This Is How Your Memories Affect Your Decision Making

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  • @merennaro7793
    @merennaro7793 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    He is a rare gem that's going in history, u ask where is plato where is Einstein,where is Leonardo da Vinci, well this man here is a gift of this century,be glad he is here in your time. Don't wait for him to die to praise him or give credit where its due

  • @alicsulb2009
    @alicsulb2009 ปีที่แล้ว +184

    Everytime I feel like I am losing hope or getting sidetracked and unmotivated I listen to him and it gives me more motivation and more importantly discipline to continue living a better day than yesterday. ❤

    • @amominah
      @amominah 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      For more help ask more than arabic person to translate :
      *التَّوَكُّلُ مِنْ أَعْظَمِ وَسَائِلِ الْحِفَاظِ عَلَى أَفْرَادِ الْأُسْرَةِ مِنَ الْأَمْرَاضِ الْعَصَبِيَّةِ:
      قَالَ الْعَلَّامَةُ السَّعْدِيُّ -رَحِمَهُ اللهُ-: ((وَمِنْ أَعْظَمِ الْعِلَاجَاتِ لِأَمْرَاضِ الْقَلْبِ الْعَصَبِيَّةِ، بَلْ وَأَيْضًا لِلْأَمْرَاضِ الْبَدَنِيَّةِ: قُوَّةُ الْقَلْبِ وَعَدَمُ انْزِعَاجِهِ وَانْفِعَالِهِ لِلْأَوْهَامِ وَالْخَيَالَاتِ الَّتِي تَجْلِبُهَا الْأَفْكَارُ السَّيِّئَةُ)).
      وَهَلْ لِلْقَلْبِ أَمْرَاضٌ عَصَبِيَّةٌ؟
      نَعَمْ، هَذِهِ هِيَ الَّتِي يَقُولُ عَنْهَا الْأَطِبَّاءُ هِيَ ((الْأَمْرَاضُ النَّفْسُ جِسْمِيَّةٌ))، يَعْنِي الْأَمْرَاضَ الْجَسَدِيَّةَ الَّتِي تَكُونُ نَاشِئَةً عَنْ اخْتِلَالَاتٍ نَفْسِيَّةٍ.
      وَأَبْرَزُ ذَلِكَ وَأَوْضَحُهُ مَا يَتَعَلَّقُ بِارْتِفَاعِ ضَغْطِ الدَّمِ، وَمَرَضِ السُّكَّرِيِّ، وَكَذِلَكَ قُرْحَةُ الْمَعِدَةِ، إِلَى أَمُورٍ كَثِيرَةٍ.
      فَكُلُّ ذَلِكَ إِنَّمَا يُؤَدِّي إِلَيْهِ الْقَلَقُ الزَّائِدُ، وَالْاضْطِرَابُ، وَالْعَصَبِيَّةُ، وَعَدَمُ التَّمَاسُكِ النَّفْسِيِّ، فَتُؤَدِّي هَذِهِ الْحَالُ إِلَى جُمْلَةٍ مِنْ هَذِهِ الْأَمْرَاضِ، إِنْ لَمْ تُؤَدِّ إِلَيْهَا كُلِّهَا.
      فَيَقُولُ: ((وَمِنْ أَعْظَمِ الْعِلَاجَاتِ لِأَمْرَاضِ الْقَلْبِ الْعَصَبِيَّةِ، بَلْ وَأَيْضًا لِلْأَمْرَاضِ الْبَدَنِيَّةِ: قُوَّةُ الْقَلْبِ وَعَدَمُ انْزِعَاجِهِ وَانْفِعَالِهِ لِلْأَوْهَامِ وَالْخَيَالَاتِ الَّتِي تَجْلِبُهَا الْأَفْكَارُ السَّيِّئَةُ؛ لِأَنَّ الْإِنْسَانَ مَتَى اسْتَسْلَمَ لِلْخَيَالَاتِ، وَانْفَعَلَ قَلْبُهُ لِلْمُؤَثِّرَاتِ؛ مِنَ الْخَوْفِ مِنَ الْأَمْرَاضِ وَغَيْرِهَا، وَمِنَ الْغَضَبُ وَالتَّشْوُّشِ مِنَ الْأَسْبَابِ الْمُؤْلِمَةِ، وَمِنْ تَوَقُّعِ حُدُوثِ الْمَكَارِهِ وَزَوَالِ الْمَحَابِّ، أَوْقَعَهُ ذَلِكَ فِي الْهُمُومِ وَالْغُمُومِ وَالْأَمْرَاضِ الْقَلْبِيَّةِ وَالْبَدَنِيَّةِ، وَالِانْهِيَارِ الْعَصَبِيِّ الَّذِي لَهُ آثَارُهُ السَّيِّئَةُ الَّتِي قَدْ شَاهَدَ النَّاسُ مَضَارَّهَا الْكَثِيرَةَ.
      وَمَتَى اعْتَمَدَ الْقَلْبُ عَلَى اللهِ، وَتَوَكَّلَ عَلَيْهِ، وَلَمْ يَسْتَسْلِمْ لِلْأَوْهَامِ وَلَا مَلَكَتْهُ الْخَيَالَاتُ السَّيِّئَةُ، وَوَثِقَ بِاللهِ، وَطَمِعَ فِي فَضْلِهِ، انْدَفَعَتْ عَنْهُ بِذَلِكَ الْهُمُومُ وَالْغُمُومُ، وَزَالَتْ عَنْهُ كَثِيرٌ مِنَ الْأَسْقَامِ الْبَدَنِيَّةِ وَالْقَلْبِيَّةِ، وَحَصَلَ لِلْقَلْبِ مِنَ الْقُوَّةِ وَالِانْشِرَاحِ وَالسُّرُورِ مَا لَا يُمْكِنُ التَّعْبِيرُ عَنْهُ.
      فَكَمْ مُلِئَتِ الْمُسْتَشْفِيَاتُ مِنْ مَرْضَى الْأَوْهَامِ وَالْخَيَالَاتِ الْفَاسِدَةِ، وَكَمْ أَثَّرَتْ هَذِهِ الْأُمُورُ عَلَى قُلُوبِ كَثِيرِينَ مِنَ الْأَقْوِيَاءِ، فَضْلًا عَنِ الضُّعَفَاءِ، وَكَمْ أَدَّتْ إِلَى الْحُمْقِ وَالْجُنُونِ، وَالْمُعَافَى مَنْ عَافَاهُ اللهُ وَوَفَّقَهُ لِجِهَادِ نَفْسِهِ لِتَحْصِيلِ الْأَسْبَابِ النَّافِعَةِ الْمُقَوِّيَةِ لِلْقَلْبِ، الدَّافِعَةِ لِقَلَقِهِ، قَالَ تَعَالَى: {وَمَنْ يَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ فَهُوَ حَسْبُهُ}؛ أَيْ كَافِيهِ جَمِيعَ مَا يَهُمُّهُ مِنْ أَمْرِ دِينِهِ وَدُنْيَاهُ.
      فَالْمُتَوَكِّلُ عَلَى اللهِ قَوِيُّ الْقَلْبِ لَا تُؤَثِّرُ فِيهِ الْأَوْهَامُ، وَلَا تُزْعِجُهُ الْحَوَادِثُ لِعِلْمِهِ أَنَّ ذَلِكَ مِنْ ضَعْفِ النَّفْسِ، وَمِنَ الْخَوَرِ وَالْخَوْفِ الَّذِي لَا حَقِيقَةَ لَهُ.
      وَيَعْلَمُ مَعَ ذَلِكَ أَنَّ اللهَ قَدْ تَكَفَّلَ لِمَنْ تَوَكَّلَ عَلَيْهِ بِالْكِفَايَةِ التَّامَّةِ، فَيَثِقُ بِاللهِ وَيَطْمَئِنُّ لِوَعْدِهِ، فَيَزُولُ هَمُّهُ وَقَلَقُهُ، وَيَتَبَدَّلُ عُسْرُهُ يُسْرًا، وَتَرَحُهُ فَرَحًا، وَخَوْفُهُ أَمْنًا.
      فَنَسْأَلُهُ تَعَالَى الْعَافِيَةَ وَأَنْ يَتَفَضَّلَ عَلَيْنَا بِقُوَّةِ الْقَلْبِ وَثَبَاتِهِ بِالتَّوَكُّلِ الْكَامِلِ الَّذِي تَكَفَّلَ اللهُ لِأَهْلِهِ بِكُلِّ خَيْرٍ، وَدَفْعِ كُلِّ مَكْرُوهٍ وَضَيْرٍ)).

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is how I felt today I wanted to give up. I finally reached out to a co worker and a lot of them have had my back but now I just feel like I’m asking for too much. I honestly left and did drunk karaoke 😂

    • @Noflexing100
      @Noflexing100 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Quit thinking like you’re losing hope. You eventually will.
      Change your perspective. Go reverse. A like each day do things you enjoy that provide hope. Then your mindset changes.
      You will then be a hopeful person.

    • @BitsEternal
      @BitsEternal 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Set a short term goal one that can be achieved in 7 days one that also is something you have been putting off. Do thus and take it seriously and it will give you a boost of confidence and any amount will help alot when you feel like giving up. Maybe this sounds lame but it's really helpful😊
      Never forget to show yourself compassion you deserve love so 1love yourself

  • @philippkonig6662
    @philippkonig6662 ปีที่แล้ว +819

    I love that a Jordan Peterson "clip" can be nearly half an hour long, and that's just fine by me. JP just isn't one for short cuts 😉

    • @NorfolkSceptic
      @NorfolkSceptic ปีที่แล้ว +13

      He has so much to pack in! :)

    • @dailybrother9180
      @dailybrother9180 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      when i watched this video it didnt even feel like a half hour video to me!

    • @CristinaSofia4
      @CristinaSofia4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Dead right there! That’s why he keeps getting misinterpreted

    • @xenithfreelancer
      @xenithfreelancer ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Although it *is* hilarious when he answers an elaborate question with a straight up "No."

    • @shawnwarrynn8609
      @shawnwarrynn8609 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Honestly, I wonder what Jordan Peterson would make of Neon Genesis Evangelion.

  • @BrokeVid3o
    @BrokeVid3o ปีที่แล้ว +182

    This man is amazing. Every time I watch one of his speeches or lectures I feel like I’ve had a therapy session

    • @ahmedudahiru
      @ahmedudahiru ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Me too his video are really articulate and helpful

    • @junevandermark952
      @junevandermark952 ปีที่แล้ว

      The WORD psychologist ... on "LINE" with Jordan Peterson ... can make you feel as though you have had FREE therapy sessions.
      If you really think about it ... whether free ... or expensive ... psychologists do not agree with each other's type of therapy. So, it depends "entirely" on which "therapy" you have a DESIRE TO believe.
      Example ... this is what the psychologist Jordan Peterson perceives is his version of truth. “Gender identity and gender expression are not valid ideas. They are not true. There is no evidence for it. I don’t know what the options are, if you don’t identify as a man or a woman. There is an idea that there’s a gender section. I think that is an ill-informed opinion. Gender identity and sexual orientation are the same thing. I don’t believe these people, these terms, stand for good things. I think these people use these terms as a pretense that they stand for good things; as a pretense for them to carry on their nefarious activities.”
      In contrast … this is what the psychologist Phil McGraw perceives is his version of truth. … “Cleveland Clinic did a study on transgender brains, and when they did the study, they found that the brains of transgender people, their brain is actually more similar to the gender they identify with, than the gender they were assigned at birth. There is an actual brain difference. That is a neurological fact. There are fifty years of empirical evidence here. And there are distinct differences in the transgender brain versus the non-transgender brain.”
      From the book … When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress … Author … Gabor Maté M.D. Studies in psychology-an art trying desperately to dress itself up in pure science-often find only what the particular researchers have the eyes to see.

    • @maryjibara
      @maryjibara ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I just found him recently, and he’s awesome. I can feel him in my heart . He’s like a father talking to his children. I like how straightforward he is about his message. Reality but with hope. I needed this in my life right now.

    • @junevandermark952
      @junevandermark952 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@maryjibara What did Jordan says to your heart ... that your heart didn't feel before you heard Jordan speak.
      Can you please be precise?

    • @junevandermark952
      @junevandermark952 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@maryjibara A psychologist with whom someone agrees ... has simply said what the "patient" believed "before" the therapist began to speak.
      Are you aware that psychologists prefer the word "patient" ... rather than the word "client?"
      The word “patient” suggests that the psychologist is mentally well … and that it is the patient that is mentally ill … which (when it comes down to it) might not always “be the case.”
      And are you aware that psychologists do NOT agree with each other's type of counsel.
      For instance ... Jordan Peterson does not believe that people can BE transgender.
      On the other hand ... the famous television star psychologist Doctor Phil McGraw DOES believe that those who are transgender not only exist … but that “THEY” have every right to respect and dignity.
      Concerning that subject of transgender … as a "patient" ... which psychologist's type of "counsel" would YOU support?"

  • @Somethirdthing
    @Somethirdthing ปีที่แล้ว +83

    Jordan, I love you for this, you help me so much as a father. You sound Elvis-tired here, please be good to yourself and rest when you can. We need you as long as possible.

    • @shawnwarrynn8609
      @shawnwarrynn8609 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Honestly, I wonder what Jordan Peterson would make of Neon Genesis Evangelion.

    • @proudboxermom3104
      @proudboxermom3104 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I agree with you 💯 %!!

  • @aanchaallllllll
    @aanchaallllllll ปีที่แล้ว +166

    0:01: 🧠 The purpose of memory is to provide a map for navigating life and gaining advantage, while also learning from experiences.
    6:16: 😴 The story of Sleeping Beauty teaches the importance of encountering and coping with the negative aspects of the world.
    10:09: 🔑 The passage discusses the importance of confronting traumatic memories and understanding one's role in them.
    13:17: 📚 The speaker discusses the importance of encountering challenges and having someone to communicate with in order to learn and avoid catastrophe and betrayal.
    18:27: 🔑 Memories of past traumas can be helpful if they indicate areas where one needs to develop appropriate responses to avoid falling into the same traps.
    22:57: 💡 Confronting negative events and learning from them is like extracting the moral of the story and finding the treasure to rebuild oneself.
    26:17: 💡 The speaker suggests that when dealing with someone with murderous fantasies, it is important to set boundaries and insist on being treated differently.
    Recap by Tammy AI

  • @HMV1991
    @HMV1991 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Jordan Peterson has become my new hero.

  • @coquinagallery
    @coquinagallery ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Thank you for sharing. Having a therapist isn’t in all of our budgets. I’m grateful for the affordable guidance. It’s so valuable. If only doing the hard things that we avoid were as easy as listening to a short video.

  • @lilyarmitage4168
    @lilyarmitage4168 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    What happens in childhood will define the rest of our life - if we let it. After i addressed the root problem, i realised i am in charge of me. Made my life a lot easier.

  • @Christopher-iu6kq
    @Christopher-iu6kq ปีที่แล้ว +17

    One of the coolest professors on the planet.
    Thank you always JP.

  • @marietzannetakis7870
    @marietzannetakis7870 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This clip really shows how avoidance of malevolence can lead to severe illness. This is the real education of life- continuous remapping. You have a gift of synthesizing the hard work of so many psychologists so that we can open our minds and bring ourselves to a better place.😊

  • @christianthompson9734
    @christianthompson9734 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I wish with all my soul that my youngest sister was able to allow herself enough experience to learn how to face her fears and challenges. She was 18, recently married and had a new baby. She was facing depression, debt, conflict, new responsibilities, and many other things which she should not have kept secret.
    She took her life.
    She killed herself last month.
    And every good thing that could be said is too late.

    • @stultuses
      @stultuses ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That is really sad, so sorry to hear of your loss and everyone's loss for that matter, 18 years young, who knows how many lives would have been enriched by knowing her in the years ahead, such a tragic loss for all, so sad she felt suicide would escape her from her life, when truth be known she had it within her to overcome but it was momentarily hidden from her their life's circumstances etc
      Thank you for sharing, I wish things had turned out better for your sister and those that knew her

    • @amydavis5917
      @amydavis5917 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am so VERY sorry for you, most of the people in pain put a smile on their faces.

    • @bullzyehm
      @bullzyehm ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My sincere condolences to you and your family. So important to share JP videos with everyone and hopefully save other from such sadness. Sending hugs across the miles

    • @cherylmccarron7795
      @cherylmccarron7795 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So, so sad. And more common than most think. God bless her and her family.

    • @swish-r9v
      @swish-r9v 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You will find strength bud

  • @makunguhlatshwayo3579
    @makunguhlatshwayo3579 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Its like he understands that i need this ... He truly is a Father I have never had

  • @mpullano
    @mpullano ปีที่แล้ว +63

    His voice and character has matured so much over the last decade.
    His calm kindness amidst leadership emerges upon the stage & in age once he knew what the Maps’ Meaning was.

    • @curated_euphoria_experience
      @curated_euphoria_experience ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This clip was from 7 years ago......

    • @mpullano
      @mpullano ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@curated_euphoria_experience yeah?

    • @Earthad23
      @Earthad23 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@curated_euphoria_experienceA decade is 10 years……………………………….

  • @FaithAndMystery
    @FaithAndMystery ปีที่แล้ว +21

    *Through your TH-cam channel, you're making a positive impact on people's lives. May God's strength and guidance be with you always as you spread His word.*

  • @volnick
    @volnick ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Don't let the evil people influence how you teach people. You are a free soul. You are righteous. If anything, the evil people need reeducating.

  • @masterxyr
    @masterxyr ปีที่แล้ว +171

    It took me going through hell to learn to say no. Agreeableness, a terror of confrontation - trauma - and a surprising amount of patience, tolerance and care for others, were definitely part of it.
    And then, when my life crashed and burned, I set about looking into why.
    And it's as simple as saying no, I don't like this or I don't want to with or without a more or less eloquent elaboration into why not.
    I rummaged for years on how to kindly and respectfully explain to x or y why it was I would prefer not to have this or that done to me in such a way, and evidently in that time in which I have not found a such a way to express myself more happens with which I am not pleased about. All along forgetting about myself, my boundaries and my respect for myself.
    Decades in, it's no fun learning how to say these things, especially after all the built-up resentment, anger and rage, and I really do not like sounding like a child who can barely string a sentence together.
    But I've started, and I seriously hope it'll help me map new ways out of what has frightened me for so long.

    • @philippkonig6662
      @philippkonig6662 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Thanks for sharing and I'm sure a lot of people here can relate

    • @نبيلشتيوي-ف3ي
      @نبيلشتيوي-ف3ي ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I've read your comment trying to improve my English I did get the general idea and I really experience the same suffering but I got stuck to understand some difficult vocabulary that u used 😂

    • @WinkLinkletter
      @WinkLinkletter ปีที่แล้ว +9

      The amount of finesse I feel the need to use to discuss any objections I have with others with them makes it clear I have a problem with confrontation. Also working on/through this, but I will be lucky if I'm ever able to address my family on an adult level. I deeply wish to do so, but I've been practicing all this in my outside of family life in the mean time, since family healing may not be possible. They are pretty entrenched in the denial of my mother's pathological behavior, but if I can't effect the past, I can still influence my future. Fight the good fight, friend.

    • @masterxyr
      @masterxyr ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@WinkLinkletter see myself a lot in your words.
      family. sheesh. i stepped back a little from them and immediately got a scornful 'oh you think we're toxic is it?'
      I'd have never used that word but since "you" mention it...
      take care stranger. It does seem to get easier.

    • @masterxyr
      @masterxyr ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@نبيلشتيوي-ف3ي the more serious I try to be the more precise my vocab becomes, and also these videos and general academia bring that out in me :)
      but hey, any contact with a language is Always helpful, since words which were inaccessibly passive and hidden might wake up one day mid-speech!

  • @sharonrogers6541
    @sharonrogers6541 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    My my mother brought me up to ignore my own needs and feel unworthy of any consieration. If done right, that can take a lifetime to unlearn. I'm 70.

    • @StrikeforceJedi
      @StrikeforceJedi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are worthy, and God loves you. ❤

  • @techbuzz2126
    @techbuzz2126 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I consider his word like in a very good way, because whatever he used to speak is absolutely insightful, and I love the clarity and the power of words❤🎉

  • @freeman37
    @freeman37 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    "The Awakening of The Spirit of The Hero". I like that.

  • @raphealcross3
    @raphealcross3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This man is a Godsend, He's really all we got in a certain sense.Thankyou , you're quite the gentleman and ally. In a world where I never fkn met you yet I am your humble pupil.😢❤

    • @SkinCareLuver
      @SkinCareLuver ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The only God sent we truly have is Jesus himself and the Spirit 🙄

    • @goldenrules3763
      @goldenrules3763 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@SkinCareLuverGod works through people 😉
      Signed,
      A devoted Christian ❤🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @terryfairclough3751
    @terryfairclough3751 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Absolute brilliance, I don't know if there's anyone as intelligent as him to day, his knowledge is very diverse and for good reason too. What I feel is that we as humanity should know atleast some of what he speaks of in terms of mental health but are either I'll educated or ignorant to it. I know for myself that if I had not listened to J. P. I would to say the least be a lot farther down the path right now

    • @LoveOneAnotherHeSaid
      @LoveOneAnotherHeSaid 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I read this over three times, and the way you write makes it impossible to know what you are trying to say.

  • @williamjones2994
    @williamjones2994 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    It's a damn shame the Canadian administration doesn't recognize their own homegrown, precious national treasures and resources.

    • @kolynslester6858
      @kolynslester6858 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      People don't appreciate what they have. I have been listening to Jordan b peterson for years now and he has changed my perspective about life and the way I think. His words has really helped me better myself...

    • @johnf6267
      @johnf6267 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They are run by the WEF as is the USA now. People like JP are getting shadow banned soon to be banned period for hate speech. Very bad times are coming.

  • @iuliaaghirculesei986
    @iuliaaghirculesei986 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    You are pure genius. And I can asume that your capacity to guide people out of their map holes is a life saver. Thank you❤!

  • @4corander
    @4corander ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you, Doctor Peterson.

  • @MichaelSkinner-e9j
    @MichaelSkinner-e9j ปีที่แล้ว +68

    People still deserve privacy.
    No matter what.
    Some people goad others into revealing themselves, or nudity, and that’s Wrong.
    People deserve decency.

    • @hanswoast7
      @hanswoast7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      yes, but how is that related to this video?^^

    • @ianbuick8946
      @ianbuick8946 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@hanswoast7 It's bot commented and bot likes. Moving on nothing to see here.

    • @Rylanor_The_Unyielding_31
      @Rylanor_The_Unyielding_31 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@hanswoast7if you don't understand why maybe just work hard and stick to ur family

    • @Earthad23
      @Earthad23 ปีที่แล้ว

      Random thought

    • @j_freed
      @j_freed ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@hanswoast7younger people may feel bullied into compliance or compromising decisions to get social acceptance or avoid ostracism. Social media suicides can result. To a young, undeveloped mind these realities are very emotional, big and real, they don't see it as something they can laugh off as we adults would.

  • @letmebereal
    @letmebereal 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What a breath of fresh air Jordan is.

  • @mpullano
    @mpullano ปีที่แล้ว +22

    The biggest bullies are people’s friends and family. The problems are our own and they come from within.

  • @Meltingwriter42
    @Meltingwriter42 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Something about his energy and tone here just make this hit that much harder

  • @mpullano
    @mpullano ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Lest not forgotten. In his flashback storytelling Jordan about his Mother, acknowledges that his wife was there. The presence of his spouse having belong to the same neighborhood gives him two perspectives on the past with the long lived roots for security of self.

  • @IvanDuran-y2o
    @IvanDuran-y2o ปีที่แล้ว +5

    WOOOW CRAZY STORY!! AS I WAS CONTEMPLATING IN MY STRUGGLES AT THIS VERY MOMENT IN TIME I SURELY OPENED TH-cam AND HERE IT IS!! CRAZY I UNDERSTAND BUT I LOVE HIS WAY OF ARTICULATING! AND I MAY HAVE EXPERIENCED MANY OF THESE SITUATIONS IN THE VARIOUS SCENARIOS THAT I HAVE BEEN IN NYSELF OR I HAVE BEEN WITNESS OF! LOVE IT

    • @999porte
      @999porte 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      When the student is ready, the teacher will appear

  • @yoshaymosheido
    @yoshaymosheido 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you so much jordan. I realized the root of my doubt and uncertainty.
    I did not specify the actions that yield me the desired result, I am wandering through them- hence I doubt my path. I'm going to clarify them, thank you, thank you, it was a brilliant talk and I really enjoyed it.❤

  • @genuardimusic
    @genuardimusic 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great job from the sound engineer. Love how he dialed in that feedback perfectly

  • @dartist1176
    @dartist1176 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    If there's something I learned from life is that confronting bullying is an esencial part of growing, a hard way you learn to strength yourself against malevolence. No one like it, that's for sure, but you cannot hide for ever from that neither. I know it could be harder for some than others and in some cases that could even get to the point to traumatised some, but you'll need to face the thing somehow someday anyway.

    • @CamelliaFlingert
      @CamelliaFlingert ปีที่แล้ว

      i can't, i already have choosed to die to not suffer or overcoming any of it, life is too much for me to bear, i didn't asked for any of it, why my damn parents bring me into this hell, i will never forgive me, hope they will suffer in eternity for their actions

  • @TheCryptoEntity
    @TheCryptoEntity ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Have a good day Mr. Peterson, Your a good Person it's the Government

  • @lynchy5050
    @lynchy5050 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thank you so much Dr Peterson

  • @DeepkaRatra
    @DeepkaRatra ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Jordan, I've heard you talk about trauma and memory quite a few times in your TH-cam videos, but I've never quite understood it the way that I just did in this video, thank you.
    I've been very actively working on 'fighting the dragon' for a significant event that occurred in my life two years ago - something that still haunts me today - and hearing you speak about the alarm system was very relatable and beneficial. In all my efforts, at times I have thought that I'm probably overthinking it, probably trying too hard, or going too deep, and maybe I should just stop doing anything about it at all, but every time I do actually do something about it - with a great deal of effort and discomfort - I come out the other side and realise I've figured something out, even if it's small, and it's started to put together the 'map' you talk about, and I'm a little less haunted by it all. Not only that, but it has often started a chain reaction of events in my life elsewhere, too, and usually for the better.
    I've realised I've faced something difficult enough that I'm willing to go to a place where most people don't want to go; the darkest place, where I hope to find the brightest light. Your words have helped give language to the things I knew I needed to do but didn't quite know how. Thank you, for continuing to share your knowledge on what you have learned so far, it has been invaluable.

    • @presenceofsaya
      @presenceofsaya ปีที่แล้ว +1

      what you've written here makes it all more clear for me; you somehow managed to put these words together in a way I can apply it to my situation, so I'm grateful to you for helping me to map this out for myself

    • @DeepkaRatra
      @DeepkaRatra ปีที่แล้ว

      @@presenceofsaya I’m glad I was able to do that for you! I guess it’s all a matter of figuring out how to interpret these things for yourself, in your own words, so that they can be of benefit. :)

  • @kyrizmo
    @kyrizmo 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You're speaking life into me. Ive unknowingly managed to go down a dark tunnel these last couple years of my life.. I've recognized it.. And am working with myself to get out of it! I thank you for providing such great advice backed with experience. Once again, thank you.

  • @drchilapastrosodrlasmacas438
    @drchilapastrosodrlasmacas438 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This one was like a well presented banquet.

  • @Phoenix-Brah
    @Phoenix-Brah ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Setting life up in epochs and expanding the detail within is brilliant, I will work on that tomorrow morning.
    Thanks Peterson❤

    • @shawnwarrynn8609
      @shawnwarrynn8609 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Honestly, I wonder what Jordan Peterson would make of Neon Genesis Evangelion.

    • @Phoenix-Brah
      @Phoenix-Brah ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shawnwarrynn8609 How come? I've never seen it, something you'd recommend?

  • @SifisoMavuso-tw4yn
    @SifisoMavuso-tw4yn ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you Dr JP🙏🏽

  • @sirjaya2534
    @sirjaya2534 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Maleficent is a portmanteau of malevolent and beneficent in that the bad act will somehow result in good.
    Perhaps drastic acts aren't necessary but for us to know something is good, we have to know what the alternatives are.
    Hatred and love require energy but indifference is desensitised void. Neither hatred nor indifference is desirable but I believe one can only know true goodness if one has touched the void and experienced the bad.
    It's unfortunate that the bad can lurk in our memories but the reminders serve as warnings of the unpredictability or perceived threats so that we strive to stay in a safe, constructive and meaningful area of goodness, where we build villages of peace and prosperity in our mental landscapes, seeing the moments of sadness and woe as periods of bad weather.
    Sometimes, it will rain, hail, thunder and snow. Sometimes, your village will have been pillaged or wrecked...but it's still your village with its unique history. You can abandon it to be a ghost town or you can rebuild, welcome and decorate until another season of prosperity.
    The weather won't always be good but your wisdom through experience will support you through those times.

  • @trapperjones6341
    @trapperjones6341 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am processing so much of everything and nothing. Not sure what has facilitated this search but I feel as though I am finding clarity. Rooted in LOVE. Thank you for cracking open and sharing your story that you are compelled to give

  • @michaelbeasley2085
    @michaelbeasley2085 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This man can change everything you know. Listen!

  • @bonbelesbonbeles7241
    @bonbelesbonbeles7241 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Hello mr.Peterson it is the best moment for me that i could see this video. Thank you

  • @jacksonkamungu5387
    @jacksonkamungu5387 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    These your videos really help remove anxiety

  • @carlabazan-pirotto2243
    @carlabazan-pirotto2243 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you doc!! I always appreciate your love for humanity. Thank you for helping us with tools and knowledge to live better lives ❤ Truly appreciate you ❤

  • @kamj2948
    @kamj2948 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I grew up in Poland where I never grew up with the concept of “bullying”. After coming to the UK because I had no concept of this, whenever I was faced with what the west considers a “bully”, I learned to solve the issue without parental/teacher intervention, instead of victimising myself and running for help to adults.
    I often think that this is why I could never be bullied. There were plenty of attempts to tear me down by fellow girls in school but I’ve never had an issue in de-escalating the issue. I grew u poor too so it’s not like I wasn’t an easy target.

  • @lorireynolds568
    @lorireynolds568 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    thank you.. your a blessing.. don't give up.. 🙏✝️❤️ Song of Songs.. oh how He loves us.. freely.. All is Grace!! .. He gives us time here on the Earth for reflection.. 🙌

  • @MontyQueues
    @MontyQueues ปีที่แล้ว +1

    resentment and bitterness... powerful words that exist in many who want to deny it
    the same kind of people who despise Jordan

    • @fivetorm
      @fivetorm 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      who? snivellers who hide with forced smiles? people who complain about what shouldn't matter? snowflakes?

    • @fivetorm
      @fivetorm 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      drivellers?

  • @Fetsimo
    @Fetsimo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This information and advice is invaluable. Thank you so much for making this available for free 🙏

  • @sumitbhardwaj5612
    @sumitbhardwaj5612 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you sir I needed this. My society and family never help me but truly an unknown man helps me. I don't know if I can stop this but yes I will have faith in GOD.

  • @alfadelomer8225
    @alfadelomer8225 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for giving us the acknowledgement of the life you are a golden tools I had back to back to your speech

  • @KevinIsaacG
    @KevinIsaacG ปีที่แล้ว +14

    As an audio engineer, this clip is difficult to listen to

    • @notafriendofyours4475
      @notafriendofyours4475 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hahaha was just thinking the same thing...

    • @raymondhansen4482
      @raymondhansen4482 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Was once an aspiring audio engineer. I totally understand.

    • @DallasSmith-i7t
      @DallasSmith-i7t 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Try turning up the volume usually works for me.

    • @rquevedom95
      @rquevedom95 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Maybe, but I could listen to it all day 😂

  • @Quasar1337
    @Quasar1337 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    What talk is this clip from? Description doesnt say :(

  • @nunu4evaaa
    @nunu4evaaa ปีที่แล้ว +2

    🎃😃🤲🏽💫🙏🏽🍏💬🤔⚖️🌟🌬♌️✨♋️📈🛐☮️⚛️⭐️😇🗯🐨💭♾🌚🌞🌈🍊🌝⛄️ God protect and be with peterson and his family for all the days of their lives. 🙏🏽

  • @nwsanagnwsths
    @nwsanagnwsths ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Quite interesting! Some kids are malevolent and very ptoblematic and good imnocent souls are obliged to suffer them not always pushover but also brave. And unfortunately this is repeated through decades all over again!

  • @BeatS-qf6iv
    @BeatS-qf6iv ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Live long Jordan take care!

  • @BeckyJB
    @BeckyJB ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Well appreciated talk! ❤ thank you Jordan Peterson ❤

    • @shawnwarrynn8609
      @shawnwarrynn8609 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Honestly, I wonder what Jordan Peterson would make of Neon Genesis Evangelion.

  • @chocolatehersheykiss7412
    @chocolatehersheykiss7412 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Literally everything he said I do and have done,been through..

  • @alkaponas
    @alkaponas ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What about those who was also ok and not ok with bullying, but stayed with bullies even felt that it is not a way to go. Further in life that choice become something like self bullying and being stuck in every next choice. How to fix that.

  • @dagmarasghari
    @dagmarasghari ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Brilliant!.... and so very helpful.

  • @duanefrench3500
    @duanefrench3500 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love it, as usual.

  • @andrewhanderson2587
    @andrewhanderson2587 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Another bit of gold from you, thank you again.

  • @Earthad23
    @Earthad23 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I have no more fear, I’m ready to go.

  • @oldegeezer
    @oldegeezer ปีที่แล้ว

    I just realized. I trust Peterson for the primary reason that he pursues truth. I don't doubt his intentions with what he says and does because he desires the truth. In order to pursue truth, your greatest friends are those who oppose you because they are the ones who can show you where you're wrong.

  • @trixy1668
    @trixy1668 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    THATD A MOTHER THAT GETS IT.
    HAD A VIOLENT CHILDHOOD AND THAT WAS THE RIGHT THING TO DO.. HOW SHE REACTED, AND THE FACT THEY BOTH KNEW.
    WISDOM

  • @daniellesomerfield8799
    @daniellesomerfield8799 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I remember what I had which I'll never have again because of religious abuse. I'm secure in where I will end up and my abusers also.

  • @StoneShards
    @StoneShards ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Memories can't "go away"! Your experiential memory is encoded in your character, and embedded in the fabric of time and space. The quintessence of an experience is a symbol in psyche. Accessing this value in awareness elicits, by a sort of resonant response, the multidimensional "image" of the actual experience as it occurred. The embedding of the experience is performed by the imagination as it reflects the just-previous moment to awareness.

    • @reprogrammingmind
      @reprogrammingmind ปีที่แล้ว

      memory reconsolidation does not exist in your world?

    • @StoneShards
      @StoneShards ปีที่แล้ว

      "Memory reconsolidation" is niche technical terminology. It's part of an elaborate system of explanation belonging to conventional psycho-science. I don't subscribe to that mythology. My experience has led me to a very different explanatory paradigm, one that I can operate competently. You seem not to understand what I said. You certainly aren't addressing it.@@reprogrammingmind

  • @jackiekhoapham7804
    @jackiekhoapham7804 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fascinating video as usual. O have never thought of Maleficent story liked that.

  • @charismahubby9962
    @charismahubby9962 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You saved my life

  • @charleswomack2166
    @charleswomack2166 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Did JP get married at age 8? J/k of course. My Mum would have immediately intervened. I actually told her to stop coming to my school when I was in the third grade because I was embarrassed. She then stopped. Whenever I communicate effectively, it usually works out or at least I am heard. My Mum still asks if I have showered almost daily( I still reside with my parents) almost everyday. If I work out, I will normally shower afterwards. But if I don't(about once a week) then I will not. The temptation is for me to lie and state that I have, but since JP says not to lie, I don't. JP has some seriously good advice.

  • @HONEYSUCKLE308
    @HONEYSUCKLE308 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Can relate to some circumstances in this video thanks JP

  • @b1heqh54
    @b1heqh54 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    A Life of Service
    I was born to grow into a hunchback man
    I’ve been starved beaten denigrated
    And left by the side of the road
    Friend
    There’s nothin’ you can tell me
    To make me change my mind
    They sell their minds and their bodies
    And all their earthly time
    I write poems to the future
    Where I won’t be
    They left me alone
    My mind is free
    It’s lies
    No matter what the books all say
    They can afford to help
    They spend it all away
    You are the descendants
    Of the wicked and the weak
    They hide their shame and lack of courage
    They spit venom when they speak
    They were born to slave
    By someone else’s hand
    All they ever knew
    Was getting screwed once again
    All bound in chains
    They breed babies for the streets
    They sign papers
    They sell their lives for their meat
    All the debt slave demons
    All with mouths to feed
    They smile right at you
    While they watch you bleed
    I was born a hunchback baby
    I was adopted off at birth
    I walked through the pain
    Down here on prison planet Earth
    This poem is for the future
    They’d never let me carve it in stone
    So I’m hiding it here
    Where they’ll never know
    All demons
    All bound in chains
    When I get back to Heaven
    I might not volunteer again
    JAMG

  • @saro4761
    @saro4761 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Where’s the full lecture?

  • @susanh326
    @susanh326 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    How can a child be held responsible for a malevolent person's actions? Praying for all those dependents who were "bumped up against the rough edges of the world" as a child. There is no action necessary for an abused child PERIOD, except forgiveness, if possible.

    • @traviselgin4127
      @traviselgin4127 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well that's comparing apples to oranges, he wasn't talking about abused children, he was talking about being bullied. The only somewhat parallel I could draw is DV situations, but even then, it's not a direct parallel only similarity.

  • @conniedean3787
    @conniedean3787 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Once you go through the loss of a parent, sibling, child , that is the day you have NO fear

    • @helives2630
      @helives2630 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      You shouldn't say things like this because there is no way to know if this is true without actually experiencing it. Sayings like this can lodge in a person's mind and influence them to think a certain way that can be destructive. Maybe rephrase your statement to say, in my opinion, rather than a statement of fact.

    • @conniedean3787
      @conniedean3787 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@helives2630 There is nothing worse than the loss of a child, it changes who you are and you are never the same again, my son died at the age of 28 (I donated a kidney) my daughter had an accident, at the age of 18, could not talk, walk blind feeding tube wheelchair for 20 years, she died at the age of 38, I have no fear now

    • @philmcgroin
      @philmcgroin ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@helives2630very good point

    • @mysticsistEire
      @mysticsistEire ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I think it's obvious from Connies voice is from experience.
      I recognise her sentiment in my own experience .

    • @vjcarter4657
      @vjcarter4657 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Or survive a deadly illness….

  • @mdeodar
    @mdeodar ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Politicians are some of the worst bullies.

  • @michaelarellano3598
    @michaelarellano3598 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Anyone know what podcast this clip came from? I’d love to watch the whole thing

  • @covertgreen
    @covertgreen ปีที่แล้ว

    seriously, dear Jordan, sir. the absolute truth in regards to the matter of you sir, is my opinions about you.
    i honestly used to think you were up yourself and hard to understand your use of complicated, long collection of words you use.
    i didn't like you much at all.
    i used to observe your past high pride, and the fact that i seen your Orah, which i personally found to be strange.
    however after some time passed, i grew to observe your attitude/Orah change.
    you became less prideful and i think understand the world more now.
    therefore i now consider you worthy of my respect.
    all the best Mr Jordan Peterson.
    i also have the answers to how to heal your sadness.
    i feel you hurting badly.
    can i help you?
    be my pleasure sir!

  • @LeaRahaelGirma
    @LeaRahaelGirma ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My mother is the bully. I didn't have an opportunity to get prepared, because I was a little girl. She kept it up, until I got out at the age of 37, last year.

    • @sharonrogers6541
      @sharonrogers6541 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Vanity Star my mother bullied me atrociously from earliest times 'til I left home at 17. I am 70 and still recovering. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @mpullano
    @mpullano ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My mom, short and rotund Nurse would yell like a banshee to stop all fights. She came to our Jr. High after school right as two teenage boys started to fight and she scared them both off.

  • @Giuliana-zx6gd
    @Giuliana-zx6gd ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you. Just thank you so much

  • @Sunburst6520
    @Sunburst6520 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hebrews 11:1 & 6 (KJV)
    Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
    But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.
    Harden not your heart to his words, few understand the scriptures. Pray for wisdom.
    Do not seek sinfulness. Read the KJV

  • @matthewmartin7680
    @matthewmartin7680 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much now I know why Christiano Respects you

  • @doru-marianciuban
    @doru-marianciuban ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Romanian wisdom has a saying: what you fear you wont get away from

  • @papi5377
    @papi5377 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ja osiągnęłam swój cel -
    Motywacją byłam Ja Sama i moja przeszłość i transformacja którą przechodziłam samotnie.
    Chodź wokół mnóstwo ludzi.
    Jestem zadowolona.

  • @reprogrammingmind
    @reprogrammingmind ปีที่แล้ว

    Good job, doc!

  • @SkinCareLuver
    @SkinCareLuver ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I was bullied as a child and that lead me to a nervous breakdown age 15 accompanied by anxiety and into depression. I also had fantasies of murder when pushed too far and I have but my life has NEVER been the same ever since I had a breakdown but I did find happiness when an old friend came back but that is no more so that was more trauma. It happened again when I went back to college my early 20s. I finally found purpose. School made me feel so happy but one little script of klonopin (benzodiazepine) destroyed my life!.so I've been trauma so much now I'm tired of fighting

    • @evarodriguez4319
      @evarodriguez4319 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Never give up. You have an essence that no one has, has had or will have. God did not make a mistake in you. One foot in front of the other. Baby step to baby step reaches the goal. You be you. Praying for you.

    • @alexb8926
      @alexb8926 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Stop fighting and allow your emotions to come up

    • @SkinCareLuver
      @SkinCareLuver ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@evarodriguez4319 God bless you and thanks so much!

    • @SkinCareLuver
      @SkinCareLuver ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@alexb8926 Amen to that!

    • @annacatlin
      @annacatlin ปีที่แล้ว

  • @johnathankerr-bell7773
    @johnathankerr-bell7773 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Take what you know and turn it around and then you will know

  • @victorfarris6563
    @victorfarris6563 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don't think I can ever thank you enough mr. Peterson you truly are a good teacher.....

  • @doloresscannella6898
    @doloresscannella6898 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you

  • @nigelgoodwin5094
    @nigelgoodwin5094 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Memory for me is a film I don't always want to watch.

  • @cathykayter7350
    @cathykayter7350 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    He sounds so very tired
    I'm so happy to hear he's in good health now

  • @tonydepalmas
    @tonydepalmas ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You can never be secure where you are..

  • @kevinwasonga241
    @kevinwasonga241 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks

  • @BrianEbokosia-d3i
    @BrianEbokosia-d3i ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This man is like the Alan Watts of this generation.

  • @johnathankerr-bell7773
    @johnathankerr-bell7773 ปีที่แล้ว

    Malevolence is freedom from learning fear or the unlearning of fear is true freedom

  • @Brosmit08
    @Brosmit08 ปีที่แล้ว

    How awesome…..wearing a black suit with a black backdrop!!! Love it!!❤

  • @cpawp
    @cpawp ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The murderous phantasies of a killer emerge from an amount of being unable to end his suffering from a group of bullies - being helplessly misstreated with no outside support.
    Aggression or self destruction - what way..?
    That line of thought - if I understand it right - seems worth exploring.
    You might be on track of the story of Germany's monstrous behavior in WW2 ...
    [No excuses for NS--German crimes]
    Thank you.