Yes, they are because the kids are born into poverty which starts with their parents and if the parents cant get their life together the kids sufffer for their decisions.
Eyowen 26 in certain ways yes but you should also take situations into consideration, being in the middle of wars, parents not getting properly educated or not being able to leave the country, things like that.
So in case's where the government makes it extremely hard on people to move above where their at it's their fault?! We live in a society where there rich get richer and oh the rest of us are left to struggle on our own?! Imagine this, you live in a home where your mom a single parent not only graduated high school but went to collage but now has kids to take care of. Does she hold out hoping for a job that goes with her degree, or does she find a job to put a roof over their heads. Food on the table, clothes on their back, and electricity? You know running water, heat in the winter, and a.c. in the summer, if your lucky. So who's fault is it? The parent who's does everything they know how to do, or the government for giving a hand out instead of a hand up?! Poverty is not a choice.
@@shahniwiki2298 she split from the second husband 8 years later. They were moved to a mold free 5 bedroom home 3 years after this. 3 years... no mold and the walls and windows and ceilings in good order. She had a job 7 of the 10 years. When they split she had depression episodes. Oldest 2 moved out with partners and a baby they had at 20 or older. 3rd oldest living on her own but struggling. The kids moved out working full or part time with a partner working as well. A dog in the house don’t know why? Alcohol and pills still. Even some of the kids smoked. Surprised at that. The child complaining her family didn’t get to do the things others families did has gotten to go on trips. It was mainly positive.
Like I said in an above comment, if this was Canada they’d instantly be put into care of social services. It’s a catch 22…be with the family & not get separated or go to a home that’s warm with food etc & there’d be ZERO tolerance with the violent stepfather. Unfortunately a lot of kids in the care system turn to drugs & crime or go thru abuse. I’m sure these kids must’ve also grown up having some kind of PTSD from witnessing all that. (I was in foster care & group homes etc so I’m speaking with firsthand experience)
Jasmina Memic that’s what this lifestyle does to kids sometimes. I had to be smarter than my mom. Take care of her & her 2 kids. It’s survival & it’s not fair to any child.
yes ... they are smarter then most kids of their age but I'm worried for them cos they are living more of a adult life due to the circumstance they are in . Its so sad....some kids at school say nasty things to this little ones...
Because they have to be. Families with problems, what evever they may be, addiction, mental illness, a sick child or parent, results in at least one child shouldering more than they should. My oldest did this (youngest has profound autism) in spite of my husband and I trying to make sure he didn't. It's instinct, and it's heartbreaking
I've rarely seen sweeter, unspoiled children. They break my heart. When she said she was surprised her mum was taking her step dad back, and she shouldn't, no child her age should have that much insight. That housing development is shocking. The fungus and mold, just appalling, it's deadly. Those girls are never warm, never full, never have proper nutrition. They don't complain, they have the sweetest disposition. I knew that my health was too poor to raise a child, even if I could have conceived. I love each child, but how can you keep having kids when you can't or won't work, and are living in deadly conditions. A tent might be safer. I can't like the adults, besides their nanny. I can't bring myself to like the husband. I saw in the comments there was a follow up and the kids have done well, which makes me so happy. I wonder how they came across this family for the doc. They are amazing.
I grew up very poor and I actually believe that I am lucky I did. Granted my parents loved me very much but my mother was also an addict and I had to go without a lot. However, it made me grateful for everything I have, understanding and forgiving of others for their faults and shortcomings and VERY mature from an early age on, even if it was because I was forced to “grow up” long before most children are expected to. In the end, it truly made me a better person. And while I have plenty of money now, when my daughter was younger, I did not, and she is so grateful and empathetic and unlike any other 10 year old I’ve met, and a lot like these little girls in the show.
Sad thing is I've saw children like this but by time they're old enough to make their own life decisions they are so worn down by it all they end up taking the same paths. Things their 10 year old self would never choose their 15 year old self will just want to escape to.
and that's why we all expect they gonna break the cycle of poverty, unfortunately living rough in childhood can change them radically in their teens and they are most likely to continue the cycle of poverty...
These little girls are just AMAZING. How on earth did they get so clever, and mature, and kind and loving. They're incredible and I hope they went on through life to succeed and to live good, decent, happy lives. Incredible.
Heartbreaking, beautiful little girls. They should have warm dry beds. Nobody should have to live in those appallingly conditions. It’s disappointing to see the parents smoking when the children go without. I understand it’s probably the only ‘pleasure’ they have but it’s no longer a poor mans pleasure. Refugees, thankfully, do not live in these conditions, maybe Britain needs to take care of their own first. I hope these bright little girls get all the education they are entitled to & break the poverty cycle. 💔
The council moved the family into a nice semi-detached home, and the consequences were GOOD. Max (Mum) held a job in a care home until she had an exacerbation of her major depression in 2009 when her marriage to Nigel finally fell apart. She also finished training to qualify as a funeral service coordinator.. Kelly and Amy finished high school, and both held full time jobs (as of 2010) as nursing assistants at a care home, and are in a pre-nursing program. Jade was 18 in 2010 was looking for work; her mum states "Jade really helps, she doesn't go out clubbing like most 18 year olds." A decent living environment allowed this family to succeed and make good things happen for themselves.
Its crazy how ONE positive can make all the difference in a life. It's really shocking how many people in the comments seem unaware of how much can pile on someone, just takes one accident/bad choice/death/etc and throw depression and/or other mental health issues untreated, and it spirals quick!
Sam was working part time as a hair dresser. The one who loved doing her own hair. The first 2 had a baby in their 20’s. The second 2 adult kids with no children yet. The house they finally were moved into didn’t have mold issues. It clearly was not their housekeeping and maintenance. There was a reason that estate was condemned and people removed from those units. Probably just too big to fix. They were able to move and get on with their lives as they wished in the film. I’m surprised by the comments. Mental illness is better understood.
Is it me or does anyone else think that this mother should not sit there and cry and complain about money in front of her kids? I mean, that just stresses them out, and makes them feel bad. That could cause a lot of issues. I don’t know. That just bothers me.
i agree, and shouldn't be mentioning depression or money woes in front of kids. their naivity and innocence should be protected, they can't possibly understand grown up problems
So what what you recommend her say to explain to kids why they can't have decent clothes and food? Kids are smart. They will figure out the situation whether she talks about it in front of them or not.
as doctor phil always says you dont involve kids in adults problems, these people dont have any ambition it seems, cant keep a clean house ,there is no excuse to add booze and smokes in your budget, when your kids skip meals ,and dont even have proper bedding, and why does a little girl sit there worrying about the finances
They should not be living in that house. The Social Services should not leave the family in al That's cold and has mould. And here in the US I believe they give them food,
Kelly and her sisters grow up was the title of the update. Yes the older girls grown and doing well. Took years to get into a proper property which made me Ill thinking of them there 3 more years. Girls working. Paying taxes. The older 4 were older than their mom when she had the oldest. The oldest 2 over 20 when they had their first baby. Second 2 no children yet. A baby is a blessing but a few more years to start a family usually makes for an easier life. The mom recently split with the husband a few years before. She had been working most of the years since the show, but fell into depression the last 2 when the marriage failed and back on benefits. I think mostly that was for drama to be fair. It was mostly positive though. Like the girl said she wanted to get out of there so they could get on with their life like everyone else. And the new place did that. The house was in good repair. A little cluttered but most homes are. No mold. Not damp. Clean.
I can imagine that very easily. Thank God for Churches. It's crazy feeling that awful. The Church did help with food and hand me downs. BUT the teacher for my class said bad things happen to bad people. Every night I prayed and begged for forgiveness for whatever I had done that was so bad. I couldn't think of what I had done. So I cried myself to sleep every night.
I like these people, not so different from lots of people I have known, but we could try and help our neighbors-I think why not? Govt wasn't a lot of help in my experience but why I don't know- know of 3 children died without govt intervención...in Canada, sadly.
Oh my word. I grew up poor on welfare assistance. My mother raised six kids alone after leaving an abusive husband our father. He was on the military and got addicted to drugs. So, after a lot of abuse, she left him. She never smoked, never drank (we didn’t have alcohol in our home), and we kept the place clean. I’m sure she was depressed many times and overwhelmed. But, she woke up everyday and took care of us even making sure we did our homework. She didn’t speak English. She sat us at the table after school to do our homework. We rarely watched television except on weekends. I remember the sheet rock ceiling was falling off in my bedroom and that room was always cold since the heater didn’t work that great up. I used to sleep with a winter hat on to keep me warm! It was my boyfriend when I was eighteen years old who fixed that ceiling for us. And my mother never ever brought a man into our home. Thank God for my mother doing the best she could and using that assistance wisely.
Amen. All I see here is what am I entitled to and what do I deserve? My family stood in bread/cheese lines. We did what we needed to but not one thing extra. I quit school to support my siblings and keep our house. My mom....didn't do much, she felt it was all owed to her. Similar to this young ladies parents.
Good for you for crediting your Mum. We get enough criticism and hardship and the worst is the battering we give ourselves because we can't be more than we are. Bless you!
Reminds me of my mother who was widowed at 29 years old with a 2 year old and a baby. ALWAYS put my sister and I first. Never wavered. Your mum had 6. She is a bona fide Saint.
@@elvitasanchez915 I slept in my moms bed till 7 and I decided to sleep in my room on my own after that. It comes naturally. No teen is gonna sleep in mommy's bed
Agreed! At the very least she could tape clear plastic on the walls to cover the windows/mold. It would help insulate a bit, too. Sad that it even had to come to this situation.
It's the damp. Most all assisted living or low income housing has that problem there. Sometimes the wall are completely wet. You can't stick tape on that
Sadly its the circumstances that have led them to live in that godforsaken house. They cannot do really anything however because most of the times the walls are too wet to even stick tape to it.
This broke my heart. I understand depression, but if you can afford ciggies and booze, you can afford pasta in bulk, with at least sauce and bread for your babies.
Was not quite dickens. They ate. I think the gov and charities are a lot better about food security and showing people how they stretch. Energy to heat the stove a bit more expensive. She had to have fed the two younger kids. They older ones probably just had a wheatabix for dinner.
I can’t stand when the mother blames the girl for having been moody at school and tells her that she has hurt HER! These girls are miraculous in being so well behaved. Of course a child would have difficult times in that kind of a household. And the mother blames the child? And makes the child feel guilty for her own failures? Can
If you’re a single mom, just focus on being a mom. That’s the best advice I can give any woman in that situation. And I know, because I’m raising two kids on my own. Don’t worry yourself with men. Don’t stress out over having a boyfriend, or finding someone to save you. Just do it yourself. You can date when your kids are grown. It’s only 18 years and you never get that time back.
I know this was posted a year ago, but well said! I'm also a single mom, my daughter is now a teen, but I have worked multiple jobs to keep a roof over my child's head and food in her belly. I have been in serious depression, but my child was always my main focus and is what kept me going! This is horrible for these children!!!
I REALLY LIKE YOUR COMMENT! Responsible Mothering is VERY attractive. One of the things I have learned throughout my dating experiences is if a mother doesn't place her child 1st I will never be genuinely loved or appreciated by that lady. Those ladies seem to prioritize their own extravagant desires (given their circumstances) over their offspring's requirements. They aren't going to treat anyone in their life with respect or trust so "love" is entirely out of the question. Women should be weary of the "Knight in shining armor" that is over-anxious to have a ready made family. The children may be the primary driver in their desire for such a scenario.
No matter who you are, where you live, what you look like, how much money you have... you DON"T smoke inside a house when kids are present and you don't go guilt tripping them either.
Miss Pippi Agreed. I feel bad for Becky. She's growing up is been criticized for wanting her own room when it's perfectly normal for someone her age to ask for. Then there's Amy who probably lashes out at her teachers for underlying reasons.
@@jenneacoleman-cubero2365 her lashing out to the teachers is her cry for help. My friends are teachers and they know the signs. They are well aware of the kids who are doing it tough at home and gosh this breaks my heart.
my dad tells me " get over it you can go outside if u want. its my house I'll smoke if I want." 😅 constantly getting told I smell horrible of smoke at school
Shouldn't smoke in the house when they are not home either. 2nd and 3rd hand smoke is terrible for anyone! 3rd is what lingers in fabrics and furniture, toothbrushes etc.. nicotine just lays down and poisons everything it touches!
Children are first and if my child told me that someone made them feel uncomfortable, then I would say bye bye to that person and never look back! My Child is forever! ❤
And besides, when did a really healthy hot meal get more expensive than snacking? Buy big packs of rice and spaghetti and make some really healthy stews with beans and lentils and the cheapest veggies.
Depression can really take it out of people. I am not making excuses for her. Just giving a reason. It is still her responsibility to manage her mental state so she can provide for the girls.
@Kitty Sulivan It is possible, but I would say there isn't enough info here to know one way or the other. Typically people are chemically predispositioned to be affected by depression and environmental conditions can exacerbate it. That is why some other people living in similar conditions don't suffer from depression. So did the depression start to cause her to ignore responsibilities and make bad choices that led her here? Or was she reasonably mentally healthy and made bad decisions that created an environment that triggered a naturally-occurring but dormant state of depression? We can't really know. I would say either one is equally as likely.
Young ladies: This is an excellent example of how "falling in love" with a worthless man will never, ever help you. He will drag you down further than if you stayed on your own. Sure, the mother has chronic depression and has made some bad decisions, but she's done enough right that her children are smart and loving. My heart goes out to them. The man? He's just a petulant man-boy that the mother and the grandmother take care of.
Exactly. This scum is sitting in front of a computer and fax machine but is instead selling their bikes since they can’t afford their bills now that he came back and have an extra mouth to feed. 😡😡😡😡
FUNGUS growing on walls.. kids hungry & cant eat a hot meal at home & you’re have CIGARETTES and LIQUOR?!?! These kids are so sweet & deserve so much better.
I lived in poverty for years, almost up to my 20th birthday and my mom never just went to buy cigarettes and alcohol instead of feeding me. My mom would take her food and give it to me, just because i said i want it some. We always lived in a clean house, my grandma used to say that being poor is not a fight against being clean,. This is not a case of "oh life, me so sad" this is parent neglect. Easy.
Both of my parents grew up poor. My dad had a loving family and a clean house. But my mom lived in the American version of this documentary. There is a world of difference in attitudes in my mom’s family vs my dad’s.
If you're like me, you just found this documentary and watched it (2019). I also watched the update documentary, that was made in 2009, I believe. The mom is still living on benefits, not working, complaining about having no money, and making excuses for her hardships. However, the girls seem to be doing well. The older ones all have jobs, partners, pay their own bills, and appear to be happy and doing well. I'm glad that in spite of who raised them, where they were raised, and how they were raised, they have become beautiful, successful, responsible, and happy adults. I hope they are still doing well. After I watched the update documentary, I came back to this one, just to make this statement because when I watched it the first time, I read a few comments about how the kids are going to end up being just like their mom. One person said not to bother watching the update because they all have kids they can't take care of and that wasn't even close to being true. Keep your heads up, young ladies. You should be extremely proud of yourselves. Here's the link to the update, if anyone would like to watch it. th-cam.com/video/y3myuG1Xk1U/w-d-xo.html
He was a bus driver, caused an accident, and went to jail over it and lost his license. So I think he means he can't drive a bus anymore. Hopefully he found another line of work
Did anyone else just melt when sweet little Amy sang at the end? I hope each girl becomes wildly successful and helps change the system. Also; condoms.
In the update the couple didn’t have any more kids. The oldest 2 had a baby in their 20’s and living with their partners. The oldest 3 holding down jobs. The family has a house with no mold.
Yeah but she's the gave birth to six mouths to feed. I'm pretty sure she knew she was poor before at least the last four. And now she's still being selfish and thoughtless by wallowing in her sad situation....the one she created!!!
These children are absolutely precious! I was super impressed with how articulate and smart they are - beyond their years. It's sad to hear them discuss adult problems/issues instead of regular kid stuff. But these kids show incredible resilience, strength, wisdom and a rather profound degree of empathy. They are such beautiful, loving, children. My heart goes out to them. I have no desire to pass judgment on the mother since I have not walked in her shoes and watched only this 50 minute video - a single snapshot of their lives. But she must be doing, at least, some things right, despite the real struggle, as evidenced by these precious babes. I wish I was rich and could rescue this family. I worry about the health implications of the damp, moldy environment they are living in.
I was the oldest of five (5) kids and we grew up dirt poor -- and believe it or not -- we didn't even have an indoor bathroom !! We had an old fashioned "out-house" that sat away from the house we rented. We took a bath on Saturday evening in a steel oval shaped wash-tub that sat in the middle of our kitchen floor. My mother would turn the oven on -- on our kitchen stove to heat up the kitchen. She would fill up the bathtub with cold water and then heat up large pans of water on the stove and pour it into the cold water to make the water warm. We were literally 'dirt poor' -- BUT -- one thing that we were NOT and that was "dirty" !!!! The mother of these children does not have a clue of what it means to be CLEAN !!! People can be poor but they CAN BE CLEAN !! The sofa in our living room was literally supported by bricks -- we received the sofa for free -- because one of the legs had been broken off. It was still a good sofa -- but to use it we had to place three red bricks under one of the legs! Our mom taught us to be clean! Our walls were clean -- our floors were scrubbed and clean -- our beds were made and the bed clothes were clean. We may have not had very much -- but what we did have -- we took care of! YOU CAN BE POOR -- but you still be CLEAN !!
What is so morally superior about people who merely keep a clean house? That is just preference. I think if anyone chooses not to make cleaning a priority; then that is their business and their value system.If you don't live with them don't worry about it. Just clean your own house if that is vital to you but don't go demonizing those who don't care. It's not laziness like you might smugly assume, just a difference in where a person chooses to expend their limited time and energy . Having a clean house doesn't HAVE to be oh so important to other persons who are not you, and people who don't care so much are not less then you the way you all automatically want to believe... If I had a choice between reading a book cover to cover and cleaning the house for 6 hours, I'll ALWAYS read the book. That will always be my choice. And I will always choose a book over housework. Because I do have that choice. I may be a pig but I am a well read pig. I am definitely much better read then average Sally suburban and her spotless home. And you can judge all you want(and you will)...but I don't "get" you people either! You people are always caring SO MUCH about something SOOOO stupid, vapid and shallow. I judge you right back. Though these days there is Kindle and it reads books out loud. So I have started to try multitasking cleaning with reading but Its hard if the book requires concentration. My friends tell me the middle class obsession with being clean has to do with having kids. But there is more meaningful existences then owning a beautiful well tended home. But peoples entire lifework is all poured into that goal exclusively. But at least you have the joy of looking down on others. Maybe that makes it all worth it to you.
Also you can use bleach to clean the mold on the walls. I can tell the house must be leaking moisture so it would be a never ending battle but, I'd do it no matter what.
@@lacy.knickers146 Once that black mold is intertwined in walls like that, you are pretty much fucked. Gotta replace the walls and fix the ventilation.
These sweet little children. It was hard to watch but honestly I kept watching because I was blown away by how mature and strong these little girls are. Off to watch the next video of them.
@Sunflower Shine yeah I actually just noticed that vid. Not to long ago. I still havnt finished watching this 1 I got busy gonna watch the other 1 here in a few mins after I finish this 1 lol thanks tho
She should be playing with crayons not makeup. Who chose her toys? And her attitude is harsh for such a young person. She will be hard to deal with when she gets to high school if nothing is done before that. Of course, this is an old video so maybe its too late.
Omg I felt like crying cause these children were so beautiful, respectful, & accepted what the couldn’t have. Very mature & well mannered. Keep on dreaming my darling child & one day your dreams will come true. 😘❤️🤗🇦🇺
I went through this as a kid. My mom was immature, and she made sure we both (my sister and I) thought of her as the victim. Huge victim complex. Also a narcissist. We had no money but she always had everything SHE needed. This is a terrible way to grow up but hopefully they will all be like my sister and I and make a great life for themselves. They grow up strong enough to do it on their own
Amen to you. My parents got divorced after 25 years of marriage. I was in my senior year, salatatorian, had grants and scholarships on the line. Had to leave school early so my younger brother and sister didn't have to go water and/or electricity. My mom's focus was that my dad wasn't giving her enough money. Of course my dad's opinion was that he was giving plenty. That left it to me. This wasn't fair at all, though I wouldn't change it for the world. We did stand in good lines and did what we needed to do, but nothing beyond that. The fact that this woman thought she was so deserving of things leaves me baffled. And the fact that her daughter is so concerned about her mother's depression, etc al, sickens me. She should have been shielded from all of that.
Like everyone else,I had an immediate negative reaction to the parents. The mom is doing something right in raising these kids, though, they are awesome. Whatever it is, they are a hundred times better behaved and more thoughtful than so many on higher rings of the social ladder.
Yes they seem very aware and mature. It's so sad that they are being malnourished and their damp/moldy living environment is so unhealthy. These things will have a long term adverse effect on their minds and bodies. :(
Bindu Chandrabose These girls are really amazing. Such a smart, humble, polite, well behaved, modest, nice children. I don't know why, but I think it is not because of good parenting. Their mom seems like a person who is not interested in being a parent at all. She seems lost and depressed. She simply let herself go down with the flow of har life. I know it is not easy, but it seems like she is not even trying anymore. She gave up on fighting for her children. She lacks many parenting skills. As I said, I know it is difficult, but she could at least try not to be so lazy and clean the house. In all that mess and dirty space everything looks ten time worse than it is.
Bindu Chandrabose no the mother did sweet F.A. 😡 away from camera I bet these girls say it different! As for them appearing sweet, it’s because they had to become the ADULT! Trust me I know, and 10 , or 15 years this will be their story too 😢
How can you stand there smoking and tell your child, sorry I can afford to buy to the sneakers you wanted for your birthday? The saddest part is how excited the children are to get the food at Christmas. Just food.
Christmas isn't saposed to be just about the presents tho its good the kids think that way and understand. The proper way to think about Christmas. Its about LOVE AND FAMILYS not gifts they are right love is WAY more then the presents ...
But I definitely agree she could have quit and had the extra money for the kids and her self and she would live longer and be healthier for the kids and there futures
Right. Don't know about there but where I live cigarettes are 6+ dollars a pack. Some off brand not but little bit less. I'd put my child's shoes before the cigarettes. That's just me, my opinion. I vape now, but I'm an elderly widow lady, retired & can afford it now, but I've saw times when my sons were little that I didn't have the money for extra things. I remember those years.
@@shirleyharrison2580 about 11+ in upstate Ny. For Newport and marlbros. Brand and probably between 8 and 9 bucks for cheaper brands idk I quit going on 7 months now :) vape here and there and use lozenges.
If she gave cigarettes then might have more money to look for a better place to live. The mold is slowly killing them as well as Maxine's change to get COPD. I would think if they left that environment they would be less depressed and feel better. The sad part is that many of the children's toys and other things would need to be thrown away because of mold spores.
Hello Melissa i am from Singapore i am coming 41 this year in August. Yes exactly u are absolutely right about Amy. To be very honest this really shows that if u are being raised with lots of compassion u will be considerate kind and nice!
I work with kids and this is way too true. We provide kids one meal a week and even though half aren't in our actual program. It's pretty heartbreaking.
These beautiful, world-weary girls. How they’ve learned their mother’s script for their predicament. Mother’s habits (smoking @450p a pack, Jack Daniels at £20/L) are literally taking food from her daughters’ mouths. The girls look remarkably healthy considering the filth, mold and fungus in their environment. Food banks were new in U.K. in 2000, but hopefully there is a great deal more help for those in need today.
I've worked with kids who've been in similar situations. The last thing they need is pity as it destroys hope and drive. Look at the dad turning his nose up at jobs because they don't pay enough. He should be out collecting cans to recycle, doing anything to help support his family. His drive is destroyed and he feels like a victim which is why he's blowing up at the government for not giving him handouts as he feels they should. But he's an adult, he's not a victim, that's his choice. The kids are the victims and I just hope they can turn that around and become adult victors instead.
That's very much in line with how my bf thinks. He was raised under pitiful conditions, but has always maintained that you're never a slave to circumstance.
@@amandatarver3014 , he swans in empty handed knowing full well there are needy children in the house, eats their food, uses their power and water, smokes her cigs, pawns kids bikes, sits watching telly, got a jolly step on and hand thrust out for welfare check day, has to take tablets not to be a beast to the kiddies, makes trouble to interfere with her already shaky funding..looks to me like he's set his cap to destroy her and her family
Those poor children. I can’t imagine how horrible their clothes smell when they go to school. Cigarettes and musty mold. 😥 I’m sure the bullying was relentless. The “parents” need a wake up call! Nigel is dangerous and creepy. Those girls are so intelligent for all that they’ve been through! Praying for them!
@@Iworkwithnitwits Sad to say it can do more than allergies . Neurological damage, skin infections, of course asthma fatigue aches pains rashes and permanent damage to your lungs.
The step dad says he can't work. Cause he has no license. So the truth is he can work, he just won't do anything to get there. If you have to walk or ride your bike for work Man up and do it, stop being another child in her life when she needs a man. To help and be there for her and your kids. This is sad.
His former job was to drive. A license is sort of pivotal. But yes he could get some other type of employment now and actually he’s got his license back so he may drive if he likes. Maybe not for a living, I really don’t know how forgiving the U.K. Is. The U.S. is most decidedly not forgiving about these things.
@@ascent8487 I am from the USA as well. And no the United States is definitely not forgiving for anything. I see from the shows that I watch the UK doesn't look too forgiving either. parts of it does look more screwed up than the United States does. I just know I watched this one and it really made me pissed. Because of one thing she does is smoke. People could have bought them for her or her mom . My God she even pawned her rings, so I'm sure that it went to Food. Even if it was for a pack of cigarettes. I think she has a right to a pack of cigarettes. I'm sure she would starve herself first. This mom does seem like she is really trying and she's struggling just like everybody does in this world. People are jerks pointing out about one thing that she is doing wrong. And who's to say smoking is wrong. Not everybody in this world is perfect, everyone in this world has a bad habit whether it be smoking, drinking, drugging, gambling the list is endless about bad habits. But s*** everyone has skeletons in their closet.
Serenitys Dream exactly! I raised my 2 kids, working 2-3 jobs ,went to college, never missed a ball game,practice, band concert, or any school function. I went back to work less than 6 wks after going thru open heart surgery and being in a coma for most of 1 summer. My transmission tore up in my car, i drove my bicycle to work in the dam SNOW 25-30 degrees outside. I did what i had to do to make ends meet and make sure my babies didnt do without. I bought a house and paid it off before my kids graduated high school. Both went to college and they both have excellent jobs and hav bought beautiful homes. My daughter just spent 2 mos in Italy My son is preaching at age 32. Its all about motivation and not living off the system . Taking pride in yourself and your life. The most important fact is LOVING the LORD. 🙏😇❤️
It hurts watching this, because my stepdad said the same thing, he STILL doesn't have a license and hasn't had a job in over 15 years. My mom has been supporting both of them the whole time, but she isn't any better, she wastes all her money on smokes and weed so they never pay their bills. I was so happy the day I saved enough money to move out.
@@cathyt144 I didn't even bother reading your story just the first few lines got me aggravated. So in other words you're saying you're perfect. got it. If I told you my story you wouldn't be alive. I almost died last year from a coma. so I'm not going to even get into that. All I was saying she has a vice so what its cigarettes and it doesn't mean she buys them you don't know you're not there you're not living with her. that's all I'm saying about this whole situation
20:53 Dad is looking at local job postings... Mumbling to himself, “£4 an hour... hmm... not for me” Ummm.... Im American and I’m not real familiar with the exchange rate but isn’t £4/hr. MORE than the NOTHING he’s bringing in now???? 🤢
This documentary was made in 2000 so I don’t know the exchange rate for then, but I looked into it and 4 pounds is about 5.31 dollars. I’m from America as well.
but if he got a job they would lose their benefits and 4 pounds an hour would not be as much as their benefits. that's why it's so important for employees to be paid living wages or else the cycle of unemployment and living off of the government will continue for we
They would be living and 3 a day each. He has been unable to work 7 months. He will get the ability to work again. Something is wrong with his record that will be cleared up soon. That means 8 months ago they were fine but their accommodations.
SHE'S lucky she has healthy, beautiful children. Free housing and free food and healthcare for her children. I'm a single mom I get nothing. I wish I could give him the world. It's true that u can be a good mom and still be poor. We are all human, after all, nobody is perfect!
The black mold, the cigarette smoke, the dampness, the mood instability in both parents -- these remarkable girls are coping with terrible things so gracefully, so eloquently. I'm amazed and also want to reach through the screen and save them, at least temporarily, until the adults get a safe household together.
But just imagine how different the situation would be if the mother stopped smoking and drinking and used that money to buy food and clothes for her children.
She's a lazy Mum. My Mum had seven of us, we were very poor but she made sure we were clean, she would wake up early to clean the entire house before we would wake up.
It's 13 pounds a pack now in UK or more. 400 pounds a month is the difference between living reasonably well and living badly. That's before counting the booze. For a a family of 4, McDonals is expensive, too. You could have a roast fresh chicken and veg for half that money.
It only took a minute to see this lady is badly depressed. Shes existing. Shes lost the desire to live. She said it herself if it weren't for her kids she'd b dead. But ppl dont help or have compassion for these type of ppl because they figure if they can do it, get up everyday, why cant u. These ppl dont understand depression. Its something that's takes over you, like a demon. Only light, love, support, encouragement, and understanding your importance for living, and that someone needs u to live,...you can get out of your head or dark place.
Raven Simone 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thank you! I said the same thing. She is ill. People also don’t have compassion because that can’t see anything physically stopping her from working. Wounds of the mind are just as disabling as visual physical disabilities.
vicky harty Obviously you have never dealt with debilitating depression. You really should not call someone selfish and lazy unless you personally know or live with them and know the persons heart. She doesn’t know where to go get help. She doesn’t probably want to get out of the bed everyday and it’s obvious that she just wants someone to love her. My point is that we should not make assumptions or judge unless we know the situation personally.
vicky harty careful....you are sounding like an internet troll! Who are you to think you have the right to sit in arrogant judgement of a sick woman? Your comment tells me that you are actually trying to make yourself feel better by putting someone else down. The trouble is, after an initial feeling of superiority, you will be left with a fear of also being judged badly. I fact, studies have shown that people with a deep seated shame are more likely to put other people down. Learn to show other people compassion, and you will feel better about yourself....
Also for the people saying "BuT sHeS dOiNg A gReAt JoB rAiSiNg ThE kIdS tHeY aRe So MaTuRe" those kids HAD to grow up too fast to take care of themselves and each other. When people meet my mom and stepdad they are confused because I'm nothing like them, and that's all because I saw how they were and made damn sure not to turn out or act like them. So no, those kids are probably thriving in personality because they see their mom and don't want to end up like her.
I agree with you & just because the children sound “ okay” now , there is no telling how this will effect them later in life or even in the near future once they reach a certain age . ✨🙏🏽💚Sending them all my best
I have often said by raising my own kids I am righting the wrongs of those before me. I can remember everything they did that i despised and I'm so thankful I have enough sense in me to choose to raise my kids different
I too suffer from severe depression but I would NEVER let my children come second to anything!!! STOP SMOKING AND DRINKING and look after those precious children who YOU brought into the world!!! Instead of getting rid of the kids bikes, pawn those guitars hanging on the wall or the gold earrings the mom wears - their priorities seem badly warped.
I'm sorry, but that man can come up with a hundred and one excuses why he can't work. The truth is he chooses not to. Many people go to work everyday using public transportation... They get up and go to jobs they don't like, feeling depressed, sick, etc. They work at crappy jobs because they have children who are important to them. I've seen parents work two jobs before they would let their children live like that. No jobs? No.... Just none that appealed to him. Bless the beasts and the children, for in this world they have no voice, they have no choice...💔
I absolutely agree. Both of these parents are awful. If they really wanted to work, they could have found some job, any job. They would not just sit there all depressed complaining like it is everyone's else fault they are in that situation, but not theirs. I really don't want to judge, but this mom is lazy immature and irresponsible. To have a kid at 16, no education, no job, no place to live, no security, no stability......... and then she has 5 more kids. I know it is no nice of me to say this but: What was she thinking??? she brought her children into this world and not only that she is not able to care for them, but these poor girls have to take care of her, because she got depressed. If she can't find job, she could at least work at home and clean the house. It would help her with her depression
Jan Upczak yeah i heard what he said about the wages offered when he was checking out the job board. He could work 2 part time jobs to make up the difference or the mom could work. She looked capable to me. The black mold on those walls could be taken care of with a few gallons of clorox and water too. Black mold will kill you. No wonder the house was not really liveable. Im gna try to find the update on this family and see how those girls r doing. I would adopt one or 2 of them and bring them to the US. I am retired and have no grandchildren. Its just me, the dogs, cats, and my flock of birds in a big 4 bdrm house. Im sure they had rather be with their mom and family tho, no matter how bad things get for them. Its still your family
Aw I love how well mannered the kids were inspite of their living conditions. I pray they get their house and everything else they need.💛✌️💪🏻🙏😃I love you'll!!
@@serenitysdream8759 she has six (6) kids and I disagree with u. I'm a mother of 3 children and there is no way I would let my children go hungry while I sat there and smoked. (I don't smoke cigarettes, but I've had my habits). U can buy a loaf or 2 of bread, a jar of peanut butter and/or a carton of eggs, for the price of a pack of cigarettes. As parents it's our duty to take care of our kids and that means we have to sacrifice some things. That includes giving up a habit that we chose to have. Smoking is not a necessity, it's something that the person chooses to do. I see the mother as being selfish. She chose to take away from the whole family, just so she didn't have to go through withdrawals. I'm happy the family turned out alright, and the girls are doing well now. But I think that the mom should have thought about using some birth control or having her tubes tied. I love my children and would love to have more, but I can't afford to have anymore. I know I can't afford it, so I do what I have to do to not have anymore. I also don't understand why she's getting a check from the government. Why can't she work? I'm sorry I have no sympathy for this mother. It's one thing to have bad luck and hard times. I've been there, but to stay down as long as she did and to use the system for as long as she has, upsets me.
Serenitys Dream total BS. She chose to have those kids. If you dont want the responsibility to make sure they are fed and clothed before you buy some cigs or booze dont have kids!
Ive just watched the sequel to this. What an lovely family - they really did manage to get through all the adversity with love. They didn't have much at all but they had each other. I wish them all the absolute best.
I don't easily feel sorry for people but my heart goes out to this beautiful family. I hope and pray that every door needed will open for you. Big soft hugs.
I agree with you. But I cannot stop to wonder where the biological father of Sam, Amy, Kelly and Jade is. After all, the girls are also his responsibility.
@@noeleenbarry6257 don't have kids if you can't support them on your own. Even if you start out with a partner. It's just the smart thing to do at this point. Be financially stable in the first place before pushing a bloody kid out at all! Whether alone or with a partner!
Choo Choo i don’t know how stable Europe’s economy is but unfortunate events can knock anyone and stability is not something you can guarantee forever. Responsible parents is not equal to rich parents. You can have all the money and neglect your children. Although I support the idea of having money to support your children, I can’t help but thinking that’s pretty idealistic. Not to mention that poverty oftentimes go on for generations, does that mean they shouldn’t have any children at all? Poverty is way too complex and saying “you shouldn’t have children” won’t solve it.
These girls are actually very grateful and love their mum, so I think they’re doing something right with raising such lovely girls. I grew up poor and resented my parents so much. I always compared myself to others and never understood why I couldn’t have nice things. I distanced myself from my family and promised that I’ll never be the same when I grew up..
That little girl who sung at the end has a beautiful voice, she could go far! It's just a shame that they are living in squalor. The Mum must have done something right as the girls seem very nice and quite intelligent for their age. It's so sad that they have to live like this. My heart goes out to them and everyone else in the same situation.
I grew up poor, and my grandmother had TEN children, but we NEVER LIVED IN FILTH...I remember everybody waking up on Saturdays, cleaning the house, being poor does NOT mean you need to be nasty, that children need to be dirty, or that ur home needs to smell bad, I would rather go into a public restroom and 'borrow' some of their liquid soap and toilet paper, then live in filth
A 3 bedroom is not ideal with 6 kids and 2 adults but if could just be a clean, mold free environment that would be a huge improvement. If that’s the quicker option, I’d take it in a second rather than wait for who knows how long for a bigger place.
@Meldoesmakeup Yeah everyone arguing about the computer being a necessity but I don't think that's the main point about him trying to sell a kid's bike- I've been in that situation hundreds of times when I run out of money and am scrambling to figure out what kind of stupid thing I can do like sell my stuff for far less than what it's worth, etc... Basically every single month- But you can't sell your kid's bike because you didn't budget well- If they get food stamps and could find a food box at a church- Then what would they need to sell the kid's bike for-
@@hangsambo12 My guess is that the kids want their bikes- Unless they hate their bikes- You should not consider selling your kids' stuff so you can buy tobacco for sure-
This story really touched my heart in a major way. My daddy died when I was 5yrs old and my mama was on SSI disability so we were POOR. I got my clothes from Goodwill my whole Elementary School years. My shoes had holes in them. My mama got Christmas food and presents from the Church and signing us up with Secret Santa and a few times we had a rich family “adopt” us for Christmas which means they bought us EVERYTHING. So much food, clothes, toys, etc. THAT was the best Christmas. But yeah we were very poor. We didn’t live in a run down condemned home we lived in an apt based on income so she only paid $19 for rent. Mind u this was in the 80’s. I am a 70’s baby. But yeah I went thru it. My uncle worked at the farmers market and he’d bring us fruits and veggies and of course my mama got stamps but when food ran out at the end of the month we struggled til stamp time came back around. One month we ate pinto beans and cornbread for the whole month. My uncle brought us a 40lb bag of pinto beans from the market. But hey it was better than nothing! So yeah I’m really feeling this family and what they’re going through
seriously?! who has real gold hoops? no poor person i have ever met!! all these ppl judging on here have never been poor. try helping ppl before judging them
As a person who grew up in poverty with parents who sacrificed so much and worked diligently to provide for my sister and I, I can tell you.... even having a conversation with someone who has never lived in poverty about the decisions you make to fulfill all your needs mental, physical, social, etc..... it's nearly impossible unless they are very empathetic. A small example : When you have paid all your bills, and the only money you have that you get to choose how you spend it is the money you have for food.... sometimes you buy icecream, and treats instead of nutritional foods. Because it's a small joy you can provide yourself, when you can't afford vacations, or clothes you enjoy wearing, or a home you're proud of, or to go to a movie or anything that's entertainment period. It takes a lot of discipline to always make good choices when literally every penny counts.
Wealthy people don't typically understand the stress and work involved in trying to make it work with so little. My dad had to buy junk cars, and make them work. That meant finding a car that was worth investing the money you have (which wasn't a lot) and make sure you can afford to fix it. You also invest time. When you're walking to work you're loosing daylight hours that would be spent working on the vehicle. Then if it falls through, and it doesn't work you have all this guilt and frustration about making a bad decision and wasting money. Gut wrenching guilt, because you feel like you've stolen from your family. A wealthy person can just go to a car lot and pick a car like picking out a t-shirt. They know it'll work, and if it doesn't it's probably warrantied, they afford to fix, it or trade it in. I just see a lot of people in the comments being so judgmental and to me it's a reflection of their inability to understand how living in poverty effects everything in your life. Even how you make decisions, and prioritize things.
@@EezeeListen It's probably still relevant if there are still situations like this going on, but I can see where it is no longer valid if that's no how things are anymore. Do these conditions no longer exist? Have the lunches changed, as well?
Exactly. It's one thing for the father to lose his job and the family to go through a rough time. This man was all the way out and his family was better off without him. The mother was a fool to bring him back and he's a bigger one for agreeing.
The mother wanted him back. One of the girls said she was happy that he left but her mom said she needed him back, so even though the girl didn’t want him back, she would rather have him if it meant her mom would be happy.
I feel for those kids that said. The mother and stepfather are horrible. No food but she smokes?! Why even have 6 kids? Like wtf? Be real! Im ill. I wont put a kid in this world. Be responsible! This mother aint! Stepdad was beating in jail. Great catch! 🛇
Amarah smit Exactly. I was just commenting the same. This mother is lazy, immature, selfish and very irresponsible. All she does is complaing and finding excuses for their difficult situation, but she actually does nothing to try to change it.
I agree. I’m not able to work so I will never have children if I can help it. It’s not fair to bring them into a situation like that if you have alternatives. I know it might seem embarrassing but most doctor’s offices here will give you free condoms if you ask. That’s better than bringing a child you can’t care for into the world. It makes me really angry to see these people drink and smoke and not even try to quit so it would make it a tiny bit easier to provide for the kids. I feel like there are only so many excuses you can make for people.
I do not mind the smoking as much as the filth and mold. They must take any other flat to keep the children safe. When mother gets her new flat she needs keep it CLEAN. The father is lazy. Mother's depression would improve if she moved around a bit and not complains and feel sorry for herself.
Not much, if u imagine she could cope with her situation without them. I've yet to wacth this so I don't know her weekly consumption. But if u do the math, it's cheaper to invest in 1 bottle of whisky + 50 aspirin
Oh, they had a bit of alcohol on XMAS. How dare they try to have a festive Christmas. Seriously. Walk a mile in her shoes and see if you don't want a Christmas drink afterwards.
jan rees I havent even watched this video yet; was that it, a bit on Xmas? That's what the original comment is reacting to? wow, to hear that is funny...and sad at the same time, when u realize ur not actually so surprised. Victim-blaming works best when u choose those least able to argue or defend themselves, and ironic to scapegoat them for society's ills despite them having the smallest voice/say/influence in media, gov affairs, and how the world is run.
They are both horrible people. Talking about the money they are “owed” and why aren’t they getting the free 4 bedroom house. Take the 3 bedroom and get out of the damp.
She seems like the type slob that would get a beautiful nice clean council house and turn it into a pig pen full of filth just like the one she's in now. She's the type that will never be happy and always be a victim of some kind or other.
*** These children are exceptionally lovely 😍 ❤ 💖 & very polite & understanding of their unfortunate living situation & seem to be very kind toward their 👩Mom * who has had a tumultuous life of ❤ heart ache 💔. God Bless this wonderful 👏 🙏 🙌 ❤ family 👪 & may life get better for them ❤ 🙏!
13:07 there is a lock on that door to lock the kids in the room! Also, it must be freezing in that house if you see how that girl goes to sleep, hart breaking :(
Omg!!😨😨 What kind of monsters lock their kids in a room?! I thought they couldn't get much worse as parents. I was wrong. Thankfully the girls are doing much better today (or at least back when the second documentary of them was made)
It's not just the cig causing the mom to coughing the mold in the house is black mold, I understand alot are mad about the mom buying cigs. But look at the positive, the girls are clean. Well spoken, well behaved the grandmother lives in a posh home fancy clothes, the Dads are Not contributING takes 2 to make babies.
peacenlove3 faith You are awesome, you have heart which is becoming a rarity nowadays. Seems many are too quick to judge without truly knowing the specifics as if they just want to scapegoat those who are in times of need instead of being grateful of having a job and that's a blessing compared to those who are struggling? I wish this family well, the girls are lovely.
peacenlove3 faith it infuriates me how the women always get all the blame! Always comments about "welfare queens popping out a kid every year" how "they need to learn to keep their legs closed" and "they should be sterilized". But rarely ever mention of the sorry ass "men" who hop from woman to woman helping to create babies then leave the woman to care for them alone while he moves onto the next woman and starts helping making more babies! And NEVER do I hear calls for these "men" to be castrated! It makes my blood boil!
It is really sad to hear the kids saying things like "Mom has been doing really well lately". It is like the roles are reversed, and the kids are worried about their mom and taking care of her. But the problem is that legally, they are still the dependents and can't earn money. Very poor situation. Of course this was a long time ago and all of these kids are adults now (even the baby). I hope they all made it.
It's heart breaking those poor kids are worried about there mum. She smoking her smokes and drinking her jack or whatever else 😢 I wonder where they all are now.
If I had to choose feeding my children or smoking and drinking... I FEED MY CHILDREN!! This is just neglect and selfishness in the worst way on the mother's part. Its INFURIATING!
Are the parents always responsible for child poverty?
Yes, they are because the kids are born into poverty which starts with their parents and if the parents cant get their life together the kids sufffer for their decisions.
Eyowen 26 in certain ways yes but you should also take situations into consideration, being in the middle of wars, parents not getting properly educated or not being able to leave the country, things like that.
Yes of course -
they shouldnt have kids then
So in case's where the government makes it extremely hard on people to move above where their at it's their fault?! We live in a society where there rich get richer and oh the rest of us are left to struggle on our own?! Imagine this, you live in a home where your mom a single parent not only graduated high school but went to collage but now has kids to take care of. Does she hold out hoping for a job that goes with her degree, or does she find a job to put a roof over their heads. Food on the table, clothes on their back, and electricity? You know running water, heat in the winter, and a.c. in the summer, if your lucky. So who's fault is it? The parent who's does everything they know how to do, or the government for giving a hand out instead of a hand up?! Poverty is not a choice.
Those children have beautiful souls and kind hearts.
@@bellj753 you should be taken away from u tube u twit its the goverment in there country who dont help kids with income u idiot
You cant afford food but you can afford to smoke 🤨
AMEN 🙏 ❤ 🙌
I agree they are doing what they can with what they have to work with God always Always watches his Children ..Peace to you
The saddest part is the little girl telling her mom that her boyfriend scares her and her mom completely dismissing it. Love and compassion are free.
yep and we know where that leads. How old is this as im curious to know how this family is getting on
Shahni There is an update called Kelley and her sisters grow up. You can find it on TH-cam.
@@shahniwiki2298 Hi, the comment above has the link to the squal..Anni
Merry Christmas. 🌲🎈
@@shahniwiki2298 she split from the second husband 8 years later. They were moved to a mold free 5 bedroom home 3 years after this. 3 years... no mold and the walls and windows and ceilings in good order. She had a job 7 of the 10 years. When they split she had depression episodes. Oldest 2 moved out with partners and a baby they had at 20 or older. 3rd oldest living on her own but struggling. The kids moved out working full or part time with a partner working as well. A dog in the house don’t know why? Alcohol and pills still. Even some of the kids smoked. Surprised at that. The child complaining her family didn’t get to do the things others families did has gotten to go on trips. It was mainly positive.
Like I said in an above comment, if this was Canada they’d instantly be put into care of social services. It’s a catch 22…be with the family & not get separated or go to a home that’s warm with food etc & there’d be ZERO tolerance with the violent stepfather. Unfortunately a lot of kids in the care system turn to drugs & crime or go thru abuse. I’m sure these kids must’ve also grown up having some kind of PTSD from witnessing all that. (I was in foster care & group homes etc so I’m speaking with firsthand experience)
Why are these tiny girls smarter and more mature than any adult in their lives. This is so damn sad!
Jasmina Memic Agreed. Too bad Grandma can't help more.
Jasmina Memic that’s what this lifestyle does to kids sometimes. I had to be smarter than my mom. Take care of her & her 2 kids. It’s survival & it’s not fair to any child.
yes ... they are smarter then most kids of their age but I'm worried for them cos they are living more of a adult life due to the circumstance they are in . Its so sad....some kids at school say nasty things to this little ones...
There is another video of them all grown up. It's good but also kinda sad.
Because they have to be. Families with problems, what evever they may be, addiction, mental illness, a sick child or parent, results in at least one child shouldering more than they should. My oldest did this (youngest has profound autism) in spite of my husband and I trying to make sure he didn't. It's instinct, and it's heartbreaking
I've rarely seen sweeter, unspoiled children. They break my heart. When she said she was surprised her mum was taking her step dad back, and she shouldn't, no child her age should have that much insight. That housing development is shocking. The fungus and mold, just appalling, it's deadly. Those girls are never warm, never full, never have proper nutrition. They don't complain, they have the sweetest disposition.
I knew that my health was too poor to raise a child, even if I could have conceived. I love each child, but how can you keep having kids when you can't or won't work, and are living in deadly conditions. A tent might be safer. I can't like the adults, besides their nanny. I can't bring myself to like the husband. I saw in the comments there was a follow up and the kids have done well, which makes me so happy. I wonder how they came across this family for the doc. They are amazing.
I’m astounded by the insight and maturity of these amazing little girls.
I grew up very poor and I actually believe that I am lucky I did. Granted my parents loved me very much but my mother was also an addict and I had to go without a lot. However, it made me grateful for everything I have, understanding and forgiving of others for their faults and shortcomings and VERY mature from an early age on, even if it was because I was forced to “grow up” long before most children are expected to. In the end, it truly made me a better person. And while I have plenty of money now, when my daughter was younger, I did not, and she is so grateful and empathetic and unlike any other 10 year old I’ve met, and a lot like these little girls in the show.
Sad thing is I've saw children like this but by time they're old enough to make their own life decisions they are so worn down by it all they end up taking the same paths. Things their 10 year old self would never choose their 15 year old self will just want to escape to.
and that's why we all expect they gonna break the cycle of poverty, unfortunately living rough in childhood can change them radically in their teens and they are most likely to continue the cycle of poverty...
These little girls are just AMAZING. How on earth did they get so clever, and mature, and kind and loving. They're incredible and I hope they went on through life to succeed and to live good, decent, happy lives. Incredible.
Heartbreaking, beautiful little girls. They should have warm dry beds. Nobody should have to live in those appallingly conditions.
It’s disappointing to see the parents smoking when the children go without.
I understand it’s probably the only ‘pleasure’ they have but it’s no longer a poor mans pleasure.
Refugees, thankfully, do not live in these conditions, maybe Britain needs to take care of their own first.
I hope these bright little girls get all the education they are entitled to & break the poverty cycle. 💔
This documentary is very close to my heart. Poverty, violence ,fear... I am 38 and still trying to recover from those bad memories
Life is like that
Meral klsn - I wish you success, friend.🙂 I’m 44 and same as you. You’re not alone😔
I feel you, honey. Do I ever.
Hard times never leave you.
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The council moved the family into a nice semi-detached home, and the consequences were GOOD. Max (Mum) held a job in a care home until she had an exacerbation of her major depression in 2009 when her marriage to Nigel finally fell apart. She also finished training to qualify as a funeral service coordinator..
Kelly and Amy finished high school, and both held full time jobs (as of 2010) as nursing assistants at a care home, and are in a pre-nursing program. Jade was 18 in 2010 was looking for work; her mum states "Jade really helps, she doesn't go out clubbing like most 18 year olds."
A decent living environment allowed this family to succeed and make good things happen for themselves.
Its crazy how ONE positive can make all the difference in a life. It's really shocking how many people in the comments seem unaware of how much can pile on someone, just takes one accident/bad choice/death/etc and throw depression and/or other mental health issues untreated, and it spirals quick!
Thanks for the update! That's good news!
Thanks for the update but may I know where did u get this source from? Thanks!!
@@littlemissyyy there's been a update filmed..It's called Kelly and her sister grow up..
Sam was working part time as a hair dresser. The one who loved doing her own hair. The first 2 had a baby in their 20’s. The second 2 adult kids with no children yet. The house they finally were moved into didn’t have mold issues. It clearly was not their housekeeping and maintenance. There was a reason that estate was condemned and people removed from those units. Probably just too big to fix. They were able to move and get on with their lives as they wished in the film. I’m surprised by the comments. Mental illness is better understood.
Is it me or does anyone else think that this mother should not sit there and cry and complain about money in front of her kids? I mean, that just stresses them out, and makes them feel bad. That could cause a lot of issues. I don’t know. That just bothers me.
i agree, and shouldn't be mentioning depression or money woes in front of kids. their naivity and innocence should be protected, they can't possibly understand grown up problems
So what what you recommend her say to explain to kids why they can't have decent clothes and food? Kids are smart. They will figure out the situation whether she talks about it in front of them or not.
as doctor phil always says you dont involve kids in adults problems, these people dont have any ambition it seems, cant keep a clean house ,there is no excuse to add booze and smokes in your budget, when your kids skip meals ,and dont even have proper bedding, and why does a little girl sit there worrying about the finances
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Exactly, you dont involve child in adult issues.
What beautiful, delightful little girls. They have far more sense and maturity than their mother...
They should not be living in that house. The Social Services should not leave the family in al That's cold and has mould. And here in the US I believe they give them food,
yes, they are lovely and caring, not selfish ..good little girls
Often being raised like this brings out a truly loving and empathetic individual. That's a hidden blessing.. silver lining to the cloud.
This happens a lot...the parents are so immature the kids end up taking care of them and raising themselves.
Kelly and her sisters grow up was the title of the update. Yes the older girls grown and doing well. Took years to get into a proper property which made me Ill thinking of them there 3 more years. Girls working. Paying taxes. The older 4 were older than their mom when she had the oldest. The oldest 2 over 20 when they had their first baby. Second 2 no children yet. A baby is a blessing but a few more years to start a family usually makes for an easier life. The mom recently split with the husband a few years before. She had been working most of the years since the show, but fell into depression the last 2 when the marriage failed and back on benefits. I think mostly that was for drama to be fair. It was mostly positive though. Like the girl said she wanted to get out of there so they could get on with their life like everyone else. And the new place did that. The house was in good repair. A little cluttered but most homes are. No mold. Not damp. Clean.
Cigarettes and the alcohol has to go.
Especially Jack Daniels. You could feed the kids for a week for the price of one bottle of Jack.
That'what I think too.
Or the state take away the kids
Those are Maxine's priorities...cigarettes and booze.
She’s got colored hair too
Exactly and you don't need money to be clean honestly beautiful kids that deserves more so much more
Imagine food being your only foreseeable present for Christmas...broke my heart. Those children were so grateful.
Man my heart sank at that part too. Reality check for sure
I can imagine that very easily. Thank God for Churches. It's crazy feeling that awful. The Church did help with food and hand me downs. BUT the teacher for my class said bad things happen to bad people. Every night I prayed and begged for forgiveness for whatever I had done that was so bad. I couldn't think of what I had done. So I cried myself to sleep every night.
@@Teresia12 oh man xx
I like these people, not so different from lots of people I have known, but we could try and help our neighbors-I think why not? Govt wasn't a lot of help in my experience but why I don't know- know of 3 children died without govt intervención...in Canada, sadly.
Well they did get some Christmas presents too. I am sure not much per child, but there were gifts under the tree and it showed them unwrapping them.
Oh my word. I grew up poor on welfare assistance. My mother raised six kids alone after leaving an abusive husband our father. He was on the military and got addicted to drugs. So, after a lot of abuse, she left him. She never smoked, never drank (we didn’t have alcohol in our home), and we kept the place clean. I’m sure she was depressed many times and overwhelmed. But, she woke up everyday and took care of us even making sure we did our homework. She didn’t speak English. She sat us at the table after school to do our homework. We rarely watched television except on weekends. I remember the sheet rock ceiling was falling off in my bedroom and that room was always cold since the heater didn’t work that great up. I used to sleep with a winter hat on to keep me warm! It was my boyfriend when I was eighteen years old who fixed that ceiling for us. And my mother never ever brought a man into our home. Thank God for my mother doing the best she could and using that assistance wisely.
It must have been incredibly hard. I am glad she was such a strong mom and she was able to support you growing up
Your mom is a shining example of what to do when you're a parent.. even if you're struggling. The mom in this documentary pisses me off!!
Amen. All I see here is what am I entitled to and what do I deserve? My family stood in bread/cheese lines. We did what we needed to but not one thing extra. I quit school to support my siblings and keep our house. My mom....didn't do much, she felt it was all owed to her. Similar to this young ladies parents.
Good for you for crediting your Mum. We get enough criticism and hardship and the worst is the battering we give ourselves because we can't be more than we are. Bless you!
Reminds me of my mother who was widowed at 29 years old with a 2 year old and a baby. ALWAYS put my sister and I first. Never wavered. Your mum had 6. She is a bona fide Saint.
Bless these darling girls and their maturity, I hope their circumstances have improved greatly ...
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I agree 100%!
Kyla Simpson there is a follow up of the girls and mum 11years later its on here some where ☺
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@@eyeexcel Omg the party for grandma made me cry!
Omg.. the baby sleeping in their room is interfering with their relationship.. oh no, you can't screw and create another child you can't feed!
My daughter is turning 7 and i live her sleeping in bed with her father and I. The best cuddle. This mom is crazy
Lmao that’s exactly what I was thinking!!!!
Heather Shaw at that age she shouldn’t be sleeping in your bed, she needs to learn to sleep in her own, taking co parenting beyond the measure
@@elvitasanchez915 I slept in my moms bed till 7 and I decided to sleep in my room on my own after that. It comes naturally. No teen is gonna sleep in mommy's bed
Sassy Jessi v
Those kids SHOULD NOT be in that house with all that black mold
Agreed! At the very least she could tape clear plastic on the walls to cover the windows/mold. It would help insulate a bit, too. Sad that it even had to come to this situation.
It's the damp. Most all assisted living or low income housing has that problem there. Sometimes the wall are completely wet. You can't stick tape on that
It’s council property and council responsibility. There isn t mold cause of the resident of the place. They can’t control roof, windows and pipes.
Sadly its the circumstances that have led them to live in that godforsaken house. They cannot do really anything however because most of the times the walls are too wet to even stick tape to it.
They should at least be bleaching it
That’s not expensive
This broke my heart. I understand depression, but if you can afford ciggies and booze, you can afford pasta in bulk, with at least sauce and bread for your babies.
Exactly!
Exactly !!
You should not be able to use benefits for cigarettes or booze.
Was not quite dickens. They ate. I think the gov and charities are a lot better about food security and showing people how they stretch. Energy to heat the stove a bit more expensive. She had to have fed the two younger kids. They older ones probably just had a wheatabix for dinner.
yessir i noticed the same
I can’t stand when the mother blames the girl for having been moody at school and tells her that she has hurt HER! These girls are miraculous in being so well behaved. Of course a child would have difficult times in that kind of a household. And the mother blames the child? And makes the child feel guilty for her own failures? Can
@@mzshasta they turned out the way they did DESPITE the mother they had.
If you’re a single mom, just focus on being a mom. That’s the best advice I can give any woman in that situation. And I know, because I’m raising two kids on my own. Don’t worry yourself with men. Don’t stress out over having a boyfriend, or finding someone to save you. Just do it yourself. You can date when your kids are grown. It’s only 18 years and you never get that time back.
I know this was posted a year ago, but well said!
I'm also a single mom, my daughter is now a teen, but I have worked multiple jobs to keep a roof over my child's head and food in her belly. I have been in serious depression, but my child was always my main focus and is what kept me going!
This is horrible for these children!!!
I did what you've said and it's such a great accomplishment to have been successful in the 70s at $1 an hour wages.
This is so true
Bless you and your lucky children. You're a queen
I REALLY LIKE YOUR COMMENT! Responsible Mothering is VERY attractive. One of the things I have learned throughout my dating experiences is if a mother doesn't place her child 1st I will never be genuinely loved or appreciated by that lady. Those ladies seem to prioritize their own extravagant desires (given their circumstances) over their offspring's requirements. They aren't going to treat anyone in their life with respect or trust so "love" is entirely out of the question. Women should be weary of the "Knight in shining armor" that is over-anxious to have a ready made family. The children may be the primary driver in their desire for such a scenario.
No matter who you are, where you live, what you look like, how much money you have... you DON"T smoke inside a house when kids are present and you don't go guilt tripping them either.
Miss Pippi Agreed. I feel bad for Becky. She's growing up is been criticized for wanting her own room when it's perfectly normal for someone her age to ask for. Then there's Amy who probably lashes out at her teachers for underlying reasons.
Maxine and her husband are so wrong for smoking that Tabaco into their little kids lungs....
@@jenneacoleman-cubero2365 her lashing out to the teachers is her cry for help. My friends are teachers and they know the signs. They are well aware of the kids who are doing it tough at home and gosh this breaks my heart.
my dad tells me " get over it you can go outside if u want. its my house I'll smoke if I want." 😅 constantly getting told I smell horrible of smoke at school
Shouldn't smoke in the house when they are not home either. 2nd and 3rd hand smoke is terrible for anyone! 3rd is what lingers in fabrics and furniture, toothbrushes etc.. nicotine just lays down and poisons everything it touches!
Children are first and if my child told me that someone made them feel uncomfortable, then I would say bye bye to that person and never look back! My Child is forever! ❤
And besides, when did a really healthy hot meal get more expensive than snacking? Buy big packs of rice and spaghetti and make some really healthy stews with beans and lentils and the cheapest veggies.
barbalalla2003 She obviously has few maternal skills. She just mopes around depressed in a toxic relationship and lets the kids raise themselves.
These parents are ignorant.Poor girls I wish them well
With that bottle of Jack, I don't think there'd be anything left to buy cheap veggies with
Depression can really take it out of people. I am not making excuses for her. Just giving a reason. It is still her responsibility to manage her mental state so she can provide for the girls.
@Kitty Sulivan It is possible, but I would say there isn't enough info here to know one way or the other. Typically people are chemically predispositioned to be affected by depression and environmental conditions can exacerbate it. That is why some other people living in similar conditions don't suffer from depression. So did the depression start to cause her to ignore responsibilities and make bad choices that led her here? Or was she reasonably mentally healthy and made bad decisions that created an environment that triggered a naturally-occurring but dormant state of depression? We can't really know. I would say either one is equally as likely.
Young ladies: This is an excellent example of how "falling in love" with a worthless man will never, ever help you. He will drag you down further than if you stayed on your own. Sure, the mother has chronic depression and has made some bad decisions, but she's done enough right that her children are smart and loving. My heart goes out to them. The man? He's just a petulant man-boy that the mother and the grandmother take care of.
Personally I think the girls did well despite their mum ..not because of but glad they are ok
The mother is just as worthless.
They know the welfare state is there to pick up the pieces. There is no incentive to behave responsibly.
Exactly. This scum is sitting in front of a computer and fax machine but is instead selling their bikes since they can’t afford their bills now that he came back and have an extra mouth to feed. 😡😡😡😡
Robbie Carter, agree. The girls are lovely despite their mother. The man is there BECAUSE Mother and Grandmother invited him there. They are to blame.
FUNGUS growing on walls.. kids hungry & cant eat a hot meal at home & you’re have CIGARETTES and LIQUOR?!?! These kids are so sweet & deserve so much better.
I lived in poverty for years, almost up to my 20th birthday and my mom never just went to buy cigarettes and alcohol instead of feeding me. My mom would take her food and give it to me, just because i said i want it some.
We always lived in a clean house, my grandma used to say that being poor is not a fight against being clean,. This is not a case of "oh life, me so sad" this is parent neglect. Easy.
Both of my parents grew up poor. My dad had a loving family and a clean house. But my mom lived in the American version of this documentary. There is a world of difference in attitudes in my mom’s family vs my dad’s.
Amazing opfp
Yup
I agree. I have seen this just at the beginning of the video
I'm sorry that happened to you. I hope your doing well❤❤
If you're like me, you just found this documentary and watched it (2019). I also watched the update documentary, that was made in 2009, I believe. The mom is still living on benefits, not working, complaining about having no money, and making excuses for her hardships. However, the girls seem to be doing well. The older ones all have jobs, partners, pay their own bills, and appear to be happy and doing well. I'm glad that in spite of who raised them, where they were raised, and how they were raised, they have become beautiful, successful, responsible, and happy adults. I hope they are still doing well. After I watched the update documentary, I came back to this one, just to make this statement because when I watched it the first time, I read a few comments about how the kids are going to end up being just like their mom. One person said not to bother watching the update because they all have kids they can't take care of and that wasn't even close to being true. Keep your heads up, young ladies. You should be extremely proud of yourselves.
Here's the link to the update, if anyone would like to watch it.
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I watch some of it.
They are doing well
Thank you!
Thank you for posting this
Thank you for the info. I was wondering about them.
I'm assuming they probably didn't develop debilitating depression either. That can definitely help someone not turn into this woman.
Can't work because he lost his license? I lost my license and I still work 38 hours a week it's just excuses
I think he meant because he was in prison, that's why he can't get a job
He was a bus driver though and i think he meant he couldn’t have that job anymore
He was a bus driver, caused an accident, and went to jail over it and lost his license. So I think he means he can't drive a bus anymore. Hopefully he found another line of work
It’s like it doesn’t occur to him that he can do something besides drive a bus. Weird.
Did anyone else just melt when sweet little Amy sang at the end? I hope each girl becomes wildly successful and helps change the system. Also; condoms.
Little Amy turned to music to help her cope....Precious girl.
@MadeintheImageofGod There's a follow-up to this video. Definitely a must-watch.
thats one good comment lol. yes and yes
In the update the couple didn’t have any more kids. The oldest 2 had a baby in their 20’s and living with their partners. The oldest 3 holding down jobs. The family has a house with no mold.
@@kristinesharp6286Thanks for the reminder! I saw that and have since forgotten. They seemed stable. I just hope fir the best.
Everyone talk about the mom but there's two father's in this story too.
Clearly the fathers are useless freeloaders
Exactly.
Agreed!
Yes... Thank you
Yeah but she's the gave birth to six mouths to feed. I'm pretty sure she knew she was poor before at least the last four. And now she's still being selfish and thoughtless by wallowing in her sad situation....the one she created!!!
These children are absolutely precious! I was super impressed with how articulate and smart they are - beyond their years. It's sad to hear them discuss adult problems/issues instead of regular kid stuff. But these kids show incredible resilience, strength, wisdom and a rather profound degree of empathy. They are such beautiful, loving, children. My heart goes out to them. I have no desire to pass judgment on the mother since I have not walked in her shoes and watched only this 50 minute video - a single snapshot of their lives. But she must be doing, at least, some things right, despite the real struggle, as evidenced by these precious babes. I wish I was rich and could rescue this family. I worry about the health implications of the damp, moldy environment they are living in.
I was the oldest of five (5) kids and we grew up dirt poor -- and believe it or not -- we didn't even have an indoor bathroom !! We had an old fashioned "out-house" that sat away from the house we rented. We took a bath on Saturday evening in a steel oval shaped wash-tub that sat in the middle of our kitchen floor. My mother would turn the oven on -- on our kitchen stove to heat up the kitchen. She would fill up the bathtub with cold water and then heat up large pans of water on the stove and pour it into the cold water to make the water warm.
We were literally 'dirt poor' -- BUT -- one thing that we were NOT and that was "dirty" !!!! The mother of these children does not have a clue of what it means to be CLEAN !!! People can be poor but they CAN BE CLEAN !!
The sofa in our living room was literally supported by bricks -- we received the sofa for free -- because one of the legs had been broken off. It was still a good sofa -- but to use it we had to place three red bricks under one of the legs!
Our mom taught us to be clean! Our walls were clean -- our floors were scrubbed and clean -- our beds were made and the bed clothes were clean. We may have not had very much -- but what we did have -- we took care of!
YOU CAN BE POOR -- but you still be CLEAN !!
Mona V 👏👏👏
What is so morally superior about people who merely keep a clean house? That is just preference. I think if anyone chooses not to make cleaning a priority; then that is their business and their value system.If you don't live with them don't worry about it. Just clean your own house if that is vital to you but don't go demonizing those who don't care. It's not laziness like you might smugly assume, just a difference in where a person chooses to expend their limited time and energy . Having a clean house doesn't HAVE to be oh so important to other persons who are not you, and people who don't care so much are not less then you the way you all automatically want to believe... If I had a choice between reading a book cover to cover and cleaning the house for 6 hours, I'll ALWAYS read the book. That will always be my choice. And I will always choose a book over housework. Because I do have that choice. I may be a pig but I am a well read pig. I am definitely much better read then average Sally suburban and her spotless home. And you can judge all you want(and you will)...but I don't "get" you people either! You people are always caring SO MUCH about something SOOOO stupid, vapid and shallow. I judge you right back. Though these days there is Kindle and it reads books out loud. So I have started to try multitasking cleaning with reading but Its hard if the book requires concentration. My friends tell me the middle class obsession with being clean has to do with having kids. But there is more meaningful existences then owning a beautiful well tended home. But peoples entire lifework is all poured into that goal exclusively. But at least you have the joy of looking down on others. Maybe that makes it all worth it to you.
Also you can use bleach to clean the mold on the walls. I can tell the house must be leaking moisture so it would be a never ending battle but, I'd do it no matter what.
@@lacy.knickers146 Once that black mold is intertwined in walls like that, you are pretty much fucked. Gotta replace the walls and fix the ventilation.
My grandmother always said "You can be poor and live in a dirt floor shack, but you and your shack can be clean."
Nigel tried to sell the girls bikes before his guitar, great dad.
Perfectly said👏👏
Yeah, that made me cringe.
Ohhh i thought he did bikes up
I swear wow
In California, USA cigarettes are $10 per pack.
These sweet little children.
It was hard to watch but honestly I kept watching because I was blown away by how mature and strong these little girls are. Off to watch the next video of them.
Shame on the fathers for not helping to provide for these children.
Leggs ~ Right, I just don't understand, it's so frustrating & sad
And he admitted to beating them up. And he threatened the little one on camera
AlA Al I must have missed that part. I know there was definitely verbal abuse. Not surprisingly they are no longer together in the update video.
No one ever has anything to say about this...
@@PraiseTheFSMonster I didn't know if he beat them up or if he smashed his hand into the wall or something like that.
No one.
Lil girl with make up - "I don't care"
... MOOD
Kyla Catunto She’s so cute! ❤️
Haha I died when she said that so adorable lol she's such a gorgeous little girl they all are but she's gonna be a heart breaker when shes older lol
@Sunflower Shine yeah I actually just noticed that vid. Not to long ago. I still havnt finished watching this 1 I got busy gonna watch the other 1 here in a few mins after I finish this 1 lol thanks tho
Love it 😂
She should be playing with crayons not makeup. Who chose her toys? And her attitude is harsh for such a young person. She will be hard to deal with when she gets to high school if nothing is done before that. Of course, this is an old video so maybe its too late.
Omg I felt like crying cause these children were so beautiful, respectful, & accepted what the couldn’t have. Very mature & well mannered. Keep on dreaming my darling child & one day your dreams will come true. 😘❤️🤗🇦🇺
I went through this as a kid. My mom was immature, and she made sure we both (my sister and I) thought of her as the victim. Huge victim complex. Also a narcissist. We had no money but she always had everything SHE needed. This is a terrible way to grow up but hopefully they will all be like my sister and I and make a great life for themselves. They grow up strong enough to do it on their own
Amen to you. My parents got divorced after 25 years of marriage. I was in my senior year, salatatorian, had grants and scholarships on the line. Had to leave school early so my younger brother and sister didn't have to go water and/or electricity. My mom's focus was that my dad wasn't giving her enough money. Of course my dad's opinion was that he was giving plenty. That left it to me. This wasn't fair at all, though I wouldn't change it for the world. We did stand in good lines and did what we needed to do, but nothing beyond that. The fact that this woman thought she was so deserving of things leaves me baffled. And the fact that her daughter is so concerned about her mother's depression, etc al, sickens me. She should have been shielded from all of that.
Same as my mother. She always had everything. New underwear, new toiletries, we had to steal or be given hand me downs from relatives
Yes, that is so important to say. We are NOT destined to a life of misery because of our parents. It won't be easy but it rarely is. Best to you!
Why dont the parents put a little effort in and clean up around the house and inside. It doesnt mean if you are poor, you need to be messy
N. Novak I noticed too. Place is trash.
Ikr...we grew up very poor but we always had a clean house n ironed clothes....it must smell horribly in there.
It's a symptome of depression
They're living in a condemned building! The mother is so depressed she gets suicidal. God bless them all.
I just wrote a similar comment! Growing up we didn't have a lot. Our house was always neat and clean.
Like everyone else,I had an immediate negative reaction to the parents. The mom is doing something right in raising these kids, though, they are awesome. Whatever it is, they are a hundred times better behaved and more thoughtful than so many on higher rings of the social ladder.
Yes they seem very aware and mature. It's so sad that they are being malnourished and their damp/moldy living environment is so unhealthy. These things will have a long term adverse effect on their minds and bodies. :(
Bindu Chandrabose these kids are raising themselves
Bindu Chandrabose These girls are really amazing. Such a smart, humble, polite, well behaved, modest, nice children. I don't know why, but I think it is not because of good parenting. Their mom seems like a person who is not interested in being a parent at all. She seems lost and depressed. She simply let herself go down with the flow of har life. I know it is not easy, but it seems like she is not even trying anymore. She gave up on fighting for her children. She lacks many parenting skills. As I said, I know it is difficult, but she could at least try not to be so lazy and clean the house. In all that mess and dirty space everything looks ten time worse than it is.
Bindu Chandrabose no the mother did sweet F.A. 😡 away from camera I bet these girls say it different! As for them appearing sweet, it’s because they had to become the ADULT! Trust me I know, and 10 , or 15 years this will be their story too 😢
Not necessarily. Like you said, they have had to grow up.
How can you stand there smoking and tell your child, sorry I can afford to buy to the sneakers you wanted for your birthday?
The saddest part is how excited the children are to get the food at Christmas. Just food.
Christmas isn't saposed to be just about the presents tho its good the kids think that way and understand. The proper way to think about Christmas. Its about LOVE AND FAMILYS not gifts they are right love is WAY more then the presents ...
But I definitely agree she could have quit and had the extra money for the kids and her self and she would live longer and be healthier for the kids and there futures
Right. Don't know about there but where I live cigarettes are 6+ dollars a pack. Some off brand not but little bit less. I'd put my child's shoes before the cigarettes. That's just me, my opinion.
I vape now, but I'm an elderly widow lady, retired & can afford it now, but I've saw times when my sons were little that I didn't have the money for extra things. I remember those years.
@@shirleyharrison2580 about 11+ in upstate Ny. For Newport and marlbros. Brand and probably between 8 and 9 bucks for cheaper brands idk I quit going on 7 months now :) vape here and there and use lozenges.
If she gave cigarettes then might have more money to look for a better place to live. The mold is slowly killing them as well as Maxine's change to get COPD. I would think if they left that environment they would be less depressed and feel better. The sad part is that many of the children's toys and other things would need to be thrown away because of mold spores.
The way that Kelly says she’d spend money on other people (like with McDonald’s and clothes and shoes) before herself was heartwarming 🥰
Hello Melissa i am from Singapore i am coming 41 this year in August. Yes exactly u are absolutely right about Amy. To be very honest this really shows that if u are being raised with lots of compassion u will be considerate kind and nice!
Too many kids..... TOO MANY. They're absolutely precious but family planning was needed.
condoms were needed.
I work with kids and this is way too true. We provide kids one meal a week and even though half aren't in our actual program. It's pretty heartbreaking.
Absolutely right
These beautiful, world-weary girls. How they’ve learned their mother’s script for their predicament. Mother’s habits (smoking @450p a pack, Jack Daniels at £20/L) are literally taking food from her daughters’ mouths. The girls look remarkably healthy considering the filth, mold and fungus in their environment. Food banks were new in U.K. in 2000, but hopefully there is a great deal more help for those in need today.
I've worked with kids who've been in similar situations. The last thing they need is pity as it destroys hope and drive. Look at the dad turning his nose up at jobs because they don't pay enough. He should be out collecting cans to recycle, doing anything to help support his family. His drive is destroyed and he feels like a victim which is why he's blowing up at the government for not giving him handouts as he feels they should. But he's an adult, he's not a victim, that's his choice. The kids are the victims and I just hope they can turn that around and become adult victors instead.
That's very much in line with how my bf thinks. He was raised under pitiful conditions, but has always maintained that you're never a slave to circumstance.
I feel like he only came back for a place to stay
@@amandatarver3014 , he swans in empty handed knowing full well there are needy children in the house, eats their food, uses their power and water, smokes her cigs, pawns kids bikes, sits watching telly, got a jolly step on and hand thrust out for welfare check day, has to take tablets not to be a beast to the kiddies, makes trouble to interfere with her already shaky funding..looks to me like he's set his cap to destroy her and her family
Zephyr Starsand right just awful
Yeah, for that and to get her knocked up again which is the last thing any of them need.
To all parents out there who cant afford food and clothes for their children: QUIT SMOKING!!!
Yeahh thats something I really don't get, as a child I had literally only one pair of jeans but my mom had her cigarettes :|
@@wolfblood5500 That sucks! Im sorry she couldnt make better decissions 😔
I hope you are doing well despite all 💕
Maybe get a job.
And stop buying Adidas clothes for YOURSELVES if the grandmother is bringing the kids secondhand clothes from thrift shops.
Don't judge
We all have our vices
Having children is hard
Leave it to the lord or the aliens
How well spoken and smart are these kids - they are amazing
Those poor children. I can’t imagine how horrible their clothes smell when they go to school. Cigarettes and musty mold. 😥 I’m sure the bullying was relentless. The “parents” need a wake up call! Nigel is dangerous and creepy. Those girls are so intelligent for all that they’ve been through! Praying for them!
Smelling like cigarettes in school and being picked on damaged my husband. Self centered parents. Period.
Mold can give those kids allergies.
I agree with you, the damp and mould is very bad for the whole family.
@@Iworkwithnitwits
Sad to say it can do more than allergies . Neurological damage, skin infections, of course asthma fatigue aches pains rashes and permanent damage to your lungs.
The step dad says he can't work. Cause he has no license. So the truth is he can work, he just won't do anything to get there. If you have to walk or ride your bike for work
Man up and do it, stop being another child in her life when she needs a man. To help and be there for her and your kids. This is sad.
His former job was to drive. A license is sort of pivotal. But yes he could get some other type of employment now and actually he’s got his license back so he may drive if he likes. Maybe not for a living, I really don’t know how forgiving the U.K. Is. The U.S. is most decidedly not forgiving about these things.
@@ascent8487 I am from the USA as well. And no the United States is definitely not forgiving for anything. I see from the shows that I watch the UK doesn't look too forgiving either. parts of it does look more screwed up than the United States does. I just know I watched this one and it really made me pissed. Because of one thing she does is smoke. People could have bought them for her or her mom . My God she even pawned her rings, so I'm sure that it went to Food. Even if it was for a pack of cigarettes. I think she has a right to a pack of cigarettes. I'm sure she would starve herself first. This mom does seem like she is really trying and she's struggling just like everybody does in this world. People are jerks pointing out about one thing that she is doing wrong. And who's to say smoking is wrong. Not everybody in this world is perfect, everyone in this world has a bad habit whether it be smoking, drinking, drugging, gambling the list is endless about bad habits. But s*** everyone has skeletons in their closet.
Serenitys Dream exactly! I raised my 2 kids, working 2-3 jobs ,went to college, never missed a ball game,practice, band concert, or any school function. I went back to work less than 6 wks after going thru open heart surgery and being in a coma for most of 1 summer. My transmission tore up in my car, i drove my bicycle to work in the dam SNOW 25-30 degrees outside. I did what i had to do to make ends meet and make sure my babies didnt do without. I bought a house and paid it off before my kids graduated high school. Both went to college and they both have excellent jobs and hav bought beautiful homes. My daughter just spent 2 mos in Italy My son is preaching at age 32. Its all about motivation and not living off the system . Taking pride in yourself and your life. The most important fact is LOVING the LORD. 🙏😇❤️
It hurts watching this, because my stepdad said the same thing, he STILL doesn't have a license and hasn't had a job in over 15 years. My mom has been supporting both of them the whole time, but she isn't any better, she wastes all her money on smokes and weed so they never pay their bills. I was so happy the day I saved enough money to move out.
@@cathyt144 I didn't even bother reading your story just the first few lines got me aggravated. So in other words you're saying you're perfect. got it. If I told you my story you wouldn't be alive. I almost died last year from a coma. so I'm not going to even get into that. All I was saying she has a vice so what its cigarettes and it doesn't mean she buys them you don't know you're not there you're not living with her. that's all I'm saying about this whole situation
20:53 Dad is looking at local job postings...
Mumbling to himself, “£4 an hour... hmm... not for me”
Ummm.... Im American and I’m not real familiar with the exchange rate but isn’t £4/hr. MORE than the NOTHING he’s bringing in now???? 🤢
Reminds me of cousin Eddie from the movie Christmas vacation. He’s been holding out for a “management” position for like 10 years.
This documentary was made in 2000 so I don’t know the exchange rate for then, but I looked into it and 4 pounds is about 5.31 dollars. I’m from America as well.
I’m in the military and was in Europe in 2000 back then the pound was more than the dollar. If you give them $2 you get 1 pound…
but if he got a job they would lose their benefits and 4 pounds an hour would not be as much as their benefits. that's why it's so important for employees to be paid living wages or else the cycle of unemployment and living off of the government will continue for we
They would be living and 3 a day each. He has been unable to work 7 months. He will get the ability to work again. Something is wrong with his record that will be cleared up soon. That means 8 months ago they were fine but their accommodations.
I'm not buying that mother's sob story. She's not willing to give up her smoking habit so that her children could have TWO hot meals a day.
Tamara Rutland-Mills that’s just the ugliest most selfish thing I’ve ever heard
Yeah
Right. Terrible
In the Netherlands we always eat just one warm meal at day. But when i see the unhealty food the children got at school, for sure they need two...😒
SHE'S lucky she has healthy, beautiful children. Free housing and free food and healthcare for her children. I'm a single mom I get nothing. I wish I could give him the world. It's true that u can be a good mom and still be poor. We are all human, after all, nobody is perfect!
0:33 The little girl with the makeup. OMG, I've never seen anything so cute. Then she speaks in the British accent. So adorable!
I don't care
😂
The black mold, the cigarette smoke, the dampness, the mood instability in both parents -- these remarkable girls are coping with terrible things so gracefully, so eloquently. I'm amazed and also want to reach through the screen and save them, at least temporarily, until the adults get a safe household together.
But just imagine how different the situation would be if the mother stopped smoking and drinking and used that money to buy food and clothes for her children.
It's also free to clean a house... Especially if you're not even working
@@richyanderson6086 I fully agree with you. It's shocking that the house is so dirty.
She's a lazy Mum. My Mum had seven of us, we were very poor but she made sure we were clean, she would wake up early to clean the entire house before we would wake up.
It's 13 pounds a pack now in UK or more. 400 pounds a month is the difference between living reasonably well and living badly. That's before counting the booze. For a a family of 4, McDonals is expensive, too. You could have a roast fresh chicken and veg for half that money.
Not much
These girls are so amazing. Such sweet, smart children❤
No matter how poor they are, that mom can get a rag and get that fungas off the wall. That's just laziness.
or one of the dads can buy a can of mold paint. scrape, paint, and clean would go a long way.
Bleach And a rag . I’ve done it. And I sure couldn’t afford cigarettes.
ABSOLUTELY!!!MUM IS LAZY!!
And what happens to the little ones being exposed to all that mold?
I am from India and our economically weak populations lives far better than this.
A heartbreaking documentary. Those children deserved (deserve) much more.
It only took a minute to see this lady is badly depressed. Shes existing. Shes lost the desire to live. She said it herself if it weren't for her kids she'd b dead. But ppl dont help or have compassion for these type of ppl because they figure if they can do it, get up everyday, why cant u. These ppl dont understand depression. Its something that's takes over you, like a demon. Only light, love, support, encouragement, and understanding your importance for living, and that someone needs u to live,...you can get out of your head or dark place.
Raven Simone 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thank you! I said the same thing. She is ill. People also don’t have compassion because that can’t see anything physically stopping her from working. Wounds of the mind are just as disabling as visual physical disabilities.
Raven Simone your 100 percent right..just wish other could see it
Close your legs so you don't have more reasons to be depressed. There is help available, why doesn't she get it? Lazy and selfish
vicky harty Obviously you have never dealt with debilitating depression. You really should not call someone selfish and lazy unless you personally know or live with them and know the persons heart. She doesn’t know where to go get help. She doesn’t probably want to get out of the bed everyday and it’s obvious that she just wants someone to love her. My point is that we should not make assumptions or judge unless we know the situation personally.
vicky harty careful....you are sounding like an internet troll! Who are you to think you have the right to sit in arrogant judgement of a sick woman? Your comment tells me that you are actually trying to make yourself feel better by putting someone else down. The trouble is, after an initial feeling of superiority, you will be left with a fear of also being judged badly. I fact, studies have shown that people with a deep seated shame are more likely to put other people down. Learn to show other people compassion, and you will feel better about yourself....
Also for the people saying "BuT sHeS dOiNg A gReAt JoB rAiSiNg ThE kIdS tHeY aRe So MaTuRe" those kids HAD to grow up too fast to take care of themselves and each other. When people meet my mom and stepdad they are confused because I'm nothing like them, and that's all because I saw how they were and made damn sure not to turn out or act like them. So no, those kids are probably thriving in personality because they see their mom and don't want to end up like her.
So true. It's often the kids with the crappiest parents who end up mature and turn out well. Not because of the parents but in spite of them.
I agree with you & just because the children sound “ okay” now , there is no telling how this will effect them later in life or even in the near future once they reach a certain age .
✨🙏🏽💚Sending them all my best
I have often said by raising my own kids I am righting the wrongs of those before me. I can remember everything they did that i despised and I'm so thankful I have enough sense in me to choose to raise my kids different
Wow makes perfect sense
100% they are raising themselves and doing a good job DESPITE the influence of their parents.
I too suffer from severe depression but I would NEVER let my children come second to anything!!!
STOP SMOKING AND DRINKING and look after those precious children who YOU brought into the world!!!
Instead of getting rid of the kids bikes, pawn those guitars hanging on the wall or the gold earrings the mom wears - their priorities seem badly warped.
Alcohol withdrawal can literally kill you, it's not something you can "just stop"
such beautiful, clever children. they deserve a family that can provide for them
Those girls are so precious. Bless there little hearts.
I'm sorry, but that man can come up with a hundred and one excuses why he can't work. The truth is he chooses not to. Many people go to work everyday using public transportation... They get up and go to jobs they don't like, feeling depressed, sick, etc. They work at crappy jobs because they have children who are important to them. I've seen parents work two jobs before they would let their children live like that. No jobs? No.... Just none that appealed to him. Bless the beasts and the children, for in this world they have no voice, they have no choice...💔
I absolutely agree. Both of these parents are awful. If they really wanted to work, they could have found some job, any job. They would not just sit there all depressed complaining like it is everyone's else fault they are in that situation, but not theirs. I really don't want to judge, but this mom is lazy immature and irresponsible. To have a kid at 16, no education, no job, no place to live, no security, no stability......... and then she has 5 more kids. I know it is no nice of me to say this but: What was she thinking??? she brought her children into this world and not only that she is not able to care for them, but these poor girls have to take care of her, because she got depressed.
If she can't find job, she could at least work at home and clean the house. It would help her with her depression
Jan Upczak yeah i heard what he said about the wages offered when he was checking out the job board. He could work 2 part time jobs to make up the difference or the mom could work. She looked capable to me. The black mold on those walls could be taken care of with a few gallons of clorox and water too. Black mold will kill you. No wonder the house was not really liveable. Im gna try to find the update on this family and see how those girls r doing. I would adopt one or 2 of them and bring them to the US. I am retired and have no grandchildren. Its just me, the dogs, cats, and my flock of birds in a big 4 bdrm house. Im sure they had rather be with their mom and family tho, no matter how bad things get for them. Its still your family
@@cathyt144 What a kind and caring person you are... I'm sure you would give them a lovely life, and they would be so fortunate!❤❤❤
I rather make some money than no money. I say take this shitty job and continue looking for a better one.
forget the jobs, he's a child/wife abuser. notice how he said "she's really brave" to take him back? master manipulator, calling her "brave".
Aw I love how well mannered the kids were inspite of their living conditions. I pray they get their house and everything else they need.💛✌️💪🏻🙏😃I love you'll!!
Its bugging me that she is holding the kids clothes with the cigarette in her hand... she can’t at least smoke outside???
What bothers me more is she can't afford food and clothes for her children but she can afford her cigarettes?! Come on!!
ME TOO!
It was a different decade.
I know right. Instantly reminded me of my smoke infused clothes and how it would stick to my skin. Blagh
If the mom can afford to smoke, she can afford to to put more food in her kid's stomachs.
It's a good thing mom has one thing for herself. 4 kids is a lot of work and lot of stress. No one is perfect.
Serenitys Dream no excuse she has money for cigarettes but not for food
@@serenitysdream8759 she has six (6) kids and I disagree with u. I'm a mother of 3 children and there is no way I would let my children go hungry while I sat there and smoked. (I don't smoke cigarettes, but I've had my habits). U can buy a loaf or 2 of bread, a jar of peanut butter and/or a carton of eggs, for the price of a pack of cigarettes. As parents it's our duty to take care of our kids and that means we have to sacrifice some things. That includes giving up a habit that we chose to have. Smoking is not a necessity, it's something that the person chooses to do. I see the mother as being selfish. She chose to take away from the whole family, just so she didn't have to go through withdrawals. I'm happy the family turned out alright, and the girls are doing well now. But I think that the mom should have thought about using some birth control or having her tubes tied. I love my children and would love to have more, but I can't afford to have anymore. I know I can't afford it, so I do what I have to do to not have anymore.
I also don't understand why she's getting a check from the government. Why can't she work? I'm sorry I have no sympathy for this mother. It's one thing to have bad luck and hard times. I've been there, but to stay down as long as she did and to use the system for as long as she has, upsets me.
Serenitys Dream total BS. She chose to have those kids. If you dont want the responsibility to make sure they are fed and clothed before you buy some cigs or booze dont have kids!
Rainy Day I wish more parents had your sense. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family and sadly its not uncommon
The kids can't wait to get to school for heat and food omg. Y is mom buying cigarettes and jack daniels wtf.
When school is your refuge that is pretty sad.
Mom doesn't seem too bright.
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mum gets up last in the morning, this says it all
Exactly, while the kids are getting dressed for school she can be preparing breakfast.
@@Iworkwithnitwits the 3 oldest can pour milk and put a wheat biscuit thing in the bowl by themselves.
That was my impression as well
@@kristinesharp6286 THAT'S NOT THE POINT YOU FOOL🤦♀️😳
Ive just watched the sequel to this. What an lovely family - they really did manage to get through all the adversity with love. They didn't have much at all but they had each other. I wish them all the absolute best.
This was taken in 2000. There is a sequel made in 2012 called Kelly and her sisters Grow Up - which provides an update.
Anni...Do you've a link to that episode?
Sola Sunny - here its is: th-cam.com/video/y3myuG1Xk1U/w-d-xo.html
@@anni7013 ty Anni :)
Anni thank you!! i’m gunna go check it out
Thank you!!!
I wouldn’t of spent money for them wedding rings sorry you got 6 kids I would of thought only of my kids at that moment.
Kellie Landing 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽 exactly
ya it kids seems like dude is mooching anyway
You would HAVE better spent money on learning to write before being judgmental.
Always get it out so if you ever need to you could pawn it again
Those kids are so beautiful and so intelligent bless them, my heart aches for them 😞
I don't easily feel sorry for people but my heart goes out to this beautiful family. I hope and pray that every door needed will open for you. Big soft hugs.
That “father” needs to take any job he can find-and two jobs-to take care of his family! Those children need parents who put them first!
My exact thought.
right...and you hear of some women working a few jobs and raising kids. He is not a man and happy to live off welfare
I agree with you. But I cannot stop to wonder where the biological father of Sam, Amy, Kelly and Jade is. After all, the girls are also his responsibility.
if you can't afford to give your children a proper n decent life, please stop having more children!
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Should the Moms first husband the father of the 4 children should be paying child support and I agree no smoking
@@noeleenbarry6257 don't have kids if you can't support them on your own. Even if you start out with a partner. It's just the smart thing to do at this point. Be financially stable in the first place before pushing a bloody kid out at all! Whether alone or with a partner!
@@emryadora being a responsible parent does not involve Eugenics.
Choo Choo i don’t know how stable Europe’s economy is but unfortunate events can knock anyone and stability is not something you can guarantee forever.
Responsible parents is not equal to rich parents. You can have all the money and neglect your children.
Although I support the idea of having money to support your children, I can’t help but thinking that’s pretty idealistic. Not to mention that poverty oftentimes go on for generations, does that mean they shouldn’t have any children at all?
Poverty is way too complex and saying “you shouldn’t have children” won’t solve it.
These girls are actually very grateful and love their mum, so I think they’re doing something right with raising such lovely girls. I grew up poor and resented my parents so much. I always compared myself to others and never understood why I couldn’t have nice things. I distanced myself from my family and promised that I’ll never be the same when I grew up..
The kids are raising themselves
Having a home that is in ruins is one damm thing, but having a dirty house is a CHOICE!! GET WITH IT!!
You can't afford food for your children but you smoke and drink. The girls are really sweet but the parents they should be ashamed.
They are not responsible adults for sure.
Same 40 hours a week no problem and just bought my own house at 175k
That little girl who sung at the end has a beautiful voice, she could go far! It's just a shame that they are living in squalor. The Mum must have done something right as the girls seem very nice and quite intelligent for their age. It's so sad that they have to live like this. My heart goes out to them and everyone else in the same situation.
I grew up poor, and my grandmother had TEN children, but we NEVER LIVED IN FILTH...I remember everybody waking up on Saturdays, cleaning the house, being poor does NOT mean you need to be nasty, that children need to be dirty, or that ur home needs to smell bad, I would rather go into a public restroom and 'borrow' some of their liquid soap and toilet paper, then live in filth
Same here my mom said cuz u poor don't mean u have live in dirt or look dirty
What a very kind lady helping out! GOD bless her and this family!
A 3 bedroom is not ideal with 6 kids and 2 adults but if could just be a clean, mold free environment that would be a huge improvement. If that’s the quicker option, I’d take it in a second rather than wait for who knows how long for a bigger place.
He’s trying to sell the kids bike before his computer or guitar?
As others have said - a computer is a productive tool. It's not a toy or gaming console. It's a necessity in today's world.
Judi Lynn a necessity like cigarettes?
@Meldoesmakeup Yeah everyone arguing about the computer being a necessity but I don't think that's the main point about him trying to sell a kid's bike- I've been in that situation hundreds of times when I run out of money and am scrambling to figure out what kind of stupid thing I can do like sell my stuff for far less than what it's worth, etc... Basically every single month- But you can't sell your kid's bike because you didn't budget well- If they get food stamps and could find a food box at a church- Then what would they need to sell the kid's bike for-
Amy Waits maybe they asked the kids if they minded that they sold the bikes. We didn’t see that.
@@hangsambo12 My guess is that the kids want their bikes- Unless they hate their bikes- You should not consider selling your kids' stuff so you can buy tobacco for sure-
I love this family even in their difficulty,they love each other. Love can make you pull through any difficulty life throws at you.
This story really touched my heart in a major way. My daddy died when I was 5yrs old and my mama was on SSI disability so we were POOR. I got my clothes from Goodwill my whole Elementary School years. My shoes had holes in them. My mama got Christmas food and presents from the Church and signing us up with Secret Santa and a few times we had a rich family “adopt” us for Christmas which means they bought us EVERYTHING. So much food, clothes, toys, etc. THAT was the best Christmas. But yeah we were very poor. We didn’t live in a run down condemned home we lived in an apt based on income so she only paid $19 for rent. Mind u this was in the 80’s. I am a 70’s baby. But yeah I went thru it. My uncle worked at the farmers market and he’d bring us fruits and veggies and of course my mama got stamps but when food ran out at the end of the month we struggled til stamp time came back around. One month we ate pinto beans and cornbread for the whole month. My uncle brought us a 40lb bag of pinto beans from the market. But hey it was better than nothing! So yeah I’m really feeling this family and what they’re going through
*IT IS INFURIATING THAT SHE SMOKES AND HAS GOLD EARRINGS BUT WON'T GIVE THEM UP FOR HER KIDS BIRTHDAYS.*
SCRAG.
Miss T are they real gold?
@@itsme2365 really I hope not, but yes I doubt it to.
Calvin clein top too
seriously?! who has real gold hoops? no poor person i have ever met!! all these ppl judging on here have never been poor. try helping ppl before judging them
@@amandas.7143 watch the update,all her jewellery is gold
It's lovely to see them expressing love to each other... God bless them xx
As a person who grew up in poverty with parents who sacrificed so much and worked diligently to provide for my sister and I, I can tell you.... even having a conversation with someone who has never lived in poverty about the decisions you make to fulfill all your needs mental, physical, social, etc..... it's nearly impossible unless they are very empathetic.
A small example : When you have paid all your bills, and the only money you have that you get to choose how you spend it is the money you have for food.... sometimes you buy icecream, and treats instead of nutritional foods. Because it's a small joy you can provide yourself, when you can't afford vacations, or clothes you enjoy wearing, or a home you're proud of, or to go to a movie or anything that's entertainment period.
It takes a lot of discipline to always make good choices when literally every penny counts.
YES!
Wealthy people don't typically understand the stress and work involved in trying to make it work with so little.
My dad had to buy junk cars, and make them work. That meant finding a car that was worth investing the money you have (which wasn't a lot) and make sure you can afford to fix it. You also invest time. When you're walking to work you're loosing daylight hours that would be spent working on the vehicle. Then if it falls through, and it doesn't work you have all this guilt and frustration about making a bad decision and wasting money. Gut wrenching guilt, because you feel like you've stolen from your family. A wealthy person can just go to a car lot and pick a car like picking out a t-shirt. They know it'll work, and if it doesn't it's probably warrantied, they afford to fix, it or trade it in.
I just see a lot of people in the comments being so judgmental and to me it's a reflection of their inability to understand how living in poverty effects everything in your life. Even how you make decisions, and prioritize things.
Such beautiful children. Understanding, compassionate, resilient. I love them!!!
Bless this little family, and their sweet children!!
Man, I thought US school meals were unhealthy...that cafeteria looked like a fast food joint.
This documentary was made back in 2000 - I have no idea why this channel is uploading it now, it is not valid or relevant.
@@EezeeListen
It's probably still relevant if there are still situations like this going on, but I can see where it is no longer valid if that's no how things are anymore. Do these conditions no longer exist? Have the lunches changed, as well?
Jamie Oliver tried to change this travesty.
Stacie M yep! Resistance is the right word. I think British people neglect dental and physical health
Really? Are you familiar with National Health? It's not the panacea some would have you believe.
The father is weighing them down. Get out man
Exactly. It's one thing for the father to lose his job and the family to go through a rough time. This man was all the way out and his family was better off without him. The mother was a fool to bring him back and he's a bigger one for agreeing.
The mother wanted him back. One of the girls said she was happy that he left but her mom said she needed him back, so even though the girl didn’t want him back, she would rather have him if it meant her mom would be happy.
These beautiful, kind, thoughtful little dolls. Absolutely amazing humans!
I feel for those kids that said. The mother and stepfather are horrible.
No food but she smokes?!
Why even have 6 kids? Like wtf?
Be real! Im ill. I wont put a kid in this world.
Be responsible!
This mother aint!
Stepdad was beating in jail. Great catch! 🛇
Amarah smit Exactly. I was just commenting the same. This mother is lazy, immature, selfish and very irresponsible. All she does is complaing and finding excuses for their difficult situation, but she actually does nothing to try to change it.
I agree. I’m not able to work so I will never have children if I can help it. It’s not fair to bring them into a situation like that if you have alternatives. I know it might seem embarrassing but most doctor’s offices here will give you free condoms if you ask. That’s better than bringing a child you can’t care for into the world. It makes me really angry to see these people drink and smoke and not even try to quit so it would make it a tiny bit easier to provide for the kids. I feel like there are only so many excuses you can make for people.
I do not mind the smoking as much as the filth and mold. They must take any other flat to keep the children safe. When mother gets her new flat she needs keep it CLEAN. The father is lazy. Mother's depression would improve if she moved around a bit and not complains and feel sorry for herself.
Smokes and alcohol. Wonder how much cereal and milk she can guy with that money.
username6101947 or pasta, tinned vegies and rice
Not much, if u imagine she could cope with her situation without them. I've yet to wacth this so I don't know her weekly consumption. But if u do the math, it's cheaper to invest in 1 bottle of whisky + 50 aspirin
Oh, they had a bit of alcohol on XMAS.
How dare they try to have a festive Christmas.
Seriously.
Walk a mile in her shoes and see if you don't want a Christmas drink afterwards.
jan rees I havent even watched this video yet; was that it, a bit on Xmas? That's what the original comment is reacting to? wow, to hear that is funny...and sad at the same time, when u realize ur not actually so surprised.
Victim-blaming works best when u choose those least able to argue or defend themselves, and ironic to scapegoat them for society's ills despite them having the smallest voice/say/influence in media, gov affairs, and how the world is run.
When my smoking relatives come around and are in awe of my groceries in my pantry...i just tell them I use my smoke money on food.
They are both horrible people. Talking about the money they are “owed” and why aren’t they getting the free 4 bedroom house. Take the 3 bedroom and get out of the damp.
Hana J a
Hana J I agree. The Dad is one lazy yoke!
She seems like the type slob that would get a beautiful nice clean council house and turn it into a pig pen full of filth just like the one she's in now. She's the type that will never be happy and always be a victim of some kind or other.
agreed!
The parents are self untitled twits.
*** These children are exceptionally lovely 😍 ❤ 💖 & very polite & understanding of their unfortunate
living situation & seem to be very kind
toward their 👩Mom * who has had a tumultuous life of ❤ heart ache 💔.
God Bless this wonderful 👏 🙏 🙌 ❤
family 👪 & may life get better for them ❤ 🙏!
13:07 there is a lock on that door to lock the kids in the room!
Also, it must be freezing in that house if you see how that girl goes to sleep, hart breaking :(
Broke my heart when she said she couldn't wait to go to school because they have heaters and it's warm there.
Omg!!😨😨 What kind of monsters lock their kids in a room?! I thought they couldn't get much worse as parents. I was wrong. Thankfully the girls are doing much better today (or at least back when the second documentary of them was made)
It's not just the cig causing the mom to coughing the mold in the house is black mold, I understand alot are mad about the mom buying cigs. But look at the positive, the girls are clean. Well spoken, well behaved the grandmother lives in a posh home fancy clothes, the Dads are Not contributING takes 2 to make babies.
peacenlove3 faith absolutely and thank you ! That’s what I am saying
peacenlove3 faith
You are awesome, you have heart which is becoming a rarity nowadays. Seems many are too quick to judge without truly knowing the specifics as if they just want to scapegoat those who are in times of need instead of being grateful of having a job and that's a blessing compared to those who are struggling? I wish this family well, the girls are lovely.
@@snoopy-mf7nv thank you snoopy bless anyone that has to live like this
and it takes one to take the pill no excuses
peacenlove3 faith it infuriates me how the women always get all the blame!
Always comments about "welfare queens popping out a kid every year" how "they need to learn to keep their legs closed" and "they should be sterilized".
But rarely ever mention of the sorry ass "men" who hop from woman to woman helping to create babies then leave the woman to care for them alone while he moves onto the next woman and starts helping making more babies! And NEVER do I hear calls for these "men" to be castrated! It makes my blood boil!
Omg...
Mother: I, I, I, me, me, me
Daughters: Mum, mum, mum
Maxine is so selfish. I just want to shake her. Grow up! These six girls are counting on you!!!!
yeah I cant stand selfish mothers. the moment you have kids they should come first.
It is really sad to hear the kids saying things like "Mom has been doing really well lately". It is like the roles are reversed, and the kids are worried about their mom and taking care of her. But the problem is that legally, they are still the dependents and can't earn money. Very poor situation. Of course this was a long time ago and all of these kids are adults now (even the baby). I hope they all made it.
It's heart breaking those poor kids are worried about there mum. She smoking her smokes and drinking her jack or whatever else 😢 I wonder where they all are now.
@@heidililith31 There is actually a follow-up documentary. They are doing better. th-cam.com/video/y3myuG1Xk1U/w-d-xo.html
If I had to choose feeding my children or smoking and drinking... I FEED MY CHILDREN!! This is just neglect and selfishness in the worst way on the mother's part. Its INFURIATING!