Are We Auditioning For Housemaid? - Nyma Reacts To Pastor Funke Adejumo Advice To Single Ladies
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 พ.ค. 2024
- Reaction to a video of Clergywoman Funke Adejumo educating single ladies intending to get married on how to behave when visiting their parents-in-law for the first time.
While preaching recently in her church, the clergywoman said;
‘’As a woman, when you are going on that first trip, you don't go with a gift or something too big, maybe just a basket of fruits or a wrapper for mama.
When you get there, depending on your culture. In my culture, we kneel to greet elders. As a Yoruba girl, you will kneel down and remain on your knees and let your eyes look down. It's not that you will be staring at the mama and the baba and everybody there, Let them tell you to stand up before you stand up.
Even if you are an extrovert, please pretend that day''
She said whenever the parents ask the lady to stand up, she advised that the lady should ensure she sits on the very first seat
‘’Don't walk around the length of the house. Just enter and sit down. When you sit down, you may not realize, they may be watching you from the keyhole because you have gone there for your entrance exam. Your own is more than the man. Remember what you wear will not be something you will be looking for a scarf and then one high heel show that will make you shake. Be as comfortable as possible. Not that your cleavage, everything is opened.
If you must look around, turn your eyes, not your head.
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To my future daughter in law, I will not put you under pressure. My home will be your home. Yours is to be a daughter just like my biological daughter. I am more interested in a good heart than a wonderful performance to impress me 😂😂😂❤. If you don't know how to cook, that can be learned.
Thank you Mummy-In Law in advance...I love you already❤❤❤🔥❤🔥. Please take your flowers💐🌻🌺🥀🌹🏵🌷🌼. I know how to cook and clean though but don't enjoy doing them anymore.
You are amazing and would be warm to live with
YK..... ❤😂🎉 Me that was a parrot. 😅😅
Amazing😢
Thanks ma
No matter what you do for them , if they don't like you, they don't like you o o . It is when they like you that they will appreciate whatever you do.
Gbam! And if they don't like you, the best and most reasonable thing to do is walk away and leave their son alone but love won't let some women think straight and that's how they spend the next couple of decades unaccepted but tolerated by their in laws instead of embraced with love and respect. The matter long but I'll stop here
You are not doing it for them to like you, you are going it to show that you have cultural manners. If they don't like you, that's their own business.
Gbam you can't please some in-laws no matter what you do!
Thank you for this statement o
A simple rule is.... be yourself.
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Ah… no o
In purpose of this, it comes with advantages and disadvantages
I would rather say you should observe
Correct! For how many years will you pretend and be in bondage
Don't pretend. Be yourself. Don't start what you can't finish.
Very true
Simple
To my future daughter in law
You are blessed and highly favoured.
I will treat you like my own daughter infact, we are going to be teammates😊
The pressure is too much on women just for validation. Just do what you know how to do, be yourself, and do the right thing.
We know your kind.....You better go and get home training because that's how some of you nowadays laddie don't want and will never learn
My daughter(s) in-laws are blessed to have me. Just be good enough for the Holy Ghost.
I love you already Mummy-In-Law in advance❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥
There are many things to talk about than wasting time on what Pastor mrs Funke Adejumo said. If you like go and stand on your mother inlaw, no courtesy , wear revelling clothes or go there naked, go for the biggest meat in their pot etc etc , when you turn 40 at home your eyes will clear and receive wisdom.
As a Pastor ,she only advised. Remember she used the culture she is conversant with as an example. Enough of this castigation. It is very easy to criticise someone else's script.
God bless you. I love your comment
The annoying thing is that they have zero expectations for men...pls let women breathe. society is too harsh on women...I love my parents so much,our in-laws are treated well
Truee
There is nothing wrong with expecting more from women in this regard.
There are other areas where more is expected from men. For instance, men are compulsorily expected to go to war; women are not
@@itiswritten9423we understand you. A question though, who causes most wars?
@@ijafiadabenhirki6786
I don't know. Do you know what causes most wars?
@@itiswritten9423I appreciate your reply.
Firstly, your first response was very insightful so thank you.
Secondly there is absolutely nothing wrong in the real sense of it but as a general rule of thumb, the motive for some of these 'expectations' or 'more' is highly questionable. Do they really foster closeness, unity, togetherness, or even love at its core?
Thirdly and finally to answer your question (forgive the long read), I was privileged enough to co-author a research paper on war (it's a much more specific topic than that) and I won't bore you with the details of it, however, it highlighted that men for centuries have been in advantaged positions of leadership, politically and geographically speaking now, and therefore can be blamed for the causes as well as the effects of war (economic implications, genocides, mass rapes, deaths amongst others, and many times these are often carried out on women and children).
Can we then say women and children don't also bear the burden of war along with their male counterparts?
Let's not delve into medieval times where some kings went to war for such flimsy reasons e g. their ego, and would then make people's sons go fight their fights for them.
Now whether or not, women in leadership will do or would have done better might be another paper topic for me😅.
Thank you for listening! Much appreciated.
As a leader and Pastor, I totally understand where Pst Adejumo is coming from.
The reality is that a lot of young people these days lack basic 'home training'. The things we think are 'common sense' are no longer common again. A lot of young people are not being raised by parents anymore. Many do not understand basic ethics of respect for elders, social etiquettes and the likes.
Some people go for job interviews and don't know the appropriate behaviors.
As a Pastor, you meet with all kinds of people from different backgrounds week in, week out. Hence, we are tasked with teaching basic morals and etiquettes even in Church. This is why Pst Adejumo is having to teach this.
If you listen to other teachings of hers, she speaks a lot on being confident as a woman, being yourself, knowing your worth, etc. She has championed the empowerment of women.
I think her comments here are just a context thing within our culture of respect.
We should learn to keep first impression that last, but without hypocrisy
I respect and value my self enough to be true to myself wherever I go. I also respect my in-laws and treat them in high esteem. When marrying this together, I am happy and my in laws are happy.
When I first met my in-laws, I was a young girl in my early 20s. But I decided to be myself and dress my age. I wanted them to see me as the awesome person that I was, with a touch of crase 😂. My father Inlaw fell in love with me cos he said I wasn’t pretentious. My mother Inlaw hugged me and said I Reminded her of her youth. She re named me England lady, a name she still calls me today.
We should let our children be please. If we do our homework well with our girls and our boys when the time comes the values in them will force itself out. They will be natural not forced. There is no need to pretend, our daughters are not going into the “war front” just because they are going to get married.
Just be polite, nice and be yourself. The lady is someone’s daughter for heaven’s sakes: she is not auditioning to be a maid!!
This Nyma is so funny and confident in herself, things I love to see🥰🥰
It definitely depends on the family. If you decide to sweep when I came then just follow through. I’m also there to make sure I can deal with your family. So all these little games would have had my parents pulling me to the side and asking me to be guided. They know how they raised me and I’m sorry all this does not impress my family. In fact they might think you have nothing else to offer and you’re desperate 😂😂😂😂😂 I remember my cousin on the morning after her traditional wedding her mother in law knocked on the door at the crack of dawn to sweep the compound. Let’s just say mama was not prepared for the advice she got from her new daughter in law. I feel Pastor Funke is actually teaching girls to be deceitful. Deceitful and then what? Show the young man her true colors after marriage? It is ungodly to even suggest she pretends. Good manners are not tied to how well you pretend. As Nema pointed out, it depends on the family. We do not kneel to greet anybody in our family. My aunty who was Hausa (God rest her beautiful soul) used to do it when she first married my uncle and he always used to tell her to stop. Eventually she did. Whether you’re an extrovert or introvert, it really doesn’t matter. Either one should mind their manners and minding your manners does not mean pretending. I think what I have realized about many aspects of the culture is that people don’t really understand respect. It’s just grand gestures and eye service. My advise to young girls is to be careful. Be fully aware that you’re not going for the first visit to be inspected like a prize cow. You should go there to also see what you might deal with. The man you’re with might be totally different without his family’s influence. How his family behaves is very important to your decision to be forever tied to them.
Totally totally totally 100% agree. Gbam. What type of advice is that? What the heck?
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Really people define respect with respect to that particular culture. Which is of course is not standardised. Because what is acceptable in a particularly culture may be wrongdoing somewhere else.
Exactly my opinion just be you no pretence because such person will have a problem with the in law
My opinion is just to be composed without pretense. Be naturally real to your inlaws during the visit.
Some family are terrible to marry you can never please them. The really want a maid and not a wife
Exactly
You can never please them. So just try and do the right things
This teaching is extreme. For ladies to be timid before their inlaws
God forbids it
I think it's important to understand what respect means in people's culture. When you go to other people's place, you treat them in the way respect means to them and not what it means to you.
& when you don't meet up to their cultural standard of showing respect you're labeled as disrespectful right?
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They compel the woman to know everything yet their son's knows nothing. That is why most Nigeria men are easily divorced when they go overseas because they know nothing of how to take care of the most minor thing at home.
@@anthoniasegun7000 Overseas...most Nigerian ladies are sick 😷
I like Amaka's points. She balanced it well
What Past Adejumo is talking about is about the culture.
No she teaches pretence
According to this video
@deborahidowu2056 Is it pretense to comport yourself properly at an interview?
@@enaiagodo9847The real question is, why are the standards different? Male and female job seekers must BOTH comport themselves for an interview. As my dad would fondly say (yes my dad!), "I'm not asking someone's son to come over and weed my compound or wash the cars, so you my daughter are a queen. I raised you all well but you are all royalty."
Both genders should just always choose each other and learn to be of service when in such situations but not that 'more is demanded' from either gender in the real sense of it.
It's senior women giving examination to the younger ladies. The men are not critical
Lol. Big Belle.
You come to my house and you're too perfect, it won't work for me. Relax
Lol Im youruba and I kneel down to greet my elders but I think Pastor Funke exaggerated it 😂😂😂.... One shoes does not fit all... I did all that to my inlaws but they didn't like me 😂😂😂... Everyone go dey alright . The relationship is better now but trust me I did all these things she said and thats who i am and how I was trained . If they dont like you they dont ...they like me at first but started coming up with their primitive way of thinking
My sister 😂
Moderation is key! If you finish the food and eats like you are hungry, trust me you will collect when you eventually married the man and you have issues with such in laws. Trust me, they will discuss you when you leave there, be wise . Don't eat carelessly, if accident happened, that is understandable.
Everything Pastor Funke said does mean you should be timid but rather be courteous.
@Amaka, saying you brought gifts when you came for your audition, was that after you have been selected as part of the crew or what? That could mean your gifts influenced the decision to select you above others.
Pst. Funke is not saying pretend but be displomatic!
Nyma- thanks as always!
She used the word pretend!
Let’s call a spade a spade
Two things can be true
Some of us won't eat at all. I have to know you enough, be comfortable with you to eat in someone's house. So if you actually have people eating when they visit you be grateful. Telling someone not to finish their food, what is the point? Then what will happen to the food you left over? it means it will be thrown away? That is food waste, too many people can't even afford a meal. I think we should all be careful of assumptions and perspectives.
I think the one word that is causing this discussion is where she said “pretend” most people are taking it out of context. Even with Amaka’s gift giving gift, she won’t go to her in laws place jumping up and down showing her real color that first visit.
@@Gray_Studytube: that pretend too is good. Some of us need to really stem down our hyperactivities.
Just be the best version of yourself. Let's be kind and less judgemental, too. There's no😊 need to fake it.
The remaining 3 women were deceiving us except 1 person. statement of the pastor mrs is what every african parent will tell their daugther to do.
I appreciate Morayo's stance the most, I mean, why are we all pretending like we didn't grow up hearing all these things from our parents? When you go out for interviews or you have an opportunity to meet the president, if you were naturally nasty and disrespectful, will you go there and "be yourself", won't you try to put up a good First impression? Amaka agrees with her but even in your disagreement you are still saying the same thing she said. She didn't say be timid, she just said, be careful and don't be too forward. Simples. Morayo, I love your shoes, they are giving.
you know the funniest thing about this video is that it is not even a recent video and the way it is being dissected kinda shocked me. everyone is acting like these things were not inculcated into us while growing up. Meeting your inlaws for the first time is a big deal especially if there is a high indication that marriage is the goal. Nigeria is even still cool. You wanna try Asians?
Later..love 💕 the dress...photo Sabinus
During my 1st visit, I didn't see the kitchen o. I ate pounded Yam. It was a go-come visit, from Akure to Okitipupa. For me, it wasn't an audition, it was a loving loving visit. My 1st visit was part of the reason I married my husband.
Hmmm, Dear God! I covet this experience
Just be yourself. And be kind to them. See them as your new family, not a set of people ready to fight you. Love will conquer all tings. Most inlaws will respect and love you if you show love and are real, genuine.
Our culture treats men and women differently. Simple as that. It is not right vs wrong. That is just the way it is.
I eagree. There are areas where women get preferential treatment than men. For instance, in the event of war, men are required to fight while women are not. In fact, women are protected.
If a woman's car breaks down on the road, men are more willing to assist her than if it's a man whose car broke down.
My first date many moons ago refused to eat at the expensive restaurant we visited. She watched me enjoy my plate and thereafter accused me of not offering her a single chip off my plate. I really couldn't figure out what her game was. 40 years later...I still couldn't, but this video just explained it all! Thank you.
I stand with the pastor! Their position on the issue easily reveals why many homes are the way it is today. 😢😢😢 me me me,my my my😢😢😢!
Thanks to Morayo and Nyma for their understanding cultural wise🎉.
Respectfully, what they shared on this discussion is not responsible for the state of marriages today. It's mothers who propagate the Patriarchal system that make their sons feel entitled in the marriage.
I agree that women and men visiting trips are to be managed differently....
1. A woman is the home builder... so be real, all the family is watching out for is to see if this lady will be a good home builder that's all.
2. The man is to be the head of a new home. So, they taste him with power and authority to see how he would behave if he is treated kingly...I personally would make sure to see that the husband to be is not a proud boastful person because the lady will most likely be oppressed in the marriage. That's my thought.😊
I will be myself, and that is what I have done since getting married. If they don't like to leave it.
I think the best way to go about it either woman or man is to act naturally the way you will behave with your mother or father. You don’t need to pretend and act as if you are going in for an interview. People can easily know when you are acting. Have a good conversation with your mother-in-law and appreciate your father-in-law That will have a lasting impression on them. They will know you the first day instead of being known later when you display your real self.
Amaka, thank you so much. I love your point. God bless you
I love this conversation so well😄😃
COMMON SENSE AND COURTESY!
❤ i miss Tope on this Episode. I love what Nyma said, if its a culture when I get to that house I must the daughters kneeling and sons prostrating. They must also replicate this culture when they come visiting
Everyone has spoken well. But the bottom line is that in many cases, what people say is different from what they do and the happenings in our society.
Nigeria hasn't lost its culture yet, be cultured and respectful when you visit your in-laws, especially for the first time.
Exactly what I said when it was posted on my family WhatsApp group. Is it maidship we are auditioning for abeg? Which one is put your head down. Ha, on top of what?
Thank you madam YK, I love your conversation because you nail It is not good to be pretending.
I agreed with pastor funke
In my time i didn't pretend at all but my mother-in-law accepted me without questioning even when she would have preferred a core church girl. I was always cheerful to the core.
Thank God she said in her culture. So I am from the Great Igbo Nation, in my land humans (males and females) do not bow to greet other humans, so I did not kneel or act in a particular way, I was myself. Very relaxed, I did not even know people had to act. I do not expect my daughter in law to act off, except the usual good behavior everyone should have whether it’s in law or anywhere one needs to make first impression. When you pretend too much, my people could become suspicious
FALSE!
In the traditional Igbo marriage - Igba nkwu, do the women not kneel to serve their to-be husbands palm wine??
If you decide to "be yourself" that's fine and is your right. But you can't speak for the entire Igbo nation of over 20 million individuals.
@@Wils0n_ I think they are talking about first visit to the in-laws and not traditional marriage yet.
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Thanks for your observation, but to serve their husband-to-be wine in a single setting to make a statement of respect is different from kneeling down to greet him (or others) whenever he appears or you encounter them.
Ndigbo DO NOT kneel to greet people; this is truth. It doesn’t mean that cultures that do so are wrong or right; it’s just different. Igbo world view.
She said “even if you are an extrovert you should pretend” My question is why pretend then years down the line you bare your fangs? That’s hypocrisy if you ask me.
Am listening 🎧
I go to my inlaws and sit in the parlor and I'm served. I gist with them, eat, Say thank you , cleared the table and went back to watch tv
YK, have scattered the table 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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What a performance! Lol. Some of it is common courtesy.
I agree with everything Amaka said.
The man that is marrying the woman has not set all these tests for the woman he intends to be living with, but it’s the people who will not live with him that are setting internship program for the woman. Just like the ladies o the panel are saying, if you like coach your young daughters to go and pretend, they will show you pepper when they eventually enter the house 😂
Hypo jik😂
I really love your point of view Amaka.No need for pretence at all.
😂😂😂😂This is funny to me sha .....cos i offered to wash plate, they said i should not worry, and i did noy force it( my family did not like it sha😂), we were even lodged in a guest house.and i have the best Inlaws ....but Pastor Funke is right sha
Pastor Funke is on point here. It’s not her, it’s our culture. I think we should listen to her and put in context what she means by pretend. She is also talking in a Christians. I don’t think she expects anyone to be wolf in sheep clothing in that setting
Pls she exaggerated I beg
Le shu marry. It's well jor. The advice is good sha
Mrs. Pastor. People should be themselves. That is the right thing to do period
Alhaja it happens if grand children are in dt house it could be dirty when the girl comes visiting.
Be yourself and be confident. Discuss wisely, know when to talk and when not to talk. Be wise period.
It depends on individual mindsets. My husband's family have an only daughter who is my very good friend, si I had it good from day one in their home. My mother in law spoilt me something and treats me like a daughter ❤.
There is nothing wrong with what the Pastor has said it's a guide and being overly all over the place on your first visit could send a wrong signal and a visit to in law is not a place to access true behavior of a person if you go deep into culture they already have a load down of your person before your arrival. Getting to know people takes building, research, test and nurturing a relationship with them and find your match. If both parties have trained their children well they would bring home something presentable by God's help. May we not fall victim of two faced humans
When having a formal visit normally, all these courtesies are required just like a job interview. I believe that first impressions matter a lot in every facet of life not just with inlaws. The only thing I am not comfortable with is being quiet during the visit. I love friendly interactions and discussions that are respectful.
She said be diplomatic
I simply love my sons, and trust their choice and want to love my daughter in law.. be yourself.
She’s not even a Nigerian 😂.. let there be love jare
There's an award.
Unfortunately, several prospective in-laws in Africa are judgemental especially the senior women except for a pre arranged marriage between both families.
I think Pastor Funke was erring on the side of caution because these double standards are real factsssss.
The lady needs to pass the entrance examination first. The getting-to-know part is going to take years, even decades after the marriage.The lady should also evaluate her in laws too during that first meeting to decide whether she is willing to go ahead with the package deal or not.
I love this esp the last part
Just be yourself...time will tell
My advice, as an individual. Always respect all stakeholders in your life. Show respect in the way you know how or are trained.
Ladies, do not ever kill yourself for validation from anyone. Once you start, you will have to keep up till the Lord calls you. Be yourself.
Many Nigerian girls show more love to their in laws than their families while Nigerian Men show more love to their family than in laws. Borrow yourselves brain.
The only one we should please in any marriage is God. Submit to your own husband. Husband, love your wife. Every other person is a third party- Let no Man…..
All the panelists are saying the same tin as Rev. Adejumo, they're all agreeing and disagreeing with her at the same time cos all she said is simple etiquette required when visiting 👌
I just came across this, what about unless that pretend they like the lady. After the wedding they start to show that they don't like you.
AMAKA is very beautiful..oo😊
Pst.Mrs Should revise her advice edition. When you are talking with anyone be it in-laws or not, observe rules guiding communication. Be confident not proud, be friendly and warm. People like someone who knows how to communicate.
Then on the issue of food. Abeg if you fit clear the plate , clear am. So in this economy, I will serve you and you will be cos u want to be a good wife leave my food and want to waste it. You go carry takeaway for your head. Better you request moderate quantity you will be able to finish. No Cap.
Kneeling down these days does not mean good behavior. However, for the sake of culture, kneel down very well and then rise to get a seat. You are a guest, a special guest at that!
So I remember like it was yesterday the first day I met my mother in-law she asked me to sit that she is making beans and plantain that she wants me to eat and honestly I sat just chatting with my sister in-laws. She served me when the meal was ready and it was the yummiest beans and plantain I ever ate
I agree with Aunt Yeni Ooo,let him or her be themselves...make them comfortable
Do what you can do and not be a different person. As I come to your house treat me as a first time visitor.
Decency and common etiquette is a everyday alway things. Culture dictates norms. In my culture there isn’t much pressure. We are very selective about eating so most of us will not want to be offered food on first meeting. It’s mostly for conversation. If it’s a stay over trip, we will offer our help; it’s then up to the in law to accept or decline. Have the best relationship with my in-law met them as “myself “.
People should be reasonable please. I see nothing wrong in all Pst Funke said...respect them and be careful of the impression you will give them about yourself.
This our generation, e be as e get🤔.......Just be the best of yourself😍. You can't give what you don't have👌, start dropping those bad habits now. Also pray that your village pple will not follow you there😀😀...... Ire o🎉😎
In 2024 be yourself.. mine was just be friendly and respectful. We are also marrying from various cultures so no test.. be yourself.
I think we are glorifying and encouraging pretension rather than genuine cultural values as done in those days. If a girl or boy is well trained at home you do not need rehearsal or special lessons on how to behave in any occasion wether visiting inlaws, other family members or total strangers. I think what Pastor Adejumo should be teaching is not how to rehearse but the real values and strength in this cultural values.
If you come to my house and waste food I will think you don't like the food.
This food aspect is not entirely true
Pasor Funke is giving an exact advise she will give to her daughter on her first visit to her in laws. So it is not out of way. I believe she couldn’t find a word better than the “pretend”
If Parents in laws treats the lady like queen they will be treated likewise. Pretence should be out of it. Ladies be yourself. What u can eat dont bring it close to your nose. My first time of attending an interview was great , fortunately I was very punctual and I was the second person to be called ask for a seat so confidence that day, I got the job because God has destined it and was qualified due my experience. During the interview I asked questions it was as if I was having conversation with the panelists. Oh no I can never forget that day.
Please why are all these episodes incomplete
As a Yoruba man I totally agreed with the Pastor
Be yourself and at the same time be moderate in everything you do at your first visit. Either you pretend oooo, diplomatic or even show your true colour somehow certain act will speak whom you are especially if you visit the intelligent inlaw. To me what matter most is you being yourself, moderate and display of your intelligence.
Just be yourself
The truth is, either way this is spun, she is actually right. Her choice of words though 👀
Honestly, the best thing to do is just to be urself!! And be sincere, if they want to like u, they will definitely like u no matter what, so no need to pretend!! Up till date, my inlaws know my flaws right from day one and they accepted me that way!!! I also applied that method of sincerity when i went for job interview, I was asked if I would accept any where am being posted to, and I said NO!! Guess what, I got the job, and they said one of the basis for me being employed was my being sincere!! So, I dont encourage people pretending.
Am from Cameroon we have so many ethnic groups and no one of this groups has any culture that normalizes kneeling down or genuflecting to greet elders or in-laws.
All this is very strange to me.
No kneeling 🚶🏻♀️🚶🏻♀️🚶🏻♀️🚶🏻♀️
Everyone RELAX
Amaka she did not say pretend. She said be diplomatic. Thank you Hajia, Amaka is going forth and back. She's taking the woman on the wrong context. She said contribute to discussion and not be too forward. Everything in moderator
Pastor Mrs Adejumo is saying the truth, she is #100% right.don't argue on what is not thank.
They are just pretending. Do they pray that their male child should bring home someone that will come and be too extra.
Let's be honest with ourselves. The first time meeting your inlaws can't reveal everything about you or them enough to ascertain if they'll like you or you like them. For me, it's a normal visit. It becomes complicated when we have a mindset that we are going for approval or acceptance and start to put up walls that are not necessary.
Be yourself but remember to be modest
All these rules! hian. Please build a sound mind, be a beautiful heart and be yourself anywhere you go, this life is too short to be tip toeing up and down like a thief or pretending like a scammer. Man or woman just be yourself and make sure you are bringing something to the table, don't be empty.
If you had not stayed for the weekend, it would have been different experience, am sure Mr. Bright did not stay overnight