you helped, instead of helping you would rather mock you when you are down..
The problem of needy relatives and friends affect even those holding jobs and living in Africa. You cannot solve everybody's problems.
If you are abroad and can afford buy a rental property for your parents so that they can survive on the proceeds.
Buy ready houses as opposed to building unless you are very sure of who will handle the project for you.
Save something for your retirement, when you can no longer work the long hours.
If you are planning to come back home ensure you have a constant source of income. Life is tough these sides and the people you used to assist will avoid you when you have nothing.
To all those working hard in foreign countries to help at home we love and appreciate you but please take care of yourselves first. We need you back alive, not in a casket.
Very true about already built houses. Makes sense
My brother you have said it all. One day we shall get old. So if we don't make plans for old age, we would have ourselves to blame. it's not too late to start putting something together no matter how small!!!! One love!! Thanks for sharing sis B😍
Naked truth dear from now on I will save small small
This put me to tears because my mom have ended up with nothing,,, sending all her money to family and friends 😭
I am a mother myself, I left my kids when they were so young, I thought that the time they will reach their teens I will be done with working. But my dear the people I left my kids with used me like a moop because of my two kids.
I use to send money to every kids so that my own kids get better life
I couldn't save any money at all. Now my children are grown up, am starting a fresh to do something for myself. But my body is tired I can't work the way I use to work when I was still in UK. 😔😔
Very sad and they never appreciate.
Truely we are all tired of sending money to people who are not appreciative .
Sarah Ddembe very true and we are busy working our butts out and someone is busy enjoying our sweat we are not even enjoying our money ourselves this must ✋ stop
Exactly!
They almost killed me through witchcraft cos I stopped.
They sent me demons to disturb me when I stopped sending money
Going to witch doctors to uproot money from you by force
Appreciative or not, it's not our role to be wage payers to lazy people
God bless you my dear brother u we never ever lack wisdom in Jesus name Amen
Most people forget that those who are away from home are also looking for a life...
MaJoR Me exactly
I just missed this piece after talking to someone who asked me to buy chicken for them, so I came back here to listen to this unlimited wisdom. Africa..... "Wake up motherland" (Bobi Wine)
I have enemies now in Nigeria because I didn’t continue to send money to friends. True talk brother.
To hell with them!! Care for yourself and your well-being first and foremost. you don't owe anybody anything!!
They can all go pound sand! Please don't let them kill you with their greed, INGRATITUDE and sense of entitlement
That is one thing i never started, friends has no real love for you especially if you better than them
deegaulle onyeigbo True talk brother
1 1 Spot on bro. Do you know on my wedding day in Nigeria I still have to provide transportation for my friends to come to the wedding. These are people I have sent $200, $100, on a monthly bases in the past
My brother am in Jamaica and I am watching this and everything you said is so true , it’s not just Africa even the Caribbean too may be its black thing ,
Exactly it's black things 😥😥
A black " thing" but it's got to STOP! It's up to the givers to have courage and get rid of the shame or pressure to send money. As the proverb says, to help a fisherman to fish, u give him a net , not money, buy the net only once , no more, he must survive on that!
Nothing like naked truth,,, the beneficiaries should here this n sink it in their mind, people don't pluck money from trees like leaves... God bless you brodah
BROTHER, YOU HAVE SPOKEN WHAT MOST OF US GO THROUGH. .
D wae me dae suffer for USA ehhh na only GOD dae help me all bc of my family back home so now I have changed my number so I have decided let them kill me thru there juju I look up to ALLAH
Good advice brother, you can't help someone else if you haven't help yourself,,
This hit me straight in my core,I stopped sending money and I have never been happier.Wish I saw this five years earlier！
I lost a niece this last June who was busy working for everyone bavk home. She never slept in the 4 houses she bought home.
Jesus
She was working to buy the 4 houses. So sad. It's all vanity.
@@mildredsophia7082 for other people not herself
So sad. May her soul rest in peace.
It's a catastrophe! 😩
Only call you when the reference number is missing
God will bless you about this message .What you said is. 100% truth.
I wish there was a love button.... I would have clicked it a thousand times over.
This was so brutally honest. Love isn't meant to make you I'll sick or poor. Nor stressed or pressured. 💜🙏🏽
Your passion for the issue made my tears come running. This is the issue all over africa. We have been sold off by our own ppl
Preach it my brother! Too many ungrateful people among us,and most are blood relatives! This is also a problem in the Caribbean. No need to apologize for speaking the truth! Very profound message indeed! One love..
The advise I would like to contribute on this issue of sending money back home to families. Do not start such gesture with anybody back home be it family or friends, because many of them do not show appreciation. The day you stop sending your money to family back home, you will automatically become their enemy. So why don't you guys allow the enemity to start from onset, so in that way nobody back home can pressurised you for money. That is just the simple truth. As for those whose parents are still alive, you will make your point and situation known to them by telling them you can only send money to them once a month. Once you've done that, you're thru with them for that month. Any other additional story by them or from siblings. You must not listen or entertain them period. In this life, people must learn to have principles in them. Make your yes be yes and your no be no and stand by it. It is all well and good.
roseline olaiya very true.
My family rejected me when I came back from qatar.for now I got a job in Iraq I have 8 months.so my family want me to be sending money to them back home what should I do coz they rejected me for 2 good years
@@jasronotindo2113 Let them reject you. They are not your creator. If your creator who is your God that you worship do not reject you, why bothered yourself over a mere human like you. Psalm 27: verse 10, ' When my mother and my father forsake me. Then the Lord will take care of me. ' So do not be dismay nor afraid, as the Lord is your strength.
@@jasronotindo2113 They are still your family no matter what. You'll never see whit folks make a video about this subject.
@@sarcasmbanega5997 white folks don't give a sh*t about themselves. Their father might be suffering and they're millionaire, still they won't help. The don't make videos like this because they don't send any money to anyone.
I sent a relative 98,000, and I was questioned why, that I should have rounded it up to 100,000. I WILL NEVER AGAIN SEND KOBO.
SUPER UNGRATEFUL...
I sent 110k to mine. She didn't even call to say she received it. And when I called to confirm she got it, it was like I was looking for trouble. Like she was expecting more than I sent. She started answering me with her nose. Na that day I call am reach. Recently, she called me after about 6 months that I sent her money o. I did not answer. Am sure she wants money again. God forbid. I don't pick it from the ground. So, I can't spare any to ingrates.
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They wanted my only child to Die because they think I will stop sending money them😡😡😡 but they where able to destroy my Marriage because they know a white woman will never tolerate the Nonsense 😡😡😡😡
Lol🤣
Olubunmi Ige dear God 🤣🤣🤣
This is so true.The best one I have heard so far well put together, well spoken down to earth and easily understood.My dear brother it’s the same all over. I am from the Caribbean ,we suffer the same.They think money grows on trees or we pick it off the street when they receive they do not say THANK YOU.Congratulations thank you for opening the eyes of some of us.
When you send them money they will divide it immediately with the current rate. E.g when you send 35k naira, they will quickly divide it by 350 and say he sent me just $100.
😁 exactly....... but l refused to take their pressure , l must be alive to marry my sweet wife and train my wonderful kids.
hahahahah
Same here Bright
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This guy is actually narrating my physical situation with my family right now. Thanks bros
I just reactivated my personal bank account back home in Africa and every week I make it a point of duty to send money a token into that account, a wise friend advice me, now am smiling each time I look at the balance, be wise people......
Amen. You have spoken brother. This is the curse of a black child everywhere.
God bless u bro. Am tired of people thinking that money is on the street of western countries
My 5yrs of hard labour was wasted n wen I was about to home they parted ways living my kids alone 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭the pain was unbearable but God will pay me I still believe