When I found article(s) about "how to murder without leaving evidence" stashed in his brief case 23 years ago, I made quick arrangements to get out. I know that I would not be here on Earth if I had not exited the home quickly!!! But I am here and in the third version of myself for about 20 years!! So grateful that I am able to send a virtual hug to Andrew and all folks in this community!! 💞💞💞
It is important to recognize that you cannot control or change the behavior of the Narcissist. They manipulate and control you. The only person you can truly control is YOURSELF. Stop the cycle and remove yourself from the toxicity. I'm glad I did it. The quality of life has changed so much! Thx Andrew for helping me in the darkest hours!❤🙏
I am there, at the point of no return. When it feels like you are going through HELL 🔥, don't stop - keep going God will see you through. 🙏 ❤️. THANKS ANDREW
I needed to hear this. I am grieving nearly 50 years of narc abuse. I couldn't see it. Now I see it clearly. If it were not for others going through this, I don't know what I would do!!!
@@surlif You saw it and felt it, you just didn't know what it was called. I say this because that's my life story as well. I was married for 48 years. I always believed he would change. Did he ? Of course not. I finally left him a little over a year now. I filled for divorce. Just waiting for it to be final. I went through the grieving you mentioned. For me it was because I knew we could of had a good, happy and normal relationship but we didn't. I just had to be honest with myself and accept it was what it was. Not good for me. Just keep listening to Andrew he will help you to put the pieces all together. I will be praying for you. God is what got me through. 🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗🙃🙂😊💞 you are stronger than you realize. God bless you.
You reach the point of no return, when the mask falls and you realise, you never knew the narcissist at all. The sooner you go no contact, the quicker you begin to heal and never look back.
All they care about is looks, social status, money, personal gain, and how others perceive them. It hurts iam a spiritual person who goes out in flip flops jeans and a pony tail and likes a simple life around nature. Everything was an ordeal and it felt like i was with a drama king. Always chaos and couldnt relax.
So true. My ex narc took an Alaskan cruise. I didn't go because I don't like boats or the ocean. All he talked about when he got back was dining with a millionaire couple. He didn't talk about the scenery, the food, etc., just the rich people. And, he's got to have a new truck (although he can't afford it on social security) so he can keep up with the Jones's.
...they are so shallow !im at an age were im trying to enrich my mind through culture and history, but my wife wants to be 20again😂 so sad! she stays out drinking / taking drugs with men from the local pub.... i had to leave her and the 3 kids, absolute horrific nightmare of a woman
All you fine community folks, please regard Andrews advice! Take that final step and abort the toxic relationship. The situation WILL NOT improve!! Life is beautiful on that peak of indifference. I'm cheering each of you on as you remove yourself from the abuse!! Thank you Andrew!!❤❤🦋🦋💕💕
Yes move on I wish I had severed the mom relationship many yrs before she died. My father had a difficult time with my high boundaries towards her. Inside his soul I think he must have regretted marrying my mom. But would never admit it.
@@Cocobear7007 You did what you thought was best at the time so try not to second guess. I trust you are doing well now!! Glad you are here in this community!!❤❤❤
Silence is more powerful than most people realize. If I make one statement and don't say another word, the other person involved in the conversation will chatter like a magpie because most people can't endure the silence. Sort of like dropping a hot potato in their lap just to see what they do with it. I've been told information I never dreamed I would hear from doing this.
NOOOOOOO, I'm NOT EVER GOING DOWN THAT ROAD AGAIN!!! NOT NEVER!!!!! All you are saying is true and I am taking care of me. My Dr told me to keep doing what I am doing...😊
Hi Andrew and my beautiful family 💜 I can relate to this message today because when I got to the point of tired of being tired and done with being done!! I know I was at that breaking point of no return and all my emotions was gone! I felt myself emotionally detaching from the narcissist which made it more easier to leave!! So to anyone who's going through or either still in a relationship with the narcissist...if you can work on detaching your emotions from The Narcissist you will win and it will make it easier to leave!! Stay strong and I know you got this!! Namaste 🙏🏽 sending love and a virtual hug to anyone who needs it right now!!🥰🥰🥰
@Mekalove8174, that is absolutely True,I did this and saw less of him,as a Godsend my daughter had my first grandchild so I was slowly emotionally detatching, it was much easier to leave , ,anyhow wishing you all the Best, ❤️🙏🙏👍
I agree. The abuse got so bad that there's no way I could have ever been able to love him anymore. No matter how much I loved him. It was never good enough and I always felt like the most disgusting human being when I was around him.
@@octoberdawn1087 yes that's for sure ,the put downs were slyly used as jokes,. I sat there one weekend and thought something had to go it was either me or the wallpaper as A quote from(Oscar Wilde) and it wasn't the wallpaper!! ,,,,,,,Keep well wishing you all the very best ,❤️🦋🕯️🌺✨👍👍👍☘️
@@octoberdawn1087 I thought I would always love him and he was the love of my life but he was so evil and did the most horriblest things to me plus abused me so when I started to emotionally detached from him he disgusts me every time I had to be around and I didn't feel the same anymore!! I worked a lot and tried to be home whenever he wasn't there and if he was there nothing he said anymore offended me he couldn't guess like me anymore because I know who he was!!
My mother was married 6 times. I can remember my sister's getting along with my Mom but I can't remember her ever talking to me. I was dyslexic plus some other issues. I think she thought I was stupid and gave up on me. I had behavior problems too, sadly. I had no direction... My children do not like me, they called me a narrisist, they haven't called me that in awhile. Probably because I read the description and said, I'm a very caring person how can you say that. The truth is, I care to damn MUCH! I will give you my last dime... Everytime I hear someone calling their mother a narrisist, it feels like I'm being stab in the heart. It's painful. I do understand some mother's are controlling... but this MOTHER talked to my children all the time, supported any activities they wanted to do. All this would be different if my husband hadn't passed away. It's okay to set boundaries and when things get tough, disappear. Side note, you don't have to fight for freedom but in the end, some parents are so damage from their childhood they take on narcissistic energy. I hope that helps. I agree, absence helps a lot. The bible says to respect your Mom and Dad, I think that's why this world is getting so bad. It's hard to respect someone when they make you feel unlovable!!😢 ☮️❤️💪💪💪💪💪
There is no going back and you certainly cannot unsee what you've seen, once that mask slips. All you can do is acknowledge the fact that you were in a toxic relationship, that served the narcissist and not you. They took from you and brought nothing to the table except for ongoing chaos and confusion, pain and suffering. I was discarded just over a year now. And left broken and betrayed after being married for over three decades and raising a family (now divided and hurt) in every way. I have learned so much from you Andrew, God bless you and from reading the comments - this community is a lifeline in a sea of uncertainty but if you hang in there and do the work, being kind to yourself along the healing path, you will in time come through and find yourself again. Hang on tight to Gods hand and keep moving forward, towards the light....i still have a lot to work through from a practical point of view, one of them trying to keep a roof over my head, financially ruined etc but i believe in time i will find a way with Gods help. Sending much love and positive healing light and energy to you all. Namaste 🙏🌸🌸🌸
Keep working on yourself. You will recover and thrive . May you be compensated for all the years n tears . . . I am 6 months out of a 23 year marriage to a narcissistic husband. I feel invincible. . .
What i noticed was alot of his family members were flying monkeys and he would turn them against me and they would act strange towards me i never felt comfortable or welcomed around them and it hurt me. I realized these people were not kind and now im around people who care and show empathy and act like human beings. I have a new found gratitude and appreciation for good people.
My sister-in-law bought into his lies about us not being together, after we went to every family gathering together. She bought into his smear campaign against me, and encouraged his affair with her best friend. So traumatizing to learn someone you love can be easily persuaded to another's opinion
I can’t even begin to thank you for all the help you’ve given me through your videos. My strength as well as my knowledge of narcissism has grown from them. Please keep your videos coming 🙌❤️
Same ! Dec23,2022 I was discarded and it is and was the saddest😢 and BEST day 😊of my life! Thanks Andrew FOR THE WISDOM!!❤I’m moving forward and living for me and my beautiful children 😇, my life is coming back!
I have experiences with multiple narcissists throughout my life. Every time I have reached a breaking point, it was a signal to me that I need to permanently leave the relationship. Now I learned that if I see red flags, I don’t give chances I leave. I have no guilt. Peace and freedom are things worth holding onto.
As in the Matrix, you can either take the blue pill or the red pill. No one can be told what the matrix is. You have to see it for yourself. If you take the blue pill, the story ends and you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. If you take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes. Thank you, Andrew, for offering us the pills. I'll take the red pill please. I want to know how deep the rabbit hole goes. - Joe
I can't tell you how many times the narcissist took my ideas & then acted like they came up with them..... too many red flags & I was too nice for too long! NO TO HOOVERS!!! 🎀😘
It has got to be one of the most hardest things in the world to do when one has to cut off those whom they've (mistakenly) believed to be "close" to them, be it family or friend, but it unfortunately must be done when all other avenues/solutions (or rather, lack thereof) has been completely, and utterly exhausted for our own well-deserved peace of mind and health!! 💗
You look great and healthy andrew keep up the good work i love your wisdom. 7 years of hell to escape and heavy praying to leave. Still brokenhearted and lost at times, the aftermath is not sumshine and rainbows its hard work to continue growing and not going back. Bless all ❤
I remember being at the point of no return in the narc marriage of over 20 years, the exact date when I had to leave my home to go to a women's domestic violence shelter because of emotional, financial, and physical abuse and I was too afraid to stay in the home any longer. My therapist told me to not go home, to go to the police station, and be brought to a women's domestic violence shelter in the US. I was grateful for the help I received from the therapist, the policeman, and the shelter staff people but it felt very unusual to have to leave the home and never go back. I was trying to go with the flow and adapt to the daily life in the shelter when I stayed for three months. Looking back, having to leave was the best thing in the long run that could have happened to me to catapult me to start my own life. Namaste. ❤️ 🙏 ☀️
Oh Holly 💖 Feeling into your words. My goodness you are strong. I'm so, so proud of you anyway knowing how far you have come but having read your words describing what happened when you left, I am in awe of your strength Holly 💞🙏
Holly, you are a strong, brave girl. You gave yourself the beautiful opportunity for safety and freedom. I understand how hard that was. The police and courts failed to keep me safe, so I did it myself.
YES the point of no return is Clear as Daylight, it hits you like Lightning ⚡⚡ No Going Back, To Him and all that retched Confusion. I felt So Relieved like the whole World was Lifted off my Shoulders,I planned my Exit, sooner rather than Later,.👍❤️🙏🌺🕯️🦋😊
Yes my ex is dragging out divorce, trying to use kids as pawns but he messed with the wrong one. I'm fighting him every single step of the way. He and his family are blocked. I was only 17 when I met him, he was 24, I was completely pure and naive. I literally had a dream of him draining white light from me.
This was my dad, my mom & my husband. The grief is unreal. I’m moving forward, it’s just hard when you’re blamed for the things they did. Crazy making. Psychopaths I feel terrible for my kids and hope they see the light.
Once we have the vocabulary and the ideas, the narc techniques stop working. It's like when you learn to read a curve ball. "Which section of seats shall I home run it into?" The point of no return is when you see the things you can't unsee and you learn from them. "Be here now."
I spent a lifetime with a malignant Machiavellian. One day our neighbor was bitching out her stepson. My narc looked at me with bone chilling hatred and so the mask slipped. A gentle guy who you think you know and suddenly one day he reveals the eyes glittering and insane. The moment of no return.
Andrew, I want to thank you again…. today, specifically for the insights you’ve given me into removing myself from relationships (whether they are true narcissists or not) in which “friends” I have known for years have been sucking my energy out of me. I have always been there for them, but when I needed support they were completely indifferent at best. I am at the point of no return and finding deeper and deeper levels of peace every day. Have a beautiful, blessed and peaceful day. 🙏😌❣️
Thanks Andrew.. your words are like a healing salve to the wounds Ive endured by the narc in my life. This video is one I will play again to remind myself that life starts after narc abuse.
Oh my freaking goodness...... everything you described for examples are exactly what I went through, dealt with and completing right now. This chapter is almost closed once everything is finalized 🙏✨
You're so right, Andrew. It's like moving a mountain sometimes. Lots of work on ourselves but so worth it. I had codependency issues because of my mom and it reared its ugly head in my relationship with the narc. Coming out of all this isn't easy, but I surrendered to God and was shown signs along the way. Your channel is one of them and I'm very grateful. Thanks for the education, dear one ❤️
Me too. Found Spirit along with this channel which keeps me on the path everyday. thanks getting to third version of me and it is so much better and wholesome 😅 tears and joy along this journey
What is very cruel too is that we have to live in a world where unless they break your break your bones, etc... so many individuals literally get away with hurting others with no accountability. The good person who needs to get away to be able to heal suffers more struggles. 😞
I have a narc girl that just crashed her car. She ghosted me for two months while dating two guys at once. Now she wants me to ride her to work three times per week but doesn't give me anything
The healing path is bumpy but with patience, self-compassion and self-love it is progressing and it is getting better and better until you finally reach the mountain top of indifference. You just do not care, you are done, you reach the point of no return no matter what. Once you see the evil of the cycle and abuse and manipulation you do not want to have anything to do with it! Nothing! Thank you Andrew.
Narcissist rob you of health and peace and happiness, and when you leave them they drag it out in divorce which pure hell, you have dig deep in what core value system , and this video been helpful
My toxic narc mother has been trying to hoover me back in. Been over a year now, because I saw too much. Can't unsee it. The devil is the father of lies, only out to steal, kill and destroy. She shares all of those rotten apples. "I know I've done wrong things, but you've done wrong things too, I miss you..." blah blah. She only ever brought me down. Abused me as a child, physically, emotionally... and most everyone she ever knew. Emotionally at the bare minimum. Jesus Christ died for my sins, was buried, and rose again on the third day. I truly believe this, and by faith, He causes a new birth inside of us hence "born again". Few know what that means. The Born Again Spirit of God, bears all good fruit, and all good, and love only comes from Him. Because He is love. He cannot change our minds though, nor would He want to. He'll give you a taste of hell on earth though, as close as it can get at least...if He knows He can save you.
Thank you, thank you! God bless you! I reached the point of no return several years ago. I am just now feeling more energized, with a clearer mind with motivation and out of the deepest fog. So much to do now, in so little time. I need to get myself out of here. I am making progress towards filing for divorce from my narcissist husband, unless he files first. So much to do in so little time. Andrew your videos are helping me very much. I appreciate your wisdom, kindness & thoughtfulness in educating me and helping me in my journey. ❤
This was a good one today, Andrew, no holds back, in your face, truths - it's the only way to wake the Empath up from their sleep, their manufactured shared fantasy. 🐼
💯‼️ ANDREW, YOU’RE SO CORRECT!! It never stops 💯‼️ it’s the warped musical merry-go-round that you can’t even believe any human being can behave this way en loop. It’s literal BIZZARO-LAND. They belong in the freak show: BEHOLD THE MALIGNANT NARCISSIST!! 🔦🔦🔦 there’s no spotlight emoji-so, flashlight instead. 😩😩😩
I am there and I was even before discard. That relationship was dieing for a couple of last years. The main point was when I realised that I was doing much better without then with him, without hurry and stress I always put into, without demands, coldness which made me scared more and more...no narcissists in my life anymore.
Hi Andrew thank you for this video, yes I have reached the point of no return, I have gone through all of these stages. I am becoming the old me again. I am free! I have hope again. Thank you for all this valuable information.
Great video Andrew. I've reached the point of no return. After the discard I went through some rough times but I made it through. I look back and see how truly evil the narcissist is . Even if he keeps trying to contact me I could never see myself with him ever again. It's really over and I can only move forward and surround myself with loving caring honest people. I am keeping the monsters away from me. Tha😅 thank you everyone and thank you Andrew for the video.
“Some of the most damage inflicted upon you has been done by those closest TO you.” EXACTLY, Andrew! With 2 narc parents, that’s EXACTLY how it is! I hope you’re enjoying your Monday afternoon! GREAT video today! NAILED IT!!! Have a wonderful _rest_ of your day, handsome! 💜🩷💜🩷💜🩷💜🩷💜🩷
@@gratefultobehere 🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗 And speaking of the “point of no return”, I feel like that’s kiiiinda where we are with the houseguest from hell over here. She’s just gonna stay until it becomes REALLY uncomfortable for my parents to tell her to leave. She’s probably thinking to herself right now that that’ll NEVER happen. 😖😖😖 honestly, so am I.
@@jennifernewton4637 she needs to GO. Maybe THIS community could make a visit. Could you just imagine? All the years of held back “no’s” helping her to exit your home? 🤭 Love you 🤗❤️🙏❤️🤗
So true..Never. I did the latter, dear Andrew..And yes, I have a narcissistic mother unfortunately, my father ignored it which made everything worse..Growing up I escaped in my books and you’re right, the narcissism never stopped so I cut them out of my life to protect my children and my health. I am an empath and I can’t believe that my parents aren’t not, the rest of my brothers and sister are still in the toxic narcissistic net voluntarily. So they blame me for not taking care of my narcissistic parents anymore; my siblings are just as worse and I became the scapegoat since I was 8 first with my parents and now the whole family is taking their lack of peace out on me. They have completely isolated me from family gatherings, etc. etc.,But you know what? I at least live my life authentically and how I want to live..With integrity, love and light. I left the country last summer and moved to another with my children; I am happy, at peace and at ease for the first time in my life, but the guilt still creeps in..I try to process by accepting the fact that I did the right thing. And It was really your channel and your knowledge/help about this disease that helped me through. Forever grateful and we love you too. God bless you..❤💐❤️
It feels horrible sticking to your boundaries because in all honesty I enjoy helping. Yet, people are so LAZY!! I think that's worse then anything. People don't know how to use team work. You either do it and recieve a blessing or you get bitter. Bitter is a friend to anger. I do NOT like to be angry. Sometimes the ONLY energy I can tap in to is anger.😢 I keep listening and healing, that's all we can do.
If I can relocate I win completely. I hate bully’s especially when they work together and I just wanna chill, I don’t have the energy for all this.🤦🏿♂️
God showed me a valuable truth once you have experienced a narc everything you hear or see or touch becomes a narcissus out of fear suspicious and doubt there is no complete healing Only a few will ever recover. You will never see outside the box because you are still trapped in it
Thank you. The 5 years of study has save me in many instances at work and at home. I also feel that I face these narc coz of my narc mother - I also overcome them now coz of her as well - I know the script - I feel that desperate need for validation and I want to throw up - I want to be able to detect them earlier and earlier - still learning
Boy oh Boy…. You are Spot on!!! I went “ No Contact “ with my daughter…. I DO NOT MISS HER, only my grandchildren… 6 months after I did… She went & got pregnant and no one told me, when she found out I knew… she contacted me & told me, day, weight,… but I believe she lied about her name! I DID NOT RESPOND TO HER TEX EVEN. I will not acknowledge that child being she didn’t want me too know! But I very reluctantly send B-day gifts to the grandkids, I either drop them off ( without any attention) or mail a card. I hope I’m doing the right thing for the kids! But… I’m SO GLAD SHES OUT OF MY LIFE!!!! I just hope she doesn’t think I’m trying to make up with her!!!! I’m Not at ALL…!!!!!! I’m sure she told them …. I don’t love them anymore…. She will do that!!!!! But on that kids 1st b-day… I WILL NOT ACKNOWLEDGE THAT CHILD!!! I know for a FACT that’s why she had #5… TO GET ME BACK!!! I’m not going back!!!!!!
Amen Brother. Keep up the great work as always and God Bless. Move forward and stand strong Real Men and Real Women. Enjoy checking in with you still from time to time. #soulhug #kjb #thechamp
Tell ya what, had a point of no return situation in the woods on a rock wall a few weeks ago. Life really does flash before your eyes when facing such things. Know who DIDN’T flash before my eyes? That’s right. Not one narc. Point of no return is a blessing. The WORK set before us upon/after discard and fog exit season IS A BLESSING to work on. Why? Because it’s about you. It’s finally about YOU. It isn’t about those evil creatures who robbed you of much of your life and energy. Now you get to take care of YOU. Loving yourself is good. It is worth the work. Such a great video. So many nuggets of wisdom. Thank you again again. I’d take the point of no return over staying with a narc ANYDAY ❤❤❤
Andrew, thank god I came across your channel, this was a blessing and it saved me from staying in this hopeless relationsship. They will never change, but we can!! Don’t give up chosen ones !! ❤
After malignant violent narcissist, I thought I would never stumble upon another. But I did... next one was a covert narcissist. He is still hoovering and smear campaigning. Some time 2 years ago I had trouble with a stalker, who I recognized right away was a narcissist after a conversation with him because he started to send me flowers, clothes, chocolates(I don't like chocolate), alcohol (I don't drink alcohol)and stuff I didn't need. And again and again, I find myself back here, listening, reassuring myself that I'm ok, I'm healing. And thank you for being here.
Hey Andrew, time for another bit of humor. How did you know that when I turn my kitchen light on in the middle of the night, some times I see a cockroach 🪳!!!!!!!!!
Beautifully depicted. The loop really does continue. Your comment about the narc reappearing, like a cockroach when switch the light on, really made me 😂😂💖💖
I'm at the point of No Return and, I can't I unsee what I've seen. My ex Narc hurt Me in so many ways, even physical. I feel hate/anger for him and I don't hate people. I am not usually like that. He's rotten to the core. I feel bad for his little child, who will grow up to be just like him. Thankfully, his mask slipped quickly and I wasn't in the relationship too long. I saw through it quickly somehow. But, the damage is done, even in the short relationship We had. I still cry but, I'm trying to get all the ickyness out and go through all my feelings and emotions. I'm doing the best I can. There is no second chance, round 2 or, making it work. I thank God for getting out & with the help of your videos, Andrew. I am committed to viewing many of your videos daily. It's one of the only things mainly helping Me. Thank God You made these videos. I thank God For You and the help on My healing path 🙏❣️
Your messages are so important Andrew. Every time I loosen up and weaken your videos pop up to remind me of the actual reality. Being an empath is tormenting me . I find my strength awakened by you, thank you 🙏🏻
THANK YOU ANDREW FOR THIS WONDERFUL MESSAGE..CAN'T BELIEVE I HEARD THIS TODAY SO TRUE AND JUST WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR ..MY GOD IS WITH ME. THANK YOU ANDREW LOVE YOU ❤🙏❤.GOD BLESS YOU
Having just seen my ex: I first met him when he was 31, he is now 80, and has not changed one single, solitary bit! Mr. Wonderful claimed many things which I know 110% better, due to experience and 18 years of 'rumored' info finding its way to me after the divorce. My favorite BS lie he told me was how happy he is. LOLOLOL He actually is the most angry, spiteful, sneaky, underhanded and deceitful person I have ever known.
I reached that point about 6 months ago with my 'bestie'. I actually am ashamed of my behaviour in how I finally extricated myself, but when you reach that point, you can never overlook another action of theirs. You just have to do what you have to do. It was the continual lies and stories and excuses to my face, the future faking, while behind my back cultivating a whole new life without me being anything other than a third wheel go to AGAIN. She has gutted my hopes and dreams of a business with her twice now. I still have the introject in my mind, I still justify my actions to her inside my head and I do my best to cancel the thought of how she is destroying me and my character to justify my leaving her life. But I have reached the point where I don't care, because I did the right thing to be away from her covert abuse (which became blatant). I am so highly attuned to how narcissists operate now, and boy, you really do have your hands full protecting boundaries these days. I am glad I am free, every time I would think to give her a call or talk to her, I now just speak to myself, it is a much more positive experience and really worth my valuable time. Cheers and I hope everyone who is on this road, reach the final destination of healing and thriving.
Good morning! 3 of my favorite things: Andrew, elephant foot tree, & you said puppies & rainbows. It’s a beautiful day! (It’s silly but it’s comforting.) I’m learning how deep the damage my ex has done, no only to me & to other women, but a few men & children as well. I knew he was a demented pervert but I had no idea! Once you said you don’t forgive them, they are a parasite. I believe forgiveness is for ourself, so we don’t stay in bondage to them or their 💩 But the more I learn the more I just need to forgive myself for being duped by this loser!!! How did we not see it Andrew?! How did we not know sooner they are really messed up & we need to get out of it?! It’s all so demonic!!! Thank you for being here for us Andrew!!!❤ 🙏😎 ❤🐶 🌈 🌳 If this is your backyard you live in paradise! 🤩
You nailed it with “it’s toxic “. Anyone out there looking for answers on why, how etc you were discarded plz dig into Andrew’s videos. You deserve happiness and it won’t and can’t happen when toxicity is involved aka narc. Trust me, let them go completely and focus on your own healing journey to get to the 3rd you. It’s sooooooo worth it
When I found out my narc ex was still accessing my instagram account with my password to stalk new girls that I have met after her discard, that was it for me. Being free and on the way to indifference feels great!
Codependent & narcissist together is a topic I'd like to know more about. It's one of the hardest situations to get out of since both people are messed up
@narcdaily I know this is probably not the place to share this, but I've been watching your channel and you have helped me so much. You have a larger freckle spot on your cheek that looks just like one that I had that was precancer. It's such an awkward thing to say this on a public comment section. But please if you have not get it checked out. Please. Also my best friend died in 2017 from skin cancer and I can never get him back. Right now my life is so hard and I miss him but he's gone. You are helping us so much and I promise, I'm not trying to be out of line. But if something happens to you and I saw it before you got it checked out, I would feel so guilty. Stay healthy and whole and happy. ***** And yes everything you're talking about was the thing that led us to leave with nowhere to go. The day I went to the police and told them just a little bit about what he was doing, they said it's escalating and he's going to kill us and they said you'll have to get out NOW. We're so used to scramming when my ex would raise his m voice that my daughter and I both ducked and started to run out of the police department when He said "GET OUT NOW" ... The poor officer had to say, "no no no!!! I mean get out of the house and get out now!!" For nights before we left, he wouldn't let me sleep because I was preparing for an art show, he was crying that he had nowhere to go. He owns two houses and he can go to his mom's and he owes me forty thousand dollars but who ended up ALMOST living in their car? US!!! I reached out to so many people to see if we could stay with them for a small amount of time. But people were afraid of me. People thought that there was something wrong with me.These were people that used to be my friends I was so confused. People that offered in the past to take us in if we ever needed anything. Just like we would do if we could. But I had become isolated from all of my friendships over the years so no telling how much of this was his doing. I was just trying to protect my daughter while literally so confused from that brain fog that I just needed a break. He exhausted me to the point that I was literally starving to death and I know he was trying to get me to To commit s**cide. He was telling everybody that I was threatening s**cide which was such a lie. 1 Thank God an old friend showed up just in the nick of time and not only did we need her, she needed us but that's not why we are getting along.We are getting along because we are both survivors of narcissist and we help each other and we enjoy each other's company. Space is tight but I am so grateful. Omg But i'm so used to having to be busy and constantly do for HIM to be allowed to do Anything or not get raged at, that she keeps having to tell me to go lay down or take a nap or take a break.
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When I found article(s) about "how to murder without leaving evidence" stashed in his brief case 23 years ago, I made quick arrangements to get out. I know that I would not be here on Earth if I had not exited the home quickly!!! But I am here and in the third version of myself for about 20 years!! So grateful that I am able to send a virtual hug to Andrew and all folks in this community!! 💞💞💞
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So glad you are alive to tell the tale.
Did anything ever happen to him?? It’s so scary knowing people like him are out there in the world
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So glad you got out mary .....and you trusted your gut narcissists are truly evil
The point of no return - the love finally dies within and there is simply no emotion other than hurt
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It is important to recognize that you cannot control or change the behavior of the Narcissist. They manipulate and control you.
The only person you can truly control is YOURSELF.
Stop the cycle and remove yourself from the toxicity.
I'm glad I did it. The quality of life has changed so much! Thx Andrew for helping me in the darkest hours!❤🙏
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Stop the cycle and remove yourself from the toxicity. Yes, indeed. GREAT ADVICE!
I am there, at the point of no return. When it feels like you are going through HELL 🔥, don't stop - keep going God will see you through. 🙏 ❤️. THANKS ANDREW
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Sending you inner strength and love to get through this very difficult and challenging time. ❤️ 🙏
The only way out is through, you’ll make it. Sending you love and energy.
I needed to hear this. I am grieving nearly 50 years of narc abuse. I couldn't see it. Now I see it clearly. If it were not for others going through this, I don't know what I would do!!!
@@surlif You saw it and felt it, you just didn't know what it was called. I say this because that's my life story as well. I was married for 48 years. I always believed he would change. Did he ? Of course not. I finally left him a little over a year now. I filled for divorce. Just waiting for it to be final. I went through the grieving you mentioned. For me it was because I knew we could of had a good, happy and normal relationship but we didn't. I just had to be honest with myself and accept it was what it was. Not good for me. Just keep listening to Andrew he will help you to put the pieces all together. I will be praying for you. God is what got me through. 🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗🙃🙂😊💞 you are stronger than you realize. God bless you.
You reach the point of no return, when the mask falls and you realise, you never knew the narcissist at all. The sooner you go no contact, the quicker you begin to heal and never look back.
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All they care about is looks, social status, money, personal gain, and how others perceive them. It hurts iam a spiritual person who goes out in flip flops jeans and a pony tail and likes a simple life around nature. Everything was an ordeal and it felt like i was with a drama king. Always chaos and couldnt relax.
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So true. My ex narc took an Alaskan cruise. I didn't go because I don't like boats or the ocean. All he talked about when he got back was dining with a millionaire couple. He didn't talk about the scenery, the food, etc., just the rich people. And, he's got to have a new truck (although he can't afford it on social security) so he can keep up with the Jones's.
...they are so shallow !im at an age were im trying to enrich my mind through culture and history, but my wife wants to be 20again😂
so sad! she stays out drinking / taking drugs with men from the local pub....
i had to leave her and the 3 kids, absolute horrific nightmare of a woman
All you fine community folks, please regard Andrews advice! Take that final step and abort the toxic relationship. The situation WILL NOT improve!! Life is beautiful on that peak of indifference. I'm cheering each of you on as you remove yourself from the abuse!! Thank you Andrew!!❤❤🦋🦋💕💕
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Yes move on I wish I had severed the mom relationship many yrs before she died. My father had a difficult time with my high boundaries towards her. Inside his soul I think he must have regretted marrying my mom. But would never admit it.
@@Cocobear7007 You did what you thought was best at the time so try not to second guess. I trust you are doing well now!! Glad you are here in this community!!❤❤❤
They take take take…..while they breadcrumb and withhold essential things in the relationship. KEEP MOVING FORWARD
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💯 You know when it's time to let go .... you even ignore their hoovers.....you can feel how your silence have power
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Silence is more powerful than most people realize. If I make one statement and don't say another word, the other person involved in the conversation will chatter like a magpie because most people can't endure the silence. Sort of like dropping a hot potato in their lap just to see what they do with it. I've been told information I never dreamed I would hear from doing this.
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@Sandra DenAndra Remain silent. 🙂
Absolutely. . . You know when it's time to leave . . .
NOOOOOOO, I'm NOT EVER GOING DOWN THAT ROAD AGAIN!!! NOT NEVER!!!!! All you are saying is true and I am taking care of me. My Dr told me to keep doing what I am doing...😊
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Hi Andrew and my beautiful family 💜 I can relate to this message today because when I got to the point of tired of being tired and done with being done!! I know I was at that breaking point of no return and all my emotions was gone! I felt myself emotionally detaching from the narcissist which made it more easier to leave!! So to anyone who's going through or either still in a relationship with the narcissist...if you can work on detaching your emotions from The Narcissist you will win and it will make it easier to leave!! Stay strong and I know you got this!! Namaste 🙏🏽 sending love and a virtual hug to anyone who needs it right now!!🥰🥰🥰
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@Mekalove8174, that is absolutely True,I did this and saw less of him,as a Godsend my daughter had my first grandchild so I was slowly emotionally detatching, it was much easier to leave , ,anyhow wishing you all the Best, ❤️🙏🙏👍
I agree. The abuse got so bad that there's no way I could have ever been able to love him anymore. No matter how much I loved him. It was never good enough and I always felt like the most disgusting human being when I was around him.
@@octoberdawn1087 yes that's for sure ,the put downs were slyly used as jokes,. I sat there one weekend and thought something had to go it was either me or the wallpaper as A quote from(Oscar Wilde) and it wasn't the wallpaper!! ,,,,,,,Keep well wishing you all the very best ,❤️🦋🕯️🌺✨👍👍👍☘️
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I thought I would always love him and he was the love of my life but he was so evil and did the most horriblest things to me plus abused me so when I started to emotionally detached from him he disgusts me every time I had to be around and I didn't feel the same anymore!! I worked a lot and tried to be home whenever he wasn't there and if he was there nothing he said anymore offended me he couldn't guess like me anymore because I know who he was!!
Instead of calling check mate on the “game”, I decided not to play anymore. I win by walking away……and never looking back. Another great video Andrew.
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Same thing I said the other day. I’m not playing the game anymore.:::
I was absolutely terrorized by a narc "mother". I can now warn and guide my sons not to fall into this evil. In that case worth it!
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The physical beating’s became much easier to deal with, the verbal and mental abuse was horrendous.
God bless you April
My mother was married 6 times. I can remember my sister's getting along with my Mom but I can't remember her ever talking to me. I was dyslexic plus some other issues. I think she thought I was stupid and gave up on me.
I had behavior problems too, sadly. I had no direction...
My children do not like me, they called me a narrisist, they haven't called me that in awhile. Probably because I read the description and said, I'm a very caring person how can you say that. The truth is, I care to damn MUCH! I will give you my last dime...
Everytime I hear someone calling their mother a narrisist, it feels like I'm being stab in the heart. It's painful.
I do understand some mother's are controlling... but this MOTHER talked to my children all the time, supported any activities they wanted to do.
All this would be different if my husband hadn't passed away. It's okay to set boundaries and when things get tough, disappear. Side note, you don't have to fight for freedom but in the end, some parents are so damage from their childhood they take on narcissistic energy. I hope that helps. I agree, absence helps a lot. The bible says to respect your Mom and Dad, I think that's why this world is getting so bad. It's hard to respect someone when they make you feel unlovable!!😢
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@@therooster6104 thank you! You know exactly what it's like. God bless you also!😇
Nothing worse than a narc female 😢
I identify with the point of no return. I will never have any place for the narcissist in my life 😊
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Hoovered 5 times now....never going back. Right here right now and healthy and strong!!!!!! Ty Andrew your work is so important
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There is no going back and you certainly cannot unsee what you've seen, once that mask slips. All you can do is acknowledge the fact that you were in a toxic relationship, that served the narcissist and not you. They took from you and brought nothing to the table except for ongoing chaos and confusion, pain and suffering. I was discarded just over a year now. And left broken and betrayed after being married for over three decades and raising a family (now divided and hurt) in every way. I have learned so much from you Andrew, God bless you and from reading the comments - this community is a lifeline in a sea of uncertainty but if you hang in there and do the work, being kind to yourself along the healing path, you will in time come through and find yourself again. Hang on tight to Gods hand and keep moving forward, towards the light....i still have a lot to work through from a practical point of view, one of them trying to keep a roof over my head, financially ruined etc but i believe in time i will find a way with Gods help. Sending much love and positive healing light and energy to you all. Namaste 🙏🌸🌸🌸
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My story too. I am working hard on me too. Well done you.xx
Keep working on yourself. You will recover and thrive . May you be compensated for all the years n tears . . . I am 6 months out of a 23 year marriage to a narcissistic husband. I feel invincible. . .
The only way to win is not to play! You get to choose to walk away!
What i noticed was alot of his family members were flying monkeys and he would turn them against me and they would act strange towards me i never felt comfortable or welcomed around them and it hurt me. I realized these people were not kind and now im around people who care and show empathy and act like human beings. I have a new found gratitude and appreciation for good people.
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My sister-in-law bought into his lies about us not being together, after we went to every family gathering together. She bought into his smear campaign against me, and encouraged his affair with her best friend. So traumatizing to learn someone you love can be easily persuaded to another's opinion
I can’t even begin to thank you for all the help you’ve given me through your videos. My strength as well as my knowledge of narcissism has grown from them. Please keep your videos coming 🙌❤️
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Same ! Dec23,2022 I was discarded and it is and was the saddest😢 and BEST day 😊of my life! Thanks Andrew FOR THE WISDOM!!❤I’m moving forward and living for me and my beautiful children 😇, my life is coming back!
I have experiences with multiple narcissists throughout my life. Every time I have reached a breaking point, it was a signal to me that I need to permanently leave the relationship.
Now I learned that if I see red flags, I don’t give chances I leave. I have no guilt. Peace and freedom are things worth holding onto.
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🎉Living in the now is so rewarding 🎉 ❤
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As in the Matrix, you can either take the blue pill or the red pill. No one can be told what the matrix is. You have to see it for yourself. If you take the blue pill, the story ends and you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. If you take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes. Thank you, Andrew, for offering us the pills. I'll take the red pill please. I want to know how deep the rabbit hole goes. - Joe
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... And the discard feels just like when Neo is flushed out of his pod when he wakes up! 😔
I can't tell you how many times the narcissist took my ideas & then acted like they came up with them.....
too many red flags & I was too nice for too long!
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It has got to be one of the most hardest things in the world to do when one has to cut off those whom they've (mistakenly) believed to be "close" to them, be it family or friend, but it unfortunately must be done when all other avenues/solutions (or rather, lack thereof) has been completely, and utterly exhausted for our own well-deserved peace of mind and health!! 💗
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You look great and healthy andrew keep up the good work i love your wisdom. 7 years of hell to escape and heavy praying to leave. Still brokenhearted and lost at times, the aftermath is not sumshine and rainbows its hard work to continue growing and not going back. Bless all ❤
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Breaking and healing the trauma bond is the worst part of walking away from a Narcissist
I remember being at the point of no return in the narc marriage of over 20 years, the exact date when I had to leave my home to go to a women's domestic violence shelter because of emotional, financial, and physical abuse and I was too afraid to stay in the home any longer. My therapist told me to not go home, to go to the police station, and be brought to a women's domestic violence shelter in the US. I was grateful for the help I received from the therapist, the policeman, and the shelter staff people but it felt very unusual to have to leave the home and never go back. I was trying to go with the flow and adapt to the daily life in the shelter when I stayed for three months. Looking back, having to leave was the best thing in the long run that could have happened to me to catapult me to start my own life. Namaste. ❤️ 🙏 ☀️
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I hug you from Austria! You are not alone❤
@@truffaut650truffaut6 Thank you so much! You are not alone either. ❤️ 🙏
Oh Holly 💖 Feeling into your words. My goodness you are strong. I'm so, so proud of you anyway knowing how far you have come but having read your words describing what happened when you left, I am in awe of your strength Holly 💞🙏
Holly, you are a strong, brave girl. You gave yourself the beautiful opportunity for safety and freedom. I understand how hard that was. The police and courts failed to keep me safe, so I did it myself.
YES the point of no return is Clear as Daylight, it hits you like Lightning ⚡⚡ No Going Back, To Him and all that retched Confusion. I felt So Relieved like the whole World was Lifted off my Shoulders,I planned my Exit, sooner rather than Later,.👍❤️🙏🌺🕯️🦋😊
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Yes my ex is dragging out divorce, trying to use kids as pawns but he messed with the wrong one. I'm fighting him every single step of the way. He and his family are blocked. I was only 17 when I met him, he was 24, I was completely pure and naive. I literally had a dream of him draining white light from me.
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This was my dad, my mom & my husband. The grief is unreal. I’m moving forward, it’s just hard when you’re blamed for the things they did. Crazy making. Psychopaths I feel terrible for my kids and hope they see the light.
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Once we have the vocabulary and the ideas, the narc techniques stop working. It's like when you learn to read a curve ball. "Which section of seats shall I home run it into?" The point of no return is when you see the things you can't unsee and you learn from them. "Be here now."
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These people are so evil. Hard for me to wrap my mind around.
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I spent a lifetime with a malignant Machiavellian. One day our neighbor was bitching out her stepson. My narc looked at me with bone chilling hatred and so the mask slipped. A gentle guy who you think you know and suddenly one day he reveals the eyes glittering and insane. The moment of no return.
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It’s taken me 29 years but I’m at the point of no return. It’s been 2 months and I’m enjoying the peace and freedom.
It's shocking how far I've come, but finally, I'm feeling a balance. No contact is the answer. Andrew, I thank you for that for your great videos.
Andrew, I want to thank you again…. today, specifically for the insights you’ve given me into removing myself from relationships (whether they are true narcissists or not) in which “friends” I have known for years have been sucking my energy out of me. I have always been there for them, but when I needed support they were completely indifferent at best. I am at the point of no return and finding deeper and deeper levels of peace every day. Have a beautiful, blessed and peaceful day. 🙏😌❣️
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When I was sick and still am , they didn’t even care . How terrible !!! I can’t believe my family member could be so cruel.
Thanks Andrew.. your words are like a healing salve to the wounds Ive endured by the narc in my life. This video is one I will play again to remind myself that life starts after narc abuse.
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I almost spit out my soda when you said, "just like a cockroach..." 😂
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Oh my freaking goodness...... everything you described for examples are exactly what I went through, dealt with and completing right now. This chapter is almost closed once everything is finalized 🙏✨
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You're so right, Andrew. It's like moving a mountain sometimes. Lots of work on ourselves but so worth it. I had codependency issues because of my mom and it reared its ugly head in my relationship with the narc. Coming out of all this isn't easy, but I surrendered to God and was shown signs along the way. Your channel is one of them and I'm very grateful. Thanks for the education, dear one ❤️
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Me too. Found Spirit along with this channel which keeps me on the path everyday. thanks getting to third version of me and it is so much better and wholesome 😅 tears and joy along this journey
Thank you Andrew for this wonderful message !!! God Bless you for continuing to educate us every day… Love you ❤️🙏💕🥰🙌
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What is very cruel too is that we have to live in a world where unless they break your break your bones, etc... so many individuals literally get away with hurting others with no accountability. The good person who needs to get away to be able to heal suffers more struggles. 😞
4:11 this is gospel.
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I have a narc girl that just crashed her car. She ghosted me for two months while dating two guys at once. Now she wants me to ride her to work three times per week but doesn't give me anything
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The healing path is bumpy but with patience, self-compassion and self-love it is progressing and it is getting better and better until you finally reach the mountain top of indifference. You just do not care, you are done, you reach the point of no return no matter what. Once you see the evil of the cycle and abuse and manipulation you do not want to have anything to do with it! Nothing! Thank you Andrew.
Perfect timing for this message, Andrew!
Too many narcs in my life...but ended up blocking a Hoover today.
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nice job, me too!
Proud of you blocking the hoover. Keep up the good work.
Narcissist rob you of health and peace and happiness, and when you leave them they drag it out in divorce which pure hell, you have dig deep in what core value system , and this video been helpful
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My toxic narc mother has been trying to hoover me back in. Been over a year now, because I saw too much. Can't unsee it. The devil is the father of lies, only out to steal, kill and destroy. She shares all of those rotten apples. "I know I've done wrong things, but you've done wrong things too, I miss you..." blah blah. She only ever brought me down. Abused me as a child, physically, emotionally... and most everyone she ever knew. Emotionally at the bare minimum. Jesus Christ died for my sins, was buried, and rose again on the third day. I truly believe this, and by faith, He causes a new birth inside of us hence "born again". Few know what that means. The Born Again Spirit of God, bears all good fruit, and all good, and love only comes from Him. Because He is love. He cannot change our minds though, nor would He want to. He'll give you a taste of hell on earth though, as close as it can get at least...if He knows He can save you.
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Thank you, thank you! God bless you! I reached the point of no return several years ago. I am just now feeling more energized, with a clearer mind with motivation and out of the deepest fog. So much to do now, in so little time. I need to get myself out of here. I am making progress towards filing for divorce from my narcissist husband, unless he files first. So much to do in so little time. Andrew your videos are helping me very much. I appreciate your wisdom, kindness & thoughtfulness in educating me and helping me in my journey. ❤
I do not have "friends" to be there for me. What I have learned is to be my own best friend !
This was a good one today, Andrew, no holds back, in your face, truths - it's the only way to wake the Empath up from their sleep, their manufactured shared fantasy. 🐼
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💯‼️ ANDREW, YOU’RE SO CORRECT!! It never stops 💯‼️ it’s the warped musical merry-go-round that you can’t even believe any human being can behave this way en loop. It’s literal BIZZARO-LAND. They belong in the freak show: BEHOLD THE MALIGNANT NARCISSIST!! 🔦🔦🔦 there’s no spotlight emoji-so, flashlight instead. 😩😩😩
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I am there and I was even before discard. That relationship was dieing for a couple of last years. The main point was when I realised that I was doing much better without then with him, without hurry and stress I always put into, without demands, coldness which made me scared more and more...no narcissists in my life anymore.
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Hi Andrew thank you for this video, yes I have reached the point of no return, I have gone through all of these stages. I am becoming the old me again. I am free! I have hope again. Thank you for all this valuable information.
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Catherine, couldn’t have put it better. I am enjoying life again as me❤
@@ginamclean659 so wonderful to hear Gina❤
Great video Andrew. I've reached the point of no return. After the discard I went through some rough times but I made it through. I look back and see how truly evil the narcissist is . Even if he keeps trying to contact me I could never see myself with him ever again. It's really over and I can only move forward and surround myself with loving caring honest people. I am keeping the monsters away from me. Tha😅 thank you everyone and thank you Andrew for the video.
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Narcissistic fog is a serious issue. It can also affect productivity, your job, and your daily activities.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you your post is very helpful
Perfect timing , good to hear real sense , God bless you too .
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“Some of the most damage inflicted upon you has been done by those closest TO you.” EXACTLY, Andrew! With 2 narc parents, that’s EXACTLY how it is! I hope you’re enjoying your Monday afternoon! GREAT video today! NAILED IT!!! Have a wonderful _rest_ of your day, handsome! 💜🩷💜🩷💜🩷💜🩷💜🩷
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@@gratefultobehere 🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗 And speaking of the “point of no return”, I feel like that’s kiiiinda where we are with the houseguest from hell over here. She’s just gonna stay until it becomes REALLY uncomfortable for my parents to tell her to leave. She’s probably thinking to herself right now that that’ll NEVER happen. 😖😖😖 honestly, so am I.
@@jennifernewton4637 she needs to GO. Maybe THIS community could make a visit. Could you just imagine? All the years of held back “no’s” helping her to exit your home? 🤭
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@@gratefultobehere 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 It’s the stuff DREAMS are made of Chelsea!!! Love you too! 🤗🩷🤗🩷🤗🩷🤗
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So true..Never. I did the latter, dear Andrew..And yes, I have a narcissistic mother unfortunately, my father ignored it which made everything worse..Growing up I escaped in my books and you’re right, the narcissism never stopped so I cut them out of my life to protect my children and my health. I am an empath and I can’t believe that my parents aren’t not, the rest of my brothers and sister are still in the toxic narcissistic net voluntarily. So they blame me for not taking care of my narcissistic parents anymore; my siblings are just as worse and I became the scapegoat since I was 8 first with my parents and now the whole family is taking their lack of peace out on me. They have completely isolated me from family gatherings, etc. etc.,But you know what? I at least live my life authentically and how I want to live..With integrity, love and light. I left the country last summer and moved to another with my children; I am happy, at peace and at ease for the first time in my life, but the guilt still creeps in..I try to process by accepting the fact that I did the right thing. And It was really your channel and your knowledge/help about this disease that helped me through. Forever grateful and we love you too. God bless you..❤💐❤️
Love the cockroach in the kitchen analogy
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It feels horrible sticking to your boundaries because in all honesty I enjoy helping. Yet, people are so LAZY!! I think that's worse then anything. People don't know how to use team work. You either do it and recieve a blessing or you get bitter. Bitter is a friend to anger. I do NOT like to be angry. Sometimes the ONLY energy I can tap in to is anger.😢
I keep listening and healing, that's all we can do.
I experience that with people who are passive-aggressive.
I just want to cry because I'm so frustrated!
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Just tell people how you feel! No sense in stewing in misery.
@@human-qp1mf You are right. I am afraid of my own rage!
@@human-qp1mf That has happened to people before- the message disappearing. Very strange.
Yep...reached that point 7 years ago. 😊 He's had a rough go of it ever since. 😊
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10 months NC - thank you for another great video Andrew!
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Absolutely about the chaos and walking on eggshells no relax.
It’s a horrible way to live!!!!!! They are disgusting human beings
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True story❣️🍀Thank you for everything. I get it now. Thank you for saving me. 🎉
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9:44 loaned money but never repaid
10:00 selfies for replacement
10:41 wanted to take me down
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If I can relocate I win completely. I hate bully’s especially when they work together and I just wanna chill, I don’t have the energy for all this.🤦🏿♂️
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“Top of the mountain of indifference”. . . Oh what a joyous place that will be!
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God showed me a valuable truth once you have experienced a narc everything you hear or see or touch becomes a narcissus out of fear suspicious and doubt there is no complete healing
Only a few will ever recover. You will never see outside the box because you are still trapped in it
Thank you. The 5 years of study has save me in many instances at work and at home. I also feel that I face these narc coz of my narc mother - I also overcome them now coz of her as well - I know the script - I feel that desperate need for validation and I want to throw up - I want to be able to detect them earlier and earlier - still learning
What's happening to trump is a good example of narcissism!
Boy oh Boy…. You are Spot on!!! I went “ No Contact “ with my daughter…. I DO NOT MISS HER, only my grandchildren… 6 months after I did… She went & got pregnant and no one told me, when she found out I knew… she contacted me & told me, day, weight,… but I believe she lied about her name! I DID NOT RESPOND TO HER TEX EVEN. I will not acknowledge that child being she didn’t want me too know! But I very reluctantly send B-day gifts to the grandkids, I either drop them off ( without any attention) or mail a card. I hope I’m doing the right thing for the kids! But… I’m SO GLAD SHES OUT OF MY LIFE!!!!
I just hope she doesn’t think I’m trying to make up with her!!!! I’m Not at ALL…!!!!!!
I’m sure she told them …. I don’t love them anymore…. She will do that!!!!!
But on that kids 1st b-day… I WILL NOT ACKNOWLEDGE THAT CHILD!!!
I know for a FACT that’s why she had #5… TO GET ME BACK!!! I’m not going back!!!!!!
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Amen Brother. Keep up the great work as always and God Bless. Move forward and stand strong Real Men and Real Women. Enjoy checking in with you still from time to time. #soulhug #kjb #thechamp
Tell ya what, had a point of no return situation in the woods on a rock wall a few weeks ago. Life really does flash before your eyes when facing such things. Know who DIDN’T flash before my eyes? That’s right. Not one narc. Point of no return is a blessing. The WORK set before us upon/after discard and fog exit season IS A BLESSING to work on. Why? Because it’s about you. It’s finally about YOU. It isn’t about those evil creatures who robbed you of much of your life and energy. Now you get to take care of YOU. Loving yourself is good. It is worth the work. Such a great video. So many nuggets of wisdom. Thank you again again. I’d take the point of no return over staying with a narc ANYDAY ❤❤❤
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Andrew, thank god I came across your channel, this was a blessing and it saved me from staying in this hopeless relationsship. They will never change, but we can!! Don’t give up chosen ones !! ❤
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Thank you, Andrew. I really needed to see this. Hope we can escape him before he kills us.
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Can’t believe I heard this today, so true and just what I needed to hear.
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After malignant violent narcissist, I thought I would never stumble upon another. But I did... next one was a covert narcissist. He is still hoovering and smear campaigning. Some time 2 years ago I had trouble with a stalker, who I recognized right away was a narcissist after a conversation with him because he started to send me flowers, clothes, chocolates(I don't like chocolate), alcohol (I don't drink alcohol)and stuff I didn't need. And again and again, I find myself back here, listening, reassuring myself that I'm ok, I'm healing. And thank you for being here.
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Great video Andrew, bless you coach. ❤🙏😊
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Can't go back, even if I wanted to, which I don't.
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Hey Andrew, time for another bit of humor. How did you know that when I turn my kitchen light on in the middle of the night, some times I see a cockroach 🪳!!!!!!!!!
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That was so funny when he said that!😂
@@emilywilson7308 I tell you, I hate those doggone things. No matter how I clean the kitchen!!!
Beautifully depicted. The loop really does continue. Your comment about the narc reappearing, like a cockroach when switch the light on, really made me 😂😂💖💖
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I'm at the point of No Return and, I can't I unsee what I've seen. My ex Narc hurt Me in so many ways, even physical. I feel hate/anger for him and I don't hate people. I am not usually like that. He's rotten to the core. I feel bad for his little child, who will grow up to be just like him. Thankfully, his mask slipped quickly and I wasn't in the relationship too long. I saw through it quickly somehow. But, the damage is done, even in the short relationship We had. I still cry but, I'm trying to get all the ickyness out and go through all my feelings and emotions. I'm doing the best I can. There is no second chance, round 2 or, making it work. I thank God for getting out & with the help of your videos, Andrew. I am committed to viewing many of your videos daily. It's one of the only things mainly helping Me. Thank God You made these videos. I thank God For You and the help on My healing path 🙏❣️
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Universal check mate 😉🙏💪
Thanks. Got it! Have a happy day.
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We're the one's that are crazy, lol. I lost myself once before. When you see a behavior pattern, get help & get out. Do not return.
Your messages are so important Andrew. Every time I loosen up and weaken your videos pop up to remind me of the actual reality. Being an empath is tormenting me . I find my strength awakened by you, thank you 🙏🏻
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THANK YOU ANDREW FOR THIS WONDERFUL MESSAGE..CAN'T BELIEVE I HEARD THIS TODAY SO TRUE AND JUST WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR ..MY GOD IS WITH ME. THANK YOU ANDREW LOVE YOU ❤🙏❤.GOD BLESS YOU
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Having just seen my ex: I first met him when he was 31, he is now 80, and has not changed one single, solitary bit! Mr. Wonderful claimed many things which I know 110% better, due to experience and 18 years of 'rumored' info finding its way to me after the divorce. My favorite BS lie he told me was how happy he is.
LOLOLOL He actually is the most angry, spiteful, sneaky, underhanded and deceitful person I have ever known.
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I reached that point about 6 months ago with my 'bestie'. I actually am ashamed of my behaviour in how I finally extricated myself, but when you reach that point, you can never overlook another action of theirs. You just have to do what you have to do. It was the continual lies and stories and excuses to my face, the future faking, while behind my back cultivating a whole new life without me being anything other than a third wheel go to AGAIN. She has gutted my hopes and dreams of a business with her twice now. I still have the introject in my mind, I still justify my actions to her inside my head and I do my best to cancel the thought of how she is destroying me and my character to justify my leaving her life. But I have reached the point where I don't care, because I did the right thing to be away from her covert abuse (which became blatant). I am so highly attuned to how narcissists operate now, and boy, you really do have your hands full protecting boundaries these days. I am glad I am free, every time I would think to give her a call or talk to her, I now just speak to myself, it is a much more positive experience and really worth my valuable time. Cheers and I hope everyone who is on this road, reach the final destination of healing and thriving.
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Thank you. Weeks to go til out of shared house and freedom beckons . Namaste
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3 of my favorite things: Andrew, elephant foot tree, & you said puppies & rainbows. It’s a beautiful day! (It’s silly but it’s comforting.)
I’m learning how deep the damage my ex has done, no only to me & to other women, but a few men & children as well. I knew he was a demented pervert but I had no idea!
Once you said you don’t forgive them, they are a parasite. I believe forgiveness is for ourself, so we don’t stay in bondage to them or their 💩
But the more I learn the more I just need to forgive myself for being duped by this loser!!!
How did we not see it Andrew?! How did we not know sooner they are really messed up & we need to get out of it?!
It’s all so demonic!!!
Thank you for being here for us Andrew!!!❤ 🙏😎
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If this is your backyard you live in paradise! 🤩
You nailed it with “it’s toxic “. Anyone out there looking for answers on why, how etc you were discarded plz dig into Andrew’s videos. You deserve happiness and it won’t and can’t happen when toxicity is involved aka narc. Trust me, let them go completely and focus on your own healing journey to get to the 3rd you. It’s sooooooo worth it
Thank God,I was delivered,and thankful for your teachings. God Bless❤🙏
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When I found out my narc ex was still accessing my instagram account with my password to stalk new girls that I have met after her discard, that was it for me. Being free and on the way to indifference feels great!
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Codependent & narcissist together is a topic I'd like to know more about. It's one of the hardest situations to get out of since both people are messed up
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Thank you for always being on time 💛
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Your an AMAZING healer! You’ve helped me tremendously ❤❤❤❤❤GOD BLESS YOU
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I know this is probably not the place to share this, but I've been watching your channel and you have helped me so much. You have a larger freckle spot on your cheek that looks just like one that I had that was precancer.
It's such an awkward thing to say this on a public comment section. But please if you have not get it checked out. Please. Also my best friend died in 2017 from skin cancer and I can never get him back. Right now my life is so hard and I miss him but he's gone. You are helping us so much and I promise, I'm not trying to be out of line. But if something happens to you and I saw it before you got it checked out, I would feel so guilty. Stay healthy and whole and happy.
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And yes everything you're talking about was the thing that led us to leave with nowhere to go. The day I went to the police and told them just a little bit about what he was doing, they said it's escalating and he's going to kill us and they said you'll have to get out NOW. We're so used to scramming when my ex would raise his m voice that my daughter and I both ducked and started to run out of the police department when He said "GET OUT NOW" ... The poor officer had to say, "no no no!!! I mean get out of the house and get out now!!"
For nights before we left, he wouldn't let me sleep because I was preparing for an art show, he was crying that he had nowhere to go. He owns two houses and he can go to his mom's and he owes me forty thousand dollars but who ended up ALMOST living in their car?
US!!! I reached out to so many people to see if we could stay with them for a small amount of time. But people were afraid of me. People thought that there was something wrong with me.These were people that used to be my friends I was so confused. People that offered in the past to take us in if we ever needed anything. Just like we would do if we could. But I had become isolated from all of my friendships over the years so no telling how much of this was his doing.
I was just trying to protect my daughter while literally so confused from that brain fog that I just needed a break. He exhausted me to the point that I was literally starving to death and I know he was trying to get me to To commit s**cide. He was telling everybody that I was threatening s**cide which was such a lie. 1
Thank God an old friend showed up just in the nick of time and not only did we need her, she needed us but that's not why we are getting along.We are getting along because we are both survivors of narcissist and we help each other and we enjoy each other's company. Space is tight but I am so grateful. Omg
But i'm so used to having to be busy and constantly do for HIM to be allowed to do Anything or not get raged at, that she keeps having to tell me to go lay down or take a nap or take a break.
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