She is sooooo cringe. Baby is just 5 months old and she’s had; Story’s first Disney trip Story’s first race car event Story’s first pro basketball game Um, what else? The baby will NOT remember.
Someone in the comments of their instagram post questioned the amount of exposure this baby was getting shortly after being adopted. They deleted it, it was one of the comments with the most responses and likes
I am sure they have an assistant doing that, right? Because I cannot believe they have time with a newborn, to film, edit, post in all social media AND read comments!
All the family channels do. I have scrolled and scrolled on some of the videos to even find one negative comment and they aren’t there. I imagine that is a full time job.
I just found their channel yesterday, and everything you are saying is what I was thinking. It was so unsettling watching them handle this child like a prop. It literally made my skin crawl. I thought to myself “there is something far more sinister going on beneath the surface”. Finding your video today just validated everything I thought about their videos
I’m a 73 yr old retired RN- was totally bamboozled. So grateful for your channel and exposing them. Please keep videoing to spread the word. Your recommendations are very good
And recently they brought her “Daughter” to Disneyland like who will bring there newborn kid to Disneyland before there one it is too flashy for her and it will ruin her eyesight
In 1991, my grandfather filmed the moment the social worker walked off the plane and down the corridor to hand me to my parents and brother. People who were on the plane watched with excitement. My family brought small cupcakes and fake champagne to celebrate. I LOVE that my grandfather filmed it all, and it is fun to see how excited strangers were, but these were strangers that were genuinely excited to see a young family adopting a child they had just flown across the country with. The video is still on a VHS tape and has never been posted online and... it has just as much if not more meaning to all of us! Social media didn't exist then. Only genuine emotions. Seeing the love my parents and my brother who was only 3 at the time had for me is beautiful. They could have filmed it and kept it just for their family. The way it used to be when people filmed their families solely for their own memories, and it would be beautiful and so special to that sweet little girl.
I was also not a cute baby when they got me 😂 I was malnourished because the foster family was not equipped to care for an infant, and I was sick when I was born. Yet everyone still looked at me with all the love in the world. They were all so concerned about if I was warm enough coming from a hot to cold climate and my breathing after going from low to high altitude. It just gives me all the emotions and makes me so sad to see such a beautiful moment for that child that should be cherished between her and her new family be exploited. It does make you wonder what these influencers would be like if the baby they received did not look IG perfect.
100%! There would be nothing wrong with them recording a few of these moments for their personal memories. And lovely that your grandfather was included in that moment and captured all of this out of love while your parents were 100% focused on you. That sounds like a beautiful video!
I just wanted to thank you because Matt and Abby have stopped showing griffins face, and I think you influenced that. They just posted a first birthday blog video with him and then have a cake covering his face, the last time they showed his face in a thumbnail was 3 months ago
@@silvia135she looked at both and imagine meeting your baby and the first thing you do is film them, a intimate moment, the first meeting and the f filmed it
My cousin is an instagrammer, she adopted 2 little boys and the court document states that she is not allowed to share their names, date of birth, or images (including the back of their head) (we are from Scotland, the court argued it was to protect the children due to past trauma in their previous home and not wanting the family to locate them as there is no contact allowed). Her followers are completely unaware that she had children, she shared her infertility journey then just posted hat she was not comfortable sharing anymore and would g back to fitness content. she doesn't even let family keep photos or videos on their phone, she sends close family physical photos in the mail from time to time
@@PutinsMommyNeverHuggedHim this is not extreme. With AI & deep fakes, it is extremely difficult to protect children once their pictures are posted on public forums.
I work in a nursery and we do weekly development updates for the parents and if we have an adopted child who is not allowed in anyone else photos or allowed to have her pic on any social media. Whether it’s a closed adoption or not you don’t want that child exposed and that birth parents turning up and they are possibly putting this child in danger by letting the world and his dog know where she is
@@abethebabe3835 This!! I found them during their search for a baby and followed along as an adoptive parent myself. The second I saw them posting the baby I unfollowed. It's ridiculously dangerous! Not all children are voluntarily put up for adoption some are removed. The parents or an extended family member could see and recognise her, it's putting her in a crazy amount of danger now and throughout her life. I pray they see sense and stop posting her. Imagine a person turning up at her school or the local park and saying hi we're your biological parents or even worse taking her!! Did the adoption agency not go over ANY safeguarding with them 🤯got are they just ignoring the advice because money and attention means more to them. My heart breaks for the little girl , adoption is already hard and they have now made it 100x worse for her.😢
@@abethebabe3835I agree, it's not good to expose the adopted baby in a social media and showing the whole world that she is an adopted may affect the child's emotion
Something that I just can't shake is that the whole video is basically Bella. Dallin is barely in it at all and when he is there is no excitement. They are treating this precious child as an accessory not a human being.
I just found your channel because I looked for some real thoughts on their f*cked up YT channel. I am so sickened by them! I can't put into words how disgusting they are. Baiting the adoption, then scam, now this. The first thing is noticed was that she was COMPLETELY not supporting the head. Poor child. Also you were so right: it has been three weeks and she has multiple videos/shorts about the baby. You new exactly what was gonna happen. Thank you for speaking up!!!
Unfortunately I think some mothers would choose “influencer families” because they would have a way to “stay connected” to the baby. Many probably don’t realize just how awful growing up on TH-cam actually is.
Yeah, it’s nearly impossible for the mother not to know who these people are unless the baby was an emergency foster placement and a completely closed adoption which is rare nowadays. She probably looked them up and felt like they’d have the resources to care for the baby.
@@jyoung6366 People can still innocently use TH-cam to document their children growing up, you just keep the videos private. But all these people are too damn greedy to even see how dangerous it is.. money is the root of all evil
This is a human being, not a doll. She is a newborn who has been separated from the only mother she has known. Separated from the only voice she has known, the smell of her mama, the body that cradled her. There is trauma for this baby. These two are trash for exploiting this baby.
There is one important thing you constantly forget!!! that child's mother chooses to give him up for whatever reason! Isn't it better for that child to grow up with lots of love or in a home for neglected children?!
@@MilicaBesevic The fact that the birth mother "gave her up" (between commas because WE DON'T KNOW why she made this decision, or went into place for her) doesn't mean this child isn't going through a traumatic situation. And if exploiting a child in the internet is loving a child then... oh well i guess you're right
@@dykingout2018agree but the mom gave her up, it was her choice no matter what reason she had and yes filming a baby 24/7 since you adopted them is not love
No you are not the only one. I question how many videos they make with this child in it. They treat that child like a doll. It makes me wonder how genuine they are
Dallin is the most unexcited adoptive father I have seen. Seems like this is Bella's fantasy only to have a baby doll to play with. While Dallin sits back and counts their money. Anything to keep wifey happy, I guess?
For me the most telling part of their video was how they meet her, there was literally no privacy, no precious moment, all was acted for a video. They are not excited to be parents, they are excited to be a family vloggers.
to be fair they had been trying for a baby for years and it broke her heart. They recorded it a lot, but i think to let others know they aren’t alone. I think they got too caught up in the whole process that when they picked up the baby girl they kinda forgot maybe idk
@@wyatrippyno, if i was infertile and i got the chance to adopt a child, i would not film it, i would enjoy the first meeting, it was a private moment, they go to know their daughter and instead of enjoying it they filmed all of it
Idk, when my son was born I couldn’t get over how absolutely adorable he was. Granted my first words to him was, I’m your mama. But I said he’s so cute all the time.
The point is she has zero attachment to the child and can’t figure out anything else to say.: she knows nothing about the child even now that she’s got it .. she’s “surprised” she requires diaper changes multiple times a day.. she said that 😂
@@shelikestuff when they went on one of their first trips and forgot to pack FORMULA… and had to rush out and buy it. Who forgets to pack their baby’s most important basic need???
My favorite surprise after giving birth to my first kiddo was finding out a nurse had picked up my phone and captured many of our special moments me holding her for the first time my husband cutting the cord. The thought never crossed our minds to have a camera out. Those moments were so special and I’m so glad that someone else could think of it. But still at my second birth we didn’t ask or anything like that
I used to watch them till I noticed that whenever she carries the baby is like she never carried her before. She never carries her properly and doesn't look at her. Her focus is on the filming , not the child she's carrying. The problem is in the system, which allows adopting parents are allowed to do whatever they want
The first thing I said to my daughter when I gave birth was “she’s beautiful” not for superficial reasons but I looked into her eyes and I saw all the hurt I’ve been through that led me to her. I looked into her eyes and saw the future and beautiful opportunities and all the blessings I would receive throughout life like macaroni necklaces.
I teared up because it was so sad that their first interaction with the baby was just filming it. And then I was sad because when the baby grows up it might feel abandoned from its birth mother and used by the adopted one.. Also as a mother it IS so weird that she keeps talking about the appearance of the baby only… A normal parent usually expresses their deep love for their baby. It’s almost like she’s saying it like she’s relived she didn’t get an ugly baby to film everyday
Imagine being the one going through infertility. This mindset sucks imagine how beautiful it would be to be able to watch the exact moment that girl got to meet her mother. Adoption is beautiful and just because people decided to share there journey they are disgusting? Your telling me you were perfect when your kids were first born? It’s disgusting that the influencers who do these kind of videos make money on hating.
@@laurenfox9497 No adoption is traumatic, the buying of a child that comes from a a bio mother that may be going through a crisis. The child could have been given to other kin, there are so many alternatives to adoption. Also being infertile does not entitle you to a child. Hate to say this an adopted child but we don't care that you're infertile we are not commodity and we are not accessories we are not something for u to flaunt around for attention
@@FineBabe-f9fwrong, there are a lot of reasons why ppl adopt and infertlity is one of them, there is nothing wrong with adopting a baby if you are infertile, no one acts like infertile ppl are "entitled" to a baby... what is wrong is to film them 24/7 and use them as a obiect, they do that with this baby!
The fact that is was really weird that Bella’s mom and Bella’s Dad was saying where did you get that in the FaceTime and Bella’s mom saying where did you find her and where did you get that was really weird and suspicious and disgusting
I got,”picking up a puppy” vibes from them. Like adoption is a gut wrenching traumatically beautiful thing and they’re acting like it’s a golden doodle. It’s so odd to me! Not a single comment about the birth mother’s trauma or what she’s going through. It was literally like picking up a puppy for them. It made my body cringe. Breaks my heart.
I considered adoption for my oldest son when I was pregnant at 19. Just thinking about it and gathering information broke my heart so this poor mother is healing from childbirth, and even if she knew it was the best situation for her daughter, is still so traumatic for her also.
And the baby... every hormonal, biological and emotional tie has been utterly severed immediately after birth for both the mother and the baby. Every sound, smell and sensation of "safe" for that newborn baby has disappeared and now the poor thing is being used as a prop 😢
Considering this mother could easily look up these people since she has their names and whether it's an open or closed adoption, the mother could follow their social media and watch her baby grow up. I can only image how traumatic it could be. :(
My grandson has had health challenges, surgery, multiple hospitalizations since birth a year ago. Neither his mother or I have EVER had the thought of exploiting him for fame or profit. I’ll forever be mind blown that people no longer have any boundaries or desire for privacy for their CHILDREN. GOD BLESS this baby.
Doing a baby reveal is actually insane. The way they revealed the baby is the same way someone would reveal a pet or an accessory, not a part of your family. Telling friends before family is also very telling.
It's so weird! I'd be livid if my kid did this. Notice they cut off when some people (like the brother) started to say something. I bet they told them how much of a dumbass they are for doing a "surprise baby reveal".
I watched their video and was scouring the comments for someone to tell her she needs to support the poor baby's neck but didn't see even one. Thank you for saying this! It was making me super uncomfortable the whole time.
Im a 22 year old with no plans to have a child anytime soon but when i saw her holding the baby all i could say was "SUPPORT THE HEAD" 😂 "USE 2 HANDS!"
Same age as you (except I’m currently 6 weeks pregnant by accident lol) and yeah I actually was shocked that people who are 30 don’t know how to hold an infant 😂 I thought it was common knowledge
I think they absolutely did buy the baby. They are that crazy for a baby that I wouldn't surprise me none. That's why she wants a baby for the money . I don't understand why anymore..
What Josh said that they will be able to give the baby everything material but her privacy back, that gave me the chills because it is so true. I really don't understand how people can expose their children and profit like that. Is it a constant need for this people to share everything. I honestly don't get it.
Sometimes I feel like you're being harsh ad then you point sth out and I'm like "he's damn right" I unfollowed so many family channels because of you. 👌
Totally agree that Bella is making this all about herself. I feel for her and what they have gone through with their fertility issues. But this is about the baby. Also I find it weird that Dallin doesn’t seem into this at all and Bella keeps saying “this is MY dream”.
I've been a watcher for awhile and I agree, something about these people definitely gets right under skin more than others you cover. Totally understand why and thanks for bringing awareness to this.
Wtf?! An Instagram acct for the baby already?? That's disgusting. I feel so bad for this poor baby. I'll never understand how ppl just blindly follow these idiots. They both look so awkward holding the baby. He seems completely uninterested. Weird.
Imagine if that child didn't get the chance to have parents like Bella and Dallin? They spent their entire marriage hoping and praying for this child. Are people who film their childbirth also exploiting their child? It's a memory the wanted to share with people who support them
@@alexmuse857 YES! It is always exploitation when a parent puts their child on the internet (especially a platform where they make money from it) before the child has reached the age of informed consent!
Josh this is so sad and disgusting. Thank you for bringing this to the forefront. It’s such a shame!!! When will legislators wake up and start dealing with this type of Child A….. and Exploitation.
I found them during their search for a baby and followed along as an adoptive parent myself. The second I saw them posting the baby I unfollowed. It's ridiculously dangerous! Not all children are voluntarily put up for adoption some are removed. The parents or an extended family member could see and recognise her, it's putting her in a crazy amount of danger now and throughout her life. I pray they see sense and stop posting her. Imagine a person turning up at her school or the local park and saying hi we're your biological parents or even worse taking her!! Did the adoption agency not go over ANY safeguarding with them 🤯 or are they just ignoring the advice because money and attention means more to them. My heart breaks for the little girl , adoption is already hard and they have now made it 100x worse for her.😢
Nothing about the adoption adds up people wait years to adopt, this pair of idiots waited 9 months. They also had trials with 2 other children before this child, in that time. Something tells me they "paid" for this poor child poor birth mum, they are disgusting.
Can we just stop all the hate?! Leave these people alone. It's easy to see that they love their little girl. Story is a happy, well-adjusted little girl who is lucky to have them as her parents. I don't have very many videos or photos of my kids, and I'm so devastated about that. I would do anything to have more of their childhood on video and in pictures. I enjoy watching their adventures, as do many others! If you don't, then don't watch it!!
„Everything is said and done, she’s ours” - Bella said on the phone to a friend. I don’t know American laws but don’t they have to SIGN some papers first, doesn’t the mom have time to change her mind? From what I’ve seen on other ppl’s vlogs - adoptive parents usually meet the baby and take care of it, have a chance to bond with it from the very beginning BUT there’s like 48hrs for the birth mom to decide to keep the baby. It’s really weird here, plus I don’t really feel like they really care about the baby itself, it’s more like they’re excited about what comes with it. Also - people asked on the phone about the baby’s name - she completely ignored those questions. One more proof that even the most intimate and memorable moments are just content material to them - she couldn’t say the name cause then they wouldnt be able to do a super over-the-top name reveal. It looks too much like selling a human to me, sorry. It’s not the fact that they’re rich, it’s….. everything. Gross. The conspiracy theory that it was a surrogate doesnt seem too far-fetched either.
It’s so weird to me how they have no parental instincts like before I had my son 8 months ago I was terrified of babies. Holding babies. Caring for babies. Talking to babies. All of it. The second he was born all of that changed. I’m still terrified of others babies but I know exactly what my little guy needs. Crazy
I was thinking this too!!! While I watched the video I was like “ok… they did no research or anything on a newborn.” I hate it. I feel so bad for this babygirl.
I had my first baby last November. There are so many resources out there to learn how to properly take care of a baby. They also have friends with babies and small children. They have no excuse to not know how to even properly hold a baby. Bella was way more interested in looking at the camera than at the baby. You would think she would be so invested in the wellbeing of that baby she wouldn’t even glance at the camera.
@Anxioustornado I was so scared to hold someone so tiny and precious. I think I first held her at year old, and she's now two, and that's more my thing. She does cool stuff like she can walk and and she talks. She calls me Ellio cause she can't say Elliott. It's amazing!! Every time I see her, she's so grown up. She talks more or does something new. It's just absolutely incredible.
Yes, this video picking up the baby bothered me so much. She was not looking at the face of her child. She was posing for the video. It was all about her. It is always all about her. Sorry, but this bothered me so much too. And have you noticed that she is always throwing that little one up in the air and she looks like she is just dizzy with the air moving around her. Anyway.
Josh, I totally agree with you! I am a mom of 3 and have put pictures of my kids on facebook since they have been born. I only did this for family and friends because we lived so far away from everyone. However my daughter just recently turned 13 and i showed her some memories that came up.. and she said.."you put that for people to see?" We never have done youtube or anything like that... but for the people that say the kids wont care once they are older.. they definitely do!!! just wanted to share. Thank you for your channel.
I learned this as well with my 13 year old. I no longer have a fb, I see it as if family or friends want to see my children, they can physically meet up with them and etc. I no longer put my children on any type of social media.
also hey i’m 17! i have no social media and i don’t want it. My mom is obsessed however, and posts me all the time. If i don’t have at least a photo for her a month of how “accomplished i am” she gets pissed. i hate going through photos of myself and she has no need posting every little thing about MY life.
It's good that you share this kind of experience! My dad once put a picture of my siblings and I on facebook and a few years ago I saw it and he just said "yeah look at that cute picture" and I was like "Why did you post this?". I don't like that he posted it, it was only one picture. I can't imagine him posting my entire. fucking. childhood.
I completely agree with you, no adopted child should be on the internet unless they fully consent to it. I definitely think they should not have videoed the whole thing. If they really wanted to share the news with their audience they could have released a written statement announcing they had a baby/adopted a baby. If you watch their previous Q and A videos Dallin always seemed super hesitant about adopting alluding that he believed that the baby had to be biologically theirs for it to be "family" This video really opened my eyes about them.
When I held each of my two babies I could not, COULD NOT take my eyes off of them. I had to be as close as possible, nestling my face into them, kissing their faces, everything. Just taking them in. Everything I felt and went through at those moments was about them not about me. She seemed so unnatural... she didn't even look at her 😢
Yea and like Josh said they started out doing pranks. Their family probably doesn't believe anything they say or do and are always thinking it could be a prank.
The fact that Bella didn’t hold the Baby’s neck properly and the fact that she didn’t even hold the Baby’s neck is so weird to me and suspicious and ridiculous and disgusting about it that she didn’t even hold the baby’s neck properly
Is anyone else a little confused about the adoption? The baby is at least a couple weeks old. She’s young but not straight out of the womb, she was also handed to them at someone’s house and not the hospital. Maybe I am out of touch with how adoptions work but it just seems unusual. I wonder what situation the baby came from.
That's what I'm saying! It doesn't make any sense! We have protections in place for adoptions. This all seems very sketchy at best illegal most likely.
@@jennysdreaming Yeah it seems like a situation where either foster care had to step in or the baby was placed for adoption after she was taken home. Or maybe this was a crisis pregnancy center they adopted from. I’m not really sure.
This is exactly how my parents adopted me. Definitely not an unusual situation. Rules are also different from state to state. I hate that they are exploiting this baby and trying to fill the emotional hole of infertility with a human being instead of seeking help, but the adoption process itself seems 100% legit.
@@dreamchord4544 That is good to know! I wasn’t trying to imply that the process itself wasn’t legit. I was more curious if the baby had been at a home for a while or given up after coming home with her birth mom and why she wasn’t given up immediately.
My jaw dropped when the “grandfather “ said “where did you get that?” Meaning the baby….WTF. These people are not normal. Red flags all over the place 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩
I took it as he thought it was a friends baby (a prank). Like “where did you get that? I know it’s not yours” but still a weird comment to make about a human baby lol
Especially since they just went thru that heartbreaking they thought they were getting those twins and so did their entire family. Imagine if this was you going thru that spending all that money and time making memories for something that will never happen. So they wanted to get rid of all the stuff to help them heal and move past it and as that was happening the agency reached out to them to tell them they have an actual opportunity. They were excited. And the family didn’t think it was real bcuz of what had just previously happened. Dallin and Bella didn’t want to tell everyone about it and jinx it or get everyone’s hopes up again. Once it was official they wanted to share the news.
I get the ig account for story is over the top but Bella and dallin should get the right to post their daughter on their socials. if she would be allowed to post her child if she were to have gotten pregnant on social media she should be able to post her other CHILD. There should not be different rules for birth or adopted children. She should not make the child feel different and put out of the family or the family photos cuz she isn’t blood. That’s what adoption agencies should look for how they’d treat the child.
In the UK, you can't even share adopted children privately on sm. My friend can only take "from the back" and "no identifying features" photos of her kids if she wants to share snaps on social media. The US needs to catch up.
Say the birth mom did not know they have for instance, a TH-cam channel, can you imagine the birth mom see her baby on social media and longing for her. I will loose my mind if such a thing happen to me. And if I don't agree with them on various kinds of things. Like parenting style ect. How can this be legal. I will surely loose my mind. I was a teen mom and the choice of giving up my first born for adoption was an option brought to me but my parents said no way. It's incomprehensible what they are doing. It's not even humanely.
O man that's surprising because UK is one of the biggest human trafficking countrys I wonder if it's a deeper reason why man this child exploitation and human trafficking needs to stop gods children not for sale
@@heykate93shame on you. You did not have to do that. Just keep the pics for yourself, don't post kids on any social media. You are just defiant, thinking you can do whatever you want . You have a problem needing to do that . Maybe your nephew is better off in care rather than being in your family!
as an adopted child from South Africa i can’t believe what these ppl did my parents had to wait 1 year until they could fly and get me and had to go thru so much more then these ppl .
my parents spend three years and over half a million dollars to get me. even though I'm away from them right now because of some choices they made involving their parenting and my emotions, I am grateful my mom wanted me and didn't exploit me.
I literally told my mom I was pregnant 5 minutes after I got a positive pregnancy test. Both times! I could not imagine not telling my immediate family first!
Also am i the only one absolutely appalled by the fact that they are planning on filming this baby's entire life with them on the internet,where even the birth mother can see it all. Do they have absolutely no heart or even just basic common sense ? I used to think that America is on the verge of losing it with this giant social media network encapsulating their entire lives, but this convinces me that America has already lost it. Absolutely nowhere else in the world can you see the strange yet ominous problems this country is facing.
These comments are disturbing! Why don’t you just have some decency and stop assuming that they don’t love this little girl? I’m sure your not even educated on infertility but since your so ignorant it wouldn’t even matter, shameful this entire video is disgusting
My heart is broken for that baby girls biological mother. I know we don’t know her situation or what kind of person she is but that doesn’t matter. She just did the hardest thing she will ever have to do, she has to try and put her life back together now and how hard is that going to be if every time she scrolls on TH-cam or Instagram that little girls face pops up. They have just received the most incredible gift from that woman and they should be taking some time off the internet to bond with their child and let the biological Mom heal. They have alot of growing up to do. They should have done that before ever becoming parents 😡
@@alexmuse857doesn’t matter she’s still her mom also. What it says on paper doesn’t negate the role that birth mom should have in her life. And it’s just common courtesy to respect the feelings and turmoil of the birth mom after placement. It’s incredibly selfish and ungrateful to get the baby and then be like “ok now you are nothing to us and we don’t gaf what you think or feel”
@@alexmuse857 no actually you don't. Mom can sue them for child exploitation. The child's well being is paramount to the courts. Depending on the state and the judge, bio mom can regain her rights and the child never loses hers. People are not play things and adopted guardians will never supercede true parentage. Surrogates and sperm and egg donors even regain custodianship if the law considers it best for the child. Adult desires do NOT outweigh child welfare.
@@KrystalClearReviews depends on the state. I know two couples who adopted out of New Jersey because there is no grace period for birth mothers there to reclaim the baby.
What does it tell you that the first people they call about going to pick up their baby is their celebrity couple friends (Arie was on the Bachelor) and not their FAMILY. They don't get to find out till it already happened.
Why do I feel like they only wanted a child even more after Katie and josh were expecting… almost like they were trying to compete or something… Bella reminds me of a spoiled little girl who always wanted a certain baby doll or something. It’s sick.
Thank you for another video, Josh. These ppl really sicken and sadden me. I've been running around doing errands and have some time in between laundry, etc, to catch some of you live today! I really appreciate your videos and how they're helping many see the dark side of family vlogging. Keep up the good work!!
33:18 my first words as a mom was “I love you so much.” “I want to give you so much.” I just kept telling my baby over and over I love you I love you I love you. And all she can say is so cute?
How dare you say the baby is cute per Josh. But really I think it is a little different with adoption because you didn’t have that same bonding time. I can disagree with what they are doing but not criticize their first moments because I’m not in those shoes, can you love a baby you just learned of 24 hours or so prior? So expressing love at that first moment wouldn’t be genuine. It takes time to build that love and bond.
@@kristy8838 to only say “she is so cute.” Over and over again it just seems like she was more into looks and having a cute baby. Seems like she just wanted a cute baby. Pretty vein in that all they wanted was a baby to show off as cute. I didn’t care to show off my baby or to film my baby for views. That’s the only reason they filmed this was to show off their baby accessory. There was no we are going to take you to your new family we can take you home now. It’s just so disconnected and yes it’s an adoption, but her motherly instincts aren’t there (maybe they never will be because she hasn’t given birth.) There’s just no connection.
@@Loveablelaura I just couldn’t feel good about myself judging like this and always looking for and expecting the worst in people because they didn’t say just what we think they should or you’ve seen better reactions out of other mothers. That seems like an awful way to live. Don’t get me wrong I’m not a supporter of these people and never heard about them until DCP videos. I’m behind the not exploiting children part but man some of you all go too far and become a different type of bad human. And it’s so weird but thanks to tik tok I saw your attempt at exposing the girl with twins lol (yikes!) so I don’t expect you to agree with me or anything.
@@kristy8838 look I stepped away from kolby, I was getting death threats and people were doxxing where I lived. I have learned josh is a very great person and he speaks for people like me who can’t legally fight these people. The only reason why I stopped because it was putting my family in danger. You have no idea what these people are like. We don’t just spew out things because of “hate” we genuinely care about these kids. And if we see a mom that’s being a tad off sorry we are going to protect the kids over their POS children. I think you’re just pretending to be a DCP follower. You have no clue how much Della vlogs/kolby shae Put their kids at risk being online. They deserve anything that comes their way. And that’s from the choices they make. Sorry if I make a few snide comments that’s what we have as a tool to get people to understand how fake these people are.
The fact that Story’s grandparents referred to her as “it” and “that” makes me feel an immeasurable amount of rage, she’s not a dog, not a prop, she’s a baby.
@@lillee0205before :( I believe it was dallin’s family who were like “oh where did you get that?” And “where did you get it?”, same with Bella’s mother who was like “where did you find her?” They acted like that sweet baby girl was a dog.
Jesus, the fact that they don't even know an infant needs 1 additional layer of clothing, is insane. AND they brought her somewhere so windy and rough. Like the BEACH OF ALL PLACES?!! She's maybe 7-8 pounds...If it was as windy as it looked to be (you can tell her hair was blowing hard in the wind), I can only imagine that the sand was blowing also.This is devastating all around,. I feel like it happened so quickly from the first video of the Matt & Abby interview, it's scary because in this time it doesn't seem they were taking prenatal/parenting/doula classes of any kind, which a responsible adoptee parent may sometimes do...idk i'm knit-picking, but it's because these things need to be called out. I pray for this sweet baby and that the agency comes against this.
I'm not a family vlog watcher - but I am am other of five grown children, and a grandmother to 16 littles. Not sure how but Della Vlogs came up in my feed for some strange reason, and I watched a few videos of theirs - mostly trying to figure out this whole baby situation. They can't have babies so they make a huge thing of adopting twins, then her song comes out ,then the adoption "fell through" as a "scam".....THEN the real baby comes along. Why was the scam adoption from a black mom I wonder. And why does the actual baby look very similar to them I wonder. And the timing of the song all twisted in there to over-dramatize and over-emotionalize a situation that is already major and heavy and personal and SHOULD be private. And THEN right out the gate their daughter is exploited just like we knew she would be. Something is just so fake about these two. I know this video is already a year old, but I had to chime in.
When I found out I was pregnant, we got in the car at 11pm at night and drove to my moms house just to tell her in person because I thought she deserved more than a phone call. Funny part- she didn’t get out of bed and hug me like I anticipated but the next day she told me that she couldn’t because she wasn’t wearing pants and my fiancé was in the room 😂😂 not sure why she didn’t just say that and put some pants on. I guess it was the shock lol
Same my mom was in a care home with my first son & I made sure to tell her in person, now I did wait until I was almost 16 weeks, I just needed to have some reassurance that we were a little safer(plot twist complications at 7 Months 😮 but everything was good) & on my second unfortunately it was COVID & we weren't allowed in to see her so I wrote her a beautiful card as I knew she would love that,she kept everything & she was so happy with it & I gave her scan pictures of both so it started her pictures of the boys as she had pictures,albums of all the kids which when she was missing everyone she could look through.
I know very little about adoption. But I know when something feels off. This is WAY OFF!!! I have never in my life heard of...in America....going to some random person's house to pick up your baby! Where is the agency? Where is the oversight? I know people who had more difficulty adopting a dog!
That baby was most likely at a foster family home. And a social worker was most likely there as well. That baby was probably under the States care, and until parents could be chosen/found & hospital discharged it can't be kept at a adoption agency. The mother could have not been able to care for baby or if it was her choice etc. The baby has to go somewhere & be under someone's care legally. I've known foster families through the years, including my brother & wife whom had a baby from hospital because mother was unable to legally & physically take care of baby and this is very normal. We don't know all the details since hopefully they will keep that info quiet. It seems they didn't meet birth mother in person.
With having personal adoption experience.. The family that they picked the precious baby girl from is called a respite family/home. Dallin and Bella went through all the process and paperwork you have to do to be open for adoption. Yes absolutely when you go through a private agency you are contacted by the social worker that there is a mom that has had a baby. The babies file/case is sent to you. If you move forward the mother will be given the opportunity to review different families profiles. Do not speak on a topic if you do not have knowledge about it. Della Vlogs is a wonderful family who have the love, hearts and home for a child. The profile that the mother reviews (based off of personal experience) is a album/autobiography about your family, likes, dislikes and pictures that you think the mother would like to see. This video is so hateful. This video does more harm to people than anything. Have you experienced 5 years of infertility? Have you experienced multiple rounds of IVF treatments failing? I pray for all of you and better in the world.
@@abbywills5850 I do know the pain of infertility and the devastation of loss. That doesn't justify these people at all. Throughout the whole video there was not one single occasion where the focus was on the baby, her birth mother or her well being whatsoever. Every second of the video was solely focused on them. She is basically an accessory to bring them more clout. Like he said, they took time each "scene" to set up the camera, check the frame etc rather than just be in the moment and meeting their daughter. It is all so contrived and this poor innocent child has to grow up realizing that they are a commodity. Her adoptive parents cared more about their social media presence than they do her. It's one thing to take snapshots and clips of momentous occasions, its a whole different thing to film the whole thing and then upload everything to the world. People like that are truly gross. The baby should be their priority 100% No conscientious human (who isn't some kind of simp) could ever see this video as normal. Ask yourself: if another couple who you didn't already follow/subscribe to/feel invested in uploaded this exact content....would you still believe this was appropriate?
I dont understand how you have ppl that have been waiting monrhs, years to adopt. Especially if its a new born because so many want newborns. The you have the Dellas that have a newborn with in a month of finishing paperwork to adopt. As usually, popularity and money can get you literally anything especially in america.
Why does this feel like when I adopted my cat? Also so sad for the father that he has to hold the camera and can’t even genuinely meet his daughter for the first time. Ugh these two are the worst.
Thank you for addressing this family. As an adoptee I am disgusted with these parents. That poor baby. I would have died if my parents had blasted my picture and my story all over the media. Thank goodness social media was not a thing back them. I feel so much for that poor birth mom. They are also deleting comments as fast s they post. I las you were was sick to my stomach and thinking about this all last night.
She has been around many many children and knows how to care for children. I think her says "OMG she's so cute" is almost like because she's in a shell-shocked that that's her baby. I went through infertility myself and finally gave birth to my daughter and I was still shell-shocked even tho I birthed her. Not sure why you want to attack them so badly as human beings, believe me there's way worse out there.
Also I get why she didn't tell anyone til they physically had her after the scam situation. I wouldve waited til everything was fully signed and she was for sure my child as well because that's emotionally damaging to everyone.
The issue is her putting her child online it's exploitation. Imagine how the child is going to feel watching there whole baby years be put online for millions of people without even knowing their own identity.
I cannot BELIEVE that the adoption agency is ok with them YouTubing all this!! I think you should do an investigative episode on that agency and interview them and ask why they are ok with this
That’s what I don’t get. As a foster kid, I wasn’t even allowed to have social media.. so what’s up with them posting her? Is it because she’s adopted? It feels so wrong… I’m thankful I wasn’t allowed social media until I was well over 17. I can’t imagine her growing up and having social media profiles made for her to do “Story’s first post”… I feel someone need to get involved..
Bella is the girl who has never been told no in her life UNTIL she couldn't have her own child and it drove her crazy. For once hers and her mom's money couldn't fix it and she couldn't give her trophy husband what he wanted. So they finally gave in and bought a baby and now are compeating with the other explotators for who's best. I hate them so much!!!!
I COMPLETELY understand what you’re saying with just feeeeeling the fakery of these two. It’s just.. an icky feeling. Everything they post feels insincere. Ugh that poor baby didn’t even get half of a second with its new parents that wasn’t on the camera. :/
I’ve seen a bit of their stuff and started following after the twin scam thing. I was super excited for them because I’ve also struggled to have a family. But I also hadn’t looked at it like this. Their stuff has definitely been a bit cringe worthy. If they just shared their experience without the excessive filming it would definitely be worth it. I’m about to have my first babies, not adopted, and I still don’t want their faces on social media. I don’t really understand why people want to share every single thing about their lives and babies all over the internet.
I will admit I fell for it, most likely because I can't have biological children. Thank goodness for Josh putting me back on track. Ive only watched the twin scam and this adoption case.
Same. I kinda thought the way she talks is so scripted but fell for the adoption video. Glad I can across this video. First impressions are so important, trust you gut instincts.
@luvybi2183 every short that they have filmed is focused on the baby and while I sympathise with their battle to conceive and carry a baby as I was in the same situation but I became a teacher and foster Mum. I would never of thought they would use their adopted child to earn money. She is going back and doing all the pre baby videos and even saying she was pregnant with this girl and how she isn't tired like other mums she knows without acknowledging that she didn't carry her child, have her body change to accommodate a baby needing to be nourished etc
@@amyrivers4093 I agree. I was just watching a short video on their DELLA VLOG 2, the one with the soda and my heart almost dropped when she bent down to sip the froth. The baby could have easily bumped into the edge of the counter. She’s holding the baby so casually like this child needs to be cradled. She’s really using the baby as a prop. No natural maternal instinct to protect the baby. It’s getting annoying and sad watching more of her video using this baby.
@@amyrivers4093 she never said she was pregnant with that baby what she saying is that she wasn’t tired and had a lot of energy I do agree with you on the whole carry your own child changing your body and what not because I did carry my own and there is definitely a difference in the hormone drop after delivery but no she never said she carried that baby not even once
Her wedding ring is probably 400,000 says Josh. Also says Josh, "You're not worth it. I PROMISE YOU." The most intelligent and valid comment spoken thus far .....
When Bella’s parents asked “where did you find it?” And “where did you get that”, my jaw dropped. That is absolutely disgusting. I feel bad for Dallins parents because they seem genuine and were actually shocked and probably hurt they didn’t tell them. The whole video makes me feel bad for the baby. They are terrible parents not just because they are exploiting this child, but they don’t even know how to take care of a child.
As a mom of 7 and a nurse, this SCARES me!!! PLEASE someone teach them how to hold a newborn so that their head, neck and body are supported properly!! 🤯
Babies have survived thousands upon thousands of years - mom shaming isn't a good look. I get people's concern about filming children.. I 100% agree with that stance, but you picking apart a one second clip of her picking up her baby "wrong" is nuts. Be careful living in your glass house - that energy will come back to you.
@myrialynn babies have survived for thousands of years because of previous mothers, dulas, aunties, grannies. friends etc - THAT TEACH U HOW TO DO IT RIGHT you take parenting class3s and birth classes before bringing baby home. 😂 and the nurses coach u the first day or so if ur needing it
@@myrialynn literally not supporting the neck is a serious issue :/ especially since a newborns skull is still growing. It isn’t mom shaming when a child’s safety is at risk. :// they put it on the internet they can get criticism.
And they kept saying repeatedly in all their past videos about how they were going to be so grateful to the birth mother and they would consider her family for giving them this gift...and now that they have the child it's like that went out the window. True colors coming out
I’ve been meaning to say something about them, but I didn’t want to do it so soon. Their baby is an accessory, she has that child like a trendy purse. I also wanna add she’s been extremely ignorant on motherhood, and showing everything is perfect, idk if you’ve seen that short she posted showing how perfect she feels and how easy it is to care for a baby.
They have a Maid…that’s why they can claim they’re never tired. If I had a Maid so that I could focus 100% of my time to my child….what a good life I would have with my child
When they shared their infertility journey I was rooting for them and I genuinely feel bad they can’t have biological children but they way they went about this adoption is heartbreaking
I wish we could see what their adoption profile looked like. Were they upfront with the birth mom that they were influencers and that they planned on putting the child's face in their videos?
I feel like unfortunately the birth family knew about it, a lot of birth parents chose people who are able to financially provide an extravagant lifestyle over personality
Lol.. this wasn't a proper adoption. I guarantee this is the baby of a very young, vulnerable woman.. who watches them.. or who's Mum does.. and they have become so parasocially manipulated by Della's plight (the same plight that has been very financially lucrative for them) and they are giving the baby for the wrong reasons. The whole thing is disgusting.. on so many levels.. and should be illegal.
@@natalielawrence8809i just find it so strange that the biological mom can know the identity of the adoptive parents. It’s not allowed in my country, and only the child has a right (once 18) to go to the Police to get a permit for the file to open and know the details of the bio mother. If the mother knows the details of the adoptive parents, can’t she harass o ask for money? Or tell them, before the adoption is finalized “give me money and I ‘ll chose you”?
Josh you’re so right on about how awkward she is holding this baby. I knew from when i was a very young teen that i wanted to be a mom someday. I took every opportunity to babysit, to do Sunday school and nursery in church. I couldn’t get enough of being around kids. I was so much more prepared because of that
Very telling how many times she says the baby is cute. How the baby looks is clearly very important to them. Also the focus is very much baby, baby, baby. Do they realize they are not going to stay a baby and eventually they’re going to be parenting a toddler, a school age child, a grumpy teenager and then an adult? It’s the whole package people. As a mother of four, who’s currently parenting a very moody teenager, who hates me some of the time, I would do anything to go back to when she was a baby and was cute and loved me all the time. Parenting is hard and it’s a lifelong journey. The baby stage is short and is a very small part of the whole parenting picture.
Adoption isn't final the day of birth. Likely it's not official yet legal. So they are filming/showing photos creating an Instagram page for a child that isn't 100 percent legally theirs. PUKE
I'm a single parent to 2 children with Cerebral Palsy. I work 1 job that pays enough to barely cover my bills/rent. But I donate a measly $1/month (and would do more if I could) to this channel because I believe in this message and movement. For this exact reason. Child exploitation through social media is out of control. We have to keep calling this out!
I can’t believe you this baby is supposed to be in this family ❤ how cares if she Doesn’t no how to Carey a baby omg you are so Durmatic you are crazy omg ❤😮😡
@@kalleebrotherson9495 that baby DOES NOT BELONG WITH HER. DELLA IS A DANGER TO CHILDREN. SHE IS EXPOSING ALL OF HER DANGEROUS TACTICS ON HER VIDEOS. CPS NEEDS TO BE CALLED. BOTTOM LINE, NO NEED TO SUPPORT SOMEONE WHO CLEARLY IS PUTTING A BABY IN DANGER. ITS NEGLECT AND ABUSE. GROW UP. LEARN WHAT REAL RESPONSIBILITY IS LIKE.
I'm infertile. Haven't been able to get pregnant for 20 years. I would have loved to adopt but it is so expensive. I hate that rich terrible people can just adopt cute babies like they are picking out a pet. "We just saw this baby and applied because she was so cute". How about I have so much love to give a baby that needs a home and family. These epeoole are about to get a huge awakening to what it is really like to parent a baby. It isn't babysitting! They will end up divorced probably because they are not ready to be parents and are doing this for wrong reasons. Myka 2.0!
As a person who was adopted as an infant my heart broke when I saw this. So busy looking at the camera, not soaking in every single bit of her new baby that she has longed for .
Y’all stop hating yes there’s waiting for this baby but what if that was y’all In her shoes and couldn’t have kids then YES I would want to record everything because it’s everything I’ve wish for so y’all stop hating on them there not bad people ❤
@@apostolicgirl the problem is not even that they want to record and create memories, but the fact that they post it on the internet and make money off this baby. stop being so naïve.
She’s not even looking at the baby when she was handed to her. She is looking at the camera and then covers her face, looks back at the camera.
I found that very concerning yes
She is sooooo cringe. Baby is just 5 months old and she’s had;
Story’s first Disney trip
Story’s first race car event
Story’s first pro basketball game
Um, what else?
The baby will NOT remember.
she might be replace soon?
This is f'ing disgusting. Film me meet my daughter. Film me hold my daughter. Film me while im crying. Film me.. I don't know why I'm so surprised.
Someone in the comments of their instagram post questioned the amount of exposure this baby was getting shortly after being adopted. They deleted it, it was one of the comments with the most responses and likes
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I am sure they have an assistant doing that, right? Because I cannot believe they have time with a newborn, to film, edit, post in all social media AND read comments!
Now they deleted coments in the youtube videos
All the family channels do. I have scrolled and scrolled on some of the videos to even find one negative comment and they aren’t there. I imagine that is a full time job.
LOVE THIS CHANNEL
I just found their channel yesterday, and everything you are saying is what I was thinking. It was so unsettling watching them handle this child like a prop. It literally made my skin crawl. I thought to myself “there is something far more sinister going on beneath the surface”. Finding your video today just validated everything I thought about their videos
Exactly. She is nothing more than a prop and accessory for videos.
I’m a 73 yr old retired RN- was totally bamboozled. So grateful for your channel and exposing them. Please keep videoing to spread the word. Your recommendations are very good
Naming her "Story" is quite ironic, like this baby's life is a story, a SHOW & TELL to the internet to gain praise & wealth.
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She’s literally a news story… instagram story.. this is what their mind is fixed on. It’s so revealing
I agree, it's the most dumbest name. And her tiktok videos are very ironic, it's like she's being a show off.
Oh shut up
You are ridiculous to think this
The sad fact is that their audience watch this kid as a doll also, they forget is a real baby!
And recently they brought her “Daughter” to Disneyland like who will bring there newborn kid to Disneyland before there one it is too flashy for her and it will ruin her eyesight
In 1991, my grandfather filmed the moment the social worker walked off the plane and down the corridor to hand me to my parents and brother. People who were on the plane watched with excitement. My family brought small cupcakes and fake champagne to celebrate. I LOVE that my grandfather filmed it all, and it is fun to see how excited strangers were, but these were strangers that were genuinely excited to see a young family adopting a child they had just flown across the country with. The video is still on a VHS tape and has never been posted online and... it has just as much if not more meaning to all of us! Social media didn't exist then. Only genuine emotions. Seeing the love my parents and my brother who was only 3 at the time had for me is beautiful. They could have filmed it and kept it just for their family. The way it used to be when people filmed their families solely for their own memories, and it would be beautiful and so special to that sweet little girl.
I was also not a cute baby when they got me 😂 I was malnourished because the foster family was not equipped to care for an infant, and I was sick when I was born. Yet everyone still looked at me with all the love in the world. They were all so concerned about if I was warm enough coming from a hot to cold climate and my breathing after going from low to high altitude. It just gives me all the emotions and makes me so sad to see such a beautiful moment for that child that should be cherished between her and her new family be exploited.
It does make you wonder what these influencers would be like if the baby they received did not look IG perfect.
100%! There would be nothing wrong with them recording a few of these moments for their personal memories. And lovely that your grandfather was included in that moment and captured all of this out of love while your parents were 100% focused on you. That sounds like a beautiful video!
Yeah he's just a hater because their parents didn't do anything special for him
I love your story, thank you for sharing!
@@angeliscolon5367who’s a hater?
I just wanted to thank you because Matt and Abby have stopped showing griffins face, and I think you influenced that. They just posted a first birthday blog video with him and then have a cake covering his face, the last time they showed his face in a thumbnail was 3 months ago
Also the Herbert's
Great to see some changes!
And the amount of people in their comments saying they will unsubscribe because they stopped showing Griffin's face. Extremely sad and scary
It’s disgusting that when she first received the baby she didn’t even look at her…she looked at the camera. That poor child will never feel real love
She looked her husband, not the camera. What’s wrong with you
@@silvia135she looked at both and imagine meeting your baby and the first thing you do is film them, a intimate moment, the first meeting and the f filmed it
My cousin is an instagrammer, she adopted 2 little boys and the court document states that she is not allowed to share their names, date of birth, or images (including the back of their head) (we are from Scotland, the court argued it was to protect the children due to past trauma in their previous home and not wanting the family to locate them as there is no contact allowed). Her followers are completely unaware that she had children, she shared her infertility journey then just posted hat she was not comfortable sharing anymore and would g back to fitness content. she doesn't even let family keep photos or videos on their phone, she sends close family physical photos in the mail from time to time
that’s a bit extreme
@@PutinsMommyNeverHuggedHim this is not extreme. With AI & deep fakes, it is extremely difficult to protect children once their pictures are posted on public forums.
I work in a nursery and we do weekly development updates for the parents and if we have an adopted child who is not allowed in anyone else photos or allowed to have her pic on any social media. Whether it’s a closed adoption or not you don’t want that child exposed and that birth parents turning up and they are possibly putting this child in danger by letting the world and his dog know where she is
@@abethebabe3835 This!! I found them during their search for a baby and followed along as an adoptive parent myself. The second I saw them posting the baby I unfollowed. It's ridiculously dangerous! Not all children are voluntarily put up for adoption some are removed. The parents or an extended family member could see and recognise her, it's putting her in a crazy amount of danger now and throughout her life. I pray they see sense and stop posting her. Imagine a person turning up at her school or the local park and saying hi we're your biological parents or even worse taking her!!
Did the adoption agency not go over ANY safeguarding with them 🤯got are they just ignoring the advice because money and attention means more to them.
My heart breaks for the little girl , adoption is already hard and they have now made it 100x worse for her.😢
@@abethebabe3835I agree, it's not good to expose the adopted baby in a social media and showing the whole world that she is an adopted may affect the child's emotion
Something that I just can't shake is that the whole video is basically Bella. Dallin is barely in it at all and when he is there is no excitement. They are treating this precious child as an accessory not a human being.
I just found your channel because I looked for some real thoughts on their f*cked up YT channel. I am so sickened by them! I can't put into words how disgusting they are. Baiting the adoption, then scam, now this. The first thing is noticed was that she was COMPLETELY not supporting the head. Poor child. Also you were so right: it has been three weeks and she has multiple videos/shorts about the baby. You new exactly what was gonna happen.
Thank you for speaking up!!!
Unfortunately I think some mothers would choose “influencer families” because they would have a way to “stay connected” to the baby. Many probably don’t realize just how awful growing up on TH-cam actually is.
Van clan initially wanted to document their kids growing. It was innocent until they actually got viewers
Agreed!
This is exactly what I was thinking.
Yeah, it’s nearly impossible for the mother not to know who these people are unless the baby was an emergency foster placement and a completely closed adoption which is rare nowadays. She probably looked them up and felt like they’d have the resources to care for the baby.
@@jyoung6366 People can still innocently use TH-cam to document their children growing up, you just keep the videos private. But all these people are too damn greedy to even see how dangerous it is.. money is the root of all evil
This is a human being, not a doll. She is a newborn who has been separated from the only mother she has known. Separated from the only voice she has known, the smell of her mama, the body that cradled her. There is trauma for this baby. These two are trash for exploiting this baby.
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There is one important thing you constantly forget!!! that child's mother chooses to give him up for whatever reason! Isn't it better for that child to grow up with lots of love or in a home for neglected children?!
@@MilicaBesevic The fact that the birth mother "gave her up" (between commas because WE DON'T KNOW why she made this decision, or went into place for her) doesn't mean this child isn't going through a traumatic situation. And if exploiting a child in the internet is loving a child then... oh well i guess you're right
@@dykingout2018agree but the mom gave her up, it was her choice no matter what reason she had and yes filming a baby 24/7 since you adopted them is not love
I honestly thought I was one of the only people who thought they were shady, and exploiting this poor girl.
Same. I was so relieved when I discovered this channel this morning!
Same!!
I think their skulls don’t match their sex? I believe they are a swapped couple? After listening to G2G Ponch Pete yep!!
No you are not the only one.
No you are not the only one. I question how many videos they make with this child in it. They treat that child like a doll. It makes me wonder how genuine they are
Dallin is the most unexcited adoptive father I have seen. Seems like this is Bella's fantasy only to have a baby doll to play with. While Dallin sits back and counts their money. Anything to keep wifey happy, I guess?
She’s not a doll she’s a beautiful happy adorable baby with adorable parents who value life and it’s nice that they share it !
Yeah but now he’s the parent who is way more bonded to the kid. Crazy right.
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He loves the baby, she doesn't, ypu can see it in his eyes that he really loves story
For me the most telling part of their video was how they meet her, there was literally no privacy, no precious moment, all was acted for a video. They are not excited to be parents, they are excited to be a family vloggers.
Yup!! It’s like the finally got their million dollar money generating accessory
Yes! Basically it all lead up to this.. this is their life now exploiting a child for money. I fee the twin thing wasn’t even real too.. just an act
to be fair they had been trying for a baby for years and it broke her heart. They recorded it a lot, but i think to let others know they aren’t alone. I think they got too caught up in the whole process that when they picked up the baby girl they kinda forgot maybe idk
@@wyatrippyno, if i was infertile and i got the chance to adopt a child, i would not film it, i would enjoy the first meeting, it was a private moment, they go to know their daughter and instead of enjoying it they filmed all of it
Idk, when my son was born I couldn’t get over how absolutely adorable he was. Granted my first words to him was, I’m your mama. But I said he’s so cute all the time.
The point is she has zero attachment to the child and can’t figure out anything else to say.: she knows nothing about the child even now that she’s got it .. she’s “surprised” she requires diaper changes multiple times a day.. she said that 😂
I said it to my child all the time too
@@shelikestuff when they went on one of their first trips and forgot to pack FORMULA… and had to rush out and buy it. Who forgets to pack their baby’s most important basic need???
My favorite surprise after giving birth to my first kiddo was finding out a nurse had picked up my phone and captured many of our special moments me holding her for the first time my husband cutting the cord.
The thought never crossed our minds to have a camera out. Those moments were so special and I’m so glad that someone else could think of it. But still at my second birth we didn’t ask or anything like that
My midwives did it too. I’m all for a couple of snap shots or even birth photography but to film it just for content 🤢
aww❤!!!!!!
I was shooting photos like crazy
What an awesome nurse! 🥹
That so cute❤
Matt being more excited than the actual dad was… poor baby
I used to watch them till I noticed that whenever she carries the baby is like she never carried her before. She never carries her properly and doesn't look at her. Her focus is on the filming , not the child she's carrying. The problem is in the system, which allows adopting parents are allowed to do whatever they want
The first thing I said to my daughter when I gave birth was “she’s beautiful” not for superficial reasons but I looked into her eyes and I saw all the hurt I’ve been through that led me to her. I looked into her eyes and saw the future and beautiful opportunities and all the blessings I would receive throughout life like macaroni necklaces.
So you had the baby for you and your blessings.
@@dreamcrazy37- Hi there, Internet stranger! I think you _might’ve_ read into what she said the wrong way. 😊 Have a good day!
@@HereKittyKitty24 isn’t that why humans have babies ? To fulfill their own lives ? It’s “natural”
Beautifully said, congratulations no matter how old your girl is now ♡
I didn’t think my comment would get any response haha. I hope everyone’s have a great day ❤️
I teared up because it was so sad that their first interaction with the baby was just filming it. And then I was sad because when the baby grows up it might feel abandoned from its birth mother and used by the adopted one..
Also as a mother it IS so weird that she keeps talking about the appearance of the baby only… A normal parent usually expresses their deep love for their baby. It’s almost like she’s saying it like she’s relived she didn’t get an ugly baby to film everyday
Let’s be fair though, ALL parents talk about how cute their new baby is. That is in no way unusual.
Imagine being the one going through infertility. This mindset sucks imagine how beautiful it would be to be able to watch the exact moment that girl got to meet her mother. Adoption is beautiful and just because people decided to share there journey they are disgusting? Your telling me you were perfect when your kids were first born? It’s disgusting that the influencers who do these kind of videos make money on hating.
@@laurenfox9497 No adoption is traumatic, the buying of a child that comes from a a bio mother that may be going through a crisis. The child could have been given to other kin, there are so many alternatives to adoption. Also being infertile does not entitle you to a child. Hate to say this an adopted child but we don't care that you're infertile we are not commodity and we are not accessories we are not something for u to flaunt around for attention
Was Bella born male? Bella looks like a man
@@FineBabe-f9fwrong, there are a lot of reasons why ppl adopt and infertlity is one of them, there is nothing wrong with adopting a baby if you are infertile, no one acts like infertile ppl are "entitled" to a baby... what is wrong is to film them 24/7 and use them as a obiect, they do that with this baby!
The fact that is was really weird that Bella’s mom and Bella’s Dad was saying where did you get that in the FaceTime and Bella’s mom saying where did you find her and where did you get that was really weird and suspicious and disgusting
I got,”picking up a puppy” vibes from them. Like adoption is a gut wrenching traumatically beautiful thing and they’re acting like it’s a golden doodle. It’s so odd to me!
Not a single comment about the birth mother’s trauma or what she’s going through. It was literally like picking up a puppy for them. It made my body cringe. Breaks my heart.
I thought the same thing.
Lol they also have a doodle.
Same. I was like that picking up my cat 😂 hell, not even like that, I didn’t take my camera out every single “first” moment ahah disgusting
Maybe the bio mom didn’t want her story to be shared?
She called her baby cute like 80 times when she first got her, felt strange
Let's not forget the biological mother who is most likely going through the hardest thing she's ever gone through. jeeze. they are selfish.
That's what I was thinking about too. 😢
I considered adoption for my oldest son when I was pregnant at 19. Just thinking about it and gathering information broke my heart so this poor mother is healing from childbirth, and even if she knew it was the best situation for her daughter, is still so traumatic for her also.
And the baby... every hormonal, biological and emotional tie has been utterly severed immediately after birth for both the mother and the baby.
Every sound, smell and sensation of "safe" for that newborn baby has disappeared and now the poor thing is being used as a prop 😢
Considering this mother could easily look up these people since she has their names and whether it's an open or closed adoption, the mother could follow their social media and watch her baby grow up. I can only image how traumatic it could be. :(
Seriously. These people are sick!!!!
My grandson has had health challenges, surgery, multiple hospitalizations since birth a year ago. Neither his mother or I have EVER had the thought of exploiting him for fame or profit. I’ll forever be mind blown that people no longer have any boundaries or desire for privacy for their CHILDREN. GOD BLESS this baby.
Doing a baby reveal is actually insane. The way they revealed the baby is the same way someone would reveal a pet or an accessory, not a part of your family. Telling friends before family is also very telling.
They’re just so happy wig their daughter it’s a joy to see them !
It's so weird! I'd be livid if my kid did this. Notice they cut off when some people (like the brother) started to say something. I bet they told them how much of a dumbass they are for doing a "surprise baby reveal".
I watched their video and was scouring the comments for someone to tell her she needs to support the poor baby's neck but didn't see even one. Thank you for saying this! It was making me super uncomfortable the whole time.
Watched following videos, Bella walking around with this baby like an accessory. Baby’s neck is always dangling.😢
Yes same with me. Just letting her little head flop around, and she's so cute. OMG.
I always love to see Story Belle, the very cute little bug.
Im a 22 year old with no plans to have a child anytime soon but when i saw her holding the baby all i could say was "SUPPORT THE HEAD" 😂 "USE 2 HANDS!"
Same age as you (except I’m currently 6 weeks pregnant by accident lol) and yeah I actually was shocked that people who are 30 don’t know how to hold an infant 😂 I thought it was common knowledge
@@stephme2686 exactly it's baby 101 haha also congratulations 🎊
They constantly carry that baby like it’s a rag doll 😢
And they never put a hat on that baby out in bright mid day sun exposure throughout their world tour
The fact that all of their family and friends thought it was a prank is VERY telling!!! There is something suspicious about their adoption process.
I wouldn’t be surprised if they bought the baby. So sad.
I think they absolutely did buy the baby. They are that crazy for a baby that I wouldn't surprise me none. That's why she wants a baby for the money . I don't understand why anymore..
Agree! Doesn't the adoption process usually take years?🤨
“Where did you get it?” Is a whole thing one of them asked.
@@debbiehorton17 I know, I'm listening to that part right now. And just about all of them have asked where did you get it? Like who asks that
What Josh said that they will be able to give the baby everything material but her privacy back, that gave me the chills because it is so true. I really don't understand how people can expose their children and profit like that. Is it a constant need for this people to share everything. I honestly don't get it.
I had the exact same thoughts, it's absolutely sickening and should be illegal. Poor child and poor biological mother. Thanks for calling them out.
So sad. That poor kid man. I commented on a post and all their little fans were calling me evil for saying they shouldn’t have a baby.
A lot of their fans seem young. Most can’t even spell properly 🙄
Sometimes I feel like you're being harsh ad then you point sth out and I'm like "he's damn right" I unfollowed so many family channels because of you. 👌
I know. I am going to have to go unsubscribe from them now 😢 the reality is that this baby is a massive cash cow
Totally agree that Bella is making this all about herself. I feel for her and what they have gone through with their fertility issues. But this is about the baby. Also I find it weird that Dallin doesn’t seem into this at all and Bella keeps saying “this is MY dream”.
I've been a watcher for awhile and I agree, something about these people definitely gets right under skin more than others you cover. Totally understand why and thanks for bringing awareness to this.
Wtf?! An Instagram acct for the baby already?? That's disgusting. I feel so bad for this poor baby. I'll never understand how ppl just blindly follow these idiots. They both look so awkward holding the baby. He seems completely uninterested. Weird.
Very weird
SHE HAS AN INSTAGRAM ACCOUNT OMG 😭😭😭
This guy is a wanker.. they have an instagram account for Story. But it's PRIVATE FOR FRIENDS AND FAMILY NOT FOR THE WORLD TO SEE...
I know it’s not right but it does say it’s private and for family and friends only.
Imagine the internet (millions of people) knowing you are adopted/your whole adoption story before you do…
That's what I was thinking.
i didn't think of it that way
I was thinking the same thing!
Imagine if that child didn't get the chance to have parents like Bella and Dallin? They spent their entire marriage hoping and praying for this child. Are people who film their childbirth also exploiting their child? It's a memory the wanted to share with people who support them
@@alexmuse857 YES! It is always exploitation when a parent puts their child on the internet (especially a platform where they make money from it) before the child has reached the age of informed consent!
Josh this is so sad and disgusting. Thank you for bringing this to the forefront. It’s such a shame!!! When will legislators wake up and start dealing with this type of Child A….. and Exploitation.
I found them during their search for a baby and followed along as an adoptive parent myself. The second I saw them posting the baby I unfollowed. It's ridiculously dangerous! Not all children are voluntarily put up for adoption some are removed. The parents or an extended family member could see and recognise her, it's putting her in a crazy amount of danger now and throughout her life. I pray they see sense and stop posting her. Imagine a person turning up at her school or the local park and saying hi we're your biological parents or even worse taking her!!
Did the adoption agency not go over ANY safeguarding with them 🤯
or are they just ignoring the advice because money and attention means more to them.
My heart breaks for the little girl , adoption is already hard and they have now made it 100x worse for her.😢
Nothing about the adoption adds up people wait years to adopt, this pair of idiots waited 9 months. They also had trials with 2 other children before this child, in that time. Something tells me they "paid" for this poor child poor birth mum, they are disgusting.
Can we just stop all the hate?! Leave these people alone. It's easy to see that they love their little girl. Story is a happy, well-adjusted little girl who is lucky to have them as her parents.
I don't have very many videos or photos of my kids, and I'm so devastated about that. I would do anything to have more of their childhood on video and in pictures.
I enjoy watching their adventures, as do many others!
If you don't, then don't watch it!!
„Everything is said and done, she’s ours” - Bella said on the phone to a friend. I don’t know American laws but don’t they have to SIGN some papers first, doesn’t the mom have time to change her mind? From what I’ve seen on other ppl’s vlogs - adoptive parents usually meet the baby and take care of it, have a chance to bond with it from the very beginning BUT there’s like 48hrs for the birth mom to decide to keep the baby. It’s really weird here, plus I don’t really feel like they really care about the baby itself, it’s more like they’re excited about what comes with it. Also - people asked on the phone about the baby’s name - she completely ignored those questions. One more proof that even the most intimate and memorable moments are just content material to them - she couldn’t say the name cause then they wouldnt be able to do a super over-the-top name reveal. It looks too much like selling a human to me, sorry. It’s not the fact that they’re rich, it’s….. everything. Gross. The conspiracy theory that it was a surrogate doesnt seem too far-fetched either.
@@MiStuSia16it seems more likely the adoption was a lie and they actually used a surrogate and that’s why the baby was theirs immediately.
It’s so weird to me how they have no parental instincts like before I had my son 8 months ago I was terrified of babies. Holding babies. Caring for babies. Talking to babies. All of it. The second he was born all of that changed. I’m still terrified of others babies but I know exactly what my little guy needs. Crazy
I was thinking this too!!! While I watched the video I was like “ok… they did no research or anything on a newborn.” I hate it. I feel so bad for this babygirl.
I had my first baby last November. There are so many resources out there to learn how to properly take care of a baby. They also have friends with babies and small children. They have no excuse to not know how to even properly hold a baby. Bella was way more interested in looking at the camera than at the baby. You would think she would be so invested in the wellbeing of that baby she wouldn’t even glance at the camera.
I didn't hold my friends kid for a whole year, I was that terrified
@@3lli0 it’s so scary!! I had held two or three babies my entire life before having a kid! I love him but NEVER again!!
@Anxioustornado I was so scared to hold someone so tiny and precious. I think I first held her at year old, and she's now two, and that's more my thing. She does cool stuff like she can walk and and she talks. She calls me Ellio cause she can't say Elliott. It's amazing!! Every time I see her, she's so grown up. She talks more or does something new. It's just absolutely incredible.
Yes, this video picking up the baby bothered me so much. She was not looking at the face of her child. She was posing for the video. It was all about her. It is always all about her. Sorry, but this bothered me so much too. And have you noticed that she is always throwing that little one up in the air and she looks like she is just dizzy with the air moving around her. Anyway.
Josh, I totally agree with you! I am a mom of 3 and have put pictures of my kids on facebook since they have been born. I only did this for family and friends because we lived so far away from everyone. However my daughter just recently turned 13 and i showed her some memories that came up.. and she said.."you put that for people to see?" We never have done youtube or anything like that... but for the people that say the kids wont care once they are older.. they definitely do!!! just wanted to share. Thank you for your channel.
I learned this as well with my 13 year old. I no longer have a fb, I see it as if family or friends want to see my children, they can physically meet up with them and etc. I no longer put my children on any type of social media.
also hey i’m 17! i have no social media and i don’t want it. My mom is obsessed however, and posts me all the time. If i don’t have at least a photo for her a month of how “accomplished i am” she gets pissed. i hate going through photos of myself and she has no need posting every little thing about MY life.
It's good that you share this kind of experience! My dad once put a picture of my siblings and I on facebook and a few years ago I saw it and he just said "yeah look at that cute picture" and I was like "Why did you post this?". I don't like that he posted it, it was only one picture. I can't imagine him posting my entire. fucking. childhood.
her playing her own song when she meets the baby is egotism at its finest
Lmao I had no idea she had songs! Wow that's insane.
And the song was....bad.
I completely agree with you, no adopted child should be on the internet unless they fully consent to it. I definitely think they should not have videoed the whole thing. If they really wanted to share the news with their audience they could have released a written statement announcing they had a baby/adopted a baby. If you watch their previous Q and A videos Dallin always seemed super hesitant about adopting alluding that he believed that the baby had to be biologically theirs for it to be "family" This video really opened my eyes about them.
When I held each of my two babies I could not, COULD NOT take my eyes off of them. I had to be as close as possible, nestling my face into them, kissing their faces, everything. Just taking them in. Everything I felt and went through at those moments was about them not about me. She seemed so unnatural... she didn't even look at her 😢
Agreed.
Well we gave birth to our babies so maybe that’s why she will have a different connection since she didn’t birth her baby? I’m not sure.
I think the way their family reacted with such strange questions is because they were in shock. I can't imagine being in this situation as a parent.
Quickie illegal adoption.
They just “bought a baby”
@@maryhollway5781My thoughts exactly
@@maryhollway5781EXACTLY. It seems off to me to buy a random baby. Probably from a drug addict or something
Yea and like Josh said they started out doing pranks. Their family probably doesn't believe anything they say or do and are always thinking it could be a prank.
The fact that Bella didn’t hold the Baby’s neck properly and the fact that she didn’t even hold the Baby’s neck is so weird to me and suspicious and ridiculous and disgusting about it that she didn’t even hold the baby’s neck properly
Is anyone else a little confused about the adoption? The baby is at least a couple weeks old. She’s young but not straight out of the womb, she was also handed to them at someone’s house and not the hospital. Maybe I am out of touch with how adoptions work but it just seems unusual. I wonder what situation the baby came from.
That's what I'm saying! It doesn't make any sense! We have protections in place for adoptions. This all seems very sketchy at best illegal most likely.
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@@jennysdreaming Yeah it seems like a situation where either foster care had to step in or the baby was placed for adoption after she was taken home. Or maybe this was a crisis pregnancy center they adopted from. I’m not really sure.
This is exactly how my parents adopted me. Definitely not an unusual situation. Rules are also different from state to state. I hate that they are exploiting this baby and trying to fill the emotional hole of infertility with a human being instead of seeking help, but the adoption process itself seems 100% legit.
@@dreamchord4544 That is good to know! I wasn’t trying to imply that the process itself wasn’t legit. I was more curious if the baby had been at a home for a while or given up after coming home with her birth mom and why she wasn’t given up immediately.
My jaw dropped when the “grandfather “ said “where did you get that?” Meaning the baby….WTF. These people are not normal. Red flags all over the place 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩
That was a huge 🚩
No one in their circle seems to realize that the baby IS an actual person, not a collectible item.
I took it as he thought it was a baby doll because some out there look very realistic. The baby was sleeping too so eyes were closed.
I took it as he thought it was a friends baby (a prank). Like “where did you get that? I know it’s not yours” but still a weird comment to make about a human baby lol
Especially since they just went thru that heartbreaking they thought they were getting those twins and so did their entire family. Imagine if this was you going thru that spending all that money and time making memories for something that will never happen. So they wanted to get rid of all the stuff to help them heal and move past it and as that was happening the agency reached out to them to tell them they have an actual opportunity. They were excited. And the family didn’t think it was real bcuz of what had just previously happened. Dallin and Bella didn’t want to tell everyone about it and jinx it or get everyone’s hopes up again. Once it was official they wanted to share the news.
I get the ig account for story is over the top but Bella and dallin should get the right to post their daughter on their socials. if she would be allowed to post her child if she were to have gotten pregnant on social media she should be able to post her other CHILD. There should not be different rules for birth or adopted children. She should not make the child feel different and put out of the family or the family photos cuz she isn’t blood. That’s what adoption agencies should look for how they’d treat the child.
"please please send an asteroid" 😂😂😂 I'm dead
Only 12 minutes in....
In the UK, you can't even share adopted children privately on sm. My friend can only take "from the back" and "no identifying features" photos of her kids if she wants to share snaps on social media.
The US needs to catch up.
Say the birth mom did not know they have for instance, a TH-cam channel, can you imagine the birth mom see her baby on social media and longing for her. I will loose my mind if such a thing happen to me. And if I don't agree with them on various kinds of things. Like parenting style ect. How can this be legal. I will surely loose my mind. I was a teen mom and the choice of giving up my first born for adoption was an option brought to me but my parents said no way. It's incomprehensible what they are doing. It's not even humanely.
My grandsons are only seen from the back
O man that's surprising because UK is one of the biggest human trafficking countrys I wonder if it's a deeper reason why man this child exploitation and human trafficking needs to stop gods children not for sale
@@heykate93shame on you. You did not have to do that. Just keep the pics for yourself, don't post kids on any social media. You are just defiant, thinking you can do whatever you want . You have a problem needing to do that . Maybe your nephew is better off in care rather than being in your family!
Same in Australia
as an adopted child from South Africa i can’t believe what these ppl did my parents had to wait 1 year until they could fly and get me and had to go thru so much more then these ppl .
my parents spend three years and over half a million dollars to get me. even though I'm away from them right now because of some choices they made involving their parenting and my emotions, I am grateful my mom wanted me and didn't exploit me.
@@Karrambide aww im sorry
I literally told my mom I was pregnant 5 minutes after I got a positive pregnancy test. Both times! I could not imagine not telling my immediate family first!
They were scammed before so they waited to tell their family
@@missy541 Okay but they knew they were getting scammed and they told there family immediately that time. Everything they do is calculated.
I’m glad you talked about her not holding the baby properly , the neck was not supported at all 😭 .
They will definitely have a nanny that basically raises this baby. You best believe it.
For sure. She just wants a doll to dress up
Hopefully, it's not the child predator defending now grandmother doing the raising.
Yes!!! I know a narcissist who is having a nanny basically raise her kids so she can pursue other interests.
Also am i the only one absolutely appalled by the fact that they are planning on filming this baby's entire life with them on the internet,where even the birth mother can see it all. Do they have absolutely no heart or even just basic common sense ? I used to think that America is on the verge of losing it with this giant social media network encapsulating their entire lives, but this convinces me that America has already lost it.
Absolutely nowhere else in the world can you see the strange yet ominous problems this country is facing.
You nailed it when you said the baby was like an accessory for them. That’s exactly what their vibe is.
That way they talk sounds like they just adopted a dog
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Agreed! 😢
You are crazy this baby is supposed to be with this family ❤you are crazy omg I can’t believe you right know 😡
These comments are disturbing! Why don’t you just have some decency and stop assuming that they don’t love this little girl? I’m sure your not even educated on infertility but since your so ignorant it wouldn’t even matter, shameful this entire video is disgusting
"YOU CANNOT FORCE SOMEONES HEART TO BE WHERE YOURS IS" - Josh, 31. 7. 2023. so true!!!!!
Just in case the whole thing wasn't already self-serving enough, it's her song playing as the background track. VOM.
My heart is broken for that baby girls biological mother. I know we don’t know her situation or what kind of person she is but that doesn’t matter. She just did the hardest thing she will ever have to do, she has to try and put her life back together now and how hard is that going to be if every time she scrolls on TH-cam or Instagram that little girls face pops up. They have just received the most incredible gift from that woman and they should be taking some time off the internet to bond with their child and let the biological Mom heal. They have alot of growing up to do. They should have done that before ever becoming parents 😡
I keep thinking about the birth mum too😢
Adoption laws need to change! They should not be allowed to show her face online and exploit her. If I was the birth mom I’d be so angry!
The birth mom might not even know
You give up your rights when you give up your child.
@@alexmuse857doesn’t matter she’s still her mom also. What it says on paper doesn’t negate the role that birth mom should have in her life. And it’s just common courtesy to respect the feelings and turmoil of the birth mom after placement. It’s incredibly selfish and ungrateful to get the baby and then be like “ok now you are nothing to us and we don’t gaf what you think or feel”
@@alexmuse857 no actually you don't. Mom can sue them for child exploitation. The child's well being is paramount to the courts. Depending on the state and the judge, bio mom can regain her rights and the child never loses hers. People are not play things and adopted guardians will never supercede true parentage. Surrogates and sperm and egg donors even regain custodianship if the law considers it best for the child. Adult desires do NOT outweigh child welfare.
Feels wrong. Does adoption happen this fast?
Not usually the mom has a 30 day frame to change her mind
Private adoptions can, but typically no. It's hard and rare to get a newborn caucaisan baby in the us
@@KrystalClearReviews depends on the state. I know two couples who adopted out of New Jersey because there is no grace period for birth mothers there to reclaim the baby.
@@phantasma616 California is not one of those states. Mom has 30 days to change her mind.
@@KrystalClearReviewsthey flew somewhere and drove through the night. Did it say what state she was adopted in?
What does it tell you that the first people they call about going to pick up their baby is their celebrity couple friends (Arie was on the Bachelor) and not their FAMILY. They don't get to find out till it already happened.
Why do I feel like they only wanted a child even more after Katie and josh were expecting… almost like they were trying to compete or something… Bella reminds me of a spoiled little girl who always wanted a certain baby doll or something. It’s sick.
Thank you for another video, Josh. These ppl really sicken and sadden me. I've been running around doing errands and have some time in between laundry, etc, to catch some of you live today! I really appreciate your videos and how they're helping many see the dark side of family vlogging. Keep up the good work!!
33:18 my first words as a mom was “I love you so much.” “I want to give you so much.” I just kept telling my baby over and over I love you I love you I love you. And all she can say is so cute?
How dare you say the baby is cute per Josh. But really I think it is a little different with adoption because you didn’t have that same bonding time. I can disagree with what they are doing but not criticize their first moments because I’m not in those shoes, can you love a baby you just learned of 24 hours or so prior? So expressing love at that first moment wouldn’t be genuine. It takes time to build that love and bond.
@@kristy8838 to only say “she is so cute.” Over and over again it just seems like she was more into looks and having a cute baby. Seems like she just wanted a cute baby. Pretty vein in that all they wanted was a baby to show off as cute. I didn’t care to show off my baby or to film my baby for views. That’s the only reason they filmed this was to show off their baby accessory. There was no we are going to take you to your new family we can take you home now. It’s just so disconnected and yes it’s an adoption, but her motherly instincts aren’t there (maybe they never will be because she hasn’t given birth.) There’s just no connection.
With that being said. I have seen adopting mothers connect more to their adoptive children more than them.
@@Loveablelaura I just couldn’t feel good about myself judging like this and always looking for and expecting the worst in people because they didn’t say just what we think they should or you’ve seen better reactions out of other mothers. That seems like an awful way to live. Don’t get me wrong I’m not a supporter of these people and never heard about them until DCP videos. I’m behind the not exploiting children part but man some of you all go too far and become a different type of bad human.
And it’s so weird but thanks to tik tok I saw your attempt at exposing the girl with twins lol (yikes!) so I don’t expect you to agree with me or anything.
@@kristy8838 look I stepped away from kolby, I was getting death threats and people were doxxing where I lived. I have learned josh is a very great person and he speaks for people like me who can’t legally fight these people. The only reason why I stopped because it was putting my family in danger. You have no idea what these people are like. We don’t just spew out things because of “hate” we genuinely care about these kids. And if we see a mom that’s being a tad off sorry we are going to protect the kids over their POS children. I think you’re just pretending to be a DCP follower. You have no clue how much Della vlogs/kolby shae Put their kids at risk being online. They deserve anything that comes their way. And that’s from the choices they make. Sorry if I make a few snide comments that’s what we have as a tool to get people to understand how fake these people are.
Was Bella herself exploited as a child? Because her mom made origami owl when Bella was just 14 years old, and made her the face of it
I would say definetly.
The fact that Story’s grandparents referred to her as “it” and “that” makes me feel an immeasurable amount of rage, she’s not a dog, not a prop, she’s a baby.
HUH????
Omg where
@@Whitepillrightpill in their latest vids
Was that before or after they announced her name?
@@lillee0205before :( I believe it was dallin’s family who were like “oh where did you get that?” And “where did you get it?”, same with Bella’s mother who was like “where did you find her?” They acted like that sweet baby girl was a dog.
Jesus, the fact that they don't even know an infant needs 1 additional layer of clothing, is insane. AND they brought her somewhere so windy and rough. Like the BEACH OF ALL PLACES?!! She's maybe 7-8 pounds...If it was as windy as it looked to be (you can tell her hair was blowing hard in the wind), I can only imagine that the sand was blowing also.This is devastating all around,. I feel like it happened so quickly from the first video of the Matt & Abby interview, it's scary because in this time it doesn't seem they were taking prenatal/parenting/doula classes of any kind, which a responsible adoptee parent may sometimes do...idk i'm knit-picking, but it's because these things need to be called out. I pray for this sweet baby and that the agency comes against this.
I'm not a family vlog watcher - but I am am other of five grown children, and a grandmother to 16 littles. Not sure how but Della Vlogs came up in my feed for some strange reason, and I watched a few videos of theirs - mostly trying to figure out this whole baby situation. They can't have babies so they make a huge thing of adopting twins, then her song comes out ,then the adoption "fell through" as a "scam".....THEN the real baby comes along. Why was the scam adoption from a black mom I wonder. And why does the actual baby look very similar to them I wonder. And the timing of the song all twisted in there to over-dramatize and over-emotionalize a situation that is already major and heavy and personal and SHOULD be private. And THEN right out the gate their daughter is exploited just like we knew she would be. Something is just so fake about these two. I know this video is already a year old, but I had to chime in.
When I found out I was pregnant, we got in the car at 11pm at night and drove to my moms house just to tell her in person because I thought she deserved more than a phone call. Funny part- she didn’t get out of bed and hug me like I anticipated but the next day she told me that she couldn’t because she wasn’t wearing pants and my fiancé was in the room 😂😂 not sure why she didn’t just say that and put some pants on. I guess it was the shock lol
Same my mom was in a care home with my first son & I made sure to tell her in person, now I did wait until I was almost 16 weeks, I just needed to have some reassurance that we were a little safer(plot twist complications at 7 Months 😮 but everything was good) & on my second unfortunately it was COVID & we weren't allowed in to see her so I wrote her a beautiful card as I knew she would love that,she kept everything & she was so happy with it & I gave her scan pictures of both so it started her pictures of the boys as she had pictures,albums of all the kids which when she was missing everyone she could look through.
They were probably too excited to wait.
I took the test at my mom's house and showed her and my husband at the same time 😂
That really made me chuckle! I did the same and headed straight to my parents to tell them
I know very little about adoption. But I know when something feels off. This is WAY OFF!!! I have never in my life heard of...in America....going to some random person's house to pick up your baby! Where is the agency? Where is the oversight? I know people who had more difficulty adopting a dog!
Definitely that was the weirdest part and her basket of things
That baby was most likely at a foster family home. And a social worker was most likely there as well. That baby was probably under the States care, and until parents could be chosen/found & hospital discharged it can't be kept at a adoption agency. The mother could have not been able to care for baby or if it was her choice etc. The baby has to go somewhere & be under someone's care legally. I've known foster families through the years, including my brother & wife whom had a baby from hospital because mother was unable to legally & physically take care of baby and this is very normal. We don't know all the details since hopefully they will keep that info quiet. It seems they didn't meet birth mother in person.
Baby was at a foster parent home more than likely.
With having personal adoption experience.. The family that they picked the precious baby girl from is called a respite family/home. Dallin and Bella went through all the process and paperwork you have to do to be open for adoption. Yes absolutely when you go through a private agency you are contacted by the social worker that there is a mom that has had a baby. The babies file/case is sent to you. If you move forward the mother will be given the opportunity to review different families profiles.
Do not speak on a topic if you do not have knowledge about it.
Della Vlogs is a wonderful family who have the love, hearts and home for a child.
The profile that the mother reviews (based off of personal experience) is a album/autobiography about your family, likes, dislikes and pictures that you think the mother would like to see.
This video is so hateful. This video does more harm to people than anything. Have you experienced 5 years of infertility? Have you experienced multiple rounds of IVF treatments failing?
I pray for all of you and better in the world.
@@abbywills5850 I do know the pain of infertility and the devastation of loss. That doesn't justify these people at all. Throughout the whole video there was not one single occasion where the focus was on the baby, her birth mother or her well being whatsoever. Every second of the video was solely focused on them. She is basically an accessory to bring them more clout. Like he said, they took time each "scene" to set up the camera, check the frame etc rather than just be in the moment and meeting their daughter. It is all so contrived and this poor innocent child has to grow up realizing that they are a commodity. Her adoptive parents cared more about their social media presence than they do her. It's one thing to take snapshots and clips of momentous occasions, its a whole different thing to film the whole thing and then upload everything to the world. People like that are truly gross. The baby should be their priority 100% No conscientious human (who isn't some kind of simp) could ever see this video as normal. Ask yourself: if another couple who you didn't already follow/subscribe to/feel invested in uploaded this exact content....would you still believe this was appropriate?
I dont understand how you have ppl that have been waiting monrhs, years to adopt. Especially if its a new born because so many want newborns. The you have the Dellas that have a newborn with in a month of finishing paperwork to adopt. As usually, popularity and money can get you literally anything especially in america.
Probably a hearty donation
Why does this feel like when I adopted my cat? Also so sad for the father that he has to hold the camera and can’t even genuinely meet his daughter for the first time. Ugh these two are the worst.
Thank you for addressing this family. As an adoptee I am disgusted with these parents. That poor baby. I would have died if my parents had blasted my picture and my story all over the media. Thank goodness social media was not a thing back them. I feel so much for that poor birth mom. They are also deleting comments as fast s they post. I las you were was sick to my stomach and thinking about this all last night.
She has been around many many children and knows how to care for children. I think her says "OMG she's so cute" is almost like because she's in a shell-shocked that that's her baby. I went through infertility myself and finally gave birth to my daughter and I was still shell-shocked even tho I birthed her. Not sure why you want to attack them so badly as human beings, believe me there's way worse out there.
Also I get why she didn't tell anyone til they physically had her after the scam situation. I wouldve waited til everything was fully signed and she was for sure my child as well because that's emotionally damaging to everyone.
They put their child online knowing predeters watch they are scum.
I Agree Also there is Always two sides to a story. Just Saying
They are literally exploiting a child from the moment they get her!
The issue is her putting her child online it's exploitation. Imagine how the child is going to feel watching there whole baby years be put online for millions of people without even knowing their own identity.
I cannot BELIEVE that the adoption agency is ok with them YouTubing all this!! I think you should do an investigative episode on that agency and interview them and ask why they are ok with this
I wonder who gave them this baby for adoption! It is a shame🙄
That’s what I don’t get. As a foster kid, I wasn’t even allowed to have social media.. so what’s up with them posting her? Is it because she’s adopted? It feels so wrong… I’m thankful I wasn’t allowed social media until I was well over 17. I can’t imagine her growing up and having social media profiles made for her to do “Story’s first post”… I feel someone need to get involved..
Bella is the girl who has never been told no in her life UNTIL she couldn't have her own child and it drove her crazy. For once hers and her mom's money couldn't fix it and she couldn't give her trophy husband what he wanted. So they finally gave in and bought a baby and now are compeating with the other explotators for who's best. I hate them so much!!!!
I COMPLETELY understand what you’re saying with just feeeeeling the fakery of these two. It’s just.. an icky feeling. Everything they post feels insincere.
Ugh that poor baby didn’t even get half of a second with its new parents that wasn’t on the camera. :/
I’ve seen a bit of their stuff and started following after the twin scam thing. I was super excited for them because I’ve also struggled to have a family. But I also hadn’t looked at it like this. Their stuff has definitely been a bit cringe worthy. If they just shared their experience without the excessive filming it would definitely be worth it.
I’m about to have my first babies, not adopted, and I still don’t want their faces on social media. I don’t really understand why people want to share every single thing about their lives and babies all over the internet.
I will admit I fell for it, most likely because I can't have biological children. Thank goodness for Josh putting me back on track. Ive only watched the twin scam and this adoption case.
Same. I kinda thought the way she talks is so scripted but fell for the adoption video. Glad I can across this video. First impressions are so important, trust you gut instincts.
@luvybi2183 every short that they have filmed is focused on the baby and while I sympathise with their battle to conceive and carry a baby as I was in the same situation but I became a teacher and foster Mum. I would never of thought they would use their adopted child to earn money. She is going back and doing all the pre baby videos and even saying she was pregnant with this girl and how she isn't tired like other mums she knows without acknowledging that she didn't carry her child, have her body change to accommodate a baby needing to be nourished etc
@@amyrivers4093 I agree. I was just watching a short video on their DELLA VLOG 2, the one with the soda and my heart almost dropped when she bent down to sip the froth. The baby could have easily bumped into the edge of the counter. She’s holding the baby so casually like this child needs to be cradled. She’s really using the baby as a prop. No natural maternal instinct to protect the baby. It’s getting annoying and sad watching more of her video using this baby.
@@amyrivers4093 she never said she was pregnant with that baby what she saying is that she wasn’t tired and had a lot of energy I do agree with you on the whole carry your own child changing your body and what not because I did carry my own and there is definitely a difference in the hormone drop after delivery but no she never said she carried that baby not even once
Her wedding ring is probably 400,000 says Josh. Also says Josh, "You're not worth it. I PROMISE YOU." The most intelligent and valid comment spoken thus far .....
I loved that part so much 😂
I replied BURN!!!! while the music playing in my head 😂
When Bella’s parents asked “where did you find it?” And “where did you get that”, my jaw dropped. That is absolutely disgusting.
I feel bad for Dallins parents because they seem genuine and were actually shocked and probably hurt they didn’t tell them.
The whole video makes me feel bad for the baby. They are terrible parents not just because they are exploiting this child, but they don’t even know how to take care of a child.
As a mom of 7 and a nurse, this SCARES me!!! PLEASE someone teach them how to hold a newborn so that their head, neck and body are supported properly!! 🤯
I agree. I saw one where she picked the baby up by the arm as a mom I was like what the heck are you doing????
I can't believe the woman they picked her up from didn't teach them this basic child care stuff.
Babies have survived thousands upon thousands of years - mom shaming isn't a good look. I get people's concern about filming children.. I 100% agree with that stance, but you picking apart a one second clip of her picking up her baby "wrong" is nuts. Be careful living in your glass house - that energy will come back to you.
@myrialynn babies have survived for thousands of years because of previous mothers, dulas, aunties, grannies. friends etc - THAT TEACH U HOW TO DO IT RIGHT
you take parenting class3s and birth classes before bringing baby home. 😂 and the nurses coach u the first day or so if ur needing it
@@myrialynn literally not supporting the neck is a serious issue :/ especially since a newborns skull is still growing. It isn’t mom shaming when a child’s safety is at risk. :// they put it on the internet they can get criticism.
Did they even acknowledge the birth mother who gave up this child to them?? I don't think they did once in their video and I watched it unfortunately.
And they kept saying repeatedly in all their past videos about how they were going to be so grateful to the birth mother and they would consider her family for giving them this gift...and now that they have the child it's like that went out the window. True colors coming out
Nope. This baby is an object to them, not a complex person with complex relationships and a complex history.
I’ve been meaning to say something about them, but I didn’t want to do it so soon. Their baby is an accessory, she has that child like a trendy purse. I also wanna add she’s been extremely ignorant on motherhood, and showing everything is perfect, idk if you’ve seen that short she posted showing how perfect she feels and how easy it is to care for a baby.
They have a Maid…that’s why they can claim they’re never tired. If I had a Maid so that I could focus 100% of my time to my child….what a good life I would have with my child
Thank you Josh for opening my eyes…I wanted to believe the best about them but now I see it was all a lie.
@@SheenSheen14 yes it’s so sad.
When they shared their infertility journey I was rooting for them and I genuinely feel bad they can’t have biological children but they way they went about this adoption is heartbreaking
Welcome😊
Josh and his podcast does have that effect on people thankfully !! I have stopped watching family vloggers because of what I know now
@@SheenSheen14you’re doing it now though and that’s what matters. I’m glad.😊
I wish we could see what their adoption profile looked like. Were they upfront with the birth mom that they were influencers and that they planned on putting the child's face in their videos?
Doubtful for sure! I don’t wish ill upon anyone, but this is almost becoming an exception 😡😡😡
I feel like unfortunately the birth family knew about it, a lot of birth parents chose people who are able to financially provide an extravagant lifestyle over personality
Lol.. this wasn't a proper adoption. I guarantee this is the baby of a very young, vulnerable woman.. who watches them.. or who's Mum does.. and they have become so parasocially manipulated by Della's plight (the same plight that has been very financially lucrative for them) and they are giving the baby for the wrong reasons. The whole thing is disgusting.. on so many levels.. and should be illegal.
@@natalielawrence8809i just find it so strange that the biological mom can know the identity of the adoptive parents. It’s not allowed in my country, and only the child has a right (once 18) to go to the Police to get a permit for the file to open and know the details of the bio mother. If the mother knows the details of the adoptive parents, can’t she harass o ask for money? Or tell them, before the adoption is finalized “give me money and I ‘ll chose you”?
We named her STORY ….. 😮 oh dear.
Why?
That poor baby.
Josh you’re so right on about how awkward she is holding this baby. I knew from when i was a very young teen that i wanted to be a mom someday. I took every opportunity to babysit, to do Sunday school and nursery in church. I couldn’t get enough of being around kids. I was so much more prepared because of that
same here knew from 9 i was gonna be a mom
Very telling how many times she says the baby is cute. How the baby looks is clearly very important to them. Also the focus is very much baby, baby, baby. Do they realize they are not going to stay a baby and eventually they’re going to be parenting a toddler, a school age child, a grumpy teenager and then an adult? It’s the whole package people. As a mother of four, who’s currently parenting a very moody teenager, who hates me some of the time, I would do anything to go back to when she was a baby and was cute and loved me all the time. Parenting is hard and it’s a lifelong journey. The baby stage is short and is a very small part of the whole parenting picture.
Adoption isn't final the day of birth. Likely it's not official yet legal. So they are filming/showing photos creating an Instagram page for a child that isn't 100 percent legally theirs. PUKE
I'm a single parent to 2 children with Cerebral Palsy. I work 1 job that pays enough to barely cover my bills/rent. But I donate a measly $1/month (and would do more if I could) to this channel because I believe in this message and movement. For this exact reason. Child exploitation through social media is out of control. We have to keep calling this out!
I can’t believe you this baby is supposed to be in this family ❤ how cares if she Doesn’t no how to Carey a baby omg you are so Durmatic you are crazy omg ❤😮😡
@@kalleebrotherson9495 I'm unsure what you just said. That was a mess.
I think I had a stroke reading that. Lol. But thank you for being a member. You are amazing.
@@kalleebrotherson9495😂😂😂😂 what the hell
@@kalleebrotherson9495 that baby DOES NOT BELONG WITH HER. DELLA IS A DANGER TO CHILDREN. SHE IS EXPOSING ALL OF HER DANGEROUS TACTICS ON HER VIDEOS. CPS NEEDS TO BE CALLED. BOTTOM LINE, NO NEED TO SUPPORT SOMEONE WHO CLEARLY IS PUTTING A BABY IN DANGER. ITS NEGLECT AND ABUSE. GROW UP. LEARN WHAT REAL RESPONSIBILITY IS LIKE.
I'm infertile. Haven't been able to get pregnant for 20 years. I would have loved to adopt but it is so expensive. I hate that rich terrible people can just adopt cute babies like they are picking out a pet. "We just saw this baby and applied because she was so cute". How about I have so much love to give a baby that needs a home and family.
These epeoole are about to get a huge awakening to what it is really like to parent a baby. It isn't babysitting! They will end up divorced probably because they are not ready to be parents and are doing this for wrong reasons. Myka 2.0!
As a person who was adopted as an infant my heart broke when I saw this. So busy looking at the camera, not soaking in every single bit of her new baby that she has longed for .
She would at night, and behind the scenes. Like the days she isn't filming . It is only the first video of the baby
Y’all stop hating yes there’s waiting for this baby but what if that was y’all In her shoes and couldn’t have kids then YES I would want to record everything because it’s everything I’ve wish for so y’all stop hating on them there not bad people ❤
@@apostolicgirl Thank you!
oh I would want to record also but it would be for me, not for the world to be seeing@@apostolicgirl
@@apostolicgirl the problem is not even that they want to record and create memories, but the fact that they post it on the internet and make money off this baby. stop being so naïve.