I started crying when the little boy said he thought his parents sold him. His face looked so sad and it’s terrible that selling your own children is a reality for some people
@@yvettejones4249 how does he know what a beating is, those that are beaten everyday do not consider it abnormal, they dont' talk about it like it is wrong
How is it that kids are getting stolen but the abandoned and abused babies in the orphanages are left to rot? Something is terribly wrong with this government. May God of heaven step in and deal justice to this wicked government!
the children in orphanages are either disabled, girls or children of people who are serving prison time or are on death row and poverty. In Chinese culture shame is a big thing. When people fail, they not only lose their own face, but they shame all those around them.
He will. Don’t doubt! Matt. 18:10 “Beware that you don’t look down upon a single one of these children. For I tell you that in heaven their angels have constant access to my Father.”
@@HollyMcreynoldsYou do realize this people if religious are not Christian? Why you cult guys love to insert your religion everywhere? The intent is good but the delivery is cringe inducing.
The detective is a true hero. One honest lawman amongst so many corrupt ones. It's disgusting. I felt so sorry for the young couple having to sell their little girl. They just wanted her to grow up comfortable, successful and happy. I hope she has.
When the trafficker said “I just couldn’t sell my second son,” I was like oh wow! He does have a heart! But then he had to ruin it by saying “... because he was too old and nobody wanted him.” Wowsers.
Ikr? I guess it’s true what they say about committing crimes and having a seared conscience. The really heartbreaking part was about the young girls. I think if I had a daughter she would be handcuffed to me. The problem is that I understand they will even kidnap women who are already married and pregnant. They don’t care. I watched one video and this man went to some other country. I forget where. He talked himself up like he was a wealthy -movie producer or model ing agent. He told her he could get her work. He took her to his home which was little more than a shack. And since she couldn’t speak the language they would talk about her, his mother treated her like an indentured servant. The neighbors all watched her so she couldn’t escape, she was left with no money, no escape route, nothing. I don’t think I could stand myself.
@@siriusrainbow You see it is the cycle of tragedy... These countries are so poor that they cannot afford all of their kids, then sell them; The government saw these problems and write a one-child policy to forbid them selling their kids and put their limited resource on one child; Then they still create multiple babies and sell them... for making a living...; For the beginning of this policy, they abandon the female babies because the discrimination of women... then the female number in the all counties decreased... Finally, they found out that their son need a wife... so they found the kidnapper to do the kidnapping for them in other area. Specifically target for teenager girls...The wrong things is not done by the government, it just because none of these people has conscience... What happen even if the policy have not exist? Will these kids be created well by these "PARENTS"? Or we should call them brutes?
I hope Chen Jie is found and returned to his family who misses and loves him so much. I don't speak the same language as his mother, but I do feel her grief.
I hope, at the very lest, it was for illegal adoption by a well to do family that could not conceive and were perhaps too ashamed of the fact to do things the right way. I hope, at the very least his life took a turn for the better. I hope more that he will be reunited with his real family sooner rather than later.
I remember watching this a few yrs ago and my heart broke for the parents of the little boy..Especially when she was crying about him being cold or saying he'd be good if she would not send him away..I was so moved by this story that I researched it a couple of yrs after it aired and I found out that this couple was expecting their second child and that even though nothing could replace their son it was helping them find some happiness and was allowing them to be able to move on with their lives however they said that they will never stop looking for their son..
I was hoping to find an update in the comments section. I was hoping they were able to find him but I'm at least comforted that they have another child and are trying to live their lives as best they can. Unfortunately these poor parents will ever be whole again.
It's really the most disgusting thing about China and needs to be talked about everywhere. Nothing could be worse than having your child stolen, and sometimes right out of your arms while they tear them away and jump in a car and speed away, but the worst is that other Chinese people in public places do NOTHING to help. The police treat it with not much caring. It's considered less important crime than a robbery of a store. To them children are expendable. They need to wake up and pay attention to the problem as the rest of the world shames them and they get serious on stopping it.
@@zarina3379 I mean depends what you're referring to. If you are referring to only biologically human then yes but if it's more phiophical than it could be in a sense barely human. Human referring to qualities like moral values and "good nature"...the things that make us different than other mammals. I'm not getting into a whole discussion on it cause philosphy takes a lot out of me but one could lack so many moral traits that they are hardly considered human by a social standard
Some people just plin evil no heart; the neighbor will get his on day god doesn't like ugly . I pray for Devine miracle tha the boy find his parents with God nothing is impossible. 🙏🙏🙏
This had me crying before I started watching, nothing is worse watching a mother cry not knowing if you child is okay or not, and the grandmother. My heart hurts.
The hairs on the back of my neck raised as soon as the trafficker entered the room; also, speaking as someone who was abandoned at birth, I feel lucky I wasn't born in China. Those poor, poor babies.
but i thought asian cultures were about honor... and what honor is there in stealing a child... an infant... leaving the horrible pain that only parents can feel.... honor? keep your honor and take away the evil away from alot of these asian predators... i'm sorry but you gotta be some cruel animal if you would do this to a child.. and to the parents of that child.. that's just being evil... and dont give me the honor talk.... there's no honor... money is worth more than honor for alot of these people.
Well, maybe the whole GDP of China is high, but with too much population life quality is still far from those in Europe or America. Not much money is provided to the local police. Most Asian countries are still suffering proverty
Not just Asia. It happens in every culture, every country across the globe. Actually the number one sex slavery tourism place in the world is the US, for children and adults alike.
Phillipines especially makes me sick miss Philippines stands there with her fake smile whilst there's child to even INFANT sex ring prostitution in the phillipines
At first, my heart was breaking for the kidnapped children and their families, but I completely lost faith in humanity when multiple families wanted to sell their children. I can't imagine the circumstances these people are in, but are you kidding me? Talking about selling your newborn daughter, your one-year-old son, your six-year-old? I literally cannot imagine how damaged these children must be and I think it's safe to assume that the people who are buying them are going to be mistreating them to say the least. This is one of the most atrocious human rights violations I've heard of in a long time. In the years since this documentary was made, have there been any changes?
Sometimes they're not going to mistress them. Some families buy boy just because they want a son. They're going to treat them like their own. However, the biological parents were left heartbroken. In some cases, the kids were fond decades after abduction, but after getting reunited with their biological parents, they expressed the wish that they'd rather be with their "adoptive parents", for the bond built during all those years. There's a movie called 亲爱的(Dearest) talking about this issue. The situation is getting better than the time this documentary was filmed. But this phenomenon still exist.
Jade Wang, thank you so much for recommending that movie. I'll have to watch it. I can't believe the pain of finally finding your child and discovering that your child rather would stay with the "new" family.
There is a whole documentary on TH-cam of people searching for pregnant women and trying to convince them to sell them their newborns. These people straight up tell these women that they will sell the children either for organ harvesting or to a brothel where they will be drugged and raped until they are either taken away for organ harvesting or until they are deemed “ too old and used up because they have been drugged their entire lives, and then are put in snuff films and killed. This man investigating actually saved a newborn from these scum and got her adopted by a couple that wanted a baby. The horrors that go on is beyond your imagination.
I have never been moved to tears like I was when watching that little boy's mother and grandmother cry and pray for his return. I pray he has been found and their family made whole again.
What a corrupt system how could they not let parents give out posters on missing children 😡 and the trafficker is soulless, talking about his job like it's something normal 😠
i mean the trafficker's job is kinda normal at this point, for him at least, because he probably does it so often he's just desensitized and just greedy
America is NOT far behind, person i cant type your name... LS? The only difference is that half of people don't realize it because they trust the media, and the other half don't care. They are too busy in the rat race. I hope Jesus comes back soon. What really makes me mad is the indifference to it.
In rural areas people are so close to each other. I live in the city, but when I was young, and my parents have to over-work, they'd pay old neighbors to take care of me -_-. And in a small town where my grandparents live, people just walk into other people's courtyard without notification. That's how familiar people are with each other, and that creates a kind of "trust", that makes crime easier :/
Was anyone watching this and thinking the parents whose son was stolen should have kidnapped the Triad "neighbor" who was last seen luring their 5yo son away from the grandmother's stall with treats, then tortured the shit out of him? Just sayin.
I an heartsick watching this doc.I had no real clue what the one child law would do to China. I was born in 1960. I was made aware of it in school in Australia. I knew it would skew the population, I knew that females could never be heads of their own households. Selling and buying children so that your family can live? Forced abortions in the last trimester? What kind of economic growth is worth this price? Bride Auctions? The preference for only sons made daughters the rarest of commodities; a bride for that son. Yet the trafficker told the family that girls were worth less than boys now that is skewed. If your shopping just walk up to the window and pick one out. Human beings being sold like fish and chips. I feel sick.The only thing that gives me any comfort is that there are that there are rescuers. The precious few that for whom a human life male or female must not be a commodity. The agent who "takes a small commission for his expenses and raising his son" I have no words! For the parents who are selling their baby because they don't have permits, The parents who supply the children selling 2 or 3, children who are being bought to keep and care for the new parents in their old age. The only way to get any child back is to do the police's job for them and present them with the perpetrators. I am, I have no words. To have to hang your hopes for being reunited with your child on a pack of playing cards with the other missing children feels cruel to me. This one child policy has devastated the culturally accepted filial responsibility methodology. I feel heartsick!
1 child policy was being phased out anyway and it was finally repealed altogether in 2014. There were many exceptions, as I understand, especially for rural families and families lacking relatives through death/whatever, divorces/ separations, or where there was a disability/ illness in family, or first child died/ disabled and such.--meaning many mothers allowed to bear more than one child for a long time prior to the repeal of this law. still, the policy has a profound effect, no doubt--nation of so many only kids the sole focus of parents and elders, and without siblings.
This is what happens when people live under totalitarian governments--every bit of a person's life is governed by others. They have no freedom to choose for themselves. And some people in the U.S. are enamored with Communists and Communism!
Like the women he met in the park who told she already had sold 2 kids before the 1 year old she was trying to sell.............if she got 7,000 or 8,000 for the child......maybe she should have saved that money so she could have paid the fine that was needed when she got pregnant of a second child..........instead of spending al that money and set a new baby to the world to sell again...........really if i would be near that woman i would not have been responsible for what i would have done to that woman!
@@happydays1336 china isn't communist it's run by the communist party but it isn't communist, people don't own their own labor. please actually educate yourself about communism and it's origins.
10 years later, Chen Jie has not been found :( The parents gave the search up. The good news is that they had another child. Sad Sad story, I not even want to imagine the pain if that was my son.
@@michellesin445 i found something online in blogs and other articles and unfortunately its true, he is still missing but the couple had another child :)
And he didn’t sell his older son because he said he wouldn’t have gotten enough money and his son was old enough to find his way back home. He shouldn’t be alive
I'm a mother of two and when I hear that a child is lost I just pray that someone would find them and bring them home safe is horrible to know that someone child is being hurt or not safe at all
Why do poor people that have a simple life and are happy with it have so much heartache I hope they find that little boy someday It breaks my heart to see them so broken 🙏
That damn trafficker talking about kidnapping and selling girls like they're livestocks and something extremely normal to do, not a sense of conscious at all.
That's the nature of business people they do not have any emotional attachments to commodities, and children are to them naturally just that. Who is to blame the Government that implements these one child policy the parent who HAS to sell their child because for reasons already shown in this clip? It's a sad situation all around!
I don't understand. If that neighbour was the last person being with the child, he is the one responsible. He could be held on a lesser charge, like abandonment of a minor at least a felony (he says he left him on his own on the street), if kidnapping cannot be proven. If jailed, he would start to sing. Having said that, since it is an organised crime, the police are in it up to their necks as well, they know exactly what happened but will not hold the guy responsible. Those people have pockets instead of hearts.
***** Legally yes, but the police could have threatened him with jail (they usually not very hesitant to lie when they want to solve a crime - here they were just corrupt), so he would tell them what he knew.
I feel so bad for the parents of Chen jie but I'm honestly so happy that the detective was able to save that 16 year old girl and that she's back with her family!
I wanted to feel disgusted at that young couple that said they were going to sell their baby, but I just couldn't. As repulsive as it is, all the circumstances surrounding them make the case just sad.
Selling your child is nothing compared to the suffering of those that have their child stolen. Imagine how that would feel? I can't imagine a worse feeling. I would want to just go kill everyone until something was done. It's worse than murder. Selling a child, well those parents are terrible anyway and maybe the child will get better parents. But nothing is as bad as having your child kidnapped and knowing nobody really cares.
That mother didnt cry once. Not once! And her little smirks...? I felt for her at first but the more she kept talking the more I realised she wanted to sell it! I'm convinced. And sickened by it. That entire culture over there is brainwashed to have zero value for human life. Everyone's worried about themselves and themselves only. Its sickening.
@@amandalynnagain Woah there...... Let's not make any generalizations about an entire culture. Yeah, China has it's problems. In the US, we seem to value guns more than human lives, so then there's that.
delfuviomonk we value the ability to protect ourselves and our families from outlaws because " when guns are outlawed only outlaws will have guns", wake up please!
I first watched this 8 or 9 years ago when it was first on Channel 4 in the UK, and have watched it a few more times since...the story still haunts me. I live and work in Korea now and I frequently wonder whether these families found their children.
The young mum i wish I could help to keep her baby, how terrible. The detective has a beautiful heart and i like how he talks with his mum. God bless them
I heard you all the way to Australia, and I'll pray for you both that your son is found, and the government over their better start to see us outsiders are watching and listening to these families , I'd say they better start listening too.
Richard Were,,,, JESUS YESHUA EXPOSED THOSE WHO OPPRESS AND IT HASN'T CHANGED....HE CONDEMNED THEM ALL...!!!! JUST REMEMBER "" THE POOR IS THE CLOSEST TO HIS HEART AND THEY WILL LIVE IN HIS KINGDOM THAT IS TO COME.....RICHARD,,,, YOU HAVE A GOOD HEART AND YOUR BLESSING IS DISCERNMENT MY FRIEND... THAT IS A VIRTUE THAT ONLY COMES FROM ABOVE... TREASURE IT.....OUR HEAVENLY FATHER IS NOT FAR FROM HIS OWN..... GOD BLESS
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I feel so bad for Chen Jie's parents. How awful they have to feel guilty about letting their families down while dealing with the loss of their little boy! :( China's one child policy is horrible. Of course the population should be reduced but combining that with their Confucian ethics it's obvious they will end up with surplus boys. They need a more holistic approach less punitive, which rewards childless couples and 1 child families instead of punishing larger families.
WOW!!...70,000 missing children a year, that's just crazy. I feel so bad for the parents of the missing kids, you can see the pain in their eyes when they talk about their kids. Hopefully the police or the private investigator can find their children soon. I wish them luck and I will keep them in my prayers. God bless these poor people. If those were kids of rich people they would have been home by now, but the Chinese government doesn't care about poor people's children.
So true. If you're poor in China, you have no rights. The parents even know who took their son, but because they are poor, ordinary people, the police won't even investigate. The police are with the traffickers and are paid by them not to interfere.
anearinginmy Actually I feel really sorry for the little boy who’s father is a human trafficker. Imagine born in such a family, your little brother was sold by your own father, and he also breaks up others family by selling others children... and he ever thought about selling you too... that is so messed up.
What I wish is these parents could see all the people’s comments who feel for their suffering. And many, many good people want their children returned to them. And that we feel their suffering and outrage. That we have the utmost empathy for them.
So gut wrenching to watch these poor parents. There's a special place in hell for the officials and snakes who sell humans as well as the buyers! Absolutely appalling! BEYOND my comprehension.
Death penalty for the kidnappers..They are the lowest of the low...How could they cause so much pain and suffering to others...They are not human beings!!!!!!
Honestly I think the old lady has something to do with it, the story is Grandma was inside while the little boy played out in the vegetable patch, along came a neighbor who lured him with candy and took him home supposedly, grandma comes out and he's gone, she's has no idea where he went.. how does she know what he was lured with? Or who it was? She saw nothing? Normally kidnappings happen by a family member, maybe she thought her daughter cant offer him a good life, she definitely has something to do with it, she probably made some money too.
The Grandmother sitting on the floor wailing made me sick. If she had been watching the child like she was supposed to have been doing he wouldn't have been taken.
Why I don't let my mom watch my child. I feel like I might come back to a missing child. I love my mom but sometimes she can be a little to careless of her surroundings. Don't think I could ever forgive my mother for losing my child tbh.
The trafficker seemed so sad about the fact that he couldn't sell his elder son!! That really sucks, because of a law so may young lives and families had to suffer!
The worst part is when she said I use to play with with him when he was bad and say she was going to send him away, and now he probably thought she meant it, that got me.
chen je was soo cute. his parents loved him soo much. soo sad. and because of the culture. the parents completely blame themselves for chen je's fate and their parents unhappiness and dissapointment. that must be such a heavy burden on the parents conciousness
I had 9 children 5 boys and 4 girls. I would never think to ever sell one. This is so sad that parents have to do this in any part of this world but it happens.
I know a family that adopted a little Chinese girl, and they paid well over $150,000 to adopt her. I would love to get that trafficker alone in a room for a few hours.
9:45 - I actually joke about the whole " ill give you away" i kids are naughty, and the mother is very dialect about it, which is true, the son probaly believes that now and I tear up when she said that he probalby is saying "ill be good mom, please , ill be good". I would be heart broke, I feel for this women.
Watching in April 2024. God help these families. What a horrific situation. This world has turned even darker today. Please Father, watch over these precious children. Comfort their families.
Please God find this beautiful little boy he is so missed and loved l am a mother i dont know what i would do i couldnt live no more we are so lucky to live in a country were we are allowed freedom of speech and able to have as many children as we want and we somewhat have help from police were are they going to go it makes me sick and breaks my heart especially when the man broke down unfortunately unless it happens to someone's child who is a police department or someone in the government then it would probably kept quite everyone is to scared good for the 31 people who protested
The baby wont have a good life regardless since she will later learn that she was sold by her own parents!! 😰😰 and who knows what this so called "nice" family really means? For all I know, he could be selling her to some brothel or something- and this trafficker really tops the list of the worst human on earth. How could he speak so calmly without any hint of remorse or guilt? 😱😱
Well, it really isn't much different than the adoption industry in the US. In both cases babies are sold to the highest bidder, just in the US the bidders are given some minor vetting first and the birth parents don't get any of the money.
This happens so much in China. There are always videos of kids being taken in malls or in public when the parents are holding on to the children tighty enough. It's so scary as i'm a parent myself. If I was in China, I would be so scared to leave the house with my son.
Very good documentary. As a Chinese, I feel so sad about these people. Yunnan is very poor in China, but there are a lot of wealthy places in China too. The wealth gap is extremely large. What about justice? what about equity?
Derek dear.... how can you say to a person "you are ugly" ??? Do you ever think at her's feelings ??!!!! What if she will lose her self esteem forever, or getting depressed, or even suicide ??!! You just can't hurt somebody's feelings on this brutal and primitive way !!!! I'm wondering how "beatiful" are you.... Oh, my God, I had right when I said: people are bad, just BAD!!!! they are having the ROOT OF EVIL in their heart !!! And she is not even ugly, by contrary!!! Is your soul being ugly and deformed....and frustrate....
Andy , I'm watching youtube on chrome, just download "Addblock" and it's perfect !!! No adds, no stupid publicity !!! You should try it too... Peace and love! God bless
Ummm I'm sorry but, when Chen Jie's grandmother was in the pigsty giving her performance, _she did not even shed 1 tear!_ Her daughter had tears streaming down her face & this lady had NOTHING! Just as she's walking out of there, you see her squinch her eyes to try to get tears to come out but nothing did! Are we _SURE_ she didn't sell him to somebody?! I know it's a terrible thing to think but, it's reality. This woman literally had *zero* tears as she's "crying" when the one next to her had real streams flowing down her face... Very suspicious to me!
I am wonder how no one went the neighbor and smacked him around a few times. I am angered how the mom and the grandmother is in pain, the government is not being helpful and the father seems like he already gave up.
Seeing this poor baby girl getting sold is so fucken terrifying! I can’t imagine! I hope she gets at least sent to a family who really will take care of her and not miss treat her in ANY WAY ! I have so much anxiety from this damn video!
I started crying when the little boy said he thought his parents sold him. His face looked so sad and it’s terrible that selling your own children is a reality for some people
And he said the parents he was given to beat him everyday.
Truly heartbreaking. 😢😢
Poor little doves. 😢🕊🕊🕊
interesting because if someone doesn't tell you it is wrong one accepts what is as just how it is
@@yvettejones4249 how does he know what a beating is, those that are beaten everyday do not consider it abnormal, they dont' talk about it like it is wrong
@@LHLK-q2v human inch tells you that Jo matter what age you are!🙄
How is it that kids are getting stolen but the abandoned and abused babies in the orphanages are left to rot? Something is terribly wrong with this government. May God of heaven step in and deal justice to this wicked government!
the children in orphanages are either disabled, girls or children of people who are serving prison time or are on death row and poverty. In Chinese culture shame is a big thing. When people fail, they not only lose their own face, but they shame all those around them.
He will. Don’t doubt!
Matt. 18:10
“Beware that you don’t look down upon a single one of these children. For I tell you that in heaven their angels have constant access to my Father.”
GOD, PLEASE BRING CHEN JIE HOME TO HIS BIRTH PARENTS. BRING HIM HOME WELL AND SAFE AND ALIVE, IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME, AMEN.
@@HollyMcreynoldsYou do realize this people if religious are not Christian? Why you cult guys love to insert your religion everywhere? The intent is good but the delivery is cringe inducing.
because this film is made for their personal political agenda and not looking at the real issues.
The detective is a true hero. One honest lawman amongst so many corrupt ones. It's disgusting. I felt so sorry for the young couple having to sell their little girl. They just wanted her to grow up comfortable, successful and happy. I hope she has.
I pray for protection for this detective 🙏 ❤
why doesn't he look at it in his own country, it happens everywhere
When the trafficker said “I just couldn’t sell my second son,”
I was like oh wow! He does have a heart! But then he had to ruin it by saying
“... because he was too old and nobody wanted him.”
Wowsers.
I know right, what an absolute psychopath.
Ikr? I guess it’s true what they say about committing crimes and having a seared conscience. The really heartbreaking part was about the young girls. I think if I had a daughter she would be handcuffed to me. The problem is that I understand they will even kidnap women who are already married and pregnant. They don’t care. I watched one video and this man went to some other country. I forget where. He talked himself up like he was a wealthy -movie producer or model ing agent. He told her he could get her work. He took her to his home which was little more than a shack. And since she couldn’t speak the language they would talk about her, his mother treated her like an indentured servant. The neighbors all watched her so she couldn’t escape, she was left with no money, no escape route, nothing. I don’t think I could stand myself.
@@user-vm5ud4xw6n Gee sounds like exactly what happens in north america.
I am Chinese.It happened every day in China.Thanks for this video and care about these families.I feel so sad about this mom.
This still happens even after the abolition of one-child policy?
@@siriusrainbow You see it is the cycle of tragedy... These countries are so poor that they cannot afford all of their kids, then sell them; The government saw these problems and write a one-child policy to forbid them selling their kids and put their limited resource on one child; Then they still create multiple babies and sell them... for making a living...; For the beginning of this policy, they abandon the female babies because the discrimination of women... then the female number in the all counties decreased... Finally, they found out that their son need a wife... so they found the kidnapper to do the kidnapping for them in other area. Specifically target for teenager girls...The wrong things is not done by the government, it just because none of these people has conscience... What happen even if the policy have not exist? Will these kids be created well by these "PARENTS"? Or we should call them brutes?
you are stupid and you are liar@@yanshirley9660
It happens in most countries including north america
@@yanshirley9660 What they really found out was, people were growing old and in a boomtime economy they were running out of labor and skilled laborer.
I hope Chen Jie is found and returned to his family who misses and loves him so much. I don't speak the same language as his mother, but I do feel her grief.
You are a wonderful person because you take the word and feeling for the mom right out of my heart ❤️ may heaven watch over you as well
Lori Adams I really hope he's alive somewhere and that he'll be reunited with his parents someday...
Alive and well and treated with lots of love and comfort
I hope, at the very lest, it was for illegal adoption by a well to do family that could not conceive and were perhaps too ashamed of the fact to do things the right way. I hope, at the very least his life took a turn for the better. I hope more that he will be reunited with his real family sooner rather than later.
Lil Chen Jie should be 17 years old now.
I remember watching this a few yrs ago and my heart broke for the parents of the little boy..Especially when she was crying about him being cold or saying he'd be good if she would not send him away..I was so moved by this story that I researched it a couple of yrs after it aired and I found out that this couple was expecting their second child and that even though nothing could replace their son it was helping them find some happiness and was allowing them to be able to move on with their lives however they said that they will never stop looking for their son..
Judy Holiday thank you for the update!!
Judy Holiday - such a sad heartbreaking story....thank u for the update....hope they reunite their son some day. 🙏
I was hoping to find an update in the comments section. I was hoping they were able to find him but I'm at least comforted that they have another child and are trying to live their lives as best they can. Unfortunately these poor parents will ever be whole again.
Judy Holiday Cool, thanks for the update...
It's really the most disgusting thing about China and needs to be talked about everywhere. Nothing could be worse than having your child stolen, and sometimes right out of your arms while they tear them away and jump in a car and speed away, but the worst is that other Chinese people in public places do NOTHING to help. The police treat it with not much caring. It's considered less important crime than a robbery of a store. To them children are expendable. They need to wake up and pay attention to the problem as the rest of the world shames them and they get serious on stopping it.
Wish there was a fund so I can donate for the detective. He's been doing a great job
This detective is amazing, he's able to do the job of an 20+ police force.
seriously
Agreed. I wish there was a way to provide him with funds so he can keep going and maybe hire some help.
MissMidoria 
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Only verifies that police are not doing there job !
this "trafficker" has no soul, no empathy, he is barely a human...
One can only be a human or not a human, not barely a human.
Love of money is the root of all evil!
@@zarina3379 I mean depends what you're referring to. If you are referring to only biologically human then yes but if it's more phiophical than it could be in a sense barely human. Human referring to qualities like moral values and "good nature"...the things that make us different than other mammals. I'm not getting into a whole discussion on it cause philosphy takes a lot out of me but one could lack so many moral traits that they are hardly considered human by a social standard
the scientific word or fancy word is psychopath
@@eilenekellogg7017 would you rather the children starve to death with their biological families they cannot afford to keep them
The trafficker is a damn coward, selling your own child so he can live better a little longer? A REAL father wouldn't do that.
Some people just plin evil no heart; the neighbor will get his on day god doesn't like ugly . I pray for Devine miracle tha the boy find his parents with God nothing is impossible. 🙏🙏🙏
@@nicolesterling8805 read the old testament they sold their children then too
really you have no idea what their lives are like, western judgements
This had me crying before I started watching, nothing is worse watching a mother cry not knowing if you child is okay or not, and the grandmother. My heart hurts.
Derek Charette ?? Why are you so angry?
Tovis Don't pay attention to him, he is just lonely and sad
But we never though that about other animals
The hairs on the back of my neck raised as soon as the trafficker entered the room; also, speaking as someone who was abandoned at birth, I feel lucky I wasn't born in China. Those poor, poor babies.
❤❤❤😢😢😊😊
the children of the american soldiers in viet nam were born in the fields and left to die, people could hear them crying.
@@LHLK-q2v can you explain please 🥺
Listening to the mother speak about her son just breaks your heart....
It's not only China. It happens in Thailand and Cambodia too.
Kristen Lee The evil part is, they don't even know it's evil......... UNBELEIVABLE
but i thought asian cultures were about honor... and what honor is there in stealing a child... an infant... leaving the horrible pain that only parents can feel.... honor? keep your honor and take away the evil away from alot of these asian predators... i'm sorry but you gotta be some cruel animal if you would do this to a child.. and to the parents of that child.. that's just being evil... and dont give me the honor talk.... there's no honor... money is worth more than honor for alot of these people.
Well, maybe the whole GDP of China is high, but with too much population life quality is still far from those in Europe or America. Not much money is provided to the local police. Most Asian countries are still suffering proverty
Not just Asia. It happens in every culture, every country across the globe. Actually the number one sex slavery tourism place in the world is the US, for children and adults alike.
Phillipines especially makes me sick miss Philippines stands there with her fake smile whilst there's child to even INFANT sex ring prostitution in the phillipines
I felt so sad for the mom
exactly
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I fell so sad for all of them! Mom, Dad, and Grandmother. Heartbreaking
At first, my heart was breaking for the kidnapped children and their families, but I completely lost faith in humanity when multiple families wanted to sell their children. I can't imagine the circumstances these people are in, but are you kidding me? Talking about selling your newborn daughter, your one-year-old son, your six-year-old? I literally cannot imagine how damaged these children must be and I think it's safe to assume that the people who are buying them are going to be mistreating them to say the least. This is one of the most atrocious human rights violations I've heard of in a long time. In the years since this documentary was made, have there been any changes?
Sometimes they're not going to mistress them. Some families buy boy just because they want a son. They're going to treat them like their own. However, the biological parents were left heartbroken. In some cases, the kids were fond decades after abduction, but after getting reunited with their biological parents, they expressed the wish that they'd rather be with their "adoptive parents", for the bond built during all those years. There's a movie called 亲爱的(Dearest) talking about this issue.
The situation is getting better than the time this documentary was filmed. But this phenomenon still exist.
Jade Wang, thank you so much for recommending that movie. I'll have to watch it. I can't believe the pain of finally finding your child and discovering that your child rather would stay with the "new" family.
breaks my heart completely
Yes, they're better at covering it up.
There is a whole documentary on TH-cam of people searching for pregnant women and trying to convince them to sell them their newborns. These people straight up tell these women that they will sell the children either for organ harvesting or to a brothel where they will be drugged and raped until they are either taken away for organ harvesting or until they are deemed “ too old and used up because they have been drugged their entire lives, and then are put in snuff films and killed. This man investigating actually saved a newborn from these scum and got her adopted by a couple that wanted a baby. The horrors that go on is beyond your imagination.
I have never been moved to tears like I was when watching that little boy's mother and grandmother cry and pray for his return. I pray he has been found and their family made whole again.
What a corrupt system how could they not let parents give out posters on missing children 😡 and the trafficker is soulless, talking about his job like it's something normal 😠
Selma Dk America isn't far behind them ! Many cases of kids in state care here go missing all the time and the state doesn't have to answer to anyone
i mean the trafficker's job is kinda normal at this point, for him at least, because he probably does it so often he's just desensitized and just greedy
America is NOT far behind, person i cant type your name... LS? The only difference is that half of people don't realize it because they trust the media, and the other half don't care. They are too busy in the rat race. I hope Jesus comes back soon. What really makes me mad is the indifference to it.
@@roach7017 God will soon take global revenge against these demonic people
(Psalm 37:32-34; Zeph 2:3; 2Thess 1:5-9)
@@webkinzmom007 Obamas and now Bidens America.... communism says hi! Good job libtards.
WHATS NOT BEING SAID IS THAT THESE CHILDREN ARE ALSO BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED. DONT BE NAIVE.
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it has been said..............these childeren being abused by their 'new' families.........selling childeren is abuse to start with.
Why would the grandmother let her grandson go with the neighbor? WTF!
Hind Hani same for me. I couldn't look at my mother the same...
Tashay Harvey too trusting too naive
Even though it would be unthinkable for us to to that, China just doesn't have the same crime we do.
In rural areas people are so close to each other. I live in the city, but when I was young, and my parents have to over-work, they'd pay old neighbors to take care of me -_-. And in a small town where my grandparents live, people just walk into other people's courtyard without notification. That's how familiar people are with each other, and that creates a kind of "trust", that makes crime easier :/
Was anyone watching this and thinking the parents whose son was stolen should have kidnapped the Triad "neighbor" who was last seen luring their 5yo son away from the grandmother's stall with treats, then tortured the shit out of him? Just sayin.
I an heartsick watching this doc.I had no real clue what the one child law would do to China. I was born in 1960. I was made aware of it in school in Australia. I knew it would skew the population, I knew that females could never be heads of their own households. Selling and buying children so that your family can live? Forced abortions in the last trimester? What kind of economic growth is worth this price? Bride Auctions? The preference for only sons made daughters the rarest of commodities; a bride for that son. Yet the trafficker told the family that girls were worth less than boys now that is skewed. If your shopping just walk up to the window and pick one out. Human beings being sold like fish and chips. I feel sick.The only thing that gives me any comfort is that there are that there are rescuers. The precious few that for whom a human life male or female must not be a commodity. The agent who "takes a small commission for his expenses and raising his son" I have no words! For the parents who are selling their baby because they don't have permits, The parents who supply the children selling 2 or 3, children who are being bought to keep and care for the new parents in their old age. The only way to get any child back is to do the police's job for them and present them with the perpetrators. I am, I have no words. To have to hang your hopes for being reunited with your child on a pack of playing cards with the other missing children feels cruel to me. This one child policy has devastated the culturally accepted filial responsibility methodology. I feel heartsick!
1 child policy was being phased out anyway and it was finally repealed altogether in 2014. There were many exceptions, as I understand, especially for rural families and families lacking relatives through death/whatever, divorces/ separations, or where there was a disability/ illness in family, or first child died/ disabled and such.--meaning many mothers allowed to bear more than one child for a long time prior to the repeal of this law. still, the policy has a profound effect, no doubt--nation of so many only kids the sole focus of parents and elders, and without siblings.
This is what happens when people live under totalitarian governments--every bit of a person's life is governed by others. They have no freedom to choose for themselves. And some people in the U.S. are enamored with Communists and Communism!
Like the women he met in the park who told she already had sold 2 kids before the 1 year old she was trying to sell.............if she got 7,000 or 8,000 for the child......maybe she should have saved that money so she could have paid the fine that was needed when she got pregnant of a second child..........instead of spending al that money and set a new baby to the world to sell again...........really if i would be near that woman i would not have been responsible for what i would have done to that woman!
@@happydays1336 china isn't communist it's run by the communist party but it isn't communist, people don't own their own labor. please actually educate yourself about communism and it's origins.
10 years later, Chen Jie has not been found :( The parents gave the search up. The good news is that they had another child. Sad Sad story, I not even want to imagine the pain if that was my son.
horrible update........but thanks for it
Well I might as well stop watching this already disturbing story since you spoiled it. I was hoping they find their child and kept watching to see
Where did you find that? I couldn't find that info online anywhere.
This is heartbreaking
@@michellesin445 i found something online in blogs and other articles and unfortunately its true, he is still missing but the couple had another child :)
That trafficker even sold his own son!? Wth? He's a friggin monster.
And he didn’t sell his older son because he said he wouldn’t have gotten enough money and his son was old enough to find his way back home. He shouldn’t be alive
A true sociopath
damn that guy who sold his son is gonna get a premium seat in hell
damn hope so, what an absolute fucktard@
So u believe god let happened all this ?
I wunder way he didn't sell his bolls stupid man 😠
You are an idiot. Did you even understand the docu?
@@saurabh32able who said ANYTHING about a God but YOU.
I cant even imagine what these poor parents are going through! just heartbreaking!
I'm a mother of two and when I hear that a child is lost I just pray that someone would find them and bring them home safe is horrible to know that someone child is being hurt or not safe at all
"When it's raining I wonder if he's wet, when it's cold I wonder if he's shivering."
Why do poor people that have a simple life and are happy with it have so much heartache I hope they find that little boy someday It breaks my heart to see them so broken 🙏
That damn trafficker talking about kidnapping and selling girls like they're livestocks and something extremely normal to do, not a sense of conscious at all.
That's the nature of business people they do not have any emotional attachments to commodities, and children are to them naturally just that. Who is to blame the Government that implements these one child policy the parent who HAS to sell their child because for reasons already shown in this clip? It's a sad situation all around!
I don't understand. If that neighbour was the last person being with the child, he is the one responsible. He could be held on a lesser charge, like abandonment of a minor at least a felony (he says he left him on his own on the street), if kidnapping cannot be proven. If jailed, he would start to sing. Having said that, since it is an organised crime, the police are in it up to their necks as well, they know exactly what happened but will not hold the guy responsible. Those people have pockets instead of hearts.
***** Legally yes, but the police could have threatened him with jail (they usually not very hesitant to lie when they want to solve a crime - here they were just corrupt), so he would tell them what he knew.
So unaware that law is different in different countries.
@@blondecat666 where, laws are different and handled differently in different countries
I feel so bad for the parents of Chen jie but I'm honestly so happy that the detective was able to save that 16 year old girl and that she's back with her family!
I wanted to feel disgusted at that young couple that said they were going to sell their baby, but I just couldn't. As repulsive as it is, all the circumstances surrounding them make the case just sad.
Selling your child is nothing compared to the suffering of those that have their child stolen. Imagine how that would feel? I can't imagine a worse feeling. I would want to just go kill everyone until something was done. It's worse than murder. Selling a child, well those parents are terrible anyway and maybe the child will get better parents. But nothing is as bad as having your child kidnapped and knowing nobody really cares.
That mother didnt cry once. Not once! And her little smirks...? I felt for her at first but the more she kept talking the more I realised she wanted to sell it! I'm convinced. And sickened by it. That entire culture over there is brainwashed to have zero value for human life. Everyone's worried about themselves and themselves only. Its sickening.
@@amandalynnagain Woah there...... Let's not make any generalizations about an entire culture. Yeah, China has it's problems. In the US, we seem to value guns more than human lives, so then there's that.
delfuviomonk we value the ability to protect ourselves and our families from outlaws because " when guns are outlawed only outlaws will have guns", wake up please!
It's a reality unfortunately...hard to comprehend coming from the West and a fully developed country
This makes me so sad. 😢 I can’t even begin to imagine how it would feel losing one of my babies.
I first watched this 8 or 9 years ago when it was first on Channel 4 in the UK, and have watched it a few more times since...the story still haunts me. I live and work in Korea now and I frequently wonder whether these families found their children.
I am so sorry you have lost your child I pray to the Gods your son is brought home to your loving embrace
The young mum i wish I could help to keep her baby, how terrible.
The detective has a beautiful heart and i like how he talks with his mum.
God bless them
It's sad that it's 2016 and people still have to live like this to survive...
What do you mean 2016 ?
Its normal practice they have always done it .
in 2099 the poverty might be gone so the prices will go up.
Would this be a better way of living in 2017 & 2018? th-cam.com/video/6a7xCSnZWcY/w-d-xo.html
th-cam.com/video/T1yCTL5dJro/w-d-xo.html
I heard you all the way to Australia, and I'll pray for you both that your son is found, and the government over their better start to see us outsiders are watching and listening to these families , I'd say they better start listening too.
It's so sad how poor people are oppressed, life is too unjust for the simple :(
Richard Were,,,, JESUS YESHUA EXPOSED THOSE WHO OPPRESS AND IT HASN'T CHANGED....HE CONDEMNED THEM ALL...!!!! JUST REMEMBER "" THE POOR IS THE CLOSEST TO HIS HEART AND THEY WILL LIVE IN HIS KINGDOM THAT IS TO COME.....RICHARD,,,, YOU HAVE A GOOD HEART AND YOUR BLESSING IS DISCERNMENT MY FRIEND... THAT IS A VIRTUE THAT ONLY COMES FROM ABOVE... TREASURE IT.....OUR HEAVENLY FATHER IS NOT FAR FROM HIS OWN..... GOD BLESS
good on you detective. bless you.
Awwwww I feel so bad for them😭 To make matters worse, I understand everything their saying in Chinese, I hope Chen Jie will be found and safe👼🏻
Such unimaginable, unbearable pain. Losing a child is unbearable.
I agree with you 💯 and NKHS our agency would never sell a child to a different family just provide an adoption program
@user-qg8qg2sp7i as the mother of an adopted son, I am grateful for agencies such as yours, for bringing childless couples and children in need of loving parents, together.
I feel so bad for Chen Jie's parents. How awful they have to feel guilty about letting their families down while dealing with the loss of their little boy! :(
China's one child policy is horrible. Of course the population should be reduced but combining that with their Confucian ethics it's obvious they will end up with surplus boys. They need a more holistic approach less punitive, which rewards childless couples and 1 child families instead of punishing larger families.
you need a permit to get pregnant. Incredible.
traffickers son is so smart and good....his father is monster
That's why never leave your children to be alone on the street or to go alone in school.
This is the saddest video ever, I was sobbing.
The grandmother probably knows more than what she's saying
18:37 so heartbreaking..tears are tears in any language.
It's scary how they talk about selling humans like they are selling jewelry. Wow
WOW!!...70,000 missing children a year, that's just crazy. I feel so bad for the parents of the missing kids, you can see the pain in their eyes when they talk about their kids. Hopefully the police or the private investigator can find their children soon. I wish them luck and I will keep them in my prayers. God bless these poor people.
If those were kids of rich people they would have been home by now, but the Chinese government doesn't care about poor people's children.
So true. If you're poor in China, you have no rights. The parents even know who took their son, but because they are poor, ordinary people, the police won't even investigate. The police are with the traffickers and are paid by them not to interfere.
Very good film 👍 feel sad for all families in China that suffered. May they heal 🌺🙏
My heart aches for these children and parents.
anearinginmy Actually I feel really sorry for the little boy who’s father is a human trafficker. Imagine born in such a family, your little brother was sold by your own father, and he also breaks up others family by selling others children... and he ever thought about selling you too... that is so messed up.
I would hate my mother if she was so careless with my kid.
Why would she let a man take him? She knows kids get sold. She probably got money too.
Can't believe they're even talking about selling their newborn , disgusting. ( only half way through)
You don't have anything to offer your unborn child? How about love and protection?
What I wish is these parents could see all the people’s comments who feel for their suffering. And many, many good people want their children returned to them. And that we feel their suffering and outrage. That we have the utmost empathy for them.
Heart breaking. Im a dad with three kids. My heart is crying so much.
I see no tears coming from grandmas face! She shouldve never let the neighbor take Chen Jie!
No... she cried her heart out at the pig style where the child was born.
so one would rather the child starve to death with the biological family, they are sold because they cannot afford to keep them
@@menagamaniyan8808 because she knew that they could not afford to keep it
So gut wrenching to watch these poor parents. There's a special place in hell for the officials and snakes who sell humans as well as the buyers! Absolutely appalling! BEYOND my comprehension.
Death penalty for the kidnappers..They are the lowest of the low...How could they cause so much pain and suffering to others...They are not human beings!!!!!!
i feel so sorry for that mother n father... and that law is absolutely ridiculous what would happen if a mom was pregnant with twins?!
That was permitted,
Heart Breaking! Warning to not give government power over our personal lives.
Honestly I think the old lady has something to do with it, the story is Grandma was inside while the little boy played out in the vegetable patch, along came a neighbor who lured him with candy and took him home supposedly, grandma comes out and he's gone, she's has no idea where he went.. how does she know what he was lured with? Or who it was? She saw nothing? Normally kidnappings happen by a family member, maybe she thought her daughter cant offer him a good life, she definitely has something to do with it, she probably made some money too.
I wouldn't be still seeing her if I was her daughter.
My exact thoughts
this one child policy has affected so many people. Those traffickers are shameless.
Lock the traffickers up and throw away the key.
The Grandmother sitting on the floor wailing made me sick. If she had been watching the child like she was supposed to have been doing he wouldn't have been taken.
Why I don't let my mom watch my child. I feel like I might come back to a missing child. I love my mom but sometimes she can be a little to careless of her surroundings.
Don't think I could ever forgive my mother for losing my child tbh.
Yu dont think it will happen unless it happens
When I looked after my sons girls I never took my eyes off them, ever!!!
The trafficker seemed so sad about the fact that he couldn't sell his elder son!! That really sucks, because of a law so may young lives and families had to suffer!
The worst part is when she said I use to play with with him when he was bad and say she was going to send him away, and now he probably thought she meant it, that got me.
That really got to me as well. You can tell that that’s really something that pains the mother a lot. I feel so incredibly sad for her.
Wow! Such an amazingly powerful documentary. It was shot so beautifully that I thought it was a film several times.
chen je was soo cute. his parents loved him soo much. soo sad. and because of the culture. the parents completely blame themselves for chen je's fate and their parents unhappiness and dissapointment. that must be such a heavy burden on the parents conciousness
The parents have gone through all thoughts any parent would losing a child. Its so heartbreaking.
I cried for the family of Chen Jie. What a hopeless situation the victims of human trafficking experience.
I had 9 children 5 boys and 4 girls. I would never think to ever sell one.
This is so sad that parents have to do this in any part of this world but it happens.
Cruel life where we live with evil criminals 💔😭
I know a family that adopted a little Chinese girl, and they paid well over $150,000 to adopt her. I would love to get that trafficker alone in a room for a few hours.
Me too mate
Paid $150,000 to a trafficker
This is absolutely heartbreaking....
9:45 - I actually joke about the whole " ill give you away" i kids are naughty, and the mother is very dialect about it, which is true, the son probaly believes that now and I tear up when she said that he probalby is saying "ill be good mom, please , ill be good". I would be heart broke, I feel for this women.
I never even thought to ever say that to my children.
Watching in April 2024. God help these families. What a horrific situation. This world has turned even darker today. Please Father, watch over these precious children. Comfort their families.
Please God find this beautiful little boy he is so missed and loved l am a mother i dont know what i would do i couldnt live no more we are so lucky to live in a country were we are allowed freedom of speech and able to have as many children as we want and we somewhat have help from police were are they going to go it makes me sick and breaks my heart especially when the man broke down unfortunately unless it happens to someone's child who is a police department or someone in the government then it would probably kept quite everyone is to scared good for the 31 people who protested
The trafficker sold his girl friend!!!! Sick demon.
The baby wont have a good life regardless since she will later learn that she was sold by her own parents!! 😰😰 and who knows what this so called "nice" family really means? For all I know, he could be selling her to some brothel or something- and this trafficker really tops the list of the worst human on earth. How could he speak so calmly without any hint of remorse or guilt? 😱😱
Well, it really isn't much different than the adoption industry in the US. In both cases babies are sold to the highest bidder, just in the US the bidders are given some minor vetting first and the birth parents don't get any of the money.
This happens so much in China. There are always videos of kids being taken in malls or in public when the parents are holding on to the children tighty enough. It's so scary as i'm a parent myself. If I was in China, I would be so scared to leave the house with my son.
So the grandmother basically just stood there ? She saw him being kidnapped with her own two eyes did she not think it was suspicious
Very good documentary. As a Chinese, I feel so sad about these people. Yunnan is very poor in China, but there are a lot of wealthy places in China too. The wealth gap is extremely large. What about justice? what about equity?
My heart breaks for the families who are suffering from this :(
My child was taken away from me when he was 7 years old and I live in Garfield NJ USA.
Have you reunited with your son? Just curious.
WHO TF SELLS THEIR OWN KIDS
rokhaya in America they kill there kids..
FYI... lots of folk. And not just in China.
rokhaya alot of messed up people and not just in china..
Americans sold their children too, in the past. If you have nothing, you do what it takes to survive.
when the mother cried her heart out I also felt her pain but the father cried silently is more painful to see.
That boys grandma doesn’t seem too bright! She didn’t protect him after she knew that guy was trying to lure him away!
That is another reason me and my sister never left our kids alone with our mother. She is like that grandmother.
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jeßus 2.0 I agree.
Andy lol I know right!!!! So annoying!!!!!
Derek dear.... how can you say to a person "you are ugly" ??? Do you ever think at her's feelings ??!!!! What if she will lose her self esteem forever, or getting depressed, or even suicide ??!! You just can't hurt somebody's feelings on this brutal and primitive way !!!!
I'm wondering how "beatiful" are you.... Oh, my God, I had right when I said: people are bad, just BAD!!!! they are having the ROOT OF EVIL in their heart !!!
And she is not even ugly, by contrary!!! Is your soul being ugly and deformed....and frustrate....
Andy , I'm watching youtube on chrome, just download "Addblock" and it's perfect !!! No adds, no stupid publicity !!! You should try it too...
Peace and love! God bless
There are no ads inside any TH-cam video
So if their child is stolen, are they legally not allowed to have another? This is awful.
Heart breaking this poor woman who’s taken these children I’m ready now to fight for these babies who’s with me Tommy UK
Ummm I'm sorry but, when Chen Jie's grandmother was in the pigsty giving her performance, _she did not even shed 1 tear!_ Her daughter had tears streaming down her face & this lady had NOTHING! Just as she's walking out of there, you see her squinch her eyes to try to get tears to come out but nothing did! Are we _SURE_ she didn't sell him to somebody?! I know it's a terrible thing to think but, it's reality. This woman literally had *zero* tears as she's "crying" when the one next to her had real streams flowing down her face... Very suspicious to me!
I noticed this too!
There were no tears when grandmas was "crying" in the pigsty. Selling children in China is a huge business
This is so sad... Salute to the detective, i pray and hope they will find their boy. 😢👃
Felt really sorry for the young couple. They had so few options.
I am wonder how no one went the neighbor and smacked him around a few times. I am angered how the mom and the grandmother is in pain, the government is not being helpful and the father seems like he already gave up.
They said he has triad connections. He is probably an influential person in the area and has a good relationship with the police too.
Horrific. There’s truly evil people among us
Seeing this poor baby girl getting sold is so fucken terrifying! I can’t imagine! I hope she gets at least sent to a family who really will take care of her and not miss treat her in ANY WAY ! I have so much anxiety from this damn video!