What do you think of moms on internet saying the job of stay at home mom is the hardest??, While I think it's the easiest, doing household chores and all
I wanted to return to work. Hubby said no. I stayed home...raised them ...hubby changes his mind..tells me to go back to work...get my own health insurance because my weight gain ( 2 children..3 if u count him) made his coverage for me too expensive. I went back to work..and met my 2nd husband. Karma, baby
@@br8745 Exactly! This is why college educated women have longer marriages, because they have careers that pay well. Financial stress is toxic to marriages. These guys don't want to acknowledge this fact.
Gentlemen…with the greatest respect (I love both of your shows) - please realise that this is only possible when men behave the way they are meant to. Many women have had that blessing taken away because of the behaviour of fathers and husbands or boyfriends. It’s not always a choice for women
Agree. Both of my great grandmothers raised their daughters to have careers, because they had husbands who cheated and left. It created more generations of women being raised to choose work over family, because a couple cheating husbands set a bad example.
@@timeforce80it’s not bullshit. If a woman stay at home for 15 years and husband leave her, she going to end up homeless. Meanwhile, men who doesn’t do shit get paid out huge alimony. The government should pay moms. Being a mom is a job.
@@kaylee660AGREE with you. However, I don't know if it's the govt. that should 'pay' . There should, however, be a law requiring husbands to pay wives if they wish to be stay at home moms. Since this decision may come later in the marriage after having children (as it often naturally does) this right should be protected from the start of the marriage and must be part of Family Law.
I was a homemaker for 15 years while the kids were growing up. We were not rich. I learned to budget carefully. We celebrated every holiday with homemade decor and when my husband came home at six dinner was on the table. I helped our children with homework, and projects. We played video games together, and they knew they could always come to me with problems. It was NOT a rich life but a good one.
Some of the best households are the humble ones. My mother was a factory worker, before becoming a full time mom. She knew how to stretch a dollar, and taught me to date good woman, by leading from example. You can't put a price tag on a rich heart.
What exactly do you think of women who says being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world?? I mean I think being a stay at home mom is a privilege and a blessing for women, And the women who says being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world are just gaslighting people
but if your husband had decided to cheat on you during your 14th year of being a SAHM, and you rightfully divorced him, you would then have to go looking for work with a 14-year gap in work experience, while also competing with fresh college graduates whose technical skills will be more current than your own your ex-husband, however, won't have to worry about anything since he's been working for those 14 years that you were being a mom. being a SAHM is worth it, *but* it is also a risk!
@@rocky3850it depends on how many kids you have 2 or 6 kids thats a whole different World, if the kids go to daycare for a few hours a day or not, if the grandparents are around or not, how much money the family has. Less means the wife cooks all meals more means hubby get to eat out at lunch. That means less to do for the stay at home mom. And of she homeschools the kids or not.
@@florencejoy5209 i am just saying I think it's the most underappreciated job the world, i agree on that, but hardest job? I mean c'mon, There are so many dangerous and hard jobs out there, I don't know is being a nanny or babysitter hardest job in the world, is being a stay at home dad is the hardest job in the world, I think no, Also as you said it depends on person to person, and their situation, so with that in mind I don't think it's the hardest job for all women,
The only moms who want to be SAHM are the ones where the husband makes good money and that’s not normal. Most men don’t even make enough to hide and feed the family and give them proper healthcare etc. women are forced to bring in the income and women are happy doing it as long as the husband pulls the slack with childcare and around the house. Men think they really don’t have to do much outside of work so they create a wife that is basically a slave to the family and she eventually leaves him for a simpler life with one less person to clean up after. And she also gets a break when the kid goes to dads. Isn’t it sad that women prefer divorce these days because men simply can’t pull their weight. Men aren’t men anymore
Naah, the real problem is strict gender roles, if we can identify the problems in this strict gender roles, then we can come up with solution, And the solution is literally don't enforce gender roles on people, simple, let them do what they wanna do
Women don't have to be told that the dishes need to be done, kids need to be bathed, food needs to cooked etc and neither do men. Men understand what they are doing. They just exploit "gender roles" for all they are worth creating an exhausted and depleted woman who eventually leaves him. This is the most common report for why women file for divorce.@@rocky3850
I don't think that was being said at all. What I heard was that lot of women prefer being stay at home moms once they have a chance to try it out. It's harmful to society for there to be this stigma for women staying at home when it's what makes most women who try it happy. Stay at home moms have agency, responsibility, dignity, and contribute greatly to society. They are not robots.
@@uhhuh-pq3vz Some men do like to do it. But men and women are *gasp* different and like different things. Nurturing and homemaking are feminine qualities and women tend to be more feminine than men. This is obviously true. It shouldn't be controversial. Our society is so feminist that we have been trained to view realities as offensive in an attempt to numb the cognitive dissonance. It creates this weird paradigm where we think the strongest woman is the woman who acts most like a man. But there is strength in femininity and everyone with a mother knows it deep down.
@@atomsmasher101 it's clearly the opposite. Society is so deeply rooted in the idea that a woman should sacrifice her life and dreams to bear children that you and many other men find it offensive when a woman wants to control her own life and have her freedom....kinda like *gasp* men do. You are so brainwashed, you can't even see your own bias.
you’re lucky you know such people. i want to be a stay at home mom, because i really believe i would be the best for my children and i also want to homeschool them. people look down upon me for wanting this. make me feel belittled for wanting to take care of my kids. and the woman that has mocked me the most for it was a stay at home mom herself and has never worked in her life.
@@ra22111992you can ask her why she hates herself, I think she definitely wants to be a working mom but is stuck at home, I think people who want to be stay at home mom should become stay at home mom, people who don't want it, shouldn't, simple
I used to work in day care. When fathers came to pick up their kids they never looked at me with jealousy or contempt. This was just something they did on the way home. The mothers were different, if they wanted to spend time with their kids they couldn't look at me without some measure of jealousy, any sign their kids liked me was treated like an act of betrayal on my part like I was some contemptable worm stealing the affections of their child. If they didn't like spending time with their kids it was much the same, only more awkward. Instead of being jealous of the time I spent with their kid they would be jealous that I had kid-free evenings and would often make comments to that effect. I hated it. Some mothers gave me the positive creeps, like they were looking for an excuse to pull their kids out and wouldn't hesitate to fabricate some reason that would end up destroying my reputation & maybe worse. I ended up closing my business. I hear legislators talking about how we need more child care. No, we need more stay at home mothers. Society is falling apart because woman feel compelled to work out of the home and the jealousy is eating their hearts out, turning them into miserable, nasty people.
@@sophieruby9135 Or maybe the mothers you worked with didn't see any reason to be jealous of you. If all you were doing was punching a clock and collecting a paycheck then there isn't much comparison. I started my own daycare business because the sort of care kids get in those kinds of centers are very institutional and impersonal. I catered my business to people who also objected to that sort of sterile environment. Parents had considerably more control over how I cared for their kids (setting personalized discipline policies and such), which means there was considerable more communication than when I was a mere drone in the system.
Instead of stuck in traffic, work 9-5 listen to boss deal with bs, I'd rather help my husband, have my own time and take care of my kids. That's independant to me
@@heatherrowe2979I’d like to hear this answer too. Now that I read all this debate online about working moms, I asked my kids (college aged) what they think about having a working mom. They looked at me like I was nuts. It’s a non-issue for them, thankfully. Couldn’t change it but I still had to ask. I had a working mom and wouldn’t change a thing about my childhood. She was amazing in every way. EDIT: I’m adding that I agree, not working would be a blessing. It is very hard on the mom to do both.
I would rather have stayed home. My kids missed so much because I was working. Yes, we could afford more, but I didn't have the time to take them places and do things with them because I was always working.
I don't know why it's such a debate. I mean even if most women want to stay at home, not all of them do and if we just stop questioning them and just say "ok you want to do this, fine" there would be no problem.
@@GiaGRitter Humanity has been around for two to three hundred thousand years, the nuclear family has been around for a fraction of that time. We'll be alright.
@@valeriepittman5066 I mean who determines modesty? If I was in a Muslim community, showing my naked arms and legs would be immodest. At the Christian college I attended, our skirts had to come below the knee. I doubt African tribes worry about modesty.
When I left work after the birth of my first child, many women there expressed this wish to me. I'm sure it's not universal, but definitely widespread.
Tell me what do you think of women saying being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world?? Are they Gaslighting people, because what I see here is women think being a stay at home mom is a blessing and a privilege,and how blessed they are for being a stay at home mom, and how much they love it, If people love their jobs , being a stay at home mom, then it's definitely not the hardest job in the world
@@rocky3850 I do not believe it is the hardest job in the world. However, like Sam Zelle said, ‘You never have to retire if you never worked a day in your life because you love what you do.’
I taught in the inner cities of Los Angeles and was always so worried about my Latina students who were all becoming mothers very young. I'm in touch with so many of them who are happy and thriving in their families and communities. What I thought they would miss out on; how limited I thought they'd be. I was wrong.
You know, a colleague of mine has worked hard and is in a good position now. She could easily continue working like she is now and get into an even better position yet she told a couple of us that she'd rather be a stay-at-home mom. Unfortunately, her situation is currently forcing her to continue working. I wish her the opportunity to become a stay-at-home mom some day!
I love that I am so blessed to be a stay at home mother! But most underestimate the value and extremely hard work mentally physically, spiritually and emotionally but it is also the most beneficial and blessed position to be able to experience this in my life. I love my husband and his drive and ability to provide for our family. We must also praise the fathers who work until their knuckles bleed to provide us the opportunity to raise our children and not paying people to do the job of mothering❤
When I was living at home..my mom stayed there but didn’t have a job..or do anything..she never even cooked or really took care of my needs..My dad came home from work at 6 pm..everyday and made me dinner.. Not all stay at home mother’s are good..
@@livelikeyouwerediane Not all women are the same, not all families are the same. And it's ridiculous to try and make them all cookie cutter, mom at home, dad at work. That's fine for some families, others may have dad at home and mom at work, or both parents working outside the home.
@@sophieruby9135 I know women do it all the time, but much of the time it's because they need the extra income. Do you really think its healthy to have the day care raise your children?
@@jamesfitzgerald1684 You can say, "Is it healthy to have the school raise your children?" In hunter/gatherer societies, other people pitch in to help care for children.
Every woman’s dream is to be stuck in traffic, so she can punch a clock at a job she doesn’t like, and come home too tired to cook, so she can provide for her family by ordering pizza.
@@sophieruby9135 If that's what she wants and is still a good mother then fine. However, women are the main nurturers of children. Men are meant to be the providers and protectors of the family unit.
@@sophieruby9135 It does not make me unhappy to see them happy. They are the exception, however, and not the rule. If their children are not old enough to be home by themselves, then they’re the ones paying for Mama’s job.
That’s the problem. You guys are putting the full burden of domestic and child care duties on the mother even though she works too! If she came home to a partner who is willing to split those duties then it wouldn’t be as stressful. The reason women get burned out is because men still expect them to do traditional roles while not being a full provider.
I love being a stay at home mom. Sometimes I wish I could use my degree, but my kids are only young for a little while. I’ll have time after they get out of high school and leave the house.
Getting ready to have our second child and my husband and I decided I would be a stay at home momma. The comments and things said by some family and friends was unbelievable and disheartening. My heart and soul wants to be with my children, caring for my house, supporting my husband and showering love...why do people dismiss and shame that?! We are going through with it this time, with my first child I let people talk me out of it.
I’m happy for you. This wasn’t in my cards. My opinion is that working moms are shamed by SAHMs, either directly or passively, mix that with a bit of pure envy, and there you go! My advice is to do what you want and can do, and don’t explain yourself. Avoid saying things like: “I want to care for my children, my home, and support my husband.” As you know, working moms do that too, and the comment insinuates they don’t and could cause some backlash. I say, just change the subject to something you have in common. 😊
ALMOST all moms I know who work, not really the ones whose kids are older and they work part time, but the ones who work all the time and their kids are dropped off at daycare all day or school then day care.....almost all those moms complain they don't get enough time with their kids. They complain and then do nothing and watch the years fly by
Don’t call it do nothing because most of them can’t do anything about it. I was one of those moms but I was the breadwinner, not my husband. It wasn’t until I got hurt and became disabled that he was forced to do more to provide solely for us. He is now in the position that I was in and I hate it for him. He’s breaking his body trying to work enough these last 2 years of Biden just so we can pay our basic bills, more less any kind of life beyond that anymore. Working 14-20 hours a day like I used to. America doesn’t have it set up to be a one check home anymore and it’s really really tuff for the normal family to do it. We do it because we have to but it’s not fun and it’s doable much longer- I’m having to look for something k can do a couple days a week for a few hours when my son is in school, just so we can mortgage and buy food and gas.
@@SweetTea-Stephens I said ALMOST all the women I KNOW. Dude, I don't know you. Don't be upset by random people's opinions on the internet, you'll be happier not caring what other people think. Good luck to you and yours.
My " husband" (I personally dont believe in legal marriage) has been the stay at home dad for years, and we have kids from other relationships. Being a sahm is extremely fulfilling, convenient for all of us parents, makes the kids happier, and I get to be myself and learn anything I want to! And I can ask for whatever I want/need without issue. With kids being a focus, I keep things minimal for myself (I was a stark minimalist before kids). I love my life and some have even said how lucky I am, and I know it... it really helps thats he is also anti marriage, a minimalist, allows me guilt free access to finances, and he has done the sahd gig a long time.
I have 4 young kids. If i wasnt a stay at home mom, our house would be chaotic. How do households function when both parents are absent from the home all day? How do things get cleaned up? How do they develop relationships with their kids? How do they have the energy or desire to cook meals? Having grown up in a house where both parents worked, i can tell you from my experience: no positive relationship was developed, both parents were severely overworked, underpaid and depressed, meals were mostly fast food or quicm processed boxed meals from the grocery store and I and my brothers were responsible for all the cleaning. This is while also working 20 hours a week to contribute to the bills and while attending high school.
I love working part-time from home, making my own hours, doing school online and staying home wirh my children while my husband works outside of the home. This is the best system for us to raise our children in a safe and loving environment. My husband works so hard for us to be able to have this lifestyle
It is an adjustment and took time but now I only regret that it didn't happen sooner. I can assure you, on my deathbed, I won't look back and wish I had continued working.
I work my ass off every day so that I can have a stay at home wife. Nothing is better than being able to provide the world to a submissive wife who will do anything for you, because she knows you’ll do anything for her.
I want to be a stay at home mom so badly. My mom was for me and it was a blessing. But my whole family doesn't really want me to accept my mom. Money is a complicated thing
A lot of women would be fine with working if they knew that their partner was going to actually help out at home. So the reason a lot of women would prefer to be housewives because they still have to do all of those tasks anyway. So it’s more on your plate and not less. You don’t actually get the benefits of more income because you have to undo it with your stress/labor at home.
The question is, how do any of you possibly have the resources to support yourselves and your families on one income? People say basic things like “thrift, save, work overtime,” and when I write out the numbers it seems impossible unless I was in the top 1% of American families. Seriously, how do you people manage?
When ypu realize the value of mom at home, it becomes so much more expensive to have her away. We make less than most people, way below the top 1% and we make due. There is a lot that we don't get to do, but it's an amazing life we are building together. The sacrifice has been worth it
The answer is because these people are not lacking in money, they are all financially secure, these people would laugh at a regular persons yearly make of 35,000 and say they just need to make more, but the reality is not EVERYONE can make an actual livable wage because if that were true there would be no such thing as poor or poverty.
The VAST MAJORITY of the do not manage at all. They live paycheck to paycheck and eventually resent their wives for financial stress. If they really wanted more SAHM in society, they would be speaking on male earning potential and the importance of being a good husband and father. Women work because they either have to or because they have to protect themselves from controlling and abusive men.
I worked in a hospital for ten years.. I never heard a nurse say . This is so much better then bring home. And they were hard working and a dedicated group.
@@hypaactive5562 How come? Can you be an overachieving manhole at work and a great father? Oh wait, there's probably a lot of resentment built up at fathers not being home. Chris Hadfield (the astronaut) actually mentioned this in his book.
I loved being a stay home mother, I am the one who raised my sons, husband was military and because I was always there for them ,we have wonderful, hard working God fearing sons, it's worth the sacrifice
What happens if there is a divorce? The woman all of a sudden has to somehow pay her own bills. There is something called a work life balance. Women should earn an income and have their own success. A man respects someone more who doesnt need them but choses to be with them. Need vs choice makes a huge difference!
Wrong. Men don't care about financially independent women. Men prefer for women to be dependent on them because it brings men satisfaction to take care of women they care about.
@@paradiso4562 that would be a negative! My husband is a doctor and would NEVER have been with me or any woman who didn’t hold her own. I am an attorney and I meet numerous people and the trend is successful men are not looking for a woman who has nothing to offer and can’t hold her own.
By staying at home with no financial independency, you are exposing your self from being ruined by your husband who can abuse you and cheat. You always need the financial freedom. This is why so many women decided to go work.
Most women want to be stay at home wives, it has many benefits and some people find it easier than having a paid job but many women also aren’t interested in being at home wives.
I agree. I had no choice I ran my own business so had to go back to work. I love my career, but I would have loved to have stayed at home with my baby if we could have afforded it
Can people please not speak for all women? I was raised by a stay-at-home mom. That doesn't mean I want to be one. If you want to, do it, great. If not, great. Talk to actual women on either side. P.S. I'm sure you can find men out there who want to be stay-at-home dads but don't say so because of the social stigma.
Everytime I had a baby, my body started to feel more broke down. It is physically daunting carrying around a baby for 9 months. Then, we get told we need to get a job to contribute and bounce back from the trauma of delivering. Yes, this happens everyday. I am glad to hear this being talked about because I suffered in silence, believing that this is normal, but now I see it as abuse!
With wages not keeping pace with inflation, forget stay at home moms, just having any children at all is heading toward becoming cost prohibitive. If things don’t change very soon, this whole conversation will be relevant only for people who make a lot of money.
Never wanted my kids in daycare so was so grateful to be a stay at home mom but was grateful to get back to work. Couldn't just see myself doing that until they were 18.
I'm a millennial with a child and I wouldn't want to be a traditional stay at home mom. I luckily get to home school my kiddo and work as a therapist from home, too. With that said I would never want to only be a mom because I like being perpetually busy.
I agree; families with a breadwinner and a homemaker are the ideal. But with the median income being around 50k, it’s financially unreachable for most families. Definitely feasible for those earning into the 6 figures. Economic solutions are needed to make this workable for society as a whole. Otherwise it’s just another thing that is or is not available based on whether you are a have or a have not.
All these modern "women's rights", you know what a woman used to have a right to? Being provided for in marriage. Now she has a right to make widgets and answer phones as a secretary
They also got hit like punching bags. Some of you act like men didn’t ruin this for women . It is not a good idea to be solely dependent on a person. The gender doesn’t matter.
I would love to stay home with my kids. We just don't make enough money, especially with Bidenomics, to live on one income. All I ever wanted was to be a mother, and it breaks my heart to send them to daycare and pay someone else to get to spend time with my children.
@andreaf5497 Please don’t give up. I encourage you to pray about this and ask God to make a way for you. When I was pregnant with my first child, I wanted to stay home so bad and I just thought it was impossible. One day I told my friend who was a stay at home mom, “I can’t stay home.” She said, “yes you can!” It really sort of shocked me and made me realize I really could. The numbers did not work and it seemed impossible, but I began to pray and I began to research living in one income and ways to lower expenses. Praying through it and being willing to make big changes in our life, like moving to a different area where cost of living wa less- I was able to stay home. God made a way for us and He can do it for you too. 🙏🏼💕
I love work. I love studying. I was never around kids growing up or socialised with them. I'm now a mum and I'd love to work but being a mum is the most purest thing and my duty as a woman and as a mother to raise my child and keep the home a home. My work is home. My wages are through how my child or children are raised in the world. The food and range of dishes on the table. The love through my man and my child....when my kids grow up ill go back to uni then and then do me ygm
I stay home, i love it. I worked before i got married and at the beginning of the marriage. You're doing double the work if you work outside the house. Most of the time domestic work is still done by females even when they work. I never wanted that. I never wanted to be a working mother. To me that just meant struggle to balance things out and taking on the man and female role at the same time.
As a woman the idea of being a stay at home wife is comfy but it’s not right. Yes it’s nice having dinner when you get home but I’d rather work and have my own money so if ANYTHING happened I would have my own money, he would have his money and we would split our shared account and go out separate ways. I’d much rather work then lazy around all day doing little chores and cooking for a hour or two. Cleaning a house does not take all day and it most definitely does not take several days or need completely cleaning every day. This is my opinion though, I’d much rather have my own money set aside to spend on what I want and money that I’ve earned and not taken from him or any other family members to spend of my own accord.
There’s a whole lot of complaining going on here. I think you are right. This thread is full of rich men looking for a SAHM…. Yet, they cannot find one, which seems strange, because almost every rich guy I know has a SAHM.
Well, not all mothers. I always wanted children (max 2-3), but I never wanted to give up work. I was on matertity leave 3.5 years, the last year was exhausting. I almost went crazy. Then I started to work, and after 2 years I couild ask for part time work. It was the best time for me! I had time for the children, I was working, my life was in balance. Years later I moved to abroad with the children and I did not work for 9 months - I helped to the children with the new language, to do the homework, I took them to the extra classes in the afternoon, but after a time it just did not made me happy. When I found a work and I could balance again the work and family life, it was thetime, when I felt myself the best.
This is categorically untrue. I’m a mother to a 14 year old girl and before I had my daughter I focused on my career (which I have gone back to) so I have been both, and I can tell you that I would take going to work over being a stay at home mom any day an why? Because it’s the hardest most thankless job I’ve ever had and I have a wonderful partner and co-parent in my husband who always appreciates what I do just as I appreciate him. We only have one child because we made a conscious choice due to Mr. trump and the rise of GOP MAGA fascism here in America not to have anymore children and it’s still ridiculously hard, so saying that most women want to be stay at home moms is just false at least with every single woman I have ever known
@@sophieruby9135 No that is most women. Majority of men are hard wired to be active. Working, sports, projects, recreation, ext. Women rely on men to do all this in greater numbers then they are willing to participate.
And most men want to stay at home, my husband would quit his job tomorrow if we won the lottery. That being said, plenty of women get fulfillment in their careers, women who are in STEM, politics, education, journalism etc., but if they're a cashier at Walmart, they'd rather stay home. Sorry guys, you're not going to get women back in the kitchen. Okay, I'm not sorry.
No. You have been fed a load of junk. Married women who choose the homemaker lifestyle, who turn a house into a warm and loving home for their families, are light years happier than their career-oriented counterparts. Loads of women are sadly waking up to the fact that they sacrificed their best years for getting married and having kids to some stupid corporation.
@@cristiewentz8586 they all push for me to get an education and not be a dependent. They all were and they all were victims. You act like abuse isn’t a reality of most of these situations.
@@Nithinithinith thank you for commenting on a year old comment. The topic was " most women want to be stay at home mothers". My answer was to the comment " this ( video) is a load of junk info ..." It had nothing to do with abuse in a relationship.
The best time of my life was being a stay at home mother. Nothing better than an organized household and a delicious dinner at 5pm.
Yes! 💕This structure is what builds societies.
The best part is having a stay at home mother its amazing
You must have had less than 10 kids. My house has a hard time staying organized sometimes lol.
@@maynarddrivmester2224who told you to give birth to 10 kids??
What do you think of moms on internet saying the job of stay at home mom is the hardest??, While I think it's the easiest, doing household chores and all
I wanted to return to work. Hubby said no.
I stayed home...raised them ...hubby changes his mind..tells me to go back to work...get my own health insurance because my weight gain ( 2 children..3 if u count him) made his coverage for me too expensive.
I went back to work..and met my 2nd husband.
Karma, baby
That’s not karma you sound unloyal
@@LinkfromTLOZ28 unloyal?
Hmmm.
Tell u what.
Marry and live with a malignant narcissist for 14 years and then tell
me how loyal you are.
On
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And most men want stay at home wives, it is a win win.
Not necessarily. Two incomes makes life a lot less stressful.
@@br8745 We have different priorities then.
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Exactly! This is why college educated women have longer marriages, because they have careers that pay well. Financial stress is toxic to marriages. These guys don't want to acknowledge this fact.
@@sophieruby9135 copium
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It's a proven fact that college educated women have longer marriages. This from Pew Research.
Gentlemen…with the greatest respect (I love both of your shows) - please realise that this is only possible when men behave the way they are meant to. Many women have had that blessing taken away because of the behaviour of fathers and husbands or boyfriends. It’s not always a choice for women
Agree. Both of my great grandmothers raised their daughters to have careers, because they had husbands who cheated and left. It created more generations of women being raised to choose work over family, because a couple cheating husbands set a bad example.
No-fault divorce raised the risk for homemakers tremendously. And, of course, it was sold as compassionate.
Bullshit
@@timeforce80it’s not bullshit. If a woman stay at home for 15 years and husband leave her, she going to end up homeless. Meanwhile, men who doesn’t do shit get paid out huge alimony. The government should pay moms. Being a mom is a job.
@@kaylee660AGREE with you. However, I don't know if it's the govt. that should 'pay' . There should, however, be a law requiring husbands to pay wives if they wish to be stay at home moms. Since this decision may come later in the marriage after having children (as it often naturally does) this right should be protected from the start of the marriage and must be part of Family Law.
I was a homemaker for 15 years while the kids were growing up. We were not rich. I learned to budget carefully. We celebrated every holiday with homemade decor and when my husband came home at six dinner was on the table. I helped our children with homework, and projects. We played video games together, and they knew they could always come to me with problems. It was NOT a rich life but a good one.
Some of the best households are the humble ones. My mother was a factory worker, before becoming a full time mom. She knew how to stretch a dollar, and taught me to date good woman, by leading from example. You can't put a price tag on a rich heart.
Sounds wonderful.
Sounds like a rich household to me 😊 - rich in love and happiness ❤
What exactly do you think of women who says being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world??
I mean I think being a stay at home mom is a privilege and a blessing for women,
And the women who says being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world are just gaslighting people
but if your husband had decided to cheat on you during your 14th year of being a SAHM, and you rightfully divorced him, you would then have to go looking for work with a 14-year gap in work experience, while also competing with fresh college graduates whose technical skills will be more current than your own
your ex-husband, however, won't have to worry about anything since he's been working for those 14 years that you were being a mom.
being a SAHM is worth it, *but* it is also a risk!
My husband loves me being a stay at home mom . I love being able to stay at home with my children.
It’s a blessing .
Tell me what do you think of people who say being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world,
I think they try to Gaslight people
@@rocky3850it depends on how many kids you have 2 or 6 kids thats a whole different World, if the kids go to daycare for a few hours a day or not, if the grandparents are around or not, how much money the family has. Less means the wife cooks all meals more means hubby get to eat out at lunch. That means less to do for the stay at home mom. And of she homeschools the kids or not.
It's really a blessing for childrens
@@rocky3850 it’s the hardest job in the world and a blessing at the same time .
@@florencejoy5209 i am just saying I think it's the most underappreciated job the world, i agree on that, but hardest job? I mean c'mon,
There are so many dangerous and hard jobs out there,
I don't know is being a nanny or babysitter hardest job in the world, is being a stay at home dad is the hardest job in the world, I think no,
Also as you said it depends on person to person, and their situation, so with that in mind I don't think it's the hardest job for all women,
The only moms who want to be SAHM are the ones where the husband makes good money and that’s not normal. Most men don’t even make enough to hide and feed the family and give them proper healthcare etc. women are forced to bring in the income and women are happy doing it as long as the husband pulls the slack with childcare and around the house. Men think they really don’t have to do much outside of work so they create a wife that is basically a slave to the family and she eventually leaves him for a simpler life with one less person to clean up after. And she also gets a break when the kid goes to dads. Isn’t it sad that women prefer divorce these days because men simply can’t pull their weight. Men aren’t men anymore
Naah, the real problem is strict gender roles, if we can identify the problems in this strict gender roles, then we can come up with solution,
And the solution is literally don't enforce gender roles on people, simple, let them do what they wanna do
Women don't have to be told that the dishes need to be done, kids need to be bathed, food needs to cooked etc and neither do men. Men understand what they are doing. They just exploit "gender roles" for all they are worth creating an exhausted and depleted woman who eventually leaves him. This is the most common report for why women file for divorce.@@rocky3850
@@rocky3850 You must not have kids. Do you “wanna” change a dirty diaper? Do you wanna get up twice/night to feed an infant? 😅
@@tmusa2002 no, because I don't wanna have kids, if I choose to have kids then yeah it's my responsibility to do all these
Women are allowed to have interests outside the home.... We're not just robots who are ordered to do whatever our husbands tell us
I don't think that was being said at all. What I heard was that lot of women prefer being stay at home moms once they have a chance to try it out. It's harmful to society for there to be this stigma for women staying at home when it's what makes most women who try it happy. Stay at home moms have agency, responsibility, dignity, and contribute greatly to society. They are not robots.
Did you not hear 'they run the town'?
@@atomsmasher101 if it's so wonderful, why don't men like to do it?
@@uhhuh-pq3vz Some men do like to do it. But men and women are *gasp* different and like different things. Nurturing and homemaking are feminine qualities and women tend to be more feminine than men. This is obviously true. It shouldn't be controversial. Our society is so feminist that we have been trained to view realities as offensive in an attempt to numb the cognitive dissonance. It creates this weird paradigm where we think the strongest woman is the woman who acts most like a man. But there is strength in femininity and everyone with a mother knows it deep down.
@@atomsmasher101 it's clearly the opposite. Society is so deeply rooted in the idea that a woman should sacrifice her life and dreams to bear children that you and many other men find it offensive when a woman wants to control her own life and have her freedom....kinda like *gasp* men do.
You are so brainwashed, you can't even see your own bias.
Cough cough...
Desk job are easier than handling children(especially infant ones).
And, nah, I won't say most woman want that.
Why the f is this comment on this short?
The hell?
Some kind of glitch?
Desk jobs are not easier than handling children. You can play benevolent dictator and have all these devices and machine helping you out.
@@rickybobby8616 so why aren’t men rushing to stay at home then if it was an easy gig ?
@@Nithinithinith Why did women march down the streets to get out of it?
As a stay at home wife who also talks to a lot of women, I approve of this message 👍🏻.
you’re lucky you know such people. i want to be a stay at home mom, because i really believe i would be the best for my children and i also want to homeschool them.
people look down upon me for wanting this. make me feel belittled for wanting to take care of my kids. and the woman that has mocked me the most for it was a stay at home mom herself and has never worked in her life.
@@ra22111992you can ask her why she hates herself,
I think she definitely wants to be a working mom but is stuck at home,
I think people who want to be stay at home mom should become stay at home mom, people who don't want it, shouldn't, simple
@ra22111992 I think it’s wonderful that you want to be a stay at home mom and homeschool your children. Go for it! 💕
I used to work in day care. When fathers came to pick up their kids they never looked at me with jealousy or contempt. This was just something they did on the way home. The mothers were different, if they wanted to spend time with their kids they couldn't look at me without some measure of jealousy, any sign their kids liked me was treated like an act of betrayal on my part like I was some contemptable worm stealing the affections of their child. If they didn't like spending time with their kids it was much the same, only more awkward. Instead of being jealous of the time I spent with their kid they would be jealous that I had kid-free evenings and would often make comments to that effect. I hated it. Some mothers gave me the positive creeps, like they were looking for an excuse to pull their kids out and wouldn't hesitate to fabricate some reason that would end up destroying my reputation & maybe worse. I ended up closing my business. I hear legislators talking about how we need more child care. No, we need more stay at home mothers. Society is falling apart because woman feel compelled to work out of the home and the jealousy is eating their hearts out, turning them into miserable, nasty people.
Oh bull💩. You're seeing what you want to see because I too worked in daycare and mothers were no less friendly than the general population.
@@sophieruby9135 They were friendly, but still jealous of the time I got to spend with their kids. I never said that they were unfriendly.
@@rtyria
Or maybe your perception is warped.
@@sophieruby9135 Or maybe the mothers you worked with didn't see any reason to be jealous of you. If all you were doing was punching a clock and collecting a paycheck then there isn't much comparison. I started my own daycare business because the sort of care kids get in those kinds of centers are very institutional and impersonal. I catered my business to people who also objected to that sort of sterile environment. Parents had considerably more control over how I cared for their kids (setting personalized discipline policies and such), which means there was considerable more communication than when I was a mere drone in the system.
@@valeriepittman5066
I was affectionate, but mothers weren't jealous of me. Let's not tear down employed mothers.
Instead of stuck in traffic, work 9-5 listen to boss deal with bs, I'd rather help my husband, have my own time and take care of my kids. That's independant to me
sure, but definitionally that means youre entirely dependent. thats not independent.
Being a stay at home mum is a blessing.
I had a stay at home mom...I wish she worked at least part-time
@@mikasa1279 Why do you wish she worked part time? I'm just really curious. Maybe my kids wished I did as well.
@@heatherrowe2979I’d like to hear this answer too. Now that I read all this debate online about working moms, I asked my kids (college aged) what they think about having a working mom. They looked at me like I was nuts. It’s a non-issue for them, thankfully. Couldn’t change it but I still had to ask. I had a working mom and wouldn’t change a thing about my childhood. She was amazing in every way. EDIT: I’m adding that I agree, not working would be a blessing. It is very hard on the mom to do both.
there are so many of us. men who think we don’t exist are silly.
I would rather have stayed home. My kids missed so much because I was working. Yes, we could afford more, but I didn't have the time to take them places and do things with them because I was always working.
You worked every day of the week?
Where was dad? Why wasn't he home?
Oh well at least y’all are not struggling
@@mikasa1279 Two jobs.
@@sophieruby9135 5 days of 6 to 6; housework the rest of the time.
I don't know why it's such a debate. I mean even if most women want to stay at home, not all of them do and if we just stop questioning them and just say "ok you want to do this, fine" there would be no problem.
“want” is not always the correct word. In my house the word is “need,” and there’s not a problem.
Make Women Modest Again
Make Men Strong Again
Make Families Whole Again
Strong, confident men appreciate strong, confident women. And vice versa. Modesty? What's that?
When the family falls, so does society.
@@GiaGRitter
Humanity has been around for two to three hundred thousand years, the nuclear family has been around for a fraction of that time. We'll be alright.
@@sophieruby9135 "Modesty? What's that?" Try a dictionary!
@@valeriepittman5066
I mean who determines modesty? If I was in a Muslim community, showing my naked arms and legs would be immodest. At the Christian college I attended, our skirts had to come below the knee. I doubt African tribes worry about modesty.
My wife does prefer to stay at home
When I left work after the birth of my first child, many women there expressed this wish to me. I'm sure it's not universal, but definitely widespread.
I am a millennial and love being a stay at home lady! 🥰Family first.
Tell me what do you think of women saying being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world??
Are they Gaslighting people, because what I see here is women think being a stay at home mom is a blessing and a privilege,and how blessed they are for being a stay at home mom, and how much they love it,
If people love their jobs , being a stay at home mom, then it's definitely not the hardest job in the world
@@rocky3850 I do not believe it is the hardest job in the world. However, like Sam Zelle said, ‘You never have to retire if you never worked a day in your life because you love what you do.’
You have nothing to fall back on when your husband leaves you or dies
@@kaylaleavethey have our taxes
@@Nithinithinith yea 😂😂
I taught in the inner cities of Los Angeles and was always so worried about my Latina students who were all becoming mothers very young. I'm in touch with so many of them who are happy and thriving in their families and communities. What I thought they would miss out on; how limited I thought they'd be. I was wrong.
This is the first comment I’ve ever read that somehow supports teen pregnancy…?
I loved being a stay at home Mom, it was hard financially, but so worth it and I’d do it the same if I had to do over again.
You know, a colleague of mine has worked hard and is in a good position now. She could easily continue working like she is now and get into an even better position yet she told a couple of us that she'd rather be a stay-at-home mom.
Unfortunately, her situation is currently forcing her to continue working.
I wish her the opportunity to become a stay-at-home mom some day!
I love that I am so blessed to be a stay at home mother! But most underestimate the value and extremely hard work mentally physically, spiritually and emotionally but it is also the most beneficial and blessed position to be able to experience this in my life. I love my husband and his drive and ability to provide for our family. We must also praise the fathers who work until their knuckles bleed to provide us the opportunity to raise our children and not paying people to do the job of mothering❤
When I was living at home..my mom stayed there but didn’t have a job..or do anything..she never even cooked or really took care of my needs..My dad came home from work at 6 pm..everyday and made me dinner.. Not all stay at home mother’s are good..
I think it goes against the instincts of a woman to work all day away from her children. It's not natural for us to want that.
Plenty of women do it, not all are the same.
@@livelikeyouwerediane
Not all women are the same, not all families are the same. And it's ridiculous to try and make them all cookie cutter, mom at home, dad at work. That's fine for some families, others may have dad at home and mom at work, or both parents working outside the home.
@@sophieruby9135 I know women do it all the time, but much of the time it's because they need the extra income. Do you really think its healthy to have the day care raise your children?
@@jamesfitzgerald1684
You can say, "Is it healthy to have the school raise your children?" In hunter/gatherer societies, other people pitch in to help care for children.
@@sophieruby9135 You didn't answer the question tho 🤔
Every woman’s dream is to be stuck in traffic, so she can punch a clock at a job she doesn’t like, and come home too tired to cook, so she can provide for her family by ordering pizza.
And what about the mothers with fulfilling careers?
@@sophieruby9135 If that's what she wants and is still a good mother then fine.
However, women are the main nurturers of children. Men are meant to be the providers and protectors of the family unit.
@@sophieruby9135 It does not make me unhappy to see them happy. They are the exception, however, and not the rule. If their children are not old enough to be home by themselves, then they’re the ones paying for Mama’s job.
Oh please most women jibs are easy
That’s the problem. You guys are putting the full burden of domestic and child care duties on the mother even though she works too! If she came home to a partner who is willing to split those duties then it wouldn’t be as stressful. The reason women get burned out is because men still expect them to do traditional roles while not being a full provider.
I love being a stay at home mom. Sometimes I wish I could use my degree, but my kids are only young for a little while. I’ll have time after they get out of high school and leave the house.
Getting ready to have our second child and my husband and I decided I would be a stay at home momma. The comments and things said by some family and friends was unbelievable and disheartening. My heart and soul wants to be with my children, caring for my house, supporting my husband and showering love...why do people dismiss and shame that?! We are going through with it this time, with my first child I let people talk me out of it.
You’re doing the right thing to stay home with them. Congratulations on becoming a stay at home mom. 💕
I’m happy for you. This wasn’t in my cards. My opinion is that working moms are shamed by SAHMs, either directly or passively, mix that with a bit of pure envy, and there you go! My advice is to do what you want and can do, and don’t explain yourself. Avoid saying things like: “I want to care for my children, my home, and support my husband.” As you know, working moms do that too, and the comment insinuates they don’t and could cause some backlash. I say, just change the subject to something you have in common. 😊
It’s hard to pay bills now with only 1 parent working.
ALMOST all moms I know who work, not really the ones whose kids are older and they work part time, but the ones who work all the time and their kids are dropped off at daycare all day or school then day care.....almost all those moms complain they don't get enough time with their kids. They complain and then do nothing and watch the years fly by
Don’t call it do nothing because most of them can’t do anything about it. I was one of those moms but I was the breadwinner, not my husband. It wasn’t until I got hurt and became disabled that he was forced to do more to provide solely for us. He is now in the position that I was in and I hate it for him. He’s breaking his body trying to work enough these last 2 years of Biden just so we can pay our basic bills, more less any kind of life beyond that anymore. Working 14-20 hours a day like I used to.
America doesn’t have it set up to be a one check home anymore and it’s really really tuff for the normal family to do it. We do it because we have to but it’s not fun and it’s doable much longer- I’m having to look for something k can do a couple days a week for a few hours when my son is in school, just so we can mortgage and buy food and gas.
@@SweetTea-Stephens I said ALMOST all the women I KNOW. Dude, I don't know you. Don't be upset by random people's opinions on the internet, you'll be happier not caring what other people think. Good luck to you and yours.
Oh boy, it's the old stay-at-home mom versus the career mom bull💩. What works for one family may not work for another.
Can I ask, though. Where are the husbands? Dont' they want more time with their kids?
Their husbands aren't providers. They have no choice
My " husband" (I personally dont believe in legal marriage) has been the stay at home dad for years, and we have kids from other relationships. Being a sahm is extremely fulfilling, convenient for all of us parents, makes the kids happier, and I get to be myself and learn anything I want to! And I can ask for whatever I want/need without issue. With kids being a focus, I keep things minimal for myself (I was a stark minimalist before kids). I love my life and some have even said how lucky I am, and I know it... it really helps thats he is also anti marriage, a minimalist, allows me guilt free access to finances, and he has done the sahd gig a long time.
I want too so bad but my man thinks i can do it all
If you have money versus if you're poor, it matters.
I have 4 young kids. If i wasnt a stay at home mom, our house would be chaotic. How do households function when both parents are absent from the home all day? How do things get cleaned up? How do they develop relationships with their kids? How do they have the energy or desire to cook meals?
Having grown up in a house where both parents worked, i can tell you from my experience: no positive relationship was developed, both parents were severely overworked, underpaid and depressed, meals were mostly fast food or quicm processed boxed meals from the grocery store and I and my brothers were responsible for all the cleaning. This is while also working 20 hours a week to contribute to the bills and while attending high school.
I love working part-time from home, making my own hours, doing school online and staying home wirh my children while my husband works outside of the home. This is the best system for us to raise our children in a safe and loving environment. My husband works so hard for us to be able to have this lifestyle
Too many hard-working women are tricked into corporate jobs and couldn't adjust to the housewife lifestyle even if they tried.
You'd be surprised.
It is an adjustment and took time but now I only regret that it didn't happen sooner. I can assure you, on my deathbed, I won't look back and wish I had continued working.
True. They would cheat
Cooking and cleaning and pushing out kids. What a dream
@@rtyria exactly
I work my ass off every day so that I can have a stay at home wife.
Nothing is better than being able to provide the world to a submissive wife who will do anything for you, because she knows you’ll do anything for her.
🤮
I want to be a stay at home mom so badly. My mom was for me and it was a blessing. But my whole family doesn't really want me to accept my mom. Money is a complicated thing
@NvdVeen You can do it! 💕
That's part of the reason I want to be an author. To make money while staying home and caring for my potential future children.
A lot of women would be fine with working if they knew that their partner was going to actually help out at home. So the reason a lot of women would prefer to be housewives because they still have to do all of those tasks anyway. So it’s more on your plate and not less. You don’t actually get the benefits of more income because you have to undo it with your stress/labor at home.
Me me ME!!! I grew up in a feminist home and I LOVED staying home and homeschooling my kids.
The question is, how do any of you possibly have the resources to support yourselves and your families on one income? People say basic things like “thrift, save, work overtime,” and when I write out the numbers it seems impossible unless I was in the top 1% of American families. Seriously, how do you people manage?
When ypu realize the value of mom at home, it becomes so much more expensive to have her away. We make less than most people, way below the top 1% and we make due. There is a lot that we don't get to do, but it's an amazing life we are building together. The sacrifice has been worth it
It can be done.
Downsize
The answer is because these people are not lacking in money, they are all financially secure, these people would laugh at a regular persons yearly make of 35,000 and say they just need to make more, but the reality is not EVERYONE can make an actual livable wage because if that were true there would be no such thing as poor or poverty.
The VAST MAJORITY of the do not manage at all. They live paycheck to paycheck and eventually resent their wives for financial stress. If they really wanted more SAHM in society, they would be speaking on male earning potential and the importance of being a good husband and father. Women work because they either have to or because they have to protect themselves from controlling and abusive men.
Not enough credit has EVER been given to women's contributions imo.
I worked in a hospital for ten years.. I never heard a nurse say . This is so much better then bring home. And they were hard working and a dedicated group.
"You can either be a great career woman or a great mother. You cannot possibly be both." ~ Kevin Samuels
Doesn't that apply to men as well?
@@mikasa1279 this particular subject is about stay at home women not boss bitches and no it doesn't.
@@hypaactive5562 How come? Can you be an overachieving manhole at work and a great father? Oh wait, there's probably a lot of resentment built up at fathers not being home. Chris Hadfield (the astronaut) actually mentioned this in his book.
The guy who died in arrears for child support banging 304s. Yeah great romodel
Said a man who was hated by his own children having divorced multiple times. 😂😂😂😂
I loved being a stay home mother, I am the one who raised my sons, husband was military and because I was always there for them ,we have wonderful, hard working God fearing sons, it's worth the sacrifice
See he gave example of rich neighourhood
Not everyone got same situation
There are fiancial problems that runs in family .
What happens if there is a divorce? The woman all of a sudden has to somehow pay her own bills. There is something called a work life balance. Women should earn an income and have their own success. A man respects someone more who doesnt need them but choses to be with them. Need vs choice makes a huge difference!
Wrong. Men don't care about financially independent women. Men prefer for women to be dependent on them because it brings men satisfaction to take care of women they care about.
@@paradiso4562 that would be a negative! My husband is a doctor and would NEVER have been with me or any woman who didn’t hold her own. I am an attorney and I meet numerous people and the trend is successful men are not looking for a woman who has nothing to offer and can’t hold her own.
I seen this happen to several women. With a 50% divorce rate, it’s a gamble to give up a career.
Where was this guy when you were talking about your wife and your 10 year delayed discovery of her “capacity for reason?” 🤔😬🤨
By staying at home with no financial independency, you are exposing your self from being ruined by your husband who can abuse you and cheat. You always need the financial freedom. This is why so many women decided to go work.
Women want to stay at home with children. That’s not the same as saying they want to be wives.
Most women want to be stay at home wives, it has many benefits and some people find it easier than having a paid job but many women also aren’t interested in being at home wives.
Damn, he took a minute to answer what she did in a second.
I agree. I had no choice I ran my own business so had to go back to work. I love my career, but I would have loved to have stayed at home with my baby if we could have afforded it
Can people please not speak for all women? I was raised by a stay-at-home mom. That doesn't mean I want to be one. If you want to, do it, great. If not, great. Talk to actual women on either side. P.S. I'm sure you can find men out there who want to be stay-at-home dads but don't say so because of the social stigma.
Try that in australia. Ineffectively, a lot of families are on the streets atm coz of cost of living and housing crisis.
being a good parent is not easy. Doing it well is a vocation of dedication.
Everytime I had a baby, my body started to feel more broke down. It is physically daunting carrying around a baby for 9 months. Then, we get told we need to get a job to contribute and bounce back from the trauma of delivering. Yes, this happens everyday. I am glad to hear this being talked about because I suffered in silence, believing that this is normal, but now I see it as abuse!
With wages not keeping pace with inflation, forget stay at home moms, just having any children at all is heading toward becoming cost prohibitive. If things don’t change very soon, this whole conversation will be relevant only for people who make a lot of money.
Never wanted my kids in daycare so was so grateful to be a stay at home mom but was grateful to get back to work. Couldn't just see myself doing that until they were 18.
Now Meghan Markle is a Montecito Mom 😂😂😂
Thank you
The most cherished time of my life was when I was a stay at home mom with my babies.
Where can I find this podcast?
I'm a millennial with a child and I wouldn't want to be a traditional stay at home mom. I luckily get to home school my kiddo and work as a therapist from home, too. With that said I would never want to only be a mom because I like being perpetually busy.
I agree; families with a breadwinner and a homemaker are the ideal. But with the median income being around 50k, it’s financially unreachable for most families. Definitely feasible for those earning into the 6 figures. Economic solutions are needed to make this workable for society as a whole. Otherwise it’s just another thing that is or is not available based on whether you are a have or a have not.
I don't "secretly" prefer to stay home. I bitterly hate every second I'm at work and not at home.
All these modern "women's rights", you know what a woman used to have a right to? Being provided for in marriage. Now she has a right to make widgets and answer phones as a secretary
Because women back then never got screwed over. 🙄
They also got hit like punching bags. Some of you act like men didn’t ruin this for women . It is not a good idea to be solely dependent on a person. The gender doesn’t matter.
1970 called, they’d like your comment back.
I would love to stay home with my kids. We just don't make enough money, especially with Bidenomics, to live on one income. All I ever wanted was to be a mother, and it breaks my heart to send them to daycare and pay someone else to get to spend time with my children.
@andreaf5497 Please don’t give up. I encourage you to pray about this and ask God to make a way for you. When I was pregnant with my first child, I wanted to stay home so bad and I just thought it was impossible. One day I told my friend who was a stay at home mom, “I can’t stay home.” She said, “yes you can!” It really sort of shocked me and made me realize I really could. The numbers did not work and it seemed impossible, but I began to pray and I began to research living in one income and ways to lower expenses. Praying through it and being willing to make big changes in our life, like moving to a different area where cost of living wa less- I was able to stay home. God made a way for us and He can do it for you too. 🙏🏼💕
I love work. I love studying. I was never around kids growing up or socialised with them. I'm now a mum and I'd love to work but being a mum is the most purest thing and my duty as a woman and as a mother to raise my child and keep the home a home. My work is home. My wages are through how my child or children are raised in the world. The food and range of dishes on the table. The love through my man and my child....when my kids grow up ill go back to uni then and then do me ygm
That's not true i would love to build a career be independent
Because the moms are helping his career and not just shopping.
Montecito!!! have you guys seen this houses,,,,rich ,rich of course you can be a stay at home mom 😂😂
I stay home, i love it. I worked before i got married and at the beginning of the marriage. You're doing double the work if you work outside the house. Most of the time domestic work is still done by females even when they work. I never wanted that. I never wanted to be a working mother. To me that just meant struggle to balance things out and taking on the man and female role at the same time.
People used to get married and make a family now they call it “having kids”
As a woman the idea of being a stay at home wife is comfy but it’s not right. Yes it’s nice having dinner when you get home but I’d rather work and have my own money so if ANYTHING happened I would have my own money, he would have his money and we would split our shared account and go out separate ways. I’d much rather work then lazy around all day doing little chores and cooking for a hour or two. Cleaning a house does not take all day and it most definitely does not take several days or need completely cleaning every day. This is my opinion though, I’d much rather have my own money set aside to spend on what I want and money that I’ve earned and not taken from him or any other family members to spend of my own accord.
Maybe stay at home wife, but no kids. lol
Mom mafia
Says he's got an answer; doesn't provide one; because it's not true.
All of them
people are being forced to be stay at home people
How sweet!
But its unfair for men to carry all that financial pressure
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I mean I'd ask women what they want rather than two men, but what do I know... 😅 I would not rather be a stay at home parent btw but again just me.
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Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it.
There’s a whole lot of complaining going on here. I think you are right. This thread is full of rich men looking for a SAHM…. Yet, they cannot find one, which seems strange, because almost every rich guy I know has a SAHM.
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I want to be a housewife, but everyone turns their noses up at me when I say so. It’s hard to find traditional men in California.
This is a lie. You are probably not worth the investment of a traditional man,
All the incels out here in these comments would take you in!
Me!!!!!!!!
Well, not all mothers. I always wanted children (max 2-3), but I never wanted to give up work. I was on matertity leave 3.5 years, the last year was exhausting. I almost went crazy. Then I started to work, and after 2 years I couild ask for part time work. It was the best time for me! I had time for the children, I was working, my life was in balance. Years later I moved to abroad with the children and I did not work for 9 months - I helped to the children with the new language, to do the homework, I took them to the extra classes in the afternoon, but after a time it just did not made me happy. When I found a work and I could balance again the work and family life, it was thetime, when I felt myself the best.
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This is categorically untrue. I’m a mother to a 14 year old girl and before I had my daughter I focused on my career (which I have gone back to) so I have been both, and I can tell you that I would take going to work over being a stay at home mom any day an why? Because it’s the hardest most thankless job I’ve ever had and I have a wonderful partner and co-parent in my husband who always appreciates what I do just as I appreciate him. We only have one child because we made a conscious choice due to Mr. trump and the rise of GOP MAGA fascism here in America not to have anymore children and it’s still ridiculously hard, so saying that most women want to be stay at home moms is just false at least with every single woman I have ever known
I love being part of the Klavanon
Black women tht screams strong and independent should hear this
The same women who used to nurse the babies of SAHM white women ?
Good ol' anecdotal evidence.
That’s not how anecdotes work..
Cope.
Yeah, generations upon generations of humans living largely in this way is “anecdotal”. Lol.
@ericabrown7354always the bed wench with the most to say. Why do you think it changed ?
I will disagree.
Most women want to stay home, and do nothing. Having kids make them do something.
That's most people.
@@sophieruby9135
No that is most women.
Majority of men are hard wired to be active. Working, sports, projects, recreation, ext. Women rely on men to do all this in greater numbers then they are willing to participate.
@@oldmangreywolf6892
Oh bull💩. People are lazy, and people are active, no matter the gender.
@@sophieruby9135
You are free to believe what ever you want. Just like I am.
Being a mother is a full time job.
And most men want to stay at home, my husband would quit his job tomorrow if we won the lottery. That being said, plenty of women get fulfillment in their careers, women who are in STEM, politics, education, journalism etc., but if they're a cashier at Walmart, they'd rather stay home.
Sorry guys, you're not going to get women back in the kitchen. Okay, I'm not sorry.
This is a load of junk info lol.
So...the with children women in your life aren't honest with you....says more about you.
Being a feminist must suck.
No. You have been fed a load of junk. Married women who choose the homemaker lifestyle, who turn a house into a warm and loving home for their families, are light years happier than their career-oriented counterparts. Loads of women are sadly waking up to the fact that they sacrificed their best years for getting married and having kids to some stupid corporation.
@@cristiewentz8586 they all push for me to get an education and not be a dependent. They all were and they all were victims. You act like abuse isn’t a reality of most of these situations.
@@Nithinithinith thank you for commenting on a year old comment. The topic was " most women want to be stay at home mothers". My answer was to the comment " this ( video) is a load of junk info ..."
It had nothing to do with abuse in a relationship.
I wish I could do this for my wife but unfortunately we don’t make enough money.
The first honest man comment. Thanks for sharing this. Im tired of women being blamed for her work status.