Even leaving the house feels hard
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 พ.ค. 2024
- I didn't leave my house this week, it just felt too hard. In this video I'm sharing my best, easy selfcare healthy habits when you just are a low energy person. There are 12 habits I want to share with you and please do leave your own in the comment section too, so we can all share ideas! Xx
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I usually don’t want to go past the gates of my farm. That is where the Orcs are. The US has gone insane. My goats make way more sense.
Hang in there, I have faith that it'll get better. I immigrated to the USA to escape communism. Sending you love
i like the Orcs reference. i live in brazil and the past 4 years have been no joke. i usually go out for a walk in the park, since i live in the city, and that's it. the trees make way more sense. wish i could live near goats as well
Agreed. Sad times.
I don't live in the US but this resonates with me so much, the world has gone mad and nothing makes sense anymore
I recently lost my husband we were married for 50 years. When i experience anxiety and feel the tsunami of tears I pray and let the tears come and go for a walk in nature. The other day was a bad day and at the end of the day I looked in my back yard and there were two turtle doves. I live in the vary northern part of British Columbia and these doves are rarely seen I felt my husband by my side. Love to you all and thank you for sharing Wendy. ❤❤❤
I am so so sorry for your huge loss. My Mum and I lost my dearest Father this year and it is indescribable. My Parents were married over 60 years. I believe that was a sign from your dearest Husband. Love and strength
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Pat yourself on the back - in your shoes I would find it hard to get out of bed. I'm sure your husband is always by your side, but the doves were a lovely way of him confirming that for you.
I'm so sorry for your loss! ❤
That was beautiful ❤
That is so cool! He was with you in that moment for sure!
Since 2020 and the lockdowns I have difficulties to be with too much people. I need peace, silence and calm spaces.
Same same! Xxx
Ditto!
I feel the same way ❤
Same here 💕🌞
It’s to peopley out there now. Not in a fear of people, but more of a recharging in a happy peaceful space. I need Nature and animals around me ❤️
My daily "checklist" that is helpful:
1. Get out of my own head
2. Thirty minutes of exercise daily
3. Build, fix, create, or clean something....anything that I can see results
4. Daily prayer or meditation (30 minures)
5. Meaningful act for someone else daily
truly love these , thankyou xx
I love this it's perfect thank you
I can relate. Thank you for this.
what do you mean by getting out of your own head?
Thank you , this helps
You are definitely not the only one. You are very lucky to have a partner that understands you and loves you for who you are. My marriage ended because of a partner who just couldn't or wouldn't understand me and who I am. That's ok my stuff isn't his stuff. Being alone is easier than constantly defending who I am.
Yes I’m v lucky it’s not always easy but he’s very understanding xx sending big hugs xx
big love to you
Feeling less lonely in solitude than sharing space with someone who has turned into a stranger. I feel this x
Ich lebe mit meinem Partner und unserem gemeinsamen Sohn zusammen. Da ich schon zwei Töchter getrennt vom Vater großgezogen habe, möchte ich das nicht auch noch mit meinem Sohn tun.
Aber ich traue mich nicht, meine Bedürfnisse nach einer Veränderung in meinem Leben kund zu tun.... Da würde er mich für verrückt erklären.... Aber es muss auch so irgendwie möglich sein, für seine Bedürfnisse einzustehen.
@@sonjaschmidt4123 He sounds controlling. Children know when parents aren't happy together but, as all things in Life, it's your choice. I know it's not an easy one but inner peace, to me, is more important than just about anything I can think of. Love to you and best wishes for standing up for yourself.
i've changed since the pandemic, i love my hermit hobbit life in the shire. I feel like the pandemic helped me find myself and become more sensitive to what causes me stress. Before that I just barreled out the door and dealt with things I thought I was 'suppose' to deal with. Now I am happier, much more caring about myself and knowing myself so much better. In other words, if leaving the house feels difficult, then I don't do it. I make a life that is natural for me.
I think some of us have learned that we had it all wrong and being at home can be very beautiful, natural. Also I realized the 'relationships' i had were not really connections. There is nothing but air there, nothing to miss because they weren't real. I still get out but on my own terms and in my own way that makes it feel okay.
Also, to me, being human, we are meant to be living more natural, yes with a few others in our tribe, but the Matrix has changed things...so i live as close to nature as i can and that includes the nature of 'me'.
I do not look at it as a problem but a gift to realize i don't need to fight against my true self
Love this and yes, completely agree that’s it’s absolutely acceptable 🫶🏼🫶🏼✨✨and definitely understandable in todays world…
Beautifully said!🌹❤️🙏
I never realized until reading your comment, that I apparently have a missing twin. Love how you succinctly verbalize my feelings.❤
People look at me as if I have broccoli sprouting from my nose when I say, "I loved lockdown!" I had a long career of outside sales because I couldn't stand to be chained inside at a desk, and as an introvert that was always hard.
So during lockdown I ordered in a bunch of art supplies and reveled in not having to go see a bunch of people every day and deal with their energy, (which almost never matched mine).
Then now, post-covid...Well THAT'S quite the kettle of fish, isn't it???
Yes, you've hit the nail on the head there. I've been wondering what it is that has happened to me since the lockdown, and I think you're right. It provided us with a, sort of, inadvertent reset. I, too, seek the quiet and the calm. I see the beauty in solitude and silence in a way I never did before. Somehow, I have turned into a highly sensitive individual - I'll cry at the sight of the pain and suffering of others - including animals. 😞
I am so comfortable in my house. I don’t want to go out. I have a great little Art Nest. My energy level is low and my physical stamina is low. I’m 77 years now. The thing is… I feel happy. I’m not depressed.
Me, too! I just turned 71.
I don't know why but I always make myself feel guilty for not going out. I think sometimes it is good to get out. Maybe it's just me as I have issues with getting too uch in my head. I have lots of interests and do a lot inside so I'm not slouching but feel confined inside at times. Just me.
@@heaven7360I like to pop out somewhere every day but I love coming back to my little cottage. When I get back and close my door I’m so happy 💕
Not wanting to leave my cottage-house is something I OFTEN feel. I call it “holing up.”
I know that feeling…….I batten down the hatches. Last year I reorganised my books and now have floor to ceiling bookcases……I can loose myself in my books, that way I can get out of my head do something I really enjoy and keep my mind active and alert. It has worked really well for me.
Same here.
I don’t like crowds so I try to get my errands done before noon. I find after lunch there’s more people, more traffic and I just have no patience! I like being out when it’s relatively quiet. Love this video and thanks for the reminder! 😊
I so relate!😊
Same here. I absolutely never do errands after lunchtime.
I do the exact same.
I do the exact same.
Me too!
I feel very content to stay at home. No real reason to go out except for groceries or church. My home is my refuge. So much to do here, inside and out in the garden, that I enjoy. I feel fortunate that I have a place to feel secure and at peace. Some people are living on the streets. Embrace what you have . Maybe there’s no reason for you to go anywhere. 😊❤️
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I thank God everyday for this blessing to have a place I call home that is also my refuge and my favorite place to be in my garden I have no need to venture out. And I agree with you, I have wanted to move but God has kept me here for a reason I guess I will soon know what his purpose is thank you for sharing I love your beautiful comments
Reallly love and appreciate this point of view 💚
As I’ve moved into my 8th decade, I find I enjoy my own company and the chances for creativity more than going out to get things and be with people talking about “issues.” I’m fortunate to have finally have my home studio finished so I have a place to go that is MINE… that helps having a space of one’s own.
Yes I feel so very blessed to live in safety and with freedom unlike so many in this crazy dangerous world living in oppressed war torn countries. I'm so grateful every day for my little sanctuary, but so deeply sad for those poor souls.
I don’t have friends. I keep to myself and I enjoy being alone at home.
me too...i lost my close friend to covid during the pandemic...i don't care to make more
I love being home alone, too, but I wish I had a close friend to occasionally go to a play, out to eat, hike, or play Scrabble and board games.
@@betmoI'm sorry you lost your friend, I lost three family members to that monster too
You're not the only one who feels this way. 💜🤗
Soft hugs for your days of it! Xxxx
@@theunexpectedgypsy Hello fm Greece. Thank u so much for this video. Sometimes i feel I am the only one that does not want to out of my confort zone,and i live in Athens,so u can imagine the chaos outside my apt.
I'm introverted, I can handle immediate family but not really the overwhelming outside world. lately I cut out social media, music, noise, stressful tv and decided to just retreat in to my shell until I'm recharged.
I'm reading books, doing cardio, cleaned up my eating, journaling, painting, coloring in, cooking and enjoying being home in my own controlled space. I also work from home so I'm thankful for the flexibility, I sneak in some naps during my lunch break which is helping me a lot.
I know exactly how you feel. I am 82 years old and have been widowed since 2016. I moved to Savannah Georgia because my daughter and her family live here and you just can’t go anywhere and be totally alone at this age. I’m not a fan of the beach I’m more fan of nature, and I was lucky enough to find a townhome in a subdivision where there are other widows actually it’s kind of a mix of young old, middle-aged, etc. The back of the townhome, I have a screened in porch that overlooks loads of trees, and I have birdfeeders out and it’s just wonderful. There is a drainage ditch out there beyond but I don’t even see it and beyond the drainage ditch is land. Well, we just found out that a company that originally was going to build, a memory care facility decided to change that and now they are building four-story apartment buildings, two-story townhomes and garden homes. And my peace and serenity will be gone and it’s gotten to a point where it bothered me so much I did not want to go out of the house. at this point, I cannot afford to move because of the way the real estate is today. I have always done hand work and I don’t even feel like doing that anymore. I decided I wanted to learn to draw flowers with watercolor and brushpens. I have never been artistic and have never been able to draw a stick figure, but I have decided to download loads of TH-cam videos and put on nice music and try and learn to do this. I used to dabble in calligraphy a little bit, so I’m going to re-practice how to do that and maybe add it to whatever I learn in the way of painting flowers to make my greeting cards that I usually only sent to family. when I do go outside, I have neighbors that are so depressing and complain about everything and everybody and so I have no desire to go outside. So wish me luck with trying to get my brain to understand how to do the watercolor and brush, pen, flowers. It’s some thing I really truly want to learn.
Oh yes I do wish you much luck , watercolour is one of my favourite mediums 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼✨✨✨
I relate as well and I am only 68. This whole ele tion year with the fears has me tied up in knots at times if I'm not vigilant in monitoring my thoughts. An art pursuit will help. I struggle with motivation but have all kinds of ideas in my head. I need/want to DO. MO, USA
Good luck with painting flowers. Maybe plant plants that will give you more privacy.
I wish I lived in your subdivision.
The perfect place to me would be to live amongst like- minded people.
Preferrably artists and free-thinkers!😄
There seems to be too few of us.
@@luannianke8110 I am also 68. It's a hard age because you are really not old, but you're really not young either. Try to concentrate on your own little world - your art for example and your family. Try to remind yourself the world will and can take care of itself. Worrying about it will help no one and will only hurt you. And YES maybe planting plants or a hanging screen to give you more privacy - noise cancelling earphones???❤❤❤
I love being home and am so grateful that I can be whenever I want to. So glad I am not alone in just wanting to be in my “nest” with my own thoughts😊
So hard to go out and participate in society. I love my hobbies; pottery, crochet, art journaling, hanging with my grand kiddos. They help me get out of my head.
I am extremely more sensitive now than I've ever been, and have been enjoying learning to be my own best friend, sometimes it's lonely but embracing that loneliness has helped me to go inward with more clarity and learn more about who I am, about myself. This is allowed me to work on areas of my life personally that I've needed improvement. So much more peace and being present. There's a world full of chaos but in my world I have peace, Joy, and I am finding wholeness
I go through this feeling you described due to chronic fatigue
I think people are turning inwards to a more spiritual life , I find we are being besieged by big business telling us that we need this and that , creating anxiety , instead we are wanting to go within and find our treasures there . I can remember a moment of being told to stay in lockdown and feeling relieved that I no longer needed to be out there . Sending Love and Light to all .
Well said, can relate!
I agree that corporations have learned a new way to enslave people. Our society has become so unwell and it’s hard to want to participate in it. With all the political division people are losing their minds.
I appreciate this video very much. I don't have any in my family or friends that need to be home and quiet. It feels like everyone is constantly on to the next trip, buy or tick the box item. I find myself constantly defending my need to live simply, even and most especially to myself, it's as if it is not OK. I too feel overwhelmed by the world. I have found knitting, crochet, small DIY projects, growing a small amount of herbs and edibles and walks in nature, save my sanity! The challenge is other people's view of you but in truth.... they are probably just 'keeping up with the gang'... so then they're not being true to themselves. So cheers to you, me and everyone in this community for holding space for our true nature 🥰 🌹 🌻 💜
Beading works for me. If I bead a bracelet first thing in the morning, it slows everything down and the world dashes by without me and forgets me..the process of being forgotten has become my favorite. Bow out quietly.
For us introverts - there are quiet, peaceful places I can go to that are still out and about without the overwhelm. Try a home grown local coffee shop (not a chain). I love to go to my public library, find my next read, or just sit in an armchair by the window and browse lovely art books or read magazines I don’t buy - there’s so much on offer at the library, and it’s free. I live near a harbor and there are benches. I can be outside there and read or draw, accompanied only by the laughing gulls and the water sounds. Put on your thinking cap for places such as these near you.
Hello unexpected Gypsy tribe my top tip is when I'm cleaning i pop on a podcast......im so busy listening, i not only shut up my brain, the task gets done. I can think of nothing better than when I'm overwhelmed, overworked than my home and pottering about. Big love x
I loved this video tonight. You have really struck a chord with me! At almost 75 I have become so fearful of the world. I’m happiest being home doing what I love doing & not having to explain or defend myself. Such a terrible shame the world is where it is. Maybe as the months go by things will improve.
Yes! Not having to explain or defend! I just ended a friendship this week over this. The freedom statement given to me by the Lord was, "You DON'T have to figure me out. Give it a rest. And I do not have to shrink down to something you are capable of understanding."
When I’m feeling out of sorts, a nice walk in the park with my dog really helps! Without my little doggie, I probably wouldn’t go outside at all!
ah yes, the power of the doggie! very important! xxx
I miss walking my son's doggie. Glad you have your doggie in your life.
I got a puppy for just that reason.
Yesterday, I discussed this with my husband about my reluctance to go to social events! I'm ok with being in places,but getting ready to go and leaving is a struggle.
I feel the same. It feels like such an effort.
So I'm not the only one! I feel overwhelmed only thinking about coming back home from a night out and having to get changed to go to bed. I feel like I have no energy for that!
"Unto thine own self be true'...written on the gates of Delphi in ancient Greec and by William Shakespeare! ♥
Wow so nice to read I’m not the only one. Many people don’t understand and want me to change. Just got to be ME lol. ❤
me too. getting ready to go out takes up too many spoons!
You are so lucky to have the love and support of your partner. I'm 70 year old lady completely on my own. Living off grid in a tinyhome. No one would no if I drop dead. I would give so much to have someone to hug me, and just care. So I think you need to be more grateful for what you have. You are rich. I'm a artist too. And I love nature.❤❤
Je te sers dans mes bras🫂 et je te fais des gros câlins ❤❤❤d'amitié mon amie ! 🫂💕💐🌹🌷🍀🌺😘
I haven’t stepped out of my condo for more than 3 weeks now - this is something I have never felt before and life has come to a pause for me
About listening to our intuition, my dad always told me:if you have doubts about anything, don't do it. Don't question yourself, just walk away. Every single time I didn't listen to this advice, I've regretted it. Every single time.
I have shocked myself as a fake extravert.....to discover l am a natural introvert. Trauma forced me into solitude to heal. It has been my saviour. I rarely go out, only to get good fresh food locally and chat to locals. Nice balance. I deleted all past people....as l was not bothered to explain how quite l have become. And love it. I decluttered my cottage of image decor. I hired a skip and filled it. As l want to feel free. My home is now a pleasure to clean and manage. Who would think? How simple it really is.
I clean my house! Draw, watercolor and paint! I am not good at any of them! So I find myself laughing at myself!
I take a 20 minute nap! Before dinner! Sometimes it is just closing my eyes!
Home is where the heart is….Van Gogh quote is perfect
I live in a very quiet place surrounded by nature at the foothills of a large mountain range. It is not very often that I leave my home. I leave my home about every two weeks.Going into town is a 45 minute drive. To go to a large city is a two and a half hour drive. In the winter, it is common to be snowed in. I enjoy being at home and creating fun things, baking, gardening, or reading a good book. It is super quiet here. When I stand outside in the winter there is no sound at all except the sound of the wind in the pine trees. In the spring and summer months I hear birds. I like yourself, enjoy those little naps in the afternoon. I need to start journaling. Instead of journaling, I write letters to people I care about. My letters look similar to how you journal.
One of my best memories is taking a nap on a lovely late spring/early summer afternoon and falling asleep to a gentle rain coming down!♥♥
This sounds wonderful. How sweet that you write letters to people. That's a good idea -- and they probably are not expecting it.
@@brendadrew834 💜
You have my dream life. I fear I'll never own a home and certainly not anywhere as beautiful as you describe.
You make me realize how wrong it is for me where I am.
I suffered from this for several year, did not want to go outside even though I live by an old growth forest and the ocean (all in a city). Then about 8 months ago this miraculously 'lifted', and it felt like I was set free, like chains came off me. All this to say, don't beat yourself up, there may be external forces in play. Perhaps we're purposely kept isolated for some reason. Perhaps we are being asked to go inside and set ourselves free, internally, then we are forever free. During this time period I had to work through a lot to to feel ok within myself. Some days I still don't feel like leaving the house but when I want to it is no big deal, and to me that is the miraculous part. No struggle. To get myself out in the past, I would purposely buy few groceries at a time so I would be forced to go out. I still do that.
You are so lucky to live near the forest AND the ocean! I live in the desert and for 8 months a year it's too hot to go outside. SOOooo I'm going to have to be creative to find peace.
@@pinkagave4774 Famous American painter, Georgia O'Keefe lived in a desert in New Mexico and that was her inspiration to paint even though she had lived in NYC and upstate New York! She said, "Be of the world, but not in it' but she always had to connect with nature which inspired her great paintings! Best of luck~♥
@@brendadrew834Love this about her. Never knew it. Thank you. I am in a place that needs to be painted away, also.
I can relate so much to what you've said in this video. I have been through so many changes this past 10 years and I have been "trying to find myself" again. If it hadn't been for my faith and love for my Lord Jesus , and my moral and mental support from my kids...I know I wouldn't have made it this far. I lean on Him/ them daily.
I've survived an abusive marriage, got through the divorce, retired from the work force, facing my golden years and helping my adult kids.
Thank you for your videos. If anything you have reminded me that I am not alone in my struggles. My crafting, painting, gardening, kayaking, and quiet time plus
some of your advice has helped me cope and see brighter days ahead. God Bless you Wendy! ❤🙏🌷
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the sea is where i love to recharge when I can, sadly I am landlocked most of the time . Meditation is a must starting my days . Being outside in fresh air and nature. Music lifts the spirits. Reading has been a passion since childhood. I really like to move slowly through this world.
Hi Wendy, I'm 100% with you on this. I would add that our journey of acceptance is always changing and in that sense unending. We do have to stop being so terrible to ourselves.
I had to give up work in 2018 due difficulties with fibromyalgia. Just when I think I've come to terms with everything another thing pops up 😂 but I can't dwell and linger for long or else it becomes too hard to get back up again (mentally speaking, it's always hard physically 😂)
I've watched your channel from the start and now I see that you too are going through a possible fibromyalgia diagnosis and I want you to know that you've been there for me while I've been stuck in bed unable to walk etc. I bought a table, made a "bedio" I sat up and drew in sketchbook, painted and all sorts ❤❤❤❤
Pace yourself physically and mentally and love yourself. You need to look after you first so you can look after everything else after 😉❤️
Keely,check out Frida Khalo,her dad made her a bed easel and mirror so she could paint after terrible accident.best wishes
@@morganniciomhair8284 Morgan I know, cool! Thankfully I'm not that bad, I just have my bad days...although there was a point when I first got signed off work that was REALLY bad (we won't go into that).
I just don't really go out anymore, I'll go with my daughters to walk the dog, I go grocery shopping but I think I've only left the house on my own once this year. I'm happy with that, I've got my little bubble, my friends I talk to online, an endless supply of inspiration on TH-cam and Instagram and my pets to help me procrastinate 😂😂
I work in a Customer Service role at my 9-5. The work itself isn't bad but the mental environment is toxic and the product that is produced is mediocre at best. Its really taken a toll. Whe 25-50+% of emails atart with an apology has worn me down.
I've found being in a quiet space or with soothing music is key to helping my mind/body disregulate. I've been on a continual purge project for almost two years, which is taking longer than I'd like due to physical limitations.
All that being said, Journaling, Planting Flowers, Listening to Jazz or Spa Music, Reading, and preparing for Early Retirement by building a micro business where I can use my Strengths, Talents, Abilities and Gifts. I did hire a Mindset Coach in March and its been transformational. Never be afraid to ask for help.
I love your post ❤ it’s my experience too xxx gosh it’s great to realise I’m not on my own feeling like the world has changed so much xxxx
wishing you well sister
Hi Wendy 👋 Could you please put a link to the human design person that you said you liked? I haven't heard of this before and it's just the sort of thing that I like to investigate in my own me time.
Ps: I watched this video whilst ironing bedsheets for my rental apartment which improved one of my dreaded daily home tasks no end!! 🙏
I am going to Google Mindset Coach. What a lovely idea.
As an autistic woman, I hear you, friend
I love everything about this video. I’m a retired nurse turned watercolor artist. I’m finding that decluttering my home helps me so much mentally . All the basics are perfect for me - creativity, cleanliness, Pilates are my go-to’s. ❤
I loved this so much. I listened to another TH-camr a while a go that also struck a chord with me. She uses the term 'my spoons' to measure how well she is mentally. For example if she feels low she has fewer spoons. Each time she has to do something or make a decision she uses her spoons. Her spoons are basically her mental ability to apply to the needs of her day. Saying "I do not have enough spoons tfor that" is saying "I need to take a break; a rest from stuff" Does anyone else use a sort of synonym like this? ❤
Ive spent most of my life wanting lots going on around me, noise, chaos, people. But now at 58 I find I no longer want that at all. I just want to be at home in my lovely house, with a sketchbook and paint, or a book, or videos.
A cluttered space leads to a cluttered mind. That’s so true for me too. I don’t know who said it but I’ve made it my mantra. “Don’t put it down. Put it away.” at the same time, we shouldn’t have unreal expectations of ourselves, as to what is untidy, cluttered, or a mess. I’m trying to stop apologizing to people who are visiting for the “mess“. If there is a mess, it’s my mess, and they can accept it or choose to go somewhere more organized. I’m finding some freedom and not expecting everything to be perfect. I’ve also noticed that I can’t express myself creatively without making a mess!
I often have trouble leaving home as well and have very low energy. I make a list of 1-3 things to get done most days and if I get at least one done ✅ I call it a success! I take a nap most days or at least lie down for an hour without screens.
I work quite a lot from home as an artist as dont have my own studio and lately I have been having cat naps inbetween and has made a difference 😊❤
I understand what you are saying, I think Covid made it ok to stay home . However, getting out there again has been very difficult for me, I literally have to force myself to go out. Once Ido i feel so much better. So on those days when I feel the need to force I remind myself of how good it will feel when I get back and that pushes me on. Making a date with a friend for a quick meet up is also very helpful.
I totally get what you’re saying. I’ve been the same way since having covid in 2020. It’s only been the past 6 months or so, that I’ve been getting out almost every day. Making plans with a friend, meeting new people and reaching out to them-keeping my bullet journal that helps me keep my schedule and reflections on what I’m doing and actually feel about these actions.
I agree 100% and yes, often pushing ourselves really helps, I love it when I have made it out for a walk! xx
Peace for next day starts in the evening ........I clean my kitchen’. Spotless everything put away except my candle...pad of paper and pencil..... I write down my 3 meal plan for the next day by looking in refrig to see what is available... cooking is stress to me, this routine makes for a happy day ............I am grateful for this channel and your art. I want to crochet again. What shall we create with yarn together. 🤩
I loved this video Wendy. It helped me feel seen and accepted. I worked out in the public for too many years . After retiring I began to really understand the stress I was under trying to meet the expectations of others. Now I am joyful as I pursue my interests in gardening, cooking, reading, sewing, quilting, NeedleArts and loving on my sweet grandchildren. I feel authentic, true to myself and my highly sensitive nature and no longer need to explain to others my lack of socializing.
This is me in a nutshell! Couldn't have said it better, it all applies. I call myself an HSP X 10.....
Gosh, that Van Gogh quote hit really close. We are lucky he left so many letters behind with his thoughts. It shows me that it is not just a modern thing to be out of sorts with ourselves and with the world.
Doing art and writing are good for the soul. Playing an instrument is also. Do it for yourself not others. Someone will like it. You will feel good. Do not stop no matter what. It is good you encourage people.
I'm a very very high energy person and I go thru this also. Saying this for all the other firey ones that are wondering if something is wrong with them. You're normal!
I couldn’t have said it better myself…. Everything you have said I go thru everyday… I also have to push myself when I need to go out… I’m struggling ….🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
I feel the same, I thought I was the only one feeling like this 😢. Thank You for sharing. 🌷🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Nature has always been my respite. I’m 76 and I’ve learned to take small breaks between tasks…..but you don’t have to be 76 to do that, lol💜You are an inspiration 💜
YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION SISTER!
My doctor told me I was acrophobic, even though once outside, I love being in nature. It is getting out of the front door that I find hard. But I have to do it every day to walk my Madge, and once out, I enjoy the walk, but sometimes I can go further than others, and feel a relief when I get back home again. I have not been out into the real world since 2020. xxx
Bless you and your wee dog.much love
@@morganniciomhair8284 Thank you morganniciomhair - I wish you Blessings too. xxx
Wendy...'thank you' for caring,you have such empathy.🌻🌿🌺🌿.
Love all the tips in this video. Love all the Wendy wisdoms. 🥰The world is so overwhelming, chaotic and a sensory overload and it seems to get worse!. Being autistic is intense everyday and leaving the house is always hard so can relate. With my physical health slowly declining over these last 4 years life gets more exhausting. I need to start journaling. ASMR has been a massive game changer on how I deal with my anxiety and helping me sleep and also feeling connected to someone on those extra lonely days. Videos like this are a self care to me too alongside my colouring and yoga. Just know you are always doing the best you can. Existing is hard work. Thank you for doing this 🤗🤗xx
Yes! I find since the pandemic I really struggle to get out on a regular basis! I dislike crowds and car rides.
That quote from Van Gogh is so true! I have low energy and find it difficult to do usual things. I live alone, so I don't have to listen to people's "you are lazy" all the time. I generally don't share how I feel. I don't feel better if I do and generally people are judgemental. But I would love to go for a walk in nature, listen to birds and the wind playing with the trees' leaves. The problem is I live in Bucharest, which is noisy and has very few green and quiet spots. So I invested in noise cancelling headphones and I listen to nature sounds when I'm at home. I love watching Gardeners World and art videos and I love doing crosswords puzzles, they help a lot. That's about it... Wishing you the energy to enjoy the things you love.
Dan Gibson Solitudes.
I have a Bad Day Check List in my journal. In addition to healthy eating, sleeping, hydration, and tidying up, I have added: Have you been in nature? Have you spoken to another person? Do you need to shower or change clothes? And…Do you need to cry?
I'm an hsp. Always have been. It has been extremely difficult for me to set bounderiess and self care. Everyone else has come first. It took me awhile to figure out that my me time was important to be able to fill the needs of others. It is selfish but necessary to provide for others or I will burn out.
Well said👍
You mentioned crochet in your things you'd like to do. I'm in the middle of doing this again this year in the lead up to our winter. I love that as the throw or blanket gets bigger I get cosier while the weather outside gets colder. There is a rhythm to the stitches (knitting as well) that is soothing. The habit of shopping for entertainment wasn't something I did but even going out to shop for necessities is somehow unappealing.
Change the linens . Take a bath outside. Cucumber mint water. I project . Walk my dog. Eat a salad
Go to bed early
Yes, go to bed early. What a luxury and a gift. I am always overrunning my day.
It's lovely to read all these comments. I'm 64 and just recently discovered AI art. I also dabble with coloured pencils and bought a cheap erasable notebook that I can sketch in. Not earthshaking stuff, but fun, restful and nurturing. Keep on creating and sharing❤
I think (in my humble opinion) you could be such a good mental health coach. I can so realte to many things you say and feel when it comes to mental health and energy. In Germany we have got a saying: what other people say about you, says/tells more about the other person than about yourself.
🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼yes, that’s and great saying and also thank you so much xxx
Et aussi " la vie des autres n'est que l'avis des autres !..." ❤
Thanks for the video Wendy. I’m an introvert and can suffer with social anxiety. I have a limit to how much social interaction I can have before I need to retreat. It can be hard for friends and family who don’t understand that need because they get energy from being social. I have no qualms anymore about putting my mental and emotional health first and actually after a particularly social and busy week, that’s what I’m doing this weekend…I’m giving myself some time out. It’s been wonderful! 😊
Hi. Wendy. What an inspiring video! Im still hating widowhood, almost 5 years on. Im retired. Live alone. No kids or nearby family. But Ive been on an amazjng journey of self discovery....Im teaching myself to paint seascapes. I walk daily by the nearby sea. Ive learnt to ditch negative people. I value my one best friend. Im maybe a bit too nice, too generous, and she plays on that sometimes. But she has complex family and I like being there for her. We have fun days out. I embrace my solitude. Im very sensitive to noise, crowds. I meditate every morning. I keep my space tidy. I have arthritis in my knees, so need help gardening. But I love looking out at my floral courtyard. I know what you mean by protecting your energy. Im really into Astrology...an empathetic Libra. All my decisions are made from my heart! I love your Wisdom. Worst flaw...over thinking! Thats when I head out for a stroll by the sea.....❤❤❤
Me, too....lost my family...hate it. Every day wake up thinking/whining, "Lord! Do I REALLY have to do this????" Love all that you wrote here. I, also, am phasing out folk from whom I have to heal after each encounter.
Definitely not the only one who feels this way. Sometimes it’s hard to do anything that feels productive.
Yes I’m enjoying being at home I can’t be around many people!
I’m an empath and sensitive too!
Stay strong!
The Best Is Yet to Come ❤️💜❤️🕊️🙏🌎
Glad you have found some ways to get through lower energy days. As many have said, the pandemic increased my introversion and desire for lots of peace and calmness. My husband and I have phone recordings of peepers and frogs from a vernal pool near our home. We play it on loop often for days at a time. They are very soothing ambient sounds to us and gently brings the outdoors into our home.
love the sounds of nature, birds, peepers and esp. sea gulls and loons here in New England~♥ so soothing to the soul!
@brendadrew834 we live in New England as well! Love your list of natural sounds. ♥️
i don't have the same drive i used to...i am battling perimenopause complete with avocado sized fibroid...i was looking forward to enjoying this part of my life as being freeing and getting to do more of what i like...i just don't ever really feel good...i've not been moving much out of my chair...i don't feel like dealing with people either...
Wendy this is one of your best video you have made well done to you 👏
Only 3 minutes in, and I can totally relate. I can go days without going out my front door, especially now I'm not working. But I am a list maker, and can be quite productive working on different projects indoors. Sometimes I have totally unproductive indoor days, and that's okay. At the age of 63 I've finally come to accept I'm a bit of a recluse and stop fighting against it. I have little flurries of sociability (all away from my safe home haven), then I need to retreat again to my safe place.
Since the big c, everything seems like it has accelerated including speech. Perhaps trying to make up for lost time. A lot more angry people now too. I enjoyed the slower pace. Less noise...airplanes make a huge difference. I loved the hush over the world when they weren't flying. Now I find it even harder to people. I'm content with a quieter life. You can find me in my blanket fort coloring with my legs up the wall 😊
I have recently been in therapy doing CBT and I said I don’t like to go out much and my mind says " I can’t be “bothered" and my therapist said it is "tick" and you respond in your mind "tock" to stop this and so far for me it has worked. my low energy though makes me feel like i just want to sit in my nest ->bed lol
I stopped. I relaxed and focused on your voice and words. My anxiety lessened. Thankyou so very much!
There are a few days each week that I choose to stay home. It's good for me to see people, but also good to take time to do things around the house or watch You Tube movies.
People need to look up the Highly sensitive person.
The book called The Highly Sensitive Person, by a woman named Arons, isn't it?
You are not the only one who feels this way 🤗💙
To remember that it's ok to not feel like doing anything. To not add the guilt of feeling like you should be doing something add to the distress.
You are so right but I think most of us commenting here grew up in an era where idleness was not ok, I know I did. From staring out the window for a moment in school and suffering the teachers wrath to being chastised in the workplace for taking a moment to just breathe I think all our nervous systems are in anxiety mode and that doing nothing is bad. I know this absolutely applies to me and I constantly have to deep breathe and correct my thinking all the time. I'm making up for a lifetime of being scolded for "doing nothing" right now as I'm finally at a place where I can tell them all to go to hell!
@debbietodd8547 that is so true! I went to a catholic school where the nuns were still allowed to hit us. Me especially for " day dreaming. " it's a good thing I was a daydreamer, it was the only thing that gave me hope.
@@1HorseOpenSlay Have you ever read the poem...I think it is called Mighty Things, by Annette Wynne. She says there is nothing so mighty as a dream.
Iron, steel, and granite rock are mighty things, I deem,
But the strongest thing in all the world is just a dream;
Dreams built a house, and built a bridge, a ship to go afar,
And God's dream made the earth and us and every rolling star.
I have found that I need to have some meals in the freezer, ready to heat up. On those days when I need to stay in, not rush around or have to shop for groceries. If I just am overloaded, I get in a quiet space, do more meditative activities. Pondering, praying, and reading. I don't "push through" necessarily, unless it's absolutely needed. I then look forward to the time when I CAN step away and be still.
I also discovered recently that when I just stop for a day and do nothing that requires decision-making, anxious thoughts, etc., I am so much more rested the following day!
I am fortunate that I have my two dogs to force me to take them out for exercise. I am navigating grief and the loss of my husband and my two sisters, all within 22 months. I have no one special or close in my life now. My dogs are my cuddle buddies and my companions. Unfortunately we all now suffer with separation anxiety away from each other. We are working on this. It is important to remember we are stronger than we realise, and everything will pass in time.
@Briardie very sorry for your losses! Can relate, lost my two beloved cats and my beloved middle daughterr at age 41 from Covid four years ago and lost my husband after 42 years nine years ago! Thankfully, pets and nature , the arts and music help heal when and if we do go out.♥♥
I wouldn't wish it on those who have left, for THEM to be left here as the remnant, instead. If someone HAD to be, I will try to be strong and brave and do it well for us. Wish instead, though, that we all could have held hands and jumped together, instead of going out singly as we usually do.
You speak so much sense Wendy and it is such an important reminder to us all to hear you talking of all these important self care habits. I feel like you are a best friend (to us all) imparting care and concern. Thank you ❤💐💕⭐😊🌟
housebound 5 years for m.e .... cant belive it myself , thank you for sharing ....i feel as mad as martha at mo and this has helped xxx
I think far too many peope just get their heads down & end up doing far too much - you are completely right to take time when you need it. I call it 'power save mode'. No matter how busy the day, I'll take 10 minutes, set an alarm & just sit in total silence often with my eyes closed & recharge. We're normal, everyone gets overwhelmed some of us just know better how to look after ourselves!
Everything you listed resonated with me, as things I do to get through the rougher days, and to try smoothing them out. I sometimes check my biorhythm chart, which allows me to let go of stress, and not pressure myself to perform physically, emotionally, or mentally, if I'm on a low part of the cycle. The only other thing that you didn't mention is music, the kind that lifts you, happy music, relaxing music, revving music to get things done, favourites both from the present and my youth. It can affect my mood in a positive way.
My main routine always includes a morning shower, eating healthy, gentle yoga, including meditation time and cleansing breathing exercises. Getting the "must do" tasks done, then celebrating with a preferred drink (tea, coffee or cocoa in cold weather, or juice, iced tea or coffee, or sparkling water with fruit in warm weather (and I add an ice cube or two, so the glass tinkles as I carry it to the garden to sit and sip). I also like, if I can get out of the house, to get to nature and walk, or to even just sit under a tree or on the beach (weather permitting), or on some days, just parking my car somewhere with a pleasant or interesting view, and just being "in the world" observing, while staying inside the cocoon of the car (used more often in winter). And finally, to build work, rest, and play cycles into every day, to try to prevent overload, and develop a healthy routine for recharging and maintaining my energy flow.
Wishing you joy, opportunities to celebrate within each day, happy dances and connecting with nature. Sending gentle healing hugs and energy to the moon, where it can bounce down to all those who need it (go on, catch a moonbeam with your smile!).
Thanks for a lovely, gentle, and inspiring visit. May your muse and fairies visit often. Remember, there are always those who wish you well, and we all need to give ourselves a round of applause (no, really do it, clap your hands, take a bow, even if you are the only audience! Celebrate each accomplishment, of all you did each day.) Sending gentle, soft hugs, and adding my applause in the moonlight 🤗🌙👏🧡❤️💜
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Yes, I feel this way at times. Especially when I have been busy for a few days, I really shut down for a couple days.
I do the same. I call it pajama day.
I do not go anywhere and do as I
please at home.
Yes, yes, a thousand times yes! I feel super validated after watching this video and reading so many like-minded comments. Sending love and light to all. ❤
Sending love and light right back to you.❤
Going to work is becoming more difficult. I sleep 10 hours often and lately I've felt way more anxiety yet I have a wonderful partner I'm sharing this experience with. We navigate the outside world more carefully and with intent, like shopping then to the beach or to a park to untangle, or just staying in when its wet out and napping ,creating and more napping. Self care is our priority. Journaling has been essential for me as well.
I love,"navigate the outside world more carefully and with intent." I have saved off this phrase.
I feel like the whole Covid thing has had such a negative affect on everyone. I isolated so much during that time and it ultimately was not good for me. I am a home body naturally but you can definitely do that too much. I always enjoy your videos and they are always informative and calming. Thank you so much for sharing it all with us.
not for introverts...we prefer not going out much of the time
I needed to see this right now. Have been feeling and even doing the same things as you these past few days. Thank you so much for making me feel less alone. it is as if nobody around me understands this of me. Lock-down time was so refreshing because it finally made the world feel more like mine instead of the other way around, as it had for all of my life before. Now we have gone back, haven't we? If only I had a garden or could get myself to terms of moving out of my apartment. Guess life has more lessons and transitions for me ahead. Got to take this step by step. Have been lots of set-backs and adjusting these past 4 years and I have learned so much from it. Now learning to have even more patience and love for myself and acceptance of my situation. Blessed be to all.
I heard the phrase- manage your energy not your time. It was a change changer for me. I have my most focus and energy in the early morning - so physical or mentally challenging tasks I do in the morning. Mundane, mindless chores- laundry, cleaning, decluttering, errands I do in the afternoon. I don’t wait until the end of the day to tackle tough jobs- I have a long transition to bedtime of peaceful relaxing activities and a sense of pride and accomplishment for an effectively productive day balanced with human and nature connection and physical activity!!
Brilliant! I will try this. Dr. Scott Eilers said that we'll never get out of bed in the morning if we set the unpleasant things first....to set something enjoyable at the start of each day.
Taking a break and I mean a week from normal house work really helps me, I do the dishes and make my bed and get dressed,but I'm now retired and just need a break from the every day monotonous chores.I love decorating and buying home decor for my apartment, taking a long walk,or going out to eat with a friend,or going on a day trip or a shopping spree really helps me .And I love to curl up at night with a wonderful Paranormal book!!I'm reading the Crescent 🌙 City series by Catherine Maas
I've had and used my Stress-Free Toolbox since childhood. It's pretty much the same as yours, Wendy, because I too am an artist and a journalist. (I even do investigative reports, one of which is cited in an International bestseller on the topic of Covid.) So my problem has been not that I've been shirking so much brush, pen or keyboard strokes as I was ignoring how my basic food intake was adversely affecting me.
This was remedied when another You-Tuber started eating a specific menu and shared it with us. I was shocked to learn it's exactly the same I used years ago with the same amazing results she's getting too! It's a very simple set of meals: breakfast is eggs and coffee, lunch is 1/2 of a turkey and Swiss cheese sandwich (with or without bread, or on a spinach wrap), and small portions of real food (not processed), for dinner - all of which is kept under control by 3 tiny squares of 100% Cacao bars (from 'Lindt'), one each eaten between meals to curb the appetite.
The IMMEDIATE change in my cells has been incredible: reduced inflammation, happy neurons, more limber muscles, plenty of energy, etc! This is all very exciting to me, because one of my 'jobs' is immersing myself in the awful news every day and reporting on all of the corruption going on - either from the political or anatomical angles.
Now I'm still greatly concerned about how it's all affecting us - one way or another, but I don't feel it killing me - in the process - anymore. That 100% Dark Chocolate is practically doing miracles for me. Sometimes we just need a little bit of goodness melting in our mouths to feel better about - everything else. 🥰
I too have days where I can’t or find it very hard to leave my house. It is as you say the small things we can do that make all the difference. I’m so glad I’m not the only one feeling like this 🌸
DEAR ONE YOU ARE MOST DEFINITLY NOT ALONE>I WILL LIGHT A SOFT PINK HEALING CANDLE JUST FOR YOU TONIGHT>WE SISTERS HOLD EACHORHER UP!
@@morganniciomhair8284 Thank you so much for your kind and empowering words.
Many blessings to you 🌸🕯️🌸
My whole life I can remember that I need so much time by myself in a safed place. To be with many people is taking all my energy away. A walk with my dog in the woods and be one with mother nature lift me up. Painting for hours an forget time and problems is so healthy. I'm happy, when I know that I don't have to go anywhere today. We should give us time to be protected. Thank you for this video, gives me hope and power 🥰🌱🌳🌼
Since the pandemic, I have learned to be content, just being at home, I have valued my home more, it is a calm & beautiful space to be in… so, I set up an art studio in my formal dining room ( which we didn’t use, because we have an eat-in kitchen ) using spaces which weren’t utilized before has given me more pleasure, my art studio is my happy place… I am a mixed media artist.
Oh, gosh, yes it happens to me, too. Pretty dang often even. Sometimes I just can't face any kind of confrontation or disappointment, so just don't put myself in a position where I might encounter it. I've had some health problems the past couple years, so it's gotten rather bad, the not leaving the house. I'm working on fixing that now.
Yep- I give myself 2 things a day to do, meditate, laugh, and talk to my plants. Oh and breathe. With purpose.
Think I am a similar age to you and going through a bad perimenopause , which makes me want to be alone and very anxious, it couldn’t have come at a worse time with Covid 😢Hear a lot of people commenting about not wanting to go into shops or busy places , try working in one to pay the bills . I and many others worked right through Covid and would have loved to have stayed at home and with mental and physical health issues ( which by the way Wendy you are totally right go hand in hand ) and toxic work colleagues it is not a good mix . Before anyone says change your job , age and health factor in to that not being easy . Bring on retirement 😩 . Having said all that , I do try to do all of what you have said Wendy and when you can it definitely helps eg rest, nature walks , gardening etc . Best of luck to all of you suffering the same , at least we know we are not alone 😊
3:34 I don’t want to leave my home most days. Because of chronic illness, I’ve really had to focus on how I’m really feeling and follow that. Both of my kids are on the “spectrum”. They like being home and quickly get overwhelmed outside the home. I think they are designed to live how we really should live. Slower and more meaningful.
Overwhelmed is the perfect word. I have always used "over-exposed." Like, I'm overexposed...I need to retreat for a while.