Review vs Support (IGTV)

TEXT narrated: The perverse habit of criticizing
The act of criticizing is among the behavioral defects that most make living together of low quality. When criticism is due and, mainly, coming from those who dominate the subject, it is very useful. The worst is those who criticize for addiction, even without knowing what they are talking about.
Usually these people only see the problem in the other, never in themselves. They are lacking in self-criticism, which prevents them from realizing what an unpleasant habit this is. Some are so far removed from reality that they believe they are doing a favor with their judgment.
Although those who criticize carry with them a certain air of superiority, this is not the case. To be a critic you don't need to be intelligent, just a dose of bad humor, negativity, bitterness, resentment, dissatisfaction and that's it, an expert critic is formed.
A very conducive environment for finding a “whiner” critic is at work. He complains about his activity, the clients, the chair, the air conditioning, he finds everything defective. In the rare moments when you weave a compliment, your colleagues are even suspicious.
When someone addicted to criticism reaches a more advanced stage, he comes to believe that this habit gives him status.
He feels more respected for this and shows pride in being “against”. Body mimicry matches anger. They shoot reproachful looks, huff the air from their lungs, and shake their heads in disapproval.
Some become moralistic critics. These, in addition to speaking evil, also amend a moral lesson, which they generally do not practice, but preach.
But what usually causes the most emotional damage are critical parents. The criticism coming from the parents becomes more cruel once it comes dressed in love: “I'm just saying this for your good, because I love you and support you”.
Importantly, criticism and support do not coexist. Criticizing is the opposite of supporting. Whoever is willing to support does not disqualify the other's action and much less disrespects their limits. Support means welcoming, contributing, suggesting alternatives and walking together. Criticizing, on the other hand, implies finding faults, censoring and belittling. Sometimes they are so incisive in their criticism that they leave the impression that they are rooting against it just to be right and repeat the classic phrase: “I told you so”.
Living with someone like that, in addition to removing emotional reserves, also damages self-esteem. The worst thing is that these people hardly come to their senses and get better - what usually happens is the opposite, they get worse over time.
There is no denying a trace of narcissism behind this behavior. The critic places himself above all, as if he were an oracle, a kind of divinity that knows everything, can do everything, sees everything. By pointing a finger at someone else's wrongdoing, he also finds a great way to divert attention from his own imperfections. Since the critic, at the height of his vanity, uses this expedient to, in accordance with his notoriously unhealthy ego, try to level everything and everyone down. It is as if he declared: “everyone is incompetent but me”.
Text by Simone Demolinari, March 26, 2015 at www.hojeemdia.com.br