Why I Hate Family Vlogs
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ก.ค. 2024
- For over two years, I've been making content about family vlogging. Up until now, I've mostly used skits (sometimes comedic, sometimes dramatic) to highlight the issues I have with family vlogging. This video is not a skit and I'm not playing a character. This is 26 minutes of reasons why I, Caroline Easom, hate family vlogs.
0:00 Introduction
0:23 My Hater Origin Story (TRIGGER WARNING-- discussing adults who prey on children)
2:40 Creeps (TRIGGER WARNING)
6:37 Child Labor
11:30 No Informed Consent
14:00 Privacy
19:25 Child Stars
20:46 Legislation
12 is definitely too young. That's like almost middle school age. Think about how y'all were at that point. So insecure, stupid and vulnerable to peer pressure. Imagine being on THIS internet during that time
I didn’t say that clearly enough. I meant that 12 is when kids might START to understand the implications of social media/start asking to quit
Just pinning this for clarification!
Most kids of ten to eleven in the united already have a iPad, phone, or laptop which they can use to connect with social midea. And there is no way to make sure kids are not seeing things from people you don’t want them to, but you can introduce and explain some of those things in a healthy way so they can learn about them in a way that you want them to, with out them finding out in a way that can hurt them or turn it into a true vulnerability of naiveness. Imfact, one of the biggest causes of depression and insecurity within tweens, teens, is due to social media, so I would say twelve is not to young, because if you don’t teach them now, someone else might in a way that makes the child feel uncomfortable or do something not ok. I already knew about things when I was ten, but thanks to my mom and dad I was taught in a safe and healthy way so that I could know how to protect myself and protect others, and when I see content like that understand why it’s not good, but what it is.
Yeah, I've seen responsive parenting parenting channels that don't show their kids until they have the conversation with the kids and let them choose, and the kids definitely don't make it into every video even still.
It makes for lots of fun opportunities for parents to dress up and pretend to be their kids to talk about parenting in a light hearted way.
(And sometimes the older kids will get to do the same and dress up to be the parents lol)
Yeah, unfortunately if kids that age have had an online presence, it’s almost guaranteed that their peers will find it and contribute to that hate
The fact that a woman with zero kids cares MORE about children than parents is deeply concerning. It doesn't take a rocket scientist, nor does it take "a real mom" to see and understand how very real all of Caroline's points are. Family vloggers are extraordinarily problematic.
@@Ark-ys2up ditto
Agree 💯
I'm a mom of 2! I say no to this kind of abuse.
Couldn’t agree more.
agreed. i’ve felt the same for a long time now, but now that i have my own baby i just cannot fathom putting my own ego before my daughters safety!!
"But predators are everywhere". Posting a child's life on the internet is like finding the creep at the park and handing them a fucking file of your kid. It is literally feeding the predator. They don't even need to search. They can simply curate a feed with accounts that freely give the content by liking and subscibing.
There’s one vlogger who does ballet with her kids, I don’t see her videos anymore so hopefully she stopped posting but she’d post her daughters doing ballet poses and contorting their bodies in a way that’s obviously curated to feed creeps and it always made me sick to see especially since the comments keep pointing it out and she keeps ignoring it.
Predators being everywhere is all the more reason why you shouldnt be broadcasting your childs personal and privet information to the world.
This. Yes, there are creeps everywhere. But family vloggers hand their children over to THOUSANDS of them on a silver platter.
Unpopular opinion, but I think children are in much more danger of actual physical harm when we take them to the mall, grocery store, park, etc. I’ve heard lots of stories of kids wandering off and getting abducted. I haven’t heard of any kids in a family vlog being tracked down and kidnapped by an internet predator. I know most people will probably disagree with me, but that’s just how I see it.
@@riggs20 I think that we have different definitions of "danger". To me, danger is any harm that may befall the child. Not just a physical harm.
When I referred to the "file", I did not mean directions of how to find the child. Although that is a huge concern, especially details given in real time.
I am also not referring to just family vloggers. I think the same thing of all parents who share sensitive, private information and images on the public internet. I don't care if the account is "private". The internet is not private.
The crux of my argument is statistic based, like yours.
Most children that are s*ually harmed are harmed by someone they know. Someone the parent trusts.
I will paint a picture.
When I say you are handing a creep a dossier of your kid-you may be handing it to your neighbor, who's follow request you absentmindedly tapped "accept" to a year ago. He should be on a registry, but he didn't re-register in the state and parole hasn't caught up yet.
He knows where kid goes to gymnastics. What times the practice is thanks to real-time stories, though he decides today is not the day. Instead, he saves and rewatches the clip over and over and over.
He has a file of her images, dozens of them, dating back to birth. He shares them, trades, and sells them. Somewhere, across the world, another predator waits, and receives effortless, endless csam. The cycle continues.
That is danger.
Another point to add on to the creep thing and "what are you not gonna take your kids to the pool" argument is that when you take your kid to the pool you run the risk of running into 1 or 2 creeps. When you post them to the internet you're giving millions of creeps access to your kids. Thousands of people are not gonna see your kid at the pool, unless you post it to tiktok
yeah, and if a creep makes inappropriate comments to your face at the pool (which is what they effectively do on vlogs/tiktoks), you can kick them in the ribs. if they take pictures of your child, you can sue them. there is VERY little you can do online
@@franziska9260and when you post a child online they are there forever, for the millions of creeps to look at; but if they are at the pool- you can remove them from the pool and then they are gone from the pool- away from the very few creeps you may encounter and their presence is no longer physically there
100%. You can just get in your car, go home, and be done with it and away from that creep. Posting online is a forever thing for an unlimited # of creeps, at any time
Right? Like, this is not taking your kid to the pool, it's letting them be a swimsuit model. Giving an unknowable amount of people access to your children's likeness indefinitely.
@@franziska9260 and if a creep gets banned from the pool they cant just make another account and go right back to what they were doing before
Huh this made me realize just how cool it is that bluey's voice actor is anonymous
I didn’t know that! That’s so interesting!
I didnt know that, thats so cool
Is that the same for all of the child voice actors? I hope so.
@@Venusingatoradeyes. I looked it up, only the adult actors are credited. The show simply says that the child characters are voiced by “children of the production team”
@keraj7008 nope, sadly, many arentt
I went to school with a family vlog kid. Went to their house once and the personality she had at school was so different than home.
I left pretty fast once I saw the cameras come out (they lived near my grandparents so I could walk)
At school she was fun, bubbly and kind. Sweetest girl I knew.
At home she was performative, everything was to the camera. Fake smiles, fake laughter, fake love. She expressed she hated it at school. But couldn’t tell her parents that.
Edit: she was emancipated at 15 and ended up taking legal action to remove the vlog. It got taken down two years ago after multiple YEARS of litigation. Her parents were pissed and her younger siblings were removed after abuse came out.
It was a mess. Last I heard she’s doing well in collage now
And that's a relatively good case...
glad to know she's doing well
several years ago when the ace family-type videos started to pop up, all i could think was, imagine being a child and being hesitant to approach your parents about something because they might be interested in publicizing it. wayyy more twisted than it seems on the surface and there is no excuse for the parents that have justified it
right? then it could just become fodder for the child’s online persona ie lil sandwiches ‘mario obsession’
I've always been hesitant to approach my parents with anything personal because they have a habit of telling the whole extended family about it. It must be a million times worse for these family vlog kids. It's really sad
Also, imagine being parents and you can’t bring yourself to even interact with your child unless the cameras are running. You can’t do it without a show for an audience. I think it’s one of the worst things about pimping out your family for money and fame. The Daily Bumps crew even installed a views counter in their house. How gross.
I am constantly calling out the Instagram child exploiters. And SO often I get the push back of "if you don't like it, don't follow them!". I point out that I DONT follow them. I'm a complete stranger being fed their children's content. The other one that is always interesting to me is the people who say "you're psycho" or "you're the one making this upsetting!" To which I always respond "let's assume you're right. Can you please explain to me WHY you would knowingly and willingly expose your children to a person you believe is a psycho?"
Brilliant response
FACTS
lol I would say that too
Family vlogs have never appealed to me, because it usually turns out the parents themselves are the creeps. They may not be sexual predators, but there is a level of emotional abuse there that has become so normalized.
they never see their children as people and give the same vibes as parents who sell their kids to s#x work
They used to appeal to me when I was too young/drugged up(I’m clean now almost six years) to understand why it was wrong. I feel like such a shit bag for watching them. It is freaky how much it is normalized. Especially since I’ve always considered myself a leftist, someone who cares about how people are treated. It’s so wild to me that I didn’t get it.
@daniellaherget3878 just commenting to say congratulations on almost 6 years sober. Keep on rocking sobriety.
@@xdani_thethinkingneko I don't think you have to feel bad about watching them. There's a reason those channels are so attractive to people. They present an idealized version of a family that a lot of people are missing in their own lives. It might be easy to see the red flags when you're on the outside and aren't involved in any of it, but I don't think it's as easy to see if you're an active watcher and are constantly bombarded with the manufactured positivity and joy in those videos. You're not a bad person for falling for them. They're bad for tricking you. Congratulations on being clean for so long!
@@xdani_thethinkingnekocongrats on the sobriety! That is an amazing achievement. Coming up on 9 years myself and it makes such a difference, right?
i love that you are advocating for children's privacy. i'm proud of you for getting onto the news for it too.
Was it national news???
@@_leo_on_fireCant remember if it was local or national but she has a video on it 😁
I completely agree. My kids love watching family vlogs, and I banned them in the house because of the amount of sponsored content that was causing them to beg for toys out of our price range. Then I found out my ex was one of the creepy predators. He's in prison now because I found gross things on his phone, but that opened my eyes. Now, anytime I see someone post their kid in a swimsuit, I worry for that kid's safety. I love your Sandwich Family series because it calls attention to the dangers, physical and psychological, that the kids are often exposed to. Thank you for bringing attention to this serious issue!
I’m sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for exposing your ex, I’m sure that was an extremely difficult thing to do.
Thank you for reporting your ex and keeping children safe from at least that predator❤. I know your children will be so grateful for these protections you've made an effort to put in their lives.
Wow I'm so sorry you went through that. That is so scary. You're with someone, have children, & find out he's secretly a predator? I think that's literally my worst nightmare? That's tragic. You're strong 🤍 good on you for keeping your kids safe!
I cannot imagine what you went through finding that out about your ex, but you are the hero in this story. Thank you for doing your due diligence and turning him in! You likely protected so many children, including your own babies.
Thank you for reporting him and sharing your story here. Predators are not the strangers but most often know their victims, so it's not the stranger that people should worry about as much, but the friend, family member or acquaintance...
It seems like just ten years ago, it was universally agreed that the most embarrassing thing your parents could do was show your date (who supposedly already likes you) your baby pictures. Now people will argue to the death that parents have the right to post your most awkward and personal childhood moments on the internet for your entire peer group to find, let alone future employers as you said.
THIS!!! I remember it being such a universal joke that if your parents wanted to embarrass you, all they had to do was pull out the baby pictures. I even had a dream that my parents did this when my crush came over and I was humiliated at the DREAM. Cannot imagine everyone my parents have ever run into seeing me as a baby and growing up. Not everyone needs to know that
TBH, it's moronic to photograph a child in the nude, no matter who you intend to view the photos. We all know that most of the predators are people you know, and not strangers. It's controlling- it contributes to the concept that children are basically toys who are not capable of challenging the scenario.
I recently have been getting suggested reels on Facebook of this one little girl. It’s at least half a dozen different videos. I don’t know her or her family, they’re just public reels. But in the top comment of one she says what town she takes her daughter to gymnastics in. It’s not a huge town, and it would be incredibly easy to find the schedule of classes for girls her age and find this little girl. And if I have realized that, so many other worse people have too.
Oh my god . Truly horrific
Yeah it’s freaky how every time I go on Facebook, I get recommended reels that are from peoples like private family Facebook‘s. All because they don’t understand how privacy settings work. I remember seeing a video once were a little girl was trying on pants, and she put them on inside out and they were not fitting her. You could see her underwear,about half her butt was sticking out... instead of being nice and explaining to her that she had her pants on the wrong way, and helping her. The grandmother decided to make a video shaming her, and calling her stupid and posted it online. That little girl looked like she was maybe nine years old? It was horrifying how she was treating her. I wouldn’t be surprised if she put the pants on inside out too, because she was may be already nervous and stressed at the thought of potentially being yelled at. I don’t know why people post videos like that,or any for that matter on their public Facebook.
@@xdani_thethinkingneko nine? I work with kids and my 6 year olds bully each other based off what they find on their friend's family's Facebook stories. Even outside of creeps that's so inappropriate to post just for the sake of the kid's dignity. Kids share things like that amongst each other. A 6 year old would never live that down so a 9 year old would be so miserable. I only take care of up to 8 year olds but they already have so much pride and identity.
@@xdani_thethinkingnekowhat a horrible grandmother/adult in that situation for videoing that little girl partially exposed and vulnerable and posting it publicly. That’s literally bordering on cp of her own child/grandchild. I hope you reported that video for violating facebook’s policies before you scrolled away.
Oh absolutely. I always report things like that. I feel like so many people don’t, and they just say a comment and then keep scrolling. But we have to report things like this. It’s the only way the sites know to take it down(if the algorithm doesn’t catch it)
That’s what really freaked me out too, as a guarantee you at least a few people downloaded that video. Especially since she was being humiliated in the video, people have a humiliation kink who are normal adults, so I wouldn’t be surprised if predators do as well.. Even thinking about this and typing it out right now it’s making me so nauseous 🤢@@AK-jt9gx
Your distinction b/w employing kids vs turning the kids INTO the business is *CHEFS KISS.* This is also a point that your sandwich family videos highlight so well. It’s coercive and inevitably puts kids in a horrible situation of having to bear all the pressure of being their family’s livelihood at the expense of their own identity!!!!
20:00 I remember how the Olsen twins were criticized for not participating in the Full House reboot. They never actually consented to becoming actresses, they were literal babies when they started acting. So many people remember watching them grow up on the screen but they probably barely do, considering the filming ended when they were just 8 years old and it launched their massive career at an age when again - they were barely able to give consent.
Thank you for making your videos, you're so right in what you're saying. ❤
Oh Hollywood child actors are completely brainwashed, programmed, pimped out and sold to the highest bidder. Full of pedophiles and goes all the way back to the 30s.. Shirley Temple was a victim too.
I remember the public countdown to them turning 18 🤢🤮
And members of the returning cast making passive agressive comments about the twins not coming back because they know deep down people aren't as interested without the breakout stars.
Even if they did return, how would that work? It was one role split between two people. Does one take the role and the other not? Do they still switch off and make it a game for fans to figure out? Just let them do their own thing.
And people still have the audacity to put them down. I have so much respect for them.
On the child labor topic - so strange that people decide it's not "real work" or "as bad as other jobs", because we wouldn't say that if it was work people took more seriously. If children were serving coffees on 8-12 hour shifts, then it would be easier to see.
I think the issue stems from not viewing vlogging/video content/online content creation as work. People don't often understand how emotionally draining it is to be in front of a camera, and to never really have space or time to switch off from performance mode.
I remember during quarantine, so many people realised how important it was to have seperate locations for work and play - so how is it any different for children who's home (they had no choice in being brought into) is now basically a TV set 24/7? Maddening stuff.
Not to mention the fact that most of the family channels end up with a stay at home mom and a father that “gets to retire early” therefore putting the full financial burden onto the shoulders of the children. These kids literally support their entire families while sacrificing their privacy unknowingly only to be left with nothing once they reach adulthood!
I’m SO glad that my childhood wasn’t documented for the world… I can’t imagine how self conscious I would’ve been if I knew everyone (friends, bullies, teachers) could access my whole life online. The problem is that kids can’t consent to that kind of pressure… I know it’s a gray area but family vlogs just take it to the extreme
My dad didn’t have a lot of subscribers (maybe a couple hundred) but he used to post TH-cam videos of my family all the time. He still to this day tells everyone about it. I got bullied so badly in school because of these videos. He literally has a video of me as a toddler sitting on the toilet going to the bathroom and calling for my mom for help. My mom wasn’t there so he kept recording my sitting on the toilet calling for my mom for about TEN minutes. My dad is completely oblivious to this stuff.
I find it strange enough watching my young niece’s life being documented by photos and videos so thoroughly, as opposed to my childhood. Putting it out to the public beyond the family would be far beyond anything I could ever be comfortable with.
I really wish it could be a felony at least to record or post stuff like potty training videos, photos of parents changing diapers, etc. There's no healthy reason anybody should want to possess that content.
The argument that there are creeps everywhere and you can't defend children at all times is known as the Nirvana fallacy. It is the informal fallacy of comparing actual things with unrealistic, idealized alternatives. It can also refer to the tendency to assume there is a perfect solution to a particular problem.
thanks. i literally never heard of that term. new vocab!
Also when you take your kid to the pool you're not exposing them to potentially millions of people, instead of yknow like 20
i feel like she wanted to talk about how the "creeps" tend to usually be the parents in these vlogs but avoided it to not seem too controversial/come after a whole community and receive backlash, it felt like this was the only way they felt like they could talk about predatory behavior in family vlogs. Bc as if "creeps" aren't going to get off to anything with children in it if that's what they want. The only way I could really justify this line of thinking is if the argument was how making your children create para-social relationships with their audience could slippery slope into actual grooming and having relationship they do not know how to navigate.
I never knew there was a word for this, thank you!
Cute word salad, actual life and exploitation and abuse and crime statistics show us that stranger danger predators are an actual reality online and predators online are dangerous to actual living children. You should sit down and try not to sound like a bombastic enabler.
I stopped posting any public images of my son, who has visible disabilities, online after someone stole them to make a fake Go Fund Me, claiming he was their child. It didn't even occur to me before that & opened my eyes to what these photos posted with joy and innocent intentions can be used for. The worst part was I got a whole lot of flack from several older people in our lives who rolled their eyes & said I was being paranoid, in spite of something nefarious already having happened with his photos. I still have trouble getting them to not share photos on their public accounts. We choose not to share images with them anymore because of that.
Good grief, I am so sorry you and your son had to go through that. There's no end to the levels of low that people go for money.
My sister literally refuses to post pictures of her kid (who's like 2) on her private facebook because she knows that my niece can't fully consent and even through a private "friend only" post on facebook there could be a chance a creep could see it because it's still online.
And it's just so baffling that my sister feels like the exception sometimes with how often people post about their kids publicly and for clout/money
Your sister is an amazing mother. And she is totally right, nothing on the internet is public and unless she has like 5 followers in her social media it's actually impossible to say she knows everyone well enough to be able to say none of them are predators. Let's remember that most types of abuse comes within the range of people a child knows, family, friends families, teachers etc. That's why it's so important to protect their privacy on the internet AND teach them the means to recognize and denounce abuse.
Honestly good on your sister I hope shes doing well ❤
@@Hamsteroverlord Thank you she's been doing well! She loves being a mom and she's been fantastic at it. I'm super proud of her and my niece!
This is how I feel about my own Facebook. My 10yo niece loves to do makeup with me and take selfies when we hang out, and as much as I’d like to share our silly photos together, I don’t because she doesn’t exist on the internet yet and we’re keeping it that way until she’s ready to control her own presentation online as a teenager or young adult.
I dont post pics of my kids anymore. because of creeps
I love the videos where the parents play all the roles of both kids and parents. The kids are at school or having a nap or playing another room (supervised by another parent as age appropriate), and mom has a little unicorn hat on making a little kid voice explaining how unicorns love "waisins" and it's so funny and the kids weren't involved except having a normal conversation with their mom earlier in the week.
Yes! Its showing fun moments without exploiting the children!
oh, I love mommacusses . She made a video once about not posting her "littles" because they were too young to consent to having their faces or their names or any information about them posted online, where as she will post her daughter Abby because she's old enough to consent to being featured in mom's videos and everything she's in or that is shared about her is something she agreed she is okay with being posted❤
@@nyobmyob9266Yes!!! She's lovely, what an honest-to-god Queen
Eh, even then it's still a gray area since those were private moments that the child might not be comfortable with sharing to the world as they grow up. Their friends are going to recognize the parent and put two and two together eventually.
The story of my first period and me being in the hospital when I was really sick are the same story. I didn't want to tell my mother about my period because I knew she would tell all her friends and that's exactly what ended up happening but it was worse than that, she told anyone who would listen, even strangers in line at the grocery store. It was the early 90s so she was only able to tell several dozen strangers, family and friends but that was plenty enough to embarrass me. I'm just so glad social media wasn't a thing back then because she was exactly the type of mom that would have shared every intimate detail of my life with the entire world. I know how embarrassing it is to have what should be private information shared against your will, I can't even imagine how much worse it must be for that information to be online forever available to anyone who googles your name.
I feel that so hard, I used to struggle a lot in school (undiagnosed back then ADHD) and I remember sitting trying to do my homework while my mother complained in the other room over the phone to her friends about my struggling and I was so humiliated and disappointed in my self that I carved stupid into the table with my pen (bad choice) but it's still there...
Can't imagine how it would feel to have that unconsensually widely shared online D:
@@analias1983 I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
My sister also has ADHD and my mother would embarrass her by telling everyone how she had to be enrolled in "special ed" classes and was being held back a year because she was so behind her peers. To make things worse in the same breath she would talk about how I was in gifted classes and wonder why my sister couldn't be more like me. It really took a toll on my sister's self esteem.
Now imagine all that being online. It's increasingly common for potential employers to google job applicants. Can you imagine how difficult it would be to get a job if they find out your own mother repeatedly called you stupid?
After dealing with a real life stalker for over 8 years, it makes me horrified for these children. I still have zero public social media to this day. To think that a child could be dealing with multiple stalkers makes me want to implode. I absolutely loved your little sandwich series and your efforts to bring awareness to these family channels. Now that many family channels have been exposed for the abuse that was going on behind the camera, it’s time that these platforms put in guidelines that actually protect children.
The fact parents r literally doing meet and greets makes my blood run cold honestly. The danger these kids are exposed to is horrific
@@mamacito1795 I didn’t even consider the meet and greets! That’s absolutely horrifying to think about. Especially since the tragedy that happened to Christina Grimmie. I don’t know how these parents think it’s okay to set up their children for endless dangerous possibilities. Is money and internet fame really worth your children’s wellbeing?!
@@taylors445 Christina Grimmie was tragic, but she was a young adult and they opted not to hire private security
@@TeenDream888 I don’t understand why you bring that up? She was one of the first cases of an internet celebrity being targeted in such a way. Plus the venue said they provided security so she had no reason to think she was unsafe. No one was aware that the person who committed the tragedy was a danger to her until it was too late. Nowadays it’s common to hire security for a meet and greet specifically because of her death. If anything parents are more liable to keep their children safe and not put them in harms way.
@@taylors445 there was no active security during the meet and greet, just posted at the doors. they were the bare minimum equivalent of security. nobody extra was hired. it's sad that such tragedies have to unfold for change to be made, but at least there are more stringent requirements now. Christina wasn't a young child exploited by their parents. she was a young adult with no awareness of how evil people could be, nor should she have had to worry.
Children genuinely have very few rights….its so devastating. Thank you for advocating for these children.
5:21 not to mention, people are LESS likely to say horrific things because they can’t hide anonymously behind a computer screen. There are live consequences that have lasting repercussions. So again, not all, but MOST creeps, won’t be that bold in public
pretty much the only group of people in the entire world that i have unending ill-will towards is people who predate on children. but the adults who perpetuate the access that predators have on the internet are up there with the actual predators.
yep. in my opinion, most of those parents are just as bad as the predators, bc the majority of them are aware that there's creeps and they simply don't care because they want to get views and therefore money. they may not be sexual predators themselves, but they're predators in the sense that they're preying on their own children's lack of power and control. they know their kid has no option but to go along with it, and they take advantage of that because they're disgustingly self-centered and apparently have zero empathy. i can't imagine not giving a crap about your own kid's mental well-being, especially to the degree of these types of parents. sorry for the long ramble, i have a lot of strong opinions on this haha
Absolutely, especially when those parents know that they are putting their child in risk and that they know their child is being viewed by these creeps. Sends literal shivers down my spine how these parents care so little about their child's online footprint and could do the bare minimum to keep them safe, yet they don't. It's genuinely heartbreaking
@haidynwilliams5392 I am seriously trying to make your comment make full sense.
Do you mean "prey" on children? You wrote predate which means "to have existed or happened before another thing".
@@mandipowell7797 Google the verb form of predator. It is, in fact, predate. It’s pronounced more like preh-date (short e sound)
@@mandipowell7797 "predate" has a second definition, "to prey on (something or someone)". It's usually used when discussing animals, but it still makes sense in this context.
It’s also scary to me when random videos made and uploaded by kids come across my feed. Talk about unregulated exposure to the internet! In those cases you don’t know if there is any parental involvement at all, but you know for SURE the creeps flock to those channels. Terrifying.
I remember making lots of weird videos with friends as a child but they never ever saw the light of day and thank GOD. Those things used to be safe on the SD card of a digital camera, but now it takes one or two clicks to put it up for millions to see.
Yessss sometimes I'll get shorts of actual children with a couple followers but THOUSANDS of likes because they're dancing and doing something that i know some adults will use
I always report those videos as child ab9se even though its not the case,but it could turn into something similar, god forbid. But some of them get taken down after the report, so i recommend you doing the same. I know its not much but it something.
Absolutely agree with this, it's horrifying to me when some little eight year old pops up on my feed because who is keeping them safe??? They don't have enough life experience to even understand the scale of how many people and what types of people they could be exposed to!
Oh yeah, I totally report videos of underaged kids. I just wish it wasn't so time consuming to report an entire channel though. Even if TH-cam doesn't give a shit about creeps watching a 12 year old dance, those kids are still violating terms of service to use the platform and should be taken down regardless
Totally. A couple times I have commented trying to suggest in a friendly and non-pushy way that they check in with their parents about the account before they post more. I’m sure it doesn’t actually help, maybe I’m just making it worse by adding engagement and pushing that video to someone else via the algorithm. Report them as well if it’s egregious but I don’t know if that helps. So frustrating.
I’m going through IVF, and you’ve made me reconsider how I will/won’t use the internet to share about my child. THANK YOU for bringing all of this to light.
I was recommended a video by one of these vlogs on instagram, and it still haunts me. The parents had decided to have a second child (maybe they were already pregnant, idk), and they wanted a video of their kid being enthusiastic about having a sibling. So they recorded themselves asking the kid if they wanted one; kid said no. They kept asking, with increasing frustration, and eventually said ‘Let’s try this again. Do you want Mom to be happy?’ They felt so validated that it was okay to treat their existing child that way that they didn’t even feel like they had to edit it out of the video before publicly posting it.
Very timely, considering the recent HUGE prison sentence that was handed down to a former family vlog mom in Utah (rhymes with “Tuby Pranke”). Despicable that it even got to the point where felonies had to be charged.
Keep it up, Lil’ Sandwich 🥪💛 Spread awareness!
You already know this but you aren't a 'hater'; no one could be passionate ENOUGH about this topic. You rock, Caroline. Thank you again for everything you do.
To add to the argument of "if you take your kid to the pool there could be creeps". You are there, with them, watching them. You can intercept (or strangers can intercept) the creeps. You know the face of the person who says indecent things. In a vlog you don't know who the creeps are, and the creeps can often reach out and target the private accounts of these children without you being any wiser. I know this can happen to any child, but the amount of personal information the creep knows from the vlogs will allow them to target that child and gain their trust.
Dude the sandwich family almost made me cry, and i never cry, its such a beautiful series that spreads awareness to a huge problem
#savethesandwichkids
Yes!
You spelled sandwich wrong, honey 😭
@@dolphinbanana3053 Tysm I didn’t notice that
love your picrew btw!!
@@Kmcauley_05TV Tysm ❤️
Thank you for bringing up KOSA (kids online safety act) being a misnomer more focused on stripping anonymity and restricting content in the name of safety while these kids are still not protected.
I remember from a younger age, being incredibly uncomfortable with how obsessed my parents seemed to be with taking a picture and immediately tagging their location as we were there for facebook. I was constantly being told I was overreacting, cause I didn't like how pushy they were about letting people know where we were and the comments my own family made to me about my appearance. I realized it was much worse when I was older, as they weren't privatizing their accounts and looking through I saw so many photos of situations I didn't even know were being filmed. It made me pretty paranoid and nervous, and those were only being shared with family and my parents friends. These kids are probably going through so much worse all the time and from younger and younger ages. I hope labor laws and bills get passed nationally!
You know, I’ve had my privacy stripped away from me to not such an extent but I hated it. When I was 13 I was sexually harassed by multiple peers. The ONE I reported to my school because my anxiety was so bad around them was obviously made aware of to my parents for legal purposes.
When my parents found out they told all of my older siblings. Immediately told extended family when we saw them like it was the hot new gossip of the town. I LEAST expected the people who showed me so much compassion during such awful moments to strip me of something VERY personal to me and generally traumatic. I genuinely cannot trust my parents with information anymore BECAUSE of what happened.
I cannot imagine how some children feel if I felt like this. I’m so glad someone is advocating for children rights because nobody does. This means an lot, thank you ❤
That sounds awful
I always hate seeing family vlog channels where you can just tell the kids aren't into it but they're faking smiles and laughs because the video calls for it
Thank you for your sandwich family videos, they give very good perspective in what many family vlogs are like
I watched family vlogs growing up. The sounded fun, and it was exciting for kid me. At one point when I was 13-14ish, the family I watched posted a video showing them teaching their oldest daughter how to plunge a toilet after she clogged it. Even now, I am completely mortified by this. I cannot believe how that poor girl felt, and why, under any circumstances, an adult would share a) their child in the bathroom (even clothed), b) an accident that is always embarrassing (at least to me) and c) a private teaching moment that nobody needs to know about? It was such a disgusting moment and I left immediately, and whenever that family pops up on my family I feel so bad.
name them. call them out
“A family vlog is inherently the stripping away of privacy when it comes to family moments.”
BAM. That line was so simple, but so powerful. This video is so important.
I keep seeing shorts of this toddler with a gigantic filter on her face. Every. Single. Video. Shows her with that ridiculous filter. They're an exploiter. Exploiting that child to creeps and especially adding the filter to make her appear like a doll. Someone genuinely believed that it was a hyper realistic doll. No, its a real TODDLER who should not be having their face on full blast on the internet. Who knows where else her face is being shown, and THATS what scares me.
Edit: I absolutely love your videos, and im a recent subscriber. I love the way you bring awareness to this situation while gaining an audience by adding in some type of humor or "escape" from the real-life situations for many. You're hilarious, and an advocate.
@Tyler Bender also does a skit on family vlog influencers / family van life that also brings up some of these issues. Hers are more from the perspective of a kid who ‘aged out / escaped’ the vlog life and sues the parents bc they were (literally) an unpaid laborer.
Yall are very cool for bringing light to how weird and creepy and unnecessary using your child for the entertainment of others is, on top of the fact that it’s a child /children being exploited for labor at the cost of their own autonomy and privacy.
Oh yeah I love her
What you talk about in #1 is exactly why I tell every child on TH-cam shorts to stop doing these insane "trends" like trying to say baby with no teeth or some bugs bunny trend.
Some creep online 99% probably convinced them to do an innocuous action thats supposed to emphasize a certain body part for an internet audience, and they're 10 or some kid age. Idk.
I 1000% support this and appreciate you sharing. My 11 and 8 yo children have accused me of being too “strict” about TH-cam and social media. I live far from family. I have social media. I want to share my life and my kids with the people who love them. I lock that down as far as I can. I really appreciate you sharing your experience. It gives me ammo when my kids push back.
They will thank you when they are older. I made mistakes on the internet as a child, terrible mistakes (to no fault of my parents, they did their best! Kids and teens will find ways to sneak into closed spaces no matter what). I'm sure in like ten years your kids will get that you were protecting them and appreciate you so much for that. ❤
im 15, and i just wanna say youre doing the right thing. i had restricted internet access, and i now know how to self regulate as a result of being taught how to. its scary to see just how many young kids are posting on the internet.
Let an eleven-year-old have access to TH-cam: they're old enough to understand.
@@Carosbee oh, he has access to TH-cam, I won’t let him have a TH-cam channel though.
19:56 YES!! & Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen, who were thrown into acting by their parents and have since been tracked down and ogled by the media
I was really disgusted by the public shaming they received over not participating in the Full House reboot. Viewers and the production company were acting like they owed us something. As though their withdrawal of consent "robbed" production of more fortune and viewers of an experience.
As someone who practically grew up with them (I'm a few months older than them, grew up watching Full House and their following series), and seeing how gross people got about them later on made me happy that they chose to get out of the spotlight and pursue other projects.
They’ve said in interviews that they wouldn’t wish their childhood on anyone. It doesn’t surprise me at all that as soon as they were old enough to make the choice to stop acting, they stopped acting.
You may have already, but I highly recommend listening to Alyson Stoner’s podcast. It highlights child performers/actors and the harm that the entertainment industry causes due to the lack of protection in place. Even with protection in place, it’s rarely enforced properly. I learned a lot from it! Thank you for standing up for children who cannot stand up for themselves!
I've never been part of a family vlog channel but I think a lot of these points need to be brought up to all parents with any social media at all. My mother has shared very intimate and private parts of my life online and with complete strangers, things such as my period and mental health struggles, without my consent. Most of her friends know more things about me than I would tell a person after knowing them for a year. It's always made me uncomfortable since I became aware that she shared these moments to people I don't know. It's never been the extent to some of these family vlogs but it's something all parents should be aware of.
I actually started giving a 👎 and "don't recommend the channel" every time i see someone using their kid as a prop. The more you comment under a video, the more it's recommended - so hate comments encourage them. The more people give 👎 the less the algorithm pushes them.
It's better to report child abuse and not recommend, everything else counts as "engagement" and will lead the algorithm to push the video on more people
I'd recommend to instead report it for child abuse and use the do not recommend button, everything else ( like/dislike and comment) counts as engagement and will increase the amount of people the algorithm will recommend the video to
@@ulhi7564 seriously? Wtf kind of an algorithm is this? The more people give 👎 and don't recommend, the more it pushes? 🤬 I get that like, subscribe and leave a comment pushes, but actively promoting ragebait ... 😖
Especially with shorts. You don't even know what it's about halfway through!
Reporting stuff that isn't "bad enough" for the legal system to involve itself and flooding the admins shouldn't be the only to show dissatisfaction.
I'm so tired of 💩 people being emboldened to do 💩 behaviour by 💩 society. I can't think of a space, real or virtual that doesn't reward misbehaviour 😞.
Thanks for updating me on that one. I'm too old and stupid to not think dislikes would be considered as bad.😮💨😒
@@anne-vc7bg No worries at all. At the end of the day TH-cam makes money of us spending time here and the more engagement, even if it is negative, the better. I definitely understand though how enraging all of that is.
every time i see a cute video of a child it instantly gets ruined by the thought of what creeps have seen the same video as me, & it reminds me to click "not interested" because i'm not helping exploit a child
Ever since I was as young as 9-10 I have been asking my parents not to post photos of me online. Not even to close friends, without my explicit permission (aside from group family photos that I willingly posed for). They didn’t understand why I was so uncomfortable with my image being seen by strangers and permanently existing online. Even at that age, however, I understood the dangers and was uncomfortable. I felt completely violated when my parents would forget or dismiss my requests. They respect my wishes now, but they didn’t understand them for a long time. Thank you for advocating for these kids. 🧡
my parents occasionaly pull out an audio recording of inteview I did with for an earth day event when I was a little kid to remind me and my siblings that the internet is forever. For me, its a cute and innocent little thing. But for kids who have lives that are brodacsted to millions don't have that. its disgusting that children's most sensitive and emabrising moments are online, exist forever on the internet and are unable to understand the true implications of having their lives brodasted and "immortalized". Thank you for your video and the awareness you're bringing to this.
When I was a kid I met a celeb and said something innocent and childlike and local paper recorded it and a few people mentioned it and laughed. I was mortified and even now my hearts beating so fast thinking about it!! 😂😂 I cannot imagine my embarrassing moments being recorded then broadcast for millions and then in existence forever to maybe be quoted at me indefinitely. Its cruel
This reminds me of story that went viral YEARS ago and it was about a mom who ran a very popular mommy blog and had been documenting her daughters entire life in incredible detail and the daughter when she reached her mid to late teens actually read her moms blog and was HORRIFIED that every one of her traumatic or embarrassing or private moments was shared in explicit detail with the internet and now knew that all of her friends and peers could just as easily as her find the blog and immediately have access to ALL of her privacy and she confronted her mom (her mom who was actually making money from this blog btw) and requested for it to be taken down and her mom REFUSED and they came to the “agreement” that she would ask for consent before posting a private story about her on the blog but she wouldn’t take down the old posts and was getting a LOT of backlash for this decision especially since she could very easily bully her daughter into agreeing to let her post something oh but don’t worry she’s got younger kids that she can post about instead and it makes me think about how that woman’s daughter is doing now and if she talks to her mom
logic is 100% sound, i just wish everyone saw it this way
You’re incredible for this. I remember when you broke the forth-wall with the cameo family vlog short and the seriousness in your voice and it actually gave me goosebumps. Please keep up this advocacy. We need more people speaking out against this! The amount of things I’ve seen where the parents purposely post almost f*tish content for these predators. It’s absolutely horrific. What you’re using your platform for doesn’t go unnoticed. ❤
the law really needs to catch up to these kinds of issues and put in place ways to stop the parents who put their kids through this. it's truly abhorrent.
YES, GIRL. My husband and I are childfree by choice ('cause, seeing all these parents....COULD NOT BE ME, PAL 🙃), but I silently applaud all my parent friends who ENTIRELY keep their kids off the public internet (like, not even photos on fb, sometimes not even sharing full names, etc)....
and do a big cringe when other ones are basically spamming the internet with photos and vids of their children - going as far as publicly sharing details of where they go to school, photos of their house or neighborhood/parks they frequent/etc 😬 > most of them (in that context) probably are just thinking they're sharing cute things about their family, but I hate seeing it for all the reasons you outlined (privacy, creeps, consent, etc).
Thanks for shedding more light on this issue.
i used to be a BIG fan of family vlogs when i was little, but finding out about creeps and exploiting disgusted me. i don’t watch family vlogs anymore because of this. (btw all your points are true, i’m glad you’re spreading awareness about this.)
This is why I really appreciate channels like Jar of Fireflies.
She’s stated in Q&A episodes that it is *her* channel about *her* life, and that while her children want to be in her vlogs (and get excited if they sneak in a hand for a few seconds of footage), they are not capable of consenting, so they won’t ever be.
She also doesn’t share their names online, and when someone asked about how they found out their oldest had certain health issues (that she needs to talk about because it effects her Shabbat prep and cooking vids), she said that it was his story to tell and he could choose to disclose it to the internet (or not) when he was an adult.
I also have friends who carefully consider sharing their kids on the adults’ private social media accounts and it runs the gamut from them deciding yes, they will, to sharing their name but not their face, to friends who only use pseudonyms of their kids online and made a Signal chat group to share pictures with friends and family.
The adults who don’t share any info about their kids online both work in technology and security fields, which I think is telling.
I have another friend who had pre-teens and always asked her kids’ permission before sharing on her Facebook page. And I’m confident she actually respects their answers because throughout their teenage years the number of pictures of the kids has plummeted, and one (who is trans) completely disappeared.
I think it makes sense to give kids this age autonomy in this small, private setting, as a way to prepare them for making decisions about how to present themselves on the internet at large.
There was a popular vlogging family whose video came across my feed about 10 years ago. In the video, their very young child has something stuck in their nose and they remove it on camera. Everyone in the room then reacts to it. The child’s expression is devastating- confused, upset. This moment was the moment my eyes were opened to how wrong this type of content is. That person has to live now with the world having access to that vulnerable moment of their young life. It is an absolute violation. Thank you for being an advocate of privacy.
thysm for this video!
when i hear anything about family vlogging, all i can think is that i could've been in that exact place, there all this poor kids are right now. i'm just so grateful, that vlogs and video content weren't that popular back in my childhood, because i lived in horrible abusive family, but my narcissistic mom also LOVED to attract attention to me and my achievements.
she usually posted some text blogs in some moms-themed sites and forums, there she described all of my silly little phrases, jokes in detail. she was bragging about how long i believed in santa (until age 12), she was talking about our conflicts, about my first periods, about my fears and problems at school, and often she was talking about me as a "difficult child/teen"
my mom was a total weirdo and ofthen others seen this weirdness too. so people on the forums were laughing at her, judging her parenting skills, her personality, but also... me.
then i was already a teen and my mom already stoped spending so much time on the blogs, i started my own social media, there i was talking about my mental health, posting my art and reflexing about how hard it is to be teen in avusive family. my blog was a secret, my mom didn't knew about it.
so all this women from moms forums somehow found my page and made a hole text blog about me. they somehow understood, that i was my mother's daughter, and recognize me. so they were talking about me, judging my style, my life, my mental health, my medical treatment (it was a horrible time for me and i had my first and hardest depression in my hole life, so i was suppose to take some antidepressants). this women were writing some horrible stuff about me, and it was even worse then you can imaging, because they knew A LOT about me, my childhood and my traumas.
i dont really blame them, because some of them was just genuinely worried about me and i think they had some guesses about how abusive and crazy my mother was. but of course, thanks to this women, my mom found out aboout my social media and tis situation became a start of a hole new cicle of phisical and emotional violence in our family.
right now i feel much better, then back in those days, i escaped from this family, find an anazing job and beautiful girlfriend, but i dont think i could ever be fully recovered and healthy person.
i have ptsd, bipolar disorder, eating disorder and bunch of other mental health issues. i've already been in therapy for like a 6 years, but i still have horrible flashbacks and nightmares about my childhood.
i don't think all this blogs was a biggest issue in my story, but it's definitely was a big part of abuse.
so i'm really glad that we talking about how problematic all this family vlogging is. right now in my homecountry this type of content is extremely popular, and i already can see all the bad influence of fame in this children. it's horrific to see all this changes in their personality, and i already can see, that they going to discuss to their therapists
p.s: sorry for my grammar and mistakes. english is my second language and it's one of my first tries to write without google translator
I am so sorry that happened to you. And don't worry, you wrote it out very clearly.
I was sought after by a few grown (quite old) men when I was at my job as a teenager. Very creepy, very unsafe, very traumatizing. I'm just glad nothing ended up happening and I got help.
I'm so sorry that happened to you
Thank you, . @shelby6 . I was too scared to say anything at first, but if this is happening to you. TELL SOMEONE. Your life safety is more important than being embarrassed
This is such a problem, I'm very protective of my younger coworkers because creeps will take advantage of the fact that you're at work and can't just avoid them, they love to make girls/young women uncomfortable, and usually never do anything bad enough to get kicked out of the business, but just hang around being creepy.
this is so fucking important and seeing someone actually talking about the craziness of family influencers is so refreshing. i really enjoying watching you as an asmr creator and comedian and hearing you bring up topic so consistently is impressive!
I had my first kid in 2001 and my second in 2009. In 2009 i posted some pics of my kids and after maybe less than a dozen photos i was like, wtf. Why am i doing this. I stopped way back then and am SO SO SO grateful now. My son isnt in to social media (though he is a adult now anyway) and my daughter has only been allowed to have social media now that she is in highschool. And digital footprint has been burned into her brain. I feel terrible for family vlogging kids and child actors. Thank you, thank you Caroline for making such an in depth, yet easy to understand video on the detriment of family vlogging.
why you've done it at first is the same reason as all parents who do it - EGO. You've prioritised your ego above decency, respect, humanization and well being for your children and decided to use them as dehumanized tools to farm 'likes' and sense of validation (Look at me, look at my children, I now have a new ego identity as a 'mom', am I valid now? Do I belong now? Do I fit in now? Tell me I'm valid. Tell me I'm a 'good girl' of society. Give me approval. Give me! give me!) It's good that you woke up from this insanity
Love this video. Everything about it.
These are absolutely the main reasons I stepped away from TH-cam three years ago. As our family was growing, I felt more and more discomfort with sharing day to day stories on the internet and I didn't want to mess with the privacy of my children or post things they would dislike down the road.. The internet is a terrifying place and the number of people who choose to bury their head in the sand when it comes to this topic is equally scary.
Fun fact: there is no federal law protecting child actors, even for traditional media! The entertainment industry was exempted from having to follow the Fair Labor Standards Act (re: limiting working hours, minimum pay, etc.) So protections all depend on the state law. @SwellEntertainment did a video on "gen alpha influencers" 🤢 and pointed out that the "Coogan Act" is a California law, and it's one of only a handful of states with similar legislation.
Love your videos (came for the Southern Subtext, stayed for the comedy + asmr, it's amazing!)
The fact that groups like predator poachers NEVER run out of material tells us how important it is to remember point number 1. Creeps flock to "family channels" for very deviant reasons. As sickening as creeps are they are becoming , unfortunately, more and more accepted(which is so hard to stomach) .I'm so happy you are having this discussion
as a fellow hater, ive really enjoyed your sandwich family series to be a funny spotlight on a dark issue that i think more people need to be aware of, and that through seeing it in these dramatized and comedic skits can be eye-opening to some in seeing the glaring issues that social media has kind of desensitized the public to around having constant access to our own or anyone elses children. but this was also a really amazingly articulated and thought out video that was refreshing to see, and i appreciate you taking the time to speak more seriously about it when people have clearly also enjoyed your skits. thank you!
Not even to mention the family vlogs that deliberately cater to creeps by doing things like “splits challenge!!”
Can you drop a hair routine? I’m jealous of how gorgeous it is
ETA: I immediately thought of Jennette McCurdy when you discussed point #2. I think it ties into #1 as well. There is a level of exploitation and disregard of what the child wants.
ETA #2: and you’ve mentioned Jennette :)
She recently did a hair routine on TikTok!
when i was a minor, i ran a 'stranger things' blog on tumblr. i was posting photos of the cast, reblogging photos of the cast, sharing video edits of cast members...who were also all minors. thru this, the amount of followers on that page that were strictly child s*xual exploitation accounts was SO HORRIFIC. The material that i saw was not 'sexual' in nature but you could 100% tell how it was being used and i immediately deactivated after reporting over a dozen accounts to tumblr staff with NONE of the reports resulting in bans on these accounts.
What i am saying is: Unfortunately, terrible awful people can use anything. UNFORTUNATELY, no photo is safe. people are sick. people are terrible. stop sharing photos of children online. you are putting your children in danger. that is SO UNFORTUNATELY the world around us. PLEASE BE CAREFUL.
Thank you for using your platform to talk about this!!!
I used to be a huge fan of family vlogging and now that I've finally opened my eyes to how terrifying it is, the thought of it makes me sick. I'm scared to put my own children's faces on Instagram one day, let alone a child with millions of viewers daily (without their consent). AI is terrifying, the internet is forever, and children deserve to be protected.
First time watching, A) your voice is so relaxing to listen to which makes this type of thing easy to listen to
B) completely agree, it’s very very rare I’ll even watch a video with a kid in it unless it’s like a funny random thing I don’t watch purposely filmed crap
I could not more strongly agree with your message here. And thank you for using your platform for this. Somewhere out there a young parent is going to see this and realize the risk of harm they are unwittingly putting their young child in.
This video has the very real and statistically significant potential to prevent harm. It won't fix the world but it will save someone from trauma.
On behalf of my son and my daughter and my three nieces and my two nephews and every other child who isn't empowered to protect themselves from exposure, thank you.
This is so good Caroline…kids have no voice.
I just finished Shanspeare’s 2 hour deep dive into family vlogs so this was the perfect follow up! I love that you’ve been such an advocate for this topic in both funny and serious ways
You are so well spoken. I appreciate that you didn't have to edit and snip this video constantly. It shows how good of a speaker you are and how much you put into your research. Your voice is also so calm but earnest. I have a lot of respect for you.
When the comment section is just time stamps.....once I started to see that on channels with youngin on it, i couldn't unsee it, and it's deeply disturbing. 😢
As a FundieSnark redditor, I'm so happy to hear someone actually using their platform to express this.
a very influential book for me as a teen was Reality Boy, YA fiction about a kid who was on a Supernanny-style show when he was younger, and the fallout from that for him as an older teen. He couldn't handle the negative fame from a particular episode; everyone knew about his worst moments, but the filming/camera was selective and no one knew about the abuse he suffered that led to him acting out. A wrenching and empathetic read that set me on the "exploiting kids for views is bad" way before I was aware of family vlogs or any of the other reasons aside from the permanent loss of privacy and choice about who gets to know what about you. Calm, thoughtful, and incredibly thorough video that grazes the surface of the harms and lets us see the shadow of the monster beneath.
"but more than that, they know where you are. right now. and some of them are obsessed with you."
hearing people speak on this really brings it further into perspective how utterly insane things like this are
YES! PREACH IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! As a child I always hated being put on pictures in photos, and as an adult I hate that FACEBOOK has my child photos. I've literally unfollowed/stopped following people who show their children in videos, even if I followed their content previously.
At this point, I'm probably going to destroy most of the physical pics that were taken of me in my early childhood. I'm really pissed that my mom took a lot of those photos because she put no thought into my autonomy. The fact that she trusted the Walmart employees with the photo development process... It just makes me shiver. Most of these photos were not consensual- either I was too young to be aware of the camera or it was a case of "Yes- I've been instigating you and actively causing you distress all day- now smile for the camera so we can look like we have it all together."
I still hate posing for photos as an adult- my candid photos are better because they are not faked. As far as I'm concerned, I'll take all of the photos of myself that I want. But I'm not obligated to be photographed just because I travelled or attended an event.
My dad never let my family post pictures of me on Facebook, and I never understood why. I thought it was overkill and that he was being ridiculous. As an adult, I am so incredibly grateful for this. Thank you for doing this, please keep advocating for this incredibly important cause
This is an extremely important message. It never dawned on me that people could use random kid's pictures to produce that kind of material. Everyone should see this.
I absolutely adore the work you've done, you've highlighted exactly what has bothered me for years about family vlog people, and you do it in such an entertaining and gripping way, you can't help but feel for these poor children because you hit the nail on the head. Thank you so much for this 💜
The way I’m actually deeply invested in the Sandwich Sisters 😅
Drew Barrymore bring forced to use cocaine for the first time at the age of 5 or 6 in a Hollywood party after filming ET is, as she described, so normalised in the scene that not only was it funny to the party goers but it wasn't the first time it happened to a child star and it wasn't the last time for her. She was drugged and abused and the adults around her found it funny.
Ruby Franke. Daddy O Five. I'm sure there's thousands and thousands of popular family vlog channels. But the "inspiration" they provide to everyday families is for me the worse. I stopped using social media that involves my town because I saw things of my neighbours nobody would be comfortable seeing. The weird way people I *know* focus on neighbours kids because of cute videos and talk about it for months afterwards, there should never be a video of your naked kids in the bath on your timeline because sick, creepy and weird hides unless it has even a semi anonymous vantage point.
It's so sad. Hopefully laws will catch up soon but we all know these guys make certain companies a looooot of money. Thanks for sharing your views on it, this is such a serious subject matter but it's treated so trivially by most.
You have one of the most relaxing voices. Thank you for posting! You expressed your points really well, and I'll share this!
It's so good to have creators make constrasting, yet complimenting media to their regular projects.
this is actually so true, im not a kid of a family vlogger but i use to do child modeling. now depending on the country you might know me so i wont be mentioning my real name. i was actually 3 when i started doing just small gigs, because my mother inrolled me after someone suggested it, i wasnt even asked if i wanted to do this and even if i was i'd probably say yes because why would my mother want something thats wrong for me. clearly younger me was wrong, i had to be pulled out of schools when i was 7 (first grader), to be home schooled but my parents were both workaholics so no one really taught me shit, i was sent back to school when i was 10 (5 grade) immediately got pulled out, some creep showed up to my school, i wanted to quit but my mother didnt let me, a person even once sent me a "gift" it was a gift box full of sex toys and other inappropriate things. i was 8. i did eventually got to quit though it really fucked me up especially socially, i dont know how to make friends, i have no friends in real life
That is so sad, i fell for you. Hope you can get better, you deserve to be able to have the better life you want to have. Maybe you can consider to get help for get in this place in life that you want and deserve. Hope all good things for you!
@@morganaboaventura6381 thank you so much. I was thinking of maybe taking up therapy but i do doubt my mom will allow it
@@Nikilodeon_ you should at least try to get the therapy.
#kidsarentcontent #kidscantconsent
Thank you so much for sharing your passion and knowledge in such an educational and accessible way! I feel the same and have had this conversation with families and adults and I know it’s so much emotional labour to break this down when it can seem very obvious. I’m an educator and always hope to help with children advocacy. It’s honestly terrifying seeing what’s posted of children and how accessible it is to literally any human. Thank you for your content and also just using your platform to help share this important topic! 💕
I’ve seen several fan and hater accounts about the Kardashian kids, the things ppl post is seriously disturbing. Adults commenting on which child is the most attractive, commenting on specific features the child has that they find attractive. The hater accounts are truly a despicable bunch of humans, where the adults feel comfortable stating horrible acts they hope happens to those kids. Instagram needs to do a better job deleting these accounts and investigating the users & followers.
Remember when it was revealed that Kris Jenner found out that Kim was interested in sex and put her (aged 14) on birth control? She could have protected her daughter by vetting the people she was around and encouraging her to enjoy her time as a minor without bringing the stress of sexual relationships into it. Instead, she basically offered her minor daughter to predators on a silver platter. It's worse when you consider how quickly she monetized her daughters' sexualities. Kim was 16 and admittedly insecure when she had her first Playboy shoot. Her mother could've said "You're barely legal and only a creep would like this content." Instead, she said "Think of how much money you'll make!" Those girls were very forced into this kind of publicity and at this point, it's an intergenerational cycle.
When I was younger I used to watch a lot of family volgs but as I got older I stopped looking back there was probably a lot going on behind the scenes of those videos and it makes me feel sick to my stomach
I used to watch the Mc.five circus a lot, but i stopped watching them seeing as they didnt comfort their kids when they cried, they just recorded them, waiting or telling their siblings to go comfort them, they made a video showing Little Mamas (i feel bad i cant even remember her name cause they never say it) real voice, i question why she doesn't use her real voice on camera and why she acts so odd, she doesn't look all that comfortable in my opinion, but correct me if anything is wrong.
Ironic that the only person who has spoke negatively about your sandwich family videos is a family vlogger
Thank you, I had genuinely never thought of family vlogs like this and even thought about starting one myself at one time! As a mother of 4 I'm so glad you showed me this point of view and I have to say I 100% agree with everything you have said 👏🏼
you are so well spoken! thanks for advocating so strongly for this issue❤
imagine harassing a FICTIONAL child 😭
There was this one family vlogger I saw that was posting her new house, and I was like, I think that's an expensive area, I'm going to see what houses in that area cost, and her house was literally the second house in the realtor site, so it just had her whole address just right there.... Like I wasn't even looking for her, and I just found her house. And she has 2 little kids that she posts all over everywhere.
Halfway through the video I had to pause it to comment .. Great job Caroline !!! You give a great analysis of the situation. ALL of what you said is absolutely true . Keep fighting the good fight for the kids !
Amazing, Caroline! You have put words to fears I have about the world. I found your Sandwich family series a week or two ago and watched a compilation and I was legitimately depressed for a few days. It was so so well done and compelling and real and reminded me of another facet of darkness in the world. The way you use your comedy and reach to speak on such important topics is really inspiring! Thank you for sharing, I appreciate you!