1:22 Having the best stuff 3:23 Having the most money or being the most successful 5:15 Being famous 7:25 Being liked by others 8:45 Seeing the entire world 10:55 Getting things done every day 11:54 Being right
Bought my little farm at 59 after a 31-year teaching career. Best decision EVER. I really enjoy the mundane chores, gardening, and of course, my animals.
Happiest times in my life: being a kid, riding my bike around town with a backpack, going into video store, frozen pizza for a saturday night with family or a friend, knowing I've got lots of interesting courses ahead, going to the gym, having an interesting part time job, being my own boss in life. I'm older now, maybe successful by most standards, but you know, nothing every beat that simple life.
All my life I have been surrounded by people who let me know that whatever job I had at the time, was a low status job. My dysfunctional family, my abusive now ex-husband, faux friends.......these people did not respect me or like me for who I was. I was good at my low status jobs. I am now 65 and I work part time as a cashier because it gives me some socializing and I happen to be good at it. I'm done with people who judge your acceptability by your job title.
The disrespect is every where, from people with low sense of self, it is a rear time to meet someone that is actually able to have a meaningful relationship , I'm including both sexes, stay strong stay away from the snake's in life, my experience is they don't change, just get more cunning
i just lost my big brother last night, and the sheer realisation that I will never again be able to see him and laugh with him hit me like a ton of bricks. We live only 2.5 hours apart, yet I didn't find time to drive down and see him for a year. The older I get, the more I realize that time is the most prescious asset I have, and I've spent far too much of it on meaninless career goals and people who never loved me or appreciated me. My birth family was always there, but I took them for granted.
I'm so sorry for your loss. One thing that I have tried to emphasize is learning the difference between an expense and an investment. Spending time with people is an investment buying a shirt is just an expense. doing our job it's just a way to pay the expenses. I retired at 63 and have not missed going to work a single day
@@zojirushi1 Some of that. but I am really active in my faith, so praying with my wife, meeting with people, catching up on long to-do lists. I do some writing. I'm starting to do some online teaching. this week we have our grandson (almost 3 years old) with us, so that takes nearly all our time when he is here. Today I only have one appointment - a bible study with someone at 5:30pm. the rest of the day has been with the grandson. I canceled one other appointment that I would have had if he were not here. My wife and I are doing a bit more travel, but not as much as we want (yet). Hoping to go to Nigeria in 2025, and the Holy land (when it's safe to go there).
All I see is an enormous wast of money. Holy crap, that must cost $50K a year. I prefer to watch the travel documentary, and then take a walk around my neighborhood.
@@marcmarc1967 This. I follow this and save enormous amounts of aggravation and save lots of money. Its all the same everywhere...some people, buildings and some nature. Watching things on a big screen TV brings at least 50% pleasure of real thing.
I retired from teaching at 57 and now serve drinks at a luxury hotel for four nights a week... My friends in Nashville shunned me when I no longer was throwing fancy parties for them, and I am just a ;waitress".... I have realized that social status, a big house, and fancy vacations do NOT bring true Joy and Happiness.. I wake up every day and enjoy the beauty of Nature and the people I love....
@DewiSant-o3y I spent 22 years serving children in poverty and was underpaid, verbally abused, and physically assaulted. Society needs to change, and teachers should feel safe and respected in their jobs. My guests at a luxury hotel are so kind and generous to me, I am actually able to plan vacations for the first time in 22 years..... We do NOT have to subject ourselves to abuse....
I’m a 63 year old male, I’ve sold my house, sold 90% of my stuff, sold my car, rent an apartment, take social security, work part time in a kitchen early in the morning 5 days a week just prepping food, cooking, dishwashing, sweeping and mopping. Workout 5 days a week, walk to work and gym everyday. Health is wealth. Look forward to the future, have had and still have a blessed life. Have had and still do have an epic life. Hung out with giants in my youth now I live a quiet easy going life. Lived all over the World so great memories.
That's crazy. Why would you sold your house. I would thought that it would be cheaper than renting?🤔 Does that mean that I am not supposed to buy a house??? 🤔
@@gabito394 might just not have anyone to pass it to when he dies, only assumption. Yes, we all need to live somewhere, but a house is also an investment, so I can't see any harm in selling it and living off this money or invest it (for dividend income for example), you name it.
I’m 54 and still going strong at my job, with zero plans to retire anytime soon. I’ve always been good at what I do, but I never bothered with climbing the corporate ladder. I’d rather have the freedom to work on projects that interest me and team up with different managers. That’s not just my approach at work-it’s how I live my life. I do what I enjoy, not what others see as “success.” So, I’m not stressed or burnt out; I’m relaxed. Some might call that lazy, but I say it’s just smart.
Even if it is lazy or whatever, does it matter? You found your place in life, and that's all that matters. The reason others care about "success" is that they haven't found their place yet.
If you have the freedom in your job to do the "what" however you want, you'll keep it interesting and have better motivation than the guy who gets micro managed. I envy your situation 👍🏻
Same!! As a bedside nurse of 30+ years constantly being encouraged to go into charge and mgt type roles I’m sticking to my guns! Bedside is best! I love taking care of patients!!❤❤ I could care less about charge or mgt!!😢😢It’s all corrupt!!
I’m 40, chased the “American Dream” for most of my earlier life; worked the corporate job, got the car, nice house, and packed it full of crap I didn’t really want or need. The more I obtained the more it felt like I had built my own prison cell. Had an early(ish) midlife crisis in late 2021, sold everything, put my life in a couple bags and moved abroad. I now work part-time and get to spend my days doing what I want; hiking, gym, time with friends, reading, whatever. I’m far from rich in the traditional sense, but I’m debt free and my cost of living now is a fraction of what it was. My time is more valuable to me now than a new car I only get to use as I commute to a job I hate. Best choice I ever made. Long story short: I can always make more money, but I can never make more time.
This is so wholesome, big congrats to you! I just turned 28 and have worked for corporate America since 21 (even though I'm from the UK). I'm already seeing the void ahead. I have no desire for the material and want control over my time more than anything. However, still being in my 20's, I haven't built up the financial base to support my life for 3 years let alone the rest of my life. I am debt free, but mainly because I haven't bought any property yet. The pressure is mounting to "get on" with life i.e. get married, get a mortgage, settle down. Do you have any advice for me? Any mistakes you made in your 30's that I can be wary of?
@@jawlig so I don’t regret anything I’ve done in my life (including being married for 8 years in my late 20’s/early 30’s), I truly believe everything that happens is just another experience, and what matters is how you react to them and especially learn from the negative ones. That said, I also felt the pressure to get married, get the house, etc. that’s just what you’re supposed to do according to 99% of Americans. But I highly recommend not following what others tell you is the “right” path. Be the person you want to be, not who you’re expected to be. If settling down doesn’t feel right to you then trust your instincts and carve a different path. Best of luck no matter what you decide!
Congrats, sounds like an awesome life you've built. Which lower cost country did you choose to move to? I would love to do something similar so just trying to get a general idea of what country's other people chose.
at 57 I agree 100% in my case I add few more things, watching tv is a waste of time, scrolling down on youtube another waste of time, social media another waste of time, the best thing after 50 is to keep it simple, no time for complications. I want to add another contribution. I added up the hours I spent on TV watching Netflix, football games, baseball games, Ninja Warios, UFC and I realized that I was wasting valuable time in my life. The first thing I did was to disconnect my cable tv service, then I took those hours to take cooking classes, yoga, tai chi, gardening classes, I also donate time at a shelter for homeless animals helping to clean and feed the animals. We have to leave a mark in this life, a legacy, not everything can be entertainment and self-gratification.
At the end it all doesn't matter. As long as you had fun doing it, than you did everything right. Watch movies/games together with your family and it certainly wasn't a waste of time.
@@craftzarswish I would’ve done this as a kid. I was a landscaper for almost a decade and never used sunscreen. My skin is ok but could’ve been better.
At 83 Im looking at the other end of it. It wasn't stuff. It is having enough money if your partner dies before you or you have to go into a nursing home. It was trying to be a good parent or righting any big wrongs you made with that as soon as possible. It was friends and being kind. You will regret it if you didn't treat them right. It was eating right and not being overweight. Exercise if you can. That will get you later. and it will be bad day after day. Half my friends are already dead and mostly not from genetics. Don't waste too much time on regrets, blaming others and feeling sorry for yourself. It won't make it any better. and it affects friendships a lot. I like your list. Seems like the right track to me.
Living with regrets and feeling sorry for myself is what i struggle with the most. Its hard but i hope i can get through this and become someone else soon
Great video similiar to the regrets people have when they are about to die. I am 66 and I always had a lot of goals, like a second advanced degree, black belt in karate, pilots licence, speaking several languages and of course a leaner body fat % and so on, but I now realize, especially when you talk to past pilots, martial artists and others that it is the journey that people fondly look back on, not the day you get the external validation. To be quite pragmatic, we are all destined to be done and forgotten 15 years after we pass so being in the present moment and being in a continual state of gratitude will make every day the best day, whatever you happen to be doing. I have learned that no one but you cares about your past accomplishments or future goals. Just know that when you turn 85 or 90 you would give everything you own and have to be 60 once again.
At 76, My secret to happiness is, "Gratitude, attitude, with enthusiasm.". Gratitude is always first, and the more gratitude you have, the happier you'll be.
Similar to some of your goals, when I was working, I always wanted to be appreciated. But I didn’t feel appreciated. One of the reasons I decided to retire early was this not feeling appreciated. I had thought that once I have left, then they would appreciate what they have lost. But then, as soon as I retired I realised that none of it mattered. It never really did. Maybe that’s why they didn’t appreciate me. I was but a cog in the machine. Take me out and the machine simply reassembled the cogs and keeps on rolling. I am still a cog but now in my own machine. Great and thoughtful video Joe. Thanks.
It is a difficult balancing act this Job we do for 40 odd years….it’s important that you don’t have a job you hate, ideally a job where you feel you can grow as a person and perhaps even enjoy but never, ever, ever forget that you’re immediately replaceable and nobody is going to bat an eyelid when you’re gone. Never forget that whoever hired you they hired you for your labour to profit from it. (and there’s nothing wrong with that (if the circumstances are fair))
Good list as usual. My advice on the travel stuff is to do your international travel when you are younger; save domestic travel for later. Go global while you are mobile!
@@jacobmansfield-go9fz not really. Digital nomad, teaching, military, etc so many opportunities to travel abroad and have/save money. My husband and I did it with children! Came back, bought a home and gonna head out again in a few years when eldest graduates.
I stopped chasing dollars at 55. I am blessed to have "seen the light", and now know what's meaningful and important. It's the journey, not the destination. Happiness to all...
Lots of people don't realize that taking your granddaughter on a walk in IS accomplishing something. It's nourishing your soul and giving her good memories. Would you like to get to your end of your life and realize that you had never taken her on a walk? Things like that SHOULD be on a to-do list.
I'm 55 and have already cut down my work schedule by 75%, spending more time learning Jazz piano, and more time on health/sports activities. I plan to retire completely in another 1.5 years so that my wife and I could do some more traveling. Jazz piano had been a major passion for me and in teenage years I aspired to be a professional musician. That didn’t work out for various reasons, but it has been amazing to return to this project a few years ago and see how far I could take it -- in terms of my skill level.
That's a solid list and it shows your wisdom. I have not caring about being liked by others in my list too but I think it's a slippery slope. I'm in my 50's and I've seen too many people through the years that use "I don't care about being liked" to justify hurting others or just being a bad person. If 1 or 2 out of 10 people don't like you, I see that as their problem but if 7-8 out of 10 don't like you, you're probably the problem. I've tweaked my version to "I don't care if others don't like me as long as I know I haven't done anything wrong to them".
I had a boss once who didn’t like me because I was friendly to my co-workers and I’d crack jokes with them. I still got my work done well and on time. Turns out he was miserable. So I like your revision of the idea of not needing to be liked by people as long as you’re not doing wrong by anybody.
1998 Volvo here. Been driving it for 20 years, Still runs and looks like new. I get negative comments about driving such an 'old' car, but that's coming from people with a $1,000 a month car payment that simultaneously complain about how expensive, and unreliable, new cars are. Whatever. I've never had a car payment on mine.
When I graduated high school I bought a 9 year old car, that was fully loaded, for 15% of its original value. Ten year old cars used to be viewed as old so I can see why he said it. The same car is only slightly cheaper but it's almost 30 years old.
I drive a 2011 Mercedes. My husband keeps wanting to buy me a newer one as this one was an anniversary gift. It's paid off and still drives, I am grateful and happy! No car notes necessary.
I am 33 yrs old. My greatest accomplishments today are learning the English language, retaining and expanding my knowledge of the Russian language, developing a career that I am happy to be doing today, getting and staying married, having two healthy children, and being there for my family. My next goal is to buy a home so that my family can have a secure financial future and so that I don’t have to work as much and can spend time with my children and family.
I am 32 years old and my current accomplishment is to have a family and stable job. Being a dad and husband is much more important to me (and I feel more fulfilled) than pursuing a great or interesting career. This career goal has consumed a lot of my life. Family man is much better.
I was dirt poor when I was young. Goal #1 was to not be dirt poor. After I got above that Goal #2 was to plan for and be able to retire early and well. Got that done too. I wear bib overalls 7 days a week and have done so for 30+ years. My daily driver is a heavy duty Ram 3500 dually that is a 2017 model. I do like my Harley's and have 4: all bought used and at great prices.
I am an early retired multimillionaire, I spend very little money on day to day living and buy only necessities. However when I buy, I buy value. If the solar panels and house battery will reduce future bills and allow my garage to be my gas station, I buy. If the backyard fence costs 50% more but will practically last forever, I buy. When I travel overseas I upgrade the flights and accommodations because I want to be comfortable and enjoy. Do almost all my clothes and household shopping at Costco.
lmao solar panels...chasing pennies over dollars. you can literally buy a fuel efficient vehicle and pay 10 a gal for gas for 50 years and it wont ever equal the cost and maintenance of an EV.
I really enjoyed travelling and moving when I was younger: Lived in Portugal (my home country), Netherlands, studied in France and UK, went to the US for work (I am an astronomer) and now live and work in Germany. I have been to 40 countries, all continents except South America, and when I lived in the US I visited about 30 states. But now I am becoming a bit more selective with my travel. I really like going to Taiwan with my wife (to see her family and freinds) and we love visiting Japan. I no longer wish to see the whole world, but I am glad I did a lot of travelling when I was younger: lots of good memories!
Astronomer. Wow. You've lived a great life. I'm from Pakistan in my late 40s and have studied in Sweden. Went to 6 countries. Wish to visit the US as I think it has great Natural scenery. Yellow stone and the West cost.
I think your success on your channel is because you are a lot like the rest of us humble, older gentlemen that are satisfied with past accomplishments and are grateful for your life's situation. We don't even try to keep ahead of everyone. And we're happy every day. I'm a 59 y/o recently retired aerospace engineer. Sometimes accomplishments working for corporate America were very satisfying; mostly few and far between. We have a small ranch, 2 acres, 22 year old Toyota Tacoma for me and a 2012 Altima for my wife. No flash, as you can see and all paid; no debt. A couple other toys but all paid for too. For me, a few close sibling deaths in my life has opened my eyes to retire early, work for me and my wife (house, cars etc), and side jobs for cash. Not really needed but nice to fill your pockets with some cash and get physical exercise. I just like it that way and I too am satisfied with the way things are in life. Thanks for your channel!
Very good list! I’m 55 and have accumulated way less savings for retirement than I thought I’d have by now. I’m thinking more and more about early retirement. Time is more precious to me than money at this point.
This is inspiring. I'm 21, and I look up to people like you. Thanks for the wisdom. I see many things the same way you do, especially on materialism. The things you own end up owning you. Although I will say that a nice pair of shoes, and good camping gear are always worth it :)
62 and I don't want to travel much any more for the reasons you stated. In the same vein ,after being a big fan of nice restaurants all my life( I live in France!), I now feel that even if the food is great I get more out of cooking the same at home - and the money saved goes to children and grandchildren. Once or twice a year is enough - and then the restaurant has to be good!!Have a garden, Im a runner, got chickens and a kitty. Feel blessed.
Much respect. This man has lived his life. Let people live their lives. It’s nothing wrong with getting the best clothes and possessions. Always purchase the best tools. These older folk never teach how to make money or train people in trades. You have to go through a on job training, school, or union. While training pay is minimal. While paying inflation caused by default loans, bankruptcy, grants, awards, tax breaks, tax incentives, social services, increased prices and standards that are made by older folk that depend on social security, Medicare and Medicaid. Enjoy life!!!! It’s short and nobody has a real answer!!!!
Educated professional.....list maker....task master....perfectionist.....getting stuff done ON THE DAILY. That segment def resonated with me and appreciate that you shared that it's still something you struggle with because I seem to be filling my newfound 'free time' with getting 'more stuff done' yet the list doesn't seem to get any shorter? Living in the moment is a learned skill just like the things we did in our careers. Currently recreationally employed a few days a month :)
I saw this quote one time that went “when I was in my 20’s I really cared what other people thought. Once I got to my 30’s I stopped caring about other peoples opinions and in my 40’s I realized nobody was ever watching” and that’s really how I’ve come to look at buying nice fancy things. If there’s something nice that’ll truly make you happy to have, then by all means get it. But if you’re just getting it because you think it’ll improve how others view you… aint nobody paying attention my guy
I like nice things and that motivates me. It’s not about impressing anyone. It’s about stepping above the fray because just settling in life means you wasted your life. Try and better yet, try hard at whatever you do. No matter the outcome. Giving up is not living.
I'm 44 and I can admit that my biggest problem is valuing nice stuff over spending quality time with my family. I rarely relax and have fun with the kids, I'm always trying to accomplish something and improve our house in some way.
So... Which is it? Do you not like them? Or do they not like you? "Actions speak louder than words." My dad only had time for me a handful of times, in my growing up years. He begs for my time now, and I try to be nicer to him than I think he deserves. But let's just say, I don't feel I owe him much.
Be careful of being critical of your kids. It's annoying and disheartening when the father rarely spends time with you and when he does it's always all your flaws pointed at you. I know one needs to be corrected but sometimes your child just wants to spend time with you and not to be whiplashed by criticism. Justifying, "when can I correct you but now? when I don't have much time." I know i'm projecting but just a thought...
I'm not sure I can ever retire fully. I was a live in caregiver for an elderly man for 5 years, and I lived the fully retired life. Go to the store, go to the doctor, watch daytime TV and eat. It drove me nuts. Absolutely nuts. I was depressed, lonely, and it felt like I had no reason to exist. I feel like I need to be expected to be somewhere at least 2 days a week. Otherwise I'll just rot away in some apartment.
People see retirement as an opportunity to do nothing, it's actually the perfect opportunity to do exactly what you want, no need to worry about finances, or anything alike, you can volunteer, low skilled job, coach a team, do talks, find a group of hobbyist, whatever you want, that's if you've set up you're retirement well
My list would be: 1. How much you bench 2. How much you squat 3. How much you deadlift 4. Getting too obsessed with a musical instrument. 5. Working more hours 6. Trying read and know about everything, especially current events. 7. Running too much or exercising too much 8. Yoga 9. Being around people, where you cannot be yourself. 10. Sitting in front of a tv watching professional sports.
"Happiness comes from the progression towards a goal" The wisest thing I've ever heard. That explains the void you feel after achieving something great but too easy.
Nailed it Joe! Every point on your list resonates with me. Case in point -- I'm driving a 2006 Honda truck (still going strong!) and my wardrobe is super basic/minimal/plain. LOL! I need to give some thought to what I might add to the list for me personally. Also wanted to say... I LOVE your content and your casual format. TH-cam is quickly turning into a cesspool of frustrating clickbait, lies, and trickery. So a channel like yours is a breath of fresh air for people like me who are simply looking for honest and helpful content. PLEASE don't change anything -- your subscriber count will keep going up! And BTW, regarding #4.... I LOVE YA' MAN! 🥰😊
Sir you are an amazing person! I loved to hear about your ideas. It helped clarify some things I was wondering about recently. And you also look so good in your 60s. Hope you are happy and healthy. Greetings form Barcelona, Spain. 🙏☺️
Retired 2 years ago at 59 and enjoying it!!!! We live rural but modest and very comfortable!!!! Active in the local community! Don’t care what others think and don’t believe in “keeping up with the Jones”!!!!!!
As a 24 yr old your wisdom feels personal to me, i have always craved for a simple life filled with my own innovations and discoveries, i already have the half wisdom and i am yet to gain more i feel blessed
Thanks for this video. Been thinking of these things lately and feeling guilty. Especially being not being more successful or productive. It takes time to shift that mindset to just enjoy life.
Semi retired at 39, just work occasionally for the stress aspect. Don't need anything or anyone ,,, just enjoying the chilled unpressured life of not living up to everyone else's expectations. Best part was spending the last 6 yrs looking after my mother with dementia.
To accomplish the first one embrace minimalism. Letting go of attachment to “stuff” is liberating. It changes the narrative from depriving yourself of stuff, freeing yourself from being bound by stuff.
Those are rich Joe. Thank you. I especially resonate with me is the idea that I have to be right. For the past few years I have tended to refrain from correcting or debating things that just don't matter. It helps others enjoy my company a bit more, and I'm not depriving others of finding their own way on their journeys.
Hi Joe! Thanks a lot for this video and your channel! I think it's great to get your perspective! You (and a few others) have inspired me to rethink my retirement plan (and produce one in the first place). I think your content is great, don't pay too much attention to the few (I hope) haters, I am actually very surprised anyone can get upset about what you are saying (proving my own ignorance). I will not retire for a few more years (I'm 58 now) but when I do, I would be very happy to show you around Stockholm and Sweden, which I noticed was not on your short list. I will get back to you on that but until then I just want to repeat that I love your channel and keep up the good work!! Thanks! /Martin
Clifton 9. 😊..love Hoka also.....Joe...Iam so in tune with your thought process...Turning 64 soon...keep up the great work....appreciate your insight and delivery
Since we will die no matter what we do, I think the best thing to do with life is to treat it like an art project, trying to make it beautiful and interesting for ourselves (since we cannot prove the consciousness of others, perhaps we are the only spectators).
Thx Joe, great list. I always wanted to be a CIO. The closer I got, the more I realised it clashed with my early retirement goals. I was lucky to see the light just in time.
Great video. I lived for multiple years in Germany while in the military. I travelled all over Europe, but now I have no interest in leaving the states. Like you, i believe there is a lot to see here before i go back overseas. As i enter my late 50' I care less and less what people think of me.
I think travel is always eye opening. We never go to the same city twice, except for Istanbul thus far. I also care less and less about what other people think of me when I turned 50. In fact I also care less about what I think of myself either (ego).
How about running a marathon? You can talk tirelessly about your long runs, or your short runs for training. You can put stickers on your car. Lots of great benefits.
I agree to all except the travel part. At least personally. Travelling gives me joy, I love experiencing new things, food, culture, sights, etc. If something gives me joy, it's not a waste of my time. After all, what're we supposed to be on this earth but to experience being alive the way you want it!
I am feeling a shift in my goals too. I feel my goals of yesterday were really helpful. They gave me a the shining star to strive for and head toward. As I near retirement it feels ok to correct course a bit and refine my goals. I am still curious and want to learn and improve, but maybe the drive can be dialed back a bit. I think losing my Dad last year and seeing my Mom declining, my focus is clear to spend time where I want. That is with those I love and care for. Great video Joe.
Used to have the goal of seeing the world. Saw a lot of the world while working, but I’ve changed my goal to just setting foot on all 7 continents. Just need to hit Australia, Antarctica, and South America.
re: deciding on those last few states. I lived in CT for 6 years and while it’s gorgeous there, I feel if you’ve gotten what you wanted out of the rest of New England, there is nothing CT does better. Similar feelings towards Rhode Island. As for Delaware, if you’ve been to the beach in VA, MD or NC, you’ve gotten a better experience than DE can give, so in a similar way to CT and New England, it’s not worth a special trip. Can’t weigh in on ND since I’ve never been! Thanks for the video. You’ve given this 37 year old some good food for thought.
Im 20 and im scared of the figure that is about to come AI , AGI and ASI etc. AGI is expected to come ib 2025-2026 and so im scared what should i do? What career should i take? What future will be able good so i could at least live and provide for my family? Can anyone help with me advices any type of? It would be really helpful, Thank you for reading and giving your time
I appreciate you making this video. I am 44 no wife no kids not really close to anyone or family except my mom. U hit on really great points 👉 at the end of the day alot of chasing to accomplish things for money and status is bullshit. Enough money to buy food, clothes on your back a warm roof over your head a good hobby and maybe if you are lucky in this life a few good life long connections and most importantly your health 🙏
I have customers, quite rich, who you never know it about. They blend in with regular people. I’m not rich, not even close, but have enough of everything I need. Should add, no matter who you are, if you’re fairly good looking there will always be a sort of resentment by those who aren’t. This took me a long time to understand.
I'm in a similar position aged sixty and retired. I totally agree with your take on 'stuff'. I'm trying to get rid of 'stuff' acquired over my lif so far, not get more of it! I've never really felt the need to 'compete' with others for money, jobs or status, I've just cut my own furrow and done what makes me happy and my nearest and dearest people in my life. I think you are correct in your observation that people don't own things, things own people! I know people who have boats, holiday homes or caravans the other side of the country. They spend more time maintaining these 'assets' (and a whole lot of cash) than they do actually enjoying them. And because they have these assets, it means they have to go on holiday to the same place every time! Personally, I'd rather go and see somewhere new each time I travel. So put a tent on the back of a motorcycle as I did in April this year, minimal planning and just take off round Europe. So easy and you make it up as you go along. Freedom. Or travel with my partner in her semi-converted van and drive to the coast for the weekend. (Quite easy in the UK as it's not a very big country). If you are considering a trip across the Pond, I would recommend a visit to the Isle of Arran, the city of Glasgow (not far away) then head to the highlands, Fort William, Fort Augustus, Inverness. You could go to John O' Groats, but it's not really worth it unless you just want to complete a 'check-list'. Oban and the Isle of Skye are worth a visit as is Ullapool and Gairloch. You will definitely need to hire a car or camper, but please also bring your hiking boots and see the beautiful landscapes on foot! The bottom line is life is not a rehearsal. Everyone just needs to get back to the things they enjoy and just get on with doing it! Anyway, thanks for the sound observations. I'm going to do the washing up then go for a pint in the pub. Because I can. Love and peace.
North Dakota/South Dakota is very nice to travel to. During a family road trip out west, we drove nearby the western border of the Dakotas (I don't remember which one but probably South Dakota). We went off roading in a nature preserve and got to drive through a herd of wild buffalo. The natural sights there are very beautiful
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1:22 Having the best stuff
3:23 Having the most money or being the most successful
5:15 Being famous
7:25 Being liked by others
8:45 Seeing the entire world
10:55 Getting things done every day
11:54 Being right
Thanks saved me wasting my time
It’s great having some of the best stuff if it’s stuff you value or appreciate.
Thanks. Wasting my time on useless TH-cam videos should be number 8.
Thanks for the minutes back.
I like quality and try to have the best. Value is part of the determining what is best. Impressing others is not.
No quick edits, no flashy graphics, no music, no script. Just a dude being real in front of a camera. That's old school.
Right.. imagine having 100,000 people tuning in to watch you every month. That’s like filling Madison square garden every week
Bought my little farm at 59 after a 31-year teaching career. Best decision EVER. I really enjoy the mundane chores, gardening, and of course, my animals.
I'm a teacher too and buying a farm is all I can think about.
You inspire me I am from South Africa 37yrs currently doing some online business but I really love the outdoors simplicity of Life
You can make videos and post it on youtube with your advise on farming or gardening
I always wanted a goat. They're funny characters and I love animals
@EmilePesky-n1v I have 8 Goats very mischievous though 😆 but i love them they are just easy to stock up and to take care of unlike Cows no fuss
Happiest times in my life: being a kid, riding my bike around town with a backpack, going into video store, frozen pizza for a saturday night with family or a friend, knowing I've got lots of interesting courses ahead, going to the gym, having an interesting part time job, being my own boss in life. I'm older now, maybe successful by most standards, but you know, nothing every beat that simple life.
@@Canadian-Ice2024 warching my kids grow. Everything else is shit.
So true
Nothing like all those 99 cent b movies for rent.
To be young and carefree again! No bad memories or regrets. That is why our childhood is so sweet.
@@Soldano999 uh, love you Momma! 🥵🥰
All my life I have been surrounded by people who let me know that whatever job I had at the time, was a low status job. My dysfunctional family, my abusive now ex-husband, faux friends.......these people did not respect me or like me for who I was. I was good at my low status jobs. I am now 65 and I work part time as a cashier because it gives me some socializing and I happen to be good at it. I'm done with people who judge your acceptability by your job title.
As long as you're happy. That's the only real benchmark.
you sound like a lovely person.
The disrespect is every where, from people with low sense of self, it is a rear time to meet someone that is actually able to have a meaningful relationship , I'm including both sexes, stay strong stay away from the snake's in life, my experience is they don't change, just get more cunning
@@lightnessofsprit yeah!
Once you realize society is 90% phony status, you can leave it behind and enjoy life.
As a 22 year old who clicked on this by accident: Thank you.
17 year old here 😎
Same
No accident
@@ethangoldberger72876 year old here
i just lost my big brother last night, and the sheer realisation that I will never again be able to see him and laugh with him hit me like a ton of bricks. We live only 2.5 hours apart, yet I didn't find time to drive down and see him for a year. The older I get, the more I realize that time is the most prescious asset I have, and I've spent far too much of it on meaninless career goals and people who never loved me or appreciated me. My birth family was always there, but I took them for granted.
Wise and sorry about your loss.
@@joekuhnlovesretirement Thank you!
I'm so sorry for your loss. One thing that I have tried to emphasize is learning the difference between an expense and an investment. Spending time with people is an investment buying a shirt is just an expense. doing our job it's just a way to pay the expenses. I retired at 63 and have not missed going to work a single day
@@josephthomas2226what do you do every day now? Just hobbies and fun stuff?
@@zojirushi1 Some of that. but I am really active in my faith, so praying with my wife, meeting with people, catching up on long to-do lists. I do some writing. I'm starting to do some online teaching. this week we have our grandson (almost 3 years old) with us, so that takes nearly all our time when he is here.
Today I only have one appointment - a bible study with someone at 5:30pm. the rest of the day has been with the grandson. I canceled one other appointment that I would have had if he were not here.
My wife and I are doing a bit more travel, but not as much as we want (yet). Hoping to go to Nigeria in 2025, and the Holy land (when it's safe to go there).
I love that you casually say that you take 3 to 5, 2 week vacations in a year. I think you’ve made it in life big dog.
All I see is an enormous wast of money. Holy crap, that must cost $50K a year. I prefer to watch the travel documentary, and then take a walk around my neighborhood.
Good for the Big Dog! Ruff Ruff!
I’m 56. Waiting to take my first 2 week vacation.
@@marcmarc1967 This. I follow this and save enormous amounts of aggravation and save lots of money. Its all the same everywhere...some people, buildings and some nature. Watching things on a big screen TV brings at least 50% pleasure of real thing.
@@marcmarc1967That's called a depression my boy.
I retired from teaching at 57 and now serve drinks at a luxury hotel for four nights a week... My friends in Nashville shunned me when I no longer was throwing fancy parties for them, and I am just a ;waitress".... I have realized that social status, a big house, and fancy vacations do NOT bring true Joy and Happiness.. I wake up every day and enjoy the beauty of Nature and the people I love....
Once you got the cash you don't need to break your back.
Live life the way you want. Who cares what they think!
@DewiSant-o3y I spent 22 years serving children in poverty and was underpaid, verbally abused, and physically assaulted. Society needs to change, and teachers should feel safe and respected in their jobs. My guests at a luxury hotel are so kind and generous to me, I am actually able to plan vacations for the first time in 22 years..... We do NOT have to subject ourselves to abuse....
hmm. briefly viewed your channel. briefly read your info and such.
doesnt seem to add up. but whatever.
@Gizziiusa youre correct. Its a bot comment. I saw this somewhere else.
@@____MC____ ok thx. im guessing its one of those "buy my book. buy my course. act now and pay only $99 !!! limited time only" nonsense.
I’m a 63 year old male, I’ve sold my house, sold 90% of my stuff, sold my car, rent an apartment, take social security, work part time in a kitchen early in the morning 5 days a week just prepping food, cooking, dishwashing, sweeping and mopping. Workout 5 days a week, walk to work and gym everyday. Health is wealth. Look forward to the future, have had and still have a blessed life. Have had and still do have an epic life. Hung out with giants in my youth now I live a quiet easy going life. Lived all over the World so great memories.
That's crazy. Why would you sold your house. I would thought that it would be cheaper than renting?🤔 Does that mean that I am not supposed to buy a house??? 🤔
Lodi petmalu po kita
That's all very well apart from taking social security. Do what you want but don't be a burden on others without good reason.
@@gabito394selling house made him cash rich. Probably bought Bitcoin.
@@gabito394 might just not have anyone to pass it to when he dies, only assumption. Yes, we all need to live somewhere, but a house is also an investment, so I can't see any harm in selling it and living off this money or invest it (for dividend income for example), you name it.
I’m 54 and still going strong at my job, with zero plans to retire anytime soon. I’ve always been good at what I do, but I never bothered with climbing the corporate ladder. I’d rather have the freedom to work on projects that interest me and team up with different managers. That’s not just my approach at work-it’s how I live my life. I do what I enjoy, not what others see as “success.” So, I’m not stressed or burnt out; I’m relaxed. Some might call that lazy, but I say it’s just smart.
Even if it is lazy or whatever, does it matter? You found your place in life, and that's all that matters. The reason others care about "success" is that they haven't found their place yet.
Yep just be that barber people form the longest queue and are more than willing to wait for.
Salt of the earth types.
If you have the freedom in your job to do the "what" however you want, you'll keep it interesting and have better motivation than the guy who gets micro managed. I envy your situation 👍🏻
Same!! As a bedside nurse of 30+ years constantly being encouraged to go into charge and mgt type roles I’m sticking to my guns!
Bedside is best! I love taking care of patients!!❤❤ I could care less about charge or mgt!!😢😢It’s all corrupt!!
No cap
I’m 40, chased the “American Dream” for most of my earlier life; worked the corporate job, got the car, nice house, and packed it full of crap I didn’t really want or need. The more I obtained the more it felt like I had built my own prison cell. Had an early(ish) midlife crisis in late 2021, sold everything, put my life in a couple bags and moved abroad. I now work part-time and get to spend my days doing what I want; hiking, gym, time with friends, reading, whatever. I’m far from rich in the traditional sense, but I’m debt free and my cost of living now is a fraction of what it was. My time is more valuable to me now than a new car I only get to use as I commute to a job I hate. Best choice I ever made.
Long story short: I can always make more money, but I can never make more time.
This is so wholesome, big congrats to you! I just turned 28 and have worked for corporate America since 21 (even though I'm from the UK). I'm already seeing the void ahead. I have no desire for the material and want control over my time more than anything. However, still being in my 20's, I haven't built up the financial base to support my life for 3 years let alone the rest of my life. I am debt free, but mainly because I haven't bought any property yet. The pressure is mounting to "get on" with life i.e. get married, get a mortgage, settle down. Do you have any advice for me? Any mistakes you made in your 30's that I can be wary of?
@@jawlig so I don’t regret anything I’ve done in my life (including being married for 8 years in my late 20’s/early 30’s), I truly believe everything that happens is just another experience, and what matters is how you react to them and especially learn from the negative ones. That said, I also felt the pressure to get married, get the house, etc. that’s just what you’re supposed to do according to 99% of Americans. But I highly recommend not following what others tell you is the “right” path. Be the person you want to be, not who you’re expected to be. If settling down doesn’t feel right to you then trust your instincts and carve a different path. Best of luck no matter what you decide!
Congrats, sounds like an awesome life you've built. Which lower cost country did you choose to move to? I would love to do something similar so just trying to get a general idea of what country's other people chose.
at 57 I agree 100% in my case I add few more things, watching tv is a waste of time, scrolling down on youtube another waste of time, social media another waste of time, the best thing after 50 is to keep it simple, no time for complications. I want to add another contribution. I added up the hours I spent on TV watching Netflix, football games, baseball games, Ninja Warios, UFC and I realized that I was wasting valuable time in my life. The first thing I did was to disconnect my cable tv service, then I took those hours to take cooking classes, yoga, tai chi, gardening classes, I also donate time at a shelter for homeless animals helping to clean and feed the animals. We have to leave a mark in this life, a legacy, not everything can be entertainment and self-gratification.
TH-cam is a waste of time? Oh no!
The football games weren't a waste. :) I've learned a ton on YT (BMW YT mechanic). The rest of it is garbage.
So true.
@@cathrynm yes and no, in you tube you chose what you want to see, chose educacional videos
At the end it all doesn't matter. As long as you had fun doing it, than you did everything right. Watch movies/games together with your family and it certainly wasn't a waste of time.
I'll add, beating myself up for past decisions. Things I did and things I should have done, but didn't.
True that. Let it go
Yes! That includes daily regrets (per his “getting stuff done each day”) we try to double-check ourselves whenever we use “should” in a sentence.
Thanks for such an excellent point!
Agree, although there will have been reasons /choices why we didn't.
Just a lesson not a life sentence .
Your skin looks really good for 60! You are doing something right.
Use sunscreen. Tan looks good but is not good for skin
@@craftzarswish I would’ve done this as a kid. I was a landscaper for almost a decade and never used sunscreen. My skin is ok but could’ve been better.
At 83 Im looking at the other end of it. It wasn't stuff. It is having enough money if your partner dies before you or you have to go into a nursing home. It was trying to be a good parent or righting any big wrongs you made with that as soon as possible. It was friends and being kind. You will regret it if you didn't treat them right. It was eating right and not being overweight. Exercise if you can. That will get you later. and it will be bad day after day. Half my friends are already dead and mostly not from genetics. Don't waste too much time on regrets, blaming others and feeling sorry for yourself. It won't make it any better. and it affects friendships a lot. I like your list. Seems like the right track to me.
Wise
Living with regrets and feeling sorry for myself is what i struggle with the most. Its hard but i hope i can get through this and become someone else soon
Never wanted fame, privacy is priceless!
Privacy and peace of mind.
It's pretty hard to be famous. It takes more effort than most people think.
Great video similiar to the regrets people have when they are about to die. I am 66 and I always had a lot of goals, like a second advanced degree, black belt in karate, pilots licence, speaking several languages and of course a leaner body fat % and so on, but I now realize, especially when you talk to past pilots, martial artists and others that it is the journey that people fondly look back on, not the day you get the external validation. To be quite pragmatic, we are all destined to be done and forgotten 15 years after we pass so being in the present moment and being in a continual state of gratitude will make every day the best day, whatever you happen to be doing. I have learned that no one but you cares about your past accomplishments or future goals. Just know that when you turn 85 or 90 you would give everything you own and have to be 60 once again.
@@drdirkkeenan Now THAT'S an inspirational comment. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the next best time is today.
Really well said.
At 76, My secret to happiness is, "Gratitude, attitude, with enthusiasm.". Gratitude is always first, and the more gratitude you have, the happier you'll be.
I found this comment so inspirational I took a screenshot so I could look at it from time to time.
Thanks for your sharing this insight.
Similar to some of your goals, when I was working, I always wanted to be appreciated. But I didn’t feel appreciated. One of the reasons I decided to retire early was this not feeling appreciated. I had thought that once I have left, then they would appreciate what they have lost. But then, as soon as I retired I realised that none of it mattered. It never really did. Maybe that’s why they didn’t appreciate me. I was but a cog in the machine. Take me out and the machine simply reassembled the cogs and keeps on rolling. I am still a cog but now in my own machine. Great and thoughtful video Joe. Thanks.
I feel exactly the same way right now! Planning on retiring by June 2025 :)
It is a difficult balancing act this Job we do for 40 odd years….it’s important that you don’t have a job you hate, ideally a job where you feel you can grow as a person and perhaps even enjoy but never, ever, ever forget that you’re immediately replaceable and nobody is going to bat an eyelid when you’re gone. Never forget that whoever hired you they hired you for your labour to profit from it. (and there’s nothing wrong with that (if the circumstances are fair))
Good list as usual. My advice on the travel stuff is to do your international travel when you are younger; save domestic travel for later. Go global while you are mobile!
Wise and a poet
And go for a specific reason.
Need to be making boatloads of money for that
@@jacobmansfield-go9fz not really. Digital nomad, teaching, military, etc so many opportunities to travel abroad and have/save money. My husband and I did it with children! Came back, bought a home and gonna head out again in a few years when eldest graduates.
I've come to the same realization. I know the long haul flights are already taking their toll now so I imagine in 15 years (retirement), much more so.
I stopped chasing dollars at 55. I am blessed to have "seen the light", and now know what's meaningful and important. It's the journey, not the destination. Happiness to all...
Lots of people don't realize that taking your granddaughter on a walk in IS accomplishing something. It's nourishing your soul and giving her good memories. Would you like to get to your end of your life and realize that you had never taken her on a walk? Things like that SHOULD be on a to-do list.
Awesome. Man becomes old too soon , and wise too late
Because less fathers to teach them as our handlers want
Being present. That is an excellent goal to focus on. I'm going to adopt that one. Thank you!
Perfect!
I'm 55 and have already cut down my work schedule by 75%, spending more time learning Jazz piano, and more time on health/sports activities. I plan to retire completely in another 1.5 years so that my wife and I could do some more traveling.
Jazz piano had been a major passion for me and in teenage years I aspired to be a professional musician. That didn’t work out for various reasons, but it has been amazing to return to this project a few years ago and see how far I could take it -- in terms of my skill level.
That's a solid list and it shows your wisdom. I have not caring about being liked by others in my list too but I think it's a slippery slope. I'm in my 50's and I've seen too many people through the years that use "I don't care about being liked" to justify hurting others or just being a bad person. If 1 or 2 out of 10 people don't like you, I see that as their problem but if 7-8 out of 10 don't like you, you're probably the problem. I've tweaked my version to "I don't care if others don't like me as long as I know I haven't done anything wrong to them".
I had a boss once who didn’t like me because I was friendly to my co-workers and I’d crack jokes with them. I still got my work done well and on time. Turns out he was miserable. So I like your revision of the idea of not needing to be liked by people as long as you’re not doing wrong by anybody.
2012 isn't a very old car bro. Respect.
1998 Volvo here. Been driving it for 20 years, Still runs and looks like new.
I get negative comments about driving such an 'old' car, but that's coming from people with a $1,000 a month car payment that simultaneously complain about how expensive, and unreliable, new cars are. Whatever. I've never had a car payment on mine.
When I graduated high school I bought a 9 year old car, that was fully loaded, for 15% of its original value.
Ten year old cars used to be viewed as old so I can see why he said it. The same car is only slightly cheaper but it's almost 30 years old.
I drive a 2011 Mercedes. My husband keeps wanting to buy me a newer one as this one was an anniversary gift. It's paid off and still drives, I am grateful and happy! No car notes necessary.
1992 Dodge Spirit here. 80k miles, pristine. Not changing it for a newer one any time, sooner nor later.
It's not a classic, but I think the point is it clearly isn't new. It does the job and that's the main thing.
I am 33 yrs old. My greatest accomplishments today are learning the English language, retaining and expanding my knowledge of the Russian language, developing a career that I am happy to be doing today, getting and staying married, having two healthy children, and being there for my family. My next goal is to buy a home so that my family can have a secure financial future and so that I don’t have to work as much and can spend time with my children and family.
I am 32 years old and my current accomplishment is to have a family and stable job. Being a dad and husband is much more important to me (and I feel more fulfilled) than pursuing a great or interesting career. This career goal has consumed a lot of my life. Family man is much better.
Hey I’m in my 30’s and I appreciated hearing your perspective.
I was dirt poor when I was young. Goal #1 was to not be dirt poor. After I got above that Goal #2 was to plan for and be able to retire early and well. Got that done too. I wear bib overalls 7 days a week and have done so for 30+ years. My daily driver is a heavy duty Ram 3500 dually that is a 2017 model. I do like my Harley's and have 4: all bought used and at great prices.
I am an early retired multimillionaire, I spend very little money on day to day living and buy only necessities. However when I buy, I buy value. If the solar panels and house battery will reduce future bills and allow my garage to be my gas station, I buy. If the backyard fence costs 50% more but will practically last forever, I buy. When I travel overseas I upgrade the flights and accommodations because I want to be comfortable and enjoy. Do almost all my clothes and household shopping at Costco.
Love Costco lol
Modest closet millionare here- Costco 4 life!!!❤
If Costco don't have it, I don't need it!
🎯🎯🎯
lmao solar panels...chasing pennies over dollars.
you can literally buy a fuel efficient vehicle and pay 10 a gal for gas for 50 years and it wont ever equal the cost and maintenance of an EV.
I’m 25 and I value this advice. Trying to live a minimalist life style to do the things I want to do in my free time.
I really enjoyed travelling and moving when I was younger: Lived in Portugal (my home country), Netherlands, studied in France and UK, went to the US for work (I am an astronomer) and now live and work in Germany. I have been to 40 countries, all continents except South America, and when I lived in the US I visited about 30 states. But now I am becoming a bit more selective with my travel. I really like going to Taiwan with my wife (to see her family and freinds) and we love visiting Japan. I no longer wish to see the whole world, but I am glad I did a lot of travelling when I was younger: lots of good memories!
Astronomer. Wow. You've lived a great life. I'm from Pakistan in my late 40s and have studied in Sweden. Went to 6 countries. Wish to visit the US as I think it has great Natural scenery. Yellow stone and the West cost.
Guten Tag Kollege How’s life in Germany I’m just curious😅
“Do you own your stuff or does your stuff own you?”
I really needed to hear that in this particular phase of my life
I think your success on your channel is because you are a lot like the rest of us humble, older gentlemen that are satisfied with past accomplishments and are grateful for your life's situation. We don't even try to keep ahead of everyone. And we're happy every day. I'm a 59 y/o recently retired aerospace engineer. Sometimes accomplishments working for corporate America were very satisfying; mostly few and far between. We have a small ranch, 2 acres, 22 year old Toyota Tacoma for me and a 2012 Altima for my wife. No flash, as you can see and all paid; no debt. A couple other toys but all paid for too. For me, a few close sibling deaths in my life has opened my eyes to retire early, work for me and my wife (house, cars etc), and side jobs for cash. Not really needed but nice to fill your pockets with some cash and get physical exercise. I just like it that way and I too am satisfied with the way things are in life. Thanks for your channel!
Great story
Thank you very much for your time. Your words are wonderful and they light a spark in me🍃
Very good list! I’m 55 and have accumulated way less savings for retirement than I thought I’d have by now. I’m thinking more and more about early retirement. Time is more precious to me than money at this point.
This is inspiring. I'm 21, and I look up to people like you. Thanks for the wisdom. I see many things the same way you do, especially on materialism. The things you own end up owning you. Although I will say that a nice pair of shoes, and good camping gear are always worth it :)
62 and I don't want to travel much any more for the reasons you stated. In the same vein ,after being a big fan of nice restaurants all my life( I live in France!), I now feel that even if the food is great I get more out of cooking the same at home - and the money saved goes to children and grandchildren. Once or twice a year is enough - and then the restaurant has to be good!!Have a garden, Im a runner, got chickens and a kitty. Feel blessed.
Much respect. This man has lived his life. Let people live their lives. It’s nothing wrong with getting the best clothes and possessions. Always purchase the best tools. These older folk never teach how to make money or train people in trades. You have to go through a on job training, school, or union. While training pay is minimal. While paying inflation caused by default loans, bankruptcy, grants, awards, tax breaks, tax incentives, social services, increased prices and standards that are made by older folk that depend on social security, Medicare and Medicaid. Enjoy life!!!! It’s short and nobody has a real answer!!!!
Educated professional.....list maker....task master....perfectionist.....getting stuff done ON THE DAILY. That segment def resonated with me and appreciate that you shared that it's still something you struggle with because I seem to be filling my newfound 'free time' with getting 'more stuff done' yet the list doesn't seem to get any shorter? Living in the moment is a learned skill just like the things we did in our careers. Currently recreationally employed a few days a month :)
I saw this quote one time that went “when I was in my 20’s I really cared what other people thought. Once I got to my 30’s I stopped caring about other peoples opinions and in my 40’s I realized nobody was ever watching” and that’s really how I’ve come to look at buying nice fancy things. If there’s something nice that’ll truly make you happy to have, then by all means get it. But if you’re just getting it because you think it’ll improve how others view you… aint nobody paying attention my guy
Best stuff for a hobby brings enjoyment.
Money is but a tool.
Definitely travel and see the world.
This is what TH-cam should be about. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story 😌🙌❤️
This is literally the most wisdom filled vidoe ive seen on TH-cam in a long time.
I like nice things and that motivates me. It’s not about impressing anyone. It’s about stepping above the fray because just settling in life means you wasted your life. Try and better yet, try hard at whatever you do. No matter the outcome. Giving up is not living.
I'm 44 and I can admit that my biggest problem is valuing nice stuff over spending quality time with my family. I rarely relax and have fun with the kids, I'm always trying to accomplish something and improve our house in some way.
sit down and play with them on their level. it's fun. be a kid again.
So... Which is it?
Do you not like them?
Or do they not like you?
"Actions speak louder than words."
My dad only had time for me a handful of times, in my growing up years. He begs for my time now, and I try to be nicer to him than I think he deserves. But let's just say, I don't feel I owe him much.
Thats not uncommon. Just naked some adjustments while continuing to be mr. Fixit.
Be careful of being critical of your kids. It's annoying and disheartening when the father rarely spends time with you and when he does it's always all your flaws pointed at you.
I know one needs to be corrected but sometimes your child just wants to spend time with you and not to be whiplashed by criticism. Justifying, "when can I correct you but now? when I don't have much time."
I know i'm projecting but just a thought...
@ balance for sure
Happy 60, Mr. Kuhn. Thanks for sharing these awesome videos with us.
I'm not sure I can ever retire fully. I was a live in caregiver for an elderly man for 5 years, and I lived the fully retired life. Go to the store, go to the doctor, watch daytime TV and eat. It drove me nuts. Absolutely nuts. I was depressed, lonely, and it felt like I had no reason to exist. I feel like I need to be expected to be somewhere at least 2 days a week. Otherwise I'll just rot away in some apartment.
People see retirement as an opportunity to do nothing, it's actually the perfect opportunity to do exactly what you want, no need to worry about finances, or anything alike, you can volunteer, low skilled job, coach a team, do talks, find a group of hobbyist, whatever you want, that's if you've set up you're retirement well
My list would be:
1. How much you bench
2. How much you squat
3. How much you deadlift
4. Getting too obsessed with a musical instrument.
5. Working more hours
6. Trying read and know about everything, especially current events.
7. Running too much or exercising too much
8. Yoga
9. Being around people, where you cannot be yourself.
10. Sitting in front of a tv watching professional sports.
Great list
Great list ! Agree. Of all very impressed with your commitment to your family & friends. Being present is so important- continually working in this👍🏽😊
As a 21 year old young man… thank you sir for your insights . I’m sure you have helped thousands of people with this
I agree with you 100% of what you said here. I am 62. I enjoy listening to you!
"Happiness comes from the progression towards a goal" The wisest thing I've ever heard. That explains the void you feel after achieving something great but too easy.
Nailed it Joe! Every point on your list resonates with me. Case in point -- I'm driving a 2006 Honda truck (still going strong!) and my wardrobe is super basic/minimal/plain. LOL! I need to give some thought to what I might add to the list for me personally. Also wanted to say... I LOVE your content and your casual format. TH-cam is quickly turning into a cesspool of frustrating clickbait, lies, and trickery. So a channel like yours is a breath of fresh air for people like me who are simply looking for honest and helpful content. PLEASE don't change anything -- your subscriber count will keep going up! And BTW, regarding #4.... I LOVE YA' MAN! 🥰😊
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Sir you are an amazing person! I loved to hear about your ideas. It helped clarify some things I was wondering about recently.
And you also look so good in your 60s. Hope you are happy and healthy. Greetings form Barcelona, Spain. 🙏☺️
I’ve been there. Beautiful city
A study group seems like a great idea! Thank you for that
I am in my 20s and this video helped me understand my parents better. Thank you !
Retired 2 years ago at 59 and enjoying it!!!! We live rural but modest and very comfortable!!!! Active in the local community! Don’t care what others think and don’t believe in “keeping up with the Jones”!!!!!!
As a 24 yr old your wisdom feels personal to me, i have always craved for a simple life filled with my own innovations and discoveries, i already have the half wisdom and i am yet to gain more i feel blessed
Thanks for this video. Been thinking of these things lately and feeling guilty. Especially being not being more successful or productive. It takes time to shift that mindset to just enjoy life.
I’m glad I got to hear this at 22, great advice brother and wish you the best!
Thx Joe, tuning in here (with respect) from UK .....
Love your content.
Thank you UK!
Thank you for sharing this. I’m in my twenty and is having mid life crisis. This really give perspective
Semi retired at 39, just work occasionally for the stress aspect. Don't need anything or anyone ,,, just enjoying the chilled unpressured life of not living up to everyone else's expectations. Best part was spending the last 6 yrs looking after my mother with dementia.
Glad to say I’ve never wasted my time on any of this my entire life.
25 year old here. Many thanks.
31, and i realized this after high school. I agree with all 7. Thank you for your wise advice, sir. Makes me feel seen .
To accomplish the first one embrace minimalism. Letting go of attachment to “stuff” is liberating. It changes the narrative from depriving yourself of stuff, freeing yourself from being bound by stuff.
Those are rich Joe. Thank you. I especially resonate with me is the idea that I have to be right. For the past few years I have tended to refrain from correcting or debating things that just don't matter. It helps others enjoy my company a bit more, and I'm not depriving others of finding their own way on their journeys.
Hi Joe! Thanks a lot for this video and your channel! I think it's great to get your perspective! You (and a few others) have inspired me to rethink my retirement plan (and produce one in the first place). I think your content is great, don't pay too much attention to the few (I hope) haters, I am actually very surprised anyone can get upset about what you are saying (proving my own ignorance). I will not retire for a few more years (I'm 58 now) but when I do, I would be very happy to show you around Stockholm and Sweden, which I noticed was not on your short list. I will get back to you on that but until then I just want to repeat that I love your channel and keep up the good work!! Thanks! /Martin
Just subscribed, thanks for sharing your invaluable information
Clifton 9. 😊..love Hoka also.....Joe...Iam so in tune with your thought process...Turning 64 soon...keep up the great work....appreciate your insight and delivery
I agree! Asics Gel Nimbus 25 shoes are also very comfortable!
Since we will die no matter what we do, I think the best thing to do with life is to treat it like an art project, trying to make it beautiful and interesting for ourselves (since we cannot prove the consciousness of others, perhaps we are the only spectators).
Thx Joe, great list. I always wanted to be a CIO. The closer I got, the more I realised it clashed with my early retirement goals. I was lucky to see the light just in time.
Respect to you, sir! I turned 50 a few months ago. This list is right up my alley.
My Sienna is at 240k miles. 2008. It's a workhorse and long distance travel is awesome!
thank you for sharing a lifetime’s worth of lessons! ❤
Great video. I lived for multiple years in Germany while in the military. I travelled all over Europe, but now I have no interest in leaving the states. Like you, i believe there is a lot to see here before i go back overseas. As i enter my late 50' I care less and less what people think of me.
Same here. Military. Less desire to go back to Europe.
@@CoolHandLuke01 It hasn't gotten better since you were there. Except for Croatia and Greece.
Me too! I retired 3 years ago. I still visit Germany.
I think travel is always eye opening. We never go to the same city twice, except for Istanbul thus far. I also care less and less about what other people think of me when I turned 50. In fact I also care less about what I think of myself either (ego).
thank you for sharing your insights on your journey of life. May retirement treats you well.
How about running a marathon? You can talk tirelessly about your long runs, or your short runs for training. You can put stickers on your car. Lots of great benefits.
This was a great video, thank you, this is very helpful.
Did Newport and Providence RI this past summer, the family loved it, I highly recommend them.
Good level headed outlook and pragmatic approach. The forces of society are strong and most people realize too late what truly matters.
Contentment in life cones from taking the journey, not reaching the destination.
Very honest and thought provoking. Thank you
I'm 60. I've never cared about anything. I must be a genius.
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I agree to all except the travel part. At least personally. Travelling gives me joy, I love experiencing new things, food, culture, sights, etc. If something gives me joy, it's not a waste of my time. After all, what're we supposed to be on this earth but to experience being alive the way you want it!
I am feeling a shift in my goals too. I feel my goals of yesterday were really helpful. They gave me a the shining star to strive for and head toward. As I near retirement it feels ok to correct course a bit and refine my goals. I am still curious and want to learn and improve, but maybe the drive can be dialed back a bit. I think losing my Dad last year and seeing my Mom declining, my focus is clear to spend time where I want. That is with those I love and care for. Great video Joe.
Looking great for 60, thank you for the wisdom shared.
Used to have the goal of seeing the world. Saw a lot of the world while working, but I’ve changed my goal to just setting foot on all 7 continents. Just need to hit Australia, Antarctica, and South America.
re: deciding on those last few states. I lived in CT for 6 years and while it’s gorgeous there, I feel if you’ve gotten what you wanted out of the rest of New England, there is nothing CT does better. Similar feelings towards Rhode Island. As for Delaware, if you’ve been to the beach in VA, MD or NC, you’ve gotten a better experience than DE can give, so in a similar way to CT and New England, it’s not worth a special trip.
Can’t weigh in on ND since I’ve never been!
Thanks for the video. You’ve given this 37 year old some good food for thought.
Im 20 and im scared of the figure that is about to come AI , AGI and ASI etc. AGI is expected to come ib 2025-2026 and so im scared what should i do? What career should i take? What future will be able good so i could at least live and provide for my family? Can anyone help with me advices any type of? It would be really helpful, Thank you for reading and giving your time
I appreciate you making this video. I am 44 no wife no kids not really close to anyone or family except my mom. U hit on really great points 👉 at the end of the day alot of chasing to accomplish things for money and status is bullshit. Enough money to buy food, clothes on your back a warm roof over your head a good hobby and maybe if you are lucky in this life a few good life long connections and most importantly your health 🙏
I have customers, quite rich, who you never know it about. They blend in with regular people. I’m not rich, not even close, but have enough of everything I need. Should add, no matter who you are, if you’re fairly good looking there will always be a sort of resentment by those who aren’t. This took me a long time to understand.
Thanks for saving me for the next 40 years of my life 🙏
Western North Dakota along the Missouri River is the best part of the state. I say this as an outsider, I simply work in the oil field by New Town ND.
"things you own typically owns you" pure gold
I'm in a similar position aged sixty and retired. I totally agree with your take on 'stuff'. I'm trying to get rid of 'stuff' acquired over my lif so far, not get more of it!
I've never really felt the need to 'compete' with others for money, jobs or status, I've just cut my own furrow and done what makes me happy and my nearest and dearest people in my life.
I think you are correct in your observation that people don't own things, things own people! I know people who have boats, holiday homes or caravans the other side of the country. They spend more time maintaining these 'assets' (and a whole lot of cash) than they do actually enjoying them. And because they have these assets, it means they have to go on holiday to the same place every time!
Personally, I'd rather go and see somewhere new each time I travel. So put a tent on the back of a motorcycle as I did in April this year, minimal planning and just take off round Europe. So easy and you make it up as you go along. Freedom. Or travel with my partner in her semi-converted van and drive to the coast for the weekend. (Quite easy in the UK as it's not a very big country).
If you are considering a trip across the Pond, I would recommend a visit to the Isle of Arran, the city of Glasgow (not far away) then head to the highlands, Fort William, Fort Augustus, Inverness. You could go to John O' Groats, but it's not really worth it unless you just want to complete a 'check-list'. Oban and the Isle of Skye are worth a visit as is Ullapool and Gairloch.
You will definitely need to hire a car or camper, but please also bring your hiking boots and see the beautiful landscapes on foot!
The bottom line is life is not a rehearsal. Everyone just needs to get back to the things they enjoy and just get on with doing it!
Anyway, thanks for the sound observations. I'm going to do the washing up then go for a pint in the pub. Because I can.
Love and peace.
North Dakota/South Dakota is very nice to travel to. During a family road trip out west, we drove nearby the western border of the Dakotas (I don't remember which one but probably South Dakota). We went off roading in a nature preserve and got to drive through a herd of wild buffalo. The natural sights there are very beautiful
SD is outstanding. I will get to ND