Exactly , being a friend doesn't mean you have to be supportive of stupid stuff. He had to be mean because Phoebe didn't accept that she had to give the cat away even when Ross told her about the missing cat. I would be really annoyed if i have to apologize to phoebe for this shit😂.
he was right to tell phoebe to return the cat, but he wasn't being supportive because he was being really rude about confronting someone who has obvious emotional trauma. he could have approached the situation a lot better.
@@wolfe4683 At first Ross was doing it kindly to say that the cat was someones cat but Phoebe said the cat came to her....that what piss Ross of cause she wanted to steal the cat.But yea Ross shouldnt scream at her.
@@bilalhussain_bb I just think that Ross was being disrespectful to Phoebe and her spirituality, for she was using it as a coping strategy. I don't think it's funny how the show makes jokes of Phoebe's terrible childhood (mother committing suicide, deadbeat dad, stepfather in prison, living on the streets with strangers at the age of 13 or 14, never going to high school or college) and how Ross brags about he was the golden child and is the most intelligent, tearing others down in the process (Rachel's fashion career, Monica's childhood obesity, Joey's lack of booksmarts or Chandler having some links to his feminine side). I don't wish any hardships or violence towards David Schwimmer, he is a gifted comedic actor but it is utterly infuriating to see his character so egotistical and obnoxious not open his mind more often. If you disagree with me, that's okay. To each his own.
@@unnesflash4917 yeah it's actually Chandler not chanandler, but that's not the point. It is a reference to another one of the episodes. The One with the Embryos.
Ross may be right but he does lack a bit of compassion in this scene, he was a bit sharp and harsh on Pheobe, and although what Pheobe did made no sense, it was because she missed her dead mother, Ross could have handled it better!
Foxface123 compassion is not what was needed here. A grown adult was basically stealing a little girls cat because she’s caught up in fantasy. Ross totally acted perfectly. It was unreasonable for the other 4 to just let it happen too.
@@gracepuckey3090 with someone like phoebe you have to call it out for what it is. I mean she's a grown woman for fuck sake and she's behaving like a fruit loop. The only thing Ross did wrong was apologise because he had nothing to apologise for and doing so weakened his position.
Ross is always so sweet to Phoebe, he said sorry to console her feelings about her mom, he bought her the wonderful bike and taught her how to ride it, he said sorry nevertheless when Phoebe was mad at him without knowing the reason, pretended to call as imaginary Vikram because he didn't want Mike to break up with Phoebe. Ross is a good friend
I also remember he got tickets for the Sting concert that Phoebe wanted even though she got in trouble with his wife sting I mean but still he bought her tickets for the show for both of them
What about the little girl? Probably bawling her eyes out over her lost cat. That was not even brought up and they try to make Ross look bad? He is the only one of virtue here.
Seriously, have u ever had a fucking cat, or a kid? those are prowlers, come and go is the name of the game and don't get me started on a kid-they get pets to learn about life, and death
Ross is made to look bad for telling Phoebe, "this cat isn't your Mom," not "you need to return this cat." All he does by saying, "this cat isn't your Mom" is force Phoebe to deprive herself of a connection with her Mom. And if you look at the end, Phoebe goes to give the cat back, as soon as she hears it belongs to someone else.
C L wdym come and go? They don’t just get pets to learn about life. People grow up with dogs and cats and become attach them to almost immediately. How can you say the girl is just gonna move on without being heartbroken knowing her cat is out there and she doesn’t know wether it’s dead or alive
C L ?? Um MOST parents don’t give their kids a pet just for it to die so the kid learns about grief. Pets are part of the family, no one wishes they die or run away.
By yelling and humiliating her? She knew it was JUST A CAT. That matter was way more sensitive to her and it had nothing to do with the cat whatsoever. Ross is Mr. Obvious just as your comment. Jesus.
"even if I'm wrong who cares" I hated Pheobe her for playing the victim. The cat belongs to a little girl who has been posting flyers everywhere, and she's just pretending that the cat is her mother. Ross was actually being a good friend for telling her the truth.
@@faerieliana she is super conniving and manipulative the entire series. She was probably the most sociopathic out of all of them and pretended to be the "free spirit"
@@zoefang4563 just bcoz phoebe lost her parents doesn't justify her keeping the cat. At the end phoebe did the right thing bcoz Ross explained her. Before Ross said that phoebe said that "The cat chose to find me. I have to respect her decision". If Ross hadn't said it then phoebe wouldn't have returned the cat. U can clearly see what I said in the video but chose to ignore it bcoz without doing that u cant make Ross look bad. Ross tried to explain her in a nice way but she didn't understand so he had to take the harsh. The only wrong thing he did was apologizing for doing the right thing
Chandler was so witty here. in a single line he not only made the mood lighter, he also pointed out how stupid it sounds to call someone else's cat as lost spirit of your mother.
This was a weird storyline. For those of you who don't know it, it was one of the writer's idea, Marta Kauffman, who had just lost her mother. No one else in the team really liked this story, but no one had the guts to say no to Marta, so... It's understandable.
It's not a weird storyline for Phoebe, in season one she spends a whole episode believing that a old women's soul entered her body.... she is just an annoying character that's all.
But it was sweet and it highlights one of the grossest discrepancies between all the other characters vs Phoebe: they all came from relatively normal families (except for maybe Chanandler) while Phoebe was very underprivileged. When you came from normal household, it is harder to emphatize with loss or poverty or mental illness. So I think this episode sort of dealt with that.
I always wondered why the hell the other four played into Phoebe's delusion as something harmless when she quite literally stole a little girl's cat. And somehow Ross is the bad guy in this situation.
Stealing would be when she sneaked up in to the girl's backyard and snatch the cat away, which she literally did not do. She found the cat, she was hoping that it was a stray so she could keep it, when she found that it belonged to a girl, she gave it back (with some coaxing from Ross, ofc). If I found a cat that cute, I might think of keeping it too, if it is an actual stray.
Continuous Self-Improvement before Ross got mad she wanted to keep it anyways because cat “chose her”. Finding lost cat and keeping them away from owners, whom you know is still stealing. So at the time, she actually was stealing a cat
@@continuousself-improvement1879 did you not watch the part in which she was told it was not her cat and decided that it was her decision to come to her. yeah that's stealing honey... maybe not at first did she think she was stealing but she certainly was in that moment.
@@harshkumarf4379 Considering the fact, when she found out the cat belong to some, she still refused to give it back, which is considered stealing. I rmr I found hello kitty soccer ball in my backyard, as much as I wanted to keep it but when the owner claims it. I had no choice to give it up or it will be considered stealing bc I would be refusing to give something back that wasn't mined in the first place. It would not be considered stealing if no one claimed the ball tho. It's like if you find a credit card on the floor instead of reporting a lost credit, you decide to keep it and use it. It would be just as bad as if you got it from someone's wallet when she wasn't looking.
This one bugged me. Phoebe guilt-tripped Ross (and the others encouraged her) but she was the one being selfish in keeping the cat knowing a little girl was looking for it Not for the first time, Ross was the only mature adult in the episode
Most people seem to agree. Many members of the cast and crew, including the show's creators, have openly shared their dislike for this episode. Even calling it one of their least favorite episodes
@@superjackster0165 There are plenty of worse episodes than this. Hell, most of seasons 9 and 10 is worse. The way they handled this story was flawed. But at least it was funny, which I can’t say for a lot of goofier stories. Also, the Friends are a rather mean bunch and frequently feed into Phoebe’s delusions. So, it’s not that unusual.
@@liteflightify I would gladly take every Season 9 and 10 episode over this one. At least I can sit through those episodes without getting pissed off. Yes, the Friends often feed into Phoebe's delusions. But they usually had a limit on how far they'd feed into them. In this episode, they were totally okay with Phoebe keeping a cat that didn't belong to her, despite the fact that a little girl was searching for it, all because she believed her dead mother's soul was inside of it. Ross was the only one willing to tell her how she crossed the line. Yet, the episode seemed to think that Ross was the bad guy for rightfully calling her out?
You mean compassion for Phoebe's stupidity? All the other suckers playing into her delusions while Ross was the only one who had an ounce of brains here.
russkate88 She’s not stupid. She went through something traumatic. It may seem strange to someone on the outside looking in, but people cope with death in different ways. Phoebe probably didn’t have time to accept her mother’s death because she had to focus on surviving alone. I’m not saying Ross is wrong for being honest with Phoebe, but that doesn’t mean we can’t see things from both perspectives. And, before anyone says anything, yes, I know this is just a show. I know these are just actors. I like analyzing situations like this so anyone who’s typing up reply, “It’s just a show.” can stop now. Trust me, I KNOW.
I think they all do a great job here, but I especially think this is one of Jennifer Aniston's greatest scenes ever... the tone, the body language. It just wouldn't have worked if she hadn't nailed it so perfectly.
C L Compassion for a friend who’s mother killed herself and then was left alone to fend for herself. That’s the whole point of the show. Friends. I don’t know what shows you watch, but they’re obviously very violent
This was one of those times when Ross was totally in the right even though everyone treated him like he wasn't. Going along with a friend's delusions like that is just wrong, not to mention the poor little girl who's lost her cat.
Being friend doesn't mean you should pretend not to know things and allow your friend to do wrong things. As Dumbledore once said "'It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but a great deal more to stand up to our friends."
@@signalfire15 Ross was actually pretty calm through the whole situation, he didn't really raise his voice as we know we can hear him do but he added more firmness to his tone to emote his stance on the situation and even apologized about Phobe's situation with her mother but made it clear what they were doing was wrong by keeping the Cat away from a little girl who was most likely crying her eyes out. He explained the logic and even added the emotional understanding all while staying pretty calm really.
@@signalfire15 Not really, I'm a very emotional guy and brought up different ways in how he initially did try to explain in a understanding way while bringing up rational reason to which Monica also being emotional say that what he was saying was true. Phoebe who knew he was right and had no way of arguing her point made an outlandish claim saying that the Cat found her so she has to keep her basically justifying in her mind doing something she knew wasn't right. That's when Ross and most good fiends actually had to cut their friends out from doing something they already know they shouldn't be doing by explaining firmly the situation because either way Phoebe Is going to be upset being told something she doesn't want to hear. There are many people that while you can be emotional understanding to their situation, they need an actual logical reflection of the situation that they're do for themselves to emotional understand what they're doing to others as well ironically.
@@guess6635 Being an emotional guy doesn’t mean you have emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence requires you to read the emotions of the moment and handle the situation appropriately, which Ross did not. Ross reprimanded Phoebe as if she was his little sister or child or inferior, when he should have dealt with her as a friend. If Ross spoke to Monica this way, I would have been more understanding but he is NOT Phoebe’s older brother and he does not take on an authoritative role over her. He is her friend and her equal and should have dealt with her in the way a friend would have. Here is a good example of how Ross could have spoken to Phoebe - “Phoebe, I know you’re hurting deeply because of the loss of your mom and we all love you and we’re all here for you no matter what. But this cat belongs to a little girl and she desperately misses her cat. The pain that you feel missing your mom, that’s how the little girl feels missing her cat. I understand if you need some time to process and say goodbye, but you’re going to have to take the cat back. We’ll all go with you in support.”
I just came here to read supportive comments about Ross. Made me angry when he was not just left alone in this but aslo put into even worse position by Rachel. He was right and everyone knew it, and no, there was nothing wrong with his tone, especially in the beggining, when he just pointed out that the cat belonged to a little girl and Phoebe still decided to keep it. And yes, afretwards he had to be more firm. It's just not fair to depict him as a bad guy, because, you see, he "wasn't supportive".
Quotes to make you all realize how Ross wasn’t being such a “hated” character “But she chose to find me. I have to respect her decision” at this point she knows it’s a male cat and she knows it’s a little girl’s cat but she still tried to keep it “Even if I’m wrong who cares, be a friend, be supportive” like who says that when they are dealing with a stolen animal And the outright denial of her mother’s passing throughout the entire episode
She was grieving and the cat was a big support for her in that situation. Ross felt sorry for the little girl and forget about his friend feelings. At the end of the day she ended up giving up the cat but maybe Ross could had been more gentle and aware that loosing one's parent is no easy, even a distant one
Damn u ppl think humans r some programs hard coded to do exactly what they r supposed to all the time? R u that perfect u may return a cat n not think it’s ur mum but u would under trauma do stupid shit n she wasn’t even mean n agreed to return the cat, she just needs time the more u push someone when they r going through tough time u r messing up with them mind... I hope no one is around u in an emotionally vulnerable state I don’t blame or hate Ross for what he tried n actually like him for understanding the pain of a friend even if he was absolutely rude in doing so Nobody in this scene is wrong, it’s just human things U see even all that the friends do ask again about the lil girls cat they didn’t abandon the idea but gets how emotions work where Ross just slipped in the nerd territory n felt offended by the cat theory it was personal to him I understand that too
Yeah I know this is all acting. But even if Phoebe was hurt shouldn't she be aware of how hurt the *little* *girl* would be losing her cat. Not denying facts and make Ross feel bad for doing the right thing
@@divyasasidharan2960 I personally don't think what Ross did was rude. In fact, he was right. Unlike the others he knew how hurt and worried the little girl must be losing her cat. Anyway that was nothing compared to how Phoebe used to treat him
@@mclmp nope he came on rude n his point was not the lil girl wants cat but the fact the its stupid to think cat is mother he being a science guy was implicating stupidity of phoebe rather than caring for her feelings or the lil girls feelings its was his feelings that were hurt over it, n u could see how easily phoebe agreed to take the cat back
I hate how they try to make ross out to be an asshole when he was just being real 💯 REAL FRIENDS are not always gonna agree or go along with things that are wrong or stupid
This was a difficult scene to shoot in a way as people are taking sides. Ross did the right thing but people said he said it the wrong way. How do you say something that will get through to someone and be sensitive at the same time. It’s not easy to do to be fair. Ive lost family members but I wouldn’t think a cat would be my mum or dad.
There is no right way to be honest. The person is going to get upset either way because they see you as not being supportive. Sometimes, you have to be blunt.
I think Ross’ insensitivity is supposed to stem from him telling Phoebe the cat is not her mom, which he didn’t have to. He could just have told her to give it back.
@@IDK83 idk, I’m just saying Ross was written as insensitive for not respecting Phoebe’s fragility when it comes to family relationships. Afterwards Phoebe still thought the cat was her mother gave it back. I think irl, the best thing to do is to get through a friend, as real friends can get through each other when you think they’re doing something wrong while respecting their struggles. So I guess the episode had this very cute intention/meaning even though the premise is silly lol
@@m0m055 he doesn’t have to respect phoebes “fragility”. You have to be blunt sometimes. Phoebe wasn’t listening to him when he was being polite so she deserved the harsh words. And Ross was only telling Phoebe the truth, so why is he wrong? Phoebe needs to get over herself and stop being insensitive and delusional.
She was wrong about something that didn’t really matter and didn’t really harm anyone else, since she ultimately decided to return the cat to it’s owner after understanding it already belonged to someone else. Her belief wasn’t hurting anyone, and whether it was true or not isn’t the point. She believed it because it comforted her, which is what really mattered.
Phoebe’s logic is so stupid. Being a friend definitely doesn’t mean that you will let them being stupid and not knowing what is right and what is wrong
'Just be a friend, be supportive' - whilst I act entitled and keep a little girl from her pet cat.... Chandler's line on the couch was classic though :)
The title needs to be fixed. Should be “Ross apologizes to a cat cause his friend is psychotic and he has to be the bigger man again”. Phoebe could be funny but she could also be really annoying. And she was REALLY annoying in this episode. And what was her defense? “Just be supportive” Yeah ok. Be supportive of you kidnapping a cat that doesn’t belong to you and think it’s your dead mother like a psychopath. All the friends were awful here and Ross had to be the adult.
Joseph Shin that and she also was painfully hypocritical. She would talk loud and proud about her beliefs.....then change them at the drop of a hat when it was convenient for her. This episode The one with the Apothecary table The one with Rachel’s massage The one where she tries to end plans with Joey She was my second least favorite character in show after Rachel who BTW comes off like a BITCH here.
I agree 100% and most people would be able to see that. I bet Rachel asking him to apologise to the cat was for her own personal amusement. Ross should have just stood his ground and not just cave in because she's a friend.
I know it is just the series but these series have some impact to our lives too. If we promote phoebe's drama here, everybody will think its ok to act like that.
Fun Fact: Many members of the cast and crew, including the show's creators, have openly shared their dislike for this episode. Even calling it one of their least favorite episodes
Fact about this episode: Then entire cast along with others found this episode to be weird. However, the mother of one of the writers had just passed away - I don't remember whose - and he/she wrote that episode, and the entire cast out of respect said nothing and did this episode.
Yeah, it’s easy to be rational when you’re not the one who is going through the emotional situation. Ross is a little bitch of emotions when he gets his own feelings hurt though. Let’s not forget that he made out with Chandler’s mom when he was upset about Rachel and Paolo and slept with another women when he was upset about Rachel and Mark.
@@signalfire15: Do something better than try to subvert the topic. You can be rational even when you are going through a tough time. You just need the will to do it. Weak people let the emotions run them, and strong people will control their emotions. It's about maintaining a balance. Not too emotional. Not too stoic. Everyone in the group is too emotional. Not a fan of Ross, not really a fan of FRIENDS either. If Phoebe was rational and not kooky, the show wouldn't be funny. It is what it is.
@@johnnk3256 I thought my response to you stayed on topic. Again, it’s easy to be rational when you are not the one going through the emotional distress. Unless you’re a sociopath or psychopath, emotions get the better of all humans. It’s a part of being a human being. Stoicism is a skill that has to be practiced. No person is born with the ability to overpower all of their feelings, to simply flip a switch when they are going through emotional moments. Regaining rationality in moments of high emotion takes time.
@@signalfire15: You used a past example of Ross to try and justify that Phoebe was somehow right here. That was derailing. I very clearly made it obvious that Ross was rational 'here', I didn't say that he is always the rational one. Just because you relate with Phoebe does not make her right, neither does it make Ross wrong here. It's easy to be rational at any time, even when you're in emotional distress. It's not as tough as people think it is. You just have to remove yourself from the equation and try not to take it personally. Essentially, have a thicker skin. We, as a people have become so tolerant and sensitive that the smallest thing offends us. It's sad really. P.S - Do not conflate anti-social personality to psychopathy or sociopathy. Psychopaths and sociopaths are charming, or unassuming people, born with a developmental disorder and cannot regulate it or learn how to. They instead adapt and pretend to be normal. Anti-social personality disorder on the other hand is environmental in nature. In the company of the right people, anti-social people can be quite social, although it tends to drain them quickly. It's a common misconception.
@@johnnk3256 I am saying, in THIS SPECIFIC MOMENT, Phoebe is the one who is going through the emotional distress and Ross is the one who is not. So it's easy to remain rational when you are not the one who is going through the emotions. However, Ross has proven before that he does NOT maintain rationality when he himself goes through emotional moments, so he should have been more understanding of Phoebe in this moment. One could also make an argument that Ross was not being rational in this moment, that him yelling at Phoebe was driven by anger and annoyance at Phoebe. I never tried to justify that Phoebe was right here, nor did I write that I relate to Phoebe. I brought up Ross's past to stress that Ross is not a rational person when he goes through emotional situations so his attitude towards Phoebe here lacked compassion considering that he reacts the same way she does to emotional situations. Your comments are making wild assumptions about a person who you are talking to online and you come off as very self-righteous and a know-it-all. It is not easy to be rational at any time and it's certainly not easy to be rational when you are going through emotional distress. Those are skills that need to be practiced. You must not have a lot of interaction with real life human beings. I also study psychology so I don't need you to educate me about sociopathy and psychopathy. I know they are disorders that cannot be regulated which is why I wrote that the only people who can control their emotions when going through emotional situations are sociopaths and psychopaths, because they do not mentally function in the same way as the average human being. The neural pathways that regulate their responses to emotional situations are not the same. They don't feel the weight of the emotions. The average person would be overwhelmed by emotions in an emotional moment. To deny that is to deny science and the way that the BRAIN FUNCTIONS.
I remember I was literally so mad at pheobe for behaving this way when I watched the episode first! She was behaving as a 5 year old girl living in her stupid fantasy and when someone tells you the truth you are like "just be a friend" real friends are the one who tell you truth not the ones who let you live in fantasy
@@vr9030 because that was such a ridiculous reason to steal a little girl's cat !! Well if phoebe's parents are no more , she should get help , instead of being stupid
Ross was right but delivered it in the wrong way edit: yes ross was right and phoebe was wrong and has been mean to ross before but Ross still could have been a little nicer
1:36 just be a friend???? -He let her stay on his apartment -He bought her a bicycle -He got her Sting concert tickets -He went out with a girl for Phoebe, so she can date a guy WHAT WAS THE LAST TIME PHOEBE, actually, DID SOMETHING FOR ROSS??? 😑😑
I feel like this episode would’ve been better remembered if Ross didn’t back down after Phoebe explains her justification and it ended with everyone including Phoebe acknowledging she needs to see some professional help. Since Ross was the only person at this moment being a friend to Phoebe considering friends don’t enable this type of behavior
Ross was a 100% correct in this episode but the writers chose to make it seem like he was wrong and even had Phoebe scold him with the whole "how many parents have you lost?" Thing. But honestly, as devastating as it is to lose a parent young (and I speak from experience), it doesn't in any way justify her actions. But, at least she chooses to give the cat back in the end.
Poor Ross, Phoebe took him to town on the cat mum thing but that wasn't his point. His point, which he tried to say gently and respectfully, was that it was now a little girl's cat. It was only when Phoebe refused that he had to get serious. The fact that the whole gang let him down on telling Phoebe the score, then Rachel and Monica were in the background laughing at him as he was taken to task as if this was about him never wanting to be wrong just never lands for me. The whole episode is like Phoebe having a mental breakdown and everyone realising it yet no one says it until Ross even comes close only to get roasted for saying the truth. Very odd joke after the first watch.
Exactly. He was the only one who wanted to do the right thing. It's mind boggling how, for whatever reason, the episode seemed to think that he was the bad guy
Ross was right. A friend does not just blindly follows you and enable you when you're in the wrong or misguided or destructive. Phoebe had a rough childhood, but she is a grown woman. The cat has an owner. Julio the cat is not her mother reincarnated. There's a girl waiting for her cat. Rachel of course has to chime in and tell Ross a grown man to apologize to a cat. Poor Ross. Must be hard being the only sane one in the group at times.
Me watching friends clips because I have a very bad headache and I want to be relaxed and laugh alot. Because nothings helping me right now. Thank you FRIENDS 💓
I'm with Ross on this one. I mean maybe the cat does possess Phoebe's mother spirit but it still belongs to another to a little girl. I mean imagine how much she misses him. Phoebe would actually rather let a little girl go unhappy then give up the cat
@@whitepepper742 yep she was being a total a**"#### in this scene. she doesn't have the guts to stand up to Phoebe, and none of them back Ross when he says the right thing, but when an opportunity appears to shame Ross, she swoops in on it. I know they just broke up badly a few episodes ago, but still it's a sick mentality to make fun of him like that.
@@farranasution4068 Aside from likely being encouraged to laugh (as otherwise what is the point of an audience) I doubt they were told to laugh at it - they're probably encouraged to, but not told, there's a difference.
The reason why Ross is the most mature one in this case is because he is the most scientific and logical one. Being a scientist, of course he finds the concept of reincarnation complete nonsense. He has principles and sticks to them, unlike the other four who probably think the same but do not feel as strongly therefore don't feel the need to defend it. That being said, every group needs at least one Ross; one who always thinks rationally and is not afraid to make the tough calls.
Chandler never misses any chance to pull out a joke 《 Let it be any situation 》 Its like he cannot control himself From saying it. ( like rachel can't stop gossiping)
"Just be a friend, be supportive" He was, Phoebe.
Exactly , being a friend doesn't mean you have to be supportive of stupid stuff. He had to be mean because Phoebe didn't accept that she had to give the cat away even when Ross told her about the missing cat. I would be really annoyed if i have to apologize to phoebe for this shit😂.
he was right to tell phoebe to return the cat, but he wasn't being supportive because he was being really rude about confronting someone who has obvious emotional trauma. he could have approached the situation a lot better.
@@wolfe4683 At first Ross was doing it kindly to say that the cat was someones cat but Phoebe said the cat came to her....that what piss Ross of cause she wanted to steal the cat.But yea Ross shouldnt scream at her.
He was supportive but that cat belongs to a little girl.
@@haxelhazard3390 ross didn't scream at her. When did he scream?
He was being a friend. Just bcs Ross is being honest doesn't mean he is not a friend. But having said that I love friends.
come on did you hear the way he was talking
right, phoebe was immature here
Ross Geller was the reason I stopped watching Friends.
@@bilalhussain_bb What do you mean?
@@bilalhussain_bb I just think that Ross was being disrespectful to Phoebe and her spirituality, for she was using it as a coping strategy. I don't think it's funny how the show makes jokes of Phoebe's terrible childhood (mother committing suicide, deadbeat dad, stepfather in prison, living on the streets with strangers at the age of 13 or 14, never going to high school or college) and how Ross brags about he was the golden child and is the most intelligent, tearing others down in the process (Rachel's fashion career, Monica's childhood obesity, Joey's lack of booksmarts or Chandler having some links to his feminine side). I don't wish any hardships or violence towards David Schwimmer, he is a gifted comedic actor but it is utterly infuriating to see his character so egotistical and obnoxious not open his mind more often. If you disagree with me, that's okay. To each his own.
The best thing is one may never know if Phoebe was actually serious or just amuses herself by doing this on purpose 😂 poor Ross either way
As I grew up and rewatched it, I really think she does a lot of things on purpouse and often manipulates them
@@FlorenciaVM1 ikr 😂
@@FlorenciaVM1 great performance. From pheobe
Nah Ross was being mean the way he did it
Yeah lol
"If she can come back as a couch, we'll really appreciate it " Chandler always steals the show. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
If he can also steal back the couch, I'd appreciate it
"You don't have insurance here , so stop calling us" poor Chanandler Bong 😂😂
Actually it's *miss* chanandler bong
bing not bong
@@unnesflash4917 yeah it's actually Chandler not chanandler, but that's not the point. It is a reference to another one of the episodes. The One with the Embryos.
@@oditigupta492 Oh , i see
Ross is totally right in this situation , the cat didn't belong to Phoebe and was lost and it didn't make sense for Phoebe to think she was her mother
Ross may be right but he does lack a bit of compassion in this scene, he was a bit sharp and harsh on Pheobe, and although what Pheobe did made no sense, it was because she missed her dead mother, Ross could have handled it better!
Foxface123 compassion is not what was needed here. A grown adult was basically stealing a little girls cat because she’s caught up in fantasy. Ross totally acted perfectly. It was unreasonable for the other 4 to just let it happen too.
@@gracepuckey3090 If it were a stray sure. Some times you need to be blunt. It's not her cat.
@@gracepuckey3090 with someone like phoebe you have to call it out for what it is. I mean she's a grown woman for fuck sake and she's behaving like a fruit loop. The only thing Ross did wrong was apologise because he had nothing to apologise for and doing so weakened his position.
comedy
Ross is always so sweet to Phoebe, he said sorry to console her feelings about her mom, he bought her the wonderful bike and taught her how to ride it, he said sorry nevertheless when Phoebe was mad at him without knowing the reason, pretended to call as imaginary Vikram because he didn't want Mike to break up with Phoebe. Ross is a good friend
He did make up vikram
omg, I didn't remember about Vikram, lol :)))))))
I also remember he got tickets for the Sting concert that Phoebe wanted even though she got in trouble with his wife sting I mean but still he bought her tickets for the show for both of them
i can never understand why ross gets hate for this. he's trying to do the right thing as well as teach phoebe that enough is enough
Twitter and the take always hates on ross for no reason, bunch of toxic twitter users
Maybe he should mind his fucking business that’s what’s wrong
Because He was so cruel
@@Umaldahash he literally wasnt the cat was missing and she wouldnt give it back? i would be mad if someone took my cat wouldnt you?
@@Umaldahash better be stabbed with the truth than kissed with a lie
What about the little girl? Probably bawling her eyes out over her lost cat. That was not even brought up and they try to make Ross look bad? He is the only one of virtue here.
Seriously, have u ever had a fucking cat, or a kid? those are prowlers, come and go is the name of the game and don't get me started on a kid-they get pets to learn about life, and death
Ross is made to look bad for telling Phoebe, "this cat isn't your Mom," not "you need to return this cat." All he does by saying, "this cat isn't your Mom" is force Phoebe to deprive herself of a connection with her Mom. And if you look at the end, Phoebe goes to give the cat back, as soon as she hears it belongs to someone else.
C L wdym come and go? They don’t just get pets to learn about life. People grow up with dogs and cats and become attach them to almost immediately. How can you say the girl is just gonna move on without being heartbroken knowing her cat is out there and she doesn’t know wether it’s dead or alive
Jay Bhateja nope she was already planning on keeping it because “it chose to find it”
C L ?? Um MOST parents don’t give their kids a pet just for it to die so the kid learns about grief. Pets are part of the family, no one wishes they die or run away.
Ross may be harsh but he was right to call her out when no one else had the guts to. They just left phoebe being stupid
I’m your 222nd like😄❤️
Shutup
Ngl thats true
By yelling and humiliating her? She knew it was JUST A CAT. That matter was way more sensitive to her and it had nothing to do with the cat whatsoever. Ross is Mr. Obvious just as your comment. Jesus.
@@Eleanor-Freya snowflake
Pheebs if she could come back as a couch we would really appreciate it..😂😂😂 Chandler rocksss....
"even if I'm wrong who cares" I hated Pheobe her for playing the victim. The cat belongs to a little girl who has been posting flyers everywhere, and she's just pretending that the cat is her mother. Ross was actually being a good friend for telling her the truth.
Yeah, I know, right? "WHO CaREs iF I am WRonG?" - Gee, i dont know, maybe a little girl that lost her cat? My God, Phoebe is such a bitch here
How many parents has Ross lost, exactly?? In the end Phoebe DID the right thing so CHILL. Phoebe needs her moment with this cat--then let her.
@@faerieliana i still like her
@@faerieliana she is super conniving and manipulative the entire series. She was probably the most sociopathic out of all of them and pretended to be the "free spirit"
@@zoefang4563 just bcoz phoebe lost her parents doesn't justify her keeping the cat. At the end phoebe did the right thing bcoz Ross explained her. Before Ross said that phoebe said that "The cat chose to find me. I have to respect her decision". If Ross hadn't said it then phoebe wouldn't have returned the cat. U can clearly see what I said in the video but chose to ignore it bcoz without doing that u cant make Ross look bad. Ross tried to explain her in a nice way but she didn't understand so he had to take the harsh. The only wrong thing he did was apologizing for doing the right thing
Chandler was so witty here. in a single line he not only made the mood lighter, he also pointed out how stupid it sounds to call someone else's cat as lost spirit of your mother.
This was a weird storyline. For those of you who don't know it, it was one of the writer's idea, Marta Kauffman, who had just lost her mother. No one else in the team really liked this story, but no one had the guts to say no to Marta, so... It's understandable.
Interesting
Yeah but I think it works for the storyline
Yeah I agree with them. I think it was a silly emotional story.
It's not a weird storyline for Phoebe, in season one she spends a whole episode believing that a old women's soul entered her body.... she is just an annoying character that's all.
But it was sweet and it highlights one of the grossest discrepancies between all the other characters vs Phoebe: they all came from relatively normal families (except for maybe Chanandler) while Phoebe was very underprivileged.
When you came from normal household, it is harder to emphatize with loss or poverty or mental illness. So I think this episode sort of dealt with that.
I always wondered why the hell the other four played into Phoebe's delusion as something harmless when she quite literally stole a little girl's cat.
And somehow Ross is the bad guy in this situation.
Stealing would be when she sneaked up in to the girl's backyard and snatch the cat away, which she literally did not do. She found the cat, she was hoping that it was a stray so she could keep it, when she found that it belonged to a girl, she gave it back (with some coaxing from Ross, ofc). If I found a cat that cute, I might think of keeping it too, if it is an actual stray.
Continuous Self-Improvement before Ross got mad she wanted to keep it anyways because cat “chose her”. Finding lost cat and keeping them away from owners, whom you know is still stealing. So at the time, she actually was stealing a cat
@@continuousself-improvement1879 did you not watch the part in which she was told it was not her cat and decided that it was her decision to come to her. yeah that's stealing honey... maybe not at first did she think she was stealing but she certainly was in that moment.
she did not steal it ,,
@@harshkumarf4379 Considering the fact, when she found out the cat belong to some, she still refused to give it back, which is considered stealing. I rmr I found hello kitty soccer ball in my backyard, as much as I wanted to keep it but when the owner claims it. I had no choice to give it up or it will be considered stealing bc I would be refusing to give something back that wasn't mined in the first place. It would not be considered stealing if no one claimed the ball tho. It's like if you find a credit card on the floor instead of reporting a lost credit, you decide to keep it and use it. It would be just as bad as if you got it from someone's wallet when she wasn't looking.
This one bugged me. Phoebe guilt-tripped Ross (and the others encouraged her) but she was the one being selfish in keeping the cat knowing a little girl was looking for it
Not for the first time, Ross was the only mature adult in the episode
Most people seem to agree. Many members of the cast and crew, including the show's creators, have openly shared their dislike for this episode. Even calling it one of their least favorite episodes
@@superjackster0165 There are plenty of worse episodes than this. Hell, most of seasons 9 and 10 is worse. The way they handled this story was flawed. But at least it was funny, which I can’t say for a lot of goofier stories. Also, the Friends are a rather mean bunch and frequently feed into Phoebe’s delusions. So, it’s not that unusual.
@@liteflightify I would gladly take every Season 9 and 10 episode over this one. At least I can sit through those episodes without getting pissed off. Yes, the Friends often feed into Phoebe's delusions. But they usually had a limit on how far they'd feed into them. In this episode, they were totally okay with Phoebe keeping a cat that didn't belong to her, despite the fact that a little girl was searching for it, all because she believed her dead mother's soul was inside of it. Ross was the only one willing to tell her how she crossed the line. Yet, the episode seemed to think that Ross was the bad guy for rightfully calling her out?
In this scene Ross seemed like everyone’s big brother.
Chandler is the best.. "If she could come back as a couch we would appreciate that" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Imagine friendship between someone who is very logical and someone who lives in Fantasy and Dreamy World.
This apology remind me of his one when phoebe was mad of him because of a dream... how good friend Ross is
Or just how shitty of a friend Phoebe is.
And I hate Ross too, for other reasons.
This is probably my favourite friends scene of all time, it shows both the compassion and comedy of all of them!
You mean compassion for Phoebe's stupidity?
All the other suckers playing into her delusions while Ross was the only one who had an ounce of brains here.
russkate88 She’s not stupid. She went through something traumatic. It may seem strange to someone on the outside looking in, but people cope with death in different ways. Phoebe probably didn’t have time to accept her mother’s death because she had to focus on surviving alone. I’m not saying Ross is wrong for being honest with Phoebe, but that doesn’t mean we can’t see things from both perspectives.
And, before anyone says anything, yes, I know this is just a show. I know these are just actors. I like analyzing situations like this so anyone who’s typing up reply, “It’s just a show.” can stop now. Trust me, I KNOW.
I think they all do a great job here, but I especially think this is one of Jennifer Aniston's greatest scenes ever... the tone, the body language. It just wouldn't have worked if she hadn't nailed it so perfectly.
Compassion for what? Ross should have told phoebe off like he did, decked the rest when they played him for a fool and exit stage left.
C L Compassion for a friend who’s mother killed herself and then was left alone to fend for herself. That’s the whole point of the show. Friends.
I don’t know what shows you watch, but they’re obviously very violent
This was one of those times when Ross was totally in the right even though everyone treated him like he wasn't. Going along with a friend's delusions like that is just wrong, not to mention the poor little girl who's lost her cat.
I agree.
Being friend doesn't mean you should pretend not to know things and allow your friend to do wrong things. As Dumbledore once said "'It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but a great deal more to stand up to our friends."
Albus Dumbledore from the books would never support the way Ross yelled at Phoebe in this scene bruh. There are ways to get your point across calmly.
@@signalfire15 Ross was actually pretty calm through the whole situation, he didn't really raise his voice as we know we can hear him do but he added more firmness to his tone to emote his stance on the situation and even apologized about Phobe's situation with her mother but made it clear what they were doing was wrong by keeping the Cat away from a little girl who was most likely crying her eyes out. He explained the logic and even added the emotional understanding all while staying pretty calm really.
@@guess6635 Absolutely not. Anyone who thinks he handled this situation with grace lacks emotional intelligence.
@@signalfire15 Not really, I'm a very emotional guy and brought up different ways in how he initially did try to explain in a understanding way while bringing up rational reason to which Monica also being emotional say that what he was saying was true. Phoebe who knew he was right and had no way of arguing her point made an outlandish claim saying that the Cat found her so she has to keep her basically justifying in her mind doing something she knew wasn't right.
That's when Ross and most good fiends actually had to cut their friends out from doing something they already know they shouldn't be doing by explaining firmly the situation because either way Phoebe Is going to be upset being told something she doesn't want to hear.
There are many people that while you can be emotional understanding to their situation, they need an actual logical reflection of the situation that they're do for themselves to emotional understand what they're doing to others as well ironically.
@@guess6635 Being an emotional guy doesn’t mean you have emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence requires you to read the emotions of the moment and handle the situation appropriately, which Ross did not. Ross reprimanded Phoebe as if she was his little sister or child or inferior, when he should have dealt with her as a friend. If Ross spoke to Monica this way, I would have been more understanding but he is NOT Phoebe’s older brother and he does not take on an authoritative role over her. He is her friend and her equal and should have dealt with her in the way a friend would have. Here is a good example of how Ross could have spoken to Phoebe - “Phoebe, I know you’re hurting deeply because of the loss of your mom and we all love you and we’re all here for you no matter what. But this cat belongs to a little girl and she desperately misses her cat. The pain that you feel missing your mom, that’s how the little girl feels missing her cat. I understand if you need some time to process and say goodbye, but you’re going to have to take the cat back. We’ll all go with you in support.”
2:03 Ross’s face😂😂😂 I love Ross
A good friend will be supportive, a best friend will warning you
I just came here to read supportive comments about Ross.
Made me angry when he was not just left alone in this but aslo put into even worse position by Rachel.
He was right and everyone knew it, and no, there was nothing wrong with his tone, especially in the beggining, when he just pointed out that the cat belonged to a little girl and Phoebe still decided to keep it. And yes, afretwards he had to be more firm.
It's just not fair to depict him as a bad guy, because, you see, he "wasn't supportive".
kinda hate Rachel there, she was just trying to take back at him
Women who like rachel always raise a redflag for me, and i'm a woman
I am pretty tired of you people bringing up rachel this video has nothing to do with her
Men like ross are toxic
@@ParisMahone-yq9xj No. People like YOU are toxic
best part
Chandler: if she could come as a couch, we would really appreciate.
What I find funny is the older I get the more I realise that in a lot of their fights, Ross was always the more mature and logical one.
IKR. Yet, for whatever reason, the show always thought that Ross was the bad guy
Quotes to make you all realize how Ross wasn’t being such a “hated” character
“But she chose to find me. I have to respect her decision” at this point she knows it’s a male cat and she knows it’s a little girl’s cat but she still tried to keep it
“Even if I’m wrong who cares, be a friend, be supportive” like who says that when they are dealing with a stolen animal
And the outright denial of her mother’s passing throughout the entire episode
She was grieving and the cat was a big support for her in that situation. Ross felt sorry for the little girl and forget about his friend feelings. At the end of the day she ended up giving up the cat but maybe Ross could had been more gentle and aware that loosing one's parent is no easy, even a distant one
Damn u ppl think humans r some programs hard coded to do exactly what they r supposed to all the time? R u that perfect u may return a cat n not think it’s ur mum but u would under trauma do stupid shit n she wasn’t even mean n agreed to return the cat, she just needs time the more u push someone when they r going through tough time u r messing up with them mind... I hope no one is around u in an emotionally vulnerable state
I don’t blame or hate Ross for what he tried n actually like him for understanding the pain of a friend even if he was absolutely rude in doing so
Nobody in this scene is wrong, it’s just human things
U see even all that the friends do ask again about the lil girls cat they didn’t abandon the idea but gets how emotions work where Ross just slipped in the nerd territory n felt offended by the cat theory it was personal to him I understand that too
Yeah I know this is all acting. But even if Phoebe was hurt shouldn't she be aware of how hurt the *little* *girl* would be losing her cat. Not denying facts and make Ross feel bad for doing the right thing
@@divyasasidharan2960 I personally don't think what Ross did was rude. In fact, he was right. Unlike the others he knew how hurt and worried the little girl must be losing her cat. Anyway that was nothing compared to how Phoebe used to treat him
@@mclmp nope he came on rude n his point was not the lil girl wants cat but the fact the its stupid to think cat is mother he being a science guy was implicating stupidity of phoebe rather than caring for her feelings or the lil girls feelings its was his feelings that were hurt over it, n u could see how easily phoebe agreed to take the cat back
I hate how they try to make ross out to be an asshole when he was just being real 💯 REAL FRIENDS are not always gonna agree or go along with things that are wrong or stupid
This was a difficult scene to shoot in a way as people are taking sides. Ross did the right thing but people said he said it the wrong way. How do you say something that will get through to someone and be sensitive at the same time. It’s not easy to do to be fair. Ive lost family members but I wouldn’t think a cat would be my mum or dad.
There is no right way to be honest. The person is going to get upset either way because they see you as not being supportive. Sometimes, you have to be blunt.
I think Ross’ insensitivity is supposed to stem from him telling Phoebe the cat is not her mom, which he didn’t have to. He could just have told her to give it back.
@@m0m055 You really think phoebe would give back the cat if she still thinks that it's her mother?
@@IDK83 idk, I’m just saying Ross was written as insensitive for not respecting Phoebe’s fragility when it comes to family relationships.
Afterwards Phoebe still thought the cat was her mother gave it back.
I think irl, the best thing to do is to get through a friend, as real friends can get through each other when you think they’re doing something wrong while respecting their struggles. So I guess the episode had this very cute intention/meaning even though the premise is silly lol
@@m0m055 he doesn’t have to respect phoebes “fragility”. You have to be blunt sometimes. Phoebe wasn’t listening to him when he was being polite so she deserved the harsh words. And Ross was only telling Phoebe the truth, so why is he wrong? Phoebe needs to get over herself and stop being insensitive and delusional.
I felt bad for phoebes loss of her mother in this scene but Ross was right for sure. I love Ross he’s such an amazing character. :)💞
If she can come back as couch... 😂😂
This is the friend you want, doesn't hold back from pointing out your bullshit and also cares about your feelings.
"even if I'm wrong be supportive as a friend" no, real and true friends don't do that, psychopaths do that.
She was wrong about something that didn’t really matter and didn’t really harm anyone else, since she ultimately decided to return the cat to it’s owner after understanding it already belonged to someone else. Her belief wasn’t hurting anyone, and whether it was true or not isn’t the point. She believed it because it comforted her, which is what really mattered.
@@johndahlen She wanted to keep the car even after discovering it belongs to someone else.
Family and dog cat
micuko vicious dog
i agree that she was wrong but don’t go throwing around the word psychopath bro. it’s a serious term lmao
Phoebe’s logic is so stupid. Being a friend definitely doesn’t mean that you will let them being stupid and not knowing what is right and what is wrong
'Just be a friend, be supportive' - whilst I act entitled and keep a little girl from her pet cat....
Chandler's line on the couch was classic though :)
the dedication at the end of this episode made this part really touching and understandable friends is truly written w so much care
David's acting 😂😂
The title needs to be fixed. Should be “Ross apologizes to a cat cause his friend is psychotic and he has to be the bigger man again”.
Phoebe could be funny but she could also be really annoying. And she was REALLY annoying in this episode. And what was her defense?
“Just be supportive”
Yeah ok. Be supportive of you kidnapping a cat that doesn’t belong to you and think it’s your dead mother like a psychopath. All the friends were awful here and Ross had to be the adult.
I literally hated Phoebe in this episode.
Yeah she pulls the dead parents card way too much.
Joseph Shin that and she also was painfully hypocritical. She would talk loud and proud about her beliefs.....then change them at the drop of a hat when it was convenient for her.
This episode
The one with the Apothecary table
The one with Rachel’s massage
The one where she tries to end plans with Joey
She was my second least favorite character in show after Rachel who BTW comes off like a BITCH here.
Jesse Dell Ross thats very true. I hate how Ross is always punished for being the good guy.
I agree 100% and most people would be able to see that. I bet Rachel asking him to apologise to the cat was for her own personal amusement. Ross should have just stood his ground and not just cave in because she's a friend.
All lot of y’all are taking this episode way too seriously..... 😂
That wt am thinking after reading the comments
Aaannnddd some people bash Ross for not letting Phoebe still believe that the cat was her mother.
I know it is just the series but these series have some impact to our lives too. If we promote phoebe's drama here, everybody will think its ok to act like that.
well, movies and books tend to do that, you know, make us feel stuff :))
It's show. If you're not emotionally invested in the show, it's a bad show.
"You can say sorry to her MoM"... OMG... Rachel😂😂😂😂😂
Fun Fact: Many members of the cast and crew, including the show's creators, have openly shared their dislike for this episode. Even calling it one of their least favorite episodes
Chandler has always a subtle way of mocking 😂😂
" You don't know how it feels like when one of them comes back "🤣🤣
Fact about this episode: Then entire cast along with others found this episode to be weird. However, the mother of one of the writers had just passed away - I don't remember whose - and he/she wrote that episode, and the entire cast out of respect said nothing and did this episode.
Makes so much sense!
It was Marta Kauffman.
Just imagine how hilarious the blooper of this scene must be 🤣
Ross told Phoebe what she needed to hear. That's one of the meanings of what being a friend is about.
Classic example of Rationality vs Emotionality. Ross is rational and real here, and Phoebe is emotional and sentimental.
Yeah, it’s easy to be rational when you’re not the one who is going through the emotional situation. Ross is a little bitch of emotions when he gets his own feelings hurt though. Let’s not forget that he made out with Chandler’s mom when he was upset about Rachel and Paolo and slept with another women when he was upset about Rachel and Mark.
@@signalfire15: Do something better than try to subvert the topic.
You can be rational even when you are going through a tough time. You just need the will to do it. Weak people let the emotions run them, and strong people will control their emotions. It's about maintaining a balance. Not too emotional. Not too stoic.
Everyone in the group is too emotional. Not a fan of Ross, not really a fan of FRIENDS either.
If Phoebe was rational and not kooky, the show wouldn't be funny. It is what it is.
@@johnnk3256 I thought my response to you stayed on topic. Again, it’s easy to be rational when you are not the one going through the emotional distress. Unless you’re a sociopath or psychopath, emotions get the better of all humans. It’s a part of being a human being. Stoicism is a skill that has to be practiced. No person is born with the ability to overpower all of their feelings, to simply flip a switch when they are going through emotional moments. Regaining rationality in moments of high emotion takes time.
@@signalfire15: You used a past example of Ross to try and justify that Phoebe was somehow right here. That was derailing.
I very clearly made it obvious that Ross was rational 'here', I didn't say that he is always the rational one. Just because you relate with Phoebe does not make her right, neither does it make Ross wrong here.
It's easy to be rational at any time, even when you're in emotional distress. It's not as tough as people think it is. You just have to remove yourself from the equation and try not to take it personally. Essentially, have a thicker skin.
We, as a people have become so tolerant and sensitive that the smallest thing offends us. It's sad really.
P.S - Do not conflate anti-social personality to psychopathy or sociopathy. Psychopaths and sociopaths are charming, or unassuming people, born with a developmental disorder and cannot regulate it or learn how to. They instead adapt and pretend to be normal. Anti-social personality disorder on the other hand is environmental in nature. In the company of the right people, anti-social people can be quite social, although it tends to drain them quickly. It's a common misconception.
@@johnnk3256 I am saying, in THIS SPECIFIC MOMENT, Phoebe is the one who is going through the emotional distress and Ross is the one who is not. So it's easy to remain rational when you are not the one who is going through the emotions. However, Ross has proven before that he does NOT maintain rationality when he himself goes through emotional moments, so he should have been more understanding of Phoebe in this moment. One could also make an argument that Ross was not being rational in this moment, that him yelling at Phoebe was driven by anger and annoyance at Phoebe. I never tried to justify that Phoebe was right here, nor did I write that I relate to Phoebe. I brought up Ross's past to stress that Ross is not a rational person when he goes through emotional situations so his attitude towards Phoebe here lacked compassion considering that he reacts the same way she does to emotional situations. Your comments are making wild assumptions about a person who you are talking to online and you come off as very self-righteous and a know-it-all. It is not easy to be rational at any time and it's certainly not easy to be rational when you are going through emotional distress. Those are skills that need to be practiced. You must not have a lot of interaction with real life human beings. I also study psychology so I don't need you to educate me about sociopathy and psychopathy. I know they are disorders that cannot be regulated which is why I wrote that the only people who can control their emotions when going through emotional situations are sociopaths and psychopaths, because they do not mentally function in the same way as the average human being. The neural pathways that regulate their responses to emotional situations are not the same. They don't feel the weight of the emotions. The average person would be overwhelmed by emotions in an emotional moment. To deny that is to deny science and the way that the BRAIN FUNCTIONS.
I love how ross changes his expression within. Seconds ❤❤
The way Ross turns towards Rachel 😂
Sometimes a little tough love is needed to make someone see sense.
I remember I was literally so mad at pheobe for behaving this way when I watched the episode first! She was behaving as a 5 year old girl living in her stupid fantasy and when someone tells you the truth you are like "just be a friend" real friends are the one who tell you truth not the ones who let you live in fantasy
Be my friend.
Well none of us Over here have experienced wat she gone through so keep Ur opinions to urself ppl.
@@panachek7722 you do know she is a fictional character right? SMH
@@reggieferns ik I'm just mad at the insensitive opinion, ppl like her do exist
Yeah the other 4 were such turds in this episode. If this group of friends really exist in real life they're gonna be so toxic to eachother
Having lost a parent, my father, I understand the feeling of trying to fill the void left by a loved one's absence.
Pheobe's logic could make people go insane
"come here come here........ mrs bouffay" LOL dead
Ross expression to Rachel was great
Ross s gestures are just phenomenal and unmatchable
U feel like u can get phoebe but it’s just a feeling 😂
She’s pretty much unbeatable !!!
She's a great manipulator, yes.
I love ross he such a sweet heart all I wanna do is hug him and never let go 🥹❤️
When Phoebe asked the question about parents' loss, I really teared out!!
Yes! And that wasn't funny. Idk why they added the laughing sounds.
@@vr9030 because that was such a ridiculous reason to steal a little girl's cat !!
Well if phoebe's parents are no more , she should get help , instead of being stupid
@ankurvinodiya5628 yeah, hope you never have to be in a situation to understand that perspective. Tc.
@@ankurvinodiya5628losing parents and ypu talk about being stupid
Wow great human you are
Ross was right but delivered it in the wrong way
edit: yes ross was right and phoebe was wrong and has been mean to ross before but Ross still could have been a little nicer
What's the right way? Phoebe's being weird is not Ross's guilt.
That was nothing compared to how Phoebe used to treat him lol
@Luc Andrea xoxo
Okay, what was he supposed to say? Tell me.
He is really sweet to her.
Ross being caught in a middle of a situation is always the best 😂
1:36 just be a friend????
-He let her stay on his apartment
-He bought her a bicycle
-He got her Sting concert tickets
-He went out with a girl for Phoebe, so she can date a guy
WHAT WAS THE LAST TIME PHOEBE, actually, DID SOMETHING FOR ROSS??? 😑😑
good point, but those were all after this episode so they don't count in this case
That cat’s adorable af
I feel like this episode would’ve been better remembered if Ross didn’t back down after Phoebe explains her justification and it ended with everyone including Phoebe acknowledging she needs to see some professional help. Since Ross was the only person at this moment being a friend to Phoebe considering friends don’t enable this type of behavior
Ross was a 100% correct in this episode but the writers chose to make it seem like he was wrong and even had Phoebe scold him with the whole "how many parents have you lost?" Thing. But honestly, as devastating as it is to lose a parent young (and I speak from experience), it doesn't in any way justify her actions. But, at least she chooses to give the cat back in the end.
Being a supportive friend does not mean enabling your delusion
2:03 and 1:57
Reasons to say Ross is king of expression 😂
This is sad. Phoebe is so hurt by her mother’s death that she’s willing to do anything to convince herself she isn’t gone
Poor Ross, Phoebe took him to town on the cat mum thing but that wasn't his point. His point, which he tried to say gently and respectfully, was that it was now a little girl's cat. It was only when Phoebe refused that he had to get serious. The fact that the whole gang let him down on telling Phoebe the score, then Rachel and Monica were in the background laughing at him as he was taken to task as if this was about him never wanting to be wrong just never lands for me. The whole episode is like Phoebe having a mental breakdown and everyone realising it yet no one says it until Ross even comes close only to get roasted for saying the truth. Very odd joke after the first watch.
Good Lord! Chandler being Chandler is hilarious!
It annoys me to no end how they made out Ross to be the villain here when he was the only one doing the right thing
Exactly. He was the only one who wanted to do the right thing. It's mind boggling how, for whatever reason, the episode seemed to think that he was the bad guy
Ross was right. A friend does not just blindly follows you and enable you when you're in the wrong or misguided or destructive. Phoebe had a rough childhood, but she is a grown woman. The cat has an owner. Julio the cat is not her mother reincarnated. There's a girl waiting for her cat. Rachel of course has to chime in and tell Ross a grown man to apologize to a cat. Poor Ross. Must be hard being the only sane one in the group at times.
Rachel is the mood 😂
Well Ross did a great job
Me watching friends clips because I have a very bad headache and I want to be relaxed and laugh alot. Because nothings helping me right now.
Thank you FRIENDS 💓
Ross is right ❤️
Phoebe is just darn genius🤣
Ross was doing the right thing here. Sometimes being a friend is kicking your friend up the ass.
Ross is a great friend
I don't know why I always felt that pheobe and Ross makes a great duooooo
Phoebe is crazy now I know for sure 😂😂😂😂
To Phoebe: those are YOUR feelings; what about the feelings of the CHILD? She misses her pet cat. The child's feelings are not as important as yours?
I'm with Ross on this one. I mean maybe the cat does possess Phoebe's mother spirit but it still belongs to another to a little girl. I mean imagine how much she misses him. Phoebe would actually rather let a little girl go unhappy then give up the cat
I lv Ross expression 🤣🤣🤣
He was a really good friend. That's why I like Ross
The worst thing is other friends doesnt say anything, and classic Rachel doing something toxic.
😂😂😂
oh my God, toxic? what toxic in THAT LINE? your hating Rachel club so pathetic
@@whitepepper742 fuck rachel.
@@whitepepper742 yep she was being a total a**"#### in this scene. she doesn't have the guts to stand up to Phoebe, and none of them back Ross when he says the right thing, but when an opportunity appears to shame Ross, she swoops in on it. I know they just broke up badly a few episodes ago, but still it's a sick mentality to make fun of him like that.
Chandler- “ pheebs… if she could come back as a couch we’d appreciate it” 😅😅
Sometimes the laughing track is so inappropriate
Most, if not all the time, it's an audience, so they chose to laugh at it.
@@MJN_SEIFER Or they were told to laugh at it.
@@farranasution4068 Aside from likely being encouraged to laugh (as otherwise what is the point of an audience) I doubt they were told to laugh at it - they're probably encouraged to, but not told, there's a difference.
As a cat owner, I would reign terror down on phoebe for not giving my cat back. Good on Ross.
The reason why Ross is the most mature one in this case is because he is the most scientific and logical one. Being a scientist, of course he finds the concept of reincarnation complete nonsense. He has principles and sticks to them, unlike the other four who probably think the same but do not feel as strongly therefore don't feel the need to defend it.
That being said, every group needs at least one Ross; one who always thinks rationally and is not afraid to make the tough calls.
Chandler never misses any chance to pull out a joke
《 Let it be any situation 》
Its like he cannot control himself
From saying it.
( like rachel can't stop gossiping)
Chandler always steals the show at last. 😂❤
Mrs Buffay 😂
My favorite characters on this show were Ross and Monica.
I don't care if people judge me for it.
I think friends is best comedy group has never been seen 😂😂😂
Well, the cat is so cute......❤
Evil Rachel is the best Part lol
Truth is always painful, Ross was right
Ross was definitely right here but Phoebe not having stable parents growing up ... her gullibility is not her fault.