If You Want People To Respect You, Speak Like A Leader
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The character Ted Lasso is probably most well known for his wildly positive attitude. This is an awesome trait we may cover in a future video. But in today’s video, we’re going to dive into leadership.
While the show is pure fiction, Ted demonstrates techniques that real life leaders like Steve Jobs, Larry Page, and Phil Jackson used to achieve great success.
If you already naturally do these things, it’s a sign that under the right circumstances you could be a fantastic leader.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:00 - Intro.
0:59 - #1: Make everyone feel like they matter
3:12 - #2: Align your goals.
4:15 - #3: Create lieutenants.
7:07 - #4: Actively solicit feedback and try to improve.
8:45 - #5: Have empathy for the people you lead.
9:51 - #6: Celebrate other people's wins.
11:38 - #7: Create belief in a motivating vision.
13:20 - #8: Don't deny reality.
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1) Make everyone feel important and that they matter
2) Be a team player
3) Create lieutenants: encouragement
4) Solicit and accept feedback
5) Empathy
6) Celebrate other people’s wins
7) Create belief
8) Don’t deny reality
i watched this video cause i was curious how many of these i had, i had some of them, but others i definitely need to improve on, the problem is i need to figure out where
@@solomonasine I'm able to do all that with a relationship with Jesus Christ. He washed the feet of His disciples. He was the perfect leader and taught us to love our community and to do it together. So yes I believe their is that option to work as a team and have that mindset for the greater good .
@@matthewsigurdson1321 yup
I have all these traits
On some youtube channels they would call these traits signs of being beta male 😂
The fact that you can watch literal hours of content for free on incredibly beneficial life skills is kinda mind blowing, thank you for making content
I keep trying to get my wife n daughter to watch. I keep telling the....the amount of life lessons in that show is incredible
With 6mil+ subs, Hes well compensated
When I was a kid I had to go to the library to get content. I had to go to a place to improve my knowledge.
😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
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*“You’ll watch an entire Netflix series even when the first episodes are slow just because someone told you that ‘it gets better’, but what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?”*
Love from a small channel💙
Love it!
That's deep
Deep
Great perspective!
yes!!! have not watched but you are spot on... 🍻
This should be a seminar for upper management EVERYWHERE
I’m thinking of working in HR and I’ll definitely be utilizing these techniques 😎👍
Absolutely!
This is beside the point. Do you think that humanity can break from this ever-increasing singularity mindset, festered primarily by social media, to a place where we value relationships and care about community?
Love from Home of Influence Channel
@@solomonasine I do believe that we as human beings are capable. One of the most basic of principles that we were taught as children was that we should treat people the way we ourselves want to be treated.
It should...Perhaps I could become a public speaker and get paid 6 figures for each seminar...hmmmm....thanks. lol
"A leader must be humble but not passive; quiet but not silent." ~ Jocko Willink 💪🏻🚀
Check
@@aaroncummins7379 😊
This ☝️
I love Jocko...great quote. Thanks.
yea exactly, i see this for myself when thinking about my past experiences
"woaaah Why you screaming at us, Nate? We're right heeere"
That moment made me laugh out loud with some tears on the side 😂
This show is perfect! You'll cry laughing and cry crying
@Ramani Durvasula no... I don't think I will
What is the name of this show?
This is beside the point. Do you think that humanity can break from this ever-increasing singularity mindset, festered primarily by social media, to a place where we value relationships and care about community?
Love from Home of Influence Channel
@@muletamanbr Ted Lasso
One of the best shows I've ever seen, 10/10
@@Markone99 I will see
Making everyone feel like they matter is one of the best qualities a leader can have! Not just a leader, but for anyone. It can really make a person´s day when you acknowledge them(Especially if theyre shy) and it´s one of the kindest gestures imo
@Max M Thanks🤩
Making everyone feel like they matter even if they don't just to cover your tracks to swindle the people that got something u want from them this could be one of the laws of power from Robert Greene's book.
Hi, you matter ;)
@@quinnyc123 Thanks King! You as well :)
I never understood it. When I ask someone how they are, I'm actually interested by the answer. I don't get why people even ask this if they don't care.
We need classes like this in high school. Having charisma is equally as important as learning art or maths.
You have parent for this. They are your teachers of life. Schools already have a job to do. Fixing what your parents lack ain't it.
Some parents have no idea how to instill leadership skills to their kids. Look at the kids when your out and about.
@@hkr667 i don’t agree. A schools job is to educate children into their adulthood about important skills. math is indeed an important skill but so is leadership. Because some adults weren’t taught this, many of them have a hard time to teach their children or don’t even know how important this subjects are which are shown in this channel
@@hkr667bingo
It will never matter how your high your school marks are, your college/uni degree, your career/job, or your pay, if nobody likes you;)
“Status” means nothing if you have nobody to enjoy that type of success with, nor anyone to show it off to
I laughed so hard when he said "no Roy signed that one" 😂 😂 😂 😂
"This is a bo Schadenfreude zone" is my favorite line of the show, and it genuinely changed the way I approach the world. I have been actively trying not to delight in ANYONE'S misfortune since that line.
Id like to add the ability to take credit for your mistakes as a leader. When something goes wrong being verbal about your short comings and how you intend on doing better. Accidents go both ways, if someone messes up on a project or a move it's important to be able to recognize whether or not you might have had a hand in that because you hadnt prepared them enough.
Just wanted to say that the second i watched the show i knew charisma was gonna post a vid on him.
SO CHARISMAIC
2 years later, are you yourself now "CHARISMAIC"?
That thing about "there is an attractive person but I'm not confident enough to talk to them" did in fact strike a nerve.
As a person that just had a promotion to leading a small team in something I'm extremely passionate about this video was honestly one of the best videos to help reinforce I'm doing what's right and I'm confident in my path
That’s great! I recently got into a supervisory position a little over a year ago. Using this video definitely helps in creating a positive environment. It’s maintaining the environment and dealing with peoples personalities that can be difficult. I run a small team of 7 guys. And you will be tested. Stay strong and don’t let them get the best of you.
I really can’t believe all this content is for FREE. These videos are so well thought out and in depth, I get caught in a rabbit hole and watch so many in one sitting every single time. 😭🤣
I’d like to personally give an award to the people who commented “first” to commemorate their stupendous achievement
If you’re interested, I do BREAKDOWNS of MARVEL and Star Wars (if you’re not interested, just ignore this and have a great day:)
Haha first
@@doublepiedavid8908 second
And their stupendous leadership
Proud loser of the race 4th
About time
So glad you covered Ted Lasso!! He’s super positive, but it’s grounded in great leadership techniques and communication skills!
I'm so happy you made a video about him!! Ever since I started watching the show, I've said, "Man, I want to be like that guy!" It's nice to see a breakdown
This is the one TV show that wants me to be a better person and at the same time brightens my day, everytime I see it.
@@DunkelheitVZ 💯
Bold of you to assume we have 5 close friends
Bahhahhahahahah
😂
Valuable stuff. I see these as things that you can do but there's one thing you must have and that is courage. People need to know that you'll stand for what's right even if it means losing your job, they need to know you'll (figuratively if you're not in the army) die for them if needed. That you have their best interest at heart.
You know this, you'll obey someone if they have authority over you, but you won't follow them unless you know he has your back.
This has a lot of points from the great read "how to win friends and influence people". Was quite nice to see it in action via video, albeit a tad exaggerated for the show lol
Agreed. I was thinking about Carnegie’s #1 principle. Make the other person feel important haha
Check out Covey's 7 Habits of an Effective Leader. Better yet, download free pdf of 7 Habits of a Leader and teach children how to become leaders starting as soon as possible. Teach it to adults. Free and great tool.
Cool, i actually have that book, but i still have to read it lol.
I needed this video a good 3 months ago! Started a team lead position in my company and was very much overwhelmed by the many aspects of leadership. This video broke down so many of my trouble areas and helped me to identify and start working on them. Thanks Ben! You and Charley are an amazing inspiration for myself both on TH-cam and the Pod!
It shows some people get high positions that they dont really deserve.
The best books I’ve found on leadership that truly gave me direction were by Jocko Willink. Extreme Ownership and the sequel. Fun to read and fantastic info. Best of luck!
@@williedesmond8201 Everyone starts somewhere, as long as there is effort then there is success little by little.
No effort = don't deserve it.
@@rustyhowe3907 well obviously effort of any kind will bring success ,sitting still gets you nowhere unless you know people in places that help you .
@@williedesmond8201 In which case it's quite possible (and easily so) to lose that position when the life raft of contacts recede with time.
Best to give 100% each time you do something, now *you* control you and can weather the outside forces that bring you luck or downfall.
really glad this channel made a video centered around this amazing show. i cannot stop recommending it to everyone i speak to.
“Trent Crimm: The Independent”
- Trent Crimm
"Be curious, not judgemental" so perfectly summarizes many of the qualities that make Ted an exceptional leader. For example, when a member of the team is not doing well or is acting out he takes the time to understand why before passing judgement.
This is great. And 90 percent of it is about removing ego. Such a big step in all facets of life.
This is the best leadership lecture I’ve heard. And I’ve been looking. Thank you.
As of Monday I start a leadership role at my work. Its my first managerial role and morale is at an all time low! This video came at exactly right time 🙂
Hey man ! How was your first week ? Did you manage to make morale a bit better ?
I am also interested in hearing about your experience Liam. How are things going?
Still in carge ?
imma pull a ted lasso here and thank you, sincerely, for all of these videos. They really do help, and I'm learning so much!!!!
when something goes wrong, my managers just blame us lol
I'm 18 this year. Head boy at my school, captain of my cricket team & vice of football and I've been with this channel for almost 4 years from the very first video I found. I believe everyone needs Charisma on Command in their life. Regardless of how perfect you feel or believe you are. There's just something about it.
Pathetic
One of the best thing have done this year is subscribing to this channel!!! Thank you so much
Halfway through this video I had to turn it off, because I'm so interested that now I want to watch Ted Lasso without any spoilers. Thanks for the upload!
You might have done this already, but as woman in local government, I wonder if you could do a video on the differences in what people perceive as leadership/charisma between men and women? I feel like some of the things attributed to strong leadership in males comes off as “aggressive” or “argumentative” in women. It shouldn’t be that way, but unfortunately in my experience it has been.
2:10 - 100% can confirm. Used to work with a guy who'd always ask how you are, and while you were answering, would cut you off to ask you for whatever he wanted, usually for you to do his job, or switch shifts. (also, he only worked Saturday, and Sunday which were half-days)
"Take the time to understand what motivates someone..." Incredible video - thanks for sharing!! 🔥
0:19 Actually Ted Lasso is tentatively based on Terry Smith’s ownership of Chester City in the early 2000’s. So technically not “pure fiction”.
This is awesome I appreciate it from all the example of leadership this is my favorite because of how simple honest and direct to the point. I'm learning so much. This makes me truly believe that I could be a great leader.
There's a great list in A Passion for Excellence that compares good leaders to bad leaders. I read it almost 40 years ago and it's still just as useful.
at work we do something similar as the blind spot feedback, we call it 360 degrees feedback, where we tell other colleagues in some kind of team building session what your "blind spots" , but also what we do like about the other..
This video is incredibly helpful. I never thought I was a goof leader as command and control were things I'm just not good at. It's reassuring to know there are more important things that I am good at
Quick cliff notes version of what I learned in the military that makes a great leader. Selfless, take care of and invest in your people, Positivity, take all the blame and give your people all the credit
My father was a senior USAF guy and has a lot of these characteristics.
I love this. I only came here because I've never seen Ted Lasso and wanted to understand what it was about but I've loved the analysis on what makes good leaders. One point though. Point 5 on leaders having empathy. I've worked with some real narcissistic, pathological, self-obsessed monsters (and I'm a corporate exec). Real empathy is hard to find amongst amongst would-be or current leaders
Leaders aren’t bosses, bosses aren’t leaders
This.
What does that mean though
@@Limbo_Lingo Great question. I think it means that leaders lead people that want to follow them. Bosses boss around those who cant afford getting away from them.
@@seaangel1430 Yes, leaders elevate those around them. 'Bosses' depress those around them.
@@Limbo_Lingo a leader recognises they are a part of the team and they all share a common goal, a boss believes the team is beneath them and the purpose of that team is to fulfil the bosses goals.
It is subtle in words, but when you have worked under both archetypes you feel the difference as much as you can tell the difference between night and day or sweet and sour.
The biggest factor in your enjoyment in any job you do is the people around you.
This video taught me so much about what my boss has been trying to do for awhile now for everyone
I really love your channel but it would be enormously helpful to see more videos on female examples as well! Charisma is a genderless trait and sometimes the things you teach can be applied to any gender but I think sometimes it can definitely play out differently depending on what gender you are performing. For example, the video on 'Ways To Create Attraction' using GOT example was largely catered towards males pursuing females. The video on 'How To Confidently Flirt With Anyone' again was analysing a male way of flirting and I think if it was on female flirting it would've been different. The reason why it's important to have videos on female examples is so we can visualise the trait playing out. Please don't forget a lot of females are socially awkward as well
There's been a lot more male focused analysis, so fair request tbh. Also, it would be a pretty nice video too since I know guys would love it more if women made the first move. We kinda don't know how when it's usually guys who do it first.
@@nukesakuji Yea good point! Guys could also definitely benefit from females learning how to flirt more effectively. Maybe would be cool to have a female expert on COC Team
Actually, there are some videos of COC that covers women. My favourites are the emilia clarke and margaery tyrell ones. You should watch them
Wow really contradicting yourself there. 'charisma is genderless' but still you want female examples. So it is gender specific then?
@@origami83 It's about representation and not just seeing videos of men as leaders. It does a number of things like women watching such videos and identifying with the those persons and helps men in recognizing women as leaders too.
Fascinating hearing the absolute complete opposite way leadership handled every situation at a company i worked for.
Excellent video. Thank you for articulating incredible leadership behavior, qualities and instructions in a clear and very enjoyable way.
Great leadership starts with self leadership, which starts with self awareness.
Asking yourself questions as you present them with deep reflection will change your life.
It’s a very meaningful process.
Dude.. there are so many "NUGGETS" of wisdom in your post here.. I took a lot of notes.. I'm not a doctor but I did 'play one on TV'. Thanks my friend for posting this.. - DMAX motion sim
OMG IM SO HAPPY YOU'RE MAKING A VIDEO ABOUT HIM!! I WAS LOOKING FOR IT!!
I'd love to see a video on Ted's positive attitude. Great info on leadership! Ted lasso is a charisma gold mine
This is beside the point. Do you think that humanity can break from this ever-increasing singularity mindset, festered primarily by social media, to a place where we value relationships and care about community?
Love from Home of Influence Channel
@@solomonasine I believe it can, but I think its difficult with our culture encouraging a worldview where care of one's self is placed above the care of others. Especially difficult in a society that tries to stifle out religion, which is one of the last areas where true community exists.
I master all these traits. I’ve always preached about the us and not the me. We are all one. Be honest and empathic! ♥️
I don't really want to be a leader, but I guess I fell into it. To me, this entire video is common sense. Great video though. But, maybe that's why my boss wanted me to participate in management.
Genuinely care about your staff, encourage them, thank them, praise praiseworthy actions, and coach them to be future leaders.
Awesome, spot in. Learned this naturally and you confirmed it. Thank you
Great compilation of ideas, thank you! Mostly well-known stuff, but sometimes reframing ideas and giving great examples is what makes the difference.
This is beside the point. Do you think that humanity can break from this ever-increasing singularity mindset, festered primarily by social media, to a place where we value relationships and care about community?
Love from Home of Influence Channel
Great video on one of my all-time favorite shows, I recommend it to everyone for the incredible lessons.
Thank you so much for this. I would not normally watch something like this, as, I truly hate football. Ted Lasso is brilliant, funny, and just so enriching. I’m sitting laughing and crying it’s so good.
I love this! I’ve already shared it with my co-worker’s
I need to watch Ted Lasso now🤩
Wow. I loved every minute of this valuable info.
Lead from the front and with humility, as a servant leader, but with the strength to back up why you’re the leader when necessary.
Thank you for helping me be a better leader.
Be data driven and pivot direction when needed is a Lean Startup philosophy. It's all about learning!
Oh wow, you have 5.8 million subscribers already? Congratulations!! I remember this site with only 500k. Love your content!
Questions for leaders, how do you resist temptation to instruct your team, not listening and talking in condescending tone and/or overpowering the conversations? How many leaders know that’s a sure way to kill the conversation, the relationship, becomes the grinch that causes nightmares/ borderline bully and lastly as a consequence you have to deal with staff attrition?
"Is there an area in your own life where you secretly wish you were doing better?"
Z: All of the above
This is beside the point. Do you think that humanity can break from this ever-increasing singularity mindset, festered primarily by social media, to a place where we value relationships and care about community?
Love from Home of Influence Channel
Such helpful, true insight and information! Thank you!
This video is so instructive and so helpful. Thanks a lot
Brilliant advice. Exactly what I promote and encourage.
Great video and thanks for introducing Ted Lasso - great show! Apple TV should give you a cut.
Damn, 8 signs why i’m not a natural leader
Damn, 8 signs why I am.
Yet.
@@harlanwilkinson3142 do those 8 signs have to do with your username? Lol 😆
@@abdominalsnowmansamak9950 yezzir.
then cultivate it
I notice in the World Cup a lot of players immediately run to the corner and seek adoration from the crowd after the score a goal. The good teams run toward each other,
Celebrating with the fans is a nice way to make the fans feel like they too are part of the success of the team
I think it would be wrong to just ignore the fans that flew for days to see a person play…
Don't deny reality should be #1! This is a great list thanks
This is a great video and commentary on Ted Lasso. The biggest takeaway for me was the part about being selfish. I found myself way too selfish in almost everything. Just being interested in others more will go a long way. I need to work on that for sure.
I've been asked in interviews for seniror operations roles , "how would yo motivate your reports?' My answer is always to promote how the my reports will benefit personally from the mandate.
This is fantastic. I wanna share it with my coworkers.
Thank you for this critically important message.🏆
you’ve helped me so much much love ❤️
Mad respect for the truly loyal fans who got here early enough to see this
Hell yeah
Ok. I just finished the Ted Lasso series. Let me tell you this. It has so many life lessons. Quotes. Statements. Character development. And it’s NOT PREDICTABLE. I promise you you swear it’s going one way and they pull an original game of thrones on you, not the last season (for many others they didn’t enjoy the last like 3 seasons). But back to my point. Ted Lasso. This character is everything I envision in a leader. I even copied the charisma Ted is so great at in an important briefing today. With the use of his nature amongst a few other external factors having more charisma made me knock the presentation out of the park. This isn’t my words. It’s theirs. So yes. Take these points to heart. Use them. I promise you they work. You’ll feel uncomfortable but trust me push through it.
“If people are doubting how far you can go, go so far that you can’t hear them anymore.” Anything is possible
This is so relatable bro I'm a natural leader myself and this is so accurate
Thoughtful video and masterfully done.
*"If people are doubting how far you can go, go so far that you can't hear them..."* If you are reading this, I hope you have an amazing day!
As someone that is a fan of marketing the lead up to the online course pitch was perfect.
Awesome video, great narration. Thank you
Now I know what to watch next. Thanks!
how much this has reinforced my ideas of how bad of a leader my boss is.... its at a point where everyone at work agrees that she could do way better... and that it feels as though she doesnt see us a people
“Fútbol is Life”
- Dani Rojas
Also death
Didn’t think I’d like this show but I really do. It’s a good one.
Great strategy in this video. Using movie scenes with cool and attractive characters to engage us for motivation.
As business student these videos are like life blood *slurp* no seriously thank you
The Blind Spot circle is definitely the Diamond Dogs for Ted
One of the channels best videos. Great job
This helped as always, thank ya, mate 🥂💝
“I hope you choke on a Big Mac” I love Roy, and how Ted turned him into a great leader …. Minus the practice session with the string knots promoting battle buddies which the military should use this tactic
One of the best videos i’ve seen! Fantastic!
One of your best videos ever. Thank you.
What Ted turned Jamie and Roy into is magical
At 1:39 there's an excellent point made. I've heard this before and put it into practice years ago. However, it leads to people complaining and unloading. This can be good as it allows them to feel heard. But I feel like it puts me in a position where I feel like I need to help with their problems and make the problems go away. How would you deal with or respond to that?
Thanks for all the great videos.