I've been reading tarot since 2004 and I can say that tarot deck over consumption is not down to just social media. I was buying decks like crazy in the Noughts trying to find 'The One' long before I used TH-cam. The TarotTube community acts as a force amplifier, magnifying innate addictive tendencies. Since 2016 I have observed that deck unboxing videos have just exploded. I read tarot professionally and really you only need one deck. Mine is the RWS and I just stopped buying decks when I realised that's it. You find your deck by focusing on your reading, not buying decks. Practice your readings intensively with your favourite decks. Stick with them. And unsubscribe from tarot TH-cam channels.
I agree with you 100% that you only really need one deck that you connect with to read. Having multiple decks is not needed to become a great tarot reader. But…decks can also be enjoyed for the beauty of the art. I have a few decks that I can’t really read with but I enjoy having them just the same because looking at them calms me and brings me joy! I think it is a great thing that talented artists now have another medium to share their art but…as with everything in life…there can be too much of a good thing. But that’s a line everyone must draw for themselves 😁
This was an excellent video! Now that my TH-cam Channel is growing, with consumerism very high, deck reveals and walk-throughs seem to be the channels that Tarot-Tubers consume. I was wondering why my Subscriber count was suddenly increasing. In my head I thought, "I'm just showing the decks that I have." That quickly escalated to people telling me how they like how I describe and market decks... ...this lead me to buying more decks so that I can market and describe more! This completely destroyed my spiritual life and focus in Tarot itself! I had to take a step back. That's why my videos are divided into "My current" collection and my "Decluttered" collection to let my viewers know I'm not a serial deck collector. It was headed in that direction. Thank you for allowing me to reevaluate my journey and what kind of direction I want my channel to become. Once I'm done reviewing the decks I have left to show, I'm changing course! Thank you, thank you for this helpful video! PS: your voice is so soothing to listen to 🤗🤗🤍
Personally I think unboxing videos help me to NOT over consume decks because I can narrow it down to the one I REALLY want by comparing the videos. Admittedly I have myself on a 1 deck a month limit though, so yes I was starting to develop a little problem. (I loved the clothes sewing idea to combat over wardrobe consumption💡!!)
I find them very helpful too! And I think budgets and setting limits is great. Moderation in all things, right? Oh…and Sewing is also a meditative activity…I made the dress I’m wearing in the video 😉
I completely agree with you. If I see a deck, I think I like, I look @ reviews, then try to wait at least 14d prior to purchasing. I've changed my mind on many a deck.
I love this. That bit where you looked at the screen and said that you'll not get better by buying new pencils... you get better by practicing. Lol! Absolutely. I've been feeling recently that I was a better reader when I only had 5 decks. But that's not because I have more decks. It's because I'm not reading as much. And that's for many reasons and these things ebb and flow. I enjoy watching videos with decks I am never going to buy. 90% of the time I don't fancy them at all. But I started my channel to share this interest with others. To talk about things I'm excited about with other people who are too. Sometimes it leads to other people purchasing, but that's not really the intent. And I think you are similar. You're sharing, not promoting. I'm sitting here watching this practicing my riffle shuffling... which I learned how to do from a TH-cam video. Lol! Enjoyed your rambling. :)
Yes! You got it exactly right! I started because I wanted to share a new found passion/interest and don’t have anyone in my circle who has the same interest (though, my husband is very supportive). Oh…and I’m going to practice with my kiddie pencils and use them up before I purchase any new ones 😆!
Say this! My spiritual teacher has talked with me about a 'potato chip ' lifestyle. Social Media is my potato chip. Sometimes I feel I have no time for studying or reading but I may watch 3 hours TH-cam...30 minute videos at a time...bag of Social Media chips.
Fantastic video. I realize I had a bit of FOMO, some need fatigue, some spontaneous purchases that left me feeling empty. I definitely took about 3 weeks off of social media to reset my mind. Even my husband was saying that I needed to address why I felt the need to buy decks so often. He asked if I enjoyed the ones I had. I quickly became defensive, but knew i needed to do that reset to truly examine it. So thank you for thinking out loud about our consumption, attention, triggers for purchases, and desires that can be generated on social media. I love your content, I love your musings, and I truly appreciate your encouragement for practicing self-care. It is so needed right now.
I loved that your husband asked you some very practical questions in a non-judgmental way. Sometimes we need that external voice of reason to help keep us in check in vulnerable times. Yes, sometimes the best thing we can do for self care is to just shut off the devices for a time. Thank you for watching!
Such a reasonable position. Thank you for sharing! I think every person is obliged to look at their own practice and see what is best for them. If social media isn't helping - get off. If social media is just some fun, and your consumption is under control, it can be a good way to engage in comunity and with any subject you might like. Same for decks. One must be mindfull (as hard as it may be). TH-camrs can't and shouldn't be held responsible for other people's consumption. Still, I have struggled with this issue, and hearing and talking about it helps a lot to reach that balance!
Like most thing in life, there is a flip side to everything and that’s definitely true with social media. The sage old advice of moderation is so important here! I know…sometimes easier said than done!
Loved your thumbnail, your intro . . . this entire video! I had no idea about tithing in the Mormon religion and how far they take it. Oye 😓 I never thought of your content as anything other than sharing what you love and are exploring, being newer to tarot. Your joy brings me joy! As you said, we as content creators need to trust that we're dealing with grown adults capable of thinking for themselves and making their own decisions. So you keep doing you, Bonnie, sharing however much or little you want that makes you feel safe in YOUR space here on YT. 💜
Thank you, Juli ☺️! I had fun creating that Intro. Once in a while the spark ⚡️ of inspiration and creativity hits! Yeah…the Mormon Church is very wealthy and has their hands in lots of cookie jars. When we bought one of our houses in Southern California we were surprised to learn that the Mormon church owned the mineral right to our property! So, if we had happen to strike oil or something in our backyard…it would belong to them!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. If I wasn’t already subscribed, this video would have prompted me to do so. Being able to watch tarot content and unboxings of all kinds has certainly fed my interest and love of tarot but it also has actually helped me to be more discerning about what to bring into my collection which I very much appreciate. It is also fun and interesting to see how others use their decks even if I don’t feel the need to have some of them. So again thank you for sharing….
Oh, thank you 🙏! As I stated, I personally love watching these videos, but what is fun for one person can be triggering for another. There is absolutely no one-size- fits-all life path.
That was a wonderful video thank you for sharing your thoughts I agree with a lot of what you said. I think for me the biggest lesson I have taken into consideration when adding decks to my collection is thinking about do I want this new tarot deck to fix a deeper problem or situation I have ( in which case let’s be honest it never really does the trick) or is it because I believe it would bring me something of value( enjoyment, learning something new about a specific theme etc). Also I look at my collection as a library more than a collection & i always thought nobody would go to someone’s house and say you have too many books so why would I feel guilty about having decks that I can re read many many many times over 😊 so no guilt for me either. So agree with what you said about spirituality being internal and no objects or trends will help us connect deeper with ourselves. Whenever I have felt the need to go out of my way to search for new tarot decks to buy has been usually in times when I was disconnecting from my spiritual practice and inner self compared to times when I have bought a deck because I encountered it as a “surprise” either watching others videos for entertainment purposes or just finding one in the bookshop and it brings me joy or value etc that way. I don’t know if that makes sense 🙃 anyway thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciated you inviting balance in the discussion and not polarising 😊😊
Oh, yes! I like how you view your decks as a library rather than a collection! You are absolutely correct when you said that people are not critiqued harshly about their large book collections. It’s natural to applaud this because it implies that the person is a heavy reader and obviously in a very active pursuit of knowledge, right? From here on in I will refer to my decks as my “deck library”. Thank you 🙏!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Thanks Bonnie. In French we usually call our " collections" tarothèques ( like bibliothèque which is library but for tarot lol) so that always made more sense to me and like you say it refers to search of knowledge and personal inquiry + it's still all about reading so that gives less pressure I think around numbers etc :) have a lovely day :)
Thank you so much for this. It’s been on my mind lately and causing me so much recent grief and guilt. I’ve practiced tarot for over half my life and used only 1 deck for most of those years. 2020 happened and the mixture of collective trauma + being introduced to so many beautiful decks via Tarot Tube and IG have definitely triggered it and I’ve spent a ridiculous, unfathomable amount of money on decks in this past year and a half - with still more on my wish list! I want to have a collection because I love the art, but I have seen what was once a full spiritual practice become more empty and shallow over time. Now I’m working to declutter and keep the collection truly special and unique to my interests rather than what is cool. I really appreciate your words and I completely agree!! 🙏🏻💛
Thank you so much for watching! Have you seen Katy Flowers new series on her channel “to keep or cull”. In that series she works with a deck for about a month before she decides to keep it or to rehome it. It’s a very mindful approach. She only has 2 episodes up so far because of the process, but it’s wonderful!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 I have followed Katy Flowers for many, many years and I love how she works with her decks and how she uses her channel. I also love "Daily Tarot Girl" how she learns out how to read tarot decks and work with the intuition. 🙏✨💖
I really appreciated this video! I’m always struggling with consumerism for short-thrills and finding decks and other things that fulfill me and my needs to help grow my (new) reading business
TOTALLY agree with you about many points you made. I too found myself feeling drained by being addicted to youtube and all the video's that I watch makes me want to go out and buy decks, perfume and other things. It sounds like most of our addictions are the same. lol I am trying to reduce my time online and just letting myself hear my spiritual voice again. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for sharing. I’ve been trying to figure out what bugged me with Patreon and you nailed it. It feels like your buying yourself into the cool club/table instead of just supporting the people. I just love this message. I think I need to get off social media for awhile because I’m going through some personal things right now.
Echo, I think there are good reasons for doing it like creating a safe space to share delve into touchy subjects, but there are other ways you can support your favorite TH-cam-er…like watching at least one ad on a video (if they have ads) or watching as much of a video as you can. Commenting and liking a video is also great! All these things help your favorite TH-cam with the algorithm and helps their video generate more income by pushing their videos out to more people and it doesn’t cost the viewer any money. In a nutshell, the name of the game for TH-cam is that they want to keep you on TH-cam as long as possible and they reward those who create content that people watch to the end of the video. I’ve just spent some time off of Instagram and it has been great! But…it’s not so good if you are trying to build a channel 😆.
Bonnie! I love this video. You’re so honest and tough love and supportive. It feels very authentic and lovely. I think it’s a great addition to the other videos popping up now around this topic. I would love to see some reviews of decks you’ve worked with! I always love to hear how a deck actually works in readings for people. And yes to everything you said about social media. If I ever felt like I needed to stop purchasing tarot decks I would definitely have to get off social media to break that cycle.
I really enjoyed hearing your thoughts and appreciate your honesty! I'm still new to tarot and the whole deck buying situation definitely got out of hand especially last year. These last few months I've slowed down on deck purchasing and I'm pretty happy with what I have, this collection will keep me busy and give me joy for many years to come :). I for one would be really interested to watch deep dive videos on decks you've worked with!
I thoroughly enjoy seeing your collections videos, especially when you suggested mass market vs indie collections. 100% agree, responsibility has to be with each of us, we all have a different budget to work too and different stages of life that affect it. I fund all my stuff too, so they are considered prior to buying. I love the tarot diversity available out there and enjoy using them and adding to my own library of decks. They all add flavour or an extra layer to our knowledge. So many great points, thank you Bonnie 😊💜
Thank you 🙏! I hesitated before I posted this because I thought “We all know this stuff, right?” But then because of all the videos that popped up in my feed got me thinking about this again.
Hello, lovely Bonnie. As long as you are enjoying yourself, I am having fun. I hope your collection brings you joy - - big collection or small or something in between. . As far as you sharing personal things, I would only want you to share what you choose to. I support you unconditionally and I appreciate you and your content very much. You have brought a lot of reflection into my Tarot life. So thank you!
Bonnie, I can understand using Tarot as a gateway. I am looking for a new path myself. I was raised Methodist, but they broke my heart when they would not support my marriage to my wife. The pastor actually did! But the church as a whole did not, and I can’t go back. Maybe I turned to tarot to find another way. ❤️ much love as your continue your journey and exploration of all the beautiful things out there, including those beautiful decks.
That’s horrible! What I can never understand about Christianity is that Jesus taught absolute love and acceptance, yet these churches have exclusionary practices. I married a non-Mormon and I received a lot of flack from my family. I ended up eloping with my husband and didn’t talk to my family for 2 years. My husband ended up joining the Church and everything was fine, until years later we both left and took our children out of it. I was lucky that my parents did t flat out disown me, but I could feel their profound disappointment in me. After experiences such as these, is it any wonder that so many are being driven away fro Christianity to find a path that includes more love and acceptance? I do believe that tarot can be the gateway to another path, even if they do not remain a permanent part of your journey or practice. Just keep searching! I do have faith that the perseverance will result in some profound enlightenment 🥰🤗.
Many Methodist pastors are more progressive than their congregations on this issue and others. It can be very frustrating (and heartbreaking) for pastors as well. I love the Wesleyan emphasis on God's grace and believe that the very positive aspects of Methodist theology get drowned out amidst the politics. Religious fundamentalism in general seems to be about putting the (oftentimes horrible) traditions of "men" above God, which is something that Jesus himself warned about. Grace and peace to you and your wife.
@@rebeccachapman1231 Thank you! I believe that so many pastors are lovely, but just bound by rules I (and probably they) can’t comprehend. We were married by my Methodist pastor and two Unitarian ministers as well. It was a beautiful service. ❤️ Much love through time and space to you!
I haven't gotten into tarot readings yet but I definitely can understand your point of view. there is something so exciting about getting something new and seeing the new designs and colors but also something nice about having the same deck that is used with love over a long time, Blessings to everyone, you are exactly where you need to be 💠🙏💖
Oh, yes! There is something absolutely lovely about someone using a much loved and much used deck! You can see an actual relationship between the deck and it’s owner…beautiful 😍
This has been one of the best video's on TAROT & the examination that I have ever seen. I absolutely loved this video and advice. You have done a lot of good gurl.😉👏👍🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹
Hello, thank you for sharing your experience as a mormon. Addiction can take many forms & taking responsibility & being mindful with our purchases is important to me. I will probably do a video on this topic.
More praise (I wrote my first comment when I was 1/2 way through) - I just love your humility (telling triggered people to unsub) and honesty. I have binged in decks during the pandemic and I don't either see that as a bad thing (better way of coping than many other things I could have done) or as something to feel guilty about. I do have a space limit, and i'm feeling the urge now to cull because I'm feeling my age (56) and feeling how I don't want to have so many decks that I simply don't have time to study properly. Therefore this weekend I'm handing over a big bag of decks to a friend who will take them to a hospice charity shop. Will I buy more decks though? Probably! Will I feel guilty about it? No :-D :-D -D
I never comment on videos/feel compelled to, but I just wanted to take a moment to say that I think you’re amazing and I appreciate the heck out of ya :-) you are clearly a very altruistic/authentic individual (which i think is rarity nowadays) and just want to thank you for being ‘you’, for sharing, for your honesty, and for your vulnerability. You’re a beautiful person ❤️
Thank you 🙏 so much for your kind words! I really appreciate them. I’ve been contemplating ending my channel for a few months now and very recently I just saw a video on a much bigger channel make fun of unboxing channels. It was so well done that it stung and made me feel ridiculous. I haven’t been able to continue work on a video I was working on after seeing this video. So, than you again for your kindness 🥰
Thank you so much for sharing! I created a new page and group, @mindfulspiritualconsumerism for the issue of overconsumption when it's from a negative place. Everyone's path is different, and we should never judge each other. Collecting out of happiness is one thing, and collecting out of sadness is another. There's so much to explore with this topic-I'm so happy that so many creators are starting to talk about this!! 🖤🖤🖤
Thank you for making this video! I am new to tarot and I have switched my clothes/makeup consumption to tarot/oracles cards. Simply because I am a compulsive buyer. I even bought fake cards because I can't spend a lot of money on the real deal. That has messed with my head because I am naturally inclined to support the creator of the deck. I know that I need to change my buying habits and actually spend time with the cards that I currently have. Much love and light to you!!!
Ah, yes…it it all to common to replace one addictive behavior with another. It’s all part of being human. Life is a constant work-in-progress and sometimes we succeed and find balance and then sometimes we falter. Don’t beat yourself up about it, just keep trying to find that sweet spot for you 🥰!
Thank you for this video 🤍 I came across it when specifically looking for a tarot deck that has a good representation of older people. Instead I gratefully received sound life advice from an elder🌟 what a gift 🎁
A much needed conversation to be had with ourselves and reflect well on our individual situations. We live in a very consumerist world and it inevitably can cloud our judgement, great video Bonnie!
Thank, you Debbie! Whatever use our decks have in our lives they should be enjoyed! If we use them to read for ourselves or others …great! If we just want to collect them…great. There is room for everyone’s practice, mode of use, or channel. Just make share you take ownership of your own well being.
I really appreciate your channel. I am a compulsive shopper, mostly purchasing tarot decks and planner supplies.I do not find your channel triggering at all. Rather, I tend to find appreciation for decks that I already have.The channels that trigger me are related to planner supplies. I have crossed the line financially and in regards to my personal space.I am drawing a new line, thanks to this video.
Oh, those planner supplies, Kristina! Another rabbit 🐇 hole 🕳 to fall into! I almost did, but stopped myself. Setting boundaries and limits and budgets really do help!
You should have seen the original unedited version of this video…over 2 hours😆! I just wish I had all the answers or better answered and wisdom to impart.
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Awee 💗 I think it was perfect. We always remember the feeling and intent you impart and that was the utmost transparency and authenticity. 💗🌸💗
I asked my boyfriend how many games he’s bought and downloaded and he said maybe around 40..., I said, okay, well I have more decks than that. Then I asked how much he spends on each one and he said around $20-$40 or can be less... I said, okay well my decks are around that or more. I told my boyfriend that I have a hobby and passion too but it’s not for video games. The difference is he can see mine whereas his is neatly tucked in his computer. The excessive use of these tools (tarot and gaming) can be linked to addiction if purchasing and using disrupt your life in a negative way (lose job, lose family, debt, etc) but otherwise this is no difference than the hundreds or thousands of dollars that people dump in beautifying and maintaining a garden, or spoiling their kids and grandkids, or crafting, sewing, scrapbooking, etc. So I don’t feel bad about my decks. In the least, to me, it’s like a magazine full of artwork I get to enjoy and discover time and time again. People are so simple- and narrow- minded sometimes. And also what I was thinking too... tides. People dump money in tides to feel a part of a community. Tarot is a personal solo practice for me and once I have my cards it becomes free and unlimited in using them. So I prefer listening to videos like this and being part of a more “quiet” community. No one gives men and some women crap for buying an expensive car or boat or a second/vacation home. To each their own.
Yes, definitely…just pick your poison! I think there is a bit more of a stigma for the purchasing of decks and other spiritual tools because these items are suppose to be used for spiritual purposes, but some people like to collect these items just for the sake of collecting and that’s ok. Not everyone views a tarot deck as a spiritual tool.
Another thing to consider is the resale value of a deck. The downloaded games and even hard copy you are likely not able to sell those. Decks can even go up in value, so I see mine as very good investments and can sell them anytime I want or need. Btw my hubby has tons of games and manga, so thankfully he doesn't judge!! lol ^^
Thank you Bonnie ! I just love how you did put up everything. I am 50 years old so social media was not a thing when I was young. I still don't have a cell phone and no Instagram or tik tok ! But I enjoy seeing happy people (unboxings are fun!!!) I am responsible of my purchase and like you I do have a monthly budget that now is big enough that I do not even spend it all in the same month. I did learn. And by the way Faber Castel student are my fave pencils even if I have the big Prisma set ... so save your money ! Again thank you for sharing so much I enjoy your channel !
Thank you! I find Instagram so overwhelming…I’m horrible at it! I haven’t closed my Facebook, but I haven’t been on it for 2 years. As a Gen X’er, I’m grateful that I was able to grow up in a time without social media. There were only fashion magazines to create FOMO!
This was such a great video….thank you for sharing so much of your journey with us and how it impacts the way you approach this topic. Sending you much love Bonnie! 💖💖💖
Thank you for this video, Bonnie. I love watching your channel, I enjoy each and every one of your videos. I’m not at all triggered by your content, in fact, I watch your videos because they relax me. Your voice, your choice of music, and the decks are all soothing for me. And I don’t think collecting is necessarily a bad thing. As someone with autism, collecting actually gives me a sense of control and relief, especially now with this (seemingly) never-ending pandemic. Tarot and oracle decks aren’t the only things I collect. I used to collect rocks and sea glass as a child which has then evolved into crystals. I’ve always collected books, and figurines too. I feel like if someone has an issue with your content, it’s something they have to look inside themselves too. Why are they feeling triggered? You’re not stepping on anyone’s toes by posting your videos. You’re just sharing and doing what you love, and my good friend, Phoebe and I, we truly enjoy every single one of your videos. We talk about them often actually!
Agree! Our spiritual path and practice is v individualistic, and what works for you may not work for others. You do you and what you love, Bonnie! You don’t need to “defend” your life/spiritual choices to other people. It’s simply none of their business. Kelly and I support you. 🤍🤍🤍
Aww…this warms my heart! You know, I have a 15-year-old niece who is autistic and I gave her the Kuwaiti Tarot a year ago (with her mother’s permission of course) and we have fun doing reading exchanges. I’ve learned so much from her and her unique perspective with the cards! I love creating deck videos because it’s sort of a creative outlet for me and a way to share and connect, but I do want to try to diversify my content. Thank you for putting up with the long ramble!
Yes…it’s unfortunate that it’s pretty common that we as humans often replace one addictive behavior with another. Moderation in all things sounds so cliché, but it is the cornerstone to all happiness and well-being. That’s why it’s so hard to achieve 😆! Congratulations on conquering your emotional eating! Life is a constant work-in-progress.
Love this Video! All excellent points and advice. I will tell you, I enjoy all your videos and they have always been helpful, a great guide for considering purchases. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Bonnie.
You got this! You know, I have drastically reduced my deck consumption over the last 7 months by banning Kickstarter and looking at unboxing videos. Even if it’s only for a short time, you’ll save some money and you’ll use and love what you already have. 😉
I really enjoy your content Bonnie, and was excited to learn that you are also coming from a post-Mormon background! I also found tarot shortly after distancing myself from the Mormon church (a couple of years ago, in my mid 30s) and have been exploring oracle/tarot ever since (i.e. obsessing over it, lol) for much the same reasons as you describe here. There's a lot of conditioning to undo around leaders "speaking for God" definitively telling us "what spirituality is", and cards have been a great tool for me in doing that work of deconstruction. (Looking for imagery of the Divine Feminine, almost entirely absent in Mormon theology and art, is what led me to goddess oracles, and from there to the whole world of reading and collecting decks.) It may interest you to know that I was recently at a "feminist mormon girls camp" where several women brought decks and one of the optional activities was a tarot tutorial. ;) So I think there's a connection there, particularly taking back our spiritual authority as women (did you know the official church handbook discourages/bans oracle cards as a "priesthood counterfeit" -yuck!), but maybe it's also something about how Mormonism trains us to look for messages from the Divine (? this is a working theory, haha). I also totally relate with what you said about being turned-off by all things reminiscent of tithing or "pay to play/belong." I really enjoy my growing collection also and have been amazed by how visual art can provide such a powerful tool/practice in connecting to spirit and can lead to such profound emotions and insights. (Art is not really something that's emphasized in Mormonism; it's much more about reading your scriptures constantly, listening and re-listening to talks by the leaders, etc...and, this is a tangent, but what variety there was in religious art has recently been limited to a list of only 30 or so approved paintings that can be displayed in LDS chapels!) Anyway, I limit myself to a new deck each month (for more expensive decks, only one every 2 months), and I'll probably need to slow down (or start rehoming decks) in the future because of running out of space and also overwhelm, but I don't think I'm to that point yet. I do spend a lot of time deciding on which deck to purchase each month, watching walk-throughs, honing my wishlist, etc., and it's good in that I'm more mindfully building my collection, but it's not good in that it's taking up lots of time I'd rather spend on other things (like working with the decks I already have, among many other things, haha). I enjoy the content, I just need some kind of time limit for myself. I do enjoy reviews about the experience of working with a deck, as that provides really important information beyond the unboxing and helps with decision making. I'm excited to continue following your exploration into tarot and spirituality. Thanks!
Laurie! It’s so good to hear from someone who knows! Yes, I did know about what the handbook said about Oracle cards…my dad was a Stake President who took away the astrology book I had brought into the house as a teen. I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall at that Mormon feminist camp! My youngest son was only in elementary school when we stopped attending services, so he escaped complete indoctrination, and he made the observation that all the LDS kids are lacking the technicolor world view. The more enlightened ones may see some shades of gray, but it always tickled him at how narrow their thinking was. He feels sorry for them. I wish I could feel that kindly towards the Mormons. I have some unresolved feelings of hate towards some of the leaders I had to deal with and I don’t t like carrying that with me. I have lots of shadow work to do! As far as the decks, if there is something that’s keeping you from enjoying them, then it’s time to examine why. These decks should be enjoyed however you use them or why you have them and not be a source of internal and external contention. Thank you so much for sharing!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Boy do I hear you on the shadow work! One of my first spreads ever was a "rose spread" and the Morgan Greer King of Swords came up in the "thorn" position, and it was like every male priesthood leader I'd ever had or heard speak with "God's absolute authority." So much anger and, yes, hatred for the patriarchal system that often doesn't seem to care whom it hurts because it is so certain of its own "rightness," and also for the people in that system who are often so lacking in self-awareness of their own privilege (e.g., male, white, cis, straight, neurotypical, married, fertile, non-questioning/non-skeptical, etc. etc.). I recently drew the Hierophant in a "what I feel" position, and it was disturbing that I almost felt like I missed those voices telling me, "just do x, y, z and you will be happy and whole"...except that promise was a lie and was keeping me from ever fully owning myself and my life. Speaking of a "black and white" worldview, yes, there's a reason that movie "Pleasantville", where the people finally start seeing in technicolor, appeals to so many who have left! That's a great point about the cards; I want to give myself permission to just enjoy them/handle them, even if I don't "use" them often (maybe another relic from Mormonism's thrifty-ness/need to justify every purchase). I think also giving myself permission to do more one-card pulls would be good (spreads are often a lot for my very ADHD brain to work through)
You really opened my eyes to a lot of things that I never even thought of. Of course we all have things we like and it unfortunately ends up costing money. Tarot is no difference and I shouldn’t feel guilty having my collection. Thanks you for another great video, you are always so kind… l&l 💖♊️🖤
Thank you 🙏! I hesitated posting this and my original video before edits was over 2 hours😆. Our society is a complicated one and a life path is not a one-size-fits-all. There is room for every path ☺️
I think you share what feels good to share, meaning it isn't a forced conversation. I enjoy hearing your journey - where you came from to where you are now, but that doesn't mean I need to know all the details or have you bare your soul for me to subscribe and invest in watching your content. I find your content enjoyable regardless of you saying or thinking it is all over the place. Life is like that, right? It doesn't move in a straight light. If it feels good then record it. If it makes you hesitate then pass for now. :) As far as decks, too many, etc...meh, you do you. If you feel you have too many then you have too many and you cut down. If you feel you want a deck or two or three *shrug* then buy what you want and can afford. What someone says about my collection makes zero difference to how I feel about my collection. Generally speaking triggers and critique is on the person being triggered. You cannot tailor every video to what may or may not trigger someone watching. That being said you seem to be pretty aware and that is about all you can be. Nice brain dump and thank you for sharing your thoughts. (I saw Papa Squirrels video the moment he posted it. It is raw and touching and so very real. I admire his vulnerable moments he shares.)
I love your perspective! Do you happen to be a Libra? My husband is and your response sounded a lot like something he would say! I really find setting boundaries for social media content tricky to navigate. And you’re right, the life path is seldom straight and narrow. Thank you for watching!
You are so so right ❤ First of all a big hug. That mormoon stuff 😢 heavy. I have an addictive personality and I so so understand. I quit smoking almost 2 years ago. After that I was obsessed with cristals. I went all the way. Really stupidly to much. After that tarot 🤔. I love tarot. The art. But the strugle is so real. I tried a no buy 😂😂😂 that didn’t last long 😂. I know i know. I feel sometimes out of control. For the moment its moderation. I try to really keep busy with what I have. And make some rules. Collage decks are a real trigger for me 😢. Pffff addiction is a strange thing. I still love it the Tarot. I hope deepdives will be my rescue. Thank you for this. Take care ❤
Congratulations on quitting smoking! That accomplishment proves you are very strong 💪🏻. It is very hard to pass up a tarot deck. They are pocket sized masterpieces 😉. I’ve stopped looking at kickstarter and unboxing videos and that has helped tremendously.
Michelle, I love you too! I can’t believe I’m just seeing this comment now! I try to answer all of my comments, but sometimes I think TH-cam hides some of them and then I get a dump of unanswered comments at a later date!
It is a very meditative process…until you hit a portion of the instructions you don’t understand or you make a boneheaded mistake you have to unpick 🙄. Happens every project for me!
Agreed!!!!! Thank you! I just started the video so don't know what's said yet. However as a collector, and not a reader (yet), I sometimes feel demonized by numerous TH-cam videos talking about collection size and it's getting old quick. I have ZERO social media accounts because I avoid that stuff like the plague. Do I NEED the decks I buy? Nope. Do I use them? Nope. Do I care? Nope. Do I have the disposable income and room to store them? Yep. I like to collect them. Big deal. Does it effect anyone else? No. Maybe it's an addiction and if it is so what. Better than a million other things to be addicted too. The holier than thou attitude of some people going on and on about how big collections are consumerism or whatever is annoying. You want a big collection just for collecting sake? Go nuts. You want a small, intimate collection of work horse decks? Very cool. I don't even see why it's such a big topic.
@@tarottarantulas I think the anguish is coming from the COVID year. There was A LOT of buying in 2020 and the reckoning has come. I came to tarot in 2019. I have 40 decks. I've given away 5. There are 6 "in the mail" but I have now started pausing before I buy. Yesterday I bought a deck for $70. I'm not annoyed with myself about this deck but I am annoyed about the decks I gave away. Not the gifting.,.but the DUDs I bought because of FOMO. I think we Tarot Tube will move forward but you've come at a time of collective introspection. For me I have decided all decks must be rotated through. 52 decks is my personal max. I already know my decks will end of at the Goodwill when I die, although I told my stepdaughter to go through them because my collection is 😎 cool. 🤣
Oh wow. I learned a lot. I also collect video games.. Shoes and boots.. I just purged put half of all my Clothing. And now I'm doing that with jewelry. But I also just got back from taking a break off social media for two months. And it's so weird I saw this. But I'm getting back into some stuff for fun and tarot card reading being one of them and other stuff I do with paranormal. So this is very kool! Love the music too! So calming.
I loved this so much. Thanks for sharing but please don't let peer pressure push you into sharing more than what you feel comfortable with. It's weird how I've now heard quite a few tarotists here on YT who've been on your same journey regarding the Mormon church. Best of luck with that!
Thank you 🙏! Yes, I’ve been pleasantly surprised to see how many ex-mo’s have turned to tarot! I do think it’s for the reasons I mentioned in that tarot is a gateway or primer into accepting other things, other philosophies and other points of views.
I have more than 150 Oracle and Tarot cards, but I'm not worried about collecting them. I can resale them 10 years from now and probably they're going to cost more. I love them all, I have an special connection with each one of them. Also, I think about my future, I'm going to have a lot time when I get retired. Peace and love ❤✌ Namaste.
Yes 👍…enjoy those decks! You know, I’m pretty much retired and I still don’t t have enough time to do all the things I want to do! I think it’s due to bad time management 😆!
I agree, but sometimes the boundaries can be blurred when you might have a bit of information that may benefit someone. But yes…draw another line in the sand!
I think if others want to be tarot and oracle deck collectors is totally fine! The reason why people want to collect decks is really none of my business! If they aren't hurting anyone through deck collecting, then do it...you do you boo. BUT for myself I found deck collecting to be really toxic for MY life. It doesn't mean I think everyone who practices tarot should only have a small collection of decks. Over buying decks last year and into this year had a huge negative impact on me financially, spiritually, and within my relationship with my fiance. Sometimes, my bank account would overdraft so I could buy the hot new deck in the hopes that it would fill this void of emptiness I felt at the time. Hitting that buy button was a shot of dopamine to my brain and then I would get another rush of happiness when the deck would arrive at my house. Most of the time, I would only use the deck once, put it away, and repeat the process. I'm at the point where I just can't do that anymore. So I did a massive cull of decks that don't serve me and want to dive deep with each and every deck that I own. I want to really USE tarot for it's intended purpose, instead of spending that time searching for the new and shiny thing.
That is absolutely wonderful that you found a way to be more mindful about your practice! Sometimes we have to bottom out to realize changes have to be made. The struggle is hard, but if it leads to a better place…it’s worth the lesson 🥰.
A. This is deeply tied into The Devil card about addictive behaviors and breaking unhealthy patterns. B. I love the pattern of your shirt. C. For your deep shadow work you’re doing about your past, I highly recommend The Symbolon Deck. It’s kind of like tarot but not really and it’s not an oracle. It really brings up stuff from your past and current day that clarifies a lot. However, it has a mix of Christian and Greek mythology images, so with your past it might be triggering. Let me know if you’re interested and I’ll give you the link to the video that explains it fully and that convinced me it’d play an important role in my shadow work.
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 I assumed it was something you made since in the video you talked about making most of your clothes now. Bonus you get to choose the exact pattern you'd like. Here's the link: th-cam.com/video/VhtYWLWiDk8/w-d-xo.html
Your channel was recommended to me. I'm totally new. I read tarot cards but it has been a bit! I gotta get back into it! But I'm an adopter to spirits that are attached to vessels. Positive spirits only. Idk why this channel was recommended.. I'm a mainly a gamer on mine and hang with others on YT who are mainly gamers... Must be a reason. Weird. Totally weird. I'm going to watch this whole vid now. 💛
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 they are gorgeous. I was wondering where you found opals that size. Of course from there I went down the road of assumption and I KNEW they were family heirlooms🤣😊
I loved this! I had so many comments, I should have kept a journal. LOL But most of what I was thinking has already been posted by other viewers, so I will go random. It amuses me how we have some similar interests. I've started watching several channels about sewing even though I don't sew any more. One of my favorites is Lady Rebecca who recreates Victorian-era dresses and older periods. I just love the romance of those clothes, and I have learned so much about sewing in general that delights me. I enjoy watching content by ex-Mormons. It just makes me livid that so many people are STILL being taken in by that conman who just wanted sex with as many women as possible and to steal money. It's no difference in evil to me than the sociopath who created NXIVM. Ex-Mo's themselves are so much calmer about it. lol I am convinced the slashing rituals that used to be in the weddings are a left over from the threats sex perverts always make to frighten victims into never saying anything about what's going on. How am I the only person who sees that as a hold over? Or at least no one else has posited that, that I've seen. And having to be naked under a poncho to be "anointed" with oil in private places because that's "newly revealed" about what's required for weddings? Sweet baby Jesus, how is this still going on, how are mothers still sending their daughters into this vile creepiness. And having to pay to get into heaven. Yeah, right, that's how it REALLY would work. OMG. You did a lovely thoughtful brain dump. Sorry--eh, only sorta--that I went straight to rant. It just incenses me when good people are taken advantage of. Having their entire lives taken over is beyond the pale. Ah..... Deep breaths..... I do love having little packets of art and whimsy to enjoy, and I love watching other people talk about them. And I really love you and the kindness and intelligence and belly laughs you bring to all of us.
Oh, Dana! I loved your rant! The biggest growth in membership in the Mormon Church comes from within these days (babies being born into Mormon families). Since the start of Social Media growth in the Mormon church has significantly slowed down in recent years (hey…social media can be useful!). But yes, it truly is amazing that people still convert in this modern day! You know, if I ever did decide to do a paid subscription thing it would be targeted specifically 100% for former Mormons because existing ones can be the most vicious of attack dogs!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Oh, whew! I'm glad I didn't overwhelm you! I had a Mormon boss who would call me out for "lying" all the time, and I couldn't tell him off because of the work relationship. I'm still seething these decades later. The worst--or funniest, given enough time--was when I was so excited to have met a UCSF researcher who was on the team that found the cure for leprosy (Hansen's Disease). I had sort of a Mr. Monk reaction and said, Weren't you scared to work with that illness? And he said, absolutely beaming with happiness, OH, I've never met a tropical disease I didn't love! To this day, that is the most charming thing anyone has ever said to me about their work. lol So I told about meeting him to get to that punch line and I was told leprosy was incurable. I said I know it has been! That's what makes it so exciting! But he went on that he knew it was incurable because he had lived in Hawaii where the isolation hospitals for lepers were. Oh. Well. There's proof for you. lol WHY would I have made up that story? He just sucked so much joy out of existence, haughtily impugning my character. I'm sure people can keep him in check more easily now with the internet. And he really did try to be a good person. It just does a number on people to be raised to believe that they are the superior keepers of truth.
I like looking at decks but I got in a habit of buying a few decks because they were popular I this was in the beginning of my journey I have rehomed them I set a rule that before I buy a new deck I have to make sure I don't to rehome one or I watch say yes to the deck to check of questions it's hard to not have fomo though lots of great decks out there,ty for this video
I don't collect tarot and oracle because I need another tarot deck - I buy them because I love the artwork and it is like buying an artbook - there are worse addictions to have so maybe just enjoy what you have
I love this video!! Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts ... I was gifted my first deck (during shut down) I have always been spiritual and kind of witchy after all I was raised Catholic haha… so I thought to myself this would be a nice project to take my mind off the news and learn tarot reading! I was always intrigued by tarot cards so then I turned to youtube to learn how to used them and Oh my! I fell down that rabbit hole! … In no time I had over 60 decks!! now, however between tarot and Oracles Ive kept 21 decks after rehoming the ones that I didn't connect with. Funny thing is I'm not a really good reader LOL. But the artsy part of me fell in love with the art and I saw them as beautiful ATCs that sent messages to you… if you know what I mean?… It fascinates me the different interpretations of each artist/creator from that one traditional tarot deck! I love doing a spread and looking at them specially when I feel uninspired artistically and/or spiritually. I do agree with you 100% when you say any addiction can be dangerous if you're not careful or aware of what's going on inside you... "Do what makes you happy If you are not hurting anyone" that's my take! and yes you are responsible for "The Wandering Star" deck I just got hahaha take care sweetie!
Oh, no! I hope you’re enjoying the Wandering Star! I love what you said about viewing decks as ATC’s! I started experimenting with those during lockdown and started trading with my niece. I’m no artist, but it was really fun and I want to get back to it. Sometimes it is just fun to immerse yourself in the beautiful images even if you are not reading with them.
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Yes I just love that Deck it even has a special glass box hahaha... ATCs are so much fun I was trading with people around the world so exciting!! Just thinking your art is part someone else collection far away its amazing and collecting them even more... til pandemic hit and the cost and restrictions on international mail was so difficult but hopefully it will get better soon.
I have been rehoming decks when I buy one im not buying any in Sept or Oct minus Jamie's sawyers path I have 4 decks Im.buying this month and I'm done,I try to keep my deck stash to a certain number so I don't get overwhelmed
Yes, I’m eargerly awaiting Jamie’s Sawyer’s Path! I’ve missed out on that deck multiple times! And I think setting guideposts is a responsible thing to do!
I know this might sound dumb but where and how did you rehome your decks? I've asked a couple youtubers when they say that but they don't respond to that question, so I'm sure it must sound silly. But I have figured out what I want my collection to be for now and now have some decks I know I want to move on and I live in a rural area where there isn't much in way of used bookstores or anything, which would have been my first instinct. If you feel like sharing I'm all ears! Either way, have a blessed day
@@fourofcats5803 I hope its ok I answer @oldsoulmermaid,I have a store in my town that I can rehome decks to ( I just call it rehoming I can't think of the word I guess reselling they just give me store credit), or if I know someone else would like it there are fb groups
@@fourofcats5803 there are a number of tarot buy sell trade groups on Facebook which is how I've sold or traded a few. I gave a few to friends and donated a few to charity shops.
I agree. Tarot collecting is itself is not bad. The underlying problem is the person's behavior/habits (obsession over tarot decks, browsing for new tarot decks, spending time watching unboxing's), especially if a person is jeopardizing their financial/emotional/mental well-being like you said. An analogy: If someone spends all their time looking at clothes in a store and ends up buying way more clothes than they need, is it the store's fault for existing? Is it the clothes' fault for being at the store? Content creators shouldn't take the full blame for promoting decks or doing unboxing videos. Yes, invariably, tarot social media will encourage consumption, but It's up to an individual to exercise their self-control and not spend so much time looking/buying decks.
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 When I left xtianity, it took YEARS to get rid of conditioning--and that's nothing compared to the brainwashing BS of mormonism. Best to you on that journey!
I have no clue why you felt the need to answer this person. If she/he doesn't understand, don't watch. This is not aimed at you Bonnie. I am just tired to death of every person who feels the need to weigh in on another's possessions, collections, life. You buy what you want to, you make videos to share because you want to - it is NO ONE else's business. The passive/aggressive "I don't understand (why you have so many decks)" is the common starter with all these people. No one else needs to concern themselves with what you do. It pleases many people to watch your videos - great! If it "confuses" others - don't watch!! All the handwringing about the # of decks people have is BS. Turning it into a comment on their mental health (hoarding) is even bigger BS. Why doesn't everyone do their thing & if you don't "understand" someone else's decisions, who says you need to? Each to their own, people.
Deb, I guess I’m being influenced by these videos popping up in my feed! I am interested in trying to understand the point of views and perceptions of other, but yes, when it comes down to it, we shouldn’t shame anyone for the choices they make. Absolutely 🥰
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Bonnie, the subject is driving me nuts but this was not a rant aimed at your video, I hope you understand =) So many people butt in on other people's lives/collections. You are happy with what you have, clearly, or you wouldn't have them. That is the only thing that matters! PS - after listening to your explanation of the mormon money grubbing ways, I would not last 2 minutes there. I am an atheist, & whenever I hear stories of the awful things that happen in (all) religions it makes me more content where I am in that way. I am very happy that you got out of there & whatever you use your decks for is up to you.
Deb, I wish I had a choice. I was born into a Mormon home and my ancestors were members pretty close to the inception of the Mormon Church in the 1830’s. I didn’t get out until my 40’s. Guilt is a primary tool that many religions use as a mechanism for control. I grew up feeling guilty about numerous things. I wish I could turn it off like a switch 😆! As far as collecting and deck channels…I agree…we all should all be encouraged to do and participate in things we enjoy without guilt or shame. Life is too short 🥰
Ugh, religious trauma/brainwashing. Yours is Mormon, mine is Christian. Lots of similarities. Im still at the point where the regular rws makes me uncomfortable at times.
It’s hard! I didn’t get out until my 40’s, so there is a lot implanted. I need a brain exorcism! Yes, the overtly religious imagery is hard, but I try to appreciate it from a historical standpoint…like the architecture of an old beautiful church. It sometimes helps 😉
For me I didnt suffer mental anguish until the tarot shaming started. THEN I'm thinking " You have too many decks. Why do you do that." Well it makes me happy.
I've only watched the first 6 minutes so far, but I have to make a comment now because of the red flags that have been jumping up as I've listened concerning this person "who makes no judgment" making critical (judgmental) comments about your "purpose" for this channel and for your collection. Whether or not you have a goal or a purpose, why in the world would you actually NEED one? The journey itself is important and enriching, so who really cares if it all ends up going nowhere when it has so much value in and of itself? (Though I don't actually believe it's going nowhere.) I also don't understand why people are feeling guilty about their tarot (or other) collections to the point where they feel obligated to get rid of decks or choose between two decks they love. Sure, it's not that people can't get rid of or re-home decks or other things if they really don't want them, but I've been sensing a lot of pressure and guilt in the community in general that people really need to get rid of decks they aren't using. Well do people go around their homes and regularly get rid of other artwork that they don't pull off the wall and "play" with once a day, week, month, etc.? NO! If you enjoy having it no matter if it only sits on a shelf looking pretty, then great. I see some really nice things on your channel, but nothing forces me to run out and buy them or not buy them. That's still my decision, and I appreciate you and others on TH-cam for bringing various things to my attention that I didn't know, even if I end up doing nothing with it because a deck isn't really my style or whatever. Everyone is on a different part of their spiritual journey and I doubt that anyone has reached an "end goal" in which they've stopped learning or growing, so if others don't like where you are and want to passive-aggressively "sea lion" you or criticize you in some way, then they just need to suck it up and get over it or even unsubscribe from a channel if it's not for them. You're not obligated to wear some sort of false mask because they have their own issues they need to deal with and are using you as a scapegoat. Not everyone needs to be a (tarot) minimalist and certainly not out of guilt or some other negative reason. In any case, I appreciate what you do, in case I don't feel a "need" to make another comment later as I watch more of the video. :)
Rebecca…thank you for this 🙏! You perfectly expressed my feelings on the subject…on a good day. Unfortunately, much like the viewer who might feel triggered by a certain video when they are iin a vulnerable moment, I feel guilty about the content I put out depending on the day, the mood or whatever else might be going on at the time. I think I need to learn how to put the blinders on, keep my head down and just do my own thing without letting the chatter get too loud. I haven’t learned how to do that yet 🥰
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 I agree it can be really difficult! It might help to think how your channel would be if you just listened to all of those guilty feelings from day to day when you're having those days and this person or that person has pushed a button. You would probably never get any videos out at all and then all the rest of us would be very sad. :)
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I've been reading tarot since 2004 and I can say that tarot deck over consumption is not down to just social media. I was buying decks like crazy in the Noughts trying to find 'The One' long before I used TH-cam.
The TarotTube community acts as a force amplifier, magnifying innate addictive tendencies. Since 2016 I have observed that deck unboxing videos have just exploded.
I read tarot professionally and really you only need one deck. Mine is the RWS and I just stopped buying decks when I realised that's it.
You find your deck by focusing on your reading, not buying decks. Practice your readings intensively with your favourite decks. Stick with them. And unsubscribe from tarot TH-cam channels.
I agree with you 100% that you only really need one deck that you connect with to read. Having multiple decks is not needed to become a great tarot reader. But…decks can also be enjoyed for the beauty of the art. I have a few decks that I can’t really read with but I enjoy having them just the same because looking at them calms me and brings me joy! I think it is a great thing that talented artists now have another medium to share their art but…as with everything in life…there can be too much of a good thing. But that’s a line everyone must draw for themselves 😁
This was an excellent video!
Now that my TH-cam Channel is growing, with consumerism very high, deck reveals and walk-throughs seem to be the channels that Tarot-Tubers consume.
I was wondering why my Subscriber count was suddenly increasing. In my head I thought, "I'm just showing the decks that I have." That quickly escalated to people telling me how they like how I describe and market decks...
...this lead me to buying more decks so that I can market and describe more! This completely destroyed my spiritual life and focus in Tarot itself! I had to take a step back. That's why my videos are divided into "My current" collection and my "Decluttered" collection to let my viewers know I'm not a serial deck collector. It was headed in that direction.
Thank you for allowing me to reevaluate my journey and what kind of direction I want my channel to become. Once I'm done reviewing the decks I have left to show, I'm changing course!
Thank you, thank you for this helpful video!
PS: your voice is so soothing to listen to 🤗🤗🤍
Personally I think unboxing videos help me to NOT over consume decks because I can narrow it down to the one I REALLY want by comparing the videos. Admittedly I have myself on a 1 deck a month limit though, so yes I was starting to develop a little problem.
(I loved the clothes sewing idea to combat over wardrobe consumption💡!!)
Realized after I typed that that you said this at the end lol
I find them very helpful too! And I think budgets and setting limits is great. Moderation in all things, right? Oh…and Sewing is also a meditative activity…I made the dress I’m wearing in the video 😉
I completely agree with you. If I see a deck, I think I like, I look @ reviews, then try to wait at least 14d prior to purchasing. I've changed my mind on many a deck.
I love this. That bit where you looked at the screen and said that you'll not get better by buying new pencils... you get better by practicing. Lol! Absolutely. I've been feeling recently that I was a better reader when I only had 5 decks. But that's not because I have more decks. It's because I'm not reading as much. And that's for many reasons and these things ebb and flow. I enjoy watching videos with decks I am never going to buy. 90% of the time I don't fancy them at all. But I started my channel to share this interest with others. To talk about things I'm excited about with other people who are too. Sometimes it leads to other people purchasing, but that's not really the intent. And I think you are similar. You're sharing, not promoting. I'm sitting here watching this practicing my riffle shuffling... which I learned how to do from a TH-cam video. Lol! Enjoyed your rambling. :)
Yes! You got it exactly right! I started because I wanted to share a new found passion/interest and don’t have anyone in my circle who has the same interest (though, my husband is very supportive). Oh…and I’m going to practice with my kiddie pencils and use them up before I purchase any new ones 😆!
Say this! My spiritual teacher has talked with me about a 'potato chip ' lifestyle. Social Media is my potato chip. Sometimes I feel I have no time for studying or reading but I may watch 3 hours TH-cam...30 minute videos at a time...bag of Social Media chips.
Yes!!! That is exactly right! I personally find Instagram overwhelming and energy and time sapping!
Fantastic video. I realize I had a bit of FOMO, some need fatigue, some spontaneous purchases that left me feeling empty. I definitely took about 3 weeks off of social media to reset my mind. Even my husband was saying that I needed to address why I felt the need to buy decks so often. He asked if I enjoyed the ones I had. I quickly became defensive, but knew i needed to do that reset to truly examine it. So thank you for thinking out loud about our consumption, attention, triggers for purchases, and desires that can be generated on social media. I love your content, I love your musings, and I truly appreciate your encouragement for practicing self-care. It is so needed right now.
I loved that your husband asked you some very practical questions in a non-judgmental way. Sometimes we need that external voice of reason to help keep us in check in vulnerable times. Yes, sometimes the best thing we can do for self care is to just shut off the devices for a time. Thank you for watching!
Such a reasonable position. Thank you for sharing! I think every person is obliged to look at their own practice and see what is best for them. If social media isn't helping - get off. If social media is just some fun, and your consumption is under control, it can be a good way to engage in comunity and with any subject you might like. Same for decks. One must be mindfull (as hard as it may be). TH-camrs can't and shouldn't be held responsible for other people's consumption. Still, I have struggled with this issue, and hearing and talking about it helps a lot to reach that balance!
Like most thing in life, there is a flip side to everything and that’s definitely true with social media. The sage old advice of moderation is so important here! I know…sometimes easier said than done!
Loved your thumbnail, your intro . . . this entire video! I had no idea about tithing in the Mormon religion and how far they take it. Oye 😓 I never thought of your content as anything other than sharing what you love and are exploring, being newer to tarot. Your joy brings me joy! As you said, we as content creators need to trust that we're dealing with grown adults capable of thinking for themselves and making their own decisions. So you keep doing you, Bonnie, sharing however much or little you want that makes you feel safe in YOUR space here on YT. 💜
Thank you, Juli ☺️! I had fun creating that Intro. Once in a while the spark ⚡️ of inspiration and creativity hits! Yeah…the Mormon Church is very wealthy and has their hands in lots of cookie jars. When we bought one of our houses in Southern California we were surprised to learn that the Mormon church owned the mineral right to our property! So, if we had happen to strike oil or something in our backyard…it would belong to them!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. If I wasn’t already subscribed, this video would have prompted me to do so. Being able to watch tarot content and unboxings of all kinds has certainly fed my interest and love of tarot but it also has actually helped me to be more discerning about what to bring into my collection which I very much appreciate. It is also fun and interesting to see how others use their decks even if I don’t feel the need to have some of them. So again thank you for sharing….
Oh, thank you 🙏! As I stated, I personally love watching these videos, but what is fun for one person can be triggering for another. There is absolutely no one-size- fits-all life path.
That was a wonderful video thank you for sharing your thoughts I agree with a lot of what you said. I think for me the biggest lesson I have taken into consideration when adding decks to my collection is thinking about do I want this new tarot deck to fix a deeper problem or situation I have ( in which case let’s be honest it never really does the trick) or is it because I believe it would bring me something of value( enjoyment, learning something new about a specific theme etc). Also I look at my collection as a library more than a collection & i always thought nobody would go to someone’s house and say you have too many books so why would I feel guilty about having decks that I can re read many many many times over 😊 so no guilt for me either. So agree with what you said about spirituality being internal and no objects or trends will help us connect deeper with ourselves. Whenever I have felt the need to go out of my way to search for new tarot decks to buy has been usually in times when I was disconnecting from my spiritual practice and inner self compared to times when I have bought a deck because I encountered it as a “surprise” either watching others videos for entertainment purposes or just finding one in the bookshop and it brings me joy or value etc that way. I don’t know if that makes sense 🙃 anyway thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciated you inviting balance in the discussion and not polarising 😊😊
Oh, yes! I like how you view your decks as a library rather than a collection! You are absolutely correct when you said that people are not critiqued harshly about their large book collections. It’s natural to applaud this because it implies that the person is a heavy reader and obviously in a very active pursuit of knowledge, right? From here on in I will refer to my decks as my “deck library”. Thank you 🙏!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Thanks Bonnie. In French we usually call our " collections" tarothèques ( like bibliothèque which is library but for tarot lol) so that always made more sense to me and like you say it refers to search of knowledge and personal inquiry + it's still all about reading so that gives less pressure I think around numbers etc :) have a lovely day :)
Thank you so much for this. It’s been on my mind lately and causing me so much recent grief and guilt. I’ve practiced tarot for over half my life and used only 1 deck for most of those years. 2020 happened and the mixture of collective trauma + being introduced to so many beautiful decks via Tarot Tube and IG have definitely triggered it and I’ve spent a ridiculous, unfathomable amount of money on decks in this past year and a half - with still more on my wish list! I want to have a collection because I love the art, but I have seen what was once a full spiritual practice become more empty and shallow over time. Now I’m working to declutter and keep the collection truly special and unique to my interests rather than what is cool. I really appreciate your words and I completely agree!! 🙏🏻💛
Thank you so much for watching! Have you seen Katy Flowers new series on her channel “to keep or cull”. In that series she works with a deck for about a month before she decides to keep it or to rehome it. It’s a very mindful approach. She only has 2 episodes up so far because of the process, but it’s wonderful!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 I love that idea!! Will need to check out the series and try it out!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 I have followed Katy Flowers for many, many years and I love how she works with her decks and how she uses her channel. I also love "Daily Tarot Girl" how she learns out how to read tarot decks and work with the intuition. 🙏✨💖
I really appreciated this video! I’m always struggling with consumerism for short-thrills and finding decks and other things that fulfill me and my needs to help grow my (new) reading business
Oh, it is a tricky thing to navigate that’s for sure. I think the key thing is too check in with oneself to make sure one is in a good headspace 😉
TOTALLY agree with you about many points you made. I too found myself feeling drained by being addicted to youtube and all the video's that I watch makes me want to go out and buy decks, perfume and other things. It sounds like most of our addictions are the same. lol I am trying to reduce my time online and just letting myself hear my spiritual voice again. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for sharing. I’ve been trying to figure out what bugged me with Patreon and you nailed it. It feels like your buying yourself into the cool club/table instead of just supporting the people.
I just love this message. I think I need to get off social media for awhile because I’m going through some personal things right now.
Echo, I think there are good reasons for doing it like creating a safe space to share delve into touchy subjects, but there are other ways you can support your favorite TH-cam-er…like watching at least one ad on a video (if they have ads) or watching as much of a video as you can. Commenting and liking a video is also great! All these things help your favorite TH-cam with the algorithm and helps their video generate more income by pushing their videos out to more people and it doesn’t cost the viewer any money. In a nutshell, the name of the game for TH-cam is that they want to keep you on TH-cam as long as possible and they reward those who create content that people watch to the end of the video. I’ve just spent some time off of Instagram and it has been great! But…it’s not so good if you are trying to build a channel 😆.
Bonnie! I love this video. You’re so honest and tough love and supportive. It feels very authentic and lovely. I think it’s a great addition to the other videos popping up now around this topic. I would love to see some reviews of decks you’ve worked with! I always love to hear how a deck actually works in readings for people. And yes to everything you said about social media. If I ever felt like I needed to stop purchasing tarot decks I would definitely have to get off social media to break that cycle.
I will definitely do more “After the unboxing…” videos and others that utilize my decks! Part of what stops me is some serious imposter syndrome 😆!
I really enjoyed hearing your thoughts and appreciate your honesty! I'm still new to tarot and the whole deck buying situation definitely got out of hand especially last year. These last few months I've slowed down on deck purchasing and I'm pretty happy with what I have, this collection will keep me busy and give me joy for many years to come :). I for one would be really interested to watch deep dive videos on decks you've worked with!
Thank you 🙏! I do plan to do a deep dive with a particular deck soon!
You’re not alone 🙈 (obviously)! Just know that
Thank you 🙏!
I thoroughly enjoy seeing your collections videos, especially when you suggested mass market vs indie collections. 100% agree, responsibility has to be with each of us, we all have a different budget to work too and different stages of life that affect it. I fund all my stuff too, so they are considered prior to buying. I love the tarot diversity available out there and enjoy using them and adding to my own library of decks. They all add flavour or an extra layer to our knowledge. So many great points, thank you Bonnie 😊💜
Thank you 🙏! I hesitated before I posted this because I thought “We all know this stuff, right?” But then because of all the videos that popped up in my feed got me thinking about this again.
Hello, lovely Bonnie. As long as you are enjoying yourself, I am having fun. I hope your collection brings you joy - - big collection or small or something in between. .
As far as you sharing personal things, I would only want you to share what you choose to.
I support you unconditionally and I appreciate you and your content very much. You have brought a lot of reflection into my Tarot life. So thank you!
Laura…I’m giving you a big virtual hug 🤗🥰❤️❤️
Bonnie, I can understand using Tarot as a gateway. I am looking for a new path myself. I was raised Methodist, but they broke my heart when they would not support my marriage to my wife. The pastor actually did! But the church as a whole did not, and I can’t go back. Maybe I turned to tarot to find another way. ❤️ much love as your continue your journey and exploration of all the beautiful things out there, including those beautiful decks.
That’s horrible! What I can never understand about Christianity is that Jesus taught absolute love and acceptance, yet these churches have exclusionary practices. I married a non-Mormon and I received a lot of flack from my family. I ended up eloping with my husband and didn’t talk to my family for 2 years. My husband ended up joining the Church and everything was fine, until years later we both left and took our children out of it. I was lucky that my parents did t flat out disown me, but I could feel their profound disappointment in me. After experiences such as these, is it any wonder that so many are being driven away fro Christianity to find a path that includes more love and acceptance? I do believe that tarot can be the gateway to another path, even if they do not remain a permanent part of your journey or practice. Just keep searching! I do have faith that the perseverance will result in some profound enlightenment 🥰🤗.
Many Methodist pastors are more progressive than their congregations on this issue and others. It can be very frustrating (and heartbreaking) for pastors as well. I love the Wesleyan emphasis on God's grace and believe that the very positive aspects of Methodist theology get drowned out amidst the politics. Religious fundamentalism in general seems to be about putting the (oftentimes horrible) traditions of "men" above God, which is something that Jesus himself warned about. Grace and peace to you and your wife.
@@rebeccachapman1231 Thank you! I believe that so many pastors are lovely, but just bound by rules I (and probably they) can’t comprehend. We were married by my Methodist pastor and two Unitarian ministers as well. It was a beautiful service. ❤️ Much love through time and space to you!
I haven't gotten into tarot readings yet but I definitely can understand your point of view. there is something so exciting about getting something new and seeing the new designs and colors but also something nice about having the same deck that is used with love over a long time,
Blessings to everyone, you are exactly where you need to be 💠🙏💖
Oh, yes! There is something absolutely lovely about someone using a much loved and much used deck! You can see an actual relationship between the deck and it’s owner…beautiful 😍
This has been one of the best video's on TAROT & the examination that I have ever seen. I absolutely loved this video and advice. You have done a lot of good gurl.😉👏👍🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹
Thank you!
Hello, thank you for sharing your experience as a mormon. Addiction can take many forms & taking responsibility & being mindful with our purchases is important to me. I will probably do a video on this topic.
Absolutely agree! Let me know when you post your video!
More praise (I wrote my first comment when I was 1/2 way through) - I just love your humility (telling triggered people to unsub) and honesty. I have binged in decks during the pandemic and I don't either see that as a bad thing (better way of coping than many other things I could have done) or as something to feel guilty about. I do have a space limit, and i'm feeling the urge now to cull because I'm feeling my age (56) and feeling how I don't want to have so many decks that I simply don't have time to study properly. Therefore this weekend I'm handing over a big bag of decks to a friend who will take them to a hospice charity shop. Will I buy more decks though? Probably! Will I feel guilty about it? No :-D :-D -D
Oh, I love this! Yes, purchasing tarot decks is better than drinking for coping with a pandemic 😆!
I never comment on videos/feel compelled to, but I just wanted to take a moment to say that I think you’re amazing and I appreciate the heck out of ya :-) you are clearly a very altruistic/authentic individual (which i think is rarity nowadays) and just want to thank you for being ‘you’, for sharing, for your honesty, and for your vulnerability. You’re a beautiful person ❤️
Thank you 🙏 so much for your kind words! I really appreciate them. I’ve been contemplating ending my channel for a few months now and very recently I just saw a video on a much bigger channel make fun of unboxing channels. It was so well done that it stung and made me feel ridiculous. I haven’t been able to continue work on a video I was working on after seeing this video. So, than you again for your kindness 🥰
Thank you so much for sharing! I created a new page and group, @mindfulspiritualconsumerism for the issue of overconsumption when it's from a negative place. Everyone's path is different, and we should never judge each other. Collecting out of happiness is one thing, and collecting out of sadness is another. There's so much to explore with this topic-I'm so happy that so many creators are starting to talk about this!! 🖤🖤🖤
Yes! I love how you put it. It really does depend on the state of mind you are in when you are consuming!
Thank you for making this video! I am new to tarot and I have switched my clothes/makeup consumption to tarot/oracles cards. Simply because I am a compulsive buyer. I even bought fake cards because I can't spend a lot of money on the real deal. That has messed with my head because I am naturally inclined to support the creator of the deck. I know that I need to change my buying habits and actually spend time with the cards that I currently have.
Much love and light to you!!!
Ah, yes…it it all to common to replace one addictive behavior with another. It’s all part of being human. Life is a constant work-in-progress and sometimes we succeed and find balance and then sometimes we falter. Don’t beat yourself up about it, just keep trying to find that sweet spot for you 🥰!
Omg the opening of this video is wonderful. Down the rabbit hole indeed. I can't wait to watch this. Commenting after 30 seconds. 😂👍
😆😆😆. It doesn’t happen very often, but sometimes the spark ⚡️ of creativity strikes!
Thank you for this video 🤍 I came across it when specifically looking for a tarot deck that has a good representation of older people. Instead I gratefully received sound life advice from an elder🌟 what a gift 🎁
A much needed conversation to be had with ourselves and reflect well on our individual situations. We live in a very consumerist world and it inevitably can cloud our judgement, great video Bonnie!
Thank, you Debbie! Whatever use our decks have in our lives they should be enjoyed! If we use them to read for ourselves or others …great! If we just want to collect them…great. There is room for everyone’s practice, mode of use, or channel. Just make share you take ownership of your own well being.
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 ❤ I wholeheartedly agree :)
I really appreciate your channel. I am a compulsive shopper, mostly purchasing tarot decks and planner supplies.I do not find your channel triggering at all. Rather, I tend to find appreciation for decks that I already have.The channels that trigger me are related to planner supplies. I have crossed the line financially and in regards to my personal space.I am drawing a new line, thanks to this video.
Oh, those planner supplies, Kristina! Another rabbit 🐇 hole 🕳 to fall into! I almost did, but stopped myself. Setting boundaries and limits and budgets really do help!
So much food for thought! I especially loved the advice to disengage with social media when needed. Thank you, Bonnie!
You should have seen the original unedited version of this video…over 2 hours😆! I just wish I had all the answers or better answered and wisdom to impart.
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Awee 💗 I think it was perfect. We always remember the feeling and intent you impart and that was the utmost transparency and authenticity. 💗🌸💗
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I asked my boyfriend how many games he’s bought and downloaded and he said maybe around 40..., I said, okay, well I have more decks than that. Then I asked how much he spends on each one and he said around $20-$40 or can be less... I said, okay well my decks are around that or more.
I told my boyfriend that I have a hobby and passion too but it’s not for video games. The difference is he can see mine whereas his is neatly tucked in his computer. The excessive use of these tools (tarot and gaming) can be linked to addiction if purchasing and using disrupt your life in a negative way (lose job, lose family, debt, etc) but otherwise this is no difference than the hundreds or thousands of dollars that people dump in beautifying and maintaining a garden, or spoiling their kids and grandkids, or crafting, sewing, scrapbooking, etc. So I don’t feel bad about my decks. In the least, to me, it’s like a magazine full of artwork I get to enjoy and discover time and time again. People are so simple- and narrow- minded sometimes.
And also what I was thinking too... tides. People dump money in tides to feel a part of a community. Tarot is a personal solo practice for me and once I have my cards it becomes free and unlimited in using them. So I prefer listening to videos like this and being part of a more “quiet” community. No one gives men and some women crap for buying an expensive car or boat or a second/vacation home. To each their own.
Yes, definitely…just pick your poison! I think there is a bit more of a stigma for the purchasing of decks and other spiritual tools because these items are suppose to be used for spiritual purposes, but some people like to collect these items just for the sake of collecting and that’s ok. Not everyone views a tarot deck as a spiritual tool.
Another thing to consider is the resale value of a deck. The downloaded games and even hard copy you are likely not able to sell those. Decks can even go up in value, so I see mine as very good investments and can sell them anytime I want or need. Btw my hubby has tons of games and manga, so thankfully he doesn't judge!! lol ^^
That is so true, especially when it comes to indie decks! Oh…and my husband collects vinyl…right now 😉!
Yes and the amount someone spends on decks might be less than what someone spends on boozing in pubs, gym memberships and sports activities
Thank you Bonnie ! I just love how you did put up everything. I am 50 years old so social media was not a thing when I was young. I still don't have a cell phone and no Instagram or tik tok ! But I enjoy seeing happy people (unboxings are fun!!!) I am responsible of my purchase and like you I do have a monthly budget that now is big enough that I do not even spend it all in the same month. I did learn. And by the way Faber Castel student are my fave pencils even if I have the big Prisma set ... so save your money ! Again thank you for sharing so much I enjoy your channel !
Thank you! I find Instagram so overwhelming…I’m horrible at it! I haven’t closed my Facebook, but I haven’t been on it for 2 years. As a Gen X’er, I’m grateful that I was able to grow up in a time without social media. There were only fashion magazines to create FOMO!
This was such a great video….thank you for sharing so much of your journey with us and how it impacts the way you approach this topic. Sending you much love Bonnie! 💖💖💖
Thank you so much, Sarah 🥰!
Thank you for this video, Bonnie. I love watching your channel, I enjoy each and every one of your videos. I’m not at all triggered by your content, in fact, I watch your videos because they relax me. Your voice, your choice of music, and the decks are all soothing for me.
And I don’t think collecting is necessarily a bad thing. As someone with autism, collecting actually gives me a sense of control and relief, especially now with this (seemingly) never-ending pandemic.
Tarot and oracle decks aren’t the only things I collect. I used to collect rocks and sea glass as a child which has then evolved into crystals. I’ve always collected books, and figurines too.
I feel like if someone has an issue with your content, it’s something they have to look inside themselves too. Why are they feeling triggered? You’re not stepping on anyone’s toes by posting your videos. You’re just sharing and doing what you love, and my good friend, Phoebe and I, we truly enjoy every single one of your videos. We talk about them often actually!
Agree! Our spiritual path and practice is v individualistic, and what works for you may not work for others. You do you and what you love, Bonnie! You don’t need to “defend” your life/spiritual choices to other people. It’s simply none of their business. Kelly and I support you. 🤍🤍🤍
Aww…this warms my heart! You know, I have a 15-year-old niece who is autistic and I gave her the Kuwaiti Tarot a year ago (with her mother’s permission of course) and we have fun doing reading exchanges. I’ve learned so much from her and her unique perspective with the cards! I love creating deck videos because it’s sort of a creative outlet for me and a way to share and connect, but I do want to try to diversify my content. Thank you for putting up with the long ramble!
Thank you, Phoebe! You are absolutely right that spirituality is not a one-size-fits-all and is seldom straight and narrow 🥰
This video came out at the perfect time for me. I replaced emotional eating with tarot consumption.
Yes…it’s unfortunate that it’s pretty common that we as humans often replace one addictive behavior with another. Moderation in all things sounds so cliché, but it is the cornerstone to all happiness and well-being. That’s why it’s so hard to achieve 😆! Congratulations on conquering your emotional eating! Life is a constant work-in-progress.
Love this Video! All excellent points and advice. I will tell you, I enjoy all your videos and they have always been helpful, a great guide for considering purchases. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Bonnie.
Thank you ☺️. I hope my videos are seen from a point of sharing and not promoting…if that makes sense.
Beautiful video and message!
Thank you so much ☺️
Thank you, this helped me to go out of youtube for a week, now we will see how it goes~
You got this! You know, I have drastically reduced my deck consumption over the last 7 months by banning Kickstarter and looking at unboxing videos. Even if it’s only for a short time, you’ll save some money and you’ll use and love what you already have. 😉
I really enjoy your content Bonnie, and was excited to learn that you are also coming from a post-Mormon background! I also found tarot shortly after distancing myself from the Mormon church (a couple of years ago, in my mid 30s) and have been exploring oracle/tarot ever since (i.e. obsessing over it, lol) for much the same reasons as you describe here. There's a lot of conditioning to undo around leaders "speaking for God" definitively telling us "what spirituality is", and cards have been a great tool for me in doing that work of deconstruction. (Looking for imagery of the Divine Feminine, almost entirely absent in Mormon theology and art, is what led me to goddess oracles, and from there to the whole world of reading and collecting decks.) It may interest you to know that I was recently at a "feminist mormon girls camp" where several women brought decks and one of the optional activities was a tarot tutorial. ;) So I think there's a connection there, particularly taking back our spiritual authority as women (did you know the official church handbook discourages/bans oracle cards as a "priesthood counterfeit" -yuck!), but maybe it's also something about how Mormonism trains us to look for messages from the Divine (? this is a working theory, haha). I also totally relate with what you said about being turned-off by all things reminiscent of tithing or "pay to play/belong."
I really enjoy my growing collection also and have been amazed by how visual art can provide such a powerful tool/practice in connecting to spirit and can lead to such profound emotions and insights. (Art is not really something that's emphasized in Mormonism; it's much more about reading your scriptures constantly, listening and re-listening to talks by the leaders, etc...and, this is a tangent, but what variety there was in religious art has recently been limited to a list of only 30 or so approved paintings that can be displayed in LDS chapels!) Anyway, I limit myself to a new deck each month (for more expensive decks, only one every 2 months), and I'll probably need to slow down (or start rehoming decks) in the future because of running out of space and also overwhelm, but I don't think I'm to that point yet. I do spend a lot of time deciding on which deck to purchase each month, watching walk-throughs, honing my wishlist, etc., and it's good in that I'm more mindfully building my collection, but it's not good in that it's taking up lots of time I'd rather spend on other things (like working with the decks I already have, among many other things, haha). I enjoy the content, I just need some kind of time limit for myself. I do enjoy reviews about the experience of working with a deck, as that provides really important information beyond the unboxing and helps with decision making. I'm excited to continue following your exploration into tarot and spirituality. Thanks!
Laurie! It’s so good to hear from someone who knows! Yes, I did know about what the handbook said about Oracle cards…my dad was a Stake President who took away the astrology book I had brought into the house as a teen. I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall at that Mormon feminist camp! My youngest son was only in elementary school when we stopped attending services, so he escaped complete indoctrination, and he made the observation that all the LDS kids are lacking the technicolor world view. The more enlightened ones may see some shades of gray, but it always tickled him at how narrow their thinking was. He feels sorry for them. I wish I could feel that kindly towards the Mormons. I have some unresolved feelings of hate towards some of the leaders I had to deal with and I don’t t like carrying that with me. I have lots of shadow work to do! As far as the decks, if there is something that’s keeping you from enjoying them, then it’s time to examine why. These decks should be enjoyed however you use them or why you have them and not be a source of internal and external contention. Thank you so much for sharing!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Boy do I hear you on the shadow work! One of my first spreads ever was a "rose spread" and the Morgan Greer King of Swords came up in the "thorn" position, and it was like every male priesthood leader I'd ever had or heard speak with "God's absolute authority." So much anger and, yes, hatred for the patriarchal system that often doesn't seem to care whom it hurts because it is so certain of its own "rightness," and also for the people in that system who are often so lacking in self-awareness of their own privilege (e.g., male, white, cis, straight, neurotypical, married, fertile, non-questioning/non-skeptical, etc. etc.). I recently drew the Hierophant in a "what I feel" position, and it was disturbing that I almost felt like I missed those voices telling me, "just do x, y, z and you will be happy and whole"...except that promise was a lie and was keeping me from ever fully owning myself and my life. Speaking of a "black and white" worldview, yes, there's a reason that movie "Pleasantville", where the people finally start seeing in technicolor, appeals to so many who have left! That's a great point about the cards; I want to give myself permission to just enjoy them/handle them, even if I don't "use" them often (maybe another relic from Mormonism's thrifty-ness/need to justify every purchase). I think also giving myself permission to do more one-card pulls would be good (spreads are often a lot for my very ADHD brain to work through)
Loved your video so so much, your an inspiration! So honest an down to earth ❤️🌞
Oh, thank you 🙏, Kattie.
You really opened my eyes to a lot of things that I never even thought of. Of course we all have things we like and it unfortunately ends up costing money. Tarot is no difference and I shouldn’t feel guilty having my collection. Thanks you for another great video, you are always so kind… l&l 💖♊️🖤
Thank you 🙏! I hesitated posting this and my original video before edits was over 2 hours😆. Our society is a complicated one and a life path is not a one-size-fits-all. There is room for every path ☺️
Oh shoot, I wish I could have seen the 2 hour one, 🤣.
Agreed! Do NOT feel guilty over your collection size. I don't. It doesn't effect anyone else so enjoy the collecting journey!!!
Congratulations on your continued journey! Your advice is spot on and practical. I thought you were about 34, not 54! 👍
Oh, wow 🤩, thank you! You just made my day!
I think you share what feels good to share, meaning it isn't a forced conversation. I enjoy hearing your journey - where you came from to where you are now, but that doesn't mean I need to know all the details or have you bare your soul for me to subscribe and invest in watching your content. I find your content enjoyable regardless of you saying or thinking it is all over the place. Life is like that, right? It doesn't move in a straight light. If it feels good then record it. If it makes you hesitate then pass for now. :) As far as decks, too many, etc...meh, you do you. If you feel you have too many then you have too many and you cut down. If you feel you want a deck or two or three *shrug* then buy what you want and can afford. What someone says about my collection makes zero difference to how I feel about my collection. Generally speaking triggers and critique is on the person being triggered. You cannot tailor every video to what may or may not trigger someone watching. That being said you seem to be pretty aware and that is about all you can be. Nice brain dump and thank you for sharing your thoughts. (I saw Papa Squirrels video the moment he posted it. It is raw and touching and so very real. I admire his vulnerable moments he shares.)
I love your perspective! Do you happen to be a Libra? My husband is and your response sounded a lot like something he would say! I really find setting boundaries for social media content tricky to navigate. And you’re right, the life path is seldom straight and narrow. Thank you for watching!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Taurus to the core :) And I couldn't agree with you more.
You are so so right ❤
First of all a big hug. That mormoon stuff 😢 heavy.
I have an addictive personality and I so so understand. I quit smoking almost 2 years ago. After that I was obsessed with cristals. I went all the way. Really stupidly to much. After that tarot 🤔. I love tarot. The art. But the strugle is so real. I tried a no buy 😂😂😂 that didn’t last long 😂. I know i know. I feel sometimes out of control. For the moment its moderation. I try to really keep busy with what I have. And make some rules. Collage decks are a real trigger for me 😢. Pffff addiction is a strange thing. I still love it the Tarot. I hope deepdives will be my rescue. Thank you for this.
Take care ❤
Congratulations on quitting smoking! That accomplishment proves you are very strong 💪🏻. It is very hard to pass up a tarot deck. They are pocket sized masterpieces 😉. I’ve stopped looking at kickstarter and unboxing videos and that has helped tremendously.
I think I will do the same. All the unboxing and reviews make me go insane 😀 i will unsubscribe a lot and only keep the ones who took about tarot
Yes! I mainly watch tarot channels that teach and/or talk about experiences working with tarot.
Feeling impowered now to break the habbit of bingwatching collections 💪. Thank you. 🙏🏻. Learning is priority now. That and exercising
I love you Bonnie! I have loved watching and listening to you from the very beginning of your TH-cam journey xx
Michelle, I love you too! I can’t believe I’m just seeing this comment now! I try to answer all of my comments, but sometimes I think TH-cam hides some of them and then I get a dump of unanswered comments at a later date!
PS. What you described about making a garment sounds like pure magic.
It is a very meditative process…until you hit a portion of the instructions you don’t understand or you make a boneheaded mistake you have to unpick 🙄. Happens every project for me!
Thank you. Great advice. I thought you handled this beautifully.
Thank you 😊
Why is the number of tarot decks someone has, anyone else's business? That's what confuses me❤
Yes, indeed! But this is Social Media, so everything is taken to the next level 😉
Agreed!!!!! Thank you! I just started the video so don't know what's said yet.
However as a collector, and not a reader (yet), I sometimes feel demonized by numerous TH-cam videos talking about collection size and it's getting old quick. I have ZERO social media accounts because I avoid that stuff like the plague. Do I NEED the decks I buy? Nope. Do I use them? Nope. Do I care? Nope. Do I have the disposable income and room to store them? Yep. I like to collect them. Big deal. Does it effect anyone else? No. Maybe it's an addiction and if it is so what. Better than a million other things to be addicted too. The holier than thou attitude of some people going on and on about how big collections are consumerism or whatever is annoying. You want a big collection just for collecting sake? Go nuts. You want a small, intimate collection of work horse decks? Very cool.
I don't even see why it's such a big topic.
@@tarottarantulas I think the anguish is coming from the COVID year. There was A LOT of buying in 2020 and the reckoning has come. I came to tarot in 2019. I have 40 decks. I've given away 5. There are 6 "in the mail" but I have now started pausing before I buy. Yesterday I bought a deck for $70. I'm not annoyed with myself about this deck but I am annoyed about the decks I gave away. Not the gifting.,.but the DUDs I bought because of FOMO. I think we Tarot Tube will move forward but you've come at a time of collective introspection. For me I have decided all decks must be rotated through. 52 decks is my personal max. I already know my decks will end of at the Goodwill when I die, although I told my stepdaughter to go through them because my collection is 😎 cool. 🤣
I just love your videos so much!
Thank you so much ☺️! You just made my day!
💖 LOVE 💖 this video so much!!! You so beautifully expressed feelings I've been feeling!! Thank you!!!
Thank you so much for watching this ramble 🥰!
Oh wow. I learned a lot. I also collect video games.. Shoes and boots.. I just purged put half of all my Clothing. And now I'm doing that with jewelry. But I also just got back from taking a break off social media for two months. And it's so weird I saw this. But I'm getting back into some stuff for fun and tarot card reading being one of them and other stuff I do with paranormal. So this is very kool! Love the music too! So calming.
Omg 😆! Talk about synchronicity! The universe must be at play here! Social media definitely affects our collecting habbits no matter what we collect!
I loved this so much. Thanks for sharing but please don't let peer pressure push you into sharing more than what you feel comfortable with. It's weird how I've now heard quite a few tarotists here on YT who've been on your same journey regarding the Mormon church. Best of luck with that!
Thank you 🙏! Yes, I’ve been pleasantly surprised to see how many ex-mo’s have turned to tarot! I do think it’s for the reasons I mentioned in that tarot is a gateway or primer into accepting other things, other philosophies and other points of views.
I have more than 150 Oracle and Tarot cards, but I'm not worried about collecting them. I can resale them 10 years from now and probably they're going to cost more. I love them all, I have an special connection with each one of them. Also, I think about my future, I'm going to have a lot time when I get retired. Peace and love ❤✌ Namaste.
Yes 👍…enjoy those decks! You know, I’m pretty much retired and I still don’t t have enough time to do all the things I want to do! I think it’s due to bad time management 😆!
You shouldn't share more than what you're comfortable with. That's all. :)
I agree, but sometimes the boundaries can be blurred when you might have a bit of information that may benefit someone. But yes…draw another line in the sand!
I think if others want to be tarot and oracle deck collectors is totally fine! The reason why people want to collect decks is really none of my business! If they aren't hurting anyone through deck collecting, then do it...you do you boo. BUT for myself I found deck collecting to be really toxic for MY life. It doesn't mean I think everyone who practices tarot should only have a small collection of decks. Over buying decks last year and into this year had a huge negative impact on me financially, spiritually, and within my relationship with my fiance. Sometimes, my bank account would overdraft so I could buy the hot new deck in the hopes that it would fill this void of emptiness I felt at the time. Hitting that buy button was a shot of dopamine to my brain and then I would get another rush of happiness when the deck would arrive at my house. Most of the time, I would only use the deck once, put it away, and repeat the process. I'm at the point where I just can't do that anymore. So I did a massive cull of decks that don't serve me and want to dive deep with each and every deck that I own. I want to really USE tarot for it's intended purpose, instead of spending that time searching for the new and shiny thing.
That is absolutely wonderful that you found a way to be more mindful about your practice! Sometimes we have to bottom out to realize changes have to be made. The struggle is hard, but if it leads to a better place…it’s worth the lesson 🥰.
Thank you for your honesty! I also have a large deck collection, which I "enjoy" using and sharing everyday.
Thank you 🙏! Yes…enjoy and be thankful for what you have!
A. This is deeply tied into The Devil card about addictive behaviors and breaking unhealthy patterns.
B. I love the pattern of your shirt.
C. For your deep shadow work you’re doing about your past, I highly recommend The Symbolon Deck. It’s kind of like tarot but not really and it’s not an oracle. It really brings up stuff from your past and current day that clarifies a lot. However, it has a mix of Christian and Greek mythology images, so with your past it might be triggering. Let me know if you’re interested and I’ll give you the link to the video that explains it fully and that convinced me it’d play an important role in my shadow work.
A. I agree!
B. Thank you 🙏. It’s a dress that I made!
C. Yes, I’m interested in the link!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 I assumed it was something you made since in the video you talked about making most of your clothes now. Bonus you get to choose the exact pattern you'd like. Here's the link: th-cam.com/video/VhtYWLWiDk8/w-d-xo.html
Your channel was recommended to me. I'm totally new. I read tarot cards but it has been a bit! I gotta get back into it! But I'm an adopter to spirits that are attached to vessels. Positive spirits only. Idk why this channel was recommended.. I'm a mainly a gamer on mine and hang with others on YT who are mainly gamers... Must be a reason. Weird. Totally weird. I'm going to watch this whole vid now. 💛
Great idea I should catalog mine to help me stay under my limit
It would be a fun project! I’m not much of a computer spreadsheet person…I would fine that writing it down on paper more tactile and enjoyable!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 yea im going to do mine on paper as my deck stash isn't that huge ,im a journal on paper person ,im not to good with High tech
OK I swear I am listening but your earrings are stunning
! OK back to listening and learning 😌
😆😆😆. The earrings are old second hand Kendra Scott’s that I picked up for $15 at a local Buffalo Exchange!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 they are gorgeous. I was wondering where you found opals that size. Of course from there I went down the road of assumption and I KNEW they were family heirlooms🤣😊
Great video. If I had more space, and money! I wouldn’t feel so guilty whenever I order a deck! (Which is a bit too often!)
Thank you 🙏! Enjoy and use what you have!
I loved this! I had so many comments, I should have kept a journal. LOL But most of what I was thinking has already been posted by other viewers, so I will go random. It amuses me how we have some similar interests. I've started watching several channels about sewing even though I don't sew any more. One of my favorites is Lady Rebecca who recreates Victorian-era dresses and older periods. I just love the romance of those clothes, and I have learned so much about sewing in general that delights me.
I enjoy watching content by ex-Mormons. It just makes me livid that so many people are STILL being taken in by that conman who just wanted sex with as many women as possible and to steal money. It's no difference in evil to me than the sociopath who created NXIVM. Ex-Mo's themselves are so much calmer about it. lol I am convinced the slashing rituals that used to be in the weddings are a left over from the threats sex perverts always make to frighten victims into never saying anything about what's going on. How am I the only person who sees that as a hold over? Or at least no one else has posited that, that I've seen. And having to be naked under a poncho to be "anointed" with oil in private places because that's "newly revealed" about what's required for weddings? Sweet baby Jesus, how is this still going on, how are mothers still sending their daughters into this vile creepiness. And having to pay to get into heaven. Yeah, right, that's how it REALLY would work. OMG.
You did a lovely thoughtful brain dump. Sorry--eh, only sorta--that I went straight to rant. It just incenses me when good people are taken advantage of. Having their entire lives taken over is beyond the pale.
Ah..... Deep breaths..... I do love having little packets of art and whimsy to enjoy, and I love watching other people talk about them. And I really love you and the kindness and intelligence and belly laughs you bring to all of us.
Oh, Dana! I loved your rant! The biggest growth in membership in the Mormon Church comes from within these days (babies being born into Mormon families). Since the start of Social Media growth in the Mormon church has significantly slowed down in recent years (hey…social media can be useful!). But yes, it truly is amazing that people still convert in this modern day! You know, if I ever did decide to do a paid subscription thing it would be targeted specifically 100% for former Mormons because existing ones can be the most vicious of attack dogs!
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Oh, whew! I'm glad I didn't overwhelm you!
I had a Mormon boss who would call me out for "lying" all the time, and I couldn't tell him off because of the work relationship. I'm still seething these decades later. The worst--or funniest, given enough time--was when I was so excited to have met a UCSF researcher who was on the team that found the cure for leprosy (Hansen's Disease). I had sort of a Mr. Monk reaction and said, Weren't you scared to work with that illness? And he said, absolutely beaming with happiness, OH, I've never met a tropical disease I didn't love!
To this day, that is the most charming thing anyone has ever said to me about their work. lol So I told about meeting him to get to that punch line and I was told leprosy was incurable. I said I know it has been! That's what makes it so exciting! But he went on that he knew it was incurable because he had lived in Hawaii where the isolation hospitals for lepers were. Oh. Well. There's proof for you. lol WHY would I have made up that story? He just sucked so much joy out of existence, haughtily impugning my character.
I'm sure people can keep him in check more easily now with the internet. And he really did try to be a good person. It just does a number on people to be raised to believe that they are the superior keepers of truth.
I like looking at decks but I got in a habit of buying a few decks because they were popular I this was in the beginning of my journey I have rehomed them I set a rule that before I buy a new deck I have to make sure I don't to rehome one or I watch say yes to the deck to check of questions it's hard to not have fomo though lots of great decks out there,ty for this video
Yes, there are so many wonderful decks out there, so it’s important that we set our own parameters as to what we bring into our spaces!
I don't collect tarot and oracle because I need another tarot deck - I buy them because I love the artwork and it is like buying an artbook - there are worse addictions to have so maybe just enjoy what you have
I love this video!! Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts ... I was gifted my first deck (during shut down) I have always been spiritual and kind of witchy after all I was raised Catholic haha… so I thought to myself this would be a nice project to take my mind off the news and learn tarot reading! I was always intrigued by tarot cards so then I turned to youtube to learn how to used them and Oh my! I fell down that rabbit hole! … In no time I had over 60 decks!! now, however between tarot and Oracles Ive kept 21 decks after rehoming the ones that I didn't connect with. Funny thing is I'm not a really good reader LOL. But the artsy part of me fell in love with the art and I saw them as beautiful ATCs that sent messages to you… if you know what I mean?… It fascinates me the different interpretations of each artist/creator from that one traditional tarot deck! I love doing a spread and looking at them specially when I feel uninspired artistically and/or spiritually. I do agree with you 100% when you say any addiction can be dangerous if you're not careful or aware of what's going on inside you... "Do what makes you happy If you are not hurting anyone" that's my take! and yes you are responsible for "The Wandering Star" deck I just got hahaha take care sweetie!
Oh, no! I hope you’re enjoying the Wandering Star! I love what you said about viewing decks as ATC’s! I started experimenting with those during lockdown and started trading with my niece. I’m no artist, but it was really fun and I want to get back to it. Sometimes it is just fun to immerse yourself in the beautiful images even if you are not reading with them.
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Yes I just love that Deck it even has a special glass box hahaha... ATCs are so much fun I was trading with people around the world so exciting!! Just thinking your art is part someone else collection far away its amazing and collecting them even more... til pandemic hit and the cost and restrictions on international mail was so difficult but hopefully it will get better soon.
Great video💯
I'd love to watch her channel the one u mentioned
I have been rehoming decks when I buy one im not buying any in Sept or Oct minus Jamie's sawyers path I have 4 decks Im.buying this month and I'm done,I try to keep my deck stash to a certain number so I don't get overwhelmed
Yes, I’m eargerly awaiting Jamie’s Sawyer’s Path! I’ve missed out on that deck multiple times! And I think setting guideposts is a responsible thing to do!
I know this might sound dumb but where and how did you rehome your decks? I've asked a couple youtubers when they say that but they don't respond to that question, so I'm sure it must sound silly. But I have figured out what I want my collection to be for now and now have some decks I know I want to move on and I live in a rural area where there isn't much in way of used bookstores or anything, which would have been my first instinct. If you feel like sharing I'm all ears! Either way, have a blessed day
@@fourofcats5803 I hope its ok I answer @oldsoulmermaid,I have a store in my town that I can rehome decks to ( I just call it rehoming I can't think of the word I guess reselling they just give me store credit), or if I know someone else would like it there are fb groups
@@fourofcats5803 there are a number of tarot buy sell trade groups on Facebook which is how I've sold or traded a few. I gave a few to friends and donated a few to charity shops.
@@rickigill5206 thank you so much for responding, thank you for letting me know!
I agree. Tarot collecting is itself is not bad. The underlying problem is the person's behavior/habits (obsession over tarot decks, browsing for new tarot decks, spending time watching unboxing's), especially if a person is jeopardizing their financial/emotional/mental well-being like you said.
An analogy: If someone spends all their time looking at clothes in a store and ends up buying way more clothes than they need, is it the store's fault for existing? Is it the clothes' fault for being at the store?
Content creators shouldn't take the full blame for promoting decks or doing unboxing videos. Yes, invariably, tarot social media will encourage consumption, but It's up to an individual to exercise their self-control and not spend so much time looking/buying decks.
Agreed! I’m a Gen X’er, so I grew up without social media. We only had fashion magazines that created our FOMO 😆! Ahhh…the good old days!
Just saw they are posted
What is posted?
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 the people u mentioned their videos from utube ( hope im making sense )
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Congratulations for leaving the LDS brainwashing machine!! No easy task, that.
Thank you 🙏! Truth be told…I have left, but it hasn’t left me. Not entirely…yet.
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 When I left xtianity, it took YEARS to get rid of conditioning--and that's nothing compared to the brainwashing BS of mormonism. Best to you on that journey!
Thank you 😊
First comment!
Thank you, but you haven’t watched the video!
I have no clue why you felt the need to answer this person. If she/he doesn't understand, don't watch.
This is not aimed at you Bonnie. I am just tired to death of every person who feels the need to weigh in on another's possessions, collections, life. You buy what you want to, you make videos to share because you want to - it is NO ONE else's business. The passive/aggressive "I don't understand (why you have so many decks)" is the common starter with all these people. No one else needs to concern themselves with what you do. It pleases many people to watch your videos - great! If it "confuses" others - don't watch!!
All the handwringing about the # of decks people have is BS. Turning it into a comment on their mental health (hoarding) is even bigger BS. Why doesn't everyone do their thing & if you don't "understand" someone else's decisions, who says you need to? Each to their own, people.
Deb, I guess I’m being influenced by these videos popping up in my feed! I am interested in trying to understand the point of views and perceptions of other, but yes, when it comes down to it, we shouldn’t shame anyone for the choices they make. Absolutely 🥰
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 Bonnie, the subject is driving me nuts but this was not a rant aimed at your video, I hope you understand =) So many people butt in on other people's lives/collections. You are happy with what you have, clearly, or you wouldn't have them. That is the only thing that matters!
PS - after listening to your explanation of the mormon money grubbing ways, I would not last 2 minutes there. I am an atheist, & whenever I hear stories of the awful things that happen in (all) religions it makes me more content where I am in that way. I am very happy that you got out of there & whatever you use your decks for is up to you.
Deb that is exactly my thoughts too! Well said.
I agree!
Deb, I wish I had a choice. I was born into a Mormon home and my ancestors were members pretty close to the inception of the Mormon Church in the 1830’s. I didn’t get out until my 40’s. Guilt is a primary tool that many religions use as a mechanism for control. I grew up feeling guilty about numerous things. I wish I could turn it off like a switch 😆! As far as collecting and deck channels…I agree…we all should all be encouraged to do and participate in things we enjoy without guilt or shame. Life is too short 🥰
Ugh, religious trauma/brainwashing. Yours is Mormon, mine is Christian. Lots of similarities. Im still at the point where the regular rws makes me uncomfortable at times.
Also, getting rid of my fb was one of the best decisions ive made for myself.
It’s hard! I didn’t get out until my 40’s, so there is a lot implanted. I need a brain exorcism! Yes, the overtly religious imagery is hard, but I try to appreciate it from a historical standpoint…like the architecture of an old beautiful church. It sometimes helps 😉
I haven’t officially closed mine, but I haven’t been on it for a couple of years.
For me I didnt suffer mental anguish until the tarot shaming started. THEN I'm thinking " You have too many decks. Why do you do that." Well it makes me happy.
Exactly! If it makes you happy and you are not hurting yourself or others…enjoy!
I've only watched the first 6 minutes so far, but I have to make a comment now because of the red flags that have been jumping up as I've listened concerning this person "who makes no judgment" making critical (judgmental) comments about your "purpose" for this channel and for your collection. Whether or not you have a goal or a purpose, why in the world would you actually NEED one? The journey itself is important and enriching, so who really cares if it all ends up going nowhere when it has so much value in and of itself? (Though I don't actually believe it's going nowhere.) I also don't understand why people are feeling guilty about their tarot (or other) collections to the point where they feel obligated to get rid of decks or choose between two decks they love. Sure, it's not that people can't get rid of or re-home decks or other things if they really don't want them, but I've been sensing a lot of pressure and guilt in the community in general that people really need to get rid of decks they aren't using. Well do people go around their homes and regularly get rid of other artwork that they don't pull off the wall and "play" with once a day, week, month, etc.? NO! If you enjoy having it no matter if it only sits on a shelf looking pretty, then great.
I see some really nice things on your channel, but nothing forces me to run out and buy them or not buy them. That's still my decision, and I appreciate you and others on TH-cam for bringing various things to my attention that I didn't know, even if I end up doing nothing with it because a deck isn't really my style or whatever.
Everyone is on a different part of their spiritual journey and I doubt that anyone has reached an "end goal" in which they've stopped learning or growing, so if others don't like where you are and want to passive-aggressively "sea lion" you or criticize you in some way, then they just need to suck it up and get over it or even unsubscribe from a channel if it's not for them. You're not obligated to wear some sort of false mask because they have their own issues they need to deal with and are using you as a scapegoat.
Not everyone needs to be a (tarot) minimalist and certainly not out of guilt or some other negative reason. In any case, I appreciate what you do, in case I don't feel a "need" to make another comment later as I watch more of the video. :)
Rebecca…thank you for this 🙏! You perfectly expressed my feelings on the subject…on a good day. Unfortunately, much like the viewer who might feel triggered by a certain video when they are iin a vulnerable moment, I feel guilty about the content I put out depending on the day, the mood or whatever else might be going on at the time. I think I need to learn how to put the blinders on, keep my head down and just do my own thing without letting the chatter get too loud. I haven’t learned how to do that yet 🥰
@@oldsoulmermaid1543 I agree it can be really difficult! It might help to think how your channel would be if you just listened to all of those guilty feelings from day to day when you're having those days and this person or that person has pushed a button. You would probably never get any videos out at all and then all the rest of us would be very sad. :)
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