I agree with all that you've said. I've come to a lot of realizations over the last few weeks/months, which are reflected in your videos -- and I've finally found myself feeling not-crazy because of you and many of the commenters on your various videos. I felt so alone before this! It's discouraging when you (general you) are surrounded by people who think your views are wrong and that you are the enemy for trying to find balance and sanity, and wanting to avoid all this consumerism to go back to things like connecting with something and not just spending, spending, spending to get the latest stuff. And the "infomercial-izing" of tarot-tube has made it so any criticism whatsoever (no matter how constructive, no matter how valid and true) of a creator is seen as negative trash talk and toxic. It's weirdly similar to "celebrity worship" in a way -- like somehow creators have been put on pedestals. I wonder if people are equating themselves with the creators? (Similar to the Fantasy Self concept that you talked about in one of your other videos.) It's like, if you voice any opinion other than squealing in glee at their art or deck quality -- no matter how respectful you are in pointing out that things are not up to par -- then you're branded a toxic hater! Also, it boggles my mind just how much tarot people will roll over and allow creators to act in completely unprofessional ways, and people will STILL support that creator! There have been creators who got caught plagiarizing artwork (with no acknowledgment that they did so, save to quietly change the copied art), and people are STILL buying/promoting their decks! There are creators who took people's money and delivered nothing for 2+ years, and people were STILL defending that, and calling anyone who complained as heartless, toxic, disgusting, etc. Sorry, but once you take people's money, this crap stops becoming a hobby and becomes a business, and you have an obligation to be professional in your dealings -- not to dance around doing other projects because you're bored. And yes, life does get in the way of things, but in what other business is it acceptable that someone's personal life makes it so they're allowed to take people's money for 2 or 3 years (and KEEP ON DOING SO, by the by), all while rabid fans will defend them to the death and no one can say anything negative even when it's all warranted? There are creators who completely ignore messages and lack communication, and when some people point these things out, they are attacked by these tarot-creator-worshippers and called nasty names. It's crazy! By the way, I'm not sure which video you mentioned this (I kind of binge-watched a few in a row, but maybe it was the FOMO one) ... I remember you saying you hurriedly bought a deck because you saw it was the last one in stock and FOMO got the better of you, only to find that the creator was creating faux-scarcity to entice impulse buys. OMG, I have a similar experience, except this was on the creator's site. So I'm checking stock levels for a particular deck because I wanted to order one but I also wanted to take my time (I was purchasing art supplies and needed more budget for those, so I didn't want to buy a tarot deck yet). However, I saw that the stock on this site suddenly went from around 86 to 5 seemingly overnight, I panicked! I decided to buy a deck right then, and I was glad that I did when I saw later that the tarot was "Out of stock" ... BUT wouldn't you know it, just a couple days later, there were again 5 copies for sale. I was so disappointed and mad at myself for falling for it, and it really left a bad taste in my mouth! I still have the deck but I haven't used it save for the first time I opened it to check the cards were all fine. (The box was a crappy two-piece box, by the by, that looked worn and scuffed despite being shrinkwrapped.) Sorry for the huge comment... I don't know if you'll end up reading this but at least I got to vent a bit and feel like I've found someone who understands. I'm so disillusioned about it all, and felt really bad because so-called "friends" in the community have made me feel like I'm the problem because I don't gush over every single deck and I see legit complaints about certain creators as legit, and I don't want to spend half my salary on buying decks (not that I ever did, but I've seen some people who did) or being secretive and trying to hide purchases from a partner (again seen this behavior too).
Thank you for watching and thank you for taking the time to comment and point out a lot of things I have observed and didn't get around to mentioning. Know that you are among friends here. xo
Welcome to the other side. Nah. Years ago I already said, there is no "community". As soon as one person insisted on defining who and what the community is, rulership established and fought for, and gatekeeping was enforced, it was the end of whatever real community was there, if ever. Good to hear more people who are upfront, confident in their own selves, and not looking for agreement and approval from others. Peace!
I got sucked into the tarot consumer vortex too. I found buying more cards was an excuse for me to not actually commit and learn how to read them. I culled my decks and I'm now reading (and actually honing my reading skills) with a 3$ deck of playing cards.
When I started out, I saw all this deck collection videos and my first thought was: how will they ever get that amazing relationship with their decks? With hundreds on their shelf, gaining dust. It's addiction, clean and simple
PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes, forgive yourself! Yes, find a role model! Your voice is always like a cold glass of water. Or a shot of tequila...refreshing, bracing and "cut through the bullshit and truth revealing. I was sent a deck that wasn't something I would use. And was told I should be grateful that someone thought of me to do so. I guarantee they were NOT thinking positively of me when they sent it. I pride myself on offering honest reviews. I hope I am doing a fairly good job of it. Unfortunately, there hasn't been much coming out of late, that I want to talk about. And there are some that I am doing research on as the decks may be a jumping off point for other interests. But for the most part it's the same drivel that's being offered up. I started my channel because I wanted something others weren't offering. The Truth. Initially, I thought I should use the same pablum puking template as many...cardstock, pretty pictures...ooh, aahh! BLERGH!!! I just want to have real thought provoking conversations. I want to listen to really substantial content. It's not about numbers for me. IMHO, all of social media is the Land of Oz. What's really behind the curtain? There are a few people I listen to. Even less that I watch. Mary-Grace, no matter what, when, how or why you will always hold a special place in my heart.
Thank you, thank you! It felt like the Holy Spirit speaking through. Every word you said, I'm going through right now. I had 70+ decks and have culled it down to 30 and still in the process of decluttering more. The consumerism and marketing for Tarot is insane. You speak with such truth that many people need to hear. Some will not take it well, but is the exact 3 of Sword message they need to hear. The Tarot cards don't do anything. It's 100% spirit. Tarot cards are just pretty tools in different versions. Like make-up pallettes on the marker that comes every week! You truly have a gift of Counsel. This video I will save and keep watching as my reminder and my spiritual check. God bless you! 🤍🤍🤍
Conclusion: Fuck TarotTube and what it's become 😂 I really enjoyed watching both videos about your process with this. And wow! This must've been so much work, and probably continues to be, with all the (actual) decluttering, all the inner work and the discipline that it takes. Cackled at the sarcastic jokes ("smash that dislike button!" 🤣), nodded along many of the truth bombs you dropped, but also found myself shocked by the scale of the problem - the examples from your own life as well as others who went through this blew my fucking mind, to be honest. Especially the shitty ways in which people are treated in this pseudo-community for speaking up about their experience of "retail therapy" getting way out of control. Or how some guilt-trip themselves for binge-buying while still being unable to control it. It's seriously heartbreaking and shocking, and eye-opening. I'm glad you mentioned Depth Year cause I feel like that was an important moment for quite a few of us (those who treated it seriously). While personally I never collected too many decks and any of that stuff, depth year made me realise that having a YT channel and actively participating in this "community" was what needed to go from my life - it was a massive waste of time. In September of this year it'll be 2 years for me since I closed down my channel and I'm honestly so glad. Same as you said in this video, now I only watch vids that genuinely interest me by either being educational or thought-provoking, or both. No time for hauls, reviews, walkthroughs of shit I don't need. I mean, it's pretty obvious that all these vids are simply cogs in the consumerist machine that directly supports capitalism. I can't help myself but think of all the waste these decks create in the environment - the trees cut for this, the water wasted in production, the years it'll take for all this crap to decompose (if ever). Some parts of our planet will be uninhabitable in a decade because of our buying choices, and yet it still doesn't ring the bell for some how ironic it is to simultaneously practice animism/paganism and retail therapy. Anyway, I don't wanna go on a tangent here. I'm also very passionate about this topic 😂 Thank you for holding this space for people to discuss these things without judgement. Spaces like yours are so hard to come by these days. Much love ❤🔥
Thank you for watching and thank you for taking the time to comment. Your channel was my favorite and I totally understood why you stopped. "how ironic it is to simultaneously practice animism/paganism and retail therapy." Ding ding ding! This. I totally agree with you about all the waste they cause to the environment. From the manufacturing process to the outrageously gigantic and over-produced boxes. Much love to you xo
I've watched this several times. I can't tell you how much this resonates with too many of us and we need voices in this "community" like yours Mary Grace. Your voice is very much needed and appreciated. I had one deck for years and years and in 2019 I just lost control. I can't believe how much money I spent on decks that I didn't even use at all. Just collecting dust on a shelf. 😒 Ugh. It pains me but the spell has definitely been broken and I went from close to 100 and now down to 20. I'm one of the very very few Canadians that prices things right 😅 so thankfully through FB buy/sell groups I was able to recoup hundreds and hundreds of dollars back. 🙏 Still lost a lot of money but it's a lesson learned and what's done is done. Moving forward, I feel like I've really nailed down what I like and can work with and everything else, stunning or not LOL, is one big fat NO. If anything, most decks turn off me now. When you talked about the rose petal finish, oh how I chuckled. "How romantic, rose petal... ROSE PETAL???" 🤣🤣🤣 Legendary stuff here. Thank you for this video, thank you for pulling alot of us out of the muck and I want to end this by saying, whatever Value Village you go to, that community is very very VERY lucky. 😂💕
Thank you for this video. I recently realized I was buying decks just to have them and never reached for them to use them, and I’ve been culling off decks and watching videos like this for about a week now. My collection only got to about 60 decks, but it still felt like too much. This video really made me feel like I’m doing the right thing by slimming down to only the decks I know I reach for often enough to justify their ownership. In fact, this video made me think more decks could stand to leave.
I have never seen your channel before but you are on FIRE in this video! I appreciate all you've shared. I've been studying Tarot for over two years and I have bought about 20 decks (re-homed about half a dozen that I ended up not liking). I feel like this is excessive. I'm in the process of "decluttering" all my belongings... (recent separation, new beginning), but I STILL find it hard to not to accumulate new decks. Oh, and the concept of a "soul deck" is so dangerous.
Thank you sooo much for this video! You are way tooo awesome! I am about 15 decks deep and already knew it was becoming too much. I had a similar issue with make up…. Spent thousands… literally and had to go to that ‘“river” many times. Got rid of and had to throw away so much, such a waste. I’m not sure what it is but I get that way with anything I take an interest in. I’m working on getting to the root of the problem, which is why I got into tarot, initially it was a tool to help me do inner work, but to the “demons” nothing is sacred and I realized that I have to be vigilant no matter what it is I’m doing , even if it’s self-help! Thank you for saying it’s an ongoing process……it really is. Great video!
Thank you Mary ! I have been using 1 deck for 10 years and suddenly l find myself surrounded by 40 decks in Dec 2021.It is divine intervention that l stumbed on this video and will not waste any more money to just be a part of some non existing community. Thank you for opening my eyes and now l'd rather burn money than buy a deck l didn't need. Thank you🤗🤗
Tarotube needs to hear this, whether they can face up to it or not. I've been reading cards since 1996 and it wasn't until 2014 that I started "collecting" because of TH-cam and the constant unboxings. Currently sitting in my bedroom, surrounded by 100+ decks and feeling overwhelmed. Been feeling for awhile now that I wanted to cull big time-thank you for the supportive space, thank you for being vulnerable and speaking the truth about the consumerism that has invaded spiritual/tarot online spaces.
Oh, Mary-Grace, this hit painfully close to home. As hard as this video is to watch, I'm sure glad you made it, ALL of this needs to be said. Or, at least, these are all things I need to hear. ...sigh... "It's almost as if we were under a spell." Indeed.
Thank you for your honesty and thank you for being the most inspiring TH-cam channel for me, for quite a while. You made me stop and think when I I first watched this and I’m revisiting it now. TH-cam has become a commercial tool but there are still some gems like your channel. Please never delete this!
I'm going through this myself... I feel overwhelmed with the amount of decks I have (80). I feel like I'm always trying to keep up with my newer decks instead of deeply bonding with the ones I actually love. There's about only 25 decks I really would keep, one's that serve a purpose to me. Rehoming all those decks is not easy!! it's such a time and energy consuming process... I'm happy though because now I am a conscious consumer, no more impulse purchases from now on !!! Thanks for this video my friend :)
I fell down the TarotTube rabbit hole last year for no good reason - I went from having 2 or 3 decks to having maybe 30 or so with a month or two of starting to watch.. Which comes nowhere near what you are describing except that I realized that I was madly, frantically looking for new decks to buy. My experience was that I would get a new deck, start feeling guilty about the purchase even before it arrived, and on first flip through usually being really disappointed and feeling no interest at all in the deck EVEN THOUGH I had vetted the deck and watched walkthroughs before buying. It all came to a screeching halt around the time you posted your video a year ago and I started divesting myself of decks and doing soul searching about what I really wanted from tarot. It’s been interesting. I am still on the journey.
I have SO many thoughts on all this, but for now, I just want to leave it at this: I genuinely appreciate your honest sharing here and in general on your channel. It's my personal opinion that if hearing what you've had to say here is offensive to someone, then maybe that person could benefit by taking a deep breath. We are ALL entitled to our opinions and we don't have to agree with each other to recognize the importance of having more than one homogenous perspective. I don't agree with everything you've said, but I definitely feel you brought up a LOT of good points here. 💜💜💜💜💜
I see people getting rid of their whole collections and then regretting it and I would worry about that for myself personally. I used to sell books online and closet sale my old clothes and would do that stress declutter over and over and then sometimes regret getting rid of certain things. I do not do this now. This video was really great. Ive liked your videos for some time and your channel is one that has inspired me to start my own. I havent made any videos yet really because I feel pressured to do walk throughs etc and Im trying to plan carefully what i want to say and bring to the table. I do think people can be really hard on themselves about this topic as well and do the deck declutter stress release. I usually buy my decks used and have had bought things from people and returned them to them when they contact me regretting the sale.
There is such a thing called a 'severe beauty'. That's how I see this presentation. Much needed, life-restoring, ultimately encouraging but only if I can face the the Queen of Sword's truth. Thank you, Mary-Grace.
I can relate, love this video, love everything about it! 2019/2020 have been consumerism crazy. And… I’m kind of ready to stop ‘collecting’. Does that mean I will never buy a deck again? No. Does it mean I will not mindlessly buy any old crap anymore? Yes. There are some decks that are truly special works of art that I will always keep around. But never again ‘another’ RWS clone that doesn’t really add anything to the table. Love your directness and if people can’t handle it, it’s their problem.
So glad I found you, you're speaking everything. So much I want to say but for now just happy to find a kindred spirit in this new to me Tarot world. I'd been out of the loop for years, came back and wondered what the eff happened! Thank you, never change!
this is worthy of multiple viewings because I see myself here and the guilt and shame doesn't feel so bad because others recognize this addiction as well
Exactly. There are people out there who say it shouldn't be called an addiction because it's only tarot decks, but I think if there's guilt/shame involved it definitely has elements of an addiction.
I did the same thing Mary! I unsubscribed to many of tarot tubers for the same reason. I can't tell you how many times I thought of all the things you talked about. I am so tired of the tarot tubers who are such hypocrites. They all talk about the same thing like its some competition, review the same decks then later state they don't use them for whatever reason. A deck reviewed every week, unboxing of decks that they have never used, and I hate when they review a deck that is out of print. Thank you for saying all the things that were bothering me. I applaud you for sticking to your opinions!
Thank you. Any time you show up, I listen. This conversation has resurfaced for me in Divine timing. I have watched Mixtress Rae's videos, as well as all of yours on this topic, and it has invited me to pause and quiet the *noise* around me so that I can really unpack my own issues with retail therapy and who's content I consume. You have given voice to what so many of us know to be true but are either A) too afraid (or not ready) to admit it or B) didn't fully grasp what was occurring due to the *spell* we have been under. You are a role model to me in multiple ways. Thank you for keeping it real and always offering your honesty. Happy (now belated) birthday! xo-Ang
yes! i absolutely love each deck that i use. each one has its place and i get excited about using them. i use 10 decks and have about 14 that i own for other reasons. a deck has to make my heart happy.
58:00 - one of the most powerful parts of this video - the influencer vs. the role model, POWERFUL advice. Absolutely loved this video you’ve made. It’s one of the only brutally honest ones I’ve found on TH-cam or anywhere for that matter (and I’m writing this in October 2024). I’m a new listener but got so much from this. Deck consumerism, overwhelm, and addiction is something still rarely spoke about. But it’s a hugely oppressive force in many people’s lives, often without them realizing it until it’s too late and they’ve blown thousands of dollars. Thank you for making this 🙏
I suspect most of us have to learn this the hard way, because it seems like many of us know what it's like to binge to excess, and be enthralled for months, and buy because of hype or FOMO. I came to similar conclusions as you, and shop in a similar way, starting with the sense that something is missing in my collection, or that I'm craving a certain type of deck and then discerning what it should be like and then going on the hunt for it. That's satisfying. Versus the decks I've bought only because someone else was hyping it. Those are the ones I usually fail to connect with. But this was a process I had to learn through trial and error. A big revelation for me that helped me with FOMO was to embrace the fact I'd come to tarot in MY season and I didn't need to own the decks of past or future seasons. I might snap up a vintage deck if I see it for sale at a thrift store, but I don't feel a need to hunt it down on the secondhand market anymore. And I also don't feel a need to watch what decks are coming out now or next month, etc. It's been liberating. I appreciate you addressing this topic. I have to work out the degree to which I'm comfortable sharing my enthusiasm for decks on my channel. I'm sitting on an update video atm because I got a little excited about decks I'm working with, and while I want to be authentic, I'll also feel anxiety if l sound like it's all about the "stuff." Bottom line: It's easy to be conflicted over this stuff! 🙃😁
Loved this video watched both parts took me a few days. Loved this omg I have been doing a huge declutter myself privately. I just got sick of many decks collecting dust. So I boxed them up and will be donating them. I am so happy about it. Feels freeing. I'm sick of dishonesty too with some reviews. I got offered once to work as a reviewer for a company and I rejected it because I felt such negative energy from the creators. The way they communicated with me felt like they only wanted me to talk well of their product. This isn't who I am so I said no. They offered to pay me for my reviews weird because why would you pay me for a review. Fast forward a few weeks later I go to tarot tube and they picked another woman to review the same decks and that I refused to do. I am so glad I refused when I saw the poor card stock and horrible quality of the decks I knew I made the right decision. The reviewer gave a glowing review surprise surprise lol.. I rather just buy a deck and tell you my thoughts on it after working with it. I won't sell my soul. People watching trust us and some buy based on what we say. Thank you again for this content.
I fell into the whole believing that I had to be showing decks to have a channel about my passions. Those creators offering to pay you for your reviews is the same as them buying (your) credibility. That is why you found the offer so repellent. You are a person of integrity and I am honored by you watching and commenting on my videos. Also, I'm with you. I'd rather buy a deck of my own mind and with my own money and be free to tell the truth of whether it is any good or not. Much love to you and by the way, DAMN, you are looking more and more beautiful. God bless! xoxo
Happy Birthday! And thank you for saying what is in your mind, thank you for being honest. I too, like so many of us, have unsubscibed so many channels and unfollowed many on IG. Enough with the selling, I want honesty, I want opinions, I want to see decks yes, but I want to see them being used - and more than just pretty pics after pretty pics. I still enjoy watching reviews, but only if I can trust that the person doing that is a) being honest and saying also the negative things and b) those decks talked about don’t disappear after couple of videos, they turn up again and again. They are tools, they have meaning and there’s a connection. And no channel can be honest if all they do is unboxings and reviews (and mostly in the same video). Oh, I’m starting to ramble. Thank you for your channel, you truly are a rolemodel ❤️
I am also partial to traditional tarot. I have a small collection and I feel like I did spend too much on a few. I use almost all of my Oracle decks and two or three of my traditional tarot decks. If I want to get rid of a few I give them to friends and family.
I always enjoy listening to your take on things. I hear you on the honest reviews issue. I film deck reviews, and even though my goal originally was to be honest and talk about the bad as well as the good, and if I like a deck it's easy to be honest. But I have filmed reviews of decks I don't like and not uploaded them! I think the fact that the creator might see the review scares me 🙈. I buy my own decks so it's not about getting freebies. I guess it's people pleasing. I admire your honesty on that front and aspire to self censor a bit less. Anyway, great video. Thought provoking and conversation starting.
I’m that person fortunate enough to buy what I want and store it on my shelf. I LOVED this video, and decided to unfollow the people who prompt my mindless spending. Thank you so much!
Happy Birthday from the other July girl, Grace. All good wishes from here for health, healing, and wholeness always. Your words in this share are soul medicine. Gratitude for your work tonight.🙏 Side note: it's always been more fun to be part of the fringe and the frontier. If that's where your heart is home, the lights of the town are fun but not where you ever really could live. I think these experiences just serve to remind us we are creatures of the woods, always were. 🧡
It took me a while to watch this video because I wanted to watch it attentively. It’s such an inspiration. I struggle with consumption in multiple sources of my life. I’m going to have to watch this video each time I want to make an impulse purchase.
Thank you so much for your honesty! I appreciate it enormously. I have a shopping addiction and switch my makeup/clothes for tarot/oracle cards. I stopped watching walkthroughs of new decks because I am trying to stop buying things I don't need with money I don't have. I was even buying the fake decks for a fraction of the price just to keep my collection new and fresh. I was so wrong! Peace and love to everyone out there.
oh my gosh!!! get outta my head!!! A few years ago I did this...got rid of bags, upon bags to Value Village.....I knew that selling them would be a nightmare and plus packaging supplies and post office trips...ugh...I got more pleasure out of getting rid of them than I ever did having them in my "collection". You were bang on...the thrill of finding them in my mailbox...opening and flipping thru and on to a shelf....aaaaaaaaand...next...oh my gosh!!!...I still have a lot of decks but most I believe to hold some kind of deeper value than just the joy of getting something in the mail. Thousands of dollars just gone, never to be recouped. These days I write myself letters and mail them to myself and I get deliriously delighted when I get mail!!! xo
Yup, caught that same bug. I have a 1 1/2 cartons under my bed of rejected decks - not for me. With what’s left, I’m still trying to pare down by spending a week doing daily focus draws, coupling each deck with oracles and journaling - is there personal meaning? - do they help solve problems? - are they helpful to understand emotions and moods? If they don’t, they go. If a deck responds to my needs, it stays along with core decks. Thanks for your timely video; now I can seal those cartons in plastic and drop them off to the donate table at my local dump. Sunk costs, lessons learned, FOMO and fantasy fading into the past. 😌
You are having your own experience 👏 Combing for lice, I see that with culling decks. Never thought of mentioning I got all my decks (apart from the Trionfi expansion packs) with my own money, it's just a given. I have noticed I don't want a big Tarot collection, and so I stopped watching so many reviews because it doesn't interest me that much. It also doesn't annoy me this much :D The biggest thing for me is the content being not only about Tarot decks, but actually about Tarot, spirituality, etc.
You never have to say you bought your decks with your own money. It is evident in your channel content and decks you own that reflect different facets of who you are. Anna, you are one of the people who I have continued to watch. You are one of the lights on YT that helped in guiding me back to my lost true self. With all my heart, thank you. ❤
Oh, and Anna, I love the "unasked for VRs" you started doing. We are all free to share our ideas and feelings inspired by what we experience without it having to be in response to or tied to someone else's. Brava! 👏🏼
@@MaryGraceFahrun Wauw thank you, that's an amazing compliment, especially coming from someone who's been doing this so long. Can hardly wait to see what's next on your channel
Thank you for this video and your thoughts, I am in the process of downsizing my house and moving to an RV full time. I am so lucky that I have my son's and nieces to hand my decks down to. At the moment I am down to 50 oracle, tarot, playing cards, dominoes , charm casting, I ching, runes and dixit card sets. My declutter is ongoing, but exciting too. One way I decide to keep a deck or not is how it shuffles. The deck has to overhand, riffle, bridge with ease or away it goes. Even if I love the images and/or art.
this is your channel NEVER apologise for your view /opinion . It`s funny because when you really sit down and look hard at most decks behind the glitter and smoke of the hype , most of them are actually butt ugly ....all it is now is a whole lot of tarot posing rather than actually reading the cards. Thanks for keeping it real .
I really appreciate your honesty and just this video (both parts) as a whole. I love that you point out being genuine while owning/rehoming decks, as in the end it is about being true and honest with yourself. I can’t believe I haven’t found your channel earlier. I just unfollowed/unsubscribed a ton of channels/people with just unboxing videos and hauls, and I definitely see it all differently now.
I’m being through this whole journey and it’s expensive and exhausting and emotionally draining.But you’re videos help me to navigate this whole ordeal and keep me grounded thank you ❤️❤️✨✨Happy Birthday my fellow Leo 🦁🦁🦁 Best wishes always ❤️🎉🎉
I know you have spent many many years owning only two decks. I have a little under 30, which is not a large collection in comparison with many on the net. Still I feel this is too much when looking at it, I really use only a handful. And the reasons for buying are the same as if I had a hundred. Always believing these images will had so much depth to my spiritual life! No. Cards don't do that. Sitting in reflection, journaling, meditating and reading cards that talk to me do that.
I soo agree with you about the card-stock. I’ve been saying it for months and people look at me like I’m nuts. I have some thoughts on this I’m going to do a VR. This was soo authentic abd real… Thank you soo much for sharing.
@@vkestrel3519 I think I’ll comment on it in my Channel update this week. I don’t agree entirely with Mary Grace, but I agree with a lot of what she said, and Im inspired by her honesty and respect her opinion.
“If you see yourself in what I say then 🤷🏻♀️” Fkn love it! I’ve just recently returned back to watching TH-cam and I’ve missed your sass and face so much!
This is a wonderful video! ❤️ much love to you for speaking your mind! I definitely resonated with Tarottube making you doubt your own reading abilities ...I've been reading for over 20 years and I definitely felt like I wasn't good enough after watching tarotube, but I slowly realized that I shouldn't doubt myself and my abilities because of other people. Thank you for taking the time to create this video and stand up and speak your truth!!
Yes! Luckily I didn’t get too far in but still the 20-30 or so that I bought felt overwhelming. For me, I think a lot of it was lockdown/Covid. My readings were stagnant, I was stagnant. So I thought I need a new deck/tool to make me a better reader. And it felt good, the rush, when so few things were making me feel good. But that lasts like a couple seconds. And my readings were just as stagnant with the new decks…. Thank you for sharing! Always appreciate the honesty.
I love you. I just started learning tarot about 2 years ago and last year was my buying year. It is all still so new, it was fun to see what's out there, and I ended up purchasing too many decks. I did count mine, 56 decks of tarot, and maybe 15 decks of oracle cards. I couldn't believe I had bought so many decks! Some of them I never used after doing my own little walk through. All I could think of was "I only use 1 or 2 decks at a time, why did I buy all these?" Then I started seeing these declutter videos and the youtuber had hundreds of decks. I couldn't believe it, yet could see how easy it could be to aquire that many if mindlessly purchasing, plus all the free decks the indie creators and publishers send out for advertising. I ended up making a schedule for this year, assigning two decks a month to use exclusively so I can learn which ones will work for me, and which ones I will get rid of. It's only March and already I have set aside half the decks I have used for the exit pile. I wonder what I will do with them......I really don't want to go through the hassle of selling them, shipping them out, etc., yet it would be nice to recoup some cash. I don't really know anybody locally that reads tarot. I may end up taking them to Half Price Books and getting a couple dollars a deck. Oh, and don't get me started on books! I think I'd have to read at least 2 books a week to get through all the books I purchased on tarot, witchcraft, folk magic, etc.. (don't worry, yours is one I read already. ) I could blame this all on my ADHD and over focus, etc. But in the end, I'm the one who went shopping on Amazon. I purchased 2 indie decks through kickstarter and won't do that anymore. The first deck is beautiful, and I love it, but the cards are too thick/stiff to shuffle and the guilding hurts my hands. I'm hoping I can asmr shuffle it off and on all day during the month it is assigned and get the cards to soften up. The other deck I purchased took months and months to receive, and when I got the deck, it didn't look like the pictures online and I hate it. That one will go for sure. Anyway, like you, I don't watch walk through videos unless it's something I'm interested, and I don't watch deck collection videos that are more than 20-30, minutes. I had one recommended to me that was over 2 hours long. Ridiculous, at that point it seems to be more of a show and tell brag fest. Where do folks keep all these decks? That is why I stopped and took inventory. I ran out of room. I felt the shame, too. How could I have spent so much money? I'm still paying down my credit card. I could have used that money in a wiser way. The good news is, the spree is over, and if I want a new deck, I can shop in my closet for one. Thank you for being so real. I love your channel, I love YOU.
Unpopular opinion: I don't like those super trendy decks where you just have a small, abstract image in the centre of the card and the rest is blank space. They always cost a bomb as well, so it's just as well I don't want them! 😬😂
I like your comment - forgive yourself and move forward - and that is what I am going to try to do. Thank you for bringing up this topic. I just started on my journey to try to downsize. I bought decks for the art work but I realized that I did not actually make a serious commitment to tarot and learn to read the cards. I am now doing that - reading and studying tarot and using some of my decks. I will never be a 3 or 4 deck person, but I would definitely like to downsize to half of what I have now in my collection.
I don't comment very often, but I always appreciate your content and your point of view. This is an important conversation and I"m glad you put it out there. (One of the reasons I haven't bothered to create content of my own yet is I know just how unpopular it will be, LOL) I'm not in a culling phase, my collection is of moderate size, but it is so helpful to consider ways I can be more thoughtful.
It kills me with the undisclosed PR decks. It reminds me of the beauty community before people cracked down on them for their ingenuous reviews. I really wish people would do this with the tarot community as well. People are gonna get mad at the truth, but that doesn't mean you should stop saying it. Thank you once again for a refreshingly honest take on the tarot community that tbh a lot of us serious practitioners have been feeling for a while. I had to unsub from a lot of tarot youtubers for exactly the reasons you described and also for the constant "positive collective readings only" people who, imo, make it seem like they just make those videos for views and not to channel accurate messages. Also 100% agreed, rose petal finishes are the WORST to shuffle.
First of all, a belated Buon compleanno! I’m new to tarot myself, though my nonna was an incredible reader of La Sibilla. I got sucked in Tarot Tube last summer, as school ended and I had lots of time on my hands and no possible place to go (blessed 19!), so I went from no decks to around a hundred. Am I a tarot reader? Not yet 🤣🤣🤣 Got sucked in the beauty of all those fabulous decks and the search for my elusive soul deck - I bought RWS, Morgan Greer and the Aquarian because of a book, combination oracle and tarot decks because they looked so good on screen, decks because the flip through took my breath away, indies because I was too late in the game to get them and found them on swap sites. This video was exactly what I was looking for. Will I cull what I have? Honestly, I don’t know. Will I be way more discerning? I already started, but from now on I’ll follow your advice: find the gap and choose how to fill it. IF there is a gap 🤣🤣🤣 grazie, MariaGrazia 🥰
It's funny, but every type of deck you said you like are my favourites too. I like animal/nature decks, mythical decks, traditional decks and decks that transport me elsewhere. I've recently discovered that these are the types I want to stick to.
I try to keep my collection in check by purging periodically and controlling my purchasing with discernment. I put decks into quarantine and then review before I donate, gift or sell them. I have stopped watching unboxing videos and only enjoy when someone I respect shares their honest, personal impressions.
New subscriber, thanks for your honest opinions. I enjoy a wide range of tarot related content and it’s interesting how much my taste has changed, as I’ve found my own way with Tarot. I appreciate all the input, but especially those who seem very authentic. It’s refreshing and useful 🙏🏻
I totally agree with your entire point of view! I am so happy someone is voicing it out loud! I have also become stuck within the "deck chase" - getting to about 35-40 decks in a short while.. I also got SICK of all the "tarot tube" videoes of people reviewing card stock or speaking of the decks they "MUST" have... and those "declutter" videoes,,, bah! As for myself, now all I want is to get rid of like 90% anbd start fresh- with just reading... Still trying to figure out what to do with the decks ( we don't have charity shops for these kinds of things)... If you have any advice would be amazing! Once again GOOD for you for voicing this important message!
If you don't have anywhere to take them, I suggest selecting the one(s) you always reach for and, box up the rest and store them away out of your sight. You may find yourself wanting to revisit them in the future -or not. But by doing this you can at least unburden yourself of the visual and mental clutter. Blessings to you 🙏
I got into a really bad buying and purging cycle. I would buy a new deck and not connect with it. Then the guilt would kick in and I would try to sell it. Most of the time I would just use that money to buy another deck. I keep doing the same thing over and over again. Decks lose their value as soon as you open them. It's something I still working on.
This was so interesting and i think very important. I def have a lot of decks, I hope to work with them seasonally but I also wish I had less in a way and deeper connections ...I respect you taking time to do this video ...you always inspire me xxx
Grace, I really appreciate this video like I did with the video you posted last year. Thank you for be so honest. I agree with so many things you said. I hope you're safe and I wish you the best. ♥️ Happy Birthday 🥳
Yeah this video really resonates with me. I only got into tarot about a year ago and initially I got swept up buying a lot of decks that I felt I ‘had to have’ but the reality is that you only really one deck… for everything. I’m bored of the TH-camrs perpetuating this consumerism… like ‘oh you need a cute deck for inner child work, a dark deck for shadow work blah blah.. and the latest fad of pairing oracle decks with every tarot deck they have. It’s just buy buy buy, spend money on stuff you don’t need. Everyday is yet another walk through of a new deck, and if they’re getting free decks there’s no way they’re going to say anything negative about that deck. It’s false and shallow, they’re creating content without actually putting any effort into creating content. And viewers fawn all over them! I mean people can buy what they want but the amount of decks some have IMO is obscene. AND the anti haul vids I’ve sussed as well are clickbait, they don’t even get rid of any decks! It’s about time this sort of nonsense was called out! Sorry I’m ranting now but they’re more interested in the whole witchy aesthetic thing with no substance. It’s frustrating 😢
I’m making another trip to the river and stopping by some of these old videos for the support. Selling decks for little more than the cost of shipping, or gifting them, has been easier than what I’m left with at this point which is the recycling or burn pile for all the ones I haven’t been able to even give away. It feels like having to look Guilt in the eye. 😓
Be kind to your past self, Alicia. You are no longer them. As for "looking guilt in the eye", do so with love and empathy for your past self. You have grown. Keep what you love. I donated indie decks no one wanted to a charity shop. I'm sending you a great big virtual hug. It does indeed consist of many, many, trips to the river. Rest when you need to. You are doing great. 🤗❤
Totally agree with you. I watch videos of these new fantastic decks and I think, they don't seem readable. I enjoy oracle decks. But can't read with most tarot decks that are not raider Waite. They do nothing for me usually . Recently begun giving Osho Zen a go though .
So glad your post came across my feed today! Kudos to you for your honesty. Your vid completely resonated with me. I found myself spending more time on TarotTube looking at new deck unboxing than actually reading Tarot, which I absolutely love. Moderation and balance is key.
I enjoyed hearing your reflections of this process. It's always a topic that interests me, all opinions included. I got really chatty here so apologies for an essay amount of thoughts. It pains, yet doesn't surprise me, that people cut you off due to difference of opinion. It feels to me social media encourages the loss of learning to agree to disagree, enjoy and listen to differences of opinions and respectfully debate (not referencing topics of genuine harm of course, but any other matters). I'd love to see us sharing our opinions and for others to recognise they are ours, whether they agree, don't or are impartial. Most of my content is now on Patreon and Instagram, so my TH-cam seems a little lacking I'm sure. I felt hindered here sometimes, not a part of this particular aspect of "community" and also the lacking in genuine discussion and engagement. It's nice to see so much conversation often in your video comments though. I come here for your thoughts and all this community discussion below too. Again, whether I agree, disagree or somewhere in-between, it’s good stuff. Do you remember years ago when people used to do VR videos to topics before the hashtag kinda thing. TH-camrs would just VR to a topic like this they wanted to join in on and we'd have all these really conversational videos, sometimes even some back and forth. I miss that and I appreciate that's slightly hypocritical or me having left for Patreon and Instagram mostly, but not showing my face here isn't well received lol. I do believe when people are this way inclined, someone who heavily consumes material items/own them, that they will be like this wherever they are, whatever community. I think TH-cam can seem like the community perpetuates this in a greater way, because of what’s popular on TH-cam over other things and other content like instagram posts, blogs, emails and courses etc. But I’m curious to hear your thoughts on that if you have any. It’s been interesting as I now sometimes have discomfort recommending or reviewing decks because I didn’t want to be a part of how things started to feel to me, yet I have a lot to say about my favourites from joy not because I care for who buys or owns it. So that’s been an interesting ride feeling that out and seeing where I fall in it all, especially as TH-cam is such a bland reflection of my “content”/practice. Decluttering seems to be trending atm, those ebb and flows in community feel common cyclically and it seems that’s the way the pendulum is swinging. As you say, the clickbait videos bury those that are genuine beneath this more popular brand of video. I feel out of the loop here though, as I don’t know much of what you’re referencing but I can damn believe it. I don’t feel all instagram is fake, but course our experiences are all so individual. I have enjoyed the connective community I’ve been lucky to find over time there. I’ve spoken about my photos over there often as the assumption of them I find challenging, especially the binary thinking that can occur around it, but I can also understand where it comes from for many. Review wise, honest or not I like to retain the responsibility, because we're so different to each other, maybe even the most honest review could be so different to our experience. But, it would be awesome if people felt they could speak to their perceived cons of a deck not just its pros. Loved you sharing what you’ve learned about what you enjoy over time. Seems the Thoth has become a powerful one for you :) Your approach of looking for what you want too. Also appreciated the concept of influencer versus role model kinda archetype. I should stop now as this is far too long, but needless to say I enjoyed this discussion. As you said, be true to who you are. This is the main thing.
You are welcome to write as much as you want as I always value your thoughts and feelings, even if (and often especially if) they differ from my own. Thank you. xo
@@MaryGraceFahrun thank you. There was just so much to think on and consider. I love these topical chats deeply and had been having them elsewhere, so it was wonderfully timely. I hope you had a lovely weekend too 🖤
I’m at the point where I only keep what I absolutely love. I’m probably down to about a dozen because if it’s not a deck I desire to read with often than I don’t want it. I love the feeling of getting rid of shut I don’t need. I only wish I had the patience to sell stuff.
As for where I am in my journey, I've been "collecting" tarot for almost three years. I am pretty good at sending them out when they don't work for me, but the tide is always coming in and going back out. I still don't have a firm grasp on what works. The "noise" is loud even on my small collection of
Hello! New sub to you, first time seeing your video and loved it, great points you made! First of all though - 53?!? What? You look maybe 40 tops. Happy Birthday, no matter the age
Happy belated birthday! What a great video, giving us lots to think about. I’ll be adding a link to it under my recent video. My feeling of overwhelm isn’t as strong as some people, but I know I need to revisit my purchasing when I receive a deck in the mail, and leave it unopened for weeks. If we’re going to talk about actual content, the trend of TH-camrs going to a live content model has not helped. It’s become the reality tv of video creating, with people shooting the shit and saying *nothing* of substance. Like I mentioned in my other comment, the alternative is paying for suscriptions which I’m reluctant to do from a financial standpoint. Almost everyone, it seems, gravitate towards getting paid at some point. These days, when I see interesting content, I figure it’s only a matter of time before the Patreon notice comes up. (And I’m baffled that some consider participating in lives with them would be an enticement.)
I really dislike the live content model. I am reluctant to pay for subscriptions and Patreons because it can really add up and, well... like I always say: people are free to do what they want with their channels and I am free to choose whether or not I wish to participate. I don't get how lives are enticing either.
Happy birthday! Another great and thought-provoking video. Thank you. I agree with so much that you said about reviews. So much of life has become overly commercialized and monetized and tarot tube is part of that. I get it. I imagine it's easier in many ways to do an unboxing, flip-through or review than it is create the same volume of other tarot content.
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I agree with all that you've said. I've come to a lot of realizations over the last few weeks/months, which are reflected in your videos -- and I've finally found myself feeling not-crazy because of you and many of the commenters on your various videos. I felt so alone before this! It's discouraging when you (general you) are surrounded by people who think your views are wrong and that you are the enemy for trying to find balance and sanity, and wanting to avoid all this consumerism to go back to things like connecting with something and not just spending, spending, spending to get the latest stuff.
And the "infomercial-izing" of tarot-tube has made it so any criticism whatsoever (no matter how constructive, no matter how valid and true) of a creator is seen as negative trash talk and toxic. It's weirdly similar to "celebrity worship" in a way -- like somehow creators have been put on pedestals. I wonder if people are equating themselves with the creators? (Similar to the Fantasy Self concept that you talked about in one of your other videos.) It's like, if you voice any opinion other than squealing in glee at their art or deck quality -- no matter how respectful you are in pointing out that things are not up to par -- then you're branded a toxic hater!
Also, it boggles my mind just how much tarot people will roll over and allow creators to act in completely unprofessional ways, and people will STILL support that creator! There have been creators who got caught plagiarizing artwork (with no acknowledgment that they did so, save to quietly change the copied art), and people are STILL buying/promoting their decks! There are creators who took people's money and delivered nothing for 2+ years, and people were STILL defending that, and calling anyone who complained as heartless, toxic, disgusting, etc. Sorry, but once you take people's money, this crap stops becoming a hobby and becomes a business, and you have an obligation to be professional in your dealings -- not to dance around doing other projects because you're bored. And yes, life does get in the way of things, but in what other business is it acceptable that someone's personal life makes it so they're allowed to take people's money for 2 or 3 years (and KEEP ON DOING SO, by the by), all while rabid fans will defend them to the death and no one can say anything negative even when it's all warranted? There are creators who completely ignore messages and lack communication, and when some people point these things out, they are attacked by these tarot-creator-worshippers and called nasty names. It's crazy!
By the way, I'm not sure which video you mentioned this (I kind of binge-watched a few in a row, but maybe it was the FOMO one) ... I remember you saying you hurriedly bought a deck because you saw it was the last one in stock and FOMO got the better of you, only to find that the creator was creating faux-scarcity to entice impulse buys. OMG, I have a similar experience, except this was on the creator's site. So I'm checking stock levels for a particular deck because I wanted to order one but I also wanted to take my time (I was purchasing art supplies and needed more budget for those, so I didn't want to buy a tarot deck yet). However, I saw that the stock on this site suddenly went from around 86 to 5 seemingly overnight, I panicked! I decided to buy a deck right then, and I was glad that I did when I saw later that the tarot was "Out of stock" ... BUT wouldn't you know it, just a couple days later, there were again 5 copies for sale. I was so disappointed and mad at myself for falling for it, and it really left a bad taste in my mouth! I still have the deck but I haven't used it save for the first time I opened it to check the cards were all fine. (The box was a crappy two-piece box, by the by, that looked worn and scuffed despite being shrinkwrapped.)
Sorry for the huge comment... I don't know if you'll end up reading this but at least I got to vent a bit and feel like I've found someone who understands. I'm so disillusioned about it all, and felt really bad because so-called "friends" in the community have made me feel like I'm the problem because I don't gush over every single deck and I see legit complaints about certain creators as legit, and I don't want to spend half my salary on buying decks (not that I ever did, but I've seen some people who did) or being secretive and trying to hide purchases from a partner (again seen this behavior too).
Thank you for watching and thank you for taking the time to comment and point out a lot of things I have observed and didn't get around to mentioning. Know that you are among friends here. xo
After 1 year, I feel the same.
Welcome to the other side. Nah. Years ago I already said, there is no "community". As soon as one person insisted on defining who and what the community is, rulership established and fought for, and gatekeeping was enforced, it was the end of whatever real community was there, if ever. Good to hear more people who are upfront, confident in their own selves, and not looking for agreement and approval from others. Peace!
Yes! Well said, Anneke 💚
I got sucked into the tarot consumer vortex too. I found buying more cards was an excuse for me to not actually commit and learn how to read them. I culled my decks and I'm now reading (and actually honing my reading skills) with a 3$ deck of playing cards.
When I started out, I saw all this deck collection videos and my first thought was: how will they ever get that amazing relationship with their decks? With hundreds on their shelf, gaining dust. It's addiction, clean and simple
PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes, forgive yourself!
Yes, find a role model!
Your voice is always like a cold glass of water. Or a shot of tequila...refreshing, bracing and "cut through the bullshit and truth revealing.
I was sent a deck that wasn't something I would use. And was told I should be grateful that someone thought of me to do so. I guarantee they were NOT thinking positively of me when they sent it.
I pride myself on offering honest reviews. I hope I am doing a fairly good job of it.
Unfortunately, there hasn't been much coming out of late, that I want to talk about. And there are some that I am doing research on as the decks may be a jumping off point for other interests. But for the most part it's the same drivel that's being offered up.
I started my channel because I wanted something others weren't offering. The Truth. Initially, I thought I should use the same pablum puking template as many...cardstock, pretty pictures...ooh, aahh! BLERGH!!!
I just want to have real thought provoking conversations. I want to listen to really substantial content. It's not about numbers for me. IMHO, all of social media is the Land of Oz. What's really behind the curtain?
There are a few people I listen to. Even less that I watch.
Mary-Grace, no matter what, when, how or why you will always hold a special place in my heart.
Thank you, thank you!
It felt like the Holy Spirit speaking through. Every word you said, I'm going through right now. I had 70+ decks and have culled it down to 30 and still in the process of decluttering more.
The consumerism and marketing for Tarot is insane. You speak with such truth that many people need to hear. Some will not take it well, but is the exact 3 of Sword message they need to hear.
The Tarot cards don't do anything. It's 100% spirit. Tarot cards are just pretty tools in different versions. Like make-up pallettes on the marker that comes every week!
You truly have a gift of Counsel. This video I will save and keep watching as my reminder and my spiritual check. God bless you! 🤍🤍🤍
Conclusion: Fuck TarotTube and what it's become 😂
I really enjoyed watching both videos about your process with this. And wow! This must've been so much work, and probably continues to be, with all the (actual) decluttering, all the inner work and the discipline that it takes.
Cackled at the sarcastic jokes ("smash that dislike button!" 🤣), nodded along many of the truth bombs you dropped, but also found myself shocked by the scale of the problem - the examples from your own life as well as others who went through this blew my fucking mind, to be honest. Especially the shitty ways in which people are treated in this pseudo-community for speaking up about their experience of "retail therapy" getting way out of control. Or how some guilt-trip themselves for binge-buying while still being unable to control it. It's seriously heartbreaking and shocking, and eye-opening.
I'm glad you mentioned Depth Year cause I feel like that was an important moment for quite a few of us (those who treated it seriously). While personally I never collected too many decks and any of that stuff, depth year made me realise that having a YT channel and actively participating in this "community" was what needed to go from my life - it was a massive waste of time. In September of this year it'll be 2 years for me since I closed down my channel and I'm honestly so glad. Same as you said in this video, now I only watch vids that genuinely interest me by either being educational or thought-provoking, or both. No time for hauls, reviews, walkthroughs of shit I don't need. I mean, it's pretty obvious that all these vids are simply cogs in the consumerist machine that directly supports capitalism. I can't help myself but think of all the waste these decks create in the environment - the trees cut for this, the water wasted in production, the years it'll take for all this crap to decompose (if ever). Some parts of our planet will be uninhabitable in a decade because of our buying choices, and yet it still doesn't ring the bell for some how ironic it is to simultaneously practice animism/paganism and retail therapy. Anyway, I don't wanna go on a tangent here. I'm also very passionate about this topic 😂 Thank you for holding this space for people to discuss these things without judgement. Spaces like yours are so hard to come by these days. Much love ❤🔥
Thank you for watching and thank you for taking the time to comment. Your channel was my favorite and I totally understood why you stopped. "how ironic it is to simultaneously practice animism/paganism and retail therapy." Ding ding ding! This. I totally agree with you about all the waste they cause to the environment. From the manufacturing process to the outrageously gigantic and over-produced boxes. Much love to you xo
I've watched this several times. I can't tell you how much this resonates with too many of us and we need voices in this "community" like yours Mary Grace. Your voice is very much needed and appreciated. I had one deck for years and years and in 2019 I just lost control. I can't believe how much money I spent on decks that I didn't even use at all. Just collecting dust on a shelf. 😒 Ugh. It pains me but the spell has definitely been broken and I went from close to 100 and now down to 20. I'm one of the very very few Canadians that prices things right 😅 so thankfully through FB buy/sell groups I was able to recoup hundreds and hundreds of dollars back. 🙏 Still lost a lot of money but it's a lesson learned and what's done is done. Moving forward, I feel like I've really nailed down what I like and can work with and everything else, stunning or not LOL, is one big fat NO. If anything, most decks turn off me now. When you talked about the rose petal finish, oh how I chuckled. "How romantic, rose petal... ROSE PETAL???" 🤣🤣🤣 Legendary stuff here. Thank you for this video, thank you for pulling alot of us out of the muck and I want to end this by saying, whatever Value Village you go to, that community is very very VERY lucky. 😂💕
Thank you for this video. I recently realized I was buying decks just to have them and never reached for them to use them, and I’ve been culling off decks and watching videos like this for about a week now. My collection only got to about 60 decks, but it still felt like too much. This video really made me feel like I’m doing the right thing by slimming down to only the decks I know I reach for often enough to justify their ownership. In fact, this video made me think more decks could stand to leave.
I have never seen your channel before but you are on FIRE in this video! I appreciate all you've shared. I've been studying Tarot for over two years and I have bought about 20 decks (re-homed about half a dozen that I ended up not liking). I feel like this is excessive. I'm in the process of "decluttering" all my belongings... (recent separation, new beginning), but I STILL find it hard to not to accumulate new decks. Oh, and the concept of a "soul deck" is so dangerous.
Thank you sooo much for this video! You are way tooo awesome! I am about 15 decks deep and already knew it was becoming too much. I had a similar issue with make up…. Spent thousands… literally and had to go to that ‘“river” many times. Got rid of and had to throw away so much, such a waste. I’m not sure what it is but I get that way with anything I take an interest in. I’m working on getting to the root of the problem, which is why I got into tarot, initially it was a tool to help me do inner work, but to the “demons” nothing is sacred and I realized that I have to be vigilant no matter what it is I’m doing , even if it’s self-help! Thank you for saying it’s an ongoing process……it really is. Great video!
Thank you Mary ! I have been using 1 deck for 10 years and suddenly l find myself surrounded by 40 decks in Dec 2021.It is divine intervention that l stumbed on this video and will not waste any more money to just be a part of some non existing community. Thank you for opening my eyes and now l'd rather burn money than buy a deck l didn't need. Thank you🤗🤗
Tarotube needs to hear this, whether they can face up to it or not. I've been reading cards since 1996 and it wasn't until 2014 that I started "collecting" because of TH-cam and the constant unboxings. Currently sitting in my bedroom, surrounded by 100+ decks and feeling overwhelmed. Been feeling for awhile now that I wanted to cull big time-thank you for the supportive space, thank you for being vulnerable and speaking the truth about the consumerism that has invaded spiritual/tarot online spaces.
Oh, Mary-Grace, this hit painfully close to home. As hard as this video is to watch, I'm sure glad you made it, ALL of this needs to be said. Or, at least, these are all things I need to hear. ...sigh... "It's almost as if we were under a spell." Indeed.
Your the breath of fresh air we all need … love it ❤️
Thank you for your honesty and thank you for being the most inspiring TH-cam channel for me, for quite a while. You made me stop and think when I I first watched this and I’m revisiting it now. TH-cam has become a commercial tool but there are still some gems like your channel. Please never delete this!
I'm going through this myself... I feel overwhelmed with the amount of decks I have (80). I feel like I'm always trying to keep up with my newer decks instead of deeply bonding with the ones I actually love. There's about only 25 decks I really would keep, one's that serve a purpose to me. Rehoming all those decks is not easy!! it's such a time and energy consuming process... I'm happy though because now I am a conscious consumer, no more impulse purchases from now on
!!! Thanks for this video my friend :)
I fell down the TarotTube rabbit hole last year for no good reason - I went from having 2 or 3 decks to having maybe 30 or so with a month or two of starting to watch.. Which comes nowhere near what you are describing except that I realized that I was madly, frantically looking for new decks to buy. My experience was that I would get a new deck, start feeling guilty about the purchase even before it arrived, and on first flip through usually being really disappointed and feeling no interest at all in the deck EVEN THOUGH I had vetted the deck and watched walkthroughs before buying. It all came to a screeching halt around the time you posted your video a year ago and I started divesting myself of decks and doing soul searching about what I really wanted from tarot. It’s been interesting. I am still on the journey.
Thank you for watching and thank you for sharing you thoughts on your experience. xo
I have SO many thoughts on all this, but for now, I just want to leave it at this: I genuinely appreciate your honest sharing here and in general on your channel. It's my personal opinion that if hearing what you've had to say here is offensive to someone, then maybe that person could benefit by taking a deep breath. We are ALL entitled to our opinions and we don't have to agree with each other to recognize the importance of having more than one homogenous perspective. I don't agree with everything you've said, but I definitely feel you brought up a LOT of good points here. 💜💜💜💜💜
I see people getting rid of their whole collections and then regretting it and I would worry about that for myself personally. I used to sell books online and closet sale my old clothes and would do that stress declutter over and over and then sometimes regret getting rid of certain things. I do not do this now.
This video was really great. Ive liked your videos for some time and your channel is one that has inspired me to start my own. I havent made any videos yet really because I feel pressured to do walk throughs etc and Im trying to plan carefully what i want to say and bring to the table.
I do think people can be really hard on themselves about this topic as well and do the deck declutter stress release. I usually buy my decks used and have had bought things from people and returned them to them when they contact me regretting the sale.
There is such a thing called a 'severe beauty'. That's how I see this presentation. Much needed, life-restoring, ultimately encouraging but only if I can face the the Queen of Sword's truth. Thank you, Mary-Grace.
Thank you, Anna and thank you for teaching me this new term! xo
I can relate, love this video, love everything about it! 2019/2020 have been consumerism crazy. And… I’m kind of ready to stop ‘collecting’. Does that mean I will never buy a deck again? No. Does it mean I will not mindlessly buy any old crap anymore? Yes. There are some decks that are truly special works of art that I will always keep around. But never again ‘another’ RWS clone that doesn’t really add anything to the table. Love your directness and if people can’t handle it, it’s their problem.
So glad I found you, you're speaking everything. So much I want to say but for now just happy to find a kindred spirit in this new to me Tarot world. I'd been out of the loop for years, came back and wondered what the eff happened! Thank you, never change!
this is worthy of multiple viewings because I see myself here and the guilt and shame doesn't feel so bad because others recognize this addiction as well
Exactly. There are people out there who say it shouldn't be called an addiction because it's only tarot decks, but I think if there's guilt/shame involved it definitely has elements of an addiction.
I did the same thing Mary! I unsubscribed to many of tarot tubers for the same reason. I can't tell you how many times I thought of all the things you talked about. I am so tired of the tarot tubers who are such hypocrites. They all talk about the same thing like its some competition, review the same decks then later state they don't use them for whatever reason. A deck reviewed every week, unboxing of decks that they have never used, and I hate when they review a deck that is out of print. Thank you for saying all the things that were bothering me. I applaud you for sticking to your opinions!
Thank you. Any time you show up, I listen.
This conversation has resurfaced for me in Divine timing. I have watched Mixtress Rae's videos, as well as all of yours on this topic, and it has invited me to pause and quiet the *noise* around me so that I can really unpack my own issues with retail therapy and who's content I consume.
You have given voice to what so many of us know to be true but are either A) too afraid (or not ready) to admit it or B) didn't fully grasp what was occurring due to the *spell* we have been under.
You are a role model to me in multiple ways. Thank you for keeping it real and always offering your honesty. Happy (now belated) birthday! xo-Ang
Thank you for watching and thank you for sharing, Ang. xo
You will never know how much youve just helped me!
yes! i absolutely love each deck that i use. each one has its place and i get excited about using them. i use 10 decks and have about 14 that i own for other reasons. a deck has to make my heart happy.
58:00 - one of the most powerful parts of this video - the influencer vs. the role model, POWERFUL advice. Absolutely loved this video you’ve made. It’s one of the only brutally honest ones I’ve found on TH-cam or anywhere for that matter (and I’m writing this in October 2024). I’m a new listener but got so much from this. Deck consumerism, overwhelm, and addiction is something still rarely spoke about. But it’s a hugely oppressive force in many people’s lives, often without them realizing it until it’s too late and they’ve blown thousands of dollars. Thank you for making this 🙏
I suspect most of us have to learn this the hard way, because it seems like many of us know what it's like to binge to excess, and be enthralled for months, and buy because of hype or FOMO. I came to similar conclusions as you, and shop in a similar way, starting with the sense that something is missing in my collection, or that I'm craving a certain type of deck and then discerning what it should be like and then going on the hunt for it. That's satisfying. Versus the decks I've bought only because someone else was hyping it. Those are the ones I usually fail to connect with. But this was a process I had to learn through trial and error. A big revelation for me that helped me with FOMO was to embrace the fact I'd come to tarot in MY season and I didn't need to own the decks of past or future seasons. I might snap up a vintage deck if I see it for sale at a thrift store, but I don't feel a need to hunt it down on the secondhand market anymore. And I also don't feel a need to watch what decks are coming out now or next month, etc. It's been liberating. I appreciate you addressing this topic. I have to work out the degree to which I'm comfortable sharing my enthusiasm for decks on my channel. I'm sitting on an update video atm because I got a little excited about decks I'm working with, and while I want to be authentic, I'll also feel anxiety if l sound like it's all about the "stuff." Bottom line: It's easy to be conflicted over this stuff! 🙃😁
Loved this video watched both parts took me a few days. Loved this omg I have been doing a huge declutter myself privately. I just got sick of many decks collecting dust. So I boxed them up and will be donating them. I am so happy about it. Feels freeing. I'm sick of dishonesty too with some reviews. I got offered once to work as a reviewer for a company and I rejected it because I felt such negative energy from the creators. The way they communicated with me felt like they only wanted me to talk well of their product. This isn't who I am so I said no. They offered to pay me for my reviews weird because why would you pay me for a review. Fast forward a few weeks later I go to tarot tube and they picked another woman to review the same decks and that I refused to do. I am so glad I refused when I saw the poor card stock and horrible quality of the decks I knew I made the right decision. The reviewer gave a glowing review surprise surprise lol.. I rather just buy a deck and tell you my thoughts on it after working with it. I won't sell my soul. People watching trust us and some buy based on what we say. Thank you again for this content.
I fell into the whole believing that I had to be showing decks to have a channel about my passions. Those creators offering to pay you for your reviews is the same as them buying (your) credibility. That is why you found the offer so repellent. You are a person of integrity and I am honored by you watching and commenting on my videos. Also, I'm with you. I'd rather buy a deck of my own mind and with my own money and be free to tell the truth of whether it is any good or not. Much love to you and by the way, DAMN, you are looking more and more beautiful. God bless! xoxo
Happy Birthday! And thank you for saying what is in your mind, thank you for being honest. I too, like so many of us, have unsubscibed so many channels and unfollowed many on IG. Enough with the selling, I want honesty, I want opinions, I want to see decks yes, but I want to see them being used - and more than just pretty pics after pretty pics. I still enjoy watching reviews, but only if I can trust that the person doing that is a) being honest and saying also the negative things and b) those decks talked about don’t disappear after couple of videos, they turn up again and again. They are tools, they have meaning and there’s a connection. And no channel can be honest if all they do is unboxings and reviews (and mostly in the same video).
Oh, I’m starting to ramble. Thank you for your channel, you truly are a rolemodel ❤️
I am also partial to traditional tarot. I have a small collection and I feel like I did spend too much on a few. I use almost all of my Oracle decks and two or three of my traditional tarot decks. If I want to get rid of a few I give them to friends and family.
I always enjoy listening to your take on things. I hear you on the honest reviews issue. I film deck reviews, and even though my goal originally was to be honest and talk about the bad as well as the good, and if I like a deck it's easy to be honest. But I have filmed reviews of decks I don't like and not uploaded them! I think the fact that the creator might see the review scares me 🙈. I buy my own decks so it's not about getting freebies. I guess it's people pleasing. I admire your honesty on that front and aspire to self censor a bit less.
Anyway, great video. Thought provoking and conversation starting.
I’m that person fortunate enough to buy what I want and store it on my shelf. I LOVED this video, and decided to unfollow the people who prompt my mindless spending. Thank you so much!
Henceforth, I will call my decks "these sh*ts" 😂Happy belated Solar Return!
LOL Thank you Juli! xo
Happy Birthday from the other July girl, Grace.
All good wishes from here for health, healing, and wholeness always. Your words in this share are soul medicine. Gratitude for your work tonight.🙏
Side note: it's always been more fun to be part of the fringe and the frontier. If that's where your heart is home, the lights of the town are fun but not where you ever really could live. I think these experiences just serve to remind us we are creatures of the woods, always were. 🧡
So much love and Happy Birthday to you S! xoxo
I'm so glad I found your channel. I have been craving this kind of realness. Thank you for being honest.
Welcome and thank you for sharing! 🤗
It took me a while to watch this video because I wanted to watch it attentively. It’s such an inspiration. I struggle with consumption in multiple sources of my life. I’m going to have to watch this video each time I want to make an impulse purchase.
Thank you so much for your honesty! I appreciate it enormously. I have a shopping addiction and switch my makeup/clothes for tarot/oracle cards. I stopped watching walkthroughs of new decks because I am trying to stop buying things I don't need with money I don't have. I was even buying the fake decks for a fraction of the price just to keep my collection new and fresh. I was so wrong!
Peace and love to everyone out there.
Your honesty and passion is so refreshing and so very needed. Thank you for saying all of this.
oh my gosh!!! get outta my head!!! A few years ago I did this...got rid of bags, upon bags to Value Village.....I knew that selling them would be a nightmare and plus packaging supplies and post office trips...ugh...I got more pleasure out of getting rid of them than I ever did having them in my "collection". You were bang on...the thrill of finding them in my mailbox...opening and flipping thru and on to a shelf....aaaaaaaaand...next...oh my gosh!!!...I still have a lot of decks but most I believe to hold some kind of deeper value than just the joy of getting something in the mail. Thousands of dollars just gone, never to be recouped. These days I write myself letters and mail them to myself and I get deliriously delighted when I get mail!!! xo
You writing letters to yourself is absolutely inspired and beautiful. xo
Yup, caught that same bug. I have a 1 1/2 cartons under my bed of rejected decks - not for me. With what’s left, I’m still trying to pare down by spending a week doing daily focus draws, coupling each deck with oracles and journaling - is there personal meaning? - do they help solve problems? - are they helpful to understand emotions and moods? If they don’t, they go. If a deck responds to my needs, it stays along with core decks. Thanks for your timely video; now I can seal those cartons in plastic and drop them off to the donate table at my local dump. Sunk costs, lessons learned, FOMO and fantasy fading into the past. 😌
Be kind to yourself. Look ahead and keep moving forward. Never stop working at making better choices. This is what I keep telling myself. xo
You are having your own experience 👏 Combing for lice, I see that with culling decks. Never thought of mentioning I got all my decks (apart from the Trionfi expansion packs) with my own money, it's just a given. I have noticed I don't want a big Tarot collection, and so I stopped watching so many reviews because it doesn't interest me that much. It also doesn't annoy me this much :D The biggest thing for me is the content being not only about Tarot decks, but actually about Tarot, spirituality, etc.
You never have to say you bought your decks with your own money. It is evident in your channel content and decks you own that reflect different facets of who you are. Anna, you are one of the people who I have continued to watch. You are one of the lights on YT that helped in guiding me back to my lost true self. With all my heart, thank you. ❤
Oh, and Anna, I love the "unasked for VRs" you started doing. We are all free to share our ideas and feelings inspired by what we experience without it having to be in response to or tied to someone else's. Brava! 👏🏼
@@MaryGraceFahrun Wauw thank you, that's an amazing compliment, especially coming from someone who's been doing this so long. Can hardly wait to see what's next on your channel
And ergo, the fundamental truth: the longer I read cards and the more I learn, the more I discover how very little I know.
Thank you for this video and your thoughts, I am in the process of downsizing my house and moving to an RV full time. I am so lucky that I have my son's and nieces to hand my decks down to. At the moment I am down to 50 oracle, tarot, playing cards, dominoes , charm casting, I ching, runes and dixit card sets. My declutter is ongoing, but exciting too.
One way I decide to keep a deck or not is how it shuffles. The deck has to overhand, riffle, bridge with ease or away it goes. Even if I love the images and/or art.
Oh, that sounds... wonderfully liberating. May you be blessed in your new adventure! xo
@@therebackagain4433 Yes to cardstock that shuffles, Thank you so much, I have a ways to go but it is getting closer.
@@MaryGraceFahrun Thank you, it is a process, I have so much stuff. But much less now lol I am so excited.
I love the honesty. Thanks for putting yourself out there. I wish I could be friends with you. Sending everyone healing energy.
Thank you for watching and commenting. Thank you for sharing your healing energy with all of us. xoxo
💗💗💗💯 I donated mine, couldn't deal with the emotional stress of selling either. Feeling so much lighter now. Thank you Mary-Grace and happy birthday!
this is your channel NEVER apologise for your view /opinion . It`s funny because when you really sit down and look hard at most decks behind the glitter and smoke of the hype , most of them are actually butt ugly ....all it is now is a whole lot of tarot posing rather than actually reading the cards. Thanks for keeping it real .
I really appreciate your honesty and just this video (both parts) as a whole. I love that you point out being genuine while owning/rehoming decks, as in the end it is about being true and honest with yourself. I can’t believe I haven’t found your channel earlier. I just unfollowed/unsubscribed a ton of channels/people with just unboxing videos and hauls, and I definitely see it all differently now.
I’m being through this whole journey and it’s expensive and exhausting and emotionally draining.But you’re videos help me to navigate this whole ordeal and keep me grounded thank you ❤️❤️✨✨Happy Birthday my fellow Leo 🦁🦁🦁 Best wishes always ❤️🎉🎉
I know you have spent many many years owning only two decks. I have a little under 30, which is not a large collection in comparison with many on the net. Still I feel this is too much when looking at it, I really use only a handful. And the reasons for buying are the same as if I had a hundred. Always believing these images will had so much depth to my spiritual life! No. Cards don't do that. Sitting in reflection, journaling, meditating and reading cards that talk to me do that.
I am genuinely interested in your take on the issue of tarot collecting.
I soo agree with you about the card-stock. I’ve been saying it for months and people look at me like I’m nuts. I have some thoughts on this I’m going to do a VR. This was soo authentic abd real… Thank you soo much for sharing.
I’d love to hear your opinion on this Justin 🙂
@@vkestrel3519 I think I’ll comment on it in my Channel update this week. I don’t agree entirely with Mary Grace, but I agree with a lot of what she said, and Im inspired by her honesty and respect her opinion.
“If you see yourself in what I say then 🤷🏻♀️”
Fkn love it! I’ve just recently returned back to watching TH-cam and I’ve missed your sass and face so much!
Thank you and welcome back! 🤗 ❤
YOU HAVE SAID JUST ABOUT EVERYTHING I HAVE WANTED TO SAY 👏🙏
This is a wonderful video! ❤️ much love to you for speaking your mind! I definitely resonated with Tarottube making you doubt your own reading abilities ...I've been reading for over 20 years and I definitely felt like I wasn't good enough after watching tarotube, but I slowly realized that I shouldn't doubt myself and my abilities because of other people. Thank you for taking the time to create this video and stand up and speak your truth!!
Yes! Luckily I didn’t get too far in but still the 20-30 or so that I bought felt overwhelming. For me, I think a lot of it was lockdown/Covid. My readings were stagnant, I was stagnant. So I thought I need a new deck/tool to make me a better reader. And it felt good, the rush, when so few things were making me feel good. But that lasts like a couple seconds. And my readings were just as stagnant with the new decks…. Thank you for sharing! Always appreciate the honesty.
When I was home with “almost burn out” in 2012 it helped me a lot to declutter my possessions. I was not even into tarot then yet!
I love you. I just started learning tarot about 2 years ago and last year was my buying year. It is all still so new, it was fun to see what's out there, and I ended up purchasing too many decks. I did count mine, 56 decks of tarot, and maybe 15 decks of oracle cards. I couldn't believe I had bought so many decks! Some of them I never used after doing my own little walk through. All I could think of was "I only use 1 or 2 decks at a time, why did I buy all these?" Then I started seeing these declutter videos and the youtuber had hundreds of decks. I couldn't believe it, yet could see how easy it could be to aquire that many if mindlessly purchasing, plus all the free decks the indie creators and publishers send out for advertising. I ended up making a schedule for this year, assigning two decks a month to use exclusively so I can learn which ones will work for me, and which ones I will get rid of. It's only March and already I have set aside half the decks I have used for the exit pile. I wonder what I will do with them......I really don't want to go through the hassle of selling them, shipping them out, etc., yet it would be nice to recoup some cash. I don't really know anybody locally that reads tarot. I may end up taking them to Half Price Books and getting a couple dollars a deck. Oh, and don't get me started on books! I think I'd have to read at least 2 books a week to get through all the books I purchased on tarot, witchcraft, folk magic, etc.. (don't worry, yours is one I read already. ) I could blame this all on my ADHD and over focus, etc. But in the end, I'm the one who went shopping on Amazon. I purchased 2 indie decks through kickstarter and won't do that anymore. The first deck is beautiful, and I love it, but the cards are too thick/stiff to shuffle and the guilding hurts my hands. I'm hoping I can asmr shuffle it off and on all day during the month it is assigned and get the cards to soften up. The other deck I purchased took months and months to receive, and when I got the deck, it didn't look like the pictures online and I hate it. That one will go for sure. Anyway, like you, I don't watch walk through videos unless it's something I'm interested, and I don't watch deck collection videos that are more than 20-30, minutes. I had one recommended to me that was over 2 hours long. Ridiculous, at that point it seems to be more of a show and tell brag fest. Where do folks keep all these decks? That is why I stopped and took inventory. I ran out of room. I felt the shame, too. How could I have spent so much money? I'm still paying down my credit card. I could have used that money in a wiser way. The good news is, the spree is over, and if I want a new deck, I can shop in my closet for one. Thank you for being so real. I love your channel, I love YOU.
Unpopular opinion: I don't like those super trendy decks where you just have a small, abstract image in the centre of the card and the rest is blank space. They always cost a bomb as well, so it's just as well I don't want them! 😬😂
Preach it, Grace! Who the hell needs these people? At my advanced age (54! you're catching up!), I do what I want.
You're so Italian. I love you! 😂❤
Thank you for saying this: "You need to forgive yourself." That's the bit I still struggle with sometimes.
I love you even more for this video. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I like your comment - forgive yourself and move forward - and that is what I am going to try to do. Thank you for bringing up this topic. I just started on my journey to try to downsize. I bought decks for the art work but I realized that I did not actually make a serious commitment to tarot and learn to read the cards. I am now doing that - reading and studying tarot and using some of my decks. I will never be a 3 or 4 deck person, but I would definitely like to downsize to half of what I have now in my collection.
I don't comment very often, but I always appreciate your content and your point of view. This is an important conversation and I"m glad you put it out there. (One of the reasons I haven't bothered to create content of my own yet is I know just how unpopular it will be, LOL) I'm not in a culling phase, my collection is of moderate size, but it is so helpful to consider ways I can be more thoughtful.
It kills me with the undisclosed PR decks. It reminds me of the beauty community before people cracked down on them for their ingenuous reviews. I really wish people would do this with the tarot community as well.
People are gonna get mad at the truth, but that doesn't mean you should stop saying it. Thank you once again for a refreshingly honest take on the tarot community that tbh a lot of us serious practitioners have been feeling for a while. I had to unsub from a lot of tarot youtubers for exactly the reasons you described and also for the constant "positive collective readings only" people who, imo, make it seem like they just make those videos for views and not to channel accurate messages.
Also 100% agreed, rose petal finishes are the WORST to shuffle.
First of all, a belated Buon compleanno! I’m new to tarot myself, though my nonna was an incredible reader of La Sibilla. I got sucked in Tarot Tube last summer, as school ended and I had lots of time on my hands and no possible place to go (blessed 19!), so I went from no decks to around a hundred. Am I a tarot reader? Not yet 🤣🤣🤣 Got sucked in the beauty of all those fabulous decks and the search for my elusive soul deck - I bought RWS, Morgan Greer and the Aquarian because of a book, combination oracle and tarot decks because they looked so good on screen, decks because the flip through took my breath away, indies because I was too late in the game to get them and found them on swap sites. This video was exactly what I was looking for. Will I cull what I have? Honestly, I don’t know. Will I be way more discerning? I already started, but from now on I’ll follow your advice: find the gap and choose how to fill it. IF there is a gap 🤣🤣🤣 grazie, MariaGrazia 🥰
Great topic! I'd love to see your tarot/oracle collection ! Thanks for sharing!
It's funny, but every type of deck you said you like are my favourites too. I like animal/nature decks, mythical decks, traditional decks and decks that transport me elsewhere. I've recently discovered that these are the types I want to stick to.
This. is why I subscribed! I am LOVING your content and your amazing (and sassy) personality 💕 💫
I try to keep my collection in check by purging periodically and controlling my purchasing with discernment. I put decks into quarantine and then review before I donate, gift or sell them. I have stopped watching unboxing videos and only enjoy when someone I respect shares their honest, personal impressions.
The TRUTH about no authentic reviews though. We would all be well served with a lot more honesty.
New subscriber, thanks for your honest opinions. I enjoy a wide range of tarot related content and it’s interesting how much my taste has changed, as I’ve found my own way with Tarot. I appreciate all the input, but especially those who seem very authentic. It’s refreshing and useful 🙏🏻
I totally agree with your entire point of view! I am so happy someone is voicing it out loud! I have also become stuck within the "deck chase" - getting to about 35-40 decks in a short while.. I also got SICK of all the "tarot tube" videoes of people reviewing card stock or speaking of the decks they "MUST" have... and those "declutter" videoes,,, bah! As for myself,
now all I want is to get rid of like 90% anbd start fresh- with just reading... Still trying to figure out what to do with the decks ( we don't have charity shops for these kinds of things)... If you have any advice would be amazing! Once again GOOD for you for voicing this important message!
If you don't have anywhere to take them, I suggest selecting the one(s) you always reach for and, box up the rest and store them away out of your sight. You may find yourself wanting to revisit them in the future -or not. But by doing this you can at least unburden yourself of the visual and mental clutter. Blessings to you 🙏
This conversation is much appreciated♡
I got into a really bad buying and purging cycle. I would buy a new deck and not connect with it. Then the guilt would kick in and I would try to sell it. Most of the time I would just use that money to buy another deck. I keep doing the same thing over and over again. Decks lose their value as soon as you open them. It's something I still working on.
Oh yeah... I know this buy/purge/buy cycle really well. xo
This was so interesting and i think very important. I def have a lot of decks, I hope to work with them seasonally but I also wish I had less in a way and deeper connections ...I respect you taking time to do this video ...you always inspire me xxx
I LOVE YOU!!! thank you!!
I do wish we could have seen a decluttering video from you. I was waiting for it.
Grace, I really appreciate this video like I did with the video you posted last year. Thank you for be so honest. I agree with so many things you said. I hope you're safe and I wish you the best. ♥️ Happy Birthday 🥳
Thank you for watching and for posting Natalia. I always look forward to and enjoy your videos. xo
@@MaryGraceFahrun❤️ 😘
Yeah this video really resonates with me. I only got into tarot about a year ago and initially I got swept up buying a lot of decks that I felt I ‘had to have’ but the reality is that you only really one deck… for everything. I’m bored of the TH-camrs perpetuating this consumerism… like ‘oh you need a cute deck for inner child work, a dark deck for shadow work blah blah.. and the latest fad of pairing oracle decks with every tarot deck they have. It’s just buy buy buy, spend money on stuff you don’t need.
Everyday is yet another walk through of a new deck, and if they’re getting free decks there’s no way they’re going to say anything negative about that deck.
It’s false and shallow, they’re creating content without actually putting any effort into creating content. And viewers fawn all over them! I mean people can buy what they want but the amount of decks some have IMO is obscene. AND the anti haul vids I’ve sussed as well are clickbait, they don’t even get rid of any decks! It’s about time this sort of nonsense was called out! Sorry I’m ranting now but they’re more interested in the whole witchy aesthetic thing with no substance. It’s frustrating 😢
Just coming in to say hello and say you look great. You always speak your truth and is very refreshing always! Blessings!
I’m making another trip to the river and stopping by some of these old videos for the support. Selling decks for little more than the cost of shipping, or gifting them, has been easier than what I’m left with at this point which is the recycling or burn pile for all the ones I haven’t been able to even give away. It feels like having to look Guilt in the eye. 😓
Be kind to your past self, Alicia. You are no longer them. As for "looking guilt in the eye", do so with love and empathy for your past self. You have grown. Keep what you love. I donated indie decks no one wanted to a charity shop. I'm sending you a great big virtual hug. It does indeed consist of many, many, trips to the river. Rest when you need to. You are doing great. 🤗❤
Same. This is so helpful. I'd say more but pressed for time. Much ❤️
Fabulous video ❤️ thank you for talking about the hard topics
Happy Birthday Grace from another July Leo. You are just so real Grace and I love how you say it how it is🤎
Thank you and Happy Belated Birthday B! xo
Happy belated birthday, B!
I agree, her honesty and authenticity is what draws me here. xo Much love! -Ang
@@RootsAndWaves Thank you Angela 😊
Such a good video, Mary-Grace. Thank you for your unabashed frankness; I’m sure that many folks will benefit from this vid. 💚
Totally agree with you. I watch videos of these new fantastic decks and I think, they don't seem readable.
I enjoy oracle decks. But can't read with most tarot decks that are not raider Waite. They do nothing for me usually . Recently begun giving Osho Zen a go though .
So glad your post came across my feed today! Kudos to you for your honesty. Your vid completely resonated with me. I found myself spending more time on TarotTube looking at new deck unboxing than actually reading Tarot, which I absolutely love. Moderation and balance is key.
I enjoyed hearing your reflections of this process. It's always a topic that interests me, all opinions included. I got really chatty here so apologies for an essay amount of thoughts. It pains, yet doesn't surprise me, that people cut you off due to difference of opinion. It feels to me social media encourages the loss of learning to agree to disagree, enjoy and listen to differences of opinions and respectfully debate (not referencing topics of genuine harm of course, but any other matters). I'd love to see us sharing our opinions and for others to recognise they are ours, whether they agree, don't or are impartial. Most of my content is now on Patreon and Instagram, so my TH-cam seems a little lacking I'm sure. I felt hindered here sometimes, not a part of this particular aspect of "community" and also the lacking in genuine discussion and engagement. It's nice to see so much conversation often in your video comments though. I come here for your thoughts and all this community discussion below too. Again, whether I agree, disagree or somewhere in-between, it’s good stuff.
Do you remember years ago when people used to do VR videos to topics before the hashtag kinda thing. TH-camrs would just VR to a topic like this they wanted to join in on and we'd have all these really conversational videos, sometimes even some back and forth. I miss that and I appreciate that's slightly hypocritical or me having left for Patreon and Instagram mostly, but not showing my face here isn't well received lol.
I do believe when people are this way inclined, someone who heavily consumes material items/own them, that they will be like this wherever they are, whatever community. I think TH-cam can seem like the community perpetuates this in a greater way, because of what’s popular on TH-cam over other things and other content like instagram posts, blogs, emails and courses etc. But I’m curious to hear your thoughts on that if you have any. It’s been interesting as I now sometimes have discomfort recommending or reviewing decks because I didn’t want to be a part of how things started to feel to me, yet I have a lot to say about my favourites from joy not because I care for who buys or owns it. So that’s been an interesting ride feeling that out and seeing where I fall in it all, especially as TH-cam is such a bland reflection of my “content”/practice.
Decluttering seems to be trending atm, those ebb and flows in community feel common cyclically and it seems that’s the way the pendulum is swinging. As you say, the clickbait videos bury those that are genuine beneath this more popular brand of video. I feel out of the loop here though, as I don’t know much of what you’re referencing but I can damn believe it. I don’t feel all instagram is fake, but course our experiences are all so individual. I have enjoyed the connective community I’ve been lucky to find over time there. I’ve spoken about my photos over there often as the assumption of them I find challenging, especially the binary thinking that can occur around it, but I can also understand where it comes from for many.
Review wise, honest or not I like to retain the responsibility, because we're so different to each other, maybe even the most honest review could be so different to our experience. But, it would be awesome if people felt they could speak to their perceived cons of a deck not just its pros. Loved you sharing what you’ve learned about what you enjoy over time. Seems the Thoth has become a powerful one for you :) Your approach of looking for what you want too. Also appreciated the concept of influencer versus role model kinda archetype. I should stop now as this is far too long, but needless to say I enjoyed this discussion. As you said, be true to who you are. This is the main thing.
You are welcome to write as much as you want as I always value your thoughts and feelings, even if (and often especially if) they differ from my own. Thank you. xo
@@MaryGraceFahrun thank you. There was just so much to think on and consider. I love these topical chats deeply and had been having them elsewhere, so it was wonderfully timely. I hope you had a lovely weekend too 🖤
I’m at the point where I only keep what I absolutely love. I’m probably down to about a dozen because if it’s not a deck I desire to read with often than I don’t want it. I love the feeling of getting rid of shut I don’t need. I only wish I had the patience to sell stuff.
I'm in up to my nipples for sure. 👭 Thank you for your thoughts/advice. They are so valuable.
As for where I am in my journey, I've been "collecting" tarot for almost three years. I am pretty good at sending them out when they don't work for me, but the tide is always coming in and going back out. I still don't have a firm grasp on what works. The "noise" is loud even on my small collection of
@@MixtressRae Thank you! If you need me, I'm here. xo
Hello! New sub to you, first time seeing your video and loved it, great points you made! First of all though - 53?!? What? You look maybe 40 tops. Happy Birthday, no matter the age
I appreciate this video so much. Thank you thank you.
I know this isn't on the topic of the video but your accent is so interesting.
And while I don't own a mountains of cards I did enjoy this video.
I've watched this twice today. Excellent video 🙂
Thank you! xo
Happy belated birthday! What a great video, giving us lots to think about. I’ll be adding a link to it under my recent video. My feeling of overwhelm isn’t as strong as some people, but I know I need to revisit my purchasing when I receive a deck in the mail, and leave it unopened for weeks.
If we’re going to talk about actual content, the trend of TH-camrs going to a live content model has not helped. It’s become the reality tv of video creating, with people shooting the shit and saying *nothing* of substance. Like I mentioned in my other comment, the alternative is paying for suscriptions which I’m reluctant to do from a financial standpoint. Almost everyone, it seems, gravitate towards getting paid at some point. These days, when I see interesting content, I figure it’s only a matter of time before the Patreon notice comes up. (And I’m baffled that some consider participating in lives with them would be an enticement.)
I really dislike the live content model. I am reluctant to pay for subscriptions and Patreons because it can really add up and, well... like I always say: people are free to do what they want with their channels and I am free to choose whether or not I wish to participate. I don't get how lives are enticing either.
This was so fucking brilliant. It's honestly the content I live for!
Yes! 100% 💕
You are AMAZING! Sending you and yours Good Thoughts! XOXO! :)
Thankyou for your wise words and honesty. 💕
Happy birthday! Another great and thought-provoking video. Thank you. I agree with so much that you said about reviews. So much of life has become overly commercialized and monetized and tarot tube is part of that. I get it. I imagine it's easier in many ways to do an unboxing, flip-through or review than it is create the same volume of other tarot content.
Thank you! xo